Fantasia - Lose to Win (Official Video)

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 14 тыс.

  • @jaymoney2826
    @jaymoney2826 5 лет назад +1776

    Losing to my addiction on June 11, 2018 made me win... Jehovah thank you father.... Feels good to be drug free

  • @klacy9000
    @klacy9000 8 лет назад +395

    My son introduced this song to me he told me Mom you should listen to Fantasia Lose to Win after 11 years of trying to make it work with his father he and this song, gave me the strength to walk away

    • @shawnpreston1639
      @shawnpreston1639 8 лет назад +27

      Girl, good for you! That means that your son is watching you and paying attention to what mama allows in her life. I tried to help my mother years ago and she paid me no mind and stayed. My stepfather, in the end, left her for a much, much younger woman/girl. Now she and I have a fractured relationship because I witnessed too much sad and depress days from her. I moved on. So dont make the same mistake with your son like my mama made with me. If he is old enough to understand you deserve better, you are old enough to understand that you do too. Kids are watching. An unhappy mother makes an unhappy son. Dont make him unhappy because of your love of no good man. You got a good man that loves you: your son!

    • @athomewithrosa
      @athomewithrosa 8 лет назад +21

      This brought tears to my eyes. I walked away and never looked back. I had to set an example for my daughters. Your son was and is a blessing. You got this!

    • @amandalee9178
      @amandalee9178 8 лет назад +14

      +isis1969 im in the process of walking away with a 1 year old daughter and another daughter on the way. Its hard. But God is my strength and his promises are stronger than the hurt I feel.

    • @athomewithrosa
      @athomewithrosa 8 лет назад +2

      +Pinkbuttons ! (Adonijah&Amanda22) You stay strong. Whatever the reason is, you are making the best decision. We have to love our children and ourselves enough to make the change. I will keep you in my thoughts. We all get that wake up call and have to answer it.

    • @tatianaallen9118
      @tatianaallen9118 8 лет назад +6

      I'm 13 and gave told my mom to listing to this as well cause she going through sum wit my step dad and it helped her

  • @puffalump76
    @puffalump76 6 лет назад +505

    She sings the hell outta this song..hot damn 😍😍

  • @vybzkartelradio.
    @vybzkartelradio. 11 дней назад +4

    Classic song. Love you tasia❤

  • @tamekashontae7779
    @tamekashontae7779 4 года назад +196

    "When you've been broken, you feel like no one can fix it" I felt every part of that! It's so true.

  • @ebonypainter9274
    @ebonypainter9274 8 лет назад +2345

    She ain't never lied!! Sometimes giving up is winning!!

  • @londonspark8695
    @londonspark8695 8 лет назад +515

    THIS IS ME!!!! SHE HELPED ME MOVE ON FROM A 8 YEAR RELATIONSHIP
    NOW I AM WINNING 💪💪💪 THANK YOU FANTASIA!!!!

  • @dorothybutler136
    @dorothybutler136 9 месяцев назад +38

    You might have lost then but You winning Now, Thanks be to GOD

  • @yelaywright7267
    @yelaywright7267 7 лет назад +370

    Listening to this song give me the strength to walk away from a relationship that was not worth fighting for and I feel so strong and happy right now thank you Fantasia❤❤❤🙌🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🥰

    • @richardsonlaura54
      @richardsonlaura54 5 лет назад +8

      Me too

    • @irisochoa4194
      @irisochoa4194 5 лет назад +5

      Its true bin there done that💔💔

    • @marthatabane7152
      @marthatabane7152 5 лет назад +9

      I really wish I had your strength. Still contemplating...

    • @aaronwright1003
      @aaronwright1003 5 лет назад +2

      queen of hearts not in the caedrs 4 me $

    • @brsugarbabe
      @brsugarbabe 5 лет назад +5

      Martha Monyela Girl, there is always a rainbow after the rain. Close the door to Mr. Wrong, so that Mr. Right can come on in.

  • @kirarozay2066
    @kirarozay2066 3 года назад +97

    Sometimes what we consider a loss is actually a BLESSING IN DISGUISE!!! Just another way of God protecting us when we are blinded by love or what we think we want!!!

  • @juliem1674
    @juliem1674 3 года назад +2025

    Sometimes those disappointments can be a blessing in disguise

  • @MrToshhhi
    @MrToshhhi 7 месяцев назад +71

    2024 and this song still hits to the soul. Love yourself first and always!

  • @tamarabostoncooks
    @tamarabostoncooks 6 лет назад +287

    Losing a love you thought was the one after so many heartbreaks is the hardest thing.

  • @princekp1
    @princekp1 4 года назад +552

    This song, this woman deserves so much more attention!

  • @natashakapapa9988
    @natashakapapa9988 5 лет назад +1883

    Still my favourite even in 2019 😍😍
    Who's with me??

  • @zehdashimus
    @zehdashimus Год назад +82

    I just discovered this song today and it has been on repeat for HOURS! This truly hits when you’re actually going through it. Left a toxic relationship and now met someone that treats me so much better ♥️

  • @sweetiezoe5127
    @sweetiezoe5127 7 лет назад +282

    This song speaks volumes to me. Went through this in my marriage. But I found the strength to leave and it was so hard but I made it. I found myself in a relationship with someone who truly cares and I found true love. So the lyrics are so true to life. Anyone going through this don't give up on yourself and accept what's not right for you.

