My father left me and my mother when I was around 6 years old. He took everything from us and left us standing there in the dark. My mother was unemployed and I was a little child and didn't really understand what was going on. I have not talked to him in years as I am 14 now and I am having a hard time forgiving him because of what he did, especially recently when he doesn't even want to pay child support to my mother. But I focus on the bright side: my mother worked on herself more, she started to exercise, eat healthier, and even got a job that pays really well, and I have learned a lot of things in the past few years and made many new friends. I pray that God can give me the strength and love to forgive him. If you read to the bottom of this comment, thank you for listening to me and have an amazing day.
@Plaazzzz you won't always be a child ... you're a preteen now. 4 years from now, you'll be 18. May I politely suggest you and your mother seek Godly counseling ...to help you heal ... and turn any offenses over to Jesus.. we are not designed to carry resentment ,bitterness, and unforgiveness.Choose now to be better and not bitter... Choose forgiveness for you and your future self...seek healing from situations and not answers.
@Plaazzzz hey man. I'm 40 years old and had a falling out with my father when I was 17. We haven't spoken since. I struggle with the idea of forgiving him just as you do. Because it means he would feel justified. Like I was the one in the wrong all these years, not him. I'm praying for the strength to truly forgive him. But idk what that means. Does forgiving him mean I should pursue a relationship with him? Do I have to forgive him to his face or can I do it in prayer? These are the answers I'm asking god for. I would suggest you continue praying, but pray the difficult prayer for your father. Thank God for a dad and your existence. Ask that your dad meets someone on his path that will turn his heart. Forget any tradition and pray an honest prayer. Even if you swear in the process. Also thank you for sharing your story as it has helped me with mine. I will be praying for you and your family my friend.
I've been dealing with similar things lately. I've struggled with trusting people for most of my life(which I think subconsciously had affected my trust in Christ too) and one of the biggest reasons for that happened about 6 years ago when I was in college. I found out that my little brother, who has always been a troubled kid, had been abusing my little sister for years. I've only just recently, within the last year, gotten to the point where I don't have an angry outburst every time I hear his name and I've over the last couple weeks been trying to forgive. It's hard enough when it's you being the one affected by the action needing forgiveness but it's infinitely harder when it's someone you love and care about who was the victim and you don't think(haven't talked to him in years so hope to be wrong and someone has talked to him) they've repented. I think I'm the only one in my family who hasn't at least partially forgiven but I just continue struggling with letting that go. Deep pain is so hard to forgive, especially when it's caught up in your own emotions like guilt, shame, and anger.
Indigofenrir im trying to tslk to you about a recent topic. Im baptist but most of all belidve in Christ Jesus as my savior. Now I do like anime alot i grew up with it. I like the figures as art pieces not worship. I know the money spending is wrong but is it seriously bad to collect figures as a hobby when i know rhey are fake? Looking for your opinion
@@JimC1984 James, you believe in Jesus, whom the world hates. Now we are free to enjoy what's in this world, but not everything is beneficial. Attachment to earthly stuff leads to obsession, and that takes away your attention from the Lord. We watch anime for the storyline and values, yes? That's no different from reading a book or listening to a song, quite harmless. But if we watch it for the fanservice then that's now a problem. You probably don't collect anime figurines to study body positions and proportions for your art projects and commissions, but to look at them. How's that any different from dragons hoarding gold? Lust of the eyes, my friend.
@@LilXancheXMatthew 18:21-22 King James Version 21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Matthew 6:14-15 New International Version 14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. 1 John 4:20 New International Version 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. John 3:3 New International Version 3 Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.[a]”
@@LilXancheX hey, you just have to remember, that Jesus once died for us even though we are sinners, and we did not deserve to be forgiven. and yet he forgave us! so if Jesus can forgive us for sinning which is a BIG DEAL for him, why can't WE forgive others when they wronged us? I know it's hard to forgive sometimes, I have been there many times, but you just have to pray to God, and think about it. eventually if you have the heart, you'll be able to forgive them❤
UN-forgiveness is like a cancer. Untreated it will certainly destroy your body. I watched one of my brothers living in UN-forgiveness, it was hard to watch him fall. Everyone was at fault never him. He was being eaten up inside. He drank was an alcoholic in toward the end he cut everyone out of his life. I mean everyone. So heartbreaking 😢 He decided to cancel himself out of this life. More heartbreaking💔😢 I tried so many times to help him. He would not open his heart.more heartbreaking 💔 💔💔💔 So this May 15th will be 2 years since his passing. No matter how hard it may be to forgive it is not only your body but your spirit that is effected. This video is extremely important. I was blessed a long while ago to have a forgiving heart. Compassion and empathy were my gifts in Jesus. And a forgiving spirit too. It comes with blessings and challenges. It is not all roses and sunny. But I would rather have those challenges than a spiritually ridden cancer of body heart and mind. To those struggling with forgiveness, this information may help tremendously! God bless 🙌🏼🙏🏼💝
My health has been declining because of unforgiveness. It’s taken me almost 3 years before I listened to God that I need to forgive. If you would pray for me? I’ve been praying for my ex husband and my present husband….i need to forgive both of them for different reasons. I’m sure there are others I need to forgive. I don’t know how to let go of my pride. God bless you 🙏🏻
I pray that God gives you the grace to forgive. I pray, also, that God will help you understand His depth of forgiveness for you and that from that you’ll be able to forgive others and yourself. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Forgiveness lets you feel constant pain from being wronged, hate drowns the pain and turns it into becoming a just person to make things right with the people who have scarred you.
I never realized how much pain I was carrying around with unforgiveness. I wasn't hurting those who hurt me by not forgiving them, they probably couldn't give a damn about what I think, I was hurting myself and my relationship with God. I can't believe I was saying Jesus' death was not enough and justifying my hatred. I've heard this message of forgiveness before but it wasn't until today that I received it. I really needed this, thank you.
The issue with me is that I always forgive, but I don't always forget. In other words, when I'm wronged, I don't keep bitterness in my heart, but my heart is still on high alert if something was super horrible to me.
Now, see, as a child, when you were abused by the same person taking you to church, it was very difficult to FORGET when the abuse continued to happen again and again. But, that is the point of being a Christian, you must be a perpetual victim.
Forgiveness is not about whether the person deserves our forgiveness or not, but by forgiving we decide to release ourselves from anger so that we are not overcome by that anger. Give it to God and pray, He will heal you.
Here are my thoughts. If they don't ask for forgiveness, you don't have to tell them directly that you forgive them, but you can pray for them and for yourself. Don't keep negativity and even desires for revenge. If you become bitter, you'd just suffer.
Shalom, I was sexually abused as a child by my uncle, God taught me that there is no mercy without forgiveness . He had me understand that people remain prisoners without forgiveness and I didn't want my uncle to be a prisoner. The Holy Spirit prayed in me a prayer of such forgiveness that what my uncle had done wouldn't be found on judgement day. I admit that when someone seeks to continually hurt us without ever repenting is very difficult, a real test beyond my strength sometimes until God Himself helps me
Hi dear I also have a sister who also went through this same abuse. Yes it hurts but there is a very easy ways to forgive those who hurts us. I say it is easy because it truly is. The same way our Lord Jesus did, He said " Father, forgive them!". Just by asking the Lord to forgive those who hurts us has brought healing and peace to my sister and myself. Ask the Lord to forgive them and pray for them. Honestly you'll be amaze on how quick the good Lord can heal your heart
I pray God give you a total healing from what has happened in your life. I stand in agreement with you that God give you the faith to forgive and to have a productive life in Jesus Christ name Amen 🙏
😹😹. JESUS : “GUYS! What have a told you about forgiveness!” PERSON 1 : “G-gget over here NOW YOUR REALLY GONNA GET IT” PERSON 2 : “NO YOU GET OVER HERE MY FIST WILL BE MEETING YOUR FIST TODAY ! “
It took me 3yrs to forgive my Step Dad now I'm here because of a friend who wronged me, this helped so much. Thanks and God bless to you and the person who's reading this as well❤
Finally...this is what I have been looking for...A tutorial from a Christian on how to forgive others. I am really trying my best to master my Forgiving because of everything that had me wrong.
God's timing couldn't be better. I had a rough day at work and was having thoughts of yelling at my boss. Then I saw this video on lunch and am watching it now.
@Doom0728 yeah I'll work on forgiving him. Something I try to remind myself which is similar to what the video said with Jesus dying for your enemies is that my enemies and the most evil people in the world are loved equally as much in the eyes of God as me.
@@anoncooks Forgiving your boss? Really? I bet if he knew that you feel you deserved an apology from him, he would fire you! Your boss is Paying you to do a Job, HIS WAY. If you don’t like being paid to follow directions, then maybe you should listen to Jesus, abandon your family and home, give all you have to the poor (not the church) and follow Jesus, nahhhh! That would be stupid wouldn’t it?!
I am going through a very tough season in my life at the moment. This video was definitely not by accident. God most definitely put it there for me to see. I'm praying for the Holy Spirit to help me and teach me to forgive and forget. As my Lord and savior did for me. Aaaaaaaaaand it is so hard because the hurt prevents me from doing so. The most important part is to keep praying and to keep the faith even stronger
Forgiving myself is always the hardest person to forgive. God I know has forgiven and let my past self go, but I can’t bc I see the results of my actions everyday in my family that’s broken apart. I love you Lord for your mercy.
You never know how much I need this now.. God, You always finds a way to remind Your people.. I want to forgive those who wronged me as You have forgiven me of all my sins 🙏
This. This is the video I needed. I’m going through a custody battle for my daughter, and there has been so much I’ve been learning to forgive myself and her mother for. I was majorly in the wrong overall (recovering alcoholic/drug addict), and after giving my heart to Jesus on July 21st, 2023 which was 183 days ago today, I am 183 days sober as well. I’m learning from the Bible first but these videos are always good to follow up with. God bless this channel
Several yewrs I ago I had a huge fight with my mom after she kicked me out of the house. I was angry at her. I tried so hard to help her through the tough times because she went through cancer, losing a brother and a son, and more. I tried to be the support son, but my father and other brother did nothing to help. At one point, she literally tried to kill herself, and I stopped, and yet she kept treating me like I was the one that caused all her problems. I finally broke when she told me, "My life would have been better if you weren't born." This hurt the most, so I left. Several years have gone by and I have kept that pain and that hurt until I rediscovered my faith and I decided to forgive and let go. I tried talking to my mom again and....well, honestly, nothing has changed. She doesn't think she did anything wrong, and I don't feel welcome in that house anymore, but I still forgive her. I just don't want her to hurt me anymore, but I don't know what to do about if anything. I wonder what God's plan here?
Thank you for this. When I was in a bed and I am scrolling in youtube and then I found this video. Because someone hurted me last time when he ruins my friendship with my favorite friend. I can't forgive him but when I see this video, I prayed to Lord and then I said, "will I ever forgive him". I felt it and praise God, I forgive him because how Christ died for us to forgive us. Thanks you and Godbless you more. Edit: Can I give you credit because I was making a comics, about these testimony I commented. Thank you.
El perdón es sanador, no solo porque mejora las relaciones sociales y nuestro crecimiento espiritual sino que también nos ayuda a nosotros, al fin y al cabo todo lo que Dios nos ha encomendado es por AMOR y por nuestro bien, y perdonar es un acto de amor hacia todos y de ayuda a nosotros mismos. Perdonamos porque Él nos perdonó primero. AMÉN
I have had a similar experience, I try to forget about it but I just cannot do it. He lives right in front of my house and I see him sometimes, he keeps looking at me which scares me and then I remember everything he's done and how unfair it is that he faces no repercussions and gets treated like he's one of the best people out there while I'm told I'm overreacting for being scared. I want to forgive him but I secretly wish something bad happens to him which is a horrible thought but I don't know what to do
a lot of people with ptsd cannot forget literally the struggle internally is so don't worry. You can forgive by walking away and remember karma and seeking comfort in that everyone will be seen by God at the end of their life.
