Ep. 2: How Do You Handle Rejection And Ridicule? | Attaching to Allah

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  • Опубликовано: 28 дек 2024

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  • @sheebaahmad4830
    @sheebaahmad4830 2 года назад +75

    Currently i am feeling very low and depressed because i literally have no one to share my feelings with. This vdeo popped up and its increased my imaan and Inn shaa Allah it will help me remove my sadness. I lost my closest friends and people. I always want appreciation from my loved ones but never got it. So now i thought that the sins which i was doing with them and now they are not with me. So basically i neglected Allah for that fun and now no one is here to listen to me accept Allah. May allah make all his believers strong ,calm, peaceful and happy. Inn shaa Allah

    • @chihirohel9090
      @chihirohel9090 2 года назад +5

      I completely relate to your story sis. I am sorry for what happened to you. Know that most importantly you have Allah, and as long as you have Allah, you are NOT alone. Allah is with you every step of the way, day and night. You can talk to him and socialize with him during the 5 prayers of the day and more. Also, please remember that this dunya and everything inside of it created by Allah is temporary and imperfect, including friends. Myrecommendation is to make dua asking Allah to give you new, good and loyal friends. It is what I did and it worked. Ask Allah in a dua or during tahajjud to give you good friends and he WILL inshallah. May Allah protect you and elevate you in ranks inshallah!!

    • @naumanshah2597
      @naumanshah2597 2 года назад +1

      Sis, FYI - Allah awaits in the last third of the night for you. In time, you would wait for the last third of the night! Lonliness will give way to solitude! Solitude in His presence trumps the vanity carnival outside any day of the week! so, try meeting him there.

    • @noramiraabdulrahim1353
      @noramiraabdulrahim1353 Год назад +1

      @@naumanshah2597 i honestly love the solitude... i so love the fact that no one understands me the way Allah does... because that makes the connection even more special

  • @ahijabirose
    @ahijabirose 2 года назад +66

    When I accepted Islam, just about everyone in my life either abandoned me or talked ill of me behind my back (or to my face). I felt like I was under constant attack from the ones I loved and was forced to always be on the defense, both for my own character and for my faith.
    Alhamdulilah over 2 years later it’s still not easy, but my family has come to respect me and my faith. My mom even attended a sisters Nikkah at my masjid with me recently and wore hijab the whole time. SubhanAllah.

    • @sorayasadqi1470
      @sorayasadqi1470 2 года назад

      May Allah make it easy for u, sister mashallah !!!💖💖💖

  • @mpramd
    @mpramd 2 года назад +57

    Criticism most of the time is the reflection of the person giving critics , not you. So true

    • @saadia3588
      @saadia3588 2 года назад +4

      Very true. The opposite is true as well. When people see good in you it is a reflection of their goodness and pure heart.

    • @bilqiis9099
      @bilqiis9099 2 года назад +1

      100%. I am going through similar thing right now and it's affecting my mental health. This is at my work place. It's so exhausting both mentally and physically. 🥺

    • @mpramd
      @mpramd 2 года назад

      @@saadia3588 cant no more agree! your statement encourage us into humble act

  • @ammaar1446
    @ammaar1446 2 года назад +63

    eversince my journey with Allah began, my friends went into disbelief, and they would laugh and ridicule, murmur when I would pray, say things like, now that he's done everything now he's praying. When I would ask someone to pray they would remind me of my past, and I would tell them that I've repented and I've changed and they just wouldn't believe it. I remember once, I was praying tahajjud and this friend of mine was murmuring and I could hear everything and my heart was aching so much. He kept saying "what's the point now? he's just faking it." and I just prayed and said allah is sufficient for me.. the slandering, the ridicule has been part of my journey. Always.

    • @ammaar1446
      @ammaar1446 2 года назад

      @@bluegarson thank you brother

    • @ammaar1446
      @ammaar1446 2 года назад

      @@bluegarson Jazak'Allah khair

    • @ammaar1446
      @ammaar1446 2 года назад +5

      @@sheema1559 you're right. But it's difficult to cut out people you've known your whole life. But Jazak'Allah khair for this. All I want is to please Allah.

    • @fornow230
      @fornow230 2 года назад +5

      Just keep in mind that Allah knows your true intentions and your sincerity, they may be subconsciously jealous that you were able to change your life while they didn't, may Allah give you strength to deal with theme.

    • @solidussnake2567
      @solidussnake2567 2 года назад +3

      Ive had to cut friends and family ive known for 20+ plus years because of their toxicity. It's never easy but remember that every thing is temporary and everything has a purpose for a specific amount of time. Move on and make supportive friends.

