Something happens in your mid to late 20s. It's like a switch. Life is happening and when you're focused on your career and family, things that take away from that do fall by the wayside. It's not just a creatives thing. I'm finding it's this age group. Alot of things I used to do I just don't care to anymore in favor of either work or relaxation from work that's largely spent by myself cause I don't want talk to nobody when I'm trying to relax lol. "I will see you when I see you" not because I dont care about you. But I care about me more and am learning to prioritize my own time now.
Being a villain in other people's lives is such an interesting point, it really isn't brought up much. It caused me to reflect on my relationships, so thank you for that! Your videos are such great motivation to become better at videography as well!
We all like to see ourselves as the heroes in our own stories and it sucks to realize that we also act as different roles in the lives of everyone around us. It is nice to know that it is not just me. My friends have always been the ones who are willing to pick up where we left off a year after not seeing each other.
I have quite a few friends were the amount of time passing since we last spoke or met is irrelevant and I appreciate those relationships the older I get.
I absolutely love watching your videos and you really make me want to pick up my camera so I can start telling stories through my lens again. I'm nowhere near the level when it comes to tech but I hope to be one day. Definitely one of many creators that inspire me!
Legit one my favorite videos you’ve made. There is a natural maturation leading into your 30’s of friend groups and what friendship/companionship is. It’s uncomfortable but so liberating! ❤️
That 👏🏾 cinematography 👏🏾 though 👏🏾 I see so many similarities between being an entrepreneur and being a parent. (And I must say I commend those who do both because WHEW!) As an introvert, I FULLY understand that “lonely but I lowkey don’t wanna interact” feeling. I think you going to your co-working space is sort of like me going to my dance classes each week. I get a healthy dose of social interaction without it being too much because we’re all busy dancing.
I needed to hear this from someone else. I'm going through something very similar. It's so difficult to explain to other people but I think you did a great job and provided a good response in this video.
Hallease! I’m still trying to navigate life as someone who wants people’s company sometimes but doesn’t want to interact. I’ve been accused of not participating and not liking people in general. Thanks for sharing your struggle with the uncomfortable.
I'm old. One thing for sure: communication is a two way street. Do your best to say what you want to say, expect others that hear you to be willing to adjust their preconceptions enough to give adequate feed back. If they don't do that, well then, don't always blame yourself.
Wow! I too desire to be around people without the interaction. I would rather sit at the local McDonald's or library alone than spend life-draining time with people. Recently, I was supposed to help a friend move, however I had to keep leaving as my energy was being sapped by all the frenetic chaos whirling around me. I have to psych myself up to engage with people for an extended amount of time. I have learned through practice, how to endure the painful pleasantries and shallow discourse without revealing how uncomfortable i am by these conversations. I am so glad that I am understood, if only not by my immediate social group.
THIS IS AMAZING. You really inspire me. The opening sequence of this vlog was so amazing. I'm also going through an uncomfortable season but, it's so good to know that I am in good company and that 'this to shall pass'.
Thank you for this Hallease! You always bring such thoughtful content that inspires me to also to dare push a bit further as well :D Thank you for that!
Oh wow this was so beautiful. There was something about the way you were sitting during the interview portion that was just so.... I don't know how to say it, but it was so right, it was so Hallease. Thank you for this, your vlogumentaries definitely encourage me to keep on going :)
I wish I could just turn it on, I've literally been grappling with this topic and how to create something around it for a few months. I'm glad it's having an impact.
I just graduated from college in May, and already 6 months out I've noticed a huge shift in my relationships with people that I was really close to for the past four years. There were definitely growing pains (that I still sometimes struggle with) but time is allowing me to adapt little by little. This video really spoke to me in such a raw, honest way. Absolute perfection.
I get this on many levels. I like my own company but crave having people around me in the background. My friend and I were just talking about this very subject a week or so ago.
Beautiful video and I love the intro!! I had to watch it twice. I am going through the same uncomfortable feeling times two. I have been away from my hometown for two years and outside of social media likes and comments, I have drifted away from majority of my friends and some family. Not because I want to but more so because of the growth I have gone through finally living on my own. Then I met people here ( Jax fl) and have drifted away from them because where they are in their journey is toxic for my growth. It's sad, but I'm learning to accept the loneliness.
That's my state of mind right now, and I'm not even an entrepreneur or artist. I liked that you took your time to create an intro, I loved the end when you smile.
Please just keep doing what you do. I am def a see you when I see you person. I have always been someone that likes people but I need time for myself to hear my thoughts, words, dreams and just honestly to be internal. A lot of ppl don't understand and never really will but hey I am who I am not saying I won't change but I need some peace to myself and my love isn't lost because I don't talk to you everday.
