My husband told his boss that I was raped by my dad, I was tampered with (his words). How do you handle that one? I have so much hate and anger. The lack of respect I have for him right now is unreal. This happened Sept 22, 2020. I don’t want to look at him or speak to me. Oh,yes it’s not the first time he has done this. It’s like I tell him something and he can’t Waite to tell somebody. My first thought is I want to die. The last place I want to be is around him.
My wife is gossiping about me and speaking our business. And when others gossip about me, she believes them over me. She has no faith in me and between us. She is the one who has a history of cheating on me. She has no loyalty towards me and when she talks to me I'm not expecting a conversation. I'm expecting her to complain. And when we do have conversations it's about her. When i initiate, she's silent. Then she complains that we can't have a conversation. She talks to all these single, divorced people about me every time our relationship isn't going good. One even condoned her cheating on me and supported it while I had no idea. Another one of her friends gossiped that I had an affair with somebody which was not true. Her friend was mad her husband cheated on her and I never told her when I was a witness. If people wanna ruin their marriage, they can do it on their own. I wont get involved. My own mother gossiped about me and my wife still believes my mother til this day. I forgave my wife and years ago, but i still think she's subconsciously trying to justify her actions by trying to accuse me of things that never happened. She sincerely thinks cheating on me was justified. When I call her crazy for all these things, she accuses me of trying to gaslight her. She's a good person. Just not to me. she has nothing good to say to me ever and thinks she's the only one with feelings. She can say all these wrongs i have done in our relationship and I wont deny them. I actually feel bad for being a bad husband sometimes, but there's no opening to make it right. She constantly runs me down to her friends and family. It's not motivating at all. The new gossip is that when she cheated on me, I slept with another woman. Not true. I never once came down to her level. I was puzzled when she came home the next morning after drinks with her newly single friend. She did not greet me with a kiss like usual. She was angry and I had no idea why. We are now not talking because I lost it when she chose to believe her friend over me. I put holes in the door when she locked it on me. I may be getting a divorce because i feel it isn't right to stay with someone like this. She can name everything I did wrong and I wont deny what's true. My argument with her is how can I stay with someone who doesn't trust me and talks about me to other people? She feels it's all justified and will name everything I do wrong. I really feel talking bad about your spouse to others should never be justified. It just shouldn't be done. Sorry for venting. I don't tell people in my life my business. Good or bad. I don't people to get jealous and I don't want people to gossip. and I have enough discipline to keep my business to myself. Great video. Thank you.
Hello Les, just came across this video. you commented almost a year ago now. I will be brief. sad to read about the pain you are going through. divorce is never an option biblically .God hates divorce.remarriage,as long as your spouse is still alive is not possible.either you separate and remain single,or reconcile with your wife. we all made a vow before God before we got married.there are many things we never thought would be until we began living together.we cant change partners like the way we do close.marriage even helps us see the real you and the condition of your heart and what needed to be worked on.there is still so much filth on our own part. we are all sinners and very week,vulnerable to temptation if not for the grace of Jesus. My best advice is for you to PRAY.yes i mean PRAY.your only true weapon and only option.you might not be able to change your wife but God can in Jesus Name.remain blessed, Glen
Totally.Absoulute betrayed feeling.i didnt find out until the very end.Total breech of confidentialiaty
I know this all too well.
I'm experiencing this at the moment. It's a horrible feeling 😔
My husband told his boss that I was raped by my dad, I was tampered with (his words). How do you handle that one? I have so much hate and anger. The lack of respect I have for him right now is unreal. This happened Sept 22, 2020. I don’t want to look at him or speak to me. Oh,yes it’s not the first time he has done this. It’s like I tell him something and he can’t Waite to tell somebody.
My first thought is I want to die. The last place I want to be is around him.
My wife is gossiping about me and speaking our business. And when others gossip about me, she believes them over me. She has no faith in me and between us. She is the one who has a history of cheating on me. She has no loyalty towards me and when she talks to me I'm not expecting a conversation. I'm expecting her to complain. And when we do have conversations it's about her. When i initiate, she's silent. Then she complains that we can't have a conversation. She talks to all these single, divorced people about me every time our relationship isn't going good. One even condoned her cheating on me and supported it while I had no idea. Another one of her friends gossiped that I had an affair with somebody which was not true. Her friend was mad her husband cheated on her and I never told her when I was a witness. If people wanna ruin their marriage, they can do it on their own. I wont get involved. My own mother gossiped about me and my wife still believes my mother til this day. I forgave my wife and years ago, but i still think she's subconsciously trying to justify her actions by trying to accuse me of things that never happened. She sincerely thinks cheating on me was justified. When I call her crazy for all these things, she accuses me of trying to gaslight her. She's a good person. Just not to me. she has nothing good to say to me ever and thinks she's the only one with feelings. She can say all these wrongs i have done in our relationship and I wont deny them. I actually feel bad for being a bad husband sometimes, but there's no opening to make it right. She constantly runs me down to her friends and family. It's not motivating at all. The new gossip is that when she cheated on me, I slept with another woman. Not true. I never once came down to her level. I was puzzled when she came home the next morning after drinks with her newly single friend. She did not greet me with a kiss like usual. She was angry and I had no idea why. We are now not talking because I lost it when she chose to believe her friend over me. I put holes in the door when she locked it on me. I may be getting a divorce because i feel it isn't right to stay with someone like this. She can name everything I did wrong and I wont deny what's true. My argument with her is how can I stay with someone who doesn't trust me and talks about me to other people? She feels it's all justified and will name everything I do wrong. I really feel talking bad about your spouse to others should never be justified. It just shouldn't be done.
Sorry for venting. I don't tell people in my life my business. Good or bad. I don't people to get jealous and I don't want people to gossip. and I have enough discipline to keep my business to myself.
Great video. Thank you.
Brother I hope things are getting well in your marriage (proverbs ch 18:8)
Hello Les,
just came across this video. you commented almost a year ago now. I will be brief. sad to read about the pain you are going through. divorce is never an option biblically .God hates divorce.remarriage,as long as your spouse is still alive is not possible.either you separate and remain single,or reconcile with your wife. we all made a vow before God before we got married.there are many things we never thought would be until we began living together.we cant change partners like the way we do close.marriage even helps us see the real you and the condition of your heart and what needed to be worked on.there is still so much filth on our own part. we are all sinners and very week,vulnerable to temptation if not for the grace of Jesus. My best advice is for you to PRAY.yes i mean PRAY.your only true weapon and only option.you might not be able to change your wife but God can in Jesus Name.remain blessed,
Glen
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