I’ve always read these comments and never really understand the weight of them. I (a man) was in a long term abusive relationship with a girl, and listening to this podcast initially took me to some dark places as it helped my brain bring some dark thoughts and moments back. The way you’ve both spoken about these subjects throughout the podcast have made me really proud to take the next step and go through the therapy necessary to process these experiences and I’m writing form to ask for the relevant help as we speak. I’ve suppressed this for years as I’ve felt weak and ashamed to open up about it, and honestly this podcast has changed that for me, if you ever lose sight of why these conversations are important this is why. Thank you both!
Oh man, you are carrying guilt and shame that was never meant for you. I'm going to say something you'd never expect to hear from a woman. Yes, you need to share these feelings but I don't recommend you sharing them with a female. It's kind of okay like here in a comments section because it's not as interpersonal as in real life. You were manipulated by a woman. So you will have built in defenses and programmed automatic responses to women. Nothing wrong about that. As a matter of fact that's perfectly normal. What you need are videos like this and other men who have experienced what you have. You can absorb information about narcissistic manipulation, gaslighting and just plain cruelty only if you can relax and let down your walls. I think that would be next to impossible with a female right now. And for a very good reason. Peace bro. First learn what happened to you then you can take back your sovereignty and release that shame because it is not yours to carry. That was the only way it worked for me and kind of everyone who has been entangled by a toxic narcissist that I've met. Male or female, a narcissist is a parasite that lures you in with love bombing then proceeds to feed off of you.
I've followed Richard for a few years now. His emotional flashback content really helped me recover after a relationship with a narc who I loved deeply - took me so damn long to figure out she was a narc - discovered my own codependency and got some therapy. I'm alive because of the resources and validation I found in his resources. Great discussion - thanks for sharing
Brian this is 100% the route to go down. Podcasts with people who are intelligent and/or have amazing stories to tell that can help people. Back to your roots. Fuck the views, your loyal fan base will always stick by you
honestly one the best podcasts bryan has done in a long time. great work and i highly encourage you having this guy more often. this is the root of true Geordie as a brand and going back to mental health and going back to that psycho analysis.
At some point I heard the phrase "Narcissists are in love with their own reflection" and so I took it to mean that they're just sort of *a level above conceited* . But then I met someone who was literally incapable of ever admitting wrong doing and it was driving me insane, this behavior. I began searching because I knew it must have a name: thats when I came across *Narcissist* .
It's been a pleasure to see 2 real men with emotions, along with authentic life experiences. Just had my first narcissist or? Thought I was losing my mind. He stole my car and the police were very familiar with him. First thing police said was do you know what gaslighting is? Then he finally was arrested and for myself I started reading and learning. It was awful, still recovering, thanks.
I dated a girl, not sure if she was a narcissist or borderline personality. Either way it was hell which almost (literally) destroyed me, but surviving it made me stronger
@@demi8890 firstly a personality disorder isn’t a mental illness, secondary I can’t force an adult to seek professional help I can only advise it which I did numerous times, thirdly it a fucking nightmare to get seen to for mental health issues in the U.K. fourthly I did get out, fifthly go fuck yourself you clearly have no idea what it’s like being in psychologically and emotionally abusive relationship, like this psychologist said if you watched the podcast being in relationship with a narcissist is like rolling with a blackbelt their levels of manipulation is on another level and even he struggled with it, and on top of all this you are somehow blaming me for her abusive behaviour?
A lot of people (including me) don't agree that there is healthy narcissism, I think its better to call it healthy confidence and self esteem, neither of which narcissists have
@@demi8890 I did not assume that the comment implied that they are not human and should be treated like a rabid animal. The contradictions in Narcissism that I have observed is that they, on the one hand have this grandiosity and desire for control and on the other hand, really need the admiration and esteem from the outside world, to up hold their ego ideal. The narcissist I know, shapeshifted himself to everyone he met, in order to illicit the admiration.. the personality is fragmented. I have heard much disagreement in whether therapy and help actually works. Their defensive structure is impenetrable. I have much empathy for their emptiness. They usually end up , old ,alone and broken, as the gap widens between their fantasy world and their reality. Maybe one day, we can find a way to help.
I've been researching narcissism for the last two weeks and realized there was a whole lot more than initially expected and discovered that it was infecting my life more than I ever knew
Great episode! Men are bullied terribly but always suffer in silence. Being abused by a female is mostly always hidden by men, i endured it and went through hell, just speak out and remove yourself from nasty relationships.
I finally got out from under the yoke of a long-term narcissist, it took me years but I finally did it. It was Richard's videos which helped me at the very beginning of my healing journey.
This was a fantastic podcast guys. These 2 hours flew by. Much needed in these narcissistic times. I would love to see a part 2 on this topic as you both have great chemistry in talking about this heavy topic in an informative but humorous manner.