    • @kondrawest8313
      @kondrawest8313 6 лет назад +12

      CheriCheri thanks this is what I needed I filed for divorce today I'm tired of him mistreating me

    • @racheldennis5736
      @racheldennis5736 6 лет назад +3

      CheriCheri I sorry babe you all the best as the song said gotta lose to win

    • @mishkahenry8672
      @mishkahenry8672 6 лет назад +1

      I'm going through the same thing.. listened to the song before doing my divorce papers!! And a calmness came over me!

    • @krystingrant6292
      @krystingrant6292 6 лет назад +2

      My current situation I was so scared. I'm so happy to be free

    • @akwenisegibson9171
      @akwenisegibson9171 6 лет назад +1

      I'm here praying for that day when I gather the strength to leave

  • @Love-ju3bv
    @Love-ju3bv 2 года назад +1043

    You know i thought i was loosing when i walked away from a fifteen year relationship but it took almost three years to realize that I won and found the man of my dreams and expecting my first baby . You will always come out on the top .

    • @ToYAHofZion144
      @ToYAHofZion144 2 года назад +16

      HalleluYah!💯🔥

    • @eugeniafields7901
      @eugeniafields7901 2 года назад +34

      My honey purpose to me from 12years ,but he really didn’t mean it.He said you’ll never find another guy like me.Well Well! I found somebody better.

    • @SkegeeAce
      @SkegeeAce 2 года назад +6

      Praise God!!

    • @penelopethomas1120
      @penelopethomas1120 2 года назад +3

      @@ToYAHofZion144 ++q+

    • @azolampepo8570
      @azolampepo8570 Год назад +5

      Wow 😳 I love your story

  • @sugerbiskits
    @sugerbiskits 5 лет назад +51

    You can feel the pain and hurt in this song. The passion in her voice and the storyline in her lyrics are unmatched!!!!! LOVE THIS SONG!!!!

  • @Jai14109
    @Jai14109 Год назад +1377

    This song still hitting hard in 2023 and will forever hit hard ❤

  • @agnesbailey7221
    @agnesbailey7221 8 лет назад +159

    This is a girl that went through so much and came out on top so proud of her .💔💔💔💔

  • @esthersammy3240
    @esthersammy3240 4 года назад +140

    This song helped me regain my self worth during a toxic 3 year relationship and thank God because you saved my life. Thank you Fantasia

    • @lakishajohnson172
      @lakishajohnson172 2 года назад

      dealin wit it

    • @poppagBallZ97
      @poppagBallZ97 2 года назад

      @@lakishajohnson172 hopefully you are going to be out of the toxicity 🙏🏾

  • @nurturingresiliencemahalia4233
    @nurturingresiliencemahalia4233 6 лет назад +111

    This woman is epic , talented, stunning and naturally beautiful beyond degree

  • @reznakhatun9572
    @reznakhatun9572 Год назад +130

    After being in abusive relationship for 25 yrs I stayed single for 6 yrs and prayed to god now I’ve met my twin flame ❤

  • @dazshcheatham27
    @dazshcheatham27 7 лет назад +316

    THIS SONG WILL NEVER GET OLD NO MATTER WHAT YEAR WE IN ❤️🤞🏾💯

  • @hannahrollings3988
    @hannahrollings3988 9 лет назад +507

    Sometime in relationship you have to think with your head, not your heart, then you can see the picture better, when we think with our heart, we can't see the bigger picture...

    • @memerosario603
      @memerosario603 9 лет назад +3

      so true

    • @reneehestick5547
      @reneehestick5547 9 лет назад +2

      +Meme Rosario that is so true

    • @memerosario603
      @memerosario603 9 лет назад +2

      +Renee Hestick yes

    • @Jeff_Thomas
      @Jeff_Thomas 9 лет назад +9

      +Hannah Rollings SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO KNEW SHE SAMPLED THE "commodores-nightshift".....

    • @LadeOla
      @LadeOla 9 лет назад +2

      so true

  • @mirakings1867
    @mirakings1867 7 лет назад +75

    Lord knows I needed to hear this song today. Just broke up with a person who I thought really loved and cared for me. It hurts when a relationship that you really want to work out...doesn't. I fought hard for my relationship, but it takes two people to make it work. I know it is going to hurt a while, but it's okay. But like Ms. Amazing Fantasia said, "sometimes you gotta lose to win."

    • @odysseusscaife1073
      @odysseusscaife1073 6 лет назад

      Mira Kings stay bright the devil gives you perfection but god give you a tought lesson for the next

  • @nirikabartley7644
    @nirikabartley7644 Год назад +115

    I heard this song for the first time live last night. She song her heart out in this song, touched me and my fiancé’s heart. She even started crying while singing it. Such a beautiful song, sung by a beautiful soul❤

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      @JolisaBlount-l3f Год назад

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    • @shadinkins8455
      @shadinkins8455 10 месяцев назад

      are yall still together?

  • @mellery23
    @mellery23 8 лет назад +65

    love this song. i had to get to a place where my focus was loving me more than someone undeserving. letting go never felt so good.

  • @BeautyQueen79
    @BeautyQueen79 5 лет назад +323

    Listening to this as I lay in bed in the sleeping arms of a new man that treats me right and reminiscing about hearing this song and crying when I first heard this song 2 years ago that woke me up to leave a guy who was using and disrespecting me. Thanks, Fantasia!

    • @janae3414
      @janae3414 4 года назад +13

      This song made me feel better when I wasn't happy with my ex. I moved on and have a new man that is treating me right. We shouldn't settle for less and deserve someone who will treat us better.

    • @BeautyQueen79
      @BeautyQueen79 4 года назад +7

      Janae Happy for you and so so true! Settling with someone is the worse!

