"Mousey I got the best offer ever!" "Is it a yatch?" "Yes how did you know? Its being sold very cheap but no one is buying it so I will" "Is the seller a guy named Riku?" "Let me check... ohh yes thats his name, looks like a decent guy" "The yatch is at the bottom of the ocean dad, you have to pick it up yourself" "That doesnt make sense. How did it sunk? How do you even know that?" "Never grow up dad, that innocence is your charm"
As a parent of newly adult kids, this can be hard. Everything has always flowed from parent to child, and money that comes back the other way just feels wrong. I get Ironmom's feelings.
As a newly adult kid, it feels strange to spend money on my parents. For the last couple of Christmases, my siblings and I got our parents really nice gifts, price doesn't matter if it's good. This has resulted in some gifts that start to get "expensive", with the bill split among us kids. I know our parents spend more money on each of us than we do combined, but it still feels weird to spend a not insignificant amount of money on them.
Not so newly adult kid POV: I have SINCE CHILDHOOD told my parents that once i'm well enough off to take care of them, they won't have to pay another bill or buy anything with their own money to return the favor of doing their best to raise me. I meant it at age 3, i mean it at age near-30. I have a feeling your kid probably has at least some of this mindset.
I'm neither a parent or in contact with my mom (Dad passed away), but I have recently taken in a kitten and just the fact that she cares about me makes me willing to spend effort to make sure she's cared for above my own care. (I don't ignore myself, but I'd rather make sure she has food for tonight than making sure I have food for the week)
I do too. At the same time, there is nothing I would like more than to be able to just utterly spoil my parents. I couldn't have asked for better parents, and I wish I could give them the luxury they deserve.
i think i get my mom a bit better now. When she divorced my stepdad i snuck out and bought enough food to fill her fridge. Figured she was getting her new life in order and didnt need to worry about food shopping. I didnt mean to make her cry that day,
It's not so much she grew up like that I'm more inclined to say she grew up working to the bone for every penny made. I grew up around some Mexican families like that. They wouldn't take handouts or even gifts sometimes. Even if they were broke and you offered some cash just to help out no strings attatched. Theyd send onenof their kids to do work for it. When they did that id just have the kids chill and play video games with me. And when they went to leave I'd make up some chore I had them tell their parents they did. Pride is a powerful thing.
@@1COMIXMAN My dad is the same. He's always had me and my brother do work with him because he's worried we wouldn't have enough money one day and only bought used things to save money. He got a lot better when me and my brother graduated and I'm so proud of him because I tell him you should treat yourself to something new. He also realized that we're having a bright future ahead of ourselves and everything will be okay.
No nothing to do with that, but she feels like she is taking something from her daughter. It is something her daughter created so she thinks taking it is wrong.
@@rafael_lanaThe weirdest part is when a handful of Latinos, mostly US born use it. Saw one argue Spanish has “x”, but in reality Spanish isn’t French with a set habit of ending words on “x”.
My mom does that too and I f*cking hate it because all her worries result in is frustrations and limitations for me. She's an absolute genius at justifying her worries and making sure it's impossible for anyone to make her feel better about it, so I don't even try anymore.
@@Bioniclema90 Well, subjective meaning aside, it means you are alive because she gave birth to you. That is inarguably worth something. Hope you can figure out how to fix whatever is wrong.
@@basilgaizka4672Bro didn't ask to be alive. She didn't do him any favors by birthing him when he had no choice in the matter. She made a choice, she owned up to the responsibility of that choice. Birthing a child does not mean said child should have an unlimited debt of gratitude for a parent doing the bare minimum for the choice they made.
Mousey's Mom sounds like an absolute treasure. If I were in Mousey's shoes I would arrange as many direct debits as possible for the household bills as possible just to avoid the fuss. That way the money goes out automatically.
I don't think Mousey could feasibly do that just due to her medical bills. What she should do is set up a corporate bank account and from that pay her bills, pay her mom and pay herself Then, once a week, she and her mom can pay whatever they want to pay
Her mom is very respectful, but it sounds like she hasn't developed her mothering into a caretaker role yet. Mouse lives with disability and needs help sometimes. I think Mouse has gotten used to making large purchases for work expenses and the little things don't hit as hard as they used to. Her mom isn't in that space and she's probably waiting for the other foot to drop, since she's been around long enough to be called "old" and all this has been happening for less than five years. She probably wants to be sure that if it ends, it ends gracefully; her daughter will be okay.
