Thanks @CourtneyRyan -- I showed some love, by making a purchase there. Your advice is excellent, and you provide great insight. And if the product is as good as you give here, I'll be a repeat customer. 😀
"Stay single, my friend." - Tho Most Interesting Man in the World If what you say is really a problem, then maybe the problem isn't with women. Look inward. I did, and it helped a lot, and not only in my dating life.
Important thing: 0:42 First Thing - Hostile; 1:34 Second Thing - Unattractive; 4:16 Third Thing - Unambitious; 6:05 Fourth Thing - Filthy; 9:08 Fifth Thing - Arrogant; 10:40 Sixth Thing - Clingy; 12:12 Seventh Thing - Abusive; and 13:48 to summarize all the told here. With all do respect there Courtney, what you have told that women find as a turnoff (let's call it that way), that can also apply to men as well (like it or not, that is the major truth). Some of these things can be also applied to other life situations, such as friendships, talking with family, etc. Among the mentioned things, I might add few other things as well. And those are: Eight Thing - Lazy (or Laziness), call it whatever you want; Ninth Thing - Showing No interests At All In Any Life Things; and Tenth Thing - Lying (I know that someone won't like this, and some of you will write hating, and insulting comments, but I don't care. And do you know why? Because you are people helping me get more likes, views, recommendations, etc.) From all the told here, one major things has been formed. And that is very poor communication. Very poor communications is all of the mentioned deal breakers (like it or not). Everybody has rights to live how they want, as long, as they don't violate someone else. We all have to work on our communications, empathy, but still to have dignity in all life situations.
I gave you a vote since I saved myself from watching this video. Anymore I see her videos more as a promo for some product first and providing information second.
Being fanatical about cleanliness can be a dealbreaker too. I've known folks on the opposite end of filthy who can't tolerate a small piece of lint on the carpet.
I think he was just pulling your leg with that question 😂. 24/7 cleaning is annoying, if you can’t relax a bit in some chaos, then you’ll have a hard time navigating through life.
Kinda crazy how generally now, relationships are weighed a lot more on dealbreakers than dealmakers. People really focus on the negatives and don’t want to put in the work to understand the person in front of them or give them a chance. Why not? There’s 10 more people I can meet online, I’ll just keep trying until I find everything I want.
That's exactly it. Why put in the work to help support your current partner to become a better person when you can hop an online dating website & find someone else "better" in a flash? Online dating has really thrown a wrench into things for people.
It's usually easier to change partners than to change your partner. Most people have distinctive personalities that strongly resist change. The same goes for jobs. If you don't like your job, it's probably easier to find another job than to convince your employer to rearrange everything in your current job to your liking.
Well, for my money, ignoring or tolerating them on the way to marriage is a road ending in divorce. A fatal ending for most men. Personally, I ALWAYS looking for the deal makers. But a lethal red flag marks a person with dangerous problem. Thinking you can help them change is a fools errand because I won't hear you. If they did part of their sense of self, it would be damaged.
You just reaffirmed me that I will never change my ways when it comes to dating… I don’t want a girl who is attracted to the bad guys which was most of them when I was growing up… My dad taught me to be respectful, clean (in body and mind) and not to be clingy with them either. I have to agree with everything you said 100%… I am the best me that I can be and I can’t stand any girl who tries to change me or has any of the traits you mentioned here because this works both ways… Thank You 😉
The unambition is too subjective for me. My best friends ambition is to raise a family and have 2 children yet women seem to think that’s unambitious and reject him for it. Lol
I think it’s important to remember if women want a family, they need someone who can help them financially support the family. No one person should have that weight on their shoulders. It’s not realistic to say, “I want a family and I’ll give you one” but make less than minimum wage.
@@robertmaxa6631 I promise You that it does not. If you are swimming in debt and are bad with money then that’s a problem in itself. But literally saying, “I can have a family while making $30k a year” is not realistic. Saying you don’t want to change your life situation and want to live in the basement at your parent’s while doing nothing to improve your living situation and job is showing a lack of ambition.
My ex abused me emotionally, manipulated me and was always quick threaten to end a relationship so to my fellow men’s out there. If she’s too good to be true and her words and actions never match don’t try to convince her to be with you run as far as possible and love yourself more than i did to walk away from this. These dating tips are all good and well but have solid boundaries and don’t date to be chosen date to choose who you like and want to be with. Have a great day and hopefully somebody can avoid these women’s who can destroy your life and make you look like the villain
@staytrue8354 I've had the same experiences my brother. Trust is a very rare and powerful tool and it plays a major role in the outcomes of your life when you elect to give your trust it's like sacrificing your intuition because you believe someone is being honest and upfront. I've learned this about certain people in life, it's like they know how to capitalize off of your belief in them and then they take advantage
Can't feel invisible, when you are comfortable seeing your self. Learn to detach. Become outcome independent; Be present. Enjoy a person (especially women) when you are with them. Seek help; Therapy. Seek solutions and growth; Don't indulge in excuses.
At least dating in any form is more productive and real than subscribing to the only fans thing , ive been watching Courtneys videos for over a year and ive picked up lots of useful tips from grooming to how women think which have educated me and ive implemented all of them , never stop learning
1. Being Hostile 2. Unattractive (physical appearance, negative attitude) 3. Unambitious / lack of motivation 4. Filthy (both in the overly sexual way, and poor hygiene / cleanliness) 5. Arrogant 6. Clingy (constant need for attention, validation) 7. Abusive (physical or emotional)
the best way to get women is stop caring about what they thing. If you waste time trying to impress her you'll lose yourself along the way. Either a woman like you for you or she doesnt.
I keep watching your videos because I think your effort to help people improve their character is genuine and often times enthusiastic. It makes me remember, however there was a time when it seemed easier to just let a person grow to ' flower ' their natural character and abilities. Of course some guidance was always given, but just as a guideline. Today there are so many distractions with social pressure, technology and all the anxiety that comes with trying to fit in somewhere. I think the best advice is always to be yourself. With some guidance of course. But I suppose it is not as easy as you would think. Anyway, thank you for your efforts.
Great video and discussion, Courtney. Fellow viewers, here are the 7 deadly sins (dealbreakers): 1) Hostile (Do not make someone feel unsafe; be calm, cool, and collect) 2) Unattractive (Attraction is going to vary from person to person; focus on the things you have control over like hygiene, skin care, grooming, and more) 3) Unambious (A lack of ambition, goals do not align, a feeling that a relationship will not work out long term) 4) Filthy (Poor hygiene-you want to look clean and keep your living space maintained. Also, you do not keep your sex drive in check or you are coming off as perverted) 5) Arrogant (Focus on being confident, and be personable to others) 6) Clingy (You need to be able to handle independence; it's okay to give attention and show attachment, but don't go overboard) 7) Abusive (This is not cool in any format: do not cause physical, verbal, and/or mental harm to someone. If you joke about this, then you have some major work to do as a person. And as Courtney said, reach out to help if you are in this situation because you do have the strength and right to do so)
Be careful what you're asking for was regarding to aggression. Aggression is critical to survival in a different ways you want the man to be able to become extremely violent when protecting what's his Paradigm man should be capable of extreme danger but maintain control until it is needed. It should never be directed toward his romantic partner but to anyone else that is a threat to his environment. If you don't have that you don't have soldiers and you do not have a free Society because you will have people who will just be sheep. Be very very careful what you say in that area. One of the best people who puts that out is a former Army Ranger and currently a Virginia state representative Nick Freitas, one of my personal favorites.