    • @islandtreasureshopandstraw6157
      @islandtreasureshopandstraw6157 4 года назад +5

      Wow, that is me right now. Every word you said, I felt.
      Thanks Tasia!!!

    • @taemason4134
      @taemason4134 4 года назад +3

      Great job girl this song is so moving. Anyone who has been through this will feel this to the core....

  • @twooda1
    @twooda1 3 года назад +1551

    I've lost so much this year, but God is going to help me win again!!!❤

  • @justchel1062
    @justchel1062 8 месяцев назад +52

    This song gets me so emotional 😢... still listening in 2024.. alot of men hurt some really good women.... the part that hit me was when she said" some of you know what feels like , caught up just in his life font want to try again thinking what's the difference "😢😭

  • @adoRebelstyle
    @adoRebelstyle 6 лет назад +52

    This lady is anointed.

  • @spirituallyyoung5295
    @spirituallyyoung5295 4 года назад +2602

    When you're going through it you can feel this song in your gut.

    • @cocovernon8394
      @cocovernon8394 4 года назад +41

      Yessssss, but honey when I come out of that state of mind....MY GOD!!! I'm a force to be reckoned with. Coco flavored HOT ICE. Js

    • @lovelyrich54
      @lovelyrich54 4 года назад +8

      @@cocovernon8394 Yaassssss hunny...Blessings to you for sending motivation my way sis🤗

    • @valeriealexander7015
      @valeriealexander7015 4 года назад +6

      Yesssss

    • @gretalawrence3548
      @gretalawrence3548 4 года назад +13

      Ive been there done that...when your in that state of mind dont nothing seem to matter anymore...ive damned near lost my mind trying everything to make it work..things just got worse...but honey i went to My God and asked him to deliver me from all my pain and troubles and never look back...he answered my prayers...GOD IS GOOD YALL AMEN🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @louronforde4659
      @louronforde4659 4 года назад +2

      Ukr😭😭

  • @tileartist59
    @tileartist59 5 лет назад +84

    Most underrated video out there... her voice is full of power and angelic... take us to church my Queen (Quite Unique in Every Essence of Nature)

  • @aneesahm4301
    @aneesahm4301 10 месяцев назад +849

    Currently losing but I know I’ll win again! Can I get an Amen?!

  • @darryltinsley7079
    @darryltinsley7079 6 лет назад +930

    Ladies know your worth!! You are “Queens” expect nothing less than the moon

  • @shanikamcfarlane4680
    @shanikamcfarlane4680 8 лет назад +561

    i have lost so many times when will it be my time to win??? sighz only God knows

  • @natarshasmith8100
    @natarshasmith8100 4 года назад +6215

    I would never put nobody before you again God

    • @livelove1969
      @livelove1969 4 года назад +162

      Amen🙏🏾

    • @nataliemorris8006
      @nataliemorris8006 4 года назад +200

      I Swear I Felt This In My Soul. Amen😔

    • @e.l.l.e.tierrablankaa
      @e.l.l.e.tierrablankaa 4 года назад +22

      👻

    • @GodIsLove7xFold
      @GodIsLove7xFold 4 года назад +46

      Amen

    • @Shimyralove
      @Shimyralove 3 года назад +142

      In The Name of Jesus, I felt them Words “I WOULD NEVER PUT NOBODY BEFORE YOU AGAIN GOD”🙌🏾🙌🏾😭🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @CaRoLina-Girl
    @CaRoLina-Girl 6 месяцев назад +152

    Believe it or not this song helped me get through a heartbreak. I’m winning in 2024❤❤❤

  • @msamaye2
    @msamaye2 3 года назад +338

    2021 and this is still beautiful. Fantasia is definitely winning now. Blessings to her, hubby, and the new baby💜.
    I’m looking forward to my own winning that’s coming. 😊

  • @rutendomujuru5535
    @rutendomujuru5535 5 лет назад +558

    Lord am tired of singing this song for comfort every time please may i get a win this time around

    • @acgillis1
      @acgillis1 5 лет назад +3

      Amen

    • @sayhuhsaywhat6991
      @sayhuhsaywhat6991 5 лет назад +5

      You will

    • @foxbat473
      @foxbat473 5 лет назад +4

      zvichaita

    • @lorrainebanathyasharahla1195
      @lorrainebanathyasharahla1195 5 лет назад +4

      Rutendo Mujuru I had to take a X-Ray of myself on the inside first. Had to ask God to clean me up and I was fed up with Toxic So call friends and my life style which did not include my heavenly father. That was years ago. I Repented and started gaining True Knowledge to who I am and my role as a woman / Holy Woman. My life changed and I have been married to a holy man who taught me so much regarding the Holy Bible Kjv and more. We dated for 2yrs and married 13yrs. I had a lot of mess in my life that had to be DUMPED. YAH ( God) sent me my husband and it was a long hard struggle thru first 3-4 yrs but we did it 😀🙌. I guess you can say " That's The Way Nature Planned It". I am 10yrs older than he is and we love each other very much. Much Respect for my husband 💪👍✊. Your time will come. Just work on yourself inside and out. Inside first 💯. Men require and demand RESPECT FIRST / LOVE. Something I had to learn.

    • @triviasmith1151
      @triviasmith1151 5 лет назад +3

      Keep your head up baby. Remember that GOD makes no mistakes! Whatever it is that you are going through is just a test of your faith. Hold on tight when prayers go up blessings rain down. Your season is on the way or may be right in front of you. Be still and let him work.

