Maybe you’re anxious because you believe it’s keeping you safe.

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  • Опубликовано: 12 дек 2024

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  • @Magic.Happens
    @Magic.Happens 5 месяцев назад +9

    In my case the anxiety is always to always be “ready” for something bad that might happen… that it won’t blindside me. Also that if I’m already anxious, if something “bad” does happen I won’t have as far to fall. I’m already 1/2 way down. I think these cooing mechanisms are a way to try to protect against something that was traumatic as a child when you had no tools to deal with it.

  • @palette_1563
    @palette_1563 2 месяца назад

    I too have always been anxious, since childhood. I've held similar beliefs about creating anxiety and suffering to cushion bad things happening to me. We were forced to attend church as children and it created an anxiety of my mortality. Even as a child. Also the authoritarian figure of God as a judge. I'm 61 now and I still grapple with an "inner child" that wrestles with fear and anxiety. I've started and stopped several therapy sessions in my life. I've come to realize that life is simply an ebb and flow of the universal law of opposites: there is no pleasure without pain, love without hate, light without dark, life without death. Learning to appreciate and savour all aspects of life, good and bad, is helpful I believe.

  • @Giggiyygoo
    @Giggiyygoo 5 месяцев назад +6

    Even our language shows this. Think about when someone says "you have to worry about this" or you don't have to worry about that. As if we ever "have to" worry in the first place.

  • @jesusolmo6278
    @jesusolmo6278 5 месяцев назад +10

    We Are Each Other
    We’re not ghostly entities
    marooned inside our mental space
    with our personal pain and suffering
    that can never be shared or understood.
    We’re not machines full of selfish genes
    who are always scheming to outdo each other
    and only ever show kindness
    if there’s some benefit to ourselves.
    We are each other.
    Every human being’s feelings flow
    like currents of air through the atmosphere
    of our communal being -
    brushing each other’s souls
    touching each other’s hearts
    stirring mutual compassion.
    We feel compassion because we’re connected.
    We sense each other’s suffering
    because we share each other’s being.
    We risk our lives for others
    because there is only one life.
    We help and heal and love each other
    because we are each other.
    -Steve Taylor, 'The Clear Light'

  • @JonnyChaos
    @JonnyChaos 2 месяца назад +1

    Speaking in relation to your last video as you turned off the comments. I had a similar experience to you when I was 26. I felt reborn. Nothing made sense. I went vegetarian after it and am currently vegan because I saw meat as dead bodies and it reset my views on meat and using animals for food. It took me 2 years to get my head straight. As my human self I gradually got back into normal life but still struggled with substance abuse for many years after. I'm 43 now. 5 years ago I was having terrible alcohol withdrawals and I found a video about breathwork which led me to have an experience. I felt a presence, could have been one of the talked about figures, Jesus or Shiva it was along those lines, and it instantly removed my desire to drink again. I've never touched it since but shortly after I carried on using coke which I've done for years. I had a 4 year habit following that and I got into meetings which helped me stop. I'm almost 2 years sober now. Feeling some intervention by God, or Jesus or whatever it was did save my life. It wasn't dangerous what was dangerous is the addiction. It would have killed me eventually. I think we need to remember that each of our experiences as unique to us. What one teacher might be teaching might work for them and not you or me. If they experience these things in a positive light then I'm assuming they teach what they teach expecting the next person to experience it the same way they do. As I said I'm 43 now and experiences vary. What might be terrifying to you at one time you might be totally accepting and open to in years to come.

  • @danieldonahue9336
    @danieldonahue9336 3 месяца назад +1

    The deeper I got into learning beautiful truths about spiritual things, the more I learned to care for myself and the anxiety slowly went away.

  • @indef93
    @indef93 5 месяцев назад +7

    This is amazing. I had exactly this insight today. 🎉 After a breakthrough awakening in February, life has felt like being free of 99% of suffering. Then came the big finals exam that a lot of my life seemingly depends on. Studying extra hard and worrying began to get disarmed and it felt like being jumped and choked out. No more coping, zero sense of control. It was even more of a "religious" experience than any stages of insights i've had. This is the deep shadow work, it seems. It was like realizing that, not only am I free falling in my private life, but also in so called compartmentalized, professional life. There are no bounds. The identification with the bread-winner persona is probably the most understandable. Now, I see its possible to be raw and unguarded even in those situations that literally depend on us to earn a living. I was never identified with work, rather i pushed it away. That's what was seen here. Thanks for your clear words. ❤

  • @margaretwalker2583
    @margaretwalker2583 5 месяцев назад +3

    Very wise young man helping people, thank you for sharing.

  • @SamSicilia.NonDuality
    @SamSicilia.NonDuality 5 месяцев назад +5

    Man this work you’re sharing is tremendously helpful here ❤️ Even after awakening I was finding difficulty in getting to see a lot of beliefs, and these videos are the compass I needed to slowly look and unbury all that BS. Thank you brother.

