Mahalia - Letter To Ur Ex

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  • Опубликовано: 28 окт 2024

Комментарии • 924

  • @Afrodisiac21
    @Afrodisiac21 2 года назад +1482

    She’s so underrated she keeps delivering all these bops consistently! This girl is pure talent and a dope song writer

    • @gopolangjohannaramokhopa8386
      @gopolangjohannaramokhopa8386 2 года назад +7

      All the time🙌

    • @BruhBella.
      @BruhBella. 2 года назад

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    • @PhoEnix-ef8fh
      @PhoEnix-ef8fh 2 года назад +1

      Well said !

    • @paigeyxo
      @paigeyxo 2 года назад +6

      She WILL blow ❤

    • @abiolaolayinka2023
      @abiolaolayinka2023 2 года назад +10

      Is she underrated tho? She's growing popularity and she's evolved as an artist. It's been an amazing ride.

  • @aaa_tuna
    @aaa_tuna 5 месяцев назад +57

    one of my favourite song

  • @stereoheartsrnb
    @stereoheartsrnb 2 года назад +531

    Mahalia got me in my feelings again

    • @JJ-qj3ed
      @JJ-qj3ed 2 года назад

      Same 😊

    • @Solofears
      @Solofears 2 года назад +3

      She does this all the time😭😭😭

    • @BruhBella.
      @BruhBella. 2 года назад

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    • @BruhBella.
      @BruhBella. 2 года назад

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    • @empressme8681
      @empressme8681 2 года назад

      Right… it’s been a good 12:1 run… I’m trying to be 12:00 this next run round the center star fr

  • @greengrapes7810
    @greengrapes7810 2 года назад +503

    Love the message of the song. When the ex of the person you’re currently in a relationship with won’t move on, and is causing problems in your relationship. Feltttt. Really hurts because he still keeps her close and doesn’t set the proper boundaries.
    Edit : wow I just listened to the ep and my perspective has changed so much, love you Mahalia❤️

    • @alexandrajulean5620
      @alexandrajulean5620 2 года назад +2

      It does

    • @nickyroseroshini
      @nickyroseroshini 2 года назад +15

      OHHHH, I thought she was talking to a friend/best friend in the song and telling her to stop texting her own ex back, and that they had a fight over it because she's continuously told her that she deserves better than running back to her ex etc!! I can see both versions tbh, how cool 🥰

    • @freepapuatv9268
      @freepapuatv9268 2 года назад

      watch DEFINITION OF THE nWORD ruclips.net/video/P-KqzThaG28/видео.html.

    • @freepapuatv9268
      @freepapuatv9268 2 года назад

      watch DEFINITION OF THE nWORD ruclips.net/video/P-KqzThaG28/видео.html.

    • @cedarave3168
      @cedarave3168 2 года назад +22

      She’s talking to herself, it’s like checking yourself. Self control

  • @samsonfaasuamalie2846
    @samsonfaasuamalie2846 2 года назад +507

    She’s ahead of her time. 20 years from now there will be a lot of young women who will be going through a break up and this track alone will somehow ease their pain and lift them up. There’s power in music…and her music is impacting to a lot of ppl. This is coming from a father with 3 daughter’s. 💯 now I’m going to clean my house to this track on repeat 😂🕺🏼🎧🎶

    • @trollympus
      @trollympus 2 года назад +1

      20 years from now! I don't think that will be the case. It's a pop song bruh, albeit, a sweet one. Chill

    • @thebabbler8867
      @thebabbler8867 2 года назад +1

      This song is toxic trash.

  • @favorroyalty8544
    @favorroyalty8544 2 года назад +76

    Wow. This is absolutely amazing. I've always heard songs about the side chick's perspective, and the main chick's perspective. But this. This is a completely different story. Instead of talking negative on the girl because she's "after her man", she's actually speaking some knowledge into her. Fulfilling her with the advice she so desperately needs. No shame, no beef, no immaturity. Just straight consulting honestly. Good job, Mahalia! This is now one of my favorites by you!

  • @thelyricshub5292
    @thelyricshub5292 2 года назад +233

    I love your style of songwriting Mahalia and this instrumental is beautiful.

