Blaine Larsen - How Do You Get That Lonely

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  • @tylerhart6928
    @tylerhart6928 3 года назад +2285

    Its not just loneliness. Its emptiness that cant be explained. No matter how many people love you no matter how many people support you you can still feel empty and alone

    • @cheshirekat3050
      @cheshirekat3050 3 года назад +154

      It's the despair.
      You feel like you've been fighting your whole life to be the person that everyone expects you to be, but eventually the chronic stress, sleep-deprivation, and general cruelty of those around you, and the apathy of those you try to talk to about what you're going through, just wear you down; and you feel many many years older than you really are.
      'Till finally you just can't take any more; and you reach for that bottle of sleeping pills, or that razor, or that gun.
      Even the void of non-existence, is preferable to a living hell with no end in sight.

    • @spctwitchy
      @spctwitchy 3 года назад +57

      I feel that everyday..

    • @cheshirekat3050
      @cheshirekat3050 3 года назад +24

      @@spctwitchy
      I am sorry.
      That was what my life was like every day, in high school.
      I eventually made it through; but I still have PTSD from those years.
      I suppose that I'll always carry those scars with me.
      Is school the source of your depression, too?

    • @spctwitchy
      @spctwitchy 3 года назад +30

      @@cheshirekat3050 I'm 28 medically retired from the army because of my suicidal ideations. Medication only does so much

    • @cheshirekat3050
      @cheshirekat3050 3 года назад +11

      @@spctwitchy
      I'm so sorry.
      My uncle's time in the military drove him to become an alcoholic.
      It took years for him to beat his addiction.
      Did you apply to have get a PTSD service dog?
      I hear that the military pays for all of your medical needs, for life, as long as you were honorably discharged.

  • @lindacreater7465
    @lindacreater7465 8 месяцев назад +86

    Tomorrow, my brother would have been 43 years old. We lost him when he was 23 years old. He will be gone 20 years this August. I miss him as much today as I did the day we lost him.

    • @5150az
      @5150az 8 месяцев назад +4

      This song was written about my Brother, Todd Wooton (10th Mountain) I miss him every day. He took his life while sitting next to a River he used to fish on. lindacreater7465, some days are better than other days, I am sorry for your loss. I know it is tough, we just fight for the next day.

    • @newyawkgiants5877
      @newyawkgiants5877 7 месяцев назад

      @@5150azI’m 10th Mount and I know a lot of Brothers and Sisters have you in their hands. Some are confused about losing a Brother or Sister. I am not! Your Brother is a hero in my eyes. I’m near that point seriously,trying to reach out, but I’m not getting anyone. I’m here for you all. You don’t know how much to hear about someone else that was my Brother I wish I was there for him. I will never forget him, I’m not going anywhere and he will help me help more. My kids don’t believe me and my so called friends are not answering

    • @N3isfree
      @N3isfree 6 месяцев назад

      Rest easy 🕊️

    • @RondaMontgomery-l3g
      @RondaMontgomery-l3g 5 месяцев назад

      💔😢💔😔

    • @stormplayz1653
      @stormplayz1653 4 месяца назад +3

      Man. I’m 23 and everyday is a constant struggle I’m so behind my peers. I’ve had my share of legal troubles and never been a good family member despite wanting to be. Everyday I just think about how me leaving would affect them. Think about trying to convince them I’m moving to a new country to start over and just disappear but really end it all. Idk why but seeing this comment. That’s 20 years later. After everything else that’s happened in those 20 years you haven’t moved on or gotten past it and it makes me wanna keep going so I don’t have to put my family through that. Im very sorry for your loss but grateful you shared your story it may have saved me life. Thank you

  • @idontwanttosaymynameonyout1486
    @idontwanttosaymynameonyout1486 3 года назад +529

    I wish people understood that it isn’t about being lonely. You can have a room full of people around you who say they love you but when you’re depressed it doesn’t matter.

    • @jssamp4442
      @jssamp4442 Год назад +17

      So right. When the chemicals in your brain are not right, you don't get the expected results. Things that would normally make you feel good just can't. The right Seratonin and Dopamine levels.

    • @DragonbMaster12
      @DragonbMaster12 Год назад +20

      Just because the say the love doesn’t mean they do. People I know from online and school care about me more than my family

    • @robertkemp185
      @robertkemp185 Год назад +8

      People who suffer to the point of contemplating suicide … usually have experienced so much trauma in their lives (childhood or as an adult). Untreated it can destroy lives and/or take them away

    • @jssamp4442
      @jssamp4442 Год назад +10

      @robertkemp185 I don't know the statistics on that. I can only say it is true in my case. I was lucky because my gun misfired, and I got the help I needed. Finally got the right diagnosis and medicine so that I can get back to living again. As a nation, our record and approach to mental health has been appalling. But it looks to be turning a corner. There is still a lot to do removing the stigma attached to mental health problems.

    • @brandenmcguire1806
      @brandenmcguire1806 Год назад +6

      You can be in a relationship and still feel lonely! It depends on whether you're important to the one you love.

  • @beckykeyes7522
    @beckykeyes7522 Год назад +207

    I don't think a lot of people understand this song isn't about the loneliness but more about how do the ones around us not see the pain until it's too late ❤

    • @bryan5274
      @bryan5274 Год назад +2

      Because mental illness has no time period or specific actions they have to do, most likely the family members had heard it other times and most people do just blow off steam and never follow through with it because that's right down the strike lane. It is the easiest way out of, long suffering as it said to do

    • @guesswho6946
      @guesswho6946 Год назад +3

      For sure! Our grandaon didn't. He was a gamer and his last message said he was lonely. I just heard this song roday. Too many young are taking their lives.

    • @mD-du5ih
      @mD-du5ih Год назад

    • @mD-du5ih
      @mD-du5ih Год назад

      ❤😢

    • @beckykeyes7522
      @beckykeyes7522 Год назад +1

      @jbrown4137 completely agree! However, I think our loved ones are left questioning all they didn't see. "Was there something I could've done?" "Maybe I didn't say or show how much I loved them." ❤️ it's a sad cycle and honestly no one knows how bad a person is hurting because most times it's amazingly hidden

  • @chaoticcat6787
    @chaoticcat6787 10 месяцев назад +69

    You know, even years later this song still gets to me. My buddy in the Marines lost his fight.. no one saw it coming, I almost lost mine after that. I'm here today because of my wife. It's a struggle, not everyone manages to work through it sadly.

    • @mikeenright2802
      @mikeenright2802 2 месяца назад +3

      I feel you brother I lost a 2 good friends and a nephew to their own self deletion and only reason I'm still alive is my wife and kids

    • @braceletmakers4091
      @braceletmakers4091 2 месяца назад +3

      I get you my son lost his fight I was also there for a whole year afterwards. It's not loneliest it's not even 5hat people are there as I was for my son. He just obviously thought he couldn't go on anymore 😢

    • @cynthiahelton8638
      @cynthiahelton8638 Месяц назад +2

      Keep fighting you’re needed

    • @nathanwilliams4763
      @nathanwilliams4763 Месяц назад +3

      Fell you brother I'm a veteran and I survived my attempt.

  • @aaroncoffman88
    @aaroncoffman88 5 лет назад +220

    Most people (Thank GOD!) don't understand the darkness.That inner voice that reminds you you are worthless, helpless, a burden to you and those you love. Most people don't understand the stuggle to get out of bed in the morning and do your best even though you know it won't be anywhere near enough. Suicide doesn't seem like just an end to your own pain but a way to ease the pain of those around you because they will no longer have to deal with you. Please pray for those with depression they are fighting battles eveyday

    • @donnapulliam4477
      @donnapulliam4477 5 лет назад +5

      According to my son's note he left, this is absolutely true. He said he didn't want to be a burden anymore and was tired of the temptations of alcohol and wanted me to know it wasn't my fault in any way and wanted me to have a happy life. I miss him with my every breath and will until I take my last.💔😢💔

    • @user-zq7gl9tx3y
      @user-zq7gl9tx3y 5 лет назад +1

      @@donnapulliam4477 I'm so sorry for your loss ! I had a nephew , may they be at peace now !+

    • @jays3330
      @jays3330 5 лет назад +1

      I lost son to suicide, 5 years ago.. since than I lost my marriage, n good paying job, n I think about not living everyday... But I know my other 4 kids need me.. but I feel useless n helpless bc I'm stuck in a world that I don't want to be in.. I know that battle everyday n struggle to get out of bed everyday

    • @user-zq7gl9tx3y
      @user-zq7gl9tx3y 4 года назад

      @@jays3330 my sister also struggles daily as a result from her son's suicide . I feel her pain as well as my own . plz don't give up ! Your other children need you more than you could ever imagine . try to stay strong ! My sister and I do fundraisers and walk for life annually , just to try and bring awareness to the world . its hard , but make the life you lost bring good things to others in need . he will always be w you ! My sister also , finally after 5 years joined a support group that has helped her deal w some of hwr pain . God bless you always !

    • @danielsmelser5765
      @danielsmelser5765 4 года назад

      Amen

  • @Vanessa-jz6zn
    @Vanessa-jz6zn Год назад +226

    Depression is like drowning, but there's no water and no way to come up.

