My parents divorced when I was young but it was obvious my mom hated my dad but she never said a bad thing about him. She let us have our own relationship with him. I think that is how it should be and I'm thankful she did that.
Same. My mom never told us why they broke up and why she didn’t like him until after he passed away. She only told me, but he cheated on her. She never let us know she didn’t like him tho 😂 we loved my dad soo much. He was a great dad
You're mom is a special lady. I wish I could say the same about mine. I still love them both. She didn't act like she hated him. But she definitely told us things that I shouldn't have known
What woman don’t grow to hate the man they swear they love it’s like a curse I know it’s terrible men out there but I know women that started to hate their husbands because they worked to much women find reasons to leave and men look for reasons to stay it’s proven just look at the statistics who file for divorce the most and who is the most effected by it
@@Tmgsteel1992 This is one of the biggest fears a married man has. Your wife just leaving on a whim or because her idea of marriage isn't like what she saw on TV. A lot of guys are now choosing to have long term girlfriends instead of wives because it's so risky.
When my wife and I divorced I didn’t have her served I took the papers over and we sat down and signed them together and talked about what we expected, all I asked was as much time with my son as was feasible for both of us and the same for her, to this day we still have regular conversations, and even do things together with both sides of our family, including her fiancée who I truly enjoy his company!
@@seven9 I can definitely understand that, money makes people crazy so totally agree with your statement, I’m well off but not Gary Owens money for sure
My dad was abusive, abandoned me and my sisters, and started a whole new family. I was bitter as well until my pastor said "If you don't forgive your daddy, you gon' be your daddy."
My husband never got to forgive his father he was going to see him but he passed away before got to see him. I still wonder if he regret it I never asked him he never met my children his grandchildren
That’s the realest thing I’ve heard. Appreciate you my guy. I’m dealing with that right now. Realizing I’m turning into that man I hated. But realizing it is the first part.
My father acknowledged me, but we don't have a relationship. I wrote him a letter of forgiveness, but I don't allow him in my space. He's sickly now and needs nursing care. My siblings and his sisters are doing that. My feeling is his women took precedence and that's where his money went. I don't feel guilty in my decision not to go around him. I feel for my siblings though. They're literally fighting our aunts over property...smh My mother shielded me from chaos and violence and I'm glad she did.
I read somewhere..If you dont address your childhood traumas, they will show up in your adult relationships. This is going to take, therapy, forgivness and prayer.
That’s common sense… But easier said than done… A lot of childhood trauma requires a trusted soundboard with lots of wisdom or life experience… Many don’t have that luxury
My parents divorced when I was 7. Not because they didn’t love each other, they just couldn’t get along and were arguing more and more. They split so we wouldn’t have to go through that. I’m so glad they did. It taught us to not stay in unhealthy situations just because you love someone.
I love that Shannon has no pressure to interrupt guess because they have the benefit of time, and I also love that Shannon asks difficult questions. But they also both had fun during the interview while still keeping it real. Loved this one.
I actually hear the pain in his story. Imagine not talking to you mom, her not standing up for you when you were younger, having a bad and absend father and an even worse stepfather. Broken homes dont create better homes, if you dont heal and fix the foundation.
Right, mama played a major part in these kid talking to him as well. Because that's when mama gave a sit down and just talk to them. I'm just saying that's how I personally would handle that. To hold grudges with your PARENTS is tough.
It's called being a parent he hasn't seen his kids in 3 years. Kids don't care about the issues you have with they mom. They see you choose not to there as a parent
@@BigDic-qz8su His kids dont want to see him. Their mother filled their heads with bulls..t and they broke relations with him. His kids are grown a.s people, the f..k are you talking about.
@@BigDic-qz8su If they refuse to see him or spend time in the same room, what's he going to do? Run over their wishes and do what he wants? Force them so people think better of him?
My Dad got remarried and had 2 girls. He sort of faded out of my and brother’s life. We heard all about his new life thru relatives that he bought a plane, racing sailboat and summer house. Meanwhile, we are living on $5 a day for food which came from Mom’s waitress tips. At age 11 I observed it all and took notes so that I could live an authentic life. 🙏
@@tgm2754 God Bless you all. I know your Mom 🙏 is doing her best. I encourage you to find a daily prayer. ( say each day)work hard in school God will make away.💕
@@miakarakaki4062 Google the expression “ an authentic life”. Basically using your own strength to make good decisions, and not allowing weaknesses to affect important decisions.
@@BeatriceLatimore This was many years ago and the star players are all in Heaven. My brother chose to leave earth. My half sister chose to leave earth. My mother also. Not all souls that are born are strong. I performed Dads hospice and a whole lot of emotional healing was done. I am a very strong and stubborn soul so I survived the trauma and used those lessons to lead a healthy life. I hope to have many more years dipping my feet in the ocean, walking along the beach and possibly fostering kittens.
Actually from thier television show she was and still a mess, Gary had to do her part as a parent let's not forget she spent his/they money foolishly many times on projects that failed.
Stringing your family along for 2 months is insane, and If he really didn't want to blindside her, he should have told her when he filed, not on the day she was getting served. That's traumatic.
Oh and I really think that the word underrated is overused. Gary Owen is properly rated. He has many movies and a number of comedy specials. All the ones I have seen are in sold out theaters. What is he missing? So in no way is he “underrated!” He is properly rated thank you.
Sounds like they both wanted out but was trying to fleece him because now he well known. The kids also should have known what type of father he is. Truth be told that’s up to them if they want a relationship with him. Sounds like he did what he can as a man yes he messed up but he still stepped up during divorce and after. Sad his whole biz in spotlight 😢
@@lacroix922 How is she trying to fleece him? He's constantly traveling; she's at home taking care of the children - trying to give them a home; he's cheating on her constantly; he's not making recompense for his cheating and the harm that he caused her and their children.
@@jamesjenosyde3657 I never said he is a bad dude, just misinformed. He is toned deaf, you break up your family and send your peoples to your home where your family stay and don’t understand why they don’t want to be bothered with you…. Come on, do better.
Hearing Shannon say that, I get what he is saying but that don't make it true. Like he said he made everything he could. What if he was poor and they struggled? They marriage probably would've ended years ago. His career is the only reason those kids have what the have. That's wrong on so many levels.
@@terickastidbits2342 what I am trying to convey is not about money, it’s about family. We are talking about two different prospectives and you don’t get mines and that’s ok. No matter what, his example of his father parallels his actions and what Gary didn’t want for his kids happened. Just being there for events is an issue as well. Generational curse.
@@sharklava123 What accountability? It's me me me me I I I, it's never about the hurt that he caused. He wonders why his adult children won't talk to him assuming the mother is behind it. Lol they are adults. They despise him from what he did and he's still wondering what he did to them that makes them avoid him. That's not accountability.
I cheat on my wife, have my own family/lady on the side, sneak and file for divorce…..but I don’t know why it’s not a amicable divorce…lol Anyone has the right to leave, but how can you not understand where the anger came from…? Vice versa you wouldn’t be happy if she did the same to you.
He didn’t truly want to leave because the children were young, and he didn’t want to pay her child support. His attorney probably told him he would be paying high child support and would be paying alimony. It was his plan to file for divorce after the kids became adults. Gary already knew that California is 50/50, and the wife should have received half because she build his small empire. Gary went to Ohio because it’s not a 50/50. Gary was wrong!
You sound psychotic. 70% of divorces are initiated by the women: and they are almost all blind sides. Shorties be fully in love with another man by the time they file for divorce.
I had the privilege of being Gary's guide while in college when he came to perform. He was hella cool and exactly like this video. My mom loved him, as did my roommates. I always felt he was missing something, though, and this interview touches on that. The funniest people are those who are hurt the deepest. He is not whole. It's crazy what your parents can do.
He's oblivious to the damage he caused and how dirty he did her overall. God willing his children find it in their hearts to forgive him. I hope she's healthy and healed.
This was actually a great interview. One of the best I’ve seen here. It’s sad about Gary and his children. I’m going through something similar with my siblings.
Comedians have the best recall. How they can remember so many details when they travel so much, is beyond me. It's amazing. Most people can't remember what they did the year before or the week before.