I understand what you mean about forgiving people who seem unforgivable. I'm currently going through a divorce from someone who is a liar, a cheat and a thief. God restored my spirit, my energy and my money she stole. I prayed so hard for months! Saying, lord I absolutely cannot forgive on my own, I need you! Months and months later I'm actually getting there. I also feel after the court date it'll be even better for me. God bless you guys! Much love, keep praying! 🙏
So, you are talking about a woman you took a vow to god, to love and cherish, in richer, poorer, sickness (unless it is mental of course, then the vow to god is off) and health. Understood, you are the epitome of modern Christinsanity.
@@beaberean3842 For WHO? A man who calls his ex a liar and because he claims to be using GOD to get his way, we are supposed to assume HE IS THE ONE WHO IS RIGHT? Also, doesn't it strike you as funny that while he claims he is getting there concerning forgiving her, he is still calling her a liar, cheater and thief! WHERE is your COGNITIVE CONSISTENCY? He is the PERFECT CHRISTIAN, using his I AM HOLIER THAN THOU attitude to get people like you to back him up. PURE EVIL.
@@beaberean3842 Where is yours for his ex wife? He talks about her, putting all the blame on her and you simply accept that he is in the right because he said GOD in his post! LOL!! No wonder Trump was elected back in 2016.
This video came timely in my life. I am going through a season of betrayal from a person I loved, and I couldn’t help but always think about the wrong they have caused me. If anyone is out there going through the same, I pray that God help you and me to forgive and let’s pray until we can completely forgive and forget! God bless you
Prayer really, really helps! Here's a few things that have helped me forgive people easier, 1) thinking of my own sins and thinking about how I want to be forgiven. I earnestly want to be forgiven for my wrongs and while I understand that there's people out there who aren't sorry for wronging you, this moves onto step 2) thinking of hell. It's eternal, never ending, it's horrible painful torment no matter how many years pass, no matter how sorry someone is then. I think of that person in hell for eternity, thinking of a hundred billion years passing, and the pain never ends. It breaks my heart knowing there's many, many people out there that will live a suffering existence for eternity and it makes me feel a deep sorrow for them. 3) focus on that sorrow and realizing these people are hurting themselves far more than they could ever hurt me. This leads me to the final step, 4) praying that person understands what they're doing so they stop and come to our Lord so they may be saved from hell. No matter how much someone has hurt me, the thought of them suffering for eternity is such a horrifying thought that it leads me directly to prayer every time my emotions calm down.
I recently accepted Jesus in my life and I'm struggling hard with this concept. Thank you, the timing is perfect (personally). I'm grateful. God Bless.
This is kind so long, but I do stay in topic. I really pray what I say helps you. It seems like such a long time ago, but I got saved in 2019 so I'm still relatively new in the Faith myself. Remember, repentance is a process. Turning from sin is a process, it won't always be easy. So when it comes to things like unforgiveness, think about repentance as though you are driving your vehicle. Your vehicle is always going to make turning a process, it will never be an about face, the vehicle will always make some sort of curve. That's generally how our walk with Jesus is. Forgiveness will always be a process, especially if it's a family member or friend. Someone we have a long history with, it can be easy to keep score of the ways that person has done wrong. When we forgive, we must also address our own pride which can get in the way of our walk with Jesus. I'll end with this, sometimes people have issues with forgiveness because of an overzealous and prideful disposition. Peter is a classic case study of this. He is the most outspoken of all the disciples. If you haven't yet, you will read about Peter telling Jesus "I will NEVER DENY YOU"! Jesus stating that "Before the rooster crows, you will deny me 3 times ." Of course Jesus was right, and after the resurrection, Peter is shown to be forgiven. Later on Peter wrote in one of his letters, found in the back end of the Bible "For God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble". The life of Peter can teach us about humility and forgiveness.
I got something to say, I probably came to this video not because I hold grudges against people, but I probably clicked this video because I want to find a way to forgive others. Since God wants me to forgive others, then I want to forgive others as well.
Forgiveness is done in confidence with God and the concerned individuals- it's private and confidential- Generally preachers keep on pushing individuals to Forgive And Forgive like a broken record- where it shows that preachers themselves have some hypocritical issues that bothers them within and they take out their insecurities on society- other church members 🙏Thank you 🙏
I’ve been struggling to forgive a family member recently because they’ve cause me so much pain in my life. I haven’t talked to them really in a month and this next time I talk to them, I’m going to set healthy boundaries with how often I see them and talk to them. I’ve been praying for them for awhile now and I really do hope they make some changes in their life and cry out to Jesus for guidance.
You have been praying for a while, and instead of forgiving, you are going to set boundaries, Good for you. God isn’t doing ANYTHING about it, so you should take it into your own hands.
I want to take a moment to thank you, finding your channel was one of the best things to happen to me. I have always been a believer of Christ, but my faith was becoming stagnant. But one night, I stumbled across one of your videos and loved it, it really spoke to me and I truly believe I was ment to see it. My eyes were opened, later that night I finally sat down and read my Bible and when I was finished with Matthew I had an honest to God conversation with the Lord. Ever since then I have been on the path to be the best Christian I can be. Thank you
Amen...Matthew 5:44-45 tells us EXACTLY what to do for those folks .....love them, pray for them, do good to them, feed them, lend to them, give them a cool drink
Always give vengence to God. Romans 12:19 "Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave room for the wrath of God; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, and I will repay, says the Lord”. Many people have wrong me greatly so I gave it to God. Time passed, and some did come back and apologized to me. The ones that didn’t, well lets just say they dont live happy lives right now. Always let God handle things if you are wronged. Trust me, its flawless
I was filled with rage and disgust for a bit. But then i remembered i have transgressed just the same in the past. We have all sinned at some point. I got my karma, and i accept it. Now i will be extremely careful who i sureound myself with. I will no longer hurt myself nor the people who love me. I will be a spearhead of Gods will and help others become better people to stop this cycle of sin that we harm each other with. Jesus im sorry for my transgressions and i forgive those who tresspassed against me. Fill my heart with love so that i can go out and do your bidding. Amen.
I loved someone once and I was hurt deeply. It took me a long time to forgive because I tried doing it myself. But when I did it with the help of God it was so much easier for me. I do forgive thIs person, I wish them well, and sometimes I find myself wondering why but feel comfortable in the now and wish them to do be happy in life. I do find myself missing her sometimes. That will take time but I do not hate her and I do forgive her
Thank you for putting this all together, I've been reading the new testament since December of 23 and trying to figure out how to forgive the people that are making our lives difficult right now and it is so hard but I do feel like I'm getting closer to that point. But it's one thing to say I forgive you to someone, but you have to truly believe it, I could say it but I don't feel like I would actually mean it yet, but I'm building towards it. I feel like the holy Spirit is working within me to get me and my family to a better place, but it doesn't happen quickly, just reading the Bible every night, even if it's just one chapter helps me focus. I suggest if you feel lost and don't know what to do, start reading the new testament, it has helped me immensely!
I've got so much hate for bullies. The ones who bullied me, my friends, and even just in general. I just can't wrap my head around why someone would hurt another human being. One of the hardest things is to pray for them, but you just gotta do it, and pray God can quiet the rage in your heart
Forgiveness comes with an open, meaningful apology. This is such a tough subject because sometimes it translates as blanket forgiveness for any wrongs done to you. We approach the Lord in sincere repentance and are forgiven. He doesn’t forgive without our acknowledgement of sin. Others also need to be sorry for their wrongs towards you to be given forgiveness. That being said, whether or not you receive an apology over a past hurt it is SO important to forgive that person in your heart and get to a place that you can wish well for them and truly, lovingly view them with kind regard from afar, sometimes it can be near impossible to physically get to a balanced place again with said persons. But not forgiving in your heart… that is definitely where bitterness and resentment comes in and wreaks havoc! It doesn’t always look like an open arm, bff relationship afterward unfortunately, but Jesus can help you come to terms in His love for others despite the hurt they have caused. Lovely video, and so needed in this season ❤
Thank you so much for this video. You just gave me hope. My Dad died from terminal cancer and some people walked away from our lives and it wasn't the first time they did. My mom and I learned that not all friends are real friends, but we must forgive, because it frees us.
i'd like to add the point that we should forgiven even the people that don't want our forgiveness. when Jesus was hanging on the cross, he said "father, forgive them" even when they wouldn't repent. so i would argue we should treat people that sinned against us with forgiveness, even with their sin still abounding. great video.
Some tips for those who struggle with forgiving: In most cases, there’s a reason behind the wrongdoing that’s been done to you. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see if you can at least find a reason they might’ve done what they’ve done. This is most helpful in cases of miscommunication or assumed malicious intent. In cases with hurt on both sides, check yourself before focusing on the wrong of the other party. Is there something you could find that you’ve done that wasn’t good? In my experience, forgiveness comes a lot quicker once we realize and say that we’ve done wrong ourselves. Helps build empathy and tends to help the other party do a bit of self reflection as well.
I understand why but that doesn't mean I want to sign up for more evil in my life lol. When you're a child and are being harmed by your parent, is it really the child's fault? You have to be careful with saying stuff like this because this is what narcs say to the people they abuse. That it's our fault they have to treat us that way. I agree with you if it's with a non-malicious person.
The people that hurt me were family. I've been praying so hard to forgive but I believe God will help me, I don't ever what the pain to hold me back everytime I think about where they did
Much love on the works of our lord, keep up the wonderful presentation/ animations my brother and sisters. I’ll ask for more blessings in our prayers, asking this channel gives me more wisdom in faith. Amén
Thanks for your awesome videos ❤ BUT, I just want to say here, that there is a difference between "not keeping records of wrong" and "treating someone as if they never hurt us". And this distinction is absolutely not a trivial one! Keeping score and keeping records of wrong can't possibly co-exist with forgiveness. True! And absolutely, sometimes minor offenses both can and should be forgotten. But other offences simply can't and teaching that "not forgetting" is in contrast to "not forgiving" is dangerous. Not only for the severely abused that struggles with forgiving because they falsely have been taught that would constitute also forgetting, but also for the severely abused that needs to stay far away from the person who abused them! Some people are simply not safe! Not in their current state. That does not mean that we cannot forgive them. We can forgive them, and yet, still recognize that they are not safe and that they must be treated as the potential threats that they very much still are. You can forgive and pray for the man who raped and abused you for years, and you will find tremendous freedom and healing in doing so. It will help you grow beyond and above the horrible things you endured. But that doesn't mean that you should start treating the person who did all these things to you as if it never happened! That isn't biblical either. To not "see" the sin, like God does no longer see our sins after He forgave us, is not the same as ignoring it was ever there to begin with. It means we should no longer focus our energy and attention on it after we have forgiven the person who harmed us. But, we can still know (a.k.a remember) that the person harmed us so that we can avoid putting our trust in that person again as long as they are still the same person. Remembering is also not a hindrance for loving someone that abused or mistreated you. Dwelling on it and focusing on it is. But acknowledgment that this abuse altered your life and who you are is the honest and safe way to both forgiveness of the abuser and you own healing in Christ. All I'm saying is, that it is a little more complicated than "forgive and forget".
