My girlfriend and I are both 65. We are both extremely active with hiking, biking, kayaking, swimming and weight training. Neither of us have any health issues, nor do we take any medications. Our sex life is beyond amazing! Without your health you have nothing. That would certainly apply to a good sex life as well.
Sex in our older years is heavily leveraged by having a willing partner. Too many women seem to think having sex ended with menopause. If they are married they unilaterally terminate their husband's sex life, leaving the husband to make a choice, maintain sexless fidelity and stay married or go outside the marriage for what they want or need, risking divorce over a situation they didn't create. Those wives don't seem to care they cause tremendous levels of anger and resentment from their husbands, men who spent many years dedicated to supporting and assuring the well being of their wives.
I completely understand! Want to stay faithful, but I still have sexual needs as well. It seems unfair that one person gets to dictate that our sex life is over and that I didn't get a vote.
In other words, it's the women's fault! Got it! Perhaps, as the Dr. Malik mentioned, talk, communicate! It isn't one sided and it is NOT one persons fault. Would you enjoy having sex when it HURTS? Doubt it but then again, as long as your needs are met, you will stick around instead of taking the time to talk it out so you know, the support continues.
So true. I thought it was my fault. I got tested and had low T. At 50 got on therapy and started feeling amazing all around. I realized after that some partners just want to blame someone when they’re causing the lack of intimacy. Haven’t been intimate since and I’m almost 60.
I am 64 and my wife is 67. Thanks to HRT for both of us and PDE 5 inhibitors for me, as needed, we have actually been having more sex and enjoying it as much or more than we used to...and we have been together for over 41 years. We made a choice to actively try to keep our sexuality as we age, and although we still occasionally have some issues, we are both very satisfied with our sex and plan to continue as long as possible, as frequently as 3-4 times (or more, even) per week. GREAT topic and an excellent video as always. Thank you Dr. Malik! 😊
@@arthurpit3767 bottom line, I LOVE my wife, right down to her socks...well, underneath those, actually...and we love our sex, always have. I'm just very lucky... 🙂
@@ehdohlwei10 your day will come, dude...or maybe not, the way things are going...I'd rather be grandpa than a young person these days, what a world...
I am 63 and widowed for the last two years. I was cut off from sex entirely and not by my choice. The hard part now is trying at dating at my age. I am very healthy and fit and would not want to be alone forever as I miss companionship.
Making love is better than sex. As we get older, making love morphs into something deeper. The closeness, nurturing, looking after one another, comforting one another, being there for each other. Trusting and respecting each other, feeling safe. Love and laughter. It's better than sex.
I am alarmed by the number of couples who totally give up on sex in their 60s and 70s. I know health is a big issue, but several folks couples have mentioned that their spouse just has no interest and one partner is terribly lonely
That is about the size of it. What the good doctor doesn't realize is that there has to be a sexual attraction in the first place, there has to be a vaginal mitt that can get lubricated or moist for traction, and that the male member can respond on the spur of the moment to same-old, same-old partner. There are so many variables here, that her advice tends to come across as sophomoric and naive. I am still looking for that older woman near and far that is an age peer and who is attractive enough to stimulate me to rise to an occasion should one present itself. We would love to be active over age 70, but the circumstances make it more difficult than ever.
@@DanielMix-cy8ei Hence the reason why our state criminal sex statutes are in need of repeal and rethinking. You've got certified medical professionals on here touting sexual activity, porn viewing, and citing legit medical reasons, very credible info, yet many folk lose their spouses, have no outlet for sex, have biological needs, etc. And yes, the issue impacts more than senior citizens..... And....yet society incriminates or condemns sexual content viewing, massage therapy, surrogate therapy, and attempts at locating girlfriends, boyfriends, dates, and significant others via online sites, ad replies, etc. There are double and triple standards going on here, and these porn star urologists aren't helping things. They should be activists, leading the charge for reformation or abolition of some "non-victim" criminal sex laws, and not rely on prostitutes to lead the charge.
It’s not about the sex, it’s about intimacy. To hold someone or hug someone I think is far more important. I have lost the intimacy over the last 15 years now to the point that my wife and I barely talk to each other let alone touch! We are now at the precipice in our marriage and it will soon end
Divorce is a gift in a marriage of disdain. Your loneliness might be cured by aloneness. Curious - as your post is one year old - how your journey is at this point.
I'm 46, and this is why I work out at least 3 times a week. I want to stay in good shape, and have the little guy to keep functioning well for as long as possible😉
This is a very good video Rena, as a man getting up in age and no longer working and having a wife that no longer wants us to have sex it is very depressing.
Sex is a very delicate issue in each age; a good sexuality depends on many factors. I’m 70 and if you believe it or not my sexuality has never been so good but you’ve to be careful in many circumstances such as food and drinks, weight and fisical exercises , follow a low carb diet, avoid food rich in estrogen ,eat eggs every day, don’t worry about cholesterol, take boron as supplement and many other factors. But don’t think to have good sex with your old wife! I know to be crude but it’s true, to have a good sex is extremely important have a special partner who deeply loves to make sex, no matter how old she is, even better old than young. This is my experience. Thanks to everybody who reads me.
I'm a healthy male and am 74 years of age. I continue to work because we all need a purpose and need to feel productive. I have been dating younger women for a while now and honestly Most of the time find it a great experience. Once in a while I look in the mirror and realize I am older. That being said the vast majority of the time I feel a lot younger than I am and simply put I go with it. I do not want to hop from woman to woman and we need to be pals first and foremost. I love that part the best in a way but should we get really close and she initiates her desire to become intimate I'm fine with that part too. It's been a while now that I've been seeing a sweetheart of a woman and she's turning 40 next year. She's never married ( I was married for 25 years). We just honestly get along and neither one of us pushed anything on the other.
I'll put a different spin on this subject. I'm a 67 year old male. I divorced my ex after 28 years of marriage in 2016. I wasn't looking or expecting to get married again at this age. But the Covid scare shook and shut down the world. I met someone on the internet (Facebook)....I wasn't really looking or expecting anything to happen, but after chatting online for two years I got on an airplane to see her and while I was there, we got married. Here comes the spin... I live in the U.S. She lives in the Philippines. She is 27. While age gap marriages do sometime occur in the U.S. the acceptance is greater in the Philippines. I've seen instances of 50 year age gap marriages !! The culture is different in the Philippines than it is in the U.S. Families are much larger and closer often with several married siblings and their children living in the same house. Parents are respected and taken care of by their adult children. Often the parents and their married kids live in the same household. The is no divorce in the Philippines. There is a huge demand by some Philippines women to marry foreigners. Statistically, the divorce rate is very low between Philippine women and their foreign husbands. Philippine women are very family oriented. They are also very beautiful. English is the second language in the Philippines. Tagalog is the primary native language but English is used in government and business transactions. There are many RUclipss that describe the Philippine culture, Philippine women / sex / culture. Check out the RUclipss guys if you are interested...
Hi Dr. Malik i have been watching all your videos here and subscribed long ago and wanted to say both age and sex can be strange. I am now 71 and living in the Philippines retired from the US Army and over the many years I have almost died at least 10 times but I am still alive. I now live life to its fullest each day and have 3 girlfriends and my regular massage girl that I see at least once a week for a great whole body massage including happy ending. I dont care what others think of me I just live the way I want now and my family back in the US think I am an old crazy fart but it was them that left me all alone 30 years ago. Your videos are very good and watch them all and can say for sure never give up on life and sex and it can actually get better
Let's be realistic about this. For most of us older couples our comfort zones are well established and very difficult to look outside of it for new things. Communication without judgment is helpful. Discussing sexual desires and ideas make us vulnerable. I know that I don't wish to talk because of the fear; yes, even after 40+ years of marriage. I'll go without before I'll talk with my wife.