This is WICKED common for families of those that class hop DRAMATICALLY in a very short amount of time. Mouse had no middle class, she just SHOT up from poverty TO LEGIT UPPERCLASS. faster than most people finish high school.
I mean, I think asking (even if she were to know she doesn't need to) is a good thing. Better to be told there is gonna be less money on the account then realizing you don't have enough for something you planned or need, since 2 parties didn't communicate.
I learned this from an anime (I forgot which one) but is really on point with real life. When you give someone something, a favor or money, you NEED to get a proper compensation back. It doesn't matter how little, you NEED to give them a way or reason to compensate. That way, the person receiving the favor or money won't pity themselves. For example, my sister asked for my help with her project which took a long time, like 3 weeks irl. I really am fine with simply helping her but what do you think she would feel if she realized that affected my work and other stuff? So, what I did is to have her treat me for boba in exchange for that whole three weeks of helping her. That way, she would can tell herself "Well, I gave boba for this so it's kind of fair." This would be same with ironmouse situation. We all understand that since ironmouse earns a lot, her mom doesn't really need to pay her back. But to her mom, I think she would feel pitied (even though that was not true). Her mom is older and should be responsible for the bills or anything she wants and asking her kids for something kicks her pride a bit. What I think Ironmouse should do is to create a compensation for that to make her feel good herself, to think that she worked for that money she borrowed or ironmouse gave her. Maybe ironmouse should say something like, "You don't need to pay me back but can you help me with cleaning my collection for this weekend since i am busy?" I think her mom is feeling that helping her with the bank and stuff is not enough for that amount of money and she is indirectly wants her to give her more work/responsibility for her to feel that she earned the money. Fullmetal Alchemist: "Something cannot be created from nothing and that in order to create something, something of equal value must be exchanged and lost" By something, to this situation is the money, and the equal value her mom could provide is her time. doing the bank stuff must be too easy for the amount of money she is "borrowing" But that's just a theory, a self made theory....
This is a fairly common family trait. One parent is responsible, and uncomfortable asking for help..(usually financial these days), and another is not safe around pocket change.
I can honestly understand why Ironmom is worried like that. Especially if she's heard the horror stories on how Parents essentially robbed their own kids of their hard earned money.
My trick just to let them pay if they want to. And if I intended to pay in full I just keep the portion they paid for emergency and what not. The most you can do is negotiate the spilt when parents insist to pay.
Yeah it's so hard, had the same issue with my mom with my first job out of Uni, I was earning more than here and she got upset i was buying her fancy care products and taking her out to dinner. Took her ages to get it through her head she'd raised a self sufficient offspring. Dad on the other hand, he didn't take the hint and just kept transferring me money, so i'd transfer it back with extra, which he reciprocated...Parents, man.
I'm generally a bit of a pessimist, but something about these stories from Ironmouse bring a tear to my eye. Hearing about her life story and getting to where she is now, actually brings a little hope to my normally jaded heart.
Ironmom's behavior has been trained into her from decades of taking care of her kids. So I'm not surprised it feels weird to her to be on the other end.
I think she should ask before completely unnecessary luxury expenses (can't imagine there's too many of these) and transactions over a certain amount, say $1000. But for small important purchases like groceries and upkeep of the house and car, she should just take the money.
My mom does the same with me, she needed some money for dental procedures so she asked me for help which she struggles with. I gave her the money and told to not sweat it but she insisted on returning it no matter what. After she fixed the problem she pretty much didn't spend a dime to save money so she could return the money as soon as possible.
Mom is goat. She might be a little worried and anxious about it but at least she understands boundaries. In a typical context her Mom is 100 percent on point.
Tell her like this: all of her hard work to keep you alove and support you when you started streaming means she well and truly deserves to be looked after. Most people never even get a good mum these days
then set a limit on her spending, having an unlimited amount to spend can be intimidating, if she has a limit she might feel better spending it. its a roundabout method but might be worth a shot.