Thoughtful video, Hallease. A friend and I were talking about this particular stage in life where we tend to gravitate towards certain people and leave others behind. On one hand while some relationships end because of toxicity, many naturally begin to fade because these relationships arent meant to be permanent. Feelings can get hurt, too. For some reason it always hurts when you lose a good friendship you werent necessarily ready to give up. On the other hand, however, there are wonderful relationships we will always appreciate. For instance, when you phone a friend once a month who you havent seen in over six months, but the phone calls are a necessary way to keep up in each other's lives. Work feels fulfilling and is necessary though and it is even better when you have supportive people beside you, no matter what. Take care, Hallease!
"It always hurts when you lose a good friendship you weren't necessarily ready to give up" it really does though. It's one thing to recognize the gradual separation and be okay with it -- and a completely different thing entirely when you're not and yet still needing to let it happen.
This is definitely me as well. I am an introvert and a creative. I sometimes go to the library to work in order to feel a connection with people, but at the same I don't want to engage 🤦🏾♀️ lol. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have completely understand my space and when's the right time engage with me lol they don't take my absence as an offense. But it does get lonely when I look up and realize I would like to hang out and don't really have anyone to hang with🤷🏾♀️ then I'm like dang what is it that I care but don't care at the same time? Thanks for making this dope video.
I’m starting a grad program and working full time. I’m just now realizing how focused I’m going to need to be to do the things that I say are important as well as the things that are necessary. I say my friends are important but I also say school is going to be important and working is necessary so where does it all fit in? I’m gonna have to become a see you when I see you person and it’s gonna be a big adjustment. Pray for me y’all
First of all, this is a stunning video! That colour fade in at the top?! shiiiiiit. B) As a doctoral candidate I feel so seen in this video, I'm constantly working alone and away from the people I cherish the most. It's a struggle not to feel guilty even when I know what I'm doing is in part because I love them and I want them to feel seen in the world. In conclusion, thank you as usual for a beautiful and touching narrative.
Excellent point! I have had cut toxic people out but I have also been toxic in other people's life and I had to cut myself out. Lol. I defiently agree with the commenter who said 'a switch happens in your 20s.' I'm currently focused on peace, joy, love in their simple and pure forms. This leaves no room for a lot of unnecessary things we as humans tend to cling to.
Like I said, "I'm old". So take it for what it's worth. As one seeks to "find one's self" or define his/her values, it may be tempting to act according to one's "feelings" (Some Bhuddists say there are 88 earthily desires i.e. "feelings"), but this will often have mixed results, leaving one conflicted. That is why a person will often choose a set of parameters that come from outside oneself i.e. major religions that can serve as a check on their "druthers". A humanist may choose to develop "her/his own" values, but it is hard to find a set of human-based parameters to judge one's success and it is easy to feel lost, and be tempted to slide into some form of "tribalism" i.e. Left, Right, race, sex, money etc. Good luck with your website, it speaks to a real cultural need!
First you’re cute 💜 second i get it. I literally haven’t talked to one of my closest friend in about 2 wks and it dawned on my like how do i even balance this? I’ve always be the type of “ imma be alright” but I don’t want that vibe of “ I don’t need you” because we all need somebody in our corner.
You were created by God for a purpose now you are on this journey of self awareness and great accomplishments don't dis connect yourself from him but explore in Dept why he created you and who he really is you will find so much fullfillment that will last a lifetime and there will be no regrets at the end of your years on this Earth
Something happens in your mid to late 20s. It's like a switch. Life is happening and when you're focused on your career and family, things that take away from that do fall by the wayside. It's not just a creatives thing. I'm finding it's this age group. Alot of things I used to do I just don't care to anymore in favor of either work or relaxation from work that's largely spent by myself cause I don't want talk to nobody when I'm trying to relax lol. "I will see you when I see you" not because I dont care about you. But I care about me more and am learning to prioritize my own time now.
30 is a tremendous eye opening switch but 40 is magnificent!
SheAnatural B. Just wait till you get to 50!
@@katkat9915 for me....it's around the corner😎
@@StormyHair And that's where I'm headed--to the 40's. I overstand Hallease; she has to be a fellow an introvert.
Being a villain in other people's lives is such an interesting point, it really isn't brought up much. It caused me to reflect on my relationships, so thank you for that! Your videos are such great motivation to become better at videography as well!
That last railroad shot was so fire. I'm here for this creative wave you're on Hallease!! Another great one
#HalleaseforSundance
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We all like to see ourselves as the heroes in our own stories and it sucks to realize that we also act as different roles in the lives of everyone around us. It is nice to know that it is not just me. My friends have always been the ones who are willing to pick up where we left off a year after not seeing each other.
I have quite a few friends were the amount of time passing since we last spoke or met is irrelevant and I appreciate those relationships the older I get.