It's so sad you don't feel you can open up with her about your sexual desires and that perhaps she might counseling. Fear is a big motivator to keep silent Why don't you seek a counselor to help you work thru those feelings and eventually bring her into that counselling.💖
I can understand your feelings here, as I'm in a similar situation. She doesn't want to talk about it, and she's as grumpy as can be with me, belittling me, which then has me feeling depressed. After her dealing with cancer on more than one occasion, I support her in feeling as she does, but it's truly changed our relationship. It's not a subject she wants to discuss, or feels comfortable with at all unfortunately.
Well,my wife and I are both 74 years old and we just married last month. We have a lot of sex and always have for the past 12 years and I'm talking all postions as well as getting real kinky.She is in okay health and I'm in excellent health. She is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. It works for us!
I can't believe it , an elderly partner cannot motivate . I have a girl friend less than 40 and i am over sixty , and we have roaring love once or twice a week .
Yes, please discuss women's sexual issues over 60. Their partners need to understand. Look, aging is just a time of strong motivation for improvement - diet, physical and mental exercise, sex - everything. There are so many options, and enough of them are effective. The process itself is an adventure, and positive results the reward. If I only knew at 25 what I know now!
I feel like this woman was trained by misogynistic men. Oh you are past 50 now. Oh, I see you have a sexual disease, now that your libido is less and you are dry and narrower down there not pleasing your man any longer. Well there is some medication available! What the heck! This is normal and we have not to bend over to men desire. We've done our job for funking many years well. Teach men to be good partners in older life as well and what to do to be good couples with less sex and to be grateful for all these years we provided services for free!
Ay 81 sex isn't such a big deal but intimacy is! We have physical impairments that put sex out of the question but caressing, kissing, sexy talk and compliments on appearance and reminiscing of our hot sex life when we were young is rewarding!
Yes menopause is the worst thing for a marriage. My wife stopped having sex with me over 10 years ago and has for many years put me in a deep depression. Thankfully i watch porn in my bedroom (yeah menopause caused different bedrooms too). It makes for a healthy sex life. Since we're both retired we own a house together, selling it would make us both homeless so we treat each others as room mates. I am lucky to have a great relationship with God. He told me he would always be there for me and he is. Incredible how informative you are in many subjects. I'm a new subscriber and happy to know you have many videos. Good to see a beautiful woman is also an incredible Dr. Wishing you and your family a lovely day.
Failure by the wife to engage in sex with her husband is grounds for divorce in both the Jewish faith and the Christian faith. Time for you to find someone who is not selfish and will attend to your needs.
I think oral sex is the key to a great sex life. It doesn't require as much tax on your body to perform, is often more pleasurable, less taxing on the body, and in many ways more intimate.
Best part of oral sex is the reversal of dominant/submissive roles. The overall energy efficiency is definitely a benefit (similar pleasure for less expense).
Great topic, this video, would love to hear more on it. Not enough talk about the positive stories about sex in later years. Just coming up on 50 and in peri menopause, my Dr ran my labs and they caught me and found my Progesterone and testosterone were both low. Im on low doses now of both, Bio identical hormones, and all the sudden I have a libido I have never had in my life and my husband was low libido already. Went from once every other wk to almost daily, sometimes more then once a day, its incredible. Husband is now on testosterone and we are in sync with a high sex drive after almost 20 yrs together, its truly miraculous.
Yes, people are becoming too disconnected. Social media has taken the place of actual human contact. Loneliness is literally killing people. Physical contact is crucial for good health.
Pushing 64 and my sex life is better than in my 40s. I find that if you are a healthy man who exercises regularly. What I also know is that sexual functions are more in the mind than in the body for healthy men such as myself. Plus at 64 I don’t consider myself “OLD” just seasoned.
Not that old yet, but I’d say strong friendship with your partner would make huge difference. If you are not friends, loneliness and lack of self care are practically guaranteed.
After reading these comments, I feel so lucky. I am 76 and my Lady is 75 and we are having the best sex of our lives. Both of us had long periods of little or no sex with our mates. We have now been together almost 9 years........best years of our lives. Neither of us have any major health problems(thanks to good genes) and both of us have high libidos. I think we were made for each other at this time in our lives. I know LOVE has a lot to do with our relationship. And respect and conversation! And laughter.
@@hannaishak7206 Nothing on a regular basis. Once in a while a sildenafil as a "just in case". As I stated, we are very lucky to have found each other. It helps that we both love SEX.
This channel is a service to humanity. I do agree we devote way too much time to the screen but if I didn’t spend a lot of time on you tube I would not have found this channel. My two cents as a heathy 67 year old male is there was a time I would run marathons. I don’t run marathons anymore nor do I want to. Sex at 30,40,50,60,70 definitely all good but definitely not the same. Wonderful thoughts. Thank you.
I'm 68 and my wife is 71. We make love almost everyday, sometimes twice a day. We enjoy it immensely and of course, the more we do it the more we want to keep going. Sex is the glue that keeps us bonded, even when the going gets tough. The fact that my wife is very attractive to me and that we are quite fit for our age, helps a lot.
*she is my one of all-time favorite doctors. May peace be upon her 💞 Pls 🙏 make another video to enlighten us about the differences between MBBS and MD degrees and which degree is for who. Thank you*
I'm 72. Sexual function is not a problem. Diminished a bit but not a problem. With an enlarged prostate, my daily challenge is simply peeing but the sexual function does not require any planning or forethought at all. It matters very much that I work out at a CrossFit class for seniors 3x per week. That's the difference. For what it's worth.
As an aging male, I found that hooking up with a 20yo nymphomaniac has significantly improved my sex life. Low libido, gone. Bouts of depression, gone. Concern for prostate health, gone. The only downside is that I just dropped $130K on a new custom Corvette. Hope that’s not going to become an issue.
You should’ve bought the car for yourself the 20 year old is gonna turn into nothing but problems cars and motorcycles or happiness no grief no attitude no bullshit just saying
I'm not old...yet...but mid-aged. I was always a bit 'put-off' by movies, magazines and erotica always glorifying younger (early 20's or even younger) people as the only ones having sex. We are sexual beings, and I think both Hollywood and "Madison Ave" marketing have tried to brainwash many people to believe that only 14 through 34 year olds have sex and when I have seen a couple of older love scenes on film, i.e., "The Note Book" (James Garner and Gena Rowlands) and "The Bridges of Madison County" (Meryl Streep and Clinton Eastwood) I have been pleasantly surprised. My younger viewing friends have had a "ick" part in their disdain for the scenes of older folkes, but that shows how far we still need to go.
I am a 70 yr old guy. I noticed that I could no longer get a erection no matter how much I wanted to. I started having problems with insomnia and weight gain. I did a little research and found that low testosterone levels could be a partial reason for both. The next time I saw my Urologist I asked to have my levels tested. My level was quite low. I was at 120. He started me on testosterone replacement injections. By doing so I wake up with morning wood something I hadn't had in some time. I crave sex now much more. I have dropped 2 pants sizes and I do not suffer with insomnia near as often as I was having.