  • @erinking5013
    @erinking5013 Год назад +100

    It's the worst feeling in the world. Loneliness is a pain that forms a hole to the point you're numb. You don't feel wanted, loved, or appreciated... and worst yet... you don't feel like you exist... you feel completely invisible, especially when you cry out for help. It's like no one hears you.... it's painful...beyond words.

    • @jamiekreiner5543
      @jamiekreiner5543 Год назад +2

      Ya that's os true when you have a man that says he loves you and doesn't show

    • @backinherarms
      @backinherarms Год назад +2

      Exactly Right

    • @sharonsanders3062
      @sharonsanders3062 11 месяцев назад

      So true

    • @anthonyhaney4036
      @anthonyhaney4036 10 месяцев назад +2

      It's the fact that you feel invisible. That your just gonna ge judged for opening up about your hurt. Your confusion. Abiut how you don't know how to get rid of the feeling.

    • @richardstevens5008
      @richardstevens5008 9 месяцев назад +1

      @erinking5013 it's even worse yet when those you do say something to about how you're feeling just ignore it and pretend that what you say doesn't matter.

  • @brittanytrujeque-boyer1158
    @brittanytrujeque-boyer1158 5 лет назад +3034

    They don't want to die, they just want the pain to finally stop.

  • @gavinpickens4009
    @gavinpickens4009 4 года назад +453

    It's a fight some don't win. It's hard to explain what you feel in your head. I've been there and still fight every day.

  • @JeremyXSinging
    @JeremyXSinging 3 года назад +406

    It's been 15yrs since I've tried committing suicide and now I work in a mental hospital helping people through their suicide attempts. I listen to the song when it first came out and I'm still listening to it today because it really hits home for me not only because of the attempt but it helps me save lives at my job. Thank you Blaine Larson.

    • @joycemoss6205
      @joycemoss6205 3 года назад +9

      your story gives hope! God bless you!

    • @joshh7332
      @joshh7332 2 года назад +7

      You are awesome! Keep it up

    • @margarethester4019
      @margarethester4019 2 года назад +4

      Blessed be

    • @bourneleader8001
      @bourneleader8001 2 года назад +2

      I love you ! Thank you for the love you put into life. I wish you happiness

    • @alisahubartt2209
      @alisahubartt2209 2 года назад +7

      I know the loneliness depression causes. Growing up with careless parents, being the shy girl whos always judged and put down, wondering why you're here, feeling like dieing, cutting not for show but to take pain off your heart, pretending you arent hurting yet crying every night im alone. It took a lot of fighting within myself to over look horrible, angry, selfish people and make myself happy and push past feeling empty. Still some part of me, when thinking about the past, can make my heart hurt a bit but now its more of a disappointment that it happened but I can look up now and be able to smile a real smile. That battle takes time, even a few kind words from even one stranger can make the world of difference. I try to be that person now who will lift another person with a smile and kind words ❤

  • @sherylaltvater1875
    @sherylaltvater1875 11 месяцев назад +13

    There are many reasons why we feel empty and alone.. no one will ever understand our reasons why.. this song makes me cry but also drives me to push forward

  • @clintkelley1021
    @clintkelley1021 9 лет назад +2205

    unless you have been there, you will never understand. it isn't selfishness. it is absolute hopelessness and despair.

    • @evanwhite5400
      @evanwhite5400 9 лет назад +45

      I live it. I'm tired of bipolar disorder . I'm tired of being controlled why should I live? I wanna go home and be with Jesus. It is not always a selfish act to commit suicide.

    • @evanpoitra2605
      @evanpoitra2605 9 лет назад +40

      +Evan White I understand what you're going through, but at the same time, how could you or I take our own lives and, in doing so, tell Jesus that the life He gave us wasn't worth living. Life never gets easier, but the Lord makes us stronger, and guides us through life, and when we have grown in our faith fully, Then Jesus will call us home again. You will get stringer, you will make it friend

    • @clintkelley1021
      @clintkelley1021 8 лет назад +2

      +Jessica Piszczek ;)

    • @evanpoitra2605
      @evanpoitra2605 8 лет назад +9

      I understand, and i apologize if i criticized your pain. From my experience, God's agenda has never been to make our lives easier, and He never meant for us to feel this way. I fully believe that what we do with the crap in life we've been handed is what God is looking at. Times of depression are a completely natural part of life, but to live in that day after day is not what was intended for us. It may take years to get out of depression as it did for me, but when the day comes that the good things start happening it will be because we stop looking at everything wrong in our lives and begin looking at everything good, no matter how small the good is. and those small thoughts make all the difference in the world for me.

    • @chrismadden7728
      @chrismadden7728 8 лет назад +39

      +Evan White son I dont know about bi polarism but I know this son. I lost my son to an I.E.D. in Afghanastan. I have lost about 16 buddies I served with to suicide caused by PTSD. Trust me young man suicide is no answer. You will leave behind more hurt and sorry than your problem can ever cause. No my son didnt kill himself, but I have to wake up everyday and know he wont call so we can talk sports and I will never hear "I love you old man". you ever need someone to talk to Im here

  • @benbarclay1274
    @benbarclay1274 5 лет назад +1075

    When you're hurting and dying nobody cares.
    When you're dead everyone shows

    • @heathercarangi3901
      @heathercarangi3901 5 лет назад +26

      People care but if they dont know becouse u dont tell them I would have done anything to stop my boyfriend from killing himself but I never new

    • @masonwilson4805
      @masonwilson4805 4 года назад +21

      That's actually pretty dang true especially for my "family". I prefer the term blood relatives. No one gives a shit about anyone and when they die they put on an act. I'm the last of my bloodline that seems to care about anyone but themselves. I was abused and abused and abused by so called family. It hurts. No one knows how broken I am. I always put on a face that doesn't look broken. I tried being more open about it but no one cares to hear it. I cant trust anyone now. Not anymore. A guy who was like a brother to me turned on me all because of lies his ex told. Before that, we were like brothers. That ol boy saved my life from a suicide attempt. He sat me down afterwards, and told me he was once in my shoes. He showed me this song. Every time I get upset I listen to this song. Helps me realize I'm not actually alone. I just really wish I hadn't have lost him. I feel so alone now. He was the only friend I had. I got a last name that no one likes. All my other friends left me for either drugs or they just didnt wanna be around me for various reasons none of which were in my control. I guarentee that when ever I do die that every single one will show up. You are absolutely right.

    • @nathanblue
      @nathanblue 4 года назад +10

      Ben Barclay yup, and they like to pretend like they never knew you’re hurting.

    • @Tammy-nt6cb
      @Tammy-nt6cb 4 года назад +2

      Do true!

    • @hadassahpuckett
      @hadassahpuckett 4 года назад +5

      Sometimes it feels like that's. I am a child of GOD. God is always in the battle with you.

  • @mcgirlletsgo7135
    @mcgirlletsgo7135 11 месяцев назад +67

    Sometimes it feels like it would be so much easier to just slip away. No more pressure to be an adult. No more worry about taking care of everyone around u and finances. Just peace.

    • @nattressjohn
      @nattressjohn 7 месяцев назад +4

      Yes exactly it hurts so bad

    • @AngelleahASMR
      @AngelleahASMR 7 месяцев назад

      @@nattressjohn how are you doing today? What makes you smile?

    • @AngelleahASMR
      @AngelleahASMR 7 месяцев назад +1

      It's not peaceful, it's absent of life. All things good and bad, ying and yang.
      Look for good even if it's just in today.

    • @fatalskull
      @fatalskull 6 месяцев назад +3

      Not the answer we have to believe that it will get better. This world has a way of breaking us down we just can’t let it win. There is a plan and it seems distant but he will get you through just talk to god he can heal. I know cause I tried that dark path and he showed me the light. My friend tried the other night but I called on him and he saved his life.

    • @heathertandy290
      @heathertandy290 4 месяца назад +2

      Exactly how I've felt many times in my life. Life is just too hard sometimes.

  • @keithmercer7015
    @keithmercer7015 5 лет назад +421

    Its hard to keep going when you're facing depression. Its like a constant voice telling you youre better dead. When youre depressed you tell ypurself no one knows. You hide it because you feel like a burden

  • @BudLangley14
    @BudLangley14 5 лет назад +786

    I wish this type of Country would come back

  • @jocelynpaul8615
    @jocelynpaul8615 5 лет назад +486

    It is very easy to hide a broken heart and a damaged spirit with a smile you can be hurting and still let everyone think everything is okay I know this from experience I suffer from depression I can fool people all around me but I can't lie to myself

    • @nunyanunya5099
      @nunyanunya5099 5 лет назад +4

      So true

    • @vincentbowman9884
      @vincentbowman9884 5 лет назад +6

      I hide mine everyday I'm worthless

    • @vincentbowman9884
      @vincentbowman9884 5 лет назад +2

      I be just another story in the paper

    • @LeaderofThePack303
      @LeaderofThePack303 5 лет назад +9

      @@vincentbowman9884 you are not worthless. Nobody in this world ever and I mean ever is worthless. You are loved and special to those around you. I believe in you Vincent.

    • @dawnbyrnes960
      @dawnbyrnes960 5 лет назад +3

      Me too. It's so easy to hide.

  • @veronicalhettichgoree2246
    @veronicalhettichgoree2246 10 месяцев назад +12

    24 years ago January 07, I tried ending my life. It was the voices in my head and my heart hurt that no pill could fix. I am a born again Christian and it still hit me. This type of depression hits all people. I found a relationship not religion in God that healed me. I reach out to certain people now to talk to when the depression tries to creep in. Prayers for those who suffer.

