I think once I started understanding that how I present myself to the world results in different ways the world treats me, I started putting in more effort based on what I wanted in the interactions. It's not right that the world treats people based on appearance, but how people choose to treat me is out of my control so I choose to focus on what I can control.
Very healthy way of looking at it..I think how you present yourself to the world is HUGE when it comes to how well you'll be percieved so I take extra time in the morning to get ready. It says that you have manners that you care..if that makes sense
Clinton Kelly once said, "They way you dress tells the rest of the world how you want to be treated." That quote changed my outlook, my focus, on how I look. I realized my physical appearance is my calling card, it semaphores who/what I am, and what I expect from the world.
You literally explained the concept PERFECTLY. It's not always about looking good for other people! I LOVE it when I look at myself in the mirror or in my latin dance videos I take for myself, and I look fantastic. It feels soooo good to be neat and well groomed. I love it when I see pretty women who take care of themselves, I feel motivated to do the same with myself because I want that energy ❤❤❤ Lovely video as always, Jills😊
When I tried looking my best people suddenly started to talk to me on the street. Absolute strangers wanted to have a small talk with me. Something that never happened before and something that is not happening when I have lazy-messy days. Even the way my partner treats me changed a little after my glow up.
Growing up I resented the idea of looking good because I hated doing something for society only because it felt fake. And only recently I realized that first and foremost, you should do it for yourself and the way you treat yourself and present to the world highly determines the way other people treat you. Now everyone notices the great changes in me and thanks Jillz for the inspirational content😍
I agree, people in stores and businesses even treat you different when you look put together. I had to take something back to a store that was damaged and I didn't take the time to look good and the difference in how I was treated was apparent. The older we get the more time it takes to look put together for sure. It was easier when I was younger.
I think that looks matter a lot more than personality in the dating world. Beautiful women are magnets to men and men will put up with a lot when the woman is beautiful. Thank you for your channel Jillz! ❤
I think that the main lesson our generation discovers and promotes (like Jill, and many other pioneers) is the understaing that spirit and matter aren't two different things but different representations of the same essence. Looking good and feeling good are deeply connected and understaing that opens alot of wisdom and opportunities.
A couple of years back I started going through big changes in my life physically, losing weight, getting healthy mentally, removing toxic people. There were a couple of weeks when I was feeling so so good. At the store, I noticed this guy did a serious double take at me smiling, which NEVER happens. Then I went to dinner with a couple and one of their friends who I never met before stopped over to say hi as he waited on his takeout order. This guy kept looking at me, smiling, blushing then looking away. This happened several times and like I said NEVER happens! I went home and thought what in the world is going on?!! I think about those two weeks sometimes when I want to exude confident energy and feeling really good about myself. That's how I will attract the things I want in my life : )
Honestly from what I've heard seeing a person smile sweetly is rare nowadays. Smiles are welcoming and relieving so I can imagine why that guy did a double take😂❤
It’s all in the small details! I stopped going to the salon to do my nails because I felt like it was a “stupid” way to spend money, but now that I’m on this self-love journey, I realize it’s not stupid. It makes me feel good. So I took an appointment and I’ll go to the salon this week. I also bought new dresses, started putting on mascara even if I work from home… When I cross myself in a mirror, I do feel better. When I do a grocery run, I take my time more and feel better in my own skin just for how I present to the world. I used to dress for others, but now I do it for myself. Feels good. Love all your videos, thank you for your uplifting content . 😊💖
As a psychology student I really enjoy that you include scientific experiments in your videos! keep on doing that I love it! I also started wearing lipstick more and I really get what you mean ☺️
I think what she's saying is about something relating to law of attraction. Like we become what we think about ourselves 💖 These universal things like manifestation, law of attraction etc. I guess is related to feminine energies somewhat. 💕🌺 Anyways, much love to you. And you're really very beautiful also radiates such a positive energy. btw I'm 18 years old! 😊💁🏻♀️
I appreciate your content so much. Thank you ! I have operated from my dark feminine energy most of my adult life and after some big awakenings turned into a raggedy hippie that don't care at all about my looks! 😂I am already finding myself beautiful and I am confident but feel the call to take my appearance to the next level in a more playful way than during my dark femme era (btw my profile pic still shows this time of my life!!!) just for me and to set the standard higher for my future husband +family. 🚀🌹
Hi Jillz, this is litteraly my very first comment on your channel. I'm so so happy with your content. I'm about to go and do similar work in The Netherlands. As I've searched for this myself and couldn't find it. So I ended up looking for english video's on feminine energy, health and welbeing for women. And I got stuck with your video's and channel. I started as a masseuse and Transformational cupping therapist but I felt I could do more and women in The Netherlands need more, more feminine energy stuff. You and another beautifull lady inspired me to start doing similar work. All with kindness, softness and love. With love, Maartje
I was listening to your video as I dropped my daughter off in boxer shorts, t-shirt, and no bra… then a good looking teacher was talking to my daughter because she dropped something and it got me thinking wow… what first impression am I giving off… and I also work from home and always have on pjs. The says I take the time to clean my surroundings and have one regular clothes I feel like I’m more awake and productive. I have to make some changes. Get that confidence back up 😊 you are so right!