I cant help but notice the hand gestures you make. Much like Brett Cooper, expressive and not overdone hand gestures are so engaging when the only thing on video is a person talking. Appreciate it 😄
It’s never late for us to improve and be the best version of ourselves. Put in effort and take the time to make yourself better physically and mentally. I’m 21 and I’m going to start going to the gym. I have so much time left, I’ll be okay.
let me add this for you, as you were at the age, where this could make a big difference. I like you, having been athletic, and also feeling that looks or what matters, spent an inordinate amount of time in the gym. Spend as much time on the outside is the inside. Figure out who you really are on the inside, explore introspection. That is important, if not more important, then going to the gym and having the luxe. good luxe and muscle or just the cover page to the rest of the book, you’ve got to write the rest of that book out to be a masterpiece, it’s all up to you and it can’t be based on the person that you want to get with it’s got to be something that you do for yourself.
in my opinion, which is absolutely free, so worth that much, that smacks of finite and goal oriented thinking. In my view, the journey is a never ending one, perhaps the reason we are even here. I don’t think that you can ever get to a point where you can finally say, I have achieved complete self understanding, because every day in every way, you are a different person.
The "clinginess" one is a bit tricky because some girls seem to expect daily texts while to others it can appear clingy. I personally do not need to text daily (and am totally ambivalent about it), but got into the habit of it because of girls I've been with expecting it. Only recently did I realize that by defaulting to that, I can give the appearance of being clingy to some girls while I'm honestly just trying to do what's expected to show I'm still interested.
The thing is, anything and just about everything appears as "clingy" behavior to girls. If you show any interest or desire to her, that's clingy. If you call her the next day after getting a number, that's clingy. If you want to touch her ass for more than 10 seconds, it's also perceived as clingy. I'm not even joking about that. They are like little children and have no idea what clinginess is, they are just all out for themselves and to get your money, they don't like Men for who they are.
I'll say this works the same for women, too. We feel that way, as well. Not all women want to talk every day and not all women need a lot of space. I think this is a gender segregated topic, rather it varies from person to person. You have to find someone who naturally works well with the communication level and style you need, or make small adjustments on both ends to meet in the middle.
In my experience women who use that as an excuse simply didnt like you and just wanted someone to use for attention whenever she was bored. Most women do nothing with themselves outside of work. So generally if shes talking to other men she will be annoyed by you texting her everyday. If she believes you are her best option she wouldnt wait long periods of time to reach back. It becomes "Clingy" because she now thinks other women dont want to talk to you because you have so much time for her. And if shes willing to do that it means shes seeing other people.
@@jonnnybravo4092 "It becomes "Clingy" because she now thinks other women dont want to talk to you because you have so much time for her." Only toxic ones concoct such ridiculous thinking. This type of idea comes from inductive and deductive thinking, which means the girl has no emotional capacity and bases her attraction on the perceptions of other Women towards a given Man. So that means there is nothing true about her attraction whatsoever.
Everybody wants to feel needed and appreciated. A simple “Good Morning Sunshine ☀️” with no anticipated convo is one thing but to get upset over no hit back shows insecurity/possible hostility. I have stuff to do and she does too. A few words can mean a great deal. Use them wisely.
In a past life I worked emergency dispatch (so 911 calls, non-emergency, police, sheriff, fire, EMS, and domestic violence background checks, etc.). One of the many things I learned there was -- besides couples fighting literally all day, every day even in a small town, was that abuse has very little to do with one's sex/gender. In other words, women were just as likely to be physically combative towards their partners, but because of societal predispositions, it can often put men in a difficult place re: defending yourself when your girlfriend/wife hits you or throws things or uses something as a weapon. An abusive woman (and I'm only focusing on women here but for the record it's everybody) will use the system to her advantage and abusers will lie and cheat and manipulate (even police and judges) such that they'll want YOU to get arrested for hitting her when that might have been 100% not true. Single men out there: Please, please, please choose who you date, fall in love with, and marry wisely. Do not choose someone abusive. Do not choose someone mentally or emotionally unstable. And the ability to really know somebody's character takes lots of growing up, because I've definitely been duped many times. Bad people won't go "Oh haha btw I'm a cheater and liar and super abusive. Just FYI. So coffee date at 7 PM?"
How about an episode where you go over what you struggled with when you started dating? What you had to work on to up your game. That would be interesting.
Can we make this like the series where you ask various women for their opinions on their "7 things" for anything?? I'm curious what they'd say, both the obvious ones like you pointed out and the obscure ones.
I agree with you about "filthy". I had a gay male friend (I'm a female. The friendship was strictly platonic.) who was a hoarder. When he was renting a room, his space was always "messy". Eventually he bought a house and the whole house got taken over with his hoarding. It was sad to watch. I offered help many times, but he declined and ultimately I had to let him go. His hoarding was indicative of other problems and I realized he was someone who was never going to be there for me when push came to shove. Unfortunately, as most people age, their habit patterns become more ingrained.
Dealbreaker number 7 should be brought to attention because it's a serious one. Abusing anyone is NEVER okay. If you are being abused, please remember that it's not your fault. You have the strength and right to tell someone that you trust, and there are services that you can contact because you are better off getting help. Stay safe and keep others safe! If you're going to bash this comment, then I will respectfully say to go look at yourself in the mirror and say this sentence "It is not cool."
Devil's advocate? Maybe. While I agree, I have known too many who would read this and just expand the definition of abuse, even so far to fit anything not going their way.
Not helpful advice imo. Yes, it’s not a targets fault in that they aren’t the one abusing But if the target is not a child, it’s a choice they are making to continue being abused And it was a choice the whole way to give the abuser the green light Realizing this truth is the first step to going No Contact So telling ppl it’s not their fault might sound good, but it’s not helping anyone
@@Bombadil-ez9ns I am glad you brought this to attention because I have heard about instances when someone claims verbal/mental abuse after being rejected with a "no." If constant rejection is affecting one's mental health, then that person should seek a therapist or someone who is willing to listen to them.
Yes but there are standards you would apply just to dating and not friendships right? I mean there is a reason you would not date some of your friends in spite of the fact that they are good friends?
i love how so many guys don’t have a skincare routine. im 26 and have had one since i was 21. But been washing my face since i was 16 (as in once in the morning and once at night with a face cleanser.
I often wonder how social media has changed the perception one had and now has of what is attractive. In any case, attraction is important and, like beauty, is held within the eye of the beholder. Cheers to all!
i like when she share about how mind and heart are important ! because we can be better on this. Physicaly too but your face are your face you can't changed that without surgery
You know what creates hostility in men? Women showing multiple signs of interest then when the guy approaches or pursued you ghost or reject him. I just don’t understand if woman aren’t interested why can’t you just leave the guy be.
some women just want attention and some even look forward to reject if you fall for this "trap"... those are immature, childish and insecure women... normal woman wouldn't do that
Excellent presentation Courtney. You were well prepared and delivered, and it showed...professional grade. I don't see myself as failing at any of those but could do better on a couple. It's easy to get discouraged in this era of general angst in society, culture and politics. So conscious intent to push yourself in certain category's remains key. Hurricane Hillary has changed August into November here, gloomy. Good day to field day the apartment.
These are all pretty fair bullet points. Some of those traits are more habitually ingrained then others. But I think "Ambition" and "Clingy" are two things that sometimes only improve due to the influence of having a decent lady in a guys life. A guy wants to do better when he has a woman who loves and respects him unconditionally. IMO Clingy comes from being conditioned by a toxic g/f. A narcissist to be more specific. A high value woman brings both trust and validity of affection. A guy will not be clingy if these two traits are reciprocated.
I def agree with them especially the last one. I went through some crazy and it definitely had its effects on me afterwards, and also my older brother, his wife was beating him and what not, he however did confide in someone and had pictures, videos etc and was trying to get custody of his child, then he ended up dead in his apartment on his bday. It will be a year since this happened this coming September 26. We had raised concerns about it and her possible involvement but because of my brother’s history with drugs and they ruled his death a death from fentanyl, well let’s just say Bergen county in nj saw him more as a statistic than a person. If anything like that is happen to someone on here please don’t keep it in. I wish my brother would have come to me about it but to come forward I can see how hard it is. Look out for yourselves in that light.
