Joyce! Fellow black ARMY 💜. My partner sent me this. You’re a beautiful soul doing everything right; I loved your authenticity and vulnerability, plus your fits were ❤️🔥. I’d add: check out evening events at these places (a book release party or reading, First Fridays or late Thursdays at the museum) rather than showing up during the day when it’s empty. A recurring club, open mic, or event series is great because other regulars will get to know you and start connecting you to people. And keep doing activities where you can show your personality and make friends! Then meet *their* friends and *their* friends and hopefully someone will click. Hope you find your boy with luv.
Ong and I feel that’s why I felt pushed and many other black women and girls to give their body because u don’t know how to love regularly or any type of way or feel like no one’s going to love them as is and I know personally I settle for less every time and put my self out there just to get burned
@@jj-if6it Historically, fatness and/or blackness is not associated with femininity. Thus, making dating an uphill battle for many. Even if you Google “feminine woman”, bigger girls just don’t show up. Blame society.
I met my husband during a blizzard on Christmas Eve at a Dunhams sporting goods store as I was buying a LAST MINUTE CHRISTMAS GIFT 😂 it was his second job & he was helping do the shift no one wanted. He asked if I needed help finding anything & flirted a little. (Ps- he was wearing an ugly Christmas sweater vest & reindeer antlers and had a Christmas tree sticker like a tear drop on his cheek) 😂 he was still VERY HANDSOME. & when I went to pay, he ran up to the register & told the girl “give her my family discount, bc if I ever see her again, I’m making her my wife.” 😳😂 On my way home in a blizzard, I googled the store number & called. I asked for him via description bc I didn’t know his name. Even if I never saw him again, this guy needed to know how fun he was & how much I appreciated his boldness lol. We chatted & exchanged numbers. Went on a date weeks later (BEST DATE OF MY LIFFFFFE) & one year after that date we got married. We have two kids and have been together for over 6 years lol. You really never know where you’ll meet the one haha
I feel her with my soul.. The that fact I'm taller than most men. Then a lot of men expect big girls to have low self esteem (I'm not a mark) and dark skin is considered less valuable in the black community. I'm punching the air right now. Sophia said it best in The Color Purple. Who's gonna defend me so staying my masculine energy is a safe. space.
Joyce I know you want a tall man but please don't automatically discount the shorties! I fell in love with someone shorter than me and couldn't be happier.
I'm probably taller than Joyce (6'1") and it's quite hard to find a tall guy, but I have dated guys way shorter than me as well as taller. You can't discount shorter guys because that leaves out a huge percentage of the population and you could miss out on your soulmate.
@@shakenblake4533 WTF 5'11" is quite tall, I mean it's a perfectly good height for a guy. It wouldn't bother me at all and most girls are way shorter than me. Some people are so shallow!
I know Joyce is going to find someone just as wonderful as she is. Next time maybe lookup events happening at bookstores and galleries so they aren't dead when you go 😂
I'm literally crying Joyce is the sweetest baby angel 😭 watching her put herself out there really inspires me to lower some of my walls and be venerable. Joyce, you deserve to be heard. Your voice belongs where ever it goes. You are so powerfully soft and beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing with everyone. You are truly a light in this world 😚💕
Please, this video healed me as a 20-something who's also never been in love and who's ideal type is also namjoon 😂 Joyce is too beautiful on the outside and in to not find a boo! this made me believe in myself a little more too despite being more shy and anxious lmao
bonsaijoon is such a lovely name! i've never been in love with someone and is constantly bias-wrecked by namjoon! this watch made me feel more positive and open to trying TTT
I loveeeeee joyceeeeee I love how she shows her vulnerability and normalizes never having been in a relationship, which is a club I’m also a member of. she’s so loving and beautiful and confident and so inspiring I wanna be like her! keep these videos coming please
Don't give up sis!! I'm 5'10, plus size, and dark skinned! I just celebrated my 17th anniversary. Don't allow anyone else to discourage you. Live in your truth, not other peoples imagination!
First off I miss seeing my girl on here cocoa butter!!! Second I need this to be a series now! I thoroughly enjoyed this and Joyce spirit!!!!! This right here is why I love this channel
Joyce is so cute. Her personality is fun. Looking haute at mic night. Lindsay is such a good friend. Love her. We need more 'finding Joyce a date/bf" videos.
