I got married at 17, been married 24 years now. I wish someone had given me this type of advice back then. But hey, you live and you learn. Now I will pass this on to my daughter who is 19. Thank you zeinah, really appreciate it and every point you made was valid 👍🏽
You are the type of woman who should educate young Muslim girls about their rights. You would be such an amazing role model too so many young Muslims. Liyana (I hope i spelt her name right) is a lucky girl MashaAllah. I see so many sisters down and depressed because they don’t know their rights and their husbands 100% prey on that. Too much culture taking over. May allah bless you always ameen
I didn’t write a marriage contract either, but I wish I did as well sis. JazakAllahu khair for sharing these advice. Btw, crossing fingers, knocking wood etc are minor acts of shirk- in shaa Allah we can stop those habits as they are a common thing of living amongst others
Great video with some really good advice. We've been married 27 years tomorrow....rules we've stuck by are...if you get into a disagreement NEVER yell, use bad language or call names....if you go down that path you just end up saying really hurtful things that you don't mean but you can't unsay them! Don't go to bed on an argument. Talk things out, dont let them fester and choose your battles . Compromise is important and works both ways. Don't involve others in your problems, especially family (unless something bad is happening obviously). Show eachother love and respect. Never be disrespectful to your spouse in front of others.....especially in front of family!! Make time to be together (not easy when you have a young family I know) ,have fun, laugh, listen and always support each other 😍😍
Gurllll yes!! You hit the nail right on the spot! I can relate to a lot of what you said.. I wish I had known all this stuff before marriage too! Sometimes when you’re “in love” or you think you are you may ignore the whole marriage contract situation where you put in your marriage contract all the stuff” but that’s one thing YOU NEED before you get married, put everything in there !!!
Brilliant video. After being married for a number of years myself I can say your tips and advice really make sense. Marriage can be wonderful but also a struggle too especially when you have children. It's very true that you should understand and clear some things with your future partner before marriage because it gets quite difficult when there are disagreements afterwards and not easy to just break off. Good luck to you all xx
I love this video, very informative! I had no idea about the marriage contract, so thank you for sharing that! Completely agree about making sure the person you want to marry has a similar mindset to you, it’s so important and all those topics you mentioned definitely need to be discussed prior to marriage. Love all your videos btw, especially your cooking ones 💗
I can relate to alot of what you've just said here. Always watch ur videos love every single one of them💕 Don't really comment but today just wanted to say these videos would have helped many girls back then😃
@ shahinas channel I totally agree this vlog was very informative and @ usual zeinah always does a great job with her vlogs I think every Jewish teenage girl and woman should definitely watch this vlog @ we have so much in common when it comes to finding a partner for life well done and well said sweetie take care dear cousin sister cheers
11:30 ofcourse you should not exaggerate your skills to impress your husband or in-laws but there are some habits you can practice before getting married. And if there's really no way you can get up early, you'll find something else to impress. Believe me, there are a lot of other ways to show off. Just be frank about your expectations and tell him to be honest about what he expects from you 😊
Ha! My whole life was planned and arranged for me, (including my marriage) so that's a whole different world topic. But I'm just getting to a place in my life where I can grab hold of the reigns and take a bit more control. But I enjoyed listening 😘 thank you for sharing!
Thank YOU, Zeinah for the cooking point. Wallahi, as an Asian, I have had so much stick for not being able to cook. Even though I can cook, just not in the way the in laws have done so. It is so important that men are taught to cook and fend for themselves as the Prophet (PBUH) did. Personally, I think Asians are the worst for this mentality.