  • @Hebihime30
    @Hebihime30 2 года назад +193

    [Verse]
    Last night, you sent a text to him
    Made us have a fight, made a mess of it
    I know you're his ex, but you can't do that anymore
    Close the door for me
    And you don't owe nothing to me
    You think you know all about me, huh?
    You've never been me, but I've been you, girl
    I've had my heart broken, too, girl
    Many times before, yeah
    I've done it all, I've seen it all through
    I didn't eat, I didn't sleep, too
    Oh, my God, all my memories
    Waitin' for the right caller ID
    So, yeah, I get it
    That don't mean I'm gonna always be forgivin'
    There comes a timе when you gotta let my love start
    And I can only do that whеn you stop
    [Chorus]
    With the drama, drama, drama, drama
    I don't wanna sound like a bitch, no, I don't wanna
    If you carry on like this, you gon' get your karma
    Take it from a girl who's already been through the trauma
    Please stop with the textin', callin', showin' up
    I think you know what you’re doin' and it ain't showin' love
    Stop now, baby, it's drivin' me crazy, please
    You ain't got no drama with me, no
    [Outro]
    Drama, drama, drama, drama
    If you carry on like this, you gon' get your karma
    Please stop with the textin', callin', showin' up
    I think you know what you’re doin' and it ain't showin' love
    Stop now, baby, it's drivin' me crazy, please
    You ain't got no drama with me

  • @Jacquelinetalks
    @Jacquelinetalks 2 года назад +240

    Initially, I thought she was talking to someone else in this song, now I think she's talking to herself. Like her higher self talking to her lower self. Took it a level deeper for me :O

    • @fishnspaghetti1830
      @fishnspaghetti1830 2 года назад +16

      nah....She literally mentions "caller id" and a "text" from ol girl

    • @NishaLarein
      @NishaLarein 2 года назад +4

      That is actually a very interesting take as well!!

    • @josephingleson4530
      @josephingleson4530 2 года назад +1

      That’s what’s I thought as well 🤔

    • @its.jayrose
      @its.jayrose 2 года назад +2

      @@fishnspaghetti1830 (im lowkey late but who gaf) i think she is…u should watch the video again 🤷🏾‍♂️ and her “part 2” of the song

    • @Therealrejiane
      @Therealrejiane 2 года назад +1

      This is what i took from it too

  • @katewalter8861
    @katewalter8861 2 года назад +353

    When it ended I was left sitting there like noooo I want more! Always more Mahalia 😍♥️ that end look was 😮‍💨🔥

    • @lighteningsnips
      @lighteningsnips 2 года назад +1

      I don't understand the ending....is she the ex or something?

    • @katewalter8861
      @katewalter8861 2 года назад +1

      @@lighteningsnips that’s what I understood yeah!

  • @pebblesstone1316
    @pebblesstone1316 2 года назад +32

    I appreciate this song from her. So many young ladies need this.

  • @RM-lj8bv
    @RM-lj8bv 2 года назад +63

    She always has great singles.

  • @realtuts
    @realtuts 2 года назад +116

    The worst part was when it ended.
    Damn gurl, hope u get even more fame u deserve, love u so much. 💕

  • @junie7592
    @junie7592 2 года назад +287

    ITS GIVING WHEN BREAK UPS TURN YOU INTO A BAD BITCH

    • @henriettalaban
      @henriettalaban 2 года назад +20

      my girl thats not the point of the song though 😭

    • @cedarave3168
      @cedarave3168 2 года назад +5

      @@henriettalaban trust me they don’t listen 😂 let her believe that 😂😂

    • @why2slay
      @why2slay 2 года назад

      @@cedarave3168 lol the song isn't about being a bad bitch

    • @junie7592
      @junie7592 2 года назад +1

      @@cedarave3168 Stopppp DONT DO MEEEE😭

    • @junie7592
      @junie7592 2 года назад +2

      @@henriettalaban I was talking about the vibe not the meaning or lyrics obviously

  • @naiiago9414
    @naiiago9414 2 года назад +140

    It's like an extension of the song He's Mine, I love it!