My mom had her birthday party weeks ago but her birthday wish was we go with her to the Horse Race Track today for Pegasus Cup championship.. she worded it like she’s taking US.. like we would let her pay. Last year we were so worried because she made about $1k worth of bets but she walked out with over $6k… were getting this derp box seats so she can stay away from the crowd
My mother gave me joint access to pay bills, and she's angry at me for taking money out of her savings. The problem is, I need to pay the house bills with it, while makong sure there's enough money for all her automatic crap to be paid. Once my bills get more under control, i plan on giving her more money, but until then I have to do, what I have to do.
An easy work around would be to set up E transfers and then mouse could just send her mom money through transfers. It might make it feel less invasive for her as then she's not going directly into mouses accounts
i suggest give the allowance for the mom and dad with her own account together with the bills parents who have high sense lf responsibility dont like spending their kids money unless you told them its their in ther bank account it give them the sense of freedom when they earn their money before
This is a double edged sword though. Imagine you had some money ear marked for something. Anything, and folks go and use said money, don't say anything, not even a heads up or write it down somewhere. Then you go to buy whatever it is and Boom, you're hit with a insufficient funds.
I don't know how it works where you live. But here it would have been wise just to officially employ your parents in that scenario. Just for taxes alone. Because that's ~10k subtraction from the taxable amount per person if they have no other income. This sounds like she should get a professional to check her finances. Not me and not any of the bots this will inevitably attract. Check your region.
Like my parents. Freely giving any amount to us kids (even if they grumble about it) but refusing point blank to take money and only asking for help if they're in desperate need. sigh....
Mousey: Mom, you've done everything for me you deserved this. Iron Mom: mi querido, this is your fruit of labor and hard work, i don't deserve this Iron Dad: Thus, My Time Hath Cometh !!! Mousey and Iron Mom: NOT YOU!
I can understand how ironmom feels. Whenever I’m in a decently stable spot with my money is in need of some quick cash to pay a bill or something, I want to just give them what they need without asking them to pay me back since I won’t really be missing the money and because I care about them. This is a mistake however. This will make them feel belittled and like they are indebted with no way to repay you. Instead just tell them to pay you back whenever they can since you trust them. Family works differently though and especially with your situation I can see how her feeling like this would upset you. I don’t think how you are approaching this is wrong but I would suggest trying to give task or something from time to time in consideration of her feelings though I wouldn’t have this conversation with her, that would be very uncomfortable for you both.
I can see IrM's mom reason. She doesn't want to be that parent or be know as THAT PARENT that BANKS off of their successful children. That has happen to A LOT of kids that were actors and now are BAF because their parents spent all of the money so they can live the RICH LIFE. Example: Gary Coleman from Different Strokes. The guy is a security guard because his parents spent all of his money to fund their rich life style.
Who would have thought Latin people are so similar to us Slavs. As Slav I am not paranoid, as everyone really is out to get me. PS: Other Slavs mostly.
Same thing happened with my mom. We stopped giving her cash, because she'd spend it on us. Then we stopped giving her gifts, because she'd return/sell them and spend it on us. So we started giving her experiences. We'd go out to eat, or go for walks together. Good luck trying to return time.
Better that she's hesitant than be like so many other parents (mostly, Hollywood parents) that took all their child's finances for granted and pissed it away. Mousey's only really been a big earner for a couple of years now; I hope she has the prudence to invest some for when that may not be the case anymore.
So I think her mom is worried about being a Shirley Temple mom, who takes all of her kid’s money. It happens to a lot of successful young people. Thing is though, Ironmouse is an adult. She has control of her money and she wants her mom to also have access to it. Feel secure Ironmom, knowing you earned it just by raising a daughter who loves you.
The roles are reversed in my home, I just can't spend my own money and my mom gets upset because I need to go buy socks and clothes and I don't want to spend my own money😂😂 Like I just finally bought two packs of socks because I couldn't find a matching pair that didn't have holes in them, so I went to Walmart with mismatched socks 😅
Honestly? I would prefer Ironmouse's mom to many others. Having worked in financial institutions, you might be shocked to see how controlling some parents are on their children's bank accounts. I mean, there are cases where kids are exceedingly irresponsible and the parents gotta step in, fair enough, but there are parents out there that control every cent and leave no room to learn.