I absolutely love watching your videos and you really make me want to pick up my camera so I can start telling stories through my lens again. I'm nowhere near the level when it comes to tech but I hope to be one day. Definitely one of many creators that inspire me!
I love the techniques you use for storytelling in your vlogs. Big fan of your art love.
Amazing story telling as always, Hallease. Your videos and talent are always a pleasure to behold.
Hallease, you be giving these good words! The sermon and the testimony! Whew! I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
I am completely in awe of your greatness. In awe. You allow me to release breath.
Hallease, I shed a happy tear at the end. This message was right on time and written beautifully 💛
Awesome!! I just realized that I am also a “See you when I see you” kinda person
Legit one my favorite videos you’ve made. There is a natural maturation leading into your 30’s of friend groups and what friendship/companionship is. It’s uncomfortable but so liberating! ❤️
Beautiful!
That 👏🏾 cinematography 👏🏾 though 👏🏾
I see so many similarities between being an entrepreneur and being a parent. (And I must say I commend those who do both because WHEW!)
As an introvert, I FULLY understand that “lonely but I lowkey don’t wanna interact” feeling. I think you going to your co-working space is sort of like me going to my dance classes each week. I get a healthy dose of social interaction without it being too much because we’re all busy dancing.
I needed to hear this from someone else. I'm going through something very similar. It's so difficult to explain to other people but I think you did a great job and provided a good response in this video.
You truly are good at what you do. Keep on keeping on. You are the best Hallease. All the way from South Africa with love.
Aye South Africa! What's good!
Glad I came across this video, thanks Hallease
Your videos give so much meaning Thank you❤️
Wow. I needed this!
Another awesome video.... thanks!!!
This is what happens when a filmmaker vlogs !!! I’m here for this
Love your divine timing and your artistic cinematography.. I totally get it. Im in this season of my life. Like a catepillar, a butterfly....
Hallease! I’m still trying to navigate life as someone who wants people’s company sometimes but doesn’t want to interact. I’ve been accused of not participating and not liking people in general. Thanks for sharing your struggle with the uncomfortable.
Speechless and smiling hard. **applauds**
I'm old. One thing for sure: communication is a two way street. Do your best to say what you want to say, expect others that hear you to be willing to adjust their preconceptions enough to give adequate feed back. If they don't do that, well then, don't always blame yourself.
You're such a force. Ugh. Loveeeeeeeee.
Love your videos !!
Wow! I too desire to be around people without the interaction. I would rather sit at the local McDonald's or library alone than spend life-draining time with people. Recently, I was supposed to help a friend move, however I had to keep leaving as my energy was being sapped by all the frenetic chaos whirling around me. I have to psych myself up to engage with people for an extended amount of time. I have learned through practice, how to endure the painful pleasantries and shallow discourse without revealing how uncomfortable i am by these conversations.
I am so glad that I am understood, if only not by my immediate social group.
THIS IS AMAZING. You really inspire me. The opening sequence of this vlog was so amazing. I'm also going through an uncomfortable season but, it's so good to know that I am in good company and that 'this to shall pass'.
Loved this so much and can relate on so many levels being a creator and a bit of a homebody.
Thank you for this Hallease! You always bring such thoughtful content that inspires me to also to dare push a bit further as well :D Thank you for that!
You deserve so much more subscribers and recognition. I love your vlogumentaries 💗
Beautiful video and awesome insights. Made me think for sure
Oh wow this was so beautiful. There was something about the way you were sitting during the interview portion that was just so.... I don't know how to say it, but it was so right, it was so Hallease. Thank you for this, your vlogumentaries definitely encourage me to keep on going :)
Love it!😊💪🏾💯
I totes need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable 😭
That was an awesome video! More of this type of thought exploration pleaseeee🙏🏾💕
I wish I could just turn it on, I've literally been grappling with this topic and how to create something around it for a few months. I'm glad it's having an impact.
That ending sequence was beautifully done!
I just graduated from college in May, and already 6 months out I've noticed a huge shift in my relationships with people that I was really close to for the past four years. There were definitely growing pains (that I still sometimes struggle with) but time is allowing me to adapt little by little.
This video really spoke to me in such a raw, honest way. Absolute perfection.
I never thought of creative/entrepreneur career paths as isolating, but damn you're right.
I get this on many levels. I like my own company but crave having people around me in the background. My friend and I were just talking about this very subject a week or so ago.
Beautiful video and I love the intro!! I had to watch it twice. I am going through the same uncomfortable feeling times two. I have been away from my hometown for two years and outside of social media likes and comments, I have drifted away from majority of my friends and some family. Not because I want to but more so because of the growth I have gone through finally living on my own. Then I met people here ( Jax fl) and have drifted away from them because where they are in their journey is toxic for my growth. It's sad, but I'm learning to accept the loneliness.
