Remember that "councelling" help that you turned down at the hospital? The people who would have come to help you would have been able to answer all the questions you are agonizing over right now. They weren't offering you psychiatric treatment. They were offering you genuine, practical help and advice that you are clearly in desperate need of. Please call them amd tell them that you've changed your mind.
@@kbkb117 I get the feeling she's very reluctant to have any perceived authority figure involved with her family. That's understandable considering what she dealt with in the past. I'm much like that myself. That being said, this really isn't a situation that anyone can be expected to handle on their own.
Tell ALL THE CHILDREN! When my mom's mom died, no one told her. She was between 8-9 years old, and her brother was under 6. They saw their mom leave to go to the hospital and never come back. Then no one ever said anything else about it. My mom is 83 now and she still talks about the trauma of abandonment she felt that her mom left her and didn't WANT to come back for her. PLEASE TELL THEM ALL!!
Oh yes! I couldn't agree more. My Mum passed when I was 6. She went off to hospital and I never saw her again. No one told me I had to hear it from other kids!! All through my childhood and teens I half expected that I'd been lied too and that she would come back one day! Please tell.your kids now! It's their right to know. They should be grieving with you in their own way their own time.
I absolutely agree with you. However, her younger children probably still haven't grasped the fact of death. I don't think it's a case of not telling them. When you are dealing with very young children, you ought to be careful with your words. Maybe just simplify it a little and say "he loves you, he's up in heaven now" and then, as they gradually get older, that's when you can give them a little more detail. I say this because my dad took his own life. I have a son who was very confused as to why I was sobbing hysterically in front of him. I think he became quite frustrated because he didn't quite understand why I was acting that way. He was only 4 at the time. So I told him that his grandfather died and went to heave. But, it was a little more detailed than that. If there's one thing I could go back in time for, it would be for that very moment when I told him because ever since then, he asks some dark questions bit than again, I think it's just his curiosity. But anyway, what I'm trying to say is, I wish I had waited to tell him when he could handle it and understand it better. Sorry for the rambling!❤😂😘🥰
@allysonauld3416 You are completely correct. Honesty is the only way to face a situation such as this. I am so very sorry that decisions made by adults, had the ripple effect of leading to years of pain and yearning for you, for a Mom that simply wasn’t able to return to you. To be told that information by other kids, had to be so shocking and utterly devastating that I just can’t imagine. That information should have been given gently from the parent still there or an extremely close and trusted family relative or friend. I’m sure their heart was in the right place with you but ironically, their decision only caused longer lasting anguish. Again, firstly I am very sorry you lost you Mom at such a very tender age and secondly, I am so sorry for the years of anguish that not being told properly put on you. I sincerely hope you are in a much better place now. Much sympathy and take care....
@allysonauld3416 not necessarily, things like that consume their little minds, and I did say, tell them but not in great detail, can you read? Not trying to sound rude but everyone's entitled to their opinions. Doesn't mean yours is right. And she is the mother, she will decide what's best for her children and you should respect that.
Oh my... a couple of things 1) You *must* tell your children what happened, they know something is wrong and they deserve the truth 2) See a lawyer if you want, but I doubt they're going to blame you. 3) See a counselor ASAP! You will need the safety of a listener to help you sort out what to do from here 4) Go and apply for the benefits that you may qualify for 5) If you have him cremated, you can keep his ashes in an urn at home. 6) Also, you can do this, it's amazing how people can continue on with their heart completely shattered.
Stephanie, thanks for the non-judgmental encouragement. I pray she will see your concise list and use it as a guidepost for moving forward. I’m praying for this family.
Your mind is over thinking the whole situation . You couldn’t predict his future. And not in the medical field. Just relax and take a mental break. You will be ok!!
Don’t put to much on the older boys or any of the children. Please consider coinciding and tell the children about their dad! Pray and ask God to give you unsurpassable strength he will give it to you. You are over thinking everything. Don’t worry about unnecessary things. I believe you or none of your children will be charged with anything!! God bless ❤️🙏
A 50 year old married a 19 year old. Then isolated her completely from family and friends. Sounds like a perfect situation to bring 8 children into the world.
She's never had a job or an education, 40 and no driver's license, was totally dependent on this old geezer. bet he never worked even when younger, years of govt handouts, CPP, child tax credit, gst rebates, welfare, subsidized housing - real role models for their children who by her own admission never even have friends over, they're going to grow up very scarred and unable to cope in the real world, no social skills, why isn't her 20 year old working versus living at home and clearly not in college?
How long did he know her first? Grooming. Very disturbing. Tell the kids. All the kids. Be the adult not the child. I hope CPS calls the police if she doesn’t let them in. He clearly isolated the family from the world. It’s why they didn’t call outside help for so long. The question is why did isolate them from the world and is it resolved now.
If I can’t wake someone up who’s taken pills, I call an ambulance. If pills knock you out like that, then you’re taking too many. I‘m on heavy pain meds as well and taken as prescribed doesn’t knock me out. Do I get tired? Sure. But I don’t sleep on the kitchen floor and I‘m not non-responsive. I think you‘re going to have to be the grownup now. Get the house cleaned up, especially if you know social workers will be coming as well as police. Get the kids cleaned up. I‘m not getting the best vibes here to be honest. This is a real mess.
Comes across as her videos are a cover up or trying to have an alibi. Something is way off weigh all her stories. Talking about evidence? Taking pictures of him was sick. She planned this
@@marlenekirkham1386all seems weird doesn't it! I've only just come across this channel. I really hate to be saying it when someone is going threw something like this. Normally though when a 70+ year old dies (which health issues) then they wouldn't even investigate
I feel the same way. She is SO focused on how she could be charged and evidence in her "favor". Why be THAT worried about the police if there isn't reason to be, right? It also made me feel unsettled how she kept barking at her kids, who just lost their father but apparently don't know yet, and then said she has nothing to look forward to. "I mean I have my kids but..." what mother talks about her kids like that?
Now I'm at the end of the video: I can't imagine what you're all going through, but not telling your children is only going to make things worse 😔. I'm sure your 18 year old thinks not saying anything is the right move, but it's not. 18 might legally be an adult, but he's still a child. You are the adult in this situation, and the kids need to know that they can trust you to tell them the truth. You need to be able to grieve with your children. Sending you all so much love
Yes! 🙌🏼 Your son may think this is the way to go, the “easiest” thing, and that they’ll understand. But your 18 year old is not the parent. It really is up to you to make these decisions, and to be honest with all of your kids. They will respect that. I know you’re getting a lot of unsolicited advice right now, but I promise you that it is because most people truly care. You’ll have some that will be hateful or self-righteous, true, but what I’m mainly seeing is people who just want you & your family to be ok. I don’t know you obviously, but I’m a stay-at-home-mom too, and I really hope you take into consideration everything that people are gently trying to tell you. Please take care. 💜
This is the first time I've seen this video, and she seems like she's afraid of something or she's lying about the way he died. If you see your husband on the floor and you can't help him get up because he's on strong medicine, wouldn't you call an ambulance, to check his vitals. She's hiding something, I'm not saying she did something to him, but why didn't she get him help. Something is off.
I am so sorry for your loss. I think it’s very important that you set all 8 children down and explain to them that their daddy went to heaven. Please do not put the burden on your oldest children. Your children are going to respond the way mom leads them. The sooner you tell them the less stress you will have. Keeping this secret from them is not healthy. Reach out to the children’s physician and ask for advice. Just keep encouraging them that as a family…you all will be fine. You are definitely overwhelmed and you need help and guidance. My oldest sister lost her husband at a very young age. Her husband was 37 year’s old and she was 24. He died of a massive heart attack. I am not sure why you are worried about why you would be charged with your husband’s death or neglect. IF your husband doubled up on his medication, he could have had undiagnosed dementia. My oldest sister is in end stage Alzheimer’s at age 75. The oldest kids need to be in school and learn to stand on their own. You can lean on them, but please don’t always rely on them for making big decisions. They are at the age where they need to make friends and feel confident in their own environment. Please understand that I am not criticizing you, but just trying to help you navigate since you appear to be so overwhelmed. I would definitely get the house cleaned and organized. Your family/children need to be exposed to other people. It could be church, school or day programs for children. It is not healthy for you or the children to be isolated from the world. Love and prayers to you ❤. I will be following. I am commenting from the US.
I wish I could “thumbs up” your comment a million times. You are spot on. And even though the two oldest are “legally” adults they do not have the life experience to rationally give this kind of serious advice. Remember, they too are grieving. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Very good comment ❤ with love and respect, she asked and you told her. I hope 🤞🏼 you can tell your kids asap and don’t give them responsibility over your kids, they can help but they need to grief too and mourning is not easy at all and their age is still developing. Clean the environment will help a lot even for therapy ❤ seek advise if you have free resources, call the social services cause it looks like you are hiding from something. Tell them why you don’t want them inside, your kids are your focus, your strength and it will help you to get up every day, it’s hard but we can survive a lost 🙏🏼 l lost my mom and it’s hard in any age, so tell them, they will tell you if they want to see their dad or not, is very important to the brain to see it, to process. I still can’t process fully my grandmas lost, cause I was not able to fly from other state, l see her ashes but I can’t process and she died like 5 years ago.
She was 19 and he was 50+, she never learned to be independent, this is grooming and abuse love behavior 101, also she needs to stop talking on here. If anyone sees that she even considered keeping a dead body in a coffin ⚰️ at the house 😟. Please stop if you want to keep the kids. I am so sorry.
I feel so sorry for her and her family, she's was definitely groomed and I don't think she is equipped to do this all by herself I hope she can get some support from family/friends.
The fact that you’re so concerned of being “charged” with your husbands death is mind blowing and also the fact that you’re talking about all this in front of your young child is also concerning. There is definitely more to this story..
Well to me it’s obvious that she knows she effed up. The man was dying on the kitchen floor for hours and she just left him there. Of course it’s possible that him being passed out after taking a bunch of pain meds was a usual sight and that’s all she thought was going on. But she also knows how it looks that paramedics got called to the home when her husband was dead on the kitchen floor, laying in vomit and he had a severe case of pneumonia so it should have been obvious the man needed urgent medical care, long before she called for it. There’s enough there to charge her if they want to. I don’t think anyone suspects she murdered him but she’s rightfully worried about how much trouble she’s in legally for ignoring signs that he needed help. Take the circumstances of how he died, the fact that he was overdosed on narcotics and left to slowly die in vomit on the kitchen floor and combine it with all the other circumstances like the condition of the house, small kids being awake in the middle of the night, the baby not having a crib, etc etc etc. She knows at the very least, that it LOOKS bad. I wouldn’t want to be in her shoes with the police even if she’s being 100% truthful and she just thought he’d gone overboard on the pain pills again but that he wasn’t actually going to die.
Why do you assume someth8ng is “off”? Her husband died in their home and of course they need to know the cause. She clearly has trust issues and maybe she is afraid they will blame her, . God such judgy ass people here!
Its very important that you sit down with your children and tell them about their dad. They deserve that. It will be hard , but down the road they will appreciate it. And just be there for them, encourage and comfort them through the grief. Be that pillar for them. You can do this! Your stronger than you think. Prayers for peace and comfort❤
@@Momof8kidsI am going to give you some very honest advice that may be difficult for you to hear. 1. You MUST tell your kids, ALL OF THEM. You not telling them is very unfair. You’re not being honest with anyone. 💕 2. PLEASE STOP saying and thinking your little is over, the good part of life is gone. That’s NOT TRUE. You have 8 kids that need YOU. They need YOU to put on your big girl pants and lead this family. Please don’t put your older kids in the position of leading your family. It’s not their responsibility. They can support you, but you must lead!!! 3. Your kids will see this video and hear you saying basically you have nothing to live for. Think about that, stop snd really think about that. That’s so hurtful to your kids. I wish you the best, but YOU must want the best for you and YOUR family. You can do this, many women have. Reach out maybe a pastor can help you, get in a church where you can make friends. STOP worrying about YOU and work this problem. Get off the internet snd be a mom. I’m begging you
Exactly! They're probably confused and stressed by all of the changes... If you tell them the truth, they can begin to heal. They will understand why all of these changes you are speaking about are taking place. Trust me, they know that something is up! It will also be a load of stress off of your own shoulders. Also God forbid, CPS or police actually do question your children, you don't want them finding out from a stranger! You're just prolonging the inevitable by not telling them, this isn't something that you can ease into. Be strong, you've got this!
Your children will resent you if you continue to keep it from them. I know it’s not an easy task, but telling them and giving them information based on their age/maturity is of the utmost importance. I suggest your next task is to get mental health support for you and your oldest is that.
After working in the medical field for years, I have to tell you that you need to be honest and tell the children. They will resent you forever if they realize that lied to them. Children’s services will not like it that your children haven’t been informed. You need to set up counseling for all them. Prayers for your family.
My husband died suddenly in 2015. He was 19 years older than I. We had no children together, but I really thought he was the last man in my life. Grief is a roller coaster…some moments you’ll see glimmer of your former self, then zap, the grief washes over you and you have to just let it. I’m 8 years away from that horrible day, and I still miss him, but the grief gets easier as the time goes by, and life WILL become livable for you again! Please, please see a grief counselor, and don’t rely on your newly-adult sons’ advice-they’re barely adults!!!!! They need to look TO YOU to help them get thru this!!!!!! Much love, honey. Be good to yourself and TAKE ALL THE HELP YOU’RE OFFERED!!!!! 🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️
And please quit lying to your children! Just tell him he’s gone. This is not fair to them. And quit taking the advice from your child. You are the parent. Tell them and allow them to grieve with you.