  • @Azizelle
    @Azizelle 2 года назад +15

    This lecture resonated with me so much. This lecture summarizes some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in the last year Subhanallah
    Peoples reactions are a reflection of them not you. You will NEVER please people, if you do the right thing for Allah that’s the only way to win. Because people will have an opinion and criticize you whether you do x or y or z. And if the intention was for Allah pushing through while people talk will give you unimaginable strength.
    One of the other true blessings of being slandered is also finding out who the true friends and allies you have in this world are! And that’s a valuable gift from Allah. It’s Allahs way of exposing the hidden jealousy/evil people had towards you and the slander was the way it had to be.
    Even Allah himself is slandered and His most beloved prophet. You are not alone

  • @gadismelayu6959
    @gadismelayu6959 2 года назад +6

    To be rejected and isolated by people is extremely hurtful. I have come to a point whereby I have done everything that I could to bridge the distance between them and I such as giving gifts, acknowledging their success, celebrating their joyful occasions, trying to do things they enjoy together - yet they are still plagued by insecurity and jealousy against me and hence, remain hurtful in the way they treated me. So, I choose to keep a distance whilst remaining respectful of them. I pray to Allah swt to protect from their envy and the ways in which they subtly try to bring out my bad side. Whilst it is important to maintain good relations, it is also important for me to preserve my mental and emotional health and avoid people who harm me.

    • @Sara-rt5mq
      @Sara-rt5mq 2 года назад

      In Yasmin Mogahed's class called "Silver Linings: Rising Above the Storm", I learned that self-preservation is a priority. Maintaining good relations does not come at the expense of your safety and emotional/mental/spiritual health.

  • @fzka_
    @fzka_ 2 года назад +4

    "Criticism a lot of times is actually more of a reflection of the person doing the criticizing than it is the reflection of you," masha Allah. What a beautiful insight i learned today.

  • @booepoo8481
    @booepoo8481 2 года назад +6

    SubhanAllah - Backbiting, backbiting, backbiting. DO NOT DO IT!!! It hurts you and others. I know how it feels to be backbitten against in a very big way with very, very big false accusations and claims...and it is really easy to do it, even if it is a really minor thing. May Allah SWT help and comfort us all...

  • @noramiraabdulrahim1353
    @noramiraabdulrahim1353 2 года назад +4

    When i started on my hijrah journey, my husband started distancing himself from me.... and as stronger i get in my faith, and the more i practice Islam, the distance grew larger.... He is now divorcing me... i lost my marriage since i embarked on my hijrah, but i never regret it... despite losing my marriage, i have gained so much in return. Truly, Allah knows best

    • @marium9
      @marium9 8 месяцев назад +1

      SubhanAllah, may Allah bless you with immense happiness! May He grant you the best spouse who is with you on your journey 💖

    • @noramiraabdulrahim1353
      @noramiraabdulrahim1353 8 месяцев назад

      @@marium9 aaminn aaminn aaminnn... Jazakallahu khairan kathira 🙂

  • @nelineli4245
    @nelineli4245 2 года назад +4

    I'm the only Muslim in my family. One of my relatives couldn't digest the fact and always kept attacking me for it. Every opportunity he had, he'd humiliate me or mock me. It went on for years, I ended up avoiding him as much as I could. Nowadays, he's very sick. In fact, he has been sick for years, most of his body is paralysed and it just keeps progressing. I feel sorry for him, I make dua for him and I asked him for forgiveness. I've forgiven him in my heart, but the pain is still there and it doesn't go away. Everytime I talk to him or visit him, all the memories come back. I believe that Allah shows me that He has seen my pain and validated my feelings.

  • @revivefaith
    @revivefaith 2 года назад +20

    I remember when i was in university and everyone in my class started criticise me and made comments about me and against me and all they did is to make fun of me and dragging me down and down.. Thats when i became close to Allah Subhanahu wa tala more and i left that university and started learning and reflecting The Qur'an. And Alhamdulillah now i'm cleared about my vision and i'm at peace. Alhamdulillah.
    I ask Allah Subhanahu wa tala to make me among those who always prioritize Allah in their lives and always be content with every single thing that Allah has decreed. Ameen

    • @ustadhumar3922
      @ustadhumar3922 2 года назад

      Barakallaah Feeki.
      Mashaa Allaah

    • @lolola319
      @lolola319 2 года назад

      MashaAllah, May Allah SWT keep your heart steadfast on His Deen 💕, Ameen.

  • @arifchowdhury3424
    @arifchowdhury3424 2 года назад +2

    When I truly started practicing islam (trying to follow the teachings to the best of my ability and stay away from any prohibition) one of my very close friends ridiculed me saying I am a "buzz kill", "fake mufti", "sore loser". But there were some friends who helped me by telling him that I am trying to stay true to my faith. That Alhamdulillah gave me a huge confidence boost that I am on the right path.

  • @SammieBellBringsSamiaBack
    @SammieBellBringsSamiaBack 2 года назад +6

    In the end of the day, what matters is what Allah thinks. Remembering that Allah is by our sides and will help us get through when we are being criticized is the blessing 💕

  • @aleenajalal147
    @aleenajalal147 2 года назад +2

    Maa Shaa Allah Sir not looking toward her while she is talking and same from her side 🥺❣️❣️❣️❤️❤️ Maa Shaa Allah ❤️

  • @chelseasparis6369
    @chelseasparis6369 2 года назад +5

    Emotional pain hurts more than physical pain Hisbiallah wa ni3mal wakil love Omar solaman Yaqeen institute May Allah bless yous

  • @satyadams4852
    @satyadams4852 2 года назад +63

    Salaam Aleykum everyone. I work as a clerk for the United Postal Service since 2015, I know exactly what the sister is talking about. Mine was even worse at some point the whole plant stop talking to me because I was not playing their game. I always stand for my beliefs and principles. From level 5 I moved to the level 6 and now level 7, didn't have to sleep around liked most of the women to get a promotion. The more they try to pull me down Allah always elevate me... they don't know what to do anymore 😕. Allah is dealing with them severely.