The stories he shared about how he dodged his own wife and kids during a traumatic time is telling of how he was as the man of his household. Just imagine all the traumatic stories he didn’t share.
You mean the wife that refused to open up the door when she knew she was about to get severed? The person that could've made it a simple process right then and there?
Did you all miss the part that he was playing the same games of dodging the process of being served? I never said 44K was ok either. They were both wrong but he’s the one missing out on being a part of his kids lives. Shannon got it right. He became the man he hated in his father.
@@taisworkout Did YOU miss the part where his actions was a response to her deciding to play games? Trying to shift the blame on him like you did in the original comment is your bias showing.
So he go get a lawyer to get divorce, disappear from your wife and children for two months to try to get her served, never tell her you filed for the divorce and you wonder why your children dont speak to you. If you could treat their mother that way then how do you really treat them?
Hurt people hurt people. Let’s look at the upside….. this man who was destined for poverty, alcoholism, etc found a way to live with his trauma and has the transparency, the willingness to be open about it. That takes courage. Besides, we all crazy.
He cheated several times and was gone on the road.. then files for divorce in a state that puts her at a disadvantage financially and after her taking care of his kids that’s just wrong! Then he wonders why his kids don’t talk to him..?
You didn’t just cheat on your wife, you cheated on your kids too. The kids had to deal with the aftermath of mending their mother’s heart after their father broke it…they didn’t sign up to be in a broken home. I too, STILL feel some type of way towards my dad when he cheated on my mother when I was 5; they put in the work and are still going strong 25 years later. But a child will never forget how their mother cries….just don’t cheat.
He cheated on his wife, not the kids. Good parents separate their personal issues from their children. I never understood why mothers bash their children’s fathers. If the father is really a deadbeat the truth always comes out. My parents are divorced. My father would always bash my mother in front of me. My mother never once said anything bad about him to me. Guess what, I’m 31 years old and now I can see with my own eyes everything my mom went through.
@@aishariel9924nah he cheated on the children too. Cheated them right out of a two parent home. Children without fathers in the home are at greater risk for poverty and incarceration. They were most definitely cheated, no matter how much people say they weren’t. It’s proven that divorce is traumatic for the children involved.
People like you that don’t actually heal and project this way is why cycles continue. He cheated on his wife, with his kids he could have still had an healthy relationship. If anything it teaches adversity and hardships. He didn’t kill his wife he cheated.
He didn’t understand why she did it in LA and not the Bay Area which is where there house is. If you don’t know Cali, that’s like 8-11 hours away from eachother.
His kids are adults. They've seen way more than what's being disclosed. If they're not talking to him, there's definitely a reason. Not to mention them knowing he was constantly cheating on their mother. A lot of people don't realize that the kids feel betrayed as well. I hope they work it out, but I don't think it plays in his favor with him publicly acting like he doesn't understand why they don't want to talk to him. That's not taking accountability for how he made them feel.
Thank you. When he said "Where do you want to go? Dubai? Thailand?" Just makes it seem like he wants to buy them back. Not putting in the effort to understand them in the first place.
So he probably knows more than he's saying. But as humans, we don't always tell people we have a beef with every single reason why. Sometimes we just shut them out and move on. I have a friend in prison I haven't spoken to in years. He's gonna die in prison. I think he knows why I don't call or visit. But I never outright told him because I'm so disappointed. Point being, sometimes people truly don't know the full story why we cut them out. Maybe Gary did something beyond forgiveness. I'll leave it up to him and his kids to work out, I'm curious but end of the day its not really for me to know.
And he’s not qualified to do so and it’s not just about the lack of credentials, it’s the clear and unabashed male bias. Shannon needs therapy for his viewpoint on women. I like his shows except for his take on women. Women are either exploited, exploiters or gold diggers.
When grown "children" don't mess with a parent more than likely there is a good reason. Perhaps in Gary's case the "kids" don't like that he cheated on their mom? Ya think? By the way, his oldest child is 30 and his youngest aside from his new twins is 19. They are adults and old enough to arrive at their own conclusions about their dad and his behavior.
It doesn't surprise me that his kids took their mom's side. If you watch their reality show, the family always treated him like a guest who was there to pay the bills. In the shows, everything is all about her. He was an outsider in his own home. You almost get the impression that he was the step-dad - the kids didn't listen to him. He was the butt of all the family jokes. He'd just smile and act happy. He shouldn't have cheated, but she could've treated him better. The kids don't value him enough to hear him out. He still paid their college tuition.
@@dionnehemphill469 That happens when dad is gone most of the time, even if he's "good" when he's around. The fact is, *she* was the bedrock so it's natural the kids will be on their mother's side. I can identify with that completely. He was a type of guest. If you're gone the majority of the time, show up and play with the kids, that's not making an emotional investment enough to bond with your children. If there is no bond, nothing can be broken. They were never fully attached to him. That was his choice. He wanted a family but also wanted to be a traveling comedian. No different from doctors, professional military folks, truck drivers, taxi drivers, etc. I rarely remember my father being around. While he wasn't abusive, he was absent. Yes he was earning money but money can't nurture you. So when my dad and mom divorced who do you think us kids favored? The one who was there.
I'm really impressed with Shannon's interview skills. Never seen his show, but this was one of the deepest, most incisive interviews into a person's character I've watched online. Really well done!
@@BlaztoizeIf u can't figure it out and be accountable you don't deserve to be there. Stop playing like you're the victim. Especially if you were cheating or abusive in any way
Honor they mother AND father. I am sure the Mom is not innocent in this but she was the primary parent it seems because he was on the road making money for all of them . but this happens alot in divorce look at the braxtons its been 40 yrs since there parents divorced and they still had animosity towards him even tho he tried to still be a dad.
3.5 years, as a father i wouldnt last 1 week. The way he described being a father leads me to believe he wasnt present and it doesnt bother him as much as he wants us to think it does. "I was a fun dad" pleeeease
He pretty much said it. He was on the road a lot, cheated multiple times and then didn't even tell them before he filed for divorce. The fact that the kids don't speak to him now speaks volumes. They are old enough where if he was such a great dad to them, no amount of badmouthing on the part of their mom could sway their opinions. And that story about the daughter hiding in the bathroom, so he left? Thats not a dad that is too broken up about not seeing his kids.
Gary and Kenya were together 20+ years. No matter how done he was with the marriage, he owed her the respect of telling her that he planned to file for divorce. He comes across as if children should be able to separate the fact he was a good dad from the fact he lied to and deeply hurt their mom. The details of what led to the breakdown of their marriage are insignificant to how he is using notoriety to recruit people onside. He is doing more damage and it’s unfortunate that he can’t see that. As long as Kenya and their children are hurting, this isn’t a laughing matter.
You didn't listen at all, like most people smh. His wife cheated also, and she wanted a divorce also. He spoke on it but stated not airing her out. She just thought like most women who file which is 70% of all divorces. That she would be the first to file.
@@chrisrhodes2 irregardless the Lawyers on either side weren’t married to each other.. I understand wanting a divorce but it’s how you go about, especially with kids involved, whether him or her.
@@CrackberryMehe told her a few times he wanted a divorce. Both parties were cheating on each other. He did right by listening to his attorney and moving the way she advise, which was the protection for his money. In the end, he still looked out for her financially, but still didn’t have to give her half. When. Other of y’all cheating on each other, no such thing as giving the other Rosetta half as if they’re innocent. The attorney advised him correctly. If you and your spouse cheated on each other, will you’d till next ok with giving them half of your money?
@@terickastidbits2342‼️‼️‼️exactly. Kids be too involved and knowing about the problems in their parents marriage. That isn’t their business in depth. They’re grown and they’re wrong for not speaking to him.
@@terikathomas2131 this the same thing Brian McKnight kids did. Now when he stop reaching out and focus solely on his new kids nobody better not say nothing! Because he’ll just be respecting the boundary his kids set
Yup. Honestly, some parents conveniently forget all the ways their actions shaped you. They simply forget. The kids don't. If it was just the divorce, they wouldn't want to be lose their dad.
In a lot of cultures if you leave your spouse, you are excommunicated from the family because it’s dishonorable to leave your family and to start another.