It's proven that testosterone replacement in those with a low count is healthy providing it's supervised. I'm 51 and my testosterone is still good but as soon as it falls to a point my doctor says you need it boostered, I'm getting shots in the ass. Not just so I can keep rooting all my young herom here in Thailand but for the better of my body overall. Just hope I don't need it till I'm 60
Dear: Dr: Rena I love the way how you give all that valuable information. With due respect,I want to express my admiration for you,as a professional, and I can’t avoid to highlight that beautiful smile you have.💐
Going on 70 in October and expecting our 3rd child in October also. Our sex life is fantastic. Of course my wife is 36, she fell in love with me and the love story just keeps growing.
In my early 60's, I would on occasion, talk with women of the same age. I think they were surprised when I suggested that just because we reach a certain age, sex can continue. I think women feel that once menopause happens, sex stops. Yes, dryness, the loss of tonality in our skin and a few other things happen. But, the sensations through sexual activity, still can feel great. Use lubricants, take things slower to account for very snug fitting areas, try different and arousing undergarments. In the end, many of these women seemed to go away thinking seriously about it.
My wife, 74, has denied interest in sex for more than 10 years and also claims intercourse is extremely painful. I feel kind of left out. She also is less interested in cuddling or snuggling.
if you can get it up without viagra, I suggest going for a non strings attached 30 year old escort. What I mean without viagra is that if you take it, you are not sure how long it will last and you need it to do your thing with the escort and then be ready to get home. For friendship and cuddling, there are male mates, grandchildren and pets!
Sorry to hear that. You know when you where young and holding hands was the best thing ever? I can't speak for your relationship, since I don't know it, but I think holding hands is very important. It brings physical connection. Also stroking the other person / massage / resting one's hand or/and arm on them,, yknow small things. Twiddling with their hair. It could lead to sex before, maybe later in life as well. But even without it leading to sex it brings a lot to relationships I think.
One thing is that more things "go wrong" as we age as well. Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and treatments, cardiovascular health. Some of the treatments can severely and adversely affect your ability to have sex and even have erections or vaginal lubrication. More needs to be said about both.
You hit the nail on the head. Sexual health is vital. Avoiding loneliness is important, however, I wish you'd explain the value of sex therapists/surrogates. Let's face it, no sense being lonely where there is help available -- it's eliminating the stigma that's important. As far as families and support as we age, you should consider that adult children are not really receptive to the idea of their parents being sexual beings, and as the population ages, it's even less likely that kids will provide the kind of support we've been conditioned to expect. Younoted we're all "living inside our phones" and that's nice, but it isn't tactile. As always, you educate, and I certainly appreciate it.
If you and your partner are both physically active, both of you are also sexually active! It's just mind and body synchronization for couples who are still loving each other! That's what been said that age doesn't matter!
At 81 with a 49 yr old lover/boyfriend whatever you wish to call it, both of us in an exclusive sexual relationship, the best sex in my life. I'm going out happy.😅 My energy level needs a younger man. Besides being an ego boost for both of us, we can also learn and grow together. Yes I'm still learning and growing. An older man just can't keep up with my needs in life sexually or intellectually. Neither of us care about age. When together we don't feel any age, just enjoy each other's company and unbelievable sex. He's a wonderful man, divorced, and a very loving and caring father besides being an amazing man who still opens doors for me. What more can anyone ask for. I'm incredibly blessed.
My wife and I both recently turned 69 years old. I crave an active sex life but my wife does not. I feel lucky if we have sex once every two weeks. When we do it's like my wife only does it becase she feels like she has to, not because she wants to. That is not the recipe for a fulfilling sex life. I am starting to think that I just need to give up and forget about sex. At least she would be happier. The sad thing is I can still remember what an amazing sex life we had in our early years together.
I had a prostate operation in 2005 (TURP) when I was 53. The immediate effect was retrograde ejaculation which I thought might be a good thing but gave me a feeling of incomplete sex. A little later prostate cancer was diagnosed for which I had radiotherapy. This eventually gave me sharp pains after orgasm - a kind of dysorgasmia. Over the following years I developed Peyronie's disease, loss of libido and then finally impotence. I have high blood pressure and suffer with migraines so I didn't try Viagra and also thought it removed any spontaneity. Now, at 70, I can't remember the last time I had sex and my sex life is dead. I mourn for that life and your videos remind me of "the good old days".
A video on atrophic vaginitis would be wonderful! And please consider doing a little research on whether pubic hair thinning and loss can be mitigated (e.g., is minoxidil safe and effective for a woman to use in that glorious region?)
Each new contraption further isolates us. Radio, then came TV, then came fax, internet, then the damn phones. Few people are talking to others, and the loneliness is very, very unnatural and extremely unhealthy. Life is much better when simplified and people gather together. When people connect, the sex is always better because people are much more happy.
We are 63 and 62 years old, my wife says people our age do not have sex, period. She also says that when couples first meet they have sex then after 6 month they don't have sex, they are just happy that they are in the house together. That the same old is comforting. I greatly disagree. Can you make a video about people in their 60 to 80, how many have sex, how often do they have sex, what type of sex, how they are intimate and the health benefits of sex and why it is important. thanks.
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When I was a kid, I considered 40 to be “old age”. I calculated what age I would be in the year 2000, and wondered if I would still be alive at age 46. At age 68, I do not consider 65 to be the cut-off for “old age”. I am a physician (cardiologist). I would never refer to any of my patients over age 65 to be in the category of “old age”. I suggest that you adjust your terminology.
It really depends on your health; I've have had a progressive wasting disease since my teens, up to 50, I felt almost normal, 20 years later, I'm useless.
Found ur vid very interesting n informative. This is an unavoidable age group that we will all one day have to experience. Kudos for vid. Hopefully u will provide more vids on this age group. Anticipating ur next one.
Dear Rena, thank you for this video, I have found your videos to be very helpful and that's after 53 years of marriage! I agree with the premise that sex is good for one's physical and mental health, unfortunately it seems to be that men of my age are more interested in sex than women are, which can have a detrimental impact on the relationship, I still love my wife, but she's more like a sister now, I still want to enjoy the pleasure of sex, but I don't want an affair as that could have serious consequences, so recently I have started to consider "paying" for it.
My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for over 20 years and are now in our 70’s. This has kept things new and exciting and have found both men and women that are still going strong in their 80’s. If you are handle not being jealous, it keeps you feeling young and people have a tendency to stay in better physical condition. If the man has ED, he can still get a lot of pleasure by watching his wife have sex with other men. It has been reported that Cuckold videos are the most searched type on porn sites.
@@sir.bendover3299Hi Ben are you still making porn films, how is Omar these days. I did ask my wife if she wanted to watch, but she prefers to watch neighbours!
My libido was aroused when I was into carnivore diet for one month. But I, 62, hardly could ask my husband for sex due to embarrassment. It wasn’t until I was into carnivore diet for 3 months that I shyly asked my husband to make love after 20 years of asexual life. My husband, 65, was overjoyed and we have had sex every day from then on. We really enjoy it like we were at our twenties.
am 67 and my wife 64. 40 plus years of marital life. i feel that our sexual life is on decline for the last 25 years. My wife suffered from respiratory problems since 1994.. so i always think why should i bother her..
Dr thank you our heavenly father for us to keep going. But for me at my age not easy to find someone to love. who can make me happy..my age so help. Very much lntrested topic.. thank you.
