I love this. I hate my job, but I hate every job. It's not the work, it's working in general. I hate being a slave every day. I want to spend my life living, traveling, experiencing things. Not being stuck in a building 10 hrs a day working for someone else. It's depressing but what can you do? This helps atleast..
The huge problem is many jobs are mentally and psychologically ABUSIVE and cause the employee so much psychological trauma that it makes the rest of his/her life unbearable as well. For example, try being a direct patient care nurse - 12 hour shifts, bullying, no time to eat or go to the bathroom, etc...
Rachel K yes, sometimes the lesson is an honest assessment of environment...I wish you the best in a tough situation and if change is in store may it be smooth and timely...
Rachel K Me as a middle school and high school teacher. Similar trauma and drama, only my "shifts" include the hours working at home. Always being cordial and integral... but never reaping the results nor the pay I'd expect for all my work.
YES!!! More people need to talk about this! Workplace bullying costs us all money in the end because of missed work days, etc. Since the recession, workplace bullying has increased because employers think they have you by the balls because of the uncertain economy. The next fiscal year's budget come out with a deficit, and like clockwork, the bullying at work increases. Employers put lies into your performance review so they can fire you and replace you with 3 unpaid college interns; this exact example just happened to one of my best friends. And life is to short for misery and to have your self esteem chipped away at. So, no thank you, I will not remain in an abusive work environment ever again.
I gotta call BS on this, the things you're learning where you are right now could just as easily be bad habits rather than things that are going to help you, not everything happens for a reason and if it's not benefiting you, then you need to know when to break the cycle. Not everyone is in the same situation, that job flipping burgers isn't preparing anyone for a career in law and claiming that it is will only lead to missed opportunities because you stuck it out when you should have been chasing what you want.
I saw a video that said if you hate your job, try putting in more effort. You will either get a promotion to a job you might enjoy, or learn the skills to progress in your career elsewhere. I tried the advice, got a small promotion, then hit a wall. So I went to another company and got promoted into a higher position. From personal experience, this is much better advice.
Usually I agree with all of Mel's videos, but there are a lot of toxic, abusive jobs out there. Are you being severely underpaid compared to the normal market value of your job and/or your co-workers? Are you consistently required to work 60+ hours while getting paid poorly for 40? Is your job physically dangerous or abusive either through poor safety standards, or requiring more than 10 hours of continuous work per day with inadequate breaks? Does your job require you to devote a lifestyle to working rather than promotion a work-life balance and/or abuse emotional loyalty to their product/service/cause to wring you for extra uncompensated work? Does your job prevent you from having the time to make or grow your family? All of these are far too common and are also really good reasons to quit a job, no matter what lessons you could learn from it.
I'm learning to let go of always wanting to be in control. Being calm even when people annoy me. Putting up with crap... learning to just let it go....
Just started mine this week and I didnt know I was going to have to sell crap..I thought I was only going to help ppl. Less than a week n I already hate it more than anything else I've ever done
@@BrianBloop Sales call centers are the bottom rung of call centers. Tech support or customer service is better, but you are still dealing with self righteous assholes who think they have the right to demean and talk down to you. I got pretty lucky, I landed a call center job that has poor monitoring software (easier to fake metrics, and take less calls) its work from home so VERY easy to get away with shit. Hell I've slept through half my shift a few times before, even a whole day!
@@snoozyq9576 Well, I happen to work with SSA as we are a 3rd party advocate for people filing for benefits. I'm always polite when I call people like you because I know what its like. I just don't like getting the rude agents from SSA. Be well man.
@@ronald5721 being an adult blows sometimes. A new job fell into my lap once I released that toxic job. Not saying to just quit but trust you will find another job soon
For a while I was stuck in thinking that I wasn't learning anything from my current job as a janitor and maintenance worker. Then read a couple books and came across you Mel and the insights you shared had me reflect upon what I was really doing. Which was growing towards what I really want to achieve. Which is to be a confident individual. Thank you Mel.
Orlando Cabrales Any job can be used as a springboard, as leverage for getting where you want to go. Changing your perspective changes everything. Good job!
Im learning.... that everyday I hate coming to work, spending 1/3 of my life at a place I dont want to be. Hard to quit when I make a great income. Having no paycheck for a long time scares the hell outta me.
Great point! For those of us that have to forego a formal education and work; this hits home. It took me 20 years of working for "someone else" to be successfully self-employed. Patience pays!
