I stumbled upon your pod cast a day ago and I have been addicted. I am watching you all the way from Toronto Canada. I needed this so much, the wisdom, perspective and all the advice has really spoken to my spirit. God Bless you both and thank you for what you do. Priscilla
💡 Missionary Dating 💡 I’ve never heard this term but a light bulb went off when I heard this. I was in a marriage of 20 years with a wonderful man who was not Christian. We married in our 20s and now that I’m in my 40s I see that I was missionary dating and in a missionary marriage. It’s no good! I craved community, attended church alone at times and was always in a mission to pour into my husband in hopes of him becoming a Christian. It’s exhausting and not biblical. It also put me in a position of feeling like I needed to lead which was heavy when life had its challenges.
“Don’t complain about having sex when you actively put yourself in compromising situations”. I needed to hear this. Thank you for your wisdom! Listening from Washington State. - Susie
Heeeeeey. I loved this I’m single and it took me until now ….after unfortunate situations….to go back to waiting until marriage and standing on my nonnegotiables! If he wanted to he would. I don’t have to question or wonder his intentions because he’ll continuously show me. I’m waiting for my kingdom husband ti find and pursue me. I know he’s coming and what God has for me is soooooo much better💍💕
Thankyou so much for this. I've been going to church for 17 years and it's taken this long to realise and understand how to date properly. Everything you said makes sense. In particular what you said about - you need to be attracted to each other ( have chemistry) - let the man pursue the woman. - if he is not prepared to pay the price for you ( commit to marrying you) he isnt worth your time. - know your worth. Really knowing your worth & who you are in Christ is Key! I wish I had known 17 years ago what I know now. It would have saved a lot of wasted years & heart ache. I hope your podcast reaches lots of younger women & saves them from wasted time.
Everything shared--on point. I've just started watching and listening to your podcasts. They are practical and real. The dos and don'ts were just a timely reminder of what matters..I will watch it again. Key point--do NOT be unequally yoked or even fooled by pretenders. In all reality where are these men and women of God who love Jesus and willing to commit and lay their lives down for someone? Recently, I experienced some old wounds and have been baffled by it all. It's like I thought I was healed in so many areas just to have revisited emotions and situations that I thought I overcame. Now I am processing all over again--I'm ok with that but it really got me thinking out loud ...like Lord just take the desire of marriage away from me if it's not for me. I'm tired of failing.
Dont give up! God gives us the desires of our heart.❤❤ Just be and stay CONTENT in and through it all!! And just BELIEVE IT, in Jesus name!! Amen!? God tells us in His word, In His purposed timing, "I, the Lord, WILL make it happen."❤❤
❤🙏🏽This was such an informative video. Sending love from Biloxi, MS. This was my first time tuning in to your show. ●I'm 55yrs young, a born-again Christian, divorced 22yrs, single and abstinent for 10yrs, abstinent until marriage. ●I've been made fun of by people saying because of my age, walk with God, and abstinence, that I'll never meet a man who'll want to date me. ●I serve an awesome God! If he blessed Sarah in the Bible at age 90 with a baby, surely he'll bless little ole' me with the man he specifically has for me. ●I want to date with purpose, with the intentions of marriage. I will not settle because I know my worth! ●SINGLE LADIES....NEVER give a man spouse privileges: shacking up, cooking for him, cleaning his home, giving him money, sex, etc. He will be extremely slow ro marry you because he'll think, why buy the cow when I'm getting the milk free?!
Wow, this information is so helpful! I wish I had known this before I got married. I recently went through a divorce, and looking back, my ex was great at making a good impression, but so many red flags appeared after we were married. I realized I didn’t really like or truly know the person I ended up with. This really hit home for me-thank you so much!🙏🏾
From London UK, Thanks for the notes, The onethathelped the most was..if he don't pursue, he don't want u..or if he does..he ain't the man for u. As u sometimes think they shy..but now I know its not that. And the right one would wait and not outsell in compromising situations. If kissing and cuddling OK?? Wanna know for the future.
Hello I'm Detrice from KC!! Home of The Kansas City Chiefs lol!! Just found your channel!! Loving the content!! Been in a relationship for 7 years!! I'm all ears!! Still a work in the progress of learning myself in a relationship!! !! Love this type of content to watch! God Bless!! 🥰
I just go with the flow and allow God to lead. I was in situations where I did EVERYTHING right. I'm talking about hit each point of the Do's and still .. God is saying "nope not this one". If God sends that person over then it will happen according to his plan and it'll flow. I would dissect "Did I say this wrong", "Did I add too many details" ? He's not the one.