I feel like David Gilmour, said it best- "And when you loose control, you'll reap the harvest you have sown And as the fear grows, the bad blood slows and turns to stone. Pigs- Pink Floyd that line holds true for life and being in relationships. That's why it's important to reflect and grow from your mistakes that's the true power of being a man.
I feel like some of these are things that some women like more than hate. One example is the arrogance one since some women mistake that for confidence and the emotional one because some women mistake that for passion. Many men use "passionate" as a euphemism for "volatile".
I used to know two different women who were friends of mine who used to deliberately push their boyfriends or husbands buttons to get him mad enough they where he started abusing her. I asked both of them why they did it and their answer was because I wanted to see if I could. So I told them they brought it on themselves and how did that work out for them after they got injured. This is why a lot of men say women are crazy.
To follow up on the first and second comments, this means that you dodged an unhealthy bullet. If you know that you are actively putting in the work to being the best version of yourself in regards to dating/relationships and you're getting rejected by women, then that is those women's loss because they don't really know what they want. A good woman will recognize your value, and will show genuine interest in pursuing something meaningful!
At 65 the average man retires with $278,997.00 Where as the average woman retires with $87,725.00. Investing in your retirement has to be priority # 1 for women. Unfortunetly being a woman is expensive. Women today are impressive, they are more college educated, more employed are buying houses. The only thing left for them to conquer is contributing to their retirement plan. I'm contributing 50% of my salary to my retirement a month. I'm not married and no kids so I can do it, my property is paid off so no mortgage. The best way to save is get rid of all debt and then contribute to your investments. The longer those investments have to grow the bigger they will become over time. Just like a tree the more time it has to grow the bigger it will be in retirement. Be disciplined and strict in your savings. Since 45% of women will remain single they need to take this seriously.
I don't think that it can be emphasized enough how serious abuse can be. After recently dealing with abusive family members, I went through such a serious mental health crisis that I ended up calling a suicide crisis hotline, which is something I never dreamed I would ever have to do. Never hold it in, stand up for yourself, and establish boundaries. It can be a matter of life or death. Seriously.
i am 45 and found the perfect wife, we got married june 10th of this year. sex is amazing, but more importantly we laid out everything before the marriage. we are both 100% open and honest with each other. neither of us have our phones locked, i can grab her phone, she can grab my phone. i love your advice, and so does my wife. i think i finally found my unicorn. we are both confident in our lives and if something irritates one or the other we say it. the biggest failure of marriages is resentment. always communicate! if you dont like the lasagna she makes then tell her, dont let it fester. but dont get mad if she has a problem with you, communication is the most important thing in a relationship. be open and be transparent, i hope i die before she does, thats how much i love her. if she dies before me i wouldnt know how to live.
abuse and violence are turn offs for them? i was never abusive or violent towards any girl but ive heard so many stories of guys beating their wives and girlfriends, cheating, lying, and they still had women, not me.
One dealbreaker is if a man is too short. A woman won't give you second look if you are under 5' 8". It's not something they necessarily do on purpose, per se, it's just a natural, involuntary repulsion.
Idk why theres so much push back in the comments. She's not talking about red flags in women, we watch enough videos about that. Some of y'all could benefit from a vacation abroad lol
In this episode speaking about attractiveness, when I put this in the context of a long term relationship leading to a marriage, I would prefer to date an average looking woman with charming personality, instead of, a pretty woman with bad personality. All other points mentioned are also important but I found the list a little extensive. If the list was 5 points at a time much better for me in order to be able to keep track. When i reached the 7th point, i forgot the first point what was about. Cheers though!
Very true. I went out with a girl who smelled really bad and had horrible breath. She was nice and pretty, not sure if she had low self-esteem but I was very turned off by that. I never called her again for a second date.
You do have a great convincing way of putting across your point, Courtney Ryan even though in this video I must say that I don't agree with the content in totality since in my personal opinion REAL / TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL OR ANY SHORTCOMINGS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP ..... That's how it goes .... I mean one person is so devoted in a relationship that he / she might tend to ignore most of these so called ' Deal breakers ' in a person and still have a fulfilled life because towards the end of the day it's ultimately the adjustments and / or compromises which the individual person in a relationship decides to make quite early that matters ..... Content was worth watching though, Courtney Ryan ....
Someone who is capable of violence is more useful than someone who is not. The same thing that makes it possible for a man to be violent is the exact same thing that will cause a man to run into a burning build to save someone without regard for his own safety. It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. I am not a violent or aggressive person, nor am I a weak cowardly snowflake.
Most people (those on auto-pilot) find attractive those persons who push their past trauma's buttons, who will drag them into the same traumas. Because that is what they are used to. What some people are attracted to is often superficial, based on the medium, (lack of) education, beliefs, and stories playing in their minds. Studying relational psychology is a must in order to get out of the chaos grown in one individual. Society let everybody in his own, not teaching in school any of the simple rules of hygiene, fair play, truthfulness in relationships, or about self-improvement. That is why homo sapiens societies are a messed up jungle.
Since when is being physically attracted to someone deemed "superficial?" Why are we acting like people don't judge others based on how they look? Unless you are entirely blind, you can't say physical appearance doesn't matter.
Nice list - I'd like to suggest "lazy" belongs on it being unattractive, unambitious, and filthy can each be mitigated if you're willing to put in the work
Weee- ha, I ain't 6-0+ . I am not bringing 100K / year to the 'deal', I am old (54), I do not do SJW idioms (pronouns) Bullshiate, I am not Jason Mamoa, Unfortunately - I am a "NICE GUY" (and we all know how women HATE those), I don't own a house (in America), I do not drive a fancy car (I have a 40 year old Soviet Truck) - I cook, clean, maintain a house - I expect you to do the same I do not want kids EVER, I will never Get Married - The door is over there. Haz nice life.
I've told my sociopathic ergomaniac mother too change the music of my Facebook vid on hers and what to call it she's too Premier selfish, won't be till the weekend at best.
ambitions often require a certain level of aggression and arrogance. Men just need to have the discipline to control that beast within them. Be An ambitious dangerous man with discipline.
the physical beauty of women that I desired fades quickly as time goes on. so I don't have any real reason to hold on to something that is growing older every new day.
Most of these are pretty fair, but some like being unambitious or arrogant may be seen differently depending on the person. Someone who is working towards smaller goals may be seen as unambitious compared to those who reach for the sky at every opportunity. As for arrogance, certain neurodivergent people such as those on the autism spectrum may be seen as acting arrogant even though they are not trying to be. I will say that many of these dealbreakers apply to women as well. I don't consider girls who are unattractive and make no attempt to improve themselves, are rude, smelly, vulgar, and think they're better than everyone else. I've had the misfortune of knowing some women who were all or most of these things at once.
I was a die setter for 6 months. You get dirty and oily. I had oil, dirt, grease, and all types of sprays on me. I went home and made it looked like I never worked that job.
