He pissed me off so badly he wants to suck the life outa her ... he says he wants her to “step up” like wtf dude ... pull yourself together and be the man- he is too demanding , like waaaaay too exaggerating it
@@alyssag.5758 you're right tbh. they've been together 9 years unmarried and she wants to be married after such a long time. she wants marriage/a ring for the bragging aspect of it. the guy probably got used to how things were and was fine with that. why fix something if it isn't broken? feel she may have pressured him into marriage a bit but you can't do that with men. they just need counseling
“I just want her to step up” She does all the cooking and cleaning, takes care of the kids, goes to school, helps with the business, and she does all of that with Lupus, a very very serious illness! There is no up to step! 🙄
9 years? A man shouldn’t have to tell you that he thinks you’re not good enough more than once. Dump his ass; immediately. Don’t waste another minute on him. He’s going to keep making excuse. Plenty of real men be more than happy to step up and give you their last name.
Maybe she does think of him as a prize. Nothings wrong with that. She knows how to treat a man that's why she has one. You act like you dont know how to keep one.
This woman is apparently unaware that in his mind she is an employee not a partner. She wants a husband and a life partner he wants a housekeeper and a bookkeeper.
He’s going to continue to waste her time. He’s coming up with every excuse in the book. After 9 years you know if you want to marry someone or not. She’s a beautiful fool.
Everyone wants to make it about the specific woman in these situations. But much of the time it’s just the environment we’re in. It’s just not favorable to men today, and often it’s actually injurious to them. So many are staying out of it. I can’t say I blame them.
Facts . Women always come up with all types of excuses to why THEIR MAN won’t marry them. It’s always he’s immature, he wants to hoe around , he doesn’t want to settle down , and so much other nonsense. Trust me when a man finds the one ☝🏾 there won’t be no wait he gon put a ring on it .
Dude wants all the benefits. He wants Barbara the builder. He also needs to hire employees. She is not even upset about doing all of this house work and doing all the caregiving. He is full of crap. He is a big jerk. Don't do wife duties at girlfriend prices.
Childoflight Lamb doubt it. Marriage after sharing a house and kids is just more legally beneficial at that point and for financial and medical reasons.
@@janellec.2416 Thats why one should not have kids or buy property together until they are legally married first. Doing those things first is a classic case of putting tje cart before the horse as whats typical yet backwards in today society.
He ain’t scared of commitment. He has a business, which is a big ass commitment. Nah he just doesn’t want to marry her. She’s a business partner with benefits.
Moral of the story: Don't build a life with a man before he's made a real commitment to you. I never understand how someone will happily combine DNA with someone but can't get married, you always can get divorced the child is here forever.
@@arshae21 because she's been with him for 9 years, he's supportive, he's a good dad, ambitious and an all round "good guy" so that has blinded her!! She's in her head like, that's my baby... She's emotionally invested but she shouldn't have to "beg" after 9 YEARS!!! When she's already functioning as his wife! Smh Sad!
👏👏👏Judge went in and told no lies!!! I have learned so much from her over the years. Women are too submissive to boyfriends. "Never do wife duties at girlfriend prices", best quote ever.
No matter how often it's said women will still act like a wife to a boyfriend. The beauty of being single is you handle your own responsibilities and money. If they do get married it may not work. Men know early in a relationship if they want to marry you.
@@shortydowop5002 : Most Women i know, don't want to be submissive. I think Men see that and instead of confronting that issue, they choose to not go all the way. Now in this case he should Marry her. He is full excuses, but he doesn't want to fail providing for his family.
She’s a beautiful lady, and I feel like someone with a good heart does things out of love because it’s just in their nature. HE is the one who needs to step his game up and meet/surpass what she’s been giving. The same way he said she’s never satisfied with things he tries to help with around the house sounded exactly like her saying he’s never satisfied with the things she helps with in their business lol
This was by far one of the best divorce court episodes I've seen. I absolutely adore the judge! This couple is adorable. I really hope that things work out for them. Dude, go ahead and marry that woman. She is a keeper and she is gorgeous.
Everybody knows women withdraw the sex shortly after marriage, so the culpability is on both sides here. In many case as long as a woman is looking for that ring she’ll keep him happy sexually. But as soon as the nuptial newness wears off, the sex is over. It’s a truth that’s as old as the hills unfortunately.
Ashley Randell I can’t believe he’s doing this to her.. gosh these men nowadays... I will never...stay in no relationship that long without a ring... he plays to much .. he wants his business secure first and like you said another woman would benefit from it.. b. Smith and her narcissistic slimey disgusting pos so call husband.