    • @Yelawolfofficials
      @Yelawolfofficials 8 месяцев назад

      This song hit so differently, it speaks directly to my heart ❤️ and I can't help it so it's on repeat all day lol. Where are you from beautiful?

  • @babytristansmom
    @babytristansmom 4 года назад +386

    The friendliest face is the one that is hurting the most. To make others feel good and happy. To make them feel better.
    Why? Because you, yourself don’t feel like you’re the best. You feel alone. Scared. Tired. Irritated. Quiet. Shy. You just want to hide and act like the present is real. You want to relive the beautiful past that you thought was beautiful.
    I’m still struggling. And it hurts me to see others feeling what I have felt, what I am feeling, what will happen.
    Being alone is sometimes a curable yet a fatal choice.

    • @ash-baby-4065
      @ash-baby-4065 4 года назад +4

      Are you okay now?

    • @christophermascale2719
      @christophermascale2719 4 года назад +9

      I read what you said and I cried cause I feel like this 24/7

    • @joannulloa950
      @joannulloa950 4 года назад +5

      People think about ending it it's when they lost everything the pain that life causes it's too much to hold onto they cannot stand living one more day for one more minute I think nothing's going to help it's never going to get better nobody cares

    • @darkjim86
      @darkjim86 4 года назад +5

      We try to make others happy. So we justify our purpose to live. Eventually that fails us to and we get further lost in the thoughts of death and loneliness. Their is no escape in our mind

    • @themarksman6071
      @themarksman6071 4 года назад +5

      All ive known is pain i suffered to make others happy. Now i hide alone feeling the pain. Its sad to watch others be so happy. But at least they are. Life is painful and we indure

  • @rendalee6168
    @rendalee6168 4 года назад +226

    One of those songs you cannot forget. Love this young man for giving us this song. Timeless.

  • @stivinhilliwuy6725
    @stivinhilliwuy6725 5 лет назад +516

    A smile is the easiest lie of all.

    • @darrinkoenig9078
      @darrinkoenig9078 5 лет назад +12

      "I'm fine" and "I'm just tired" are close behind

    • @harveyhall6418
      @harveyhall6418 4 года назад +9

      It is true. I fake every Christmas for my nephews

    • @favoriteneff9151
      @favoriteneff9151 4 года назад +2

      Sure is

    • @mikaylaneveu2660
      @mikaylaneveu2660 4 года назад +2

      So true

    • @nathanblue
      @nathanblue 4 года назад +3

      stivin hilliwuy I can cry in front of people and still no one will care about me. Many people don’t have any support system.

  • @michellebarnes707
    @michellebarnes707 Год назад +72

    I BROKE DOWN WHEN I HEARD THIS SONG..... BECAUSE IT IS AS IF IT WAS WRITTEN FOR ME...I DON'T THINK IT CAN EVER BE SAID ANY BETTER THAN THIS...... AMAZING INSIGHT!!!!!!!!

    • @sarahbatchelor2542
      @sarahbatchelor2542 Год назад +2

      I grew up in a meth head home, alone in the two kids from my husband who is beaten by his dad with two kids. We are a family of sex and I will fight for them no matter what or who! ❤ We've been together ten years

    • @jordanahrens2500
      @jordanahrens2500 4 месяца назад

      I am a child of this scenario. My mom was the partner of a suicide victim. I appreciated this song more than anyone could know. I am glad it helped someone else too. Please reach out if you need help.

  • @Pendaws
    @Pendaws 3 года назад +217

    This young fella doesn't look old enough for the voice he has. Well done young man.

    • @nataliecorbin567
      @nataliecorbin567 2 года назад +6

      I was saying the same thing. Such a baby face with a powerful voice. Beautiful song

    • @rotweilerdc
      @rotweilerdc Год назад +1

      Auto tune obviously

    • @stephenvolson4495
      @stephenvolson4495 Год назад

      dude you are soon right. l thought it was faked and I did a double take amazing voice on this baby face kid.

    • @jessicasovern1382
      @jessicasovern1382 Год назад +7

      @rotweilerdc it's not I have met this artist multiple times and have heard him sing right in front of me no microphone! He is so incredible! This was years ago you should hear him now

    • @e-racer4673
      @e-racer4673 Год назад +7

      @@rotweilerdc no you should hear him talk. The kid that killed himself is from my hometown went to my school. His grandmother lived next-door to my ex-wife. It was all over a girl
      The guy that wrote the song is Joey of the Joey and Rory, duo husband and wife and she passed away from cancer a few years ago.
      He lives a few miles away from me, but he’s wrote several songs like some beach somewhere and many more.

  • @davidkillingsworthjr2875
    @davidkillingsworthjr2875 5 лет назад +189

    this hits me in my soul. because i know what it feel like

    • @patienceleach9313
      @patienceleach9313 5 лет назад

      Me to its not fun at all..

    • @lilynorman4636
      @lilynorman4636 5 лет назад

      Me to I lost my Nana to suicide and baby brother to a car fire both gust 10 months ago

    • @Tymyson
      @Tymyson 5 лет назад

      Me too..

    • @jonathanbyington8224
      @jonathanbyington8224 5 лет назад +1

      I'm here for any and everyone who needs to talk I've been there recently with an attempt suicide but still here with alcohol related thoughts

  • @crystalizeddreamer6272
    @crystalizeddreamer6272 Год назад +18

    I can never forget how many times this has spoken so deeply to me and so many people. It breaks my heart...

  • @Spacemonkey-ok5yf
    @Spacemonkey-ok5yf Месяц назад +4

    Been there. Song describes every feeling when you are at your lowest. Life. Realizes depression it’s like hibernation while reminiscing about the beautiful things in life.

  • @charleslawson1714
    @charleslawson1714 5 лет назад +855

    Those who aren't in constant war with them selves will never know.

    • @nunyanunya5099
      @nunyanunya5099 5 лет назад +10

      Exactly

    • @emilyjohnson7177
      @emilyjohnson7177 5 лет назад +6

      Right.

    • @elizabethroam9280
      @elizabethroam9280 5 лет назад +6

      I am all the tine

    • @crystalhuckins7550
      @crystalhuckins7550 5 лет назад +12

      Ur absolutely correct I fight every day,and there's so many more of us out there

    • @WitchyWolf1993
      @WitchyWolf1993 5 лет назад +13

      Each day we constantly war. We ask this to ourselves. Are we going to win this time or are we finally going to just give up.
      The constant emptiness and the ups and downs make us wonder if anyone can see the war is a constant battle field that we're sometimes not sure if we have much left at the end of our day.

  • @jakubsztochmal5238
    @jakubsztochmal5238 5 лет назад +174

    People that have never been truly lonely, will never understand, how do You get that lonely...

  • @danielnelson292
    @danielnelson292 4 года назад +130

    Remember. Check on your friends who seem happy. The ones making everyone laugh are usually in a lot of pain themselves.

    • @isabelg7085
      @isabelg7085 3 года назад +3

      Exactly. I have been told that I am the happiest and nicest girl but I am struggling. And suicide has become part of my life.

    • @kddavis5492
      @kddavis5492 3 года назад +3

      @@isabelg7085 clowns are the saddest ppl of all

    • @kushaalprasad2178
      @kushaalprasad2178 3 года назад +1

      @@isabelg7085 hope you're good now

    • @dreeve3171
      @dreeve3171 3 года назад +1

      Very well said

    • @MaBoJo1
      @MaBoJo1 3 года назад

      had a tear in my eye, this is what i do

  • @JWilson-z4x
    @JWilson-z4x 3 месяца назад +4

    I can't help not crying 😭😭😭😭. This is a song that needs to be told.

  • @anthonysaylor4520
    @anthonysaylor4520 5 лет назад +311

    It's easy when no one talks or checks on you even when you reach out to them. It hurts so much

    • @youngrosco4515
      @youngrosco4515 4 года назад +6

      Sorry you feel that way... I live alone and it does hurt too....

    • @dianajohnson6330
      @dianajohnson6330 4 года назад +4

      they look at there ph never reply back.

    • @feralbigdog
      @feralbigdog 4 года назад +1

      and when you cover up anything someone might pick up on, as far as i see it, its my business, no-one elses

    • @tikesplace
      @tikesplace 3 года назад +3

      Society will tell you that you should just move on, not reach out to them anymore but you just keep reaching and they just keep ignoring you. Then society says, reach out and smile and brighten someone's day or help them through a tough time (because you never know what someone else is going through). So you keep doing that and no one does it back to you or if someone (usually a stranger) does, it does not feel quite the same as having someone who you love reach back to you.

    • @kelliedoxiern4308
      @kelliedoxiern4308 3 года назад +1

      Yes. You are right. I stopped reaching.

  • @rachszy3
    @rachszy3 8 лет назад +77

    This video is just as moving and touching as the song itself. It's a shame Blaine never got the recognition he so deserves.

    • @ronroberts5573
      @ronroberts5573 8 лет назад +7

      Hell yeah,Just came across this Song not so long ago,Never heard of him Bfor,Love this Song,💓

    • @wendybolin36
      @wendybolin36 6 лет назад

      Love you

    • @niniberoin296
      @niniberoin296 6 лет назад

      Thats true, great song and great voice but where is the recognition,

  • @K9Godmother
    @K9Godmother 3 года назад +60

    With his voice I'll never know why he didn't make it bigger than he did. Cause I love to hear him sing and listen to the story he tells with so much emotion.