YOU JUST SAID THE TRUTH, IF HE WANTS YOU HE'LL COME GET YOU & IF HE NOT MAN ENOUGH TO DO THAT, THEN HE NOT THE ONE (SO DERN TRUE) I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED THAT TO BE TRUE & THIS IS JUST DOUBLE CONFIRMATION AS MY FORMER PASTOR SAID THE SAME THING (THANK YOU)
I absolutely enjoyed listening to this podcast and your sharing. Such a fruitful topic and advice for our generation, I look forward to hearing more from you both. Thank you for serving us all globally God bless you both, your union and family in Jesus name
Watching from Zambia Lusaka - don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, don't go into a relationship with an unbeliever with hope of changing Him only God can change so back away and allow God to do His work -be attracted to the person -date, know your worth - don't put yourself in compromising situations -Don't be pressed men don't like that it's unattractive and men pursue. A man should be able to lead and take control of a situation it's okay to give him hints.
Wouldn’t it be alright to have the conversation about sexual preference or rhythm as Pastor Ken put it, during that time of building a deeper level of commitment and asking all the other questions he spoke of?
With the do's and don't you spoke to me directly I have Identified my mistakes with trying to hard to be liked honestly I never used to be like this I don't know just how I lost it,God help me to be a proverbs 31 Lord help me to be a Christian woman with dignity and not lose it for a man in the name of jesus I pray Amen
Great video. I hear what pastor Ken is saying about asking serious questions to soon in dating but the older you get you typically don't weight to waste time with people you know it won't get anywhere with. Also married for over 25 years! How old are they? They both look good.
I know that nothing is really missing for me to be completely happy or content in my singlesness season right now but I still have this desire in me even after praying and fasting many years for God to remove it yet I still found myself looking forward to sharing my life with someone one day, have children and build something for Gods kingdom together why does it have to feels so wrong..?
Question incoming: After officially dating for a while, is it possible to step back, learn just to be friends and then at some point evaluate if you want to get back together, after some personal growth has happened? I would love to hear some testimonies to grow my faith as I am in the phase of "breaking up", but we both would like to stay together or leave open the door to get back together - but in a healthy and godly way...
Hey there! Jaimie here from Southfield, MI. New to your channel and I’m loving this episode right here! I’m 49… never been married. I’ve spent years doing relationships all wrong. I just surrendered my life to Jesus Christ July of this year. Was living with someone and everything…God shut all that down! So many gems in this video man!!!!! Being content with the season we’re in…I think that’s major. Not just idly sitting around but focusing on the things of the Lord. Allowing God to cultivate and mature areas in us so that we will be that Godly spouse if/when that time comes. Allowing the man to pursue you! Major! I’ve pursued a few times and it did not work out well. Setting parameters when dating(not putting ourselves in compromising situations). If you know fornication is a weak area for you then you need a curfew and you definitely should not be alone at his/her house boo’d up watching movies. Never put confidence in your flesh. Thinking you can handle a situation and walk away when things get hot and heavy. Don’t even go there! Our flesh is not to be trusted! Being unequally yolked….MAJOR! Definitely not a good idea! Also seeing how a person handles bad seasons in their life…or a bad day. Very important. Asking those hard questions. That’s very important too. This helped me so much! God bless you all and your ministry. You’re such a lovely couple❤️ Sorry it’s so long🤣
Single, Saved, Celibate, and ENJOYING IT! 💅🏾
everything except " ENJOYING IT"
"Practise patience, let him come to you" 🙏🏼
The one that ministered most to me is "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers" Thanks ❤
I agree!!!
It’s tight but it’s right. Lord bless my single season while I wait on you!
I stumbled upon your pod cast a day ago and I have been addicted. I am watching you all the way from Toronto Canada. I needed this so much, the wisdom, perspective and all the advice has really spoken to my spirit. God Bless you both and thank you for what you do. Priscilla
💡 Missionary Dating 💡 I’ve never heard this term but a light bulb went off when I heard this. I was in a marriage of 20 years with a wonderful man who was not Christian. We married in our 20s and now that I’m in my 40s I see that I was missionary dating and in a missionary marriage. It’s no good! I craved community, attended church alone at times and was always in a mission to pour into my husband in hopes of him becoming a Christian. It’s exhausting and not biblical. It also put me in a position of feeling like I needed to lead which was heavy when life had its challenges.
wow, thank you for sharing your story with us!