    • @jaharasoni9103
      @jaharasoni9103 2 года назад +1

      Walekumassalam.

    • @ustadhumar3922
      @ustadhumar3922 2 года назад +4

      Trust and belief in Allaah is all that matters. Allaah is most Sufficient for you.

    • @sabr4647
      @sabr4647 2 года назад

      if u dont mind what exactly did they hate about your beliefs im curious.

    • @satyadams355
      @satyadams355 2 года назад +2

      @@sabr4647 I will not say they hate Islam.....for sure. However this is a huge place where money talk. Most people specially women play loose girls to have the protection of the gangster or get promoted. Then come this woman who started to turn all of them down even the white guys who think they own the place. With my trust in ALLAH I go to work everyday as a confident woman. I have not stop fighting for what is mine with only ALLAH'S support and he has been so sufficient for me that they don't understand, it's so mind blowing to them how come this petite woman of 5feet1 be so strong. Every battle I win puts pressure on their side. I am victim of all kind of attacks, intimidation, witchcraft but hasbunallahu wa ni' mal wakil take care of all that.

    • @chihirohel9090
      @chihirohel9090 2 года назад

      @@satyadams355 Wow, sister, I am astounished that some people could dare to intimidate or disrespect a woman :(, especially a muslim woman. I am so so proud of you though, you are giving me motivation to be as strong as you are, mashallah, Allahuma barik lik fi kul chay. I will pray that Allah defeats all your enemies and that you are victorious, even though you already seem to be, mashallah!! Great example!

  • @mazrajauhar1950
    @mazrajauhar1950 2 года назад +1

    Whenever we fight in the pathway of good , we always find Allah there. We literally feel the presence and support from Allah. 🥺 That's a great blessing ❤️

  • @shaheenurparveen2604
    @shaheenurparveen2604 2 года назад +2

    I had a moment with injustices but my comfort with long Sejdah to Allah Ajwazal.

  • @fh7133
    @fh7133 2 года назад +11

    Such a beautiful series. May Allah swt abundantly reward all at Yaqeen. May everyone watching this series and their loved ones who have suffered the pain of any rejection be rewarded with closeness to Allah swt in this world and the next.

  • @nedzmaarnautovic891
    @nedzmaarnautovic891 2 года назад +1

    Sister Sarah has to answer such hard questions but she does it so well and eloquent ma sha Allah.

  • @javoxirxursanov6442
    @javoxirxursanov6442 2 года назад +2

    As the girl trying to survive from the rumors of the people spreading around as I am in hidjab, Allah is definitely helping me to avoid and coping with these problems

  • @hsn0414
    @hsn0414 2 года назад +16

    Really beautiful....it's comforting bcz this is absolutely many people go through most of the times , so this helped me a lot in many ways . Jazakumullahu khairan for yaqeen institute for coming up with beautiful series. May Allah accept your hard works and May He help you to benefit the world more.

  • @iamzimj6724
    @iamzimj6724 2 года назад +2

    Subhaanallah the teachers lounge is exactly where I caught other teachers backbiting about me. Wallahi it was so hurtful especially because these same teachers always smile and talk to me in my face but catching them speak about me when they couldn't see me as our room is big, really hurt.
    Nevertheless it was emotional at the time and I kept patience, but I can guarantee you that Allah dealt with them as they're gone from there due to situations and life is more peaceful Alhamdulillah.
    Anyone going through this, have sabr and yes get it sorted out but trust in Allah (SWT).

  • @Shamma-zg8fp
    @Shamma-zg8fp 2 года назад +10

    "They were struggling with the perception of the people around them" Subhanallah what a beautiful statement made by the sister at the very end ! Subhanallah!
    Many times in my life I have been rejected. Very strong rejections, plots against me went to levels, sometimes I felt am I that kind of a threat ? Subhanallah because of upholding and practicing Islam. Alhamdulillah ! To the point I was traumatised and needed help from professionals. Alhamdulillah! It is said that time heals the mind. It is not true for someone who had traumatic experiences in the past . It stays with you for the rest of your life ( most probably) . But Alhamdulillah! Now I can relate to millions of trauma patients around the world. It's a blessings to be able to understand them as a global citizen. I found solace in Al Qur'an and the help from people I never expected I would get Alhamdulillah! Rejection is a way of Allah saying leave that path and follow the path I am about to show you. Sometimes, it is difficult to accept the facts as a human being with no knowledge of the future. But traumatic experiences has helped me to Spirituality uplift me in ways it would had been impossible otherwise Allhamdulillah! It does not necessarily come with wordly benefits، but with other worldly benifits. I take rejection as a form of blessings from Allah. Painful but it opens up the windows of minds of people you would not see otherwise if you never felt or got rejected in life. Rejection is the key to understand Allah's decrees and His divine laws of nature. Alhamdulillah!

