Lessons I have learned; *Don't force people to love you. *Red flags are red flags and not purple. *Your enemy comes from your household. *Ladies don't do wife chores to a man when you're not married. *Heal before jumping into another relationship. *When dating listen to people don't be possessed with love. *Love is a two way traffic. *True loves come from God. *Christ is the answer.
Misleading heading. It was a boyfriend, not husband. We will still watch when you put the right topic depending on the content inside. Now I feel cheated.
Thank you Mashiane for watching. We appreciate your feedback. We apologize for using swahili, at times the guests are more confident using it when they are not fluent in English.
At times, life becomes so complex until you don't even understand it being the actor of your own life. Time heals. Later you will come to understand why God never allowed it. Give thanks to God in all times
This girl is humble and very honest, intelligent and truthful in her words.Not many like her even to keep her baby.Gods favor be upon her and she will go far.
Rev Wamuyu, please embrace this girl, she is a daughter of the kingdom, take her in as your own, she is there in your chanel for a purpose, i can see the pain in her still
This is so educative,Kenyan programs have taught me a lot,I passed thru depressionI know how it tastes,am a single mom of 2 who is hustling tirelessly, but once u Give ur burden to GOD everything works like magic, I pray one day to come to Kenya much love from Uganda
Sorry Jackie for the pain you've been through but I felt in your words that you haven't still let go this guy who married your sister, Because when you say you still know your sis is not the best for Him then it means bado hauja get over ... You are so beautiful and your strong...Let go and let God now take over... And for the courage ....thank you.!
true,Jackie needs to forgive fully,and how does she know her ex ain't good for her sister...its not in her place to judge that. ...but I hope you totally get through this and heal completely.
Jackie i love this. i worked with you in the healthcare and you were so cool , God is faithful n merciful, your story n mine are just almost similar, the life i have left, i will live it up for God n my daughtrer
God bless you sister in Christ, Don't despair, Your Mighty Loving Father,has something better for you and your little one, 🤗🙏May God be with you and your son forever Amen 🌺🌸🌺🌈🙏
He was envious at You my Sister. I'm glad that You found Jesus Christ. This relationship is not God! God don't bring us problems. God is Love, Peace. 🙏 Never leave him. I foud Jesus Christ too. God Bless You, Sis. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
A lesson leant, don't be so available for a guy. Tell him you are busy, or uko gym even if u are sleeping or watching a movie. When you become too available they got bored. like why should you buy a cow if you are getting milk for free.
Sorry girl....wait the lord u r very beatiful ...u will get agood husband u won't believe girl.u have experienced more hope u will be able to handle ur husband tightly be blessed ..keep playing.
Jackie has to learn to love herself and also find the source of her pain. The day she finds self love will the day the sister and her boyfriend will mean nothing to her at all. Such a beautiful girl. I appreciate that she has acknowledged that through counselling. May you find peace.
Thank you Ruth for this story. This feels like my story though am still at that stage of pain and wishing for someone to love me since 12 years ago. I wish that one day I can move on and just be free from the pain am feeling. It has even drove me to a point that I have everybody, am so angry with very minor things in my life. I really need help. I have a 12 year old daughter that is really looking up to me nad am not ready to let her go.
I'm like you. 3 years ago found out 17 year marriage was fake. He cheated and cheated and cheated yet I was faithful both to God and him. Haa I have NEVER felt pain like this. I have lost a child, parents and grew in bad situation but this infidelity pain tops all
So touching 👤👤... This is an encouragement indeed,, single moms we hv made sacrifices that at some point we hv betrayed our kids..... But above it all God has been a blessing n a frewd... 💙💙💙
Problem here is premarital sex before marriage. Why have a soul tie to a man that will not marry you? Why give your body so freely? Lets give value to our bodies ladies. True loves waits. Sex should be for marriage only.Period
People who think are very holy and they feel judging is the best idea my dia you have not have given your body to anybody be4 marriage but trust me you have your own foes so stop being madam or Mr holy
As you say , your sister is not good enough for the guy but you saw he was good for you......?? Thank God that you saw his traits before you entered into marriage. ..
