Tso Txhua Yam Rau Ntxhais Vauv Txog Kawg Poob Kua Muag Part 2 End~01/01/2024~
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- Опубликовано: 31 дек 2023
- Hmong Drama Story: Part 2 ending of her life and her childrens.
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We need to hear John's story.
As a mother when we feel too entitled, we end up losing everything. You are still using your authority as a "mother" who gave birth to your son against him while not taking accountability for what caused the distance.
Kalia - your advice is on point.
Wow, I love your response, Maa Vaj! I agree with what you’re telling this sad mother.
I hope after hearing Mab’s advices, you will change. Listening to your “ apologetic“ letter to your son was hard as it didn’t sound like you were sorry at all. Especially the part where you told him if his wife try’s to stop him from seeing you, just marry a new one as there are plenty of fish in the sea. 🤦♀️🤦♀️As a parent myself, we are not always right but you seem to think that you are always right because you gave birth to him. Remember that family is not always about blood, it’s those who love you. You clearly didn’t care about him when he disappeared for 6 years. If you really love him as you say you do, you would try harder to reach out to him in those 6 years, not now only when you’re facing hardship. If your daughters and Vauvs are still in your life, you wouldn’t even think of him for 2 seconds. I hope that you’ll change and have the closure you needed from your son.
I can relate to John's pain. I was disowned by my parents and siblings because I left my abusive ex-husband. My parents wanted me to stick it out for the sake of their reputation, but I stood my ground and left the marriage. My parents held a grudge against me and has influenced all my siblings to turn their backs on me. I've suffered, but what didn't kill me only made me who I am today. Now my parents wants to come and acknowledge me as their daughter, I just can't accept them back into my life. I've forgiven them, but I'm happier now than ever before. I've persevered through the hard times and my kids are the only family that I have now.
We reap what we sow, becareful of what pathwe choose because it will come back to bite us in the end.
Your son is hurt in so many ways unknown. Pray for forgiveness and let God work in both of your hearts. I pray that you both will find it in your hearts to make amends with each other before its too late.
Sister Mab, I love it. It's a great lesson. If John wasn't successful, today this mother would have criticized him instead of regreting him. We, as parents, including myself, can not control our kids to be who we want them to be and soft talks like our daughters, especially if it's their personality. You can not use your right as "parents" to control them to do as you say when you're wrong. Just because we're parents doesn't mean we're always right. I feel sad for her and but this is what she wants. I hope things get better for her. Your advice is great! But remember if John decided to be left alone the mother will just have to respect his choice, menyuam meka no coj li no lawm. There is no need for her to explain thaum I thaum I.
OMG, lady! Get a grip! Do you even hear yourself. You have not apologized to this child. Listen to your own story, you yourself said you did not love him as much as you loved the girls. You told him this to his face; however, you never paid attention to his abilities and to the kindness that he has in his heart. Your life insurance policy was paid by him while struggling in school. Did you take a moment to realize how good of a son you had?
Everything niam neej vam say is correct. I hope you will take her advice and be a better mother moving forward.
Yes I agree with the feed back you have given to the nam tsev in this story. She has to put her pride a side and ask her son for forgiveness and hopefully she wil be able given a second chance. Good luck to her!
Sometimes it’s best to leave it alone. Some relationships are irreparable. Just make peace with the fact that you will live and die alone. Go to church and find God. That’s how you can find peace and forgiveness.
Dang this Mom doesn’t see her faults at all still blaming her son for abandoning his parents. Such an ungrateful mom who carries her ego too high. John left cus she told him to leave. The moment she changed the beneficiaries to her daughters when John was well aware of was wrong in so many levels. I don’t feel sorry for this mom at all. She deserves what’s coming for her. She never love her son John and still don’t love him. Smh! Shame on you lady! Maybe this mom has never heard the line “ love and family doesn’t have to be the same blood line” we can only love and respect those who loves and respects us. If the mom truly love her son from the beginning she too shall receive the love she deserves
Awesome advice!
My only comment. Track records or statistics show that narcissists will never change.
"It's because I was mean to you that's why you are successful."
In her eyes, she should've been thanked instead of being disowned.
If you want your son back i agree with Kablia niam neej vam. She says it all. I do hope that there'll be a part 3 with some good endings for yoy.