    • @WantToGoHomeSoon
      @WantToGoHomeSoon 3 года назад +3

      You probably will not understand this. So he probably would not join the free masons. Or the illuminati. Yes he must join one. Tim McGraw, Faith Hill etc.. Reba.. Pop rap country, it's scary behind the scenes. But I bet he choose not to sell his soul for fame and wealth.

    • @freemangriffin4953
      @freemangriffin4953 Год назад +1

      I wonder what he is doing with the rest of his life? 2 chart hits only, really surprising. very talented....

    • @bobmorrison5636
      @bobmorrison5636 Год назад

      ​@@freemangriffin4953....He was writing, recording, performing in videos and switching labels. But the musical life dramatically took a turn. Larsen now works with Search Nashville, a nonprofit, interdenominational organization. Larsen had attended a Search small-group session and, in 2012, he had transitioned into full-time ministry.

  • @issyfountain9509
    @issyfountain9509 2 года назад +56

    It's not just loneliness, it's a hopeless that consumes you while leaving you feeling empty and crippled with a pain that's indescribable. It's not wanting to die so much as wanting this pain to stop

    • @tarotinthekichen1831
      @tarotinthekichen1831 Год назад +5

      It’s also the feeling of I just don’t want to exist anymore it’s to much. It can be like drowning and you feel like the world keeps tying weights to you

    • @11B557
      @11B557 Год назад +1

      I’m a disabled us army veteran and I suffer so badly. This statement couldn’t have been said better

    • @Profile907
      @Profile907 Год назад +1

      Exactly this.

  • @richardcollins6629
    @richardcollins6629 5 лет назад +234

    I just broke down crying to this song....straight out of nowhere (i think). God this is still a powerful song 😢😢😢😢

    • @sarahmforsman
      @sarahmforsman 5 лет назад +4

      Me too. I think with me though, it's because I've been there. Knew how I was going to end it, everything. But then I looked at my girls' pictures on the wall and realized that no matter what I was going through, I could not do that to them, take away their mama, and I couldn't do that to my parents or siblings.

    • @kristinacox1919
      @kristinacox1919 4 года назад +3

      Yes very powerful song. I cry every time I listen to it.

    • @marybrown394
      @marybrown394 4 года назад +2

      Your not the only cried over this song

    • @billhouse8199
      @billhouse8199 4 года назад +1

      At this point an time I'm starting to think there is no GOD

    • @soniac8532
      @soniac8532 4 года назад +1

      It has always made me cry

  • @donniebenthin9784
    @donniebenthin9784 5 лет назад +185

    I've been married to my wife with severe suicidal thoughts for 18 years. Everyday I wonder if it's that time. I hope she never gets that lonely..

    • @richardcentkowski146
      @richardcentkowski146 5 лет назад +9

      Just be their for her and make sure she knows you care. It's hard for someone who is suicidal to believe that anyone regardless who it is would care. I know this cause I am a suicidal person and it's hard to believe it good luck to you and your wife.....

    • @douglasm.stearns181
      @douglasm.stearns181 5 лет назад +3

      Very sad!! 😭😭😬😬😰😨🙏🙏✝️✝️

    • @brisagega461
      @brisagega461 5 лет назад +7

      You sound like a wonderful husband

    • @djtwixx
      @djtwixx 5 лет назад +6

      Donnie your a amazing person show her every day she is loved and that your there for her

    • @courtneyg3824
      @courtneyg3824 4 года назад +4

      You’re amazing for sticking by her as I have seen so many walk away and out of my life that say it’s too much for them. I get it but it only makes you feel more alone and more bad thoughts come flooding in. Bless you and your wife.

  • @tonyh.3537
    @tonyh.3537 8 лет назад +382

    u get that lonely when everyone turns their backs on you, when everything u do ain't enough, when after trying ur hardest you just give up & yet everyone who says they're there for you ain't really there....

    • @kimcarmona798
      @kimcarmona798 8 лет назад +4

      Tony H.

    • @kendallpowell837
      @kendallpowell837 7 лет назад +2

      contact alisha melcher brown on Facebook. I'm not on my profile atm..but I've got an ear, and definitely the time to listen..

    • @wendyarbuckle1187
      @wendyarbuckle1187 7 лет назад +10

      Tony H. im here!! reach out....wendy.l.arbuckle@gmail.com
      my son took his life at 18, wish he had someone to help...

    • @hopesimpson4837
      @hopesimpson4837 7 лет назад +7

      that is so tru you think the person you love loves u the same but when. u get in a situation thats when. they turn there backs on you you get critised for everything you do and all your trying to do Is gain acceptance and love from them you get really Lonely and depressed

    • @shaelong6134
      @shaelong6134 7 лет назад +5

      Tony H. yeah, it's the worst feeling ever

  • @rmcnulty2
    @rmcnulty2 10 лет назад +155

    every time I hear this song I get tears in my eyes...because I know how easy it is to feel lonely, even when surrounded by a room full of people...and trust me, nobody notices.

    • @jessicaswanson7744
      @jessicaswanson7744 10 лет назад +7

      i always feel that way.

    • @tiffybear7
      @tiffybear7 10 лет назад +4

      I know how you feel.

    • @mattpayne24
      @mattpayne24 5 лет назад +2

      Amen

    • @ronniegatling2013
      @ronniegatling2013 5 лет назад

      See even u three that replied it's a simple one j know how u feel like if u fucking knew how we felt or this person felt u would say more clearly u have no fucking idea how it feels

    • @ronniegatling2013
      @ronniegatling2013 5 лет назад +1

      @@tiffybear7 no u don't

  • @jennyf7016
    @jennyf7016 9 лет назад +30

    This song should be dedicated to the VERY talented Robin Williams. He will forever be missed.

  • @tracyellaine3723
    @tracyellaine3723 5 лет назад +2021

    Is someone still listening to this song? 2019?

    • @traceyweaver7775
      @traceyweaver7775 5 лет назад +6

      Yep me and boyfriend Brendon Morris

    • @frankblack442
      @frankblack442 5 лет назад +3

      Yep

    • @frankblack442
      @frankblack442 5 лет назад +9

      This song has gotten me though some tough times

    • @anthonyplapp6503
      @anthonyplapp6503 5 лет назад +2

      Yep

    • @coreykennedy766
      @coreykennedy766 5 лет назад +9

      yep i am right now makes me think of my friend i lost in 07 to suicide he never got to graduate from high school

  • @davidbeckham1760
    @davidbeckham1760 Год назад +43

    Unfortunately there are too many people that feel that lonely. Let's try to cut that down by being kind and helpful to each other.

    • @gailwilson7577
      @gailwilson7577 9 месяцев назад +1

      My man feels that way everyday 😢he's very secluded dnt want noone around him talks all the time about leaving this life

    • @jacksondickson5487
      @jacksondickson5487 9 месяцев назад

      @@gailwilson7577I’m with it I’m getting close to it too ain’t got too much longer

    • @BrandonDickenson35
      @BrandonDickenson35 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@gailwilson7577seek help though the othe ppl that love him. You gain power as a collective, and also will maginify a group of people that appreciate him. Even if he had no family, he has ppl he encou ters day to day that "see" his place and impact on the world. Don't hesitate, your time could be well running out.

    • @pamelahuffman7461
      @pamelahuffman7461 9 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@gailwilson7577mine is the same way so sad😢

    • @pamelahuffman7461
      @pamelahuffman7461 9 месяцев назад

      Good 👍idea the world would be a better place if we're just kind to one another❤

  • @xXKRiSTiNXx1990
    @xXKRiSTiNXx1990 5 лет назад +60

    If you dont know what its like to get that lonely, then you never will understand truly..

    • @danielturner8236
      @danielturner8236 5 лет назад

      I am like this everyday since I lost my mom. Its been a real struggle for me

    • @billhouse8199
      @billhouse8199 4 года назад

      From one to a nother I truely do know what it is like walk i n my shoes for aday an you'll see

    • @chriswicks1785
      @chriswicks1785 4 года назад

      Ain't that the truth

  • @maimeeher4015
    @maimeeher4015 4 года назад +1709

    2020 still listening anyone💗

  • @GODMARS367REALM
    @GODMARS367REALM 5 лет назад +109

    It's crazy strangers can tell something is wrong but not your "close friends" or your loved ones....

    • @aboudreaux0112
      @aboudreaux0112 4 года назад

      IPA Alliance so true!!

    • @singularsquids5753
      @singularsquids5753 4 года назад

      I’m pretty sure my dad can tell but I just tell him I’m tired and that usually works

    • @moseslawed3763
      @moseslawed3763 4 года назад +1

      That's true sometimes... I do my best to be real in front of my loved ones... We know when one another is hurting... Sometimes it's them hurting , then it's my day ... That's just part of life... When we love , we pay attention to, it's part of love... There are times that we hurt and we hide it and keep it inside and now our loved ones can't see it... Not healthy... Then sometimes we hurt and it's just for us and we know that it want do any good to burden our loved ones, something's we must work out on our own... That's just life... Life is short, shorter for some than others.... Don't be fake stay real and don't miss any moments! God bless yall

  • @docski6559
    @docski6559 2 года назад +5

    It's not being lone wely but a an assortment of things. For me, survivor's guilt, PTSD, and even feeling like you need to be back in combat. There are times when I feel like can't do anything right or that I'm a burden, I have to fight the demons inside that tell me to just end it all. My saving grace and reason for life now is my daughter.

