when you don't know what to do... try this.
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- There’s nothing quite like the existential thrill of staring at your ceiling at 2 a.m., wondering if it’s too late to become a marine biologist or if you should just settle for Googling “jobs for people with no passions.” It’s a glamorous moment, really-a hallmark of modern adulthood.
In this video, we’re throwing out the myth that anyone knows what they’re doing (they don’t) and tackling the real question: what happens when you don’t have a clue? - You stop waiting for answers and start doing something-anything. Not because it’s life-changing, but because motion beats staring at the ceiling.
So, if you’re in the middle of your own life crisis-refreshing Instagram, panic-eating Doritos, or doom-scrolling job boards-this one’s for you. Let’s talk about why failure isn’t the enemy, why clarity hates an audience, and how to make peace with not knowing, one ridiculous, tiny step at a time.
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Hi! 🙋🏼♀️
I’m Ash - a writer, content creator, and movie lover with a penchant for the nostalgic. I spend more time talking to my dog than actual humans, and when I’m not arguing with fictional characters, my days are spent writing endless drafts or down movie-related rabbit holes. In this little corner of the internet, I share my love for storytelling, the ups and downs of my creative process, and the sometimes ridiculous, often relatable moments that come with being a 30-something and not having it all figured out.
My strategy? Do something. If that doesn't work. Do something else. Life cannot be "solved" by thinking, only by doing.
Very true 🙌🏻✨
This 📌🎉
Lovely and full of gems. If i may, I will add one more that has made an impression on me. The great Martha Beck has often noted that we are designed to know what to do next. If we don't know what to do next it means we are tired. Lie down. Rest. As your system recovers having a sense of what to do next will be revived. This isn't on a what to do with my life scale but rather on a granular day to day scale. Eventually (as you are so elequently saying here), one thing will lead to another.
Thank you so much for sharing! I agree! It’s why I mentioned staring at the clouds at the end. Sometimes you just need to stop, rest, and then try again when you’re ready (and have the energy of course). Thank you so much for the kind words 🥰✨🙏🏻
I so needed this video. I'm starting life* in my 40's and it's overwhelming for sure.
*I just survived the first 40 years, I wasn't living.
I know that feeling very well! The point is… you’re starting, and that’s so incredible! Wishing you the best Tim on this journey! 🙌🏻☺️✨
I’m right there with you 🫶🏽
@@CaminoSubRosa I'm wishing you all the very best! ☺ It makes me happy I'm not alone, but it also makes me sad that I'm not alone. Hugs
@@the.ashfiles Thank you, I'm wishing you all the very best also. ☺ There needs to be a starting life over club, guess this channel might be it. 🤔
I started mine one year and a half ago at 50😂 It’s never to late!
You’re never reinventing yourself because you never know yourself. I spent over 20 years as an ICU nurse, now I paint Volkswagens and own a small farm. Best parts of life are the ones you don’t plan for, but turn out okay.
Love this! 🙌🏻✨
Just dropped my firsts video - at 45 - perfect but its done and its mine and its a start
@@SerpercivaltheVloggercongrats! That’s amazing! 👏🏻✨
this video feels like a hug
Not rambly at all! Thank you for sharing. I can’t believe you’re only 17 because you’re already so wise. Let me tell you from experience, you don’t want to peak in high school. I know that’s said a lot but I speak from experience. I did not peak in high school and while I hated that at the time, I could be more grateful for it now. And don’t put pressure on your twenties to be perfect it either… honestly life starts to feel best in your thirties and onward… there’s no timeline. You could join a choir in your twenties or join a musical theatre company. You can do everything you wanted at any age… as you said you have decades ahead of you.
Please be easy on yourself… you’re just getting started and based on this message you sent, I can tell you have a bright future! 🫂✨
With your growth mindset, the best is yet to come!
I felt very similar about my high school experience and just want you to know that it's not going to define your future as much as you think. Every year I get older, the more beauty I find in life, which I didn't expect with mental illness. There will be hard times as an adult but they make the good times even greater.
"One deep thought away from solving it all" I feel personally attacked and i love it.. Thanks for giving me some much needed perspective today. Hope you are well and at peace.