Thank you KabLia Niam neej Vam. You are so right! Everything you said are correct!
Kalia, OMG! I love u for your responses! You hit every point. Thank you! I LOVE your advices!!! ❤❤❤
Yes, John loves his kids. He probably understands how he's supposed to treat his kids vs from the way you treated him. Heck, he will probably love them the way his father-in-law loved him when he was at his lowest.
I love how whenever u talk about him, you only emphasize on the size of his house or his success. Parents like you only want their kids back after they've already overcome their obstacles by themselves, alone.
When I listen to part 1 the other day, I was so frustrated at you for treating your son the way you did. Now listening to part 2, I am more frustrated at your because you don't realize your fault nor own up to it. You put the blame solely on your son and you won't step down and admit your fault for being a horrible mother who didn't know how to teach and guide him. Don't use the excuse that you are like the universe and the child is only the planet to make you feel less quilty about your poor decions and actions. You need to admit your fault and apologize & show that you love him and whether John forgives you or not or allows you to be a part of his life, is his choice & respect that.
Lady, as a mother/father, we have the right to lecture them & teach them right from wrong, when they are bad or don’t listen but we do not kick them out of the house. U chose ur daughters over him when they were kids. U kicked him out of the house & told him not to ever come back home & that he better not take anything from the house. That everything in the house belongs to u & that John better leave empty handed. Wat kind of a mother would say that to their own kids?? It is & will always be ur fault that John is bitter towards u. Just because u have nobody now, doesn’t mean John’s gonna come back & love u & want u in his life. The damage has already been done, there’s no going back. If I was John, I’d do the same thing & disown u for kicking him out the way u did.
Niam neej vam koj hais yog lawm os mog thov qhuas koj lo lus txhawb siab nawb .
Niam Neej Vam, kuv thov qhuas koj cov lus. Koj hais yog tshaj li. 💯
She doesn’t love or care about John. The whole 5-6 years that has gone by, his parents didn't even care to check on him. She only guilt trips John to take her in now because she needs a place to stay and someone to take care of her funeral. I hope John doesn't take her in because she will destroy his life. She only care about herself. A true narcissist is what she is.
Wow. I thought at the end, you would learn and admit your fault. But you still hold your head so high that you are the mother and you so high and mighty. You haven't learned, so you will continue to lose your kids. Listen to Kalia's advice.
I totally agree with this statement from the sister story teller.. you point what’s right n wrong n say so well what the mom needed to hear ..
People who don’t love their kids but always said koj twb yug tau ib co thiab yog koj hlub koj cov li cas ces kuv hlub koj li ntawv. Come on lady. If you really love your son like u said why didn’t helped him when he needed you the most. Yes you’re the mother and you gave birth to him but that’s doesn’t always mean you always entitled to everything. The best way is to just let your son live his life and you live your. And after all these years you still asked your son to leave his wife and come chosen you. Some people will never leave and see their wrong.
Niam neejvam aw koj mas hais tau rau tus me niam tsev nov zoo tshaj plaws li os.
Koj tseem xav tau zoo tshaj qhov kuv xav lawm thiab
Thank you for being honest with this lady. Someone need to be honest and true with her.
It's a hard decision to decide who is more wrong. Perhaps the mom is a little bit more, but I understand her also if you have such a difficult child. The son is very wrong in so many ways too. Tsi qhuas nws li thiab. Both need to find forgiveness for the other, especially if he really believes in his new faith which is based on forgiveness. He's really dark-hearted and bitter. Hopefully he'll do what's right, if he really wants to go to heaven, and go apologize to his mom and ask for forgiveness and love his mom. One can't enter heaven without having forgiven like Jesus has forgiven us. This is a very sad story. I hope for a better outcome for both of you.
After reading all the comments, you still don't get it. If you've managed to frustrate all the listeners, I bet you've put your son through hell, but I do want to help you better understand yourself and your selfish mindset.
1) instead of thinking you are right, and saying the comments don't bother you because we are not you, you should think hard about why people are not on your side and try to figure out what's wrong
2) instead of saying, "I might not be the best mother, but..." Try saying, "I'm sorry for hurting you, my son." And give honest examples.
