I feel like there is more to this story. A restraining order is quite hard to obtain just for fun. If your Nyab asked you to stop dropping off your kids why couldn’t you respect her wishes and boundaries. Maybe you would still have a relationship with your family. People need to stop having a bunch of kids they can’t attend to and expect their elderly parents to care after, while living in someone else’s home.
I completely agreed. Other people watch them for emergencies or once in a blue moon but on a daily occurrence, that's what daycare are for. If you can't afford daycare, don't be popping out kids like the world is coming to an end. Your children are your own responsibility.
Nowadays we are so busy with life and work that when we are off or comes home from work, we just want to relax in our environment. You didn’t listen to your Nyab. I know for sure the problems had to do a lot with your kids over every day.
Txaus tu siab kawg li. Tab sis tej zaum thaum pib yeej yog tim tus muam pheej niaj hnub mus niam tais yawm txiv heev dhau lawm ua rau meem txom tab kaum tej nyab tej nus heev. Tsis hais los zoo li kuj tsim nyog hais, hais los tus muam tsis yuav ces ua ntau tauj ntau thiaj muaj kev tu siab sib ntxub sib txiav li ntawd lawm. Mloog mas zoo li yog li ntawd.
Every family has issues. There is no perfect family. At the end of the day, it’s all about forgiveness. I don’t know any family that loves each other and get along. There is also always a black sheep that has beef with everyone.
tu siab kawg os yug los yog ib leeg ntxhai qhua txawm ua zoo thiab khov npaum twg los yeej tsi zoo li cov tub niam txiv yeej tsi tiv thaij li cov tub os tu siab tshaj npaws lawv pom yus phem xwb yus yeej tsi zoo rau lawv li os txhob tu siab mog niam laus kuv lub neej zoo li koj thiab os tsi yog koj xwb os😢😢
I believe that your parents played a BIG part in you and your siblings not getting along. This is what's happening in a lot of Hmoob families. Parents live with adult son and his wife. Other siblings have the parents babysit their children, and the live-in son's and wife's life gets disrupted. The siblings that do this have total disregard to their live-in brother and SIL. Just because your parents say yes to babysitting, be respectful, and ASK your brother, especially your SIL. That's their house too. If your brother/SIL says "no," respect their boundary, and DON'T bring your kids over.
Honestly, if the SIL don’t like the daughter coming over then they should move out and stop living with the in-laws. The home belongs to the parents, the parents have every right to say yes to their child regardless of son or daughter. Shame on these DIL who think they can run someone else’s home. Get your own home under you name and the rule is all yours to make.
In this story, she doesn't specifically state that the house is owned by her parents. If that's the case, then most definitely, the live-in son and DIL should move out. Because she failed to state that (which is a VERY important factor to dismiss), this implies that her live-in brother and SIL must own the house and/or is financially responsible for the majority of the house/utility bills and/or medically responsible for the parents. In the majority of traditional Hmoob families, the parent(s) choose which son/DIL to live with or to live with them, and for their own good reasons.
@@lilyv.628 she did state that in the story. In the middle of the story after the older SIL cheated on her older brother in which the older brother moved away, she said then her younger brother and SIL moved in to live with her parents. And it’s when the younger SIL disliking her as well.
All I can say is people dont hate each other for no reason. Sounds like there’s no mutual respect among the siblings . Sometimes best to walk away and keep peace .
Plus I don't understand why she's so passionate about her haters siblings. Know and go where you're welcome and stop going and keep up with your own business where you are not welcome. I think she wasted too much and effort fighting battles when the war is already lost.
Honestly, if you need your parents to watch your kids, you need to pick up your mom to have them watch your kids at your house. My in laws live with me and my home is my quiet place and sanity. You should have more common sense that people need peace and quiet. There is more to this story.
Where there's no love and respect between sister in law and brothers is very sad. I feel for you sis...love and respect those who love you, dont matter blood not. Sorry to hear ur brother and sister not strong enough
I want to hear the siblings side of the story. Plus a restraining order? A sane person would only request for one in extreme situations. No one wants to go to court and deals with all unnecessary drama of they don't need to.
The reason was that neeg tsab ntse xav Kom tej muam nyoo tias yus yog tus dej tus ntses yuav tsum thuv tus dej xwb. Ib tug txiv neej coj Cai rhuav es neeg coob li coob cia sawv npuaj rooj tsis paub txajmuag ces yeej tsis txog txij twg. Qhov ib pab ntxub ib tug ces vim lawv tsis nyiam tus sabnrauv ces cia li ntxub tus hauv nrog. Tseev zoo yeej raug ntxub. Thaum yuav tuag mam pom tias tus ntawv zoo. Yog tim yus. Too late!
I guess y'all didnt listen to the whole story lol. She is the victim! How they treated her and her husband is unacceptable. Her brother ended up with stroke at the end, that's karma.
Omg this is my story with my brother and sister in law. My sister in law broke up all the relationships with our siblings. My brother said if he dies to not go to his funeral. I’m sadden but know that he is paying for his sins and karma is with him daily. My mom stays silent because it’s her oldest son and she lives with him. She’s afraid of being kicked out so she complies. I feel this ladies pain.