Maybe worrying is a mom thing? My [ not Latinian ] mom would worry about anything, and if she couldn't find anything to worry about she'd worry she missed something...
My fathers that kinda person: Just addicted to misery. 😑 And my mothers no different, but of course she’s the self righteous type that can’t see her own bullshit. I live with two sociopaths that hate each other. So you can imagine my life.
Ok the wholesomeness going on here has injured my pancreas. A thought: Perhaps think of the account/s as a ship. IronMouse has joined the adults of the family and is now providing for this family- the family is the crew of this ship. A ship's crew is a team, team members communicate the state of the ship. IronMom with never /not/ report to the other team members her observations. Mouse will have to recognize that Moms r gonna Mom. IronMom kinda sees Mouse as the "Captain" here, in which case, point out a Captain needs a Number One. It's cool IronMom has respected boundaries [very very cool] ; work with the 'crew' and redefine the boundaries and /permissions/ verbally and deliberately. And congrats on having a gigacool Mum [And Dad]
Hmm... it's like Ironmouse is the adult and her mom is the child. :? I kind of get that her mom doesn't want to seem selfish or something to just use inherited money that someone else earned, but I think Mouse is thinking of things in a rather sweet way that her money is more like the family treasury or something that can be more or less shared between all of them and she works to support everyone. :p
my moms the same one time she spilled some info about she wanted and i was : how much i'm giving she : no but this but that me : 😑 i'm waiting for the number
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IronDad over there like "I could really use a boat right about now..."
"Mousey I got the best offer ever!"
"Is it a yatch?"
"Yes how did you know? Its being sold very cheap but no one is buying it so I will"
"Is the seller a guy named Riku?"
"Let me check... ohh yes thats his name, looks like a decent guy"
"The yatch is at the bottom of the ocean dad, you have to pick it up yourself"
"That doesnt make sense. How did it sunk? How do you even know that?"
"Never grow up dad, that innocence is your charm"
As a parent of newly adult kids, this can be hard. Everything has always flowed from parent to child, and money that comes back the other way just feels wrong. I get Ironmom's feelings.
As a newly adult kid, it feels strange to spend money on my parents. For the last couple of Christmases, my siblings and I got our parents really nice gifts, price doesn't matter if it's good. This has resulted in some gifts that start to get "expensive", with the bill split among us kids. I know our parents spend more money on each of us than we do combined, but it still feels weird to spend a not insignificant amount of money on them.
Not so newly adult kid POV: I have SINCE CHILDHOOD told my parents that once i'm well enough off to take care of them, they won't have to pay another bill or buy anything with their own money to return the favor of doing their best to raise me. I meant it at age 3, i mean it at age near-30. I have a feeling your kid probably has at least some of this mindset.
I'm neither a parent or in contact with my mom (Dad passed away), but I have recently taken in a kitten and just the fact that she cares about me makes me willing to spend effort to make sure she's cared for above my own care.
(I don't ignore myself, but I'd rather make sure she has food for tonight than making sure I have food for the week)
I do too. At the same time, there is nothing I would like more than to be able to just utterly spoil my parents. I couldn't have asked for better parents, and I wish I could give them the luxury they deserve.
i think i get my mom a bit better now. When she divorced my stepdad i snuck out and bought enough food to fill her fridge. Figured she was getting her new life in order and didnt need to worry about food shopping. I didnt mean to make her cry that day,
It's sad that her mom grew up believing she doesn't deserve nice things :'( Ironmouse you're an amazing daughter!
It's not so much she grew up like that I'm more inclined to say she grew up working to the bone for every penny made. I grew up around some Mexican families like that. They wouldn't take handouts or even gifts sometimes. Even if they were broke and you offered some cash just to help out no strings attatched. Theyd send onenof their kids to do work for it. When they did that id just have the kids chill and play video games with me. And when they went to leave I'd make up some chore I had them tell their parents they did. Pride is a powerful thing.