  • @peb6
    @peb6 6 лет назад +397

    She wrote this for me. Im crying listening to it. I'm at the end of my rope. That's it for me. I've never felt more ugly, unappreciated, unappealing, and unloved in my entire life. I'm going to lose, and hope I win again...

    • @keishafletcher9676
      @keishafletcher9676 5 лет назад +22

      You will win again.

    • @antoinetterich4228
      @antoinetterich4228 5 лет назад +28

      You a strong black woman and you very strong and it a reason why you are going through what ever it is because God have better plan for your life put him first and seek him and watch what happens. God Bless u!!!

    • @kimduck8587
      @kimduck8587 5 лет назад +10

      You will get more than you lost.

    • @janeanfrancois2117
      @janeanfrancois2117 5 лет назад +11

      We need an update

    • @anitrapollard7529
      @anitrapollard7529 5 лет назад +8

      You've already won.

  • @damainepowell2586
    @damainepowell2586 8 месяцев назад +6

    😔 man dis songs is so powerful ❤

  • @felicityntanjana5574
    @felicityntanjana5574 8 лет назад +219

    fucken one of the dopest tracks of her_this women is real, i love her!!!

  • @antoniob6056
    @antoniob6056 6 лет назад +348

    Black queen priceless 💎💎💎💎💎

  • @sohnleewalker8653
    @sohnleewalker8653 5 лет назад +53

    "Maybe it a take someone else, to show me better. But I don't wanna leave you". 😥🤧😩😭😢🤞 Felt that part in my soul. And that entire last verse. 🤧🤧🤧😢

    • @hibiscuscumberbatch183
      @hibiscuscumberbatch183 4 года назад

      And as she sang that verse, I was readying this comment..on God.double shocking to my gut!!

  • @edwinamaxine5575
    @edwinamaxine5575 Год назад +44

    After all these years,this song still hits differently 😢

  • @shaylasmith2890
    @shaylasmith2890 7 лет назад +158

    I cry every night over this boy I'm tired of fighting for this relationship😢

    • @dalenegeorge5683
      @dalenegeorge5683 6 лет назад +16

      Then stop. Its not worth losing yourself.

    • @laquashahemphill1683
      @laquashahemphill1683 6 лет назад +5

      So where are u now?

    • @virtuouswoman5867
      @virtuouswoman5867 6 лет назад +5

      Queen i had one to break my heart well shattered me so bad till all i did was dranked myself till the point of no return ...i was finish so o thought but lo and behold God stepped in and changed all tht and that happened to me the year of 2016 i were healed...God put all the pieces of my shattered heart back together...the end of 2016 November the man that did'nt realized that he had a good women came back begging now most well a lot of women know we fall weak but i fell weak to a point...my wall was built thicker than Donald Trump wall😂 but i still talked to him to all alone not wanting to go down that road with him again....i FORGAVE HIM AND NOW TO THIS DAY HE IS MARRIED TO SOMEONE HE IS UNHAPPY WITH BEGGING ME TO COME BACK HOME UMMMM NOPE I TOLD HIM YOU SHOULD HAVE KELPT ME WHEN YOU HAD ME...SORRY NOT SORRY😁😜

    • @krystingrant6292
      @krystingrant6292 6 лет назад +3

      Then stop. Aftee 4 years I did Thursday I'm scared but I know it's a blessing

    • @melg3132
      @melg3132 6 лет назад +1

      @@krystingrant6292 it's ok to be scared that can be a good sign you will stick by your decision. If you were numb it might be easy to go back to the situation. Js

  • @delisa492
    @delisa492 5 лет назад +890

    This song help me broke up with with my boyfriend after 7 years cause I know I could do better and I did 😍😍😍

    • @PeytonFan1816
      @PeytonFan1816 4 года назад +26

      Proud of you sis

    • @ronitaboatwright9895
      @ronitaboatwright9895 4 года назад +25

      I need that courage 😥🤷🤦

    • @sgl2k175
      @sgl2k175 4 года назад +8

      Don’t u want to be with him no matter what

    • @Kaliiiibby
      @Kaliiiibby 4 года назад +2

      ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽

    • @akaliabrooks152
      @akaliabrooks152 4 года назад +8

      @@sgl2k175 don't you ever think back you made a choice a decision dont you for that

  • @joshuamcdowell5782
    @joshuamcdowell5782 9 лет назад +154

    Fantasia needs to do a live album. A live album is long overdue. Fantasia is one of the best live performers of this generation. She commands the stage. She sings with so much passion and soul.

    • @ISaidiCould
      @ISaidiCould 9 лет назад +3

      I agree. ... to hear her vocals to a live band! No studio mixes!YEEAAASSS HONEY!

    • @kaylajohnson5056
      @kaylajohnson5056 9 лет назад

      She does them I went one to one of her concerts and she did this whole album and some of her songs off the second to last album

    • @joshuamcdowell5782
      @joshuamcdowell5782 9 лет назад

      Kayla Johnson
      Fantasia have never done a live album or a concert DVD

    • @kaylajohnson5056
      @kaylajohnson5056 9 лет назад

      +Joshua McDowell yea she did

    • @joshuamcdowell5782
      @joshuamcdowell5782 9 лет назад

      Kayla Johnson
      A regular concert and a live album is the not the same thing

  • @MsTachi
    @MsTachi 4 месяца назад +6

    This is motivational baby! No matter what you going through..love, grief, loss of a job, financial hardships or health issues. You are going to be ok and going through a trial but you will Win! You gotta lose to win again. I had forgot about this song but found it today. ❤️

  • @charmainerolle-hunt9880
    @charmainerolle-hunt9880 4 года назад +2687

    This song is still hitting me deep in 2020. Know your self worth ladies! Don't be afraid to walk away and leave all the negative behind😢.