I dated a narcissist a few years ago for only a few weeks and I got out quickly… I’m now in a really healthy relationship (several years together without so much as a bad argument); she is still single and just posting fake lifestyle stuff online. Early warning signs for me were - 1. She made me feel like I was worthless and insane/unreasonable 2. She re-framed everything I said (however innocent or neutral) to an interpretation that I was somehow a psycho or a narcissist myself (she was obviously projecting herself onto me). 3. She was constantly emphasising how I was obsessed with her because she is so beautiful , but never complimented me on anything 4. She had an absent father (seems to have left her at a very early age- this was not her fault obviously) 5. She inappropriately turned nearly every one of our conversations (about anything at all) in dirty sex talk. 6. She was absolutely uninterested in how anyone else felt, but obsessed over her own feelings and how other ppl (particularly me) made her feel. GET OUT EARLY before they exhaust you
I love True Geordie. But he's got some major blindspots. Apparently narcissists dominating the internet is a problem, yet Brian constantly promotes and roots for Jake Paul...
1:22:07 this bit of reflection from Žižek might have just now saved my sexuality and healed a deep wound I've had all my life in only 15 seconds. I can feel my chemicals reacting to the thought, and I understand why things worked and others didn't. The whole video is a great mind booster and you guys as a duo are something I'd really like to watch again. Thanks for taking the time to sit down and make us think.
Many videos of Richard Grannon have I watched; THIS has been the most brilliant not only on the focused subject matter but also with Richard at his most brilliant. Well done, well done, and thank you kindly. There is great accomplishment and satisfaction in reclaiming life after a life held in the grips of narcissism.
Said it many times. TG is one of the best podcasts if not the best out there. Shame such a high portion of the population aren’t intelligent enough to see it.
Someone who actually speaks sense about narcissism everything you say reminds me of this one guy I knew who messed with my life and loads of other peoples lives. He was someone I lived with at Uni and basically he tried to get me thrown out of university because I didn’t go along with his ridiculous drama. I won’t go into details about what he did but he left me feeling broken for about 2 years and it took me a long time to recover from and even made me have to retake a year because of the trauma it caused.
I love the initial background Richard gives on the psychological trauma that creates narcissists, and how they disconnect from reality to make life bearable. Doesn't mean we should be buddies with narcissists lol.
Great work True Geordie ! I’ve been following and listening to Richard for years. Good choice in guest ! I can’t think of anyone that knows as much as Richard Grannon about these topics.
Richard is really good. I hope he knows just how much he has helped me. Making sense of the world really helps to move on however one thing I discovered is being honest with yourself.
I'm new to the podcast world but this was one of the most satisfying conversations I've seen on this subject. Both of your perspectives were spot-on: thoughtful, funny, and empathetic, and your well-timed humor is just an added bonus to such a deep conversation. Thanks!:)
This has been such a great podcast, Brian. Really loved it. You’re so great at these and are the antidote to the men we are seeing online right now. Your honesty about your own slip into that bollocks of the fancy car is raw and true. I’m here for it! X
Fantastic interview, for both, I think. New subscriber here. I really appreciated the two strong men being open and vulnerable with each other in such a masculine way. 😉 Richard has been in my subscription list for quite some time, and now I will add another seemingly good man to that list. Thanks so much. Have a great time living authentically. It really is the best way to go.
My mother tried to convince me that my own daughter was born on a completely different day!! She rewrites history on a permanent basis. My childhood was horrendous. I have Fibromyalgia & ME thanks to my trauma as a child
Holy freeeaking moly. This conversation was ahhhmazinggg. I listened off & on throughout my day. Great food for deeper thought. I loved every bit of it. The part about Daddy issues. Wow. Mind blown. I have had Daddy issues & I do have an inner child that does come to the surface. She used to cause A LOT of issues in my life... because I was unconcious to her even being within me. I hadn't thought about her until I had hit rock bottom & recognized that my childhood really fucking hurt me. Now my inner child is reassured that she's loved & protected & that this adult human that shares space with her is running the show. My Daddy issues do not come to the bedroom. I'm sure they have at some point in the past... but definitely not anymore. It's such a bummer there are so many hurt people dating around & hurting people. I feel the best gift someone can give themselves is TIME on their own SINGLE, at least until they've reached a point of feeling really fucking good on their own & they have some clarity around the last relationship. I've been reminded a lot, that actively loving myself requires dedication, compassion, grace, playfulness, & getting back up when I fall into the shadow. Being in a relationship requires the same. I recognize that at this point in my life I do not have capacity to give to another or even to really receive. I have inner work to do. After watching Richard for a while, I started worrying I was narcissistic. I'm not. I do have narcissistic tendencies depending on many factors. Grateful to hear it is absolutely necessary to have narcissistic traits to survive in this World. I'm grateful for this interview because it brings my awareness to so much. Hearing important aspects of life (Men & Women) discussed by 2 Men from their individual perspectives is wonderful. I really enjoyed this. Thank you. 👍💙✌️
Patience is very important, where i come from they used to say; god love patient people … for example narcissistic person are not patient at all, quite opposit narcissit hate to wait, in my opinion one of the many reason they cheat. Sad but true, fact is i lost trust generally in people … trust nobody 100%
Two of my favourite youtubers.......👌🏼👏🏼😊 Being real, speaking sense, being vulnerable & giving great wisdom for life....... Please keep doing what your doing guys! 👏🏼👌🏼💗
Love this duo, Always so correct. It can be a lonely place to think the way they do. This is the world we live in, evil is worshipped and victims are persecuted. Watching that happen on mainstream media is horrific. And thanks to Richard Grannon for this informative podcast.