I've been in a customer service world for 5 years, I was promoted several times then I quit my job cold turkey, now I realized I should have done much earlier. I know where she's coming from, but she is wrong in many places. 1. I met several people inside BPO who work their ass off for more than 12 years and yet I don't see any progress in their life. If you are planing to work in one company and apply her theory without exploring other options you'll just gonna wind up old and depressed. 2. Its not about the money, working is important to pay bills etc.. but there's always a job that you wanna kill yourself everyday...(customer service for example) 3. These types of companies are not going to create a statue of you to honor your loyalty. Its not gonna happen In my case after I was brainwashed by the company that if I resign I will struggle with life, now I found peace and happiness. I found something I'm passionate about, there was a sacrifices during the first couple of months but fuck its worth it. I'm not saying you quit your job right away, assess your finances first if you are paying for a lot of things either minimize your lifestyle or find another jobto refresh your mental state. You can always find a shitty job, don't be afraid.
I am going through burnout, i have to push myself really hard to ever open my mailbox, i have lost my motivation to work. I just don't know what to do anymore.
"You gotta eat around them bones." A phrase coined by a client of mine who was in rehab. Another client was complaining to him about their mandatory group therapy and he told him, "Look man, there's some good meat there, but you gotta eat them bones." I'll never forget it. Or him. He was one of the few (sadly) who went on to graduate from that program, get a job, remain sober, and stay out of prison, to this day.
Thanks Mel! This really helped me today. I am that person working at the front desk. In a parking garage. I am learning to pay attention to details. I always worked on big, broad issues. But right now my job is teaching me how to be diligent, exact and accurate in the little things. In turn, I am teaching my colleagues how to deliver great customer service. A colleague told me recently, "We don't care about people, we care about cars." Since she is training me I didn't argue. Instead I've been demonstrating how to care about cars (details) while still being customer-focused and pleasant to people. I think we are teaching each other!
What am I learning? That the people above me see me as expendable, as someone who will tolerate being given the CRAPIEST of shifts they have, of never complaining as I can't pay bills with no job etc. Christ, I have a degree in mathematics and have spent 10 years TRAPPED working in a grocery store. Yes, trapped. I detest every minute thing about my job, I detest my ' superiors ', the customers, most of whom I wouldn't spit on if they were on fire, and I detest myself for having tolerated this shit for so long. I'm ASHAMED OF MYSELF for being 48 and having no choice but to say "would you like a bag?" when I used to read, study French, and fill every spare moment emersed in mathematics. Now I'm a zombie with no self confidence and no future.
You need to quit. I’ve been in the same position, and it completely killed my self-confidence. I am much happier now and I am glad that I made the change.
I work in a car part factory. I’m around dangerous/toxic chemicals all day doing something a robot could do better. Minimum 8 hours a day, and most days you get drafted to work 12 because of the seniority based system in play. This is the plight of many unskilled Laborers. It’s so hard for me to want to leave because I make more money than I ever have, but I know that ultimately it will have negative health effects and keep me locked into working for someone else. Going to try and find something in a field that interests me, even if that means a pay cut, because I know this isn’t how to live a fulfilled life.
So we shouldn't quit our jobs? My fear is complacency with regular income. Sometimes the "burning the boats" can be the greatest shock therapy to move forward
Seamus I think there is a time and place for both strategies. Sometimes you need to burn the boat, and sometimes you are your own problem so burning the boat will only get you on a similar boat until you learn.
I agree. Don’t quit your job cuz you hate it, quit because there’s no growth or your next step is elsewhere. Hating your job because you need to “work” will not make your next you a better experience.
Money is not everything, don’t work today for next big thing. Work to grow and use every second of life doing what you love to do. Life is short and not worth chasing mansions and big cars, live to enjoy with your loved ones and be around people that will contribute towards your inner growth and give you real happiness. All these people are miserable in real life as they keep chasing next big thing, and we all know the chase never ends.
Nooop. I will not stay in my job. No break time, abusive coworker and management, no sunlight, to much work. My soul is crying so hard. I need a break.
There are many gurus who tell you that you shouldn't hate what you do. But does hating your job actually hurt your other planes in the physical, emotional and spiritual realm? As I told my own subscribers--yes it does. If you despise going to work that is eight hours of your day you are unhappy. Plus the getting up in the morning for it and getting back home is another two hours. Which would mean most of your day, most days of the week, most of your life--you hate doing what you do. This will affect the emotional plane and lead to the midlife crisis earlier than expected. It will drain your energy and then guess what? You stop taking care of your physical plane as well. Then your spiritual plane will fail as you see yourself as just another insignificant cog in the universe. So if that life in the high suburbs is destroying your planes my suggestion is to either laterally change careers or downsize so you can at least be content in what you do---most of your time. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles
Best advice I’ve heard in awhile. Early on in my career & not great at anything.... yet. Learning what NOT to do is hard. Sucking at my job is even harder. But I’m still learning! Awesome message.
Thank you--I agree. Having a goal makes your current situation tolerable as well. I'm currently unhappy but I'm staying at my job to eventually practice in another area of law with a better work-life balance. Every week I write down the skills I learned which put me one step closer to my goal.
