I’m so glad I found this woman. I had seen her on Shane’s videos before, but never knew who she was. I have watched some of her videos, and I’m amazed of how sweet she is. I think I might have an eating disorder but I don’t want to lie. I don’t want to say I’m struggling with something that I’m not even sure I have. God bless you, Kati & God bless whoever happens to read this:)
A while back, my therapist and I made a shoe box filled with index cards that had different coping skills, so whenever I was feeling urges I could pull a coping skill out and do it. They were anything from taking a walk, coloring, watching a movie, making a cake or taking a bath. You can put whatever coping skills work for you. It is super easy and it came in handy a lot.
I used to self harm, I started as a child and it went through college. For me it was a form of release from all my pent up anger and sadness that I felt from not talking about the abuse I had sustained as a child. When I started to actively deal with all of it by doing art work, Journaling, finding a trusted friend to confid in, and eventually therapy, I noticed those urges slowly went away. For a long time I had been so angry with myself, felt so worthless, and like no one could possibly care; but I learned that it was not my fault, I am worthwhile, and people do care and want to help. So it was a long process, but I can say that I am 8 years sh free; I still continue to delve into my art, Journaling, and talking to friends and my counselor. I do what helps me to process all my inner turmoil. The urges don't go away over night, but they will fade and eventually go away if you keep at it.
I think a really great Monday video might be surrounding lesser known eating disorders. EDNOS is obviously the biggest term (which even though the new DSM changed it, is still a thing), but there is also purging disorder, atypical anorexia, and multiple others mentioned in the DSM-V that I feel people don't understand because they just haven't heard of them. I, for example, am on a cycle of restriction and purging. I've people say this is Bulimia just because of the purging, but it is not... Anyway I think you could do a really great video on this topic since all of your videos are fabulous. Thanks :)
I'm glad you answered the first one as I've always been a bit confused on that. For me, physical activity is more of a coping mechanism because the high you feel after running lasts the whole day. Talking to friends is definitely a good coping mechanism because you're reminded of people who care about you.
Great quote there at the end.. I've never had an eating disorder but I guess I have been depressed especially as a teen.. things that have helped me, use to be art and music.. then I began learning about history and what a whirlwind that has been.. also learning astrology and geneology, things that make me, and can even identify why things are going good or bad or why I'm good at one thing and not another.. you're a very sweet lady kati thanks for caring. The best thing any of us can do, is to discover who we truly are, beyond what the world tells us we should be or are by their standards.
(In regards to the first question) I understand but all those things can help you deal with depression or things like that but it doesn't give you that same rush from self-harming or acting on your ED
Thank you for what you are doing! Just thought I should let you know that I appreciate what you do! It is incredible how much time you put in to helping others. So selfless and inspiring:) I hope your weekend is restful and fabulous!
My ED has been very on-again, off-again since I first developed it. I've noticed for me that it tends to come back in times of stress, especially times when my life feels out of control. I was "clean" for I think two years, then relapsed, now I've been good for another year but might be on the cusp of relapse again. It happens. The more we work on the core issues though, the better it'll get.
Kati, thank you for your videos! I can really relate to question 1 about distractions vs. coping skills. Don't worry, your description of both made sense and was helpful to me as well.
A coping skill and a distraction at the same time for me is sports. I love dancing, horseriding and speedswimming. These sports are very intense and by trying to learn a new dance move, doing a very difficult exercise with my horse or just trying to beat my own time I use the energy, even the negative energy, to do that instead of keeping it inside.
I'm not sure this is classified as a coping skill, but I have found your breathing videos and visualization can be very helpful when urges are coming in. for anyone who might not know, visualization is when you imagine being somewhere safe/happy, try to think of as many details of this place/situation as possible. might be classified as distraction, but I've found it helpful, so I thought I'd share :)
I was on a vaca but I'm back an glad to see u on my feed :) so happy! (In my head that song ins playing) luv ya Kati. Ur wonderful! Sorry about traffic I understand :)
So for self harm distractions this may not work but when I wanted to self harm id take red nail polish or you could do any red helped me to do pretend blood but just splattered on a piece of paper so i felt the release without harming myself.