You are a motivator to many girls and women out there. It is really brave of you to come out and speak your life. Now Jackie I would urge you to completely let go of your Ex and your foster sister. Don't say they are not worthy of ach other. It is only GOD, and GOD alone that can make that judgement. If they are together, just bless them and wish them well. God will surely bless you with your daughter and i am sure the future is very bright for you. God bless you woman of God.
What Jackie went through, I also went through just excluding the children involved. Somebody was right to say she has not completely healed. She is onto a good start, however, she's needs to be naked with Christ. Pour out your heart to him as he is our best friend. This is what he taught me in the early stages of my relationship with him. I have not even forgiven yet; not because I don't want to, but because I loved my ex so much. God will give me his grace. The only thing after he has completely healed you tell him to send his heart beat for you, men that will by only his grace not replace, but destroy any so called love we had with the past
Im sorry she got hurt thats messed up what the so called sister did but when she made the comment about her being older I had an issue with that. She seems like she really just wanted someone to calls hers to remake the family she lost. I understand that but what about the day when she realizes that she didn't really love the guy she just wanted him there with her. Men know when you want them versus you just want a man.
Jackie and Ruth thank you so much for finding d courage to share the personal stories...God bless you. I really would like to meet you both for a chat, though I am in Lagos,Nigeria...
I think Jackie let go off completely coz kusema aty they are not meant for each other hapo sio poa am not supporting any of them but I think you should not say that again,I have gone through the same thing but I always learn to bless them
Rule number 1. Grown up people need to stop referring to outsiders as mum and dad..! We all have one biological father and mother!! (There were no formal paperwork saying she was legally fostered) 2. Grown ups stop teaching your children to call others who are no related to you/them as uncle, aunty, dad, mum, sister, brother etc.... you are blurring the lines/boundaries!! Joke is she is STILL referring to these people as family!😥 As a forensic Psychologist; this "names" makes it easier to build false trust. The victims overly trusts the perpetrator because, "my sister can't do this to me..." kinda thing
Wewe 2 relationship zinakupea stress na mm nikona 6 na ya 7 niliachwa juzi na Sina stress 🤣🤣🤣 kupenda Niya small boy mm sahii natafuta pesa.kama mwanaume huna pesa akanyange big big🤣🤣🤣🤣
I pray God to hear your needs and you can be more happy again in Jesus name. I can't believe your only sis. That's really painful just forgive her and forget all about God has reason everything to happen. Praying for you 🙏
Some of us in Soth Africa but you stick to your langguage we donot hear the amzing sories as even if you write down sometims its so fast one cannot follow
Hi Jackie, I have listened to your sad and yet educative story and in as much as I sympathise and empathise with you, I wish to point out some key areas you failed or could have done better for the sake of your listeners and your own lesson so that you never repeat the same again. I am happy I am also a member of CITAM Valley Road. I feel relieved that you finally found Jesus as your saviour and Lord and free to give a testimony to impact many could be victims of such devastating journey of depression. God loves you more. Be contented and happy. Regarding your story, I can deduce many gaps in between that could have caused your predicament. The move from Embu to Nakuru, then to Malindi then back to Embu, then to College, then unstable job, then betrayal then sarcasm, then repulsion, then alcoholism, then pregnancy, then dating again, then the final blow-I replaced you! Your story has incoherence gaps that if you could have filled them fully, it can benefit many young ladies in your situation or could be heading there. Let me clarify or qualify my statement for easier understanding where I am coming from. 1. How did you move from Embu to Nakuru and who was financing your college fee? Was it your relatives, Foster family or your (model) boyfriend? Not important but has a direct bearing to your challenges a head. 2. Other than all these movements from one point to the other and phone-calls relationship with your first love, nowhere you have told us how your love life was sustained and degree of engagement. To that extent I believe you abandoned him and the void was formed because it could have been easier to visit each other either way. New love must be cemented and nourished. 