There is not much to learn a some jobs that is wishful thinking. I have done uber eat. There is not much learning there. In retail there is also not much to learn. There is the possibility that you reach a plateau learning and then you are stuck. Is basically what is happening to me. I have learned more from running my own smal etsy shop. I get to do coat accounting, manufacturing, bit of marketing and fulfilling sales. Yet at my day job as a digital associate at Walmart I have not learned much, I am only stressed at the job when it should not be, and my learning had plateau.
I keep trying to find the positivity in the job I have… like patience is a virtue, or maybe this is a test and I’m supposed to learn to how to be happy no matter what, or it’s okay, work isn’t supposed to be enjoyable, it’s meant to pay bills. I’ve been trying so hard to make this work that I’ve spent more energy trying to convince myself to love something than actually being happy! I know this is having an increasingly negative effect on me that has also started to bleed into other areas of my life, but what do I do? How do you leave when you don’t have anything else lined up?
Love what you said about asking ourselves what we are learning. It is important to reflect on both where we are and what we can do to improve and learn right now. This is what brings amazing improvement! Cheers!
You are totally Awesome! My problem is that 4 years away from my pension, but the government sold out the utility and now I'm at another agency that I hate. If I quit I lose my pension and if I stay I lose my sanity. They got me by the balls
This is awesome Mel! I've been in sales/telemarketing for 30 years I've learned so much doing this work and I know it will carry me into my life coaching business in the future!
I think that advice like that are meant to be understood at the right moment. Second time I listen to this one and now it made my anxiety disappear a bit
This was a video I needed to come across today - at work and feeling frustrated. Watching this, made me realize that it requires a shift in perspective! Thank you!
Appreciate your job for what it is teaching you, but also have the courage to move on when it’s no longer serving you. You can’t become a successful entrepreneur if you never quit your job so obviously that’s not what Mel is saying. She’s just reminding us not to always rush toward quitting as the solution. A great follow up video would be “how do you know when you’ve learned enough and you’re ready to take the leap toward the next big thing”?
This speaks for people who is in their early career or job and people who is progressing in mid-tier corporate level. Learn what you need to learn as quick as possible and you can carry forward that skills to other job. When you move without “carrying something”, that’s when your value is less and in low bargaining power situation.
I work at an office of an administration. It‘s boring. I sit there 8 hours and put documents into folders. Sometimes I get an email from a colleague where she asks me if I can could change the name of a fucking document on our server. Or put the attached files into our server! Wtf? We have a large community office where I sat with my coworkers close-by. One day the manager decided that I should move two rows away. Now these coworkers still work together, chat, have fun and enjoy their day, while I sit there alone with coworkers that are not on my team and nobody talks to me. The third year at this job now goes to an end and I got offered an indefinite contract. YEAH GREAT, now I‘ll have depression for the rest of my life because of this fucking waste of time!
Hello everyone. Right now, I live in staff accommodation, am making around $2,200 CAD take-home AFTER rent, just became debt-free and have around $1,300 saved so far - doing the job I hate for 3-6 more months will allow me to save up a 3-6 month emergency fund of $4,000 -$8,000. Saving over 65% of your take-home pay is insanity and is motivation enough for me to show up.
Thanks, Mel! This comes just right on time. You just validated what I've said to my self every time I asked myself why I keep being at my job. I hate when people say "you're learning nothing here!". Well, lies! I'm learning how to deal with people more than ever and that's so important nowadays. I can learn technical stuff at weekends at home, I just have to build the habit and start taking courses. One day this experience will help me build my own free-lancer career.
Huh? Didn't she quit her job too because she didn't want to be a lawyer anymore? I'm confused. Working a job isn't right for most people. People need freedom... You shouldn't have to suffer for that. There are different ways to learn skills and working a job you hate that getting you no where isn't gonna work. Your gonna eventually leave anyway. Most people who hate there jobs end up paying for it mentally, physically or emotionally.
Thank you Mel! Needed this. As a working student I have to work many jobs in different fields, even if they don’t match my future career. I’m learning how to extrapolate from each of them the skills I need to master in order to work my ideal job and now it’s getting easier to grind through college, always with my vision in mind. It was nice to hear some sort of confirmation in your speech. Keeps me going 💪🏼
Love this! There's so much I can take from the job I'm in now that are salutary lessons in how to run a business, and the impact on colleagues of certain decisions. Every day is a school day that I can take what I've learnt to help me progress.
You need to think million times before you quit. Remember there are so many people out there dreaming to be in your shoes. Millions of unemployed people are dying to have a job. Toxic work environment is reality but you would rather endure that than being homeless. We should have this mindset that we live for ourselves and our family not for others. So never quit.
While I have purchased your books and taken your POY course wanted to shoot a quick thank you for all of the free content available from you. Whenever you upload a bite size piece of advice on youtube/gram it reinforces the messages you have shared. I could go on about all of the ways your content has given me to tools that improved my life but want to drop a quick “thank you”. Keep these videos coming Mel!