@@Momof8kidsthere is no easing in. Your children need to be told, you cannot talk this into being okay, or easier, or less painful. They need to be allowed their grief too. Just not telling them, like daddy ran away? Come on! Sit them down and tell them what happened, let them cry, let them be angry, let them deal with their emotions. You hiding this from them is saying you are not a safe place they can go with their strong emotions about this. You flat out lied to your 16 year old. How is that child going to trust you?
I know this is hard. Your children need to know the full truth as soon as possible. They need to hear it from you rather than someone else. Sit them all done together grieve as a family. Let them ask questions. They might overhear. Your little ones are hearing in the background. I'm sorry that you have so little support. Facs might have services that can help a family during bereavement. Having them involved doesn't have to be a scary thing. You've done nothing wrong and they don't truly want to take your children. Keep your head up and be careful what you share publicly
This is a lot!! I'm sorry for your loss. I do want to make some suggestions . I'm a therapist and I specialize in trauma. I understand shock and trauma well. Making this video and sharing this information may feel good for you to have a space and outlet, but I suggest you find yourself a therapist and talk it out with them alone. They don't just say this or that to you. we are trained to handle these situations and regulate emotions, build coping skills, help make plans, help you process events and emotions and provide you with a safe and private space. This video is working against you. This video is sharing information that can be seen in many ways and used against you. You're giving more information than a lawyer woulld suggest or be able to defend later if needed. The responsibility the eldest ones have might effect them in a harmful way. They are your children and they are still very young and they lost their dad. They shouldn't be relied on or leaned on, or asked for advice on this. Especially legal advice on how to best handle this or parenting advice on when and if to tell the children. I am sorry that you feel alone and scared and don't have anyone else, but I have to advocate for the children here. You have to tell all the kids. It will not get better, they will not be easing in, they are building hope, they are being misled, they are losing out on truth and reality of the lose of their dad and they will find out and it will hurt that just as much then as it would now.. maybe worse. Worse due to eventually finding out you knew and held it back, their 2 older brothers knew and kept it a secret too. Making a video of him as he was snoring on the fall to show him how it affects him should have been hidden. I;m curious as you have teens who know you make videos on here so can't they just find them and see this? I'm sorry but you said how it was normal, so normal you left him there and have seen in all the time. But not normal enough to have to prove to him in a video? I'm not saying you did anything, just saying it comes off insincere. But it's out there now. Please hire a lawyer, speak with them . I can't imagine losing my spouse and being left with our children either and I understand the issues of finances too. but having that be on you to do list and mind on day one will all be seen in a bad light. I have n idea what is going on, what your situation is, but I am just saying it can appear to look bad for you and suggest you don't make this all public. Please take care of you and the kids!!!!!
It's possible that the 3 year old specially understands more than she thinks and is confused, gather all the kids together and tell. I'm not either it was the smartest to tell on video that they sa him laying on the floor but didn't check if he's breathing. At the same time good to be honest and I really doubt she would be responsible for it as he was responsible for his own health and medicine and if he took too much pain medication, she was not his career but wife and then she has all the kids to care for.
Thank you for saying this. I've been struggling with seeing these videos, because I'm super worried about the kids and how all this will emotionally hit them, once they know the truth. She needs legal advice and she needs to stop posting on here. But what's most concerning, is how she's brushing off the kids, when they come to check on her. They must know something is wrong, and kids are not as blind as some think they are. That 3 year old could say something to the others. I hated seeing how the kids in the background are just being ignored. Especially at a time like this. I'm just hoping someone she knows sees this or the authorities. Because the kids need some support for sure. She said to much, and that video she talks about filming, is a great concern in itself. I am not understanding why they would leave him on the floor, as there was her and 2 of her sons in thier 20s, who could have picked him up off the floor, and put in a bed. But they chose not too. I do feel for her situation, I would not want to be in that spot. But she also is an adult and there are consequences when this stuff happens. I really do hope this family gets the proper help. I know how bad the mental health system is here in Ontario. I myself am having a very hard time trying to get support, and I'm asking for it. And for many years can't find the proper help. The system is broken. Which leaves alot of people without the help they need. I really hope the kids aren't put into a worse situation. They have been through alot already. I hate seeing the system not working for so many. I hate seeing her clearly struggling, and not understanding what she's doing is harmful. I wish this family all the best, they have so much to work on. I'm hoping the authorities are involved now, and I really hope they are given good people to help them through this. Because even help sometimes is worse then the situation they have already been through. Again, a broken system for mental health. It's awful. Some think it's so easy to just go out and get the help, and it's really not that simple, unless you have money for a private doctor. Government assistance in these areas, offers very little help. It's exhausting really, trying to find help out there and listening to people saying, just do this and just do that, that help is out there. It's not that easy to find, as alot seem to think it is. But this situation is bad, and they definitely need someone stepping in, because she's clearly not handling things very well and it is causing emotional harm on everyone involved there.
Go hug those kids and get help you are concerning everybody with what your saying. Take care of those sweet babies. You tube is not your families answer. Lord protect those sweet children. Pray people. Please!
This comes from a loving place. It’s not normal to allow a 70 year old to lay on the kitchen floor with vomit coming out of his mouth. How do you leave someone you love like that. Please take room by room and clean. It’s overwhelming to think of the entire home. If you tackle room by room it won’t be so bad. The older kids need to be taught cleanliness. They will feel better in a clean and tidy home. You got this.
Honestly, as much as I want to be sympathetic to her pain, a lot of this video sounds fishy. Keep in mind it's the first and only video I've watched so my opinion doesn't really matter here. She is so focused on how she could be charged. Why worry THAT much if there isn't somewhat of a valid reason?
To me it just seems that she's very uneducated and naive (probably because she married so young) and didn't understand it could be dangerous. She's clearly grieving a lot.
I agree this isn’t normal. The fact that they left him on the kitchen floor is traumatizing for her and the kids. Imagine the guilt the oldest kids are dealing with. They all need counseling.
Yes, makes sense why the cops investigated the home and looked through everything. Probably a huge red flag when she admitted she'd found him on the kitchen floor w/ v0mit coming out of his mouth hours before she realized he was not okay and finally called an ambulance
Pain meds are controlled substances. He didn’t die in a hospital or home hospice. I’m sure they are doing diligence for those two reasons. Not a bad thing. Very concerned about their age difference. The age of her son and her age at conception, that he didn’t want to be buried or cremated seems a little fringe, she does not drive, her instinct is to ask her adult son to decide things. Lots of concerning things here. Was she groomed? Does she ordinarily think everything is her fault? Not telling the kids while telling strangers in front of the kids? The isolation her family is living? They will prorate stuff. If she takes too long to tell he died to this agency and that. Does the kid not have car insurance already he should have insurance already. Even the 16 year old didn’t get told properly. He is in the hospital..? Mom 101 not telling something is the same as lying. I really hope she tells every single child before the overhear it or watch it, should come from mom. It’s not too late to stop putting off the news. Canada should have public defenders if it comes to that. I’m not sure lawyering up the priority. Maybe it’s distraction from the trauma? Is the house dirty or just sensitive to having others in the house? Canada should have financial aid for children who lost a parent and the spouse caring for them. Maybe she should reconnect with family? Find an actual Christian church to be part of. She mentioned her husband and Christianity but not herself. Curious. @@mollymigraine9204
@@queenbee3647She said (it might have been in the other one) he was on the kitchen floor with vomit coming out his mouth and she couldn’t wake him and she thought the vomit was from acid reflux so she just left him there ! With children seeing him like that ?!?! 😢 Watching the 2 I’ve seen has been so deeply disturbing, I can’t stop thinking of those kids, I’m so concerned for them.
I was thinking same thing just dont tell them nothing wtf who does that. I feel sorry for her she dont know any better he was all she know and that 20yr old looks like he might snap @ any time sad
So sorry for your huge loss. Tell the children so you can all grieve (at your own pace) together and to keep the communication lines open so everyone knows they can openly and lovingly talk about their dad and share the happy memories you all had together.
I was left completely alone after my husband passed from a three month horrific bout of stomach cancer. I planned (hoped) we would have another 30 years. He dropped from 180 with a six pack to 90 lbs. We met at church when we were 13 & 14 and we married at 18 & 19. I was laying here in my empty house and I thought about all the billions of widows through out all of time. I didn’t know how I was going to do it, but if ALL of those people could do it, then I could, too. Didn’t know how I was going to do it, but I was. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been almost five years. I don’t think you should operate from fear. Face it head on. All the children need to be told according to their age and maturity. Get the house cleaned up. Have the older children do the brunt. You will feel so much better with a clean house. You cannot depend on emotional support from the oldest two. By that I mean they are trying to deal with this from their own perspectives. They need to figure out their own lives now. For your children’s sakes you need to have a stiff upper lip & handle your business. Cry at night or when they aren’t around. Writing in a journal might help, too. You could get your Bible & a notebook and write out different verses that speak to you. Pray! God is right there with you and He is wanting to help.
Not only should someone not depend on their children to be their only emotional support, it is not fair to them. There is so much that they do not comprehend at that age. Adults or not
I've been reading a lot of responses on here, not one I came across mentioned scriptures or anything related to GOD,, pretty sad, I must say. You're spot on. The only one whom we can rely on is GOD. I hope and pray this woman will reach out in prayer to our father in heaven. He'll hear her. We certainly can't rely on the arm of flesh.
TELL ALL OF YOUR KIDS RIGHT NOW. They need to grieve this. This is not just about you. And that 3 year old may not totally understand, but she knows you are sad. TELL ALL THE KIDS RIGHT NOW. You should work with FACS and not against them.
If anyone know this family, I suggest they call some emergency services. Something is not right here, at all. Maybe their are neighbours or some sort of community input. No way can this lady deal with this, she has some issues that make her unable to see things in reality. The children are malnourished and obviously very behind mentally. Obviously they are already known by the government, so I hope it triggers a intervention, the other issue is the husband being left to sleep it off on the floor, then he dies in the same spot because of no medical intervention, she is obviously unwell.
You HAVE to tell your kids and right away. It's their right to know. There is no way of predicting how keeping it from them will affect their mental health or relationship with you either now or later on. They might lose trust in you or worse. You have no reason to believe you are liable in this incident. If your husband had a drug problem it's not your fault.
This is the first time I see this story and this lady was only living for her husband, whatever needs her husband wanted or needed she was there to fulfill them.. do you really think she wanted all those children?????? NOPE SHE DIDN'T .. NOW SHE'S STUCK RAISING HER CHILDREN
@nikkis7375 It's not rude. She shared AAAALLLLL of this with the public. Every detail. So not only is she subjected to public opinion, but she's literally telling on herself. I think we are all very concerned about 8 kids who don't have any other family, no friends, no nothing but a dirty house, and a Mom who chooses to broadcast this to the world instead of getting help. Almost everyone is so concerned for those neglected children, so it's honestly not rude.
What do you have to look forward to? Eight beautiful children’s lives! You have to live and love them for both of you now. You have many more joys and sorrows to go through and it will all be worth it. Be so grateful that you had 20 yrs together. Allow others to help you and your children. They need grief counseling too. Love will get you and the kids through this, with help from others.
This is neglect and i hope she's charged, this mom is now making up her legal defense, she's not to bright at all. She seriously lacks common sense, these kids definitely need to be removed from her care.
She’s protecting them. Would you want your children to know your child’s other parent OD’d? I’m not quite sure I would. I don’t think I’d tell anybody, to save my husbands reputation, especially if nobody knew they were on drugs. I’d tell my kids he was sick, and then tell details later on in their life. Nothing wrong with that. These are HER children!
This absolutely does not belong on RUclips. This is THE LAST thing you should be thinking about. I understand you are in terrible pain, but trauma dumping on the world with your innocent children crawling all over you isn't any way to cope. Your list of things you need to do is none of our business and trust me when I tell you, your kids are going to be extra traumatized when they see that you've exploited them and the death of their Father all over RUclips. I know this is harsh and some may call me "heartless," but this isn't the space for any of this. Get off the internet. The more videos you make, the more people will definitely be calling child protective services. I don't know what the goal is with sharing the most private, traumatic information with strangers instead of your kids. Get help and get into taking care of yourself and your children. YOU are the parent, not your older children.
Too many damned excuses! Clean your house, stay at home mom. You are answering questions that you have not been asked; this will surely cause law enforcement to look at you closely
From the perspective of a child that lost a parent (my mom passed away when I was 11). Tell your kids (in age appropriate ways), as difficult as it may be, they deserve to know, and be allowed to process the situation in their own ways. My dad told my sister and I, the night that my mom passed away. I can not imagine how I would have felt now 30+ years later if I hadnt been allowed to know from when it happened. This isnt something that you can ease them into, it is a major life change and you all deserve to begin healing and processing. Prayers to you all, it is a terribly hard thing to have to deal with.
