She will never forget those words. Even if her father somehow realizes how much of a jerk he is and apologizes to her, she will never fully recover from the damage he has done to her.
My mom has problems with my weight but she explains to me she explains how if I don't get rid of weight when it's easy to do so I will not be able to in the future she does not straight up call me fat like sure the words hurt a bit but in the back of my head I know what she is doing is to help me and new news this weight was caused by excessive gases I am now taking pill to solve it and the only weight I'm gaining now is growing and possibly my very very very very very very very very very long hair
@@kantoumanjigangthe way he talks to her could potentially give her a deadly disorder. take thing from someone who was verbally abused about my weight and who gained an eating disorder because of it.
As somebody who'd ask for seconds three times during dinner and never got as much as mildly overweight: It has nothing to do with growth spurt. First, eat healthy and secondly, go play outside. Man, I'm so lucky I grew up in an era where cellphones were barely becoming a thing (flexing a Nokia 3210 was all the rage in grade school), so we'd just play all day in the forest and such.
@@LecherousLizard is this sarcasm? Healthy girls going through puberty will put on more fat and gain weight. The excess fat and calories helps with growth spurts and the fat gets redistributed to their breast and hips. Also the post said nothing about her being obese or not going out to play.
@@buffer_brain1917 Wdym "growth spurs"? Most girls stop growing by the time they are 13. This ain't Middle Ages anymore, mate. People don't go through puberty until they are 17 due to lack of nutrition anymore.
As someone who grew up with a father that made comments like this; this is NOT looking after your child, it's just damaging them. I developed an eating disorder so badly that by 14 I lost my period and developed anemia The worst part is, he didn't even care about me losing weight. Instead he started making comments of how my arms looked like a noodle and how I could easily be blown away by the wind. They don't care about your "health", they just look to judge you no matter how you look, if he really cared for her he wouldn't be that harsh but instead explain the risks kf being overweight
Exactly. My dad never outright called me fat but he would make comments when I was unwell about how it wouldn’t hurt me to lose some weight. My nan would make the same comments too. If had a sickness bug for a week and not been able to eat so I’d lost a lot of weight and my nan told me how I looked lovely without the extra weight. I still don’t have a healthy relationship with food. I never developed an eating disorder (I attribute this to my mum) but I feel guilty whenever I eat and am very self conscious about eating in public. Through secondary school I wouldn’t have breakfast and only had lunch on a Friday. I would only eat the dinner my mum gave me and I hoped this would make me lose the weight and not get the negative comments but it didn’t (starvation doesn’t work with one meal per day, your body conserves everything you take in because it doesn’t know when it will next get food). I’m now 21 and still very self conscious. I am a little overweight due to having some struggles with my mental health and binge eating but I’m in the process off making improvements to make me more comfortable with my body and get myself to a healthier happier place. Those comments still bother me even though I try to ignore them. They stick with you and it’s hard to fight past them and get yourself back to a place where you feel comfortable and confident.
Alr if someone calls u fat u kinda have to deal with it- if ur fat people will call u fat- but it’s still wrong. However calling someone fat and not helping isn’t right
@@istillhavenoTails calling someone fat full stop is wrong. People who aren’t overweight get called fat as well and it’s not ok because we have created a society that thinks people are only attractive if they are underweight a lot of the time. People who are a healthy weight get called fat because they just don’t look like they’re a model. It’s ridiculous. No one should have any kind of right to comment on your body unless they are a medical professional and even then there is an appropriate way to do it to limit the damage to the person
@@istillhavenoTails Now that's where I have to disagree, people will call you fat if you weight more than 47 kg or so, because if they care to help they will not just call you names. I have never in my entire life been overweight, I actually have a digestive problem that makes my stomach bloated pretty easily, yet I was called fat for that. It's not "deal with it" it's not calling people names they feel uncomfortable with just for fun and then expect it to actually help them
Weight has absolutely nothing to do with height . Plus she's just a teenager whose body will be going through changes because of hormones and puberty . That father is out of line .
He ain't completely lying unless it's for medical problems you are probably fat for a bad routine and in puberty having a bad routine can make you pretty short
@@Tupanasueki height and weight don’t correlate. That’s not scientifically accurate in the slightest. Genetics, 100% determine height, take a moment to take care of your brain it’s deficient in everything.
@@baumeister5705 Actually, genetics does not 100% determinate height. As an example, if you are severely underweight (and so, underfed) during your childhood and/or puberty, it will be more difficult for you to grow.
@@personneenparticulier5762Yes, that’s caused by malnutrition. Growing bodies require the nutrients and calories to sustain growth. This doesn’t work in reverse. Being overweight in adolescence doesn’t affect your height as you’re still eating the required calories for growth. Your height is determined by genetics. Stunted growth is determined under the WHO’s height standards for their age. Stunted growth is also characterised by heightened susceptibility to infection and diseases. They weren’t wrong by saying it’s all determined by your genetics, because it is. A deviation from the norm like malnutrition and being underweight doesn’t diminish that. Even if your growth is stunted, your genetics still predetermined an expected height.
Not going to lie the dad was wrong to say that to the daughter but I was thinking that coddling a child is another bad thing so I think well the simple solution it’s to say that the daughter was gaining excess weight and that he wants his daughter to be healthier and to live a more better lifestyle
@@TheGamingNerd-ve4wg No one is saying to coddle the daughter, but what he is doing will do way more harm than good. There are ways to go about these topics and he is as far from them as possible
@@TheGamingNerd-ve4wgJust speaking from real life experience, but “coddling” is often used freely since my mom told my dad that’s what he was doing about my weight, and fast forward she forced me into a bad eating disorder. And the daughter may not even be “fat”. When my mom did that to me, I wasn’t big in an unhealthy way at the slightest. I was quite fit but still had my own mother calling me a pig, so maybe that’s the same case. I’m not trying to be mean or rude, I just wanna shine light on another possibility.
@TheGamingNerd-ve4wg That's not how u deal with a fat child. You control and manage the issue. You put them into sports and ensure healthy foods in the home and don't cut out foods. EG If they have their biggest meal in the afternoon and have something healthier at night, along with afternoon sports or family walks etc, u stop them from seeing food as the enemy and using it to self medicate. Most people don't lose weight because of successful discussions on their weight; they lose it when they learn they're in a loving non-judgemental environment that prizes collective health
That never goes away, especially at that vulnerable age. My mom told me I was gaining weight when I was that age, and it took 30 years to realize I had no control over it back then since she was the one buying the food and feeding me. 😢 I just made me insecure from that point on.
Even if he's in shape, his choice to shame his own child like that speaks to his own insecurities 💯. You don't get that judgmental and harsh with a CHILD when you're a healthy, secure person. If his choice of words were an accident, he wouldn't have been so proud of himself when she ran off crying. Best way to ensure that your child is health conscious is to model it and offer support and *encouragement* when there's a problem.
@@goofy_goober-dk5bche still said it in the wrong way, but there are other ways to tell someone they're overweight, still the father definitely handled it terribly
If HE actually cared about her, and he was concerned about her weight because it was actually affecting her health, he wouldent outright call her fat. He would actually try to help her.
Exactly, and I hate how he told her that her not finishing her dinner is a "good way to start" because starving isn't a good method of losing weight in the long term
@@l0rdapophis I know this is a joke, but this is a friendly reminder that intrusive thoughts can't win because intrusive thoughts aren't your real thoughts and don't represent what you actually think/want to do.
@@shantanubhat2675that’s how you lose your child when they turn 18. Why not guide your child to improve their life instead of being like you’re so fat you know you’d be taller if you weren’t fat… like dude cmon
@@jadestar5692 it's very hard to do that when your wife is coddling your child and letting them eat how muchever they want, and If it came down to it, I'd rather my child hate me than be fat
@@shantanubhat2675 maybe actually helping your child instead of bullying them will actually do something. Such as the family cooks healthier meals and snacks for the benefit of the kid. Family activities for exercise like taking a walk or playing sports together could also help. You don’t want to help your kid, you just want an excuse to be a bully and mean. You want to put no effort into helping your child and say your are helping but really you’re just doing worse damage. You could end up giving your kid a binge eating disorder or anorexia which can kill your child and they would still hate you.