3) instead of talking about how much you love your son, you should acknowledge that you now understand that you never supported him and can see now that his inlaws have given him that. Promise that you will learn from his inlaws and treat him with love n respect.
4) instead of blaming his wife and using her as the reason he might be ignoring you, you should admit that you know you've hurt both him and his wife and apologize to both of them. Ask for both to be in your life.
5) instead of saying, "you have kids, you should now understand how much i loved you because you love your kids." You should say, "I've seen you with your kids, you love them so much. I now know that I did not love you like that. I am ashamed of what I've put you through".
The problem with you is that you are incapable of understanding another point of view. You are stuck in your way of thinking which is that you are always the victim, refusing to see any of your wrong doings. There are no excuses for mistreating a child, so you can't say, "I may have done this, BUT..." There are no "buts" when it comes to mistreating a child. I hope you take my advice seriously and fix the way you think.
Yes!! Mab is right on point.
I have learned that as a parent your job is to raise them well, gave them the skills and knowledge until they grow up.. don’t expect anything from them. Because if you do
You will feel sad and disappointed when they can’t fulfill your expectations.
In truth reality they did not ask to come to this world, you are the one wanting them to be your children. You brought them here. Change your mindset to not expect anything from them if they love you then that’s great and very fortune in your part! if they don’t
You don’t feel so bad.
In my professional career I’ve seen so many elderly people who had no one visiting them I often wondered why and I asked them
Some gave a very sad story like yours but some said that’s ok because we as parents brought them into this world. They told me what said above and plus they said Remember the birds 🦅 flying in the sky as soon as they learned how to fly they flew away. Don’t get too disappointed. Take care of yourself. Think of others as well. I hope you find peace in yourself
Just pray for your son and wishes him well. Forgive yourself and forgive him. Thank God you have raised him well to be a good father/husband for his children and wife. 🙏
I wish I had a son like yours. I will love and support him from day one.
Your son is not a bad son. He was abandon by his parents first. That's why he can still follow his relatives and be love by them. Total narcissist. Never would see her wrongdoings. If she was being loved by her daughters she would've continue to disown him. She still does not see that his poj laib was actually the best thing that happen to him. Now she's in the dark she misses him.
If John is a true Christian, God will speak to him and he will hear and come back around to forgive and love you. I pray John's heart is with God
I 💯% agree with Mai Vaj!
You reap what you sow. Being a parent is a choice one makes, therefore the child doesn't owe you anything. Love is shown first before it's given back. You are such a hard headed woman and a right fighter. It's never too late to ask for forgiveness and be accountable for what you did. He owe you nothing.
Mab, greatest advice 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼 hopefully your message get through her ears and not out the other.
Mab well said on your advice. I agree with you 100%. I hope this Niam Thai listens to your advice.
Niam tais! Koj yeej tsis yog ib leej niam zoo. Twb yog Tim koj es koj tus tub thiaj li mus lawm tu siab nrho. Cov me nyuam tawv2 ncauj thiab siab tawv thiaj li ua tau txiv neej yawg thiab thiaj li hlub tau koj tab sis koj tseem muab koj tus tub ntiab tawm thiab muab tej nyiaj thiab iv suav las pauv rau koj 2 tug ntxhais tag ces yeej tsim nyog koj tus tub khiav ntawm koj mus ntsiag to. Koj kav tshij mus ua dev pliab dev plu es mus thov txim ntawm koj tus tub tus nyab xwb mas.
You should be ashamed of yourself for not supporting your only son. You didnt give yourself a chance to reconcile. You have no right to be upset at him but only at yourself.
Kalia, koj qhov advice zoo tshaj plaws. I would have given that same advice, too! As parents, we should never give up hope on our kids, even if we feel like it. We have to learn how to adapt to today's kids and society to be able to fit in with everyone. Great story, lessons, and advice for everyone.
Well said Niam Neej Vam. Amen
Niam pog aws Tej zaum koj yeej tau ua ib qho rau john tu siab rau koj lawm os
Thank you for the link to Part 1. You are so efficient girl.
For the story owner....leave your son alone. You did him sooo wrong. You never loved him so if you can't stay with your daughters go to a NH or continue to stay by yourself. Good luck.....its gonna be really hard but I hope you can try to fix it.
