Just seeing this interview and knowing what visceral rivals Jax and Sonny were to each other for at least 25 years is a testament to how great of actors they both are. Maurice Bernard/Sonny Corinthos just simply changed the tenor of GH, and we all know how wonderful of an actor he is, but shoutout to Jax/Ingo Rademacher as well. He was an AMAZING foil to Sonny at the height of GH's popularity with THEE Brenda Barrett and that ferocious triangle, and he even made Carly bearable during the latter years as well. He is AMAZING too. Love it.
Wow. I’m BLOWN AWAY. First: I had no idea that Mo and Ingo were friends so... great acting all these years. Second: this honest conversation surely changed some lives. I’m so impressed and inspired.
It seems that the " family" of General Hospital ( cast and crew) are very nurturing and helpful to each other. I'm sure anyone would want that kind of work environment.
not all of them... but the majority yes... I am sure they have all had their moments... just like everyone else does with their co workers. But these guys sometimes do some deep scenes with each other.... so I think that makes a big difference too. There is one squeaky wheel in the GH cast though... and that person causes some problems for some of the other cast members... like Ingo and even MB
Thank you for letting peanut know it's ok to cry. It's called being human my husband was the first man to cry in front of me and that was one of the reasons I married him, he wasn't afraid to show his feelings and be human. He will grow to be a great man someday
I can't thank Ingo and Maurice enough for this video. This is such an important subject and this message needs to be heard by everyone. This kind of parenting is what I wish for every child in the world.
Wow. This had me sobbing. My father hit with his fists. He was definitely from the generation that felt children should be seen but not heard. A father is the first man a daughter has access to. My dysfunctional relationship with my father caused me to leave home looking for love. Tough situation to put a daughter in! Some guys would try to take advantage of that; fortunately I found a good man who loves me deeply. 38 years strong.
What your father did was bad even criminal if he punched a child, but this didn't come out of nowhere , was your father born a bad person, which is rare, or did someone abuse him as a child so badly, that it warped his psyche and he never got the help he needed ?
First off I want to give major props to Ingo's son for coming on the show and talk about anger. He is a brave kid and I hope this conversation that he had with his dad and you Maurice strengthens his relationship with his dad. 🙏🏻Overall the conversation was great and a really important one guys but I have to admit I also absolutely loved the reminiscing that you guys did on your characters, and just your camaraderie in general. This was a good episode and really helped a lot! I too sometimes have problems with anger and impatience. I have to take a step back, take a deep breath and not let my emotions take over. Great episode👏🏻
Kudos to Peanut for being brave enough to be a part of this! What a wonderful young man. And so important to teach them that there is no shame in showing emotion, whether they are male or female. In the long run, it will help them to become a much more balanced adult. Love Ingo....thanks for having him. You're obviously both very loving, caring dads. That will forever be your biggest responsibility and one of your greatest accomplishments in this lifetime. Such an important subject. Really loved this one.
You guys are really good together you should do another show together you have a deep understanding of each other and how you help people in different aspects and I think the show is very helpful and I love watching you Mr bernard you are up and beyond above helping people thank you for all you do
I grew up having my dad take his belt off and use it to hit me when I did something wrong . Then I’d out fool him and cover my butt with a pillow so I couldn’t feel the belt and I’d scream out like it hurt but he had no clue he wasn’t hurting me at all. My grandmother and mom used a wooden spoon to give me a spanking....the nuns used a ruler and their hands to hit me.... but I grew up to be a very respectful person....I do have anger issues especially during this nightmare we are all in. I am trying to control my anger at all those selfish unmasked people that walk by me and my dog because you can’t talk sense into careless people ....ty for these videos every Sunday they are very helpful and gives me something to look forward to...❤️
Yes, hitting is wrong but that’s just how our parents disciplined us when we were kids, I was raised the exact same way, I would ask my mother, once I was an adult of course, why she would spank us with a chancla (flip flop), or a wooden spoon, or even a paddle and she said that’s how she was raised. I asked my grandmother one day how my mom & Aunts were disciplined and she said the same thing,, wooden spoon, house shoe (meaning slipper in place of the chancla). She said she had girls so she rarely had to use the belt, she also said this is how she was raised, this is how she and her sisters were disciplined, her brothers though were spanked with the belt if they misbehaved. It’s a generational thing, we don’t do it anymore because it’s seen as abuse now if you so much as spank your child, not beat your child just spank them.
I've been watching General Hospital since it started. I love the show and how it's evolved. It includes human life struggles and topics. I love that Maurice and Ingo are friends and they chat together here.
I remember years ago watching the episodes when your mental health was declining on General Hospital, not realizing you were going through this in your true live. I admire the courage and bravery you portrayed acting the mental health episodes on General Hospital. I appreciate the role model you have become for Mental Health through State of Mind. As a behavior therapist, I appreciate anyone that can take feeling ashamed for experiencing Mental Health episodes.