as a woman this is empowering to me. this makes me want to be a better woman for my boyfriend and give him happiness and fulfilment, the kind i don’t see in my dad and his dad. i want to be a good woman and a good person and catch myself when i am in the wrong, im not perfect and we’re only 20 but i see him in my future and i know it’s my duty to love him fully and never let him feel the things you lads talk about. he is my motivation to be better💞
That Nancy Friday book he referenced My Secret Garden is mind blowing!! I just finished reading it it’s a bunch of house mums anonymously writing in their fantasies
The chemistry in this conversation was palpable. I could listen to two intelligent men talking vulnerably and without ego forever. I wish there was more content like this out there, it would do society a hell of a lot of good. One of your best episodes in my eyes
NO WAY!! I've dreamed about this podcast for years and never thought I'd see two of my absolute favourite people meet. Not even started watching and I'm so happy ☺️☺️☺️
I grew up really poor and wished I had expensive things but in the painful and long process of getting to a place where I can now afford fancy clothes/cars/jewelry I just stopped caring about any of that BS. I actually get turned off a bit if a dude drives a really fancy car because it just seems so ridiculous to me.
I think you have got real value content Georgie. I startet listening years ago by accident with all the football content...but you seem like a very open minded person with all the other content. Bless you man
I found this really interesting, and took some points actively trying not to be offended as a woman, just to try and connect what the male perspective is like. I will say some of what you guys said was a tad offensive, but most of it was an interesting insight. I think more conversations like this need to happen between men, and between men AND women together in a conversation and/or debate. The relationships between men and women need to be fixed, there’s a big gap that needs to be bridged - men need women and women need men, it’s as simple as that. We all need each other.
40:00 ‘42 in two weeks and just getting it’ this was so nice to hear as I just celebrated the 42nd birthday & 1 full year of weekly therapy and I feel like I’m exactly where I was five years ago - and added pressure to GET WELL is only amplified because of my age was really wearing on me. To hear someone like you with a similar background to mine say something like that was really feeling today I really needed that thank you. Men are not the only ones that keep their darkest moments bottled up inside. I think maybe man are just better at hiding it because it’s fucking killing me. Slowly every day I get closer and closer to giving up. So many things have been done to me and the worst part is that most of the people that know, think I deserved it in someway. I’m starting to believe them and just feel like giving up
1:41 You’re talking about women not wanting to have sex after a fight and I think you’re talking about a very specific woman that is more in love with you with the suck so I would recommend being very careful about initiating intimacy after fights because you’re gonna start a program that woman to want sex after a fight or start a fight so she can have sex
Yes, the fantasies can drive you nuts. I think it's one of the hardest things when dealing with a narcissist. And that most outsiders will actually choose to believe them since they are so charismatic and often use their status to impress (whatever status it is).
I’m realizing my ex did have that daddy complex with me. She was like a hurricane, but it was my fault for keeping her around out of guilt. Great podcast
We need an explanation on why Loz isn't on the channel anymore.. He was on the kick off during the world cup after the incident. The fans deserve to know if he's coming back? What direction the channel is gonna go if he doesn't come back?
I don't know if this is the truth but I assume he is spending time with his children because he and flu just had a daughter, I could be wrong but it would make sense.
@@soapsportsnews5727 they did mention that he wouldn’t b on the kick off and podcasts as much anymore because he was on his own ventures but didn’t know it would be this extreme
Narcissism is one of the most misdiagnosed conditions in the world. A lot of people get labelled narcissistic because they have self belief and/or have an ego. Having a ego is not narcissism and it’s extremely important that we don’t start labelling people that simply just believe in themselves as narcissists.
@@Andy-uw9cg Google narcissistic personality disorder. There are 9 traits and you have to have 5 of them to qualify for a diagnosis. Its becoming so much more common these days.
“Narcissistic” is an adjective. Not a diagnosis. Saying someone is narcissistic isn’t a diagnosis. And diagnosable narcissists (NPD) don’t go to therapists to get a diagnosis.
As a child of the 80s and 90s, I look at the world and youth and think, you poor bastards we had a marvellous time every summer. I believe it started in my generation with consoles. The beginning of tech marvels and spiritual brokenness.
People saying it’s ironic, theres a difference between having narcissistic tendencies and behaviours and being a clinically diagnosed narcissistic, itll be a hard job to find someone who acts completely without narcissism, if thats what you need to watch a podcast about it
This is one of the best TG pods I’ve listened to! People throw the word narcissist left, right and Center not really knowing the full meaning of the word. I appreciate that these guys have gone deeper into it and spreading some education on it. Loved this! 😊
I know I can only talk for myself but intelligence and a decent personality has always trumped looks for me. And honestly I think most grown up women are the same. And they don’t need men to be rich just willing to better themselves (team work makes the dream work). But not too ambitious…. There’s more to life than money.
