Story 1: Op where is your backbone. They clearly bullied your childand physically assauletd him years prior, why didn't you go the legal route? Story 2: The Ex is toxic and a complete Psychopath. She kept the picture pieces she cut out?? And continued to Obsess over Op's friend? Her Insecurity issues are not your problem, if what OP said was true, he treated her well and she shouldn't have a reason to be insecure, what the hell. Natalya needs to document everything and get that psycho arrested.
Story 2 yta he lied and mislead Melissa from the get-go. Has lunch with her on a regular basis. Then says hes taking her on a date. He may not want to admit it but he still has a thing for her. However that doesn't give her the excuse to go all crazy like she did
Yeah, I was kind of getting that impression as well. I won't say for certain that's what I believe, but this is definitely one where I wish we heard both sides of the story.
How is it on a regular basis when he only sees her for 2hrs in a week and most of the time he’s accompanied by his girlfriend and how was he misleading when he was very open with her about their entire relationship plus he stopped seeing the other girl entirely after the girlfriend had a breakdown
@@mordecai2251a regular basis means consistently. The way he writes about the ex compared to his girl, too? “She’s smart and beautiful and intelligent! She is super accomplished and a genius and I’m so happy for her! Oh yeah, and Melissa is beautiful too! And she’s great at what she does!”
Tbh I think OP2 was straight up lying about not been attracted to his ex-fwb since it doesn't seem to any mention that he never revealed to Melissa that Natalya was a ex-fwb at all (granted, that's probably because he didn't want any issue with his then-girlfriend when they were still together) and considering that he always wondered if he and Natalya would've got together before Melissa came into the picture.... Yeah, homeboy is lying and now that he's broken up with his ex-girlfriend- he's likely trying to get with his ex-fwb again but i don't think Natalya will get back with him considering that she's possibly being stalked by Melissa. Overall, I think this is a story where we need some outsider's perspective to what really went on.
I didn't seem to catch it but you're correct. Still, now you mention it to me- I think OP2 is still attracted to his ex-fwb because why would he still go up to meet up with her for lunches without his ex-girlfriend's knowledge? Don't get me wrong- Melissa was in the wrong for what she did to the photo album and OP2 had every right to leave her but he honestly should've expected that there was going to be problems the moment Natalya came back to the picture. Especially now knowing that he'd told his ex-girlfriend that he slept with the person who was chosen for the trip instead of her, whom everyone in the department loved within a snap the moment she arrived? To me, that was the final nail in the coffin towards her insecurities and frankly, no matter how much OP2 tried to tell Melissa that he'd loved her before they broke up- that's going to be solidify in her mind that Natalya is the epitome of perfection sadly.... 😐
@@tinylittlegremlindraws2888 Honestly, I think their relationship was doomed even before Natalya showed up. Melissa was insecure about almost everything about herself. She complained about her looks, saying she was "fat", her education, saying she's not "good enough" since she went to a state university for undergrad when he went to an Ivy League school, and on and on. If not Natalya, something else would have happened to cause them to break up.
@@ivymerritt7577 True, it was probably for the best they broke up in the long run anyway. Even though I wouldn't done what Melissa did (cutting up someone's photos is messed up), I don't think I could stay with someone who's starting to become friends with someone who was a fwb with years ago no matter if they reassured me that there's nothing between them anymore. I probably would rather break up with them quietly but that's because I'm not a very confrontational person. *shrugs*
If you want a successful future with someone, sometimes you need to leave your past in the past. How's he so smart but so ignorant? If you've slept with and continue to talk highly of a past fling, how do you not see how you'd affect your current partner. The insecurities weren't a surprise, block or ingnore, and leave the past in the past. If he continues to hold on, it looks interesting. GF needed more help than he was able to offer, yet he didn't help much. If there was a chance each week that they could rekindle what they had, it makes some sense as to her feelings but not her actions. Too little too late (both sides), and to rekindle the friendship, kinda shows more respect for that relationship rather than that of his GF. If he can live with that, then that's great, but dont be the clueless one here Mr. PhD.
13:43 I hope this is another AI thing, because OP2's life is so exhausting tbfh. Why don't people just break up when all these red flags appear? They just seem to wait 'till things go down south to finally put some 1+1 = pikachu face. No sympthany deserved for this spineless guy.
Story 1 sounds like my wife either her family except no slurs and yup I’m black she’s Hispanic and our kids are mixed of course except my stepson All Redditors has to do is look at profiles or get better reading comprehension ffs
Ppl giving Op in story 2 shit are either simps or women he did everything he could to be nice and reassure her but he can’t control how she feels about things that’s on her she’s weird and crazy cutting out her pictures and keeping them she’s a psycho
OP2 needs to break up with Melissa. She is way too far gone at this point.😢
Story 1
Sue them for slander, emotional distress, harassment, bullying and physical violence……..
OP 2 really backed the wrong pony.
Only ever saw a smart, sane, woman “aS A fRiEnD” and instead went for a crazy, insecure girl. 🙄
Let's be honest the crazy ones are good in bed😂. I really feel sorry for the other woman 😢
lmao I love it
"Oh no! Someone used grammar and symbols correctly! This absolutely must be AI!"
Story 1: “Overly harsh and unforgiving”? BS. This is what abusers and abuser enablers call someone who stands up to abusers.
Omg thank you for the context regarding AI. It helps so much.
Story 1: Op where is your backbone. They clearly bullied your childand physically assauletd him years prior, why didn't you go the legal route?
