rest of this post: He says this is "temporary" and promises to "pay me back," but I don’t believe him. He’s never been good with money, and his wife doesn’t exactly have a track record of being responsible either. I told him no, explaining that this money came from Mom, and she wanted it for me. He got defensive and said, "She’d want you to help family," and accused me of being selfish for "hoarding money you don’t even need right now." Are you serious?? Now, my dad’s side of the family is all over me, saying I should "be the bigger person" and "help him in his time of need." My aunt even called me to say I’m "disrespecting his role as my father." WHAT ROLE?? This man barely raised me! I feel bad because, yeah, $50k is a lot of money, and I guess losing their house would be devastating. But at the same time, why is it MY responsibility to bail them out when they’ve done nothing for me? My mom trusted me with this money, and I feel like giving it to him would go against her wishes and disrespect her memory. AITA for saying no?
Keep the inheritance! He was never around for you, and he cheated on your mom. Your mom left the inheritance to you for your future. Your dad is reaping what he sowed.
Honey your money put that money for you. Nope nope and nope. Bad decisions in their part are not your problem. Just go back to LC. You owe him nothing.
Yep. Exactly this ! He doesn't deserve that money, if the mom think he did he would have inherited something as well. Never give up your own life for someone that gave no sh1ts about you and that only contacts you when they need something from you or when it is convenient for THEM
You give your deadbeat father that money your mother left you your mother won’t be pleased so keep that money and do what your mother wants you to do with it
First one probably won’t pay you back cause he’s a big jerk face second of all your mother pacifically gave it to you for your future so do not give anything to him
rest of this post: He says this is "temporary" and promises to "pay me back," but I don’t believe him. He’s never been good with money, and his wife doesn’t exactly have a track record of being responsible either.
I told him no, explaining that this money came from Mom, and she wanted it for me. He got defensive and said, "She’d want you to help family," and accused me of being selfish for "hoarding money you don’t even need right now." Are you serious??
Now, my dad’s side of the family is all over me, saying I should "be the bigger person" and "help him in his time of need." My aunt even called me to say I’m "disrespecting his role as my father." WHAT ROLE?? This man barely raised me!
I feel bad because, yeah, $50k is a lot of money, and I guess losing their house would be devastating. But at the same time, why is it MY responsibility to bail them out when they’ve done nothing for me? My mom trusted me with this money, and I feel like giving it to him would go against her wishes and disrespect her memory.
AITA for saying no?
If you do, I'm telling you now. You will never see a penny of it.
Keep the inheritance! He was never around for you, and he cheated on your mom. Your mom left the inheritance to you for your future. Your dad is reaping what he sowed.
I'd be more concerned about the stepmother's gambling addiction than anything. All your money might end up being fed into a slot machine. NTA
Tell him you did what your mom wanted and used the money for school. You worked to subsidise living expenses. Maybe your aunt can bail him (again)
He didn’t need your mom,. He doesn’t need her money…
Keep the inheritance
Honey your money put that money for you. Nope nope and nope. Bad decisions in their part are not your problem. Just go back to LC. You owe him nothing.
No don’t you dare help him
Yep. Exactly this !
He doesn't deserve that money, if the mom think he did he would have inherited something as well.
Never give up your own life for someone that gave no sh1ts about you and that only contacts you when they need something from you or when it is convenient for THEM
NTA
You give your deadbeat father that money your mother left you your mother won’t be pleased so keep that money and do what your mother wants you to do with it
First one probably won’t pay you back cause he’s a big jerk face second of all your mother pacifically gave it to you for your future so do not give anything to him
Nta