6:34 yep the scar thing is interesting to me because see I have some scars on my face from when I had chicken pox as a kid. Because I was severely bullied for it for years I have always have low confidence about my face. I always notice it where other people do not.
100% agree woth you! It is important to look put together, first and foremost for yourself. I am doing yoga on daily base since 5 months, and my body really changend. ( I am 43 and have 2 kids, i guess I never looked and felt better, so much more confident) I absolutly did it for myself, but also for my family... thanks for all the great content you are creating, Jillz❤
This is such a good video. Seriously. This is such an important lesson te be aware of. It can 100% change your life! And I love the way you explained it❤ this video should be shown (or something similar) to young kids.
🥰🥰🥰Hi gorgeous Jillz!!! Great message. I totally agree as a 53 year old who has always put forth my best look starting in my late teens and never stopped and will continue until I am not physically able anymore. I am in to exercise, good diet, and tasteful dressing . Living and working in an East Coast city for many years, I constantly see here many women of all ages 20s, 30s, 40s not looking their best that any high caliber men would find attractive or would want to date. A lot of them are obese and/or are wearing yoga pants, hair bonnets, bedroom slippers, and the super huge caterpillar eyelashes that you can see a block away out in public!! Therefore, I stand out in a good way because my appearance is well put together with hair, makeup, and appropriate clothing which makes me feel like a super model in comparison to a lot of them being younger than I am. I never looked awful or tacky in my younger years and it doesn't take a lot of money to not wear your pajamas outside to the store. So, I get a lot of nice attention from men because my look is so different than most, not all, of the women in this town. I will continue to enjoy the privileges.😊
I agree with all of this, making the most of what you have, working on confidence, improving yourself, etc. I also appreciate you acknowledging that on FIRST impression, people do tend to favor the more conventionally pretty. It’s not a popular truth but it is what it is. Still - the face I was born with is not my only ticket to success. The people who only ever get a first impression are not worth my anxiety, and the people I interact with again will have an opportunity to see past the external. It’s a win-win in the end if you don’t let people’s initial reaction get to you!
This is so brilliant! I love the study you mention. This would be a great addition to help those with BDD too. Focusing too much on flaws really is all about perspective, not reality. Thanks for sharing!
I agree with this video 100%. I like getting up a little earlier, taking a bit longer with my hair and makeup because it just makes me feel more confident and in control. If I ever look back on a really good day in my life, what's made it good has been my perception of the days events. I've been happy because I've felt neat and put together. I went to bed early, got up early. There's so much to be said for feeling happy in your own skin, it makes you glow on the outside xx
This video is gold, I always feel bad because of my acne, since it's hormonal I've been having a hard time with it and the scars it leaves that I feel like no matter how much I wear cute outfits and make my hair I won't look good
Did you try Marvelon daily birth control pills method? I tried tretinoin (use direct/ drink), vitamin, spa, laser... Like everything and I was stuck for over 10 years until my friend told me to try Marvelon. Miracle!!!
People gets mad when you judge when they don’t fit your values instead of try to give effort to their looks , everyone should focus on their look , I personally don’t like to be close to people who don’t care about their health and look and self care
I love some of the points you made, but that last conclusive message you made that 'we should all make more effort to look our best' felt a bit superficial and shallow. Sometimes self care for me is to have days in the house when I tie my hair up into a messy bun, let my skin breathe and not wear any make up, and wear a comfy baggy t shirt and just chill. Too much of my day to day is getting dressed up, wearing make up, looking put together when I'm out and about and honestly it's a little exhausting and to be quite frank I couldn't give a bloody hoot what people think if they see me in my oversized T and rats nest hair. 😂 I don't have to look glamorous 24/7 and I revel in my no-make up, chill days. I look good either way because I feel good about myself regardless.
LOVLEY ! Thank you, Jillz❤😊 I only just subscribed and am bingewatching a few, feeling inspired. One thing I have only just worked out as I have gotten older, is that you AGE with the beauty or ugliness inside. When I was younger, I did not truly understand the sayings like ' don't like don't frown in the wind, it might stick' (or something like this). It seemed like an old wives tale, but it does, over time occur, once the skin and hormones drop away. Your regular emotional state or resentments etc eventually play out on your face and posture/ health. The biological chemistry underlying these emotions become visible. The outside beauty can be created easily in youth or caked on later, but the inner life eventually becomes the undercarriage. I also know a number of people who are beautiful on the inside, but don't 'glow up' and they have a magnetism about them.