My mother passed from lupus 😔. I pray she moves on her health is so important and he doesn’t care. She needs love and care in every way. Stay strong 💪🏾 hun 💜💜💜💜
@Kitty Red Exactly, she should go to school full time, work full time and take care of their baby full time taking into consideration that she's sick. He ain't nothing, he just full of crap.
I told my sister in the faith this.."no matter how good looking you are...a child and a nice body wont make a man love you"..she laughed at me...ima forward this video to her right now
I wish a man would have the nerve to offer me a promise ring. I would say "oh I'm sorry, I thought you were a grown up. There's clearly been misunderstanding because I don't date teenagers."
One more thing, when someone do not want to marry you, do not give them an ultimatum or threat to leave. Just leave.Don't force someone to want you, want the best for you add relief to you life. Exit . and do not allow them to be in your head , no communication. Just give them their alone life without you.-
exactly when you do that thats when they want you more most of the time but after all that i dont want you on to the next..play stupid games get stupid prizes
@@tryp_da_ghost not even a bit. Shes given years and her body to that man. She went into a business with him, she raised his children. The least he could fucking do is put a fucking ring on it. Fuck off.
I have learned alot from judge toler. I honestly wish there were more women in my life that actually taught me what it meant when ppl say “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”. I had an idea of what it meant but she truly is a God fearing woman and book smart and street smart from the Black woman’s perspective and her guidance is needed for many more women and young ladies such as myself.
Don't beg him to marry you...... Sis you share a business together Share a home together You have 2 children together He's controlling But he doesn't want to marry you???? Sis this is god giving you a chance to run
He can commit to a child but not to marriage? I'm sorry, that's a big red flag. If you're not sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with me, then why are we together? He has all of the excuses in the book, he dont want to marry you sis. She is a young and beautiful woman, he is stringing her along with the promise of marriage because he knows that is what she wants however, he doesn't want to be married to her. They make a beautiful couple though.
She's the only half of the couple that's beautiful. He's not cute. She wasted so many years with this self-admitted "broke man", all those kids of his, and all his other b.s. Women have to be more selective.
I think he won’t marry her because he wants all that money or whatever money he’s getting from their business. He keeps bringing the money, the business, and her spending or money habits up so much. It sounds like he keeps saying those things and beating around the bush.
@@jesterarts734 You hit it on the head! He sees some of that potential for her to slack up after he marries her and he doesnt want to experience that. He's vested because he loves her but trusting she will maintain is different.
This is now my favorite episode! I fell out laughing at the ending! She did her best! She worked hard for that sister! 🤣 I hope they are still happy and healthy. Merry Christmas 🎄
She’s literally doing everything a wife does and asking why she’s not getting proposed to. If u already doing wifey things then he doesn’t see the point of marriage
He doesn't want to get married. People can be so insensitive. If you don't care enough about her to marry her, don't lie to her as you make up these silly excuses. She deserves to feel wanted and valued. Everybody deserves that.
This lady’s life mirrors mine. I’m a student, wife, mom and I run a daycare as well as an event planning business and I do it all with chronic complications from diabetes. I love him but I gets NO help from my husband. I do homework, cook and wash dishes EVERY night with swollen feet and blurt vision... SHE needs to be the one reconsidering because it doesn’t get any better after the ring!
She is so beautiful and so is her smile. She really does deserve someone better. She shouldn't be trying to convince him to marry her, that's not healthy.
Nigga either got marriage fright or he just ain't through running and gunning either way she need to fix her mind to start looking beyond his colorblind no dressing ass!!!!
@@ddnquestion1 agreed. But I do think he was using it as a way to change her since she wanted to the ring so badly. He came up with so many excuses as to why he couldn't do this, according to her he first said that when the business starts succeeding they would get married and then other excuses started rolling in (e.g. more involved in the business and so on). I think he was just stringing her along and trying to change her to a woman that he wants by dangling the idea of a ring, of a future together, infront of her. He knew how much she wanted this. He is the type of person that wants things a certain way, he is a control freak and that probably played a role into all of this. Maybe I'm wrong but thats the impression I got.
This woman is so beautiful And hard working, her smile is very infectious! Only good thing about this case is that there was no talk of cheating or social media! I think they can make it!
He has NO intention of marrying her. I damn sure wouldn't have waited 9 years. He already HAS EVERYTHING ELSE from you. Move on sis, you should see this .
I wouldn’t have dedicated 9 years of my life to someone if I knew I wanted to get married and he couldn’t commit. He’s not looking for a wife. He wants her as a secretary.