This he obviously knows his kids dont talk to him for things he done through out the years not just the divorce that was just the icing on the cake probably kids have their own minds says alot all Three dont talk to him
I love this true confessional. Awesome questions Shannon. Gary must make every effort to seek peace privately with family. Go old school... write letters.
Go head Shay Shay! Thank you for allowing him to tell his story. People don't understand the hurt both People go through when divorcing. One or both partners share their story. Sometimes openly and sometimes secretly. Believe me the kids know what they saw on both sides. In a marriage there are three people involved. God, the husband and the wife.
Comedians make jokes of their pain. You either choose to laugh or cry. Common phenomenon. That said, doesn't justify the trauma to the kids. That's what happens when you have 2 immature adults.
Oh Gary...this wasn't it, especially with all that laughter and carrying on. Sometimes for the sake of the family unit, you have to say no comment, and learn to pivot.
Really sad how he treated his wife, not just lying to stall her, but avoiding the entire family during a pandemiic, probably leaving his wife & the kids worried about him 😢 --- he's been doing this so long he doesn't seem to understand how vile he comes across. Maybe this interview is part of his karma, because he just exposed himself.
@@CharlesXavier-kh3fx I don't know what they got & I don't care tbh, I'm more focused on how Gary treated his family. I hope they all can make peace one day.
How you know how he treated her, just asking, you sound like you know them personally because if you don’t, you are just siding with her, it’s been over before the divorce, usually years at least 3, somebody just decided to act on it.
You good Shay Shay helping Gary putting things in perspective about his Divorce and his Dad and Stepdad. God Bless Gary and his life and pray he can get a relationship with his kids. 🙂☮️💜💫✝️🙏🏾
Shannon, you did it again! I really enjoyed this interview and I listened to ALL of it! Both did not handle the divorce process correctly AND both dodged the process server so..I just pray that the relationship with his children is repaired sooner than later cuz life is really short. It's okay to start at baby steps but START. I pray they listen to the interview openly and seek to understand him as Dad and not the comedian cuz he dropped nuggets. Best wishes Gary can't wait to see you in Naptown.
She didn’t divide him and the kids If he was bonded properly with his kids nothing could break them because they would see him as a good dad despite the divorce They kids been iffy about him
Nah, very likely she did feed the divide. My mom did similar. They fell apart, she moved us away to another state then country, fed us 1 side of the story and bad mouthed him at every opportunity … as a kid you internalize these views not to mention if no communication was the standard set from childhood to young adulthood.
You still don't have any idea, Judge William Pinch. Just how is he triflin, he hasn't pretended to be anybody he isn't. What you see is a snapshot of the American secular culture, that has been seduced by materialism, sensual imagery all the downstream spawn from the 60's revolution against everything truly Christ like. He hasn't mistreated his family and I ask that you state where that was said.
Not only did he cheat, but he didn’t tell his wife he wanted a divorce before he filed and lied as to why he wasn’t coming home for two months, likely because he was laid up with another women. He did her dirty, I’m not saying he didn’t have a good excuse to not be married but the bottom line is he did his wife dirty.
That was a great interview!! Honest and funny. Everyone deserves a second chance, I pray him and his kids reconcile. Divorce and separation is never good. It's always a lot of emotions involved
I’m sorry that story about him taking his kids and leaving was awful. I couldn’t imagine you taking my kids and leaving for DAYS while you drive across the country and won’t even pick up the phone. That would traumatize me for life
He’s confused why he doesn’t have a relationship with them???? It’s absolutely unbelievable watching this whole exchange….the comments defending him are even worse.
@@jrenee8303welcome to the reality of what a lot of what some of us men go thru with the mother of our kids.....now yall see how evil and messes that is.
This is the MOST HONEST interview that I've EVER seen. This dude, don't really know him, seen him, but not watched JUST him, but he is REAL. He's telling his TRUTH FOR REAL🎉🎉🎉🎉, and has lived a "normal" lower income life. EMINEM ain't told his truth like this!! You FEEL for this PERSON.... IN YOUR SOUL. He's got l❤ve and hopefully understands the responsibility on his shoulders ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
@@specialkay4329 When abuse is involved, the abused one wins by finally getting the f*ck away from the abuser. Finally freed like a bird out of its cage.
I hope one day, they can reconcile. Gary has to understand that breaking mom's heart, hurting mom, and breaking his promise to her is the same as doing it to the kids. He cheated on THE FAMILY. So they gon be mad for a while. But like I said, I really hope they can reconcile. ❤❤❤❤
Very different relationships and responsibilities. This is how women turn kids from their fathers by attaching a romantic relationship to parental obligations. Sick.
I don’t understand how people can say kids stay out of it and you’re literally changing their lives because of what you guys have going on. They didn’t ask to be here it was either your irresponsibility or your responsibility either way it was on you so they have every right to feel a way especially if you’re the reason it happened.
The Bible says no adulterers in heaven and it specifically says in the NT that a man who does not provide for/take care of his family has denied the faith and is worst than a nonbeliever. This man's family is the one he abandoned.
Gary u needed this. This is the 1st step of where to turn for healing. Sometimes even when we try our best to not become those that hurt us, we still have traits. Re-evaluate yourself often. And give yourself pros & cons & reasoning. Your journey began, but u have to travel it.
He doesn't talk to any family it seems. Got problems with mom, dad, stepdad, exwife, children, stepchildren, siblings, baby's-mama, pretty much the white race as a whole..... Seems he treats people as disposable & puts all the blame on everyone else with no self-reflection. When you have the kind of money he does, helping them all financially should have been a given from jumpstart, but he acts like they only want transactional relationships. Surely they can't all be wrong in their perceptions.
She gave you half her life; she deserved half the marital income. Trifling in the marriage and more trifling in the divorce (proven by your own words/stories).
That’s the thing I was thinking. I’m not judging because I’ve seen good parents who’s children act entitled and use it against their parents. I’ve seen kids who were manipulated by the other parent. And I’ve seen kids who cut ties with their manipulative parents. We aren’t there behind closed doors so we shouldn’t act like we know
Now it becomes clear why she felt so deeply hurt. He failed to discuss their breakup like an adult, opting instead for silence and cowardice. He filed for divorce while being out of the house and remained away, avoiding any confrontation. After more than two decades together, he did not show her the dignity and respect that any mother of his children deserves. It was callous of him to reach out just before she was served divorce papers. How many conversations did he have with her regarding their home and the kids in the days or weeks between filing and the process server's arrival? It’s truly appalling. He made a bad call then kept making it worse.
I love Gary's comedy. I've seen kids not forgive a parent who cheated on another both ways. It's hard to watch your parent suffer because of cheating. I can see how Gary feels that he did better than his dad so he should be considered a great dad but that's not how it goes. I completely understand as someone whose kids have it better than me. Those kids don't see it that way. He is also spilling the tea everywhere. Boys also hate to see there mom's hurt and I've seen daughters walk away from a cheating mom after a divorce as well. Money doesn't fix it.
Thanks for sharing the vulnerability. I'm going through the suffering of divorce and for some reason it helps to listen to other humans trying their best to make life work out. Boys without fathers will grow up and struggle with boundaries and that can lead to great success as "normal" limits don't apply to them and his brother's very sad OD is the flip side of the coin. Bless you Mr Owen and may you find peace and centering with the great success you've built.
Gary is funnnny... But maybe bringing closure to the "First family" before creating a "Second family" seemed like a good idea.. Oh well, not my businessssss
you can't bring closure when they will not speak to you it's only so much you can do he paid for everything and waited while their answer was always they aren't ready what else do you want him to do? He said he wasn't perfect he ain't make no excuses he did keep it from her that he was divorcing her but he told her and she didn't open the door ducking to be served then filed in California because she could get half of what he had let's be fr here
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My parents divorced when I was young but it was obvious my mom hated my dad but she never said a bad thing about him. She let us have our own relationship with him. I think that is how it should be and I'm thankful she did that.