I worked out all my life. Sex was good till 78. then a gal moved in with me. I stopped working out and after a year sex wasn't good for me, I lost it. My girlfriend was upset and moved out. Now with someone else. I started working out again.
i am 77 wife is 75 and our sex life is great. ya its only 2 to 3 times a month but it is great and we do almost every thing together as we enjoy each other still after over 50 years
Great video. I am much improved since last time... some treatment from my uruologist but now he's moving on gotta find a different one... I lost some weight.... better a1c.... more active in my job not sitting behind a desk for 8 hrs a day. And less stress. Thanks
I come to her channel just to admire her. I'm fascinated by the way she speaks: an uninterrupted flow of words. Even in my native language, I can't talk like that. I just wish I could see her in person to tell her that I am in love with her. I know I have no chance, to think otherwise would be to covet the impossible in my wishes. But you never know, sometimes miracles happen. I love you, doc...
The documentary "Young@Heart" talked in part about sex and the elderly. They spend more time with foreplay and talking. This leads to a better sex life for those over age 65.
Some people responding to this vid , are ignorant . Probably because they are too young . But I understand , you’re concerned . Thank you 🙏. But I gotta hear from people my own age . Particularly the women . Even the sick can get in on this discussion . So please .
Do you have any experience with osphena? I know a lot of insurances don't really want to cover it or pay very little on it and will cover hormones instead. What else might you recommend for someone looking for a more natural alternative?
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Yes! My 80 year-old widowed father-in-law, who thought he was nearing the end, suddenly became very much alive when his female care giver allowed him to have ssex with her!
Yeah, I don’t know if he was saying “better not take any chances, you’ve been unwell”, but when I turned 35, Grandpa said, well it’s about time to stop having sex.
My niece was a nurse in a nursing home. She said the residents there were hornier than teenagers and always sneaking around. Sometimes getting hurt trying to get it on also. She said even some that had severe dimentia and didn't know family were still trying to have sex and get themselves off. Just goes to show the body doesn't quit.
I'm 72,I try the creative way to initiate the fire.its the old way to make the fire by rubbing two types of dry wood.same recipe I use to start the fire by rubbing in strokes.
Ok . . . here's a couple of questions for you Rena: My GF (59) and I (65) have a pretty great SL. She is post menopausal and on HRT. Her doctor is telling her that she needs to come off of the HRT when she turns 60. My GF believes that the HRT is what keeps her sexual drive strong, and that it will likely end when she comes off the HRT. Three questions: 1) Is there a limit on age that a woman can or should take HRT? 2) Is it correct that she is likely to lose her libido when /if the HRT is terminated? 3) Is there anything that can be done to replace the libido enhancement of the HRT? Thanks!
Not a doctor but if there is a reason the body, as it ages, stop producing the same level of hormones, wouldnt that mean that if a person starts using HRT when there are no clear health issues, would that eventually lead to something like cancer and other ilnesses a few years later? Just a thought, dont hit the commenter.
Hello. I'm from the Netherlands and read your questions about hrt. Yes, her libido will end if she stops het. But you can ask for hrt bio identical hormons. These hormons can be taken for a longer time. Your GF will probably need to take them the rest of her life.
My girlfriend and I are both 65. We are both extremely active with hiking, biking, kayaking, swimming and weight training. Neither of us have any health issues, nor do we take any medications. Our sex life is beyond amazing! Without your health you have nothing. That would certainly apply to a good sex life as well.
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@@Bibo-v What kind of question is that? He started his comment with "My girlfriend and I are both 65".
Sex in our older years is heavily leveraged by having a willing partner. Too many women seem to think having sex ended with menopause. If they are married they unilaterally terminate their husband's sex life, leaving the husband to make a choice, maintain sexless fidelity and stay married or go outside the marriage for what they want or need, risking divorce over a situation they didn't create. Those wives don't seem to care they cause tremendous levels of anger and resentment from their husbands, men who spent many years dedicated to supporting and assuring the well being of their wives.
That is the truth, and only a few dare saying it.
I completely understand! Want to stay faithful, but I still have sexual needs as well. It seems unfair that one person gets to dictate that our sex life is over and that I didn't get a vote.
In other words, it's the women's fault! Got it! Perhaps, as the Dr. Malik mentioned, talk, communicate! It isn't one sided and it is NOT one persons fault. Would you enjoy having sex when it HURTS? Doubt it but then again, as long as your needs are met, you will stick around instead of taking the time to talk it out so you know, the support continues.
@@lkjacob1 Perhaps some refuse full stop to even talk!
So true. I thought it was my fault. I got tested and had low T. At 50 got on therapy and started feeling amazing all around. I realized after that some partners just want to blame someone when they’re causing the lack of intimacy. Haven’t been intimate since and I’m almost 60.
I am 64 and my wife is 67. Thanks to HRT for both of us and PDE 5 inhibitors for me, as needed, we have actually been having more sex and enjoying it as much or more than we used to...and we have been together for over 41 years. We made a choice to actively try to keep our sexuality as we age, and although we still occasionally have some issues, we are both very satisfied with our sex and plan to continue as long as possible, as frequently as 3-4 times (or more, even) per week. GREAT topic and an excellent video as always. Thank you Dr. Malik! 😊
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@@arthurpit3767 bottom line, I LOVE my wife, right down to her socks...well, underneath those, actually...and we love our sex, always have. I'm just very lucky... 🙂
Damn grandma and grandpa 👵🏻👴🏻
@@ehdohlwei10 your day will come, dude...or maybe not, the way things are going...I'd rather be grandpa than a young person these days, what a world...
Are you using some right sex medicine. Please indicate.
Being 71 myself I have found that sex after 65 is much safer if you pull off the road.
I am 63 and widowed for the last two years. I was cut off from sex entirely and not by my choice. The hard part now is trying at dating at my age. I am very healthy and fit and would not want to be alone forever as I miss companionship.
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I'm 61, my wife is 62. We often talk about what it might be like to be still having sex into our 70s and beyond.
Making love is better than sex. As we get older, making love morphs into something deeper. The closeness, nurturing, looking after one another, comforting one another, being there for each other. Trusting and respecting each other, feeling safe. Love and laughter. It's better than sex.
I completely agree with you
I am alarmed by the number of couples who totally give up on sex in their 60s and 70s. I know health is a big issue, but several folks couples have mentioned that their spouse just has no interest and one partner is terribly lonely
That is about the size of it. What the good doctor doesn't realize is that there has to be a sexual attraction in the first place, there has to be a vaginal mitt that can get lubricated or moist for traction, and that the male member can respond on the spur of the moment to same-old, same-old partner. There are so many variables here, that her advice tends to come across as sophomoric and naive. I am still looking for that older woman near and far that is an age peer and who is attractive enough to stimulate me to rise to an occasion should one present itself. We would love to be active over age 70, but the circumstances make it more difficult than ever.
hence the reason why i find these guys all over porn sites we have created a world of porn addicts
@@DanielMix-cy8ei Hence the reason why our state criminal sex statutes are in need of repeal and rethinking. You've got certified medical professionals on here touting sexual activity, porn viewing, and citing legit medical reasons, very credible info, yet many folk lose their spouses, have no outlet for sex, have biological needs, etc. And yes, the issue impacts more than senior citizens..... And....yet society incriminates or condemns sexual content viewing, massage therapy, surrogate therapy, and attempts at locating girlfriends, boyfriends, dates, and significant others via online sites, ad replies, etc. There are double and triple standards going on here, and these porn star urologists aren't helping things. They should be activists, leading the charge for reformation or abolition of some "non-victim" criminal sex laws, and not rely on prostitutes to lead the charge.