" Parent Fail " those words when he mentioned them ran deep In side my soul and it hit home really hard. The way he explained it after he said it was deep in thought. I wish someone said " Parent Fail " to me when I was younger and getting hit alot by my father. I've always believed I deserved everytime I was hit even when I did nothing wrong. To this day I still believe I deserved it in some way because why would he do it if I didnt do anything wrong. Thank you Ingo for mentioning " Parent Fail". You sure got my mind thinking.
I'm in tears right now that i didn't know any of this when my son was growing up. So much hurt could've been avoided. Y'all are doing a great job with your sons
Omg this was beautiful. I don't even have kids and I'm crying my eyes out. How wonderful for all of you to be willing to be vulnerable to help others. Love this series!!
This was awesome! I love you guys. The Sonny-Jax-Brenda triangle was one of the best. I'm sure this really helped a lot of people and it was great for Ingo to come on and talk about it. Maurice should try to get Vanessa on as well. I know the fans would love it and I know she has said she's had some mental health battles as well.
What a beautiful conversation. I have watched you guys for years and to see you two speak so honestly from your hearts was amazing. And Peanut... I was so moved by your ability to speak your truth. You contributed so much to the subject. Thank you for being so eloquent. I’m in awe. 🙏🏼💜
Many times, anger comes from unmet expectations. We expect a response or an action from a person and we don't get it, that leads to disappointment, disappointment leads to conflict and unresovled conflict leads to anger and once that anger is in us, it roots and grows and shows up in so many ways. Other times, it's the need to control. Anger is an emotion and emotion has no intellect. Thanks for having this episode. Very important.
What a beautiful SOM! I congratulate you both for talking about your anger issues and how you dealt with it! My parents used to beat me and I swore I would never do that to my children! I kept that promise! ❤️🙏
For the first part of my life I was raised by parents who both had anger issues and used hands and other objects to hit and abuse with every time they got even the slightest bit annoyed. Then when I was 14 my bio father died and my uncle stepped in to raise me. He believed you never lay a hand on a child. He was a foster parent to over 100 children during his life and had four adopted kids of his own including me. He wanted us all to obey him because we loved and respected him and never because we feared him. He was the greatest man I've ever known. He's been gone 10 years and I miss him every day. I still have anger issues myself from the way I was raised those first 14 years. I am a work in progress but I am much better at controlling and channeling my anger now. I have worked with other abused kids over the years to try to help them. I don't have kids of my own but I've always sworn that if I ever do I will never lay a hand on them. They will respect and not fear me. I will never let a child of mine go through what I did.
It could be that your parents had a mental health disorder, or that they were abused so badly as childremn that it affected their psyche, that can trigger a mental health illness and acting out in anger is a symptom of that, mot people aren't born bad or born behaving bad, unless theyre bad seed psychopaths (like certain elderly former prresidents theyre either born with a mental illness or they were abused as children ,sometimes both, scientist say that if children are abused that affects the structure of their brains that handles emotions,stress etc, likely whatever your parents did, they need to get the help they likely never got and it's forgivable.
Peanut: You are phenomenal to come on this show to help other fathers learn how to communicate with their children, instead of scarring them by yelling.
Two of my favorite guys on GH! Ingo, I saw you about 17 years ago on the Waikiki beach. My son was just a baby. You casually got out of the water, toweled off by a tree and no one noticed you...but me! Love you guys!
Wow gentlemen. Amazing to hear you. As a mom, I had this with my daughter. I wasnt always nice to her. And now that I’m older and need her help, I see her frustration. I see me in her. I’m different now. No more yelling. Thank God. And I just cant apologize to her enough. I beat myself up about it often.
I knew other people had mental problems but I always felt I was the only one - thank you for your truthfulness and making mental health issues not something to hide and be ashamed of, I only wish I had these videos 10 years ago. Thank you so very much. Also, I love both your characters on GH❤
You hit the nail on the head! When your child(ren) has a situation (i.e. whether a fall or other things) the way we handle it shows care, love, concern; not going ballistic or making a mountain out of a mole-hill. That makes all the difference in how they will react to the things in their life. Example: I delivered a family member's baby (long story). Instinctively, I did what needed to be done and didn't get a case of nerves until I was by myself after the fact. LOL Today, my kids never get into a panic because they've always seen the way we handled all the bumps in the road.
Peanut thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us! You, your dad and Maurice have taught me some lessons after watching this! What strikes me the most is how deeply you and your dad love each other. You mentioned better communication as opposed to the yelling and fighting. This is so accurate on so many levels. Thank you Peanut! Thank you all of you for sharing. I truly love you guys and wish you health!
I look forward to seeing your sessions on Sundays. Loved seeing you guys talk about this issue. I think everyone needs to be able to go to therapy or have a friend/family to talk about their emotions or issues they’re dealing with. It’s a beautiful & healthy way to live. You can tell Peanut has very sweet, sensitive soul.
I think giving a voice to mental health issues is an extraordinary feat on your part. But please don't underestimate the joy you bring to the audience as an actor. I've watched you since the All My Children Days. You make me happy. God Bless!
What a beautiful video. I truly enjoyed seeing you two, that I've "known" for years as Sonny and Jax, talk about being Dad's. Thank you Maurice, for starting this channel. I look forward to watching every Sunday. God bless you.