When you work for a company that’s completely toxic, who gaslights employees to the point that you become physically ill with GI issues- you should 💯 quit. NO job is worth keeping if you’re health is at stake.
Be self aware and keep improving. Pay attention to what you are good and what needs to be improved. You’ll become from mediocre to superlative in just few years.
i work for a manual labor job, I work 50-60 hours a week no overtime pay, because of my boss i have to charge the customer for 90 bucks every hour i work at the customers house, well i get paid MINIMUM WAGE all the rest is his profit, i dont like my job at all, but the job market here is soooo over saturated, that i have an associates degree, and this is the best job i could get.
The problem is nowadays companies dont allow mistakes. And learning makes mistakes. Company dont allow mistakes. Once there is a mistake they fire them
OMG - Great little message #melrobbins It got me through my work week at a job where... ( I will be quiet now)... These are such a blessing... confirmation of what I had started doing without knowledge of what to call it was #sogood the #5SecondRule
No sé si hablas español, Mel, pero, realmente necesitaba oír esto! Muchas gracias! Creo que en mi trabajo actual, estoy aprendiendo a administrar una oficina, el tiempo, el trabajo y el personal, a liderar y tomar decisiones importantes, manteniendo alto estándares de calidad y eficiencia, aunque mi puesto y mi paga no sean de administradora o gerente. Esto definitivamente me va a servir en mi futuro negocio. Gracias de nuevo.
Thank you! That's what I needed to hear. Will listen to this message every day! LOL I've got a job that was above my existing skills. Now it's up or out. I think I can do it!!
I hate my job still I need to safe money to become a coach and a public speaker in personal development, I love hypnose yoga and spiritual life while I have to copy paste all day😂... I am improving my concentration and memory and patience over negative energies😂🎉
If you're stuck and not learning anything new in your current job for 10yrs, if the company you're in no longer give growth for you that is the time you should move on and make way to new skills, learning and keep your positive and live your dream.
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I love this. I hate my job, but I hate every job. It's not the work, it's working in general. I hate being a slave every day. I want to spend my life living, traveling, experiencing things. Not being stuck in a building 10 hrs a day working for someone else. It's depressing but what can you do? This helps atleast..
What about remote work with a flexible schedule? Try searching for those type of jobs. Wishing you all the best!
I feel your pain Shay b😮💨
The huge problem is many jobs are mentally and psychologically ABUSIVE and cause the employee so much psychological trauma that it makes the rest of his/her life unbearable as well. For example, try being a direct patient care nurse - 12 hour shifts, bullying, no time to eat or go to the bathroom, etc...
Rachel K yes, sometimes the lesson is an honest assessment of environment...I wish you the best in a tough situation and if change is in store may it be smooth and timely...
Rachel K Me as a middle school and high school teacher. Similar trauma and drama, only my "shifts" include the hours working at home. Always being cordial and integral... but never reaping the results nor the pay I'd expect for all my work.
YES!!! More people need to talk about this! Workplace bullying costs us all money in the end because of missed work days, etc. Since the recession, workplace bullying has increased because employers think they have you by the balls because of the uncertain economy. The next fiscal year's budget come out with a deficit, and like clockwork, the bullying at work increases. Employers put lies into your performance review so they can fire you and replace you with 3 unpaid college interns; this exact example just happened to one of my best friends. And life is to short for misery and to have your self esteem chipped away at. So, no thank you, I will not remain in an abusive work environment ever again.
Rachel K hum I thought I was the only one who kept getting crappy corporate jobs and going through bad experiences....
mascara1888 wow, corporate America has gotten so bad...
I gotta call BS on this, the things you're learning where you are right now could just as easily be bad habits rather than things that are going to help you, not everything happens for a reason and if it's not benefiting you, then you need to know when to break the cycle. Not everyone is in the same situation, that job flipping burgers isn't preparing anyone for a career in law and claiming that it is will only lead to missed opportunities because you stuck it out when you should have been chasing what you want.
Yea Bc I wanna be a special needs educator but currently work at Costco lol idk what she talking ab
I saw a video that said if you hate your job, try putting in more effort. You will either get a promotion to a job you might enjoy, or learn the skills to progress in your career elsewhere. I tried the advice, got a small promotion, then hit a wall. So I went to another company and got promoted into a higher position. From personal experience, this is much better advice.
Usually I agree with all of Mel's videos, but there are a lot of toxic, abusive jobs out there. Are you being severely underpaid compared to the normal market value of your job and/or your co-workers? Are you consistently required to work 60+ hours while getting paid poorly for 40? Is your job physically dangerous or abusive either through poor safety standards, or requiring more than 10 hours of continuous work per day with inadequate breaks? Does your job require you to devote a lifestyle to working rather than promotion a work-life balance and/or abuse emotional loyalty to their product/service/cause to wring you for extra uncompensated work? Does your job prevent you from having the time to make or grow your family? All of these are far too common and are also really good reasons to quit a job, no matter what lessons you could learn from it.
