Banish Negative People
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
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@@wisemysticaltree2442 He still hasn't changed smh
One thing COVID taught me is that some people were only my friends because we used to see each other in school everyday
One day I decided not to hit them up first, now we haven’t talked in about 6 months
Well, yeah. But in the outside world, afterschool, etc. It's a whole different story. And, I'm new to this. I'd just go school, then go home. Like a house cat would do. I didn't go school, go home, made myself ready to go outside to chill with my "homies" or my classmates. And, it's weird when I see on my snap people having a good time that went to my school. *edited I'm not human, what did I expect lol.
@@hypermangi8265 lol bruh I literally just disabled my Instagram and deleted my snap. I’m not trying to see any of that shit. Thankfully I’m going to college in a month so it’s a chance for a fresh start
@@val-zod1284 good luck man
Man.
Most people don't like people who do self-impovement because you are a reflection of what they could be
bro fax. especially if you're from the same place, cause there's literally no more excuses they can use to justify their being a pussy.
very true
@@Dayron97 damn right
@@Dayron97 this cheer me
@dantepepper didn’t think i’d see you here bro i
u n hamza r my favourite self improvement yts keep pushing💯
I'm 20 and in the monk mode now, and you're like my elder brother in my growth.
What is monk mode my g ?
@@parampalsingh2227 watch enough of my guy's videos and you'll find out.
you shouldn't have such a strong parasocial relationship with someone who wants to sell you stuff
@@dvsavocs5290 fax
Because of covid i accidentally came in monk mode, because I decided, without these videos, to cut out my negative friends, now I just need to make the positive ones. I accidentally followed all his steps because I've been with negative people for while.
negative people will literally stunt your self growth if you let them. You will have haters. Let people be who they are. If they say somthing negative then they just insecure about themselves. Use the hate as fuel yo improve your life.
Yes! As David Goggins said: "don't kill them with kindness, torture them with success!"
Damn Rami what’s good didn’t expect seeing you here
I completely agree Dababy
Just saw your video on toxic friends/snakes haha
@@The2984 quote to live by
"Before you self-diagnose with depression or anxiety, make sure it's not just the assholes that surround you" - Sigmund Freud
Pretty sure he didn’t say that lol but sound af advice none the less
it sucks that everyone I know is a bad influence
Lmao us
find good people , seek and ye shall find
im the 69th like. Nice
Adonis sounds cooler and cooler each video
This year was my first year in engineering school and I found the best friend group I have ever had
They push me to better myself and are super encouraging
We're all competing with each other in running and cycling as well as our studies and it's super positive so I can 100% approve the message of this video
It truly makes a difference
Ten months on self improvement (hopefully, if you've fallen off it get back on, we all got your back Pizza Man), got some good, positive friends, *and* studying to be an engineer??? Let's fucking go, you're gonna be a King one day
In my previous school everyone was dick to each other and I felt really bad about myself. I felt like a little nerdy bitch. But when I changed school, I met fantastic positive people. Everyone was kind to each other. Suddenly I felt like a king and I started to do things to actually become that king. I started to exercise, to stand up for myself and now I am really proud of myself. Those 3 years with positive people really changed me into the king.
Congrats legend, you remind me of a qoute by Imam Ali a.s "Show me 5 of your friends and I'll tell you who you are."
Oh so they used to beat each other hard
You look bigger man, nice gains
Everyday after you wokeup say i am getting better like ADONIS
i like this
Hamza. thank you. you have no idea what you have done for me in such a short time. from the bottom of my heart.
thank you.
i'm grateful for your comment brother
@@Hamza97 I'm grateful for you Hamza
"Forgiving them is not for them, it's for you" Some real ish man
Being a parent is one of the hardest things possible, don't be too harsh on you parents, once you get there you will undestand. The only true advices i can give are:
there is no such thing as too much love and support, always tell them you love them and explain why something they did was wrong to make them understand.
Never beat up or insult your kids, it's the worst thing you can do to them and it will make them hate you so that they will have to go through the same suffering you experienced.