4yrs absence from each other in physical terms was tempting and dangerous to hold. You haven't told us how you as a person managed to bond your emotions and temptations of a normal human being away from the same guy you claim you loved so much but betrayed you... 3. In your return from Malindi back to Nairobi, you are not telling us how you reconnected and revived the bliss with your model guy. You talk about it so casually as if it wasn't anything fundamental or deserving reconnection. It looks like while in Malindi you were doing your own things while he resorted to his own. 4. At the time you indicate you started and continued visiting your Foster family, there is nowhere you are talking passionately about your guy, that apparently come from the same area. To that extent I am not understanding where betrayal happened especially when you talk about sering pictures of your guy making out in your sister's phone. Does it mean in your Embu visitations you never bothered to meet your guy face to face? I am not seeing the element of betrayal if for real you never bothered to look upto him in the first place. But you are entitled to your narrative since we are not party and parcel of the same but thinking allowed. 5. After "BETRAYAL" you went out and emptied 2 bottles of whisky alone and dry. Really? A person that has not been drinking hard stuff cannot empty one litre of whisky alone in one sitting leave alone 2! Could it be that upon relocating to malindi the land of twilight life you got lost in club life till you forgot your "VILLAGE" boy in Embu and even after returning to Nairobi he realised you have real changed then he decide to move on but to you he is the one that betrayed you since he is not privileged to defend himself here? Thinking allowed. Club life might have taken toll of you madam Jackie to the extent that the same Foster parents decided enough is enough and told you out of their home but here you are telling us you were a good girl but the very people that nurtured you all of a sudden turned against you by stealing your man. The way I am seeing it is different. How I wish that before you could forgive them here, you are honest enough to tell us, you had equally messed yourself up in one way or the other. 6. "I replaced you" wow! Very direct and damaging statement indeed sister Jackie, but you know what? Such words are never uttered casually and caressly without a cause. That cause is you! There is something you did to him by your words or character that passed this second guy off or so painfully that he decided to revenge. But you have refused to let us know what you did. A layman could look at it as your level of naivety in treating men but I personally believe your attitude or character has alot to do with what you went through with your two Xs. 7. "I think you need to abort this child or stop what you are doing or going through" this statement has a revelation too which you are not telling us! There is a huge gap left open here. 8. In relation to point 7-" Jackie, stop being desperate for a husband......" This is equally another revelation that you have not revealing from 7 and even earlier.... 9. "I wanted to give my child for adoption to let me enjoy my freedom and happiness" Jackie, this final revelation sells you out and indeed explains why man one and man two left you-Lifestyle. You found yourself in an open life of bliss and joy and happiness that in extreme denied you rationale and fair judgement. You resorted to carefree club life where the world of "good" and "better" men of means wined and dined. Getting a baby was kinda a mistake and an hindrance to your glamorous life so you thought getting rid of her could have been the best option but God intervened and salvation happened. In your story madam Jackie, I wish you could have been bold and open to tell the world how dirty and unpromising twilight life is than limiting it to betrayal and dumping by two men. Your story is bigger than the two men that walked away and the sister that grabbed the man you abandoned to seek glamorous lifestyle. A best friend or sister to go to bed with a man you have slept with is immoral and betrayal, yes but think about it in retrospect! How did you contribute to it yourself? My point of view is personal and with no ill motive but positive critique to make it more relevant and factual to appeal to many in a positive way not negative. Now, despite the demands of your body and heart, please take time to recollect, review and process fully before you start dating. Ask yourself if you could have done it any other way and also take time to correct your wrongs before you engage another relationship. Sex is good, love is fulfilling but marriage is sweet but with the right person.
i totally agree......there are quite endlesses gaps.......those gaps are making the story not full ..there is more to our own character than just narratives..she is still a wonderfull girl but i can sense some bitterness from a far.sister moved on too i guess and both have stories.
Thank you Nodice for watching, we appreciate the comment. On the issue of forgiveness it not easy, but we do it not because we are weak, or the other person is right, but because we want freedom from anger, bitterness and to enjoy joy that Christ died for us to receive.
@Mchezo Wetu 🙆🏾😳😁😱You don't demean others betrayal persecution so as to enhance your own 🙆🏾🤔🤔😳You are very mean indeed!!! Watch your heart something isn't right
What the essence of the story am confuse. They weren't married! Now you are a Christian so why are you talking about it🤔 or that's the way she turned to God
How was he your husband, then going out with your foster sister? If it was your husband, why did you choose to go get pregnant to another man? If it was your husband will you not fight your foster sister off him?