Haha, sorry for the attack but glad it resonated ☺️✨
I’m 68, retired, live alone. My passion is creating, or it used to be. But I’m terribly bored. Nothing appeals to me anymore. I just watched a video about Dopamine and it made so much sense. And oh, yea…I was diagnosed w ADHD twenty years ago. But no meds have helped. I raised a family, did a lot of creative projects, when my family was young. But now, in retirement nothing appeals to me…
Sooo, watching this and hearing your soothing voice, the intelligence you share as you explain an extremely emotional topic is really helpful. Because in this moment I know I’m not alone. I know there IS hope…and honestly, I’m very grateful that the blahs didn’t hit hard until these past five years. One of my fears tho is that I’ll start something, put myself out there, then get bored and I’ll stop. Will I let ppl down, will I waste $(that I don’t have to waste). Because I have started then stopped, I have bought supplies, etc. and it feels pretty empty because I feel like I’ve failed.
Sheesh!
For now, I’ll watch more of your videos…new subscriber! Yay, I found you!
And I know I need to move my body more…
My heart ♥️ goes out to all of “us” as we bravely wake up and start each day…hoping to find motivation, interest and possibility.
And I want to add, your style of the video, the beautiful town, your voice…perfect! Thank you for giving us something beautiful to look at, something meaningful to listen to, and for sharing your voice as you deliver comfort, respect and understanding.🕊✨✨
This hit me. Thank you so much for sharing. First, I just want to say-I see you, and I’m so glad you found your way here. The way you describe the ‘blahs’ creeping in later in life, the fear of starting and stopping, of investing in something only to lose interest-I think a lot of people will relate to that more than they even realize. But what if stopping isn’t failing? What if it’s just following curiosity until it runs its course? Not everything has to be a lifelong passion. Some things are just meant to be enjoyed in the moment, no pressure, no expectations.
I hope you give yourself the space to explore without feeling like you have to commit forever. And I truly hope you find little sparks of joy again, in whatever way feels right for you. ✨🫂☺️
Thank you for your kind & thoughtful response. I’ll keep on keeping on…and try not to judge or assess myself. I’m learning to look at interactions …whether it’s on a dating app, or exploring a new idea as an experience. That helps. But I still yearn for feeling a sense of satisfaction. And it’s been minimal.
But I’m “here” to learn and grow and probably to teach others simply by sharing…
I’ll keep visiting you here! And, I just bought the outline(book) about writing fiction. I’m hoping it will help me share a story that’s been bubbling inside my head for many years…
Never a dull moment in there!!!
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@ oh goodness, never a dull moment in my head either. Wishing you all the best 🥰✨
A bit cliche but exerc8se and ommunity involvement do help me
I really needed this. Currently wide awake at past 3am and this is literally what I’m thinking about. I so love how you’ve written and narrated this. Thank you, really. Subscribed!
I know those 3am night all too well. I’m so glad you could find moments in this to resonate with - happy to have you here! ✨🙏🏻🥰
I wish I had seen this video 10 years ago. At 42, starting over and just trying things seems like something I can’t afford.
Thank you for sharing this-it means a lot. I completely understand how starting over can feel overwhelming, especially when life comes with so many responsibilities and constraints. I think the idea here isn’t about having the resources to ‘afford’ big changes but about finding small, manageable ways to take steps that feel possible, wherever you are in life. Even something as simple as exploring a curiosity or changing a small routine can lead to clarity over time. You’re not alone in this, and it’s never too late to try something-no matter how small-that feels just for you.✨🫂
Wish I could like this hundred times! I am totally and wholeheartedly with you on this…
Loved stumbling across this here....as humans we always think we have to be doing something, and we don't....that's where the inspiration comes in...in the silence❤
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I found your channel like a week or so ago, and it is one of several pieces that have pushed me to where I am now. This time last week, I was a disillusioned postal worker who called out for a week straight because I couldn't take it anymore. Now, I'm starting up a small business, trying to make a RUclips channel, and content like this is my lifeforce now. My ultimate goal is to move to Europe, as you did. I'm a writer, but I've only ever sold one piece so I feel I have a way to go. But I know that I can get there.
Thank you for posting these! :)
Wow, thank you for sharing. To think that my words have impact on anyone means something but to read messages like this, I truly have no words, but I’m so glad to hear that my videos have helped to move you make such big shifts in your life… just thank you for sharing. It truly means the world.
I’m so moved by your passion and your resilience. Sometimes the smallest thing sort of knocks us over the head and wakes us up. It’s happened to me a few times in my life, at times where I too felt disillusioned.