Her mom is like me for real for real
@@1COMIXMAN My dad is the same. He's always had me and my brother do work with him because he's worried we wouldn't have enough money one day and only bought used things to save money. He got a lot better when me and my brother graduated and I'm so proud of him because I tell him you should treat yourself to something new. He also realized that we're having a bright future ahead of ourselves and everything will be okay.
@@Flash-FireCC sounds like one hek of a good dad. its so nice hearing about people who had good parents they can be proud of🙂
No nothing to do with that, but she feels like she is taking something from her daughter. It is something her daughter created so she thinks taking it is wrong.
Ironmom is afraid to find sextoys bills again.
🤣🤣🤣 I wonder if Mousey ever did replace that
What!?
W.......What?
LOL NAH BRO
Wait what
I like how Mouse refers to herself as a latinian and I cant stop using that word anymore.
She does that because someone asked her if she was latinian .
Better than Latinx.
@@nujevad28I find that term so stupid, legit though it was a joke when I first heard people using it
well, what else is she gonna call herself?
@@rafael_lanaThe weirdest part is when a handful of Latinos, mostly US born use it. Saw one argue Spanish has “x”, but in reality Spanish isn’t French with a set habit of ending words on “x”.
This is the opposite of those bad parents who demand their kids pay for being raised.
Mouse's mom is living the dream latina mom life, her daughter LITERALLY said all her work is thanks to her, and she rejects it XD
My mom does that too and I f*cking hate it because all her worries result in is frustrations and limitations for me. She's an absolute genius at justifying her worries and making sure it's impossible for anyone to make her feel better about it, so I don't even try anymore.
You gotta try, she's your mom.
@@basilgaizka4672 I can't begin to describe to you how little that title means to me.
@@Bioniclema90 Well, subjective meaning aside, it means you are alive because she gave birth to you. That is inarguably worth something. Hope you can figure out how to fix whatever is wrong.
@@basilgaizka4672Bro didn't ask to be alive. She didn't do him any favors by birthing him when he had no choice in the matter. She made a choice, she owned up to the responsibility of that choice. Birthing a child does not mean said child should have an unlimited debt of gratitude for a parent doing the bare minimum for the choice they made.
How does your mother not wanting to be your secretary put limitations on you?
W DAD
Her dad is cool like that😂😂😂
Mousey's Mom sounds like an absolute treasure. If I were in Mousey's shoes I would arrange as many direct debits as possible for the household bills as possible just to avoid the fuss. That way the money goes out automatically.
I don't think Mousey could feasibly do that just due to her medical bills.
What she should do is set up a corporate bank account and from that pay her bills, pay her mom and pay herself
Then, once a week, she and her mom can pay whatever they want to pay
"I DON'T WANT PEACE! I WANT PROBLEMS, ALWAYS!"
A proud Mousey and a proud mom arguing about money in a wholesome way. Mousey has a great support system and community.
money has a way of fukin up relationships, I can see why the mom is so careful with the finances
The Opposite of a Child Actor and their Parents :D
I guess we now know where Mousey gets her low self-esteem from. Alright, Famoly, we gotta build up Ironmom too.
Your family sounds so... real.
Not just people related by blood but people who really care, it's heartwarming
Based dad.
Her mom is very respectful, but it sounds like she hasn't developed her mothering into a caretaker role yet. Mouse lives with disability and needs help sometimes. I think Mouse has gotten used to making large purchases for work expenses and the little things don't hit as hard as they used to. Her mom isn't in that space and she's probably waiting for the other foot to drop, since she's been around long enough to be called "old" and all this has been happening for less than five years. She probably wants to be sure that if it ends, it ends gracefully; her daughter will be okay.
thats a really good point i hadn't considered. you're probably right and it makes my respect for her mom grow even more
i understand but your mom doesn't want you to think that shes taking advantage of your kindness as well its a balancing act Gremolin
Can her entire freaking family get any more heartmeltingly wholesome?
Ah, I love being a Dad. 😂
This is WICKED common for families of those that class hop DRAMATICALLY in a very short amount of time.
Mouse had no middle class, she just SHOT up from poverty TO LEGIT UPPERCLASS. faster than most people finish high school.