  • @gymandtonic89
    @gymandtonic89 4 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for sharing these valuable systems and frameworks. It’s so true, there is a reason why we cope the way we do and it’s worth looking at old and limiting belief systems that don’t serve us anymore.

  • @Syd-ezz
    @Syd-ezz 2 месяца назад

    Anxious thoughts bring possible negative future scenarios to experience in the now.

  • @filoreykjavik
    @filoreykjavik 5 месяцев назад +4

    perfect timing, thank you

  • @juliangraham2468
    @juliangraham2468 5 месяцев назад +3

    Can relate to all of it. Thank you. Thought my Dad would die when I was six, and for the next 65 years or so, I’ve been worrying that loved ones would die. Will be checking out an IFS counsellor. Thanks again 😊

  • @sammiller2617
    @sammiller2617 5 месяцев назад +4

    Very pleased to hear about your recovery and insights! IFS and Coherence Therapy approaches working at the subconscious level are the only way to permanently resolve and uncover our complexes at a standardised clinical level. But to be clear, just so anyone else who may be interested in exploring this work it is all based on that of Jung , Adler et al. (Even the language is based of Depth Psychology terminology. (Parts, schemas, frameworks etc are all Jungian terms). The literature pertaining to which is readily available. It can initially be dense but is a goldmine. And there are also many good introductory lectures on RUclips to get people started.
    I also agree that this is entirely concomitant with non-dualism.
    ‘ Until we make the subconscious conscious, it will rule our lives and we will call it Fate’. C.G.Jung
    Thank you so much for sharing and best wishes.

  • @Virvepaulina
    @Virvepaulina 4 месяца назад

    Spot on to what I was thinking! Gotta hear ya now!

  • @aaron9440
    @aaron9440 5 месяцев назад +4

    Had no idea I was so afraid of loss. Thank you for sharing

  • @InfiniteNothing
    @InfiniteNothing 5 месяцев назад +3

    wow this is probably something I’m doing 😮
    Thank you 🙏 ❤

  • @counterintuitivepanda4555
    @counterintuitivepanda4555 4 месяца назад +1

    I really do think... I agree when you say that mindfulness itself alone cannot end suffering. I seriously don't understand why that is taught.
    Instead, in my experience, emotional work helped me let go, and mindfulness helped my mind stop "snowballing" to create those awful thinking patterns and mental ruts again. However, I don't see how mindfulness itself can "transcend" the suffering as many say. Like even if it's "transcended", it's still always there ready to pounce. I really don't understand what this transcending means.
    I become quite conflicted because many spiritual teachers teach this so called transcending, which seems opposed to healing.
    Edit:
    I am expressing this because I am really conflicted by the contradictions of the teachings internally. It may be that I am projecting but...
    Mindfulness and meditation practices comes from Buddhism/Hinduism. I believe that people in societies centuries ago had far less to worry about, far less supression, far less distractions, and thus also far less layers of mental protection. Each person only had stress pertaining to that day's survival needs etc. There was very limited chronic worry, compared to what we see in society today (work, study, money, expectations). They also had far less distractions which would push down and suppress those turmoils created by stress. We have phones, movies, restaurants, even workaholism, a million avenues to subdue and escape from that inner pain. So, as trauma came about, far less resistance existed in order to suppress it compared to now. The mind would have more time and space to really go through the letting go process on it's own.
    So, it could be because of great great many layers we retain in our minds on top of trauma, including deliberate supression, I think we are in need much something far more than mindfulness to heal that. However, perhaps in ancient times, this was not really needed.
    It's possible this is the case. Anyway. Pointless to really go too much into it. These new forms of therapy are golden.

  • @hobsyllwin2562
    @hobsyllwin2562 5 месяцев назад +3

    Completely with you 😮

  • @rickylumo8666
    @rickylumo8666 5 месяцев назад

    Thanks!

  • @Jasper-or7ui
    @Jasper-or7ui 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for this 🙏🏼

  • @myinspiration1755
    @myinspiration1755 5 месяцев назад +1

    Anxious to the roof and looking the wrong way for solutions/ awnsers. So this made me cry and that means a lot, because even that was not possible (because of not allowing myself)
    So thank you for the explanation and information!❤

  • @1bigcircleofl0ve
    @1bigcircleofl0ve 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you 🙏 ❤

  • @sizzles48
    @sizzles48 5 месяцев назад

    So helpful to me that you mentioned coherence therapy. I just looked into it and it makes powerful sense. I will learn more. Thank you

  • @BA-ph2yq
    @BA-ph2yq 5 месяцев назад +1

    This is me but the source of my pessimism/anxiety is quite different. My mother and her entire family have a fetish for emotional suffering and whenever somebody feels good around them, they make sure that they take them down (and their strategies include extreme shit like becoming physically ill or having major mental breakdowns). So, my response to this from a young age was "if I am upset and unhappy, she will not get sick or mad." And I know many daughters suffer from this type of imposed anxiety too. Just remember that it is a learned response, and you can always unlearn it

  • @NollyPuig
    @NollyPuig 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for sharing this.