Same. My mom never told us why they broke up and why she didn’t like him until after he passed away. She only told me, but he cheated on her. She never let us know she didn’t like him tho 😂 we loved my dad soo much. He was a great dad
You're mom is a special lady. I wish I could say the same about mine. I still love them both. She didn't act like she hated him. But she definitely told us things that I shouldn't have known
Why was it obvious that she hated him
What woman don’t grow to hate the man they swear they love it’s like a curse I know it’s terrible men out there but I know women that started to hate their husbands because they worked to much women find reasons to leave and men look for reasons to stay it’s proven just look at the statistics who file for divorce the most and who is the most effected by it
@@Tmgsteel1992 This is one of the biggest fears a married man has. Your wife just leaving on a whim or because her idea of marriage isn't like what she saw on TV.
A lot of guys are now choosing to have long term girlfriends instead of wives because it's so risky.
I liked this interview cos Shannon just let him talk. No interruptions, no tight timelines, no cutting to commercials. This format is really good.
@@reshimarene What he do wrong? I cant sit through a whole hour to find out
Rite he just let them talk.. No interruption at all… I absolutely love Club Shay Shannon..Team ( Unk)❤❤❤
Shannon tried to lead him into making her the villain 14:34 ... same thing he did with Kountry Wayne. Dude hates women, clearly.
When my wife and I divorced I didn’t have her served I took the papers over and we sat down and signed them together and talked about what we expected, all I asked was as much time with my son as was feasible for both of us and the same for her, to this day we still have regular conversations, and even do things together with both sides of our family, including her fiancée who I truly enjoy his company!
Did you cheat? If not that is the difference.
Not everyone can do that but great that y'all could.
Respect…
Um he ain't famous. No offense. Rich people are different than normal folk.
@@seven9 I can definitely understand that, money makes people crazy so totally agree with your statement, I’m well off but not Gary Owens money for sure
I really hope Gary and his kids reconcile because the love from a father is a special one
Look how he did their mom!!!
@@AmyJohnson-di5hwshe is a ratchet
Right. How he did the process serve is petty lol😂@@AmyJohnson-di5hw
yeah…..but the love from a mother is what keeps kids alive.
Miss my dad everyday
My dad was abusive, abandoned me and my sisters, and started a whole new family. I was bitter as well until my pastor said "If you don't forgive your daddy, you gon' be your daddy."
My husband never got to forgive his father he was going to see him but he passed away before got to see him. I still wonder if he regret it I never asked him he never met my children his grandchildren
That’s the realest thing I’ve heard. Appreciate you my guy. I’m dealing with that right now. Realizing I’m turning into that man I hated. But realizing it is the first part.
My father acknowledged me, but we don't have a relationship. I wrote him a letter of forgiveness, but I don't allow him in my space. He's sickly now and needs nursing care. My siblings and his sisters are doing that. My feeling is his women took precedence and that's where his money went. I don't feel guilty in my decision not to go around him. I feel for my siblings though. They're literally fighting our aunts over property...smh My mother shielded me from chaos and violence and I'm glad she did.
@@coryhernandez508 💪🏾🙏🏽
@@dmitrielbert8413 Sometimes you have to love someone from a distance.
I read somewhere..If you dont address your childhood traumas, they will show up in your adult relationships. This is going to take, therapy, forgivness and prayer.
That’s common sense…
But easier said than done…
A lot of childhood trauma requires a trusted soundboard with lots of wisdom or life experience… Many don’t have that luxury
@@Logistics_SandarA good therapist helps, tremendously.
They def will. It took a divorce to open my eyes to that.
Truth for the advanced soul.🙏
I believe thats true.
As parents we have to take accountability for our actions and understand that our actions affects our kids…
Yeah if you have little whiny girls... Y'all business is y'all business unless you beating my momma kids need to learn
Both parents....both
As *good* parents…
Both parties are responsible, so why only hold one accountable?
He said “somebody has to be the bad guy…Gary was a bad guy!”
My parents divorced when I was 7. Not because they didn’t love each other, they just couldn’t get along and were arguing more and more. They split so we wouldn’t have to go through that. I’m so glad they did. It taught us to not stay in unhealthy situations just because you love someone.
I love that Shannon has no pressure to interrupt guess because they have the benefit of time, and I also love that Shannon asks difficult questions. But they also both had fun during the interview while still keeping it real. Loved this one.
I actually hear the pain in his story. Imagine not talking to you mom, her not standing up for you when you were younger, having a bad and absend father and an even worse stepfather. Broken homes dont create better homes, if you dont heal and fix the foundation.
Yeah.
Right, mama played a major part in these kid talking to him as well. Because that's when mama gave a sit down and just talk to them. I'm just saying that's how I personally would handle that. To hold grudges with your PARENTS is tough.
I been healing from my parents and I’m trying to break generational curses
Been divorced for over 3 years and people think he aint suppose to move on?
It's called being a parent he hasn't seen his kids in 3 years. Kids don't care about the issues you have with they mom. They see you choose not to there as a parent
Facts, it’s a reason why they despise him too. It’s no excuse to not be there for your kids. Absolutely none!!!
@@BigDic-qz8su His kids dont want to see him. Their mother filled their heads with bulls..t and they broke relations with him. His kids are grown a.s people, the f..k are you talking about.
@@BigDic-qz8su If they refuse to see him or spend time in the same room, what's he going to do? Run over their wishes and do what he wants? Force them so people think better of him?
Maybe the problem is that he moved on before he filed for divorce.
My Dad got remarried and had 2 girls. He sort of faded out of my and brother’s life. We heard all about his new life thru relatives that he bought a plane, racing sailboat and summer house. Meanwhile, we are living on $5 a day for food which came from Mom’s waitress tips. At age 11 I observed it all and took notes so that I could live an authentic life. 🙏
@@tgm2754 God Bless you all. I know your Mom 🙏 is doing her best. I encourage you to find a daily prayer. ( say each day)work hard in school God will make away.💕
Authentic? What does that mean. I have a daughter
@@miakarakaki4062 to live how you desire/enjoy
@@miakarakaki4062 Google the expression “ an authentic life”. Basically using your own strength to make good decisions, and not allowing weaknesses to affect important decisions.
@@BeatriceLatimore This was many years ago and the star players are all in Heaven. My brother chose to leave earth. My half sister chose to leave earth. My mother also. Not all souls that are born are strong. I performed Dads hospice and a whole lot of emotional healing was done. I am a very strong and stubborn soul so I survived the trauma and used those lessons to lead a healthy life. I hope to have many more years dipping my feet in the ocean, walking along the beach and possibly fostering kittens.
I like how Gary made sure and stated that he wasn’t going to trash her
He was honest and he admitted to his mistakes. And let’s not forget he is a comedian.
yup I said the same thing. Lets be honest cause we read all the post 3yrs ago.
Actually from thier television show she was and still a mess, Gary had to do her part as a parent let's not forget she spent his/they money foolishly many times on projects that failed.
Wow you have schooled me today.. didn't know
So? So he's just a jerk not a liar??
What does being a comedian have to do with anything?
I really enjoyed this interview. It’s soooo relatable. I pray his family heals in private. 🙏🏽💚
Stringing your family along for 2 months is insane, and If he really didn't want to blindside her, he should have told her when he filed, not on the day she was getting served. That's traumatic.
So now white people don’t have privilege anymore???
Absolutely. He did admit he could’ve handled that situation better.
He said he had To be separated for a period before he could file beside look what happened after he told her
And she was doing the exact same thing in LA county, so she could steal money she didn't earn. Sounds fair to me.
They were playing the same game.
Gary is criminally underrated. That he doesn't have a Netflix special is ridiculous
But he has many other specials…
I think he funnier when in movies and talking I don’t think he funny in standup…
I thought he had one back in 2019
Oh and I really think that the word underrated is overused. Gary Owen is properly rated. He has many movies and a number of comedy specials. All the ones I have seen are in sold out theaters. What is he missing?
So in no way is he “underrated!” He is properly rated thank you.
@@josebrown5961 Gary is playing the Schaumburg, IL Improv in June... it's a 300 seat venue. Stop talking nonsense. He is VERY underrated.
Gary said he tried to divorce her three times but stayed for the kids. She was not blindsided
And he ignored the signs 😢 women are not the only ones with intuition but often times we dont realize it. I call it spidey sense😅
He said...what is the rest of the story?