  • @KindaSabrful
    @KindaSabrful 2 года назад +9

    i really needed this. truly Allah talk to us in different ways ♥️♥️

  • @Alina-io7hj
    @Alina-io7hj 2 года назад +6

    Daily Dhikr Reminder for all ,
    •SUBHAN ALLAH سبحان الله
    •ALHUMDULLILAH ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ
    •LA ILAHA ILLALLAH لا اله الا الله
    •ALLAHU AKBAR الله أكبر
    •ASTAGHFIRULLAH أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللّٰهَ
    •LA HAWLA WALA QUWATTA ILLA BILLAH
    ‎لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِٱللَّٰهِ
    •SUBHAN ALLAHI WA BI HAMDIHI
    ‎سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ
    •SUBHAN ALLAHIL AZEEM
    ‎ سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ الْعَظِيمِ.

  • @JustHumayrah
    @JustHumayrah 2 года назад +2

    Gems from Sis Zarah sultan... May Allah reward you ma'am

  • @marium9
    @marium9 8 месяцев назад

    Sister, it was a sign from Allah that their disrespect for you was not hidden from you. They could have kept quiet but they told you what they were talking about and saved you from trusting them further ❤️ it's from Allah 💕

  • @rabiajahan3467
    @rabiajahan3467 2 года назад +4

    These conversations are comforting. May Allah bless you, team Yaqeen. Ameen.

  • @kadraabdoulkader8033
    @kadraabdoulkader8033 2 года назад +5

    thhank you sheik omar suleiman and the whole yaqeen team for your hard work .

  • @mahum2063
    @mahum2063 2 года назад +7

    Mashallah i loved this series
    It's such whole new concept
    Relating experience of Ibrahim A.S and knowing him in a more deep way.. ✨🌸❣

  • @nalungazainab8894
    @nalungazainab8894 2 года назад

    Assalam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu, Asiya Hussein from Uganda,jazak Allah khair for this.I thought I was the only victim and it began when I started talking to people about Islam.I love yaqeen's entire team.

  • @aladdeen
    @aladdeen 2 года назад

    Alhamdulillah that you all exist 👍🏾♥️

  • @Maahamuda
    @Maahamuda 2 года назад +2

    Assalamualaikum,
    With the struggle that I was going through facing people's ridicule and disrespectful comments, I found a sort of calmness in my thinking that Maybe it was a test also from Allah SWT. I strongly believed that the way Allah SWT guided me through Hidayah, Insha'Allah he would help me out from all of these humiliations in this life. So I focused on life after death, not on life on Earth…I was holding onto myself with patience and prayers, and eventually, it's gone! That feeling! And as a result, the closeness to Allah SWT is far more blessed than the hurt of that humiliation. That required courage too, gathering that strength by acknowledging I am a servant of the most high SWT and an Ummah of beloved Mohammad(saw), so I knew the true value of myself rather than they told me who I'm.
    Specifically, there were friends and family who supported me as well Alhumdulillah...🌼

  • @fahimhussain1105
    @fahimhussain1105 2 года назад

    SubhanAllah what a great show. May Allah bless you all!

  • @jumuah89
    @jumuah89 2 года назад +2

    Alhamduillah beautiful reminder, and very beneficial right now

  • @HadiAnimations
    @HadiAnimations 2 года назад +18

    Please pray for our brothers and sisters in Palestine 🇵🇸

    • @parweenshama6255
      @parweenshama6255 2 года назад

      Plz try to trained yourself and teach others people to fight ourself because Allah helps that kind who try to help our self but Allah uss qaoum ke halat ko tab tak change nhi krte jab tak wo khud se kosish na kre and you do your best make dua with true sincerity and believe that everything is going is Allah plans and you believe this truth this life is only test no matter how good or bad our life is going through this is only test 😊

    • @parweenshama6255
      @parweenshama6255 2 года назад

      And believe Allah plans

  • @jakiasultana5601
    @jakiasultana5601 2 года назад

    You all are strong Ma-Sha-Allah.

  • @halimahtanko8228
    @halimahtanko8228 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for this series, it has really helped boost my imam and make me want to do and be better. May Allah make it easy for people striving towards the path of Allah. Amin

  • @nhaz652
    @nhaz652 2 года назад

    Yes. i was lashed out by a colleague whom I cared about. I thought we were friends, but it was sooo harsh and I never thought he would do it to me. Now I just cannot look at him anymore. And I realized that he is a narcissist. Slowly, day by day, I shift my attention to Allah despite having to deal with the pain from the friendship breakup

  • @islamicstudies6616
    @islamicstudies6616 2 года назад +6

    I am so happy to heir this beautiful conversation about been strong in front of any kind of humiliations

  • @Youbettersaysubhanallah
    @Youbettersaysubhanallah 2 года назад +4

    Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi , Subhan Allah Al 'Adim

  • @sanakamal9352
    @sanakamal9352 2 года назад

    Sister Sarah's words are always so helpful. May Allah bless her and everybody at this Institute to continue their good work. May Allah forgive them and all of us and save us from humiliation on the day of resurrection. May Allah grant us Jannah by his mercy.