Hey! Jillz I am so so happy to see you back and I really missed your videos so so much you are my inspiration and I wish you have a wonderful weekend💫🤗💗
9:30 Archer 😂 New viewer, realised your vid was suggested when I was ready to receive this information/ perspective- thank you for the simple techniques to be proactive in our attitude .
Attractive people - who are intelligent and kind and helpful - get better paying jobs, they live in safer neighborhoods, they have better homes and more intelligent friends while unintelligent, uneducated, unattractive people rarely have these benefits - makeup tricks with awesome hair, a physically fit body and great clothes can improve the life of almost any woman.
As someone who has a facial paralysis and deformity from my experience i have noticed that days where my scar and deformity is more noticeable to me i feel more self conscious and feel like it is the only thing that people can see. That being said some days i forget about them and it feels like breathing properly again. people tell me all the time that it is not noticeable but if you can see it it is enough for you to filter what you see in the world
Yes but it's not like we are a piece of meat. What you are inside, your belief system shows up outside, your mental health etc. So if you view yourself as just meat you are devaluing yourself and that is actually gonna make you look worse because you are lowering your selfconcept. If you understand you have a soul and you take care of yourself because you love yourself, then that is what make you actually magnetic. So if you get milion sugeries and truly feel like you are just looks you will actually atract the worst man. If you take care of yourself because of apreciation for you, for who you are then that is the formula. What you explained is very very interesting and it shows everything has to do with internal things, your own feeling about you, not just having a certain look.
I've been with a lot of hot men and they are all garbage. Remember that if he believes he's hot he's more likely to cheat and be having sex with other women. He's not gonna stay faithful. Be with the whole package a really good looking guy is fine but it's also about personality and morals. His morals and him being a good person is the most important of all.
@JillzGuerin you have no idea how excited I got when I saw the notification for your new video 😁🙈 In the last couple of months, you helped me change my perspective about a lot of stuff 🍀💕 so grateful 🙏
I agreeee with everything you said and love your way of viewing this topic, but I just wanted to share that on the (rare) days my hair looks greasy, I smell sweaty and my jeans got dirty, I remind myself that the patriarchy wants women to look good + to invest a lot of time/focus/energy into their appearence, so that we have less time to face political/financial/whatever stuff, so me looking awful is an act of rebellion, HAHA :D
The people who complain about "pretty privilege" just don't bother taking the time to make themselves look decent. It isn't a "privilege" it's called working to better yourself.
I think that’s partly true. I also know that many of us take lots of time and attention to level up and look as put-together as possible, and walk out the door feeling like we look great… and are still treated differently because we are not conventionally pretty. (There’s a positive trade-off, we don’t get hit on by creeps very often. 😅) But to say that some women are put down or overlooked upon first sight ONLY because they’re not “confident” or “making an effort” is just naive at best.
@EspressoLaine There's no just thing as conventional beauty anymore. I am a very thin woman. I could be described as scrawny. Always have been. The curvy woman is what's beautiful now. I would not say that I have been treated worse than a curvy woman because I don't go through life comparing my experiences to everyone else's because I am not them. I'm me and all I can do is make the best of what I can. Soon, the beauty standards will change like they always have and another type of woman will be the "conventional beauty" and the cycle will continue.
@@thepuffinpanda9139 I definitely don’t mean figure or even weight. I’m referring to deformities and unnatural features that have *never* been considered attractive - and I am not at all hurt that this didn’t occur to you, I’m genuinely glad that you do not have that experience! You are correct that culture is fickle, but many of us have to live with it all our lives, no matter how hard we try to improve ourselves, so we learn to roll with it and try not to let it batter our confidence when we are treated like we’re mentally deficient or outcasts for looking “different”. So yes, I still say that making the effort to better yourself is absolutely necessary - but pretty privilege still exists simply because human nature tends to place more value on what it finds attractive. Many people are genuinely kind and do not make blanket assumptions, but it means they have had to make the effort to unlearn that tendency.
@@thepuffinpanda9139curvy women are what's beautiful now? In what part of the world? In Western culture, e.g., the current beauty standard is all about tall, slender, long-legged, fit women. Maybe add big fake boobs to the mix, but that doesn't make them curvy. And there's no way you can ever meet such a standard if you're short or maybe have a stockier structure, no matter how much you doll yourself up
@ilariamasullo3353 Umm, have you completely forgotten about how much so called "body positivity" is pushed? You are blind if you are missing the loads of campaigns surrounding fashion and the media who are pushing "fat acceptance" and if you work out and think that health is good, then you are "fat phobic". Short, curvy women were the most beautiful in the 50s. Slender women were not the ideal standard. In the 20s, it was the exact opposite. Look at artworks from the Renaissance and Greek and Roman empires. What did they deem beautiful? Was it the same as the heroin chic women that was popular in the 90s? No. The ebb and flow of people's tastes and trends will alwys change. If you aren't "it" right now, that sucks but that's ok. There is someone for everyone and he is the only who should matter to you. People will always find a reason to like or dislike you. That's called life.