  • @sunnuntai4926
    @sunnuntai4926 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you.

  • @alexsky104
    @alexsky104 5 месяцев назад +2

    I have never been anxious and many bad things happend to me so.... the point is to be balanced and smart

  • @alexandrecouture2462
    @alexandrecouture2462 5 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing!

  • @InfiniteNothing
    @InfiniteNothing 5 месяцев назад +7

    The cow goes MU

    • @mathanmor
      @mathanmor 5 месяцев назад

      No cow. No MU... MU!!! ..

  • @patrick764
    @patrick764 5 месяцев назад

    Thanks man.

  • @colinandrews1118
    @colinandrews1118 5 месяцев назад +1

    The bigger universal picture !!!!!!!
    All life exists on our world 🌍 because universal elements allow us to the sun 🌞 energized world 🌎 giving us water oxygen and food each day !!!!!!!!
    Try and stroke a tree daily they are living beings same as us and can then flourish and broadcast positivity all around them for everyones benefit !!!!!!!!
    The universe being as a whole is giving us life at this time !!!!!!!
    Lots of universal love everyone Colin 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
    David love Colin speak soon

  • @backpackmatt
    @backpackmatt 5 месяцев назад

    For your Courage and Kindness, you shall be rewarded.🐧🍏🍎💙

  • @Bsowow
    @Bsowow 5 месяцев назад +1

    f... brilliant David!!! what a revelation, especially the hidden religious beliefs behind all of this stuff 🤔
    and you make it so clear and easy 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @TolgaOzisik
    @TolgaOzisik 5 месяцев назад +1

    Great!

  • @melaniesandsslater41
    @melaniesandsslater41 5 месяцев назад

    Agreed but-i have seen that people can process deep emotional blocks in innumerable ways including through spiritual austerities and ordinary or extraordinary service and experiences.

  • @Morale_Booster
    @Morale_Booster 5 месяцев назад +3

    Calling me out 😎

  • @manyandone
    @manyandone 5 месяцев назад +1

    Kindly, does anyone know the book about coherency that is referred to? A doctors name is the author? Tyvm❤❤

  • @TheDogzBody
    @TheDogzBody 5 месяцев назад

    Totally get this, because being blown open to the universe means a loss of focus on me. I’m suddenly not so important. But I think my anxiety is more somatic. It’s not belief-based in its origin. The birds at the feeders look anxious to me.
    I also think you weren’t as ready to use your first therapists or they weren’t a good fit. IFS or anything else isn’t better than any other modality per se.

    • @TheDogzBody
      @TheDogzBody 5 месяцев назад

      If you highly recommend IFS then I highly recommend ayahuasca ceremonies!!

    • @Davidmcdonald1
      @Davidmcdonald1  5 месяцев назад +1

      Things are very rarely purely somatic, there is a reason for the anxiety is happening. Even the somatic sensation had a reason and logic for being there, it’s not happening in a vacuum.
      And I have done psychedelics multiple times on heavy doses, it still does not compare with effective therapy. In my experience

    • @TheDogzBody
      @TheDogzBody 5 месяцев назад

      ⁠​⁠@@Davidmcdonald1Interesting discussion! My anxiety stems from very early experiences and most likely experiences in the womb. So there’s a large somatic element.
      Aya ceremonies that I access are better than effective therapy in my experience, but set and setting is vital. Ayahuasca ceremonies are very different to doing high doses of psychedelics, just as reading 30 books on IFS is different to having sessions with a skilled practitioner.
      Yeh, there’s a reason that anxiety is there, when it’s not simply the anxiety we feel when we think we need to take care of our bodies because we think we are separate selves. The reason is trauma. You are like me, perhaps, which is why I resonate with you: a cognitive understanding has been vital in our journeys. For me it freed me from being fed on by my narcissistic mother.
      At a certain level, though, effective therapy perpetuates a subtle layer of ego. I first heard this from Matt Garret and thought he had lost the plot, given that he also talked about following the love of Jesus, which some American non-dual pal of his was espousing and so on. I can’t say I want to rush to finding out what he is currently saying on RUclips, but this aspect of what he said now actually makes sense. Something to do with the nervous system, and the microbiome. I think the microbiome is affected by developmental trauma. And you can’t talk to bacteria. And they don’t care about reasons!
      I’m valuing yoga and breathwork at the moment as well as the plant medicine ceremonies (emphasis on ceremony, not on drug).
      But I do think effective therapy is highly valuable when it’s needed.