Thanks!
thank you brother
@@Hamza97 The information you discuss about in your videos was my final push to commit to a whole new healthy lifestyle - both physically and mentally. I unknowingly went into “Monk mode” and immediately went on to improving my life through planned gym routines and cooking my own healthy meals. Doing so left no room for feelings of loneliness or solemn. I honestly can’t thank you enough. Let’s see that 100k sub goal smash before the end of this year 😎
48 laws of power: law 10: negative people are contagious, avoid them like the plague
I had two group of friends and i decided cut off one of them, and i really want to cut off the other one cause i feel that they're putting negativity vibes on me, i really want to start meeting people as well, go to the gym, people that like reading and thinks like that, no people that pass all day playing videogames or faping or just losing their time
Just do it
@Von what are you from? ._.
@@pslmountain i did it brou :) and i feel alone but that's ok
@Von VonTooCut? *flushed.
@Liluglydude 444 based? Based on what?
I distances myself from my father for 11 years and it was the best thing I could have ever done. Not just for myself but for our relationship as well. I also stay in contact with negative people and their mentality does not rub off on me in the slightest.
I think your advice can have a lot of value, but don't misconstrue personal experience for universal fact
If they are negative and you spend time with them you will make yourself unhappy by doing so and by that more negative.
@@OggerFN not at all, as I make a conscious effort to impact their outlook positively, I enjoy the work of it.
Also their perspective is interesting for how much it contrasts my own, which i appreciate a lot
@@ar_no_ And that's what I don't want to do, I want to send down a rope for them to climb up, instead of digging yourself down to the same level as them, and uplifting each other up. Because, when you're digging yourself down, you experience their negative energy. You do see, fortunately, their good side. And that's what I like, I want to dislike their negative actions, as a way of telling them to fix up, and really love when they do something positive, I ensure I outlive their positive than their negative, and change their mindset for the better.
@@hypermangi8265 yeah agreed, I wouldn't spend the majority of my time with these people either. Just that cutting them out is often a lose-lose as it puts everyone (closer to being) in echo-chambers. Just don't do what they do, still have a conversation occasionally, that's my general stance.
I think what you're doing is still consistent with what the video is saying, you stay in contact with them and are there for them as a good friend and/or son should be, but you still have a distance between you so their negativity doesn't rub off on you. That's a very difficult balance to maintain, most people who are just getting into this aren't at a level that they can handle that without slipping back into negativity, good on you for sticking to improving yourself while maintaining that difficult balancing act
Show me your friends and I'll show you your future.
- Dan Pena
-adonis* 🤷🏾♂️
I guess I have no future because I have no friends
wrong
@@frog6054 you'll find friends in the gym and boxing/kick boxing training trust me
Thank you. I've honestly have slowly realized this through my high-school years. It's a start and it's moving slowly.
The things you said about family is big fax. This last year in the pandemic spent back home instead of at uni basically healed my relationship with my folks because I opened my eyes and saw how much of a fucking prick I was being to them when all they wanted was the best for me. Gratitude changed everything and our relationship is 10000% healthier and no longer toxic (coming from a background similar to yours Hamza where I'm a Pakistani guy born and raised in the US instead of the UK).
At the end of the day, if you ever truly majorly fuck up, all your friends and teachers and co-workers and mentors and coaches in your life have the potential to jump ship and abandon you but the only ones that won't are your family, and I think that's really powerful.
I always hype people up but I'm starting to get tired of it because I get nothing back so I ditched all my negative friends
now im 17, last year of high school, and holy fuck do I have a good friend "group" (2 people and a couple of people I see here and there) and they are basically all positive influences in my life. They are all productive and worry about their future, always encouraging each other to go to the gym and just overall great people. When you asked us who we'd believe are currently the bad influences I just genuinely couldn't think of any, all of the people who I was "friends" within junior high I dumped because they all started drinking, smoking and just being junkies and I was just raised in a household where that was looked down upon so I dropped em asap (another privilege I was blessed with) and to be honest I wrote all of this as like a gratuity journal entry and I wanna thank you Hamza for letting me just think about this.
the quality, the value and the topics of these videos are crazy valuable please keep making these videos.