Dude, stop your whining about trivial stuff. You have what so many of us men want. Secure your union before someone else does because once she's gone, she's gone forever.
I didn't like him. He didn't want to marry her. He came up with all these excuses about money and her health. But now, they have a wedding scheduled soon. Hmmmm, I don't trust that he would be a good husband.
Damn, she beautiful. Lupus ain't got no power over in making that smile or face tired. Her smile lights up a room! This brotha supports this message: put a ring on that my dude 👍🏾
She did this backwards. Did he said she need to be financially stable. In Marriage money is one union of a marriage. She goes to school and she has to study, she mostly parenting, she does help. Child please.
He's barely average looking, almost 40 with 4 kids ans multiple baby mamas and an ex-wife and no money. Wtf he still looking for? She played herself with this one.
Jadrian Garner he doesn’t want to get married bc he already made a mistake of marrying someone he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life with and doesn’t want to do that again .
Omg! I'm in love with this couple. I hope everything works out beautifully for them. They seem happy together despite the marital status...heads on their shoulders, committed, seem to have great senses of humour. Good luck guys.🙂🍀
Been through that very thing, except my ex husband wouldn't have kids with me. I would meet every criteria he laid out and he kept changing the criteria. That's narcissistic on his part. He's dangling marriage in front of her, and when she gets close enough to get it, he yanks it away, then gives every excuse as to why they can't get married...and that financial one is an excuse that narcissists always use. When they come up with excuse after excuse that doesn't make sense, what he's really saying is: he don't wanna marry you.
Sweet Sweet Joy that’s exactly what I said he is a narcissist... full of shit... I have been there too, I wasted two years with one it was pure hell...all he kept saying was she she... and his business.... it’s all about him... he don’t care nothing about her... my God she needs to run and take care of herself and kids...
There was a case on divorce court where the couple got married. They eventually had to get a divorce because with them being married, she lost her social security (I believe she too had lupus). There are plenty of people who ends up having to get a divorce because of the medical condition of their spouse. Now for this guy...he’s just looking for all kinds of reasons not to marry her. Even though he might be legit worried about healthcare, it seems like he’s more traumatized by his previous divorce and isn’t trying to go through that again. And he should leave that woman alone! She’s doing all she can while being sick and he doesn’t seem empathetic to her situation! Stop trying to be this bad ass entrepreneur and be an understanding partner first.
This is what happens when a man can get the milk for free without buying the cow . I'm not judging because this can happen to any woman - but we have to do better imo
Judge Toler, You are one hell of a sister. I can call you that cause you are. Everything you said makes sense to me. You could see the light come on with him. Well done.
Why doesn't he just tell her the truth? He's coming up with every excuse. I don't understand why guys are afraid of "hurting" women with honesty, but not at all afraid of hurting them by actually committing the actions that hurt them. The lie hurts, they don't seem to get that.
He never gave one solid reason for not marrying her which means even though he has no reason not to, he's still not going to. She's invested enough time. She should just cut her losses.
He fulla shit..and if you telling ME you don't want to marry me bcuz I'm gonna become a FINANCIAL LIABILITY due to MY HEALTH..You are not the one. Tells me you really don't care about me or MY HEALTH..
I feel so sorry for her... She has done everything she could to be his wife, including giving him a legacy... She is wasting her life fighting for him...
Dude, this lady is a full time student, housewife, and mother with lupus. What else do you expect from her?????
@DowardWashington its lady, not ladie
He's getting the milk so why buy the cow? She already goes above and beyond for him.
If she doesn't stop him she will have a breakdown
He pissed me off so badly he wants to suck the life outa her ... he says he wants her to “step up” like wtf dude ... pull yourself together and be the man- he is too demanding , like waaaaay too exaggerating it
@@alyssag.5758 you're right tbh. they've been together 9 years unmarried and she wants to be married after such a long time. she wants marriage/a ring for the bragging aspect of it. the guy probably got used to how things were and was fine with that. why fix something if it isn't broken? feel she may have pressured him into marriage a bit but you can't do that with men. they just need counseling
“I just want her to step up”
She does all the cooking and cleaning, takes care of the kids, goes to school, helps with the business, and she does all of that with Lupus, a very very serious illness! There is no up to step! 🙄
yup
She SHOULD NOT HAVE TO BEG!! PERIOD CASE CLOSED.
Facts sis
Period
The perks is the business,then once they get married she'll have half of that,her first instinct is her survival,like most women.
Because must women is like a child them want this them want that but when them get it them don't want it anymore.