@@justsomeyoutubechannel2023 It seems to me that, at best, you only skimmed my text before you decided for yourself what I wrote - and what I believe and don't believe. Your response has absolute no correlation to my post! Not only do you quote me completely wrong, but you also make a very problematic assumption... - I absolutely did NOT write ANYTHING about ANY sin not being forgivable, neither by God himself nor by us. Please direct me, with correct quotation this time, to the place in my text where I make that statement? - I NEVER wrote, nor did I even come close to hinting at, the statement that there are sins the precious blood of Jesus can't pay for! - I NEVER wrote, nor did I even come close to hinting at, that there are people God can't heal! - I NEVER wrote ""but other offences simply can't [be forgiven.]" You can't even interpret what I actually wrote in that way. What I wrote is this: "And absolutely, sometimes minor offenses both can and should be FORGOTTEN. But other offences simply can't (BE FORGOTTEN!... follows the logic of the sentence as a whole). Forgiven, yes, absolutely! But simply forgetting completely isn't always possible in a physical sense and we can cause harm to people who are struggling with this if we demand that they completely forget or else their forgiving is invalid. It simply isn't so. Have you completely forgotten every single thing in your life another person has ever done that hurt you? Now imagine being tortured and abused for years and years by the person that should love you, care for you and protect you. Imagine the abuse being so severe and cruel that you lost the ability to ever carry children. Even lost the ability to ever walk again. Can you forgive such an ordeal? Yes. By the love and mercy of our mighty God and by His power and His healing you can come to a place where even that can be forgiven. But does that mean you can and should forget completely? That would mean you could - and should - continue to live with the man that did this to you... because he has now never done that to you, right? That would be the case if you should "treat him as if it never happened". Even if that made him keep abusing you? No, of course not! That's a silly question. You should no longer focus on the harm that was done to you, but set your focus on God - and remember that this person is dangerous to you (as long as he is the person that harmed you and not a new person in Jesus... as I wrote!) CAN you even forget and is that a realistic expectation God has of you? No, of course not! Because your life is forever altered by the trauma and pretending it didn't happen is not the same as healing from it! Not even close. You can't "forget" away the fact that you no longer can have a child of your own. It has nothing to do with forgiveness. It's a simple physiological fact you have to live with. Are you suggesting that it would be possible, and that God would demand, that you forget the fact that you can't have children (and subsequently are forced to remember why)? No, of course not. Should you forget that you have scars all over your body after chunks of your flesh were cut out? Forget that you are in a wheelchair and just act as if you could walk? Again, a dumb question of course. When you are forced to remember, you should not also be burdened with the opinions of those who do not understand and can't relate that you haven't been "forgiving" enough because you haven't also "forgotten". God understands and He is the only judge of your heart. He knows if you have truly forgiven or not. If He grants full and miraculous recovery and complete "forgetting" (amnesia), then it is His mercy and His will. Praise to Him. But if He doesn't, neither you, nor I, nor anyone else should judge this tortured and abused child of God for not having "forgotten" because they are clearly still in a wheelchair and by extension forced by circumstance to remember why! That is not in accordance with the bible and that is the essence of what I wrote. You write that I start out with the assumption that God is not omnipotent... There is absolutely NOTHING in my text that hints at that. Not a single thing. i don't understand why you chose to respond in the fashion you did, and especially after not even reading my post with just a little bit of care. But Maybe you are one of those people on the internet who just likes to start fires. I really hope not. I write this long response to you in the hope that it is not the case. I hope that you just skimmed my text, misunderstood it completely, and got upset because you assumed I was saying something else than what I was actually saying. Peace be with you ❤✝
I agree 100%. I forgave the person that wronged me my entire childhood. But recently that person repeated many of the abusive things they did to me in childhood and I just can't have that around me for my own sanity's sake. I have to forgive from afar. I wish it didn't have to be that way. I really do. But unfortunately, it's not safe. I absolutely grieve that it can't be a better situation.
This video helped me to better see myself. I was mistreated as a child by my dad, and later on sexually abused. But it was never the abuse that made me angry, it was the past when he was really hard. I wanted to hate him, but I've learned to forgive him. Although, I do still bring up the past quite a bit, and I've wondered if I've really forgiven him, if I keep bringing it up. Especially since it puts me in a funk at times. I also feel it's not so forgiving when I tell him that the past him is dead to me, because it sounds a bit harsh. I don't know. . . thank you for helping me to see myself though. P.S. My dad and I are best friends now, but I should completely let go of the past, and stop making him feel bad when I bring it up. Not that I'm trying too, but I can be accusatory, which isn't good.
Brother in Christ, I hope with all my heart that God keeps blessing you and conceding and increasing this wonderful wisdom of yours. You have no ideia how much your videos help me and I really believe that God leaded the ways for me to find them. Peace be with you, your sister in Christ in Brazil
I do believe in forgiving. I do believe in treating them as they never wronged you. But there are some offenses that you could never forget. There are others who repatativly wrong you. Even after you forgave them 70 x 7. You would be foolish to let such people back into your life. But you still can forgive.
We are supposed to be wise, and it's wise to not blindly trust people, especially if they have given a reason to not be trusted. But yeah, it's important to forgive and forget, as in to not ruminate those memories and constantly remind the wrondoer of it, I think we're not really supposed to literally forget. Treat them as if they didn't do those things, but there is no need to force yourself to keep them in your life. Not that it's easy, of course, it's very hard. But thanks to God, not impossible.
@user-ji1hb7wy8d you are seeking validation, so desperately at that. If someone sexually molested you, please don't act as if they never wronged you. Your advice is ridiculous. You are so fake
I've had a hard time forgiving someone for over 40 years, but I see now that it's time. We aren't the ones to pass judgement, only God can do that so why waste our energy on hating, being mad at someone.🙏✝️
Your videos bring me so much joy. Thank you for creating this video about forgiveness. May our Heavenly Father richly bless you and keep your heart on fire for His Living Word every day of your life! I am praying for you, brother, that God will fill you with His peace that transcends all human understanding. I am praying that He will lead you through the challenge of forgiveness and that you reach the sweeter side of your prayers, where you are liberated. Thank you for all you give into making these videos, for reminding us what a follower of Jesus looks like, and for communicating to everyone (especially those who don't already know) that JESUS LOVES US.
Blessed are you to make this thoughtfully well made video about forgiveness *while* dealing yourself with people to forgive. Something tells me you are ready to do so, just need to step your feelings aside. Many will not care about our forgiveness to them, so it is more about to cleanse hate from our soul than give relief to whom (should) know they wronged us. But idk who am I to say, I also needed this video, thank you 🙏🏻
God just wants us to be as much like him as possible. He doesn't expect we will nail every aspect perfectly but he wants us to know him. Knowing God is wanting to be like God by forgiving others and other things. I think the very least he wants is us to be more loving and forgiving. Who knows, that may be just enough to gain his forgiveness and not be told to depart for he never knew us! He just wants us to be at peace with one another. He wants us to stop spreading lies and gossip (he abhors that).
Definitely needed this. I've recently been trying to work toward forgiving my brother for unspeakable things he did to our little sister that I found out about about 6 years ago. It is so hard to forgive, especially when it's a situation wrapped up in your feelings of guilt, shame, and anger, along with serious doubts that he'll ever change. Although I have gotten to the point, within the past year, that I've prayed for people to talk to him and I'm no longer in a position where I'd be unable to control my anger, if he was with me, I still struggle with letting it go.
@@EddieNarrea Thank you, my friend. I'm definitely better than I was back then when I first learned of it but it's still the kind of scar and betrayal that doesn't ever really truly heal and you just learn to live with.
Thank you so much ! ❤️🙏 This was so graciously taught. God bless you and may the Lord see you successfully through in helping you to forgive those two people.
Once again, a video of your channel comes at the right time in my life. A part of me was resisting to watch it, but deep down, I knew God was giving me the answer I needed… even if it’s not the one I wanted. Forgiveness is hard… your last tip really helped me, and will continue to, so, thank you, for sharing this wisdom.
It's my understanding that we are to forgive those who harm us and pray for our enemies. It does not mean God expects you to be friends or be around these people.
Another scripture to reference could be Matthew 18:23-35 is parable of our debts paid for all our sins yet we all get angry and approach our neighbors for 100 pence they owe us and yet 10000 talents we owed God to settle accounts for our debt was forgiven. I saw it as nice example of mercy given to us from Jesus and we Must do the same for our neighbors and we aren’t doing it alone as God always offers us a way through continuous prayer and Thanksgiving for all that Jesus has done for us
Its gonna be hard ik natlsn is comming out u wanna pull for the pyro archon you have a lot primos you saved but its gonna be ok cause Jesus is gonna give you the strength to get through it
“While we may not be able to forgive, God can make it possible for us.” This is profound. Thank you for the reminder that God is always bigger. God bless you and this channel, your videos are so empowering in Christ. Thanks 🙏🏽
1st ACCEPTANCE: Accept that it happened to you. Accept that someone hurt you (Intentionally or Unintentionally). 2nd FEEL THE EMOTIONS: Dont block it. Don't repress the anger/disappointment/sadness. CRY IT OUT. 3rd REALIZE IT'S IN THE PAST: Focus on "Now" "Today" 4rth FORGIVE Yourself / Others: Realize that they are humans too. 5th SET BOUNDARIES: Don't be naive. This is how you can effectively protect your peace and stsnd up for yourself. Pray for strength. Pray for complete healing so you dont have to bleed on people who didn't hurt you.
What a wonderful religion! An abuser need not apologize to their victims, no redress is needed, they just need to ask god to forgive them, and the victims are all on their own. The VICTIMS in fact, must also ask god for forgiveness or the abuse will continue after life. The VICTIMS must ask god for help in getting over the trauma of being abused, (but he never actually does anything) because he is such a loving god! He is a JUST god, because if you believe, you can be saved from his eternal damnation, it does not matter how many people you have wronged, all you need is to apologize to god, and it is all better as far as you are concerned. Your victims on the other hand, they can simply suffer through life, especially the ones who refuse to believe in YOUR god, THEY probably deserved the abuse anyway, you were just being an instrument of god! There is no EVIDENCE that he exists, and there are a lot of stupid claims attributed to his actual speech, but you only have to beLIEve in order to be part of the group that will never die, everyone who has ever been born so far, has also died eventually, so I guess there are no TRUE believers? So, how does that work?