For me one of the hugest turn offs from a woman are: Stupid games, using the complement you gave her against you, her feeling entitled to your wallet even after the fourth text message, when she refuses to do video chat, her lying to me.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. And I don't get or understand why a guy or a human male or just a person in general has no right to feel depressed or feel bitter and forever resentful if they manage to get their first relationship late-in-life. For example, if a person doesn't have their first relationship until their 30s or 40s and older. People say that a person like that should still be happy, but I feel a person like that has to have a right to feel forever depressed and bitter and resentful because they feel that their youth went to waste or their youth was stolen from them. I feel men have a right to be angry about something like that more than women do because for all-time men have always been dealt with the burden of having to accept or take responsibility for their lives while women can simply rely on others to do it for them. For all-time relationships and dates are basically handed or given to women on a silver platter but not for men
The only thing you have to keep in mind with all of this is that most relationships are fake and a lot of Women are actresses in relationships. And no offense, but there is a high chance even your current gf is also an actress. The thing is, most of the early formed relationships are not based on love but are based on the mechanisms in girls to seek out a provider. Exceptions to this are so rare, that they don't even number in the tens of thousands worldwide. They are far less than that. >Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.< Yes but this is only because Religions, Governments, Capitalism and Feminism had permitted this arrangement and Men went along with it. The sooner Men refuse to go along with it, the sooner it becomes irrelevant and no longer will exist that way. Because Women don't produce anything for society besides babies.
@@prussiansocietyofamerica the bottom part of the post I agree with it and many people do because come on women don't really have to do any work in order to attract a man or to get a man because they have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention, they don't have to bring value to the interaction or be the one to make an interaction interesting, everything in regards to sparking or igniting attraction is on the man shoulders
My good behavior was hindering her relationships with other men, I guess. That's why I stepped out. Not just from her but overall idea of being with someone.
Yes I agree with all 7 of them I did go out on a date with a women very nice person . But unfortunately her house was a disaster . And I have OCD not over the top but I do like everything in its place . That was a deal breaker for me just don't think I could live like she does I know I can't cleanliness is a big thing for me .
I'm afraid of women now. I have been hurt so badly I'm willing to remain permanently single and celibate forever! I am living by myself and trying to heal, but to do that (for now, anyway) I must be alone or with my men's support group.
@Hamilton Rowan Sad to hear that man! At the same time, try and rephrase "I'm affraid of women" and instead say "I'm affraid of how being around women will make me feel." "Cause it felt like hell once." Going about it this way will enable you to take back control and inspire you to go and look for the right tools to dust yourself off and pick yourself up again. Until you one day be ready again to enter the 'love battlefield' in a much more empowered way. Hope this has helped you somewhat! Cheers and good luck!✌
Regarding guys being filthy, a woman once told me of an experience where she met a guy and they went back to his place to hook up but when he took off his pants, she was like the odor and the lack of grooming was so horrid she had to go to the bathroom and throw up and then made an excuse to get out of there. ..... a lot of guys are clueless how bad their hygene is.
@@deadringer333 the difference is many dudes are nasty and will have sex with anything no matter how dirty looking and smelly it is. You might not, but a large enough segment of the male population will.
@@Wonderwoman79G what wonder woman said. I would add in a guy could probably tell by her body type. If she's in shape good looking etc, she likely keeps her lady parts clean. Obese chics maybe not. And ultimately you can smell if a girl isn't hygienic.
@@genshinsage I don't protect any fefail that isn't my mom or my daughter unless I choose too. I've watched a gal get the shit kicked out of her and just laughed and kept walking. Didn't give a shit
This seems like a list of extremes, if anyone you associate with, romantic or not, displays any of these traits then you’re probably hanging with the wrong crowd or your sense of judgment needs an overhaul. It should never reach the point where you are confronted by these types of clichéd red flags. Perhaps easier said than done, but developing a set of values over time with experience will eradicate the possibility of these becoming an issue. I think both sexes in their emotional eagerness to be liked or loved, or to be thought of favourably, are liable to let things through without a second thought, and live to regret it. Have a set of values and adhere to them.
I was dealt the hand of being short, but what i lack in height, i make up for everything else. Ive had women believe I'm as young as mid-late 20s. Also working out and getting a personal trainer helps! Ambition doesn't always mean aspirations to a new job/career. But personal growth! Filthiness...WASH YOUR FREAKING BUTT AND WATCH YA MOUTH😂
Excellent comment! You hit the nail on the head for sure. I'm a little shorter than my ex-wife (the divorce wasn't about height! 😀) and I'm a little shorter than a few of the women I've met. Guys will "be taller" if they're actual men, not dudes.
another great Courtney vid! Then again, they’re all pretty great. That said; seems like this list would go without saying, I mean, no-brainer’s really, and in most, if not all cases would be’s things that a person would strive to be regardless of whether or not they had relationship concerns. I can definitely speak to anxious attachment is that is the monkey that’s on my back, not good, not good at all for anybody, get help is all I can say. As far as being openly sexual… I’m not sure I mean I’m not speaking about being graphic and just downright gross, but I have to say that a woman who is in touch with herself, and is tastefully openly sexual, I find refreshing. Again, I don’t mean in a gross, locker room,… Anyway. Some of the things I thought of as far as my personal list: closed, mindedness, materialistic, racist, and or bigot, superficiality. I think those are the biggest for me.
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Why give 2 fux what anyone says about anyone when ur only hearing 1 side of the story anyways 😎
The messed up part about it is. She ended up with what I used to be... Yeah...
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yuour links to the studies dont work.
The fact that most women will destroy 50% of your reality when you make a mistake is a deal breaker for me.
Word
Amen
I remember I messed up once and she brought it up multiple times
"Stay single, my friend." - Tho Most Interesting Man in the World
If what you say is really a problem, then maybe the problem isn't with women. Look inward. I did, and it helped a lot, and not only in my dating life.
@@davidabarak nah I'm gonna stay single because she destroyed any confidence I had built up
Important thing: 0:42 First Thing - Hostile; 1:34 Second Thing - Unattractive; 4:16 Third Thing - Unambitious; 6:05 Fourth Thing - Filthy; 9:08 Fifth Thing - Arrogant; 10:40 Sixth Thing - Clingy; 12:12 Seventh Thing - Abusive; and 13:48 to summarize all the told here.
With all do respect there Courtney, what you have told that women find as a turnoff (let's call it that way), that can also apply to men as well (like it or not, that is the major truth).
Some of these things can be also applied to other life situations, such as friendships, talking with family, etc.
Among the mentioned things, I might add few other things as well. And those are:
Eight Thing - Lazy (or Laziness), call it whatever you want; Ninth Thing - Showing No interests At All In Any Life Things; and Tenth Thing - Lying (I know that someone won't like this, and some of you will write hating, and insulting comments, but I don't care. And do you know why? Because you are people helping me get more likes, views, recommendations, etc.)
From all the told here, one major things has been formed. And that is very poor communication. Very poor communications is all of the mentioned deal breakers (like it or not).
Everybody has rights to live how they want, as long, as they don't violate someone else.
We all have to work on our communications, empathy, but still to have dignity in all life situations.
Good comment from you as usual, keep it up brother 🙏
1 through 7, where have I heard those a million times? Oh right, here.
I gave you a vote since I saved myself from watching this video. Anymore I see her videos more as a promo for some product first and providing information second.
@@Ssm19494 Thanks a lot pal.
@@tigerjackson8328 Thanks a lot.
Being fanatical about cleanliness can be a dealbreaker too. I've known folks on the opposite end of filthy who can't tolerate a small piece of lint on the carpet.
But why are you not removing that lint? Lazy or just distgusting? :D
I didn't say I wouldn't remove it. It just does not need to be treated like an emergency that needs to be done right away.
I think he was just pulling your leg with that question 😂.
24/7 cleaning is annoying, if you can’t relax a bit in some chaos, then you’ll have a hard time navigating through life.
Or if she's a nut like me we will both have a clean house...... I like my stuff clean.
@@andersnielsen6044 it's so "UNATTRACTIVE" of him to not pick up that lint. That's the 2nd dealbreaker!
👏 absolutely no tolerance for true abuse “but many today categorize “ every boundary that they don’t like as abuse saying NO isn’t abuse.
Kinda crazy how generally now, relationships are weighed a lot more on dealbreakers than dealmakers. People really focus on the negatives and don’t want to put in the work to understand the person in front of them or give them a chance. Why not? There’s 10 more people I can meet online, I’ll just keep trying until I find everything I want.