9 years? A man shouldn’t have to tell you that he thinks you’re not good enough more than once. Dump his ass; immediately. Don’t waste another minute on him. He’s going to keep making excuse. Plenty of real men be more than happy to step up and give you their last name.
Why do I feel like this lady is being assessed like this man is the prize? From where I'm standing he doesn't deserve her and he's coming up short.
Exactly!!!
💯 he yapping & beating around the bush with all them excuses!! Anybody that can do you like that & string her along, is somebody she should run from!!
Maybe she does think of him as a prize. Nothings wrong with that. She knows how to treat a man that's why she has one. You act like you dont know how to keep one.
Because she's running HIM down for ring, not the other way around.
Her smile lights up her entire face. She is truly beautiful.
Yes she is. She deserves so much more and is such a great catch. She needs to lose him and flourish.
Yes, and she has a really good personality!
Very beautiful
Isnt she?!? I'm glad it wasnt just me I think shes adorable 😍😍😍😍
@Regina Patrice : Let me ask you a question, Why do Women put the pressure on Men to Marry them?
This woman is apparently unaware that in his mind she is an employee not a partner. She wants a husband and a life partner he wants a housekeeper and a bookkeeper.
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That’s not true. A lot was out on for the show. Their relationship is amazing
@@mississippifatcat79 umm read the comments everyone agrees he's using her he's a fucking jerk and she needs to leave she's too good for his ass
After watching the whole video i realized this comment is the only one which totally NAILED IT!!!!
@@mississippifatcat79 Did they get married?
He’s going to continue to waste her time. He’s coming up with every excuse in the book. After 9 years you know if you want to marry someone or not. She’s a beautiful fool.
Very well said
More like a fool for love
Everyone wants to make it about the specific woman in these situations. But much of the time it’s just the environment we’re in. It’s just not favorable to men today, and often it’s actually injurious to them. So many are staying out of it. I can’t say I blame them.
What book is that n what’s the title of this book ? Lol
iamnicole303 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
His ass need to be honest, he just doesn't won't to get married.
That he does not want to get married to her.
She doesn't wanna give up that man and all he comes with.
I pretty sure he made it clear to her ,that he never planned to get married again
He should have had a timeline before making babies.
#manplease
He doesn't wanna marry her, let a woman that he "loves" comes along he would marry her in the blink of an eye
True she not the 1 he holding out for the 1.
Girl you need repost this again!
Facts . Women always come up with all types of excuses to why THEIR MAN won’t marry them. It’s always he’s immature, he wants to hoe around , he doesn’t want to settle down , and so much other nonsense. Trust me when a man finds the one ☝🏾 there won’t be no wait he gon put a ring on it .
He obviously dont think she deserves him.
I think he loves her, but is afraid of holding the bag if she ever gets to sick to care for herself
It’s mind boggling how ppl can justify having babies, buying property, having businesses together, but they’re not ready for marriage smh.
Dude wants all the benefits. He wants Barbara the builder. He also needs to hire employees. She is not even upset about doing all of this house work and doing all the caregiving. He is full of crap. He is a big jerk. Don't do wife duties at girlfriend prices.
We could've all saved 20 min if he had just said, "I'm scared of commitment!"
Yeah, sucks he won't be honest.
More like hes afraid of the unjust marriage system
Childoflight Lamb doubt it. Marriage after sharing a house and kids is just more legally beneficial at that point and for financial and medical reasons.
@@janellec.2416 Thats why one should not have kids or buy property together until they are legally married first. Doing those things first is a classic case of putting tje cart before the horse as whats typical yet backwards in today society.
He ain’t scared of commitment. He has a business, which is a big ass commitment. Nah he just doesn’t want to marry her. She’s a business partner with benefits.
Moral of the story: Don't build a life with a man before he's made a real commitment to you. I never understand how someone will happily combine DNA with someone but can't get married, you always can get divorced the child is here forever.
This man doesn't want to marry her. She should never beg or bargain with it . He is an emotional dusty.
It's so sad that she can't see that she is too good for him. Why does she want to marry him. He doesn't deserve her.
😂😂😂
He dont want to marry her just to many excuses
@@arshae21 because she's been with him for 9 years, he's supportive, he's a good dad, ambitious and an all round "good guy" so that has blinded her!! She's in her head like, that's my baby... She's emotionally invested but she shouldn't have to "beg" after 9 YEARS!!! When she's already functioning as his wife! Smh Sad!
@@shalanathomas7751 Sigh, you right. So sad.
She’s so pretty, she resembles Erykah Badu, she can do way better
Jazs your beautiful
If this dude doesn't stop talking about that damn business
Ha!
Right Lmaoo
For real 😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly! Not talking about the relationship talking about the business.