Oyo, some people just have too much time playing the victim game. This lady spends too much time worrying about sh*t she have no control over. If everyone hates you and you see everyone as a problem. You probably are a problem and is the cause. Work on yourself, grow up, and keep your eyes on the prize.
@vickey7123 nope! 😅 But I'm a nyab and daughter. Respect and taking care of my children is my top priority. I give no one a reason to hate because I rely on no one else.
There has to be more to this story than what she’s telling. There’s no way all the brothers and nyab hates her but not her other sisters. If one don’t like you then it’s understandable but for all to hate you, there’s more to it.
As the oldest, I wouldn’t tolerate any gossips and hatred between our brothers, sisters, and sisters-in-law in my family. Sounds like the oldest brother has no guts to put his foot down to stop this hatred between the sister-in-law, brothers, and the sister… Sounds like your brother are a bunch of idiots or you guys were enemies in the past life…😩!
Always easy to say than do. You are just lucky that everyone in your family is considered. If you have a brother and a sister in law who is like this, there is not much you can do. Yes, you can say whatever to your brother, but never your sister in law.
Agreed! My husband is the oldest and this crap best not happen! We are a close-knit family, and we are close to all the siblings, especially those who come around all the time.
Ntuj aw hmooob leej twg tsi tau muaj nyab thiab tsi tau nrog nyab nyob ua ke ce yeej tsi paub li o sim neej no yuav tau cov nyab tsi nyiam yu ce lawv ntxhub2 li ntxub yu muab yu cem rau tu ub tu no tia yu phem npaum ub npaum no Tab si qhov tseeb tiag ce yu twb g tau ua ib yam dab g li tu ntxub thiab phem ntawv ce twb yog nw ntag tu siab tshaj li o hmoob aw
I cut my family off and have not seen them for the last 10 years. It was the best decision I every made. Went to college and got my degree. Started a good career. If I was still with that circle, I'd still be drinking every weekend and sleeping until 3pm.
I would never judge anyone because i am not in their shoes, but what i can say is that just love urself, your kids, and hubby. Forget everyone else. Live ur life.
Cia tus neeg zoo zoo xwb cia tus neeg phem tuag mus kom tag … ib co nyab nus zoo li no xwb txhob ntshaw cia ntuj sau cia lawv txoj kev phem coj lawm. Tej laus tias ua neeg zoo tau kev dav ua neeg phem tau chaw ti. Good story
You're not that innocent. Hnov kiag xwb there's lots of questions. Nobody hates anyone THAT MUCH for no real reason. Not saying the nyab is perfect but I'm sure she has her own reasons you're not addressing in your story If i was innocent I will NEVER EVER leave my job willingly.
Tej tsiaj tseem paub hlub neeg. Tej niag nus ntshaw lub npe tabsis ho tsis hlub luag. Txhob tusiab koj niam twb tseg koob hmmov rau koj lawm es lawv thiaj li tsis Kom koj poob nyiaj.cov neeg tsab ntse ces zoo li ntawv los ma
Koj twb dhau lawm os niam laus. Tiam sis peb tseem tab tom nyob li koj qhov chaw😢 yog peb tus nus txawj xav,tias peb pab pab nws saib thiab tu peb niam ces nws twb yuav yog tus protectes peb ntawm xyoj kev taug xaiv ntxeev xaiv, tiam sis vim niam muab ntse dhau ua ruam ruam es thiaj li tig los ua plaub rau yus.
Sister don't feel bad, I have alot of brother and sister too..they don't know that o exists, they never include me in any of their events..no one ever come visit me,,including my parents,,,I feel sad to but I don't care anymore, because all I need is my husband, thank God, that my husband loves me so much...all I need is my husband, even my family don't love me, I am used to it already...I'm ok..all I need is my kids and my husband,, I am married for 40 years now, and never once my siblings and my parents call me.only me that go and visit, I am so done...
Ladies, have kids when you can afford and/or work with your spouse to accommodate all your kids’ need. Be independent and stop relying on others. You will be much happier when you can solve your issues and complete your task on your own.
I don't understand why some people think children are their 401k accounts and so it's their excuses to pop a crap load of them. If you can't afford daycare or care for them yourself, stop having them. It's too expensive and too many dramas having to rely on someone else to watch and take care of your kids.
@@maipha8560 whatever their reason or purpose in life of how many kids they should birth is their own responsibility, not their parents or grandparents. Oftentimes, our Hmong parents fear of losing their grownup children if they didn’t help them out-this make them feel obligated to their entitled grownup children. We need to be better.
@may1581 that's right. I'm ok and know the elders help a few times here and there. But daily occurrence is a no-no. That's what daycare are for. I bet you if they start paying for daycare and realize how expensive it is, the kids will stop popping out.
Txhob tu siab os lawv ua phem li cas cia ces yuav tau sau li ntawv rov ib hnub xwb koj yog tus phauj lawm yeej yuav tau txais txhuas yam li qhov lawv tau ua cia yeej khiav tsis dim li txoj kev phem na
Every family has issues or there is a time that we get mad at each other. but just remember that when time are rough, Family is all we got. And wasup with all these sisters in law that don’t like the husband sisters? I love all my sisters in law and they also have love me as well.
