i am my worst enemy | mental health chat
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- it's nice to finally post again 🤍 a little update on how i've been feeling these past few months. I want to reiterate that I know when you look at the bigger picture, my feelings fare nothing compared to the hardships others go through in our world, but I think it's still appropriate to acknowledge my own struggles given everyone's unique circumstance. And if you feel lost like me, the world is a crazy thing to navigate - but that's the beauty of living a life that's so short.
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We need to stop feeling like we have to put out the disclaimer that "I know there are worse hardships in the world"- this is unnecessary guilt to carry upon oneself when we are already struggling with whatever it is that is weighing us down. This is also something I learned from a counsellor when I said "I felt like I should be...". She gently asked, "Why put that unnecessary pressure on yourself to have to respond in ideal ways?" Thank you for sharing and I hope that in expressing yourself, you gave yourself a chance to release.
This is real life. So many of us feel this way, we just all think we are going with "fake it until you make it" while we hold it all in. You are strong and beautiful and this just proves it. Hope you are getting psychiatry and psychology help -- the two together make a huge difference. Remember depression/anxiety is just as much a medical problem as diabetes or hypertension or high cholesterol -- you would treat those so I pray you are making sure to address this the same way (psychiatrists are doctors and psychologists are therapists -- the first is for medication and the second is for therapy -- BOTH are super important).
It takes strength to be vulnerable. It takes resiliency to be honest. This is coming from me, a therapist and an advocate for self-love.
I love your end quote and am borrowing it forever! ❤
You’re definitely not alone in how you’re feeling. It’s def ok to feel and understand your feelings. When I start to be super tough on myself, I think that the baby version of me doesn’t deserve those harsh words I force upon myself. Also so random but your skin is glowing! ❤
Malia we have truly enjoyed your videos and you are a beautiful and talented young lady. Remember “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I made the first move in speaking with a therapist today. And then coming across your video hours later that same day really resonates with me. This is exactly how I feel. I just didn’t know how to put it in my own words. I just feel sad all the time and in moments I should feel happy, I still feel sad. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and open with us . ❤
Thank you for being brave enough to speak on these things. Followed your channel since Covid. I’m much older than you but your videos make me feel young. Things will get better. Life has many rough patches. You get through them one at a time. ❤
relate. wishing you the best in your self-discovery journey. It takes years. Be patient with yourself.
Sadly life can have its good times and bad times. And sometimes we feel like we’re not good enough. So I can totally relate to the way you’ve been feeling but I do believe life will get better, so stay strong Malia everything will be ok! You’ve become an inspiration to me since your first video I’ve watched! Just remember that you’ve always got a friend on Oahu who’s here to listen to you when life gets you down or to enjoy life with. Totally started tearing 😢 after I watched this video and I’m looking forward to see new videos! Until the next video or even the next Oahu trip take care Malia you got this I believe in you! Aloha 🫰🫶🏽sending some love from Oahu!
I’m sorry you are feeling this way!! 😢 I just wanted to let you know that I really love your videos and you inspired me to travel to Seattle and Oahu!! I miss your travel videos and hope you start feeling better soon ❤
It’s not easy to put oneself out there and be vulnerable. The fact that you are already taking action by truly “acknowledging” it is a step forward. I also would love to have the courage to take action for my negative thoughts, which sometimes makes my life hard to live. But anyway, you are not alone in this ❤
Hey, we don't know each other but I've watched a few of your travel vlogs (which I thought were really fun, btw). When this video popped up in my recommended, I watched it to the end. I've been there (for me it hit during the pandemic), so I totally empathize with what you are going through right now. Good for you choosing to face this head on and process these emotions however you need to. Sending you all the healing vibes I can.
You’re your only enemy, and your best friend, if there are no enemies within there can be no enemies without. Trust me bro…
Randomly came onto your page because I was hoping you posted something since I haven’t seen you update in months! It was nice seeing that you are alive girl! Everyone has their moments and sometimes it is okay to take necessary breaks to reassess your life and come back better than ever. I commend your strength and willingness to share your insecurities. You are doing great Malia! Positive words of affirmations each day go a long snd prayer as well! Looking forward to your next video ! 😊🙏🏾 God bless!
A RUclipsr's influence is more than just, "Buy this product", or "Take this trip". Sometimes it's about letting others know life can be challenging for all of us. When a person doesn't post for a while we assume s/he is busy with life. You are brave to make this video and put your feelings out there. But you should feel good knowing you may have influenced someone watching to talk about their feelings and you helped them realize it's normal to feel this way. It's not easy putting on a happy face every day. I loved your letters to yourself. Wishing you good mental health and much happiness!❤
Hope you are doing well. This reminds me of the time you explained your feelings of homesickness while I was away at my first Friendship Games.