I couldn't agree you more!
Right
Agreed, sometimes the lesson could even be to not stay in an environment you're not happy in
I'm learning to let go of always wanting to be in control. Being calm even when people annoy me. Putting up with crap... learning to just let it go....
Stay mindful and keep working on it - it will serve you well, Bex!
Something I need to work on...
Mel Robbins thanks Mel!!
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Yes i am trying to learn this too... It takes away additional stress..
She's never worked a call center job.
Just started mine this week and I didnt know I was going to have to sell crap..I thought I was only going to help ppl. Less than a week n I already hate it more than anything else I've ever done
@@BrianBloop
Sales call centers are the bottom rung of call centers. Tech support or customer service is better, but you are still dealing with self righteous assholes who think they have the right to demean and talk down to you. I got pretty lucky, I landed a call center job that has poor monitoring software (easier to fake metrics, and take less calls) its work from home so VERY easy to get away with shit. Hell I've slept through half my shift a few times before, even a whole day!
I work in a government call centre dealing with people's benefits. People tell me all the time what a horrible person I am. It's great...
@@snoozyq9576
Well, I happen to work with SSA as we are a 3rd party advocate for people filing for benefits. I'm always polite when I call people like you because I know what its like. I just don't like getting the rude agents from SSA. Be well man.
The worst.
I still want to quit...
😂😂 me too
Yeah I’ve been a barber for 6 years and I’m going back to school for nursing soooo yeah I wanna quit.
@@jessicacamp22 that's badass
What if I wake up crying every morning, dreading going to that job
I've been there. I feel free now that I've quit
Without the crying part (but sometimes I do get teary-eyed), I dread going to work a lot of days.
I quit too!!!! Found a new job, getting way more money. Now I can get my own place soon 😁😁😁
I'm so tempted to quit without another job lined up, but I gotta be a responsible adult, I guess.
@@ronald5721 being an adult blows sometimes. A new job fell into my lap once I released that toxic job. Not saying to just quit but trust you will find another job soon
For a while I was stuck in thinking that I wasn't learning anything from my current job as a janitor and maintenance worker. Then read a couple books and came across you Mel and the insights you shared had me reflect upon what I was really doing. Which was growing towards what I really want to achieve. Which is to be a confident individual. Thank you Mel.
Orlando Cabrales Any job can be used as a springboard, as leverage for getting where you want to go. Changing your perspective changes everything. Good job!
I couldn't agree more!
@@melrobbins so you only reply to those who agree with you.
Yeah, I'm still gonna quit my job 😂
Im learning.... that everyday I hate coming to work, spending 1/3 of my life at a place I dont want to be. Hard to quit when I make a great income. Having no paycheck for a long time scares the hell outta me.
Great point! For those of us that have to forego a formal education and work; this hits home. It took me 20 years of working for "someone else" to be successfully self-employed. Patience pays!
Great share - thank you!
I've been in a customer service world for 5 years, I was promoted several times then I quit my job cold turkey, now I realized I should have done much earlier. I know where she's coming from, but she is wrong in many places.
1. I met several people inside BPO who work their ass off for more than 12 years and yet I don't see any progress in their life. If you are planing to work in one company and apply her theory without exploring other options you'll just gonna wind up old and depressed.
2. Its not about the money, working is important to pay bills etc.. but there's always a job that you wanna kill yourself everyday...(customer service for example)
3. These types of companies are not going to create a statue of you to honor your loyalty. Its not gonna happen
In my case after I was brainwashed by the company that if I resign I will struggle with life, now I found peace and happiness. I found something I'm passionate about, there was a sacrifices during the first couple of months but fuck its worth it. I'm not saying you quit your job right away, assess your finances first if you are paying for a lot of things either minimize your lifestyle or find another jobto refresh your mental state. You can always find a shitty job, don't be afraid.
Thank you for this! I work in a customer service job too and it really sucks and I always find myself in the middle of hating my job and loving it😪
Facts
“You can always find a shitty job” 😂 Love it! In this moment this is my mindset.
I don’t really have much to lose 🙄
I am a first year teacher and I always wake up thinking about quitting and getting something better. I really want to find something better.
I am a teacher too and the expectations are so ridiculous it makes me want to die.
Trying to do just that! My worry is that I may be barking up the wrong tree..
Telling yourself is wrong is going against the universe
Sometimes we have to let go so we can welcome new things in our life.
Can't let go of this shit job cuz I gotta help my parents somehow, plus Christmas is arnd the corner.
I am going through burnout, i have to push myself really hard to ever open my mailbox, i have lost my motivation to work. I just don't know what to do anymore.
How are you now?