I 100% believe you will make all your hearts desires happen… you already did the hardest part… you started! Congratulations! You’ve got this! ✨☺️🙌🏻
How are you?
@@LaimaAndGiltine hey there, I'm great! How are you?
Fellow Londoner here 😊 I love your images. And you said so many right things. Life has to be tried out, we can’t find the solution through thinking.❤
Thanks so much! 🙏🏻✨🥰
How can a person in their 30s be so damn wise??? Brilliant piece. (P.S. My Freewrite arrived Friday afternoon. 5000 words down the first day!) Thanks for being part of the inspiration.
Yay! Your freewrite arrived! And 5000 words?! Wow! Congrats! That’s amazing Carol Anne! ✨
As for the wisdom, not sure where it came from - a lot of failing, learning and trying again I think 🥰
I hope you know this is one of *the* best videos you - or anyone - have ever made! Life-changing stuff.
oh wow, this made me burst into to tears. Thank you so much ✨☺️🙏🏻
“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to live the question."
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
Highly recommend this book to anyone feeling lost.
And beautiful video as always, dear Ash! ♥
Reading that made me cry, but good tears! Thank you so much for sharing and for the kind words on the video 🥹🙏🏻✨
Your channel appeared out of nowhere and boy did it sound like me! Endless months of wondering, waiting, indecision, what ifs, relentless overthinking and still no movement. I'm 62, retired, empty nester and what a struggle it has been figuring out what I'm supposed to be doing next. I started a youtube channel and I love doing it but currently at a standstill of what to post because I have nothing of interest to post! Going in circles on a daily basis. But I have been invigorated by your videos, watched them all, and your storytelling. Feeling blessed to have found you. Thank you, Ash!
Oh thank you so much, I’m so glad you’re enjoying the videos. And congrats on your own channel! That’s no small feat! 👏🏻✨🥰
This was gorgeous. Love your writing.
Especially love this bit - “That’s the beauty of starting, it doesn’t have to be perfect, permanent or even promising. Starting is just starting. It’s giving yourself permission to explore, to test the waters.”
I’m such a believer in just starting and done is better than perfect. Thanks for this lovely reminder. I’m 50 and agree with all you’re saying, you just say it so beautifully.
Ps So wonderful to see Hampstead and Primrose Hill looking so fabulous ❤️
Thank you so much, I really appreciate your kind words 🙏🏻🥰✨
Girl, you remind me so much of me in my 30s. Now a decade later, I'm listening to your words, and I'm just wishing you a beautiful life. I'm just wishing you "Beauty for Ashes", if you'll pardon the play on words, my dear... Thank you for the beauty you bring, and even in the lovely package that you bring it like getting a christmas gift and the wrap is so beautiful and the bow is so beautiful that it's almost as full of anticipatory delight as the actual delight brought by whatever is inside the box...This, itself, is meaningful. Makes your life meaningful, and matter to many. My mom always says "we're all just here to walk each other home", and you really do that beautifully, which is so important in the woods of this life, as so many of us are feeling our way forward...I sat here listening to your words, grateful for the reminders, grateful for the very timely encouragement, and even the synchronicity of you were mentioning bingeing Doritos, when I did just that at 4 in the morning last night while reading a David Grann novel, because I couldn't sleep because my head has been full of "what is my next step? Which road to take at this fork?"... Grateful for your graceful, gentle wisdom, grateful for our paths intersecting. And just hope that you realize how extraordinary your bravery is; how you were willing to walk back into the theater, turn the lights on the stage again, choose your props and your backdrop, be willing to create a new story, at least the skeleton of a story, and know that there will be a beautiful play. There will be good action on the stage, and I think love will even walk in stage left and illuminate everything even more for you. I wish you beauty. I wish you love. I just want to just say thank you for your deeply meaningful contribution to all of our lives, thank you for your lovely, meaningful life...Thank you for helping my bravery, to walk back into the "theater", one more time....❤
Wow. Wow. Wow. I don't know what to say. What kind, beautiful words. This means the world to me and I just want to thank you for the taking the time to put these words together. They warmed my heart in the most needed way. Thank you! ✨❤️
@@the.ashfiles ... Grateful here too🙏... may all these words, both yours and mine, flesh out in the most lovely ways in the coming days, weeks, and year ahead🙏 ... Nighty night over there across the pond...Lovely upcoming week for you...🌷
"God, please give us what we would've asked for had we known."🙏🌷
@ thank you 🙏🏻✨❤️
As someone with a ton of anxiety that just got laid off, I REALLY needed to hear this. My lay off came from out of nowhere, and I was told I was doing amazing, there just wasn’t enough work for me to do. It’s made me feel like I’m spiraling. Like I need to figure out if I want to make a career change. If I want to move. Do I enjoy what I’m doing in life. And the need to find a job asap makes this feel like I need to know all of this NOW.