She got real love, and it's hurt her, she will have peace one day and prosperous, and all this Will be her past. May God see her through this 2021 and forevermore.
It's not a must for any person you date to marry you. You make a mistake of clinging too hard to men. It's also not in your place to say your former bf and your sister are not good for each other. Wishing you all the best. But I would want to hear the other side of the story from those you have demonized.
I don’t like this story. First thing take responsibility of your own actions. You did not love yourself because if you do you will be thanking God, you did not end up with that guy, Secondly, if you love yourself you won’t be jumping into bed with the next available man. Thirdly , learn to forgive those two love birds who found love. You were definitely clinging on to that guy. You were looking for love and a place were you belonged. I still believe that you haven’t healed.! The man did not marry you, so he is free to find his true love, You were infatuated with that guy, you were not and never in love with the guy, it was infatuation. You couldn’t love yourself so can’t love another. If people don’t want you in their space please leave them alone. You don’t force it!
Lessons I have learned;
*Don't force people to love you.
*Red flags are red flags and not purple.
*Your enemy comes from your household.
*Ladies don't do wife chores to a man when you're not married.
*Heal before jumping into another relationship.
*When dating listen to people don't be possessed with love.
*Love is a two way traffic.
*True loves come from God.
*Christ is the answer.
Great lessons Josky, thank you for watching
Very true
Absolutely! 💯
Yes red flags means red flags
Wow
This gal is so eloquent and smart. ....can she start a yutube channel and let us follow her. ..she's going far
I support
And she's so pretty!! Oh my goodness.
You are right Joyce.
You were so blessed to get those supportive relatives, they are rare to find. You chose the right way at the end. Hope you find Love, your soulmate
I like these stories because they teach me not to trust humans. As long as you are broken and betrayed Christ is the only one who can understand you.
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Misleading heading. It was a boyfriend, not husband. We will still watch when you put the right topic depending on the content inside. Now I feel cheated.
lol
I get blessed every time I watch a gorgeous women's show. Normalize speaking English because I'm watching from South Africa so I do here Kenyan
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May God heal all the ladies who are lost , seeking validation by men.Only God validates you.You are royal
Amen!
Lesson learnt.. ladies we should value ourselves and know our worth.we should not beg for love and affection from men
Not only ladies love is two way traffic my dear
True
At times, life becomes so complex until you don't even understand it being the actor of your own life. Time heals. Later you will come to understand why God never allowed it. Give thanks to God in all times
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This girl is humble and very honest, intelligent and truthful in her words.Not many like her even to keep her baby.Gods favor be upon her and she will go far.
Rev Wamuyu, please embrace this girl, she is a daughter of the kingdom, take her in as your own, she is there in your chanel for a purpose, i can see the pain in her still
True
That foster sister and family will reap what they sow seven fold.
This message has really healed me from my inner part I have experience alot in relationships 😢😢But I thank God for connecting me here be blessed 🙏🙏
This is so educative,Kenyan programs have taught me a lot,I passed thru depressionI know how it tastes,am a single mom of 2 who is hustling tirelessly, but once u Give ur burden to GOD everything works like magic, I pray one day to come to Kenya much love from Uganda
Sorry Jackie for the pain you've been through but I felt in your words that you haven't still let go this guy who married your sister,
Because when you say you still know your sis is not the best for Him then it means bado hauja get over ...
You are so beautiful and your strong...Let go and let God now take over...
And for the courage ....thank you.!
true,Jackie needs to forgive fully,and how does she know her ex ain't good for her sister...its not in her place to judge that. ...but I hope you totally get through this and heal completely.
Kindly I may want to invite this lady to a youth church mentorship ..plz connect
Thank you Jackie for that courageous yet inspiring story..inspire the young generation you are a woman of strength
Jackie i love this. i worked with you in the healthcare and you were so cool , God is faithful n merciful, your story n mine are just almost similar, the life i have left, i will live it up for God n my daughtrer
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God bless you sister in Christ, Don't despair, Your Mighty Loving Father,has something better for you and your little one, 🤗🙏May God be with you and your son forever Amen 🌺🌸🌺🌈🙏
You are very strong girl. Your story is very inspirational. Much love.