"'No, you're forbidden.' And then I run away." These videos are too cute and I super appreciate the deeper meaning behind them, being your own main character :}
Anecdotally, i met my now husband at a bowling alley. i was dragged there by my best friend and am definitely not what you would consider athletic. i also loathe bowling. We have now known each other for 16 years, have a ton in common, and i love him to death. The meet cute can happen when and where you least expect them.
Dear Joyce, you've already gotten a result from this experiment: an experience. The more available you are - while continuing to bring your emotional health, intellectual openness and sweet satire - the more potential there will be for a long term relationship with someone who can hold space for all of your being while offering you their talents and vulnerabilities in expectation of mutual tenderness. Go get 'em girl. *Someone is missing out on you* 🙌🏿
I really love this. I’ve never been in a serious relationship either but I’ve been working on myself so that I’m in a better headspace to be in relationship. And people keep saying I need to just go out and meet people like this
I stop EVERYTHING I’m doing & watching to tune into you finding love & I leave Warm, Fuzzy & Teary eyed everytime! 🥰🥹❤️ Wishing you nothing but endless Happiness Joyce 😁👑🥰
Omg I love Joyce!!!! Her personality is everything and I agree with the trauma part because I am the same way. I'm working on my trauma but I realized I need to go to places that I enjoy to attract the right guy for me. But i'm still going to enjoy life first and just let love come naturally.
Idk how I feel about this… like I know that this is not Nicole byer but do the writers know? Idk what Joyce is really like but if she’s being true to herself then I want to see her being treated the way she deserves to be treated and not this superficial short that comes off more like a joke. Think more deeply cocoa butter! Let’s have an honest convo about dating while being. Cocoa.
I really, honestly hope for Joyce to find her "one true fish in the sea"!!!! I admire her trust in the process, and her genuine effort trying to go out and look for love! To many times we hear, "oh! Did you try this app or this website?!?" Before the Internet you couldn't just make a profile add a couple pics and find a hook up, a date, or maybe something more serious. You had to go to your favorite places and hope to run into someone special. I really loved the poetry session. Everyone was fabulous and hella raw and emotional. Loved it! Joyce I hope you find the right guy that makes you have butterflies and smile from ear to ear. 😁😃😘🥰😍🙃😊☺️🤭🤗❤️💖💘
Really enjoyed this 1! It’d be dope if this became a whole series that features all genders. Also I’ve dabbled in writing my whole life but have always had stage fright. This may be some extra inspo to FINALLY perform at the next Slam I go to👀🤟🏾😎
I cracked when I saw namjoon as the main character because I was literally thinking about BTS when she mentioned fanfiction and how I want a boyfriend who's so sweet like them
Thank you all for watching! I hope
Y’all enjoy this journey❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
Joyce you are everything, you deserve everything & you will have everything you desire. "Opulence! You own everything."
Joyce! Fellow black ARMY 💜. My partner sent me this. You’re a beautiful soul doing everything right; I loved your authenticity and vulnerability, plus your fits were ❤️🔥. I’d add: check out evening events at these places (a book release party or reading, First Fridays or late Thursdays at the museum) rather than showing up during the day when it’s empty. A recurring club, open mic, or event series is great because other regulars will get to know you and start connecting you to people. And keep doing activities where you can show your personality and make friends! Then meet *their* friends and *their* friends and hopefully someone will click. Hope you find your boy with luv.
We love you!!!!!!
Peace. Be the love you seek. Peace
Joyce must tell us about the art gallery dress 😊
When Joyce said she’s never allowed to be feminine, I FELT THAT 😩
Ong and I feel that’s why I felt pushed and many other black women and girls to give their body because u don’t know how to love regularly or any type of way or feel like no one’s going to love them as is and I know personally I settle for less every time and put my self out there just to get burned
Why are you not allowed to be feminine?
that shit resonated with me as a petite 5'4'' black woman too
@@jj-if6it Historically, fatness and/or blackness is not associated with femininity. Thus, making dating an uphill battle for many. Even if you Google “feminine woman”, bigger girls just don’t show up. Blame society.
