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It’s lovely that Sarah has had such positive pregnancy and birth experiences and it’s wonderful to hear so much positivity HOWEVER ladies please know it’s OK not to be OK, it’s OK not to enjoy your pregnancy, it’s OK if you had a difficult birth, it’s OK to not want to be intimate with your partner at ANY point, and it’s OK if you struggle post birth, this is normal and does not make you a failure as a woman, a partner or a mother ❤️
10000% true. I have had 6 babies and all were different, some i felt like a beautiful butterfly and others i could barely get off the couch and make meals.. forget sexy time 😆
Well said 👌
NOT SCARING NEW MOMS is sooo important. Tbh hearing women talk about the messy/medical parts of birth was like research to me and was never scary but felt informative. HOWEVER, when mother in laws and older women say things like “just wait, you’re gonna be SO tired! You think it’s hard now with one kid? Wait til you have another! Wait til you ‘lose’ your cute figure, wait til your boobs sag!” Those negative comments were very annoying for me to hear and it’s like some older women said to me “congrats!” And then followed with some horrible negative “advice”.
Things about PPD, tearing, c sections, labour etc never worried me as much as that negative energy older more “experienced” moms would put out. I’m all for realism and having reasonable expectations, but I think there is a lot of negativity that people try to file under that adjective that just isn’t helpful as a new mom IMO
I agree with you. I think in pregnancy it's helpful to know the medical stuff, things that can possibly go wrong so its not such a shock if it were to happen. I don't agree with the 'just you wait' stuff. With my last and this pregnancy, I had the worst pregnancy insomnia and felt like rubbish. People said with my last (even though it was my second baby and knew what I was getting myself into) about the sleepless nights, and get rest when you can. That annoyed me so much as I just couldn't sleep! You know what though, I'm glad for the pregnancy insomnia as I was very well prepared for the sleepless nights and actually didn't feel so bad! No-one says anything to me this time or tries to give me any advice as they know I probably know better than them about pregnancy birth and newborn life haha
@@alanad5577 preach about the insomnia. It sucks but it serves a purpose in preparing you lol.
@@jamie7002 I always say that it can happen but it doesn't happen to everyone and it doesn't happen in every pregnancy. It didn't happen with my first, I slept so well in that pregnancy but really suffered with sleep deprivation when she was born! It could have been that it was my first baby rather than the lack of insomnia 😆
This %100!!!!!
Yeah a lot things I know should me reality of being pregnant and having kids and made come to the conclusion that having kids isn't for me
I think sharing the “bad stuff” in a certain way (dramatic, “just you wait and see” etc) is bad. But I think it’s important to be realistic and not hide the negative because then people feel abnormal when they start to experience the negatives of pregnancy, birth and postpartum.
Agreed. It's important to know the risks, and to know about things like baby blues and post natal depression. Being informed is always best.
I'm pregnant with baby number 3 and since I had post natal depression with my second, I want to make sure I'm on the look out this time around.
I never felt scared hearing bad things it helped me set realistic expectations. I wanted to go in thinking it was going to be awful then finding it wasn't so bad! Lol. Made me feel stronger. That's just me. I think it's all about preference and personality.
I totally agree. That seems so ignorant. No one can decide what their experience Will be-and no new mom should feel guilty for not having an AWESOME PP experience. So so ignorant :(
Me! I had a very a typical healthy pregnancy! I labored naturally to 9cm until I couldn’t anymore ...my waters broke prematurely . Ended in c section that really had a sad and hard effect on me mentally... accepting the outcome and feeling very alone. Thankfully I heard these other moms stories and it made me feel not so alone. Same with postpartum body Image. I look like I’ve had twins haha and blamed myself even though I was healthy. So I def think moms should guard themselves. We can’t predict our labor and we can’t really assume it will go typically either. It’s unpredictable !
@@helenanoelle1 I completely agree. Such a foolish statement. Every woman’s body is different and reacts differently to birth
Telling new moms nothing but positive things can also be damaging. No one told me anything negative that could happen so when ppd hit me it felt like a ton of bricks! I honestly wish someone had warned me. Postpartum life is not awesome. I’ve literally never heard not a single person say that.
True.... people told me about all the physical stuff...ppd totally blindsided me and it has taken so long to work through most of it. And I want to talk to new moms about watching out for it... and yet I’m like I don’t want to bring them down? Idk it’s weird.
I agree!! I wish I had someone tell me how hard post partum can be emotionally. I felt like I was failing as I had a very hard time and it seemed like others were breezing through it. Very lonely feeling.
No one said anything about “fear mongering”? I always like to just tell to be moms that being a mother is the hardest and most rewarding thing you will ever do. And just give a heads up about ppd.
Honestly I had to turn the video off after she said pp was awesome for the 100th time. It was for lack of a better word kind of triggering because my experience was not awesome. It was hard, it was miserable, and there was hardly any support from my doctor..just a prescription. Everyone has a right to express how amazing or not amazing their experience was, I just wish there was either a trigger warning or sensitivity to the fact that there are moms watching that are going through painful postpartum experiences. 💕
So F***** true. No one told me I will stay 2 days in reanimation with 101737 needles in my hands, I will bleed nearly to death and after all when my milk came and I didn’t knew what to do one of the nurses squeezed me so hard that my nipple turned blue. The diastases recti, hernia, hair falling(I knew for that), nipple rig-ads and ppd were the bonus.
To be positive at the end: yes I had an ok pregnancy and a beautiful baby.
It's so nice to hear a woman go from "being done" to wanting more children. Usually on the internet when woman talk about being done with having children it comes with a lot of negativity. I'm loving watching you change your mind in a healthy and positive way.