I feel like you are talking to me.. you have really encouraged me thanks
She is actually talking to you. God uses other experiences to talk to us.
He was envious at You my Sister. I'm glad that You found Jesus Christ. This relationship is not God!
God don't bring us problems.
God is Love, Peace. 🙏
Never leave him. I foud Jesus Christ too. God Bless You, Sis. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I think all she needs is someone who can understand and love her
I agree
True
That's true but,from where
Never ask a single mom why she is single...taah
A lesson leant, don't be so available for a guy. Tell him you are busy, or uko gym even if u are sleeping or watching a movie.
When you become too available they got bored.
like why should you buy a cow if you are getting milk for free.
it doesnt work like that......... if a guy loves you he loves you ata ka you always available.....
@@flown945 i agree with you completely
Sorry girl....wait the lord u r very beatiful ...u will get agood husband u won't believe girl.u have experienced more hope u will be able to handle ur husband tightly be blessed ..keep playing.
Mamangu alikuwa akiniambia wanaume wanauma kotekote so nilipo chezwa n kudharauliwa niliamua kutafuta maisha n mungu akiniajalia nitapata wangu
Your mum she was wise
Jackie you are so intelligent and brave. Move on with Christ. He shall always be there for you.
Jackie has to learn to love herself and also find the source of her pain. The day she finds self love will the day the sister and her boyfriend will mean nothing to her at all. Such a beautiful girl. I appreciate that she has acknowledged that through counselling. May you find peace.
Thank you Ruth for this story. This feels like my story though am still at that stage of pain and wishing for someone to love me since 12 years ago. I wish that one day I can move on and just be free from the pain am feeling. It has even drove me to a point that I have everybody, am so angry with very minor things in my life. I really need help. I have a 12 year old daughter that is really looking up to me nad am not ready to let her go.
I'm like you. 3 years ago found out 17 year marriage was fake. He cheated and cheated and cheated yet I was faithful both to God and him. Haa I have NEVER felt pain like this. I have lost a child, parents and grew in bad situation but this infidelity pain tops all
So touching 👤👤... This is an encouragement indeed,, single moms we hv made sacrifices that at some point we hv betrayed our kids..... But above it all God has been a blessing n a frewd... 💙💙💙
Problem here is premarital sex before marriage.
Why have a soul tie to a man that will not marry you?
Why give your body so freely?
Lets give value to our bodies ladies.
True loves waits.
Sex should be for marriage only.Period
We have all fallen short of his glory.
People who think are very holy and they feel judging is the best idea my dia you have not have given your body to anybody be4 marriage but trust me you have your own foes so stop being madam or Mr holy
Ok is this jesus or the holy Spirit judging others........oooooh plse
Preach deeper
@@rajupanchal1443 I think she is only advising not judging
As you say , your sister is not good enough for the guy but you saw he was good for you......?? Thank God that you saw his traits before you entered into marriage. ..
You are a motivator to many girls and women out there. It is really brave of you to come out and speak your life. Now Jackie I would urge you to completely let go of your Ex and your foster sister. Don't say they are not worthy of ach other. It is only GOD, and GOD alone that can make that judgement. If they are together, just bless them and wish them well.
God will surely bless you with your daughter and i am sure the future is very bright for you. God bless you woman of God.
Don't force love, it comes when you don't expect... i understand you missing your parents but you can't let yourself feel like you chasing love
Can relate with this story am a victim of betrayal can assure you its not easy to deal with it.but i thank God i overcame
Thank you Josmo for watching, and we thank God for helping you overcome that painful journey of your life.
God give me strength like this lady
Jackie is still in pain she’s not healed...pstr help her pick peaces together and move on,Jackie let go of your x pliz pliz
What Jackie went through, I also went through just excluding the children involved. Somebody was right to say she has not completely healed. She is onto a good start, however, she's needs to be naked with Christ. Pour out your heart to him as he is our best friend. This is what he taught me in the early stages of my relationship with him. I have not even forgiven yet; not because I don't want to, but because I loved my ex so much. God will give me his grace. The only thing after he has completely healed you tell him to send his heart beat for you, men that will by only his grace not replace, but destroy any so called love we had with the past
In the past. Sorry grammatical error.