Sounds like they both wanted out but was trying to fleece him because now he well known. The kids also should have known what type of father he is. Truth be told that’s up to them if they want a relationship with him. Sounds like he did what he can as a man yes he messed up but he still stepped up during divorce and after. Sad his whole biz in spotlight 😢
@@lacroix922 How is she trying to fleece him? He's constantly traveling; she's at home taking care of the children - trying to give them a home; he's cheating on her constantly; he's not making recompense for his cheating and the harm that he caused her and their children.
He "SAID"... keyword SAID, his children not having a relationship with his as adults is TELLING.
Gary had one of the funniest stand up shows I ever seen. I wish him well in his life.
Watch more stand up
That was smooth the way Shannon told him you are a cleaned up version of his dad that he don’t even talk to…. You are your father Gary!!!!
No he isn't. Did you watch the whole thing? Gary ain't a bad dude yo.
@@jamesjenosyde3657 I never said he is a bad dude, just misinformed. He is toned deaf, you break up your family and send your peoples to your home where your family stay and don’t understand why they don’t want to be bothered with you…. Come on, do better.
Hearing Shannon say that, I get what he is saying but that don't make it true. Like he said he made everything he could. What if he was poor and they struggled? They marriage probably would've ended years ago. His career is the only reason those kids have what the have. That's wrong on so many levels.
@@DollysParadisethe kids is grown and don’t stay at home so what are you saying? ALL of this because mom wanted to shake him down for money. Tf
@@terickastidbits2342 what I am trying to convey is not about money, it’s about family. We are talking about two different prospectives and you don’t get mines and that’s ok. No matter what, his example of his father parallels his actions and what Gary didn’t want for his kids happened. Just being there for events is an issue as well. Generational curse.
Shay shay gave Gary a free lesson with forgiveness with his emotions. That's as real as real gets.
MONEY is always part of a divorce...BIG PART!!
💥💥🔥🔥👀👀🤳🤳
Especially if there's only one person making money
That’s why you have to make your time worth it
Just like it's a part of a marriage... BIG PART 🎯💪🏾
Yea, when you have it.
It's sad about his kids. I hope one day they will have a relationship. I'm happy they are successful
He caused that rift.
@@AutumnAproditheno
@@sherylmccollum895 What do you mean no? Men need to take accountability.
@@AutumnAprodithehe did… did you not watch the video at all, sounds like you got something against the men in YOUR life😂
@@sharklava123 What accountability? It's me me me me I I I, it's never about the hurt that he caused. He wonders why his adult children won't talk to him assuming the mother is behind it. Lol they are adults. They despise him from what he did and he's still wondering what he did to them that makes them avoid him.
That's not accountability.
I cheat on my wife, have my own family/lady on the side, sneak and file for divorce…..but I don’t know why it’s not a amicable divorce…lol
Anyone has the right to leave, but how can you not understand where the anger came from…? Vice versa you wouldn’t be happy if she did the same to you.
Easier said than done , but there is always a But. . . Kids can't shouldn't suffer.
He didn’t truly want to leave because the children were young, and he didn’t want to pay her child support. His attorney probably told him he would be paying high child support and would be paying alimony. It was his plan to file for divorce after the kids became adults. Gary already knew that California is 50/50, and the wife should have received half because she build his small empire. Gary went to Ohio because it’s not a 50/50. Gary was wrong!
Right??!!
Love the interview ❤❤❤
@@wealth3491😂 👍🏿
This man has always come off so honest. And down to earth. I wish him and his family the best
Cheating is honest yes
I like how Gary sneaks to file for divorce and then he can’t understand why things went the way they did. It’s called DISLOYAL.
She was trying to do the EXACT same thing lmao you’re 100% an NPC irl 💀🤥
@@chatgpt9293 Wait. Did she cheat too?
Yep,
@@ALWAYSTHINK4YOURSELF Yeah she cheated too!!
You sound psychotic. 70% of divorces are initiated by the women: and they are almost all blind sides. Shorties be fully in love with another man by the time they file for divorce.
Shay is so real, so right. Forgiveness is for you. And we always have a responsibility for the resentments we won’t relinquish.
A lot of men don’t know how to be fathers. They think it’s giving gifts on birthdays, money etc. but not spending time
Nah goofy...making money requires trading time for the majority of us. You must've not had a father.
That's a asinine statement jackass
Fathers are better parents period point blank
Exactly @@LetsTalkSports816
You clearly a beta
I had the privilege of being Gary's guide while in college when he came to perform. He was hella cool and exactly like this video. My mom loved him, as did my roommates. I always felt he was missing something, though, and this interview touches on that. The funniest people are those who are hurt the deepest. He is not whole. It's crazy what your parents can do.
The fact that he did not practice Fidelity in his almost 20 year marriage says a lot. I hope his current fiance will watch this.
She got her 2 -investments- babies so she doesn't care that he's not a loyal partner.
She had infidelity to
she was also cheating what p[art of that did you miss???
Right
I think he was young and unhappy and he admitted he tried leaving a few times but tried for the kids.
He's oblivious to the damage he caused and how dirty he did her overall. God willing his children find it in their hearts to forgive him. I hope she's healthy and healed.
Lmao ofc you’d say that
It's terrible when the kids more grown up 😒
What he do
But give them private school and a great life 😂
You were there? What happened 😂😂😂 u know them personally cause I be minding my business alot I had no idea 😂😂
@@moniquecoles2944thank you for that
This was actually a great interview. One of the best I’ve seen here. It’s sad about Gary and his children. I’m going through something similar with my siblings.
Comedians have the best recall. How they can remember so many details when they travel so much, is beyond me. It's amazing. Most people can't remember what they did the year before or the week before.
At least he doesn’t pretend to be a good man
Thats real💯
He's not pretending to be a perfect Man.
He got married too early. But he's still a good man.
He's a white "N".
He's a good man. He's just happier without her.
The stories he shared about how he dodged his own wife and kids during a traumatic time is telling of how he was as the man of his household. Just imagine all the traumatic stories he didn’t share.
You mean the wife that refused to open up the door when she knew she was about to get severed? The person that could've made it a simple process right then and there?
@@IncognitoSpraxfacts! People be delusional af thinking he was supposed to sign up to pay her 44k a month in alimony
@@IncognitoSprax BINGO!
Did you all miss the part that he was playing the same games of dodging the process of being served? I never said 44K was ok either. They were both wrong but he’s the one missing out on being a part of his kids lives. Shannon got it right. He became the man he hated in his father.
@@taisworkout Did YOU miss the part where his actions was a response to her deciding to play games? Trying to shift the blame on him like you did in the original comment is your bias showing.
This is the first Club Shay Shay interview that i watched fully from beginning to the end
Same
So he go get a lawyer to get divorce, disappear from your wife and children for two months to try to get her served, never tell her you filed for the divorce and you wonder why your children dont speak to you. If you could treat their mother that way then how do you really treat them?
It sounds like there was dirt done on both sides but he is just telling what he did which is a rare thing to see
What dirt she didn't stroke his ego enough after he got famous@nn-xm8lz
@nn-xm8lz it's a rare thing for men but it NEVER happen with women
Hurt people hurt people. Let’s look at the upside….. this man who was destined for poverty, alcoholism, etc found a way to live with his trauma and has the transparency, the willingness to be open about it. That takes courage. Besides, we all crazy.
He’s white. He still wants his privilege!
He cheated several times and was gone on the road.. then files for divorce in a state that puts her at a disadvantage financially and after her taking care of his kids that’s just wrong! Then he wonders why his kids don’t talk to him..?
Lol what's the disadvantage not getting half
So he should file for divorce in a place that’s gonna favor the woman? Yeah nah 😂
The women who also cheated wanted half of his money for his work. Hahaha typical gold digger.
Her taking care of HIS kids?
You don’t know! You do not know those people. You are childish!
You didn’t just cheat on your wife, you cheated on your kids too. The kids had to deal with the aftermath of mending their mother’s heart after their father broke it…they didn’t sign up to be in a broken home. I too, STILL feel some type of way towards my dad when he cheated on my mother when I was 5; they put in the work and are still going strong 25 years later. But a child will never forget how their mother cries….just don’t cheat.
He cheated just on his wife
He cheated on his wife, not the kids. Good parents separate their personal issues from their children. I never understood why mothers bash their children’s fathers. If the father is really a deadbeat the truth always comes out.