Qhov teebmeem no yog nej niam thiab nej txiv txawj coj ces tsis muaj tej no tshwmsim tabsis yog muaj lawm ua ib siab. Leejtwg yog tus ua txhaum nws yeej yuav tau sau yam uas nws cog lawm. Koj tsis need lawv yog koj muaj koj tus txiv hlub hlub koj.
Very sad and unfortunate. I love my sister in laws even if they were in the wrong. My siblings went thru heaven and hell too. But in the end, we always have each other's back. Blood is thicker than water well in my family at least best of luck to you. Hope you all will get thru this too
Hauv ntiaj teb no muaj ob yam ntub ntawm kev sib ntxub ntawm yus pab nus muag. Ib yam ces yog yus yeej phem2 yeej tsis ua ib yam zoo rau cov niam ib plab yug tab sis ho mus ua dev hlub tub rau tus sab nrauv kom luag teb qhuas2 yus li koj hais nej cov nus muag. Ib co ces yeej yog lawv siab phem es koj ua txhaum me2 xwb los koj yeej yog tus ntxim ntxub. Mloog mas ntshe yeej muaj tej yam koj ua rau lawv es yeej tsis muaj neeg yuav tau lawm es lawv sawv daws thiaj li ntxub koj npaum ko. Sad but llife goes on and just love yourself!
This story sounds fishy! I think there's more to it than what's been told to us. This sister tells the story like she's super innocent. But I think she may be one of those people that think they never do any wrong. All your brothers and nyab do not like you? Hmmm???
I agree that this sister is leaving very pertinent information out concerning her role in all this animosity. I disagree with how her brothers handled things, but I also feel that this sister is not as innocent in everything as she wants us to think.
I can’t judge anyone but sounds like whatever you do, your brothers will never care or love you. You are damn if you do, you’re damn if you don’t. How sad. Just let them go. What’s done is done. You can forgive but not forget.
Txhob tus siab os mog, tej zaum koj yog ib tug muam uas hlub22 koj cov nyab thiab nus ces muaj ab tsi los koj pheej qhuab qhias lawv es muaj ib Co nyab tsis nyiam os mog.
The problem of this family starts from the part when keep talking your kids to your parents for babysitting. You know your nyab don't like it you you that cause their's jealous. Shoe should stop taking your kids over when you found out. But it's your fault pushing the button too. Don't feel sorry, you started it lady!!!!!!
Your brothers just wants to make things hard for you. Just leave them alone. U don’t need them. Remember that in this country, peb cov poj naim ces neej tsa yog teeb liab teeb ntsuab xwb.
Ooohhhmmmaaaggaaww.... Tus mi muam aw...if it's true like what you said in here ..every words that your brothers and nyab said to you is a killing words, so heartache ones....I hope you guys will get along inthe ends...
Kuv qhov kev xav mas Tej zaum yog tim koj thiab txawm li cas los yuav tsum hu yus Tus nus yog nws tsis kam tuaj hu tus sab nraum thiaj tub qaug nws vim Koj cia li Mus hu Tus sab nraum lawm qhov nov tsis yog lawm nawb yuav ua kom tau cai mas phem zoo los hu nws ua ntej os viv ncaus
There’s always 2 sides of the story. If they don’t have any issues with your other sisters but just you then do take a look at yourself perhaps the problem is you.
Sister, it’s ok to let them go. Your brothers are not men enough to act on their own so let them be. Hlub tus neeg hlub yus xwb thiab luag hlub yus li cas hlub luag li ntawd xwb os mog. Nyob teb chaws no koj tsis tos lawv noj lawv tsis tos koj noj es leej twg hlub yus yus mam hlub lawv xwb. Twb muaj lub ntuj pom cia lub ntuj mam txiav txim mog. Kav tsij rau siab ua koj lub neej xwb txhob quav ntsej lawv vim lawv yeej tsis hlub koj.
Koj ruam xwb pob Yog koj tsi ruam ces yog koj phem xwb pob Koj tham zoo li koj ruam koj uv tab si cas mloog mu mloog lo koj kuj tsi ruam tab si koj ua dag xwb tsi lam muaj ib cov neeg tsi nyiam yu li o yog yus zoo tiag na Mloog tej zaj no tsi muaj dab tsi pab tau o
Neeg phem ma yus ua zoo npaum li cas los nws yeej tsis pom li. Yus pab nws khwv tau nyiaj ntau npaum cas nws ntxub yus ntau npaum ntawv. Txav deb deb xwb . Silent kill Al the rest
This is why i never want to work with family. If they ask if my work place is hiring i say no. I am glad my work place has no hmong people. Your brother should stand for you too if it is not true. Let her leave, this is your parents house so she can't stop you from going over. Don't feel bad sister, sometimes just because it is family you can cut them out. Toxic people will only bring you down.
I believe you did ruined your relationship when you kept dropping your kids to your parents to watch. You should find your own babysitter. My SIL used to do the same shit to us too and it's annoying as heck. Our relationship dwindle from there. She will drop her kids off Monday thru Friday and then come back on the weekends to watch sports too. She did it for years. I got so tired of her bring her family over every day. I would purposely go out of my own house just so I don't see her.