That's exactly it. Why put in the work to help support your current partner to become a better person when you can hop an online dating website & find someone else "better" in a flash? Online dating has really thrown a wrench into things for people.
That is correct.
It's usually easier to change partners than to change your partner. Most people have distinctive personalities that strongly resist change. The same goes for jobs. If you don't like your job, it's probably easier to find another job than to convince your employer to rearrange everything in your current job to your liking.
Facts
Well, for my money, ignoring or tolerating them on the way to marriage is a road ending in divorce. A fatal ending for most men.
Personally, I ALWAYS looking for the deal makers. But a lethal red flag marks a person with dangerous problem. Thinking you can help them change is a fools errand because I won't hear you. If they did part of their sense of self, it would be damaged.
You just reaffirmed me that I will never change my ways when it comes to dating… I don’t want a girl who is attracted to the bad guys which was most of them when I was growing up… My dad taught me to be respectful, clean (in body and mind) and not to be clingy with them either.
I have to agree with everything you said 100%… I am the best me that I can be and I can’t stand any girl who tries to change me or has any of the traits you mentioned here because this works both ways… Thank You 😉
The unambition is too subjective for me. My best friends ambition is to raise a family and have 2 children yet women seem to think that’s unambitious and reject him for it. Lol
I think it’s important to remember if women want a family, they need someone who can help them financially support the family. No one person should have that weight on their shoulders. It’s not realistic to say, “I want a family and I’ll give you one” but make less than minimum wage.
Her value system has to match with yours 100%, many women do value that. Just not the women he's trying to date.
Right, „ambition“ is code for he makes 200k a year
Women don’t mean ambition when they use the word
"Unambition", basically equates to not making enough money.
@@robertmaxa6631 I promise You that it does not. If you are swimming in debt and are bad with money then that’s a problem in itself. But literally saying, “I can have a family while making $30k a year” is not realistic. Saying you don’t want to change your life situation and want to live in the basement at your parent’s while doing nothing to improve your living situation and job is showing a lack of ambition.
My ex abused me emotionally, manipulated me and was always quick threaten to end a relationship so to my fellow men’s out there. If she’s too good to be true and her words and actions never match don’t try to convince her to be with you run as far as possible and love yourself more than i did to walk away from this. These dating tips are all good and well but have solid boundaries and don’t date to be chosen date to choose who you like and want to be with. Have a great day and hopefully somebody can avoid these women’s who can destroy your life and make you look like the villain
@staytrue8354 I've had the same experiences my brother. Trust is a very rare and powerful tool and it plays a major role in the outcomes of your life when you elect to give your trust it's like sacrificing your intuition because you believe someone is being honest and upfront. I've learned this about certain people in life, it's like they know how to capitalize off of your belief in them and then they take advantage
Ngl being clingy is one of the main reasons why I'm still single. I just hate feeling invisible most of the time.
Can't feel invisible, when you are comfortable seeing your self.
Learn to detach. Become outcome independent; Be present. Enjoy a person (especially women) when you are with them. Seek help; Therapy. Seek solutions and growth; Don't indulge in excuses.
@@lolife1981 oh, don't worry, I have been going to therapy. Online therapy, actually. Thank you Talkspace. 😌
A narcissistic relationship will make you clingy because of the hot and cold behavior. When it’s a healthy relationship, you won’t feel clingy.
@@lolife1981Thanks for the tips man
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At least dating in any form is more productive and real than subscribing to the only fans thing , ive been watching Courtneys videos for over a year and ive picked up lots of useful tips from grooming to how women think which have educated me and ive implemented all of them , never stop learning
@kevinbradshaw6127, That is a great attitude to have. Keep learning, keep growing and I hope that you find what you’re looking for!
1. Being Hostile
2. Unattractive (physical appearance, negative attitude)
3. Unambitious / lack of motivation
4. Filthy (both in the overly sexual way, and poor hygiene / cleanliness)
5. Arrogant
6. Clingy (constant need for attention, validation)
7. Abusive (physical or emotional)
Right. As if women are always so ambitious! 🤣
the best way to get women is stop caring about what they thing. If you waste time trying to impress her you'll lose yourself along the way. Either a woman like you for you or she doesnt.
@@craigclermond8001 EXACTLY.
Majority of men are not any of these
I keep watching your videos because I think your effort to help people improve their character is genuine and often times enthusiastic. It makes me remember, however there was a time when it seemed easier to just let a person grow to ' flower ' their natural character and abilities. Of course some guidance was always given, but just as a guideline. Today there are so many distractions with social pressure, technology and all the anxiety that comes with trying to fit in somewhere. I think the best advice is always to be yourself. With some guidance of course. But I suppose it is not as easy as you would think. Anyway, thank you for your efforts.
Great video and discussion, Courtney. Fellow viewers, here are the 7 deadly sins (dealbreakers):
1) Hostile (Do not make someone feel unsafe; be calm, cool, and collect)
2) Unattractive (Attraction is going to vary from person to person; focus on the things you have control over like hygiene, skin care, grooming, and more)
3) Unambious (A lack of ambition, goals do not align, a feeling that a relationship will not work out long term)
4) Filthy (Poor hygiene-you want to look clean and keep your living space maintained. Also, you do not keep your sex drive in check or you are coming off as perverted)
5) Arrogant (Focus on being confident, and be personable to others)
6) Clingy (You need to be able to handle independence; it's okay to give attention and show attachment, but don't go overboard)
7) Abusive (This is not cool in any format: do not cause physical, verbal, and/or mental harm to someone. If you joke about this, then you have some major work to do as a person. And as Courtney said, reach out to help if you are in this situation because you do have the strength and right to do so)
Hello Courtney, this is Nathan and you do a great and amazing job on your videos. Keep up the good work
Be careful what you're asking for was regarding to aggression. Aggression is critical to survival in a different ways you want the man to be able to become extremely violent when protecting what's his Paradigm man should be capable of extreme danger but maintain control until it is needed. It should never be directed toward his romantic partner but to anyone else that is a threat to his environment. If you don't have that you don't have soldiers and you do not have a free Society because you will have people who will just be sheep. Be very very careful what you say in that area. One of the best people who puts that out is a former Army Ranger and currently a Virginia state representative Nick Freitas, one of my personal favorites.
I cant help but notice the hand gestures you make. Much like Brett Cooper, expressive and not overdone hand gestures are so engaging when the only thing on video is a person talking. Appreciate it 😄
Great tips for the younger crowd ❤
It’s never late for us to improve and be the best version of ourselves. Put in effort and take the time to make yourself better physically and mentally. I’m 21 and I’m going to start going to the gym. I have so much time left, I’ll be okay.
This guy gets it. No need to waste time making execuses. Take action. Growth and Development.
I'm glad you're going to the gym. I'm 63 and I put it off until about a month ago - I'm paying the price now in a lot of ways. KEEP GOING, TSIERRA.
let me add this for you, as you were at the age, where this could make a big difference. I like you, having been athletic, and also feeling that looks or what matters, spent an inordinate amount of time in the gym. Spend as much time on the outside is the inside. Figure out who you really are on the inside, explore introspection. That is important, if not more important, then going to the gym and having the luxe. good luxe and muscle or just the cover page to the rest of the book, you’ve got to write the rest of that book out to be a masterpiece, it’s all up to you and it can’t be based on the person that you want to get with it’s got to be something that you do for yourself.
Has anyone been able to define " best version of yourself"?
in my opinion, which is absolutely free, so worth that much, that smacks of finite and goal oriented thinking. In my view, the journey is a never ending one, perhaps the reason we are even here. I don’t think that you can ever get to a point where you can finally say, I have achieved complete self understanding, because every day in every way, you are a different person.