Youngest of six here! Theres "two sets" of us too, which we appropriately call the big guys and little guys. Growing up with five siblings that will always be my friends and being able to look up to them is one of the biggest blessings in my life!
7th of 9 and same! My mom can us the first litter and the second litter. 😂
I am the 2nd of for and I loved having siblings, to this day they are the most precious thing to me, and I could not imagine having just one kid, I hope god will bless me with at least 3 and that I will be able to give them the best start in life inchallah ❤️ I pray for you that you have a healthy babe, and that everything goes well for you mama, and the rest of your tribe
Same here! I’m the 3rd out of 6. And my mom had the first three close together and then the second set of three. I love being from a large family. We are all so close.
I would love to have 5-6 kids too ❤️ Currently have 3 😊
Can you please do a “products I use while I’m pregnant” like skin care, body care and stuff like that?
Yes this! I’d love to know what healthy skin care you are using free of harmful ingredients.
She mentioned some in her latest minimalism video. I can't remember what all they were, but she definitely mentioned the body cream
She pretty much already did this in a recent video. Basically she doesn’t get a lot but there are a few key things she gets.
I think it’s important for women to have the access to different pregnancy experiences if they want the information. In a world where mental health is finally being talked about more it is so important to validate all of the mothers who have had terrible pregnancy, birth, and postpartum experiences. Women who did not enjoy their pregnancy feel a tremendous amount of guilt and talking about difficult pregnancies is validating their experience and helps them to feel less alone. I agree that people should not intentionally scare new mothers on purpose but sharing experiences is important. Imagine only hearing positive experiences about pregnancy and then experiencing a very difficult pregnancy or suffering from postpartum depression. That could be emotionally, mentally, and even physically devastating. You describe pregnancy as training for a marathon, that training can also come with preparing yourself that it may not be a perfect experience, it may be difficult, and that’s okay. All mothers deserve validation on both sides, no mother should feel guilty for enjoying their pregnancy experiences and no mother should feel guilty from struggling because of their pregnancy experience.
I think it also really depends on the kind of person you are. If you know you’re going to do better if you are prepared to deal with anything that can happen. But some mothers are going to freak themselves out by watching content about negative pregnancy experiences, but that’s on them to take good care of themselves. I think it’s wonderful when people talk about their pregnancy and postpartum life, even when they had a horrible experience because it validates the women who are going through that right now like you said. I just don’t want women blaming themselves for having a bad pregnancy or not enjoying themselves while being pregnant, so it’s really important to keep talking about how not everyone has a great pregnancy.
I felt soooooo guilty about my labor! It wasn’t that painful at all! I had one moment when I thought “OMG THIS IS HARD I CANNOT DO THIS ANYMORE” it was like a minute before my midwife said that baby is coming right now ;) It was fast, it was wonderful and empowering. And I heard after “what can you know about delivering a baby if your labor wasn’t painful and it took less than four hours” 🤦♀️ I felt almost like good labor stories are not welcomed, like more labor horror stories you have, the better.
I totally understand not wanting to scare new moms! However, I will say that I felt totally unprepared for how challenging my post partum healing was. I did wish I had heard more stories of people who had a bit of a harder time so that I didnt feel like there was something wrong with me.
YES! Same thing happened to me, absolutely no-one told me how hard it could be and I was totally unprepared. While I agree that you shouldn't ''scare'' new moms, I think you should be mindful that a lot of people (dare I say even MOST people) don't have an amazing or easy going post partum experience...
I agree, but i also feel like we live in a culture that is less about "hey this is normal, it's totally okay you will get through this... but this is how it is" and more "THIS SUCKS I HATE THIS AND SO WILL YOU!!" It's almost like a scar tactic to stop people from having kids rather than having a realistic understanding of how things are.It's like we are over correcting from when we were told pregnancy is magical and "glowing" by using harsher language than needs to be. in my early teens i started seeing the over correction and while i knew i wanted to be a mom one day it scared me to the point of not wanting to get pregnant at all bc of how people described it. Now i'm 29 and never had any kids and my husband and i are planning our first right now... but that's bc i looked into all the "horrible" things people said to me when i was a teen and realized it was simply a natural part of pregnancy. most people go through unpleasant pregnancy symptoms but they are natural and normal... so I agree we shouldn't hide the truth but i also feel like we are in the time of over correcting and using the wrong language to describe natural parts of pregnancy.
Exactly it’s important it’s not scaring new moms when you tell the TRUTH it’s not scary because someone’s birth story is traumatic doesn’t mean your birth will🌸💕
I saw so many positive birth stories on RUclips but also knew anything bad could happen. I was still not prepared for it. Everyone said whatever u go thru, seeing ur baby would make it all worth it and when i didn't feel like that, i thought something was really wrong with me. I was actually mad that all these women said how beautiful birth was because i didn't feel like that and i wished someone would have explained more about not feeling connected to baby, tearing, postpartum depression and care. Also pelvic floor therapists are amazing!
AHHHH KIERAN ADDING THE LITTLE HELP THING IN THE BEGINNING THERE IS ACTUALLY AWESOME XD
@@SarahTherese I was dying with laughter xD also I'm soo happy that your going to have another kiddo that's so amazing
what help thing?
@@filzamahmood3347 go to 1:00 and watch near her shoulder lol
@@lydia1306 lmao thanks
When I was having my first I was really tired of people telling me how miserable I was going to be. 🙃
Absolutely!!! Im 31 weeks with my first and feeling Absolutely amazing and ppl tried to scare me about swelling, weight gain, acne etcetc...I've had none of this. I was very discreet about who we shared our pregnancy with...literally only like 12ppl know bc I don't want the negativity from other moms.