😂😂😂😂
Ladies, Judge Toler says at 15:35 "Never do wife duties at girlfriend prices!". This is the Tolerism of Tolerisms.
She's beautiful and deserves better than excuses.
JanJan FC she deserves whatever she tolerates.
She’s beautiful but she is culpable for staying. A 6 year promise ring is unacceptable
@@rons.6683
Fact
Jazzy Jeff Real Talk Aren’t promise rings for Senior Prom?
Ron S. Lol they for dudes to string a girl along lets be honest. Real dudes wait til they ready then get an engagement ring
Judge hit the nail on the head. She been doing all that and he’s still not ready to commit. 🙄
👏👏👏Judge went in and told no lies!!! I have learned so much from her over the years. Women are too submissive to boyfriends. "Never do wife duties at girlfriend prices", best quote ever.
No matter how often it's said women will still act like a wife to a boyfriend. The beauty of being single is you handle your own responsibilities and money. If they do get married it may not work. Men know early in a relationship if they want to marry you.
@@lauvonfr9222 very true!!!
Lauvon Fr Agree‼️‼️‼️
@@shortydowop5002 : Most Women i know, don't want to be submissive. I think Men see that and instead of confronting that issue, they choose to not go all the way. Now in this case he should Marry her. He is full excuses, but he doesn't want to fail providing for his family.
Blurred lines now a days though because people dont know the difference and jump in and out of relationships like changing draws
She’s a beautiful lady, and I feel like someone with a good heart does things out of love because it’s just in their nature. HE is the one who needs to step his game up and meet/surpass what she’s been giving. The same way he said she’s never satisfied with things he tries to help with around the house sounded exactly like her saying he’s never satisfied with the things she helps with in their business lol
Never make someone tell you they don't want you more then once. Perfect example.
This was by far one of the best divorce court episodes I've seen. I absolutely adore the judge! This couple is adorable. I really hope that things work out for them. Dude, go ahead and marry that woman. She is a keeper and she is gorgeous.
A basic example of “why buy the cow when the milk is free”...
Felicia Hepburn 🗣🗣🗣 facts!
Everybody knows women withdraw the sex shortly after marriage, so the culpability is on both sides here. In many case as long as a woman is looking for that ring she’ll keep him happy sexually. But as soon as the nuptial newness wears off, the sex is over. It’s a truth that’s as old as the hills unfortunately.
@@rayhend100
Facts
And at that moment the man realized that the milk's gone bad
Elaborate please?
Emilia Carr 🤔 elaborate on what? Buying the cow or the milk being free...
If they end up getting marry is because she forced him not because he loves her.🤷🏽♀️
Getting married, not getting marry
He's all about her helping with the business only.
He's the type of dude that would string her along leave her then marry a new chic within a month of knowing her 😒. Sis he just don't want to marry you
Ashley Randell I can’t believe he’s doing this to her.. gosh these men nowadays... I will never...stay in no relationship that long without a ring... he plays to much .. he wants his business secure first and like you said another woman would benefit from it.. b. Smith and her narcissistic slimey disgusting pos so call husband.
My brother is not that type of man. Their relationship is strong. Sometimes people put 100 on 10 for the cameras
True. Lamar Odom had several kids with his baby mama. Then married Khloe after a month.
mississippifatcat79 so,
Why doesn’t he want to marry
Her?
Swoop. They are getting married. Sometimes you gotta put on to make a great show
Yeah she’s so pretty. He takes her for granted. She’s given toooo much, for little return.
If I had a dollar for every time he said business ...... 🤦🏾♀️
Nyasha Mukonda that’s all he cares about.. he wants his business secure.. then leave her
😂😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾😭
My mother passed from lupus 😔. I pray she moves on her health is so important and he doesn’t care. She needs love and care in every way. Stay strong 💪🏾 hun 💜💜💜💜
You can tell he doesn't want to be married.
He don't want to get married.
@@idellboykin8149 no she has Lupus,going to school full time, working and taking care of the children but it's not enough smdh!
He aint nobody.
To her.
@Kitty Red Exactly, she should go to school full time, work full time and take care of their baby full time taking into consideration that she's sick. He ain't nothing, he just full of crap.
@@meirarosendahl9019 you're right!!!
I told my sister in the faith this.."no matter how good looking you are...a child and a nice body wont make a man love you"..she laughed at me...ima forward this video to her right now
she is too damn old for a promise ring obviously he doesn’t wanna be married
I wish a man would have the nerve to offer me a promise ring. I would say "oh I'm sorry, I thought you were a grown up. There's clearly been misunderstanding because I don't date teenagers."