Brilliant podcast this, thoroughly enjoyed listening to this discussion and definitely describes the online social media world very well. I also really liked the description of true happiness as ‘going for a sandwich with your girlfriend who you love’ rather than big fancy cars and what not. Definitely should focus on doing more of these types of podcasts, feels like the old school True Geordie videos are coming back 💪
@@Colonelboereieney McKola has also been a bit of a snake for years, them FullTime Devils guys made up stories about Mark Goldbridge because they didn’t want competition and I just find McKola unlikeable in general on the Kick Off over the years
So sorry to hear your story. I realise there are two sides to a story. My comments on this site are personal, I know for a fact Brian is a misogynist . I can’t recommend counselling enough. Glad you found the strength to get help, I realise it is harder for a man to ask for help. Good luck for the future and stay strong.
What happened to Lawrence? I don’t mean this in any implications towards the brand or pod just a geniune question on him. Shame to see him gone as they were a great duo
After the controversy, everyone has left to build their own projects. TG has been volatile more than once now so I can't blame Laurence for losing confidence in him.
The link drawn between those who value morals and discipline the most and those who have the most difficulty in their lives is often misunderstood. Its actually because their lives are full of so much difficulty that they see and understand the value of morals and discipline and want to encourage it in others. When your life is chaotic, or just mundane and youre drifting, and you become anxious and depressed, then after years you clean up your act, set some goals and start keeping good routines, you feel a billion times better about everything. As a result, you want to tell everyone else how much better life can be. Obviously many people struggle to maintain it long term and have a lot of ups and downs, but once theyve learned how powerful it is, even in their downs they will still preach it, because it works and has such a powerful effect. Theyre under no illusions during their down phases that theyre in a rut and things have come off the rails. Take people who smoke for example, then end up on oxygen tanks and with cancer, theyre often the first to tell people not to smoke, not because theyre unaware that they smoke and cant stop, but because they KNOW first hand what it can do. Jung's shadow is often used as a kafka trap. If we invoke it whenever we want, lets say someone promotes charity - "oh well they must be super stingy then because they promote charity so their shadow...." we could do it to everyone, endlessly.
I’ve always read these comments and never really understand the weight of them. I (a man) was in a long term abusive relationship with a girl, and listening to this podcast initially took me to some dark places as it helped my brain bring some dark thoughts and moments back. The way you’ve both spoken about these subjects throughout the podcast have made me really proud to take the next step and go through the therapy necessary to process these experiences and I’m writing form to ask for the relevant help as we speak. I’ve suppressed this for years as I’ve felt weak and ashamed to open up about it, and honestly this podcast has changed that for me, if you ever lose sight of why these conversations are important this is why. Thank you both!
Proud of you man!
go gym
Hope lefty lawrence has his tampons in for this episode 🙉
Chin up King
Oh man, you are carrying guilt and shame that was never meant for you. I'm going to say something you'd never expect to hear from a woman. Yes, you need to share these feelings but I don't recommend you sharing them with a female. It's kind of okay like here in a comments section because it's not as interpersonal as in real life. You were manipulated by a woman. So you will have built in defenses and programmed automatic responses to women. Nothing wrong about that. As a matter of fact that's perfectly normal. What you need are videos like this and other men who have experienced what you have. You can absorb information about narcissistic manipulation, gaslighting and just plain cruelty only if you can relax and let down your walls. I think that would be next to impossible with a female right now. And for a very good reason. Peace bro. First learn what happened to you then you can take back your sovereignty and release that shame because it is not yours to carry. That was the only way it worked for me and kind of everyone who has been entangled by a toxic narcissist that I've met. Male or female, a narcissist is a parasite that lures you in with love bombing then proceeds to feed off of you.
My ears are burning. Big love gents
I've followed Richard for a few years now. His emotional flashback content really helped me recover after a relationship with a narc who I loved deeply - took me so damn long to figure out she was a narc - discovered my own codependency and got some therapy. I'm alive because of the resources and validation I found in his resources. Great discussion - thanks for sharing
A fan of Richard Grannon.
Brian this is 100% the route to go down. Podcasts with people who are intelligent and/or have amazing stories to tell that can help people. Back to your roots. Fuck the views, your loyal fan base will always stick by you
"Roots", not routes.
Personally I think he's better off without all the hanger ons who were using him and his platform for years. The cream always rises to the top.
"Stick to your routes" - Google maps 2023
@@bawseeeee602 lol
@@bawseeeee602 🤣
I genuinely think this may be one of the best TG podcasts to date. A really interesting, organic and capitvating podcast
Except it lacked self awareness.
Couldn’t agree more fucking amazing podcast. Pt 2 is needed
Is this your first time watching Richard? If so, I highly recommend that you watch his other stuff. He is fantastic.
In the same way that your inane comment lacks any substance?
Feel bad for people that get labelled a narcissist, 9 times out of 10 they’re just a twat.
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A very overused term to describe people who are simply just pricks 😂.
Everyone has some narcissistic tendencies tbf, on the internet people have just learned the word and overuse it when people are selfish dickheads
Facts
FACTS. Most of the people mislabelling them as such are also twats. We're not psychologists
honestly one the best podcasts bryan has done in a long time. great work and i highly encourage you having this guy more often. this is the root of true Geordie as a brand and going back to mental health and going back to that psycho analysis.
At some point I heard the phrase "Narcissists are in love with their own reflection" and so I took it to mean that they're just sort of *a level above conceited* . But then I met someone who was literally incapable of ever admitting wrong doing and it was driving me insane, this behavior. I began searching because I knew it must have a name: thats when I came across *Narcissist* .