@@tiredofliars why must you come on here, with such anger and such aggressiveness? If an abuser comes to God that must mean that in his heart he feels as if he's done something wrong not as if he's just doing it to be saved, as the lord says on judgement day they'll be a lot of people saying lord lord but he'll say that he never knew them, and even so the "victims" in this case aren't all on their own but in fact they're also convicted by the holy spirit, in this scenario wouldn't they be the bigger person by forgiving first? Wouldn't that show character? And with the whole 'God doesn't do anything!' That's so un true, there's alot of things that God's does, and at the same time there's alot of things that God allows, but it's all for a plan and process you got to trust, if God wanted all evil things out this world, we'd all be gone due to our sin and behaviors, but because Jesus died on the cross we're saved through him. 2. To explain how being reborn through belief works, you have to understand that there's more then just 'believing in him will get you to heaven' type mentality, that's just lukewarm, and can be attributed to the free grace doctrine, but no in actual fact you have to be first reborn in spirit, because as you find faith in the lord you'll see alot of sinful behaviors disappearing, now of course being a Christian doesn't mean you'll NEVER sin, you'll always have rough patches through sin, and all that, but at the end of the day there's a difference between struggling and living in sin, and through understanding that and humbling yourself shall you be truly saved. 3. Bringing it back to an earlier topic within your paragraph, do you wish to speak 1 on 1 about this? Because correct me if I'm wrong but you seem to be speaking with alot of heart, and seem to be speaking from experience with the whole 'he never does topic' because he does, but he allows certain things to happen in order for better things to come, kind of to put it in a worldly sense like working your butt off for 3 years to experience the good life for 10, and I feel like before you spit alot of this text you should really read the Bible before just spouting beliefs with not biblical information. 4. And the evidence of him existing can be found everywhere, one such evidence is by the fact of the fabric of the universe was created so perfectly that even a slight dial off would be enough to set off the universe, and even scientists haven't made of sense of it (I can go more depth in like a discord sesh or smth). But yeah, if you have more questions I'm free to answer
@@Itali7361 There is so much wrong with your response. First, WHY? Because I am one of the victims of religion. Is your god the god of the Bible? if so, Which Bible? There are over 100 versions in print today. I read the entire KJV of the bible by the time I was 17. Have you read it? Honestly, because you truly seem to be unaware of the atrocities committed by your god and his people in that fantasy collection of books from at least FOUR different religions. The oldest currently practiced religion in the world is Zoroastrianism, it is older than Hebrew-ism, Greek Mythology and Norse Mythology by THOUSANDS of years, and we have the physical records proving it. Hebrew-ism is a PROVEN cult of Zoroastrianism. Messiahianicism was a Cult of Hebrew-ism. The Way was a cult of Messiahianicism. The Catholic Church is a cult of The Way. Protestantism is a Cult of Catholicism. There are over 40,000 cults today calling themselves CHRISTIAN all different, all with opposing beliefs, and many of them willing and able to kill those who do not believe exactly as they do. CHRIST the WORD did not exist until the 11th century, prior to that the GREEKS did not have a word for The Anointed Messiah of God. So they TRANSLITERATED the HEBREW Word one letter at a time, and then they rearranged the letters, and the closest they could get to a REAL word in GREEK was cristo, to cover in oil, or to dip in oil, or to store in oil. In the first century, gladiators were cristo before battle, and the winner would have the cristo scrapped off and sold as perfume. So, the CATHOLIC CHURCH invented the word CHRISTOS to mean the fantasy character they had referred to until then as Ishuah. They didn't call him Jesus, a name with NO POWER, until after the letter J was invented by the SPANISH in 1528. So, before the 16th century there was no JESUS, and before the 11th century there was no CHRIST. In the last 500 years, since the Protestant church was invented, it has split SUCCESSFULLY over 40,000 times. And there have been over 400 different, contradictory, and mostly discarded books calling themselves HOLY WORD OF GOD in just that same amount of time. WHAT is much worse, is that ORIGINALLY, what you call the Bible, was three separate works up until the 15th century when the printing press was invented. Prior to that Every copy of The Holy Word of God, The Bible and The New Testament was written out by hand by scribes, many of them making mistakes and many others changing the text to say what THEY wanted it to say. But it was three separate works. The Holy Word of God, called The Pentateuch by the Catholics, but originally called The Torah by the Hebrews who invented it in 478 BC. The Bible, today called The Hebrew Bible, is the set of stories named Joshua through Malachi, which are simply the stories of the Hebrew people, not intended to be considered HOLY, but you know how religions evolve over time! And finally the New Testament invented in 400 AD by the Catholic Church, added to and removed from for the next 1100 years, when Martin Luther set up the Protestant movement, and eventually the Protestant Church, later called the Lutherans, and took the bible as it was in 1527. But the Catholics weren't done creating their Holy Word of God, so add the Apocrypha if you are Catholic or one of the closer offshoots as they kept adding after Martin Luther set up his cult. First the Catholics assembled the Gospels, Five books, Mathew, Mark, Luke, John and The Acts. They dared not call it HOLY because what they did call The Holy Word of God precluded adding anything to it. That is why there are three works, The Torah, The Bible and The New Testament also called The GOOD word, not the Holy Word. Then an offshoot of Protestantism in what is now called Germany had as a follower, Johannes Gutenberg who printed up the first version of the Vulgate in his printing press, CERTAINLY NOT the bible you read and follow today! It was the spread of Protestantism that is responsible for the various versions of the Bible that are no longer followed or printed, you see, as each cult sprang up throughout Europe and eventually America, they would have their OWN version of the Bible printed up, either adapting for language changes, or discoveries of fallacies and malicious changes, (King James). Throughout the last 150 years, MANY different bibles were invented, printed, discarded or kept. Originally they would preface them with the fact that the book contained three different works, I believe there are still a few today that when you look on page 1 it will still say "The Holy Word of God, The Bible, And The New Testament." But, over time, some religions got lazy, and Dropped the LONG title, and Used The Holy Word of God and The Holy Bible, but even that was too long, and in Gold Leaf, expensive, so they shortened it again and again, so that today you can buy Bibles that say they are simply BIBLE all the way to ones that tell you they are The Holy Word of God. SO, before we go any further, which BIBLE did god tell you is the correct one? And which cult of a cult of a cult of a cult did he tell you is the right one? I can also explain that pesky "beginning of the cosmos" for you if you like also.
@@Itali7361 " if God wanted all evil things out this world, we'd all be gone ..." According to your holy book, your god tried that once, he failed! He literally wiped out ALL LIFE on the planet and started over, but two chapters later there is so much evil in his world already that he has to employ the help of the other gods to help him confuse languages.(This story is from when the Hebrews still worshiped many gods, and YHWH was still simply a lowly god of metallurgy and his wife was Asherah.)
@@Itali7361 "'believing in him will get you to heaven" do you believe that you will get to go to heaven? Because if you had read that holy book of yours, you would know that Jesus himself bars you from Heaven. John 3:16 is so often quoted by people like you, but you fail to read and understand the verse just three verses earlier, where your Jesus himself is credited with saying "None shall ascend to Heaven that did not come from Heaven." There is not a single verse in the Bible(s) I have read that says humans get to go to Heaven, not physically, not spiritually. In that so called HOLY BOOK, Heaven is above the clouds and below the firmament (they thought the sky was solid) And is the abode of God, HIS SONS, Satan, and The Angels. In fact, god destroys Heaven in that book of yours. You really should read it, it has some really outlandish stuff in there, Lord of the Lies is what it should be called. It is truly amusing to me that you tried to defend your religion, and you wanted to have conversations about it privately, but you do not want to expose your actual beliefs PUBLICLY! Does that make you a coward, a hypocrite, a con artist or just admitting that you are just plain wrong about everything you have been indoctrinated to beLIEve?
Wonderful message. Also I love love the thumbnail it's adorable!! I love all your videos and love waking up every Saturday morning with an impactful video waiting for me and helping me become a better person. Your videos answer some tough questions in a Christian life, and they're always backed up with God's Word. They're also short and easy to understand. Love your videos, keep it up!
Years ago back in the early 70's, I lived in a town called Yreka, Ca. I was a fat kid then and was ridiculed unmersifly, outdated and bullied, made to feel worse than a freak. Growing up like this caused me to be hateful and bitter towards people. I've often dreamed of Yreka, Ca. being burned to the ground in a fire storm! Even to this day, I'm having a hard time forgiving people for all the pain endured in my younger days. I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Savior in 1998, and I feel like a hypocrite because of Yreka and others afterwards later. I need prayers from others in my journey to forgive others and be the true Christian Jesus expects me to be. May the Lord grant me the strength to keep fighting to forgive others, just as Jesus forgave me on the cross. AMEN!!!!
I am a very selfish person and I have a lot of hatred in my heart. Sometimes when I cannot forgive people using my own will, I pray to God and I ask God to help me forgive them.
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My father left me and my mother when I was around 6 years old. He took everything from us and left us standing there in the dark. My mother was unemployed and I was a little child and didn't really understand what was going on. I have not talked to him in years as I am 14 now and I am having a hard time forgiving him because of what he did, especially recently when he doesn't even want to pay child support to my mother. But I focus on the bright side: my mother worked on herself more, she started to exercise, eat healthier, and even got a job that pays really well, and I have learned a lot of things in the past few years and made many new friends. I pray that God can give me the strength and love to forgive him. If you read to the bottom of this comment, thank you for listening to me and have an amazing day.
@Plaazzzz you won't always be a child ... you're a preteen now. 4 years from now, you'll be 18.
May I politely suggest you and your mother seek Godly counseling ...to help you heal ... and turn any offenses over to Jesus.. we are not designed to carry resentment ,bitterness, and unforgiveness.Choose now to be better and not bitter... Choose forgiveness for you and your future self...seek healing from situations and not answers.
@Plaazzzz hey man. I'm 40 years old and had a falling out with my father when I was 17. We haven't spoken since. I struggle with the idea of forgiving him just as you do. Because it means he would feel justified. Like I was the one in the wrong all these years, not him.
I'm praying for the strength to truly forgive him. But idk what that means. Does forgiving him mean I should pursue a relationship with him? Do I have to forgive him to his face or can I do it in prayer? These are the answers I'm asking god for.
I would suggest you continue praying, but pray the difficult prayer for your father. Thank God for a dad and your existence. Ask that your dad meets someone on his path that will turn his heart. Forget any tradition and pray an honest prayer. Even if you swear in the process.
Also thank you for sharing your story as it has helped me with mine. I will be praying for you and your family my friend.
Please consider therapy through insurance to see what is covered by it
@@suppertimesims i dont therapey is going to work , gods healing will :D
I've been dealing with similar things lately. I've struggled with trusting people for most of my life(which I think subconsciously had affected my trust in Christ too) and one of the biggest reasons for that happened about 6 years ago when I was in college. I found out that my little brother, who has always been a troubled kid, had been abusing my little sister for years. I've only just recently, within the last year, gotten to the point where I don't have an angry outburst every time I hear his name and I've over the last couple weeks been trying to forgive. It's hard enough when it's you being the one affected by the action needing forgiveness but it's infinitely harder when it's someone you love and care about who was the victim and you don't think(haven't talked to him in years so hope to be wrong and someone has talked to him) they've repented. I think I'm the only one in my family who hasn't at least partially forgiven but I just continue struggling with letting that go. Deep pain is so hard to forgive, especially when it's caught up in your own emotions like guilt, shame, and anger.
We sinned trillions of times against God, and yet He continues to love us.
We are in no position to be unforgiving.
Amém 😊
Amen!!! absolutely true
@indigofenrir7236. Forgiveness should never be mandated, specially in the eyes of some sky God.
Indigofenrir im trying to tslk to you about a recent topic. Im baptist but most of all belidve in Christ Jesus as my savior. Now I do like anime alot i grew up with it. I like the figures as art pieces not worship. I know the money spending is wrong but is it seriously bad to collect figures as a hobby when i know rhey are fake? Looking for your opinion
@@JimC1984 James, you believe in Jesus, whom the world hates. Now we are free to enjoy what's in this world, but not everything is beneficial. Attachment to earthly stuff leads to obsession, and that takes away your attention from the Lord.
We watch anime for the storyline and values, yes? That's no different from reading a book or listening to a song, quite harmless. But if we watch it for the fanservice then that's now a problem.
You probably don't collect anime figurines to study body positions and proportions for your art projects and commissions, but to look at them. How's that any different from dragons hoarding gold?
Lust of the eyes, my friend.
"treat them like they never wronged you" powerful
امين
Hel no, I’m not treating them like anything because once they wronged me that’s it. I’m never talking to you again
@@LilXancheXMatthew 18:21-22
King James Version
21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
Matthew 6:14-15
New International Version
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
1 John 4:20
New International Version
20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.