As a 14yo, if my dad said that to me it would have SHATTERED my self esteem, I would've probably developed some sort of eating disorder after that. Don't let people degrade others, it has more effect then you might think.
14yo too, I'm just surprised how sensitive some people are, and that's probably a good thing and I'm just probably too desensitized cuz my mom calls me fat all the time so I just don't care anymore lol.
@@Cantmakeupmymindonaname Sometimes she's soft about it and gives me talks on how I should exercise, which actually makes me feel motivated. But then when she gets angry she yells all her actual feelings on having a fat ugly daughter like me which shatters all the trust I had in her, that she didn't judge me, now hearing the truth of what she really thinks about me. It hurts. But, oh well, I'm used to it. Good thing is I'm not actually self-conscious and insecure about my looks, I honestly don't care that much, but it's still kinda painful yk?
My dad called me fat and overweight when I was in 6th grade. Never forgot it. Never forgot the tone. Never forgot what he tasked me to do. Never forgot how awful I felt afterwards. Never forgot how shocked he was when I stopped helping him.
People like you are the reason childhood obesity is rising at such a dangerous rate, some times tough love is important, you guys are just way too soft🤦♀️
As a 13 year old girl I can’t imagine someone even hinting about my weight, let alone someone I love and respect outright shaming and verbally abusing me. My self esteem would be permanently shattered
This happened to me, they didn’t straight out call me fat though, they were calling me chubby and that “hopefully I’ll loose weight when I’m older!” I was about 7-9.
Maybe hes concerned. And it's not abuse. You all need to get a clue. Stop body positivity. Be honest with yourselves and do something about it. Don't let your kids be fat.
I’ve been fat shamed by both of my parents and they say it’s a joke when I informed them that it was affecting me mentally they said I should learn to take a joke
as "the daughter" i can tell you madam, its one of the many reasons why when i became an adult, i went no contact with him and low contact with the rest
as a teenager myself, we go through a shit ton. puberty, middle and high school, losing friends, finding our place in this world are what we go through during our teenage years. its hard being a teenage girl, and that isnt "looking out for her," that is verbal abuse.
@@LecherousLizard Why would they want to back to insecurity or food/eating disorder to the point that they feel like they don't deserve food cause a stupid brain washed user from internet thinks they are fat and ugly (while they are not) and they are only worthy when "you" think they are beautiful? and always feel like they don't deserve anything and they are always ugly and never enough???? This not healthy, logical and right. so maybe, remain silent please.
Divirce that man immediately. If he says things like this about your daughter, imagine what he will think about you if youre not up to his standards anymore one day.
Why marry him in the first place if you're going to divorce, plus it's probably not the first time he's tried to help his daughter loose weight, sometimes you have to show tough love, but divorce is so easy to People like you, that have no idea how a relationship works🤦♀️
He didn't even try? If he was that concerned he could help meal prep for her or go on walks with her instead of being a childish ahole to his kid, it is not rocket science to be a decent human being, divorce wouldn't be the answer though, maybe counciling or therapy since clearly if he thinks it is ok to fat shame he has some issue underneath from his childhood.
@@Nycithirose he probably tried all that, but the mom coddled her too much, so the dad had to be harsh, I'd rather my kid hate me than them be obese, and that's not rocket science
@@shantanubhat2675Making fat jokes about your child isn’t helping them. If the dad was so concerned about his daughter’s weight he should’ve contacted a pediatrician, and scheduled an appointment to see what they can do to fix the issue. Not make jokes about her weight. Making jokes isn’t going to help the child mysteriously lose weight, it’s just going to make her self esteem low. Potentially leading to an eating disorder.
One day, ON MY BIRTHDAY, at dinner, my grandmother did something similar. My mother had made my favorite food, spaghetti with pesto, my grandmother looked at me as I put the food on the plate and said "you eat so many sauces, that's why you're fat", I tried but I couldn't hold back the tears and I ran to the bathroom, I cried A LOT. That day I didn't eat the dinner that my mother made for me with so much love. I locked myself in my room and after my grandmother was very insistent I opened the door to talk to her, and do you know what she said?" I was just joking", since that day I have never been able to look at a sauce without thinking again "Am I fat?":( Is 59kg too much for a 15 year old and 167cm girl?
the day ppl realize shaming makes stuff like this worse is the day a lot of ppl will actually start getting better/healthier. if she does need to lose weight for her health this isnt the way to tell her bc it might lead to extremes on the opposite end of the
As a teen girl myself this is just horrible. My parents body shame me lots of times, and it’s just going to make her mental health worse. At this point I tried unaliving myself multiple times, I’m always insecure even thought I’m not that big, definitely not fat. I feel her pain, she’s going to feel horrible all the time and will never ever see herself the same way again. He just ruined her entire childhood. This poor little girl is never going to love herself… is never going to feel worthy or comfortable with herself, as someone who knows how it feels, shame on the dad. Just shame…
You are an amazing person dint ever think you don't deserve to be on this earth you have affected at least ten people in your life positively your body doesn't depict your character you were born for a reason don't forger that
girl don't listen to this prick above me. people like them can't comprehend the absolutely absurd idea that not all criticism is constructive, and don't seem to understand that your parents are supposed to HELP you. trust me, as long as your weight isn't causing you health problems (this goes for being underweight too) you're doin just fine. : ]
Bro, I swear, some people don’t understand the difference between height and weight. And seriously? Mocking a teenager over their weight??? That’s messed up. Smh 🤦🏻
What is messed up about it is that her weight has very little to do with her and more to do with her parents and the diet they allow her to have. That father is completely lacking in self awareness.
I get worrying about your child’s weight, as I was a very fat and unhealthy kid. My mom usually called me fat very often, and it made it worse. Seeing as I had no motivation to lose the weight, I instead ate and ate and I was probably way over the appropriate weight. Then finally, I snapped. I stopped eating unhealthy food, and instead, exchanged it for anorexia. Which, I have experienced both food disorders, and both are horrible. I stopped eating large amounts of food, and that resulted in me feeling more tired and fatigued, and that’s horrible. Thankfully I developed a healthy diet, but I’m still working on it. As I still feel guilty for eating, but I’ve been pushing through that problem.
My dad did that too. He would look at my with disgust when I ate, would make comments when I put a lot on my plate (even if it was something healthy), would tell me I don't need ice cream when we were on holiday and everyone had one. I wasn't even that overweight, just a bit chubby. Which I grew out of within a year. I'll never be free of the anorexia.
Tbh that’s how my dad is with me. He’s never called me fat but said, “ do you wanna end up like this 560 pound women?” for eating 3 lindor chocolates when I was 7-9 years old. When I was 11 he took me to a restaurant and me and my grandma were gonna share some chicken Alfredo and he said. “ you need to watch what your eating” that hurt me so bad and it still does to this day. I am 12 now and I haven’t liked my dad since but I still go with him and I’m still mad at him for saying that stuff to me. Listen I’m not trying to vent a lot but it’s so I can get it out of my chest. He told me I had “big monkey feet” just like he did. I am a little chubbier and I wear 6.5-7 it’s really not that big you know..? I still don’t like my body but i’m working on it now so then I can actually be confident and not let my own dad get under my skin like that.
I've been fat shamed by my family too , even though this caused me mental trauma and because of that i developed ED and lost weight but they still call me fatty and it is enough to destroy my day
you shouldnt call them your family, you dont deserve people that do nothing but make fun of you and cause you nothing but sadness, i hope that your doing better now :) 🫶🏻
My dad has done this before but not this bad. For dinner one night, I had some spaghetti, and it was like the “healthy spaghetti” and my brother and my dad were having like, fish, and I’m allergic to seafood. My dad sits down and looks at my plate. Then he looks at me and goes “Real healthy, you should try a salad”. My mom was pissed! She says “Are you calling our 11 year old daughter, Fat???” He goes “Kinda” I was crying in my room and that’s when I stopped eating dinner recently. Nothing could fix that damage but then I do realized I was a little fat. But now I am happy with my body but will say, thank you for my dad looking out for me, but that was rude. Love U guys!❤❤❤❤Your body is beautiful just the way it is so don’t feel insecure about yourself!