It's been a pleasure to see 2 real men with emotions, along with authentic life experiences. Just had my first narcissist or? Thought I was losing my mind. He stole my car and the police were very familiar with him. First thing police said was do you know what gaslighting is? Then he finally was arrested and for myself I started reading and learning. It was awful, still recovering, thanks.
It's so good to hear these two talk
I dated a girl, not sure if she was a narcissist or borderline personality. Either way it was hell which almost (literally) destroyed me, but surviving it made me stronger
@@demi8890 firstly a personality disorder isn’t a mental illness, secondary I can’t force an adult to seek professional help I can only advise it which I did numerous times, thirdly it a fucking nightmare to get seen to for mental health issues in the U.K. fourthly I did get out, fifthly go fuck yourself you clearly have no idea what it’s like being in psychologically and emotionally abusive relationship, like this psychologist said if you watched the podcast being in relationship with a narcissist is like rolling with a blackbelt their levels of manipulation is on another level and even he struggled with it, and on top of all this you are somehow blaming me for her abusive behaviour?
Been there. At least you now know a bunch of red flags to look out for
@@tyroncloete8113 a pretty face, killer body and an amazing shag is pretty good at camouflaging those red flags 😂
A lot of people (including me) don't agree that there is healthy narcissism, I think its better to call it healthy confidence and self esteem, neither of which narcissists have
Yes, I agree.
@@demi8890 I did not assume that the comment implied that they are not human and should be treated like a rabid animal. The contradictions in Narcissism that I have observed is that they, on the one hand have this grandiosity and desire for control and on the other hand, really need the admiration and esteem from the outside world, to up hold their ego ideal. The narcissist I know, shapeshifted himself to everyone he met, in order to illicit the admiration.. the personality is fragmented. I have heard much disagreement in whether therapy and help actually works. Their defensive structure is impenetrable. I have much empathy for their emptiness. They usually end up , old ,alone and broken, as the gap widens between their fantasy world and their reality. Maybe one day, we can find a way to help.
I've been researching narcissism for the last two weeks and realized there was a whole lot more than initially expected and discovered that it was infecting my life more than I ever knew
Great episode! Men are bullied terribly but always suffer in silence. Being abused by a female is mostly always hidden by men, i endured it and went through hell, just speak out and remove yourself from nasty relationships.
I finally got out from under the yoke of a long-term narcissist, it took me years but I finally did it. It was Richard's videos which helped me at the very beginning of my healing journey.
This was a fantastic podcast guys. These 2 hours flew by. Much needed in these narcissistic times. I would love to see a part 2 on this topic as you both have great chemistry in talking about this heavy topic in an informative but humorous manner.
Been following Richard for years. Good guy and knows what he's talking about.
So cool to see these two link up.
I learn so much every time I hear Richard get interviewed fascinating stuff well done
I dated a narcissist a few years ago for only a few weeks and I got out quickly… I’m now in a really healthy relationship (several years together without so much as a bad argument); she is still single and just posting fake lifestyle stuff online. Early warning signs for me were - 1. She made me feel like I was worthless and insane/unreasonable 2. She re-framed everything I said (however innocent or neutral) to an interpretation that I was somehow a psycho or a narcissist myself (she was obviously projecting herself onto me). 3. She was constantly emphasising how I was obsessed with her because she is so beautiful , but never complimented me on anything 4. She had an absent father (seems to have left her at a very early age- this was not her fault obviously) 5. She inappropriately turned nearly every one of our conversations (about anything at all) in dirty sex talk. 6. She was absolutely uninterested in how anyone else felt, but obsessed over her own feelings and how other ppl (particularly me) made her feel. GET OUT EARLY before they exhaust you
they are also INCAPABLE of ever admitting wrongdoing. No matter what they did / caused , it is ASTONISHING.
@@0MissElizabeth0 Just like most women
I love True Geordie. But he's got some major blindspots. Apparently narcissists dominating the internet is a problem, yet Brian constantly promotes and roots for Jake Paul...
Jake Paul is a just a persona to create business and entertainment. Can’t hate him for it.
@@angejo5591 There's plenty of evidence that he's a jerk in private too.
@@eliaskhoury768 I agree he’s a jerk but he’s definitely exaggerated his personality for the cameras and promotion
People will sometimes go against their principles for the bag. You have to be an opportunist to be successful unfortunately.
The overt narcissists are dangerous but less dangerous cos they're so obvious and we know what annoys them and what pleases them.
Why the hateful comments? I think these two men are great… Learning is always good…
Logan: *sweats nervously*
We’d all be a bit narcissistic like Logan if we were that successful
@@Adam-jv9uz not to the point he is
@@adamhc4653 he ain’t even that bad I don’t understand
Tragic comment section, either go out and touch grass or pipe down and watch the video
1:22:07 this bit of reflection from Žižek might have just now saved my sexuality and healed a deep wound I've had all my life in only 15 seconds. I can feel my chemicals reacting to the thought, and I understand why things worked and others didn't. The whole video is a great mind booster and you guys as a duo are something I'd really like to watch again. Thanks for taking the time to sit down and make us think.
Two great men! So happy that you got together to speak about this topic
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Two great men?