This was a lovely video. But there are some people who look good even without wearing cute outfits and makeup and hair. And then there are some of us who just seem like we need makeup to look better. For example, 15 days ago, I was on my senior prom. I wore a stunning jumpsuit and had curled my hair. I didn't wear any makeup though, I only wore a dark lip. My friend wore a slitted black dress and had a full face of makeup. She got so much compliments. I never got a single one. But generally, both of us hardly get approached or complimented. So do we really look better with makeup? Because without the makeup, I felt I looked horrid at that prom, that explains the zero compliments.
That shouldn't be anything to worry about. Even when I look my best, most probably the only compliments I'll ever get are from my family. That doesn't mean I didn't look good, or that people didn't look at me while I wasn't paying attention. During my prom, all the guys in my class couldn't care less, yet when I was dancing this other guy who was completely a stranger to me was staring at me while smiling. He immediately turned when he realized he was seen. Now, if I hadn't turned my head at that specific moment, I wouldn't have known. So yeah, it not getting compliments and especially from people you know doesn't mean much.
And maybe they complimented your friend that wore makeup because usually when someone who doesn't wear makeup suddenly comes with a full face, this difference gets noticed. Doesn't mean you or she wasn't beautiful to begin with. It's just a difference people noticed.
"Beauty attracts but personality keeps". This channel just gets better and better. Fabulous Jillz.
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true that👏🏻
Beauty gets your foot in the door. A great personality doesn't matter if you're ugly.
I totally agree! You self perception of yourself does matter. As such taking care of yourself is important.
That statement is so true.
I think once I started understanding that how I present myself to the world results in different ways the world treats me, I started putting in more effort based on what I wanted in the interactions. It's not right that the world treats people based on appearance, but how people choose to treat me is out of my control so I choose to focus on what I can control.
Very healthy way of looking at it..I think how you present yourself to the world is HUGE when it comes to how well you'll be percieved so I take extra time in the morning to get ready. It says that you have manners that you care..if that makes sense
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Clinton Kelly once said, "They way you dress tells the rest of the world how you want to be treated." That quote changed my outlook, my focus, on how I look. I realized my physical appearance is my calling card, it semaphores who/what I am, and what I expect from the world.
yes
It’s absolutely true. This is why I stopped dressing revealingly and opted for a more timeless, elegant look instead of a revealing, sexual look
that is so wrong, lol. very classist and sexist.
@@thepinkpolly5215This applies to men and women, how is this sexist?
Are you one of those who can ask a person who was raped, what was she wearing?
You literally explained the concept PERFECTLY. It's not always about looking good for other people! I LOVE it when I look at myself in the mirror or in my latin dance videos I take for myself, and I look fantastic. It feels soooo good to be neat and well groomed. I love it when I see pretty women who take care of themselves, I feel motivated to do the same with myself because I want that energy ❤❤❤
Lovely video as always, Jills😊
Yesss so glad you enjoyed it!!!💕
I do latin dance as well and can’t agree more :)
@mananana1911, that's so cool! I rarely find anyone who does it ! Lots of love ❤❤
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@@JillzGuerin Hey Jillz! I absolutely love your account, im 16 years old and was wondering if u has any advice for me
When I tried looking my best people suddenly started to talk to me on the street. Absolute strangers wanted to have a small talk with me. Something that never happened before and something that is not happening when I have lazy-messy days. Even the way my partner treats me changed a little after my glow up.
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Oh snap😅
Growing up I resented the idea of looking good because I hated doing something for society only because it felt fake. And only recently I realized that first and foremost, you should do it for yourself and the way you treat yourself and present to the world highly determines the way other people treat you. Now everyone notices the great changes in me and thanks Jillz for the inspirational content😍
Exactly 🙌🏻
Even though you are much younger than me, you are one of my role models. You have the perfect feminine energy. Thank you for your inspiring videos 💖
Aw thank you, and you’re so welcome ❤️
I agree, people in stores and businesses even treat you different when you look put together. I had to take something back to a store that was damaged and I didn't take the time to look good and the difference in how I was treated was apparent. The older we get the more time it takes to look put together for sure. It was easier when I was younger.
I think that looks matter a lot more than personality in the dating world. Beautiful women are magnets to men and men will put up with a lot when the woman is beautiful. Thank you for your channel Jillz! ❤
I think that the main lesson our generation discovers and promotes (like Jill, and many other pioneers) is the understaing that spirit and matter aren't two different things but different representations of the same essence.