  • @sb5421
    @sb5421 5 месяцев назад +1

    Ahh yess, in the end we come to see that the spiritual and the psychological align, what William James tried to teach us 100 years ago.
    Crisis and conversion are essential to the psychological and the spiritual process. Yes, there are slow changes that slowly build up over time-but there are also moments of bursting forth-moments necessarily of SPONTANEITY.

    • @sb5421
      @sb5421 5 месяцев назад

      _‘Tis a NEW LIFE!-Thoughts move not as they did_
      _With_ *_slow, uncertain_* _steps across my mind,_
      _In_ *_thronging haste_* _fast pressing on they bid-_
      _The portals open to the viewless wind!_
      _That comes not save_ *_when in the dust is laid_*
      *_The crown of pride that gilds each mortal brow,_*
      _And from before man's vision melting fade_
      _The Heavens and Earth:_ *_Their walls are falling now!_*
      _Fast crowding on, each thought asks utterance strong;_
      _Storm-lifted waves swift rushing to the shore,_
      _On from the sea they send their shouts along,_
      _Back through the cave-worn rocks their thunders roar;_
      _And I a child of God by Christ made free-_
      *_Start from Death’s slumbers TO ETERNITY._*

  • @fposhaughnessy
    @fposhaughnessy 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks David that's great stuff and so hopefull. I'd say you're in the midlands are you? Laois maybe?

  • @forestofechoes
    @forestofechoes 5 месяцев назад +1

    i love you

  • @poloone1000
    @poloone1000 5 месяцев назад +2

    We must stand and not Move We must confront the evil before us and tell them Look into my eyes and see The Fires of Hell Command their demons to take their Host to Tartarus The old world will disappear The Fire from the Gods is within us We must Seperate complete Separation and Move within to the Fifth Dimension Everyone who connects to you does so on a telepathic level We are The Collective of Manefesting The Future

  • @Jacob011
    @Jacob011 5 месяцев назад +1

    That's all good... assuming you can do IFS with the therapist you picked. IFS isn't just automatic, I have a hard time doing it, most of the time parts don't talk to me.

  • @Awareverse
    @Awareverse 5 месяцев назад

    Would you say it takes a willingness to discover what we most do not want to feel and then be willing touch, open to, be with That as best one can. And, on a ‘practice’ level, be willing to discover this again and again….and be willing to feel ‘That’…

  • @Awareverse
    @Awareverse 5 месяцев назад

    Are you familiar with the suppression healing work of Scott Kiloby? Is this the same, similar or different? Thoughts on the Kiloby inquiries?

  • @ramizmortada
    @ramizmortada 3 месяца назад

    can you make an ifs guiding video?

  • @JakeandLarmi
    @JakeandLarmi 2 месяца назад

    What about shame and unworthiness? Do I do the same thing or something different with them?

  • @HiluT
    @HiluT 5 месяцев назад +1

  • @poloone1000
    @poloone1000 5 месяцев назад +1

    We must stand and not Move We must confront the evil before us and tell them Look into my eyes and see The Fires of Hell Command their demons to take their Host to Tartarus The old world will disappear The Fire from the Gods is within us We must Seperate complete Separation and Move within to the Fifth Dimension

  • @Toshiboyai
    @Toshiboyai 5 месяцев назад

    Is the parrot the monkey mind ?

  • @Gracechild-3
    @Gracechild-3 5 месяцев назад +1

    Hallelujah!!! I’m favored and blessed with $60,000 every week! Now I can afford anything and also support the work of God and the church.

    • @HarperThomas-Hp1
      @HarperThomas-Hp1 5 месяцев назад

      Oh really? Tell me more!

    • @Gracechild-3
      @Gracechild-3 5 месяцев назад

      This is what Ana Graciela Blackwelder does, she has changed my life.

    • @Gracechild-3
      @Gracechild-3 5 месяцев назад

      After raising up to 60k trading with her, I bought a new house and car here in the US and also paid for my son’s (Oscar) surgery. Glory to God.shalom.

    • @HarperThomas-Hp1
      @HarperThomas-Hp1 5 месяцев назад

      what’s her contact information?

    • @DylanKing-Dk
      @DylanKing-Dk 5 месяцев назад

      You work for 40 years to have 1 million dollars in your retirement. Meanwhile, some people are investing just $10,000 in a meme coin for a few months, sometimes less, and now they’re billionaires. I pray that anyone reading this will be successful in life.

  • @SlovakGreekCatholic.
    @SlovakGreekCatholic. 5 месяцев назад +2

    Jesus Christ is the only way. There is no other way besides Jesus. Get to know him and follow him. He died for your sins.

  • @amandaclark2340
    @amandaclark2340 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you 💛💫💚

  • @patrick764
    @patrick764 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks man.