For people wondering about working out during pregnancy : mama doctor jones recently made a video about it. She’s an OBGYN here on RUclips and makes among other things educational content having to do with pregnancy.
Umm personally, I had a mum who shared the positive only. So when I became pregnant I felt not normal and morr upnormal through postpartum so sometimes knowing how things are positive + negative helps too!
Definitely a lot of truth to that, I had never heard of all the variations of pregnancy experiences, not even from IVF friends they just saif -oh its a piece of cake, you wont even notice the shots etc. It was all glowy rosy and lovely pregnancy stories from everyone, sort of like Instagram makes it out to be, so when I hit one complication after the other it was crushing my self-confidence and I felt ashamed at first for my body failing (I had 5 surgeries for IVF complications in my abdominal area in the first trimester drawing 4 gallons of fluids out) then I bled for 7 weeks from hematomas one above each twin, then half my hair fell out due to anemia, my organs failed and inflamed and I was hospitalized and then both babies got IGUR (growth restriction) and those oh so easy shots were actually horriffic, leaving massive bruises and made me SO loopy and moody and odd feeling. Oh man, it was a full-on surprise from beginning to end, I wouldnt have it undone, actually, this was our road to experience, but it was certainly a surprise, well the end is in 14 days so we will se what more we have install.
Yup!
Agree! My mother always told me how much she loved being pregnant and that she wished she could feel pregnant forever and I expected to have a similar experience. It could not have been more opposite and I felt guilty for not enjoying pregnancy. I tried my best to like it and not complain at the time. My son is so worth it and I still want more children. 🙏Praying I get my mother's blissful experience next time!
Same with my mom. I always thought ro prepare myself for bad stuff anyway, so when I got pregnant I knew that my experience could be totally different from hers, but things went well. My sister, however, was expecting the same great experience mom told about and was so disappointed for several months when she was constantly nauseous and tired, and could barely manage to eat anything else than junk food. It was to the point that she was saying she didn't think she wanted the baby any more. It's important to know that people can have very different experiences, that it's nirmal and that you're not the first one experiencing the things you are.
It’s true - there are a lot of things mentioned that are lovely if you have the choice to carry on as normal but if you’ve had miscarriages and complicated pregnancies you often don’t have the options for all the ‘normal’ things like exercise, intimacy, getting excited about meeting your new baby without medics telling you it can still go one way or the other, planning for future siblings/timings. If you’ve never had an uncomplicated pregnancy or birth or never yet been able to have a successful pregnancy, it completely changes the experience even if you then went on to do so and is hard to relate to a lot of the stuff people tell you is great about being pregnant.
Every pregnancy's is so different, no one can compare theirs to yours. I think we like to relive it so we share our stories. Yet, only say the positive.
Thanks for your “don’t scare new moms!” disclaimer! I’m 15 weeks with my first and all I’ve seen on different pregnancy apps is the negative - the pregnancy losses, the bad labor experiences, negative views on postpartum...
It’s so refreshing to see someone so positive about it!
All experiences are valid though. Space for it all, but you definitely have to be mindful of what you let in and how it impacts your energy.
I'm currently 13 weeks pregnant with my first and I'm a physician so I know all the scary stuff that can happen cuz you know medical school :-p But I feel like a lot of people nowadays talk/make videos about the negative stuff surrounding pregnancy/postpartum/newborns and then say 'nobody talks about this', when all I feel like is EVERYBODY is talking about it. Meanwhile they forget to talk about the good stuff. Honestly it sometimes gets me down because you can almost start believing that there is nothing positive anymore about having children. I do realize this is partially the hormones and severe nausea talking but still. So thank you for being so positive, it's helping me.
Thank you for not making pregnancy a disease and birthing a horror story. Our body is an amazing machine, pregnancy was average for me , only cos lm super short , l have said many a times that l thoroughly would Labor 10 times over and people say lm nuts. I listened to my body and my birthing experience was so incredible, yes it hurt but boy what an ending a healthy beautiful baby at the end. Please ladies tell the beauty of it, it doesn't always have to be a horror story.
I must say this is the first time i’ve heard someone say that postpartum was “the best”..🧐
I LOVE the postpartum period. It's so magical. ❤️
Take advantage of people helping you. I remember I was shy to ask for help even to my mom. And its crazy, because people actually feel so good to help you during this time. They almost take it as a privilege that you chose them to help in this very special time....
I wish she talked about how privileged she is... she has a good home, stay at home job, and a supportive husband which of course makes postpartum easier for her. A lot of women are working moms, husbands gone at work or not in the picture, financially set back, etc. She sounded like she was bragging that her postpartum is sooo easy and fun. I also wish she linked or talked about some support services for women who have PPD or mental health issues
I completely see your perspective. I wonder though if Sarah is the kind of person who can see beyond herself and her own circumstances. She is an able bodied white woman with all of the privileges you mentioned. She may not be aware of her own privilege. She may not be aware that people live very differently from her and therefore is unable to offer resources and support. Mama Alia is a great mom RUclipsr with a much more realistic and mature view of the world and motherhood if you're interested is more relatable content. 💕
As a mum who was a single mum for the first 6 months I agree and I completely cringed when she was bragging to everyone about how great postpartum life is. 🥴 Postpartum life has difficulties for many / most women but the key is that God gives grace for it in any situation - that needs to be the message. Sarah probably just lacks some empathy on this topic. But I don't have a problem with it - I just think mums/pregnant ladies who don't have her lifestyle or who are realists just should choose not to watch her videos at all!