Xyov yog txoj hmoo dab tsi thiaj tau yig los ua ib zaug nkauj muam nraug nus xwb cas yuav siab phem ua luaj na nej cov niag nus muag lim hiam aws pab nej tu siab thiab txaj muag kawg li
I have 5 brothers and 5 nyabs and one of my brothers and nyabs are like this. He will always support his nyab no matter if shes right or wrong, he'll always take her side. Im just glad all my other nyabs and brothers love me.
Yus tej nus muag noj 1 lub mis hlob koom 1 txoj sia, yus thiaj tsis sib dag tabsis niag nus uas nws xum mus ntseeg nws niag poj niam es cia li Tu siab rau Tus Muam ces yog niag nus ruam.
You and your brother are both too stubborn. That’s why your lives are this way. Siblings will disagree and fight, but it takes love to learn to forgive and forget. Life is too short to hold grudges against eachother forever. Also You’re both in the wrong to allow your spouses to treat your siblings with no respect. Please grow up and get over it. I don’t feel sorry for either of you. 💯
Muaj ib cov muam to nyab tsi nyiam lo zoo li nw twb muaj nw neej lawm lo tuaj ntawm nyab tsev cuag yu lub tsev tuaj noj tuaj hau twb tsi pab nyab li thiab o niam pog thiab muam ua dab tsi lo ua tsi txuag nyab li thiab o to nyab ntxub ntxub muam
One thing that I don’t understand about Hmong ppl is that why do they think that we all must HAVE to get along just bc we’re family??? F them if they wanna be a lil B. You don’t have to be obey nobody. I don’t get it. If you complain about it then do something about it. 🤦🏻♀️
I feel like there is more to this story. A restraining order is quite hard to obtain just for fun. If your Nyab asked you to stop dropping off your kids why couldn’t you respect her wishes and boundaries. Maybe you would still have a relationship with your family.
People need to stop having a bunch of kids they can’t attend to and expect their elderly parents to care after, while living in someone else’s home.
I completely agreed. Other people watch them for emergencies or once in a blue moon but on a daily occurrence, that's what daycare are for. If you can't afford daycare, don't be popping out kids like the world is coming to an end. Your children are your own responsibility.
Nowadays we are so busy with life and work that when we are off or comes home from work, we just want to relax in our environment. You didn’t listen to your Nyab. I know for sure the problems had to do a lot with your kids over every day.
@@maipha8560I totally agreed!!! People need to understand privacy
@yd2819 yep and I wouldn't be surprised if the brother and SIL come home to a messy house everyday. 😔
@@yd2819I totally agree with you.
Txaus tu siab kawg li. Tab sis tej zaum thaum pib yeej yog tim tus muam pheej niaj hnub mus niam tais yawm txiv heev dhau lawm ua rau meem txom tab kaum tej nyab tej nus heev. Tsis hais los zoo li kuj tsim nyog hais, hais los tus muam tsis yuav ces ua ntau tauj ntau thiaj muaj kev tu siab sib ntxub sib txiav li ntawd lawm. Mloog mas zoo li yog li ntawd.
Stories like these makes me appreciate the love my sibling have for each other and also the love my sister in laws have for me ❤️
Every family has issues. There is no perfect family. At the end of the day, it’s all about forgiveness. I don’t know any family that loves each other and get along. There is also always a black sheep that has beef with everyone.
tu siab kawg os yug los yog ib leeg ntxhai qhua txawm ua zoo thiab khov npaum twg los yeej tsi zoo li cov tub niam txiv yeej tsi tiv thaij li cov tub os tu siab tshaj npaws lawv pom yus phem xwb yus yeej tsi zoo rau lawv li os txhob tu siab mog niam laus kuv lub neej zoo li koj thiab os tsi yog koj xwb os😢😢
I believe that your parents played a BIG part in you and your siblings not getting along.
This is what's happening in a lot of Hmoob families. Parents live with adult son and his wife. Other siblings have the parents babysit their children, and the live-in son's and wife's life gets disrupted.
The siblings that do this have total disregard to their live-in brother and SIL. Just because your parents say yes to babysitting, be respectful, and ASK your brother, especially your SIL. That's their house too. If your brother/SIL says "no," respect their boundary, and DON'T bring your kids over.
Honestly, if the SIL don’t like the daughter coming over then they should move out and stop living with the in-laws.
The home belongs to the parents, the parents have every right to say yes to their child regardless of son or daughter.
Shame on these DIL who think they can run someone else’s home. Get your own home under you name and the rule is all yours to make.
Word!❤
In this story, she doesn't specifically state that the house is owned by her parents. If that's the case, then most definitely, the live-in son and DIL should move out.
Because she failed to state that (which is a VERY important factor to dismiss), this implies that her live-in brother and SIL must own the house and/or is financially responsible for the majority of the house/utility bills and/or medically responsible for the parents.
In the majority of traditional Hmoob families, the parent(s) choose which son/DIL to live with or to live with them, and for their own good reasons.
@@lilyv.628 she did state that in the story. In the middle of the story after the older SIL cheated on her older brother in which the older brother moved away, she said then her younger brother and SIL moved in to live with her parents. And it’s when the younger SIL disliking her as well.
@@msyngseer5560 😆
I guess the sister is the true victim then.
Love those who loves u, no matter blood related or not.