  • @abdulafeezadeyemo2431
    @abdulafeezadeyemo2431 2 года назад +1

    Jazakumullahu khairan for this wonderful discussion/lecture. The humiliation I go through on a daily basis is so much that I wonder if it’s a crime to be a Muslim. But Insha Allah, I ll stay strong and not depressed. Thank you for this.

  • @habibahdaudazubairu960
    @habibahdaudazubairu960 2 года назад +3

    Trying to please the creation instead of the creator is the source of humiliation in this life.

  • @MaryamShamsWayMaryamShams
    @MaryamShamsWayMaryamShams 2 года назад +7

    Assalamu Alaikum WA rahmatullahi wa barakatuh I thank you for this khutba or Conversation I enjoyed this video I'm one of those people who trust people a Hundred percent in of spot everything I’ve been there, done, that we're when my community disappointment helped me to grow spiritually and emotionally instead, they Chase me, and how knows how many people, but I'm so happy for other people they don’t have to go through anything we have a counter inshallah there is light under the tunnel Islamic community came along way Alhamdulillah thank you jazakallah Khairan 🌹❤️☝️🏼

  • @RizwanAli-cv8bl
    @RizwanAli-cv8bl 2 года назад +2

    thank you so much for making this video. May Allah reward you all!

  • @sukl.
    @sukl. 2 года назад +11

    Good deeds you can do on dhul hijjah
    1. Read Quran
    2. Read Islamic books
    3. Give dawah
    4. zakat
    5. dua
    6. obligatory prayers
    7. following the sunnah
    8. sending salawat on our belobe prophet PBUH
    9. dhikr
    10. try you best not to sin
    11.listen to Quran recitation
    12. seek forgiveness from Allah swt
    13. seek forgiveness in others
    14. be kind and patient to people
    15. show kindness to your parents of you can not then make dua if you can
    16. Sacrifice animal on the 10th of hijjah
    17. make dua for others
    18. if you see litter pick it up
    19. exercise (sunnah)
    20. smile

  • @ummhamza09
    @ummhamza09 2 года назад

    A much needed reminder. Allah bless the whole team for their effort. Ameen

  • @mdabullais2114
    @mdabullais2114 2 года назад

    Alhamdulillah, it helped me a lot and gave me motivation and positive energy as I was highly effected by the criticism and bad talk about scholars from some people.

  • @soniabenhamed8549
    @soniabenhamed8549 2 года назад

    Subhanallah. This conversation was so healing for me ❤

  • @komaltirmizi2403
    @komaltirmizi2403 2 года назад +1

    Now a days I'm suffering from situation like they talk about 😭💔 but I Recite at first Lahawl a wala quwatta illah billah 💔 I'm facing boycott at my workplace even though I'm not wrong. . Everybody has witnessed they knew me but all of them boycott me they all stood up for wrong Peron for wrong reasons. . 😭

  • @Lzali10469
    @Lzali10469 2 года назад +2

    Masha’Allah ❤️❤️ please make dua for me

  • @Youbettersaysubhanallah
    @Youbettersaysubhanallah 2 года назад +2

    Al Salamu 'alaykom wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh

  • @0000Konan
    @0000Konan 2 года назад

    Jazakillah and jazakallah!

  • @hassan.javaid
    @hassan.javaid 2 года назад

    Jazakallah kher. 💐✨

  • @noornhossain2443
    @noornhossain2443 2 года назад +1

    Assalamualakum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatohu everyone Jummah Mubarak to all

  • @Fabi-ij1mv
    @Fabi-ij1mv 2 года назад +5

    Walaikumsallam waramatuallah wabarakatu 🇬🇲

  • @Rukhsana2056
    @Rukhsana2056 2 года назад

    Would love to hear a discussion video about abuse and humiliation especially in a marriage … coming from both husband’s or from wife’s side.

  • @Youbettersaysubhanallah
    @Youbettersaysubhanallah 2 года назад +2

    اللهم صل على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما صليت على إبراهيم وعلى آل إبراهيم إنك حميد مجيد اللهم بارك على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما باركت على إبراهيم وعلى آل إبراهيم إنك حميد مجيد