This conversation with men and their sons is an amazing gift. I was raised in fear..... mental, physical and verbal. I swore I wouldn’t do that to my children and we all have a moment we regret but I accomplish that with raising my kids. Now I have the pleasure and honor of watching my grandchildren while their parents are at work. I never let my mother watch my children because of the abuse she gave to me as a kid. Keep talking about this it’s the only way things change! My husband and I also had a “family bed” for us, our 3 kids he and I. It was the BEST sleep and family time we had. It doesn’t last forever enjoy while the kids are little!!! Keep up the good work Maurice.
Great session!!!! This one actually made me Share with my son. I think he'll get something good from it. I wasn't that parent who liked having kids in my bed. But if they Wanted to come climb in with me for wantever reason I didn't stop them. Grandbabies like crawling in and it's ok. Sometimes they NEED that closeness ❤ Thank you kindly again for "State Of Mind" Maurice. And thanks Ingo.
Wow Maurice you touched my heart with your commitment to mental health. I have mental health issues and chose the social work profession to help others then I watch GH and think I should have been an actor it looks more fun. Your comment about choosing mental health over acting touched me ❤️
Thank you @Ingo!!! When my kids fall, I tell them to dust it off and it'll be ok. They know that I love them but they don't get worked up when they get hurt
Absolutely true about tears. I had several times were I was a complete and total mess. One in particular had some results that I didn't expect. My step-dad told me, it was all mourning, just in a different sense because in at that time I was mourning something that hadn't happened yet. When it finally happened, I was totally at peace
I love this channel Maurice! So great to watch my favourite men from GH talking about “real” anger issues. I can relate to having a parent with anger. I love that you are educating others! I look forward to Sundays and your new channel.
I did not know until recently that Maurice Bernard lived with mental illness. I also have dealt with it all my life (55yrs). Listening to State of Mind has showed me that it's okay to acknowledge and admit and accept it. Thank you Maurice for sharing this, because you did, I have finally reached out to an organization known as NAMI, and with their guidance I am now enjoying life much more than I have and I can only imagine it will get better from here.
Boy, I think ALL parents NEED to listen to this!!!!!! (BOTH fathers & mothers)!!!!! WOW...SO impacted by these guys as Dads!!!!!! It's NOT just guys!!!!! Women can experience or DO the same things, to their children, meaning uncontrolled rage & anger!!!!!
This was such a valuable and helpful talk. All three of you sharing and having Ingo’s son show that raw emotion on how anger affected him from his father. I think all men should see this. This is real life and coming not only from the parent of how they feel about themselves when anger is evoked but how it makes your child feel and to then see your child’s tears. And even for grown sons and now on their own to even watch this to know their feelings are validated. It is not okay. Loved when Ingo’s son said, now I can talk to you. Communication is open. Maurice you are really helping all by being so transparent and your guests being so transparent, with every topic. Thank you.
Ingo so honest thank you. What a amazing kid Peanut is. He is in touch with his feelings that is awesome. And don't hold back crying, we need to let out the feelings and not hold them in.
You Maurice and Ingo are showing the world 🌎 of RUclips family and father's and friends that there is a different way to raise children. The way it was when you and Ingo (as well as myself) were brought up was handed down from generation to generation since before Christ. Glad you guys let Peanut tear up and cry a little. Real Men and Boys Cry.
Wonderful wonderful show. Omg when Peanut started to cry it touched me deeply cause I can relate to what he dealt with. Maurice and Ingo, you guys are amazing.
This was so touching, raw, real and very important thank you all! Peanut is an incredible young man and such a good example to other kids as well. I worked with teenagers with mental illness for twenty years and this is such an important thing to discuss. One thing I want to comment on is that women can struggle with this too but society often reacts differently and labeling occurs..."the angry woman," etc. This is a human issue that often, as you say, stems from childhood and breaking the cycle is the greatest gift to yourself and your loved ones. Thank you all for an insightful, relatable topic!
Wow, the parallels between my mothering and y'alls fathering is very similar. I struggle with blowing up after 2 to 3 times I've asked for something. My boys have also called me "Hulk" I've been putting in the work to understand myself so I can be a better parent. My boys have also said that I love as hard as I discipline so they don't mind it. I can tell they mean it as a compliment, but I however know I need to do better and still want to learn new ways to discipline that'll be better on all of us. Like you, I've found that just discussing it with my kids is a huge help! Thank you guys for broaching a subject that is hard for parents to talk about. Having these types of conversations are vital to our mental health and the mental and spiritual health of our precious children. Awesome video guys.
Thank you for doing this video. I actually have a family who suffers from severe mental health. I had a younger brother who was 24 and committed suicided in 2014. It was very hard to accept it, but I also knew he was not suffering anymore. . Great channel. You are both are great actors. Thank you for sharing some of your personal lives as well
Beautiful conversation! I would love to see an in-depth conversation with you two. I don't know about anyone else, but I could easily watch an hour episode. I'm relatively new to your podcast (not new to you or Ingo. Lol!), but I'm loving it! Thank you for being so open! 💖
Absolutely. Especially with how far back they both go, since, I want to say, ‘95? Man, these guys have decades of friendship that they can talk about. It would be monumental. It doesn’t even have to be about mental health, just regular day BS and nostalgia.