Many videos of Richard Grannon have I watched; THIS has been the most brilliant not only on the focused subject matter but also with Richard at his most brilliant. Well done, well done, and thank you kindly. There is great accomplishment and satisfaction in reclaiming life after a life held in the grips of narcissism.
Said it many times. TG is one of the best podcasts if not the best out there. Shame such a high portion of the population aren’t intelligent enough to see it.
Someone who actually speaks sense about narcissism everything you say reminds me of this one guy I knew who messed with my life and loads of other peoples lives. He was someone I lived with at Uni and basically he tried to get me thrown out of university because I didn’t go along with his ridiculous drama. I won’t go into details about what he did but he left me feeling broken for about 2 years and it took me a long time to recover from and even made me have to retake a year because of the trauma it caused.
I love the initial background Richard gives on the psychological trauma that creates narcissists, and how they disconnect from reality to make life bearable. Doesn't mean we should be buddies with narcissists lol.
Great work True Geordie ! I’ve been following and listening to Richard for years. Good choice in guest ! I can’t think of anyone that knows as much as Richard Grannon about these topics.
Richard is really good. I hope he knows just how much he has helped me. Making sense of the world really helps to move on however one thing I discovered is being honest with yourself.
I'm new to the podcast world but this was one of the most satisfying conversations I've seen on this subject. Both of your perspectives were spot-on: thoughtful, funny, and empathetic, and your well-timed humor is just an added bonus to such a deep conversation. Thanks!:)
This has been such a great podcast, Brian. Really loved it. You’re so great at these and are the antidote to the men we are seeing online right now. Your honesty about your own slip into that bollocks of the fancy car is raw and true. I’m here for it! X
Fantastic interview, for both, I think. New subscriber here. I really appreciated the two strong men being open and vulnerable with each other in such a masculine way. 😉 Richard has been in my subscription list for quite some time, and now I will add another seemingly good man to that list. Thanks so much. Have a great time living authentically. It really is the best way to go.
I've watched this twice in one day, nothing like a proper watch to get to know how to avoid narcissists like the plague.
I adore this entire conversation!!❤❤
Thank you both for sharing your time and thoughts. ❤️🖖
Such a great conversation and topics. Richard is a life changer. Thank you guys.
Part 2 is a must- way two short.
My mother tried to convince me that my own daughter was born on a completely different day!! She rewrites history on a permanent basis. My childhood was horrendous. I have Fibromyalgia & ME thanks to my trauma as a child
It’s sad isn’t it! Even listening to this gives me anxiety..
Have you looked at the work of Phil Parker, Ashok Gupta and Frances Goodall?
I'd recommend all three.
Holy freeeaking moly. This conversation was ahhhmazinggg. I listened off & on throughout my day. Great food for deeper thought. I loved every bit of it. The part about Daddy issues. Wow. Mind blown. I have had Daddy issues & I do have an inner child that does come to the surface. She used to cause A LOT of issues in my life... because I was unconcious to her even being within me. I hadn't thought about her until I had hit rock bottom & recognized that my childhood really fucking hurt me. Now my inner child is reassured that she's loved & protected & that this adult human that shares space with her is running the show. My Daddy issues do not come to the bedroom. I'm sure they have at some point in the past... but definitely not anymore.
It's such a bummer there are so many hurt people dating around & hurting people. I feel the best gift someone can give themselves is TIME on their own SINGLE, at least until they've reached a point of feeling really fucking good on their own & they have some clarity around the last relationship. I've been reminded a lot, that actively loving myself requires dedication, compassion, grace, playfulness, & getting back up when I fall into the shadow. Being in a relationship requires the same. I recognize that at this point in my life I do not have capacity to give to another or even to really receive. I have inner work to do.
After watching Richard for a while, I started worrying I was narcissistic. I'm not. I do have narcissistic tendencies depending on many factors. Grateful to hear it is absolutely necessary to have narcissistic traits to survive in this World. I'm grateful for this interview because it brings my awareness to so much. Hearing important aspects of life (Men & Women) discussed by 2 Men from their individual perspectives is wonderful. I really enjoyed this. Thank you. 👍💙✌️
Patience is very important, where i come from they used to say; god love patient people … for example narcissistic person are not patient at all, quite opposit narcissit hate to wait, in my opinion one of the many reason they cheat. Sad but true, fact is i lost trust generally in people … trust nobody 100%
ok mommy
Two of my favourite youtubers.......👌🏼👏🏼😊
Being real, speaking sense, being vulnerable & giving great wisdom for life.......
Please keep doing what your doing guys! 👏🏼👌🏼💗
One of the best pods I've seen from Bri. Phenomenal
So glad Grannon is finally getting the exposure that he needs
I agree 👍
What’s happened to loz never seen him around for so long
I've followed you since 2015. This has to be one of your best podcasts
I know Richard hates comments: It has been an eye-opening conversation, as a woman. Key. Ture Thanks.
Love this duo, Always so correct. It can be a lonely place to think the way they do. This is the world we live in, evil is worshipped and victims are persecuted. Watching that happen on mainstream media is horrific. And thanks to Richard Grannon for this informative podcast.