Women accept anything...if you are a adult women ain't no way you accept a promise ring. 🤦🏾♀️
Men are just catching on to the marriage hustle.
@@arshae21 Just what are you going to do? You dare a man lol...worst case scenarios you walk away, he still going to live and be ok.
@@zionakinjide650 and so will I; case closed. There's no need to hang on.
I just ABSOLUTELY LOVE ❤🧡💜 JUDGE LYNN TOLER...she did her best!!! In the lady's favor.
One more thing, when someone do not want to marry you, do not give them an ultimatum or threat to leave. Just leave.Don't force someone to want you, want the best for you add relief to you life. Exit . and do not allow them to be in your head , no communication. Just give them their alone life without you.-
Bingo!!!! 💯
exactly when you do that thats when they want you more most of the time but after all that i dont want you on to the next..play stupid games get stupid prizes
You said that well! It's the truth!!
Amen.....Amen.....Amennnn!!!
All of this!
Its refreshing to see episodes like this every so often, I truly believe they will work out and Judge Toler set it straight!
Rule number one ☝️ never beg a Man for a RING period!
So true. He's not the one for you.
Judge Lynn read TF outta him. I enjoyed this episode.
Excuses excuses excuses he doesn't wanna be married period
PERIODT!!!
Dayumm..for another Man to say this whoa👍
Why you trying to lock him down??
Hell, until you consider yourself the Prize, you will always have this mentality.
He doesn’t want to marry u. Move on and co parent.
So simple minded
@@tryp_da_ghost not even a bit. Shes given years and her body to that man. She went into a business with him, she raised his children. The least he could fucking do is put a fucking ring on it. Fuck off.
@Misogyny Man rushes???? 9 years and committed to the max is rushing???? You sound stupid 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
She is a natural beauty and her smile can light up a room! I hope he gives her what she deserves.
I hate the promise ring stuff.
Me Too 😭😭😭If you can do a promise ring then you can do an engagement ring, its ridiculous and immature
@@TheNAUGHTYNOOK2 me too i hate it from inner part of me
Don't fall for it.
LOLA G. Right...like are they teenagers? It’s ridiculous.
Adults talking about “promise ring”, but having a whole baby is cool. 🙄🙄🙄
I have learned alot from judge toler. I honestly wish there were more women in my life that actually taught me what it meant when ppl say “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”. I had an idea of what it meant but she truly is a God fearing woman and book smart and street smart from the Black woman’s perspective and her guidance is needed for many more women and young ladies such as myself.
Don't beg him to marry you......
Sis you share a business together
Share a home together
You have 2 children together
He's controlling
But he doesn't want to marry you????
Sis this is god giving you a chance to run
lol
They have 1 child together, he has 3 other children that aren’t hers
Honeysuckles In winter
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One of my favorites Judge Lynn! I love what you said to him.
He can commit to a child but not to marriage? I'm sorry, that's a big red flag. If you're not sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with me, then why are we together?
He has all of the excuses in the book, he dont want to marry you sis.
She is a young and beautiful woman, he is stringing her along with the promise of marriage because he knows that is what she wants however, he doesn't want to be married to her.
They make a beautiful couple though.
She's the only half of the couple that's beautiful. He's not cute. She wasted so many years with this self-admitted "broke man", all those kids of his, and all his other b.s. Women have to be more selective.
AMEN!! You hit the nail on the HEAD.
I think he won’t marry her because he wants all that money or whatever money he’s getting from their business. He keeps bringing the money, the business, and her spending or money habits up so much. It sounds like he keeps saying those things and beating around the bush.
@@jesterarts734 You hit it on the head! He sees some of that potential for her to slack up after he marries her and he doesnt want to experience that. He's vested because he loves her but trusting she will maintain is different.
RealBlessed Factz
This is now my favorite episode! I fell out laughing at the ending! She did her best! She worked hard for that sister! 🤣 I hope they are still happy and healthy. Merry Christmas 🎄
She’s literally doing everything a wife does and asking why she’s not getting proposed to. If u already doing wifey things then he doesn’t see the point of marriage
So don't make him marry her if he doesn't want to.
Makes sense in some cases. She has to see the signs.
Bingo‼️
This was the best ending by the judge. She gives wonderful advice to both of them.
He doesn't want to get married. People can be so insensitive. If you don't care enough about her to marry her, don't lie to her as you make up these silly excuses. She deserves to feel wanted and valued. Everybody deserves that.