@@tionak well at the same time women who are curvy have historically been seen as more feminine (large breasts, hips etc indicating fertility)
I met my husband during a blizzard on Christmas Eve at a Dunhams sporting goods store as I was buying a LAST MINUTE CHRISTMAS GIFT 😂 it was his second job & he was helping do the shift no one wanted. He asked if I needed help finding anything & flirted a little. (Ps- he was wearing an ugly Christmas sweater vest & reindeer antlers and had a Christmas tree sticker like a tear drop on his cheek) 😂 he was still VERY HANDSOME. & when I went to pay, he ran up to the register & told the girl “give her my family discount, bc if I ever see her again, I’m making her my wife.” 😳😂
On my way home in a blizzard, I googled the store number & called. I asked for him via description bc I didn’t know his name. Even if I never saw him again, this guy needed to know how fun he was & how much I appreciated his boldness lol. We chatted & exchanged numbers. Went on a date weeks later (BEST DATE OF MY LIFFFFFE) & one year after that date we got married. We have two kids and have been together for over 6 years lol.
You really never know where you’ll meet the one haha
Omg so cute!
That's so beautiful! I love it!
This was so amazing to read!!! I love it
awww this is the cutest thing everrrr
OMG!! This is cutest love story ever! Awww thank you for sharing, wishing you both a lifetime of love and happiness 🥰🥰🥰
I’m a simple girl. I see Joyce and I automatically click. No questions asked.
SAME, sis!
Joyce is a tall glass of sunshine. She's such a vibe!
I hope this becomes a series! I love Joyce and I love love!
👀
@@CocoaButter AYE this better be a series!! Don't be coy!
I hope so too, this was a great video!
@@memorycelle there’s another out now 😉
When she spoke on being a tall darkskin, plus sized woman who’s never been seen as feminine or soft, I felt that wholeheartedly! 😭😭😭
Dang that's sad
I feel her with my soul.. The that fact I'm taller than most men. Then a lot of men expect big girls to have low self esteem (I'm not a mark) and dark skin is considered less valuable in the black community. I'm punching the air right now. Sophia said it best in The Color Purple. Who's gonna defend me so staying my masculine energy is a safe. space.
This idea is everything, as a young black girl obsessed with fan fiction and romance I appreciate this so much🥰
Joyce I know you want a tall man but please don't automatically discount the shorties! I fell in love with someone shorter than me and couldn't be happier.
IKR
I'm probably taller than Joyce (6'1") and it's quite hard to find a tall guy, but I have dated guys way shorter than me as well as taller. You can't discount shorter guys because that leaves out a huge percentage of the population and you could miss out on your soulmate.
We need more angels like you...a girl once turned me down cause I told her i was 5'11😭like literally....
@@shakenblake4533 WTF 5'11" is quite tall, I mean it's a perfectly good height for a guy. It wouldn't bother me at all and most girls are way shorter than me. Some people are so shallow!
@@jj-if6it too shallow! Shawty told me she only goes for guys over 6ft...like 5'11 and 6'0 are literally the same thing!!!🤣
I know Joyce is going to find someone just as wonderful as she is. Next time maybe lookup events happening at bookstores and galleries so they aren't dead when you go 😂
A conference/workshop relating to art or books would probably be better!
I haven't even finished this video yet but I know I want to be Joyce's friend
i died when joyce said she wanted to be a Sunday tamboorine 🤣🤣🤣. yall Aced this video it was realistic, vulnerable and showed bravery.
I'm literally crying Joyce is the sweetest baby angel 😭 watching her put herself out there really inspires me to lower some of my walls and be venerable. Joyce, you deserve to be heard. Your voice belongs where ever it goes. You are so powerfully soft and beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing with everyone. You are truly a light in this world 😚💕
Joyce needs her own Netflix series!!
“Be the main character of your own story” is such a good mentality, thanks for sharing your journey with us.
THAT. DRESS. WAS. EVERYTHING.