Someone: My boyfriend forgot it’s our 1/4 yr anniversary 😪 People like you: Break up, divorce, run, red flag, leave him Seriously, have you ever been in a relationship? Divorce isn’t the answer to everything.
I am sorry your daughter had to experience this first-hand, and from a close family member, no less. Something I've learned through the women in my life is that men tend to respond better to visuals. If they like something they are attracted to it visually. If not, they are repulsed by it. Unfortunately, I don't think your child's father is the only one who will get under her skin like this. While it may hurt, and while it is wrong to treat her this way, I hope that this experience will still give your daughter the strength to not take everyone else's words to heart. She's a courageous girl and deserves every happiness ❤
My grandma used to always call me fat, or dumb, or useless (shes mexican) for the first 13 years, and said its so i can better myself, i moved away from her almost 2 years ago and i still have not and will not ever forget those words
I'm sorry I understand my brothers are the exact same way and it makes me want to cry almost every day and night because that's how often they say these things
Even if she was dangerously overweight, this kind of behaviour doesn't encourage healthy eating habits. It often pushes the person to the other extreme of striving themself, potentially to death. OP's husband is so selfish and idiotic, I hope he learns from this and becomes a loving father
Something me and my family have always been real about is that, if you start getting chubby, somebody(my mom) will sit down or find and alone moment with you to say something. It’s good to talk about it and stuff, being overweight is different then having some chub tho…
wow they were right. Stupid people will use anything to try to make some stupid things beautiful and logical. Like you really don't underestand whats going on? or what?
There's a difference between helping your child maintain a healthy weight and verbally abusing them. Those harsh and ignorant words will haunt her every time she eats or looks in the mirror now, and no apology will ever change that.
Tbh, You ,as a adult, shouldn't comment on a child body like that. NEVER. It's a basic thing. The only thing that can show someobe need to lose weight is bmi and doctor. bully a child in a horrific way over a stupid excuse?... no. That child was eating the same thing as her parents, why her insecure parent did that? Yeah.
As someone who is short and underweight, being short doesnt mean you are fat. Weight does not react to height. If you are fat and tall, it doesnt mean that what you ate made you who you are.
i was laying down, petting my dog. my dad poked my stomach and said “you should start working out, get rid of that pudge!” i will never forget it. ever. shit like that HURTS.
@@gothicvomit4894 no, it's not abuse, it would be if he berated her, or continuously called her fat and a pig, but this is literally the first time he has called her fat, and her reaction tells me that her mom has coddled the shit outta her, and she couldn't handle the reality of being fat
The day that you people underestand that being healthy=a healthy life style not being skinny and you can called fat but not be unhealthy or be skinny but have some seroiuse health issuse like ed AND YOU CANT TELL A KID NOT TO EAT ANY "FOOD" AND BODY SHAMED THEM IN A WAY THAT THEY STOP "EATING DINNER" AND CALL IT BEING HEALTHY is my day.
L HUSBAND!! Soul is what matters, not the body! PLUS, SHE'S 13!!! Her body is going through changes and teenagers need lots of food! Bet she wasn't even that fat! And height has nothing to do with weight!!
Ik this sounds misogynistic but he’s a man child, he probably thinks if a girl is over 120lbs she’s morbidly obese (and meanwhile he’s probably twinning with Henry the 8th)
Childhood obesity is a plague, and while he didn't handle it that well, the message was absolutely spot on, people like you, who think children just grow out of bad habits, and coddle children are the reason childhood obesity rates is rising dangerously in the west
Ive said it once and ill say it again. People need to start being questioned when they *want* children. Not when they dont. Because way too many people who have them. Should not have.
Them words are like carved in your memory. I remember i was in yr 6 so like 10 years old. I was at my aunties house because it was like a family gathering. I was just with my cousins and playing and whatever, and my uncle was infront of me. He called out my name and tould me "eat less". I was just there like what do i do, what reaction do i even give to that as a 10 yr old? A few years later, im perfectly fit, that same uncle asks me if i eat. The fat i had as a 10 yr old was just baby fat. But the amlunt of exercise i did as a 10-12 year old is just crazy. A kid should never be tould such things.
@@jadestar5692 those are very rare cases, and also why tf would you marry someone who abuses you? You see, the mindset over marriage has changed, now marriage is not this permanent thing for life, it's a contract where you can leave whenever you want via divorce
That is the absolute worst thing apparent can do to a child. When I was in high school my way flexuated between a 105 and 110 pounds. I'm not even 5 feet 2 inches and I had to listen to my mother every day telling me that I was fat. She never did in front of anyone but she would always do it a newer alone and when confronted about it should flat out tonight doing it. She was over 200 pounds. My younger sister was bigger than me and she was never told she was fat. Just me.
Hope you got away from her you didn't deserve such treatment but always remember your amazing and you have people that love you and even if you dont in your life yiu have me have an amazing day❤
The favoritism and hypocrisy is honestly crazy. What happened to you was absolute BS. You didn't deserve to be the only one called fat when your sister was bigger. And the fact that your mother was also (likely, based on the info you gave) on the bigger side, and STILL shamed you? Absolutely outrageous. The worst part is, she was probably projecting, too. 🙄
Why do you people always jump to divorce, like the mindset around a marriage has changed from "life partner" to "I'll divorce his ass at the slightest inconvenience "and it's honestly appaling
@@shantanubhat2675the fact that you would still stay with a child abuser says more about you than anything else. May God protect any children that you have
@@victoriakiteley8337 Oh hell no. May God not give this person children to begin with. This person is either gonna stay in the abusive relationship or BE the abusive person.
Even if she was obese, there were so many better ways to address the issue. If she's eating too much due to stress, or depression, having her own dad dump on her like that will make it worse.
Im the same age as the daughter and Im really skinny and im still short asf, height has NOTHING to do with weight. What her husband said won't help at all and it's absolutely disgusting, if anything it will cause eating disorders. She should divorce him asap
Dont mind people like that your body is amazing and you are amazing he is an asshole who didn't deserve you and don't be ashamed of what you eat.if it makes you happy do it
Im happy my friend Avah doesn't have parents like this. she's on a diet and says she's "ugly" and "fat", ive been eating more so i can become just as chubby as her so she will feel better about herself. Ive also been asking for dora the explorer haircuts to make myself ugly so she will KNOW she's prettier than me! Avah is outright GORGEOUS, she has wavy blond hair and bright greenish bluesh eyes
I will never understand family thinking making rude comments like that is "helping". Why not cook healthy for the whole family and find an activity your child enjoys when they are young. Simply being critical of a child that doesn't even purchase the groceries isn't helpful. Plus giving a child low self esteem usually will have the opposite effect of what you're trying to achieve.
The dad is just flat out wrong. I have a thyroid condition and am categorically overweight, and yet I’m just under 6 foot. It’s even worse when his claims are totally false.
that would be grounds for a divorce. the compromise is marriage counseling and training with a nutrition coach for the dad. and no getting fat doesn't make you short.
Okay I’m hearing a lot of hate for the dad, but like they never mentioned how heavy she actually was, like if this was a situation where she has gained like 20+ pounds over like a couple months as much as that wasn’t the way to handle this maybe she does have a weight problem that needs to be considered…
I was thinking the same how much over weight are we taking about 😅. If you don't stop a bad habit in is tracks is get even harder to break overtime and perhaps the mom is not cuddling her but enabler to it. But if that the case he should have a serious take instead of making passive aggressive comments.
Yeah so just because YOU think someone (a child) is fat you should try to bully them?😂 and also who would thinks height is connected to weight but a stupid person? omg you body shame people don't use their brain. That man never will be a good father. okay?
Also you really think make a 13yo kid insecure and destroy their mental health and body shaming them will "HELP" them lose weight? 😂 WHAT??? Omg, you guys are really sick. maybe next time you should really reserach the data that social media washed your brain with.