For me a very good coping skill is having a hot shower . It immediately relaxes me and I don’t think about anything else except for the hot water feeling
Hi Kati, I have suffered from a pretty debilitating depression for around five years. I have been to six different therapists and left each of them because I never felt like they were helping me. If anything, seeing them made my situation worse because finances are one of the biggest sources of my depression, and I just spent a bunch of money on a treatment that did nothing for me.Two of them said things that offended me, while with the others, it just seemed like all I ever did was have conversations with them that weren't really different from the types of conversations I have for free with regular people. I keep telling myself to stop trying because numerous experiences have shown that therapy doesn't help, but then I wind up trying someone else because I feel really hopeless and terrible and don't know what else to do. Is it possible that therapy just can't help me? Am I the problem since I can't seem to find a therapist I can work with? I wish I could be more specific about why I left each therapist, but I don't want to reveal my identity by detailing my experiences.
Why do we find things to escape? What happen if we dont escape? Do we escape for stifaction to feel safe and comfortable? What would happen if we dont escape and stay with that feeling of pain anger jelousy or eatting disoder?
The problem is I know I should do something else in that moment but I cant get my mind off of it. The more I tell myself no the stronger the urge and I might get away with distracting myself for a little while but it won't leave my mind until I self harm. Its a relief once the binge is complete and I don't feel like struggling to change myself if my life is already hard. Would love replies 💟 happy healing everyone.
Hey Kati! I've had EDNOS since I was about 10 (I'm 16 now and I went into treatment last year). The last time I went to see my therapist she told me I don't have EDNOS anymore (YAYYYYY!!! :D ). I agree- I haven't had thoughts or fear of food for a month or so (like at all). However, I have had breaks in my ED before. The third question made me think- how do we know if we are in fact fully recovered, and can we be sure the ED won't come back? Thanks heaps Kati! xxxx
#katiFAQ Is it possible to get out of a depression without seeing a therapist or using meds? i've seen your video about signs of depression (& other similar videos) & i match all of the signs, it has been going on for a year & it keeps getting worse , and there's no cause for this depression ( no traumatic event or abuse or something like that). Ps: i don't have the courage to come forward & see a therapist & i don't want to be treated with meds. Please help
Hi kati I'm 14 I have been diagnosed with OCD and Anorexia. I've had a past with self harm but I have stopped a few months ago . I'm showing signs of depression and everyone I know has noticed . I've been having episodes where my eating disorder comes back is it normal ? I've had CBT for 6 months and had to stop because my therapist had to leave the centre. My mum has noticed me going back to my old habits and told me I can go back to therapy If I want . I don't know what to do can you please HELP ?
Hi ***** ! I watched all of your videos on bipolar 1 and 2, but I'm having a hard time understanding the timing of it all. How long do people normally stay in a generally "high" or "low" mood (not a manic episode)? I've read that manic episodes normally last 4-5 days, but how long can their mood be affected on a more basic, less extreme, level? For example, can some one to experience something similar to hypomania for about a month, then dysthymia for a month- or is it more short term? Then, can people change from rapid cycling to slower cycling (or vise versa)? Sorry for so many questions, but I can't find the answers anywhere! You're amazing! Thank you so much :)
I'm bipolar 2. My hypomania last a week. I spend a lot,binge eat,become extra creative with craft projects I usually find boring. Let me know if you need more info
#katifaq I may be too late but I have booked to see a concert in December and I'm reserved in a seating seat. Not that everyone's going to be sat down! I'm also staying the night near by there. Question is how do I let myself enjoy it and not panic and get scared. I want to enjoy it and I've made the effort down to thinking about what to wear. So that voice comes and I say I'll be fine but how do I really mean it????
You have a journal topic in your details. What is that? Is that journal topic you or someone else has thought up or wrote? Is it a suggested journal topic for others? If so what is the topic? Is there just to spark a thought?
I’m so glad I found this woman. I had seen her on Shane’s videos before, but never knew who she was. I have watched some of her videos, and I’m amazed of how sweet she is. I think I might have an eating disorder but I don’t want to lie. I don’t want to say I’m struggling with something that I’m not even sure I have. God bless you, Kati & God bless whoever happens to read this:)
A while back, my therapist and I made a shoe box filled with index cards that had different coping skills, so whenever I was feeling urges I could pull a coping skill out and do it. They were anything from taking a walk, coloring, watching a movie, making a cake or taking a bath. You can put whatever coping skills work for you. It is super easy and it came in handy a lot.