Please, this video healed me as a 20-something who's also never been in love and who's ideal type is also namjoon 😂 Joyce is too beautiful on the outside and in to not find a boo! this made me believe in myself a little more too despite being more shy and anxious lmao
bonsaijoon is such a lovely name! i've never been in love with someone and is constantly bias-wrecked by namjoon! this watch made me feel more positive and open to trying TTT
The way Joyce ate that poem up >>>
Build a boo with Joyce!!! 🎤🎤🎶
“Because I have nothing else to do, and a high credit score” sis is hilarious 😂
“I mean why not….I ain’t got nothing else to do”! - Joyce 🥰 she is stunning 🥰
Stop because Joyce’s poem made me cry
I'm 36 and I am in this same boat Joyce. Keep going! We love you!
Same
Her unshakable confidence and outgoing personality is inspiring to watch. She'll definitely find love.
I loveeeeee joyceeeeee I love how she shows her vulnerability and normalizes never having been in a relationship, which is a club I’m also a member of. she’s so loving and beautiful and confident and so inspiring I wanna be like her! keep these videos coming please
Don't give up sis!! I'm 5'10, plus size, and dark skinned! I just celebrated my 17th anniversary. Don't allow anyone else to discourage you. Live in your truth, not other peoples imagination!
First off I miss seeing my girl on here cocoa butter!!! Second I need this to be a series now! I thoroughly enjoyed this and Joyce spirit!!!!! This right here is why I love this channel
Joyce is so cute. Her personality is fun. Looking haute at mic night. Lindsay is such a good friend. Love her. We need more 'finding Joyce a date/bf" videos.
"'No, you're forbidden.' And then I run away." These videos are too cute and I super appreciate the deeper meaning behind them, being your own main character :}
Anecdotally, i met my now husband at a bowling alley. i was dragged there by my best friend and am definitely not what you would consider athletic. i also loathe bowling. We have now known each other for 16 years, have a ton in common, and i love him to death. The meet cute can happen when and where you least expect them.
the bookstore was giving v much ‘You’
IKR first thing that came to my mind! 😭
So good to see Joyce and Lindsey back at it!! I missed this duo! And I also hope this becomes a series because Joyce DESERVES this!
This was so emotional didn’t expect that
Open mic night was the highlight of this
The first guy and Joyce’s poem were my fave
Dear Joyce, you've already gotten a result from this experiment: an experience. The more available you are - while continuing to bring your emotional health, intellectual openness and sweet satire - the more potential there will be for a long term relationship with someone who can hold space for all of your being while offering you their talents and vulnerabilities in expectation of mutual tenderness. Go get 'em girl. *Someone is missing out on you* 🙌🏿
This video was so important for me to watch especially with my recent break-up. Loved it
Love this channel!! Joyce is so funny, she seems like someone I would want to be friends with.
I freaking LOVE Joyce's sense of humour!!😂😂😂 I've smiled and laughed the entire time 😂😂😂
14:35 KP WITH THE LINEZZZZZZZ🤌🏾✨❤️🔥 oooof smoove witta V sis!!!!!!!!!
I hope y’all continue Joyce’s journey I love her she’s everything
Try going to a museum when people might be there. Saturday. Sunday. After work...
This was so cuteee
Make this a series!! Can’t wait for the wedding- Joyce is sooo prettyyy I can’t this should be fuuun
I really love this. I’ve never been in a serious relationship either but I’ve been working on myself so that I’m in a better headspace to be in relationship. And people keep saying I need to just go out and meet people like this
This is adorable 😅💜
Need this to become a series !
I love the opening and I LOVE Joyce
Sis looks gorgeous in that pink dress!
I love this! I too am a romantic at heart. I'm 32, single but I still play out scenarios of how I met "the one" randomly lol. And i love to write lol.
Oh my gosh that dress, JOYCE. SHE IS A GODDESS.
They’re usually at bars, hanging out at the barber shop after a cut, grocery store, or chilln in a friend’s basement.
I freaking love Joyce 😭 this video is so cute 😭❤️
"I've been watching romance before I learnt how to speak" 😂😂🤣🤣yup, that's the energy
That tambourine clapping on a Sunday morning had me rollin!!!
I literally love Joyce lmao.
Love Joyce’s outfit!!!