Your children should be told together, as a family unit, giving the information at a level the youngest child can understand. “Daddy loves you and he’s watching us from heaven.” Something to that effect. The older children who want more explanation will come to you with their questions. Your children deserve the truth about their father. If they are mature enough to ask the question they deserve an honest, complete answer given in a loving way. Please reach out for all the help you may be entitled to. Give yourself grace while navigating this devastating loss. I will continue to be here for you as long as you find relief through making videos. ❤
@@Raya-ir4tm I can't get passed any of it. Never have I ever been so worried about kids I don't know. I sincerely hope they end up in a loving, healthy home while she gets her shit together. This is no way for kids to live and it all sounds so toxic. Who leaves their husband on the floor "asleep" with vomit coming out of their mouth without calling 911? CPS better do their damn job this time before another child in this world is ruined.
You have to tell ALL your children now! It’s not fair to put the older kids in that position. My mom did that to me when I was 15 and it really messed me up for years. Please don’t do that! Also, why don’t you start a Go Fund Me page? This way you have some money coming in! But first and foremost I’m sending my deepest condolences to you and your children. This is truly heartbreaking 💔!
@@Momof8kidsplease know that there is no easing into this. There isn't. It doesn't matter how gently it is relayed. Their dad is gone and their mom is struggling. Carrying this is yet another thing you have do that you're dreading and it doesn't get easier with time. You have to tell them. It's the responsible and caring choice.
@@Momof8kids I dont understand how 3 adults and kids can just let kids step over dad going to fridge. You are in trouble and this video is making it worse. Your lawyer going to tell you to stop talking. Cps and cops involved you look very guilty. If my husband died a lawyer is the furthest to my mind. Know your not opening the door.
@@Momof8kids you understand that the police called CPS to step in and remove those kids and that man will be back for those kids have bags packed for them because they are leaving with them next trip.
You have to tell your kids it will mess them up for life and they will never trust again. You have to tell them all at once. They deserve respect because that is their dad.
The longer you go with hiding the death of there father,the more they will end up hurt. Kids can handle more than we give credit. My son was 7 and was in the room when my mom passed away and he was so calm and has a deeper connection with her even though she's gone.
He was not snoring, he was doing the death rattle. During that state he had no awareness around him and his body was finally shutting everything down. If you watch any video of an actively dying person you will hear the same sounds. It goes on for a couple of hours before they finally go silent. Acting immediately when you saw him on the kitchen floor would have likely changed the result but either way you’re definitely going to need to find childcare and work because there’s no way you can support that many kids with whatever death benefit you may get.
My 35 year old daughter passed away 14 years ago. She often slept on the floor because of her back pain and she snorted a lot also but when her husband came home from work and she was laying in the floor sleeping he immediately noticed that her snorting was different. He started CPR immediately and had his almost 9-year-old son ( my grandson) to call 911. The paramedics arrived, which was my other son-in-law, and immediately took over doing CPR all the way to the hospital.They intubated her after shocking her heart, but it was too late. Even my nine-year-old grandson knew that his mom’s snoring didn’t sound right. The death rattle is very different from snoring. I miss my daughter my life will never be the same but I’m thankful that I know I will see her again one day in heaven.😢
Prayers for you & the children. It is a hard road. I lost my husband of 22 years when I was 38…it’s been 2 years & a difficult journey especially being a solo parent. 🙏 🕯️ reach out if you need support & embrace the children.
When my mum passed away (11 years ago) and I was her carer, it was one of the hardest things I have lived through. I started seeing a psychologist and one thing that she told me was so true. She said that now I had to make a new normal, Looking back she was so right. It takes time but once you make a new normal life for you and the kids you will look back on these hard times and be proud of making it through.. I really feel you need to tell the kids that he died. They will grieve along with you but that will be important for you all.
Do not lie to your children. Tell them. My son was 6 and my daughter was 3 when my husband passed away. They were told immediately. Your children need to be able to say goodbye and start the grieving process just like you. Taking care of my two was what got me through their fathers passing. You have 8 your going to be kept a lot busier than i was.
I am so sorry for your loss. You must tell the children. The longer you wait the worse it will be. You are their mother and must step up. All the other things do need to happen but your children come first.
I'm about to give you some tough love. I have lost five family members this year including my parents so I know what grief is. One you cannot look to your children to relieve you or help you with your grief. They do not need to be worried about their mother on top of losing their father. I don't care if they're adults or not. You need to see a grief counselor you will make friends that way as well you also need to maybe join a church or some organization that can assist you in dealing with not only life's obstacles but also to get you and your family more support no one can live all cooped up with just their children and no one else in the world. Don't be mad at your family because this is what they did not want for you. Even if you had the best 40 years of your life then have the best 40 years of your life and now go forward and have forty good years of your life raising his children and giving them every opportunity which means integrating into your community one way or the other. Yes talkin to a camera may help you but it's not physical interaction with other human beings. You are not the first widow in the world and there are others that can help you and support you. No in hindsight you shouldn't have left her husband lying on the floor but if this was normal behavior for him then you have to tell the authorities that that was normal behavior for him and that's why you didn't intervene sonner. You also need to notify his family even the ones he didn't talk to they have a right to know that he has passed, you might find that there are more open to helping you in one way or another. Grieve when you have to grieve cry when you have to cry but don't look to your children to comfort you they have their own grief and if they're worried about their depressed mother they will never be happy and that's not your job as a mom your job is to raise and dependent children that go out into the world and create a life for themselves. God bless you and I'll pray for you and your family
Please find a social services agency that could help you with grief counseling as well as to help you apply for whatever benefits you can get. You are so young still and you will get thru this. But please reach out for help in your community.
This I hate to say it but it's time to put your big girl panties and take charge your children need you they should lean on you not the other way around t.This is why I always tell women not to depend on there husbands for every little thing because if something does happen you will be ok .Did he have life insurance?
Some of the comments....wow....some people are heartless....skip through these and block them. You take the time you need to grieve. Try not to look so far ahead at this time. Please pray, pray, and pray. Maybe find a church. Take care of yourself and turn it over to God.
@@simplygratefulartbysusan147 Some comments are heartless, but sharijones' isn't one of them. Here we have a mom to eight kids, she has to look ahead now. Turning to God will not make service agencies fly miraculously into her house and it will not pay the bills or save her kids from trauma. As hard as it is, she has to fulfil her role as a parent and take action so provide for her kids, financially and psychologically.
Get all the kids in one room and tell them Dad passed away. Get the older kids to help you clean and organize. It'll keep them busy while you tend to affairs. Also, I'm going to tell you what my grandmother told my mother when my father passed away, "You're still young." I know that seems like a double edged sword, but this is your time to show your kids how to bear the unbearable.
Lady, you’re telling me that your husband took a STRONG pain pill, passed out on the floor, no one checked on him. The snoring is called the “DEATH RATTLE”. It’s not actually snoring. He OD’d
I don't think you should be making a video saying or speculating things or giving specific details of what happened, it could backfire and get you in trouble. Hope you all are ok.
Something is very suspicious about these videos. Even the cops are suspicious. All of this sounds like she’s trying to cover things up. Something’s up. There is no reason you couldn’t tell a 16 year old that their dad passed away. I’m probably the only one that is willing to say these things. Everyone is too busy feeling sorry for someone they don’t know.
@@breephoenix111 The cops don’t come to your house and collect evidence when your family member dies of natural causes. There has probably been a history of some kind at that house. There’s a lot of fake crying going on. I hope the children are safe.
For you to think and worry if you and the two eldest MAY get charged for "neglect or manslaughter".... You know you are guilty of something more than you're saying. And its not because you chose to live like a 🐖
Oh wow she literally is explaining her life when she doesn’t have to and this is what you have to say sad in true that this is why I fucking can’t stand people especially people like you
Omg get over it. When you are grieving you do and say things you may not normally do. She wasn’t his caregiver as she said and he was in charge of his own medical care! Omg you are rude. Calling her a pig!
How could you possibly think that you could bring him home in a coffin and then say I think he would rot? It's not normal to be sleeping on the kitchen floor with vomit coming out of your mouth. Im sorry but there's so many wrong things about this video.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
why would you leave an old man laying on the floor after taking his medicine why not get your older sons to pick him up and bring him to his chair that is not looking good for you at all its all very suspicion tbh
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
I know this is very traumatic for you but your kids deserve to know. Yes, they will all understand at different levels but they need to know that their mom will be truthful and dependable now that you are the only adult for them to rely on. Even the three year old knows something is going on because she sees you crying. My mother in law passed away when my daughter was four but she very much understood that her grandma had died and gone to heaven.
I really wish you had someone there to help you through this. You have so much on your plate right now, it's overwhelming. You're confused, you're brokenhearted, you're exhausted.... etc.
@@Momof8kidsif I was in Canada I would come and you with no hesitation. You’re a very good mom. You will get through this. We are stronger than we realise.
There is something very wrong in this situation…. Also, your kids need to know. Don’t get them “adjusted” to then get them “adjusted” again that he’s passed.
Not telling them to let them "get use to being without their dad" while they think he's alive & just away, then tell them, is not gonna ease the blow at all. In fact, her kids maybe never trust her again. Letting a teenager make parenting decisions & advise not to tell kids is not right. She is in extreme shock and clearly not thinking right.
@@sonyagraske376 yes this isn’t an unconventional lifestyle, I’m pretty sure she’s been unknowingly abused by her husband and doesn’t even realize it and now that he’s gone she has no idea what to do
Your children need and deserve to know. You cannot keep this from them. It's been too long already. The longer you wait, the harder it will be and they will be upset when they find out later it was kept from them, if they do find out.
You have a beautiful little girl in the background who is very happy to be alive today. Try to turn your gaze to your children and towards yourself. You are all worth it and 'society' will understand. Give yourself a few days of loving and caring for one another. Call upon heavenly peace to reign over your family environment. Each of the children as well as yourself have personal priorities which exist independent of the life of your late husband. Your time to shine as a mother over your beloved children is here. 'Society' will respect a mother who priorities peace and love within her household.
Pneumonia made his breathing compromised. The pain medication slows your breathing. It sounds like the combination of these two things were too much for him. Especially if he may have accidentally double dosed himself, which can happen. Bless you and your children. You will get through this. I don’t see that you will be charged for anything. ❤😊
It is still a mystery what caused the pneumonia. I didn't know pain medication slows breathing, thank you for shedding light on the issue. I hope you are right about not being charged, I've never been in trouble with the law. Wish you the best.
I’m confused. You find your husband on the kitchen floor and just leave him there for hours and think that he would be OK? You cannot possibly be that naïve. My daughter found her father passed at 4 1/2 years old she was told immediately she understood she didn’t like it but she understood these kids need more of a support system than you can give them or are willing to give them
There seems to be a controlling nature to their relationship and the husband used this control in means of keeping her restricted in her abilities and opportunities from friendships to driving to financial to familial. Then you have the aspect of possibly her husband abusing the medication he was on as this sounds like the only decent reasinf to have left him on the floor like that and want to take a picture to show him what the medication was doing to him and stating that casually and reacting so nonchalant. This includes the idea he has blacked out or has been found sleeping in the floor before and possibly the vomit was something new this time that due to her naivety she did not understand the complications that vomit suggests and hearing him snore was more so a "death rattle" at the last stages before passing and she misunderstood it. So the picture was to try to convince him to stop the medication that he was abusing as now he was not only asleep but threw up. She wanted him to see the new addition of throw up to his episodes of passing out in his meds (high from opiates). Whether she understood he was abusing the medication or not with her apparent naivety idk. So I don't think she intentionally was trying to do wrong, she was just trapped in a toxic controlling relationship and was isolated and sheltered during such time that she didn't have these opportunities of learning and growth in areas of life that we take for granted knowing. I don't have proof this is what the situation was, but it's surely a possibility.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
There seems to be a controlling nature to their relationship and the husband used this control in means of keeping her restricted in her abilities and opportunities from friendships to driving to financial to familial. Then you have the aspect of possibly her husband abusing the medication
First of all, I am so sorry for your loss and you will be in my prayers. Please understand that you have been brainwashed by your husband and he isolated you from family and prevented you from your friends. You have no life skills to manage this on your own. You must accept professional help for the sake of your children. Next, be a mom!!!!!!! There is no reason to have a filthy home. You have able bodied children who needs to help. I know you didn’t intentionally neglect your husband. But seeing him on the floor and you were unable to wake him and didn’t immediately call 911 tells me you aren’t very bright. Sorry to be harsh but you have to understand this is not normal. Again, be a mom and tell your children that daddy died. Be a grown up!!! Be their mom. Your children also don’t look healthy. Too skinny, too pale and one of the older boys looks either angry or very depressed. That’s scary and another reason you must get you and your children professional help.
I agree. This family dynamic is very toxic. I think she has been in a coercive relationship since the beginning. It has all the signs of narcissistic abuse. This mother is unwell and her children, for now at least, need to be protected. Her talking about her concern about possibly being charged in the death of her husband for leaving him on the floor is very concerning because it speaks to some guilt. Creepy vibes for me.
@@Booboonancy Honestly, I think being afraid of being charged..and so many other things, comes from the paranoia of her late husband. I think he conditioned her to be afraid of any outside help. He didn’t want to be arrested, he didn’t want her educated or even capable of taking care of herself…..because she might leave if she realized how he was isolating her. He had plans for if the police ever came or if cps ever came. He was definitely paranoid.