“Don’t complain about having sex when you actively put yourself in compromising situations”. I needed to hear this. Thank you for your wisdom! Listening from Washington State. - Susie
Heeeeeey. I loved this I’m single and it took me until now ….after unfortunate situations….to go back to waiting until marriage and standing on my nonnegotiables! If he wanted to he would. I don’t have to question or wonder his intentions because he’ll continuously show me. I’m waiting for my kingdom husband ti find and pursue me. I know he’s coming and what God has for me is soooooo much better💍💕
Amen! He's got more for you than you can imagine
Thankyou so much for this.
I've been going to church for 17 years and it's taken this long to realise and understand how to date properly.
Everything you said makes sense.
In particular what you said about
- you need to be attracted to each other ( have chemistry)
- let the man pursue the woman.
- if he is not prepared to pay the price for you ( commit to marrying you) he isnt worth your time.
- know your worth.
Really knowing your worth & who you are in Christ is Key!
I wish I had known 17 years ago what I know now. It would have saved a lot of wasted years & heart ache. I hope your podcast reaches lots of younger women & saves them from wasted time.
EXACTLY- PERIOD- POINT BLANK- GLAD I SAW THIS ON TONIGHT- IF HE WANTS YOU, HE WILL COME GET YOU- PERIOD!- YOU SAID THAT PASTOR- THE TRUTH
Everything shared--on point. I've just started watching and listening to your podcasts. They are practical and real. The dos and don'ts were just a timely reminder of what matters..I will watch it again. Key point--do NOT be unequally yoked or even fooled by pretenders. In all reality where are these men and women of God who love Jesus and willing to commit and lay their lives down for someone? Recently, I experienced some old wounds and have been baffled by it all. It's like I thought I was healed in so many areas just to have revisited emotions and situations that I thought I overcame. Now I am processing all over again--I'm ok with that but it really got me thinking out loud ...like Lord just take the desire of marriage away from me if it's not for me. I'm tired of failing.
Dont give up! God gives us the desires of our heart.❤❤ Just be and stay CONTENT in and through it all!! And just BELIEVE IT, in Jesus name!! Amen!? God tells us in His word, In His purposed timing, "I, the Lord, WILL make it happen."❤❤
Don't give up 😊🎉. . . I'm also waiting for my husband. I failed more times than you but got back up. 😊🎉
All the way from South Africa, the last one was for me. I definitely want someone I can pray with💯❤
Absolutely
And have good Christian conversations with
When you feel like you are done, yet the longing for a Godly companionship is there.... Thank you for sharing this wisdom with us❤❤❤❤
This is my first time watching this podcast. I'm from Birmingham, Alabama. I enjoyed watching and have learned a lot. Thanks for your honesty.
❤🙏🏽This was such an informative video. Sending love from Biloxi, MS. This was my first time tuning in to your show.
●I'm 55yrs young, a born-again Christian, divorced 22yrs, single and abstinent for 10yrs, abstinent until marriage.
●I've been made fun of by people saying because of my age, walk with God, and abstinence, that I'll never meet a man who'll want to date me.
●I serve an awesome God! If he blessed Sarah in the Bible at age 90 with a baby, surely he'll bless little ole' me with the man he specifically has for me.
●I want to date with purpose, with the intentions of marriage. I will not settle because I know my worth!
●SINGLE LADIES....NEVER give a man spouse privileges: shacking up, cooking for him, cleaning his home, giving him money, sex, etc. He will be extremely slow ro marry you because he'll think, why buy the cow when I'm getting the milk free?!
What spoke to me is that there are spiritual aspects to dating but there is also a natural one
Protect the Anointing over your life 😊
That hair is amazing love this look on Tabatha
Angela watching from Houston. I got that being content is so satisfying when I spend time with The Most High Father. I want His will for my life.
Wow, this information is so helpful! I wish I had known this before I got married. I recently went through a divorce, and looking back, my ex was great at making a good impression, but so many red flags appeared after we were married. I realized I didn’t really like or truly know the person I ended up with. This really hit home for me-thank you so much!🙏🏾
BOUNDARIES is essential!!!🙏
first time here.....Great stuff, not married never married, Hoping and praying for a Godly partner,,,unequal yoked is no no for me. thank you,
I’m pretty new here! I’ve been watching for a few months now, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed.