Looking good and feeling good are deeply connected and understaing that opens alot of wisdom and opportunities.
Lol whoever said "Beauty attracts but personality keeps" is true the problem is how can someone keep something if it can't even attract
A couple of years back I started going through big changes in my life physically, losing weight, getting healthy mentally, removing toxic people. There were a couple of weeks when I was feeling so so good. At the store, I noticed this guy did a serious double take at me smiling, which NEVER happens. Then I went to dinner with a couple and one of their friends who I never met before stopped over to say hi as he waited on his takeout order. This guy kept looking at me, smiling, blushing then looking away. This happened several times and like I said NEVER happens! I went home and thought what in the world is going on?!! I think about those two weeks sometimes when I want to exude confident energy and feeling really good about myself. That's how I will attract the things I want in my life : )
Honestly from what I've heard seeing a person smile sweetly is rare nowadays. Smiles are welcoming and relieving so I can imagine why that guy did a double take😂❤
So why did you stop?
I‘m really happy that you appeared in my RUclips fy page! Your content is so inspiring & interesting! Thank you 🥰🫶🏼🧚🏼
Ahh thank you! So glad I did too 🥰
She’s the best
It’s all in the small details! I stopped going to the salon to do my nails because I felt like it was a “stupid” way to spend money, but now that I’m on this self-love journey, I realize it’s not stupid. It makes me feel good. So I took an appointment and I’ll go to the salon this week. I also bought new dresses, started putting on mascara even if I work from home… When I cross myself in a mirror, I do feel better. When I do a grocery run, I take my time more and feel better in my own skin just for how I present to the world. I used to dress for others, but now I do it for myself. Feels good. Love all your videos, thank you for your uplifting content . 😊💖
Yes looks matter no matter what anybody says
As a psychology student I really enjoy that you include scientific experiments in your videos! keep on doing that I love it!
I also started wearing lipstick more and I really get what you mean ☺️
Big hearts and hugs to you girl! We are all sisters 💜
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We appreciate your insights. They’re concise and detailed.
Aw thank you! That’s what I strive for! ❤️
Loved the story about scars. Your perception is your reality.
"our perception is the only reality we know" 👏👏👏👏👏👏 you've earned a lifelong sub in me with this! your channel's the best Jillz
Self love = Self care & Self care = Self love
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Thanks for your perception on this topic 🌷
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I think what she's saying is about something relating to law of attraction. Like we become what we think about ourselves 💖 These universal things like manifestation, law of attraction etc. I guess is related to feminine energies somewhat. 💕🌺 Anyways, much love to you. And you're really very beautiful also radiates such a positive energy. btw I'm 18 years old! 😊💁🏻♀️
I agree☺️
Thank you for referencing that scar study. That blew my mind! Excellent video 💖
I appreciate your content so much. Thank you ! I have operated from my dark feminine energy most of my adult life and after some big awakenings turned into a raggedy hippie that don't care at all about my looks! 😂I am already finding myself beautiful and I am confident but feel the call to take my appearance to the next level in a more playful way than during my dark femme era (btw my profile pic still shows this time of my life!!!) just for me and to set the standard higher for my future husband +family. 🚀🌹
Hi Jillz, this is litteraly my very first comment on your channel. I'm so so happy with your content. I'm about to go and do similar work in The Netherlands. As I've searched for this myself and couldn't find it. So I ended up looking for english video's on feminine energy, health and welbeing for women. And I got stuck with your video's and channel. I started as a masseuse and Transformational cupping therapist but I felt I could do more and women in The Netherlands need more, more feminine energy stuff. You and another beautifull lady inspired me to start doing similar work. All with kindness, softness and love. With love, Maartje
Aww thank you for commenting and saying hello!! I’m so glad my videos have been valuable for you. This comment made my day! Sending lots of love!❤️❤️
I was listening to your video as I dropped my daughter off in boxer shorts, t-shirt, and no bra… then a good looking teacher was talking to my daughter because she dropped something and it got me thinking wow… what first impression am I giving off… and I also work from home and always have on pjs. The says I take the time to clean my surroundings and have one regular clothes I feel like I’m more awake and productive. I have to make some changes. Get that confidence back up 😊 you are so right!
Thanks for sharing your valuable reflections on the amount of agency we all have over how others perceive us. Very wise observations!
6:34 yep the scar thing is interesting to me because see I have some scars on my face from when I had chicken pox as a kid.
Because I was severely bullied for it for years I have always have low confidence about my face. I always notice it where other people do not.
100% agree woth you! It is important to look put together, first and foremost for yourself. I am doing yoga on daily base since 5 months, and my body really changend. ( I am 43 and have 2 kids, i guess I never looked and felt better, so much more confident) I absolutly did it for myself, but also for my family... thanks for all the great content you are creating, Jillz❤
Love that!!!💕
What you've described is called projection.