Thank you gentlemen (Peanut included) for sharing from the male POV; insightful, instructive, healthy and helpful dialogue. Style of communication, parenting (and discipline) are unique to the individual, family and culture.
This was fabulous. This issue of anger is also important in households where a woman is only authority figure. Discipline is a very sharp edge parents struggle with a lot. Thank you to Ingo, Peanut and Maurice for being these issues forward. Namaste.🗽🌹❣️☀️
I suffer from hungry anger as well. I think anger is a secondary emotion to an initial infraction of hurt of some sort. It’s a defense mechanism. It has taken me years to understand that when I’m angry, I need to look at the underlying emotion. I do understand the rage can feel like a kill mindset. I lived most of my young adulthood with that mindset. It took me a very long time to outgrow it.
Ingo and Maurice I have truly enjoyed watching you two handsome men on GH all these years and this video was so amazing seeing how you are friends in real life. and have slot of common issues you worked through. Thank you so much.. It was so nice to see your son Ingo. I remember when he was born.
Loved this with you guys. Such dad truth and it was great. To hear Ingo say how he felt after smacking on the behind is so natural bc you never want to be that physical. Thanks guys
Beautiful conversation guys! My husband and I used attachment parenting. My daughter is so confident and comfortable in her own skin. She’s very mature for her age
Mr. Bernard thank you so much for State of Mind. It is so great to be able to see the truth being told to help others. Congrats on becoming a grandfather, may God continue to bless and use you. Refreshing to see that you are an employed person that acts on tv but live a real life just like us.
A fabulous show everyone. We never allowed our children in our bed. They had their rooms and they slept in their own beds. My son was 11 1/2 years older than his sister and was so good to her. She would wake up and go into his room and climb onto his water bed and lay on top the covers. He would wake up and talk and giggle with her.
This was Awesome! If my Dad or my Stepdad would have taken the time to see me as a person (with feelings), all of our lives could have been so much better. When I had my son & now my grandchildren, I show them respect, talk to them & discipline as needed (correcting by talking it through), they respond so much better because of this. Thank you so much by bringing this out! God bless you all!
I rewatch this State of Mind so much, these two have so much history together, decades. They’re legends of GH. I could watch Mo and Ingo just BS and talk nostalgia on the show.
This video made me cry. In a good way. I wasn’t as close to my parents as i am now. I would check in on them every now and then even tho they’re 20 mins away haha. Then i look at my relationship with my daughter...it just hit the feels. She tells me what scares her and i do my best to change. It’s a working progress. But one thing I notice is she doesn’t tell you what’s wrong right away. I try to explain to her that we need to communicate to make things better. Resolve the issue at hand. Like i said, it is a working progress! Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
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I have always been a fan of the actor Maurice Benard, but I am now more a fan of the man. Thank you so much for being an open book.
Just seeing this interview and knowing what visceral rivals Jax and Sonny were to each other for at least 25 years is a testament to how great of actors they both are.
Maurice Bernard/Sonny Corinthos just simply changed the tenor of GH, and we all know how wonderful of an actor he is, but shoutout to Jax/Ingo Rademacher as well. He was an AMAZING foil to Sonny at the height of GH's popularity with THEE Brenda Barrett and that ferocious triangle, and he even made Carly bearable during the latter years as well.
He is AMAZING too. Love it.
Ingo is very brave coming on with his son and opening up.
Wow. I’m BLOWN AWAY. First: I had no idea that Mo and Ingo were friends so... great acting all these years. Second: this honest conversation surely changed some lives. I’m so impressed and inspired.
Kudos to Peanut! Very brave to come and be part of this. He is really helping. 👍🙌
Yeah it was amazing
It truly was an amazing session. ❤❤❤
It seems that the " family" of General Hospital ( cast and crew) are very nurturing and helpful to each other. I'm sure anyone would want that kind of work environment.
I know its nice ha ha
not all of them... but the majority yes... I am sure they have all had their moments... just like everyone else does with their co workers. But these guys sometimes do some deep scenes with each other.... so I think that makes a big difference too. There is one squeaky wheel in the GH cast though... and that person causes some problems for some of the other cast members... like Ingo and even MB
Thank you for letting peanut know it's ok to cry. It's called being human my husband was the first man to cry in front of me and that was one of the reasons I married him, he wasn't afraid to show his feelings and be human. He will grow to be a great man someday
I can't thank Ingo and Maurice enough for this video. This is such an important subject and this message needs to be heard by everyone. This kind of parenting is what I wish for every child in the world.
Wow. This had me sobbing. My father hit with his fists. He was definitely from the generation that felt children should be seen but not heard. A father is the first man a daughter has access to. My dysfunctional relationship with my father caused me to leave home looking for love. Tough situation to put a daughter in! Some guys would try to take advantage of that; fortunately I found a good man who loves me deeply. 38 years strong.
What your father did was bad even criminal if he punched a child, but this didn't come out of nowhere , was your father born a bad person, which is rare, or did someone abuse him as a child so badly, that it warped his psyche and he never got the help he needed ?