Thanks for this! I'm a white convert hopefully in sha allah marrying a Pakistani soon if all works out. (Keep us in the duas) so it's helpful for me to know my rights and what to expect xxx
@ l b ditto yes sweetie I'm 41 going on 42 and I'm still searching for the right one seriously best for us to take our time there's like so much pressure in the Jewish and Muslim community to get married @ a certain age and also have high standards and expectations I have some mutual friends and acquaintances who got married really very early in life and now they are divorced with kids and are paying the price one of them has 9 kids and that is a lot for her to take on alone (props and kudos to her) luckily now she has older ones who are teenagers and they do help her out with the younger ones better for us to be late and be happy than to have the right here right now and then end being really way miserable I will definitely have you in my heart and prayers that you meet someone special take care now dear cousin sister cheers
Zeinah, you have some solid advice here! A lot of topics people may not speak about but are super important! I also agree that parents raise girls and boys to be an assert to their future partners and to have life skills, teach both genders how to cook, clean, do the laundry, gardening, about money management, compromises etc. It shouldn’t fall purely on women and we shouldn’t raise women to make good house wives only.
@ khyra a ditto I know exactly how you feel it is hard and perhaps right now it's not our time @ zeinah said the time will come I pray for myself and others for whatever the issues are I will definitely keep you in my heart and prayers better for the both of us to marry a few years down the line than to have the right here right now and then things can go awry sweetheart I'm 41 gonna be 42 in October and still searching for the right one I know a lot is expected of us because we come from religious cultural communities (Jewish and muslim )that have very high standards and expectations that's why I can relate to this vlog I have some old mutual friends and acquaintances who are divorced because they married very early in life one of them has 9 kids (props and kudos to her) and that is a lot to take on by yourself but thank goodness she has her teenagers help out with the younger ones stay strong dear cousin sister within good time it will happen for us peace
Oh yeah initially agree with the marriage contract, but guys keep forgetting the reason why they can get another wife. The only way they can get one is and if the first wife consents to it. If she cant have kids, if shes dying, if she wants him too and so on. Other than that, they cant just say oh yeah I want another wife. If they do that and the wife did not consent to it than that is wrong islamically. It shows they dont respect their wifes wishes. But when I do the marriage contract, we both will write what is acceptable , and how we will try to follow the Deen as much as possible. But your also right about the color thing. Before marriage, find out what his all about, so you will know if your both compatable or not.
I cant believe some bullies are accusing zeinah of copying another youtuber about this video but zeinah is established on here and the other girl has only 8k subscribers either ways ppl do the same video all the time
I don't regret getting married so young but the only thing I regret is being not being educated about marriage and life.at this point in my life am just clueless
I never knew there was another girl out there just like me!!! Girl everything you said is straight facts; and I hope younger girls are taking notes. I’ve always said the way you act in the beginning of the marriage is usually how it’ll stay. And trying to change it half way through the marriage is impossible. So you girls who are acting like super woman please make sure he’s acting like super man😄
Amazing video..wish there were more people like u in the world! May Allah swt shower u with blessings and happiness Ameen..u always put a smile on my face and give great advice..ur like a big sis I wish I had
Yup be yourself! Tell your potential partner exactly what you are like and show them exactly what you look like as well (no make up). Don't hide things or deceive.
Well said I agree with you about both men and women life skill in cooking. I think it somali culture in put on women. Must know how to cook. Thank you for your advice sister . Learn a lot in respect to watch your videos on all aspect of life.
Divorced after 18years,married at 22 and thought he would change as he always promise to quit all haram stuff always forgave him but well it got so worse and then have to get out. Believe me being 40 now,no man charges later.its definitely 1st year only,then u become acquainted how to deal better, and then finally u ran out if patience
jouwayriyaable no absolutely not. Take your time, you want to get it right and only get married once!!!!! I wouldn’t start panicking until you are approaching 40!!!!
jouwayriyaable speaking from my own experience. I was forced into marriage at 21. Worst experience and time of my life. I see girls around me getting married to someone of their choice at 35 etc and they are happy. You are lucky your parents haven’t married you off yet.