Koj cov nyab cov nus yog neeg khib khib pom koj zoo lawm cais lawv thiaj ntxub 2 koj os MI muad txhob tu siab rau cov niag neej ghau ntawd mog
All I can say is people dont hate each other for no reason. Sounds like there’s no mutual respect among the siblings . Sometimes best to walk away and keep peace .
Plus I don't understand why she's so passionate about her haters siblings. Know and go where you're welcome and stop going and keep up with your own business where you are not welcome. I think she wasted too much and effort fighting battles when the war is already lost.
Mloog ua kev kawm nawb, nej cov nus uas mloog mloog poj niam txw los ua phem rau cov muam na.
Honestly, if you need your parents to watch your kids, you need to pick up your mom to have them watch your kids at your house. My in laws live with me and my home is my quiet place and sanity. You should have more common sense that people need peace and quiet. There is more to this story.
Phem kawg jov nus nyab kov
Where there's no love and respect between sister in law and brothers is very sad. I feel for you sis...love and respect those who love you, dont matter blood not. Sorry to hear ur brother and sister not strong enough
Reflect what you do and didn’t do that made people hate you.
If one person hates you, I can understand, but if everyone hates you, then theres gotta be a reason.
I agree. Something is missing in this story.
I want to hear the siblings side of the story. Plus a restraining order? A sane person would only request for one in extreme situations. No one wants to go to court and deals with all unnecessary drama of they don't need to.
The reason was that neeg tsab ntse xav Kom tej muam nyoo tias yus yog tus dej tus ntses yuav tsum thuv tus dej xwb. Ib tug txiv neej coj Cai rhuav es neeg coob li coob cia sawv npuaj rooj tsis paub txajmuag ces yeej tsis txog txij twg. Qhov ib pab ntxub ib tug ces vim lawv tsis nyiam tus sabnrauv ces cia li ntxub tus hauv nrog. Tseev zoo yeej raug ntxub. Thaum yuav tuag mam pom tias tus ntawv zoo. Yog tim yus. Too late!
Yes. Everyone portrays themselves as the victim. Some details are not told.
I guess y'all didnt listen to the whole story lol. She is the victim! How they treated her and her husband is unacceptable. Her brother ended up with stroke at the end, that's karma.
Omg this is my story with my brother and sister in law. My sister in law broke up all the relationships with our siblings. My brother said if he dies to not go to his funeral. I’m sadden but know that he is paying for his sins and karma is with him daily. My mom stays silent because it’s her oldest son and she lives with him. She’s afraid of being kicked out so she complies. I feel this ladies pain.
Tus muam cov nus uas coj nyab cov nus uas coj li koj cov ntawd tsis nyog. Ua ntawv tiv thaiv koj lawm os nawb kuv yog ib tug nus tab sis kuv twb tsis txaus siab koj cov lus no li thiab
Oyo, some people just have too much time playing the victim game. This lady spends too much time worrying about sh*t she have no control over. If everyone hates you and you see everyone as a problem. You probably are a problem and is the cause. Work on yourself, grow up, and keep your eyes on the prize.
For reals. She is victimizing herself too much. I don’t believe her brother would hate her that much for no reason.
@@MissPeachie I agreed.
Are you one of the nyabs in this story? 😂
@vickey7123 nope! 😅 But I'm a nyab and daughter. Respect and taking care of my children is my top priority. I give no one a reason to hate because I rely on no one else.
Agreed 100%%%
There has to be more to this story than what she’s telling. There’s no way all the brothers and nyab hates her but not her other sisters. If one don’t like you then it’s understandable but for all to hate you, there’s more to it.
wow tus niam hmoob qos no cov ntxhais loj tuaj ntxim hlub ualuaj li lawm os.....niam moderator koj lub pobtw chom tau ntximnyiam heev li os
Tus muam koj cov neej tsa no kuv meem txom heev koj txhob tu siab nyob twb ywm
As the oldest, I wouldn’t tolerate any gossips and hatred between our brothers, sisters, and sisters-in-law in my family. Sounds like the oldest brother has no guts to put his foot down to stop this hatred between the sister-in-law, brothers, and the sister…
Sounds like your brother are a bunch of idiots or you guys were enemies in the past life…😩!
Always easy to say than do. You are just lucky that everyone in your family is considered. If you have a brother and a sister in law who is like this, there is not much you can do. Yes, you can say whatever to your brother, but never your sister in law.
Agreed! My husband is the oldest and this crap best not happen! We are a close-knit family, and we are close to all the siblings, especially those who come around all the time.
Yuav txawj sib hlub ces yuav tsum txhob txwm hlub thiaj yog kev hlub.