I mean, I think asking (even if she were to know she doesn't need to) is a good thing. Better to be told there is gonna be less money on the account then realizing you don't have enough for something you planned or need, since 2 parties didn't communicate.
I learned this from an anime (I forgot which one) but is really on point with real life. When you give someone something, a favor or money, you NEED to get a proper compensation back. It doesn't matter how little, you NEED to give them a way or reason to compensate. That way, the person receiving the favor or money won't pity themselves.
For example, my sister asked for my help with her project which took a long time, like 3 weeks irl. I really am fine with simply helping her but what do you think she would feel if she realized that affected my work and other stuff? So, what I did is to have her treat me for boba in exchange for that whole three weeks of helping her. That way, she would can tell herself "Well, I gave boba for this so it's kind of fair."
This would be same with ironmouse situation. We all understand that since ironmouse earns a lot, her mom doesn't really need to pay her back. But to her mom, I think she would feel pitied (even though that was not true). Her mom is older and should be responsible for the bills or anything she wants and asking her kids for something kicks her pride a bit. What I think Ironmouse should do is to create a compensation for that to make her feel good herself, to think that she worked for that money she borrowed or ironmouse gave her. Maybe ironmouse should say something like, "You don't need to pay me back but can you help me with cleaning my collection for this weekend since i am busy?"
I think her mom is feeling that helping her with the bank and stuff is not enough for that amount of money and she is indirectly wants her to give her more work/responsibility for her to feel that she earned the money.
Fullmetal Alchemist: "Something cannot be created from nothing and that in order to create something, something of equal value must be exchanged and lost" By something, to this situation is the money, and the equal value her mom could provide is her time. doing the bank stuff must be too easy for the amount of money she is "borrowing"
But that's just a theory, a self made theory....
This is a fairly common family trait. One parent is responsible, and uncomfortable asking for help..(usually financial these days), and another is not safe around pocket change.
I'm glad that her mom isn't taking advantage of her tbh.
I can honestly understand why Ironmom is worried like that. Especially if she's heard the horror stories on how Parents essentially robbed their own kids of their hard earned money.
Put a note on your door 'mom, you have my permission to make yourself happy '
My trick just to let them pay if they want to. And if I intended to pay in full I just keep the portion they paid for emergency and what not. The most you can do is negotiate the spilt when parents insist to pay.
Ironmouse is LITERALLY the best!
Yeah it's so hard, had the same issue with my mom with my first job out of Uni, I was earning more than here and she got upset i was buying her fancy care products and taking her out to dinner. Took her ages to get it through her head she'd raised a self sufficient offspring. Dad on the other hand, he didn't take the hint and just kept transferring me money, so i'd transfer it back with extra, which he reciprocated...Parents, man.
More IronPapa lore when?
Iron Dad: the bone eater. The waste bin shrinker. The youtube clip watcher. The holy water spreader. The pizza nabber. The expert instrument musician.
I'm generally a bit of a pessimist, but something about these stories from Ironmouse bring a tear to my eye. Hearing about her life story and getting to where she is now, actually brings a little hope to my normally jaded heart.
My mom does the same thing, it’s a pride thing
Ironmom's behavior has been trained into her from decades of taking care of her kids. So I'm not surprised it feels weird to her to be on the other end.
Everything the light touches is yours
-mufasa i think
Power can be best entrusted to those who don't want it. 😤
HOW FRUSTRATING! MOUSE JUST TRYING TO BE LOVING AND PAYBACK!
I think she should ask before completely unnecessary luxury expenses (can't imagine there's too many of these) and transactions over a certain amount, say $1000. But for small important purchases like groceries and upkeep of the house and car, she should just take the money.
I find Mouse’s mom admirable, most parent would just take money and not tell and try to gaslight or get upset when confronted.
Just give your mom power of attorney, mouse.
At least her mom does ask instead of just taking it all and spending it.
My mom does the same with me, she needed some money for dental procedures so she asked me for help which she struggles with. I gave her the money and told to not sweat it but she insisted on returning it no matter what. After she fixed the problem she pretty much didn't spend a dime to save money so she could return the money as soon as possible.
Mom is goat. She might be a little worried and anxious about it but at least she understands boundaries. In a typical context her Mom is 100 percent on point.