Love this but then again sometimes clowning around with the boys is one of the best things to exist.
Use Discernment to determine what jokes are genuinely jokes snd what jokes are an implication of true feelings or perception towards/of you
Ive done this sort of automatically. Ive just dropped the trash level people out of my life as soon as I can for example when school ends. Greatest gift to ever have. There are always better options!
Wow youre here i used to watch your pot pvp vids back in like 2016 lmao
@@verisym haha! Nice.
This is one of the most genuine videos i've seen on RUclips. Thanks Hamza
DUUUDE ABOUT THE PARENT THING YOU JUST SPOKE ABOUT, I NEEDED THIS YOU HAVE NO IDEA DAYUMMM
Awesome video. I can attest to the section on family, so true.
I cut out the negative people from my life months ago and I’m in the middle of the lonely phase.
A video on how to build a new, positive social group would be immensely helpful.
❤️ honestly bro. My parents found this church group around 2014 or 2015 and every weekend they’d spend the whole day there than home. Me and my younger sister were new to the area since they just bought the house in mid 2013. I kept going to the same school next city over while my sister went to a local school nearby but still haven’t made close friends. Me and we’re would pop ecstasy a lot 2-3 or more a day. I remember her saying something about dopamine, we were both depressed. We’d take xanax, lean, smoke weed all day, plus the ecstasy pretty much every day. Whatever we could get our hands on. I lost a lot of gains and got skinny as hell. I realized over the years that we were running away from boredom and our parents not being there and when I brought it up they never even said sorry. Still the family is very disconnected and I just wish we could go on a vacation like we used to as kids
That's the best video for me. It helped me the most in my social life for honestly.
started my journy this year dropped 20lbs hoping to drop more and get mentaly better
Let’s gooo brooo💪💪💪💪
Underrated video
With regards to the parents/family members. I'd say that if they act up again then confront hem about it instead of bottling it up. Sometimes you have to live separately from your family members as they could piss you off and vice-versa.
That is true Negative people will drain you.
Because of covid i accidentally came in monk mode, because I decided, without these videos, to cut out my negative friends, now I just need to make the positive ones. I accidentally followed all his steps because I've been with negative people for while. It's cool to know that where I don't wanna go.
It is quite difficult bc sometimes the most negative people are the ones that suffer rhe most and the ones who makes the hardest choices and then they become the best soldiers
Man i can't find couple of positive brothers, wish i had a squad full of positive and supportive brothers
Watching this while working out at home 🔥🔥
Bro this was a little too spot on.. Just got rid of a long time friend cuz he would constantly try to bring me down when I was starting to look jacked and in the process of applying to grad schools while he was living for the weekends.
I actually tbh need this I mean fr
thank god my friends never let me down
If someone isn't coming to check up on your happiness , health , relationships or financial well being then they are not your well wishers. Cut them out. Be well wishers to others and see it coming back to you. This is what spirituality truly means when you feel connected with everyone in the world and wish everyone's family well. Rise above the pettiness
I stopped playing video games and now people give me the cold shoulder. Video games weren't enjoyable anyway.
Thank you for this guide.
You see Hamza, I used to get affected by other people judgements to the point that in a nightclub or social setting I would not try to do anything "productive", such as approaching a girl, in fear of my friends or the other people present judging me from behind. But now that I am older, it is crystal clear to me how the true losers are the idle backseaters, the guy shying away at a corner is much better than pricks that can only point fingers
Thanks for saved my day ..I’m from Sri Lanka ...people live here ...omgggg it’s really hard really❤️
❤️❤️ really hard ...no words to explain I wish I could talk to u one day ...💔💔
a hero needs to be monster too
Sometime you just have to let negative people go
I am very lucky to not be surrounded by negative people; honestly I can't think of one person 👍
so happy i found u
Although I'm not a devoted follower of hamza, I will say this video really did help me realise certain things with my friends. Constantly they would rip into me, always using me as a punching bag and whenever I got mad at the toxic things they were saying, they would brush any genuine concerns I had with "oh it's a joke, it's our sense of humour. Me and __ say worse things to eachother all the time you have it easy". I didn't say anything at the time because that was me settling in a way, it was either stay with them or be alone.
your videos are such a blessing to me currently.
unfortunately the number one negative influence in my life is my dad, can't banish the fucker.I lost 35 kilos in quarantine (115 to 80) after being obese my whole life since i was 8 and his reaction was sending me pics of when I was fat saying "you looked better then, you don't look like my son any more". Thankfully i learned to channel my hatred towards him to do positive shit in my life.