I was the same way with my son. I didn’t want to know what I was having until baby came out. Best surprise ever. We don’t get to have many surprises in life and why not keep this one to yourself for a moment. What a great time between myself and my husband with the final push and Denver came out. Blessings, love and light to you and your growing family ❤️❤️❤️
I really love your mindset about pregnancy and postpartum live. So important to guard your mind and heart. There ist so much scary and negative stuff about everything child-related.
Yes! I had so much fear of birthing because of all the horror stories that were shared with me, even before I was married! So glad I listened to my fair share of positive birth stories in pregnancy and was able to get over that fear and have a birth opposite of the horror stories. Now, I always share with pregnant mamas that it doesn’t have to be a horrifying experience, even if birth doesn’t go the way you wished it did.
Yes!! Listening to positive birth stories and hearing from my midwife how most of the ladies they care for, that choose to have a home birth, never need to go to the hospital at all was huge in helping me feel more confident that my body too was made to do this. I didn’t realize that there are so many ladies that are perfectly fine and can deliver babies naturally at home and loving it. It gave me the courage to decide on a home birth with my first and I loved it!!
And the thing is I really wanted to go with a home birth but it felt so foreign to do that because a lot of the women in my community that I know don’t. And often the stories are shared where things didn’t turn out great and many many positive ones get buried and so we lose confidence that GOD CREATED OUR BODIES TO DO THIS like Sarah said. And that can make the experience of labor and birth, whether at home or hospital much more frightening.
@@utjethiessen yes I agree with you 100%!🙌🏻 I was the first out of my family and relatives (and being Ukrainian, I have a TON) to have a unmedicated water birth and I’m so glad be able encouragement to friend and family who’ve yet to have babies☺️
*an *to be encouragement *friends 🤣🤦🏼♀️
I am here two years later because my husband and I are talking about having our fourth and final child. I just want to say that there is a reason people share the negative post partum stories. My youngest is 7.5 years of age and only a few months ago I finally pulled out of a deep depression that I now believe 100% was post partum. Everyone around me had something to say but now looking back and knowing what I felt in my darkest moments and how I struggled to give my daughter the love I can give her now.... I wish someone would have talked to me about it and I wish I would have looked. It is important for women to support each other no matter the outcome.
I would love to see a pregnancy work out video from you! Maybe talking about how you modify things as the pregnancy progresses 🙏
I have three boys and we didn’t know gender before any of them. It is the most amazing feeling in the world and no one can be disappointed when you bring your baby up on your chest and get to meet them for the first time!!!! 😁
I’m a Nanny with 2 Nanny girls (5&7) and a new Nanny baby boy born this year.
Every time I watch your videos I wish sooooo much my nanny parents were more like you and Kieran!
You’re such a great Mum, so organised and productive and bright. So loving and empathetic towards your babes.
Sending so much love x x x
I had two separate doctors at two separate clinics who just blurted out the genders at 4 months pregnant, that so ruined it for us as we wanted to be surprised, and not only did one doctor keep saying it to me but after I thought 'its ok I can still surprise my fiance' But oh no I found the doctor out there telling him -congrats you are having two girls! But guess what, it turned out our babies were a boy and a girl hahaha =) So we got SO surprised anyway.
In my opinion is absolutely cute when you think about “age gap” and “two sets” of kids because it’s gonna be 2,5 year. It’s seven between me and my sibling and I’ve never thought we are from different set 😂
I thought the same thing, there’s 5 years between my children! And 21 years between my husband and his youngest sibling (there’s 7 of them tho)
Exactly ! 2,5 year difference its not even a gap. It takes at least 10 years to have a real generational gap. But at the same time, Sarah is very young. Her relation to age gaps is in proportion with her age😂
Agreed! I have a 13 and 11 "set" and a 2 1/2 and hoping to get pregnant (infertility sucks or I would've already had a baby by now). But even if we got pregnant soon the second "set" would be at least 3 or 4 years apart.
100% agree, 2.5 years is completely normal! My 4 siblings and I were all around that far apart, and we were all close growing up.
With my daughter I had to be induced but everything else was 100%natural and I remember them putting her on my chest and me crying saying "I prayed for you" now she is almost 2 and I still pray for her!
To me it's actually the other way round. Knowledge takes away fear. The more I know the less I'm scared. What I don't like is pushing others down with negativity so yeah, I kinda get it.
“There are holes in my shirt and an acne spot on my face,” I feel you, Sarah! 😂❤️
We agreed on 4 but I always wanted 6. Our kids are 26, 25, 23 and 22 and I still regret not have 2 more. I still struggle feeling like something is missing.
You could still adopt or Foster. I know that almost all people Who have their own Kids and then Foster have their own Kids be a bit older. You are a mama and if you feel as though something is missing then I think it is totally worth it. ❤️
I remember my midwife giving me a postpartum care book that listed diastasi recti exercises to do starting third day postpartum. At my six week postpartum check I was already pretty much healed up. The sooner the better was the lesson learned. 😊
Sarah, I don’t think you’re crazy at all! My husband and I hope the Lord blesses us with NINE KIDS! 😂 but we are hoping to adopt them, even though I’m pregnant with a surprise baby!
I’m one of nine and i luv it! My mom not only birthed us all but also homeschooled each of us while running a business😅 she’s amaaazing
So conclusion, you are Not crazy 😂
@@emmatully1313 sooo admirable , how was homeschooling ? Im so curious about it
@@emmatully1313 I am the second of ten kids & also was homeschooled! I love it!