Joyceeee is dat gworl 🤎🖤⭐️
Everyone deserves to be loved 💕
When she said RM is her dream man I FELT THAT 😩
Joyce I'm so proud of you and I hope you get the romance thank you that meant the world to me I felt this video in my soul
“I love Art boys!” Me too girl my husband is an artist! ❤️ lol
Joyce is one of my favorite ppl on Cocoa Butter! She’s everything, love her❤️ Thank you for this channel 😩
We love Joyce! Thanks for sharing your story and journey 🤩
I stop EVERYTHING I’m doing & watching to tune into you finding love & I leave Warm, Fuzzy & Teary eyed everytime! 🥰🥹❤️ Wishing you nothing but endless Happiness Joyce 😁👑🥰
Lmaooo Namjoon, I was not expecting that. Love you Joyce ❤️
I loved this idea! Please continue this novel and take us along, thank you
Where did Joyce get her “[searching for sanity]” crewneck from?
I think Joyce is wonderful and she’s so inspiring! I also love her and Lindsey’s friendship 💜hope to see more videos soon ☺️
Omg I love Joyce!!!! Her personality is everything and I agree with the trauma part because I am the same way. I'm working on my trauma but I realized I need to go to places that I enjoy to attract the right guy for me. But i'm still going to enjoy life first and just let love come naturally.
You will find love Joyce! ❤️
Idk how I feel about this… like I know that this is not Nicole byer but do the writers know? Idk what Joyce is really like but if she’s being true to herself then I want to see her being treated the way she deserves to be treated and not this superficial short that comes off more like a joke. Think more deeply cocoa butter! Let’s have an honest convo about dating while being. Cocoa.
thank you!!!
Ooo this was a deep one. Joyce makes me laugh and makes me FEEL something! I’ma keep grabbing water💧from that well!
I love the pink dress you wore to the art gallery!
Joon in the beginning caught me so off-guard
No fr😭
She's amazing and I loved this video.
I really, honestly hope for Joyce to find her "one true fish in the sea"!!!! I admire her trust in the process, and her genuine effort trying to go out and look for love! To many times we hear, "oh! Did you try this app or this website?!?" Before the Internet you couldn't just make a profile add a couple pics and find a hook up, a date, or maybe something more serious. You had to go to your favorite places and hope to run into someone special. I really loved the poetry session. Everyone was fabulous and hella raw and emotional. Loved it! Joyce I hope you find the right guy that makes you have butterflies and smile from ear to ear. 😁😃😘🥰😍🙃😊☺️🤭🤗❤️💖💘
You’re my favorite, Joyce! You keep that momentum going and I have no doubt that you’ll find the supportive bae you deserve. ❤️💕
The bookstore story was giving very much “YOU” vibes 💀
Everybody needs a friend like Lindsey ❤
Great video. Joyce your meet-cute will happen. I believe it!!
Joyce looks amazing in that maxi dress. Love
Yaaas Joyce I love her
Love your poem Joyce!!! You are beautiful
Really enjoyed this 1! It’d be dope if this became a whole series that features all genders. Also I’ve dabbled in writing my whole life but have always had stage fright. This may be some extra inspo to FINALLY perform at the next Slam I go to👀🤟🏾😎
This was beautiful to watch! You go Joyce!!
I love Joyce and whoever she ends up with should consider themselves extremely lucky. That girls a catch
I think she came off too strong with the dude at the grocery store 😭
I cracked when I saw namjoon as the main character because I was literally thinking about BTS when she mentioned fanfiction and how I want a boyfriend who's so sweet like them
Damn, I wish I had that GoGo Skirt and black top Joyce was rockin'. Really cute outfit Joyce!
where is Jazz?? you're the best girl gang!!! love you girls and your videos. you always make me smile 💖
Btw I forgoooot!! THAT POEM GIIIIIIRL!!! im crying!!!
This was so refreshing!!! "meow meow meow prrr prrr prrr meow meowww" LOVE IT LOLOLO
I LOVE JOYCE !!! Nahh her poem dead ass made me hella emotional 😭 🖤🖤
I hope to seee many many videos with you guys I love you guys so much!!!
I need more of Joyce 🥰
More Joyce content!! This video was really nice!
Aww I love Joyce! Hope she finds love 💗
This video should be called, "how to meet people outside of dating apps," because it's informative for everyone lol
I loved this , we need more from her lol
Why am I crying 😢 when she got on stage
This was so great!!! Yassssss Joyce ☺️ you will meet your person
2:26 ... I legit thought she was gonna say "Mr. Peru" 😂🥰🥰