Thanks for reminding me that I don’t have to see being laid off as the moment my life completely changes because I’ve figured it all out. It can be minor obstacle in the road and not a change of path. Thanks for that ❤
At the end, I was just smiling at "...here's your permission to stay there a little longer watch the clouds..." Big thanks for that and for making this film too!!! Coming out of depression, this film is like a huge support! And yeah, "Action" indeed "creates clarity"
Your work is like a poem!! Sincere thanks and keep creating!! Peace. Love
Thank you so much, I really appreciate your words. I know that feeling of coming out of depression and it means a lot to me that my words could help in any way ✨🫂☺️
2:55 I love this. Stagnancy does nun get moving even if it’s just around your house cleaning or writing singing anything
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Accepting your role in your life can be difficult, especially when you had other plans. I'm getting there.
It’s really difficult, I’ve been there at so many different points on my life… but the fact that you’re taking steps towards the acceptance is huge. It’s no small feat ✨
@the.ashfiles thank you for inspiring me❤️.
@@the.ashfiles I am there. I have a son who will be 3 in two weeks. Accepting my (lack) of place in the world except besides him, and I feel completely lost as to what to do next. Living in an isolated place in a country I do not like (France).
All my creative powers seem quenched. All my previous interests, gone.
No energy.
I believe that what I like most about your videos is that they come off more like a friend giving you advice, its not preachy or proclaiming to have the answers. It putting one into the mindset of asking internal questions. Its so refreshing becasue it pushes my mind in nessasary yet neglegted directions in a way that feels like cahnge will happen, at my own pace, I just have to let it. I am very greatful to have found your channel. Since ive been watching your videos I have begun the process of living for me, distancing myself from people that negativly impact my life. And am now starting the process of moving to somwhere Ive wanted to for years, but alwasy felt like I needed some sign or go ahead to make it happen. And for that and so many more little moment. I say thank you.
Oh goodness, this brought me to tears. This means so much to me and thank you so much for sharing. Its never sat well with me, the approach of any sort of “self-help” that feels as if its being shouted at you. That “this is the way and it’s the only way”… that isn’t and never will be the case because everyone’s experience in this life is unique. I’m so happy about these changes you’re making in your life… for YOU!
Thank you again so much, this has made my entire week! 🙏🏻✨
Yess I was just thinking that!!!
A life full of “this is nice” moments is a wonderful phrase. A few years ago, when I went through burnout, I realized that I just want a life full of interesting moments and stories to share. A linear life or one that makes sense to others isn’t for me. So I’ve been chasing those moments and, although it’s not always easy to marinate in discomfort, it’s more enriching.
Thank you so much for sharing, I resonate with it very much 🙏🏻✨
The past week or so i have just been in a downward spiral of anxiety, and overthinking. The anxious is still there but just in the back burner of my brain. I have just been sorta stuck in this state, im not really sure why. Your videos seem to pop up just in the correct moment, thank you so much for making the videos you make, it always feels like that person you dont hear from very often but when you do, its like there was no gap in time at all, its really comforting. In the video you said "starting is just starting, its giving yourself permission to explore" im not sure why this settled me down but it helped ( even just a little ) to allow myself the chance to, make mistakes. i dont know how much sense this is really making. But just, everything about your video style and just the words in them resonate with so many people. Think im gonna safe this and come back to when im feeling really, out of sync with myself. Have a good week!!!
This all made perfect sense and thank you for sharing! I really appreciate you taking the time and I'm so glad the videos have helped you in some ways. Keep trusting your intuition and be kind to yourself throughout the process. ✨☺️
Stumbled upon your page just today and I can't thank you enough for how much wisdom you have put into one video. I am 33 years old and am still learning ways of living.