  • @holdawn
    @holdawn 5 лет назад +26

    The video makes this so much sadder.
    Seeing everyone going to the funeral, people who knew him, but didn't really know how he was feeling. Showing the people they pass who are obviously lonely too

    • @Yelawolfofficials
      @Yelawolfofficials 8 месяцев назад

      This song hit so differently, it speaks directly to my heart ❤️ and I can't help it so it's on repeat all day lol. Where are you from beautiful?

  • @stefanoperoni6059
    @stefanoperoni6059 Год назад +17

    Time will never scratch the emotions you feel in your heart when you listen to this beautiful song.

  • @tannermurdock4918
    @tannermurdock4918 3 года назад +153

    Been listening to this song since sophomore year of high school and it still hits just as hard 6 years later. Such an underrated masterpiece

    • @jessicahitesman9172
      @jessicahitesman9172 2 года назад +2

      Me too. I used to have a whole playlist to help me and to help me explain to people. I still listen to it to help when it’s hard to get out of bed in the mornings.

  • @damonkennysr.4775
    @damonkennysr.4775 7 месяцев назад +2

    I’m a 47 year old man dealing with depression and anxiety for the first time in my life and I know it’s hard to ask for help but remember you have plenty of people who love and want to care for you so please don’t give up and remember if you’re having the worst day of your life then tomorrow will be better ❤

  • @davidgrant2772
    @davidgrant2772 Год назад +38

    It's not just feeling lonely. You feel isolated. You feel like you're just watching life go by and you're not part of life anymore. It's a fight that you fight and one you know you may not win. It's a demon inside you know could win at anytime. You feel attacked. You feel like you're always on the edge. One bad day could send you over the edge. It's when you look in the mirror and try to convince yourself that you can live today. Then you tell yourself the same the next day and the next day and the next day and you pray today isn't the day when you can't tell yourself that anymore.

    • @jknoll3515
      @jknoll3515 Год назад

      Yes thats the mindset you are in when suicidal and depressed I feel this exact way. I have to fight it just to get through another day until I cant take it anymore.

    • @cardey316
      @cardey316 Год назад

      I've never replied to anything on RUclips because why but you described it perfectly. Which means you're going through it too.god bless and I hope you're still out there. Lord knows with our depression we could be gone any day. I hope you won your fight I still don't know if I'll win mine.

    • @mandybeauchamp4109
      @mandybeauchamp4109 Год назад

      I'm at this point now. Why do things never change.

  • @eddavis9704
    @eddavis9704 8 лет назад +429

    Everyone has limits to what they can endure. Some can take a lot, others can't. When you lose your support system and you just get so tired, it's easy to think about it, or act on it. Berating someone or claiming religion is the answer won't help, walk a couple of miles in their shoes and you might understand.

    • @KittyKat2151
      @KittyKat2151 8 лет назад +2

      +joel750 never get that lonely some one else cares don't be stupid and take away there everything because there's that hurt that wont ever go away imagine you're in the persons shoes who has to stumble upon you how do you tell there family that they pulled the trigger or in my case bleeding the person who cares who arrived a second to late toblate to watch them pull that trigger because i couldn't move fast enough i drive as fast as i could to watch a man who save my life take his own to look into his eyes at the moment the bullet pierced through his brains ..the pits of my stomach ideas right there yet so far away i couldntvrun throughout the blockades fast enough now hurts but no matter how lonely I've fleet means nothing compared to the ones you leave behind

    • @creativekoala9721
      @creativekoala9721 8 лет назад +13

      People who take their own lives are not selfish. I used to think so too, but after going through the pain of severe depression with someone I love, I see how much of a battle it can be. This is the way I see it. In humanity, we have a strong will to live. People will cross unimaginable hurdles, and do amazing things to survive. So if a person thinks they only have one way out, there are a couple things going on; For 1, there must be some level of depression or chemical imbalance to give up the will to live, 2, they feel backed into a corner with no other way out. The best thing you can do is support them, love them, offer options for other ways out, (for example sometimes it takes moving, or leaving a toxic relationship to help the situation) Also I have seen miraculous results from some multi-vitamins called True-hope which specializes in mental health. I just don't believe it is selfish. Take care.

    • @cassiealbaugh3031
      @cassiealbaugh3031 8 лет назад +2

      this is so true. it would be the worst feeling in the world to think everyone would be better off without you. I lost my son to suicide on his 21st bday. I found him hanging in my basement. I will never forget it as long as I live.

    • @creativekoala9721
      @creativekoala9721 8 лет назад +2

      cassie albaugh I'm so sorry. Just know that it is not your fault. I can't imagine your pain.

    • @kimcarmona798
      @kimcarmona798 8 лет назад +3

      I totally get this song and what you said is so true. It's very easy to get that lonely. I live it every day.

  • @chelseyhernandez7766
    @chelseyhernandez7766 5 лет назад +59

    It's so sad, people can feel this way and people that are the closest to them have no idea 💔 I thank God he sent me my husband and kids when he did 💖 it definitely saved my life!

    • @Alethiometer
      @Alethiometer 3 года назад +1

      I lost my husband & daughter when suddenly your life is snuffed out gone lost & forgotten after everyone goes home from the funeral you are forgotten too painful to remember so they just morn you because your heart died with them, but no one cares they leave the grief on you

    • @isaactesfaye4911
      @isaactesfaye4911 2 года назад

      @@Alethiometer so sorry to hear that!! If you need to talk I'm available anytime. God is always there for you He is the best friend one ask for. And he is a good listener!

    • @williamkolthoff2559
      @williamkolthoff2559 2 года назад

      Us people that feel empty and alone really don't talk about it. Just like suffering from depression right now I don't talk to anyone I take my pain out on me 🔪

  • @ClaudiaStarfish2000
    @ClaudiaStarfish2000 8 месяцев назад +2

    As Someone who has struggled with suicidal thoughts for the past couple of years this song really touches my heart.

  • @shannonwhitfield8943
    @shannonwhitfield8943 6 месяцев назад +19

    I called depression the a silent killer because most don’t really see when someone is this depressed.

  • @terrylee811
    @terrylee811 5 лет назад +24

    I have battled depression for many years due to chronic pain, and have faced many dark nights where I did not want to see the next morning. This song helped me more than I could ever say. Thank you, Blaine

  • @imareal7625
    @imareal7625 10 лет назад +86

    That was Blaine Larsen in the pickup. He wrote this song while still in high school after a friend took his own life. Both his voice and wisdom were beyond his years; his music touches the soul.

    • @MrCrowebobby
      @MrCrowebobby 9 лет назад +4

      The song was written by Rory Lee Feek and Jamie Teachenor as a tribute of and dedication to the memory of Lance Emmitt, of Mount Pleasant, Tennessee, the son of Mack Emmitt and Gloria Renee Thomason Mash. Lance Emmitt had committed suicide on Nov. 11, 2003. He was just 19.[2] The song opens with reference to a small news item about the suicide of a young man.

    • @joseyspergon7795
      @joseyspergon7795 8 лет назад +2

      I was in A horrific car accident which killed my fiance in August 1991 an left me in A chair this song means so much to me it touches my soul I die 3 times so there is A reason why I hear. So I couldn't make the call when I fought to live..

    • @charitycalvert2798
      @charitycalvert2798 2 года назад

      Sorry sweetie but wrong Rory Feek wrote that song

  • @jeremyheartriter2.063
    @jeremyheartriter2.063 4 года назад +43

    I was feeling just empty but this song honestly feels like a tight warm hug from someone who loves you. Thank you.

    • @gailwilson7577
      @gailwilson7577 2 года назад +2

      My man said its not hard to be that way that the song speaks, may be it was the way he was treated never know!

    • @sharonbaulch
      @sharonbaulch 2 года назад +1

      You might feel that way but you do matter and you are no less important than anybody. I understand because I've been there. I care my friend even though I don't know you my heart goes out to you because we are human and we feel the pain of others. Peace

  • @LD-zb7bq
    @LD-zb7bq Год назад +38

    13 years later and I find this song. Describes everything I've ever experienced for the last 10 years.
    Don't be me. Go get help. You're all worth it ❤

    • @naomimoran5564
      @naomimoran5564 Год назад

      Songs 20 years old next year

    • @ericjohnson8600
      @ericjohnson8600 Год назад

      Get help buddy there has to be something for you. I need it to

    • @biancamoore413
      @biancamoore413 Год назад +1

      You deserve help to you deserve happiness, and peace and so much more. You are smart and talented and amazing and lovable you are important. What you feel what you think whats in your mind and heart is important. You are not trash or a waste. You are lovable.

  • @myrkurvr
    @myrkurvr 8 лет назад +136

    People say its suicide is selfish but unless you have been their or currently are, you will never no what is like

    • @tonyalafarr1454
      @tonyalafarr1454 8 лет назад +2

      That is so true George.