Niam ghia xwb vim txoj kev sib ntxub
Peb mas nkauj muam nraug muaj 2 3 tug xwb peb sib hlub kawg li thov nej sib hlub mog
peb muaj 6 leej kwv tij peb tsis muaj muam tsis muaj yawm yij li ov, tab sis tsaws li pom los thiab nov tej neej neeg tham los mus mas cov nus yog 8o% yog cov phem rau cov muam tsis txo fwj chij vim lawv yog tub caag, tsis hais txog kab tshoob kiv kos kev nruam sim cov dab laug yog cov phem thiab lim hiam dua, cov Muam phauj cov yawg laus lawv, tsaws li pom los mus tam 21 no tsis kkk txog cov tib neeg phem ntawd,
Ntuj aw hmooob leej twg tsi tau muaj nyab thiab tsi tau nrog nyab nyob ua ke ce yeej tsi paub li o sim neej no yuav tau cov nyab tsi nyiam yu ce lawv ntxhub2 li ntxub yu muab yu cem rau tu ub tu no tia yu phem npaum ub npaum no Tab si qhov tseeb tiag ce yu twb g tau ua ib yam dab g li tu ntxub thiab phem ntawv ce twb yog nw ntag tu siab tshaj li o hmoob aw
Cas yuav tu siab kawg li os tus vivncaug aw😢😢😢
Yus g muaj nyab nus niam txiv ib plab yug los g tu siab mloog zaj no tag nas
Cas yuav phem ua luaj li os hmoob os hmoob.
Omg you’re not alone, my siblings don’t know how to love one another
That is true, my husband’s siblings don’t know how to love each other too.
Cov neeg ruam ruam thiaj tseem ntseeg tej niag lus dag
Tu siab kawg li tim koj cov nus lawv tsi kam txo lawv lub fwj chim kom los sib haum xwb ma
I cut my family off and have not seen them for the last 10 years. It was the best decision I every made. Went to college and got my degree. Started a good career. If I was still with that circle, I'd still be drinking every weekend and sleeping until 3pm.
I would never judge anyone because i am not in their shoes, but what i can say is that just love urself, your kids, and hubby. Forget everyone else. Live ur life.
Family feud everyone has it best thing is to keep your distance just take care of your own family don’t worry about other people
Tus sister zoo li Koj tsis Khov txau xwb txhob TuS siab os
Cia tus neeg zoo zoo xwb cia tus neeg phem tuag mus kom tag … ib co nyab nus zoo li no xwb txhob ntshaw cia ntuj sau cia lawv txoj kev phem coj lawm. Tej laus tias ua neeg zoo tau kev dav ua neeg phem tau chaw ti. Good story
Muam phauj noj ntsev hais lus khev. Yog muam tsis tau ua txhaum ces nws kuamuag poob yeej npam xwb2.
Muaj tej cov siblings mas muam yeej tsi nyiam nyab kiag li thiab.
You're not that innocent. Hnov kiag xwb there's lots of questions. Nobody hates anyone THAT MUCH for no real reason. Not saying the nyab is perfect but I'm sure she has her own reasons you're not addressing in your story
If i was innocent I will NEVER EVER leave my job willingly.
You don't wear her shoes you won't know. There are siblings out there that hate (no particular reason).
JS😂.
Bless this sister. May you find peace.
Tej tsiaj tseem paub hlub neeg. Tej niag nus ntshaw lub npe tabsis ho tsis hlub luag. Txhob tusiab koj niam twb tseg koob hmmov rau koj lawm es lawv thiaj li tsis Kom koj poob nyiaj.cov neeg tsab ntse ces zoo li ntawv los ma
Koj twb dhau lawm os niam laus. Tiam sis peb tseem tab tom nyob li koj qhov chaw😢 yog peb tus nus txawj xav,tias peb pab pab nws saib thiab tu peb niam ces nws twb yuav yog tus protectes peb ntawm xyoj kev taug xaiv ntxeev xaiv, tiam sis vim niam muab ntse dhau ua ruam ruam es thiaj li tig los ua plaub rau yus.
Sister don't feel bad, I have alot of brother and sister too..they don't know that o exists, they never include me in any of their events..no one ever come visit me,,including my parents,,,I feel sad to but I don't care anymore, because all I need is my husband, thank God, that my husband loves me so much...all I need is my husband, even my family don't love me, I am used to it already...I'm ok..all I need is my kids and my husband,, I am married for 40 years now, and never once my siblings and my parents call me.only me that go and visit, I am so done...
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Kav liam ntsov nyuj dov rau thoob khib nyiab tsawg tus tsawg txoj hauj lwm poob nyiaj tsawg os los
tau cov niag nyab phem nkawg xaiv ua2 tej muag nug tu siab tas li kom.yuav tuag kav tswj tuag kom tas 😅😅😅
Ladies, have kids when you can afford and/or work with your spouse to accommodate all your kids’ need.
Be independent and stop relying on others. You will be much happier when you can solve your issues and complete your task on your own.
I don't understand why some people think children are their 401k accounts and so it's their excuses to pop a crap load of them. If you can't afford daycare or care for them yourself, stop having them. It's too expensive and too many dramas having to rely on someone else to watch and take care of your kids.
@@maipha8560 whatever their reason or purpose in life of how many kids they should birth is their own responsibility, not their parents or grandparents. Oftentimes, our Hmong parents fear of losing their grownup children if they didn’t help them out-this make them feel obligated to their entitled grownup children. We need to be better.
@may1581 that's right. I'm ok and know the elders help a few times here and there. But daily occurrence is a no-no. That's what daycare are for. I bet you if they start paying for daycare and realize how expensive it is, the kids will stop popping out.
@@maipha8560 If it make them feel good to help their grownup children then do it, not because they’re obligated to, but because they want to.