My dad was the worst. He is narcissistic, he has anger issues, a drinking problem and some more. He has sometimes made slight comments about my body (I’ve always been heavier since I was a baby. 1, most of it was genetics and 2, when I got a bit older I resorted to food as a coping skill when my dad would scream at me or just be a jerk. I mean this man caused serious panic attacks for me starting when I was in 1 st grade. Got the point where I was going to the nurse every single day and doctors started to think I had asthma since I would have these panic attacks multiple times a day. So you see how horrible this man was) despite all of these things, I still craved my dad’s love and affection. After all he was still my dad. I will never forget one day (also side note I have an older sister and two half younger siblings, one male one female. I was really close with my younger sister.) anyways one day my dad was being a complete a hole to everybody because he was mad about something he was doing outside. He was building something and he had to start over a bunch of times. He came inside one time and I was making my self a bagel with butter as both of my sisters were talking to me and we were all laughing and having fun. He started yelling at everybody for no reason and as soon as he was leaving, he turned to me, his face red and dripping with sweat as it was hot outside, and he said, “ You know (my name) you don’t have to ALWAYS be eating all the time” then he eyed me up and down. My heart was shattered. I tried my very best not to cry since my little sister was right there but I couldn’t hold it in. Tears were pouring down my face and I bent down to my little sisters height and asked her if she wanted held of my bagel. She said yes but then asked why I was so sad. I said I wasn’t sad and then told her to go play with my older sister. After that I ran to my room and cried myself to sleep after eating half of my bagel. I don’t even think my dad remembers this happening but I will. I remember this until the day I take my last breath. This all happened when I was in 5th grade. And even though I was overweight for my age, I was still very active. Always playing outside or doing chores since I lived on a farm.
I grew up short and overweight, and while I was judged and bullied about it by people at school, home was a place I did not have to worry about any of that. My mom was the same way, to the point of being put on diets by the age of six, which caused her a lot of problems and ruined her relationship with food and her body, which she is still trying to repair today. She taught me that self worth and beauty is not in any way tied to weight, and when I did eventually end up developing body dysmorphia during lockdown, she supported me through it and reminded me that it wouldn’t last forever. I’m 17 now, and I’ve grown out of that phase my of life. I’m not skinny by any means, but I’m an average size and due to the extra curricular activities I’ve picked up, I’ve also become pretty muscular. All that to be said, a child that young should not have to worry about their weight, and often times, especially as you get taller and your body shape changes with puberty, weight can fluctuate and even out. I have weighed the same for several years at this point, but each year I look different and that is not reflected by the number on the scale. As humans, and especially as women, it is important to remember that our bodies are always changing, and that it is a good thing. The damage done by this comment to your daughter has just taught her the opposite of all of this, and I can only imagine how much her life has just been altered within the span of the minute it took for you to say of all of this. Shame to you.
She will never forget those words. Even if her father somehow realizes how much of a jerk he is and apologizes to her, she will never fully recover from the damage he has done to her.
So true!!
I could not agree more with you 😔
These wounds are like scars: Others won’t see them, but you know exactly where they are.
Are joking? My parents call me a fatass and imbecile, I just don't care and I don't have any emotional damage from that.
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The opposite of coddling a child is not to verbally abuse them. Children don’t learn through being told; they learn through being shown.
Getting called fat is verbal abuse, doesn't feel like y'all seen any places in yo lives
My mom has problems with my weight but she explains to me she explains how if I don't get rid of weight when it's easy to do so I will not be able to in the future she does not straight up call me fat like sure the words hurt a bit but in the back of my head I know what she is doing is to help me and new news this weight was caused by excessive gases I am now taking pill to solve it and the only weight I'm gaining now is growing and possibly my very very very very very very very very very long hair
@@kantoumanjiganggetting belittled by your parents constantly because you’re fat is verbal abuse. hope this helps ❤
@@kantoumanjigangthe way he talks to her could potentially give her a deadly disorder. take thing from someone who was verbally abused about my weight and who gained an eating disorder because of it.
@@kantoumanjigangI've been called fat it's not verbal abuse if it's the truth I was and am but less fat
She’s 13 and he’s complaining that she’s rapidly gaining weight. Has that guy never heard of a growth spurt?
As somebody who'd ask for seconds three times during dinner and never got as much as mildly overweight:
It has nothing to do with growth spurt.
First, eat healthy and secondly, go play outside.
Man, I'm so lucky I grew up in an era where cellphones were barely becoming a thing (flexing a Nokia 3210 was all the rage in grade school), so we'd just play all day in the forest and such.
That's not called a growth spurt 💀
It's when your BONES, MUSCLES, OR other relevant parts grow, not your fat.
@@LecherousLizard is this sarcasm? Healthy girls going through puberty will put on more fat and gain weight. The excess fat and calories helps with growth spurts and the fat gets redistributed to their breast and hips.
Also the post said nothing about her being obese or not going out to play.
@@buffer_brain1917 Wdym "growth spurs"? Most girls stop growing by the time they are 13.
This ain't Middle Ages anymore, mate. People don't go through puberty until they are 17 due to lack of nutrition anymore.
Rapidly gaining weight ≠ a growth spurt
"THATS THE SOUND OF A FUCKING DIVORCE" -stolas
OMG ,a fellow helluva boss fan as I see ✨️💅✨️
*manical laughter*
Uh...
HELL YEAH IT DOES
Gay show feel bad
Oh look! These divorce papers just appeared out of no where!
Haha, this made me chuckle lmao
That is the sound of a fuckin divorce
-stolas
Divorce for dinner
@@Thehistorygeographyandflagnerd listen to the video and then comment?
Some father: My daughter is fat
Lifeless internet users: DIVORCE
uhh... i seen tall fat people... and short skinny people... what determines height is normally genes not how much you weigh...
Yeah my best friend is short and skinny
It does make you slightly shorter than you would be
@@toastmaster914 im obese and im the tallest girl in my fam.
@@BASIC8584 Cool. You would gain like an inch or so if you weren't
@@toastmaster914 a inch. thats like nothing.
As someone who grew up with a father that made comments like this; this is NOT looking after your child, it's just damaging them. I developed an eating disorder so badly that by 14 I lost my period and developed anemia
The worst part is, he didn't even care about me losing weight. Instead he started making comments of how my arms looked like a noodle and how I could easily be blown away by the wind. They don't care about your "health", they just look to judge you no matter how you look, if he really cared for her he wouldn't be that harsh but instead explain the risks kf being overweight
Exactly. My dad never outright called me fat but he would make comments when I was unwell about how it wouldn’t hurt me to lose some weight. My nan would make the same comments too. If had a sickness bug for a week and not been able to eat so I’d lost a lot of weight and my nan told me how I looked lovely without the extra weight.
I still don’t have a healthy relationship with food. I never developed an eating disorder (I attribute this to my mum) but I feel guilty whenever I eat and am very self conscious about eating in public.
Through secondary school I wouldn’t have breakfast and only had lunch on a Friday. I would only eat the dinner my mum gave me and I hoped this would make me lose the weight and not get the negative comments but it didn’t (starvation doesn’t work with one meal per day, your body conserves everything you take in because it doesn’t know when it will next get food).
I’m now 21 and still very self conscious. I am a little overweight due to having some struggles with my mental health and binge eating but I’m in the process off making improvements to make me more comfortable with my body and get myself to a healthier happier place. Those comments still bother me even though I try to ignore them. They stick with you and it’s hard to fight past them and get yourself back to a place where you feel comfortable and confident.
Alr if someone calls u fat u kinda have to deal with it- if ur fat people will call u fat- but it’s still wrong. However calling someone fat and not helping isn’t right
@@istillhavenoTails calling someone fat full stop is wrong. People who aren’t overweight get called fat as well and it’s not ok because we have created a society that thinks people are only attractive if they are underweight a lot of the time.
People who are a healthy weight get called fat because they just don’t look like they’re a model. It’s ridiculous.
No one should have any kind of right to comment on your body unless they are a medical professional and even then there is an appropriate way to do it to limit the damage to the person
@@istillhavenoTails
Now that's where I have to disagree, people will call you fat if you weight more than 47 kg or so, because if they care to help they will not just call you names.