@@humbertholloway7701yes and if she is finding you attractive..if nooo then forget it 😳
We are still banging away at 70 and 73 little slower but two times a week slow and steady at our age .
Nice enjoy each other
Slow and steady wins the race
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Both of us are 68 this year, married 42 years. Having the best sex of our lives.
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you are probably a male. Women do not want their mate to know the truth. They want to please. Its sad.
It’s not about the sex, it’s about intimacy. To hold someone or hug someone I think is far more important. I have lost the intimacy over the last 15 years now to the point that my wife and I barely talk to each other let alone touch! We are now at the precipice in our marriage and it will soon end
sorry
Divorce is a gift in a marriage of disdain. Your loneliness might be cured by aloneness.
Curious - as your post is one year old - how your journey is at this point.
I'm 46, and this is why I work out at least 3 times a week. I want to stay in good shape, and have the little guy to keep functioning well for as long as possible😉
Iam 45 I have no sex with my hasband we are sparet
@@Devita-tq6dt I m sorry. Be mingle soon. Sex is the most beautiful gift of the God. So honor n respect it. 🙏
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This is a very good video Rena, as a man getting up in age and no longer working and having a wife that no longer wants us to have sex it is very depressing.
Yeah bruh. Gotta dump her and find joints in their 20s lol
Right I am 66.feelimg sex.dr.give Lu bricant as wife has no lubricant in vagina due monopose
Artificial lubricant and God gifted lubricant is not same.i slam approved second marriage that is right
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Sex is a very delicate issue in each age; a good sexuality depends on many factors. I’m 70 and if you believe it or not my sexuality has never been so good but you’ve to be careful in many circumstances such as food and drinks, weight and fisical exercises , follow a low carb diet, avoid food rich in estrogen ,eat eggs every day, don’t worry about cholesterol, take boron as supplement and many other factors. But don’t think to have good sex with your old wife! I know to be crude but it’s true, to have a good sex is extremely important have a special partner who deeply loves to make sex, no matter how old she is, even better old than young. This is my experience. Thanks to everybody who reads me.
Eliseo iam 45 I need best prtner but iam not gating still iam very sad
Thank you Rena for pointing out the obvious ... and how to age gracefully ....
I'm a healthy male and am 74 years of age. I continue to work because we all need a purpose and need to feel productive. I have been dating younger women for a while now and honestly Most of the time find it a great experience. Once in a while I look in the mirror and realize I am older. That being said the vast majority of the time I feel a lot younger than I am and simply put I go with it.
I do not want to hop from woman to woman and we need to be pals first and foremost. I love that part the best in a way but should we get really close and she initiates her desire to become intimate I'm fine with that part too. It's been a while now that I've been seeing a sweetheart of a woman and she's turning 40 next year. She's never married ( I was married for 25 years).
We just honestly get along and neither one of us pushed anything on the other.
Wow you are lucky but iam 45 iam not gating boyfriend
I'll put a different spin on this subject.
I'm a 67 year old male. I divorced my ex after 28 years of marriage in 2016.
I wasn't looking or expecting to get married again at this age.
But the Covid scare shook and shut down the world.
I met someone on the internet (Facebook)....I wasn't really looking or expecting anything to happen, but after chatting online for two years I got on an airplane to see her and while I was there, we got married.
Here comes the spin...
I live in the U.S. She lives in the Philippines. She is 27.
While age gap marriages do sometime occur in the U.S. the acceptance is greater in the Philippines. I've seen instances of 50 year age gap marriages !!
The culture is different in the Philippines than it is in the U.S. Families are much larger and closer often with several married siblings and their children living in the same house.
Parents are respected and taken care of by their adult children. Often the parents and their married kids live in the same household.
The is no divorce in the Philippines.
There is a huge demand by some Philippines women to marry foreigners.
Statistically, the divorce rate is very low between Philippine women and their foreign husbands.
Philippine women are very family oriented. They are also very beautiful.
English is the second language in the Philippines. Tagalog is the primary native language but English is used in government and business transactions.
There are many RUclipss that describe the Philippine culture, Philippine women / sex / culture. Check out the RUclipss guys if you are interested...
I'm also searching Gf from Philippines. Now I turned 60 and hoping to living there..
Hi Dr. Malik i have been watching all your videos here and subscribed long ago and wanted to say both age and sex can be strange. I am now 71 and living in the Philippines retired from the US Army and over the many years I have almost died at least 10 times but I am still alive. I now live life to its fullest each day and have 3 girlfriends and my regular massage girl that I see at least once a week for a great whole body massage including happy ending. I dont care what others think of me I just live the way I want now and my family back in the US think I am an old crazy fart but it was them that left me all alone 30 years ago. Your videos are very good and watch them all and can say for sure never give up on life and sex and it can actually get better
Let's be realistic about this. For most of us older couples our comfort zones are well established and very difficult to look outside of it for new things. Communication without judgment is helpful. Discussing sexual desires and ideas make us vulnerable. I know that I don't wish to talk because of the fear; yes, even after 40+ years of marriage. I'll go without before I'll talk with my wife.
talk to her. She probably is hoping you will
It's so sad you don't feel you can open up with her about your sexual desires and that perhaps she might counseling. Fear is a big motivator to keep silent
Why don't you seek a counselor to help you work thru those feelings and eventually bring her into that counselling.💖
@Anna Richardson If that were the case she should feel comfortable talking with him. Is she? Doesn't sound like it.
I can understand your feelings here, as I'm in a similar situation. She doesn't want to talk about it, and she's as grumpy as can be with me, belittling me, which then has me feeling depressed. After her dealing with cancer on more than one occasion, I support her in feeling as she does, but it's truly changed our relationship. It's not a subject she wants to discuss, or feels comfortable with at all unfortunately.
Well,my wife and I are both 74 years old and we just married last month. We have a lot of sex and always have for the past 12 years and I'm talking all postions as well as getting real kinky.She is in okay health and I'm in excellent health. She is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. It works for us!
Nice enjoy each other 74 is still going strong nice
I envy you more than you could imagine. My wife decided that 50 was the cut-off age, that was 20 years ago.
I can't believe it , an elderly partner cannot motivate . I have a girl friend less than 40 and i am over sixty , and we have roaring love once or twice a week .
@@liaqatkhan321 I dare say it’s a bit easier to motivate a woman in her 30s than one in her 70s!
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Yes, please discuss women's sexual issues over 60. Their partners need to understand. Look, aging is just a time of strong motivation for improvement - diet, physical and mental exercise, sex - everything. There are so many options, and enough of them are effective. The process itself is an adventure, and positive results the reward. If I only knew at 25 what I know now!
stay with a younger woman. The odds concerning health are better.
@@markpangrcic8525 and vicevasa bby
@Mark Pangrcic: Until she finds out you can't stay hard.
I feel like this woman was trained by misogynistic men. Oh you are past 50 now. Oh, I see you have a sexual disease, now that your libido is less and you are dry and narrower down there not pleasing your man any longer. Well there is some medication available! What the heck! This is normal and we have not to bend over to men desire. We've done our job for funking many years well. Teach men to be good partners in older life as well and what to do to be good couples with less sex and to be grateful for all these years we provided services for free!