My parents are divorced. My father would always bash my mother in front of me. My mother never once said anything bad about him to me. Guess what, I’m 31 years old and now I can see with my own eyes everything my mom went through.
@@aishariel9924nah he cheated on the children too. Cheated them right out of a two parent home. Children without fathers in the home are at greater risk for poverty and incarceration. They were most definitely cheated, no matter how much people say they weren’t. It’s proven that divorce is traumatic for the children involved.
People like you that don’t actually heal and project this way is why cycles continue. He cheated on his wife, with his kids he could have still had an healthy relationship. If anything it teaches adversity and hardships. He didn’t kill his wife he cheated.
@@jwil2414 No, cheaters betray their entire families when they cheat. It's not only a wife or husband who are affected but the kids as well.
Gary : “ I have no idea why she filed in California”
1 minute later
Gary : “ she could have gotten half my money forever in California “
He's married. That's the family's money, not HIS. Why do men not understand this?
@@mp5249Because it's bs and people have a hard time understanding bs unless they're the originators of it.
He didn’t understand why she did it in LA and not the Bay Area which is where there house is. If you don’t know Cali, that’s like 8-11 hours away from eachother.
@@mp5249no it's not. It's frowned upon when a men asks for money to a women but women by all mean can? Equality.
Which is why he didn't file in CA.
Getting served at a Panera drive thru is crazy 😂😂
Not if you run from the server. Can't escape reality.
His kids are adults. They've seen way more than what's being disclosed. If they're not talking to him, there's definitely a reason. Not to mention them knowing he was constantly cheating on their mother. A lot of people don't realize that the kids feel betrayed as well. I hope they work it out, but I don't think it plays in his favor with him publicly acting like he doesn't understand why they don't want to talk to him. That's not taking accountability for how he made them feel.
Thank you for stepping up and saying that!!!! Everyone playing like they are stupid 😡, like they don't know!!!!!!! 😒
Thank you. When he said "Where do you want to go? Dubai? Thailand?" Just makes it seem like he wants to buy them back. Not putting in the effort to understand them in the first place.
Infidelity, causes trauma to the whole family. Especially the wife.
So he probably knows more than he's saying. But as humans, we don't always tell people we have a beef with every single reason why. Sometimes we just shut them out and move on. I have a friend in prison I haven't spoken to in years. He's gonna die in prison. I think he knows why I don't call or visit. But I never outright told him because I'm so disappointed. Point being, sometimes people truly don't know the full story why we cut them out. Maybe Gary did something beyond forgiveness. I'll leave it up to him and his kids to work out, I'm curious but end of the day its not really for me to know.
My boy shannon sharpe givin' out free therapy sessions
Agreed
I was looking for this lmaoo. Shannon giving free gems
Is this only for celebs? Asking for a friend
And he’s not qualified to do so and it’s not just about the lack of credentials, it’s the clear and unabashed male bias. Shannon needs therapy for his viewpoint on women. I like his shows except for his take on women. Women are either exploited, exploiters or gold diggers.
When grown "children" don't mess with a parent more than likely there is a good reason. Perhaps in Gary's case the "kids" don't like that he cheated on their mom? Ya think? By the way, his oldest child is 30 and his youngest aside from his new twins is 19. They are adults and old enough to arrive at their own conclusions about their dad and his behavior.
I think the kids feel betrayed by their father as well due to his infidelity
It doesn't surprise me that his kids took their mom's side. If you watch their reality show, the family always treated him like a guest who was there to pay the bills. In the shows, everything is all about her. He was an outsider in his own home. You almost get the impression that he was the step-dad - the kids didn't listen to him. He was the butt of all the family jokes.
He'd just smile and act happy. He shouldn't have cheated, but she could've treated him better.
The kids don't value him enough to hear him out. He still paid their college tuition.
@@dionnehemphill469 That happens when dad is gone most of the time, even if he's "good" when he's around. The fact is, *she* was the bedrock so it's natural the kids will be on their mother's side. I can identify with that completely. He was a type of guest. If you're gone the majority of the time, show up and play with the kids, that's not making an emotional investment enough to bond with your children. If there is no bond, nothing can be broken. They were never fully attached to him. That was his choice. He wanted a family but also wanted to be a traveling comedian. No different from doctors, professional military folks, truck drivers, taxi drivers, etc. I rarely remember my father being around. While he wasn't abusive, he was absent. Yes he was earning money but money can't nurture you. So when my dad and mom divorced who do you think us kids favored? The one who was there.
It’s sad that women will turn their kids against their father. Her relationship with him is separate from his relationship with the kids.
I'm really impressed with Shannon's interview skills. Never seen his show, but this was one of the deepest, most incisive interviews into a person's character I've watched online. Really well done!
And he says “I don’t understand why my kids don’t talk me!”
If he’s that clueless! That’s crazy!
Well that can happen.
Ok coming from a guy tell me so we all can move on. I obviously don’t know. Us men be trying
@@BlaztoizeIf u can't figure it out and be accountable you don't deserve to be there. Stop playing like you're the victim. Especially if you were cheating or abusive in any way
Honor they mother AND father. I am sure the Mom is not innocent in this but she was the primary parent it seems because he was on the road making money for all of them . but this happens alot in divorce look at the braxtons its been 40 yrs since there parents divorced and they still had animosity towards him even tho he tried to still be a dad.
Gotta have money to play his game he paid thousands to a process server YOU can’t do that
CLEARLY HE DOES NOT GET THE HARM AND HURT IF HIS ACTIONS AGAINST HIS WIFE….
Clearly you seem bias is Gary not allowed to be happy also and keep most of his money?
lol shut ur social media puppet self up plz. get ur mind right.
He also said that she has her issues too… your comment ignores her accountability as well.
Especially, since his children are at the age where they can see things for what they witness, not what any side says.
@@deazy2k9no, not when she was there grinding with him while he was making it, you sound crazy
Thanks!
3.5 years, as a father i wouldnt last 1 week. The way he described being a father leads me to believe he wasnt present and it doesnt bother him as much as he wants us to think it does. "I was a fun dad" pleeeease
Naw unfortunately I've been there. If you don't know thank God.
Yeah plus you don’t know how people are when the cameras are off and they are alone… Laugh in Public and Cry in private
He pretty much said it. He was on the road a lot, cheated multiple times and then didn't even tell them before he filed for divorce. The fact that the kids don't speak to him now speaks volumes. They are old enough where if he was such a great dad to them, no amount of badmouthing on the part of their mom could sway their opinions.
And that story about the daughter hiding in the bathroom, so he left? Thats not a dad that is too broken up about not seeing his kids.
Apparently he is not with the mother of the twins either....when do you start to say maybe I should change something I'm doing?@@richardellis8076
@@richardellis8076
Mom can turn kids anytime she wants.
That's the power of a woman.
Gary and Kenya were together 20+ years. No matter how done he was with the marriage, he owed her the respect of telling her that he planned to file for divorce. He comes across as if children should be able to separate the fact he was a good dad from the fact he lied to and deeply hurt their mom. The details of what led to the breakdown of their marriage are insignificant to how he is using notoriety to recruit people onside. He is doing more damage and it’s unfortunate that he can’t see that. As long as Kenya and their children are hurting, this isn’t a laughing matter.
You didn't listen at all, like most people smh. His wife cheated also, and she wanted a divorce also. He spoke on it but stated not airing her out. She just thought like most women who file which is 70% of all divorces. That she would be the first to file.
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Thanks, sis
She just wanted the bag
@@AbeM-jm8yohe did not say that AT ALL .
If you want to end a marriage you end it like an adult, he didn’t handle it well, in fact, it was quite disrespectful to her.
You know his lawyer instructed him to do what he did, same as hers had her go for his pockets in Cali. Lawyers are the real evil ones in divorce
@@chrisrhodes2 irregardless the Lawyers on either side weren’t married to each other.. I understand wanting a divorce but it’s how you go about, especially with kids involved, whether him or her.
@@CrackberryMehe told her a few times he wanted a divorce. Both parties were cheating on each other. He did right by listening to his attorney and moving the way she advise, which was the protection for his money. In the end, he still looked out for her financially, but still didn’t have to give her half. When. Other of y’all cheating on each other, no such thing as giving the other Rosetta half as if they’re innocent. The attorney advised him correctly. If you and your spouse cheated on each other, will you’d till next ok with giving them half of your money?