Joelle
My piano teacher was homeschooled as one of eight kids. They're devoted Christians. She says she loved it too.
Pregnant with my 6th! We have “two sets” of kids! Older kiddos are 16, 14, and 10. And then 2, 1 and newborn in May 2021!
Having read most of the horrors on the internet, I went into my first pregnancy with so much fear and terror that I have no words. And so far things are going so so well. Women are not doing themselves a favour by overreading because there isn’t much you can do anyways.
I'm pregnant with my 4th and I'm scared of labor because those 3 times were so painful and hard. Please pray for me, Sarah.
good luck!!!
This is nothing your body can’t handle. So yes it is painful and hard, but you are strong and your body is made for this. And when you’ve gone through all the pain a beautiful angel babe is there to greet you when it’s over. You’ve got this 💪🏻💪🏻
Thank you so much for your positivity!!! So nice to hear positive pregnancy and labor stories with all the negativity going around. I’m having my 2nd (home birth) and I’m so excited! Your home birth video was such an encouragement! 💕 We were made for this!
Empowering women it’s not just telling them “birth and postpartum are amazing”. Birth has a potential of being traumatic, that’s why it’s really important to be informed, to know all the scenarios and to prepare ahead of time. Just being “positive vibes, it will be fine!” It’s not enough.. Knowledge is power! Not all women have the privilege of birthing at home or with their partners especially in this COVID times.. pregnant women or even the ones that gave birth already and didn’t have the best experience.. it’s ok! You can heal! The scary birth stories and vlogs are the ones that helped me heal from my experience, and helped me process my birth.. I really recommend Sarah Lavonne’s channel, it’s a great resource!
Thanks for sharing Sarah😍 I’d like to see one of a full workout you usually do while pregnant. Especially during the first trimester cause I feel like it’s at that time that many women are scared to move and scared of miscarriage. Thanks much love ❤️
I am so happy for you that your body has done what it should, but mine never has. I have felt every time that my body failed me.
Baby 1: water broke, labored for 12 hours with zero change. Was still not effaced at all and dilated to a 1. I needed cervidil and pitocin. I finally pushed him out after 36 hours of labor.
Baby 2: refused to come out, needed induction. After 16 hours, 3 of which my cervix kept getting to an 8/9 and then going back, I needed a csection. She was in the wrong position, my doctor tried turning me so many ways to get her out, but she wouldn’t come and her heart kept deceling.
Baby 3: water broke, labored at home until contractions were 4 minutes apart, went to hospital. Walked the halls, bounced on the ball for hours. No change. After 12 hours we started pitocin. I made very very slow change. Got stuck at a 9 for 4 hours, then suddenly my contractions were gone and I was in excruciating pain in my abdomen. I was rushed for a csection where it was discovered my uterus ruptured.
I also tried for months to get my milk in with each child and it never happened. I couldn’t breastfeed any of them 😔
I think I’m pregnant still too soon to to test though. I’m excited but don’t want to give my hopes up.
Yay!!! I have my fingers crossed. Please let us know. 😉😁🤗❤️
I love your channel and I mostly love your outlook on things, but gently and lovingly, I think it's equally as detrimental to only express the sunshine and roses. I had no idea going into my first labor that I'd be a 'seven c-sections in 10 years' mama, but good golly, that surgery gets my babies here and ALIVE, so I will never ever EVER complain (I have several in Heaven, including two full-term stillbirths). I'm glad your postpartum life is amazing and magical, I would never wish anything else for anyone...but it's not always rainbows and unicorns and I honestly wish I would have been better prepared for that.
Thank you for reminding us that an unmedicated birth can be wonderful! I am currently 33 weeks pregnant with my first and I’m looking forward to an unmediated labor. But I feel kind of naïve feeling so excited because people tell me I’m going to change my mind in the moment. It’s very annoying
My first was unmedicated at home and for me it was an intense experience...but not bad at all!! The physical pain is there...but honestly it's mainly a mental thing. Going into it knowing your body knows exactly what to do, and there is no reason to fight the pain is super empowering. 😊 I hope everything goes amazingly!! Soon you'll have that little one in your arms ❤️
I’m with you on the gender reveal...I wouldn’t want to know until birth.
I’ve watched you Sarah grow into a wonderful godly woman, wife and mom and always keeps me inspired. I’m so happy that you love being pregnant and that you’ve had a smooth ride on your post partum. However, like many people here have already commented, I think it’s important to be exposed to the reality of pregnancy, birth and postpartum on their good and ugly side. The three whole journeys can be completely unexpected and if you only heard the “good” sides of it, when things don’t go the way you expect, you will think there’s something wrong with you. I’m all for staying positive and trusting that God will be in your favor to every answer you ask for but sometimes that won’t be the case.
From personal experience, I had a beautiful pregnancy and an awesome home birth but my post partum was not what I wanted, hoped for or expected. It was hard and it’s taken over a year to finally let go of many things.
All this to say, everyone will experience their journeys different and it’s okay not to be ok sometimes.
It’s helpful to be balanced! Don’t make pregnancy out to be the BEST or the WORST. There are good and bad parts, everyone has a different experiences. I agree we shouldn’t make it out to be so bad, but you shouldn’t shame people for sharing their story and preparing people. I found those stories so helpful when I was dealing with PPA (which is a very real thing BTW). It’s great that you have good pregnancies and PP experiences, and you should share it! But again, you shouldn’t make others feel bad because they didn’t have a good experience and decided to share it online.