Agree. Tus pog no ua teeb meem rau tus tub no thaum pib txog thaum kawg. Tus pog no nco tus tub vim tsis muaj leej twg hlub nws lawm xwb. Nws 2 tug ntxhais nws hlub hlub tsis hlub nws.
Yus tsis txawj ua niam. Yus hlub yus cov menyuam tsis sib npaug. Very good advice from Mrs. Story teller.
This mom should be grateful that her son found other parents who was willing to love him. Woman!! You never love or show love to ur son John! Don’t try to guilt trip him 😅You’re wrong in so many levels of being a mom. Koj txawj yug xwb koj tsis txawj hlub
Niam Neej Vam you are absolutely correct!
I have one kid who is really stubborn. I get mad at him at times, too, but we always have a seat n have the talk about why I yelled at him or what he doesn't like about me. You gave up too soon on him. We have to remember that as parents, we are not always right. Hope you and your son find forgiveness.
One thing as parents, we need to not only put trust or love in only one or two kids but leave the others hanging. Love them all equally n you will receive many loves in return ❤
John, for get your mom ok because you are God children today you are a new person. Go love your mom. So God will for get you ok. Love you brother
Children are very forgiving! They always seek their parents acceptance! Yog Nws zoo Rau Sawv daws es tsis zoo Rau Koj xwb no ces Koj Xav zoo zoo tias seb puas yog Tim koj
The heck! I’m a 75 generation and I would be offended by your actions too, sister! You haven’t learned anything, you still have your youngest daughter as your beneficiary on your own life insurance???
Sister, you still don’t see your wrongdoing. You’re asking him to leave his wife if she doesn’t let him see you. You didn’t even give her a chance in the beginning. You took the first strike at her! How would you feel if you were her? Please, swallow your pride and meet with your son and nyab to apologize and start over.
Good advices Mab Vaj!
Omg, thank you! I’m calling all my kids now! 😅😢😂
Tu niam no ntshe nw pua hlwb lawm xwb txog txij no lawm lo nw yeej tseem tsi tau pom nw qhov kev txhaum li na ha yom vim nw tsi txawj coj xwb nw tu me nyuam thiaj tu siab rau nw lawm
Yog tim Koj hlub yuam kev ntxhais lawn thov kev txhaum
This mother wants her son to come back to love her but instead of apologizing and owning up to what she did to him, she still have the guts to tell him to leave his wife and family to go back to her after shes been out of his life for so long? This story is just all about her her her her. She doesn't feel regrets, she still is toxic and blaming others for what she did. All mothers are not the same, so stop saying we all are mothers just to make you look good. She complains and is jealous of the in laws for loving her son, It doesn't have to be families to love you cause even families can kill you.
Thank you Mab Vaj for your wonderful advice at the end cause this story was surely stressful.
Good story and good lesson
Niam Neej Vam, I LOVE your input! Some parents think that just because they birth a child, they own that child and they have the right to say/do anything to their child which is untrue! Your children did not ask to be born. You made them so you are responsible for them until they are adults. As a parent who loves their kids, you will continue to love and support them until you’re no longer in this world. This mother did her son wrong and she expects the son to rekindle their relationship. 🤦♀️ It is only right for her to admit her wrongs and rekindle their relationship. She has no right to be mad at him if he doesn’t want to rekindle their relationship because she messed up. She played favoritism and it backfired her. Every child needs love and they deserve to be loved especially by their parents! Love has no boundaries. Biological or not, love is not determined by that. Whoever shows love will get loved. Actions speak louder than words.
Niam Tais Yawm Txiv zoo kawg nkaus. Koj cia li zoo siab thiab nqa tes ua lawv tsaug xwb, vim muaj lawv koj tus tub thiaj muaj lub neej. Txhob siv tej lus uas hais tias, “twb yog vim muaj kuv ua li ntawv es koj thiaj muaj hnub no.” Cov lus no tsis yog lus hais. Peb cov ua niam ua txiv peb yeej yuam kev qee chim. Qhov uas koj tus tub xav tau yog koj hlub nws xwb.
Yes, lesson learned. Please treat your kids all the same. I do equal beneficial to all my kids.