    • @Deadmentellnotales-vf3gg
      @Deadmentellnotales-vf3gg 8 лет назад +2

      I am the victim of a suicide! Lost an uncle to cancer then lost his wife,my aunt, to suicide a year later! She was not in her right mind but she left five heartbroken children behind! She was selfish because as much as I loved her she burdened her own kids with the guilt and grief of her despair with the loss of their father!!!

    • @johann53100
      @johann53100 8 лет назад +4

      What keeps me from it, is that I don't want my father and friends to have to sit there and cry over the loser who couldn't handle his life anymore. I'll just destroy it slowly and discreetly so no one has to face that pain.

    • @cop-killer-
      @cop-killer- 8 лет назад

      pussy

    • @myrkurvr
      @myrkurvr 8 лет назад +1

      think of it this way Abusive father mothers not in the picture and your a only child and to add to that you are the center of bullying

  • @gpmcd1044
    @gpmcd1044 4 года назад +32

    Wow. Here it is 2020, 11 years after this video was published, and I am hearing this song for the very first time. It really hits home for me. I’ve now been on antidepressant drugs for 30 years. It’s still a fight every day just to keep going. Whoever said “Depression is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of trying to stay strong for too long” really hit the nail on the head.

    • @magpiephotographysaintjohn930
      @magpiephotographysaintjohn930 2 года назад +1

      Suicide hands the pain to all those left behind and it never leaves. I pray you find the courage to find your joy in life. Sending love to you ❤️

  • @lindatownsend3749
    @lindatownsend3749 2 года назад +14

    It is a constant battle..Even when you know so many love you and admire you..there can still be an emptiness that you cannot explain. The darkness and lonliness can overshadow everything else. My wife of 8+ years walked out because she could not deal with my cancer. Days with my students are amazing but as soon as I get home..the darkness settles in. It sucks.

    • @drakehonest9
      @drakehonest9 Год назад

      Hello 👋 how are you doing today?

    • @ianmoone9036
      @ianmoone9036 7 месяцев назад

      Hello friend.. are you ok?

  • @TheLastSane1
    @TheLastSane1 Месяц назад +1

    I loved this song when it first came out. I remember waking up and hearing it on the radio and it just struck a chord with me. I don't know but this song may have saved my life because I was not in a good headspace back then, and I still teeter on the edge of that abyss from time to time even now but I have a lot firmer grip than I did back then and I think this song kind of showed me, I wasn't alone in feeling like that/this

  • @kreg4672
    @kreg4672 6 лет назад +40

    "And nobody knows" The lyrics that got me because nobody really does know until it's too late.

  • @apriltaylor2685
    @apriltaylor2685 5 лет назад +25

    Its not lonely. Its feeling of burden to everyone you love and the fear that the pain will never stop. ❤

    • @mah4769able
      @mah4769able Год назад

      You got that right. That dark hole you can't crawl out of!!!

  • @joshrison5864
    @joshrison5864 5 лет назад +97

    u can feel lonely in a room full of people and noone knows trust me it hurts it sucks and it gets to the point u can't no more

    • @michellewilliamsau
      @michellewilliamsau 4 года назад

      Josh Rison I feel that way! I understand your pain and loneliness also!

    • @heatherneal4674
      @heatherneal4674 4 года назад +1

      I hope ur not still stuck in that feeling. I've been there too many times to count & I hate to hear when others have managed to find themselves there as well. It's a very deep pain in the pit of ur soul that slowly eats at u until there's just no more left to be eaten. And when u've been there more than a few times, it almost starts to feel like that's what normal is...thereby making the actual normal times feel wrong/off. Until ur just so d*mned confused & tired of the ups and downs & round and rounds of life's merry go round! And all u want to do is get off this ride! Make it stop!
      My dear readers, whomever u may be!
      Please, don't let things get that far for u?! Talk to somebody. Anybody. Hell, they have an app for that! Just remember, no matter how alone u may feel u are, u aren't. If nothing else, those of us that get that way from time to time, we're there for u!

    • @dravenmarsh1675
      @dravenmarsh1675 4 года назад

      I feel like that everyday

  • @Snowmask23
    @Snowmask23 2 года назад +24

    When I was younger and saw this video, I too wondered how does someone get that lonely? Then years later after battles with anxiety and depression, I finally understand. So far, the one thing I have learned is to latch onto anything, no matter how small, to give you something to look forward to. Even if it is just a tv show or a game. You can have family and friends but in the darkest moments and the quietest moments, it feels very lonely regardless. I hope everybody keeps fighting the good fight. Its not easy but life can still surprise you with good things.

    • @fruitloop1241
      @fruitloop1241 2 года назад +1

      You just also wrote about my life! We will get thru this x

    • @JodyBeard-rp2fl
      @JodyBeard-rp2fl Год назад +1

      If anyone feels that lonely just remember GOD put you on this earth for a reason and he has plan for everybody so when get that feeling just talk to GOD he listening to you and he feels you with his love for you and just remember that you have a family that loves and need you and keep your head up better days are bound to come around

  • @pooh8688
    @pooh8688 6 лет назад +217

    Depression is a big reason people commit suicide. Don't judge someone who's feeling suicidal, because, that could be what pushes them to end it. You know that they have to have been feeling desperate for quite some time. Sometimes You don't realize that suicide is a permanent solution to what may be a temporary problem. You just quit caring. A lot of people don't understand how You could even think about taking your own life. When things get so bad and seems to get worse daily then it feels like the only way to end the constant pain. You should talk to them if you've noticed changes. Sometimes, someone to listen with OUT judging, and a shoulder to lean and cry on, if necessary ,is what they need. Really hear what they are telling you. Let them know You love an care for them. That they matter to You. When You get that far down it feels like no one cares. You begin to think that everybody would be happier if you were no longer around. Until You've walked in their shoes You don't know what somebody else is going through. You just never know what is going to send them to their breaking point. If You notice a change in them, care enough to address it or go to someone who will. Keep what they tell you in confidence. The last thing they want is for there issues to be out in the public. Offer to go with them to get help. If they start isolating themselves more than usual,giving away things they normally wouldn't, sleeping too much or too little, talking about ways to end their life. These are some of the signs of suicidal people. There are many ways to help someone who's struggling with mental health issues. Just be a friend and be supportive. Most importantly, don't judge or shame them for having these feelings. Everybody handles stress and life's circumstances differently. Just be a friend.

    • @brandonwade5912
      @brandonwade5912 6 лет назад +1

      Mary Baker very true stuff there

    • @BrianSmith-nw3pp
      @BrianSmith-nw3pp 6 лет назад +1

      I dont think people judge the ones who do this. They judge those who attempt it cause they want attentuon cause they are narcissistic and not hurting.

    • @brittanyw8091
      @brittanyw8091 6 лет назад

      I needed to hear this. This is nothing but the truth!

    • @timc4876
      @timc4876 6 лет назад +1

      Mary Baker very true because I’ve been there

    • @iknowarmy5952
      @iknowarmy5952 6 лет назад

      Agreeded

  • @sarastrickland9522
    @sarastrickland9522 3 года назад +59

    Every time I hear this song it's a reflection of my life, I have wanted to end the pain and heartache that is in my life but I stop and think about all the people who I would leave behind that would be hurt, yes I feel empty but I have GOD to stand beside me and God has pulled me out of the depression and he makes me see that I am worth everything because I am his child.

    • @gracestevenson8078
      @gracestevenson8078 2 года назад +1

      My children & God have kept me here. Sometimes this life feels like hell so the last thing want is to go to hell for eternity! Or putting the "Why wasn't I enough to keep her here"?!

    • @gracestevenson8078
      @gracestevenson8078 2 года назад

      In my child's or friend's head.

    • @estherstrauch6725
      @estherstrauch6725 2 года назад +2

      God will always be there with you every minute of every day. Keep the Faith.

    • @charliemanning4296
      @charliemanning4296 2 года назад +2

      It might not seem like it but you have friends that you don't know.remember you are worthy to people that you don't know.

    • @tonytravis5624
      @tonytravis5624 Год назад

      Could not have said it better Sara! I am exactly where you just described! God Bless You young lady!

  • @robinrobertson7655
    @robinrobertson7655 7 лет назад +18

    I suffer from depression and ptsd even with the meds some days the pain is so great.i cant get out of bed i found a poor kitten. Who needed a lot of help.i don’t know who saved who.but with him by my side. I see some hope.he is my guardian angel.

  • @VirginiaShockley-ir2zs
    @VirginiaShockley-ir2zs Год назад +6

    It's a lonely place to live inside yourself, I live it everyday

  • @lisaperry4095
    @lisaperry4095 5 лет назад +18

    When you've spent your life feeling unwanted, unloved and that no one cares it's really easy to think life just isn't worth it.

  • @heatheraycock9868
    @heatheraycock9868 2 года назад +32

    What would happen to my children when I'm gone is the only reason I'm still here 🥺😢

    • @BrandonDickenson35
      @BrandonDickenson35 7 месяцев назад

      How ya doing nowadays?

    • @heatheraycock9868
      @heatheraycock9868 7 месяцев назад

      ​@BrandonDickenson35 I honestly don't know. I have no one to talk to but my kids. Atleast I have them though. Thank you for asking I really appreciate it.

    • @jessicavasquez4535
      @jessicavasquez4535 6 месяцев назад

      Believe that you are loved. I don’t know you but I’ll hurt if you decide that life isn’t worth living.