8 weeks pregnant here. I’ve been watching you for about a year. I’m not scared of labor at all and that is partly because of you. Thank you fir posting your labor with Elizabeth because it was the first home birth video I watched and helped me decide to have an out of hospital birth. Also I’m not religious and I just appreciate your respect for all humans even if they have different views. Adios muchacha!
I'm halfway through twelve weeks and found out I am pregnant the day after you released the video where you took your test. You've been a great help for me, having a positive outlook on pregnancy and labor.
Re: water births... if you read the accounts of the first water births performed (in the US) in California in 1981, they actually keep the babies underwater for 10+ minutes after they're through the birth canal. It's to ease their transition from womb to world in a familiar environment, and since the baby is already "practice breathing" before birth by sucking-in and spitting-out your fluid in utero, they continue the same suck/spit motions in the water and clean their own airways out. The documentation recounts how, when finally pulling the baby to the surface, they take a very very gentle breath of air in (instead of the usual gasp & cry). I was always fascinated by that story; it has stuck with me since I read it in 2000 when I was pregnant. I wish more water-births today practiced that. Just wanted to share :) Love and light ♥
Sarah, are your kids showing interest in you giving birth? Are you open to them being in the room and watching ? Love your family and praying everything continues to go smoothly and awesome! 💙💙💙
Please know that you are extremely blessed to have had such good pregnancies/labors/births. Someone describing postpartum as "THE BEST" is insane to me. Yes, the baby snuggles and all the loving vibes is incredible, but for many it can also bring a very slow and painful healing process. Also, I don't know a single mom that didn't bleed a lot after giving birth.
"Some people need to stop oversharing their postpartum stories.." -The Queen of Oversharing
I think its equally unfair to make it seem like its a breeze and not prepare new moms for what they can expect. The majority of women don't have it as easy as you do. And they should know that it is normal and okay to not enjoy pregnancy/giving birth/post partum. I've always liked you but for some reason this video triggered me a little bit.. I think hearing your perspective would go down easier if you acknowledged how blessed you have been.
I appreciate this comment! I think people need to start sharing what their postpartum recoveries are like. You’re putting your body back together and dealing with engorgment. It’s a hard time and should be acknowledged so women can mentally and tangibly prepare for it.
I agree, just because it was easy for her ( which praise God that it was) this is just not a realistic expectation to have. Post partum depression is extremely common and is something that needs to be talked about. I can’t imagine the pain you would feel after watching this if going through post partum depression and thinking “what is wrong with me, why don’t I feel like this?”
I agree with you 100%. This video triggered me as well. Especially because I carried my first born to 40 weeks and she passed away 3 days after I gave birth. So postpartum is NOT the best part. It’s actually the hardest out of all 3 stages, yes you have this beautiful baby and it was all worth it but your mind and body are in a constant battle with each other and that needs to be shared too. Smh it’s just unrealistic and she’s just extremely blessed to have had it be that way for her. Not all of us were that lucky.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm truly so happy that Sarah has had wonderful postpartum experiences, and wish every new mum could have the same experience too - how magical that would be! I personally found postpartum to be horrendous and had terrible PPA. I understand her point was to not scare new mothers, but I also think it's equally important to share the realities of postpartum life so that if it's not exactly what you'd imagined, you can know that you are not alone in those feelings.
@@emilybarrell1206 well said!
I had DR with my last pregnancy as well, and was able to heal it following your workout videos before getting pregnant again. Thank you for those!! I would LOVE it if you made some pregnancy workout videos I could follow. Your content is always so lovely and uplifting, and congratulations on your pregnancy! Keep up the great work!
I appreciate the positivity. I tend to be anxious and hearing people talk negatively about pregnancy, birth, and postpartum doesn't help. I understand that some people have really hard experiences with these things, I just agree that those experiences should maybe not be shared with women who are or will be pregnant.
Hi Sarah, I've been watching your wonderful content for about 2 years now. Im only 17 but I pray everyday that the lord will bless me with a loving husband and many beautiful children at some point in my life. I feel like I was born to be a mum and a wife, I feel like the lord put me here to do that and I am so excited about it.
I actually cant wait to start a family of my own, you and Kieran are so inspiring to me, so thank you guys :-)
Lots of love from England!! Xx
Sarah...I believe your positive experiences are deeply linked to your positive beliefs. There were times I believed that I could handle anything pregnancy/postpartum and I did. And whenever I thought I couldn't, I actually did not handle a few of the things. I was dead scared of labour but then I told myself this is what a female body is meant for and there was no fear about anything.
Guarding yourself is so important in every moment of your life. People told me my life would be over once I have the baby 😂 but this little guy gives me one million lives in every moment of my life now.
My mother (a doctor) laughed out loud so hard when she heard “labor can be fun.”
I didn’t find out the gender of my son and it was the most amazing day !! I also think it motivates you more to get the baby out. I highly recommend not finding out.
One of my labors was great the other was a nightmare. It's hard to even remember the good one because of how horrible the other was.
I’m week 6 today! 👏🏼 😬🥰
Aww awesome congrats :))
@@lydia1306 thank you so much!
@@alicia4899 ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I'm 7 weeks tomorrow. :) us early birds. How's your morning sickness going? This is my hardest pregnancy yet in regards to symptoms.
@@BookloverFantasy92 congratulations! I’m actually pretty lucky so far so not have many symptoms right now other than exhausted, frequent bathroom trips, and mild mild nausea. Last week was much different. I had headaches, low energy, and dizzy. This is my third and all of my pregnancies have been totally different.