This lady’s life mirrors mine. I’m a student, wife, mom and I run a daycare as well as an event planning business and I do it all with chronic complications from diabetes. I love him but I gets NO help from my husband. I do homework, cook and wash dishes EVERY night with swollen feet and blurt vision... SHE needs to be the one reconsidering because it doesn’t get any better after the ring!
She is gorgeous.. She could rock the shit out of a short hair cut..
You're gorgeous too btw
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@@tenacious1 (Just seeing this) Thank you❤.
@@patriciaampiire6919 What's funny🤔?
@@INDIGO.GODDESS_573 you randomly said she could rock a short hair cut. Lol
After nine years and all those excuses, this dude don't want to marry her.
He maybe into the child but he's not into you...step up sister..he's not ready for commitment.
If the judge had to instruct my husband to marry me. That's the end of that relationship.
He doesn’t want to marry you. Let it go sis. Your beautiful and smart.
Don’t let ur self get installed as an appliance..Judge Lynn Toler. Words to live by😊
She is so beautiful and so is her smile. She really does deserve someone better. She shouldn't be trying to convince him to marry her, that's not healthy.
Nigga either got marriage fright or he just ain't through running and gunning either way she need to fix her mind to start looking beyond his colorblind no dressing ass!!!!
@@ddnquestion1 agreed. But I do think he was using it as a way to change her since she wanted to the ring so badly. He came up with so many excuses as to why he couldn't do this, according to her he first said that when the business starts succeeding they would get married and then other excuses started rolling in (e.g. more involved in the business and so on). I think he was just stringing her along and trying to change her to a woman that he wants by dangling the idea of a ring, of a future together, infront of her. He knew how much she wanted this. He is the type of person that wants things a certain way, he is a control freak and that probably played a role into all of this. Maybe I'm wrong but thats the impression I got.
That’s my brother. You all don’t know the whole story. People put on for the cameras
@@mississippifatcat79 of course we don't know the whole story but convincing a man to marry you is unhealthy. A woman should never do that.
This woman is so beautiful
And hard working, her smile is very infectious! Only good thing about this case is that there was no talk of cheating or social media! I think they can make it!
He has NO intention of marrying her. I damn sure wouldn't have waited 9 years. He already HAS EVERYTHING ELSE from you. Move on sis, you should see this .
I wouldn’t have dedicated 9 years of my life to someone if I knew I wanted to get married and he couldn’t commit. He’s not looking for a wife. He wants her as a secretary.
Dude, stop your whining about trivial stuff. You have what so many of us men want. Secure your union before someone else does because once she's gone, she's gone forever.
Judge, you're 1000% right with this one!
I didn't like him. He didn't want to marry her. He came up with all these excuses about money and her health. But now, they have a wedding scheduled soon. Hmmmm, I don't trust that he would be a good husband.
Coffeladee 💯💯💯
Women are informed from the beginning about men and the relationship. But, we keep going. And than we say marry me please
Yup. Even if they walk down the aisle marriage about to be trash.
Trust me when a person or man does not marry you. It was not meant to be.
They won't marry & I'd bet on it. He'll make yet another excuse.
Damn, she beautiful. Lupus ain't got no power over in making that smile or face tired. Her smile lights up a room! This brotha supports this message: put a ring on that my dude 👍🏾
What A TRIFLING BROTHER!! START STEPPING SISTER.
He doesn’t want to marry her period. She’s beautiful and deserves so much better
Girl, he doesn’t want to marry you. At this point she is begging and looking really pathetic.
Said the same damn thing! After 9 years...like..girl leave
plus she can do wayyy better
She's good for everything she is doing and has done. Also she is sick. " Damn Give Her Something!" Well said Judge Toler.
She made it too easy.
Yes she did,
3 minutes in and I'm already not buying his BS!
Sis, he doesn't want to marry you.
She did this backwards. Did he said she need to be financially stable. In Marriage money is one union of a marriage. She goes to school and she has to study, she mostly parenting, she does help. Child please.
Yes
Did he said...woo child
You should never have to beg a man to marry you or need to give him an ultimatum!
I think he don't want to commit.... action of "still looking"..
Ceceb24 C Yes!
He's barely average looking, almost 40 with 4 kids ans multiple baby mamas and an ex-wife and no money. Wtf he still looking for? She played herself with this one.
Yup she helped him become a businessman so now he wants a business women for a wife not her. Such a shame she's very sweet and beautiful.
“Why wait to get married?” Because he is getting everything without being married! POINT BLANK!
This man just don’t wanna marry her, his reasons doesn’t even make any sense smh 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Liline Love he scared to get married since his first marriage failed
Jadrian Garner he doesn’t want to get married bc he already made a mistake of marrying someone he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life with and doesn’t want to do that again .