I have never in my entire life been overweight, I actually have a digestive problem that makes my stomach bloated pretty easily, yet I was called fat for that.
It's not "deal with it" it's not calling people names they feel uncomfortable with just for fun and then expect it to actually help them
Wow that’s a lot of words to bad I am not reading them 😎
"Your coddling her"
"NO! IM FEEDING HER. YOUE TRYING TO STARVE HER."
"you're overfeeding her"
Weight has absolutely nothing to do with height . Plus she's just a teenager whose body will be going through changes because of hormones and puberty . That father is out of line .
He ain't completely lying unless it's for medical problems you are probably fat for a bad routine and in puberty having a bad routine can make you pretty short
@@Tupanasueki height and weight don’t correlate. That’s not scientifically accurate in the slightest. Genetics, 100% determine height, take a moment to take care of your brain it’s deficient in everything.
@@baumeister5705 Actually, genetics does not 100% determinate height. As an example, if you are severely underweight (and so, underfed) during your childhood and/or puberty, it will be more difficult for you to grow.
@@personneenparticulier5762Yes, that’s caused by malnutrition. Growing bodies require the nutrients and calories to sustain growth. This doesn’t work in reverse. Being overweight in adolescence doesn’t affect your height as you’re still eating the required calories for growth. Your height is determined by genetics. Stunted growth is determined under the WHO’s height standards for their age. Stunted growth is also characterised by heightened susceptibility to infection and diseases.
They weren’t wrong by saying it’s all determined by your genetics, because it is. A deviation from the norm like malnutrition and being underweight doesn’t diminish that. Even if your growth is stunted, your genetics still predetermined an expected height.
Uhmm they do have something to do so lose hieght everyday because if gravity and weight would make you lose more hieght than normal
As a person with an eating disorder this is horrible.
Not going to lie the dad was wrong to say that to the daughter but I was thinking that coddling a child is another bad thing so I think well the simple solution it’s to say that the daughter was gaining excess weight and that he wants his daughter to be healthier and to live a more better lifestyle
@@TheGamingNerd-ve4wg No one is saying to coddle the daughter, but what he is doing will do way more harm than good. There are ways to go about these topics and he is as far from them as possible
@@TheGamingNerd-ve4wgJust speaking from real life experience, but “coddling” is often used freely since my mom told my dad that’s what he was doing about my weight, and fast forward she forced me into a bad eating disorder. And the daughter may not even be “fat”. When my mom did that to me, I wasn’t big in an unhealthy way at the slightest. I was quite fit but still had my own mother calling me a pig, so maybe that’s the same case. I’m not trying to be mean or rude, I just wanna shine light on another possibility.
@TheGamingNerd-ve4wg That's not how u deal with a fat child. You control and manage the issue. You put them into sports and ensure healthy foods in the home and don't cut out foods. EG If they have their biggest meal in the afternoon and have something healthier at night, along with afternoon sports or family walks etc, u stop them from seeing food as the enemy and using it to self medicate. Most people don't lose weight because of successful discussions on their weight; they lose it when they learn they're in a loving non-judgemental environment that prizes collective health
@@emo_lolz1013People usually see not being shamed or dealt with harshly as coddling
That never goes away, especially at that vulnerable age. My mom told me I was gaining weight when I was that age, and it took 30 years to realize I had no control over it back then since she was the one buying the food and feeding me. 😢 I just made me insecure from that point on.
The fact that your daughter is crying in her room and you're typing a story about it.... GO COMFORT HER!!!💗
No dinner for him, he probably needs to lose some pounds too and is projecting
Or maybe he is in shape and want a healthy life for his daughter but definitely said it in the wrong manner
Even if he's in shape, his choice to shame his own child like that speaks to his own insecurities 💯. You don't get that judgmental and harsh with a CHILD when you're a healthy, secure person. If his choice of words were an accident, he wouldn't have been so proud of himself when she ran off crying. Best way to ensure that your child is health conscious is to model it and offer support and *encouragement* when there's a problem.
@@denco37and the way he went about it is a good way to start eating disorders
@@goofy_goober-dk5bche still said it in the wrong way, but there are other ways to tell someone they're overweight, still the father definitely handled it terribly
in an edit, it said he isn't fit or athletic, but thin and out of shape.
OP says the daughter is chubby, but not overweight.
If HE actually cared about her, and he was concerned about her weight because it was actually affecting her health, he wouldent outright call her fat. He would actually try to help her.
He need help himself.
Exactly, and I hate how he told her that her not finishing her dinner is a "good way to start" because starving isn't a good method of losing weight in the long term
“Well that’s a start” is WILD 💀
No fr, he let ALL the intrusive thoughts win with that one 🤣
@@l0rdapophis I know this is a joke, but this is a friendly reminder that intrusive thoughts can't win because intrusive thoughts aren't your real thoughts and don't represent what you actually think/want to do.
@@XD-pl8qu I wasn't joking but okay
And he'd be the first to complain if she developed an ed
Being a bully to your child doesn’t help them, it harms them.
Well letting her be fat and be overweight forever and worthless might cause more harm..
Also letting your child eat themselves to morbid obesity is harming them not helping them, I would rather my child hate me and be healthy
@@shantanubhat2675that’s how you lose your child when they turn 18. Why not guide your child to improve their life instead of being like you’re so fat you know you’d be taller if you weren’t fat… like dude cmon
@@jadestar5692 it's very hard to do that when your wife is coddling your child and letting them eat how muchever they want, and If it came down to it, I'd rather my child hate me than be fat
@@shantanubhat2675 maybe actually helping your child instead of bullying them will actually do something. Such as the family cooks healthier meals and snacks for the benefit of the kid. Family activities for exercise like taking a walk or playing sports together could also help. You don’t want to help your kid, you just want an excuse to be a bully and mean. You want to put no effort into helping your child and say your are helping but really you’re just doing worse damage. You could end up giving your kid a binge eating disorder or anorexia which can kill your child and they would still hate you.
As a 14yo, if my dad said that to me it would have SHATTERED my self esteem, I would've probably developed some sort of eating disorder after that. Don't let people degrade others, it has more effect then you might think.
@@N3xxuN tldr overweight person cant handle a drop of criticism and is too lazy to go to the gym?
14yo too, I'm just surprised how sensitive some people are, and that's probably a good thing and I'm just probably too desensitized cuz my mom calls me fat all the time so I just don't care anymore lol.
@@zaytaz9331 i am sooo sorry you have to live with such a horrible mother
@@Cantmakeupmymindonaname Sometimes she's soft about it and gives me talks on how I should exercise, which actually makes me feel motivated. But then when she gets angry she yells all her actual feelings on having a fat ugly daughter like me which shatters all the trust I had in her, that she didn't judge me, now hearing the truth of what she really thinks about me. It hurts. But, oh well, I'm used to it. Good thing is I'm not actually self-conscious and insecure about my looks, I honestly don't care that much, but it's still kinda painful yk?
@@zaytaz9331 definitely, hugs 🤗
This is absolutely the opposite way to help your kid build a healthy relationship with food.
My dad called me fat and overweight when I was in 6th grade. Never forgot it. Never forgot the tone. Never forgot what he tasked me to do. Never forgot how awful I felt afterwards. Never forgot how shocked he was when I stopped helping him.
I would have thrown the husband out and said to the daughter, “ta da. You just lost 150 pounds in one night, let’s get some ice cream now!” 😂
She's a teenager, though? How do you expect that to work?
People like you are the reason childhood obesity is rising at such a dangerous rate, some times tough love is important, you guys are just way too soft🤦♀️
Mhm chuck out the 150 pound husband and take that girl to go get whatever food she wants
@@user-se1cc4fn1p yes yes so that she becomes a morbidly obese influencer 🤦♀️
Yeah my dad wouldn't be in my house for a quarter of the nights every year if it was your way which isn't bad
As a 13 year old girl I can’t imagine someone even hinting about my weight, let alone someone I love and respect outright shaming and verbally abusing me. My self esteem would be permanently shattered
Same here
Totally, also the fact that she wasn’t even overweight or unhealthy but more a bit chubby as it said on another post.