I agree with your assessment of dealbreakers and have experienced them in relationships!
I enjoy your videos. I find your voice very relaxing. Sometimes I have the videos running in the background.
The "clinginess" one is a bit tricky because some girls seem to expect daily texts while to others it can appear clingy. I personally do not need to text daily (and am totally ambivalent about it), but got into the habit of it because of girls I've been with expecting it. Only recently did I realize that by defaulting to that, I can give the appearance of being clingy to some girls while I'm honestly just trying to do what's expected to show I'm still interested.
The thing is, anything and just about everything appears as "clingy" behavior to girls. If you show any interest or desire to her, that's clingy. If you call her the next day after getting a number, that's clingy. If you want to touch her ass for more than 10 seconds, it's also perceived as clingy. I'm not even joking about that. They are like little children and have no idea what clinginess is, they are just all out for themselves and to get your money, they don't like Men for who they are.
I'll say this works the same for women, too. We feel that way, as well. Not all women want to talk every day and not all women need a lot of space. I think this is a gender segregated topic, rather it varies from person to person. You have to find someone who naturally works well with the communication level and style you need, or make small adjustments on both ends to meet in the middle.
In my experience women who use that as an excuse simply didnt like you and just wanted someone to use for attention whenever she was bored. Most women do nothing with themselves outside of work. So generally if shes talking to other men she will be annoyed by you texting her everyday. If she believes you are her best option she wouldnt wait long periods of time to reach back.
It becomes "Clingy" because she now thinks other women dont want to talk to you because you have so much time for her. And if shes willing to do that it means shes seeing other people.
@@jonnnybravo4092 "It becomes "Clingy" because she now thinks other women dont want to talk to you because you have so much time for her." Only toxic ones concoct such ridiculous thinking. This type of idea comes from inductive and deductive thinking, which means the girl has no emotional capacity and bases her attraction on the perceptions of other Women towards a given Man. So that means there is nothing true about her attraction whatsoever.
Everybody wants to feel needed and appreciated. A simple “Good Morning Sunshine ☀️” with no anticipated convo is one thing but to get upset over no hit back shows insecurity/possible hostility. I have stuff to do and she does too. A few words can mean a great deal. Use them wisely.
In a past life I worked emergency dispatch (so 911 calls, non-emergency, police, sheriff, fire, EMS, and domestic violence background checks, etc.). One of the many things I learned there was -- besides couples fighting literally all day, every day even in a small town, was that abuse has very little to do with one's sex/gender. In other words, women were just as likely to be physically combative towards their partners, but because of societal predispositions, it can often put men in a difficult place re: defending yourself when your girlfriend/wife hits you or throws things or uses something as a weapon. An abusive woman (and I'm only focusing on women here but for the record it's everybody) will use the system to her advantage and abusers will lie and cheat and manipulate (even police and judges) such that they'll want YOU to get arrested for hitting her when that might have been 100% not true. Single men out there: Please, please, please choose who you date, fall in love with, and marry wisely. Do not choose someone abusive. Do not choose someone mentally or emotionally unstable. And the ability to really know somebody's character takes lots of growing up, because I've definitely been duped many times. Bad people won't go "Oh haha btw I'm a cheater and liar and super abusive. Just FYI. So coffee date at 7 PM?"
How about an episode where you go over what you struggled with when you started dating? What you had to work on to up your game. That would be interesting.
i think that's a good point there, a "significant disparity" between the clealniness requirements. same with roommates really
Can we make this like the series where you ask various women for their opinions on their "7 things" for anything?? I'm curious what they'd say, both the obvious ones like you pointed out and the obscure ones.
I agree with you about "filthy". I had a gay male friend (I'm a female. The friendship was strictly platonic.) who was a hoarder. When he was renting a room, his space was always "messy". Eventually he bought a house and the whole house got taken over with his hoarding. It was sad to watch. I offered help many times, but he declined and ultimately I had to let him go. His hoarding was indicative of other problems and I realized he was someone who was never going to be there for me when push came to shove. Unfortunately, as most people age, their habit patterns become more ingrained.
Dealbreaker number 7 should be brought to attention because it's a serious one. Abusing anyone is NEVER okay. If you are being abused, please remember that it's not your fault. You have the strength and right to tell someone that you trust, and there are services that you can contact because you are better off getting help. Stay safe and keep others safe!
If you're going to bash this comment, then I will respectfully say to go look at yourself in the mirror and say this sentence "It is not cool."
Devil's advocate? Maybe.
While I agree, I have known too many who would read this and just expand the definition of abuse, even so far to fit anything not going their way.
In fact, I scrolled down just a little and saw that somebody else already made that point. "Being told no is not abuse."
Not helpful advice imo. Yes, it’s not a targets fault in that they aren’t the one abusing
But if the target is not a child, it’s a choice they are making to continue being abused
And it was a choice the whole way to give the abuser the green light
Realizing this truth is the first step to going No Contact
So telling ppl it’s not their fault might sound good, but it’s not helping anyone
Lawrence, thank you for leaving another brilliant comment 🙏
@@Bombadil-ez9ns I am glad you brought this to attention because I have heard about instances when someone claims verbal/mental abuse after being rejected with a "no." If constant rejection is affecting one's mental health, then that person should seek a therapist or someone who is willing to listen to them.
I think these are standards I have with any person I choose to be around and not who just who I choose to date or have a relationship with!
This is a healthy mindset!! ❤
Yes but there are standards you would apply just to dating and not friendships right? I mean there is a reason you would not date some of your friends in spite of the fact that they are good friends?
@@gracerules2008Men does not have female friends that they would not date.
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It's nice to know about these 7 deadly dealbreakers just to have knowledge of what they are and how to deal with them effectively.
i love how so many guys don’t have a skincare routine. im 26 and have had one since i was 21. But been washing my face since i was 16 (as in once in the morning and once at night with a face cleanser.
Thank you and keep up the good work, Courtney!
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I often wonder how social media has changed the perception one had and now has of what is attractive. In any case, attraction is important and, like beauty, is held within the eye of the beholder. Cheers to all!
i like when she share about how mind and heart are important ! because we can be better on this. Physicaly too but your face are your face you can't changed that without surgery
I have 15 deal breakers for women!! If a woman acts stupid, I'm getting on her ass!! 😬😏 I don't tolerate ignorance and stupidity from anyone!!
Literally getting on her ass? You missed number 7?
As I get older I understand the lack of ambition issue. Purpose does tend to bring out the best in men.
Ambition is for losers.
@@prussiansocietyofamerica clearly.
You know what creates hostility in men? Women showing multiple signs of interest then when the guy approaches or pursued you ghost or reject him. I just don’t understand if woman aren’t interested why can’t you just leave the guy be.
Exactly
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some women just want attention and some even look forward to reject if you fall for this "trap"... those are immature, childish and insecure women... normal woman wouldn't do that
Excellent presentation Courtney. You were well prepared and delivered, and it showed...professional grade. I don't see myself as failing at any of those but could do better on a couple. It's easy to get discouraged in this era of general angst in society, culture and politics. So conscious intent to push yourself in certain category's remains key. Hurricane Hillary has changed August into November here, gloomy. Good day to field day the apartment.
Assertive vs Aggressive. Know the difference guys.
Sometimes you have to fight....... we're not all the same........
Thank you for the good content. Keep up the good work sis 🙏
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These are all pretty fair bullet points. Some of those traits are more habitually ingrained then others. But I think "Ambition" and "Clingy" are two things that sometimes only improve due to the influence of having a decent lady in a guys life. A guy wants to do better when he has a woman who loves and respects him unconditionally.
IMO Clingy comes from being conditioned by a toxic g/f. A narcissist to be more specific. A high value woman brings both trust and validity of affection. A guy will not be clingy if these two traits are reciprocated.