@@michelehoward4113 I think you’re spot on. I’ve given this some thought because this situation really bothers me. There could be more than one explanation for her being worried about being charged and, regardless, I think she is a victim of coercive control and narcissistic abuse ( I could be wrong but I have personal and up close experience with this form of abuse/manipulation. If nothing else, he set her up to fail without him and paranoia is contagious. The whole thing wreaks of bad family dynamics, inappropriate coping skills, isolation … I just hope she and her children get the help they need and deserve.
@@Booboonancy I can’t quit worrying about all of them. I started telling my husband about them and that I was worried. He said who is this? I said a lady on RUclips. He rolled his eyes. I said I can still worry about them even if I don’t know them personally!
I just lost my daughter. It's only been 24 hours. She is my best friend and I am going to be lost until it's my turn to go home. Her husband is so broken. My heart is with you sweetheart. My prayers are going out to you all the way from Trapper Creek Alaska ❤
Oh Katherine, I can't fathom your pain, I'm so sorry.. Especially that you were so close, it's even harder.. Please keep your eyes and ears open, I'm sure if she can let you know she's always around you, she will. Souls don't "die", the body does, so I hope her presence will give you some comfort as you grieve her physical loss.. you'll meet her again Momma 💚💚💚
It seems strange that you’re so worried about being blamed for your husbands death. You left him there on the floor and waited to call the ambulance to “sleep it off”. Did you not call because you were afraid he would react badly when he woke up? Was it because the house was too messy? Something seems really off I’m sorry to say. You’re talking about not telling your 16 y.o. son and also the police certain details but you realize you’re posting this on a large public platform that is open for anybody to see. You even mentioned having the discussion of not being to keep his whole intact body at home, I’ve never heard somebody’s mind even consider this. Regards your son saying that you delay telling the other kids about their dad’s passing, kids are VERY well aware of these things. You cannot make these decisions with your older kids. YOU are the ONLY parent…you cannot look to anybody else when making decisions. I don’t understand how the house can be messy with 16/18/20 year old sons in the house. It seems like you were completely dependent on your husband and now he’s gone you just seem completely helpless like you are not a fully grown adult yourself. You can do this Mama but you need realize it’s you now. You need to act decisively and responsibly as the only living parent to these kids you can’t look to your kids (meaning 2 adult ones). Child services will look at whether you’re capable of doing this.
I lost my husband of 43 years in 2016 to sudden cardiac arrest , he collapsed on the bathroom floor we couldn’t reach him because he blocked the door the fire rescue had to take the door off to get him out. It’s something I will never forget but I had to keep going and you will too stay strong for your kids. Maybe reach out to a church in your area I’m sure they can help you with telling the children about their dad. It’s going to be a rough road to walk down but I’m sure there is a church you can reach out to and maybe some people from the congregation will help you so you’re not walking alone.🙏🙏🙏🙏for you and your family. Stay strong sweetheart.
The authorities need to step in NOW. This woman is a liar, they live in filthy conditions, the kids are neglected. Everything about this fiasco is just not right. Everyone else can see through this scam……
Here's an idea. How about you stick to mothering Johnathon and let the rest of the world decide how to raise their own kids? The world doesn't need your rude and hateful opinions about anyone who happens to be comfortable in living conditions that don't meet your standards, and nobody asked for it. Do you even know how to have a conversation that doesn't involve criticism of someone else? It may make you feel good, but it makes you look disgusting.
So much going on .. First I am very sorry for your loss. 2. Get in touch with the counselor that offered help. You MUST have someone to walk you through this. Hang in there.
I am so sorry for your loss AND for the amount of judgement coming from some commenters. It sickens me to read some of these comments No matter what the age difference it does NOT change the love you both had. You do what you have to-to survive day by day. There is NO right or wrong way to grieve. As for your children, some are to young to even understand and the others just talk feom your heart, the words will come. They probably already realize something is not right. My family is keeping you in our prayers- from a mother that lost her husband suddenly last year - your kids and YOU are much stronger than you think
That is beautiful ourwolvesden, thank you so much. I am sorry to hear about losing your husband and wish you lots of love and precious memories to come.
No judgment just facts. A welfare bum marries another welfare bum and they decide to have EIGHT kids and live off the GOVERNMENT sound ‘normal’ to you? I smell a scam
Any time there is a body on my kitchen floor, whether concious or unconcious, I question it. A body is not supposed to be on a kitchen floor for any reason. He had to have fallen there, because I doubt he just laid down there to nap. Most people who are in pain, usually don't lay on a kitchen floor. They lay in a bed or a recliner. How could you not have questioned this? Didn't you hear a thud in the kitchen?
There just something not right about a lot of aspects of this. I’m sure if he’s been on his meds 30 years as she said before he knows what they do to him so why take a video for ‘evidence’ it just doesn’t add up!
Im wrapping you and your family in prayer..I pray for your peace of heart and mind..I pray favor over you with any authority figure ,detectives and police ..I pray you find the right words and time to tell your precious children..I pray you and your family are protected and the right people are put in your path to guide and advise you..I wish I could do more than pray for you..I wish I could help in person..just know you are being sent so much love and light 💜
The 3 old ones can get a job and the other ones have chores to keep the house clean. Because If they come to your house and is messy and dirty they could take the kids from you. Stay strong! 🙏🏽
Well, I do agree the jobs , income and productivity will be a great and important thing to do to help them thrive - I hope they can learn these are GOOD and prosperous things to enjoy, and not things to do out of fear or punishment if that makes sense -
Forcing the 3 oldest to be the breadwinners to shoulder the financial burden caused by their mother is insane. They need to get out of this hellhole ASAP
Dont over think darling Youre in shock and grieving. My friend had his disabled dad live with him...he had challenges due to diabetes. My friend got up one morning and found he passed. It is protocal for police to investigate. You be fine!! Some people do bad things and police just have protocal to follow. Natural death happens in homes all the time. Stop worrying about this!. Be strong and focus on 8 loving kids you have. My condolences. Jenn in Ontario ❤
If your husband laid in the floor for a really long time and your choice was to let him sleep it off, you clearly are not capable of making decisions. Your children should not be in your custody. You need parenting classes as well as psychological help.
IT IS NEGLECT! Your husband was a victim and a perpetrator of neglect. Please law enforcement and family services protect these children. Go, get yourself mental evaluations.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
I can’t imagine let my husband to sleep on the floor.. a specially if he doesn’t feel well - make at list something cosy and call for help. It’s not normal for old person in his health condition to not care. My 16 year old dog was cuddled up in warm blanket when he died. Here - Family , loving wife and 8 kids.. death on the floor. Sorry, but I can’t say it was not neglect.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
I just found your channel. I’m so deeply sorry for your lost. I just couldn’t imagine dealing with what you are going through. I’ve been with my husband almost 24 years and I’m a sahm and couldn’t imagine losing my husband. I would love to be here for you. I don’t deal with family much nor do I have the friend life. Take care of yourself❤
Jesus Christ. Tell your damn kids! One day, your 16yo will see that you told the entire internet, but didn’t tell him. This will cause him severe issues.
First of all, GET OFF of RUclips. If you are worried about legal stuff you are not doing yourself any favors blabbing all your business to the world for the world to hear and see. Lawyers and Judges will use this against you.
I am so sorry for your loss. This story reinforces what I have ALWAYS told my (now 22year old) daughter: Never set up a life with someone that you can’t take over on your own, financially and physically, should something happen to your partner or your relationship.
They need to say goodbye and grieve as much as you do. When my son died, I sat my three year old down and talked to him. He is now 36. I’m so sorry for your loss! I’ll keep you in my prayers!
I want to be as kind and compassionate as I possibly can. First of all, I know grief and loss. I am 75 and my husband who was 74 died suddenly of a heart attack last February 4th. Grief and loss are basically the same at any age and stage of life. It is how you deal with life after the death that can differ. You certainly have many issues and much more to deal with than I did, but honestly, you need someone to help you because it is obviously overwhelming you. It is sad that you isolated yourselves all of these years because friends are who will help in times like these and surround you and help with the issues are are now having to face alone. It is a mistake to not sit the children down together and in terms they can understand, you MUST tell them their father was very sick and he died. To not tell them is cruel and so wrong. You will create many problems if you think holding this news is the right thing to do. NO. And the 12, 16, 18 and 20 year old kids can help you support the younger kinds. You must be honest, you must NOT look to the kids for their opinions and advice. Let them be kids, let them all grieve in their own way and don't expect them to be adults. You need someone to help you get a grip on your situation. You need professional guidance and help. Your videos are hard to watch. Take a shower, wash your hair, put on clean clothes. These superficial things will help you feel better, and clear your head so you can think more clearly. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of your kids. Call every agency you can. They will point you in the right direction. Call a church. I don't know what Canada has but they must have many resources and this is the time to call them. RUclips is great, many grief sites helped me. But you need in-person solid help right now. You can chat on RUclips after you get in person help. I wish I lived close...I would gather people to help clean your house, help with the kids, and do the things that overwhelming you. You and these kids need help NOW. Come on Canada...step up and help this woman. This is a tragic story all the way around.
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Remember that "councelling" help that you turned down at the hospital? The people who would have come to help you would have been able to answer all the questions you are agonizing over right now. They weren't offering you psychiatric treatment. They were offering you genuine, practical help and advice that you are clearly in desperate need of. Please call them amd tell them that you've changed your mind.
10000% take any and all help and learn to ask for help
Couldn't agree more. Those support services help figure out all these logistics. Turning down help is not the right choice.
@@kbkb117 I get the feeling she's very reluctant to have any perceived authority figure involved with her family. That's understandable considering what she dealt with in the past. I'm much like that myself. That being said, this really isn't a situation that anyone can be expected to handle on their own.
Hope she is open to propper help...Something is not right with this post...
I feel like you need to tell all your children as soon @s possible
Tell ALL THE CHILDREN! When my mom's mom died, no one told her. She was between 8-9 years old, and her brother was under 6. They saw their mom leave to go to the hospital and never come back. Then no one ever said anything else about it. My mom is 83 now and she still talks about the trauma of abandonment she felt that her mom left her and didn't WANT to come back for her. PLEASE TELL THEM ALL!!
Oh yes! I couldn't agree more. My Mum passed when I was 6. She went off to hospital and I never saw her again. No one told me I had to hear it from other kids!! All through my childhood and teens I half expected that I'd been lied too and that she would come back one day! Please tell.your kids now! It's their right to know. They should be grieving with you in their own way their own time.
I absolutely agree with you. However, her younger children probably still haven't grasped the fact of death. I don't think it's a case of not telling them. When you are dealing with very young children, you ought to be careful with your words. Maybe just simplify it a little and say "he loves you, he's up in heaven now" and then, as they gradually get older, that's when you can give them a little more detail. I say this because my dad took his own life. I have a son who was very confused as to why I was sobbing hysterically in front of him. I think he became quite frustrated because he didn't quite understand why I was acting that way. He was only 4 at the time. So I told him that his grandfather died and went to heave. But, it was a little more detailed than that. If there's one thing I could go back in time for, it would be for that very moment when I told him because ever since then, he asks some dark questions bit than again, I think it's just his curiosity. But anyway, what I'm trying to say is, I wish I had waited to tell him when he could handle it and understand it better. Sorry for the rambling!❤😂😘🥰
@@Elly-caitlin93 no that's silly! Tell them now! I know from personal experience that the truth is best!
@allysonauld3416
You are completely correct. Honesty is the only way to face a situation such as this. I am so very sorry that decisions made by adults, had the ripple effect of leading to years of pain and yearning for you, for a Mom that simply wasn’t able to return to you. To be told that information by other kids, had to be so shocking and utterly devastating that I just can’t imagine. That information should have been given gently from the parent still there or an extremely close and trusted family relative or friend. I’m sure their heart was in the right place with you but ironically, their decision only caused longer lasting anguish. Again, firstly I am very sorry you lost you Mom at such a very tender age and secondly, I am so sorry for the years of anguish that not being told properly put on you. I sincerely hope you are in a much better place now. Much sympathy and take care....
@allysonauld3416 not necessarily, things like that consume their little minds, and I did say, tell them but not in great detail, can you read? Not trying to sound rude but everyone's entitled to their opinions. Doesn't mean yours is right. And she is the mother, she will decide what's best for her children and you should respect that.
Oh my... a couple of things
1) You *must* tell your children what happened, they know something is wrong and they deserve the truth
2) See a lawyer if you want, but I doubt they're going to blame you.
3) See a counselor ASAP! You will need the safety of a listener to help you sort out what to do from here
4) Go and apply for the benefits that you may qualify for
5) If you have him cremated, you can keep his ashes in an urn at home.
6) Also, you can do this, it's amazing how people can continue on with their heart completely shattered.
If your in Canada she needs emergency help for her mental health and dfacs for these kids
Stephanie, thanks for the non-judgmental encouragement. I pray she will see your concise list and use it as a guidepost for moving forward. I’m praying for this family.
Your mind is over thinking the whole situation . You couldn’t predict his future. And not in the medical field. Just relax and take a mental break. You will be ok!!
