I think the shitty thing is, as an adult we all get something like this or have an experience where we are pressured to conform. Once we do conform, we want others to as well. If they get to express themselves and be different, it hurts that we gave up our own spirit. The pressure won't go away, but hopefully you can get yourself into a spot where eventually you won't have to care as much.
man i am going through damn near the exact same thing in a way. i turn 24 in 10 days, i got no job, no money, living at my moms, and mental issues that i am not doing great at fixing. But let me tell you, it ain't about appearances.. bro you gotta be okay ALL the way not on the outside. What's the point of appearing to be fine when your falling apart? Don't ever change for others, do it for yourself! You got your name as starshine, so shine! Don't let others snuff that. The title of this video stopped me in my damn tracks. I was a Mature kid, and i do 100% think it does contribute to my issues as an adult. I didn't really get to be much of a kid, i had to take care of a drunken dad. So now as an adult (with out the guidance of a father) I am utterly lost, confused and scared. Which has made me immature, i play video games and smoke weed, i am still acting like a kid. This life is already hard the second we are born. Having issues on top of that has stunted my growth towards "being an adult" and i suck at fixing that, i don't push myself forwards. But sometimes we got to, and help comes a long way. I don't know what im trying to say with this comment, just that i know your pain. Much love stranger, we gotta keep pushing one day at a time, and pick up our souls along the way. It'll all come together as we go, and we will learn to live with ourselves and grow. I hope things get better for you, as well as i
thats bs coming from your family. dont change, keep being you. i used to get the same talk about how i should be married and have 3 kids by now but i never let it get to me. everything will happen when its suppose. also happy late birthday. stay you and stay awesome💜
i agree. it's not her obligation to live up to expectations from family. everyone is their own person. starshine you will be alot happier living your life the way you want, with your "childlike" interests or whatever, don't let them get to you, they're unhappy and if anything are jealous of you and the fact they might've never really lived their lives. you have to keep that whimsy and internal child happy, i'm almost 21, and i still sleep with stuffed animals, play the games i did as a kid, etc etc, there is no sort of cutoff
I feel you. My family, particularly my mother pushes conformity onto me incessantly, reinforcing the idea that appearances matter more than anything else. Currently, I am resolute in my stance that I don’t want to conform, I spent my whole life doing it and it got me no where. I am still struggling to truly love in my own skin, but I will not stop, I hope the same for you
i never believed in god ether because i had a very traumatizing kid hood i am in my teen hood now but my mom died about a year ago you know what happend she came a visited me the night i found out she died she said lily i love you but god needs you i got baptized i have bin getting like so much more than i asked for i got pretty i lost wait i got a job and i have not shelf harmed in 3 moths he will help just try once plz just hold on
I think the shitty thing is, as an adult we all get something like this or have an experience where we are pressured to conform. Once we do conform, we want others to as well. If they get to express themselves and be different, it hurts that we gave up our own spirit. The pressure won't go away, but hopefully you can get yourself into a spot where eventually you won't have to care as much.
man i am going through damn near the exact same thing in a way. i turn 24 in 10 days, i got no job, no money, living at my moms, and mental issues that i am not doing great at fixing. But let me tell you, it ain't about appearances.. bro you gotta be okay ALL the way not on the outside. What's the point of appearing to be fine when your falling apart? Don't ever change for others, do it for yourself! You got your name as starshine, so shine! Don't let others snuff that. The title of this video stopped me in my damn tracks. I was a Mature kid, and i do 100% think it does contribute to my issues as an adult. I didn't really get to be much of a kid, i had to take care of a drunken dad. So now as an adult (with out the guidance of a father) I am utterly lost, confused and scared. Which has made me immature, i play video games and smoke weed, i am still acting like a kid. This life is already hard the second we are born. Having issues on top of that has stunted my growth towards "being an adult" and i suck at fixing that, i don't push myself forwards. But sometimes we got to, and help comes a long way. I don't know what im trying to say with this comment, just that i know your pain. Much love stranger, we gotta keep pushing one day at a time, and pick up our souls along the way. It'll all come together as we go, and we will learn to live with ourselves and grow. I hope things get better for you, as well as i
Also cute kitty, i also got a tabby cat and he keeps me going
Good luck!
thats bs coming from your family. dont change, keep being you. i used to get the same talk about how i should be married and have 3 kids by now but i never let it get to me. everything will happen when its suppose. also happy late birthday. stay you and stay awesome💜
i agree. it's not her obligation to live up to expectations from family. everyone is their own person. starshine you will be alot happier living your life the way you want, with your "childlike" interests or whatever, don't let them get to you, they're unhappy and if anything are jealous of you and the fact they might've never really lived their lives. you have to keep that whimsy and internal child happy, i'm almost 21, and i still sleep with stuffed animals, play the games i did as a kid, etc etc, there is no sort of cutoff
I feel you. My family, particularly my mother pushes conformity onto me incessantly, reinforcing the idea that appearances matter more than anything else. Currently, I am resolute in my stance that I don’t want to conform, I spent my whole life doing it and it got me no where. I am still struggling to truly love in my own skin, but I will not stop, I hope the same for you
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i never believed in god ether because i had a very traumatizing kid hood i am in my teen hood now but my mom died about a year ago you know what happend she came a visited me the night i found out she died she said lily i love you but god needs you i got baptized i have bin getting like so much more than i asked for i got pretty i lost wait i got a job and i have not shelf harmed in 3 moths he will help just try once plz just hold on