That's my state of mind right now, and I'm not even an entrepreneur or artist. I liked that you took your time to create an intro, I loved the end when you smile.
Pure artistry.
Please just keep doing what you do. I am def a see you when I see you person. I have always been someone that likes people but I need time for myself to hear my thoughts, words, dreams and just honestly to be internal. A lot of ppl don't understand and never really will but hey I am who I am not saying I won't change but I need some peace to myself and my love isn't lost because I don't talk to you everday.
I'm here because of Jouelzy!!!! Love the vid!
Thoughtful video, Hallease. A friend and I were talking about this particular stage in life where we tend to gravitate towards certain people and leave others behind. On one hand while some relationships end because of toxicity, many naturally begin to fade because these relationships arent meant to be permanent. Feelings can get hurt, too. For some reason it always hurts when you lose a good friendship you werent necessarily ready to give up. On the other hand, however, there are wonderful relationships we will always appreciate. For instance, when you phone a friend once a month who you havent seen in over six months, but the phone calls are a necessary way to keep up in each other's lives. Work feels fulfilling and is necessary though and it is even better when you have supportive people beside you, no matter what. Take care, Hallease!
"It always hurts when you lose a good friendship you weren't necessarily ready to give up" it really does though. It's one thing to recognize the gradual separation and be okay with it -- and a completely different thing entirely when you're not and yet still needing to let it happen.
This is definitely me as well. I am an introvert and a creative. I sometimes go to the library to work in order to feel a connection with people, but at the same I don't want to engage 🤦🏾♀️ lol. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have completely understand my space and when's the right time engage with me lol they don't take my absence as an offense. But it does get lonely when I look up and realize I would like to hang out and don't really have anyone to hang with🤷🏾♀️ then I'm like dang what is it that I care but don't care at the same time? Thanks for making this dope video.
Bravo 👏🏿👏🏿
I’m starting a grad program and working full time. I’m just now realizing how focused I’m going to need to be to do the things that I say are important as well as the things that are necessary. I say my friends are important but I also say school is going to be important and working is necessary so where does it all fit in? I’m gonna have to become a see you when I see you person and it’s gonna be a big adjustment. Pray for me y’all
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 You could be the villain in someone else's life. Very poignant reminder. Hard to hear but very true.
First of all, this is a stunning video! That colour fade in at the top?! shiiiiiit. B) As a doctoral candidate I feel so seen in this video, I'm constantly working alone and away from the people I cherish the most. It's a struggle not to feel guilty even when I know what I'm doing is in part because I love them and I want them to feel seen in the world. In conclusion, thank you as usual for a beautiful and touching narrative.
@Hallease Glad I discovered you, as a Black Woman. Really enjoying your thoughts via your video content.
Listen a Hallease short film would kinda lit.... I'm waiting on it
That's what this is tho, it's a short film.
Dope.
Excellent point!
I have had cut toxic people out but I have also been toxic in other people's life and I had to cut myself out. Lol.
I defiently agree with the commenter who said 'a switch happens in your 20s.'
I'm currently focused on peace, joy, love in their simple and pure forms. This leaves no room for a lot of unnecessary things we as humans tend to cling to.
Like I said, "I'm old". So take it for what it's worth. As one seeks to "find one's self" or define his/her values,
it may be tempting to act according to one's "feelings" (Some Bhuddists say there are 88 earthily desires i.e. "feelings"), but this will often have mixed results, leaving one conflicted. That is why a person will often choose a set of parameters that come from outside oneself i.e. major religions that can serve as a check on their "druthers".
A humanist may choose to develop "her/his own" values, but it is hard to find a set of human-based parameters to judge one's success and it is easy to feel lost, and be tempted to slide into some form of "tribalism" i.e. Left, Right, race, sex, money etc. Good luck with your website, it speaks to a real cultural need!
I've had a very full life. Never been lonely but never been free. I left my hometown because that world felt toxic. Is freedom lonely?
It can be very lonely.
That part where y’all were talking about being the villain in someone else’s life is so real. And so true. Man 😔 Adulting is hard.
Ideas: a no talking CoWorking space :)
💚🧡
Protect yo life!
First you’re cute 💜 second i get it. I literally haven’t talked to one of my closest friend in about 2 wks and it dawned on my like how do i even balance this? I’ve always be the type of “ imma be alright” but I don’t want that vibe of “ I don’t need you” because we all need somebody in our corner.
I say the all the time, being a entrepreneur is so lonely.
I like you.
You were created by God for a purpose now you are on this journey of self awareness and great accomplishments don't dis connect yourself from him but explore in Dept why he created you and who he really is you will find so much fullfillment that will last a lifetime and there will be no regrets at the end of your years on this Earth
I don't remember my thirties.
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