Exactly
That’s exactly what I need to hear ❤ thank u so much for sharing
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Love 💕 watching your videos Jill and your skin is glowing 😊
I love you I love the way you bring something controversial thing so smoothly. Thank you
This is such a good video. Seriously. This is such an important lesson te be aware of. It can 100% change your life! And I love the way you explained it❤ this video should be shown (or something similar) to young kids.
🥰🥰🥰Hi gorgeous Jillz!!! Great message. I totally agree as a 53 year old who has always put forth my best look starting in my late teens and never stopped and will continue until I am not physically able anymore. I am in to exercise, good diet, and tasteful dressing . Living and working in an East Coast city for many years, I constantly see here many women of all ages 20s, 30s, 40s not looking their best that any high caliber men would find attractive or would want to date. A lot of them are obese and/or are wearing yoga pants, hair bonnets, bedroom slippers, and the super huge caterpillar eyelashes that you can see a block away out in public!! Therefore, I stand out in a good way because my appearance is well put together with hair, makeup, and appropriate clothing which makes me feel like a super model in comparison to a lot of them being younger than I am. I never looked awful or tacky in my younger years and it doesn't take a lot of money to not wear your pajamas outside to the store. So, I get a lot of nice attention from men because my look is so different than most, not all, of the women in this town. I will continue to enjoy the privileges.😊
Very interesting, like the message!!
Also, you always dress so well: those feminine cuts, and you really know which colours that suits you the most! 😊
I agree with all of this, making the most of what you have, working on confidence, improving yourself, etc. I also appreciate you acknowledging that on FIRST impression, people do tend to favor the more conventionally pretty. It’s not a popular truth but it is what it is. Still - the face I was born with is not my only ticket to success. The people who only ever get a first impression are not worth my anxiety, and the people I interact with again will have an opportunity to see past the external. It’s a win-win in the end if you don’t let people’s initial reaction get to you!
Hey Jillz, can you make a video about makeup that you use, that are more clean and free of dangerous chemicals?
What a great and smart video! Jillz you’re such a sweet person✨
This is so brilliant! I love the study you mention. This would be a great addition to help those with BDD too. Focusing too much on flaws really is all about perspective, not reality. Thanks for sharing!
I agree with this video 100%. I like getting up a little earlier, taking a bit longer with my hair and makeup because it just makes me feel more confident and in control. If I ever look back on a really good day in my life, what's made it good has been my perception of the days events. I've been happy because I've felt neat and put together. I went to bed early, got up early. There's so much to be said for feeling happy in your own skin, it makes you glow on the outside xx
This video is gold, I always feel bad because of my acne, since it's hormonal I've been having a hard time with it and the scars it leaves that I feel like no matter how much I wear cute outfits and make my hair I won't look good
Did you try Marvelon daily birth control pills method? I tried tretinoin (use direct/ drink), vitamin, spa, laser... Like everything and I was stuck for over 10 years until my friend told me to try Marvelon. Miracle!!!
People gets mad when you judge when they don’t fit your values instead of try to give effort to their looks , everyone should focus on their look , I personally don’t like to be close to people who don’t care about their health and look and self care
Loved hearing you talk. It was a great reminder when sometimes you forget to do things for yourself. ❤ Could have listened to you much longer❤
Wow … the scar experiment has changed my perception on stories I’ve created in my head. Thank you for this video.
I love some of the points you made, but that last conclusive message you made that 'we should all make more effort to look our best' felt a bit superficial and shallow. Sometimes self care for me is to have days in the house when I tie my hair up into a messy bun, let my skin breathe and not wear any make up, and wear a comfy baggy t shirt and just chill. Too much of my day to day is getting dressed up, wearing make up, looking put together when I'm out and about and honestly it's a little exhausting and to be quite frank I couldn't give a bloody hoot what people think if they see me in my oversized T and rats nest hair. 😂 I don't have to look glamorous 24/7 and I revel in my no-make up, chill days. I look good either way because I feel good about myself regardless.
Everyone always needs those days sometimes, I mean to just not make it your norm 💜
I do that inside my house too but Id never go out in public like that.
@@MissArtisticSasnuhy You never go out in public with no make up on and hair tied up?
@@TheCrystallineLeoness i do but I still make sure I look put together 👀
@@MissArtisticSasnuhy I'm confident either way I look. It's 100% a mentality thing.
They do matter! Agree ❤
LOVLEY ! Thank you, Jillz❤😊
I only just subscribed and am bingewatching a few, feeling inspired.
One thing I have only just worked out as I have gotten older, is that you AGE with the beauty or ugliness inside. When I was younger, I did not truly understand the sayings like ' don't like don't frown in the wind, it might stick' (or something like this).