Well if they're going against a contract put in place for ur marriage islamically, then why wud u stay with them? The contract is specifically made so that u can say all the things u want/don't want in ur marriage, if ur husband disrespects that then u can very easily leave For example, say u put in ur contract that u want to work and don't want ur husband to have a second wife, yet they force u to quit ur job and take on another wife... If u don't want to respect the contract, then u can't expect ur spouse to respect u
Love your advice videos !!! Do make more please !! Btw do you feel like you you missed out on being single and having fun with friends because you married young or you would advice to marry young?
I am 26 yrs old and not married. I would say that Allah will show you when marriage is the right time because I still do not feel like I am ready to be married. Although recently I have been a bit interested in it. I would say wait to marry because once you do, your life will be 100% centered around your marriage and kids. I have 3 older and 1 younger sister who is married. They all tell me to wait. I would say between 23-30 is a good age. Really, it comes down to the man you marry and how opened he is to letting you continue living life after you are married. The younger you are
@ simply naz ditto me too I deal with this in the Jewish community we really have a lot in common every Jewish and Muslim teenage girl and woman needs to watch this
Is that contract thing legally binding? Or just religious? Like if your husband/wife breaks a promise in the contract, what are the repurcussions (if any)? I’m quite interested to know more.
Listening to you I can tell you are a bit confused, life itself is a compromise and yes marriage contract is important, in al islam the man is the provider and if his wife wants to work it's Ok but she should work around other women to avoid fitna, a woman should obey her husband so she can be among those women who will choose from which door they want to enter jan'nah, learn your deen and you will make decisions base knowledge may Allah bless you ameen
Pretty emancipated opinions. Nothing to do with shariah. So basically you're saying a woman can decide pretty much for her self and she does not need to follow the authority
Assalam Alaykum sister😍❤️ this is so helpful video and you are really intelligent Mashallah❤️❤️ Thank you for everything that you share all these with us here ❤️ I absolutely agree with everything that you said ❤️ May Allah bless you and your your lovely family 💕
@@catloverfurever00 they need a wifes permission. And if they dont ask the wife, and marry second, if the wife is sad about that the man will be punished by allah.
Polygamy is against the law in the UK, US and Canada. If a man wants to practice polygamy, he should not live in these countries. If he violates the law, he should be reported to the civil authorities.
Hi! I rly like you vids! Mby you could sometime do a video about muslim culture from you point of view. For ppl that don't know much about this religion i think it would be extremely interesting to leanr more, instead of having to learn everything from news or unreliable media. It would be super interesting. 😘 byeeu❤
5:56 was loving the vid till now……. islam did not give women rights “centuries before others did” because many many many cents ago, judaism and christianity gave them!
You can't compromise on something which Allah has allowed eg of having 4 wives, he could change his mind after marriage which is fine it's not fair to put that down as a contract
LOL, you're SO wrong. First of all, that is completely valid to put in the contract. Second of all, if the first wife does not want her husband to take on a second wife, he's not allowed to. Like...how did you not know this?
@@Haneen-wt5nf To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Before the marriage the parents state it to the spouse or on the day of the marriage where there are witnesses in this contract u can't make unlawful things lawful or vise versa
Islamicly you can't make something halal into haram just because you wrote it down. If he wishes to get married he has the right 100% and he doesn't have to get your permission. Asking for a divorce just because you're jealous or upset is also 100% haram ladies. You have to have an actual legitimate reason for divorce like he can't afford 2 or more families. Also working and leaving your home when you don't need to and your husband is able to...you can't work or just go outside alone. Seriously we need to learn more about our religion...your husband can literally tell you to not step out the door or even open your door from anyone and you have to obey.