    • @maryamscholten1961
      @maryamscholten1961 2 года назад

      Working with a headscarf and praying at office ….
      Maryam ter Valkenheul
      In 1986, after 16 years of working in healthcare and as a teacher, I made a career switch and started to work as an official and as a education adviser, at the Ministry of Transport and Public Works. İn a team of 6 colleagues we were responsible for the education of the officials of this ministry. I came in as a modern dressed woman and 2 years later, in 1988 after the Hac, I started to wear a headscarf. The first time I - with my headscarf- entered the building, where 500 officials were working, was quite a shock. They were used to colored officials from other countries, like Africa and Asia, but not used to a white dutch official who converted to Islam and who started to wear a headscarf.
      Since I became a muslim it was like I had 2 personalities, during the week the modern, but modest dressed education adviser and in the weekends I was a covered muslim. Actually,I was living in 2 worlds. So, with the Help and Guidance of Allah, I decided to bring these 2 worlds together and be open about my way of life; I did not want to hide the fact that I was a muslim, anymore.
      At the beginning I wore my scarf like a turban. So people were wondering whether if I was ill of cancer and lost my hair, or that I had entered some strange sect. But after some time I began to wear a much longer and bigger scarf and than it was obvious that I was a muslim.
      This decision of openly being a muslim had big consequences and effects on me. Positive , but also negative effects. Positive was the fact that it was clear who I had become. I was asked many many questions about the İslam. People were really interested in Islam and why I had made this choice. In those days they knew very little about İslam and really wanted to learn more. They respected my choice although they did not really understand.
      Negative was the fact that all of a sudden I became ‘an outsider’. It was a if I was not a dutch citizen anymore, I was looked upon as a foreigner. Somehow, I felt excluded from the Dutch society, I was a part of for the last 35 years. Excluded on almost all levels of society, among my family, neighbours, some friends and colleagues. This was a time of confusion. At one side I was very happy with my choice for Islam, but these reactions- which I had not be able to forseen or to imagine- made me feel alone and confused.
      .But the following Words of Allah were a great support and stimulance for me:
      …’And seek help through patience and prayer, it is difficult except for the humble submıssive..’ (Sure 2:45)
      Yes, then I realised that I was not alone, Allah was with me all the time. I have felt this in so many occasions.
      One day I entered the elevator at my office, together we were with 3 persons. Next to me stood a colored lady, from North-Africa. And a man who looked at me with a frowning face and he said at a mockery tone: ‘What a special outfit are you wearing..’ I felt upset, but did not utter a word and left the elevator as soon as possible. The North-African lady also left the elevator. She smiled at me and said: ‘ I do really like the way you dress, I admire your courage, because I am a born muslim, but I don’t cover my head. At office they talk behind your back about you, but when they do, I defend you and take the Quran and read them the passages where Allah says that women should cover themselves..’ After here supporting words I felt so happy and after that we became friends for the years to come.
      Praying at work.
      İn the beginning I only prayed my 5 daily prayers at home. As soon as I came home I started to catch up my missed prayers of that working day. But I knew this was not the right way of praying. I asked Allah many times to help me to find a way to pray at the prescribed times.
      One day we were sitting together with some colleagues and our chef. I knew our chef as an atheist, who absolutely did not believe in a God, but he was a liberal thinking and righteous man.
      We had a conversation about islam and the obligation to pray 5 times a day. Then he- to my utmost surprise- said to me: ‘So why don’t you pray at office?’ I stumbled. ‘ Where, how and what will people say..’ He: ‘Never mind what people say, you as an official have the right to express your way of living, as long as it does not affect your work here. He followed: ‘I will arrange a separate room where you can pray your prayers..’ He kept his word and within a few days I was able to pray at office. I am still surprised about and thankful to this atheist man, who- of course with the Guidance of Allah, made it so easy for me. May Allah bless him.
      Sometimes I had to travel to another cıty for meetings or workshops. They usually took place in a hotel or a conference centre.Then praying at time was another challenge.. Wıth a dua for Allah’s Help on my lips and entering the conference centre, at first- I always used to go the reception officer and ask with a smile on my face: ‘ Today I have a workshop, but as a muslim I need a room to pray my prayers, can you please arrange something for me.’ At first, the officer would be surprised by my wish, but as I was smiling again and because of my headscarf, he or she recognized me as a muslim. My wish was almost always fulfilled. By that way I could always pray my prayers. Making wudu at office or somewhere else, was not always that easy, rather very stressful. Because in the ladies washroom one is only used to see someone washing her hands, but not washing her face, elbows and even her feet in the washing stand. So I always had to plan my wudu making, when nobody else was in the ladies room..
      This all happened in the time that people in Holland were open minded and that islamofobie was not as much active as it is nowadays.. But I am sure that anno 2020 asking in a hotel for a place or a room to pray wıll be less fulfilled, as one might be afraid that I- as a muslim- could have bad intentions.
      That is why I am so happy to live in Turkey as a muslim. Especially the last 15 years the facilities and accommodations for muslims to practice there faith have been so very much extended. Studying and working with a headscarf and praying at work is permitted. You can find mescids everywhere, in government buildings, at universities, in hospitals, in restaurants, in shopping centers, at bus stations and even at a petrol station. I feel so much more comfortable and happy that I can make wudu and pray my prayers wherever I am and go.
      I last read that almost 80 % of the turkish population is not praying on daily bases. I really feel very sad about this high amount. Especially because it has become so easy for us to obey the orders and instructions, to pray 5 times a day ,of Our Lord, The Owner of Heaven and Earth
      Think about this….If we work for a company and the owner gives us the order and instruction to start at 8.30 in the morning, have a break at 12.30 and work until 18.30, I am sure that we will not neglect or refuse these orders. Because we want the owner to be satisfied about our work and work attitude and we don’t want to risk to lose our job and monthly salary.
      So what a big pity, if we neglect and disobey the orders of the Ultimate Owner of this World and the Hereafter, Allah. By this we take the great risk to lose our place in and salary of the Hereafter.
      May Allah help us to obey His Orders and İnstructions during our daily and earthly -but limited- lifetime, in order to gain His Contentment and an endless life in the Hereafter.