    • @CheilaFNaife
      @CheilaFNaife 2 года назад +4

      Same came to mind 🥺

    • @ALKVBIR
      @ALKVBIR 2 года назад +2

      Exactly what I thought 😩

    • @BruhBella.
      @BruhBella. 2 года назад

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    • @BruhBella.
      @BruhBella. 2 года назад

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    • @ThembelihleMakamu
      @ThembelihleMakamu 2 года назад +1

      I was actually thinking that as well

  • @AnaMaria-lv3ov
    @AnaMaria-lv3ov 2 года назад +32

    I feel like I'm a part of the Mahalia cinematic universe and I love it. Mahalia girl, u have a God given talent!

  • @shaunske2568
    @shaunske2568 2 года назад +35

    ive never even been in a relationship but your music seems to convey the feelings of heartbreak well and it keeps me listening

    • @garrettzin
      @garrettzin 2 года назад

      O TANTO QUE EU TO VICIADO NESSA MÚSICA NAO TA ESCRITO!!!!

    • @natoshagraham7086
      @natoshagraham7086 2 года назад

      It will happen 💕💕💕

  • @soya4855
    @soya4855 3 месяца назад +1

    Ahead of her time is an understatement Mahalia is a lyrical genius

  • @donnie_tsu9ami
    @donnie_tsu9ami 2 года назад +18

    This is definitely the nice version of "Oh, you're mad? That's fine, just know that he's mine" 😩🙌🏾 IYKYK 👏🏾

  • @stellalei9
    @stellalei9 2 года назад +32

    Been waiting for this since September 15, 2021. So excited to finally be able to hear it!

  • @kluivworld7632
    @kluivworld7632 2 года назад +40

    I feel alive when i play Mahalia’s music

  • @HaiiPeeps
    @HaiiPeeps 2 года назад +17

    I’ve been obsessed with your music for the past month or two and now you dropped another banger!! Pls keep it coming

  • @RobertJPyron8354
    @RobertJPyron8354 2 года назад +28

    Mahalia go in soo hard on this right here, straight up BANGER! He aint like all them other trappers out there who just be usin that *AUTHENTICVIEWS* jawnt to glow up and get they hits up.. SMH

  • @gracedarealbarb
    @gracedarealbarb 2 года назад +18

    This song popped up as a RUclips ad and I was tempted to skip it, but I was like let me hear it first, so I did, and now I'm adding this song to my playlist. I love her voice; she sounds like Ella Mai and H.E.R. The lyrics are so touching and get me all up in my feelings. I'll most definitely check Mahalia out ❤❤❤❤

    • @cococort
      @cococort 2 года назад +2

      Sameeeeeee it took me 20 minutes to find it I was going insane bc I was driving at the time and I didn’t see the intro 😭 so I didn’t have any idea who made the song. Google saved the day tho 🙏🏽

  • @1jsaid647
    @1jsaid647 2 года назад +6

    Dude she’s so good her voice :333

  • @Katana_3648
    @Katana_3648 2 года назад +10

    My queen back with another hit song. Also, she looks drop dead gorgeous in this vid

  • @cindyclarke5190
    @cindyclarke5190 2 года назад +3

    Every song you put out becomes my new favorite.

  • @francisco7998
    @francisco7998 Год назад +1

    She is so talented, someone who brings into to the lyrics & the Story with that raw talented voice. Someone who can make a person feel all those emotions second to second, Word to Word all in a couple minutes.

  • @missg3824
    @missg3824 2 года назад +6

    Ah man, I wish this song was longer😭The instrumental and lyrics are just👌🤌

  • @thulasngwenya3471
    @thulasngwenya3471 2 года назад +4

    She's flawless, very underrated

  • @arktre5944
    @arktre5944 2 года назад +3

    Mahalia always knows how to write a good message and story

  • @daniellevictoria4204
    @daniellevictoria4204 2 года назад +1

    Underrated this woman is amazing ❤️

  • @LUNGILE71
    @LUNGILE71 2 года назад +6

    PLEASE........We need an extended version of this song Mahalia😢😢😢.