ayan Nuur it’s not haram to ask fo a divorce if a husband breaks the bounds of your contract. She didn’t make it haram- she just laid out things she’s willing to accept and not accept
A man has the right to marry 4 wives within the condition that's he's able to provide for each of them equally while not infringing upon the others rights in Islam. He must also court and marry each of them Islamically. The first wife and each thereafter, ISLAMICALLY, has the right to object her husband from marrying multiple women and can remove herself from the marriage if she doesn't agree. The point of putting that in a marriage contract is to let any man who wants to marry her know that these are her condition and that either can leave the marriage if the contract is broken. If the marriage contract is broken, she has grounds to divorce her husband. There's NOTHING in Islam that prohibits a woman from working, even if her husband is. A Muslim man cannot justly prevent his wife from leaving the house, nor take away his wife's rights. Placing harsh conditions upon your wife is not acceptable in Islam, especially if its simply to assert one's perceived power. Oppression is never justified in Islam. The point of prophet Muhammad having multiple wives is to show the ummah that Muslim women can be pious while having multiple positions in society and personalities. It is also to show Muslim men how they can have successful and productive marriages to women who are like the prophet wives. As far as I know, the Qur'an doesn't explicitly states that a woman must stay home, cook, clean, and have kids. In fact, it does say that a woman can give the child to father once it is no longer breastfeeding or is 2 yrs+. Furthermore; a Muslim woman CAN leave the house and work alone if she does not have a guardian and no one to take care of her.
I’m from Honduras dating a Senegalese guy who wants to marry he already have firs wife in hos country and let me tell you ladies here in America we don’t take none of this things from no man she’s gonna be cooking and cleaning much as I do if you don’t want walk out the door lol
I got married at 17, been married 24 years now. I wish someone had given me this type of advice back then. But hey, you live and you learn. Now I will pass this on to my daughter who is 19. Thank you zeinah, really appreciate it and every point you made was valid 👍🏽
You are the type of woman who should educate young Muslim girls about their rights. You would be such an amazing role model too so many young Muslims. Liyana (I hope i spelt her name right) is a lucky girl MashaAllah. I see so many sisters down and depressed because they don’t know their rights and their husbands 100% prey on that. Too much culture taking over. May allah bless you always ameen
I didn’t write a marriage contract either, but I wish I did as well sis. JazakAllahu khair for sharing these advice. Btw, crossing fingers, knocking wood etc are minor acts of shirk- in shaa Allah we can stop those habits as they are a common thing of living amongst others
Really?? I didn't know that
Great video with some really good advice. We've been married 27 years tomorrow....rules we've stuck by are...if you get into a disagreement NEVER yell, use bad language or call names....if you go down that path you just end up saying really hurtful things that you don't mean but you can't unsay them! Don't go to bed on an argument. Talk things out, dont let them fester and choose your battles . Compromise is important and works both ways. Don't involve others in your problems, especially family (unless something bad is happening obviously). Show eachother love and respect. Never be disrespectful to your spouse in front of others.....especially in front of family!! Make time to be together (not easy when you have a young family I know) ,have fun, laugh, listen and always support each other 😍😍
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Happy anniversary ❤❤❤
@@atikaahmed2304 Thank you lovely ❤
You're welcome hun. Wish you more happiness and love
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Gurllll yes!! You hit the nail right on the spot! I can relate to a lot of what you said.. I wish I had known all this stuff before marriage too! Sometimes when you’re “in love” or you think you are you may ignore the whole marriage contract situation where you put in your marriage contract all the stuff” but that’s one thing YOU NEED before you get married, put everything in there !!!
Brilliant video. After being married for a number of years myself I can say your tips and advice really make sense. Marriage can be wonderful but also a struggle too especially when you have children. It's very true that you should understand and clear some things with your future partner before marriage because it gets quite difficult when there are disagreements afterwards and not easy to just break off. Good luck to you all xx
I love this video, very informative! I had no idea about the marriage contract, so thank you for sharing that! Completely agree about making sure the person you want to marry has a similar mindset to you, it’s so important and all those topics you mentioned definitely need to be discussed prior to marriage.
Love all your videos btw, especially your cooking ones 💗
Zakirah A I’m so glad it’s helped you. Similar mindset on big issues is so important. Thank you for your support hun😘😘😘
I need to be taking notes here. I didn't think about the issue of colourism because its not something I can deal with that either.