I def agree with them especially the last one. I went through some crazy and it definitely had its effects on me afterwards, and also my older brother, his wife was beating him and what not, he however did confide in someone and had pictures, videos etc and was trying to get custody of his child, then he ended up dead in his apartment on his bday. It will be a year since this happened this coming September 26. We had raised concerns about it and her possible involvement but because of my brother’s history with drugs and they ruled his death a death from fentanyl, well let’s just say Bergen county in nj saw him more as a statistic than a person. If anything like that is happen to someone on here please don’t keep it in. I wish my brother would have come to me about it but to come forward I can see how hard it is. Look out for yourselves in that light.
Guys, learn to be needed not needy.
I feel like David Gilmour, said it best- "And when you loose control, you'll reap the harvest you have sown
And as the fear grows, the bad blood slows and turns to stone. Pigs- Pink Floyd that line holds true for life and being in relationships. That's why it's important to reflect and grow from your mistakes that's the true power of being a man.
I feel like some of these are things that some women like more than hate. One example is the arrogance one since some women mistake that for confidence and the emotional one because some women mistake that for passion. Many men use "passionate" as a euphemism for "volatile".
I used to know two different women who were friends of mine who used to deliberately push their boyfriends or husbands buttons to get him mad enough they where he started abusing her. I asked both of them why they did it and their answer was because I wanted to see if I could. So I told them they brought it on themselves and how did that work out for them after they got injured. This is why a lot of men say women are crazy.
What if you don’t do all 7 of these and women still flake/reject you?
It probably means that you aren't the problem.
Then you are dating the wrong women or there are other problems you aren't noticing.
She thinks ur ugly
To follow up on the first and second comments, this means that you dodged an unhealthy bullet.
If you know that you are actively putting in the work to being the best version of yourself in regards to dating/relationships and you're getting rejected by women, then that is those women's loss because they don't really know what they want. A good woman will recognize your value, and will show genuine interest in pursuing something meaningful!
Sometimes people just aren’t into you and it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.
At 65 the average man retires with $278,997.00 Where as the average woman retires with $87,725.00. Investing in your retirement has to be priority # 1 for women. Unfortunetly being a woman is expensive. Women today are impressive, they are more college educated, more employed are buying houses. The only thing left for them to conquer is contributing to their retirement plan. I'm contributing 50% of my salary to my retirement a month. I'm not married and no kids so I can do it, my property is paid off so no mortgage. The best way to save is get rid of all debt and then contribute to your investments. The longer those investments have to grow the bigger they will become over time. Just like a tree the more time it has to grow the bigger it will be in retirement. Be disciplined and strict in your savings. Since 45% of women will remain single they need to take this seriously.
I don't think that it can be emphasized enough how serious abuse can be. After recently dealing with abusive family members, I went through such a serious mental health crisis that I ended up calling a suicide crisis hotline, which is something I never dreamed I would ever have to do.
Never hold it in, stand up for yourself, and establish boundaries. It can be a matter of life or death. Seriously.
i am 45 and found the perfect wife, we got married june 10th of this year. sex is amazing, but more importantly we laid out everything before the marriage. we are both 100% open and honest with each other. neither of us have our phones locked, i can grab her phone, she can grab my phone. i love your advice, and so does my wife. i think i finally found my unicorn. we are both confident in our lives and if something irritates one or the other we say it. the biggest failure of marriages is resentment. always communicate! if you dont like the lasagna she makes then tell her, dont let it fester. but dont get mad if she has a problem with you, communication is the most important thing in a relationship. be open and be transparent, i hope i die before she does, thats how much i love her. if she dies before me i wouldnt know how to live.
So you guys have a prenup right?
You sound super codependent
So your marriage is based on screwing and snooping. Awesome.
The minister for criminal families state and federal. They can't wait they are so BORED!
romance and ambition where is the connectivity?
abuse and violence are turn offs for them? i was never abusive or violent towards any girl but ive heard so many stories of guys beating their wives and girlfriends, cheating, lying, and they still had women, not me.
❤❤ you are one of the best on here Courtney
That's a deal breaker, ladies!
#1 dealbreaker for woman: Not being perfect
One dealbreaker is if a man is too short. A woman won't give you second look if you are under 5' 8". It's not something they necessarily do on purpose, per se, it's just a natural, involuntary repulsion.
I had a toxic gf that made me think that I was the toxic one.. that was draining.
Idk why theres so much push back in the comments. She's not talking about red flags in women, we watch enough videos about that. Some of y'all could benefit from a vacation abroad lol
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In this episode speaking about attractiveness, when I put this in the context of a long term relationship leading to a marriage, I would prefer to date an average looking woman with charming personality, instead of, a pretty woman with bad personality.
All other points mentioned are also important but I found the list a little extensive. If the list was 5 points at a time much better for me in order to be able to keep track. When i reached the 7th point, i forgot the first point what was about. Cheers though!
Very true. I went out with a girl who smelled really bad and had horrible breath. She was nice and pretty, not sure if she had low self-esteem but I was very turned off by that. I never called her again for a second date.
You do have a great convincing way of putting across your point, Courtney Ryan even though in this video I must say that I don't agree with the content in totality since in my personal opinion REAL / TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL OR ANY SHORTCOMINGS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP ..... That's how it goes .... I mean one person is so devoted in a relationship that he / she might tend to ignore most of these so called ' Deal breakers ' in a person and still have a fulfilled life because towards the end of the day it's ultimately the adjustments and / or compromises which the individual person in a relationship decides to make quite early that matters ..... Content was worth watching though, Courtney Ryan ....
She uses background music and vocal inflection to sound convincing. It's all an act. She is a modern day grifter and doesn't care about Men.
Someone who is capable of violence is more useful than someone who is not. The same thing that makes it possible for a man to be violent is the exact same thing that will cause a man to run into a burning build to save someone without regard for his own safety. It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. I am not a violent or aggressive person, nor am I a weak cowardly snowflake.
Exactly correct, and great comment. Violence also does solve problems.
Most people (those on auto-pilot) find attractive those persons who push their past trauma's buttons, who will drag them into the same traumas. Because that is what they are used to. What some people are attracted to is often superficial, based on the medium, (lack of) education, beliefs, and stories playing in their minds. Studying relational psychology is a must in order to get out of the chaos grown in one individual. Society let everybody in his own, not teaching in school any of the simple rules of hygiene, fair play, truthfulness in relationships, or about self-improvement. That is why homo sapiens societies are a messed up jungle.
Being stingy is another major one
I think 'The Beast' in the 1990's Disney movie ticks all the boxes 😂
Since when is being physically attracted to someone deemed "superficial?" Why are we acting like people don't judge others based on how they look? Unless you are entirely blind, you can't say physical appearance doesn't matter.
Nice list - I'd like to suggest "lazy" belongs on it
being unattractive, unambitious, and filthy can each be mitigated if you're willing to put in the work
Weee- ha, I ain't 6-0+ . I am not bringing 100K / year to the 'deal', I am old (54), I do not do SJW idioms (pronouns) Bullshiate, I am not Jason Mamoa, Unfortunately - I am a "NICE GUY" (and we all know how women HATE those), I don't own a house (in America), I do not drive a fancy car (I have a 40 year old Soviet Truck) - I cook, clean, maintain a house - I expect you to do the same
I do not want kids EVER, I will never Get Married - The door is over there. Haz nice life.
I've told my sociopathic ergomaniac mother too change the music of my Facebook vid on hers and what to call it she's too Premier selfish, won't be till the weekend at best.
ambitions often require a certain level of aggression and arrogance. Men just need to have the discipline to control that beast within them. Be An ambitious dangerous man with discipline.
the physical beauty of women that I desired fades quickly as time goes on. so I don't have any real reason to hold on to something that is growing older every new day.