True
I may want to invite jackie for a youth church seminar.. kindly connect
Im sorry she got hurt thats messed up what the so called sister did but when she made the comment about her being older I had an issue with that. She seems like she really just wanted someone to calls hers to remake the family she lost. I understand that but what about the day when she realizes that she didn't really love the guy she just wanted him there with her. Men know when you want them versus you just want a man.
my friend GOD is coming to you and give you what you want much love
Your story jackie really inspires me......
But its not your husband but boy friend. But boy friend and introduction is not marriage.
Guy never loved you ma cherie so sorry to hear thid
i feel you pretty well from experience, dear God listen to the cry of your many children
Jackie is still in pain please pstr help this gal come out n pick her peaces together n move on with her life
Self love, you can't love if you don't love yourself
Very deep story, don't trust too much people will fail u
Mat GOD GOD continue to lift you up and may the HOLY SPIRIT dwell in you 🙏🏻
Amen
Sasa what kind of relationship was this based on calls only without meeting in person honestly 🤔🤔that creates room for cheating/ being replaced..
I thot so too
Thank you for watching Nancy we appreciate the comment
They were still young 🤔nothing wrong with phone calls
He was not meant for her period!
When you love yourselves long distance is nothing, he was not faithful to their relationship
Jackie has not completely healed. May God completely heal her and get her a good man.
Jaky ur rili strong saw dat kmg my way en had to get rid of ma sis quickly
Jackie and Ruth thank you so much for finding d courage to share the personal stories...God bless you.
I really would like to meet you both for a chat, though I am in Lagos,Nigeria...
Jackie cheers from your fellow member from Woodley
Thank you Josky for watching. God bless you
I don't think she has forgiven her sister or moved on but anyway!
Felt so too but it's a process she is still healing
Wow inspiration too me thanks Jackie almost your stry to mine
I think Jackie let go off completely coz kusema aty they are not meant for each other hapo sio poa am not supporting any of them but I think you should not say that again,I have gone through the same thing but I always learn to bless them
Pole ,everything happened for good to those who love Him
This is a good way to go
Rule number 1. Grown up people need to stop referring to outsiders as mum and dad..! We all have one biological father and mother!! (There were no formal paperwork saying she was legally fostered)
2. Grown ups stop teaching your children to call others who are no related to you/them as uncle, aunty, dad, mum, sister, brother etc.... you are blurring the lines/boundaries!!
Joke is she is STILL referring to these people as family!😥
As a forensic Psychologist; this "names" makes it easier to build false trust. The victims overly trusts the perpetrator because, "my sister can't do this to me..." kinda thing
Very true there are many ways of respecting our elders other than telling children lies... it is so dangerous! ! I hear uncle ,sister brother....
Wewe 2 relationship zinakupea stress na mm nikona 6 na ya 7 niliachwa juzi na Sina stress 🤣🤣🤣 kupenda Niya small boy mm sahii natafuta pesa.kama mwanaume huna pesa akanyange big big🤣🤣🤣🤣
I like your courage
Hehehe wacha nicheke
Jackie help me, I'm crushing in depression Im Marjorine from you Uganda
Somebody tag Jackie here...
Wish you well Marjorie
Hugs dear
Pick yourself up darlng you are valued
Relationships are two way, I can't make a conclusion until I hear both sides.
I pray God to hear your needs and you can be more happy again in Jesus name.
I can't believe your only sis. That's really painful just forgive her and forget all about God has reason everything to happen. Praying for you 🙏
People have so many soul mates....bluff he will chase you
Some of us in Soth Africa but you stick to your langguage we donot hear the amzing sories as even if you write down sometims its so fast one cannot follow
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Hi Jackie, I have listened to your sad and yet educative story and in as much as I sympathise and empathise with you, I wish to point out some key areas you failed or could have done better for the sake of your listeners and your own lesson so that you never repeat the same again. I am happy I am also a member of CITAM Valley Road. I feel relieved that you finally found Jesus as your saviour and Lord and free to give a testimony to impact many could be victims of such devastating journey of depression. God loves you more. Be contented and happy.
Regarding your story, I can deduce many gaps in between that could have caused your predicament.
