Sow into others. "Who are your spiritual children?" I really like that. & "Whenever the part you play is bigger than what you're a part of, you've lost the plot." greatness. Don't build a name for yourself. Let God be the brightest thing others see.
I think the term "local church" should be redefined souly based on the fact it can depend on the church and how much you really want to apply yourself to serving God. I feel like I'm in a local church every single Sunday because my church, ZOE has made that available from people serving via tithing, but also because I've made genuine relationships with my friends in LA, and around the world because I choose to serve.
Hey Karla, to deal with self doubt, I confess the word of God over my life... And I don't even how to quote the scripture. Like just 20 minutes ago I was panicking about something and I stopped and confessed; "I have peace, I have not that overflows, I am enough." And suddenly the doubt disappeared. Doubt comes when we perceive we are unable to perform a task. When we change our perception by changing our confession, doubt no longer has room in our hearts. By immersing ourselves in God's word, we see clearly what is truth and hold on to it.
Hi Karla, I wasn't sure if i should response when saw your message earlier. But while going through my email, i saw this and i thought to share. Our topic today is: Letting Go of Parent-Guilt Let me guess, you've probably been feeling a bit out of sorts lately, tired, overwhelmed, wondering why your kids are acting up. Perhaps even find yourself on the verge of having a tantrum of your own some days. But you are doing your best to hide it all from your kids, even though mentally, it feels like you're falling apart. You constantly worry that your'e not giving enough of your self to your children, at the same time feeling you can't possibly give any more- you have given all you have. Or maybe it's just me? You see, guilt is a by-product of a bigger problem, drum roll please...lack of connection. The reason we feel guilty despite everything we do for our kids is we are afraid of a lack of connection with them. Instead of wallowing in guilt, here are a few practical tips on how to intentionally build connection into our busy schedules; Take advantage of transition times and routines; Commit to engaging during meal times, school run, bath time, bed time and any other recurring routine in your day. Have at least one meal together a week. One day of the week come home early in time for dinner or perhaps Saturday morning may work better for your family. Engage them in conversation using statements not questions. Instead of asking, "what are you playing with?" say, "oh, you are playing with an orange train" or "You are eating an apple, it looks like it tastes good." Establish simple bath and bed time routines (shhh...don't tell the parenting experts I said this but it doesn't have to be everyday. I mean everyday cannot be a bath time party but you can choose at least one day of the week that your kids can look forward to a bath time party or a bed time story from you) When you have more and more meaningful interactions with your children, the less parent-guilt you will feel. Put your phone down; I said what I said. Whenever you child calls your attention, put your phone down. If you are actively working on your phone and by working I mean scrolling through the streets of Instagram or reading your favorite blog post, or even reading this email lol, ok fine, real work too; set the phone away for a second and let your child know you will be with them in a minute. And after that minute, please set your phone down and give your child your attention. Be clear on what you can and cannot give, don't let your child have to guess or compete with your phone for your attention. When children know what to expect, they feel secure, loved and connected. Create one-on-one time; This should be intentionally crafted time doing something that your child has an interest thing. It could be playing their favorite game, cooking, grocery shopping, reading, watching TV, anything but remember, one-on-one not a group. The idea is that that child feels special, like an individual not as a sibling. If you have just one child, you may say but I already spend all my time with him/her; it is still important to create special moments aside from regular home routine things. Please note that special moments don't have to cost money, actually the best ones don't cost anything. Your child wants you not what your money can buy. No excuse. Spend time with yourself too; aka self-care. Make time for yourself, you have to. In order to give the best of yourself, you must first be your best. Build time alone into your day. For some it may be waking up even 20 mins earlier than your family and just sit down in silence with a cup of coffee or tea. For others it may be sitting an extra 15 to 20 mins in your car every time you get home before going inside...ok fine, that's me! It helps me distress and refuel before having to answer a million "mommy", "mommy", "mom", "mom" you get the drill. Whatever self care looks like to you, do it. It is not a maybe it is a must have. You can't give from an empty cup. It's not logically possible All in all, don't wallow in parent-guilt, make connection a priority and watch the guilt fade away. You can do this. You have the grace to parent! If you are still looking for ideas of how to connect with your kids, there's this thing that everyone is talking about. Have you heard of Family Scripture Time haha!! If you haven't already, find week 11 here. If you have ideas of specific topics you want me to write about in the future, hit reply and let me know. Kind Regards, Remi Makanjuola Founder, Grace To Parent #copied
This was waaay too much! 🤯And I pray to God that my tiny brain was soaking up every single thing that this woman was saying. I want to be influenced by her. I absolutely love her and what God has done in her life!
Love this. Her story is amazing and she's an amazing teacher. Thanks for hosting and having this on this platform.
I LOVE IT WHEN THE SERVANTS OF GOD JUST GET IT! ITS ALL ABOUT JESUS: THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS! Matthew 6:33
Sow into others. "Who are your spiritual children?" I really like that.
& "Whenever the part you play is bigger than what you're a part of, you've lost the plot." greatness. Don't build a name for yourself. Let God be the brightest thing others see.
I like that this looks like a regular smegular podcast. I can watch it at work! This is such a blessing
Had no idea these were on RUclips ! Thanks chad, I’m learning and growing through these
I love these Chad! Thank you for the guests that you bring in! The questions that you present are key and I love the answers that the guests give.
I have not even started watching it yet but I'm already so excited!!!!!
Love Christine Caine!!!
So amazing!!! Colour Conference lets Go!!!