Great advice specially need to tell the kids
Don’t put to much on the older boys or any of the children. Please consider coinciding and tell the children about their dad! Pray and ask God to give you unsurpassable strength he will give it to you. You are over thinking everything. Don’t worry about unnecessary things. I believe you or none of your children will be charged with anything!! God bless ❤️🙏
A 50 year old married a 19 year old. Then isolated her completely from family and friends. Sounds like a perfect situation to bring 8 children into the world.
Grooming
She's never had a job or an education, 40 and no driver's license, was totally dependent on this old geezer. bet he never worked even when younger,
years of govt handouts, CPP, child tax credit, gst rebates, welfare, subsidized housing - real role models for their children who by her own admission
never even have friends over, they're going to grow up very scarred and unable to cope in the real world, no social skills, why isn't her 20 year old working versus living at home and clearly not in college?
@@mollymigraine9204go somewhere else with that nastiness.
How is this comment helpful? Keep it to yourself.
How long did he know her first? Grooming. Very disturbing. Tell the kids. All the kids. Be the adult not the child. I hope CPS calls the police if she doesn’t let them in. He clearly isolated the family from the world. It’s why they didn’t call outside help for so long. The question is why did isolate them from the world and is it resolved now.
My father was neglected by my stepmother. I am very concerned over this video.
If I can’t wake someone up who’s taken pills, I call an ambulance. If pills knock you out like that, then you’re taking too many. I‘m on heavy pain meds as well and taken as prescribed doesn’t knock me out. Do I get tired? Sure. But I don’t sleep on the kitchen floor and I‘m not non-responsive. I think you‘re going to have to be the grownup now. Get the house cleaned up, especially if you know social workers will be coming as well as police. Get the kids cleaned up. I‘m not getting the best vibes here to be honest. This is a real mess.
I agree! There's something very unsettling going on here. She seems so focused on being held responsible which is making me wonder.
Comes across as her videos are a cover up or trying to have an alibi. Something is way off weigh all her stories. Talking about evidence? Taking pictures of him was sick. She planned this
I agree I feel unsettled by these vids too !!!!
@@marlenekirkham1386all seems weird doesn't it! I've only just come across this channel. I really hate to be saying it when someone is going threw something like this. Normally though when a 70+ year old dies (which health issues) then they wouldn't even investigate
I feel the same way. She is SO focused on how she could be charged and evidence in her "favor". Why be THAT worried about the police if there isn't reason to be, right?
It also made me feel unsettled how she kept barking at her kids, who just lost their father but apparently don't know yet, and then said she has nothing to look forward to. "I mean I have my kids but..." what mother talks about her kids like that?
Now I'm at the end of the video: I can't imagine what you're all going through, but not telling your children is only going to make things worse 😔. I'm sure your 18 year old thinks not saying anything is the right move, but it's not. 18 might legally be an adult, but he's still a child. You are the adult in this situation, and the kids need to know that they can trust you to tell them the truth. You need to be able to grieve with your children. Sending you all so much love
Yes! 🙌🏼 Your son may think this is the way to go, the “easiest” thing, and that they’ll understand. But your 18 year old is not the parent. It really is up to you to make these decisions, and to be honest with all of your kids. They will respect that. I know you’re getting a lot of unsolicited advice right now, but I promise you that it is because most people truly care. You’ll have some that will be hateful or self-righteous, true, but what I’m mainly seeing is people who just want you & your family to be ok. I don’t know you obviously, but I’m a stay-at-home-mom too, and I really hope you take into consideration everything that people are gently trying to tell you. Please take care. 💜
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This is the first time I've seen this video, and she seems like she's afraid of something or she's lying about the way he died. If you see your husband on the floor and you can't help him get up because he's on strong medicine, wouldn't you call an ambulance, to check his vitals. She's hiding something, I'm not saying she did something to him, but why didn't she get him help. Something is off.
@@rogerguerra4576he died a few months ago! She’s lying acting like it just happened!
I am so sorry for your loss. I think it’s very important that you set all 8 children down and explain to them that their daddy went to heaven. Please do not put the burden on your oldest children. Your children are going to respond the way mom leads them. The sooner you tell them the less stress you will have. Keeping this secret from them is not healthy. Reach out to the children’s physician and ask for advice. Just keep encouraging them that as a family…you all will be fine. You are definitely overwhelmed and you need help and guidance. My oldest sister lost her husband at a very young age. Her husband was 37 year’s old and she was 24. He died of a massive heart attack. I am not sure why you are worried about why you would be charged with your husband’s death or neglect. IF your husband doubled up on his medication, he could have had undiagnosed dementia. My oldest sister is in end stage Alzheimer’s at age 75. The oldest kids need to be in school and learn to stand on their own. You can lean on them, but please don’t always rely on them for making big decisions. They are at the age where they need to make friends and feel confident in their own environment. Please understand that I am not criticizing you, but just trying to help you navigate since you appear to be so overwhelmed. I would definitely get the house cleaned and organized. Your family/children need to be exposed to other people. It could be church, school or day programs for children. It is not healthy for you or the children to be isolated from the world. Love and prayers to you ❤. I will be following. I am commenting from the US.
YES YES YES!!!
I wish I could “thumbs up” your comment a million times. You are spot on. And even though the two oldest are “legally” adults they do not have the life experience to rationally give this kind of serious advice. Remember, they too are grieving. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Very good comment ❤ with love and respect, she asked and you told her. I hope 🤞🏼 you can tell your kids asap and don’t give them responsibility over your kids, they can help but they need to grief too and mourning is not easy at all and their age is still developing. Clean the environment will help a lot even for therapy ❤ seek advise if you have free resources, call the social services cause it looks like you are hiding from something. Tell them why you don’t want them inside, your kids are your focus, your strength and it will help you to get up every day, it’s hard but we can survive a lost 🙏🏼 l lost my mom and it’s hard in any age, so tell them, they will tell you if they want to see their dad or not, is very important to the brain to see it, to process. I still can’t process fully my grandmas lost, cause I was not able to fly from other state, l see her ashes but I can’t process and she died like 5 years ago.
You don’t say he went to heaven. You say he died!
She was 19 and he was 50+, she never learned to be independent, this is grooming and abuse love behavior 101, also she needs to stop talking on here. If anyone sees that she even considered keeping a dead body in a coffin ⚰️ at the house 😟. Please stop if you want to keep the kids. I am so sorry.
I agree, she absolutely was groomed and turned against her family, completely isolated.
I feel so sorry for her and her family, she's was definitely groomed and I don't think she is equipped to do this all by herself I hope she can get some support from family/friends.
The fact that you’re so concerned of being “charged” with your husbands death is mind blowing and also the fact that you’re talking about all this in front of your young child is also concerning. There is definitely more to this story..
Seriously.....this woman's videos popped up in my recommended and now I'm just concerned and slightly weirded out
@@CountThotulaSAME
This is some disturbing shit! Something is off with her and this entire situation!
Well to me it’s obvious that she knows she effed up. The man was dying on the kitchen floor for hours and she just left him there. Of course it’s possible that him being passed out after taking a bunch of pain meds was a usual sight and that’s all she thought was going on. But she also knows how it looks that paramedics got called to the home when her husband was dead on the kitchen floor, laying in vomit and he had a severe case of pneumonia so it should have been obvious the man needed urgent medical care, long before she called for it. There’s enough there to charge her if they want to. I don’t think anyone suspects she murdered him but she’s rightfully worried about how much trouble she’s in legally for ignoring signs that he needed help. Take the circumstances of how he died, the fact that he was overdosed on narcotics and left to slowly die in vomit on the kitchen floor and combine it with all the other circumstances like the condition of the house, small kids being awake in the middle of the night, the baby not having a crib, etc etc etc. She knows at the very least, that it LOOKS bad. I wouldn’t want to be in her shoes with the police even if she’s being 100% truthful and she just thought he’d gone overboard on the pain pills again but that he wasn’t actually going to die.
Why do you assume someth8ng is “off”? Her husband died in their home and of course they need to know the cause. She clearly has trust issues and maybe she is afraid they will blame her,
. God such judgy ass people here!
Its very important that you sit down with your children and tell them about their dad. They deserve that. It will be hard , but down the road they will appreciate it. And just be there for them, encourage and comfort them through the grief. Be that pillar for them. You can do this! Your stronger than you think. Prayers for peace and comfort❤
Thank you for your support sherryjohnson1926, I appreciate your kindness.
@@Momof8kidsI am going to give you some very honest advice that may be difficult for you to hear.
1. You MUST tell your kids, ALL OF THEM. You not telling them is very unfair. You’re not being honest with anyone. 💕
2. PLEASE STOP saying and thinking your little is over, the good part of life is gone. That’s NOT TRUE. You have 8 kids that need YOU. They need YOU to put on your big girl pants and lead this family. Please don’t put your older kids in the position of leading your family. It’s not their responsibility. They can support you, but you must lead!!!
3. Your kids will see this video and hear you saying basically you have nothing to live for. Think about that, stop snd really think about that. That’s so hurtful to your kids.
I wish you the best, but YOU must want the best for you and YOUR family. You can do this, many women have. Reach out maybe a pastor can help you, get in a church where you can make friends. STOP worrying about YOU and work this problem. Get off the internet snd be a mom. I’m begging you
@@Momof8kids hello are you okay. What happened with the police and Dept of family services?
You really MUST tell your children now!!! The longer you wait the harder it will get!!! They NEED to know!!!! ❤❤❤ 🙏
Exactly! They're probably confused and stressed by all of the changes... If you tell them the truth, they can begin to heal. They will understand why all of these changes you are speaking about are taking place.
Trust me, they know that something is up!
It will also be a load of stress off of your own shoulders.
Also God forbid, CPS or police actually do question your children, you don't want them finding out from a stranger! You're just prolonging the inevitable by not telling them, this isn't something that you can ease into. Be strong, you've got this!
Right. This story is getting more weird. T
All the kids know but the 2 babies
She didn't tell them.
Your children will resent you if you continue to keep it from them. I know it’s not an easy task, but telling them and giving them information based on their age/maturity is of the utmost importance. I suggest your next task is to get mental health support for you and your oldest is that.
After working in the medical field for years, I have to tell you that you need to be honest and tell the children. They will resent you forever if they realize that lied to them. Children’s services will not like it that your children haven’t been informed. You need to set up counseling for all them. Prayers for your family.
My husband died suddenly in 2015. He was 19 years older than I. We had no children together, but I really thought he was the last man in my life. Grief is a roller coaster…some moments you’ll see glimmer of your former self, then zap, the grief washes over you and you have to just let it.
I’m 8 years away from that horrible day, and I still miss him, but the grief gets easier as the time goes by, and life WILL become livable for you again!
Please, please see a grief counselor, and don’t rely on your newly-adult sons’ advice-they’re barely adults!!!!! They need to look TO YOU to help them get thru this!!!!!!
Much love, honey. Be good to yourself and TAKE ALL THE HELP YOU’RE OFFERED!!!!! 🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️
And please quit lying to your children! Just tell him he’s gone. This is not fair to them. And quit taking the advice from your child. You are the parent. Tell them and allow them to grieve with you.
Wow, that was disheartening and cold as fuck. What is wrong with you?
Honey please tell your children....they are a lot stronger than you think.... they will be there for you!!!!
I am trying to ease them into it. So much has happened suddenly. Thank you for your caring.
@@Momof8kidsthere is no easing in. Your children need to be told, you cannot talk this into being okay, or easier, or less painful. They need to be allowed their grief too. Just not telling them, like daddy ran away? Come on! Sit them down and tell them what happened, let them cry, let them be angry, let them deal with their emotions. You hiding this from them is saying you are not a safe place they can go with their strong emotions about this. You flat out lied to your 16 year old. How is that child going to trust you?
I agree they need to know now
U are causing more harm to them by not telling. It’s not all about you there are children’s lives at stake here
I know this is hard. Your children need to know the full truth as soon as possible. They need to hear it from you rather than someone else. Sit them all done together grieve as a family. Let them ask questions. They might overhear. Your little ones are hearing in the background.
I'm sorry that you have so little support. Facs might have services that can help a family during bereavement. Having them involved doesn't have to be a scary thing. You've done nothing wrong and they don't truly want to take your children.
Keep your head up and be careful what you share publicly
This is a lot!! I'm sorry for your loss. I do want to make some suggestions . I'm a therapist and I specialize in trauma. I understand shock and trauma well. Making this video and sharing this information may feel good for you to have a space and outlet, but I suggest you find yourself a therapist and talk it out with them alone. They don't just say this or that to you. we are trained to handle these situations and regulate emotions, build coping skills, help make plans, help you process events and emotions and provide you with a safe and private space.
This video is working against you. This video is sharing information that can be seen in many ways and used against you.
You're giving more information than a lawyer woulld suggest or be able to defend later if needed.
The responsibility the eldest ones have might effect them in a harmful way. They are your children and they are still very young and they lost their dad. They shouldn't be relied on or leaned on, or asked for advice on this. Especially legal advice on how to best handle this or parenting advice on when and if to tell the children.
I am sorry that you feel alone and scared and don't have anyone else, but I have to advocate for the children here.
You have to tell all the kids. It will not get better, they will not be easing in, they are building hope, they are being misled, they are losing out on truth and reality of the lose of their dad and they will find out and it will hurt that just as much then as it would now.. maybe worse.