Thank you so much! I’m so glad it resonated with you! Just remember we are all learning, nobody knows what they’re doing. So just keep taking every day one step at a time, and be gentle on yourself 🫂✨
I'm 74 and still learning new ways of living. We never stop learning isn't that great
Saving this so I can come back to it any time I'm stuck in that devastating cycle of overthinking and fear of the unknown. You reminded me its okay to just be and not always have everything figured out, and that gives me peace. Amazing video that really helped me personally, thank you!
I’m so happy to hear it… we all do it (me very much included). Most of the time we think ourselves into a corner when we just need to let go and let things happen. I’m so glad to hear it resonated with you and I hope it helps for all future cycles of overthinking 😉✨
I'm 16... And crying... Just... Thank you.
I’m so glad you could resonate with this piece. I know there’s so much pressure at your age to know what you want. You do not need to know. Just try things and experiment and you’ll naturally find your way. No need to put pressure on yourself! ✨🫂
Im 17 and im in the same place 😭, we're under so much pressure to know exactly what to do with our lives that we forget to think for ourselves.
I agreed with “life can’t be solved by thinking but by doing” but I also believe in the power of sitting absolutely still too. Last time I was having a “what do I do now” moment, someone suggested I sit absolutely still doing nothing and it will come to me. So I tried it. I sat for an hour, no phone, no paper, not meditating, nothing to look at, no goal, just sitting. After two times of doing this I decided to go back to school for psychology. That was my new adventure. It’s now time for me to try this again.
A first video by you that I watch and already a sub - needed this message today. In my late 30s and I've definitely googled whether I'm having a midlife crisis! Life has just thrown another spanner in the works so this video is on message for me. Thank you ❤
So glad it found you and happy to have you here! And I think I google midlife crisis at least once a month if not more🫠 I hope things turn around for you soon! 🫂✨❤️
This video reached me exactly when I needed it. I'm 25, and in a few days I'll be finished with my master's in literature. I've been terrified and stressed about what I should do next. I have no idea what I want; the possibilities are endless, and all of them seem scary or impossible. I'm terrified of making a terrible mistake, but I'm mostly afraid of not being able to find myself.
This video helped me so much, realising that not knowing what I want is okay. Needing time to figure it out and trying new things is okay. It really helped reminding myself that, so I just wanted to say thank you, really.
I’m so glad it resonated with you. You have much time to ‘figure it out’. I know there are expectations thrust upon us, socially at your age, you’re meant to feel like you need to have it all sorted. You don’t. Give yourself the grace you need and deserve ✨🫂
This is great motivation. To accept things as they are but to not be complacent.
So glad it resonated with you ☺️✨
I love this! As someone who just graduated from uni and asked themselves “now what?”… this was really comforting
I’m so glad to hear you found it comforting 🥰🫂✨
omg, thank you so much for this 🙏🙏🙏
i'm crying right now, that is how much it touched me, and these were exactly the questions that were torturing me lately, many thanks for a glitter of hope
So happy to hear! ☺️🫂✨
I’m not crying…..
Thank you, thank you for sharing your profound words of wisdom, the delightful imagery and for the sweet reminder to be. 😊
This is a safe space for crying, always! And thank you for the kind words, I’m so glad the piece resonated with you 🥰✨
This is a great video! You have summed up in a few minutes what it has taken me several years to learn. I have a habit of sitting and thinking and going over and over and over my problems trying to work out how to solve them and I totally agree that excessive thinking doesn't help. It starts to make you feel like a car with its wheels spinning in mud. I've been focusing on one thing at a time and doing that before moving on to the next thing. It can be difficult because the progress feels slow and also there are often external demands such as having to take the car for it's MOT or things that need fixing around the home and other general life admin. But I have learnt that trying to do lots of things at once isn't a good way of solving problems nor is sitting around thinking about them too much. I did actually take a pottery class a year ago and went for a few months. It was enjoyable so I definitely recommend that as something for people to try.
Thank you for sharing and glad you found something to resonate with in the video ☺️✨🫂
Thanks!