  • @CLBOO6
    @CLBOO6 2 года назад

    رَبَّنَا وَءَاتِنَا مَا وَعَدتَّنَا عَلَىٰ رُسُلِكَ وَلَا تُخۡزِنَا یَوۡمَ ٱلۡقِیَـٰمَةِۖ إِنَّكَ لَا تُخۡلِفُ ٱلۡمِیعَادَ﴿ ١٩٤ ﴾
    Our Lord, and grant us what You promised us through Your messengers and do not disgrace us on the Day of Resurrection. Indeed, You do not fail in [Your] promise."
    Aal-E-Imran, Ayah 194

  • @thestraightpath2909
    @thestraightpath2909 2 года назад +1

    اللهم صل وسلم على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين وسلم تسليما كثيرا إلى يوم الدين

  • @Salah-vg4tn
    @Salah-vg4tn 2 года назад +1

    Prophets were in direct contact with Allah. If they were rejected and ridiculed, they had the conviction because of their connection with Allah. It's very challenging, however, to handle rejection and ridicule in our lives, which often is not for noble causes but some mundane issues. We hear silence everywhere, from people, from God; no one responds.

    • @ruhi7856
      @ruhi7856 2 года назад +5

      No Allah is not silent,you can listen him in Quran and you can talk to him anywhere, everywhere,he is responsive,he is present everywhere,he hears you,he listen you, don't lose hope,you are breathing because Allah controlling you,and brother prophets have direct contact with Allah because he was messanger, prophet have responsibilities to take message from Allah and teach us,but sahabas not have contact with Allah as all prophets, don't you think sahabas problems are much bigger than us but due to their strong belief in Allah(swt) they overpowered all the difficulties,if you say oh they have prophet Muhammad (pubh) but brother many people also born after Muhammad (pbuh) and some are well unknown scholars like Imam al gazali,yunus Emre and etc.

    • @chihirohel9090
      @chihirohel9090 2 года назад +3

      @@ruhi7856 Agreed. Salah, please do not despair from Allah's mercy, for He is here, and here for you. You just need to open up your heart and talk to him during prayers and he will send you signs. But please, never believe or think that there is sience from God. Literally any one from this earth could disrespect you and abandon you BUT ALLAH! May Allah open up your heart.

    • @sanakamal9352
      @sanakamal9352 2 года назад +2

      Our struggles are never ever going to be close to what our Prophets have faced. Muhammad(S.A.W) was continuously persecuted (beaten, spat on, ridiculed) for 12-13 years in Makkah with extreme poverty. They even had to eat grass to survive. He(S.A.W) suffered the death of his beloveds- wife, uncles, sons and daughters through his(S.A.W) life time. And who can forget the dreadful day of Taif. He(S.A.W) was made to walk kilometres while being pelted stones and other stuffs and continuously ridiculed. Even then he(S.A.W) saved those people from being crushed between the mountains. Even in Madina he would often face harsh words. He(S.A.W)lived in extreme poverty even in Madina. He(S.A.W) often dealt with wars and the subsequent difficulties that they brought. He(S.A.W) even had to accept that Abu Talib will be given the punishment of a ring of fire in the Afterlife. Yet our beloved Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) always had a smile on his face, was always humble and always grateful to Allah(S.W.T). The Prophets' struggle are always far severe than us. Allah has promises that he will never burden a soul greater than it can bear. So please do not lose Hope in Allah(S.W.T). It is shayateen's job to make us feel hopeless. Connect to Allah, talk to him in private, pour out your heart to him and ask for his help. You will see tremendous change in your life's situation and also your perception of those difficulties.

  • @amandoktorcanimkuzumdoktor5193
    @amandoktorcanimkuzumdoktor5193 2 года назад +7

    💛🕋Please try to do these deeds 🙏 Start with 1 good deed and then increase it 💛
    🌻1. Salah/namaz 5 times a day, or at least start with 1 time a day, then increase it slowly,
    🌻2. Reading Quran, understanding and following it,
    🌻3. Daily Dhikr (for example: Allah Akbar, Subhanallah),
    🌻4. Send salawat (salawat means greeting) to the Prophet Mohammad (saw) => Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa ala aali Muhammad,
    🌻5. Be honest and just to everyone (both Muslim and NON-MUSLIM),
    🌻6. Don't talk behind other people negatively (backbiting),
    🌻7. Don't gossip,
    🌻8. Don't spread false rumours,
    🌻9. Don't slander,
    🌻10. Feed the poor if you can,
    🌻11. Feed street animals or pigeans in the park or collect rubbish from the parks or beaches and bin them, (Part 2 is in the below comment 👇)

    • @amandoktorcanimkuzumdoktor5193
      @amandoktorcanimkuzumdoktor5193 2 года назад +2