She forgot to say girls worry im gie and im care free we just work and let the girls handle the hard stuff
I think as we become adults, we can all agree that our worst fears are anything related to bills.
I love you mom!!! She is such a sweetheart!
You're a sweet grateful daughter.
adorable mother
Tell her like this: all of her hard work to keep you alove and support you when you started streaming means she well and truly deserves to be looked after. Most people never even get a good mum these days
Itonmouse is so pure. ❤❤❤
I can see that. Most adults don't want to go looking through their kids' bank accounts.
Always be wary of those who desire the 'power'. :D
Mouse’s family is so wholesome
then set a limit on her spending, having an unlimited amount to spend can be intimidating, if she has a limit she might feel better spending it. its a roundabout method but might be worth a shot.
My mom had her birthday party weeks ago but her birthday wish was we go with her to the Horse Race Track today for Pegasus Cup championship.. she worded it like she’s taking US.. like we would let her pay. Last year we were so worried because she made about $1k worth of bets but she walked out with over $6k… were getting this derp box seats so she can stay away from the crowd
My mother gave me joint access to pay bills, and she's angry at me for taking money out of her savings. The problem is, I need to pay the house bills with it, while makong sure there's enough money for all her automatic crap to be paid. Once my bills get more under control, i plan on giving her more money, but until then I have to do, what I have to do.
An easy work around would be to set up E transfers and then mouse could just send her mom money through transfers. It might make it feel less invasive for her as then she's not going directly into mouses accounts
Okay but for real, don't ever let your mothers get access to your bank account. That is an instance that will never end well.
I'm the same with my situation. Handle all my bills and have access
i suggest give the allowance for the mom and dad
with her own account together with the bills
parents who have high sense lf responsibility
dont like spending their kids money
unless you told them its their in ther bank account it give them the sense of freedom when they earn their money before
This is a double edged sword though.
Imagine you had some money ear marked for something. Anything, and folks go and use said money, don't say anything, not even a heads up or write it down somewhere.
Then you go to buy whatever it is and Boom, you're hit with a insufficient funds.
I don't know how it works where you live. But here it would have been wise just to officially employ your parents in that scenario. Just for taxes alone. Because that's ~10k subtraction from the taxable amount per person if they have no other income. This sounds like she should get a professional to check her finances. Not me and not any of the bots this will inevitably attract. Check your region.
probably not a good idea to employ them if they're retired like she said they once were. their benefits would be reduced
@@noidolsnolife6373 If the tax benefits of employing them are higher than their benefits its all g
Your a good daughter IronMouse
don Ironmouse i need a smoll loan of$5K to settle my debts... JK but this NEEDED some sad Itanian godfather music great work clippers
Dads do just be spending some money
Similar scenario happen a few weeks back with my Puerto Rican mother
Like my parents. Freely giving any amount to us kids (even if they grumble about it) but refusing point blank to take money and only asking for help if they're in desperate need. sigh....
My mom would be ALL OVER that sweet sweet streamer money
Bro my ma is like that too like ...Ma just take some your my ma damnit
Proud and hard working mom raises proud and hard working daughter. You love to see it.
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Irondad continues to be based
Mousey: Mom, you've done everything for me you deserved this.
Iron Mom: mi querido, this is your fruit of labor and hard work, i don't deserve this
Iron Dad: Thus, My Time Hath Cometh !!!
Mousey and Iron Mom: NOT YOU!
Man, this makes me miss my mom.
Ironmom: Oh goodness, I...I need to borrow a penny, but I can pay you back a dollar next month
Irondad: Did somebody say free money!
Italians argue.
Canadians be polite.
Puerto Ricans worry.
I‘m german but when I hear this I think I must be latinian, I wordy about everything too 😂
I can understand how ironmom feels. Whenever I’m in a decently stable spot with my money is in need of some quick cash to pay a bill or something, I want to just give them what they need without asking them to pay me back since I won’t really be missing the money and because I care about them. This is a mistake however. This will make them feel belittled and like they are indebted with no way to repay you. Instead just tell them to pay you back whenever they can since you trust them. Family works differently though and especially with your situation I can see how her feeling like this would upset you. I don’t think how you are approaching this is wrong but I would suggest trying to give task or something from time to time in consideration of her feelings though I wouldn’t have this conversation with her, that would be very uncomfortable for you both.