Thank you so much! 🥹✨🙏🏻
no, no, no! i'm an enneatype 4! feeling's our preferred center & our thinking's enmeshed in it while "doing" is pretty much neglected 🤣 why *live* life when you can simply overanalyze every single aspect of it & fantasize about the past or future while your present slips away?
thanks for the incredibly lovely call out that i actually *really* needed right about now 💖 clicking off of endless youtube advice videos about things for a bit to go do a thing or two
Haha, oh the struggles of being a 4! It’s so true… so glad it landed though! Happy doing! 🙌🏻✨
Great video. I just turned 60 and I can vouch that all of this is pretty much spot on.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it and could find some truth within it ✨☺️
I like what Dr Mike said about how he got through after the death of his mother and what advice he had to give to anyone who’s stuck (in this case stuck in grief). “Put on your shoes.” I think of this when I’m feeling paralyzed with overwhelm. And I think it’s a perfectly simple first step at getting going when you can’t see how to do it.
P.S. Lovely video!
Thank you! And thank you for sharing that, it’s such a good reminder! ✨
Breathe, wander, enjoy life. I feel much better from hearing these words.
I’m so glad to hear it ☺️✨
Writing definitely does bring awareness
Moving in a month an a Half by myself at almost 50'S , in a new country , no friends, no job , no place where to live , no car, starting from scratch. Am I scared? Of course , but I am completely open to whatever is gonna come.
Congratulations! What an exciting move! I just did a very similar thing (I knew one person) but it’s scary and freeing all at the same time! Wishing you all the best on your adventure! ✨☺️
@@the.ashfiles I am counting days.
I wish you the very best in your journey. It sounds amazing.
Which country if I may ask
@Jllllie From Australia to NZ but I am Italian.
A wonderful video thank you. This one speaks to me because I will be turning 39 in just over 3 weeks. And I have never really felt like I have known "What to do with my life". And for me, a big part of this is with my having been born with a physical disability, Congenital Hydrocephalus & Hypertonia that causes too much muscle spasticity on the entire left side of my body (my left side is semi deformed) all of the big dreams & goals that I had as a kid were torn down & attacked & stolen away from me by the abusive 'parents' that didn't want me to achieve anything great because they wanted me to 'settle' for less like they did. To be honest when I have as much challenges & hardships as I do, I need my life or more accurately my existence to "make sense". I love how in your videos it sounds like you are simultaneously talking to both yourself & us as listeners & it is so calming, soothing & helpful, thank you. Again I love your videos & channel. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so sorry about the challenges you've faced, but my goodness do you articulate your feelings well. And if I have any hand in inspiring or helping in any way, it is a true honor. Thank you again for being so open and I'm wishing you all the very best ✨🙏🏻☺️ - also happy birthday in a few weeks!🥳
Greatest writer and philosopher of our right now!!! ❤ WOW
Thank you 🥹✨🙏🏻
I can't describe how much I love your videos. They're so gentle even when you're talking about stuff that feels so overwhelming. I love your voice and the way your clips seem so organic. You obviousley spend time on what you're going to say which makes it so meaningful. I often spend my time overthinking about how everything I need to be for an end goal. But, just enjoying things is enough of a reason to do it. Thanks!
Thank you so much for the kind words and I’m so delighted to hear you love the videos. I think overthinking is universal, trust me, I overthink every video and script I work on but it just takes practice to sort of slowly let it all go and realize that we just need to take things day by day. One foot in front of the other… and then sometimes taking a nap in between 😉✨
Brilliant! Love the cadence of this video - your voice, the music. I just listened without even watching until I noticed the beautiful images.
Oh thank you so much! 🙏🏻☺️✨
How to figure things out in life?
“You don’t have to”
Thank you for this. I’n turning 43 this year and this past few days I’ve been questioning myself “now what? What’s next?”
So glad to hear it resonated with you 🫂✨
Life is an endless room with no walls.
Love the message ❤️ The shots of lovely London are everything though!
Yes, this is good enough so I won't do anything about it. Thank you dear Ash, I really needed to hear this 😊
So glad it was helpful! ☺️✨
‘We make the road by walking’ - Paolo Freire
Love this!!! 🙌🏻✨
Love your creativity, thought and humour in this! Thank you! ❤
Thank you! ✨🙏🏻
Welcome back Ash! Thank you for taking your time with these videos and checking in with yourself between releases. No rush to upload.