I used to self harm, I started as a child and it went through college. For me it was a form of release from all my pent up anger and sadness that I felt from not talking about the abuse I had sustained as a child. When I started to actively deal with all of it by doing art work, Journaling, finding a trusted friend to confid in, and eventually therapy, I noticed those urges slowly went away. For a long time I had been so angry with myself, felt so worthless, and like no one could possibly care; but I learned that it was not my fault, I am worthwhile, and people do care and want to help. So it was a long process, but I can say that I am 8 years sh free; I still continue to delve into my art, Journaling, and talking to friends and my counselor. I do what helps me to process all my inner turmoil. The urges don't go away over night, but they will fade and eventually go away if you keep at it.
I think a really great Monday video might be surrounding lesser known eating disorders. EDNOS is obviously the biggest term (which even though the new DSM changed it, is still a thing), but there is also purging disorder, atypical anorexia, and multiple others mentioned in the DSM-V that I feel people don't understand because they just haven't heard of them. I, for example, am on a cycle of restriction and purging. I've people say this is Bulimia just because of the purging, but it is not... Anyway I think you could do a really great video on this topic since all of your videos are fabulous.
Thanks :)
I bullet journal now and it's helping me not just be creative but also monitor my moods and anxiety and such
I'm glad you answered the first one as I've always been a bit confused on that. For me, physical activity is more of a coping mechanism because the high you feel after running lasts the whole day. Talking to friends is definitely a good coping mechanism because you're reminded of people who care about you.
Great quote there at the end.. I've never had an eating disorder but I guess I have been depressed especially as a teen.. things that have helped me, use to be art and music.. then I began learning about history and what a whirlwind that has been.. also learning astrology and geneology, things that make me, and can even identify why things are going good or bad or why I'm good at one thing and not another.. you're a very sweet lady kati thanks for caring. The best thing any of us can do, is to discover who we truly are, beyond what the world tells us we should be or are by their standards.
:-)
Staceylane74 :P
(In regards to the first question) I understand but all those things can help you deal with depression or things like that but it doesn't give you that same rush from self-harming or acting on your ED
Thank you for what you are doing! Just thought I should let you know that I appreciate what you do! It is incredible how much time you put in to helping others. So selfless and inspiring:) I hope your weekend is restful and fabulous!
Coloring while listening to music helps me. In fact, I plan to color a bunch of dinosaurs and listen to Tegan and Sara as soon as this video is over.
I love to redecorate my room, it really helps me. And I have recently started collaging.
My ED has been very on-again, off-again since I first developed it. I've noticed for me that it tends to come back in times of stress, especially times when my life feels out of control. I was "clean" for I think two years, then relapsed, now I've been good for another year but might be on the cusp of relapse again. It happens. The more we work on the core issues though, the better it'll get.
Same here.
Thanks for being so amazing, Kati! xoxo
Kati, thank you for your videos! I can really relate to question 1 about distractions vs. coping skills. Don't worry, your description of both made sense and was helpful to me as well.
Love the quote.
A coping skill and a distraction at the same time for me is sports. I love dancing, horseriding and speedswimming. These sports are very intense and by trying to learn a new dance move, doing a very difficult exercise with my horse or just trying to beat my own time I use the energy, even the negative energy, to do that instead of keeping it inside.
I'm not sure this is classified as a coping skill, but I have found your breathing videos and visualization can be very helpful when urges are coming in. for anyone who might not know, visualization is when you imagine being somewhere safe/happy, try to think of as many details of this place/situation as possible. might be classified as distraction, but I've found it helpful, so I thought I'd share :)
I was on a vaca but I'm back an glad to see u on my feed :) so happy! (In my head that song ins playing) luv ya Kati. Ur wonderful! Sorry about traffic I understand :)
So for self harm distractions this may not work but when I wanted to self harm id take red nail polish or you could do any red helped me to do pretend blood but just splattered on a piece of paper so i felt the release without harming myself.