Worse due to eventually finding out you knew and held it back, their 2 older brothers knew and kept it a secret too.
Making a video of him as he was snoring on the fall to show him how it affects him should have been hidden.
I;m curious as you have teens who know you make videos on here so can't they just find them and see this?
I'm sorry but you said how it was normal, so normal you left him there and have seen in all the time. But not normal enough to have to prove to him in a video?
I'm not saying you did anything, just saying it comes off insincere. But it's out there now.
Please hire a lawyer, speak with them .
I can't imagine losing my spouse and being left with our children either and I understand the issues of finances too. but having that be on you to do list and mind on day one will all be seen in a bad light.
I have n idea what is going on, what your situation is, but I am just saying it can appear to look bad for you and suggest you don't make this all public.
Please take care of you and the kids!!!!!
Well said.
It's possible that the 3 year old specially understands more than she thinks and is confused, gather all the kids together and tell. I'm not either it was the smartest to tell on video that they sa him laying on the floor but didn't check if he's breathing. At the same time good to be honest and I really doubt she would be responsible for it as he was responsible for his own health and medicine and if he took too much pain medication, she was not his career but wife and then she has all the kids to care for.
Thank you for saying this.
I've been struggling with seeing these videos, because I'm super worried about the kids and how all this will emotionally hit them, once they know the truth.
She needs legal advice and she needs to stop posting on here.
But what's most concerning, is how she's brushing off the kids, when they come to check on her.
They must know something is wrong, and kids are not as blind as some think they are.
That 3 year old could say something to the others.
I hated seeing how the kids in the background are just being ignored. Especially at a time like this.
I'm just hoping someone she knows sees this or the authorities. Because the kids need some support for sure.
She said to much, and that video she talks about filming, is a great concern in itself. I am not understanding why they would leave him on the floor, as there was her and 2 of her sons in thier 20s, who could have picked him up off the floor, and put in a bed. But they chose not too.
I do feel for her situation, I would not want to be in that spot. But she also is an adult and there are consequences when this stuff happens.
I really do hope this family gets the proper help.
I know how bad the mental health system is here in Ontario. I myself am having a very hard time trying to get support, and I'm asking for it. And for many years can't find the proper help. The system is broken. Which leaves alot of people without the help they need.
I really hope the kids aren't put into a worse situation. They have been through alot already.
I hate seeing the system not working for so many. I hate seeing her clearly struggling, and not understanding what she's doing is harmful.
I wish this family all the best, they have so much to work on.
I'm hoping the authorities are involved now, and I really hope they are given good people to help them through this. Because even help sometimes is worse then the situation they have already been through.
Again, a broken system for mental health. It's awful.
Some think it's so easy to just go out and get the help, and it's really not that simple, unless you have money for a private doctor. Government assistance in these areas, offers very little help. It's exhausting really, trying to find help out there and listening to people saying, just do this and just do that, that help is out there.
It's not that easy to find, as alot seem to think it is. But this situation is bad, and they definitely need someone stepping in, because she's clearly not handling things very well and it is causing emotional harm on everyone involved there.
Oh, thank you so much for this comment as I think it will be meaniful to many of us that came upon this....
Go hug those kids and get help you are concerning everybody with what your saying. Take care of those sweet babies. You tube is not your families answer. Lord protect those sweet children. Pray people. Please!
This comes from a loving place. It’s not normal to allow a 70 year old to lay on the kitchen floor with vomit coming out of his mouth. How do you leave someone you love like that. Please take room by room and clean. It’s overwhelming to think of the entire home. If you tackle room by room it won’t be so bad. The older kids need to be taught cleanliness. They will feel better in a clean and tidy home. You got this.
And take pictures of him laying there? WTF?
Honestly, as much as I want to be sympathetic to her pain, a lot of this video sounds fishy. Keep in mind it's the first and only video I've watched so my opinion doesn't really matter here. She is so focused on how she could be charged. Why worry THAT much if there isn't somewhat of a valid reason?
To me it just seems that she's very uneducated and naive (probably because she married so young) and didn't understand it could be dangerous. She's clearly grieving a lot.
I agree this isn’t normal. The fact that they left him on the kitchen floor is traumatizing for her and the kids. Imagine the guilt the oldest kids are dealing with. They all need counseling.
Who posts on RUclips 39 hours after this loss? Sick. Looking for what? Money?
Your husband was knocked out on the kitchen floor and you didn’t call an ambulance ?
Everything about this is deeply concerning.
Yes, makes sense why the cops investigated the home and looked through everything. Probably a huge red flag when she admitted she'd found him on the kitchen floor w/ v0mit coming out of his mouth hours before she realized he was not okay and finally called an ambulance
Pain meds are controlled substances. He didn’t die in a hospital or home hospice. I’m sure they are doing diligence for those two reasons. Not a bad thing. Very concerned about their age difference. The age of her son and her age at conception, that he didn’t want to be buried or cremated seems a little fringe, she does not drive, her instinct is to ask her adult son to decide things. Lots of concerning things here. Was she groomed? Does she ordinarily think everything is her fault? Not telling the kids while telling strangers in front of the kids? The isolation her family is living? They will prorate stuff. If she takes too long to tell he died to this agency and that. Does the kid not have car insurance already he should have insurance already. Even the 16 year old didn’t get told properly. He is in the hospital..? Mom 101 not telling something is the same as lying. I really hope she tells every single child before the overhear it or watch it, should come from mom. It’s not too late to stop putting off the news. Canada should have public defenders if it comes to that. I’m not sure lawyering up the priority. Maybe it’s distraction from the trauma? Is the house dirty or just sensitive to having others in the house? Canada should have financial aid for children who lost a parent and the spouse caring for them. Maybe she should reconnect with family? Find an actual Christian church to be part of. She mentioned her husband and Christianity but not herself. Curious. @@mollymigraine9204
She meant he was unconscious. She is using slang. He passed out after he took his pain meds. He was disabled. Seems he had pneumonia too.
@@queenbee3647She said (it might have been in the other one) he was on the kitchen floor with vomit coming out his mouth and she couldn’t wake him and she thought the vomit was from acid reflux so she just left him there ! With children seeing him like that ?!?! 😢 Watching the 2 I’ve seen has been so deeply disturbing, I can’t stop thinking of those kids, I’m so concerned for them.
@@mollymigraine9204A normal person would have called an ambulance immediately in shock or not. She seems sketchy.
You are the mother. Stop obeying you 18 year old kid. You need to tell all you kids. Just tell them straight. You can’t prepare someone for this.
Very, very strange story..🙇🤔
I was thinking same thing just dont tell them nothing wtf who does that. I feel sorry for her she dont know any better he was all she know and that 20yr old looks like he might snap @ any time sad
So sorry for your huge loss. Tell the children so you can all grieve (at your own pace) together and to keep the communication lines open so everyone knows they can openly and lovingly talk about their dad and share the happy memories you all had together.
I was left completely alone after my husband passed from a three month horrific bout of stomach cancer. I planned (hoped) we would have another 30 years. He dropped from 180 with a six pack to 90 lbs. We met at church when we were 13 & 14 and we married at 18 & 19.
I was laying here in my empty house and I thought about all the billions of widows through out all of time. I didn’t know how I was going to do it, but if ALL of those people could do it, then I could, too. Didn’t know how I was going to do it, but I was. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been almost five years.
I don’t think you should operate from fear. Face it head on. All the children need to be told according to their age and maturity. Get the house cleaned up. Have the older children do the brunt. You will feel so much better with a clean house.
You cannot depend on emotional support from the oldest two. By that I mean they are trying to deal with this from their own perspectives. They need to figure out their own lives now.
For your children’s sakes you need to have a stiff upper lip & handle your business. Cry at night or when they aren’t around. Writing in a journal might help, too. You could get your Bible & a notebook and write out different verses that speak to you. Pray! God is right there with you and He is wanting to help.
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Hang in there sweet girl it’s up to you now Jesus is waiting for you to cry out to him. Keep looking up sweetheart God is waiting for you 🙏
Not only should someone not depend on their children to be their only
emotional support, it is not fair to them. There is so much that they do not comprehend at that age. Adults or not
I've been reading a lot of responses on here, not one I came across mentioned scriptures or anything related to GOD,, pretty sad, I must say. You're spot on. The only one whom we can rely on is GOD. I hope and pray this woman will reach out in prayer to our father in heaven. He'll hear her. We certainly can't rely on the arm of flesh.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb I live in Canada. Sorry to hear about that. Sending you love.
TELL ALL OF YOUR KIDS RIGHT NOW. They need to grieve this. This is not just about you. And that 3 year old may not totally understand, but she knows you are sad. TELL ALL THE KIDS RIGHT NOW. You should work with FACS and not against them.
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They already know he died in July
@@sheilacarter7875right? God some of these posters are such idiots! He died months ago and she is just now able to post about it. Dummies they all are
How dare you decide how someone needs to handle this!! BACK OFF!
If anyone know this family, I suggest they call some emergency services. Something is not right here, at all.
Maybe their are neighbours or some sort of community input. No way can this lady deal with this, she has some issues that make her unable to see things in reality.
The children are malnourished and obviously very behind mentally.
Obviously they are already known by the government, so I hope it triggers a intervention, the other issue is the husband being left to sleep it off on the floor, then he dies in the same spot because of no medical intervention, she is obviously unwell.
You HAVE to tell your kids and right away. It's their right to know. There is no way of predicting how keeping it from them will affect their mental health or relationship with you either now or later on. They might lose trust in you or worse. You have no reason to believe you are liable in this incident. If your husband had a drug problem it's not your fault.
Something isn’t sitting right with me
This has to be the strangest thing I've watched in a long time...
This is bizarre for this little three year old to be hearing all this & see u like this with no explanation.
SMH! I have no words for this situation and the complete denial this woman is living in.
This is the first time I see this story and this lady was only living for her husband, whatever needs her husband wanted or needed she was there to fulfill them.. do you really think she wanted all those children?????? NOPE SHE DIDN'T .. NOW SHE'S STUCK RAISING HER CHILDREN
Keep your rude thoughts to yourself. It’s never helpful
@@nikkis7375 what that's the truth..I'm not being mean..
@nikkis7375 It's not rude. She shared AAAALLLLL of this with the public. Every detail. So not only is she subjected to public opinion, but she's literally telling on herself. I think we are all very concerned about 8 kids who don't have any other family, no friends, no nothing but a dirty house, and a Mom who chooses to broadcast this to the world instead of getting help. Almost everyone is so concerned for those neglected children, so it's honestly not rude.
@@nikkis7375 so you were brought up the same way she's bringing up her children 👀
What do you have to look forward to? Eight beautiful children’s lives! You have to live and love them for both of you now. You have many more joys and sorrows to go through and it will all be worth it. Be so grateful that you had 20 yrs together. Allow others to help you and your children. They need grief counseling too. Love will get you and the kids through this, with help from others.
Excellent advice. Thank God I am not going through that situation currently but your words soothe me nonetheless. Blessings to you! 🙏🥰🙏
You leave an elderly person lying on a cold floor whom has clearly aspirated,and you dont call an ambulance?
This is neglect and i hope she's charged, this mom is now making up her legal defense, she's not to bright at all. She seriously lacks common sense, these kids definitely need to be removed from her care.
She’s protecting them. Would you want your children to know your child’s other parent OD’d? I’m not quite sure I would. I don’t think I’d tell anybody, to save my husbands reputation, especially if nobody knew they were on drugs. I’d tell my kids he was sick, and then tell details later on in their life. Nothing wrong with that. These are HER children!
This absolutely does not belong on RUclips. This is THE LAST thing you should be thinking about. I understand you are in terrible pain, but trauma dumping on the world with your innocent children crawling all over you isn't any way to cope. Your list of things you need to do is none of our business and trust me when I tell you, your kids are going to be extra traumatized when they see that you've exploited them and the death of their Father all over RUclips. I know this is harsh and some may call me "heartless," but this isn't the space for any of this. Get off the internet. The more videos you make, the more people will definitely be calling child protective services. I don't know what the goal is with sharing the most private, traumatic information with strangers instead of your kids. Get help and get into taking care of yourself and your children. YOU are the parent, not your older children.
Too many damned excuses! Clean your house, stay at home mom. You are answering questions that you have not been asked; this will surely cause law enforcement to look at you closely
I sure hope the police and cps don’t see this video…this is all so concerning. And omg- what she is doing with the 16 yr. Old. So many red flags here.
From the perspective of a child that lost a parent (my mom passed away when I was 11). Tell your kids (in age appropriate ways), as difficult as it may be, they deserve to know, and be allowed to process the situation in their own ways. My dad told my sister and I, the night that my mom passed away. I can not imagine how I would have felt now 30+ years later if I hadnt been allowed to know from when it happened. This isnt something that you can ease them into, it is a major life change and you all deserve to begin healing and processing. Prayers to you all, it is a terribly hard thing to have to deal with.