It seemed like an old wives tale, but it does, over time occur, once the skin and hormones drop away.
Your regular emotional state or resentments etc eventually play out on your face and posture/ health. The biological chemistry underlying these emotions become visible.
The outside beauty can be created easily in youth or caked on later, but the inner life eventually becomes the undercarriage.
I also know a number of people who are beautiful on the inside, but don't 'glow up' and they have a magnetism about them.
Hey! Jillz I am so so happy to see you back and I really missed your videos so so much you are my inspiration and I wish you have a wonderful weekend💫🤗💗
Aww thank you!! You too!!🥰❤️
9:30 Archer 😂 New viewer, realised your vid was suggested when I was ready to receive this information/ perspective- thank you for the simple techniques to be proactive in our attitude .
Attractive people - who are intelligent and kind and helpful - get better paying jobs, they live in safer neighborhoods, they have better homes and more intelligent friends while unintelligent, uneducated, unattractive people rarely have these benefits - makeup tricks with awesome hair, a physically fit body and great clothes can improve the life of almost any woman.
It's actually crazy how it also work the same with animals. People like animals that are beautiful or cute and take dogs for example
As someone who has a facial paralysis and deformity from my experience i have noticed that days where my scar and deformity is more noticeable to me i feel more self conscious and feel like it is the only thing that people can see. That being said some days i forget about them and it feels like breathing properly again. people tell me all the time that it is not noticeable but if you can see it it is enough for you to filter what you see in the world
This video’s content is gold! Thank you so much🙏🏻❤️🥰
Ahh glad you liked it!!!🥰
Yes but it's not like we are a piece of meat.
What you are inside, your belief system shows up outside, your mental health etc.
So if you view yourself as just meat you are devaluing yourself and that is actually gonna make you look worse because you are lowering your selfconcept.
If you understand you have a soul and you take care of yourself because you love yourself, then that is what make you actually magnetic.
So if you get milion sugeries and truly feel like you are just looks you will actually atract the worst man.
If you take care of yourself because of apreciation for you, for who you are then that is the formula.
What you explained is very very interesting and it shows everything has to do with internal things, your own feeling about you, not just having a certain look.
i agree with u thank you jillz!
So true ❤ i love your gentle tone ❤
I've been with a lot of hot men and they are all garbage. Remember that if he believes he's hot he's more likely to cheat and be having sex with other women. He's not gonna stay faithful. Be with the whole package a really good looking guy is fine but it's also about personality and morals. His morals and him being a good person is the most important of all.
I love this video; thanks Jillz, always learn so much from you❤️
Thank you for the reminder. This is soooooo important!
I could literally listen to your content all day long 😅😊 So inspirational🍀 Thanks for everything ❤️
Ahh thanks for watching!!!🥰🥰
@JillzGuerin you have no idea how excited I got when I saw the notification for your new video 😁🙈 In the last couple of months, you helped me change my perspective about a lot of stuff 🍀💕 so grateful 🙏
i love the way you look
I love this. Exactly what my styling business is based on!
welcome back from your trip!
Thank you!!!!💖
I’m tired of being judged and the other girls get treated better when my heart is solid gold .
Yes yes!!!!!!! xoxo
I absolutely agree!
Loki is so much hotter to me than Thor. I like slender men, I don't like buff. I would say that buff men to me seem a bit less inteligent.
I agreeee with everything you said and love your way of viewing this topic, but I just wanted to share that on the (rare) days my hair looks greasy, I smell sweaty and my jeans got dirty, I remind myself that the patriarchy wants women to look good + to invest a lot of time/focus/energy into their appearence, so that we have less time to face political/financial/whatever stuff, so me looking awful is an act of rebellion, HAHA :D
Perception is reality 🧐💯
Can we see the new bag and shoes?! ❤️🌸
Hahahah my first though too!
The way you talk/sound often makes me think of Kirsten Dunst. 😄 Just had to share that. 🌞🌸
The only thing you're wrong about is the undeniable sex appeal of Loki😂. Love your videos!
@@lazyree1923I Don't find him attractive.
This is a fantastic video! I had to subscribe to you because everything you talked about was so true.
What a wonderful explanation. Thank you so much for this video 💓💓
I watch you from Mexico ❤ I enjoy your videos so much !
Girl i'm in love with the hair colour! Tell me 🥹
I am from India...and recently found ur channel...
Its really worth watching your contant.. thank you so much❤️❤️
Great video, and I hope enjoyed your trip ❤
Look good, feel good, do good. - Alexissss
I enjoyed your video!💜 You talked facts.
great video jillz!
I love ur channel much 😍💪🏻
The people who complain about "pretty privilege" just don't bother taking the time to make themselves look decent. It isn't a "privilege" it's called working to better yourself.