Hahaha. My boss specifically told me I had no where to progress to. Not sticking around for that.
"You gotta eat around them bones." A phrase coined by a client of mine who was in rehab. Another client was complaining to him about their mandatory group therapy and he told him, "Look man, there's some good meat there, but you gotta eat them bones." I'll never forget it. Or him. He was one of the few (sadly) who went on to graduate from that program, get a job, remain sober, and stay out of prison, to this day.
Thanks Mel! This really helped me today. I am that person working at the front desk. In a parking garage. I am learning to pay attention to details. I always worked on big, broad issues. But right now my job is teaching me how to be diligent, exact and accurate in the little things. In turn, I am teaching my colleagues how to deliver great customer service. A colleague told me recently, "We don't care about people, we care about cars." Since she is training me I didn't argue. Instead I've been demonstrating how to care about cars (details) while still being customer-focused and pleasant to people. I think we are teaching each other!
Beth, I think you are a fantastic human and I applaud your mindset!! xo
Beth Leslie WOW! Great insights!
What am I learning? That the people above me see me as expendable, as someone who will tolerate being given the CRAPIEST of shifts they have, of never complaining as I can't pay bills with no job etc. Christ, I have a degree in mathematics and have spent 10 years TRAPPED working in a grocery store. Yes, trapped. I detest every minute thing about my job, I detest my ' superiors ', the customers, most of whom I wouldn't spit on if they were on fire, and I detest myself for having tolerated this shit for so long.
I'm ASHAMED OF MYSELF for being 48 and having no choice but to say "would you like a bag?" when I used to read, study French, and fill every spare moment emersed in mathematics. Now I'm a zombie with no self confidence and no future.
You need to quit. I’ve been in the same position, and it completely killed my self-confidence. I am much happier now and I am glad that I made the change.
I work in a car part factory. I’m around dangerous/toxic chemicals all day doing something a robot could do better. Minimum 8 hours a day, and most days you get drafted to work 12 because of the seniority based system in play. This is the plight of many unskilled Laborers. It’s so hard for me to want to leave because I make more money than I ever have, but I know that ultimately it will have negative health effects and keep me locked into working for someone else. Going to try and find something in a field that interests me, even if that means a pay cut, because I know this isn’t how to live a fulfilled life.
So we shouldn't quit our jobs? My fear is complacency with regular income. Sometimes the "burning the boats" can be the greatest shock therapy to move forward
Seamus I think there is a time and place for both strategies. Sometimes you need to burn the boat, and sometimes you are your own problem so burning the boat will only get you on a similar boat until you learn.
Wow both comments are amazing and I needed to hear both!!
Wow both comments are amazing and I needed to hear both!!
I agree. Don’t quit your job cuz you hate it, quit because there’s no growth or your next step is elsewhere. Hating your job because you need to “work” will not make your next you a better experience.
Or it may not be the job for you.
Money is not everything, don’t work today for next big thing. Work to grow and use every second of life doing what you love to do. Life is short and not worth chasing mansions and big cars, live to enjoy with your loved ones and be around people that will contribute towards your inner growth and give you real happiness. All these people are miserable in real life as they keep chasing next big thing, and we all know the chase never ends.
Six people disagree and quit their job
Eric Garcia HA!
Nooop. I will not stay in my job. No break time, abusive coworker and management, no sunlight, to much work. My soul is crying so hard. I need a break.
There are many gurus who tell you that you shouldn't hate what you do. But does hating your job actually hurt your other planes in the physical, emotional and spiritual realm? As I told my own subscribers--yes it does. If you despise going to work that is eight hours of your day you are unhappy. Plus the getting up in the morning for it and getting back home is another two hours. Which would mean most of your day, most days of the week, most of your life--you hate doing what you do. This will affect the emotional plane and lead to the midlife crisis earlier than expected. It will drain your energy and then guess what? You stop taking care of your physical plane as well. Then your spiritual plane will fail as you see yourself as just another insignificant cog in the universe. So if that life in the high suburbs is destroying your planes my suggestion is to either laterally change careers or downsize so you can at least be content in what you do---most of your time. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles
I hate my job and I'm on my way to something else so I really needed to hear this.
Best advice I’ve heard in awhile. Early on in my career & not great at anything.... yet. Learning what NOT to do is hard. Sucking at my job is even harder. But I’m still learning! Awesome message.
This speech saved my life
Thank you--I agree. Having a goal makes your current situation tolerable as well. I'm currently unhappy but I'm staying at my job to eventually practice in another area of law with a better work-life balance. Every week I write down the skills I learned which put me one step closer to my goal.
There is not much to learn a some jobs that is wishful thinking. I have done uber eat. There is not much learning there. In retail there is also not much to learn. There is the possibility that you reach a plateau learning and then you are stuck. Is basically what is happening to me. I have learned more from running my own smal etsy shop. I get to do coat accounting, manufacturing, bit of marketing and fulfilling sales. Yet at my day job as a digital associate at Walmart I have not learned much, I am only stressed at the job when it should not be, and my learning had plateau.