Ay 81 sex isn't such a big deal but intimacy is! We have physical impairments that put sex out of the question but caressing, kissing, sexy talk and compliments on appearance and reminiscing of our hot sex life when we were young is rewarding!
Yes menopause is the worst thing for a marriage. My wife stopped having sex with me over 10 years ago and has for many years put me in a deep depression. Thankfully i watch porn in my bedroom (yeah menopause caused different bedrooms too). It makes for a healthy sex life. Since we're both retired we own a house together, selling it would make us both homeless so we treat each others as room mates. I am lucky to have a great relationship with God. He told me he would always be there for me and he is.
Incredible how informative you are in many subjects. I'm a new subscriber and happy to know you have many videos. Good to see a beautiful woman is also an incredible Dr. Wishing you and your family a lovely day.
Failure by the wife to engage in sex with her husband is grounds for divorce in both the Jewish faith and the Christian faith. Time for you to find someone who is not selfish and will attend to your needs.
When married to should never withhold sex from each other.
I think oral sex is the key to a great sex life. It doesn't require as much tax on your body to perform, is often more pleasurable, less taxing on the body, and in many ways more intimate.
i think so too a good oral a day take the leak away
My 86-year-old fiancé agrees.
Best part of oral sex is the reversal of dominant/submissive roles. The overall energy efficiency is definitely a benefit (similar pleasure for less expense).
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ONLY if she is clean!
56 here, GF is 52. We deal with peri menopause like the other aspects of our sex lives... by communicating. Hope to stay active our whole lives
Great topic, this video, would love to hear more on it. Not enough talk about the positive stories about sex in later years. Just coming up on 50 and in peri menopause, my Dr ran my labs and they caught me and found my Progesterone and testosterone were both low. Im on low doses now of both, Bio identical hormones, and all the sudden I have a libido I have never had in my life and my husband was low libido already. Went from once every other wk to almost daily, sometimes more then once a day, its incredible. Husband is now on testosterone and we are in sync with a high sex drive after almost 20 yrs together, its truly miraculous.
Keep on riding him and enjoying life
Ride to take both hole.
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@@elpidiopuri5130 What?
Yes, people are becoming too disconnected. Social media has taken the place of actual human contact. Loneliness is literally killing people. Physical contact is crucial for good health.
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@@tusiimembombo9114 then what is happened?
Spot on. My own partner has gone totally awol from the bedroom and watches endless Netflix. Its killed our relationship.
Pushing 64 and my sex life is better than in my 40s. I find that if you are a healthy man who exercises regularly. What I also know is that sexual functions are more in the mind than in the body for healthy men such as myself. Plus at 64 I don’t consider myself “OLD” just seasoned.
Thank you so much for this video, as I’m only two years away. It’s good to know that sometimes just taking care of the basics goes a long way.
Not that old yet, but I’d say strong friendship with your partner would make huge difference. If you are not friends, loneliness and lack of self care are practically guaranteed.
After reading these comments, I feel so lucky. I am 76 and my Lady is 75 and we are having the best sex of our lives. Both of us had long periods of little or no sex with our mates. We have now been together almost 9 years........best years of our lives. Neither of us have any major health problems(thanks to good genes) and both of us have high libidos. I think we were made for each other at this time in our lives. I know LOVE has a lot to do with our relationship. And respect and conversation! And laughter.
James Lester are you using any meds or supplements .?please
@@hannaishak7206 Nothing on a regular basis. Once in a while a sildenafil as a "just in case". As I stated, we are very lucky to have found each other. It helps that we both love SEX.
This channel is a service to humanity.
I do agree we devote way too much time to the screen but if I didn’t spend a lot of time on you tube I would not have found this channel.
My two cents as a heathy 67 year old male is there was a time I would run marathons. I don’t run marathons anymore nor do I want to.
Sex at 30,40,50,60,70 definitely all good but definitely not the same.
Wonderful thoughts.
Thank you.
I'm pushing 68 and doing great.cant get enough!
Keep on keeping on Sir!!! 👍
that means your sausage is not working lol. if u r strong, don't show off
Me too. But my sex life is amazing, thanks to my 26 year old girlfriend!
@@butcheyler23 mines over the hill.shes 32
Wow, you are powerful. Good for you
I'm 68 and my wife is 71. We make love almost everyday, sometimes twice a day. We enjoy it immensely and of course, the more we do it the more we want to keep going. Sex is the glue that keeps us bonded, even when the going gets tough. The fact that my wife is very attractive to me and that we are quite fit for our age, helps a lot.
You lucky, don't have periods problem or pregnancy issues 🤣🤣
*she is my one of all-time favorite doctors. May peace be upon her 💞 Pls 🙏 make another video to enlighten us about the differences between MBBS and MD degrees and which degree is for who. Thank you*
I'm 72. Sexual function is not a problem. Diminished a bit but not a problem. With an enlarged prostate, my daily challenge is simply peeing but the sexual function does not require any planning or forethought at all. It matters very much that I work out at a CrossFit class for seniors 3x per week. That's the difference. For what it's worth.
As an aging male, I found that hooking up with a 20yo nymphomaniac has significantly improved my sex life. Low libido, gone. Bouts of depression, gone. Concern for prostate health, gone. The only downside is that I just dropped $130K on a new custom Corvette. Hope that’s not going to become an issue.
Hope the resale value is as good as your boner 😉
That was pretty damn good
20 years old? That's pretty old for an inflatable doll
You should’ve bought the car for yourself the 20 year old is gonna turn into nothing but problems cars and motorcycles or happiness no grief no attitude no bullshit just saying
Dirty old man
I'm not old...yet...but mid-aged. I was always a bit 'put-off' by movies, magazines and erotica always glorifying younger (early 20's or even younger) people as the only ones having sex. We are sexual beings, and I think both Hollywood and "Madison Ave" marketing have tried to brainwash many people to believe that only 14 through 34 year olds have sex and when I have seen a couple of older love scenes on film, i.e., "The Note Book" (James Garner and Gena Rowlands) and "The Bridges of Madison County" (Meryl Streep and Clinton Eastwood) I have been pleasantly surprised. My younger viewing friends have had a "ick" part in their disdain for the scenes of older folkes, but that shows how far we still need to go.
There is nothing better than making love with a mature woman who is eager for sexual pleasure
I am a 70 yr old guy. I noticed that I could no longer get a erection no matter how much I wanted to. I started having problems with insomnia and weight gain. I did a little research and found that low testosterone levels could be a partial reason for both. The next time I saw my Urologist I asked to have my levels tested. My level was quite low. I was at 120. He started me on testosterone replacement injections. By doing so I wake up with morning wood something I hadn't had in some time. I crave sex now much more. I have dropped 2 pants sizes and I do not suffer with insomnia near as often as I was having.
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dude, lose weight, do stuff around the house to the point of getting of exhaustion. Age is a thing but losing weight and doing exercise could help.
It's proven that testosterone replacement in those with a low count is healthy providing it's supervised. I'm 51 and my testosterone is still good but as soon as it falls to a point my doctor says you need it boostered, I'm getting shots in the ass. Not just so I can keep rooting all my young herom here in Thailand but for the better of my body overall. Just hope I don't need it till I'm 60
My niece's husband has had low T for a number of years and he is less than 40. He has been doing the injections for some time
Good information! Hope you’re telling the truth.
Dear: Dr: Rena
I love the way how you give all that valuable information.