Thank you for the HOPE Sarah ♥️ I’m also very tiny and I have been soooo scared of PP and tearing hemorrhaging etc etc and hearing a lil healthy mama who I love talk about how good it is makes me so much less afraid and excited for that time! I’m due Sept 18!
I love that you share your positive view of labor. There needs to be more of this, and more positivity about motherhood in general. There's so much emphasis about being "real" and sharing the hard stuff, which has its place but labor and motherhood is also AMAZING.
Sarah I have been watching your pregnancy and labour videos every day I can't get enough I'm 36 weeks and you have really calmed my mind and body so thankyou so much 😍
As someone who wants to be a mom one day .. you sharing your POSITIVE experience is so encouraging!! Makes me a lot less nervous and I hope I can enjoy all seasons of life the way you do!
My oldest is 18 and my youngest is 16. I said during BOTH labours "can we have more babies?" and in BOTH cases, one was hospital birth with Dr second home with midwife, they immediately got me on the bed and started to check my vitals like temperature blood pressure eye color etc! I thought it was so weird each time but like I loved the whole experience both times and I had a LOT of pain and sickness during pregnancy and still loved pregnancy and labour!!! I was induced with pitocin and my water being broke with the first so a VERY intense labour and induced with my water being broken with the second. With the second being at home being able to say NO I AM STAYING ON THIS BIRTH BALL and feeling in charge really helped me progress and with pain. I am 36 now and if God wills it I would happily have more babies and I have a lot of pain in daily life, the days are long but the year are short and that holds true to pregnancy too!! I am oddly excited to hear you are no longer saying no more babies but are just like "whatever you want for our family Lord!"
Praying for you and baby and a healthy pregnancy and delivery! Praying for Kieran (sorry spelling?) and the kids as they support you, transition and grow in preparation as well!!!
We waited to find out the gender when all 5 babies were born. SO WORTH THE WAIT💜💚🧡💜💚🧡
You are so so cute Sarah! I know you’re not on RUclips anymore, but I just found your videos this week and have been so encouraged by how much you spread the joy of the Lord through your channel while you were here! I’m sure you are doing that HUGELY in everyday life with your sweet family!
‘Don’t freak new moms’ Here I am 8 months postpartum and freaking out 😂
You're like the most natural mum & teacher ever- having even more kids for you just looks like an absolute breeze!
Other parents I know have 1 or 2 kids and can't even handle that, just because of the work/money/life balance. But you handle it so well (according to your vlogs) and I think it's mainly down to how organised and focused you are (plus some people are just naturally mums!) You can somehow just get in the zone and do all the housework, prioritise and spend time teaching your children or planning meals or doing workouts. I know off camera probably life's not perfect, but yours looks like a dream!!
I'd be such a hectic mum that I've kind of decided (pre any kind of relationship🤣) that I don't think I could do it. I'd be so neglectful (without realising it) and it wouldn't be fair for me to raise a child I could barely spend any time with. It's sad but I'll get over it. Maybe I'll get a dog instead! 💕 (alternatively I can pray the Lord grants me a bit of freedom and financial stability.. but in any case, He knows what the plan is, I gotta have faith in that)
I went into labor at 12:30 at night and I wasn't even sure at first. I told my husband, I think I'm in labor. Baby was born a 3:54 AM. It came on so fast. Got to the hospital and I was 9 cm and the nurse was like, this baby is coming! It was a wonderful experience and I feel lucky it went so fast. I did all the recommended things for a fast labor: walking everyday, red raspberry leave tea, acupuncture, sex...something worked!
I love how positive you are! Also I love what you said about not scaring new moms. I'm not planning on being a mom anytime soon, but I appreciate all of this anyway because so many people make comments along the lines of "just you wait until..." and this can lead to so much unnecessary anxiety.
Positive birth/labor stories are much needed! I was bombarded with so much negative stories when I told people I was training for a non medicated birth. I had a natural non medicated birth! Looking forward to hearing your labor story
We are both 25 and pregnant!! I'm 16 weeks, can't wait to watch you and progress with you ! Super encouraging to hear you talk about birth, God bless!
It's amazing how different everyone's pregnancy and postpartum is! The 2 things right after birth that my MIL said were super painful, weren't at all for me, and she's had 8 kids, and this was my first. Totally agree with no fear mongering ☺️
THANK YOU!!! Thank you for this encouraging refreshing video on birth and postpartum. I had a rough time healing post birth but other than that i honestly really cherish those days. My #1 tip would be to REST and give yourself grace. I had help for 8 weeks and it was amazing.
I'm pregnant with you!!!! ❤
I'll be 17 weeks tomorrow!!! Love you.
@@SarahTherese I'm 7 weeks tomorrow, so 10 weeks behind you. So crazy.
I’m glad you make pregnancy videos because other RUclipsr’s pregnancy videos just STRESS ME OUT. I’ve had two completely natural births and have a positive look towards labor but yet and still, whenever I look at other RUclipsr’s pregnancy videos I get anxious
I would love to see another what you eat in a day pregnancy edition!!!
SARAH YOU GO GIRL! Such an encouragement to so many. I love these videos, and I love how you take the time to share with us and open up to us about your life. I know you must face so much criticism, but girl you bring light, love, vulnerability, wisdom, and encouragement. I see a movement springing forth of a new generation being refined in these qualities, and you are one of the bold leaders behind it sharing and showing the way. I thank God for you!