Mel- You deliver it cut and dry! I’m working on Patience still @ 52... This journey never ends! Thank you... ❤️
I keep trying to find the positivity in the job I have… like patience is a virtue, or maybe this is a test and I’m supposed to learn to how to be happy no matter what, or it’s okay, work isn’t supposed to be enjoyable, it’s meant to pay bills.
I’ve been trying so hard to make this work that I’ve spent more energy trying to convince myself to love something than actually being happy! I know this is having an increasingly negative effect on me that has also started to bleed into other areas of my life, but what do I do? How do you leave when you don’t have anything else lined up?
If you are not happy to go to work every morning because your job makes you miserable, then quit it. Life is too short to be on unhappy.
Segarinna Johnson Not that simple for most people.
@@azraiel1984 I know that's why I look for better when I am in a horrible one
Love what you said about asking ourselves what we are learning. It is important to reflect on both where we are and what we can do to improve and learn right now. This is what brings amazing improvement! Cheers!
You are totally Awesome! My problem is that 4 years away from my pension, but the government sold out the utility and now I'm at another agency that I hate. If I quit I lose my pension and if I stay I lose my sanity. They got me by the balls
This is awesome Mel! I've been in sales/telemarketing for 30 years I've learned so much doing this work and I know it will carry me into my life coaching business in the future!
I think that advice like that are meant to be understood at the right moment. Second time I listen to this one and now it made my anxiety disappear a bit
If it makes you depressed, STOP and find a new job that makes you more happy and motivated.
Thank you Mel Robbins
This was a video I needed to come across today - at work and feeling frustrated. Watching this, made me realize that it requires a shift in perspective! Thank you!
I'm glad that you are saying this!!! Most leaders are saying the opposite.
Great video. This is exactly what I needed to hear, for my current job situation. Thank you very much!
I listened to your radio show. You weren't horrible, I loved it and really resonated with much of what you said. It's how I got to know you!
Thank you so much...needed this..22 years at the same job...returning from holidays back to my desk...greetings from Croatia
We just love you
Timing ON POINT!!!! That WHY POWER 💪💪💪
Appreciate your job for what it is teaching you, but also have the courage to move on when it’s no longer serving you. You can’t become a successful entrepreneur if you never quit your job so obviously that’s not what Mel is saying. She’s just reminding us not to always rush toward quitting as the solution.
A great follow up video would be “how do you know when you’ve learned enough and you’re ready to take the leap toward the next big thing”?
This speaks for people who is in their early career or job and people who is progressing in mid-tier corporate level. Learn what you need to learn as quick as possible and you can carry forward that skills to other job. When you move without “carrying something”, that’s when your value is less and in low bargaining power situation.
You’re entirely totally completely right. You’re cool, woman. Thank you for your power, purpose, and passion.
I work at an office of an administration. It‘s boring. I sit there 8 hours and put documents into folders. Sometimes I get an email from a colleague where she asks me if I can could change the name of a fucking document on our server. Or put the attached files into our server! Wtf? We have a large community office where I sat with my coworkers close-by. One day the manager decided that I should move two rows away. Now these coworkers still work together, chat, have fun and enjoy their day, while I sit there alone with coworkers that are not on my team and nobody talks to me. The third year at this job now goes to an end and I got offered an indefinite contract. YEAH GREAT, now I‘ll have depression for the rest of my life because of this fucking waste of time!
I wanna be a film maker and music producer and I work at walmart, gimme motivation
You'll get there 👍 we have a similar dream.
Put the work in and be as creative as possible and I think people will come to you.
Oh id love to make movies even if here independent
That's not what I expected to hear - and definitely something that really helped me to get my ass together and back to work. Thank you! ♡
This is, by far, one of the best advices I have ever received in my life!! 👍🙋
Hello everyone. Right now, I live in staff accommodation, am making around $2,200 CAD take-home AFTER rent, just became debt-free and have around $1,300 saved so far - doing the job I hate for 3-6 more months will allow me to save up a 3-6 month emergency fund of $4,000 -$8,000. Saving over 65% of your take-home pay is insanity and is motivation enough for me to show up.
Thanks, Mel! This comes just right on time. You just validated what I've said to my self every time I asked myself why I keep being at my job. I hate when people say "you're learning nothing here!". Well, lies! I'm learning how to deal with people more than ever and that's so important nowadays. I can learn technical stuff at weekends at home, I just have to build the habit and start taking courses. One day this experience will help me build my own free-lancer career.
Yes! Keep your eye on the ball and take away what you can before you launch yourself into your next position.