    • @MZLIBRA1969
      @MZLIBRA1969 4 года назад +28

      Learned this lesson many years ago...not again

    • @jeanineramonawilliams1577
      @jeanineramonawilliams1577 3 года назад +5

      @@MZLIBRA1969 Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

    • @quasitelesford4874
      @quasitelesford4874 3 года назад +7

      Love it

    • @keemadaniel6298
      @keemadaniel6298 3 года назад +15

      Thank you it's hard

    • @lamikagriffin2873
      @lamikagriffin2873 3 года назад +14

      Yes Jesus help me Over this hill

  • @princessnosa2438
    @princessnosa2438 3 года назад +92

    Had to give him up 11 years ago after all the beatings and mind games. Left with my pregnancy but today i am healed, have 2 degrees, have a fantastic job and most of all a beautiful son. Sometimes letting go is the best

  • @MeekeeKobellaDrNP
    @MeekeeKobellaDrNP 2 года назад +117

    2022 Fantasia, this song is the only thing that speaks to my heart during these trying times. Thank You, from the bottom of my heart!!!!

  • @facesbyisis3584
    @facesbyisis3584 Год назад +76

    I’m here after I’m ending my 9 year relationship .. been on repeat always loved this song but now I’m using this song to move on and heal ! Thank you ❤

    • @kendralatta4530
      @kendralatta4530 Год назад +2

      Right I went through it for 7yrs once after I was tired of feeling like a recording or basically used when he came home an didn’t see me in the house with he’s house key on the table he knew it was over

    • @facesbyisis3584
      @facesbyisis3584 Год назад

      @@kendralatta4530 what did u do to move on .. were you checked out before you left ?

    • @psionicpowers132
      @psionicpowers132 Год назад

      The same here, keep yourself busy and build yourself up. Make your dreams and yourself #1. Never chase no penis, remember they need us more than we need them. Learn how to be by yourself especially in this time of ascension aka Aquarius age, don't let men makes u vibrate low and I have to realize that man is the devil in a physical form against woman. Eboni k Williams made a comment that men will sleep with you and hate u in one breathe and it's the truth. Carry on with your life. A man who is vibrating high won't use or break up with a woman he's knows she's the one, or use her. Many men out here are plane devils who live off women energy after they have conquered our feelings. I have learned this the hardest way. Ain't no real love since that so called love is spelled backwands as evol, live/evil, so clearly they are feeding off our energy when they use us and then dumps u for another. Don't even beg or call him, put him on the block like he never existed in your life. Try dating out your race, black men will lead u on only to be dumped abd abused.

  • @PLAYDIRTY1000
    @PLAYDIRTY1000 10 лет назад +92

    Talk about it Fanny. I didn't lose a thing...I just got rid of the loser. I was the fool for awhile, but the joker played his hand one too many times. My heart is full of joy now that I that fool is out of my life. Time healed all those scars. He now realize what he lost and that he can never get it back. He had the nerve to ask me if we could give it another chance and my response was "There is no chance in hell that I would ever take you back." I did thank him for opening my eyes so that I could see that I was too good for him. All I have to say is I am smiling now. GOD IS GOOD!

    • @MarieBai
      @MarieBai 10 лет назад

      God is great! Good for you my dear

    • @vsophia8689
      @vsophia8689 10 лет назад +1

      That's how I feel but it's hard in the beginning to not go back but I always knew what was up but I thought things would change but no more boo boo the fools here

    • @donnikaedmonds6889
      @donnikaedmonds6889 10 лет назад

      Marie Bai

    • @MaarriMaarie
      @MaarriMaarie 10 лет назад +2

      I love ❤ this sonnng 🎅 loose to win 🏆 fall down 👇 but get on up 👆

    • @tabsperspective2825
      @tabsperspective2825 9 лет назад +2

      Yes!! I just cut a loser off too! I'm so tired of and I'm so much better than mind games!

  • @michellehendrix7135
    @michellehendrix7135 6 лет назад +353

    I wonder how much better off we would be if we put the same amount of energy into ourselves, (being healthy, wealthy, and happy), as we do in these relationships. Man ole man we would be the shit

    • @princewilliams9388
      @princewilliams9388 6 лет назад +9

      This statement is so thought provoking.. thanks..I needed to read this 🤔🙄😌

    • @lesliemarshall5980
      @lesliemarshall5980 6 лет назад +2

      So true

    • @islandgirl01
      @islandgirl01 5 лет назад +2

      BAM💥

    • @Faith-s1f
      @Faith-s1f 5 лет назад +1

      Words

    • @candyxoxo19
      @candyxoxo19 5 лет назад +4

      And I love when the message is about anything but relationships. It's not the only thing you lose to win. Losing,quitting jobs, changing fields, getting sicknesses and overcoming it to value your life, getting evicted then becoming a home owner, getting fired and starting a business, repentance and giving your life to God. Changing friendship circles.etc and etc.

  • @Kate-ni2ht
    @Kate-ni2ht 2 года назад +341

    9 years later and this song still speaks to my soul!! 💔

  • @traygreene
    @traygreene Год назад +31

    Everytime I’m in my feeling no matter if it’s relationships related or not I most def get a vibe .. blessed to have these songs to help and knowledge me thru this wicked place we call life ❤❤💯😤💪🏾😊

  • @sash8843
    @sash8843 3 года назад +408

    Reading comments and listening to this song at the same time is giving me so much strength to move on from a relationship that is just toxic. You all are motivators.