This happened to me, they didn’t straight out call me fat though, they were calling me chubby and that “hopefully I’ll loose weight when I’m older!” I was about 7-9.
100%
Maybe hes concerned. And it's not abuse. You all need to get a clue. Stop body positivity. Be honest with yourselves and do something about it. Don't let your kids be fat.
I’ve been fat shamed by both of my parents and they say it’s a joke when I informed them that it was affecting me mentally they said I should learn to take a joke
as "the daughter" i can tell you madam, its one of the many reasons why when i became an adult, i went no contact with him and low contact with the rest
as a teenager myself, we go through a shit ton. puberty, middle and high school, losing friends, finding our place in this world are what we go through during our teenage years. its hard being a teenage girl, and that isnt "looking out for her," that is verbal abuse.
And then, in a few years, you'll realize all of it was completely inconsequential and you'd wish you could back to those "hard" times".
Nah. Your just weak.
@@LecherousLizard Why would they want to back to insecurity or food/eating disorder to the point that they feel like they don't deserve food cause a stupid brain washed user from internet thinks they are fat and ugly (while they are not) and they are only worthy when "you" think they are beautiful? and always feel like they don't deserve anything and they are always ugly and never enough???? This not healthy, logical and right. so maybe, remain silent please.
I’m a teenage girl named Nico too
Divirce that man immediately. If he says things like this about your daughter, imagine what he will think about you if youre not up to his standards anymore one day.
Why marry him in the first place if you're going to divorce, plus it's probably not the first time he's tried to help his daughter loose weight, sometimes you have to show tough love, but divorce is so easy to People like you, that have no idea how a relationship works🤦♀️
He didn't even try? If he was that concerned he could help meal prep for her or go on walks with her instead of being a childish ahole to his kid, it is not rocket science to be a decent human being, divorce wouldn't be the answer though, maybe counciling or therapy since clearly if he thinks it is ok to fat shame he has some issue underneath from his childhood.
@@Nycithirose he probably tried all that, but the mom coddled her too much, so the dad had to be harsh, I'd rather my kid hate me than them be obese, and that's not rocket science
@@shantanubhat2675Do you know the concept of manipulation? Yk.... when people lie abt their personality?
@@shantanubhat2675Making fat jokes about your child isn’t helping them. If the dad was so concerned about his daughter’s weight he should’ve contacted a pediatrician, and scheduled an appointment to see what they can do to fix the issue. Not make jokes about her weight. Making jokes isn’t going to help the child mysteriously lose weight, it’s just going to make her self esteem low. Potentially leading to an eating disorder.
He's probably the same type of person to say "Why does my kid ignore me now?"
Ur speaking facts🗣️
Shaming is never the answer you can advise and encourage, but you need to be careful with those too
One day, ON MY BIRTHDAY, at dinner, my grandmother did something similar.
My mother had made my favorite food, spaghetti with pesto, my grandmother looked at me as I put the food on the plate and said "you eat so many sauces, that's why you're fat", I tried but I couldn't hold back the tears and I ran to the bathroom, I cried A LOT. That day I didn't eat the dinner that my mother made for me with so much love. I locked myself in my room and after my grandmother was very insistent I opened the door to talk to her, and do you know what she said?" I was just joking", since that day I have never been able to look at a sauce without thinking again "Am I fat?":(
Is 59kg too much for a 15 year old and 167cm girl?
Yes you are lol
@@Dominique-mq6suStop being rude it’s not funny.
@@Dominique-mq6su you're pathetic
@@Dominique-mq6su wtf not ok
@Dominique-mq6su bro that's not funny
"The fatter you are the shorter you get!" Is that why you are 1'2?
How did I get 92 Likes!?
HELP 💀😭
Why do you think he is 5'3
Shi you might be like rest of those keyboard warriors
as someone who is 5'3, I am offended at such thing, he's gotta be 1'2 at most
@@EvelynnVeryEpik Changed just for you
Someone who helped make her and care for her when she was a baby should be kind and living not f4ck!ng horrible to her
the day ppl realize shaming makes stuff like this worse is the day a lot of ppl will actually start getting better/healthier. if she does need to lose weight for her health this isnt the way to tell her bc it might lead to extremes on the opposite end of the
As a teen girl myself this is just horrible. My parents body shame me lots of times, and it’s just going to make her mental health worse. At this point I tried unaliving myself multiple times, I’m always insecure even thought I’m not that big, definitely not fat. I feel her pain, she’s going to feel horrible all the time and will never ever see herself the same way again. He just ruined her entire childhood. This poor little girl is never going to love herself… is never going to feel worthy or comfortable with herself, as someone who knows how it feels, shame on the dad. Just shame…
You are an amazing person dint ever think you don't deserve to be on this earth you have affected at least ten people in your life positively your body doesn't depict your character you were born for a reason don't forger that
@@sparkle_aesthetic if ur insecure maybe go to a gym. Being called fat is criticism especially by ur parents go to a gym get on a diet
girl don't listen to this prick above me. people like them can't comprehend the absolutely absurd idea that not all criticism is constructive, and don't seem to understand that your parents are supposed to HELP you. trust me, as long as your weight isn't causing you health problems (this goes for being underweight too) you're doin just fine. : ]
So sorry they have done that to you! I will wish the best for you!
@@vinnygee173 that is nasty leave ppl alone troll.
Bro, I swear, some people don’t understand the difference between height and weight. And seriously? Mocking a teenager over their weight??? That’s messed up. Smh 🤦🏻
What is messed up about it is that her weight has very little to do with her and more to do with her parents and the diet they allow her to have. That father is completely lacking in self awareness.
That’s the deepest scar husband did to his daughter and said he was right. Like what the fuck?
I get worrying about your child’s weight, as I was a very fat and unhealthy kid. My mom usually called me fat very often, and it made it worse. Seeing as I had no motivation to lose the weight, I instead ate and ate and I was probably way over the appropriate weight. Then finally, I snapped. I stopped eating unhealthy food, and instead, exchanged it for anorexia. Which, I have experienced both food disorders, and both are horrible. I stopped eating large amounts of food, and that resulted in me feeling more tired and fatigued, and that’s horrible. Thankfully I developed a healthy diet, but I’m still working on it. As I still feel guilty for eating, but I’ve been pushing through that problem.
What an amazing father! Fat shaming his 13 year old daughter. That absolutely will not tear down the daughter's self-esteem!
Low self-esteem leads to growth when channeled efficiently, midsets like yours is the reason obesity rates are rising so dangerously in the west🤦♀️
And she will have a very low chance to get depression or ED!
And you will have an amazing relationship
@@Lunar.3clipse.0 calling a person fat and “tearing” their self esteem just means that they cant handle a tiny bit of criticism
@@stefanie9697 dont know what a book got anything to do with emotions. Being hurt by being called fat is too sensitive. Its criticism and a fact
My dad did that too. He would look at my with disgust when I ate, would make comments when I put a lot on my plate (even if it was something healthy), would tell me I don't need ice cream when we were on holiday and everyone had one. I wasn't even that overweight, just a bit chubby. Which I grew out of within a year. I'll never be free of the anorexia.
You will be free one day
i believe in u
Tbh that’s how my dad is with me. He’s never called me fat but said, “ do you wanna end up like this 560 pound women?” for eating 3 lindor chocolates when I was 7-9 years old. When I was 11 he took me to a restaurant and me and my grandma were gonna share some chicken Alfredo and he said. “ you need to watch what your eating” that hurt me so bad and it still does to this day. I am 12 now and I haven’t liked my dad since but I still go with him and I’m still mad at him for saying that stuff to me. Listen I’m not trying to vent a lot but it’s so I can get it out of my chest. He told me I had “big monkey feet” just like he did. I am a little chubbier and I wear 6.5-7 it’s really not that big you know..? I still don’t like my body but i’m working on it now so then I can actually be confident and not let my own dad get under my skin like that.
Not SHE has to do something about it and it's not her fault if she's overweight. It's the parents responsibility to maintain her diet healthy.
