[FULL story] My boyfriend of 16 years won’t commit to me, even in the smallest of ways...

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  • Опубликовано: 7 окт 2024

Комментарии • 68

  • @T_P_W_ThachoZenjuan
    @T_P_W_ThachoZenjuan 3 месяца назад +146

    Dude is the only one on record paying for the house, he plans on taking it when he finds "the one". Honey, you are just a place holder/bill payer. Leave. Don't waste any more time.

    • @reillycurran8508
      @reillycurran8508 3 месяца назад +10

      Funny thing is I'm pretty sure that doesn't fully work if the other person is paying into the house by supporting the bills and groceries

  • @scud6537
    @scud6537 3 месяца назад +172

    Also, I hate how multiple stories are put together in a video. I only wanted the one, not the other. It give me an ichy feeling when I was expecting a long story and ends up being two or seven of them

    • @cristinamifa6992
      @cristinamifa6992 3 месяца назад +4

      This!

    • @snowbunnsai511
      @snowbunnsai511 3 месяца назад +1

      Skill issue

    • @BlankSlate-17
      @BlankSlate-17 3 месяца назад +4

      It’s for that ad revenue that’s why

    • @scud6537
      @scud6537 3 месяца назад

      @@snowbunnsai511 true

    • @scud6537
      @scud6537 3 месяца назад

      @@BlankSlate-17 wouldn’t it make more sense for more videos rather than less videos with more stories?

  • @ryanbashor7371
    @ryanbashor7371 3 месяца назад +52

    He wants to pay the mortgage with his account only so that in case you guys break up or when you guys break up you have no claim on the house. And he can prove it with his bank account. So if you give him any money for the house and he puts it in his account and pays, there is basically no proof that you give him any money if you do. So in the split the house would go to him. So I suggest you stop giving him money and start paying with your account whatever you pitch in for.

  • @roseatespoonbill234catherine
    @roseatespoonbill234catherine 3 месяца назад +49

    Glad that the first OP got a lot of support from their post. 💛They are very strong. I have not watched the second story yet.

  • @iamafighter3743
    @iamafighter3743 3 месяца назад +14

    1st story. I feel bad for her, I mean wasn't all of that so obvious? OP can't take a hint, that's the problem. He's not into you.
    Men are simple creature. If we love something or someone, we'll fight for it.
    That man is just a coward. He didn't love you anymore right after he proposed an open relationship. But he felt bad and guilty for wasting 16 years of your time.
    Find someone who'll fight for you.

  • @sct4040
    @sct4040 3 месяца назад +41

    Story #1. Should have left the jerk. Not allowing you to decorate your house when you are paying for 1/2 the mortgage? Run.

  • @theunknownseed
    @theunknownseed 3 месяца назад +18

    It seems as if OP was the only one committed in a relationship, he was just afraid to be on his own until her found someone, i know someone going through this, her boyfriend is still on tinder but they are buying a house together, I'm just looking at it like 🙄

  • @xenaguy01
    @xenaguy01 3 месяца назад +15

    Is your name on the deed? If not, you didn't buy it together, HE bought it with your help. If it is, you are protected. Making payments does not equate with ownership. He can claim that he made all the payments, but you can claim payed utilities. Keeping separate accounts is something all non-married couples should do.

  • @ankiamae678
    @ankiamae678 3 месяца назад +3

    The moment I heard 16 years I was enraged, someone who hasn’t sealed the deal a lot more sooner than that, never truly wanted you, and is OBVI using you. Can’t believe she let someone waste 16 years of her time and energy, if I was her I would be one Petty a** bitch, and that would be bad for the other person cuz I’m already lowkey petty now.
    Here’s a reality check and some advice I’ve heard from a few good ppl, a man that wants you in his life does not waste time, & will show you through various amount of acts that he only wants you. A guy whose figured his life out and himself as a human being and chooses not to waste time on putting others down is someone who will confidently tell you how they feel and will seal the deal for you, all you gotta do is say yes when he proposes and have it be mutual.

  • @ImaNerdANDaGeek
    @ImaNerdANDaGeek 3 месяца назад +10

    Shoulda ditched him 10 years ago

    • @M2-u4o
      @M2-u4o 3 месяца назад +1

      I would say 14 years ago

  • @stalepeeps616
    @stalepeeps616 3 месяца назад +14

    That's called an unhealthy relationship, he isn't the one
    You're better off either making him face the truth, leaving him, or both

  • @HoneydewmooVT
    @HoneydewmooVT 3 месяца назад +13

    The second story is crazy and the first one just sad

  • @katrenacanaday4992
    @katrenacanaday4992 3 месяца назад +4

    I can absolutelt say, though, that the girl with the dude she calls Rick....shes not with someone who seriously wants her. Shes a place keeper. The fact that he doesnt allow her personal touches in a life and a house thats supposed to be both of theirs tells me this. Men are relatively easy to figure: they are straightforward with their emotional reactions. If they seem excited about you, if its them taking the initiative on everything, then you know that hes definitely into you. If his interactions with you are mellow, with only some things being crazy-including physical intimacy-then what you have IS a roommate. The red flag was the sixteen years with no commitment whatsoever

  • @Ottinho-eo8zh
    @Ottinho-eo8zh 3 месяца назад +6

    You had a open realshinship

  • @reillycurran8508
    @reillycurran8508 3 месяца назад +5

    S2, there's been updates since, the mom miscarried the child but blames OP for bringing the pressure campaign down on her and her dad, IIRC there were other medical factors but that doesn't fit the narrative so OPs FAAAAAAAAULT!!!!!!!