    • @Jerushareddy7
      @Jerushareddy7 6 месяцев назад

      I have the exact thought 😢

    • @DanaSpace-m6d
      @DanaSpace-m6d 3 месяца назад

      I get that. The only reason I'm still here is my kids

  • @Dustinfightsdemons
    @Dustinfightsdemons 3 года назад +324

    I always made everyone laugh and everyone always thought I was the happiest so nobody asked if I was ok.. I used it as a defense mechanism because I was broken inside.. I was taught not to show weakness so I turned everything into a joke. It wasn't until Robbin Williams died that I realized what he said was true. "I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that"

    • @patriciabuttram5545
      @patriciabuttram5545 3 года назад +9

      Dustin I'm so sorry baby

    • @Dustinfightsdemons
      @Dustinfightsdemons 3 года назад +8

      @@patriciabuttram5545 I'm ok now. But thank you ❤ I just had to switch my lifestyle up 😂

    • @nickkenmill8364
      @nickkenmill8364 3 года назад +4

      Dustin 💜 I know your story too well..

    • @irabull9611
      @irabull9611 3 года назад +3

      I'm in the same boat. But just haven't realized y I am like this.

    • @Dustinfightsdemons
      @Dustinfightsdemons 3 года назад

      @@irabull9611 I had a low self esteem and it was easy to make friends if you were funny.. also if you can make a girl laugh then your more likely to win their heart. Maybe you need some counseling to figure out your inner demons. It helped me

  • @amandas6375
    @amandas6375 Год назад +14

    2023 still listening. bawling my eyes out 😢

    • @drakehonest9
      @drakehonest9 Год назад

      Hey how are you doing doing today today?

    • @Yelawolfofficials
      @Yelawolfofficials 8 месяцев назад

      This song hit so differently, it speaks directly to my heart ❤️ and I can't help it so it's on repeat all day lol. Where are you from beautiful?

  • @tanyarigney8593
    @tanyarigney8593 3 года назад +161

    It’s easy to get that lonely when everyone acts like they don’t care …I listen to this song a lot

    • @dawnd0nyou791
      @dawnd0nyou791 3 года назад +4

      @Tanya rigney *Hugs you! I hope you're okay.

    • @mikepiersanti3744
      @mikepiersanti3744 3 года назад +1

      It should remind us all that going through what may seem easy will be detrimental to those that may no understand how we felt. It most likely will hurt them to feel blindsided. It is a domino effect. Generations forsaken.

    • @tanyarigney8593
      @tanyarigney8593 3 года назад +1

      I’m ok just been down a lot I lost my husband of 27 years in 2019 then my 27 year old son on my birthday last year one year anniversary is coming up on October 12th

    • @ameen8750
      @ameen8750 3 года назад +1

      ❤️

    • @t00cliche4me3
      @t00cliche4me3 2 года назад +1

      @@tanyarigney8593 I'm so sorry for your losses. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I hope you never get that lonely. The God that made the mountains and the northern lights didn't think that nature was enough. He felt that the world needed one of you too. Not only that, but that same God thought that your life was so precious that you were worth dying for. I hope that gives you an idea of how important you are to Him. You'll be in my prayers❤

  • @stitcho7563
    @stitcho7563 5 лет назад +72

    This hits me on so many levels. I know that loneliness like an old friend. I fight with it almost every day.

    • @tkvimsavage1886
      @tkvimsavage1886 5 лет назад +2

      I think that loneliness is my only true friend... In a room filled with loved ones I am alone....

    • @ronniegatling2013
      @ronniegatling2013 5 лет назад +2

      @@tkvimsavage1886 wow sometimes that's true you alright ?

    • @ronniegatling2013
      @ronniegatling2013 5 лет назад +1

      True hey u alright ? May godbless u

    • @tkvimsavage1886
      @tkvimsavage1886 5 лет назад

      @@ronniegatling2013 yeah I'm ok... Thanks!! It just that everyone I have ever said I love you to has in return said I hate you... Loneliness always welcomes us sure does appreciate my company it seems..

    • @ronniegatling2013
      @ronniegatling2013 5 лет назад +1

      @@tkvimsavage1886 it doesn't make a difference but r u saying a girl p
      Or simply everyone r u being specific ? Damn bro I'm sorry to hear that the world is sad I just wish we could all love each other as brother's an sisters of course we got major stepping Stones to come even 1percent closer unless a group stand up together idk I Invision a much different world like still diff but I prefer a slower paced world it's just too fast for its own good ya know bro anyways may godbless u an have a great day stay up hommie not literally just keep ya head up bro all I know stay strong.

  • @goprocowgirl6446
    @goprocowgirl6446 7 лет назад +124

    To be lonely, is the worst pain that can possibly be inflicted on a human being.

    • @Neworleans4617
      @Neworleans4617 7 лет назад +2

      selah strand you are not alone! Call or text me, day/night. 318-278-0015

    • @wendycrouder5790
      @wendycrouder5790 6 лет назад +4

      I know exactly what you mean. When people say they are always there for you yet no one is ever around. Being rejected and alone is so hard to endure. Life is hard and this world is cruel but sometimes enough is enough and you just can't take no more loneliness.

    • @xaviermateo3149
      @xaviermateo3149 6 лет назад

      Selah Strand hjkiu

    • @christinatopics2031
      @christinatopics2031 6 лет назад +1

      GoPro Cowgirl i totally agree.

    • @bldlightpainting
      @bldlightpainting 6 лет назад +2

      "Are you feeling lonely, depressed, or suicidal? There is hope - there is relief of pain - you are loved and would be missed - this too shall pass. Talk with someone who cares. Call me, I'll listen." -Jesus

  • @Dallas-Nyberg
    @Dallas-Nyberg 29 дней назад

    A truly powerful and heartbreaking song. Over the years, I have had two friends die by their own hands. It leaves you in constant sorrow.

  • @randymartin2551
    @randymartin2551 3 года назад +12

    I cry everyday the feeling never goes away the tears fall as I write this one day I will meet my twin brother in heaven

    • @r37l36
      @r37l36 2 года назад

      As a twin myself I’d like to say I’m so sorry for you loss. I’m sure the pain is unbearable at times. Your brother would want you to find happiness and live your best life. You will meet him again with lots of amazing stories to share.
      I wish I could take my own advice sometimes. Some days are much harder than others.

  • @WalterBlackmon-zo2hl
    @WalterBlackmon-zo2hl Год назад +36

    One thing is certain; no one gives a damn, until a person is dead. Then, all the sudden, everyone cares, write songs, cry, even cook good food, and eat. Even though, just a few hours before, nobody looked your way, nobody listened to music with you, nobody talked to you, or said anything about God, nobody offered any food, nothing. In another few hours, everyone will go right back to not giving a damn, and in less than six months no one will remember your name. That's how you get that lonely

    • @amandaa.6545
      @amandaa.6545 2 месяца назад +3

      God cares Walter, and God knows your name, knows you and will never forget you. He loves you and is with you even if you can't feel Him. His love is unconditional and will hold you even when others hurt and let you down. Please turn to Him. He knows the pain and He has the tender healing....it may come slowly. May God bless you.

    • @braceletmakers4091
      @braceletmakers4091 2 месяца назад

      Wrong so fucking wrong I was always there for my son 5 years later I'm still suffering with my loss of his life so what you ar3 saying is so fuking pish. It's the feeling off thinking that you are no good for anybody. That you are a failure to everybody to every part off your life and that every1 will be better off without you as I have felt so many times since the loss of my 1st born my son that I loved all my life and was there for all of his

    • @LoveShaysloco
      @LoveShaysloco 2 месяца назад

      ​@@amandaa.6545I don't know for the only light in my life (my love and unborn twins). Where taken from me 12 years 9 months 22 days 18 hours ago and I still have the hurt. Everyone at my former church were you should of died insted of them (her parents always hated me. Wanted her to be a house wife. But I just told her fallow her heart for she wanted to be an er doc). When she passed her parents lied to everyone to where they dammed me to hell for years till they got blue in the face and I showed them a copy of the police report of. I tried to avoid the drunk driver I ignored my broken bones cuts burns just to get her to safety my refusal to be treated till she was out of the woods. There face realization of we were bad mouthing him and he was putting her 100% first just made them double down since it's im right your wrong. But this is from God fearing holyer the holy people

    • @jamisoncrawford7878
      @jamisoncrawford7878 2 месяца назад

      It never goes back to normal. I lost my brother in 2020.

    • @carol7149
      @carol7149 Месяц назад

      So true!!!

  • @deekeener8387
    @deekeener8387 6 лет назад +41

    May He put his loving arms around you and comfort you. You are loved 💗

  • @tammyr9492
    @tammyr9492 4 года назад +27

    its been 28 years since my BFF took his life in front of me. I can't hear this song with out tears

  • @joedanvers1010
    @joedanvers1010 2 месяца назад +4

    At the end of the day, the fact is that as low as you've ever felt, as depressed as you've ever been, as hopeless as you've been... they're much more low, depressed and hopeless. We can't rationalize it, because we've never been there.