Wonderful conversation between 'men'...great to witness....
First off I want to give major props to Ingo's son for coming on the show and talk about anger. He is a brave kid and I hope this conversation that he had with his dad and you Maurice strengthens his relationship with his dad. 🙏🏻Overall the conversation was great and a really important one guys but I have to admit I also absolutely loved the reminiscing that you guys did on your characters, and just your camaraderie in general. This was a good episode and really helped a lot! I too sometimes have problems with anger and impatience. I have to take a step back, take a deep breath and not let my emotions take over. Great episode👏🏻
Kudos to Peanut for being brave enough to be a part of this! What a wonderful young man. And so important to teach them that there is no shame in showing emotion, whether they are male or female. In the long run, it will help them to become a much more balanced adult. Love Ingo....thanks for having him. You're obviously both very loving, caring dads. That will forever be your biggest responsibility and one of your greatest accomplishments in this lifetime. Such an important subject. Really loved this one.
You guys are really good together you should do another show together you have a deep understanding of each other and how you help people in different aspects and I think the show is very helpful and I love watching you Mr bernard you are up and beyond above helping people thank you for all you do
Thank you
@@MBStateOfMind If we saw THIS at 2 PM everyday, I guarantee it would get bigger ratings than GH. I really enjoyed this immensely.
Thank u
You guys are really good together you should do another show together you have a deep understanding of each other and how y'all help each other.
I grew up having my dad take his belt off and use it to hit me when I did something wrong . Then I’d out fool him and cover my butt with a pillow so I couldn’t feel the belt and I’d scream out like it hurt but he had no clue he wasn’t hurting me at all. My grandmother and mom used a wooden spoon to give me a spanking....the nuns used a ruler and their hands to hit me.... but I grew up to be a very respectful person....I do have anger issues especially during this nightmare we are all in. I am trying to control my anger at all those selfish unmasked people that walk by me and my dog because you can’t talk sense into careless people ....ty for these videos every Sunday they are very helpful and gives me something to look forward to...❤️
Hitting is wrong regardless its called abuse
Yes, hitting is wrong but that’s just how our parents disciplined us when we were kids, I was raised the exact same way, I would ask my mother, once I was an adult of course, why she would spank us with a chancla (flip flop), or a wooden spoon, or even a paddle and she said that’s how she was raised. I asked my grandmother one day how my mom & Aunts were disciplined and she said the same thing,, wooden spoon, house shoe (meaning slipper in place of the chancla). She said she had girls so she rarely had to use the belt, she also said this is how she was raised, this is how she and her sisters were disciplined, her brothers though were spanked with the belt if they misbehaved.
It’s a generational thing, we don’t do it anymore because it’s seen as abuse now if you so much as spank your child, not beat your child just spank them.
Funny
I've been watching General Hospital since it started. I love the show and how it's evolved. It includes human life struggles and topics. I love that Maurice and Ingo are friends and they chat together here.
I remember years ago watching the episodes when your mental health was declining on General Hospital, not realizing you were going through this in your true live. I admire the courage and bravery you portrayed acting the mental health episodes on General Hospital. I appreciate the role model you have become for Mental Health through State of Mind. As a behavior therapist, I appreciate anyone that can take feeling ashamed for experiencing Mental Health episodes.
" Parent Fail " those words when he mentioned them ran deep In side my soul and it hit home really hard. The way he explained it after he said it was deep in thought.
I wish someone said " Parent Fail " to me when I was younger and getting hit alot by my father. I've always believed I deserved everytime I was hit even when I did nothing wrong. To this day I still believe I deserved it in some way because why would he do it if I didnt do anything wrong.
Thank you Ingo for mentioning " Parent Fail". You sure got my mind thinking.
I'm in tears right now that i didn't know any of this when my son was growing up. So much hurt could've been avoided. Y'all are doing a great job with your sons
Omg this was beautiful. I don't even have kids and I'm crying my eyes out. How wonderful for all of you to be willing to be vulnerable to help others. Love this series!!
Yes it was special and my tears were flowing.
This was awesome! I love you guys. The Sonny-Jax-Brenda triangle was one of the best. I'm sure this really helped a lot of people and it was great for Ingo to come on and talk about it. Maurice should try to get Vanessa on as well. I know the fans would love it and I know she has said she's had some mental health battles as well.
Would LOVE to see her on.
Yes I agree!!
Real conversations with real fathers. Thank you both and thanks Peanut!
What a beautiful conversation. I have watched you guys for years and to see you two speak so honestly from your hearts was amazing. And Peanut... I was so moved by your ability to speak your truth. You contributed so much to the subject. Thank you for being so eloquent. I’m in awe. 🙏🏼💜
Many times, anger comes from unmet expectations. We expect a response or an action from a person and we don't get it, that leads to disappointment, disappointment leads to conflict and unresovled conflict leads to anger and once that anger is in us, it roots and grows and shows up in so many ways. Other times, it's the need to control. Anger is an emotion and emotion has no intellect. Thanks for having this episode. Very important.