More Grace on yall! Thank you for sharing all the Lord has taught you with us in this amazing 25 years! This is soooo gooooooooddddd! 😊❤
THIS WAS ALL THAT! PLEASE KEEP THESE TOPICS COMING❤❤❤
Oohhh can’t wait for this. I just started dating again after 4 years of being single and need some advice on Christian dating
Listening and receiving from San Diego! In God's perfect timing, He will make it happen!!!🙌🏽
Solid and honest advice given as always Ken & Tabatha. Always being transparent with your words. God bless you both! 🖤🙏🏾
This is so good! Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers!
What stuck out to me was could he or she handle your rough/ bad days. And the bonus about being unequally yoked. All of this really stuck out to me.
Wow, thank you! I have been searching for realistic, Godly advice on Christian dating! Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
The entire podcast is facts and @31:00-32:01,definitely spoke volumes💯✨❤️
From London UK, Thanks for the notes, The onethathelped the most was..if he don't pursue, he don't want u..or if he does..he ain't the man for u. As u sometimes think they shy..but now I know its not that. And the right one would wait and not outsell in compromising situations. If kissing and cuddling OK?? Wanna know for the future.
I thank God for this wisdom. God Bless.
Hello I'm Detrice from KC!! Home of The Kansas City Chiefs lol!! Just found your channel!! Loving the content!! Been in a relationship for 7 years!! I'm all ears!! Still a work in the progress of learning myself in a relationship!! !! Love this type of content to watch! God Bless!! 🥰
my name is Jaydah i’m tuning in from Maine on my lunch break at work!
Loved this episode very practical and authentic! Thanks, Pastor Ken and Tabitha.
So powerful!!! Letting the Lord lead me in my single season, thank you all for the godly wisdom! 🙏🏽
This was soooo good! Thanks Ken & Tabatha for keeping it real every episode!
From Ireland. I loved every moment of listening to
Lord, help me on my dating journey. This was an eye opener.
I been falling head over hills
I just go with the flow and allow God to lead. I was in situations where I did EVERYTHING right. I'm talking about hit each point of the Do's and still .. God is saying "nope not this one". If God sends that person over then it will happen according to his plan and it'll flow. I would dissect "Did I say this wrong", "Did I add too many details" ? He's not the one.
YOU JUST SAID THE TRUTH, IF HE WANTS YOU HE'LL COME GET YOU & IF HE NOT MAN ENOUGH TO DO THAT, THEN HE NOT THE ONE (SO DERN TRUE) I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED THAT TO BE TRUE & THIS IS JUST DOUBLE CONFIRMATION AS MY FORMER PASTOR SAID THE SAME THING
(THANK YOU)
I have loved this episode so much!
Thank yall for all the gems support coming from New Jersey God bless yall and yours
Yes, we are in waiting praying that God unites us 🙏 ❤
“Don’t be so spiritual” facts
Thank you so much Ken and Tabatha, I'm really blessed by this. This is Sooo much to learn. God bless you guys
I absolutely enjoyed listening to this podcast and your sharing. Such a fruitful topic and advice for our generation, I look forward to hearing more from you both. Thank you for serving us all globally God bless you both, your union and family in Jesus name
First time here and I love it. God bless you guys. This podcast is much needed. Watching from Belgium🤗
Watching from Zambia Lusaka
- don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, don't go into a relationship with an unbeliever with hope of changing Him only God can change so back away and allow God to do His work
-be attracted to the person
-date, know your worth
- don't put yourself in compromising situations
-Don't be pressed men don't like that it's unattractive and men pursue. A man should be able to lead and take control of a situation it's okay to give him hints.
Omg!!!!
I needed this!! I wish I had time to talk more with you. This blessed my soul. Thank you
Oh yeah
I am in Atlanta, Ga
Thank you this is powerful
I'm watching from Kenya.
Tuning in from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪 I love this podcast
Thank you for the encouragement!
This is great information. Thank you!😊
Hey y'all! Watching from Brazil 🇧🇷
Always blessed by your videos!!
Thanks for watching!
Wouldn’t it be alright to have the conversation about sexual preference or rhythm as Pastor Ken put it, during that time of building a deeper level of commitment and asking all the other questions he spoke of?