I’m so appreciate of your heart, that you care about yourself to help others 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Huh? Didn't she quit her job too because she didn't want to be a lawyer anymore? I'm confused. Working a job isn't right for most people. People need freedom... You shouldn't have to suffer for that. There are different ways to learn skills and working a job you hate that getting you no where isn't gonna work. Your gonna eventually leave anyway. Most people who hate there jobs end up paying for it mentally, physically or emotionally.
Thank you so much maam... I was really frustrated about my job, but your words helped me a lot to calm myself down. Love and respect from India❤🇮🇳
Excellent! Mel is the real Wonder Woman. After learn about everything that i need, it's time to quit.
Mistakes are the portal of successful .
Thank you Mel! Needed this.
As a working student I have to work many jobs in different fields, even if they don’t match my future career.
I’m learning how to extrapolate from each of them the skills I need to master in order to work my ideal job and now it’s getting easier to grind through college, always with my vision in mind.
It was nice to hear some sort of confirmation in your speech. Keeps me going 💪🏼
No truer words have ever been spoken.
Love this! There's so much I can take from the job I'm in now that are salutary lessons in how to run a business, and the impact on colleagues of certain decisions. Every day is a school day that I can take what I've learnt to help me progress.
You need to think million times before you quit. Remember there are so many people out there dreaming to be in your shoes. Millions of unemployed people are dying to have a job. Toxic work environment is reality but you would rather endure that than being homeless. We should have this mindset that we live for ourselves and our family not for others. So never quit.
While I have purchased your books and taken your POY course wanted to shoot a quick thank you for all of the free content available from you. Whenever you upload a bite size piece of advice on youtube/gram it reinforces the messages you have shared. I could go on about all of the ways your content has given me to tools that improved my life but want to drop a quick “thank you”. Keep these videos coming Mel!
Thank you for your appreciation! It makes me happy to hear how the content is helping you. Keep up the great work xo
Awesome message thank you
When you work for a company that’s completely toxic, who gaslights employees to the point that you become physically ill with GI issues- you should 💯 quit. NO job is worth keeping if you’re health is at stake.
Mel Robbins, I loved you at Arbonne's Global Training Conference this past April in Las Vegas
Yes get the skills you need to work 7 days a week with horrible clients who channel their hate for a contact they can't get out of to you 😒
Be self aware and keep improving. Pay attention to what you are good and what needs to be improved. You’ll become from mediocre to superlative in just few years.
Thank you again for reminding me where I'm going and why I'm doing what I'm doing
Every time I need an advice and support you come up with video.
i work for a manual labor job, I work 50-60 hours a week no overtime pay, because of my boss i have to charge the customer for 90 bucks every hour i work at the customers house, well i get paid MINIMUM WAGE all the rest is his profit, i dont like my job at all, but the job market here is soooo over saturated, that i have an associates degree, and this is the best job i could get.
Great advice! Thank you
I love you so much Mel!! Your messages are the absolute best!!
Nice i need to hear this right now
Mel is the awesomest person I know 🌠
The problem is nowadays companies dont allow mistakes. And learning makes mistakes. Company dont allow mistakes. Once there is a mistake they fire them
This job is definitely not working towards my dreams...
I would listen to that hundred times, so relaxing and helpful, thank you coach 💚
OMG - Great little message #melrobbins
It got me through my work week at a job where... ( I will be quiet now)...
These are such a blessing... confirmation of what I had started doing without knowledge of what to call it was #sogood
the #5SecondRule
Thank you! I need to hear this today
This is exactly what I needed today, thank you!
Thank you Mel.
BOOM! Mel dropping some knowledge 🙂love it! really inspiring for upcoming personal development speakers like myself!
Thank you so much for your advices! Your videos are gold
I needed to listen to this
No sé si hablas español, Mel, pero, realmente necesitaba oír esto! Muchas gracias! Creo que en mi trabajo actual, estoy aprendiendo a administrar una oficina, el tiempo, el trabajo y el personal, a liderar y tomar decisiones importantes, manteniendo alto estándares de calidad y eficiencia, aunque mi puesto y mi paga no sean de administradora o gerente. Esto definitivamente me va a servir en mi futuro negocio. Gracias de nuevo.
Just what I needed before sleeping. Thank you
Thanks young Sally Jesse Raphael
WOW! Thank you Mel!
Nice video Ma'am..your speech inspires me alot
Thank you! That's what I needed to hear. Will listen to this message every day! LOL
I've got a job that was above my existing skills. Now it's up or out. I think I can do it!!
Great advice, thank you! ❤️
I hate my job still I need to safe money to become a coach and a public speaker in personal development, I love hypnose yoga and spiritual life while I have to copy paste all day😂... I am improving my concentration and memory and patience over negative energies😂🎉
Thank you for this, it was needed.
If you're stuck and not learning anything new in your current job for 10yrs, if the company you're in no longer give growth for you that is the time you should move on and make way to new skills, learning and keep your positive and live your dream.