I can see IrM's mom reason. She doesn't want to be that parent or be know as THAT PARENT that BANKS off of their successful children. That has happen to A LOT of kids that were actors and now are BAF because their parents spent all of the money so they can live the RICH LIFE. Example: Gary Coleman from Different Strokes. The guy is a security guard because his parents spent all of his money to fund their rich life style.
Who would have thought Latin people are so similar to us Slavs.
As Slav I am not paranoid, as everyone really is out to get me.
PS: Other Slavs mostly.
Mousie has funny parents.
My advice, mousey should just give her mom stuff since her mom is scared of using raw cash. Ironmom deserves more, since she gave us Ironmouse
Same thing happened with my mom. We stopped giving her cash, because she'd spend it on us. Then we stopped giving her gifts, because she'd return/sell them and spend it on us. So we started giving her experiences. We'd go out to eat, or go for walks together. Good luck trying to return time.
Better that she's hesitant than be like so many other parents (mostly, Hollywood parents) that took all their child's finances for granted and pissed it away. Mousey's only really been a big earner for a couple of years now; I hope she has the prudence to invest some for when that may not be the case anymore.
Honestly, this is a mom thing, not just a latinian mom thing.
Mousey and her mom must be protected at all costs.
Mouse has clearly never met an Italian Nonna. Will always be #1 about worrying.
Give mom a salary, will make things go smoothly
So I think her mom is worried about being a Shirley Temple mom, who takes all of her kid’s money. It happens to a lot of successful young people.
Thing is though, Ironmouse is an adult. She has control of her money and she wants her mom to also have access to it. Feel secure Ironmom, knowing you earned it just by raising a daughter who loves you.
The roles are reversed in my home, I just can't spend my own money and my mom gets upset because I need to go buy socks and clothes and I don't want to spend my own money😂😂 Like I just finally bought two packs of socks because I couldn't find a matching pair that didn't have holes in them, so I went to Walmart with mismatched socks 😅
Man.... if my mom had access to my bank account I would be in prison for debts. I would be sold into slavery or something.
Honestly? I would prefer Ironmouse's mom to many others. Having worked in financial institutions, you might be shocked to see how controlling some parents are on their children's bank accounts. I mean, there are cases where kids are exceedingly irresponsible and the parents gotta step in, fair enough, but there are parents out there that control every cent and leave no room to learn.
God I wish that were my mom...
Hope she sees this
Maybe worrying is a mom thing? My [ not Latinian ] mom would worry about anything, and if she couldn't find anything to worry about she'd worry she missed something...
My fathers that kinda person: Just addicted to misery. 😑 And my mothers no different, but of course she’s the self righteous type that can’t see her own bullshit. I live with two sociopaths that hate each other. So you can imagine my life.
Ok the wholesomeness going on here has injured my pancreas. A thought: Perhaps think of the account/s as a ship. IronMouse has joined the adults of the family and is now providing for this family- the family is the crew of this ship. A ship's crew is a team, team members communicate the state of the ship. IronMom with never /not/ report to the other team members her observations. Mouse will have to recognize that Moms r gonna Mom. IronMom kinda sees Mouse as the "Captain" here, in which case, point out a Captain needs a Number One. It's cool IronMom has respected boundaries [very very cool] ; work with the 'crew' and redefine the boundaries and /permissions/ verbally and deliberately. And congrats on having a gigacool Mum [And Dad]
Hmm... it's like Ironmouse is the adult and her mom is the child. :?
I kind of get that her mom doesn't want to seem selfish or something to just use inherited money that someone else earned, but I think Mouse is thinking of things in a rather sweet way that her money is more like the family treasury or something that can be more or less shared between all of them and she works to support everyone. :p
It sounds sweet but it could be a inner mechanism to keep her from spending more than she feels she should... Theory
my moms the same
one time she spilled some info about she wanted
and i was : how much i'm giving
she : no but this but that
me : 😑 i'm waiting for the number