So why do you watch this pervert?? The guys probably a goof too
as a woman this is empowering to me. this makes me want to be a better woman for my boyfriend and give him happiness and fulfilment, the kind i don’t see in my dad and his dad. i want to be a good woman and a good person and catch myself when i am in the wrong, im not perfect and we’re only 20 but i see him in my future and i know it’s my duty to love him fully and never let him feel the things you lads talk about. he is my motivation to be better💞
You sound like a narcissists dream.
Same here, we're 23 together almost 6 years and always working on the relationship 🥰
As long as he earns that by treating you right back!!! Super important distinction
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@I Bang her Tight Poophole teach me about women. If you're as good at that as you are at minecraft or halo, TEACH ME 🫡
That Nancy Friday book he referenced My Secret Garden is mind blowing!! I just finished reading it it’s a bunch of house mums anonymously writing in their fantasies
1:12:20 - 1:12:35 That bit there hit me too hard, thanks for the pod too the both of you ❤
Wow what a podcast. What a connection these two alpha dudes have.
I came here from a shorts you don't know your own religion and you don't have the right to say anything about our religion.
The chemistry in this conversation was palpable. I could listen to two intelligent men talking vulnerably and without ego forever. I wish there was more content like this out there, it would do society a hell of a lot of good. One of your best episodes in my eyes
Dude this was amazing. Your guest is awesome
NO WAY!! I've dreamed about this podcast for years and never thought I'd see two of my absolute favourite people meet. Not even started watching and I'm so happy ☺️☺️☺️
Excellent video. I survived a female covert Narc… if I told you my story ….you wouldn’t believe me.
I grew up really poor and wished I had expensive things but in the painful and long process of getting to a place where I can now afford fancy clothes/cars/jewelry I just stopped caring about any of that BS. I actually get turned off a bit if a dude drives a really fancy car because it just seems so ridiculous to me.
I think you have got real value content Georgie. I startet listening years ago by accident with all the football content...but you seem like a very open minded person with all the other content. Bless you man
Such an enjoyable listen. Love when y’all laugh. Such good natured dudes.
You seem to have done well because of it.
Yo chiillll 😭
That wasnt necessary 😭😭😭
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 so true bro
Wow never seen this comment coming 🙄 you don’t know what a narcissist is.
The choice in naming the title is a High IQ decision - good to see another pod out Brian 🍻
The 2 best words for a narcasist is Bye Bye..works every time.❤😊
I found this really interesting, and took some points actively trying not to be offended as a woman, just to try and connect what the male perspective is like.
I will say some of what you guys said was a tad offensive, but most of it was an interesting insight. I think more conversations like this need to happen between men, and between men AND women together in a conversation and/or debate. The relationships between men and women need to be fixed, there’s a big gap that needs to be bridged - men need women and women need men, it’s as simple as that. We all need each other.
I feel forced to entertain the narcissist, so I naturally do. I hate this trauma response
I was so surprised True Geordie made no Premier League or UFC analogy’s In this podcast😂
One of thee best and most relevant conversations of our time. Thanks for having it.
40:00 ‘42 in two weeks and just getting it’ this was so nice to hear as I just celebrated the 42nd birthday & 1 full year of weekly therapy and I feel like I’m exactly where I was five years ago - and added pressure to GET WELL is only amplified because of my age was really wearing on me. To hear someone like you with a similar background to mine say something like that was really feeling today I really needed that thank you. Men are not the only ones that keep their darkest moments bottled up inside. I think maybe man are just better at hiding it because it’s fucking killing me. Slowly every day I get closer and closer to giving up. So many things have been done to me and the worst part is that most of the people that know, think I deserved it in someway. I’m starting to believe them and just feel like giving up
1:41 You’re talking about women not wanting to have sex after a fight and I think you’re talking about a very specific woman that is more in love with you with the suck so I would recommend being very careful about initiating intimacy after fights because you’re gonna start a program that woman to want sex after a fight or start a fight so she can have sex
Two really genuine authentic and humble blokes, really enjoyed this 🙂
Great podcast Brian and great guest 👏🏻👏🏻
Yes, the fantasies can drive you nuts. I think it's one of the hardest things when dealing with a narcissist. And that most outsiders will actually choose to believe them since they are so charismatic and often use their status to impress (whatever status it is).
I’m realizing my ex did have that daddy complex with me. She was like a hurricane, but it was my fault for keeping her around out of guilt. Great podcast
We need an explanation on why Loz isn't on the channel anymore.. He was on the kick off during the world cup after the incident. The fans deserve to know if he's coming back? What direction the channel is gonna go if he doesn't come back?
I don't know if this is the truth but I assume he is spending time with his children because he and flu just had a daughter, I could be wrong but it would make sense.
@@stephenmalone4441 Surely we would have had a mention of that though? We haven't heard a word from either of them and its not fair honestly.
@@soapsportsnews5727 they did mention that he wouldn’t b on the kick off and podcasts as much anymore because he was on his own ventures but didn’t know it would be this extreme
@@Chris-jc2vu Haven't seen him on the channel since November i believe..
Maybe December actually
Narcissism is one of the most misdiagnosed conditions in the world. A lot of people get labelled narcissistic because they have self belief and/or have an ego. Having a ego is not narcissism and it’s extremely important that we don’t start labelling people that simply just believe in themselves as narcissists.