The move from Embu to Nakuru, then to Malindi then back to Embu, then to College, then unstable job, then betrayal then sarcasm, then repulsion, then alcoholism, then pregnancy, then dating again, then the final blow-I replaced you!
Your story has incoherence gaps that if you could have filled them fully, it can benefit many young ladies in your situation or could be heading there.
Let me clarify or qualify my statement for easier understanding where I am coming from.
1. How did you move from Embu to Nakuru and who was financing your college fee? Was it your relatives, Foster family or your (model) boyfriend? Not important but has a direct bearing to your challenges a head.
2. Other than all these movements from one point to the other and phone-calls relationship with your first love, nowhere you have told us how your love life was sustained and degree of engagement. To that extent I believe you abandoned him and the void was formed because it could have been easier to visit each other either way. New love must be cemented and nourished. 4yrs absence from each other in physical terms was tempting and dangerous to hold. You haven't told us how you as a person managed to bond your emotions and temptations of a normal human being away from the same guy you claim you loved so much but betrayed you...
3. In your return from Malindi back to Nairobi, you are not telling us how you reconnected and revived the bliss with your model guy. You talk about it so casually as if it wasn't anything fundamental or deserving reconnection. It looks like while in Malindi you were doing your own things while he resorted to his own.
4. At the time you indicate you started and continued visiting your Foster family, there is nowhere you are talking passionately about your guy, that apparently come from the same area. To that extent I am not understanding where betrayal happened especially when you talk about sering pictures of your guy making out in your sister's phone. Does it mean in your Embu visitations you never bothered to meet your guy face to face? I am not seeing the element of betrayal if for real you never bothered to look upto him in the first place. But you are entitled to your narrative since we are not party and parcel of the same but thinking allowed.
5. After "BETRAYAL" you went out and emptied 2 bottles of whisky alone and dry. Really? A person that has not been drinking hard stuff cannot empty one litre of whisky alone in one sitting leave alone 2! Could it be that upon relocating to malindi the land of twilight life you got lost in club life till you forgot your "VILLAGE" boy in Embu and even after returning to Nairobi he realised you have real changed then he decide to move on but to you he is the one that betrayed you since he is not privileged to defend himself here? Thinking allowed. Club life might have taken toll of you madam Jackie to the extent that the same Foster parents decided enough is enough and told you out of their home but here you are telling us you were a good girl but the very people that nurtured you all of a sudden turned against you by stealing your man. The way I am seeing it is different. How I wish that before you could forgive them here, you are honest enough to tell us, you had equally messed yourself up in one way or the other.
6. "I replaced you" wow! Very direct and damaging statement indeed sister Jackie, but you know what? Such words are never uttered casually and caressly without a cause. That cause is you! There is something you did to him by your words or character that passed this second guy off or so painfully that he decided to revenge. But you have refused to let us know what you did. A layman could look at it as your level of naivety in treating men but I personally believe your attitude or character has alot to do with what you went through with your two Xs.
7. "I think you need to abort this child or stop what you are doing or going through" this statement has a revelation too which you are not telling us! There is a huge gap left open here.
8. In relation to point 7-" Jackie, stop being desperate for a husband......" This is equally another revelation that you have not revealing from 7 and even earlier....
9. "I wanted to give my child for adoption to let me enjoy my freedom and happiness" Jackie, this final revelation sells you out and indeed explains why man one and man two left you-Lifestyle. You found yourself in an open life of bliss and joy and happiness that in extreme denied you rationale and fair judgement. You resorted to carefree club life where the world of "good" and "better" men of means wined and dined. Getting a baby was kinda a mistake and an hindrance to your glamorous life so you thought getting rid of her could have been the best option but God intervened and salvation happened.
In your story madam Jackie, I wish you could have been bold and open to tell the world how dirty and unpromising twilight life is than limiting it to betrayal and dumping by two men. Your story is bigger than the two men that walked away and the sister that grabbed the man you abandoned to seek glamorous lifestyle. A best friend or sister to go to bed with a man you have slept with is immoral and betrayal, yes but think about it in retrospect! How did you contribute to it yourself?
My point of view is personal and with no ill motive but positive critique to make it more relevant and factual to appeal to many in a positive way not negative.