Gary is a better man then I’ve seen growing up
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Ironically Gary wants forgiveness from his children but won’t forgive his Dad.
Not the same situation at all.
I just got to that part
He never said he didn't forgive him. His step dad keeps putting a wedge between them. Some people are impossible to deal with.
What Gary did was between him and his wife. What his dad did was to HIM!
@arnetrahughes2277 literally the same thing you clown.
He doesn’t understood the children now believe in NO CONTACT and have clear reasons why. Watching a parent walk out on his family is enough .
He didn’t walk out on his family. He divorced the mom. And ALL them kids is grown
Shut up lol
He doesn’t understood.. somebody school failed them 🤣🤣
@@terickastidbits2342‼️‼️‼️exactly. Kids be too involved and knowing about the problems in their parents marriage. That isn’t their business in depth. They’re grown and they’re wrong for not speaking to him.
@@terikathomas2131 this the same thing Brian McKnight kids did. Now when he stop reaching out and focus solely on his new kids nobody better not say nothing! Because he’ll just be respecting the boundary his kids set
This is one of the best podcasts I’ve ever watched. He is the definition of a story teller
His kids are grown. It’s a reason they don’t mess with him.
Yup. Honestly, some parents conveniently forget all the ways their actions shaped you.
They simply forget.
The kids don't. If it was just the divorce, they wouldn't want to be lose their dad.
In a lot of cultures if you leave your spouse, you are excommunicated from the family because it’s dishonorable to leave your family and to start another.
It's 2024 not the 1800's get over it
@@apmartialarts thank you. Preach it from the mountain top! Let the PRIMITIVES know.
Those primitives had marriages that lasted a lifetime. Most in this decade cant hold on to anything let alone marriage. Not even their own identity😂
This is so sad. I hope that God brings Gary and all 3 of his kids back together.
My problem with Gary is he not really accepting to the things he did to his kiddos. He told him that fact at 41 mins and he dodged the ball.
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He's a deadbeat . Period .
This he obviously knows his kids dont talk to him for things he done through out the years not just the divorce that was just the icing on the cake probably kids have their own minds says alot all Three dont talk to him
@@findyourselfagaincourt Prove it.🤷🏾♂🤷🏾♂
@@jackreacher2095 You too old for this. 🙄🙄
I love this true confessional. Awesome questions Shannon. Gary must make every effort to seek peace privately with family. Go old school... write letters.
Go head Shay Shay! Thank you for allowing him to tell his story. People don't understand the hurt both People go through when divorcing. One or both partners share their story. Sometimes openly and sometimes secretly. Believe me the kids know what they saw on both sides. In a marriage there are three people involved. God, the husband and the wife.
You tried to be sneaky to keep your money from a 25 yr relationship, but now the mother of those twins are going to get it.
How will she ? He isn't married to her
Child support x2
@@daisyminnie7485 child support better than alimony
Stop it. You too old to be acting like this. 🙄🙄
She's get way less than if she was married to him.
This was wild! I appreciated Gary’s honesty, but man that’s sone crazy s%*t! Dude put his first wife through it.
And he finds it funny.
Comedians make jokes of their pain. You either choose to laugh or cry. Common phenomenon. That said, doesn't justify the trauma to the kids. That's what happens when you have 2 immature adults.
Yea idk if airing every detail is the best thing to do. Mabey he jus tryna beat her to the point
I laughed for the first half, and about cried for the second. Better than a movie.👏👏👏
Shayshay your right he not free. Holding alotta emotion
Oh Gary...this wasn't it, especially with all that laughter and carrying on. Sometimes for the sake of the family unit, you have to say no comment, and learn to pivot.
He didn't say anything negative about his family unit. The one that completely ignores him. Especially the children that he was a good father to.
Well a lot of this is already out there because of the social media bomb from the wife… he’s just giving his context
Right!
You probably have issues and don't talk to people. Sometimes it's better to vent and talk to someone even if it's on a widely viewed show.
Gary, like u said, don't listen to none of these comments. Do u. Especially this person
“Someone has to be the bad guy and for some reason I (Gary) became the bad guy” when yeah you cheated on your wife multiple times 🤦♂️
Right!!! Like…huh???🫠
Honestly he isn't good at communicating , the way he handled the divorce totally uncalled for... Hope him and his children can mend things
Shut up, women do worse.
Do you know this man? How did he handle his divorce?
No I don't , but the way he said he handled his divorce on club shay shay is what I'm going by his words
@@CeceWestsidethe internet the judgement from the experts on the couch. Get outta his business.
Well said
Really sad how he treated his wife, not just lying to stall her, but avoiding the entire family during a pandemiic, probably leaving his wife & the kids worried about him 😢 --- he's been doing this so long he doesn't seem to understand how vile he comes across. Maybe this interview is part of his karma, because he just exposed himself.
That evil women got what she got. She’s just mad because he beat her to the divorce.
@@CharlesXavier-kh3fx I Agree
@@CharlesXavier-kh3fx I don't know what they got & I don't care tbh, I'm more focused on how Gary treated his family. I hope they all can make peace one day.
How you know how he treated her, just asking, you sound like you know them personally because if you don’t, you are just siding with her, it’s been over before the divorce, usually years at least 3, somebody just decided to act on it.
Did hear what he said? He explain why?
You good Shay Shay helping Gary putting things in perspective about his Divorce and his Dad and Stepdad. God Bless Gary and his life and pray he can get a relationship with his kids. 🙂☮️💜💫✝️🙏🏾
Shannon, you did it again! I really enjoyed this interview and I listened to ALL of it! Both did not handle the divorce process correctly AND both dodged the process server so..I just pray that the relationship with his children is repaired sooner than later cuz life is really short. It's okay to start at baby steps but START. I pray they listen to the interview openly and seek to understand him as Dad and not the comedian cuz he dropped nuggets. Best wishes Gary can't wait to see you in Naptown.
She didn’t divide him and the kids
If he was bonded properly with his kids nothing could break them because they would see him as a good dad despite the divorce
They kids been iffy about him
That's exactly what he said, he wish he had a bond that was strong no matter what with his kids..... he said that
@@kristakitchen2559sounds like its his own fault.
I don't know what you are talking about if you have a bitter baby mama she can consciously or unconsciously poison the kids against you.
Nah, very likely she did feed the divide.
My mom did similar. They fell apart, she moved us away to another state then country, fed us 1 side of the story and bad mouthed him at every opportunity … as a kid you internalize these views not to mention if no communication was the standard set from childhood to young adulthood.
Yea. I wuz thinkin it wuz her. But thats tru af tho
I love how honest and funny gary is
Adultery is not honest it’s heart breaking
Dang Gary put his wife through it
She treated him like an ATM.
He allowed it. Shouldve chose better 🤷🏿♀️ She wanted to get paid for her pain lol @HighAltitudeMMA
Eh, she needed the character development. 😂
@@HighAltitudeMMAshe was with him before the fame she made more money than he did supported his career WTF are you talking about.
@@fiestyblktina1237 it's HIS money. He earned it. Why do women feel entitled to money they don't earn??
Gary is really triflin. I had no idea he mistreated his family like this.
You still don't have any idea, Judge William Pinch. Just how is he triflin, he hasn't pretended to be anybody he isn't. What you see is a snapshot of the American secular culture, that has been seduced by materialism, sensual imagery all the downstream spawn from the 60's revolution against everything truly Christ like. He hasn't mistreated his family and I ask that you state where that was said.
He gave his family everything he owed them. The kids grown. He wasn’t willing to let go of his success too. I don’t blame him.
@@BlaztoizeCheaters are trifling. No way around it.
@@ukan.536 still not worth everything he gave and everything he built
Not only did he cheat, but he didn’t tell his wife he wanted a divorce before he filed and lied as to why he wasn’t coming home for two months, likely because he was laid up with another women. He did her dirty, I’m not saying he didn’t have a good excuse to not be married but the bottom line is he did his wife dirty.