  • @claresamorris6731
    @claresamorris6731 5 лет назад +253

    2019 I'm Still Enjoying this Song.I 💘 this Song.a Beautiful Masterpiece.

  • @PrincessZelda609
    @PrincessZelda609 2 года назад +32

    I remember my first time hearing this song. I was driving in my car and I burst into tears listening to my life's love story. Thank God I didn't crash...

  • @librasoknowsbestlibra
    @librasoknowsbestlibra 8 лет назад +20

    loose to win is the definition of my life! when you behold something and you don't appreciate it , you shall loose it! however with strength and beauty this graceful warrior will win again!

  • @jamacierodney2496
    @jamacierodney2496 8 лет назад +61

    Sometimes you gotta lose to win 💜💜

  • @problems9739
    @problems9739 2 года назад +387

    This made me understand my wife’s feeling . This song made me break down . We almost separated w 3 kids . That was 3 years ago . We’re better than ever . When I see Fantasia I wanna thank her so much .

    • @deepdarkcocoa7956
      @deepdarkcocoa7956 2 года назад +21

      This made me cry. We living in some sad times. And people need to realize we don't have long on this earth, so whoever you're with, stick it out. Because it's even sadder when you're in this crazy world alone. Peace and blessings. May God continue to bless you and your wife.

    • @phoneiciatolmaire995
      @phoneiciatolmaire995 2 года назад +9

      So a song helped you understand someone else's feelings when if you as a person should have been more concerned with her emotional well-being before you even stepped your foot out the door to think about marriage .🤔

    • @romeocooper6216
      @romeocooper6216 Год назад +3

      My husband (i'm on his phone) just stormed out

    • @problems9739
      @problems9739 Год назад +10

      @@phoneiciatolmaire995 I’m still happily married ( 21 years ) Sooooo what were you saying ?? Bet your not married . Get off RUclips and go find love .

    • @jessicaerby4861
      @jessicaerby4861 Год назад +11

      @@problems9739 I’m so glad that you fought for your wife and your marriage! This world tell men and women it’s ok to give up everyday!… if they aren’t happy or just feel like it anymore and the best one do what’s best for you movement 🤦🏽‍♀️ me and my husband are separated right now his choice and when I saw your comment I broke down because where most ppl see this song as saying it’s ok to walk away I see it as you did. Stay fight and sometimes you have to lose to win your marriage again! Blessing to you and your family❤

  • @Ken_ci_ya
    @Ken_ci_ya 10 месяцев назад +1390

    Who's still here in 2024❤

  • @darealdivaify
    @darealdivaify 7 лет назад +223

    I love her so much..This was me..A man can really allow u 2 b scared 2 move on..U will NEVER know what a good man feels like until u had a bad one..God is soooo Good

    • @ruthporter5260
      @ruthporter5260 6 лет назад +3

      Kimberly Harris-Elbourne so very true!!

    • @ririgang5561
      @ririgang5561 6 лет назад

      Kimberly Harris-Elbourne amen

    • @dawnbentley8859
      @dawnbentley8859 6 лет назад

      Kimberly Harris-Elbourne Amen sista!!

    • @shemikiaross2268
      @shemikiaross2268 6 лет назад +2

      Kimberly I like your statement"You will never know what a good man is until you had a bad one" Amen Amen and I'm still trying to adjust to the wonderful man that I have because he is just that...Wonderful!!!

    • @nickki_bossbabeforbes1830
      @nickki_bossbabeforbes1830 6 лет назад

      So true

  • @Sharie14
    @Sharie14 2 года назад +201

    This song opened my eyes and helped me to make a decision to leave someone toxic and no good for me. It motivated me to move on from him because I deserved way better and he was not worth it. Thank you Fantasia. I had to lose to win again.

    • @phoneiciatolmaire995
      @phoneiciatolmaire995 2 года назад

      So a song helped you realized that you had been abandoning your own emotional-well being and probably physical too for a person just a person just like you .🤔🤧

    • @NANCYNA-h5e
      @NANCYNA-h5e 2 года назад +6

      @@phoneiciatolmaire995 Learn to mind your business . Why are you replying and judging people ?

    • @queenalex7827
      @queenalex7827 Год назад

      @@phoneiciatolmaire995 so this comment section made you realize how miserable you are in life and how talking shi makes you feel better? 😅🤬🙄

    • @elizabethedwards4234
      @elizabethedwards4234 Год назад +1

      You comes first

  • @deirdrejackson481
    @deirdrejackson481 7 лет назад +120

    Fighting to keep a UNHEALTHY VERY UNHEALTHY relationship😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣. This song HELPS ME TO MOVE ON!!!!

  • @NamesRissa
    @NamesRissa 3 месяца назад +4

    The "Nightshift" sample is giving!! Huge Commodoer's fan. Love finding gems like this

    • @Saindran2
      @Saindran2 2 месяца назад

      😂 I was waiting for " Nightshift " Can't beat the music of the 80's!

  • @kalibeckles
    @kalibeckles 8 лет назад +187

    this song really makes me cry cause it hits home its like she got in my head !