  • @stephonmanny7555
    @stephonmanny7555 3 месяца назад +9

    Yeah he didn’t want to get married. They pressured him into it.

  • @amydavies8746
    @amydavies8746 3 месяца назад +21

    Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free.

  • @tripleleotarot2416
    @tripleleotarot2416 3 месяца назад +1

    He’s doing the payments so he can claim it as his when he meets his wife lol

  • @Belil-H
    @Belil-H 3 месяца назад +6

    The last story, the mother actually had a miscarriage

  • @Fluffy_Dragons-Kiki
    @Fluffy_Dragons-Kiki 3 месяца назад

    You: I moved out the day before Halloween
    Me: you moved out on my grandma's birthday

  • @Jasmine_breeze
    @Jasmine_breeze 3 месяца назад

    This is the type of guy called: the fertility killer. This type can't be alone, but he also can't honestly say that he's not 100% committed. He's just with his girlfriend to wait until he meets the love of his life and proposes after two days. I was with this type of guy and I left him when I realized that he runs away in difficult situations and doesn't want to be supportive even if it doesn't cost him anything. I left him and then he instantly fell in love... with me. He was alone since I left. I don't know if I can help him because he reacts to contact with me as if I were giving him a chance. The guy is handsome, rich, from a good family, etc. but I won't go back to him. I remember how absent he was in the relationship. It was less than a roommate - it was nothing. I don't need him for the purpose of not being alone.

  • @very-emo-veemo
    @very-emo-veemo 3 месяца назад +6

    0:58 for shorts viewers :D

  • @JCC_1975
    @JCC_1975 3 месяца назад +1

    There's an old saying..... "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
    As a woman I used to get very offended by that saying, then I grew up and realized how much sense this saying actually meant.
    Don't be their "free milk" ladies!!

  • @identity_crisis.
    @identity_crisis. 3 месяца назад

    4:06 did the ai just bark lmaoo

  • @claytonthomas1980
    @claytonthomas1980 3 месяца назад

    First story: the OP's ex boyfriend has shown his true colors and both him and his new girlfriend have gotten what they deserve regardless of how wrong it is,
    Story 2: the OP's parents should use birth control and be done with it plus they should not expect their older children to give up their inheritance to take care of their new sibling because that's not their responsibility to do so and never will be down the line.

  • @gilbert6736
    @gilbert6736 3 месяца назад +3

    7:12

  • @cookiemimi2469
    @cookiemimi2469 3 месяца назад +2

    Run

  • @roxcyn
    @roxcyn 3 месяца назад

    So what happened to the first situation? Did you sell it?

  • @Eteana94
    @Eteana94 3 месяца назад +3

    Yikes for story one

  • @TheMemeEagle
    @TheMemeEagle 3 месяца назад +2

    4:06 wtf was that noise

  • @MsMookalate
    @MsMookalate 3 месяца назад

    So she’s a roommate.

  • @Material_melody
    @Material_melody 3 месяца назад

    Sup

  • @Tanzim-c3e
    @Tanzim-c3e 3 месяца назад

    hello

  • @spikethedragon341
    @spikethedragon341 3 месяца назад

    Alpha Male Grindset

  • @RandomRiftyFan
    @RandomRiftyFan 3 месяца назад

    42 minutes ago

  • @Sigma_BALZZ
    @Sigma_BALZZ 3 месяца назад +4

    First

  • @pusheenonthecouchstudios7522
    @pusheenonthecouchstudios7522 3 месяца назад +1

    Third

  • @jonnyplayz419
    @jonnyplayz419 3 месяца назад +2

    First (pls pin)

    • @rats.for.infinity
      @rats.for.infinity 3 месяца назад +3

      sorry you're second

    • @aynun1647
      @aynun1647 3 месяца назад

      I hope nothing but the worst for you🙏🏼

    • @rats.for.infinity
      @rats.for.infinity 3 месяца назад

      @I-like-sports i saw someone First, it Said the "First" one was one Minute ago, and Jonny was 11s ago, but i dont want to Fight

    • @rats.for.infinity
      @rats.for.infinity 3 месяца назад

      @I-like-sports oh sorry😂have a nice day

  • @OtsdarvaOS
    @OtsdarvaOS 3 месяца назад +2

    He probably knows marriage is a trap.

    • @scud6537
      @scud6537 3 месяца назад +16

      Then don’t drag someone with you and be on the same page.

    • @marie-zb5bh
      @marie-zb5bh 3 месяца назад

      He traped her for 16 years.

    • @mi_ri_ki
      @mi_ri_ki 3 месяца назад +8

      Bro should have just broken up with OP if he really thought like that

    • @cheyennemccoy4444
      @cheyennemccoy4444 3 месяца назад +2

      That's not an excuse.

    • @roxcyn
      @roxcyn 3 месяца назад +1

      No, he wanted an open relationship so he didn't have to commit to anything.