That was a great interview!! Honest and funny. Everyone deserves a second chance, I pray him and his kids reconcile. Divorce and separation is never good. It's always a lot of emotions involved
WOW...Listening to him laugh at the fact that he cheated and everything else...Them kids are NEVER going to talk to him...
He said she cheated too. He is a comedian
@@shenitathompson7493 He said he got caught plenty of times...
@@shenitathompson7493 She probably cheated because he was cheating all the time and left her alone.
@@shenitathompson7493okay but we don't know if that's true or not. We KNOW it's true that he did it, it came out his own mouth
Yea this footage is for life
I’m sorry that story about him taking his kids and leaving was awful. I couldn’t imagine you taking my kids and leaving for DAYS while you drive across the country and won’t even pick up the phone. That would traumatize me for life
He’s confused why he doesn’t have a relationship with them???? It’s absolutely unbelievable watching this whole exchange….the comments defending him are even worse.
They are his kids too
If she did this you wouldn’t bat an eye.
@@TheMainMan364 nothing to do with gender, wrong is wrong. Taking the kids unexpectedly after a fight and cutting off communication is evil
@@jrenee8303welcome to the reality of what a lot of what some of us men go thru with the mother of our kids.....now yall see how evil and messes that is.
This is the MOST HONEST interview that I've EVER seen. This dude, don't really know him, seen him, but not watched JUST him, but he is REAL. He's telling his TRUTH FOR REAL🎉🎉🎉🎉, and has lived a "normal" lower income life. EMINEM ain't told his truth like this!! You FEEL for this PERSON.... IN YOUR SOUL. He's got l❤ve and hopefully understands the responsibility on his shoulders ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
There are no winners in a divorce unless abuse is involved
That's a lie...because usually women win 🏆
Really? Who wins when abuse is involved?
@@specialkay4329 When abuse is involved, the abused one wins by finally getting the f*ck away from the abuser. Finally freed like a bird out of its cage.
Very close-minded comment
@@edwardfitzgerald3877 thank you. Someone gets it
I hope one day, they can reconcile. Gary has to understand that breaking mom's heart, hurting mom, and breaking his promise to her is the same as doing it to the kids. He cheated on THE FAMILY. So they gon be mad for a while. But like I said, I really hope they can reconcile. ❤❤❤❤
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I don’t want to be your husband ≠ I don’t want to be a father
Not gonna happen.
Very different relationships and responsibilities. This is how women turn kids from their fathers by attaching a romantic relationship to parental obligations. Sick.
I don’t understand how people can say kids stay out of it and you’re literally changing their lives because of what you guys have going on. They didn’t ask to be here it was either your irresponsibility or your responsibility either way it was on you so they have every right to feel a way especially if you’re the reason it happened.
Wow. Shay Shay is wise. What a grown man telling Gary "There can never be freedom without forgiveness." Shay, you make a great therapist!
The Bible says no adulterers in heaven and it specifically says in the NT that a man who does not provide for/take care of his family has denied the faith and is worst than a nonbeliever. This man's family is the one he abandoned.
Gary u needed this. This is the 1st step of where to turn for healing. Sometimes even when we try our best to not become those that hurt us, we still have traits. Re-evaluate yourself often. And give yourself pros & cons & reasoning. Your journey began, but u have to travel it.
Well he doesn’t talk to his mother so there you have it.. he shouldn’t be confused if his kids don’t talk to him
His stepfather is hateful
Sometimes space is best
Stupid “logic”. Things are never that easy.
He doesn't talk to any family it seems. Got problems with mom, dad, stepdad, exwife, children, stepchildren, siblings, baby's-mama, pretty much the white race as a whole..... Seems he treats people as disposable & puts all the blame on everyone else with no self-reflection. When you have the kind of money he does, helping them all financially should have been a given from jumpstart, but he acts like they only want transactional relationships. Surely they can't all be wrong in their perceptions.
Great interview. I enjoyed this segment very much.
$44,000 a month is actually insane
Why?
@@paulacopeland8360
Because her children are adults and it's not HER money!
She needs to get a JOB.
Actually, it ain't enough.
obviously HE HAS IT
Right he don't have that kind of money. They owed the irs money and needed to sell the house. How he got $44k/mo to give another person?
Thanks for your transparency. Divorce is hard & prayerfully his relationship with the kids reconcile.
She gave you half her life; she deserved half the marital income. Trifling in the marriage and more trifling in the divorce (proven by your own words/stories).
Them kids got a reason.
With this ungrateful entitled generation??? Nah sometimes you can have good parents and still not appreciate them!
Sounds like it’s pleasing mom. Not right.
@@giared74exactly
That’s the thing I was thinking. I’m not judging because I’ve seen good parents who’s children act entitled and use it against their parents. I’ve seen kids who were manipulated by the other parent. And I’ve seen kids who cut ties with their manipulative parents. We aren’t there behind closed doors so we shouldn’t act like we know
Yeah siding with a bitter mother who’s mad over $
Spiritual warfare is real. Even when you do everything right, we will still go through hard times. As well as have things happen that are just unfair.
Amen
Absolutely!!! It’s hard and hurtful.
He tore his own family apart. He made his own bed.
He made some terrible choices
Only what God allows
Now it becomes clear why she felt so deeply hurt. He failed to discuss their breakup like an adult, opting instead for silence and cowardice. He filed for divorce while being out of the house and remained away, avoiding any confrontation. After more than two decades together, he did not show her the dignity and respect that any mother of his children deserves. It was callous of him to reach out just before she was served divorce papers. How many conversations did he have with her regarding their home and the kids in the days or weeks between filing and the process server's arrival? It’s truly appalling. He made a bad call then kept making it worse.
He was MESSYYY. His kids definitely have legit reasons.
That's a punk answer
That's none of his kid's business.
I love Gary's comedy. I've seen kids not forgive a parent who cheated on another both ways. It's hard to watch your parent suffer because of cheating. I can see how Gary feels that he did better than his dad so he should be considered a great dad but that's not how it goes. I completely understand as someone whose kids have it better than me. Those kids don't see it that way. He is also spilling the tea everywhere. Boys also hate to see there mom's hurt and I've seen daughters walk away from a cheating mom after a divorce as well. Money doesn't fix it.
How is this highlight an hour long 😂
Not an honorable man This is a private matter and he's still putting all their business out in public.
Longer highlight on RUclips to this day. 😂
Thanks for sharing the vulnerability. I'm going through the suffering of divorce and for some reason it helps to listen to other humans trying their best to make life work out. Boys without fathers will grow up and struggle with boundaries and that can lead to great success as "normal" limits don't apply to them and his brother's very sad OD is the flip side of the coin. Bless you Mr Owen and may you find peace and centering with the great success you've built.
So he already broke up with the mother of his twin babies? He too old for all this.
😮
It’s obviously him
@@StephSteph5fuk no
Please tell me this is a joke!!
As long as he take care of those kids it's no one else's business
Problem after problem after problem after problem.
Men swear cheating isn’t that big of a deal … 😑
@SkyeBreezy until you cheat on him. Then cheating becomes the biggest problem ever
Believe it or not yes we do. Whether you're the cheater or been cheated on. Either one of you ever screwed up?? Ever
You must be a member of the man haters club🙄
Gary is funnnny... But maybe bringing closure to the "First family" before creating a "Second family" seemed like a good idea.. Oh well, not my businessssss
That part lost a lil respect for dude
you can't bring closure when they will not speak to you it's only so much you can do he paid for everything and waited while their answer was always they aren't ready what else do you want him to do? He said he wasn't perfect he ain't make no excuses he did keep it from her that he was divorcing her but he told her and she didn't open the door ducking to be served then filed in California because she could get half of what he had let's be fr here
Why have I lost all respect for this man within the first 10 minutes of this show? After 20 years...
Exactly,she got the names wrong🤨
Cant make everybody happy
@@shawn1819 Okkkaayyy. As long as it makes you happy. I guess.
Same! He took there children for a whole weekend and didn't return her phone calls!? He Needs to believe in Jesus cause he lucky to be alive
Yeah you can’t be walking on on your family because you “aren’t happy”. That’s your wife and the mother of your kids. Work on your issues.
Shannon’s laugh is bloody spot on and does he ever age
What if..just what if his kids feel like he feels about his dad