John 3:3
New International Version
3 Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.[a]”
@@LilXancheX hey, you just have to remember, that Jesus once died for us even though we are sinners, and we did not deserve to be forgiven.
and yet he forgave us! so if Jesus can forgive us for sinning which is a BIG DEAL for him, why can't WE forgive others when they wronged us?
I know it's hard to forgive sometimes, I have been there many times, but you just have to pray to God, and think about it. eventually if you have the heart, you'll be able to forgive them❤
@@LilXancheX Jesus didn't do that so why should you do that?
UN-forgiveness is like a cancer. Untreated it will certainly destroy your body.
I watched one of my brothers living in UN-forgiveness, it was hard to watch him fall. Everyone was at fault never him. He was being eaten up inside. He drank was an alcoholic in toward the end he cut everyone out of his life. I mean everyone. So heartbreaking 😢
He decided to cancel himself out of this life. More heartbreaking💔😢
I tried so many times to help him. He would not open his heart.more heartbreaking 💔 💔💔💔
So this May 15th will be 2 years since his passing.
No matter how hard it may be to forgive it is not only your body but your spirit that is effected.
This video is extremely important.
I was blessed a long while ago to have a forgiving heart. Compassion and empathy were my gifts in Jesus. And a forgiving spirit too.
It comes with blessings and challenges. It is not all roses and sunny. But I would rather have those challenges than a spiritually ridden cancer of body heart and mind.
To those struggling with forgiveness, this information may help tremendously!
God bless 🙌🏼🙏🏼💝
My health has been declining because of unforgiveness. It’s taken me almost 3 years before I listened to God that I need to forgive. If you would pray for me? I’ve been praying for my ex husband and my present husband….i need to forgive both of them for different reasons. I’m sure there are others I need to forgive. I don’t know how to let go of my pride. God bless you 🙏🏻
I pray that God gives you the grace to forgive. I pray, also, that God will help you understand His depth of forgiveness for you and that from that you’ll be able to forgive others and yourself. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Forgiveness sets you free , from any spirituele attachment, or emotional attachment.
Prayer helps, i believe that.
Forgiveness lets you feel constant pain from being wronged, hate drowns the pain and turns it into becoming a just person to make things right with the people who have scarred you.
I never realized how much pain I was carrying around with unforgiveness. I wasn't hurting those who hurt me by not forgiving them, they probably couldn't give a damn about what I think, I was hurting myself and my relationship with God. I can't believe I was saying Jesus' death was not enough and justifying my hatred. I've heard this message of forgiveness before but it wasn't until today that I received it. I really needed this, thank you.
And now you are primed and ready to be abused by someone else your god will not help you with.
never clicked so quick in my life
Lol same 😂
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Yeah same
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The issue with me is that I always forgive, but I don't always forget. In other words, when I'm wronged, I don't keep bitterness in my heart, but my heart is still on high alert if something was super horrible to me.
Now, see, as a child, when you were abused by the same person taking you to church, it was very difficult to FORGET when the abuse continued to happen again and again. But, that is the point of being a Christian, you must be a perpetual victim.
That sound more like exercising wisdom than holding a grudge.
@nvgboiyes6386 guess so because holding a grudge is intentionally remembering bad event action from person and saying it to them with hatred
@@tiredofliars Not all Christians are abusers
@@IsraelCountryCubebut forgiving is making the situation like it never happened, and it won’t affect you when you hear about it again.
God answered my prayer by showing me this video in the right time ✝️❤️
I think it was the algorithm.
@@spasteriskalgorithism amen
@@spasterisk god controling thw algorithim
Quran has many accurate and useful information, I encourage everyone to explore them and read it at least once. 💙
It's especially difficult to forgive those who don't even ask for forgiveness or feel any regret at all...
Yet your own religion mandates it so… why even subscribe to it?
Same. I struggle a lot with this. And when I try to forgive I feel stupid.
Forgiveness is not about whether the person deserves our forgiveness or not, but by forgiving we decide to release ourselves from anger so that we are not overcome by that anger. Give it to God and pray, He will heal you.
@@jeremymoses2646 Amen!
Here are my thoughts.
If they don't ask for forgiveness, you don't have to tell them directly that you forgive them, but you can pray for them and for yourself. Don't keep negativity and even desires for revenge. If you become bitter, you'd just suffer.
Shalom, I was sexually abused as a child by my uncle, God taught me that there is no mercy without forgiveness . He had me understand that people remain prisoners without forgiveness and I didn't want my uncle to be a prisoner. The Holy Spirit prayed in me a prayer of such forgiveness that what my uncle had done wouldn't be found on judgement day. I admit that when someone seeks to continually hurt us without ever repenting is very difficult, a real test beyond my strength sometimes until God Himself helps me
Hi dear
I also have a sister who also went through this same abuse.
Yes it hurts but there is a very easy ways to forgive those who hurts us. I say it is easy because it truly is.
The same way our Lord Jesus did, He said " Father, forgive them!".
Just by asking the Lord to forgive those who hurts us has brought healing and peace to my sister and myself.
Ask the Lord to forgive them and pray for them.
Honestly you'll be amaze on how quick the good Lord can heal your heart
I pray God give you a total healing from what has happened in your life. I stand in agreement with you that God give you the faith to forgive and to have a productive life in Jesus Christ name Amen 🙏
I've avoided this video so much because i myself have had an unforgiving heart. I'm ready now
That thumbnail is the absolute best...and most appropriate 😂👍🏿👍🏿❤️❗️
It made me lol 😂
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Jesus like, what? I told you guys to love each other. 😂😂😂
It’s so funny 😂
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JESUS : “GUYS! What have a told you about forgiveness!”
PERSON 1 : “G-gget over here NOW YOUR REALLY GONNA GET IT”
PERSON 2 : “NO YOU GET OVER HERE MY FIST WILL BE MEETING YOUR FIST TODAY ! “
It took me 3yrs to forgive my Step Dad now I'm here because of a friend who wronged me, this helped so much. Thanks and God bless to you and the person who's reading this as well❤
God bless ✝️💖
Please pray for my friend everyone. He’s a lost sheep and every prayer helps him get closer to God
i prayed for you
@@ImpactVideoMinistries thank you for making a change
Just prayed!
Finally...this is what I have been looking for...A tutorial from a Christian on how to forgive others. I am really trying my best to master my Forgiving because of everything that had me wrong.
We must forgive our enemies. Romans 12:21 “ do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”
@@Tron1400 yesssssss🙌🏼thank you for this! God bless you!
Sup bro, did u know Naruto promotes budhaism
Thanks for the verse
God's timing couldn't be better. I had a rough day at work and was having thoughts of yelling at my boss. Then I saw this video on lunch and am watching it now.
Are you thinking of forgiving your boss or something? Could just be general stress.
Yeah..
We thank God..
And I hope you put to practice what you heard..?
@Doom0728 yeah I'll work on forgiving him. Something I try to remind myself which is similar to what the video said with Jesus dying for your enemies is that my enemies and the most evil people in the world are loved equally as much in the eyes of God as me.
@@anoncooks Forgiving your boss? Really? I bet if he knew that you feel you deserved an apology from him, he would fire you! Your boss is Paying you to do a Job, HIS WAY. If you don’t like being paid to follow directions, then maybe you should listen to Jesus, abandon your family and home, give all you have to the poor (not the church) and follow Jesus, nahhhh! That would be stupid wouldn’t it?!
@tiredofliars dude what's your problem?
I am going through a very tough season in my life at the moment.
This video was definitely not by accident. God most definitely put it there for me to see.
I'm praying for the Holy Spirit to help me and teach me to forgive and forget. As my Lord and savior did for me. Aaaaaaaaaand it is so hard because the hurt prevents me from doing so. The most important part is to keep praying and to keep the faith even stronger
Forgiving myself is always the hardest person to forgive. God I know has forgiven and let my past self go, but I can’t bc I see the results of my actions everyday in my family that’s broken apart. I love you Lord for your mercy.
You never know how much I need this now.. God, You always finds a way to remind Your people.. I want to forgive those who wronged me as You have forgiven me of all my sins 🙏
Amen ive been a having a grudge on someone this day but i found this, i really think God is sending me a mesage to forgive them Amen🙏🙏
This. This is the video I needed. I’m going through a custody battle for my daughter, and there has been so much I’ve been learning to forgive myself and her mother for. I was majorly in the wrong overall (recovering alcoholic/drug addict), and after giving my heart to Jesus on July 21st, 2023 which was 183 days ago today, I am 183 days sober as well. I’m learning from the Bible first but these videos are always good to follow up with. God bless this channel
God may bless you and your daughter
Several yewrs I ago I had a huge fight with my mom after she kicked me out of the house. I was angry at her. I tried so hard to help her through the tough times because she went through cancer, losing a brother and a son, and more. I tried to be the support son, but my father and other brother did nothing to help. At one point, she literally tried to kill herself, and I stopped, and yet she kept treating me like I was the one that caused all her problems.
I finally broke when she told me, "My life would have been better if you weren't born." This hurt the most, so I left. Several years have gone by and I have kept that pain and that hurt until I rediscovered my faith and I decided to forgive and let go.
I tried talking to my mom again and....well, honestly, nothing has changed. She doesn't think she did anything wrong, and I don't feel welcome in that house anymore, but I still forgive her.
I just don't want her to hurt me anymore, but I don't know what to do about if anything. I wonder what God's plan here?
Thank you for this. When I was in a bed and I am scrolling in youtube and then I found this video. Because someone hurted me last time when he ruins my friendship with my favorite friend. I can't forgive him but when I see this video, I prayed to Lord and then I said, "will I ever forgive him". I felt it and praise God, I forgive him because how Christ died for us to forgive us. Thanks you and Godbless you more.
Edit: Can I give you credit because I was making a comics, about these testimony I commented. Thank you.
Not really one to hold a grudge against people but there is one person I'm struggling to Forgive... Myself
God bless all Jesus God and the Holy Spirit. Love you all.
This is probably one of the most important videos on RUclips, for all of us.
-Especially me-
El perdón es sanador, no solo porque mejora las relaciones sociales y nuestro crecimiento espiritual sino que también nos ayuda a nosotros, al fin y al cabo todo lo que Dios nos ha encomendado es por AMOR y por nuestro bien, y perdonar es un acto de amor hacia todos y de ayuda a nosotros mismos.
Perdonamos porque Él nos perdonó primero.
AMÉN
Amen🙏🏻
Jesus loves you
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺He loves you too. Blessings @@Jesus_is_king1234
Amén 🤍
He loves you too, sweetie!!!@@Jesus_is_king1234
It was really hard to forgive the man that SA'd me when I was 15. I managed to forgive and I really hope God forgives him too
I have had a similar experience, I try to forget about it but I just cannot do it.
He lives right in front of my house and I see him sometimes, he keeps looking at me which scares me and then I remember everything he's done and how unfair it is that he faces no repercussions and gets treated like he's one of the best people out there while I'm told I'm overreacting for being scared.
I want to forgive him but I secretly wish something bad happens to him which is a horrible thought but I don't know what to do
@@vivid8280definitely seek a therapist or one in your network with your insurance
a lot of people with ptsd cannot forget literally the struggle internally is so don't worry. You can forgive by walking away and remember karma and seeking comfort in that everyone will be seen by God at the end of their life.