Jadrian Garner yup and I wouldn’t even been entertaining him. I would of just assumed he didn’t want to get married since he already been married
Omg! I'm in love with this couple. I hope everything works out beautifully for them. They seem happy together despite the marital status...heads on their shoulders, committed, seem to have great senses of humour. Good luck guys.🙂🍀
Been through that very thing, except my ex husband wouldn't have kids with me. I would meet every criteria he laid out and he kept changing the criteria. That's narcissistic on his part. He's dangling marriage in front of her, and when she gets close enough to get it, he yanks it away, then gives every excuse as to why they can't get married...and that financial one is an excuse that narcissists always use.
When they come up with excuse after excuse that doesn't make sense, what he's really saying is: he don't wanna marry you.
Sweet Sweet Joy that’s exactly what I said he is a narcissist... full of shit... I have been there too, I wasted two years with one it was pure hell...all he kept saying was she she... and his business.... it’s all about him... he don’t care nothing about her... my God she needs to run and take care of herself and kids...
She should’ve watched Aggretsuko season 2. The minute Tadano said marriage wasn’t his thing Retsuko bounced.
I love that episode
There was a case on divorce court where the couple got married. They eventually had to get a divorce because with them being married, she lost her social security (I believe she too had lupus).
There are plenty of people who ends up having to get a divorce because of the medical condition of their spouse.
Now for this guy...he’s just looking for all kinds of reasons not to marry her. Even though he might be legit worried about healthcare, it seems like he’s more traumatized by his previous divorce and isn’t trying to go through that again.
And he should leave that woman alone! She’s doing all she can while being sick and he doesn’t seem empathetic to her situation! Stop trying to be this bad ass entrepreneur and be an understanding partner first.
latayla 👌👌👌
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I'm so confused.. Not from usa but why would someone have to divorce cause of medical condition?
@@happyguy2k thats what I’m wondering too
You don't lose your Social Security because you get married.
She has a job, is a student, is a wife, a mom, has lupus, and he says she has to help him more with his business too...he is sucking her energy....
I'm 41 Single without Kids....I'm having trouble finding a Wife....So if you got a good Woman you need to hold on to her #Brooklyn
Facts
Some men don't know when they got gold.
This is what happens when a man can get the milk for free without buying the cow . I'm not judging because this can happen to any woman - but we have to do better imo
Judge Toler,
You are one hell of a sister. I can call you that cause you are. Everything you said makes sense to me. You could see the light come on with him. Well done.
This lady is family oriented and this guy will lose her. I think she has a generous heart.
Judge Toller you are on point!
Why should a woman beg and fuss. for a man to marry her Leave him he is an obstacle your future is destined to be brighter
This woman is so gorgeous 👑
Why doesn't he just tell her the truth? He's coming up with every excuse. I don't understand why guys are afraid of "hurting" women with honesty, but not at all afraid of hurting them by actually committing the actions that hurt them. The lie hurts, they don't seem to get that.
Honestly he is lucky she wants him she’s the prize
Ladies, please stop letting these dudes get all the 🥛 for free without having to buy the 🐄
Moo
I love this episode. Especially, when Judge Lynn said she did her best. She a real one.
I am looking forward to seeing this episode of Divorce Court. Happy Thanksgiving Judge Lynn Toler
I have never heard her say damn before ... she meant that
Why get married if your getting husband benifits already
Because if HE DIES, HIS FAMILY CAN TAKE EVERYTHING THEY BUILT TOGETHER!
Right!!
what benefits she’s working like a horse for someone average boy when she’s pretty enough to have an established man who can provide without her help
@@themoonbleu627 I said husband benifits not wife benifits. He is benefiting from it that's why he is not marrying her
@@submissiveproviderstboth9485 that's my point smh are yal not getting what I'm saying. I'm saying that's why he is not marrying her
He never gave one solid reason for not marrying her which means even though he has no reason not to, he's still not going to. She's invested enough time. She should just cut her losses.
He fulla shit..and if you telling ME you don't want to marry me bcuz I'm gonna become a FINANCIAL LIABILITY due to MY HEALTH..You are not the one. Tells me you really don't care about me or MY HEALTH..
Sickness And Health!!!!Ookkk
Crystal Kimble 💯
He sounds like he has unrealistic expectations. I wonder if he even loves her.
Exactly.. you can tell she’s trying
She is so pretty. Great smile and spirit.
I feel so sorry for her... She has done everything she could to be his wife, including giving him a legacy... She is wasting her life fighting for him...