Txhob nyuaj siab mog viv ncaus cia nkawv ua nkawv koj yeej yuav pom qhov tom ntej no nkawv yuav tau txais os mog
Txhob tu siab os lawv ua phem li cas cia ces yuav tau sau li ntawv rov ib hnub xwb koj yog tus phauj lawm yeej yuav tau txais txhuas yam li qhov lawv tau ua cia yeej khiav tsis dim li txoj kev phem na
Phem npaum li ko g tas hlub li o
Every family has issues or there is a time that we get mad at each other. but just remember that when time are rough, Family is all we got. And wasup with all these sisters in law that don’t like the husband sisters? I love all my sisters in law and they also have love me as well.
Qhov teebmeem no yog nej niam thiab nej txiv txawj coj ces tsis muaj tej no tshwmsim tabsis yog muaj lawm ua ib siab. Leejtwg yog tus ua txhaum nws yeej yuav tau sau yam uas nws cog lawm. Koj tsis need lawv yog koj muaj koj tus txiv hlub hlub koj.
Hmoob vwj los cas ho tias qhwv quav ne.
Koj cov nus twb tsis txawj coj thiab twb tsis hlub koj. Koj cov nyab twb tsis yog neeg coj zoo. Hlub Tus hlub yus zaj maim no.
Love those who love you only ❤️
Luag tsis hlub yus ces yus thiaj tsis tshuav lawv nqi os mog
Very sad and unfortunate. I love my sister in laws even if they were in the wrong. My siblings went thru heaven and hell too. But in the end, we always have each other's back. Blood is thicker than water well in my family at least best of luck to you. Hope you all will get thru this too
cov muam mas tseg kiab qhov pheej coj mi nyuam mus rau niam tais zov nawb kuv los tsis nyiam cov muam zoo no thiab
Ab koj tsi nyiam cov muam li ntaw los koj tshob mus tom koj niam tai yawm tsiv thiab maj
Koom. Koj nawb❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hauv ntiaj teb no muaj ob yam ntub ntawm kev sib ntxub ntawm yus pab nus muag. Ib yam ces yog yus yeej phem2 yeej tsis ua ib yam zoo rau cov niam ib plab yug tab sis ho mus ua dev hlub tub rau tus sab nrauv kom luag teb qhuas2 yus li koj hais nej cov nus muag. Ib co ces yeej yog lawv siab phem es koj ua txhaum me2 xwb los koj yeej yog tus ntxim ntxub. Mloog mas ntshe yeej muaj tej yam koj ua rau lawv es yeej tsis muaj neeg yuav tau lawm es lawv sawv daws thiaj li ntxub koj npaum ko. Sad but llife goes on and just love yourself!
Vidncaus, vim cov nus mloog puabtais hais ces thiaj tsis ntseeg nej lus. Kuv yeej pom & paub coob tus nyab nus, nkauj muam sib ntxub tshaj plaws cuag yeebncuab xwb.
This story sounds fishy! I think there's more to it than what's been told to us. This sister tells the story like she's super innocent. But I think she may be one of those people that think they never do any wrong. All your brothers and nyab do not like you? Hmmm???
Her bros n nyabs need to come tell their side so we can judge. Lol
I agree that this sister is leaving very pertinent information out concerning her role in all this animosity. I disagree with how her brothers handled things, but I also feel that this sister is not as innocent in everything as she wants us to think.
Agreed bc when ppl tell stories they only tell the good about themself and bad about the other party
I can’t judge anyone but sounds like whatever you do, your brothers will never care or love you. You are damn if you do, you’re damn if you don’t. How sad. Just let them go. What’s done is done. You can forgive but not forget.
Txhob tus siab os mog, tej zaum koj yog ib tug muam uas hlub22 koj cov nyab thiab nus ces muaj ab tsi los koj pheej qhuab qhias lawv es muaj ib Co nyab tsis nyiam os mog.
The problem of this family starts from the part when keep talking your kids to your parents for babysitting. You know your nyab don't like it you you that cause their's jealous. Shoe should stop taking your kids over when you found out. But it's your fault pushing the button too. Don't feel sorry, you started it lady!!!!!!
Your brothers just wants to make things hard for you. Just leave them alone. U don’t need them. Remember that in this country, peb cov poj naim ces neej tsa yog teeb liab teeb ntsuab xwb.
I blame the oldest and the parents…gotta put the foot down and restore order before all hell breaks loose.
Ooohhhmmmaaaggaaww....
Tus mi muam aw...if it's true like what you said in here
..every words that your brothers and nyab said to you is a killing words, so heartache ones....I hope you guys will get along inthe ends...
Kuv qhov kev xav mas Tej zaum yog tim koj thiab txawm li cas los yuav tsum hu yus Tus nus yog nws tsis kam tuaj hu tus sab nraum thiaj tub qaug nws vim Koj cia li Mus hu Tus sab nraum lawm qhov nov tsis yog lawm nawb yuav ua kom tau cai mas phem zoo los hu nws ua ntej os viv ncaus
Tus siab tshaj li os😭😭😭😭
There’s always 2 sides of the story. If they don’t have any issues with your other sisters but just you then do take a look at yourself perhaps the problem is you.
Sister, it’s ok to let them go. Your brothers are not men enough to act on their own so let them be. Hlub tus neeg hlub yus xwb thiab luag hlub yus li cas hlub luag li ntawd xwb os mog. Nyob teb chaws no koj tsis tos lawv noj lawv tsis tos koj noj es leej twg hlub yus yus mam hlub lawv xwb.