  • @monikajagieo580
    @monikajagieo580 2 года назад +6

    I love this rythym and choice of words

  • @chelseamahon3337
    @chelseamahon3337 2 года назад +4

    This girl never misses y’all 🦋 much love to you Mahalia 💙

  • @uvyhtybhhhhhuhhjjjjj
    @uvyhtybhhhhhuhhjjjjj 2 года назад +1

    It's the honesty and rawness in the lyrics for me. Keep bringing it Mahalia!!!

  • @Nothingbutgreatness_
    @Nothingbutgreatness_ 2 года назад +3

    Such a musical genius

  • @parriecampbell2274
    @parriecampbell2274 2 года назад +2

    She's actually everything... Her voice is so soothing.. I love it... Headphones in the dark she's a while vibe. Defo my fave female artist 💕💕

  • @Vishal-yi5ff
    @Vishal-yi5ff 2 года назад +5

    I want a long version of this masterpiece..❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @edilsonlanguelo1443
    @edilsonlanguelo1443 2 года назад +1

    Always you to make me feel alive. Love you from MOZ 🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿

  • @bt_on_a_beat
    @bt_on_a_beat 2 года назад +7

    This song is too short 😭😭 only if it was longer but love it 😮‍💨🤝

  • @user-cw8sj3mq3z
    @user-cw8sj3mq3z 2 года назад +1

    Omg I’m happy I discovered this

  • @Allexii3110
    @Allexii3110 2 года назад +14

    Adds to playlist without hearing the first lyric 😭 I love your songs! Never disappoints ❤❤

  • @Mathyouwhat
    @Mathyouwhat 2 года назад +1

    The way she can tell a story and project a vision is so unique. You are everything Mahalia ❤

  • @alyshakilpatrick1738
    @alyshakilpatrick1738 2 года назад +6

    Please put this on Amazon Music... I wanna listen to it on loop no ads

  • @queenv4340
    @queenv4340 2 года назад +1

    She's underrated fr

  • @cuteypie111
    @cuteypie111 2 года назад +8

    LOVEEEE IT!!! the delivery and message is everything❤

  • @kilo_xswervesx318
    @kilo_xswervesx318 2 года назад +1

    Bruh this artist is highly underrated like she is really good and talented

  • @dieselclockwork
    @dieselclockwork 2 года назад +14

    Mahalia is underrated as fuck. I don’t make too much r&b music myself but I have a great appreciation for the genre and a desire to experiment with it more. Seeing artists like Mahalia raise the genre to the next level with her natural talent is very impressive. Glad I came across her music sooner than later. : )

  • @bernadettesison5979
    @bernadettesison5979 2 года назад +1

    I love how the rhythm and the soothing instrument are put together. Love the lyrics felt that vibe.

  • @mariabooski
    @mariabooski 2 года назад +49

    MAHALIA was the most hours watched on my yearly RUclips hours overview

  • @gigibeal
    @gigibeal 10 месяцев назад +1

    watching this after letter to your next is sooo crazy omg, i love the two mvs are connected

  • @Jaysalm465
    @Jaysalm465 2 года назад +4

    A beautifully executed masterpiece. Nothing felt like it overstayed its welcome. Excellently produced and masterfully put together. An overall beautiful piece of art

  • @jakarlamcclain1248
    @jakarlamcclain1248 2 года назад +1

    Real shit💯

  • @ambrag2cute358
    @ambrag2cute358 2 года назад +44

    🔥 them soul ties be having you crazy… now you need to do a part two for the moments your man be calling her saying he still wants her in his life as friends 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @alexandrajulean5620
      @alexandrajulean5620 2 года назад +2

      Unfortunately people don't think of other's feelings, they keep coming back for pity "change" as long as they are aloud to be let in. Too many to count...

  • @swaggerguru
    @swaggerguru 2 года назад +1

    Smooth R&B 🔥🚀

  • @chris4383
    @chris4383 2 года назад +7

    What a voice! Brings chills. Has that Erykah Badu type distinct style about it. Oh and the song? Beautiful as always from Mahalia.