Love the conversation between the two of you giving a male perspective on this subject.
This was a really great chat with Ingo and Peanut all parents could learn from this
What a beautiful SOM! I congratulate you both for talking about your anger issues and how you dealt with it! My parents used to beat me and I swore I would never do that to my children! I kept that promise! ❤️🙏
Thank you
For the first part of my life I was raised by parents who both had anger issues and used hands and other objects to hit and abuse with every time they got even the slightest bit annoyed. Then when I was 14 my bio father died and my uncle stepped in to raise me. He believed you never lay a hand on a child. He was a foster parent to over 100 children during his life and had four adopted kids of his own including me. He wanted us all to obey him because we loved and respected him and never because we feared him. He was the greatest man I've ever known. He's been gone 10 years and I miss him every day. I still have anger issues myself from the way I was raised those first 14 years. I am a work in progress but I am much better at controlling and channeling my anger now. I have worked with other abused kids over the years to try to help them. I don't have kids of my own but I've always sworn that if I ever do I will never lay a hand on them. They will respect and not fear me. I will never let a child of mine go through what I did.
It could be that your parents had a mental health disorder, or that they were abused so badly as childremn that it affected their psyche, that can trigger a mental health illness and acting out in anger is a symptom of that, mot people aren't born bad or born behaving bad, unless theyre bad seed psychopaths
(like certain elderly former prresidents
theyre either born with a mental illness or they were abused as children ,sometimes both, scientist say that if children are abused that affects the structure of their brains that handles emotions,stress etc, likely whatever your parents did, they need to get the help they likely never got and it's forgivable.
Peanut: You are phenomenal to come on this show to help other fathers learn how to communicate with their children, instead of scarring them by yelling.
Thanks Maurice for having Ingo and his son Peanut to talk about how to discipline and the anger.
Two of my favorite guys on GH! Ingo, I saw you about 17 years ago on the Waikiki beach. My son was just a baby. You casually got out of the water, toweled off by a tree and no one noticed you...but me! Love you guys!
The volume was going up and down throughout the whole video.
I loved seeing this side of Ingo. Great episode Maurice!
Wow gentlemen. Amazing to hear you. As a mom, I had this with my daughter. I wasnt always nice to her. And now that I’m older and need her help, I see her frustration. I see me in her.
I’m different now. No more yelling. Thank God. And I just cant apologize to her enough. I beat myself up about it often.
Sonny and jacks at it again ! This time doing good and making people feel that it’s ok!!!👍 still loving you both💕
I knew other people had mental problems but I always felt I was the only one - thank you for your truthfulness and making mental health issues not something to hide and be ashamed of, I only wish I had these videos 10 years ago. Thank you so very much. Also, I love both your characters on GH❤
It’s beautiful to see peanut expressing himself and then watching his emotions. It is okay to cry.
This is AMAZING. Just regular people talking about regular emotions and situations. Who knew "regular" could be so interesting.
Thanks so much for being real about this & for the encouragement to be good examples to our kids. Btw I always rooted for Sonny & Brenda:)
❤❤❤ Ingo. Keep standing up for what's right Ingo. I sure miss the Soap Opera yearly get togethers at MGM. Never missed a year.
You hit the nail on the head! When your child(ren) has a situation (i.e. whether a fall or other things) the way we handle it shows care, love, concern; not going ballistic or making a mountain out of a mole-hill. That makes all the difference in how they will react to the things in their life. Example: I delivered a family member's baby (long story). Instinctively, I did what needed to be done and didn't get a case of nerves until I was by myself after the fact. LOL Today, my kids never get into a panic because they've always seen the way we handled all the bumps in the road.
Absolutely thank you great insight
Peanut thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us! You, your dad and Maurice have taught me some lessons after watching this! What strikes me the most is how deeply you and your dad love each other. You mentioned better communication as opposed to the yelling and fighting. This is so accurate on so many levels. Thank you Peanut! Thank you all of you for sharing. I truly love you guys and wish you health!
I look forward to seeing your sessions on Sundays. Loved seeing you guys talk about this issue. I think everyone needs to be able to go to therapy or have a friend/family to talk about their emotions or issues they’re dealing with. It’s a beautiful & healthy way to live. You can tell Peanut has very sweet, sensitive soul.
I think giving a voice to mental health issues is an extraordinary feat on your part. But please don't underestimate the joy you bring to the audience as an actor. I've watched you since the All My Children Days. You make me happy. God Bless!
What a beautiful video. I truly enjoyed seeing you two, that I've "known" for years as Sonny and Jax, talk about being Dad's. Thank you Maurice, for starting this channel. I look forward to watching every Sunday. God bless you.
I miss JJ so much! Those EYES melt my heart!❤
Beautiful...need more of this in the world. Peanut got bathed in healing, love and understanding which opens the door to true forgiveness.
This conversation with men and their sons is an amazing gift. I was raised in fear..... mental, physical and verbal. I swore I wouldn’t do that to my children and we all have a moment we regret but I accomplish that with raising my kids. Now I have the pleasure and honor of watching my grandchildren while their parents are at work. I never let my mother watch my children because of the abuse she gave to me as a kid. Keep talking about this it’s the only way things change! My husband and I also had a “family bed” for us, our 3 kids he and I. It was the BEST sleep and family time we had. It doesn’t last forever enjoy while the kids are little!!! Keep up the good work Maurice.