  • @michaelhoward6442
    @michaelhoward6442 5 лет назад +42

    I go through depression everyday this song helps

    • @vf12497439
      @vf12497439 5 лет назад +1

      I've dealt with depression. I nearly lost myself to drugs. At my lowest point I had no friends to turn to. It's funny how people will say if you need me I'll be there. But when your in need the last thing you want to do is to bother someone with something you dont want to share. My advise to anyone suffering is to make change. Quit the dope, leave the life partner. Move to a new town. Take a new job, start a new hobby. Anything to pull out of that rut. If you think that someone might consider a final solution, then packing up and moving isnt really as huge in comparison. It takes work, it takes effort. But learning to avoid negative thoughts and looking at the positives can really help. Surround yourself with genuine people. Even if they feel a little uncomfortable, their positive presence may help lift the mood. Or make you want a 6 pack alone? Lol I hope something I said could help.

  • @michael3597
    @michael3597 7 лет назад +32

    It's so easy for people who have never been suicidal to stand there and say that taking your own life is a selfish thing to do, etc etc. But when you are that lonely and empty, the only thing you can think about is finding a way out of that dark place

    • @zombie777stream8
      @zombie777stream8 7 лет назад +2

      Rogue spear1919 you are correct. People who havent been there have no ability to relate but I will tell you first hand I did die not that I tried and I can tell you now life is so worth living. 210 702 1555 if I can be there to lend an ear or share some knowledge.

    • @samanthamanley4624
      @samanthamanley4624 6 лет назад +1

      Rogue spear1919 its. So easyforpeopleto turn there backs on u

    • @amandakelly6989
      @amandakelly6989 6 лет назад +1

      I've been there so many time you can be in a room screaming and know one hears you asking God to be there while kneeing and fighting to get up while and asking him to take you

    • @christinatopics2031
      @christinatopics2031 6 лет назад +1

      Rogue spear1919 depression is a real thing people say ots easy to reach out but when your depressed you feel your a burden. #depressionisreal

    • @danielcasson8547
      @danielcasson8547 6 лет назад +1

      Rogue spear1919
      I've been to rock bottom a while ago and now am there again its like better not being here its so hard to to this properly all I keep doing is listening to suicidal song and tried it a few time but always fail xx

  • @joekickass7521
    @joekickass7521 3 года назад +191

    “ Just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today: You matter. You’re important. You’re loved. And your presence on this earth makes a difference, whether you see it or not.“

    • @richardchristman7053
      @richardchristman7053 2 года назад +3

      It doesn't feel like it

    • @lorireed8046
      @lorireed8046 2 года назад +2

      @Truth Decentralization Sadly no one can bring me back. God left me, took my twin sister. I can't anymore. I need her so. I WISH I was suicidal. I wish I had that in me ... instead I'm weak and continue on without her. I cry daily and drink. How TF am I supposed to go on without her !!!!!

    • @nicholassmith7295
      @nicholassmith7295 2 года назад

      My mind is winning and I don't know how to stop.it

    • @jodyyork3821
      @jodyyork3821 2 года назад +1

      Stop lying to ppl . I'm disabled in a wheelchair and can't even get to a grocery store for food so I'm starving ppl don't give a shit aboitvme so why should I

    • @jodyyork3821
      @jodyyork3821 2 года назад +1

      @Truth Decentralization if God was alpha and omega then why did he allow the things to be done to me as a child and why did he let my child be killed the only reason I even exist was my son and your God let him be murdered . So if he's alpha and omega then he just doesn't care or else he's not all powerful

  • @JamesOwens-qv1bi
    @JamesOwens-qv1bi Год назад +3

    What a beautiful song making me cry listening nobody knows what’s going on in a person’s head. Lost several good friends let women take them down I never saw it coming. Wish we had of talked about it. Loneliness is a silent killer just like depression and heart attacks. Great job son beautiful voice what a song.

  • @larrymayer5617
    @larrymayer5617 6 лет назад +265

    I'm tired of being alone
    I'm tired of the pain
    I'm tired of being lost
    I'm tired of failing
    I'm tired of having nothing

    • @autumnnoel6533
      @autumnnoel6533 6 лет назад +6

      I know how its feels 😢💔💔

    • @anthonypoignon4318
      @anthonypoignon4318 6 лет назад +10

      If you need a friend I text, don't have tongue due to cancer so can5 actually talk let me know if you truly n3ed or want friend

    • @Desi1992
      @Desi1992 6 лет назад +4

      Aww your not alone if you want to talk talk to me.

    • @catherinefeuer7642
      @catherinefeuer7642 5 лет назад +4

      I'm so sorry you feel like this i have and it is not fun but my faith in God helped me through and my friends helped me to. Stay strong.

    • @silentfades
      @silentfades 5 лет назад +3

      @Dusty Mumpower I am sorry for the pain you have man. Maybe you could get someone to talk to you. Perhaps besides your son there folks are not worth the pain they give you. Your worth more - value and honor Dusty

  • @Jayfeather32657
    @Jayfeather32657 10 лет назад +16

    its really sad to listen to a song like this, because its actually very easy to get that lonely, and its all too often that nobody knows...

  • @anm5638
    @anm5638 6 лет назад +7

    In loving memory of Chris, 13 is way too young to make this kind of call. Miss you everyday, RIP baby.

  • @DannyBiondi
    @DannyBiondi 11 месяцев назад +1

    I've never been so emotional about a song, it brings back so many dark memories and moments in my life. As so many people have said, it's not always about being lonely it's almost never about just being lonely,it is so very much more!!
    Emptiness and you just get overwhelmed with so many things the everyday fight n when fight so hard and yet you still get no place you lose with no place to go, you get boxed in or backed into a corner that you can't get put of or away from you no place to run or anything.

  • @SqwuRTZnPerKss
    @SqwuRTZnPerKss 3 года назад +30

    “How do you hurt that bad” the sad thing is some of us don’t know and that’s what hurts the most....😔

    • @marivelramirez3868
      @marivelramirez3868 3 года назад

      "Misery loves company" is what I have heard and try to understand when I believe ALL LIVES MATTER. I asked myself how and why Life could and is called misery, when I believe the chance at Life to be born is the only LUXURY I need. Misery is a feeling that holds emotions and ties memories to. Emotional abuse is the worst kind of abuse for that reason I believe. Because every time a memory comes to mind the emotions are felt like it's brand new and the feelings are shown in your actions. Whether self affliction or by others that is the misery in your character that becomes apart of you. It's a company others don't want to deal so eventually a person is left alone to deal with their loneliness alone. The thing is it's the growing outcome carried as negative weight and to see the positive side of situations becomes harder.

  • @dustinguthrie7456
    @dustinguthrie7456 8 лет назад +16

    5 years ... still relatable as hell ...

  • @pamelaroark4510
    @pamelaroark4510 7 лет назад +32

    In Memory of my Son Michael Anthony Haas. And all others who lost their battle with depression and addiction💧

    • @theresaholmes5687
      @theresaholmes5687 6 лет назад

      Pamela Haas i lost my son at 20. my heart bleeds for u.i blame myself every day

    • @joyjames7279
      @joyjames7279 6 лет назад

      so sorry for your Lost of your son🙏💜

    • @1211jinx
      @1211jinx 6 лет назад

      So sorry for your loss..🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @iknowarmy5952
      @iknowarmy5952 6 лет назад

      Too jeff

  • @JacksonHosler
    @JacksonHosler 5 месяцев назад +2

    Im 15, been clean from SH for about 2 months but today...i just wanna visit my uncle... I..miss him like crazy and im so lost without him... Currently this song is saving my life..

    • @scottallen9462
      @scottallen9462 4 месяца назад +1

      Jackson, keep fighting and I know these are just words but I lost my best friend from suicide and my parents in a 15 month period. Been where your at and even tried to join them. I was lucky enough to not be successful . I wouldn't have the kids I have now. Keep trying.

    • @JacksonHosler
      @JacksonHosler 4 месяца назад

      @@scottallen9462 I'm trying.. it's so hard though..I miss him like crazy..

    • @JacksonHosler
      @JacksonHosler 4 месяца назад

      I'm trying. Believe me I'm trying so hard. I just wanna see him..

    • @JacksonHosler
      @JacksonHosler 4 месяца назад

      ​@@scottallen9462ok...I'm trying..

  • @stoshew1308
    @stoshew1308 5 лет назад +16

    I cried the first time I heard this song.. This is one of the best songs ever written. Blain has an amazing voice for a guy his age. Wish he did more music. He is real country.. God bless you Blain.

  • @Anonymous-ji4sb
    @Anonymous-ji4sb 3 года назад +12

    The hardest part about being an educator, is dealing with this. I live in the suburbs of Portland. Oregon is one of the higher rates of suicide and after 18 years, It’s happened a lot more times then I care to admit. The biggest problem is, most people don’t show signs of depression when around others so we can’t help them overcome what they are struggling with. It’s so sad.

    • @kayteeoconnell2469
      @kayteeoconnell2469 3 года назад

      We are very good at hiding the pain. At least in my case, I told my parents and close friends. I’m still fighting for each day, and most people still don’t take take it seriously. 🤷‍♀️ Pretty sure that most people would still express disbelief is one day I fail in my struggle, despite how open I am about it. Everybody knows. No one does anything about it,

  • @kennethbrace2321
    @kennethbrace2321 7 лет назад +13

    I can say suffering from depression and other illnesses i know how it feels to be lonely and feel that way......

  • @tammyallison9812
    @tammyallison9812 3 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for being a voice for the children who have been and going through this now. may Jesus bless you and use this special song !