  • @sleumastv712
    @sleumastv712 3 года назад +3107

    This song hits different when you have to let go of someone you truly love

    • @miletetsegay1961
      @miletetsegay1961 3 года назад +43

      I love him but all he do is cheat on me hang out with his friends after 7 yrs 3 kids all I wan for him to watch his kids at night wild I’m at work be he wouldn’t do that I have beg him watch his kids.I’m tired

    • @J00000876
      @J00000876 3 года назад +46

      Sometimes we all got to lose to win again! We women are queens and we are strong and some men cannot handle that

    • @gloriafletcher227
      @gloriafletcher227 3 года назад +5

      Oily

    • @2thankfulnGrateful
      @2thankfulnGrateful 3 года назад +4

      Amen 🙏🏾

    • @marquelewing183
      @marquelewing183 3 года назад +6

      Seriously 🥺🥺💯💔

  • @qweenb2767
    @qweenb2767 7 лет назад +72

    When you've been broken you feel like No one can fix it!!! 😞💔😢

    • @nicolecuff3437
      @nicolecuff3437 6 лет назад

      tffffftt66bjjkkķjmkkkkkllkolĺllllĺlĺloopiokoi8
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    • @princewilliams9388
      @princewilliams9388 6 лет назад

      Big FACTS but, after listening to this I did!!

    • @bigtwan803
      @bigtwan803 6 лет назад

      Nah the right one can always fix it

  • @britanniabritneymerritt4078
    @britanniabritneymerritt4078 2 месяца назад +130

    Who’s here in September 2024?

  • @alyciamichelle5167
    @alyciamichelle5167 6 лет назад +817

    *Cause when you’ve been broken you feel like no one can fix it.*

  • @haveaniceday1692
    @haveaniceday1692 5 лет назад +30

    Thank You God for being there and when i feel like i lost ,You are making it work together for my good.

  • @ericwilliams5518
    @ericwilliams5518 5 лет назад +35

    One of the most slept on songs by oe of the most slept on artists as far as album sales and chart rankings go. This should have been a #1 Hot 100 Single

  • @lastcreation32
    @lastcreation32 Год назад +6

    This song speaks so deeply, it touches my soul because it is ME! When you love someone so hard you try and push pass anything because of love. But you know exactly what you should do and don't.

  • @beccag.341
    @beccag.341 10 лет назад +71

    I totally understand the lyrics of this song... If a relationship is falling apart at it's seams but you're in so deep (you love too deep, too much; too strong,) that it requires more than yourself to do what you know is best, sometimes you just have to take courage within yourself, and dig deep and find that courage to lose and let go of what you truly want, know or have grown too familiar with (the two of you,), to give that person time to truly reflect on what he's really not been appreciating. It's a big risk and a gamble at times knowing you want to salvage things and/or that your heart is still very much in it. But sometimes it may just be exactly what is needed or required "to win" (-win in the sense of either to win it all back and things turn out as you originally desired; you guys being together and you are better appreciated, or to 'win' in the sense of having found your inner strength to realize your inner worth and walk away knowing fully within your self and with the positive and right self concept that you TRUELY DESERVE Better and ought to be treated better than that. So you wake up from the lie and illusion of the situation in the present relationship, to truth that you are worth it, can start a new beginning, and you don't have to accept the BS, and you are/become/ end-up stronger for it in the end.)

    • @lanekastokes7634
      @lanekastokes7634 10 лет назад +3

      Wow this is so real.. You said a lot..

    • @youiloves1242
      @youiloves1242 10 лет назад +1

      Yes, so true

    • @beccag.341
      @beccag.341 10 лет назад +2

      I totally honestly love this track; it's raw truth and it gets you at the core (-speaking for myself included)...

    • @JeannieTurner-s5u
      @JeannieTurner-s5u Год назад

  • @dustfreequeen5151
    @dustfreequeen5151 4 года назад +47

    If it makes you cry, cry, cry......whew chile!!!!🖤🙏🏾 Felt that in my soul!

  • @kadiehunte6124
    @kadiehunte6124 8 лет назад +1909

    going through this right now :( Fighting for a relationship to work but thats not on his mind. I know there may be better out there, but starting over is so hard :'(sighh

    • @joydelacruz779
      @joydelacruz779 8 лет назад +72

      me too....I'm leaving tomorrow...starting over after 4 years!

    • @jennifermaxwell9786
      @jennifermaxwell9786 8 лет назад +25

      I feel you same here.... 😐

    • @orlishaclouden201
      @orlishaclouden201 8 лет назад +14

      Kade Hunte same here

    • @GraciousE
      @GraciousE 8 лет назад +13

      Same 😒

    • @starr6850
      @starr6850 8 лет назад +66

      Guuuuuuurrrllllllll tell me about it...my current situation with my husband.....im fighting and he's running....I'm trying win his heart and he is trying win the heart of another woman....that's y I'm on this channel for encouragement....like u say it's just soooo hard

  • @NYCVocaldrama
    @NYCVocaldrama 5 месяцев назад +2

    What a powerful message.

  • @kentonscott2204
    @kentonscott2204 4 года назад +567

    It doesn’t matter how old this sound is, once u get your heartbroken and u listen it, it’s like she’s speaking to you😩some word of advice👌

    • @tabathastaples7884
      @tabathastaples7884 4 года назад +1

      Shepherd's Chapel Network !!!!!!! Pastor Murray is an Anointed Servant of GOD who teaches the Word of GOD with Authority!!!!!!!

    • @nicketathompson7799
      @nicketathompson7799 3 года назад +1

      True

    • @shelishawilliams6536
      @shelishawilliams6536 3 года назад +5

      First time I felt a man and felt for lies and lust from him I final getting over him. If only I can face the truth that I still love him.