      🌻12. Help your neighbour or help a child with homework,
      🌻13. Bake a cake and give a portion of it to your neighbour, especially if they are poorer than you or they are elderly,
      🌻14. Be nice to your parents,
      🌻15. Help your mother with the housework, if you are a boy, then at least bring the rubbish bin (waste bin) outside, carry the big bags for your mother and if she is tired from cleaning, cooking etc. tell her "Thank you" for the food/cleaning etc
      🌻16. Once you grow up, don't forget your parents, they will need financial and physical help.
      🌻17. Visit mosque, try 1 time a week,

    • @PositiveMindsetLife
      @PositiveMindsetLife 2 года назад +1

      Thank you 👍

  • @VictoriousDrucilla
    @VictoriousDrucilla 2 года назад +2

    Ameen 🤲🏾

  • @tasmimrashid2340
    @tasmimrashid2340 2 года назад +3

    Can anyone help me with the dua? The one 'ya Allah don't disgrace me in the day of judgement'. The Arabic one?

    • @CLBOO6
      @CLBOO6 2 года назад

      رَبَّنَا وَءَاتِنَا مَا وَعَدتَّنَا عَلَىٰ رُسُلِكَ وَلَا تُخۡزِنَا یَوۡمَ ٱلۡقِیَـٰمَةِۖ إِنَّكَ لَا تُخۡلِفُ ٱلۡمِیعَادَ﴿ ١٩٤ ﴾
      • Sahih International:
      Our Lord, and grant us what You promised us through Your messengers and do not disgrace us on the Day of Resurrection. Indeed, You do not fail in [Your] promise."
      Aal-E-Imran, Ayah 194

    • @CLBOO6
      @CLBOO6 2 года назад

      It’s from the quran. You can open chapter 3: ayah 194

  • @aneesacassim6560
    @aneesacassim6560 2 года назад

    When my husband unexpectedly died, his family stole everything from his estate. I did not say anything. But his father then took to social media and fabricated stories and manipulated facts to cause humiliation and embarrassment to me and my family within my community. To the extent that the family have also gathered support for others to do the same. I have friends, family & acquaintances within the community and so many said nothing and turned the other way. Yet these are the same people that preach about “good Islamic behaviour” on a regular basis. The hypocrisy of it all, the torment (&threats) from the outlaws forced me to make Hijra.

  • @Youbettersaysubhanallah
    @Youbettersaysubhanallah 2 года назад +2


    Al Salamu 'alaykom wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh
    السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎
    「 Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi
    「 Subhan Allah Al 'Adim
    「 Astaghfiru-الله
    「 Alhamduliالله
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    「 Allahuma ssali 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala ali Muhammad kama salayta 'ala Ibrahim wa 'ala ali Ibrahim inaka hamidun majid, Allahuma barik 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala ali Muhammad kama barakta 'ala Ibrahim wa 'ala ali Ibrahim inaka hamidun majid
    ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎
    「 La ilaha illa Allah wahdahu la sharika lah lahul mulku wa lahul hamd wa huwa 'ala kuli shayyin qadir

  • @habeebrahman8294
    @habeebrahman8294 2 года назад +1

    Assalamu alaikum wa rahmathullahi wa barakaathuho ustaad and team. I have great respect for you. But I think you can follow one more Sunnah. I have heard, Prophet Muhammed SAW, would not sit in such a way that , he could easily be recognized as the leader of the gathering (sitting in centre). Please correct me if I'm wrong.

  • @aladdeen
    @aladdeen 2 года назад

    I love guys

  • @sawdaabdi468
    @sawdaabdi468 2 года назад +1

    ♥️

  • @KindaSabrful
    @KindaSabrful 2 года назад +1

    ♥️♥️♥️

  • @al-lail9692
    @al-lail9692 2 года назад

    🏆🏆🏆

  • @Youbettersaysubhanallah
    @Youbettersaysubhanallah 2 года назад +2

    * Astaghfiru-الله
    * Alhamduliالله
    * La ilaha illa Allah wahdahu la sharika lah lahul mulku wa lahul hamd wa huwa 'ala kuli shayyin qadir

  • @lanija19
    @lanija19 2 года назад

    😥

  • @Kainthemain
    @Kainthemain 2 года назад

    If they talked bad about her than that should have been reported. You cant talk smack about your co workers

  • @islamtube2672
    @islamtube2672 2 года назад +3

    1 - Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071]
    2 - whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)
    Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One " [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071]
    3. La Hawla wa la Quwatta illa Billah (There is no Might or Power except with Allah)
    [the above is] a treasure from the treasures of Paradise.[Sahih al-Bukhari; al-Fath al-Bari #11:213, Sahih Muslim #4:2076]
    4.SubhanAllah, walHamdulilah, wa La illaha ilAllahu, waAllahu Akbar (Glory be to Allah, All Praise is for Allah, There is No God but Allah, Allah is the Greatest)
    The above are mentioned as the four most beloved words to Allah. It does not matter with which one of them is begun.[Sahih Muslim; #3:1685]
    Abu Sa`id (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Perform the enduring goods deeds (al-baaqiyaat al-SaliHaat) more frequently." They asked, "What are these enduring good deeds?" The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied: Takbir [Allahu Akbar], Tahlil [la ilaha illallah], Tasbih [Subhan'Allah], alhamdulillah, and la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.
    K