Beautiful video. You’ve come so far. I know it seems impossible, long and hard, but you are so strong and capable. I love you, everyone is by your side. Ate always loves you.
It’s a huge step to recognize that you need help. Therapy will help you move forward to a more positive and fulfilling life. You deserve all the best Malia!! Big hugs ❤
Maybe it’s time for another Korea trip❤ It seems to be your happy place
I’ve been a subscriber for a long time. I’m a little older than you and I can say that I went through the 27 blues as well. I think it’s okay to admit that you might (and I’m not a therapist or psychologist so take it with a grain of salt) be feeling a bought of depression. It took me almost a year to shake off how….. off I felt in my life. I often found myself thinking back to 24 and wishing I was happy, carefree, and living for myself as I was then. However, now that I’m a few years older I actually look back at 27 fondly because I grew so much during that year I was so blue. I truly rediscovered myself. I think you will rediscover yourself too Malia. To be honest, I’m very jealous of your life. You have a great partner, a lovely home, and a massive friend group that’s is very close. I went through everything without a single friend, no partner, and no home. I don’t say that to bring pity, but hopefully to shed light on the pure brightness around you. If I can give you a piece of advice, I’d say to allow yourself to try new things alone. Allow yourself to go to a solo craft class, take a solo travel vacation for a day or two to a nearby town. Getting myself out of my comfort zone alone allowed me the space to rediscover myself in a similar way to what I was doing at 24. I would also say to give yourself grace. You’re just a woman figuring it out. It’s okay to not be okay. Allow yourself to rest in that feeling and thought. I always look forward to your videos and will be around to whenever you are passionate again. 🤍
I was thinking about you and about the fact that you hadn’t posted in months. I’m sad to hear your mental health hasn’t been the best, I’m wishing the best for you 🫶🏻
You are a strong young lady just need a break and time for yourself. Love to watch your video. Stay healthy Stay strong Stay happy ❤🙏❤️
There's something I learned about myself that I don't like: I'm full of prej udice, and respect people for the _wrong_ reasons. It depends on the person and circumstances. For example, it turns out, I think neurotypicaIs are better than people with ASD. I HATE this about me: I think "lesser" is a word to match those on the spectrum--social skills, brains, personalities, normality. I write them off as inferior and abnormal. And it's not as simple as "change the attitude"; it's *_automatically_* in me, the way I feel, whether consciously or subconsciously. I'm sorry, guys; I'm ash amed of myself. It turns out I also think people who don't have learning disabiIities are smarter than those who do have them.
And that's what brings me here. My ex-coworker (E.C.) always seemed like a slow learner, and he has made some mistakes at work. Plus, he graduated at 20 at a small charter school, he still lived with his mom at 28, and he didn't have a driver's license. I'm a student leader at my college's catering business, and I learned that the guy had signed up for a service by himself. I thought it was a bad idea, so I went to our boss. She was upset. Told EC she didn't think he could manage alone and was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told him he needed someone there to guide him. Well, that night, he saved a life and was very quick and resourceful (long story short, to subtract the length). My boss apologized for beIittIing him, said he was amazing, and she believed in him to work the shift alone. But he refused and quit. Told her she didn't _truly_ respect him; it was all conditional and her "He-is-incompetent" view would've stayed otherwise. Well, I'm practically as pathe tic as her. I didn't *_consciously_* think EC was a Ioser. I *_automatically_* thought he was one. Like, I didn't say or think the word about him, but I just felt it in me. But I was wrong. I think noble of him now, but only because of what he did, not because of who he was. I put certain people on the "weak list" until they do something to impress me. For example, I shamefuIIy think/feel that anyone at EC's old charter school is inferior to those who go to the local public high school, that you can't be very smart if you're at the smaller place. That's one reason why I thought EC was weak. And it really bothers me--my bi ases on who's better than who. I really don't like myself.
Thanks for inspiring us ❤
were fr in the same boat.. we got this,
Sounds like you need a travel to south korea
Thank you so much for sharing Malia!! I've resonated so much with how you're feeling right now and despite it, you are able to still create such beautiful moments and relationships and I'm really wishing that for my life as well, so this gave me so much comfort and motivation. We can both get through this!!
🤍🤍🤍be kind to yourself love
Thank you for sharing Malia❤. Depression is very real and recognizing how you feel is very important. Seeing a therapist really helped me pull through a very dark time in my life. “How To Do The Work”. by Dr. Nicole LePera was a good book I read on depression. Much Love and Aloha to you from the island of Oahu❤️🤙🏾 Take care and may God Bless ,comfort and guide you through down season.
Hello Malia haven' t seen your videos in awhile.
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Malia I think you are really amazing🏝️🎉 I think you should get a little dog😎🏄♀️