With the do's and don't you spoke to me directly I have Identified my mistakes with trying to hard to be liked honestly I never used to be like this I don't know just how I lost it,God help me to be a proverbs 31
Lord help me to be a Christian woman with dignity and not lose it for a man in the name of jesus I pray Amen
I love this podcast! 😊
Pay it forward…Share ❤️
Alia from Texas.
Partner with Apostle Mike and Dr. Dee Dee Freeman.
New subscriber! Bout to binge watch everything! I definitely want to come to live conference!
Hello - Girdeen from Jamaica
Well said. Thank you. Thumbs up.
My name is Myeshia I’m from Kentucky. I’m new to the channel
I'm so excited for this video!
Awesomeness! ❤
I'm watching from Ghana
I definitely need this HOLY dating help!!
Wise Counsel!!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Great video. I hear what pastor Ken is saying about asking serious questions to soon in dating but the older you get you typically don't weight to waste time with people you know it won't get anywhere with.
Also married for over 25 years! How old are they? They both look good.
Great episode 😊
This was so amazing ❤ as always
New here kris from Nashville tn
TIME & PLACE FOR EVERYTHING, JUST NOT THE FIRST DATE
Love you your worst days❤
So good!
Really wish I didn't NEED to listen to this, but here I am. #newlysingle
It's all for a reason!
I'm from New York City.
I like the last statement, don't be unequally yoke.
Whew chile! Don't be thirsty, drink water! 🙌🏾 Boys VS Men, revelation of the difference.
Single and waiting over here. God please locate me and bless me with me with a God fearing man.
Hi fam, what's your take on christian dating sites? Sending lots of love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️
DONT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH UNBELIEVERS- DEFINITELY
Risuna from South Africa. Don't look for your other half or want someone to complete you cos God completes you and you are content.
I am Deontay from the DMV specifically Woodbridge VA. I am excited to listen and learn here.
Question.. what’s your take on getting legal married, do y’all think we should or shouldn’t
I LOVE Y'ALL ❤❤❤
I know that nothing is really missing for me to be completely happy or content in my singlesness season right now but I still have this desire in me even after praying and fasting many years for God to remove it yet I still found myself looking forward to sharing my life with someone one day, have children and build something for Gods kingdom together why does it have to feels so wrong..?
😂😂😂... Your groupies Mr Ken.
. Love how Tabatha tells it to your face ❤❤❤❤😅
Bring it🙌🏿
Question incoming:
After officially dating for a while, is it possible to step back, learn just to be friends and then at some point evaluate if you want to get back together, after some personal growth has happened?
I would love to hear some testimonies to grow my faith as I am in the phase of "breaking up", but we both would like to stay together or leave open the door to get back together - but in a healthy and godly way...
That face he made when he said “Special Friends” 😂😂😂😂😂🥴
Hey there! Jaimie here from Southfield, MI. New to your channel and I’m loving this episode right here! I’m 49… never been married. I’ve spent years doing relationships all wrong. I just surrendered my life to Jesus Christ July of this year. Was living with someone and everything…God shut all that down! So many gems in this video man!!!!! Being content with the season we’re in…I think that’s major. Not just idly sitting around but focusing on the things of the Lord. Allowing God to cultivate and mature areas in us so that we will be that Godly spouse if/when that time comes. Allowing the man to pursue you! Major! I’ve pursued a few times and it did not work out well. Setting parameters when dating(not putting ourselves in compromising situations). If you know fornication is a weak area for you then you need a curfew and you definitely should not be alone at his/her house boo’d up watching movies. Never put confidence in your flesh. Thinking you can handle a situation and walk away when things get hot and heavy. Don’t even go there! Our flesh is not to be trusted! Being unequally yolked….MAJOR! Definitely not a good idea! Also seeing how a person handles bad seasons in their life…or a bad day. Very important. Asking those hard questions. That’s very important too. This helped me so much! God bless you all and your ministry. You’re such a lovely couple❤️
Sorry it’s so long🤣
I want to spend time with you. You are my best friend ❤
Hello, where is the book from both of you on this topic? We need it, NOW!
I Am YB Velez And I Am From God.
I have a young man that likes me a lot and he is decent but I am not totally attracted to him. Should I get him a chance.
Does he lack physical attraction or emotional attraction for you?
The question I was looking for… no answers