@ Maria Amir colorism also plays a huge role in the Jewish community sad because it's what counts on the inside not out
I’m 17 and I feel like this is good advice and good to know all things ❤️❤️
Bloody hell ur so mature, I’ve taken so much in. Thank you x
I can relate to alot of what you've just said here. Always watch ur videos love every single one of them💕 Don't really comment but today just wanted to say these videos would have helped many girls back then😃
@ shahinas channel I totally agree this vlog was very informative and @ usual zeinah always does a great job with her vlogs I think every Jewish teenage girl and woman should definitely watch this vlog @ we have so much in common when it comes to finding a partner for life well done and well said sweetie take care dear cousin sister cheers
I’m happy you liked it, hopefully it helps even the one person& they take some things on board💕💕
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Priceless advice thank you so much. Anyone would be lucky to come across this before marriage ❤️❤️❤️❤️
11:30 ofcourse you should not exaggerate your skills to impress your husband or in-laws but there are some habits you can practice before getting married. And if there's really no way you can get up early, you'll find something else to impress. Believe me, there are a lot of other ways to show off. Just be frank about your expectations and tell him to be honest about what he expects from you 😊
Ha! My whole life was planned and arranged for me, (including my marriage) so that's a whole different world topic. But I'm just getting to a place in my life where I can grab hold of the reigns and take a bit more control. But I enjoyed listening 😘 thank you for sharing!
This made me LOL....what you said is so true about giving a false impression of yourself and then not being able to maintain that. Just be yourself👌
Wow. .how my english has improved by only watching your videos, I wish you knew . keep up the good work
Thank YOU, Zeinah for the cooking point. Wallahi, as an Asian, I have had so much stick for not being able to cook. Even though I can cook, just not in the way the in laws have done so. It is so important that men are taught to cook and fend for themselves as the Prophet (PBUH) did. Personally, I think Asians are the worst for this mentality.
Thanks for this! I'm a white convert hopefully in sha allah marrying a Pakistani soon if all works out. (Keep us in the duas) so it's helpful for me to know my rights and what to expect xxx
@pls96 Make sure he isn't narcisstic! Sadly, many men in the Pakistani community are
@@ummuwahhid yeh and Pakistani women are angels who can never do wrong.
Great point sis as a single lady this is informative and helpful 😘
@ l b ditto yes sweetie I'm 41 going on 42 and I'm still searching for the right one seriously best for us to take our time there's like so much pressure in the Jewish and Muslim community to get married @ a certain age and also have high standards and expectations I have some mutual friends and acquaintances who got married really very early in life and now they are divorced with kids and are paying the price one of them has 9 kids and that is a lot for her to take on alone (props and kudos to her) luckily now she has older ones who are teenagers and they do help her out with the younger ones better for us to be late and be happy than to have the right here right now and then end being really way miserable I will definitely have you in my heart and prayers that you meet someone special take care now dear cousin sister cheers
Hey I love love your videos 😃 please could you do more cooking videos xx
Maz Khanom aww thank you for watching! And yes, of course I can!😘
Zeinah, you have some solid advice here! A lot of topics people may not speak about but are super important! I also agree that parents raise girls and boys to be an assert to their future partners and to have life skills, teach both genders how to cook, clean, do the laundry, gardening, about money management, compromises etc. It shouldn’t fall purely on women and we shouldn’t raise women to make good house wives only.
Nearly 100k MashaAllah u truly deserve it 💕💕💕
Amazing video! You're so well spoken and put together and absolutely gorgeous!