With due respect,I want to express my admiration for you,as a professional, and I can’t avoid to highlight that beautiful smile you have.💐
Dr Rena
Pls come to south africa
Being 71, thanks for this video
Dr. Rena, I would like you to help me. But it cannot happen. I thank you so much for your video's. I wish there were more doctors like you.
Going on 70 in October and expecting our 3rd child in October also. Our sex life is fantastic. Of course my wife is 36, she fell in love with me and the love story just keeps growing.
You r lucky
Good , but hey im 74 yrs old and my wife is 32 yrs of age Thailand is Phantastico 🤣
@@patsanters2741 63 and 24, Philippines .
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In my early 60's, I would on occasion, talk with women of the same age. I think they were surprised when I suggested that just because we reach a certain age, sex can continue. I think women feel that once menopause happens, sex stops. Yes, dryness, the loss of tonality in our skin and a few other things happen. But, the sensations through sexual activity, still can feel great. Use lubricants, take things slower to account for very snug fitting areas, try different and arousing undergarments. In the end, many of these women seemed to go away thinking seriously about it.
More about loss of libido post menopausal and remedies
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Looking forward to more programs like this since both my wife and I are over 65. Thank you for you video!
My wife, 74, has denied interest in sex for more than 10 years and also claims intercourse is extremely painful. I feel kind of left out. She also is less interested in cuddling or snuggling.
You might need to use lube and go to the doctor and do oral sex more.
if you can get it up without viagra, I suggest going for a non strings attached 30 year old escort. What I mean without viagra is that if you take it, you are not sure how long it will last and you need it to do your thing with the escort and then be ready to get home. For friendship and cuddling, there are male mates, grandchildren and pets!
Sorry to hear that.
You know when you where young and holding hands was the best thing ever?
I can't speak for your relationship, since I don't know it, but I think holding hands is very important. It brings physical connection.
Also stroking the other person / massage / resting one's hand or/and arm on them,, yknow small things. Twiddling with their hair.
It could lead to sex before, maybe later in life as well. But even without it leading to sex it brings a lot to relationships I think.
Very sad!
I'm 84, married to my second wife. like you, our sex life is completely gone. No cuddle or anything, she is 77. it is painful for her.
One thing is that more things "go wrong" as we age as well. Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and treatments, cardiovascular health. Some of the treatments can severely and adversely affect your ability to have sex and even have erections or vaginal lubrication. More needs to be said about both.
type 2 diabetes can be diet controlled. so that should not be m issue.
@@louiscyfer6944 I like the name and yup you’re right
calcification of the veins/arteries in the p...s is also a big issue
@@andrecostermans7109 Interesting. Do you have moe information about calcification?
You hit the nail on the head. Sexual health is vital. Avoiding loneliness is important, however, I wish you'd explain the value of sex therapists/surrogates. Let's face it, no sense being lonely where there is help available -- it's eliminating the stigma that's important. As far as families and support as we age, you should consider that adult children are not really receptive to the idea of their parents being sexual beings, and as the population ages, it's even less likely that kids will provide the kind of support we've been conditioned to expect. Younoted we're all "living inside our phones" and that's nice, but it isn't tactile. As always, you educate, and I certainly appreciate it.
Iam 45 still no sex
I need men he loves me very much
If you and your partner are both physically active, both of you are also sexually active! It's just mind and body synchronization for couples who are still loving each other! That's what been said that age doesn't matter!
Yes.that's.correct
Age dosen't mattered
At 81 with a 49 yr old lover/boyfriend whatever you wish to call it, both of us in an exclusive sexual relationship, the best sex in my life. I'm going out happy.😅 My energy level needs a younger man. Besides being an ego boost for both of us, we can also learn and grow together. Yes I'm still learning and growing. An older man just can't keep up with my needs in life sexually or intellectually. Neither of us care about age. When together we don't feel any age, just enjoy each other's company and unbelievable sex. He's a wonderful man, divorced, and a very loving and caring father besides being an amazing man who still opens doors for me. What more can anyone ask for. I'm incredibly blessed.
As an Old indian man a fitness freak it's a great information to see little more colorful end of life.
My wife and I both recently turned 69 years old. I crave an active sex life but my wife does not. I feel lucky if we have sex once every two weeks. When we do it's like my wife only does it becase she feels like she has to, not because she wants to. That is not the recipe for a fulfilling sex life. I am starting to think that I just need to give up and forget about sex. At least she would be happier. The sad thing is I can still remember what an amazing sex life we had in our early years together.
You can change that ask what she wants maybe you need to go on a trip or rekindle your sex life
I feel your pain, brother.
50 years old lonely person travelling here in NY. Thanks for your good video.
I had a prostate operation in 2005 (TURP) when I was 53. The immediate effect was retrograde ejaculation which I thought might be a good thing but gave me a feeling of incomplete sex. A little later prostate cancer was diagnosed for which I had radiotherapy. This eventually gave me sharp pains after orgasm - a kind of dysorgasmia. Over the following years I developed Peyronie's disease, loss of libido and then finally impotence. I have high blood pressure and suffer with migraines so I didn't try Viagra and also thought it removed any spontaneity. Now, at 70, I can't remember the last time I had sex and my sex life is dead. I mourn for that life and your videos remind me of "the good old days".
Sorry to hear that. Better health is all I wish for you :)
Sorry to hear. I am on prostate meds for BPM. That killed my sex drive entirely. It sucks...I guess being able to pee is far more important than sex.
Sorry bby,no supplement in ur are? Try Yohimbe bark
I love how you said to stay connected to the people that matter to you instead if suing friends and family. The wording matters.
A video on atrophic vaginitis would be wonderful! And please consider doing a little research on whether pubic hair thinning and loss can be mitigated (e.g., is minoxidil safe and effective for a woman to use in that glorious region?)
I’m 80 and she still gets it in her
the key part of the study was the fact that it was done in germany!
Each new contraption further isolates us. Radio, then came TV, then came fax, internet, then the damn phones. Few people are talking to others, and the loneliness is very, very unnatural and extremely unhealthy. Life is much better when simplified and people gather together. When people connect, the sex is always better because people are much more happy.
We are 63 and 62 years old, my wife says people our age do not have sex, period. She also says that when couples first meet they have sex then after 6 month they don't have sex, they are just happy that they are in the house together. That the same old is comforting. I greatly disagree. Can you make a video about people in their 60 to 80, how many have sex, how often do they have sex, what type of sex, how they are intimate and the health benefits of sex and why it is important. thanks.
My sex ended 6 months after I got married.
Dr Rena, your video productions are getting better and better, been following for a while. Love the production besides the quality content.
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When I was a kid, I considered 40 to be “old age”. I calculated what age I would be in the year 2000, and wondered if I would still be alive at age 46. At age 68, I do not consider 65 to be the cut-off for “old age”. I am a physician (cardiologist). I would never refer to any of my patients over age 65 to be in the category of “old age”. I suggest that you adjust your terminology.
It really depends on your health; I've have had a progressive wasting disease since my teens, up to 50, I felt almost normal, 20 years later, I'm useless.
I agree
I am66but feeling sex.wife has no sex due to monpose.but what I will do.
Yes I agree...Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychologist and professor
@@kaburulislamkhan1973 Take her to an endochrinologist she likely needs her hormomes balanced..this CAN be done.
Found ur vid very interesting n informative. This is an unavoidable age group that we will all one day have to experience. Kudos for vid. Hopefully u will provide more vids on this age group. Anticipating ur next one.