To the son, your mom is toxic, not a good mom. She didn’t even treat you well and now, still encourage you to divorce your wife to come back to her. Live your life and don’t worry about her
Tu siab kawg...txawm phem npaum twg los yog yus niam txhob hnov qab
Mab, I comment before hearing your thoughts and we think alike. Yes, agreed with u!
Niam Neej Vam koj hais txhua yam yog li qhov kuv xav kiag lawm! 💯💯💯 Muab xav los, yog tias cov ntxhais vauv hlub nws tej zaum nws twb tsis nco txog John lawm thiab. Yus yog leej niam yus yeej tu tu siab mas tab sis kuv yog tub ntxhais los kuv yeej chim siab ib yam. Best wishes to the mom.
Kalia!
I agreed!
Greatest advice, your advice is on point! Therefore, pointing out the wrongs and rights and establishing for improvements. Great job!
Mab, your advice and insight is correct. The mother in this story needs to listen.
“Kuv tseem yuav tsa tau koj lub neej?” You’re not sorry and definitely have not learned your lesson. In what way can you elevate his life? He’s in a better place in his life than you are with yours! Do some real soul searching and find a better way to have him come back into your life. What you’re doing now will not cut it.
Koj hlub cov ntxhais dhau lawm tus tub tu siab tshaj qhov tu lawm koj zaj no qhia tau coob2 tus niam txiv li os
Nyob zoo os tus niam tsev aws koj yog ib leej niam zoo kawg tiam sis koj yuav tsum txo hwj chim los thov txim thiab zam txim pub rau tus tub thiaj yog tus zoo niam tiag2 txhob foom nws siv tsis tau mog. 1. 1. 24.
Niam neej vam koj hais yog kawg
Tim yus hlub ntxhais dua ne. Tim koj xwb os kuv xav na. Yeej hlub ntxhais cais tub nws thiaj ntsoos2 os. Yog hlub ces nws khiav koj yeej nrhiav thaum nws khiav tawm hauv koj lub neej os. Nim qhuav ntxim tau kev txom nyem mam tig nrhiav ces tshav koj ntuj nrig xwb moj
Thov kom koj tus tub hos tig los hlub koj o. Peb yog 1 leej niam peb yeej hlub2 peb cov me nyuam kawg li nawb. Mus thov txiv rau nws thiab qhia koj txoj kev hlub nws mog vam tias nws yuav zam txim rau koj o
You love your son but you tried to manipulate and control him. YOU are in the wrong regarding the life insurance.
Stop trying to guilt trip him. If you're truly sorry, YOU reach out to him and truly apologize to him. You have too much pride and won't admit you're wrong, so you'll continue to be alone.
Mab, your words are SO right!
👏👏👏👏 Mab, your advices are correct! Your son will forgive but you must apologize! Im sure your son will accept your apology.
As cas yuav tu siab ua luaj li no os me niam tsev aw hlub2 koj kawg li os mog
Yes Mab Vaj, your input is very encourging and the right way to fix things. And Hopefully we get a part 3 on following up on this story 🤞🏽
I’m a mom of an only son, I can empathize with the mom. But dang the mixed emotions of anger and sadness in this story, pray this lady find peace in this situation.
Zaj no mas txaus tu siab kawg nkaus li os.txojkev no ces leej twg,leej twg thiaj paub xwb os.😂😂😂😂
Love your input
Kuv yeej pom li niam neej vam hais, niam neej vam koj yeej hais yog kawg nkaws li..kuv thov qhuas koj ,hais tau zoo heev .kuv los yeej pom li koj pom...thiab.....
Mab vaj. Niam laus, koj hais yog tshaj lawm.
Kalia, you are 💯 correct!!
I don't like it when parents don't take responsibility for their wrong doing but then tell their kids" you have kids too, just watch you will be in my shoes" . You need to realized that because of how you treat them, they are trying to be better parents for their kids ..so STOP using that phrase..and admit your mistakes.!!
Tu2 siab os lub neej laus😢😢
Niam neej vam, I agreed with your advice and suggestions.