I've been fat shamed by my family too , even though this caused me mental trauma and because of that i developed ED and lost weight but they still call me fatty and it is enough to destroy my day
They are toxic and should never speak to you like that! Wishing you the best.
you shouldnt call them your family, you dont deserve people that do nothing but make fun of you and cause you nothing but sadness, i hope that your doing better now :) 🫶🏻
Dang. Brings back memories.
Fr. Screw this kinda people, dawg, bet you are lit 🔥🖤
Same
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@@MoodyBluesRequiem80 that's kind tyy😭
If my dad said that to me I'd just say "yeah guess I took after you."💀
PERIOD
My father would be dead if he said that I promise
"Well the fatter you are the shoter you become" me being one of the tallest in my class and also being fat:guess imm skinny then
People who pride themselves for being brutally honest loves being brutal maybe even more than being honest.
Divorce him. And move on. I personally, wouldn't want someone like that to be my husband/partner. He basically showed his true colors.
and this is how an eating disorder starts
My dad has done this before but not this bad. For dinner one night, I had some spaghetti, and it was like the “healthy spaghetti” and my brother and my dad were having like, fish, and I’m allergic to seafood. My dad sits down and looks at my plate. Then he looks at me and goes “Real healthy, you should try a salad”. My mom was pissed! She says “Are you calling our 11 year old daughter, Fat???” He goes “Kinda” I was crying in my room and that’s when I stopped eating dinner recently. Nothing could fix that damage but then I do realized I was a little fat. But now I am happy with my body but will say, thank you for my dad looking out for me, but that was rude. Love U guys!❤❤❤❤Your body is beautiful just the way it is so don’t feel insecure about yourself!
Get a divorce and make sure the judge knows what he said about your daughter. You need protect your daughter from her jerk of a dad.
You and lots of people who liked your post have probably never been with someone more than 13 years
@@Lemonaid_Manwhy would you stay with someone like that tho
Someone: My boyfriend forgot it’s our 1/4 yr anniversary 😪
People like you: Break up, divorce, run, red flag, leave him
Seriously, have you ever been in a relationship? Divorce isn’t the answer to everything.
@@C_______a-49 do you want a dad who constantly fat shames you? Those are very different situations
@@C_______a-49Ikr. At least try counseling first
I am sorry your daughter had to experience this first-hand, and from a close family member, no less.
Something I've learned through the women in my life is that men tend to respond better to visuals. If they like something they are attracted to it visually. If not, they are repulsed by it.
Unfortunately, I don't think your child's father is the only one who will get under her skin like this. While it may hurt, and while it is wrong to treat her this way, I hope that this experience will still give your daughter the strength to not take everyone else's words to heart. She's a courageous girl and deserves every happiness ❤
My grandma used to always call me fat, or dumb, or useless (shes mexican) for the first 13 years, and said its so i can better myself, i moved away from her almost 2 years ago and i still have not and will not ever forget those words
I'm sorry I understand my brothers are the exact same way and it makes me want to cry almost every day and night because that's how often they say these things
“That, was the sound, of a FUCKING DIVORCE!!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAH”
HELLUVA BOSS REFERENCE??
@@Purpledevil-art YESS!!!!
@@Nico_DiAngelo YAYAYAYYAYAYAYAY
Yep she's definitely gonna have an eating disorder when she's older if her mom doesn't stop it. Keep your kids safe!
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Damn these divorce papers looking REALLG shiny today
Even if she was dangerously overweight, this kind of behaviour doesn't encourage healthy eating habits. It often pushes the person to the other extreme of striving themself, potentially to death. OP's husband is so selfish and idiotic, I hope he learns from this and becomes a loving father
Something me and my family have always been real about is that, if you start getting chubby, somebody(my mom) will sit down or find and alone moment with you to say something. It’s good to talk about it and stuff, being overweight is different then having some chub tho…
wow they were right. Stupid people will use anything to try to make some stupid things beautiful and logical. Like you really don't underestand whats going on? or what?
What your mom did is different than what this man did.
Skipping meals would never help a person to loose weight for long-term
Nah my dad literally does that all the time and my MOM, my 6 yr old SISTER, my AUNT, And both of my GRANDMAS too.
There's a difference between helping your child maintain a healthy weight and verbally abusing them. Those harsh and ignorant words will haunt her every time she eats or looks in the mirror now, and no apology will ever change that.
There’s a difference between helping your daughter lose weight, and literally bullying your daughter. Big difference.
Tbh, You ,as a adult, shouldn't comment on a child body like that. NEVER.
It's a basic thing.
The only thing that can show someobe need to lose weight is bmi and doctor. bully a child in a horrific way over a stupid excuse?... no.
That child was eating the same thing as her parents, why her insecure parent did that? Yeah.
As someone who is short and underweight, being short doesnt mean you are fat. Weight does not react to height. If you are fat and tall, it doesnt mean that what you ate made you who you are.
i was laying down, petting my dog. my dad poked my stomach and said “you should start working out, get rid of that pudge!” i will never forget it. ever. shit like that HURTS.
I SAW THE HUSBANDS POV IN A DIFFERENT VIDEO !!! I AGGREE WITH THE WIFE
What video was it
Gurl, one thing is wanting to your child to be healthy, another thing is fat shaming them!
This is the first time he called her fat, sometimes tough love is important
@@shantanubhat2675 this ain't tough love, this is abuse. Do better.
@@gothicvomit4894 no, it's not abuse, it would be if he berated her, or continuously called her fat and a pig, but this is literally the first time he has called her fat, and her reaction tells me that her mom has coddled the shit outta her, and she couldn't handle the reality of being fat
@@shantanubhat2675doesn’t matter if it’s the first time? Abuse doesn’t have to be continuous 🤦♀️
The day that you people underestand that being healthy=a healthy life style not being skinny
and you can called fat but not be unhealthy or be skinny but have some seroiuse health issuse like ed
AND YOU CANT TELL A KID NOT TO EAT ANY "FOOD" AND BODY SHAMED THEM IN A WAY THAT THEY STOP "EATING DINNER" AND CALL IT BEING HEALTHY
is my day.
L HUSBAND!! Soul is what matters, not the body! PLUS, SHE'S 13!!! Her body is going through changes and teenagers need lots of food! Bet she wasn't even that fat! And height has nothing to do with weight!!
Ik this sounds misogynistic but he’s a man child, he probably thinks if a girl is over 120lbs she’s morbidly obese (and meanwhile he’s probably twinning with Henry the 8th)
Childhood obesity is a plague, and while he didn't handle it that well, the message was absolutely spot on, people like you, who think children just grow out of bad habits, and coddle children are the reason childhood obesity rates is rising dangerously in the west
Ive said it once and ill say it again.
People need to start being questioned when they *want* children. Not when they dont.
Because way too many people who have them. Should not have.
Them words are like carved in your memory. I remember i was in yr 6 so like 10 years old. I was at my aunties house because it was like a family gathering. I was just with my cousins and playing and whatever, and my uncle was infront of me. He called out my name and tould me "eat less". I was just there like what do i do, what reaction do i even give to that as a 10 yr old? A few years later, im perfectly fit, that same uncle asks me if i eat. The fat i had as a 10 yr old was just baby fat. But the amlunt of exercise i did as a 10-12 year old is just crazy. A kid should never be tould such things.
This is going to be stuck in her head for the rest of her life. So sad.
Ladies and gentlemen welcome to.. The sound of a divorce🥰🥰
Ok Toby... your answer to everything is divorce so...
@@BitHeroes ??Toby??
Divorce should never be permitted, don't marry someone if you're not sure🤷
@@shantanubhat2675it absolutely should be permitted you never know if abuse neglect or adultery is happening.
@@jadestar5692 those are very rare cases, and also why tf would you marry someone who abuses you? You see, the mindset over marriage has changed, now marriage is not this permanent thing for life, it's a contract where you can leave whenever you want via divorce
Bro is the Dr Seuss of fat shaming 💀
Both my parents do that and they remind me everyday that I am ugly and that I shouldn’t love myself the way I am 😃😃
"well, you couldnt reach the cabinet because your so fat!" Was the mantra that summoned the divorce papers
Instead of verbally abusing her give her advice? L father
Damn me personally I wouldn’t let that slide
He didnt make her cry, he started giving her thoughts of not eating and developing an ed.