@@vivid8280definitely seek therapy
@@vivid8280you should try to seek therapy through your insurance to see who will be covered try that
I understand what you mean about forgiving people who seem unforgivable. I'm currently going through a divorce from someone who is a liar, a cheat and a thief. God restored my spirit, my energy and my money she stole. I prayed so hard for months! Saying, lord I absolutely cannot forgive on my own, I need you! Months and months later I'm actually getting there. I also feel after the court date it'll be even better for me. God bless you guys! Much love, keep praying! 🙏
So, you are talking about a woman you took a vow to god, to love and cherish, in richer, poorer, sickness (unless it is mental of course, then the vow to god is off) and health. Understood, you are the epitome of modern Christinsanity.
@@tiredofliarswhere is your love and compassion?
@@beaberean3842 For WHO? A man who calls his ex a liar and because he claims to be using GOD to get his way, we are supposed to assume HE IS THE ONE WHO IS RIGHT? Also, doesn't it strike you as funny that while he claims he is getting there concerning forgiving her, he is still calling her a liar, cheater and thief! WHERE is your COGNITIVE CONSISTENCY? He is the PERFECT CHRISTIAN, using his I AM HOLIER THAN THOU attitude to get people like you to back him up. PURE EVIL.
@@beaberean3842 For a man claiming to be forgiving while blaming his ex wife for all his woes! Classic abuser claiming to be the victim!
@@beaberean3842 Where is yours for his ex wife? He talks about her, putting all the blame on her and you simply accept that he is in the right because he said GOD in his post! LOL!! No wonder Trump was elected back in 2016.
Thank you for the three steps and bonus of forgiving a person.❤
- In Jesus Name we pray Amen 🙏
This video came timely in my life. I am going through a season of betrayal from a person I loved, and I couldn’t help but always think about the wrong they have caused me. If anyone is out there going through the same, I pray that God help you and me to forgive and let’s pray until we can completely forgive and forget! God bless you
Well just don't be naive about it
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. -Romans 12:21-
Amen 🙏
HALLELUYAH!! JESUS IS LORD!! LORD HELP ME TO FORGIVE OTHER LIKE YOU FORGIVE ME!! IN JESUS NAME AMEN!! 🙏🏻🤍🕊✝️🫶
Prayer really, really helps! Here's a few things that have helped me forgive people easier, 1) thinking of my own sins and thinking about how I want to be forgiven. I earnestly want to be forgiven for my wrongs and while I understand that there's people out there who aren't sorry for wronging you, this moves onto step 2) thinking of hell. It's eternal, never ending, it's horrible painful torment no matter how many years pass, no matter how sorry someone is then. I think of that person in hell for eternity, thinking of a hundred billion years passing, and the pain never ends. It breaks my heart knowing there's many, many people out there that will live a suffering existence for eternity and it makes me feel a deep sorrow for them. 3) focus on that sorrow and realizing these people are hurting themselves far more than they could ever hurt me. This leads me to the final step, 4) praying that person understands what they're doing so they stop and come to our Lord so they may be saved from hell. No matter how much someone has hurt me, the thought of them suffering for eternity is such a horrifying thought that it leads me directly to prayer every time my emotions calm down.
❤Thank you
Oh LORD help me to easily forgive 🙏❤
I AM WITH THE MIND OF GOD ❤❤❤❤❤
These videos are amazing! God bless you and thank you for spreading the powerful word of God ❤
This video called me ask the way out and I’m encouraged by it to begin a difficult journey in forgiving others 🙏🏾 please pray for me
I recently accepted Jesus in my life and I'm struggling hard with this concept. Thank you, the timing is perfect (personally). I'm grateful. God Bless.
This is kind so long, but I do stay in topic. I really pray what I say helps you. It seems like such a long time ago, but I got saved in 2019 so I'm still relatively new in the Faith myself.
Remember, repentance is a process. Turning from sin is a process, it won't always be easy. So when it comes to things like unforgiveness, think about repentance as though you are driving your vehicle.
Your vehicle is always going to make turning a process, it will never be an about face, the vehicle will always make some sort of curve.
That's generally how our walk with Jesus is. Forgiveness will always be a process, especially if it's a family member or friend.
Someone we have a long history with, it can be easy to keep score of the ways that person has done wrong. When we forgive, we must also address our own pride which can get in the way of our walk with Jesus.
I'll end with this, sometimes people have issues with forgiveness because of an overzealous and prideful disposition. Peter is a classic case study of this. He is the most outspoken of all the disciples.
If you haven't yet, you will read about Peter telling Jesus "I will NEVER DENY YOU"! Jesus stating that "Before the rooster crows, you will deny me 3 times ."
Of course Jesus was right, and after the resurrection, Peter is shown to be forgiven. Later on Peter wrote in one of his letters, found in the back end of the Bible "For God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble".
The life of Peter can teach us about humility and forgiveness.
I got something to say, I probably came to this video not because I hold grudges against people, but I probably clicked this video because I want to find a way to forgive others. Since God wants me to forgive others, then I want to forgive others as well.
I had hard times forgiving someone but after this, i feel better 😊😊
Forgiveness is done in confidence with God and the concerned individuals- it's private and confidential- Generally preachers keep on pushing individuals to Forgive And Forgive like a broken record- where it shows that preachers themselves have some hypocritical issues that bothers them within and they take out their insecurities on society- other church members 🙏Thank you 🙏
I’ve been struggling to forgive a family member recently because they’ve cause me so much pain in my life. I haven’t talked to them really in a month and this next time I talk to them, I’m going to set healthy boundaries with how often I see them and talk to them. I’ve been praying for them for awhile now and I really do hope they make some changes in their life and cry out to Jesus for guidance.
You have been praying for a while, and instead of forgiving, you are going to set boundaries, Good for you. God isn’t doing ANYTHING about it, so you should take it into your own hands.
@@tiredofliars Nice try, but it is God who gives us the strength to make those changes.
@@abundantharmony good try, but can you Prove it?
@@tiredofliars my life is proof.
@@abundantharmony No, your life is proof of evolution.
Amen to our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ.
I want to take a moment to thank you, finding your channel was one of the best things to happen to me. I have always been a believer of Christ, but my faith was becoming stagnant. But one night, I stumbled across one of your videos and loved it, it really spoke to me and I truly believe I was ment to see it. My eyes were opened, later that night I finally sat down and read my Bible and when I was finished with Matthew I had an honest to God conversation with the Lord. Ever since then I have been on the path to be the best Christian I can be. Thank you
Amen...Matthew 5:44-45 tells us EXACTLY what to do for those folks .....love them, pray for them, do good to them, feed them, lend to them, give them a cool drink
Beautifully said. If God can forgive the most heinous of sins, we should do our best to do so as well.
Always give vengence to God.
Romans 12:19
"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave room for the wrath of God; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, and I will repay, says the Lord”.
Many people have wrong me greatly so I gave it to God. Time passed, and some did come back and apologized to me.
The ones that didn’t, well lets just say they dont live happy lives right now.
Always let God handle things if you are wronged.
Trust me, its flawless
The thumbnail is everything
I was filled with rage and disgust for a bit. But then i remembered i have transgressed just the same in the past. We have all sinned at some point. I got my karma, and i accept it. Now i will be extremely careful who i sureound myself with. I will no longer hurt myself nor the people who love me. I will be a spearhead of Gods will and help others become better people to stop this cycle of sin that we harm each other with. Jesus im sorry for my transgressions and i forgive those who tresspassed against me. Fill my heart with love so that i can go out and do your bidding. Amen.
This video answered my prayer thanks
Me too praise the Lord
I loved someone once and I was hurt deeply. It took me a long time to forgive because I tried doing it myself. But when I did it with the help of God it was so much easier for me. I do forgive thIs person, I wish them well, and sometimes I find myself wondering why but feel comfortable in the now and wish them to do be happy in life. I do find myself missing her sometimes. That will take time but I do not hate her and I do forgive her
Thank you for putting this all together, I've been reading the new testament since December of 23 and trying to figure out how to forgive the people that are making our lives difficult right now and it is so hard but I do feel like I'm getting closer to that point. But it's one thing to say I forgive you to someone, but you have to truly believe it, I could say it but I don't feel like I would actually mean it yet, but I'm building towards it.
I feel like the holy Spirit is working within me to get me and my family to a better place, but it doesn't happen quickly, just reading the Bible every night, even if it's just one chapter helps me focus.
I suggest if you feel lost and don't know what to do, start reading the new testament, it has helped me immensely!
Whispering hurt😢 but bertram patient be kind be nice be safe be responsible be your best 🙏
Wow. This short video with the hilarious thumbnail might be the most important message that I have personally ever seen or heard.
Amen. May God's love and mercy conquer all.
I'm so thankful to God for using this ministry to share the word of God, and encourage us in times of challenges ❤🫂🦋
Your videos has helped me to become a good Christian
im so thankful :)
Amen. That is probably how most(a lot of kids) people become bitter or angry and stuck with it. I do not want that 2 happen.
man! That’s so crazy how legit all the time the videos upload when needed most. God is so awesome his timing… man..
I've got so much hate for bullies. The ones who bullied me, my friends, and even just in general. I just can't wrap my head around why someone would hurt another human being. One of the hardest things is to pray for them, but you just gotta do it, and pray God can quiet the rage in your heart
Forgiveness comes with an open, meaningful apology. This is such a tough subject because sometimes it translates as blanket forgiveness for any wrongs done to you. We approach the Lord in sincere repentance and are forgiven. He doesn’t forgive without our acknowledgement of sin. Others also need to be sorry for their wrongs towards you to be given forgiveness. That being said, whether or not you receive an apology over a past hurt it is SO important to forgive that person in your heart and get to a place that you can wish well for them and truly, lovingly view them with kind regard from afar, sometimes it can be near impossible to physically get to a balanced place again with said persons. But not forgiving in your heart… that is definitely where bitterness and resentment comes in and wreaks havoc! It doesn’t always look like an open arm, bff relationship afterward unfortunately, but Jesus can help you come to terms in His love for others despite the hurt they have caused. Lovely video, and so needed in this season ❤
Thank you so much for this video. You just gave me hope. My Dad died from terminal cancer and some people walked away from our lives and it wasn't the first time they did. My mom and I learned that not all friends are real friends, but we must forgive, because it frees us.
im so sorry for your loss. and im so thankful our video has helped
@@ImpactVideoMinistries I also watched your other videos and your channel brings me hope
@@DanielAlvarez-v9e I'm sorry for what happened i hope everything is going better now, God bless ✝️💖
It’s a bit difficult to forgive someone you cannot talk to anymore. Don’t go down that path
Pray everyday to ask Jesus to help you forgive that person. Do this everyday and you will be able to forgive.
i'd like to add the point that we should forgiven even the people that don't want our forgiveness. when Jesus was hanging on the cross, he said "father, forgive them" even when they wouldn't repent. so i would argue we should treat people that sinned against us with forgiveness, even with their sin still abounding. great video.
Some tips for those who struggle with forgiving:
In most cases, there’s a reason behind the wrongdoing that’s been done to you. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see if you can at least find a reason they might’ve done what they’ve done. This is most helpful in cases of miscommunication or assumed malicious intent.
In cases with hurt on both sides, check yourself before focusing on the wrong of the other party. Is there something you could find that you’ve done that wasn’t good? In my experience, forgiveness comes a lot quicker once we realize and say that we’ve done wrong ourselves. Helps build empathy and tends to help the other party do a bit of self reflection as well.
I understand why but that doesn't mean I want to sign up for more evil in my life lol. When you're a child and are being harmed by your parent, is it really the child's fault? You have to be careful with saying stuff like this because this is what narcs say to the people they abuse. That it's our fault they have to treat us that way. I agree with you if it's with a non-malicious person.
