We live in West Europe and I’m a convert, my husband is Syrian and from a really big family. We don’t have any family around and we just wished we had subhanallah. I’m sad for our kids and it is really heavy to do everything alone.. sometimes I see grandparents with their grandkids and I feel sad for our kids as they don’t have this bond. Same with uncles and aunts. But alhamdulillah we are committed to having a big family despite the tiredness inshallah, so that our kids don’t go through the same thing later in life. They are stronger when they are together inshallah. And I dream of being a grandma one day and bringing everyone together and helping my daughters 🥰 as I had no help from my family when they were born. We try to keep good relations with some close friends and I see them as our family alhamdulillah. They are also here without their family and now my friends are the aunties of my kids 😊 our kids love them, ask to visit them all the time and we watch each other’s kids regularly. When I had to stay at the hospital with our newborn baby unexpectedly, 2 of my friends took care of our older daughters and I will never forget it ❤️ our kids barely missed me as they had so much fun! One of our daughters now says she wants to be Palestinian like her aunty and speaks the dialect sometimes because of my friend 😂 alhamdulillah. Allah provides, I see this as the rizq that came with our baby girl❤
There are assumptions that both men and women’s families live together with the couple. It is mostly men whose family live with them unfortunately. The responsibility for taking care of extended families is also on the daughter/wife. Husband brings a maid/caregiver to his family in a form of his wife. Her family gets minimum or no priority causing resentment and the wife then sees her own ailing parents alone while she and her husband takes care of his family. I can only speak to Indian and Pakistanis but it may not be true for Arabs for instance. Is it true
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We live in West Europe and I’m a convert, my husband is Syrian and from a really big family. We don’t have any family around and we just wished we had subhanallah. I’m sad for our kids and it is really heavy to do everything alone.. sometimes I see grandparents with their grandkids and I feel sad for our kids as they don’t have this bond. Same with uncles and aunts. But alhamdulillah we are committed to having a big family despite the tiredness inshallah, so that our kids don’t go through the same thing later in life. They are stronger when they are together inshallah. And I dream of being a grandma one day and bringing everyone together and helping my daughters 🥰 as I had no help from my family when they were born. We try to keep good relations with some close friends and I see them as our family alhamdulillah. They are also here without their family and now my friends are the aunties of my kids 😊 our kids love them, ask to visit them all the time and we watch each other’s kids regularly. When I had to stay at the hospital with our newborn baby unexpectedly, 2 of my friends took care of our older daughters and I will never forget it ❤️ our kids barely missed me as they had so much fun! One of our daughters now says she wants to be Palestinian like her aunty and speaks the dialect sometimes because of my friend 😂 alhamdulillah. Allah provides, I see this as the rizq that came with our baby girl❤
Aameen ya Rabbilaalameen
There are assumptions that both men and women’s families live together with the couple. It is mostly men whose family live with them unfortunately. The responsibility for taking care of extended families is also on the daughter/wife. Husband brings a maid/caregiver to his family in a form of his wife. Her family gets minimum or no priority causing resentment and the wife then sees her own ailing parents alone while she and her husband takes care of his family. I can only speak to Indian and Pakistanis but it may not be true for Arabs for instance. Is it true
Early Madinah communal living