Thank you 🙏🏻👌🏻
I think the term "local church" should be redefined souly based on the fact it can depend on the church and how much you really want to apply yourself to serving God. I feel like I'm in a local church every single Sunday because my church, ZOE has made that available from people serving via tithing, but also because I've made genuine relationships with my friends in LA, and around the world because I choose to serve.
Thanks Chad for sharing the valuable insights!!
Power, May you both continue to be Blessed.
Love this series Chad.
Question: how to deal with self doubt? How do you deal with criticism?
Love this. This is helping me so much. Thank you.
Hey Karla, to deal with self doubt, I confess the word of God over my life... And I don't even how to quote the scripture. Like just 20 minutes ago I was panicking about something and I stopped and confessed; "I have peace, I have not that overflows, I am enough." And suddenly the doubt disappeared.
Doubt comes when we perceive we are unable to perform a task. When we change our perception by changing our confession, doubt no longer has room in our hearts. By immersing ourselves in God's word, we see clearly what is truth and hold on to it.
Wow! Blown away! So good 🙌🏼
Y'all really encouraged me with this. Thank you.
Finally!! Been waiting lol. Keep doing what you do!!
Thank you for this ! Literally the best podcast I’ve heard in a while ❤️
Love, love, love!!!
Loved this
So good!!!
Carl Lentz, Judah Smith, Michael Todd, Micahn Carter, Priscilla Shirer, Alex Seeley
And Erwin McManus. Soooo many good people would be amazing to hear on here
get joel houston for the next episode please!!!
In light of minute 59 about preaching preparation, can we invite Steven Furtick to talk about it? It will help A LOT.
Question: I struggle with mom guilt. How do you balance work & personal life.
Hi Karla,
I wasn't sure if i should response when saw your message earlier. But while going through my email, i saw this and i thought to share.
Our topic today is: Letting Go of Parent-Guilt
Let me guess, you've probably been feeling a bit out of sorts lately, tired, overwhelmed, wondering why your kids are acting up. Perhaps even find yourself on the verge of having a tantrum of your own some days. But you are doing your best to hide it all from your kids, even though mentally, it feels like you're falling apart. You constantly worry that your'e not giving enough of your self to your children, at the same time feeling you can't possibly give any more- you have given all you have. Or maybe it's just me?
You see, guilt is a by-product of a bigger problem, drum roll please...lack of connection. The reason we feel guilty despite everything we do for our kids is we are afraid of a lack of connection with them.
Instead of wallowing in guilt, here are a few practical tips on how to intentionally build connection into our busy schedules;
Take advantage of transition times and routines; Commit to engaging during meal times, school run, bath time, bed time and any other recurring routine in your day. Have at least one meal together a week. One day of the week come home early in time for dinner or perhaps Saturday morning may work better for your family. Engage them in conversation using statements not questions. Instead of asking, "what are you playing with?" say, "oh, you are playing with an orange train" or "You are eating an apple, it looks like it tastes good." Establish simple bath and bed time routines (shhh...don't tell the parenting experts I said this but it doesn't have to be everyday. I mean everyday cannot be a bath time party but you can choose at least one day of the week that your kids can look forward to a bath time party or a bed time story from you) When you have more and more meaningful interactions with your children, the less parent-guilt you will feel.
Put your phone down; I said what I said. Whenever you child calls your attention, put your phone down. If you are actively working on your phone and by working I mean scrolling through the streets of Instagram or reading your favorite blog post, or even reading this email lol, ok fine, real work too; set the phone away for a second and let your child know you will be with them in a minute. And after that minute, please set your phone down and give your child your attention. Be clear on what you can and cannot give, don't let your child have to guess or compete with your phone for your attention. When children know what to expect, they feel secure, loved and connected.
Create one-on-one time; This should be intentionally crafted time doing something that your child has an interest thing. It could be playing their favorite game, cooking, grocery shopping, reading, watching TV, anything but remember, one-on-one not a group. The idea is that that child feels special, like an individual not as a sibling. If you have just one child, you may say but I already spend all my time with him/her; it is still important to create special moments aside from regular home routine things. Please note that special moments don't have to cost money, actually the best ones don't cost anything. Your child wants you not what your money can buy. No excuse.
Spend time with yourself too; aka self-care. Make time for yourself, you have to. In order to give the best of yourself, you must first be your best. Build time alone into your day. For some it may be waking up even 20 mins earlier than your family and just sit down in silence with a cup of coffee or tea. For others it may be sitting an extra 15 to 20 mins in your car every time you get home before going inside...ok fine, that's me! It helps me distress and refuel before having to answer a million "mommy", "mommy", "mom", "mom" you get the drill. Whatever self care looks like to you, do it. It is not a maybe it is a must have. You can't give from an empty cup. It's not logically possible
All in all, don't wallow in parent-guilt, make connection a priority and watch the guilt fade away. You can do this.
You have the grace to parent!
If you are still looking for ideas of how to connect with your kids, there's this thing that everyone is talking about. Have you heard of Family Scripture Time haha!! If you haven't already, find week 11 here.
If you have ideas of specific topics you want me to write about in the future, hit reply and let me know.
Kind Regards,
Remi Makanjuola
Founder, Grace To Parent
#copied
Bianca Olthoff would be so dope as a guest on here!
OOOH YESSS.. I love hearing her... fiery Latina for Jesus.
This was waaay too much! 🤯And I pray to God that my tiny brain was soaking up every single thing that this woman was saying. I want to be influenced by her. I absolutely love her and what God has done in her life!