Barakallahu Feek. Sis you are inspiring, may Allah bless you and your family xxx
I just pray to Allah to be married soon being single is a hardship
Khyra A inshAllah you will be when it’s your time to.💕
@ khyra a ditto I know exactly how you feel it is hard and perhaps right now it's not our time @ zeinah said the time will come I pray for myself and others for whatever the issues are I will definitely keep you in my heart and prayers better for the both of us to marry a few years down the line than to have the right here right now and then things can go awry sweetheart I'm 41 gonna be 42 in October and still searching for the right one I know a lot is expected of us because we come from religious cultural communities (Jewish and muslim )that have very high standards and expectations that's why I can relate to this vlog I have some old mutual friends and acquaintances who are divorced because they married very early in life one of them has 9 kids (props and kudos to her) and that is a lot to take on by yourself but thank goodness she has her teenagers help out with the younger ones stay strong dear cousin sister within good time it will happen for us peace
Oh yeah initially agree with the marriage contract, but guys keep forgetting the reason why they can get another wife. The only way they can get one is and if the first wife consents to it. If she cant have kids, if shes dying, if she wants him too and so on. Other than that, they cant just say oh yeah I want another wife. If they do that and the wife did not consent to it than that is wrong islamically. It shows they dont respect their wifes wishes. But when I do the marriage contract, we both will write what is acceptable , and how we will try to follow the Deen as much as possible. But your also right about the color thing. Before marriage, find out what his all about, so you will know if your both compatable or not.
Great way to explain thank you ❤️
Samira Omar you’re most welcome. Thank you for watching 💕
I cant believe some bullies are accusing zeinah of copying another youtuber about this video but zeinah is established on here and the other girl has only 8k subscribers either ways ppl do the same video all the time
whats with all these getting ready for marriage/baby vids im seeing. Is this a sign lordt 😂😂😂
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😂😂😂😂 Sister Iqra you look so beautiful in this picture mashallah. May Allah protect you. The hijab and abaya looks so good on you mashallah.
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I couldn't agree more !! thanks for the advice dear
I don't regret getting married so young but the only thing I regret is being not being educated about marriage and life.at this point in my life am just clueless
Yassss. Love your advices ❤️
I never knew there was another girl out there just like me!!! Girl everything you said is straight facts; and I hope younger girls are taking notes. I’ve always said the way you act in the beginning of the marriage is usually how it’ll stay. And trying to change it half way through the marriage is impossible. So you girls who are acting like super woman please make sure he’s acting like super man😄
Sarah Sarah hahaha I love it, yep make sure he’s being superman too!😂😘💕
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Amazing video..wish there were more people like u in the world! May Allah swt shower u with blessings and happiness Ameen..u always put a smile on my face and give great advice..ur like a big sis I wish I had
Masha Allah some great points there. Very helpful for those looking to get married.😘💕
I love your videos, you show great parenting, and I really aspire to be like you one day🙂
Yup be yourself! Tell your potential partner exactly what you are like and show them exactly what you look like as well (no make up). Don't hide things or deceive.
Right on point with everything. Jazakhallahu khairan Sis 💖
Rooting for you 💕 I loved this 💕
New subbie 🥰♥️I love your content💃Am Christian from south Africa but i can relate to you so much🥰All tips taken
I always make time for your videos ❤❤
Jazakalahu kheir sister for your advice😊
God bless you with your family❤
Just discovered your channel and subscribed.
Some great advice there ❤️
Really good tips.. May Allah reward you.
Daimond Hicks thank you hun& ameen!💕
Ameeen 💕
Well said I agree with you about both men and women life skill in cooking.
I think it somali culture in put on women. Must know how to cook.
Thank you for your advice sister . Learn a lot in respect to watch your videos on all aspect of life.
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Divorced after 18years,married at 22 and thought he would change as he always promise to quit all haram stuff always forgave him but well it got so worse and then have to get out.
Believe me being 40 now,no man charges later.its definitely 1st year only,then u become acquainted how to deal better, and then finally u ran out if patience
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Do you think we should rush in marriage and be less picky if we did not find the right one especially after 30?
jouwayriyaable no absolutely not. Take your time, you want to get it right and only get married once!!!!!
I wouldn’t start panicking until you are approaching 40!!!!
@@roxy4963 Exactly. I agree with this sister 100%.
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Don’t let anyone pressure u it will happen when Allah has written ♥️
jouwayriyaable speaking from my own experience. I was forced into marriage at 21. Worst experience and time of my life.