I think that’s partly true. I also know that many of us take lots of time and attention to level up and look as put-together as possible, and walk out the door feeling like we look great… and are still treated differently because we are not conventionally pretty. (There’s a positive trade-off, we don’t get hit on by creeps very often. 😅) But to say that some women are put down or overlooked upon first sight ONLY because they’re not “confident” or “making an effort” is just naive at best.
@EspressoLaine There's no just thing as conventional beauty anymore. I am a very thin woman. I could be described as scrawny. Always have been. The curvy woman is what's beautiful now. I would not say that I have been treated worse than a curvy woman because I don't go through life comparing my experiences to everyone else's because I am not them. I'm me and all I can do is make the best of what I can. Soon, the beauty standards will change like they always have and another type of woman will be the "conventional beauty" and the cycle will continue.
@@thepuffinpanda9139 I definitely don’t mean figure or even weight. I’m referring to deformities and unnatural features that have *never* been considered attractive - and I am not at all hurt that this didn’t occur to you, I’m genuinely glad that you do not have that experience! You are correct that culture is fickle, but many of us have to live with it all our lives, no matter how hard we try to improve ourselves, so we learn to roll with it and try not to let it batter our confidence when we are treated like we’re mentally deficient or outcasts for looking “different”. So yes, I still say that making the effort to better yourself is absolutely necessary - but pretty privilege still exists simply because human nature tends to place more value on what it finds attractive. Many people are genuinely kind and do not make blanket assumptions, but it means they have had to make the effort to unlearn that tendency.
@@thepuffinpanda9139curvy women are what's beautiful now? In what part of the world? In Western culture, e.g., the current beauty standard is all about tall, slender, long-legged, fit women. Maybe add big fake boobs to the mix, but that doesn't make them curvy. And there's no way you can ever meet such a standard if you're short or maybe have a stockier structure, no matter how much you doll yourself up
@ilariamasullo3353 Umm, have you completely forgotten about how much so called "body positivity" is pushed? You are blind if you are missing the loads of campaigns surrounding fashion and the media who are pushing "fat acceptance" and if you work out and think that health is good, then you are "fat phobic". Short, curvy women were the most beautiful in the 50s. Slender women were not the ideal standard. In the 20s, it was the exact opposite. Look at artworks from the Renaissance and Greek and Roman empires. What did they deem beautiful? Was it the same as the heroin chic women that was popular in the 90s? No. The ebb and flow of people's tastes and trends will alwys change. If you aren't "it" right now, that sucks but that's ok. There is someone for everyone and he is the only who should matter to you. People will always find a reason to like or dislike you. That's called life.
Love this video 💗
Thanks ❤❤
You're gorgeous ❤
I looked at you.
You looked at me.
I smiled at you.
You smiled at me.
And we're on our way......
This was a lovely video. But there are some people who look good even without wearing cute outfits and makeup and hair. And then there are some of us who just seem like we need makeup to look better. For example, 15 days ago, I was on my senior prom. I wore a stunning jumpsuit and had curled my hair. I didn't wear any makeup though, I only wore a dark lip. My friend wore a slitted black dress and had a full face of makeup. She got so much compliments. I never got a single one. But generally, both of us hardly get approached or complimented. So do we really look better with makeup? Because without the makeup, I felt I looked horrid at that prom, that explains the zero compliments.
That shouldn't be anything to worry about. Even when I look my best, most probably the only compliments I'll ever get are from my family. That doesn't mean I didn't look good, or that people didn't look at me while I wasn't paying attention.
During my prom, all the guys in my class couldn't care less, yet when I was dancing this other guy who was completely a stranger to me was staring at me while smiling. He immediately turned when he realized he was seen. Now, if I hadn't turned my head at that specific moment, I wouldn't have known. So yeah, it not getting compliments and especially from people you know doesn't mean much.
And maybe they complimented your friend that wore makeup because usually when someone who doesn't wear makeup suddenly comes with a full face, this difference gets noticed. Doesn't mean you or she wasn't beautiful to begin with. It's just a difference people noticed.
Looks matter . Men want to feel proud with you. If you’re the Belle of the ball it’s a no brainer - science .
Being pretty is à proveledge learn to use it. The focus here is to be presentable
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princess updated ?! 🩰
Spot on.
Video starts at 2:30
Sending you love from ireland Jill :)
I think Loki is much hotter judging only by appearance 😂 villains always have the best outfits ❤
Only error with this video is that I know WAY more Loki fangirls than Thor fangirls😂 like, it’s a landslide
Haha ok well maybe bad example but you get my point 😂😂
Thor is just too boring, and Loki is much more intersting and deep character=)))
Weekend ❤
5:36 I remembered that story from somewhere else