How can you say you love your son but then tell him that you will basically get him a new wife? That his mom is forever but his wife is a temporary thing? You are a messed up mom. His wife and her family are the ones who helped him through the hard times and now that his life is good you are seeking to destroy it. He made the right decision. Hope he stays away from you who wants to break up his happy home.
Niam tais cov neeg phem phem ib yam lj kj mas txog thaum kawg yeej tau txais lub kua muag lj kom xwb kv nug kj zaj dab neeg mas kv ntxub kj tug yam txw tshaj plawg lj nawb kv xav yog kj cov ntxhais hlub kj tshai kj twb nco txog kj tub lawm tiam si vim kj cov ntxhais tsj hlub kj es kj lam ua txuj nco kj tug tub xwb os niam tais aw kv mas ntxub ntxub cov neeg coj lj kj tiag niam paub los po txoj kev hlub hlub cov ntxhais na kv lam kj tug tub mas kv haj yag hriav deb os poj hmoo aw
Koj hlub koj ob tug me nyuam . Kuv los kuv yeej hlub kuv cov me nyuam ib yam thiab os me tub
Koj hais Yog lawm ho sister Mab.
Kab Lia niam neej vam hais yog kawg li lawd !
Koj lo luv kawg koj tab tom yuav rhuav koj tus tub lub neej vim koj tseem hais tias poj niam muaj coob koj mam nta dua poj niam tshiab rau nws thiab koj yog ib leej niam tsis txo hwj chim tiag li ho tsis yog ib tug niam zoo li nawb peb tsis qhuas koj li nawb
A latter to John’s mom. “Please leave the poor John alone.” You don’t deserve John. 😢
Yes, this mother doesn't realize how horrible she was to her son. Now you have to put aside your ego and apologize for the wrong she has done. We as parents make mistakes. But you need to own up to your mistakes.
Niam tai aw vim kj g hlu kj tus tub ne txawm yg kv lo kv yeej tu siab thb tau ib leej niam es hlu ntxhai vauv li kj xb ce kg g pom qab tu siab li o
Loveeee your input and feedback Kablia Niam Neej Vam. ❤❤❤ a lot of Hmong parents don’t think “favoritism” plays a roll but it does.
Niam tais aw...ntshe nej yeej ua dhau zog rau nws lawv, rau qhov ib tug neeg thaum nws tu siab txaus lawm nws thiab ua ib siab mus zeem niam tais ua nws niam thiab txiv. Kuv nkag siab tias koj yeej muaj koj sab story hais tab sis ntshe nws los yeej muaj nws qhov los hais thiab. Txawm li cas los peb uas neeg ces yeej tsis muaj ib tug zoo tag tag li. Thov kom neb ob me niam tub sib zam txim thiab nkag siab rau yam tom ntev xwb mog. God bless both of you.
I do agree with niam neej vam. She is on point. Everyone has one kid like that and we just have to understand that one the most yes.
Maj, great advice! She is a fault 💯%. There is no love from her, all she did to her son was block him from his dream.
Niam tais, drop your pride and reach out to your son and ask for his forgiveness.
I totally agreed with Niam neej Vam’s input.
Niam NeejVam hais yog lawm os tus sister. Thov kom koj paub whiv koj ua txhaum ua ntev koj mus thov txim nawb mog. Thov Vajtswv hlub thiab coj koj txoj haukev nawb es kom neb ib niam tub tau los sib cuag os mog.
As a mother/parent u never tried to reach out to him except blamed him for the broken relationship. U abandoned him. All this time u never aclnowledged ur wrongdoing, u just keep on blaming him.
Agreed with your advice! Parents should never guilt trip or gaslight their kids. Your kids don’t owe you anything!
No one is a perfect mother. But your protective instincts went too far. You can not control everything he does, and because you tried to control everything in his life, he hates you for that.
Lol..her message at the end was trying to guilt trip him to taking her ass in but there was absolutely no apologies. Her perspectives of her son, his wife, and in laws are clear she still doesn’t give a damn about him. Leave your son alone BAD LADY! You didn’t love your son! You only loved and supported your daughters. His in laws may not give birth to him, but they loved and supported him through bad times. You may have given birth to him but you didn’t love and support him.
Kalia had said everything that I would say to you too. Don't be jealous what your son had said to his in laws at their party..but thank to them for supporting him when you were not there for him!