Ego is a false sense self and the essence of narcissism.
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If you think everyone is attracted to you ? Is that narcissism? I used to feel that a lot but I was nearly always correct .
@@Andy-uw9cg Google narcissistic personality disorder. There are 9 traits and you have to have 5 of them to qualify for a diagnosis. Its becoming so much more common these days.
“Narcissistic” is an adjective. Not a diagnosis.
Saying someone is narcissistic isn’t a diagnosis. And diagnosable narcissists (NPD) don’t go to therapists to get a diagnosis.
Richard, the ability to ‘give life’ is VERY DIFFERENT from ‘being a prostitute’.
This was a wonderful conversation especially for mothers trying to raise good men.
This is a great talk. Two men talking like this is great to listen to
I needed to hear this today. Thank you Geordie - I will always be a fan of your podcast.
Great episode. Probably one of you best! Learned a lot from this. Keep up the good work!
Fancy seeing you in here Richard! Can't wait to watch this.
As a child of the 80s and 90s, I look at the world and youth and think, you poor bastards we had a marvellous time every summer. I believe it started in my generation with consoles. The beginning of tech marvels and spiritual brokenness.
People saying it’s ironic, theres a difference between having narcissistic tendencies and behaviours and being a clinically diagnosed narcissistic, itll be a hard job to find someone who acts completely without narcissism, if thats what you need to watch a podcast about it
Those people are responding to the thumbnail and title and not the content of the video.
Love this podcast wow definitely one of my favourites to date.
Pure gem 💎 of a podcast is this well done. I’ve followed Richard Grannon since 2010 👍🥊
Well communicated conversation
Richards amazing. Followed his witk for a number of years. Great episode for you’re podcast mate 👍
This is one of the best TG pods I’ve listened to! People throw the word narcissist left, right and Center not really knowing the full meaning of the word. I appreciate that these guys have gone deeper into it and spreading some education on it. Loved this! 😊
Honest. Real. On point. Good talk. Thanks
your very welcome
Great content. I am learning to open my heart wisely now. This discussion is very helpful on spotting traits that make a good friends.
That is the best podcast I have watched in ages ...Thankyou that was thoroughly enjoyed .❤❤
I know I can only talk for myself but intelligence and a decent personality has always trumped looks for me. And honestly I think most grown up women are the same. And they don’t need men to be rich just willing to better themselves (team work makes the dream work).
But not too ambitious…. There’s more to life than money.
Brilliant podcast this, thoroughly enjoyed listening to this discussion and definitely describes the online social media world very well. I also really liked the description of true happiness as ‘going for a sandwich with your girlfriend who you love’ rather than big fancy cars and what not. Definitely should focus on doing more of these types of podcasts, feels like the old school True Geordie videos are coming back 💪
Wow. THIS is real content.
incredible podcast, so insightful and thought provoking. loved this guest. brilliant. well done Brian!
The way True Geordie is throwing digs at the Club ( Adam McKola, Rory Jennings and Buvey) in these recent podcasts is really really clever 😂
Fair play to him. 3 snakes!
Don’t blame him. They used him as much as they could then fucked off
@@Chris-jc2vu mckola has been around for years. He was one of the founders of fulltimedevils I knew mckola before geordie
@@Colonelboereieney McKola has also been a bit of a snake for years, them FullTime Devils guys made up stories about Mark Goldbridge because they didn’t want competition and I just find McKola unlikeable in general on the Kick Off over the years
You two should do more podcasts together, it was great listening.
That's beautiful to watch! As a female to the male version I'm watching. With you & Richard... I feel ya! ❤
So sorry to hear your story. I realise there are two sides to a story. My comments on this site are personal, I know for a fact Brian is a misogynist . I can’t recommend counselling enough. Glad you found the strength to get help, I realise it is harder for a man to ask for help. Good luck for the future and stay strong.
What happened to Lawrence? I don’t mean this in any implications towards the brand or pod just a geniune question on him. Shame to see him gone as they were a great duo
After the controversy, everyone has left to build their own projects. TG has been volatile more than once now so I can't blame Laurence for losing confidence in him.
This is an all-timer. Right up there with the Icke podcast
The link drawn between those who value morals and discipline the most and those who have the most difficulty in their lives is often misunderstood. Its actually because their lives are full of so much difficulty that they see and understand the value of morals and discipline and want to encourage it in others. When your life is chaotic, or just mundane and youre drifting, and you become anxious and depressed, then after years you clean up your act, set some goals and start keeping good routines, you feel a billion times better about everything. As a result, you want to tell everyone else how much better life can be. Obviously many people struggle to maintain it long term and have a lot of ups and downs, but once theyve learned how powerful it is, even in their downs they will still preach it, because it works and has such a powerful effect. Theyre under no illusions during their down phases that theyre in a rut and things have come off the rails. Take people who smoke for example, then end up on oxygen tanks and with cancer, theyre often the first to tell people not to smoke, not because theyre unaware that they smoke and cant stop, but because they KNOW first hand what it can do.
Jung's shadow is often used as a kafka trap. If we invoke it whenever we want, lets say someone promotes charity - "oh well they must be super stingy then because they promote charity so their shadow...." we could do it to everyone, endlessly.
Awesome honesty - relationships - truth -yes.