I see girls around me getting married to someone of their choice at 35 etc and they are happy.
You are lucky your parents haven’t married you off yet.
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You're so gorgeous and lovely channel ❤
Atika Ahmed thank you so much!! 💙
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Loved this :)
Thank you great advice xx
No contract will stop anyone doing what they wish to do & people can change a lot, especially from 20-40 etc.
Well if they're going against a contract put in place for ur marriage islamically, then why wud u stay with them?
The contract is specifically made so that u can say all the things u want/don't want in ur marriage, if ur husband disrespects that then u can very easily leave
For example, say u put in ur contract that u want to work and don't want ur husband to have a second wife, yet they force u to quit ur job and take on another wife...
If u don't want to respect the contract, then u can't expect ur spouse to respect u
Love love this video. Such useful advice mashallah xx
Love your advice videos !!! Do make more please !! Btw do you feel like you you missed out on being single and having fun with friends because you married young or you would advice to marry young?
I am 26 yrs old and not married. I would say that Allah will show you when marriage is the right time because I still do not feel like I am ready to be married. Although recently I have been a bit interested in it. I would say wait to marry because once you do, your life will be 100% centered around your marriage and kids. I have 3 older and 1 younger sister who is married. They all tell me to wait. I would say between 23-30 is a good age. Really, it comes down to the man you marry and how opened he is to letting you continue living life after you are married.
The younger you are
First of all, Mansha Allah you’re sooo beautiful!!! Those cheeks Mansha Allah ❤️❤️❤️
I agree with all the things that you said 👍
@ simply naz ditto me too I deal with this in the Jewish community we really have a lot in common every Jewish and Muslim teenage girl and woman needs to watch this
Is that contract thing legally binding? Or just religious?
Like if your husband/wife breaks a promise in the contract, what are the repurcussions (if any)? I’m quite interested to know more.
Listening to you I can tell you are a bit confused, life itself is a compromise and yes marriage contract is important, in al islam the man is the provider and if his wife wants to work it's Ok but she should work around other women to avoid fitna, a woman should obey her husband so she can be among those women who will choose from which door they want to enter jan'nah, learn your deen and you will make decisions base knowledge may Allah bless you ameen
Love this vlog. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your advice may Allah reward you 💕
Very mature, and you have Islamic knowledge too and right and lucky too, pray for me everyone.too
Love these type of videos 😍 but I disagree on the same mindset idea because that's impossible and that's when compromising comes in
Pretty emancipated opinions. Nothing to do with shariah. So basically you're saying a woman can decide pretty much for her self and she does not need to follow the authority
Assalam Alaykum sister😍❤️ this is so helpful video and you are really intelligent Mashallah❤️❤️ Thank you for everything that you share all these with us here ❤️ I absolutely agree with everything that you said ❤️ May Allah bless you and your your lovely family 💕
Masha Allah habibti
You look stunning in black mashaAllah! Also, loving your videos!
This video made me sub. Not even married BUT we have the exact mind set . Which far from majority of Somali culture110% everything u said
I always thought a Muslim man cant marry more than one wife if the first wife isn't okay with it (as it wasn't even in the contract)?
Yes but some people believe that you don't need the first wife's permission or worse still they arrogantly decide to keep it secret from her.
@@catloverfurever00 they need a wifes permission. And if they dont ask the wife, and marry second, if the wife is sad about that the man will be punished by allah.
@@user-df2vh8we4e uh no, he doesnt need anyones permission
No,there is no permission needed in islam.stop spreading wrong stuff.but nikkag shouldn't be secret .nikkah needs to be announced 1st,2nd or anyother.
You in all black 😍😍😍
I agree with you 💯💯
Thanks for this video 👌
Totally agree with you Abayo
Nice share dear sister
Polygamy is against the law in the UK, US and Canada. If a man wants to practice polygamy, he should not live in these countries. If he violates the law, he should be reported to the civil authorities.