Hamza assuming I watch just 30 mins of his videos per day.
Me waking up and saying good morning Hamza and sweet dreams Hamza before going to bed.
This is hard in my own opinion as a teenager , for those who have negative family or relatives that they have to live with. btw , I love your vids Hamza❤️
I needed to see this video. Thank you :)
Go deeper within monk mode bro. Make a whole ass separate video for this
About family concerns..if possible, don’t burn bridges but keep a good distance. Moving out can actually be very beneficial and healing especially for continuously toxic, abusive and narcissistic homes. I’ve read this somewhere recently, “you can’t heal in the same environment that made you sick.” Planning to move out soon. Not cutting off contact but will visit every now and then.
I need more people like u around me
Great video!
This video definy my teens years...(14-22 years)......
Bro learnt new thing today; gratitude
13:43 imo this is terrible advice. I agree that you should forgive them and that it's not for them it's for you, but abusive people will ALWAYS be abusive people. Just because you happen to share blood in no way means that you have to subject yourself to continued abuse. Abusive people love the idea that there's a magical bond in "family" that makes it impossible for their victims to leave them. These people generally have already driven everyone whos not family out of there lives already because they are so toxic. I'm not talking about people or events that are one off scenarios, I'm talking about a continued history of abusive behaviour that continues regardless of how you feel about it. These people relish in your pain and failure and will do anything they can to add to it all the while pretending that they "care for you" and "are just looking out for you". Keeping people in abusive relationships regardless of blood relation is wrong and incredibly damaging. The sooner that tie is broken the sooner a person can grieve and begin to heal. You say you've been through it, well so have I. I made the mistake of trying to re-engage the relationship with my parents after 3 years no contact and it was a TERRIBLE decision. The exact same abuse started up again after a "love bombing" phase of about 6 months. It almost destroyed me because I felt so stupid for not trusting myself and who I KNEW those people to be. To be Frank I'm still working on coming out of it.
Not trying to be "negative" bro, but I strongly disagree with that segment of this video. NO ONE deserves to be put through what I've had to endure and if I can in anyway keep a person from experiencing it and saving their own lives I'll gladly do it.
You're absolutely right. Trying to reconcile with abusers and narcissists is one of the worst things you can do. If cutting off negative people is the right thing to do, then it should be applicable universally. Even in the absence of that rationale, you have a duty to yourself to make the most out of your limited life time. If your abuser is the sort of person who gets enraged or belittles you in response to the very prospect of you forgiving them for abusing you, why even waste time in the first place with this futile exercise?
I deeply admire our boys including Hamza for this movement, however I feel necessary to point out this very important issue.
You can forgive without being emotionally dependent
Now that you mentioned the subject of friends, it came to mind, what do you think of internet friends? Like if they are positive and all the good stuff, but still, they're in the internet and that means a lot of things
Appreciate these videos hamza
Great video man, you’ve given me a lot to consider.
life changing video.
at school im getting bullied daily for no reason and i dont know what to do tbh
same man I get made fun of too by a group of girls cause they know I am more successful than them. My advice is to get better friends and build a business. I stopped playing video games and I am starting to work out too. Focus on what you eat and watch Hamza videos. That is all you need brother!
there is always a reason, sadly for me it is my looks so you can change that by working out
@@nfgvictordude literally from just looking at your pfp.
Take of these silly glasses and you look far better.
Get better glasses which fit your face or get contacts.
Powerful video. Thank you ❤️
I have a friend, who like me is on self improvement, but is genuinely slow. Love the guy, but he actually is mentally slow and just doesnt fully understand or critically think about things.