I’ve realized I need to take a page out of your book and find a way to live at a slower pace. Next time I’m in London we can laugh about it over overpriced wine 😉
Thank you for the warm welcome. The hectic nature of the holiday season and then getting sick and staying sick for almost a month, really took me out. But lots of stuff in the works over here but yes, never pushing or forcing myself. I did that for 15 years… I’m only now starting to learn the lesson 🥰🙏🏻✨
Today, after the covid lockdown , I lost so many friends and favorite spots that thought life was perfect
Today, I give my friends time, listen laugh and help..
Downey California
Surfer Frank 😂😂❤❤❤❤
Thank you. Your voice. 1995 to 2000. Keiko Harada we were book friends , we would go to book stores and read and read, we loved libraries and I showed her all of Calfornia and I am a surfer I was able to get her to surf. The said, thing is her Gaol in life was to marry a white man. Her hart was always broken , she saw me as a friend.. I loved her, but her goal in life was marrying a white man. 2000 she returned to Japan with her white man. He was a ginger truck driver but she said, he was white..
Sad, I never hear from he ever again
Gardena California. 1995-2000. I miss her.
Thank you so much, this was something I really wanted to hear even though I knew bits of it myself but somewhere i couldn't get grip of..I am trying my best to know what I really want to do, find a job and etcs....hearing this made me feel less anxious
I’m so glad to hear that it resonated with you and provided some comfort. You’ve got this 🫂✨
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Seeing comments here mostly people on 40s but here I am relating in my mid 20s. I just came over yout tiktok video and decided to watch the full episode as I relate to every words you have said. I'm trying everything and anything to explore yet I feel so lost at the same time. The thing that I want the most before does not make me happy now. Thank you for reminding me that failing can be a reward as well.
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I’m so glad it resonated with you and that you could find bits of your truth within the piece 🫂✨☺️
Excellent! Thank you 🙏🏻
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This was wonderful to listen to, and I was watching this thinking, “I’m sure I’ve been to those shops!” You can’t beat Hampstead, I love it.😍
Thank you! And yes, it’s such a beautiful area 🥰✨
Thank you. Again right on time and on the nose.
Thank you so much! ✨🙏🏻
This is an amazing video - exactly the advice I needed to hear. Thank you!
So glad it resonated with you! 🙏🏻✨
Really I want to thank you for this video! The message you said was inspiring. I was asking myself these days " what should I do with my life" I know what kind of life I want to have but I'm not sure what to do first to make a step forward... But as you said, I'll enjoy this state and I'll try to do uncomfortable things to expand my limits (wish me luck!😜)
Plus your video was relaxing and I enjoyed watching London!!🤍✨
Thanks so much! I really appreciate it! Since you know what life you want to have I encourage you to find people who have aspects of what you want and that try to emulate them in some way. Or study them. It’s great inspiration to get you moving! ☺️✨
Awesome video! Really meaningful. Thank you ❤
I’m so glad you found it helpful! 🙏🏻✨
If you don't know what to do.. do whatever is right in front of you. Even if it's the washing up.
Thank you for your words. It feels like finding a treasure in a pile of haystack 🎉
Wow, thank you for the kind words, they mean so much to me! 🥹🙏🏻✨
@ thank you for your reply. It means a lot to me too! Please keep making this kind of contents. I root for you ✨🍀
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I'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. This is the sort of content I would like to make and having a faceless YT channel is even more interesting. You must put a lot of effort into your scripting.
Thanks so much! I do put a lot of work into it? And I appreciate you noticing. I do plan to show my face one day, but this will do for now! ☺️ thank you for being here 🙏🏻✨
Another gem. ✨ The scenes are lovey. Action creates clarity… Not knowing is where the good stuff happens… 🔥 TY
Thank you so much! So glad you enjoyed it and those pieces resonated with you ✨🥰
Ash. Beloved. I'm sorry to tell you that this whole "when you don't know what to do" happens even to those of us who are 57. The 2nd mid-life crisis 🤣 , But at least now I have you to commensurate with!!
Oh yes, I’m well aware this will continue to come up, haha. And I will forget about all of this… at least now I have it solidified in video and in my own voice to remind me when I need it lol 🙃
Thank you❤
Thank you for making this! ❤❤
Of course! 🥰✨
Pasta prep is probably the MOST relatable thing my existential situation has ever been comparable to.
Haha! I love it! ✨☺️
💖 thank you Ash
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This video is right on time for me. Thank you ❤
So glad it found you at this moment. 🫂✨
Sitting in the discomfort...thanks for this calming video.