  • @AlisonDing
    @AlisonDing 2 года назад +2

    I don't know how I just saw this music video but the lyrics literally made me cry, being someone who has gone through a lot of heartbreak and following my worst tendencies/toxic mindset in the past to actually trying to be more mature about a toxic relationship, every lyric just hit different.

  • @kewwensilva8796
    @kewwensilva8796 2 года назад +68

    ENTREGANDO TUDO O QUE A GENTE PEDIU MAMÃE TE AMO

  • @prodbydmaterialz
    @prodbydmaterialz 4 месяца назад +1

    producer of this song deserves applause 🖤

    • @ladyashcakez9597
      @ladyashcakez9597 4 месяца назад +1

      this song is so me on both sides......its fire!!!!

  • @daniiromero0895
    @daniiromero0895 2 года назад +5

    I love so much your voice Mahalia ♡ the beat it's great!

  • @sagejackson1072
    @sagejackson1072 2 года назад +1

    MAHALIA! Every hit is a hit but, been listening since the jump! This is the summer anthem. This is the one, my whole heart feels this

  • @msn6048
    @msn6048 2 года назад +41

    This was so good ... THEN IT WAS DONE 🥺😭😭 I WANT MORE MAHALIA ❤️💜.
    Here's me thinking there's more when she walks away.... Nope. TEASER this is!!

  • @fifilalo4405
    @fifilalo4405 2 года назад +1

    She just delivers perfectly

  • @SamKabiru
    @SamKabiru 2 года назад +3

    This song hits 🔥🔥🇰🇪

  • @Solofears
    @Solofears 2 года назад +2

    Mahalia is extremely talented and pure.🤌🏽👑I just love how all her songs are relatable in its own type of way🙌🏼

  • @rrkivexx
    @rrkivexx 2 года назад +3

    gorgeous track

  • @idowuoluwagbenga9139
    @idowuoluwagbenga9139 2 года назад +1

    crazy 🔥 I love this very much Mahalia...love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

  • @elisa1915
    @elisa1915 2 года назад +7

    i love all your music so much mahalia! you're my favorite artist. keep doing you :) letter to ur ex is on repeat already

  • @Risse3223
    @Risse3223 2 года назад +1

    Ugh. I wish this was longer!!!! I LOVE it. She literally can do no wrong!

  • @suellemsousar
    @suellemsousar 2 года назад +5

    Melhor descoberta que eu fiz em 2022!
    Mahalia Maravilhosa !!!!

  • @musiimenoeline2130
    @musiimenoeline2130 10 месяцев назад +1

    This song gives me serious chillsssssss

  • @samizzile4583
    @samizzile4583 2 года назад +12

    Been here since Sober & never looking back😂💕😵‍💫

  • @paltro8977
    @paltro8977 2 года назад

    the lighting in this video OMG

  • @sudeepsharma1710
    @sudeepsharma1710 2 года назад +3

    Great Song.. Lovely voice.. 👌❤🧡💚😍😍

  • @mickaelseys2021
    @mickaelseys2021 2 года назад +2

    Don’t know how, but you always know how to speak straight to my heart??

  • @mairalamim6378
    @mairalamim6378 2 года назад +9

    Essa mulher é PERFEITA 😍😍😍😍

  • @funkyhouse71
    @funkyhouse71 2 года назад +1

    She always sings from the heart. Love her lyrics. 🔥💥💕

  • @FernandaOliveira-wd6oj
    @FernandaOliveira-wd6oj 2 года назад +10

    Música linda, amo seu trabalho 🇧🇷🥰

  • @nenepch
    @nenepch 2 года назад +2

    Damnnnn love it i wish this song were longer

  • @chichimxsic
    @chichimxsic 2 года назад +8

    This was amazing! Love the concept & the lyrics. So raw, honest and pure. Well done girl 💜

  • @numanumantis5462
    @numanumantis5462 2 года назад +2

    I really needed to hear this song right now. Thanks.

