I've had a life-long challenge with anxiety and your video makes sense to me and this subject is fascinating as well. I think that we need to decide for ourselves what the differences are between the big things and the little things. Does someone else or society at large get to decide for us that something that we miss is not important enough to justify our anxiousness about our loss? I myself find routine and having a familiar environment very comforting and change is hard for me, often even " small " changes. If I face a change I try to think forward about how some particular outcome of the change will make things better. Another thing that I have found that usually helps me is to listen to a song or several songs that I liked or gave me a good feeling from the time period of when I was about 6 to 12 or 13 years old. It doesn't necessarily take all of the anxiety away but can really take the edge off. It feels like the emotions that the music engenders helps to unclog some rusty old pipes in my brain. I have had this experience many times but I don't know why it works like it does. I do hope that that your new transition goes as smoothly as possible.
you make perfect sense and you are not wrong. change = stress. even small change and good change. sorry about your Dad passing. learning the patterns of the light as it moves around your house and garden is living poetry. I'm very connected to the pulse of life in my home and neighborhood.
It makes perfect sense! Living in the same home for 23 years then moving and getting divorced was the hardest thing I had every done. Not knowing I was autistic then but was diagnosed adhd. It was so difficult. ❤
It makes sense in hindsight that these changes are so difficult but I can be so hard on myself during them for not responding in the same way as others around me. I feel like in the future, I will be better prepared.
Up until my diagnosis I'd changed house and/or jobs at least once a year for the past three decades but yes, generally speaking it's realizing the loss of those small details that is most poignant during a transition. Fortunately the flipside of this is that we do love noticing the minutiae in every situation, which in itself can be quite a comforting way of processing loss. That said, I find long walks in one's neighbourhood with headphones (i.e. music) quite effective, because it can be, in the absence of other distractions e.g. phone browsing, such an immersive experience. Having an established sense of "home" in one's daily life seems vitally important and the minutiae are its foundation.
It's interesting that you mention going for long walks in the neighbourhood as that is something I do quite often. I am still linking up my chosen activities to how they help me process the world around me and I'd never linked those two up. I like noticing the small details of the world around me, like leaves on a tree that I think no one else would ever notice, or individual blades of grass.
I've had a life-long challenge with anxiety and your video makes sense to me and this subject is fascinating as well. I think that we need to decide for ourselves what the differences are between the big things and the little things. Does someone else or society at large get to decide for us that something that we miss is not important enough to justify our anxiousness about our loss? I myself find routine and having a familiar environment very comforting and change is hard for me, often even " small " changes. If I face a change I try to think forward about how some particular outcome of the change will make things better. Another thing that I have found that usually helps me is to listen to a song or several songs that I liked or gave me a good feeling from the time period of when I was about 6 to 12 or 13 years old. It doesn't necessarily take all of the anxiety away but can really take the edge off. It feels like the emotions that the music engenders helps to unclog some rusty old pipes in my brain. I have had this experience many times but I don't know why it works like it does. I do hope that that your new transition goes as smoothly as possible.
you make perfect sense and you are not wrong. change = stress. even small change and good change. sorry about your Dad passing. learning the patterns of the light as it moves around your house and garden is living poetry. I'm very connected to the pulse of life in my home and neighborhood.
It makes perfect sense! Living in the same home for 23 years then moving and getting divorced was the hardest thing I had every done. Not knowing I was autistic then but was diagnosed adhd. It was so difficult. ❤
It makes sense in hindsight that these changes are so difficult but I can be so hard on myself during them for not responding in the same way as others around me. I feel like in the future, I will be better prepared.
Up until my diagnosis I'd changed house and/or jobs at least once a year for the past three decades but yes, generally speaking it's realizing the loss of those small details that is most poignant during a transition. Fortunately the flipside of this is that we do love noticing the minutiae in every situation, which in itself can be quite a comforting way of processing loss. That said, I find long walks in one's neighbourhood with headphones (i.e. music) quite effective, because it can be, in the absence of other distractions e.g. phone browsing, such an immersive experience. Having an established sense of "home" in one's daily life seems vitally important and the minutiae are its foundation.
It's interesting that you mention going for long walks in the neighbourhood as that is something I do quite often. I am still linking up my chosen activities to how they help me process the world around me and I'd never linked those two up. I like noticing the small details of the world around me, like leaves on a tree that I think no one else would ever notice, or individual blades of grass.