Its very frustrating to deal with that BECAUSE he often doesnt listen due to advice like "AlL CriTiCism Iz HaTE, thOSe arE JuST hAters!!1!!" Like the self-improvement community preaches.
Not all criticism or negativity is hate. Be open minded and critical thinking, sometimes we CAN be the problem and we need to change. Thats normal, and be grateful that people give a shit to point it out. Its called improvement for a reason.
wow, I have a friend like this, he isn't going through self improvement but he is so sensitive and cannot take on board criticism . He literally takes everything personally. I get you completely - it's so frustrating coz you want to help and you want the best for them :/
@@urban_video5949 100% bro, you dont want to give up on them because theyre your friend but shit gets hard some times 😂
Same with one of my friends
Bro that family thing you said hurt like a mf but it’s lowkey the truth
This video really resonated man thankyou
What if you are the negative person? Should you banish yourself from people and stay lonely?
That's one of the struggle i have with my life.
I can't help myself but being negative because of how the world is changing, how people only care about their image, how freedom is dying etc.
I'm learning to be more positive especially when i'm with people but reality always catches me.
I try to let these thoughts for when i'm alone at night.
But i actually want to hear what you guys think of that.
Meditate and think of the positive :)
@@Ali-bn6xk I tried but i always end up in the negative thoughts. Especially when everything goes to shit in life.
It's not as easy as just medidate. I wish it was.
If you’re on a self improvement journey then your mindset will also change don’t worry. But if you’re the negative friend bringing people down then try to see your friends less. Try not to bring them down. Improve yourself then comeback as a new person. Good luck! 👍
Keep up the great videos bro straight to the point and no bs
Thank you Hamza, thanks for the advice. Last 2 videos have been class bro.
Good content man good shit
"+*Fuck negative 💔 people .🖤& * "- Playboi Carti
Appreciate what you do bro for us bro
the family shit you said is so true
i don't really have negative friends in my life anymore but i definitely did have them like 5 years ago in 6th and 7th grade and i used to be so depressed bc of it but i always had this weird feeling bc they used to like make fun of me always and like i just took it as like a joke but i rly think they saw me below them. when i changed schools we only rly talked thru discord for like 2017 and after that not so much.
love this guy
Zero remember to stay positive. Respect, Love and Loyalty to myself and others. Always keep your frame. Speak less. When you do speak be like adoniss good freinds only. You are who you hang around. You must be a ultra positive influence. Motivate and Inspire others give advise and ask many questions. Be authentic and articulate when speaking. Intense then calm.
Great video Hamza
Girls I meet and some co workers take the piss out of my height. Still trying to get accustomed to it tbh. Affects my mental health quite a bit. Even though I know I shouldn’t care since it’s not in my control
How tall are you man?
What's your height?
@@RA-eg8tw 170cm
Mentally I'm very negative but verbally I try to hide it and act more positive 😁. It's not nice to make others feel bad.
9:23 hamza just described someone perfectly, i just felt some kind of amnesia or some sh*t like that damm brother
thanks for your videos hamza! positivity is the way forward! From negative to positive no longer shall i suffer! edit - do you believe in the law of attraction?
Yeap. People do that because they fear of you becoming good and leaving them. Society basically don't want you to get good. Because than they would have to STEP UP and do more.
ok
monk mode active
see u guys in 3 months
Man, if this isn't the most perfect timing. Keep her lit man 😎
Broo that freindship ended meme had me dying😂
Best video on youtube ong
went through that monk mode period last year
Hamza, thank you for this.
Allah bless you
What if the person is not negative but fails to provide sustantial value in my life.
Should i be by myself rather have that freind.
I have no freind
My goat
I really appreciate Hamza's advice, tho I think he should stop saying video games are a problem, multiplayer competitive games yes, if you spend 100000 hours on league of legends it's a problem but if you play some good sg games they can have a fantastic influence.
Just realised something, I never had good friends my whole life
don't worry brother, you can always make new GOOD ones at your local mosque.
I've almost never had any friends my whole life
you really said progressive overload when talking about gratitude
Hamzagang
I'll tell you what that's probably why I have a much better time with my friends when we drink cos our self asteem rises. Cos of that we don't project our insecurities