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Miss Ingo on GH so much , bring him back FREEDOM
Agree. Bring him back to more with his daughter.
Ingo's son is so precious.
Even tears have a voice 💧
Great conversation!
Great session!!!! This one actually made me Share with my son. I think he'll get something good from it.
I wasn't that parent who liked having kids in my bed. But if they Wanted to come climb in with me for wantever reason I didn't stop them. Grandbabies like crawling in and it's ok. Sometimes they NEED that closeness ❤
Thank you kindly again for "State Of Mind" Maurice. And thanks Ingo.
Wow Maurice you touched my heart with your commitment to mental health. I have mental health issues and chose the social work profession to help others then I watch GH and think I should have been an actor it looks more fun. Your comment about choosing mental health over acting touched me ❤️
Thank you @Ingo!!! When my kids fall, I tell them to dust it off and it'll be ok. They know that I love them but they don't get worked up when they get hurt
Absolutely true about tears. I had several times were I was a complete and total mess. One in particular had some results that I didn't expect. My step-dad told me, it was all mourning, just in a different sense because in at that time I was mourning something that hadn't happened yet. When it finally happened, I was totally at peace
Exactly
I love Ingo and Maurice!
I love this channel Maurice! So great to watch my favourite men from GH talking about “real” anger issues. I can relate to having a parent with anger. I love that you are educating others! I look forward to Sundays and your new channel.
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I did not know until recently that Maurice Bernard lived with mental illness. I also have dealt with it all my life (55yrs). Listening to State of Mind has showed me that it's okay to acknowledge and admit and accept it. Thank you Maurice for sharing this, because you did, I have finally reached out to an organization known as NAMI, and with their guidance I am now enjoying life much more than I have and I can only imagine it will get better from here.
this one of the best State of mind. i have watch, Marurice thank you for always helping people and i love watching state of mind
I have a radio show and we would like to have you on to talk about your state of mind and your books
Boy, I think ALL parents NEED to listen to this!!!!!! (BOTH fathers & mothers)!!!!!
WOW...SO impacted by these guys as Dads!!!!!! It's NOT just guys!!!!! Women can experience or DO the same things, to their children, meaning uncontrolled rage & anger!!!!!
This was such a valuable and helpful talk. All three of you sharing and having Ingo’s son show that raw emotion on how anger affected him from his father. I think all men should see this. This is real life and coming not only from the parent of how they feel about themselves when anger is evoked but how it makes your child feel and to then see your child’s tears. And even for grown sons and now on their own to even watch this to know their feelings are validated. It is not okay. Loved when Ingo’s son said, now I can talk to you. Communication is open. Maurice you are really helping all by being so transparent and your guests being so transparent, with every topic. Thank you.
Ingo so honest thank you. What a amazing kid Peanut is. He is in touch with his feelings that is awesome. And don't hold back crying, we need to let out the feelings and not hold them in.
Thank you Maurice, you are doing more good than you can ever know. Thank you to Ingo and Peanut too!
Thank you for being brave to talk about Mental Health.....
So generous of these three to share this with us. Maurice is doing phenomenal work with State of Mind. 💙 Peanut is awesome!
You Maurice and Ingo are showing the world 🌎 of RUclips family and father's and friends that there is a different way to raise children. The way it was when you and Ingo (as well as myself) were brought up was handed down from generation to generation since before Christ. Glad you guys let Peanut tear up and cry a little. Real Men and Boys Cry.
Wonderful wonderful show. Omg when Peanut started to cry it touched me deeply cause I can relate to what he dealt with. Maurice and Ingo, you guys are amazing.
This was so touching, raw, real and very important thank you all! Peanut is an incredible young man and such a good example to other kids as well. I worked with teenagers with mental illness for twenty years and this is such an important thing to discuss. One thing I want to comment on is that women can struggle with this too but society often reacts differently and labeling occurs..."the angry woman," etc. This is a human issue that often, as you say, stems from childhood and breaking the cycle is the greatest gift to yourself and your loved ones. Thank you all for an insightful, relatable topic!
Oh my gosh what a great chat.
So cool to include Peanut
Wow! Such a powerful few minutes. Thanks for being so open and honest, Ingo and Maurice! I’m sure you’re helping so many people! 👍😊❤️
Wow, the parallels between my mothering and y'alls fathering is very similar. I struggle with blowing up after 2 to 3 times I've asked for something. My boys have also called me "Hulk" I've been putting in the work to understand myself so I can be a better parent. My boys have also said that I love as hard as I discipline so they don't mind it. I can tell they mean it as a compliment, but I however know I need to do better and still want to learn new ways to discipline that'll be better on all of us. Like you, I've found that just discussing it with my kids is a huge help! Thank you guys for broaching a subject that is hard for parents to talk about. Having these types of conversations are vital to our mental health and the mental and spiritual health of our precious children. Awesome video guys.