Dear Rena, thank you for this video, I have found your videos to be very helpful and that's after 53 years of marriage! I agree with the premise that sex is good for one's physical and mental health, unfortunately it seems to be that men of my age are more interested in sex than women are, which can have a detrimental impact on the relationship, I still love my wife, but she's more like a sister now, I still want to enjoy the pleasure of sex, but I don't want an affair as that could have serious consequences, so recently I have started to consider "paying" for it.
My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for over 20 years and are now in our 70’s. This has kept things new and exciting and have found both men and women that are still going strong in their 80’s. If you are handle not being jealous, it keeps you feeling young and people have a tendency to stay in better physical condition. If the man has ED, he can still get a lot of pleasure by watching his wife have sex with other men. It has been reported that Cuckold videos are the most searched type on porn sites.
Might be worth discussing this with your wife
Islam give the solution that Is second marriage.
😢I am a Muslim so doing second marriage.young girl like elderly man.
@@sir.bendover3299Hi Ben are you still making porn films, how is Omar these days. I did ask my wife if she wanted to watch, but she prefers to watch neighbours!
Happy mother's day Dr. M...you are so beautiful!!your husband is one lucky man!!huge crush!!!
My libido was aroused when I was into carnivore diet for one month. But I, 62, hardly could ask my husband for sex due to embarrassment. It wasn’t until I was into carnivore diet for 3 months that I shyly asked my husband to make love after 20 years of asexual life. My husband, 65, was overjoyed and we have had sex every day from then on. We really enjoy it like we were at our twenties.
Aww! Thats great!!!
Wow. Very good 👍
Dr Rena advice is good idea. the only problem is how to find someone..❤
I am 61 and stopped having sex 4 years ago !! I think physical attraction plays a huge role In a relationship! If it's not there sex will never happen
Omg have fun dear 💖💕
I Agree Can We Chat?
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I think behavior is important for intimate relationships.
Not always. Behavior is also matters a lots .
Life is not a success/satisfaction contest, live your best life.
Another invaluable channel, will definitely explore more videos from you. This has helped me alot, thank you!
am 67 and my wife 64. 40 plus years of marital life. i feel that our sexual life is on decline for the last 25 years. My wife suffered from respiratory problems since 1994.. so i always think why should i bother her..
Thank You M.D Malik , I admire and thankful for the time you take to inform and educate , something rarely found now days 👍
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Dr thank you our heavenly father for us to keep going. But for me at my age not easy to find someone to love. who can make me happy..my age so help. Very much lntrested topic.. thank you.
More about helping women after menopause combat sexual dis function and loss of desire.
I worked out all my life. Sex was good till 78. then a gal moved in with me. I stopped working out and after a year sex wasn't good for me, I lost it. My girlfriend was upset and moved out. Now with someone else. I started working out again.
i am 77 wife is 75 and our sex life is great. ya its only 2 to 3 times a month but it is great and we do almost every thing together as we enjoy each other still after over 50 years
Great video. I am much improved since last time... some treatment from my uruologist but now he's moving on gotta find a different one... I lost some weight.... better a1c.... more active in my job not sitting behind a desk for 8 hrs a day. And less stress. Thanks
Would love to learn more about a woman's loss labido post menopause and what are their options for improving this. Thank you
If her libido gets worse after menopause the I’m in real trouble😢
I come to her channel just to admire her. I'm fascinated by the way she speaks: an uninterrupted flow of words. Even in my native language, I can't talk like that.
I just wish I could see her in person to tell her that I am in love with her. I know I have no chance, to think otherwise would be to covet the impossible in my wishes.
But you never know, sometimes miracles happen. I love you, doc...
The documentary "Young@Heart" talked in part about sex and the elderly. They spend more time with foreplay and talking. This leads to a better sex life for those over age 65.
Old is gold.Age is not bar .Both couple should be happy in their life.
Great job Rena. Can we have a video on treatment modalities of improving libido and overall sex in post-menopausal women
Hi Doctor. Your youtube channel is very educational and a much needed resource. What is your opinion on the Mona Lisa Touch laser treatment?
Sex is as essential as food, no matter the age.
I think so. Bertha told me that she wants good sex. :)
Some people responding to this vid , are ignorant . Probably because they are too young .
But I understand , you’re concerned . Thank you 🙏. But I gotta hear from people my own age . Particularly the women . Even the sick can get in on this discussion .
So please .
Thank you for covering this subject!
Do you have any experience with osphena? I know a lot of insurances don't really want to cover it or pay very little on it and will cover hormones instead. What else might you recommend for someone looking for a more natural alternative?
Thanks, I am 75 and my wife of 36 years is 70 and we have amazing sex just not as often as we used to.
Get it while it’s there
Dr. Could you do a video giving all you can on the P shot for men and the O shot for Women. Thank you so much for all the good content.
I'm 80. Love my sex life, just getting harder to get a date at this age, but I'm still able to make ladies very Happy.
Not easy to find a man or woman at our age.. from ZAMBIA
Hello thanks for sharing this video, and I am very thankful...
Aqtuly I am suffering urine problem please solve the my problem...
Please. I hope you give me. Ansr
Yes, more info on lack of libido in post menopausal women, Doc, please.
I'm 78 and sex is still important to me. Right now no mate to play with.
After being with the same partner for many years and getting older together, a younger woman might make a huge difference to my sex life 😄
Yes! My 80 year-old widowed father-in-law, who thought he was nearing the end, suddenly became very much alive when his female care giver allowed him to have ssex with her!
Of course.
Your Wife Feels The Same About A Young Man If So Let Me Know
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Yeah, I don’t know if he was saying “better not take any chances, you’ve been unwell”, but when I turned 35, Grandpa said, well it’s about time to stop having sex.
My niece was a nurse in a nursing home. She said the residents there were hornier than teenagers and always sneaking around. Sometimes getting hurt trying to get it on also. She said even some that had severe dimentia and didn't know family were still trying to have sex and get themselves off. Just goes to show the body doesn't quit.
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I'm 72,I try the creative way to initiate the fire.its the old way to make the fire by rubbing two types of dry wood.same recipe I use to start the fire by rubbing in strokes.
Thank you dr malik.very useful points for old people.
Ok . . . here's a couple of questions for you Rena: My GF (59) and I (65) have a pretty great SL. She is post menopausal and on HRT. Her doctor is telling her that she needs to come off of the HRT when she turns 60. My GF believes that the HRT is what keeps her sexual drive strong, and that it will likely end when she comes off the HRT. Three questions:
1) Is there a limit on age that a woman can or should take HRT?
2) Is it correct that she is likely to lose her libido when /if the HRT is terminated?
3) Is there anything that can be done to replace the libido enhancement of the HRT?
Thanks!
Not a doctor but if there is a reason the body, as it ages, stop producing the same level of hormones, wouldnt that mean that if a person starts using HRT when there are no clear health issues, would that eventually lead to something like cancer and other ilnesses a few years later? Just a thought, dont hit the commenter.
@@Jucelegario It could be so . . . I just don't know. Expert advice is happily accepted!
Hello. I'm from the Netherlands and read your questions about hrt. Yes, her libido will end if she stops het. But you can ask for hrt bio identical hormons. These hormons can be taken for a longer time. Your GF will probably need to take them the rest of her life.
@@carindeuling4915 thank you!
I am 72..my wife is 74...every month..we love once..
Very happy...!!...