Your children should be told together, as a family unit, giving the information at a level the youngest child can understand. “Daddy loves you and he’s watching us from heaven.” Something to that effect. The older children who want more explanation will come to you with their questions. Your children deserve the truth about their father. If they are mature enough to ask the question they deserve an honest, complete answer given in a loving way. Please reach out for all the help you may be entitled to. Give yourself grace while navigating this devastating loss. I will continue to be here for you as long as you find relief through making videos. ❤
@@deborah_3474 Thank you so much that means a lot to me. I will take your advice.
I mean I want to make sure they understand.
AM I THE ONLY ONE MIND BLOWN BY THESE VIDEOS?!
This is insanity. This is … this is just so concerning on so many levels.
Holy HANNA
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"Empress please be quiet while I make a video for the entire internet about the death of your Father that you don't know about."
@@Raya-ir4tm I can't get passed any of it. Never have I ever been so worried about kids I don't know. I sincerely hope they end up in a loving, healthy home while she gets her shit together. This is no way for kids to live and it all sounds so toxic. Who leaves their husband on the floor "asleep" with vomit coming out of their mouth without calling 911? CPS better do their damn job this time before another child in this world is ruined.
Tell your children immediately. The longer you wait, the worse it will be for them.
I was 11 when my dad passed. My mom told all of us 6 kids and I am glad she did.
My deepest condolences 💐 to you and your kids I pray 🙏 God continue to give you Strength ❤
That is beautiful marysargent295. Thank you for your comfort.
You have to tell ALL your children now! It’s not fair to put the older kids in that position. My mom did that to me when I was 15 and it really messed me up for years. Please don’t do that! Also, why don’t you start a Go Fund Me page? This way you have some money coming in! But first and foremost I’m sending my deepest condolences to you and your children. This is truly heartbreaking 💔!
Thank you for sharing. They are going to be told I’m just trying to ease them into it.
@@Momof8kidsplease know that there is no easing into this. There isn't. It doesn't matter how gently it is relayed. Their dad is gone and their mom is struggling. Carrying this is yet another thing you have do that you're dreading and it doesn't get easier with time. You have to tell them. It's the responsible and caring choice.
@@Momof8kids I dont understand how 3 adults and kids can just let kids step over dad going to fridge. You are in trouble and this video is making it worse. Your lawyer going to tell you to stop talking. Cps and cops involved you look very guilty. If my husband died a lawyer is the furthest to my mind. Know your not opening the door.
@@Momof8kids you understand that the police called CPS to step in and remove those kids and that man will be back for those kids have bags packed for them because they are leaving with them next trip.
@@kimsorber9675THIS
You have to tell your kids it will mess them up for life and they will never trust again. You have to tell them all at once. They deserve respect because that is their dad.
Who the hell “sleeps” on the kitchen floor???
The longer you go with hiding the death of there father,the more they will end up hurt. Kids can handle more than we give credit. My son was 7 and was in the room when my mom passed away and he was so calm and has a deeper connection with her even though she's gone.
He was not snoring, he was doing the death rattle. During that state he had no awareness around him and his body was finally shutting everything down. If you watch any video of an actively dying person you will hear the same sounds. It goes on for a couple of hours before they finally go silent. Acting immediately when you saw him on the kitchen floor would have likely changed the result but either way you’re definitely going to need to find childcare and work because there’s no way you can support that many kids with whatever death benefit you may get.
This I have heard the snoring many times it does sound like they were asleep but you are correct it's the death rattle.
My 35 year old daughter passed away 14 years ago. She often slept on the floor because of her back pain and she snorted a lot also but when her husband came home from work and she was laying in the floor sleeping he immediately noticed that her snorting was different. He started CPR immediately and had his almost 9-year-old son ( my grandson) to call 911. The paramedics arrived, which was my other son-in-law, and immediately took over doing CPR all the way to the hospital.They intubated her after shocking her heart, but it was too late. Even my nine-year-old grandson knew that his mom’s snoring didn’t sound right. The death rattle is very different from snoring. I miss my daughter my life will never be the same but I’m thankful that I know I will see her again one day in heaven.😢
This is true but any normal person would call for aide when not being able to wake someone
Cheyne stoke breathing. Death is imminent.
They’re WELFARE BUMS
Prayers for you & the children. It is a hard road. I lost my husband of 22 years when I was 38…it’s been 2 years & a difficult journey especially being a solo parent. 🙏 🕯️ reach out if you need support & embrace the children.
When my mum passed away (11 years ago) and I was her carer, it was one of the hardest things I have lived through. I started seeing a psychologist and one thing that she told me was so true. She said that now I had to make a new normal, Looking back she was so right. It takes time but once you make a new normal life for you and the kids you will look back on these hard times and be proud of making it through..
I really feel you need to tell the kids that he died. They will grieve along with you but that will be important for you all.
Do not lie to your children. Tell them. My son was 6 and my daughter was 3 when my husband passed away. They were told immediately. Your children need to be able to say goodbye and start the grieving process just like you. Taking care of my two was what got me through their fathers passing. You have 8 your going to be kept a lot busier than i was.
I am so sorry for your loss. You must tell the children. The longer you wait the worse it will be. You are their mother and must step up. All the other things do need to happen but your children come first.
I'm about to give you some tough love. I have lost five family members this year including my parents so I know what grief is. One you cannot look to your children to relieve you or help you with your grief. They do not need to be worried about their mother on top of losing their father. I don't care if they're adults or not. You need to see a grief counselor you will make friends that way as well you also need to maybe join a church or some organization that can assist you in dealing with not only life's obstacles but also to get you and your family more support no one can live all cooped up with just their children and no one else in the world. Don't be mad at your family because this is what they did not want for you. Even if you had the best 40 years of your life then have the best 40 years of your life and now go forward and have forty good years of your life raising his children and giving them every opportunity which means integrating into your community one way or the other. Yes talkin to a camera may help you but it's not physical interaction with other human beings. You are not the first widow in the world and there are others that can help you and support you. No in hindsight you shouldn't have left her husband lying on the floor but if this was normal behavior for him then you have to tell the authorities that that was normal behavior for him and that's why you didn't intervene sonner. You also need to notify his family even the ones he didn't talk to they have a right to know that he has passed, you might find that there are more open to helping you in one way or another. Grieve when you have to grieve cry when you have to cry but don't look to your children to comfort you they have their own grief and if they're worried about their depressed mother they will never be happy and that's not your job as a mom your job is to raise and dependent children that go out into the world and create a life for themselves. God bless you and I'll pray for you and your family
Please find a social services agency that could help you with grief counseling as well as to help you apply for whatever benefits you can get. You are so young still and you will get thru this. But please reach out for help in your community.
This I hate to say it but it's time to put your big girl panties and take charge your children need you they should lean on you not the other way around t.This is why I always tell women not to depend on there husbands for every little thing because if something does happen you will be ok .Did he have life insurance?
Some of the comments....wow....some people are heartless....skip through these and block them. You take the time you need to grieve. Try not to look so far ahead at this time. Please pray, pray, and pray. Maybe find a church. Take care of yourself and turn it over to God.
@@simplygratefulartbysusan147 Some comments are heartless, but sharijones' isn't one of them. Here we have a mom to eight kids, she has to look ahead now. Turning to God will not make service agencies fly miraculously into her house and it will not pay the bills or save her kids from trauma. As hard as it is, she has to fulfil her role as a parent and take action so provide for her kids, financially and psychologically.
Such good advice...
Get all the kids in one room and tell them Dad passed away. Get the older kids to help you clean and organize. It'll keep them busy while you tend to affairs. Also, I'm going to tell you what my grandmother told my mother when my father passed away, "You're still young." I know that seems like a double edged sword, but this is your time to show your kids how to bear the unbearable.
Lady, you’re telling me that your husband took a STRONG pain pill, passed out on the floor, no one checked on him. The snoring is called the “DEATH RATTLE”. It’s not actually snoring. He OD’d
Watch the video she posted, he is snoring in it. Thats why they weren't concerned . I'm sure she knows by now he OD'd.
I don't think you should be making a video saying or speculating things or giving specific details of what happened, it could backfire and get you in trouble. Hope you all are ok.
She's trying to earn money.
Something is very suspicious about these videos. Even the cops are suspicious. All of this sounds like she’s trying to cover things up. Something’s up. There is no reason you couldn’t tell a 16 year old that their dad passed away. I’m probably the only one that is willing to say these things. Everyone is too busy feeling sorry for someone they don’t know.
I also said it. Something isn’t right.
I've also said it.
@@breephoenix111 The cops don’t come to your house and collect evidence when your family member dies of natural causes. There has probably been a history of some kind at that house. There’s a lot of fake crying going on. I hope the children are safe.
For you to think and worry if you and the two eldest MAY get charged for "neglect or manslaughter".... You know you are guilty of something more than you're saying.
And its not because you chose to live like a 🐖
Oh wow she literally is explaining her life when she doesn’t have to and this is what you have to say sad in true that this is why I fucking can’t stand people especially people like you
Omg get over it. When you are grieving you do and say things you may not normally do. She wasn’t his caregiver as she said and he was in charge of his own medical care! Omg you are rude. Calling her a pig!
@@nancyfarkas3592 I did not call her a pig. But said. " Because you chose to live like a pig".
Big difference
She is clearly not all there mentally. She needs mental service to help her out with financials etc
How could you possibly think that you could bring him home in a coffin and then say I think he would rot? It's not normal to be sleeping on the kitchen floor with vomit coming out of your mouth. Im sorry but there's so many wrong things about this video.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
why would you leave an old man laying on the floor after taking his medicine why not get your older sons to pick him up and bring him to his chair that is not looking good for you at all its all very suspicion tbh
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
I know this is very traumatic for you but your kids deserve to know. Yes, they will all understand at different levels but they need to know that their mom will be truthful and dependable now that you are the only adult for them to rely on. Even the three year old knows something is going on because she sees you crying. My mother in law passed away when my daughter was four but she very much understood that her grandma had died and gone to heaven.
💯 my brother inlaw passed away when my daughter was three . She really grieved him .
I really wish you had someone there to help you through this. You have so much on your plate right now, it's overwhelming. You're confused, you're brokenhearted, you're exhausted.... etc.
Your right, thank you for your kindness.
@@Momof8kidsif I was in Canada I would come and you with no hesitation. You’re a very good mom. You will get through this. We are stronger than we realise.
You are going through so much right now . Everything will work out in time . Sending you a virtual hug .
There is something very wrong in this situation….
Also, your kids need to know. Don’t get them “adjusted” to then get them “adjusted” again that he’s passed.
Agree! Something is seriously off about all of this…. 😮
Yeah something is really off
Not telling them to let them "get use to being without their dad" while they think he's alive & just away, then tell them, is not gonna ease the blow at all. In fact, her kids maybe never trust her again. Letting a teenager make parenting decisions & advise not to tell kids is not right. She is in extreme shock and clearly not thinking right.
@@sonyagraske376 yes this isn’t an unconventional lifestyle, I’m pretty sure she’s been unknowingly abused by her husband and doesn’t even realize it and now that he’s gone she has no idea what to do
All of this just doesn't make sense to me. I feel like mental illness has been leading this house.
What doesn't make sense?
Your children need and deserve to know. You cannot keep this from them. It's been too long already. The longer you wait, the harder it will be and they will be upset when they find out later it was kept from them, if they do find out.
I am so sorry for your loss My thoughts and prayers are with. I wish that I could give you a big hug. You need to take care of yourself ❤
You have a beautiful little girl in the background who is very happy to be alive today. Try to turn your gaze to your children and towards yourself. You are all worth it and 'society' will understand. Give yourself a few days of loving and caring for one another. Call upon heavenly peace to reign over your family environment. Each of the children as well as yourself have personal priorities which exist independent of the life of your late husband. Your time to shine as a mother over your beloved children is here. 'Society' will respect a mother who priorities peace and love within her household.
Pneumonia made his breathing compromised. The pain medication slows your breathing. It sounds like the combination of these two things were too much for him. Especially if he may have accidentally double dosed himself, which can happen. Bless you and your children. You will get through this. I don’t see that you will be charged for anything. ❤😊
It is still a mystery what caused the pneumonia. I didn't know pain medication slows breathing, thank you for shedding light on the issue. I hope you are right about not being charged, I've never been in trouble with the law. Wish you the best.
Yes, narcotic pain medication depresses the central nervous system.
Just to add. The pneumonia was probably aspiration pneumonia. He probably aspirated the vomit into his lung.
She didn't call 911. Left him dead
I’m confused. You find your husband on the kitchen floor and just leave him there for hours and think that he would be OK? You cannot possibly be that naïve. My daughter found her father passed at 4 1/2 years old she was told immediately she understood she didn’t like it but she understood these kids need more of a support system than you can give them or are willing to give them
Not only that but she said she couldn't wake him. Something seems off here.
I agree 1000% she sound crazy talking about having a coffin in her house!