Story 2: The Ex is toxic and a complete Psychopath. She kept the picture pieces she cut out?? And continued to Obsess over Op's friend? Her Insecurity issues are not your problem, if what OP said was true, he treated her well and she shouldn't have a reason to be insecure, what the hell. Natalya needs to document everything and get that psycho arrested.
2:58 being labeled as “overly harsh and unforgiving…”
Yea. If it happened to your kids, you’d be overly harsh and unforgiving too.
Story 2 yta he lied and mislead Melissa from the get-go.
Has lunch with her on a regular basis.
Then says hes taking her on a date.
He may not want to admit it but he still has a thing for her.
However that doesn't give her the excuse to go all crazy like she did
Yeah, I was kind of getting that impression as well. I won't say for certain that's what I believe, but this is definitely one where I wish we heard both sides of the story.
Nah, homeboy still cares for the friend. If Melissa wasn’t in the picture, he’d totally go for the friend again.
OP definitely still has a thing but how could he not when his gf is going nuts.
How is it on a regular basis when he only sees her for 2hrs in a week and most of the time he’s accompanied by his girlfriend and how was he misleading when he was very open with her about their entire relationship plus he stopped seeing the other girl entirely after the girlfriend had a breakdown
@@mordecai2251a regular basis means consistently. The way he writes about the ex compared to his girl, too? “She’s smart and beautiful and intelligent! She is super accomplished and a genius and I’m so happy for her! Oh yeah, and Melissa is beautiful too! And she’s great at what she does!”
12:25 Natalya shouldn't be asking to hang out with her ex and his new gf???
Tbh I think OP2 was straight up lying about not been attracted to his ex-fwb since it doesn't seem to any mention that he never revealed to Melissa that Natalya was a ex-fwb at all (granted, that's probably because he didn't want any issue with his then-girlfriend when they were still together) and considering that he always wondered if he and Natalya would've got together before Melissa came into the picture.... Yeah, homeboy is lying and now that he's broken up with his ex-girlfriend- he's likely trying to get with his ex-fwb again but i don't think Natalya will get back with him considering that she's possibly being stalked by Melissa. Overall, I think this is a story where we need some outsider's perspective to what really went on.
No, he DID tell her that they'd slept together. I think this is what eventually led to her cutting up the pictures of Natalya.
I didn't seem to catch it but you're correct. Still, now you mention it to me- I think OP2 is still attracted to his ex-fwb because why would he still go up to meet up with her for lunches without his ex-girlfriend's knowledge? Don't get me wrong- Melissa was in the wrong for what she did to the photo album and OP2 had every right to leave her but he honestly should've expected that there was going to be problems the moment Natalya came back to the picture. Especially now knowing that he'd told his ex-girlfriend that he slept with the person who was chosen for the trip instead of her, whom everyone in the department loved within a snap the moment she arrived? To me, that was the final nail in the coffin towards her insecurities and frankly, no matter how much OP2 tried to tell Melissa that he'd loved her before they broke up- that's going to be solidify in her mind that Natalya is the epitome of perfection sadly.... 😐
@@tinylittlegremlindraws2888 Honestly, I think their relationship was doomed even before Natalya showed up. Melissa was insecure about almost everything about herself. She complained about her looks, saying she was "fat", her education, saying she's not "good enough" since she went to a state university for undergrad when he went to an Ivy League school, and on and on. If not Natalya, something else would have happened to cause them to break up.
@@ivymerritt7577 True, it was probably for the best they broke up in the long run anyway. Even though I wouldn't done what Melissa did (cutting up someone's photos is messed up), I don't think I could stay with someone who's starting to become friends with someone who was a fwb with years ago no matter if they reassured me that there's nothing between them anymore. I probably would rather break up with them quietly but that's because I'm not a very confrontational person. *shrugs*
Story 1: OP's sister is raising a psychopath.
Just don't date people who do fwb's setups. Her actions were nuts but not her feelings.
If you want a successful future with someone, sometimes you need to leave your past in the past. How's he so smart but so ignorant? If you've slept with and continue to talk highly of a past fling, how do you not see how you'd affect your current partner. The insecurities weren't a surprise, block or ingnore, and leave the past in the past. If he continues to hold on, it looks interesting. GF needed more help than he was able to offer, yet he didn't help much. If there was a chance each week that they could rekindle what they had, it makes some sense as to her feelings but not her actions. Too little too late (both sides), and to rekindle the friendship, kinda shows more respect for that relationship rather than that of his GF. If he can live with that, then that's great, but dont be the clueless one here Mr. PhD.
Are you the only person with common sense here?
Damn these cliffhanger endings.
13:43 I hope this is another AI thing, because OP2's life is so exhausting tbfh. Why don't people just break up when all these red flags appear? They just seem to wait 'till things go down south to finally put some 1+1 = pikachu face. No sympthany deserved for this spineless guy.
Story 1 sounds like my wife either her family except no slurs and yup I’m black she’s Hispanic and our kids are mixed of course except my stepson
All Redditors has to do is look at profiles or get better reading comprehension ffs
St 1: Catholic. Explains everything
Right. No wonder that family is so heavy on all of that forgiveness crap.
Could be worse, protestant.
Ppl giving Op in story 2 shit are either simps or women he did everything he could to be nice and reassure her but he can’t control how she feels about things that’s on her she’s weird and crazy cutting out her pictures and keeping them she’s a psycho
I feel bad for Melissa but she has to learn to stop comparing herself and wanting everyone’s validation
Melissa has major issues yet somehow of course it's all OP's fault because man.