The people that hurt me were family. I've been praying so hard to forgive but I believe God will help me, I don't ever what the pain to hold me back everytime I think about where they did
Much love on the works of our lord, keep up the wonderful presentation/ animations my brother and sisters. I’ll ask for more blessings in our prayers, asking this channel gives me more wisdom in faith. Amén
Forgiveness for a narcissistic sister, over & over of Forgiveness! One battle I have had my whole life, I continue to pray for her!
Thanks for your awesome videos ❤ BUT, I just want to say here, that there is a difference between "not keeping records of wrong" and "treating someone as if they never hurt us". And this distinction is absolutely not a trivial one! Keeping score and keeping records of wrong can't possibly co-exist with forgiveness. True! And absolutely, sometimes minor offenses both can and should be forgotten. But other offences simply can't and teaching that "not forgetting" is in contrast to "not forgiving" is dangerous. Not only for the severely abused that struggles with forgiving because they falsely have been taught that would constitute also forgetting, but also for the severely abused that needs to stay far away from the person who abused them! Some people are simply not safe! Not in their current state. That does not mean that we cannot forgive them. We can forgive them, and yet, still recognize that they are not safe and that they must be treated as the potential threats that they very much still are. You can forgive and pray for the man who raped and abused you for years, and you will find tremendous freedom and healing in doing so. It will help you grow beyond and above the horrible things you endured. But that doesn't mean that you should start treating the person who did all these things to you as if it never happened! That isn't biblical either. To not "see" the sin, like God does no longer see our sins after He forgave us, is not the same as ignoring it was ever there to begin with. It means we should no longer focus our energy and attention on it after we have forgiven the person who harmed us. But, we can still know (a.k.a remember) that the person harmed us so that we can avoid putting our trust in that person again as long as they are still the same person. Remembering is also not a hindrance for loving someone that abused or mistreated you. Dwelling on it and focusing on it is. But acknowledgment that this abuse altered your life and who you are is the honest and safe way to both forgiveness of the abuser and you own healing in Christ. All I'm saying is, that it is a little more complicated than "forgive and forget".
@@justsomeyoutubechannel2023 It seems to me that, at best, you only skimmed my text before you decided for yourself what I wrote - and what I believe and don't believe. Your response has absolute no correlation to my post! Not only do you quote me completely wrong, but you also make a very problematic assumption...
- I absolutely did NOT write ANYTHING about ANY sin not being forgivable, neither by God himself nor by us. Please direct me, with correct quotation this time, to the place in my text where I make that statement?
- I NEVER wrote, nor did I even come close to hinting at, the statement that there are sins the precious blood of Jesus can't pay for!
- I NEVER wrote, nor did I even come close to hinting at, that there are people God can't heal!
- I NEVER wrote ""but other offences simply can't [be forgiven.]" You can't even interpret what I actually wrote in that way. What I wrote is this: "And absolutely, sometimes minor offenses both can and should be FORGOTTEN. But other offences simply can't (BE FORGOTTEN!... follows the logic of the sentence as a whole). Forgiven, yes, absolutely! But simply forgetting completely isn't always possible in a physical sense and we can cause harm to people who are struggling with this if we demand that they completely forget or else their forgiving is invalid. It simply isn't so. Have you completely forgotten every single thing in your life another person has ever done that hurt you? Now imagine being tortured and abused for years and years by the person that should love you, care for you and protect you. Imagine the abuse being so severe and cruel that you lost the ability to ever carry children. Even lost the ability to ever walk again. Can you forgive such an ordeal? Yes. By the love and mercy of our mighty God and by His power and His healing you can come to a place where even that can be forgiven. But does that mean you can and should forget completely? That would mean you could - and should - continue to live with the man that did this to you... because he has now never done that to you, right? That would be the case if you should "treat him as if it never happened". Even if that made him keep abusing you? No, of course not! That's a silly question. You should no longer focus on the harm that was done to you, but set your focus on God - and remember that this person is dangerous to you (as long as he is the person that harmed you and not a new person in Jesus... as I wrote!) CAN you even forget and is that a realistic expectation God has of you? No, of course not! Because your life is forever altered by the trauma and pretending it didn't happen is not the same as healing from it! Not even close. You can't "forget" away the fact that you no longer can have a child of your own. It has nothing to do with forgiveness. It's a simple physiological fact you have to live with. Are you suggesting that it would be possible, and that God would demand, that you forget the fact that you can't have children (and subsequently are forced to remember why)? No, of course not. Should you forget that you have scars all over your body after chunks of your flesh were cut out? Forget that you are in a wheelchair and just act as if you could walk? Again, a dumb question of course. When you are forced to remember, you should not also be burdened with the opinions of those who do not understand and can't relate that you haven't been "forgiving" enough because you haven't also "forgotten". God understands and He is the only judge of your heart. He knows if you have truly forgiven or not. If He grants full and miraculous recovery and complete "forgetting" (amnesia), then it is His mercy and His will. Praise to Him. But if He doesn't, neither you, nor I, nor anyone else should judge this tortured and abused child of God for not having "forgotten" because they are clearly still in a wheelchair and by extension forced by circumstance to remember why! That is not in accordance with the bible and that is the essence of what I wrote.
You write that I start out with the assumption that God is not omnipotent... There is absolutely NOTHING in my text that hints at that. Not a single thing.
i don't understand why you chose to respond in the fashion you did, and especially after not even reading my post with just a little bit of care. But Maybe you are one of those people on the internet who just likes to start fires. I really hope not. I write this long response to you in the hope that it is not the case. I hope that you just skimmed my text, misunderstood it completely, and got upset because you assumed I was saying something else than what I was actually saying. Peace be with you ❤✝
I agree 100%. I forgave the person that wronged me my entire childhood. But recently that person repeated many of the abusive things they did to me in childhood and I just can't have that around me for my own sanity's sake. I have to forgive from afar. I wish it didn't have to be that way. I really do. But unfortunately, it's not safe. I absolutely grieve that it can't be a better situation.
This video helped me to better see myself. I was mistreated as a child by my dad, and later on sexually abused. But it was never the abuse that made me angry, it was the past when he was really hard. I wanted to hate him, but I've learned to forgive him. Although, I do still bring up the past quite a bit, and I've wondered if I've really forgiven him, if I keep bringing it up. Especially since it puts me in a funk at times. I also feel it's not so forgiving when I tell him that the past him is dead to me, because it sounds a bit harsh. I don't know. . . thank you for helping me to see myself though.
P.S. My dad and I are best friends now, but I should completely let go of the past, and stop making him feel bad when I bring it up. Not that I'm trying too, but I can be accusatory, which isn't good.
Thank God for you and the Grace to forgive.
I pray the good Lord continues to heal you.
Brother in Christ, I hope with all my heart that God keeps blessing you and conceding and increasing this wonderful wisdom of yours. You have no ideia how much your videos help me and I really believe that God leaded the ways for me to find them. Peace be with you, your sister in Christ in Brazil
God is possible, all powerful, mercyful, faithful, fair, *Love*, grace, victorious.. Everything ❤
I do believe in forgiving. I do believe in treating them as they never wronged you. But there are some offenses that you could never forget.
There are others who repatativly wrong you. Even after you forgave them 70 x 7. You would be foolish to let such people back into your life. But you still can forgive.
We are supposed to be wise, and it's wise to not blindly trust people, especially if they have given a reason to not be trusted. But yeah, it's important to forgive and forget, as in to not ruminate those memories and constantly remind the wrondoer of it, I think we're not really supposed to literally forget. Treat them as if they didn't do those things, but there is no need to force yourself to keep them in your life. Not that it's easy, of course, it's very hard. But thanks to God, not impossible.
@user-ji1hb7wy8d you are seeking validation, so desperately at that. If someone sexually molested you, please don't act as if they never wronged you. Your advice is ridiculous. You are so fake
@@LauraNunes-r4q Exactl You can forgive people without being a doormat or a punching bag.
My gran always said "forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to jump back in to bed with them" 😂😂😂
Forgiveness is like this. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
I've had a hard time forgiving someone for over 40 years, but I see now that it's time. We aren't the ones to pass judgement, only God can do that so why waste our energy on hating, being mad at someone.🙏✝️
Your videos bring me so much joy. Thank you for creating this video about forgiveness. May our Heavenly Father richly bless you and keep your heart on fire for His Living Word every day of your life! I am praying for you, brother, that God will fill you with His peace that transcends all human understanding. I am praying that He will lead you through the challenge of forgiveness and that you reach the sweeter side of your prayers, where you are liberated.
Thank you for all you give into making these videos, for reminding us what a follower of Jesus looks like, and for communicating to everyone (especially those who don't already know) that JESUS LOVES US.
im grateful that our videos blessed you. i hope we continue to bless you :)
The hard part is not forgiving them, but dealing with their gaslighting. many won't even apologize
This is such a breath of fresh air.. Dear God put in me the spirit to forgive and let go and find peace within me❤❤❤
The moment you said "alright" I actually nodded in tears.😅 You felt like an older brother teaching me😊. . Thanks a lot. Praying for your work. ❤
Blessed are you to make this thoughtfully well made video about forgiveness *while* dealing yourself with people to forgive. Something tells me you are ready to do so, just need to step your feelings aside.
Many will not care about our forgiveness to them, so it is more about to cleanse hate from our soul than give relief to whom (should) know they wronged us. But idk who am I to say, I also needed this video, thank you 🙏🏻
God just wants us to be as much like him as possible. He doesn't expect we will nail every aspect perfectly but he wants us to know him. Knowing God is wanting to be like God by forgiving others and other things. I think the very least he wants is us to be more loving and forgiving. Who knows, that may be just enough to gain his forgiveness and not be told to depart for he never knew us! He just wants us to be at peace with one another. He wants us to stop spreading lies and gossip (he abhors that).
Definitely needed this. I've recently been trying to work toward forgiving my brother for unspeakable things he did to our little sister that I found out about about 6 years ago. It is so hard to forgive, especially when it's a situation wrapped up in your feelings of guilt, shame, and anger, along with serious doubts that he'll ever change. Although I have gotten to the point, within the past year, that I've prayed for people to talk to him and I'm no longer in a position where I'd be unable to control my anger, if he was with me, I still struggle with letting it go.
I'm sorry about all of that I pray for you, God bless ✝️💖
@@EddieNarrea Thank you, my friend. I'm definitely better than I was back then when I first learned of it but it's still the kind of scar and betrayal that doesn't ever really truly heal and you just learn to live with.
Thank you so much ! ❤️🙏 This was so graciously taught. God bless you and may the Lord see you successfully through in helping you to forgive those two people.
We have no choice but to forgive as believers. If you don't forgive you are up the creak without a paddle. It is crucial. No matter what they've done.
Once again, a video of your channel comes at the right time in my life. A part of me was resisting to watch it, but deep down, I knew God was giving me the answer I needed… even if it’s not the one I wanted.
Forgiveness is hard… your last tip really helped me, and will continue to, so, thank you, for sharing this wisdom.
It's my understanding that we are to forgive those who harm us and pray for our enemies. It does not mean God expects you to be friends or be around these people.
PRAISE GOD. This was just beautiful. Amen this was such a blessing. ❤
Another scripture to reference could be Matthew 18:23-35 is parable of our debts paid for all our sins yet we all get angry and approach our neighbors for 100 pence they owe us and yet 10000 talents we owed God to settle accounts for our debt was forgiven. I saw it as nice example of mercy given to us from Jesus and we Must do the same for our neighbors and we aren’t doing it alone as God always offers us a way through continuous prayer and Thanksgiving for all that Jesus has done for us
not much about forgiving others but to forgive myself for being so irrational and unjust of the way I treat others as compared to how they treat me...