There seems to be a controlling nature to their relationship and the husband used this control in means of keeping her restricted in her abilities and opportunities from friendships to driving to financial to familial. Then you have the aspect of possibly her husband abusing the medication he was on as this sounds like the only decent reasinf to have left him on the floor like that and want to take a picture to show him what the medication was doing to him and stating that casually and reacting so nonchalant. This includes the idea he has blacked out or has been found sleeping in the floor before and possibly the vomit was something new this time that due to her naivety she did not understand the complications that vomit suggests and hearing him snore was more so a "death rattle" at the last stages before passing and she misunderstood it. So the picture was to try to convince him to stop the medication that he was abusing as now he was not only asleep but threw up. She wanted him to see the new addition of throw up to his episodes of passing out in his meds (high from opiates). Whether she understood he was abusing the medication or not with her apparent naivety idk. So I don't think she intentionally was trying to do wrong, she was just trapped in a toxic controlling relationship and was isolated and sheltered during such time that she didn't have these opportunities of learning and growth in areas of life that we take for granted knowing. I don't have proof this is what the situation was, but it's surely a possibility.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
There seems to be a controlling nature to their relationship and the husband used this control in means of keeping her restricted in her abilities and opportunities from friendships to driving to financial to familial. Then you have the aspect of possibly her husband abusing the medication
First of all, I am so sorry for your loss and you will be in my prayers.
Please understand that you have been brainwashed by your husband and he isolated you from
family and prevented you from your friends. You have no life skills to manage this on your own. You must accept professional help for the sake of your children.
Next, be a mom!!!!!!! There is no reason to have a filthy home. You have able bodied children who needs to help.
I know you didn’t intentionally neglect your husband. But seeing him on the floor and you were unable to wake him and didn’t immediately call 911 tells me you aren’t very bright. Sorry to be harsh but you have to understand this is not normal.
Again, be a mom and tell your children that daddy died. Be a grown up!!! Be their mom.
Your children also don’t look healthy. Too skinny, too pale and one of the older boys looks either angry or very depressed. That’s scary and another reason you must get you and your children professional help.
Not brainwashed. One welfare bum attracted another welfare bum. EIGHT kids….disgusting
I agree. This family dynamic is very toxic. I think she has been in a coercive relationship since the beginning. It has all the signs of narcissistic abuse. This mother is unwell and her children, for now at least, need to be protected. Her talking about her concern about possibly being charged in the death of her husband for leaving him on the floor is very concerning because it speaks to some guilt. Creepy vibes for me.
@@Booboonancy Honestly, I think being afraid of being charged..and so many other things, comes from the paranoia of her late husband. I think he conditioned her to be afraid of any outside help. He didn’t want to be arrested, he didn’t want her educated or even capable of taking care of herself…..because she might leave if she realized how he was isolating her. He had plans for if the police ever came or if cps ever came. He was definitely paranoid.
@@michelehoward4113 I think you’re spot on. I’ve given this some thought because this situation really bothers me. There could be more than one explanation for her being worried about being charged and, regardless, I think she is a victim of coercive control and narcissistic abuse ( I could be wrong but I have personal and up close experience with this form of abuse/manipulation. If nothing else, he set her up to fail without him and paranoia is contagious. The whole thing wreaks of bad family dynamics, inappropriate coping skills, isolation … I just hope she and her children get the help they need and deserve.
@@Booboonancy I can’t quit worrying about all of them. I started telling my husband about them and that I was worried. He said who is this? I said a lady on RUclips. He rolled his eyes. I said I can still worry about them even if I don’t know them personally!
I just lost my daughter. It's only been 24 hours. She is my best friend and I am going to be lost until it's my turn to go home. Her husband is so broken. My heart is with you sweetheart. My prayers are going out to you all the way from Trapper Creek Alaska ❤
I am so sorry for your loss. Love and hugs from Tennessee
I'm so sorry. Prayers for you from Texas.
Sending you and your family so so so much love.
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your daughter.
Oh Katherine, I can't fathom your pain, I'm so sorry.. Especially that you were so close, it's even harder.. Please keep your eyes and ears open, I'm sure if she can let you know she's always around you, she will. Souls don't "die", the body does, so I hope her presence will give you some comfort as you grieve her physical loss.. you'll meet her again Momma 💚💚💚
Please tell the children, they deserve to know what is happening in their lives.
Your older children need to go to work and help out around the house! They need to be working anyway and that would truly help so so much!! Prayers!
They are full time students, I am getting them to help. Thank you for your prayers.
It seems strange that you’re so worried about being blamed for your husbands death. You left him there on the floor and waited to call the ambulance to “sleep it off”. Did you not call because you were afraid he would react badly when he woke up? Was it because the house was too messy? Something seems really off I’m sorry to say. You’re talking about not telling your 16 y.o. son and also the police certain details but you realize you’re posting this on a large public platform that is open for anybody to see. You even mentioned having the discussion of not being to keep his whole intact body at home, I’ve never heard somebody’s mind even consider this. Regards your son saying that you delay telling the other kids about their dad’s passing, kids are VERY well aware of these things. You cannot make these decisions with your older kids. YOU are the ONLY parent…you cannot look to anybody else when making decisions. I don’t understand how the house can be messy with 16/18/20 year old sons in the house. It seems like you were completely dependent on your husband and now he’s gone you just seem completely helpless like you are not a fully grown adult yourself. You can do this Mama but you need realize it’s you now. You need to act decisively and responsibly as the only living parent to these kids you can’t look to your kids (meaning 2 adult ones). Child services will look at whether you’re capable of doing this.
The whole "bringing the body here, but know if it is legal" had me shook. Who let's that cross their mind? It's inconceivable.
My heart goes out to you honey!!!!! My thoughts and prayers to you and your children!!!!❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
I lost my husband of 43 years in 2016 to sudden cardiac arrest , he collapsed on the bathroom floor we couldn’t reach him because he blocked the door the fire rescue had to take the door off to get him out. It’s something I will never forget but I had to keep going and you will too stay strong for your kids. Maybe reach out to a church in your area I’m sure they can help you with telling the children about their dad. It’s going to be a rough road to walk down but I’m sure there is a church you can reach out to and maybe some people from the congregation will help you so you’re not walking alone.🙏🙏🙏🙏for you and your family. Stay strong sweetheart.
The authorities need to step in NOW. This woman is a liar, they live in filthy conditions, the kids are neglected. Everything about this fiasco is just not right. Everyone else can see through this scam……
I know those poor kids are dirty. Everyone needs a shower or bath now. I feel so bad for those kids.
Here's an idea. How about you stick to mothering Johnathon and let the rest of the world decide how to raise their own kids? The world doesn't need your rude and hateful opinions about anyone who happens to be comfortable in living conditions that don't meet your standards, and nobody asked for it. Do you even know how to have a conversation that doesn't involve criticism of someone else? It may make you feel good, but it makes you look disgusting.
So sorry about your husband. God bless you and may he give you peace.
Your life is not over. Please tell all of the children. You can get through this. Sending condolences.
So much going on ..
First I am very sorry for your loss.
2. Get in touch with the counselor that offered help. You MUST have someone to walk you through this.
Hang in there.
I am so sorry for your loss AND for the amount of judgement coming from some commenters. It sickens me to read some of these comments
No matter what the age difference it does NOT change the love you both had. You do what you have to-to survive day by day. There is NO right or wrong way to grieve.
As for your children, some are to young to even understand and the others just talk feom your heart, the words will come. They probably already realize something is not right.
My family is keeping you in our prayers- from a mother that lost her husband suddenly last year - your kids and YOU are much stronger than you think
That is beautiful ourwolvesden, thank you so much. I am sorry to hear about losing your husband and wish you lots of love and precious memories to come.
No judgment just facts. A welfare bum marries another welfare bum and they decide to have EIGHT kids and live off the GOVERNMENT sound ‘normal’ to you? I smell a scam
You need to tell your children! It will be hard but it is so important. They need to know. Grieve together. They need to hear it all from you.❤
Any time there is a body on my kitchen floor, whether concious or unconcious, I question it. A body is not supposed to be on a kitchen floor for any reason. He had to have fallen there, because I doubt he just laid down there to nap. Most people who are in pain, usually don't lay on a kitchen floor. They lay in a bed or a recliner. How could you not have questioned this? Didn't you hear a thud in the kitchen?
There just something not right about a lot of aspects of this. I’m sure if he’s been on his meds 30 years as she said before he knows what they do to him so why take a video for ‘evidence’ it just doesn’t add up!
So sorry for your loss and please ignore the judgemental people.
Im wrapping you and your family in prayer..I pray for your peace of heart and mind..I pray favor over you with any authority figure ,detectives and police ..I pray you find the right words and time to tell your precious children..I pray you and your family are protected and the right people are put in your path to guide and advise you..I wish I could do more than pray for you..I wish I could help in person..just know you are being sent so much love and light 💜
That is so beautiful JenniferGlade, my eyes are teary. Thank you so much, what you are already doing is wonderful.
The 3 old ones can get a job and the other ones have chores to keep the house clean.
Because If they come to your house and is messy and dirty they could take the kids from you.
Stay strong! 🙏🏽
Well, I do agree the jobs , income and productivity will be a great and important thing to do to help them thrive - I hope they can learn these are GOOD and prosperous things to enjoy, and not things to do out of fear or punishment if that makes sense -
Forcing the 3 oldest to be the breadwinners to shoulder the financial burden caused by their mother is insane. They need to get out of this hellhole ASAP
Are you for real? You’re actually questioning if leaving a dead body to rot in a coffin in your home is illegal? Lady, what is wrong with you?
Exactly…she ain’t right.
Why didnt your 2 sons get their father off the floor? Most adult children would not leave their elderly disabled parents passed out on the floor.
Please don’t apologize for anything. We are here in awe of your strength. Sending you so much love and light!!!
Dont over think darling
Youre in shock and grieving.
My friend had his disabled dad live with him...he had challenges due to diabetes.
My friend got up one morning and found he passed.
It is protocal for police to investigate. You be fine!! Some people do bad things and police just have protocal to follow. Natural death happens in homes all the time. Stop worrying about this!. Be strong and focus on 8 loving kids you have.
My condolences.
Jenn in Ontario
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If your husband laid in the floor for a really long time and your choice was to let him sleep it off, you clearly are not capable of making decisions. Your children should not be in your custody. You need parenting classes as well as psychological help.
IT IS NEGLECT! Your husband was a victim and a perpetrator of neglect. Please law enforcement and family services protect these children. Go, get yourself mental evaluations.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
I can’t imagine let my husband to sleep on the floor.. a specially if he doesn’t feel well - make at list something cosy and call for help. It’s not normal for old person in his health condition to not care. My 16 year old dog was cuddled up in warm blanket when he died. Here - Family , loving wife and 8 kids.. death on the floor. Sorry, but I can’t say it was not neglect.
It's probably not the first time he "medicated" himself so he passed out on the floor. _The difference this time was what she called his "snoring". It is called agonal breating, and it is what people do when they are dying. It sounds a little like snoring, but if you listen, it's different. He was death snoring._
I just found your channel. I’m so deeply sorry for your lost. I just couldn’t imagine dealing with what you are going through. I’ve been with my husband almost 24 years and I’m a sahm and couldn’t imagine losing my husband. I would love to be here for you. I don’t deal with family much nor do I have the friend life. Take care of yourself❤
Jesus Christ. Tell your damn kids! One day, your 16yo will see that you told the entire internet, but didn’t tell him. This will cause him severe issues.
THE BEST PART OF YOUR LIFE IS YET TO COME.
YOU ARE STILL YOUNG. YOU HAVE MANY GOOD YEARS AHEAD OF YOU.
Do we need so many kids when this world is dangerously challenging to raise up even 1 or 2..
Hard to understand.
First of all, GET OFF of RUclips. If you are worried about legal stuff you are not doing yourself any favors blabbing all your business to the world for the world to hear and see. Lawyers and Judges will use this against you.
I am so sorry for your loss. This story reinforces what I have ALWAYS told my (now 22year old) daughter: Never set up a life with someone that you can’t take over on your own, financially and physically, should something happen to your partner or your relationship.
They need to say goodbye and grieve as much as you do. When my son died, I sat my three year old down and talked to him. He is now 36.
I’m so sorry for your loss! I’ll keep you in my prayers!
I want to be as kind and compassionate as I possibly can. First of all, I know grief and loss. I am 75 and my husband who was 74 died suddenly of a heart attack last February 4th. Grief and loss are basically the same at any age and stage of life. It is how you deal with life after the death that can differ. You certainly have many issues and much more to deal with than I did, but honestly, you need someone to help you because it is obviously overwhelming you. It is sad that you isolated yourselves all of these years because friends are who will help in times like these and surround you and help with the issues are are now having to face alone. It is a mistake to not sit the children down together and in terms they can understand, you MUST tell them their father was very sick and he died. To not tell them is cruel and so wrong. You will create many problems if you think holding this news is the right thing to do. NO. And the 12, 16, 18 and 20 year old kids can help you support the younger kinds. You must be honest, you must NOT look to the kids for their opinions and advice. Let them be kids, let them all grieve in their own way and don't expect them to be adults. You need someone to help you get a grip on your situation. You need professional guidance and help. Your videos are hard to watch. Take a shower, wash your hair, put on clean clothes. These superficial things will help you feel better, and clear your head so you can think more clearly. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of your kids. Call every agency you can. They will point you in the right direction. Call a church. I don't know what Canada has but they must have many resources and this is the time to call them. RUclips is great, many grief sites helped me. But you need in-person solid help right now. You can chat on RUclips after you get in person help. I wish I lived close...I would gather people to help clean your house, help with the kids, and do the things that overwhelming you. You and these kids need help NOW. Come on Canada...step up and help this woman. This is a tragic story all the way around.