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I love y'all both because good men are so precious to find
Thank you for doing this video. I actually have a family who suffers from severe mental health. I had a younger brother who was 24 and committed suicided in 2014. It was very hard to accept it, but I also knew he was not suffering anymore. . Great channel. You are both are great actors. Thank you for sharing some of your personal lives as well
Exactly!! Sonny and Brenda were huge!! This is a great talk!! Thank you both ♥️♥️
Sound is echoey. Excellent conversation and I really appreciate the candidness of you both.
Wow!!! I don't have kids but I do have nieces and nephews and this conversation with you and Ingo really made me cry. I will now talk better to them.
Beautiful conversation! I would love to see an in-depth conversation with you two. I don't know about anyone else, but I could easily watch an hour episode. I'm relatively new to your podcast (not new to you or Ingo. Lol!), but I'm loving it! Thank you for being so open! 💖
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Absolutely. Especially with how far back they both go, since, I want to say, ‘95? Man, these guys have decades of friendship that they can talk about. It would be monumental. It doesn’t even have to be about mental health, just regular day BS and nostalgia.
I love you guys. This is helpful to me.
What a powerful episode. Ingo you have an amazing son.
Thankyou. You all said a mouthful. How very precious children are, and the fact that you love them so much, it shows.
Thank you gentlemen (Peanut included) for sharing from the male POV; insightful, instructive, healthy and helpful dialogue. Style of communication, parenting (and discipline) are unique to the individual, family and culture.
Great episode. Really got to the nitty gritty. Ingo's son was very brave to be on camera and share.
Thanks Maurice for your shows. It makes me cry too listening because my Dad had Mental illness. He passed away back in 2010.
This was fabulous. This issue of anger is also important in households where a woman is only authority figure. Discipline is a very sharp edge parents struggle with a lot. Thank you to Ingo, Peanut and Maurice for being these issues forward. Namaste.🗽🌹❣️☀️
Fantastic exchange of communication! Thanks Ingo, Peanut, & Maurice for bearing your souls, It really helps a lot of us. Melaney from SoCal
Thank you Ingo for this parent advice!!!! I will really try to “talk” to my son and not yell anymore
I just love the love the GH actors Express and experience with each other.
I suffer from hungry anger as well. I think anger is a secondary emotion to an initial infraction of hurt of some sort. It’s a defense mechanism. It has taken me years to understand that when I’m angry, I need to look at the underlying emotion. I do understand the rage can feel like a kill mindset. I lived most of my young adulthood with that mindset. It took me a very long time to outgrow it.
Hello to both of u .I ENJOY watching..General Hospital. For more than 20 years...
I have been a Maurice fan for more yrs than i can remember he is a remarkable man.
Ingo and Maurice I have truly enjoyed watching you two handsome men on GH all these years and this video was so amazing seeing how you are friends in real life. and have slot of common issues you worked through. Thank you so much.. It was so nice to see your son Ingo. I remember when he was born.
Loved this with you guys. Such dad truth and it was great. To hear Ingo say how he felt after smacking on the behind is so natural bc you never want to be that physical. Thanks guys
Yeah I agree
Love these two. These shows are so interesting. It's fun to see these actors as real people. What a beautiful kid and a fabulous dad Ingo is.
Great conversation! I’m glad men are breaking patterns of anger with their children. I never agreed to hitting a child! Ingo ,good job !
Break the chain
Beautiful conversation guys! My husband and I used attachment parenting. My daughter is so confident and comfortable in her own skin. She’s very mature for her age
Mr. Bernard thank you so much for State of Mind. It is so great to be able to see the truth being told to help others. Congrats on becoming a grandfather, may God continue to bless and use you. Refreshing to see that you are an employed person that acts on tv but live a real life just like us.
A fabulous show everyone. We never allowed our children in our bed. They had their rooms and they slept in their own beds. My son was 11 1/2 years older than his sister and was so good to her. She would wake up and go into his room and climb onto his water bed and lay on top the covers. He would wake up and talk and giggle with her.
This was Awesome! If my Dad or my Stepdad would have taken the time to see me as a person (with feelings), all of our lives could have been so much better. When I had my son & now my grandchildren, I show them respect, talk to them & discipline as needed (correcting by talking it through), they respond so much better because of this. Thank you so much by bringing this out! God bless you all!
Ingo, your son made me cry. This was a wonderful conversation! Love these RUclips talks. Thank god you both came to a better place in your lives!
I rewatch this State of Mind so much, these two have so much history together, decades. They’re legends of GH. I could watch Mo and Ingo just BS and talk nostalgia on the show.
This video made me cry. In a good way. I wasn’t as close to my parents as i am now. I would check in on them every now and then even tho they’re 20 mins away haha. Then i look at my relationship with my daughter...it just hit the feels. She tells me what scares her and i do my best to change. It’s a working progress. But one thing I notice is she doesn’t tell you what’s wrong right away. I try to explain to her that we need to communicate to make things better. Resolve the issue at hand. Like i said, it is a working progress! Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
Nice to see you two together like this. You both have a kind soul.
You two are so right