    • @melanieharp7633
      @melanieharp7633 2 года назад +1

      Very true in 2022

  • @shenizaphillips4383
    @shenizaphillips4383 7 лет назад +159

    i really love this song who still listening to this ☝☝☝☝☝🙋🙌🙆

  • @chanteespurling5559
    @chanteespurling5559 8 лет назад +3875

    I am a Mother, NOT a "baby mamma", I am Woman, NOT a peice of property. I am beautifull, because I KNOW what it means to be ugly, I am Strong, cause I KNOW what it mean to be weak, I have feelings, but there NOT for you to walk all over, I may get down and have my limit, but thats LIFE I live & learn. I'm human & that's all I can be. I am A Chantee Spurling , Nothing more & Nothing less, Love me as I am or watch me as I leave. 👌♥

  • @lifetime2370
    @lifetime2370 7 лет назад +126

    I just never thought I leave but I was forced to being neglected so long i was breaking my own heart

  • @PeytonFan1816
    @PeytonFan1816 5 лет назад +2780

    Shout out to everyone that felt unfixable. It didn't break you it just bent you. Keep winning on purpose!!!!

    • @straighttalk4988
      @straighttalk4988 5 лет назад +13

      Well said Ms. Jones. Blessings to you🙏🙌🙏

    • @DJRenee
      @DJRenee 5 лет назад +14

      If I can't say a word I'm just gone wave my 🖐.

    • @PeytonFan1816
      @PeytonFan1816 5 лет назад +9

      @@straighttalk4988 Blessings to you as well 💜

    • @PeytonFan1816
      @PeytonFan1816 5 лет назад +8

      @@DJRenee Alright now!!! Amen

    • @kandypeters7071
      @kandypeters7071 5 лет назад +7

      Thanks alot jones well wishes on ur end too🤗

  • @makyahhairston2827
    @makyahhairston2827 8 лет назад +120

    Still listening to this song in 2016 but I still love it

  • @paigerobin8033
    @paigerobin8033 7 месяцев назад +1

    You are a beautiful strong woman I’m old school but I watch Tayler talks yall are awesome keep going god bless your entire family New Orleans 👍Louisiana 🎶🎶🙏🙏

  • @melissalara523
    @melissalara523 8 лет назад +101

    This song is so beautiful. This whole is perfection . 😌

  • @bendihacosmetics8861
    @bendihacosmetics8861 3 года назад +48

    8 years later and this song still means so much to me. Thank you Fantasia

  • @melissaalemany2400
    @melissaalemany2400 2 года назад +29

    This song helped me thru a lot. I literally am at my best now. Thank God!

  • @nolimitkk2715
    @nolimitkk2715 4 месяца назад +97

    I don’t care what anyone says, this song is a GOSPEL song, nothing but a WORD..

  • @solitairedoll
    @solitairedoll 3 года назад +223

    She used that “Night Shift” sample in the RIGHT way! Love Fantasia so much ♥️

  • @lisab.8520
    @lisab.8520 7 лет назад +116

    I WENT THROUGH IT, LADIES KEEP YOUR FAITH IN GOD HE WILL SEE YOU THROUGH!!!

  • @jennifercruz4499
    @jennifercruz4499 4 года назад +391

    I remember listening to this song again and again after my ex got married behind my back apparently it was an arranged marriage. I did everything gave everything to this person there wasn't anything I wouldn't do. After I left I honestly thought I would never find anyone ever ever again I was emotionally traumatized but after some 2 years of healing and getting my shit together and working on myself a beautiful man from the inside and out truly showed me what true love really means and I can say I'm happily married now have been for 3 months..this song has truth sometimes we don't know in that moment why bad stuff or people in our lives are being so shitty always know you deserve love. never settle for less and that there is AlWAYS light at the end of that tunnel Always!!!

    • @almightywallace
      @almightywallace 3 года назад +1

      Sorry hope yu find love again

    • @jennifercruz4499
      @jennifercruz4499 3 года назад +13

      @@almightywallace I have I'm a happily married woman my our one year anniversary is coming up soon

    • @almightywallace
      @almightywallace 3 года назад +2

      That wonderful new I wish yu the best yur story touch me I know what yur going through

    • @jennifercruz4499
      @jennifercruz4499 3 года назад +4

      @@almightywallace thank you so much 😊 I hope your heart heals soon cry if you need to cry but don't keep crying being sad because my dear life is too short to be living life in sadness I hope you have family and friends who love you and support you I promise you will be okay and you will come out stronger and wiser you're special person is out there waiting for you

    • @almightywallace
      @almightywallace 3 года назад

      Thank yu

  • @nyashawilliams-gj5ht
    @nyashawilliams-gj5ht 7 месяцев назад +34

    Went chu hell with my child father ... now I'm 10 times more happier with someone else i prayed for ❤❤❤❤I'm inlove ♥️

    • @CowboySunday
      @CowboySunday 7 месяцев назад +1

      J Cole love yours ❤❤❤

  • @billiedee2625
    @billiedee2625 5 лет назад +36

    I'm thankful each one of my storm's, for they've made me a stronger woman. ""Losing doesn't always mean your a loser, sometimes there's a bigger prize awaiting you"" Let the river of life wash away the dirt of others and get back up and remember the lessons..

  • @aleciamcfarlane902
    @aleciamcfarlane902 4 года назад +38

    I use listen to this song every day on night. But was afraid of what people would say. It’s better to lose than to be sorry. At the end of the day your the one who will have to live with the pain and cover it up.