I relate to the bit about not painting motherhood in a negative light to your kids SO much! Not for me, but my husband. His parents ALWAYS talked about how hard it was to be parents and even encouraged us to wait several years before having them. Because if this my husband and his brother grew up not really likingor wanting kids. My family was the complete opposite, kids and parenthood was always referred to as a major blessing and awesome. Thankfully, meeting my nieces and nephews changed my husband's perspective a lot and now we have an adorable little boy (who my in laws absolutely ADORE). We still have our ups and downs because of this though and it made for a rough pregnancy. My husband is an awesome dad though and he and our son are besties.
I just found out I’m pregnant and your channel has literally been amazing to me. I love your love for God and the positivity that you keep. I had to stop looking at the pregnancy forums because they just made me nervous and scared to do anything but I had to stop and remember God blessed me with this gift and what he has meant for me, will be. I’ve been praying more and doing Bible plans for pregnancy.
Thank you for this video! First time pregnancy (31 weeks!) and have been nervous about labour & postpartum. Nice to see a reassuring and hopeful perspective on it rather than scary horror stories! So appreciated by this new mama! ❤
Sarah, please do a workout video please... Show us safe exercises you do while pregnant. Maybe a workout with me video/s for each trimester
You should do a during pregnancy and after pregnancy workout routine and hopefully eventually in before workout routine if you don't already have one.
I would like to know how do you prepare your body for at home birth? It's hard to erase the scary labor story and labot experiences videos I've watched but maybe knowing what can ease it might help. I'm curious as to what a home birth experience feels like once you've prepared your body(fitness, healthy eating etc). Which is easier? Tub? ball? Bed? Sorry hope it's not too many questions, I could really use your advice. thanks
Hi Sarah, please totally ignore me if this seems super invasive; but, any plans to vlog this bubba's birth like you did for Elizabeth's? Yours was the first ever birth video I came across that made me feel powerful as a woman, instead of fearful. In the spirit of honesty, I've watched it twice more when I've needed a good cry because it was just so beautiful and emotional seeing you conquer that moment and catch your own baby.
Also pregnant with #4(19wks). As a rule of thumb, we always refer to the baby as our baby, never my baby. Its an amazing way for the kids to see it as an extension of our family instead of adding something new.
I found you originally by watching your water birth with Elizabeth. Then I watched a bunch of your videos and saw your videos about labor prep with squats and stretching. I didn't do them for my first because I didn't know in time but I did it for my second baby (six months old!) but for my second the squats and stretching REALLY helped with recovery. SO MUCH. So if you're reading this and pregnant go find those videos and do it lol
I had an AWESOME natural birth that I’d do again in a heartbeat and recovered pretty well too. When I was pregnant, the women sharing their negative experiences drove me nuts! I’m glad I reached a point I had the guts to tell people not to share their negative stories with me. I hope other moms do too! People don’t realize it’s rude. And sadly, nowadays I can totally relate with the guilt of sharing my positive birth. So many people complain about theirs that I do feel guilty sharing that mine was pretty awesome.
Dear Sarah, I'm on my first pregnancy and I also feel so confident on the God's plan and intention for women to give birth and so our bodies are prepared and will be ready to do it in the best way possible. This is something that I have always been sure about and listening it from you is so beautiful and calming. Thanks a lot for saying it loud! God bless you
I'm 25 and no children. I don't want to say I'm jealous. I am so happy for you guys and see you talking about it and seeing your family makes me so happy. Can't wait to have a family as well 🥲 I think I would also don't want to know the gender even though I am a quite curious person. I'm happy that my mother and grandmother talk about pregnancy, giving birth and breastfeeding in such a positive way. They always say it's not easy but for them it wasn't a bad experience. I think my grandma is sometimes a bit ignorant and think some women are just overdramatic. My mother also gave birth to me in a bathtub btw. But that was in a hospital which is specialist in natural births. 😄
I’m 7 weeks with my first and you’re one of the few moms I listen to because you’re so encouraging! Thank you!
It's just mindblowing watching you talk about your pregnancies! So much energy, I love it!! I joined your channel after Elizabeth's birth, so I'm really enjoying how you walk us through this pregnancy.
Please do a detox are’s video on what chemicals/ products you cut out and why for pregnancy! 🤩
I'm a long ways from having kids but I already know I'm not going to find out the gender until the birth. My parents waited until birth for both my brother and myself, they said it was very special having that surprise. I feel like as a parent you can kind of know and you almost guess the gender of the baby, my parents felt so strongly that I was going to be a girl that they never picked a boys name.
That is so fun. I was wrong with all my kids!
@@tawnytuppence5573 I was wrong with 2 out of 3 of my kids! They're all girls and I thought my eldest and the one I'm pregnant with now were going to be boys. I have found out with all my kids but I think its such a personal choice and I never judge anyone for finding out or not finding out
I had a surprise with 2 of my six! I had 5 girls and for the last baby I wanted a surprise. Had my all natural 3.5 hour labor and when they put him on my belly I saw he was a boy and I was in utter shock! The very best surprise. Wouldn’t have it any other way!
Thank you for speaking about how awesome labor can be. I'm a first time mom and I'm not afraid of labor at this point, do I think it'll be butterflies and roses? No. But I'm not afraid of it. And I've noticed when most people ask me about it, they say things like " are you nervous" "does the thought of labor freak you out" and so on and so forth. Like why do so many people feel the need to speak fear??? Its so frustrating to me
I’m pregnant with my first baby, 21 weeks today, this was soooo helpful thank you for the good vibes I feel so excited ☺️☺️✨
Thank you for just sharing the truth and not being scared of what others will think! It's so great to see someone just present the facts. Our culture needs to realize that everyone's life is different and that's ok!
watching this a year later but loving your journey and positivity !