Most of these are pretty fair, but some like being unambitious or arrogant may be seen differently depending on the person.
Someone who is working towards smaller goals may be seen as unambitious compared to those who reach for the sky at every opportunity. As for arrogance, certain neurodivergent people such as those on the autism spectrum may be seen as acting arrogant even though they are not trying to be.
I will say that many of these dealbreakers apply to women as well. I don't consider girls who are unattractive and make no attempt to improve themselves, are rude, smelly, vulgar, and think they're better than everyone else. I've had the misfortune of knowing some women who were all or most of these things at once.
I find these videos interesting even though I know I am meant to be alone in life
I’m filthy in both ways. My 50 Shades of Grey room is TRASHED! EVERYTIME the cleaning lady goes in there, the bondage begins. It’s a constant battle.
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I was a die setter for 6 months. You get dirty and oily. I had oil, dirt, grease, and all types of sprays on me. I went home and made it looked like I never worked that job.
For me one of the hugest turn offs from a woman are: Stupid games, using the complement you gave her against you, her feeling entitled to your wallet even after the fourth text message, when she refuses to do video chat, her lying to me.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot.
Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
And I don't get or understand why a guy or a human male or just a person in general has no right to feel depressed or feel bitter and forever resentful if they manage to get their first relationship late-in-life.
For example, if a person doesn't have their first relationship until their 30s or 40s and older.
People say that a person like that should still be happy, but I feel a person like that has to have a right to feel forever depressed and bitter and resentful because they feel that their youth went to waste or their youth was stolen from them.
I feel men have a right to be angry about something like that more than women do because for all-time men have always been dealt with the burden of having to accept or take responsibility for their lives while women can simply rely on others to do it for them.
For all-time relationships and dates are basically handed or given to women on a silver platter but not for men
The only thing you have to keep in mind with all of this is that most relationships are fake and a lot of Women are actresses in relationships. And no offense, but there is a high chance even your current gf is also an actress. The thing is, most of the early formed relationships are not based on love but are based on the mechanisms in girls to seek out a provider. Exceptions to this are so rare, that they don't even number in the tens of thousands worldwide. They are far less than that.
>Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.< Yes but this is only because Religions, Governments, Capitalism and Feminism had permitted this arrangement and Men went along with it. The sooner Men refuse to go along with it, the sooner it becomes irrelevant and no longer will exist that way. Because Women don't produce anything for society besides babies.
@@prussiansocietyofamerica the bottom part of the post I agree with it and many people do because come on women don't really have to do any work in order to attract a man or to get a man because they have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention, they don't have to bring value to the interaction or be the one to make an interaction interesting, everything in regards to sparking or igniting attraction is on the man shoulders
I'm surprised that narcissism and demanding did not make the list
Another great video Courtney, I haven’t watched one of yours I’ve been disappointed with yet
Nice shirt Courtney 😮
My good behavior was hindering her relationships with other men, I guess. That's why I stepped out. Not just from her but overall idea of being with someone.
There's nothing shallow about attractiveness being a requirement.
Yes I agree with all 7 of them I did go out on a date with a women very nice person . But unfortunately her house was a disaster . And I have OCD not over the top but I do like everything in its place . That was a deal breaker for me just don't think I could live like she does I know I can't cleanliness is a big thing for me .
I'm afraid of women now. I have been hurt so badly I'm willing to remain permanently single and celibate forever! I am living by myself and trying to heal, but to do that (for now, anyway) I must be alone or with my men's support group.
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Sad to hear that man!
At the same time, try and rephrase "I'm affraid of women" and instead say "I'm affraid of how being around women will make me feel." "Cause it felt like hell once."
Going about it this way will enable you to take back control and inspire you to go and look for the right tools to dust yourself off and pick yourself up again. Until you one day be ready again to enter the 'love battlefield' in a much more empowered way.
Hope this has helped you somewhat!
Cheers and good luck!✌
Yeah, I'm not much at writing things, but yeah, thanks for the info.
Hey Courtney what are your thoughts on the Barbie movie!?
Regarding guys being filthy, a woman once told me of an experience where she met a guy and they went back to his place to hook up but when he took off his pants, she was like the odor and the lack of grooming was so horrid she had to go to the bathroom and throw up and then made an excuse to get out of there. ..... a lot of guys are clueless how bad their hygene is.
Same for women. A lot of women refuse to use soap in certain areas.
@@deadringer333That is a sweeping and incorrect statement.The majority of women have excellent hygiene.
@@Wonderwoman79G sweeping and incorrect? I’ve been with many women that admit they don’t use soap on their vagina and it smelled like it.
@@deadringer333 the difference is many dudes are nasty and will have sex with anything no matter how dirty looking and smelly it is. You might not, but a large enough segment of the male population will.
@@Wonderwoman79G what wonder woman said. I would add in a guy could probably tell by her body type. If she's in shape good looking etc, she likely keeps her lady parts clean. Obese chics maybe not. And ultimately you can smell if a girl isn't hygienic.
Great content thank you.
It's hilarious to see women out here with double-digit bodycounts acting like they are some kind of prize that men need to qualify for.
Women are red flags in itself. Just being a female is a red flag
We should shame these kind of women in public more. Taking videos of them and laughing at them, they dont deserve to be protected
@@genshinsage I don't protect any fefail that isn't my mom or my daughter unless I choose too. I've watched a gal get the shit kicked out of her and just laughed and kept walking. Didn't give a shit
@@drayke6936 Thats good! If you got involved and helped her, she would end up blaming you with her female logic. Its time to let them suffer.
What has this got to do with what Courtney has said?
This seems like a list of extremes, if anyone you associate with, romantic or not, displays any of these traits then you’re probably hanging with the wrong crowd or your sense of judgment needs an overhaul. It should never reach the point where you are confronted by these types of clichéd red flags. Perhaps easier said than done, but developing a set of values over time with experience will eradicate the possibility of these becoming an issue. I think both sexes in their emotional eagerness to be liked or loved, or to be thought of favourably, are liable to let things through without a second thought, and live to regret it. Have a set of values and adhere to them.
Confidence vs Arrogance. Guys, learn to know the difference.
Does farting a lot come under filthy? Coz when I start eating my beans there is no coming back!!
Here are some more: 1) lacks empathy; 2) bad listener; 3) self-absorption
I was dealt the hand of being short, but what i lack in height, i make up for everything else. Ive had women believe I'm as young as mid-late 20s. Also working out and getting a personal trainer helps!
Ambition doesn't always mean aspirations to a new job/career. But personal growth!
Filthiness...WASH YOUR FREAKING BUTT AND WATCH YA MOUTH😂
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Excellent comment! You hit the nail on the head for sure. I'm a little shorter than my ex-wife (the divorce wasn't about height! 😀) and I'm a little shorter than a few of the women I've met. Guys will "be taller" if they're actual men, not dudes.
Thank you
This list applies to women as well
IDK....I hear about all those "Icks" for normal things like breathing etc
another great Courtney vid! Then again, they’re all pretty great. That said; seems like this list would go without saying, I mean, no-brainer’s really, and in most, if not all cases would be’s things that a person would strive to be regardless of whether or not they had relationship concerns. I can definitely speak to anxious attachment is that is the monkey that’s on my back, not good, not good at all for anybody, get help is all I can say. As far as being openly sexual… I’m not sure I mean I’m not speaking about being graphic and just downright gross, but I have to say that a woman who is in touch with herself, and is tastefully openly sexual, I find refreshing. Again, I don’t mean in a gross, locker room,… Anyway.
Some of the things I thought of as far as my personal list: closed, mindedness, materialistic, racist, and or bigot, superficiality. I think those are the biggest for me.
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