So glad to hear it resonated with you. ✨☺️🫂
Ah well that was lovely. Thank you for this 🙂
I’m so glad you liked it 🥰✨
To have patience with oneself is to have self-love 🌹
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Thank you for sharing this. It helps
So glad it resonated with you ☺️✨
We've got the same name there haha. Your essay style videos, your storytelling is just sublime. The cadence, the pauses, the articulation, the metaphors, you're onto something here mate. Kinda in the same conundrum rethinking life and this video was quite a nice reminder to just be and flow bahaha. You've got a new subscriber here. 🥰✨
Thanks so much fellow Ash! I really appreciate you saying that. 🫂✨
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Im in a similar spot. Im only a teen but i feel that i should be doing something to get going in life. Ive been wanting a plan, any plan just to stop doing nothing everyday. I needed a reminder that i dont have to have it all figured out right away. Thank you Ash!
Don’t worry, you’ve got plenty of time to figure it out! ✨🙏🏻 so glad it resonated with you 🫂
@the.ashfiles Thanks so much!
You have an amazingly beautiful way of expressing feelings that are deep in my soul. Thank you for this!
Thank you so much, I’m happy to hear you found it relatable! 🥰
I just discovered your channel and all of your videos are like warm hugs and summer rain. love it sm!!!
Aww thank you so much that is so kind 🥹🙏🏻✨
Thank you so much for making these vids, Ash. They're kind of an anchor for me as I start out my 2025. Your wisdom and sharing are unparalleled
Thank you for sharing that, and I’m honored to be of help in any way. Happy to have you hear 🙏🏻✨
Thank you for this beautiful piece. I needed to hear this today.
So glad it found you 🫂✨
Life isn’t like marriage in the 50’s - this gem 💎 to carry along
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Loved this so much. And absolutely loved the scenery, so nostalgic and cozy and homey. Amazing video, just stumbled across your work and I'm really glad I did. It made my day so much better:)
Oh wow! Thank you so much for the kind words, I really appreciate it! So happy to have you here ☺️✨
Thank you for this video !
So glad you liked it 🥰✨🙏🏻
I have always wanted to get into something artsy, but i always gave up due to mental illness. now, at 25, I took two first steps (first one didn't get anywhere) to become a model. i know i won't be a top model, especially given my height, but i fulfilled a dream of my younger self, and even if i get just one job, I'll be happy that it worked out. even if i can't make it my main job, I'm proud to say i achieved a dream of mine. 😊
100%! I love this attitude! And congrats on taking the first steps! They’re always the hardest ones! 👏🏻✨
I love your content more than anything here on RUclips :))
Watching your videos, is not wasted time, they make me happy, feel good about life and about myself!
Thank you :))
Thank you so much! So happy to hear they're resonating with you ✨❤️
Just bumped into your vlog.....& Thank u ,..from the aesthetic cinematography to the splendid realty calls you talk about ❤❤well done
Thank you so much for the kinds words! I really appreciate it! 🙏🏻✨
Lovely - thank you. ❤
Anytime ✨☺️
Nice views of Hampstead. I used to envy (a bit) people who had their lives planned out. No more. Having made a mess of our (the partner and I did the same kind of thing) lives, we realized that it is the best of all possible worlds for us. Fear of failure is crippling.
Fear of failure is absolutely crippling! It prevents us from trying so many things in our lives. I’m glad you found some clarity ☺️✨
Thank you so much ma'am 🙏💖🦋.i really needed this 🙏😊
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Thank you, for making these :)
My pleasure!🥰✨
So glad I found your channel, thank you ✨
Thank you so much! So happy to have you here! 🥰✨
Thank you. I needed this today. ❤
So glad it found you ❤️🫂
I LOVE this common sence.🙋♀️🙂🇨🇦
I love this video so much!!! How you recorded it, your messages and the taming music! Thank you for calming my “Device Driven A.D.D.” 🥴🤩
PS - I watched the full video (and will watch it again! 😍
Thank you so so much! I’m so glad you liked it! 🥰✨
thank you, thank you, thank, that was beautiful.
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Thank you so much, so glad you liked it 🥰🙏🏻✨
This is a lovely accompanying philosophy to my current 'radical sabbatical ', as suggested in the book 'how to find fulfilling work' by the school of life
Love it! 👏🏻✨☺️
thank you ! needed this