You know genshin has magic it isn't good i know cause i played reached sumeru then God spoke to me through the word about magic in genshin
Its gonna be hard ik natlsn is comming out u wanna pull for the pyro archon you have a lot primos you saved but its gonna be ok cause Jesus is gonna give you the strength to get through it
Not just magic mone is an astrologist the bible talked about that too
All in Isaiah 47 11-13
The thumbnail warms my heart... Seeing Jesus trying to protect the person and stop the angered one... touching...
Thank you Impact, your messages just pulled me closer to the love of God i've been really far from God lately thanks for making this videos.
“While we may not be able to forgive, God can make it possible for us.” This is profound. Thank you for the reminder that God is always bigger. God bless you and this channel, your videos are so empowering in Christ. Thanks 🙏🏽
1st ACCEPTANCE: Accept that it happened to you. Accept that someone hurt you (Intentionally or Unintentionally).
2nd FEEL THE EMOTIONS: Dont block it. Don't repress the anger/disappointment/sadness. CRY IT OUT.
3rd REALIZE IT'S IN THE PAST: Focus on "Now" "Today"
4rth FORGIVE Yourself / Others: Realize that they are humans too.
5th SET BOUNDARIES: Don't be naive. This is how you can effectively protect your peace and stsnd up for yourself.
Pray for strength. Pray for complete healing so you dont have to bleed on people who didn't hurt you.
What a wonderful religion! An abuser need not apologize to their victims, no redress is needed, they just need to ask god to forgive them, and the victims are all on their own. The VICTIMS in fact, must also ask god for forgiveness or the abuse will continue after life. The VICTIMS must ask god for help in getting over the trauma of being abused, (but he never actually does anything) because he is such a loving god! He is a JUST god, because if you believe, you can be saved from his eternal damnation, it does not matter how many people you have wronged, all you need is to apologize to god, and it is all better as far as you are concerned. Your victims on the other hand, they can simply suffer through life, especially the ones who refuse to believe in YOUR god, THEY probably deserved the abuse anyway, you were just being an instrument of god!
There is no EVIDENCE that he exists, and there are a lot of stupid claims attributed to his actual speech, but you only have to beLIEve in order to be part of the group that will never die, everyone who has ever been born so far, has also died eventually, so I guess there are no TRUE believers? So, how does that work?
@@tiredofliars why must you come on here, with such anger and such aggressiveness? If an abuser comes to God that must mean that in his heart he feels as if he's done something wrong not as if he's just doing it to be saved, as the lord says on judgement day they'll be a lot of people saying lord lord but he'll say that he never knew them, and even so the "victims" in this case aren't all on their own but in fact they're also convicted by the holy spirit, in this scenario wouldn't they be the bigger person by forgiving first? Wouldn't that show character? And with the whole 'God doesn't do anything!' That's so un true, there's alot of things that God's does, and at the same time there's alot of things that God allows, but it's all for a plan and process you got to trust, if God wanted all evil things out this world, we'd all be gone due to our sin and behaviors, but because Jesus died on the cross we're saved through him.
2. To explain how being reborn through belief works, you have to understand that there's more then just 'believing in him will get you to heaven' type mentality, that's just lukewarm, and can be attributed to the free grace doctrine, but no in actual fact you have to be first reborn in spirit, because as you find faith in the lord you'll see alot of sinful behaviors disappearing, now of course being a Christian doesn't mean you'll NEVER sin, you'll always have rough patches through sin, and all that, but at the end of the day there's a difference between struggling and living in sin, and through understanding that and humbling yourself shall you be truly saved.
3. Bringing it back to an earlier topic within your paragraph, do you wish to speak 1 on 1 about this? Because correct me if I'm wrong but you seem to be speaking with alot of heart, and seem to be speaking from experience with the whole 'he never does topic' because he does, but he allows certain things to happen in order for better things to come, kind of to put it in a worldly sense like working your butt off for 3 years to experience the good life for 10, and I feel like before you spit alot of this text you should really read the Bible before just spouting beliefs with not biblical information.
4. And the evidence of him existing can be found everywhere, one such evidence is by the fact of the fabric of the universe was created so perfectly that even a slight dial off would be enough to set off the universe, and even scientists haven't made of sense of it (I can go more depth in like a discord sesh or smth).
But yeah, if you have more questions I'm free to answer
@@Itali7361 There is so much wrong with your response.
First, WHY? Because I am one of the victims of religion.
Is your god the god of the Bible? if so, Which Bible? There are over 100 versions in print today.
I read the entire KJV of the bible by the time I was 17. Have you read it? Honestly, because you truly seem to be unaware of the atrocities committed by your god and his people in that fantasy collection of books from at least FOUR different religions.
The oldest currently practiced religion in the world is Zoroastrianism, it is older than Hebrew-ism, Greek Mythology and Norse Mythology by THOUSANDS of years, and we have the physical records proving it.
Hebrew-ism is a PROVEN cult of Zoroastrianism. Messiahianicism was a Cult of Hebrew-ism. The Way was a cult of Messiahianicism. The Catholic Church is a cult of The Way. Protestantism is a Cult of Catholicism. There are over 40,000 cults today calling themselves CHRISTIAN all different, all with opposing beliefs, and many of them willing and able to kill those who do not believe exactly as they do.
CHRIST the WORD did not exist until the 11th century, prior to that the GREEKS did not have a word for The Anointed Messiah of God. So they TRANSLITERATED the HEBREW Word one letter at a time, and then they rearranged the letters, and the closest they could get to a REAL word in GREEK was cristo, to cover in oil, or to dip in oil, or to store in oil. In the first century, gladiators were cristo before battle, and the winner would have the cristo scrapped off and sold as perfume. So, the CATHOLIC CHURCH invented the word CHRISTOS to mean the fantasy character they had referred to until then as Ishuah. They didn't call him Jesus, a name with NO POWER, until after the letter J was invented by the SPANISH in 1528. So, before the 16th century there was no JESUS, and before the 11th century there was no CHRIST. In the last 500 years, since the Protestant church was invented, it has split SUCCESSFULLY over 40,000 times. And there have been over 400 different, contradictory, and mostly discarded books calling themselves HOLY WORD OF GOD in just that same amount of time.
WHAT is much worse, is that ORIGINALLY, what you call the Bible, was three separate works up until the 15th century when the printing press was invented.
Prior to that Every copy of The Holy Word of God, The Bible and The New Testament was written out by hand by scribes, many of them making mistakes and many others changing the text to say what THEY wanted it to say. But it was three separate works. The Holy Word of God, called The Pentateuch by the Catholics, but originally called The Torah by the Hebrews who invented it in 478 BC.
The Bible, today called The Hebrew Bible, is the set of stories named Joshua through Malachi, which are simply the stories of the Hebrew people, not intended to be considered HOLY, but you know how religions evolve over time!
And finally the New Testament invented in 400 AD by the Catholic Church, added to and removed from for the next 1100 years, when Martin Luther set up the Protestant movement, and eventually the Protestant Church, later called the Lutherans, and took the bible as it was in 1527.
But the Catholics weren't done creating their Holy Word of God, so add the Apocrypha if you are Catholic or one of the closer offshoots as they kept adding after Martin Luther set up his cult.
First the Catholics assembled the Gospels, Five books, Mathew, Mark, Luke, John and The Acts. They dared not call it HOLY because what they did call The Holy Word of God precluded adding anything to it. That is why there are three works, The Torah, The Bible and The New Testament also called The GOOD word, not the Holy Word.
Then an offshoot of Protestantism in what is now called Germany had as a follower, Johannes Gutenberg who printed up the first version of the Vulgate in his printing press, CERTAINLY NOT the bible you read and follow today!
It was the spread of Protestantism that is responsible for the various versions of the Bible that are no longer followed or printed, you see, as each cult sprang up throughout Europe and eventually America, they would have their OWN version of the Bible printed up, either adapting for language changes, or discoveries of fallacies and malicious changes, (King James). Throughout the last 150 years, MANY different bibles were invented, printed, discarded or kept. Originally they would preface them with the fact that the book contained three different works, I believe there are still a few today that when you look on page 1 it will still say "The Holy Word of God, The Bible, And The New Testament." But, over time, some religions got lazy, and Dropped the LONG title, and Used The Holy Word of God and The Holy Bible, but even that was too long, and in Gold Leaf, expensive, so they shortened it again and again, so that today you can buy Bibles that say they are simply BIBLE all the way to ones that tell you they are The Holy Word of God.
SO, before we go any further, which BIBLE did god tell you is the correct one? And which cult of a cult of a cult of a cult did he tell you is the right one?
I can also explain that pesky "beginning of the cosmos" for you if you like also.
@@Itali7361 " if God wanted all evil things out this world, we'd all be gone ..." According to your holy book, your god tried that once, he failed! He literally wiped out ALL LIFE on the planet and started over, but two chapters later there is so much evil in his world already that he has to employ the help of the other gods to help him confuse languages.(This story is from when the Hebrews still worshiped many gods, and YHWH was still simply a lowly god of metallurgy and his wife was Asherah.)
@@Itali7361 "'believing in him will get you to heaven" do you believe that you will get to go to heaven? Because if you had read that holy book of yours, you would know that Jesus himself bars you from Heaven. John 3:16 is so often quoted by people like you, but you fail to read and understand the verse just three verses earlier, where your Jesus himself is credited with saying "None shall ascend to Heaven that did not come from Heaven." There is not a single verse in the Bible(s) I have read that says humans get to go to Heaven, not physically, not spiritually.
In that so called HOLY BOOK, Heaven is above the clouds and below the firmament (they thought the sky was solid) And is the abode of God, HIS SONS, Satan, and The Angels.
In fact, god destroys Heaven in that book of yours. You really should read it, it has some really outlandish stuff in there, Lord of the Lies is what it should be called. It is truly amusing to me that you tried to defend your religion, and you wanted to have conversations about it privately, but you do not want to expose your actual beliefs PUBLICLY! Does that make you a coward, a hypocrite, a con artist or just admitting that you are just plain wrong about everything you have been indoctrinated to beLIEve?
Please pray for me to let go of my anger on my brothers and sisters who worship political idols. Your video has been helpful, thank you.
Wonderful message. Also I love love the thumbnail it's adorable!! I love all your videos and love waking up every Saturday morning with an impactful video waiting for me and helping me become a better person. Your videos answer some tough questions in a Christian life, and they're always backed up with God's Word. They're also short and easy to understand. Love your videos, keep it up!
thank you for your encouragement :)
Years ago back in the early 70's, I lived in a town called Yreka, Ca. I was a fat kid then and was ridiculed unmersifly, outdated and bullied, made to feel worse than a freak. Growing up like this caused me to be hateful and bitter towards people. I've often dreamed of Yreka, Ca. being burned to the ground in a fire storm! Even to this day, I'm having a hard time forgiving people for all the pain endured in my younger days. I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Savior in 1998, and I feel like a hypocrite because of Yreka and others afterwards later. I need prayers from others in my journey to forgive others and be the true Christian Jesus expects me to be. May the Lord grant me the strength to keep fighting to forgive others, just as Jesus forgave me on the cross. AMEN!!!!
Jesus is the LORD!!!!
I am a very selfish person and I have a lot of hatred in my heart. Sometimes when I cannot forgive people using my own will, I pray to God and I ask God to help me forgive them.