Thank you so much for the answers, Kati. That helps a LOT! ❤❤
thx for this awesomely ha bisky Q and A video i loved this so much i have been busy so it has taken me awhile to get to this video
For me a very good coping skill is having a hot shower . It immediately relaxes me and I don’t think about anything else except for the hot water feeling
Hi Kati,
I have suffered from a pretty debilitating depression for around five years. I have been to six different therapists and left each of them because I never felt like they were helping me. If anything, seeing them made my situation worse because finances are one of the biggest sources of my depression, and I just spent a bunch of money on a treatment that did nothing for me.Two of them said things that offended me, while with the others, it just seemed like all I ever did was have conversations with them that weren't really different from the types of conversations I have for free with regular people.
I keep telling myself to stop trying because numerous experiences have shown that therapy doesn't help, but then I wind up trying someone else because I feel really hopeless and terrible and don't know what else to do. Is it possible that therapy just can't help me? Am I the problem since I can't seem to find a therapist I can work with? I wish I could be more specific about why I left each therapist, but I don't want to reveal my identity by detailing my experiences.
I feel identical
Why do we find things to escape? What happen if we dont escape? Do we escape for stifaction to feel safe and comfortable? What would happen if we dont escape and stay with that feeling of pain anger jelousy or eatting disoder?
The problem is I know I should do something else in that moment but I cant get my mind off of it. The more I tell myself no the stronger the urge and I might get away with distracting myself for a little while but it won't leave my mind until I self harm. Its a relief once the binge is complete and I don't feel like struggling to change myself if my life is already hard. Would love replies 💟 happy healing everyone.
Hey Kati! I've had EDNOS since I was about 10 (I'm 16 now and I went into treatment last year). The last time I went to see my therapist she told me I don't have EDNOS anymore (YAYYYYY!!! :D ). I agree- I haven't had thoughts or fear of food for a month or so (like at all). However, I have had breaks in my ED before. The third question made me think- how do we know if we are in fact fully recovered, and can we be sure the ED won't come back? Thanks heaps Kati! xxxx
#katiFAQ Is it possible to get out of a depression without seeing a therapist or using meds?
i've seen your video about signs of depression (& other similar videos) & i match all of the signs, it has been going on for a year & it keeps getting worse , and there's no cause for this depression ( no traumatic event or abuse or something like that). Ps: i don't have the courage to come forward & see a therapist & i don't want to be treated with meds. Please help
Hi kati
I'm 14 I have been diagnosed with OCD and Anorexia. I've had a past with self harm but I have stopped a few months ago . I'm showing signs of depression and everyone I know has noticed . I've been having episodes where my eating disorder comes back is it normal ?
I've had CBT for 6 months and had to stop because my therapist had to leave the centre. My mum has noticed me going back to my old habits and told me I can go back to therapy If I want .
I don't know what to do can you please HELP ?
Hi ***** ! I watched all of your videos on bipolar 1 and 2, but I'm having a hard time understanding the timing of it all. How long do people normally stay in a generally "high" or "low" mood (not a manic episode)? I've read that manic episodes normally last 4-5 days, but how long can their mood be affected on a more basic, less extreme, level?
For example, can some one to experience something similar to hypomania for about a month, then dysthymia for a month- or is it more short term? Then, can people change from rapid cycling to slower cycling (or vise versa)? Sorry for so many questions, but I can't find the answers anywhere! You're amazing! Thank you so much :)
I'm bipolar 2. My hypomania last a week. I spend a lot,binge eat,become extra creative with craft projects I usually find boring. Let me know if you need more info
#katifaq I may be too late but I have booked to see a concert in December and I'm reserved in a seating seat. Not that everyone's going to be sat down! I'm also staying the night near by there. Question is how do I let myself enjoy it and not panic and get scared. I want to enjoy it and I've made the effort down to thinking about what to wear. So that voice comes and I say I'll be fine but how do I really mean it????
i have all the symptoms of ED but i dont make myself throw up..i hate it
My coping mechanism: i am cooking something special for me :-)
Kati is right, eating disorders can last forever
You have a journal topic in your details. What is that? Is that journal topic you or someone else has thought up or wrote? Is it a suggested journal topic for others? If so what is the topic? Is there just to spark a thought?
i feel my brain can get some rest for once its taken me over 15 years find the answer
do you get Facebook messages? I tried reaching you there because I didn't want to post, thanks. :P
I won't journal because I am not completely honest when I do because I do not live alone and someone could read it. That is not what I want .
Is maladaptive perfectionism an unhealthy coping skill?
Hey kati!
It's so hard to realise in the moment that it's your negative voice and not the truth!