Twb muaj lub ntuj pom cia lub ntuj mam txiav txim mog. Kav tsij rau siab ua koj lub neej xwb txhob quav ntsej lawv vim lawv yeej tsis hlub koj.
Koj ruam xwb pob
Yog koj tsi ruam ces yog koj phem xwb pob
Koj tham zoo li koj ruam koj uv tab si cas mloog mu mloog lo koj kuj tsi ruam tab si koj ua dag xwb tsi lam muaj ib cov neeg tsi nyiam yu li o yog yus zoo tiag na
Mloog tej zaj no tsi muaj dab tsi pab tau o
Neeg phem ma yus ua zoo npaum li cas los nws yeej tsis pom li. Yus pab nws khwv tau nyiaj ntau npaum cas nws ntxub yus ntau npaum ntawv. Txav deb deb xwb . Silent kill Al the rest
This is why i never want to work with family. If they ask if my work place is hiring i say no. I am glad my work place has no hmong people. Your brother should stand for you too if it is not true. Let her leave, this is your parents house so she can't stop you from going over.
Don't feel bad sister, sometimes just because it is family you can cut them out. Toxic people will only bring you down.
I believe you did ruined your relationship when you kept dropping your kids to your parents to watch. You should find your own babysitter. My SIL used to do the same shit to us too and it's annoying as heck. Our relationship dwindle from there. She will drop her kids off Monday thru Friday and then come back on the weekends to watch sports too. She did it for years. I got so tired of her bring her family over every day. I would purposely go out of my own house just so I don't see her.
Xyov yog txoj hmoo dab tsi thiaj tau yig los ua ib zaug nkauj muam nraug nus xwb cas yuav siab phem ua luaj na nej cov niag nus muag lim hiam aws pab nej tu siab thiab txaj muag kawg li
Sister is you not the only one I’m in the same boat
I have 5 brothers and 5 nyabs and one of my brothers and nyabs are like this. He will always support his nyab no matter if shes right or wrong, he'll always take her side. Im just glad all my other nyabs and brothers love me.
Anyways, first of all family shouldn’t b working together
Tus mes Viv ncaus ntawm zaj neej neeg no ua Cas kuv nrog koj tusiab ua luaj os
Tau cov dablaug thiab nyab phem li no mas txav kom deb deb xwb zoo tshaj. Good story and thank you for sharing.
Yus tej nus muag noj 1 lub mis hlob koom 1 txoj sia, yus thiaj tsis sib dag tabsis niag nus uas nws xum mus ntseeg nws niag poj niam es cia li Tu siab rau Tus Muam ces yog niag nus ruam.
You and your brother are both too stubborn. That’s why your lives are this way. Siblings will disagree and fight, but it takes love to learn to forgive and forget. Life is too short to hold grudges against eachother forever. Also You’re both in the wrong to allow your spouses to treat your siblings with no respect. Please grow up and get over it. I don’t feel sorry for either of you. 💯
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Koj niam thiab txiv hais tsis tau ces nkawv tuag nkawv mam qhia xwb ces yog lawm os
Tus niam tsev koj tsis txhob ntsaw ntsaw mus saib koj txiv lawv os koj ua zoo xav seb ypg tim koj lo tim lawv thiaj muaj teeb meem li no
Sister, kuv tsis muaj muam coob, yog koj need brother I'm here for you.
Something is off here when your parents stay silence when there are so much drama happening.
I am so blessed to have loving siblings and in-laws.
Koj zais koj qhov lawm koj tsis kam qhia koj qhov txhaum.
It ok sister I feel u. Peb ua neej nyob ces yus hlub yus tug kheej xwb os. Yus tej nyab tej mus lawv tsis hlub yus los tsuav yus niam yus txiv tseem nyob hlub yus thiab yus tug txij nkawm hlub yus xwb zoo lawm os. Tej nyab nus lawv twb tsis nrog yus ua neej txog lawv lawv mam paub.
Lawv. es muaj ib cov siblings sib ntxub npaum no thiab?
Twb nyob lu teb chaws vam meej lawm cas coj cai fab kis thaum ub xwb
Lawv ntxub2 yus los yus twb tsis mus thov noj thov haus ntawm lawv ces kav liam os. Yus tsuas hlub lawv tau li lawv hlub yus xwb.
Muaj ib cov muam to nyab tsi nyiam lo zoo li nw twb muaj nw neej lawm lo tuaj ntawm nyab tsev cuag yu lub tsev tuaj noj tuaj hau twb tsi pab nyab li thiab o niam pog thiab muam ua dab tsi lo ua tsi txuag nyab li thiab o to nyab ntxub ntxub muam
One thing that I don’t understand about Hmong ppl is that why do they think that we all must HAVE to get along just bc we’re family??? F them if they wanna be a lil B. You don’t have to be obey nobody. I don’t get it. If you complain about it then do something about it. 🤦🏻♀️
Koj cov nus yog dev yug los yog neeg yug ma
When someone live in her shoes, it’s very hurtful because your own brother is a ahole to a sister.. so I understand her…
I believe there's more to this story. Things don't happen for a reason; we'll never know the truth.
Do good get good do bad get karma