  • @BigmommaTalks
    @BigmommaTalks 2 года назад +4

    I swear she be singing my life

  • @christichristi5481
    @christichristi5481 2 года назад +2

    Never heard a song with this message ❤️

  • @FansyDollas
    @FansyDollas 2 года назад +3

    Amazing song! I’m lowkey glad I can’t relate. When he chose up I spoke to her and wished her the best. Changed my number and ain’t looked back since 😘

    • @BristolBerg
      @BristolBerg 2 года назад

      That is a leveled up strength and self awareness. Top 1%

  • @brownwne
    @brownwne 2 года назад +1

    Mahalia is such a treat. Can't wait for the next album.

  • @oliviaeeeee729
    @oliviaeeeee729 2 года назад +4

    this song quite literally made me realize just how down bad i was over my ex because word for fucking word everything she was saying applied. its literally as if the person my ex was dealing with was talking to me and whats crazy is i didn’t even know this was apart of an EP. it’s been a good 2-3 months and I finally listened to the rest and Lord- Mahalia truly has a gift. Idk how or why she’s still so slept on because she really truly GETS IT. chills.

  • @ilianaterki5871
    @ilianaterki5871 2 года назад +1

    She’s so consistent and talented I love her😭❤️

  • @imaaniirons
    @imaaniirons 2 года назад +3

    This is soo good🔥🔥❤️ adds to playlist.

  • @joshuamartinpryce8424
    @joshuamartinpryce8424 2 года назад +2

    Most of the time Ex create moments that shape a persons persona and mentality. Exs are people that people tend to miss even when having new partners. Splitting up is something we all do some a time, but faithfulness is spiritual, its hanging on to the relationship and persistently and undeniably trying to make the relationship work at all costs.

  • @veyonce2241
    @veyonce2241 2 года назад +4

    I really like the video the song sounds so good 😻 you did it at the end was so perfect

  • @tamara_ayda
    @tamara_ayda 2 года назад +1

    this is so amazing on all levels, the music, her voice, the video, her acting, her whole mannerism, I'm in awe
    the whole message, the point she is making, you can see it all deep in her facial expressions and that's so fuckin cool

  • @PROD5VE
    @PROD5VE 2 года назад +7

    MAHALIA is a huge inspiration to me and I WILL produce a song for her one day.

    • @mycurlyquest6094
      @mycurlyquest6094 2 года назад +2

      I have faith in you. Good luck 😩

    • @BruhBella.
      @BruhBella. 2 года назад

      @@mycurlyquest6094 ruclips.net/video/n-IK5i8MPEs/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/n-IK5i8MPEs/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/n-IK5i8MPEs/видео.html

    • @Joy-hs8zc
      @Joy-hs8zc 2 года назад

      Wishing you the best of Good luck!

  • @uhoh5395
    @uhoh5395 2 года назад +1

    all time fave artist, always kills it. Since 2017 she been my intro to neo-soul and im a believer

  • @ulisesmcosio
    @ulisesmcosio 2 года назад +3

    Whoever did the effect at 1:17 needs a raise

  • @micaelaclifford2729
    @micaelaclifford2729 Год назад +1

    I was trynna find another R&B singer but came across her music because of a RUclips playlist. So worth it!!! She is sooo good, sounds like a Songwriter type of singer. You got my support from now on Mahalia!

  • @kailfern9644
    @kailfern9644 2 года назад +3

    Queeeeeen 🔥 this will be on repeat 🔥

  • @gxitterprint9431
    @gxitterprint9431 2 года назад

    She deserves more credit 👏 shes putting in so much work into these songs for us.

  • @tinadavis566
    @tinadavis566 2 года назад +3

    Absolutely love this song I added it to my playlist I can't wait to see what else you come out with❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🔥🔥🔥

  • @kylam3748
    @kylam3748 Год назад +1

    I love her as an artist, the storytelling and raw emotion are based in real situations!! I absolutely feel that this song needs to be listened to in conjunction with the ex’s perspective because it is then clear showing this man in between the two preys on women to boost his ego. Their devotion and love to him he uses it as a weakness rather than seeing the feminine strength of a nurturing woman. On another note… If you and your significant other are argumentative because an ex or any one from the past reaches out… that’s telling of the status of your relationship and insecurities within it that need to be addressed.