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I love u.. everything u said is spot on
Girl.!!!! I wish i knew these too
Alsalamu Alakuim. Love you dear. 😘
im not accept marridge contract
Good tips
Hi! I rly like you vids! Mby you could sometime do a video about muslim culture from you point of view. For ppl that don't know much about this religion i think it would be extremely interesting to leanr more, instead of having to learn everything from news or unreliable media. It would be super interesting. 😘 byeeu❤
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5:56 was loving the vid till now……. islam did not give women rights “centuries before others did” because many many many cents ago, judaism and christianity gave them!
Thanks 🙏 sister ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That is very good advice
Anyone can give you
Yes I can cook but I don’t like cooking
Mashallah sister love your vlogs
Why u don’t put all u family like Kardashian’s on u tube u can be very rich very rich the only problem it’s
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You can't compromise on something which Allah has allowed eg of having 4 wives, he could change his mind after marriage which is fine it's not fair to put that down as a contract
You're so wrong
Your wrong
He's more fake than Santa clause
LOL, you're SO wrong. First of all, that is completely valid to put in the contract. Second of all, if the first wife does not want her husband to take on a second wife, he's not allowed to. Like...how did you not know this?
@@Haneen-wt5nf To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following:
“O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43)
There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife.
“You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129)
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Contract married in islam never heard 🤔
Before the marriage the parents state it to the spouse or on the day of the marriage where there are witnesses in this contract u can't make unlawful things lawful or vise versa
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Lol this title looks mad familiar
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Islamicly you can't make something halal into haram just because you wrote it down. If he wishes to get married he has the right 100% and he doesn't have to get your permission. Asking for a divorce just because you're jealous or upset is also 100% haram ladies. You have to have an actual legitimate reason for divorce like he can't afford 2 or more families. Also working and leaving your home when you don't need to and your husband is able to...you can't work or just go outside alone. Seriously we need to learn more about our religion...your husband can literally tell you to not step out the door or even open your door from anyone and you have to obey.
ayan Nuur it’s not haram to ask fo a divorce if a husband breaks the bounds of your contract. She didn’t make it haram- she just laid out things she’s willing to accept and not accept
Absolutely true sis ❤️💯💯💯👌👌👌
Women don’t want to be wives these days they want to do everything man is doing and they forget what their role is.
@@asiyalove4562 And what is that exactly?
A man has the right to marry 4 wives within the condition that's he's able to provide for each of them equally while not infringing upon the others rights in Islam. He must also court and marry each of them Islamically. The first wife and each thereafter, ISLAMICALLY, has the right to object her husband from marrying multiple women and can remove herself from the marriage if she doesn't agree.
The point of putting that in a marriage contract is to let any man who wants to marry her know that these are her condition and that either can leave the marriage if the contract is broken. If the marriage contract is broken, she has grounds to divorce her husband. There's NOTHING in Islam that prohibits a woman from working, even if her husband is. A Muslim man cannot justly prevent his wife from leaving the house, nor take away his wife's rights. Placing harsh conditions upon your wife is not acceptable in Islam, especially if its simply to assert one's perceived power. Oppression is never justified in Islam.
The point of prophet Muhammad having multiple wives is to show the ummah that Muslim women can be pious while having multiple positions in society and personalities. It is also to show Muslim men how they can have successful and productive marriages to women who are like the prophet wives.
As far as I know, the Qur'an doesn't explicitly states that a woman must stay home, cook, clean, and have kids. In fact, it does say that a woman can give the child to father once it is no longer breastfeeding or is 2 yrs+. Furthermore; a Muslim woman CAN leave the house and work alone if she does not have a guardian and no one to take care of her.
You so mature wish i new y before
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I’m from Honduras dating a Senegalese guy who wants to marry he already have firs wife in hos country and let me tell you ladies here in America we don’t take none of this things from no man she’s gonna be cooking and cleaning much as I do if you don’t want walk out the door lol