That is the absolute worst thing apparent can do to a child. When I was in high school my way flexuated between a 105 and 110 pounds. I'm not even 5 feet 2 inches and I had to listen to my mother every day telling me that I was fat. She never did in front of anyone but she would always do it a newer alone and when confronted about it should flat out tonight doing it. She was over 200 pounds. My younger sister was bigger than me and she was never told she was fat. Just me.
Hope you got away from her you didn't deserve such treatment but always remember your amazing and you have people that love you and even if you dont in your life yiu have me have an amazing day❤
The favoritism and hypocrisy is honestly crazy. What happened to you was absolute BS. You didn't deserve to be the only one called fat when your sister was bigger. And the fact that your mother was also (likely, based on the info you gave) on the bigger side, and STILL shamed you? Absolutely outrageous. The worst part is, she was probably projecting, too. 🙄
@@wendyvermette9095 womp womp learn to handle criticism and go to a gym
Divorce👏Him👏Right👏Away👏
No one should do that to a child and as a 13 year old girl who thinks she’s over weight that can kill someone’s confidence
Why do you people always jump to divorce, like the mindset around a marriage has changed from "life partner" to "I'll divorce his ass at the slightest inconvenience "and it's honestly appaling
@@shantanubhat2675the fact that you would still stay with a child abuser says more about you than anything else. May God protect any children that you have
@@shantanubhat2675are you f serious?
@@LisJohnson90210 absolutely
@@victoriakiteley8337
Oh hell no. May God not give this person children to begin with.
This person is either gonna stay in the abusive relationship or BE the abusive person.
Crazy cuz I would’ve flew across the damn table the moment he said the word “fat”
Even if she was obese, there were so many better ways to address the issue.
If she's eating too much due to stress, or depression, having her own dad dump on her like that will make it worse.
ngl i feel like the dad looks like caseoh 2.0
STOPPP 😭💀
@@Brownieboy2.0 nuh uh:3
@@frogy_914 I was amused 😅
@@Brownieboy2.0 :3
Im the same age as the daughter and Im really skinny and im still short asf, height has NOTHING to do with weight. What her husband said won't help at all and it's absolutely disgusting, if anything it will cause eating disorders. She should divorce him asap
"The fatter you are you are the shorter you get"
Me:😭 no wonder I'm short-
Im kidding
If someone said this to me, ESPECIALLYY PARENTS, it would be the turning point in my life.
my dad was and is like this (minus the delusions about height) and it gave me horrible relationships with both him, my body and food
Dont mind people like that your body is amazing and you are amazing he is an asshole who didn't deserve you and don't be ashamed of what you eat.if it makes you happy do it
Im happy my friend Avah doesn't have parents like this. she's on a diet and says she's "ugly" and "fat", ive been eating more so i can become just as chubby as her so she will feel better about herself. Ive also been asking for dora the explorer haircuts to make myself ugly so she will KNOW she's prettier than me! Avah is outright GORGEOUS, she has wavy blond hair and bright greenish bluesh eyes
that's the nicest, yet stupidest thing ever, but at least your a good friend
Thanks
Stupidest thing I've seen today, please save yourself🙏
nah what 😭
@@hehehehe_ra this 💯 this
I will never understand family thinking making rude comments like that is "helping". Why not cook healthy for the whole family and find an activity your child enjoys when they are young. Simply being critical of a child that doesn't even purchase the groceries isn't helpful. Plus giving a child low self esteem usually will have the opposite effect of what you're trying to achieve.
Hhehehehe personally….. not my husband no more😝
The dad is just flat out wrong. I have a thyroid condition and am categorically overweight, and yet I’m just under 6 foot. It’s even worse when his claims are totally false.
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Divorce him. He has no right to say that to his daughter.😕
He failed biology class AND as a father all in one go
that would be grounds for a divorce. the compromise is marriage counseling and training with a nutrition coach for the dad. and no getting fat doesn't make you short.
Womp womp gorlock the destroyer💀
Low iq kids nowdays:
💀
Time to ✨divorce✨ and get full custody
As she should😌
And that's how only he is going to end up in the old folks home.
Even if shes over weight and unhealthy, as a parent you definitely shouldn't approach like that 💀
Okay I’m hearing a lot of hate for the dad, but like they never mentioned how heavy she actually was, like if this was a situation where she has gained like 20+ pounds over like a couple months as much as that wasn’t the way to handle this maybe she does have a weight problem that needs to be considered…
I was thinking the same how much over weight are we taking about 😅.
If you don't stop a bad habit in is tracks is get even harder to break overtime and perhaps the mom is not cuddling her but enabler to it.
But if that the case he should have a serious take instead of making passive aggressive comments.
@@EuleMiyu couldn’t have said it better myself
Yeah so just because YOU think someone (a child) is fat you should try to bully them?😂
and also who would thinks height is connected to weight but a stupid person?
omg you body shame people don't use their brain. That man never will be a good father. okay?
Also you really think make a 13yo kid insecure and destroy their mental health and body shaming them will "HELP" them lose weight? 😂 WHAT???
Omg, you guys are really sick.
maybe next time you should really reserach the data that social media washed your brain with.
We doesnt need to mention the daughters weight to say what he said was stupid and abusive.😊
My dad was the worst. He is narcissistic, he has anger issues, a drinking problem and some more. He has sometimes made slight comments about my body (I’ve always been heavier since I was a baby. 1, most of it was genetics and 2, when I got a bit older I resorted to food as a coping skill when my dad would scream at me or just be a jerk. I mean this man caused serious panic attacks for me starting when I was in 1 st grade. Got the point where I was going to the nurse every single day and doctors started to think I had asthma since I would have these panic attacks multiple times a day. So you see how horrible this man was) despite all of these things, I still craved my dad’s love and affection. After all he was still my dad.
I will never forget one day (also side note I have an older sister and two half younger siblings, one male one female. I was really close with my younger sister.) anyways one day my dad was being a complete a hole to everybody because he was mad about something he was doing outside. He was building something and he had to start over a bunch of times. He came inside one time and I was making my self a bagel with butter as both of my sisters were talking to me and we were all laughing and having fun. He started yelling at everybody for no reason and as soon as he was leaving, he turned to me, his face red and dripping with sweat as it was hot outside, and he said,
“ You know (my name) you don’t have to ALWAYS be eating all the time” then he eyed me up and down.
My heart was shattered. I tried my very best not to cry since my little sister was right there but I couldn’t hold it in. Tears were pouring down my face and I bent down to my little sisters height and asked her if she wanted held of my bagel. She said yes but then asked why I was so sad. I said I wasn’t sad and then told her to go play with my older sister. After that I ran to my room and cried myself to sleep after eating half of my bagel.
I don’t even think my dad remembers this happening but I will. I remember this until the day I take my last breath. This all happened when I was in 5th grade. And even though I was overweight for my age, I was still very active. Always playing outside or doing chores since I lived on a farm.
I grew up short and overweight, and while I was judged and bullied about it by people at school, home was a place I did not have to worry about any of that. My mom was the same way, to the point of being put on diets by the age of six, which caused her a lot of problems and ruined her relationship with food and her body, which she is still trying to repair today. She taught me that self worth and beauty is not in any way tied to weight, and when I did eventually end up developing body dysmorphia during lockdown, she supported me through it and reminded me that it wouldn’t last forever. I’m 17 now, and I’ve grown out of that phase my of life. I’m not skinny by any means, but I’m an average size and due to the extra curricular activities I’ve picked up, I’ve also become pretty muscular. All that to be said, a child that young should not have to worry about their weight, and often times, especially as you get taller and your body shape changes with puberty, weight can fluctuate and even out. I have weighed the same for several years at this point, but each year I look different and that is not reflected by the number on the scale. As humans, and especially as women, it is important to remember that our bodies are always changing, and that it is a good thing. The damage done by this comment to your daughter has just taught her the opposite of all of this, and I can only imagine how much her life has just been altered within the span of the minute it took for you to say of all of this. Shame to you.