Now, despite the demands of your body and heart, please take time to recollect, review and process fully before you start dating. Ask yourself if you could have done it any other way and also take time to correct your wrongs before you engage another relationship. Sex is good, love is fulfilling but marriage is sweet but with the right person.
Lol, you are filing a replying affidavit just because Jackie shared her story?
@@nehemiah6494 😅
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i totally agree......there are quite endlesses gaps.......those gaps are making the story not full ..there is more to our own character than just narratives..she is still a wonderfull girl but i can sense some bitterness from a far.sister moved on too i guess and both have stories.
For how long did you take to type all this😏😏😏
Thanks for the message
Thank you my sister Jackie for ur encourangement. Love you so much.. me i failed to forgive my ex husband.
Thank you Nodice for watching, we appreciate the comment. On the issue of forgiveness it not easy, but we do it not because we are weak, or the other person is right, but because we want freedom from anger, bitterness and to enjoy joy that Christ died for us to receive.
Jackie you are so cutie
God is changing your story to help many.
God did nothing, she reached rock-bottom pulled herself out with the help of loved ones around her.
Jacky u r talking about story I went almost same thing !!!!
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Me too, ilearn not to trust,anyone
Sorry my love.
Come on Jacky....YOU ARE A QUEEN🥰🥰
All the best Jackie
Jackie,,,you are a hero
Not husband. The title is misleading
Sorry Jackie for breakups and betrayal.
Bt you were not married at all !!...after listening your story nikama bado hujielewi ww ....waah
Can I get the link to episode 1
Amazing content.
Thanks for sharing
woow, ave loved the testimony.
Motivated and Be blessed
Jackie, the devil is always a loser thanks for overcoming that
I can't judge this Wat guys are going through
Thank you Jecinta for watching. We appreciate your feedback. Very true this is just one case among thousands of others.
sorry dear aki GOD help you
35:18 jaw on floor!!! I have no (good) words!!!!
Is she the same woman who was in Switch Tv a while back? Looks familiar and the story too.
Yes I also think she is the one.
She is!
She's the one from Ebru too
@@doreennasike6298, I think I watched her on either Ebru or Tuko, not sure
She's the same lady
Really waiting
Like zangu please😂😂😂
hii yako ni kidogo. my brother slept with my wife na this year in august
Your words are mean and harsh. Sio kidogo, respect her pain. We all hurt differently.
@Mchezo Wetu 🙆🏾😳😁😱You don't demean others betrayal persecution so as to enhance your own 🙆🏾🤔🤔😳You are very mean indeed!!! Watch your heart something isn't right
Waaarh!!! Too bad , sorry
What did u do after u realised
Hiyo yako ndio kidogo out of your own ignorance, I think you happy with my comment.
Wow can you help me to come a model
pretty gal
Wow so sad
18:20 aaaaaahhhhh 😳😳😳😳🤯🤭🥺😲😵🥱🙆🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Thats a curse act bibically
What the essence of the story am confuse. They weren't married! Now you are a Christian so why are you talking about it🤔 or that's the way she turned to God
I love dat baldness
this girl has dates on finger tips... how do u remember all those dates?
Betrayal makes her to remember
How was he your husband, then going out with your foster sister? If it was your husband, why did you choose to go get pregnant to another man?
If it was your husband will you not fight your foster sister off him?
You need to go to therapy to find a the root of the problem to stop clinging to men like that. You are too desperate
She got real love, and it's hurt her, she will have peace one day and prosperous, and all this Will be her past. May God see her through this 2021 and forevermore.
It's not a must for any person you date to marry you. You make a mistake of clinging too hard to men. It's also not in your place to say your former bf and your sister are not good for each other. Wishing you all the best. But I would want to hear the other side of the story from those you have demonized.
You are big fool . People like you can kill and won't feel a thing . Go and look for the other people and hear their side of the story.
Jackie b strong in the LORD and he's gone do something good for you.
I don’t like this story.
First thing take responsibility of your own actions.
You did not love yourself because if you do you will be thanking God, you did not end up with that guy,
Secondly, if you love yourself you won’t be jumping into bed with the next available man.
Thirdly , learn to forgive those two love birds who found love. You were definitely clinging on to that guy. You were looking for love and a place were you belonged.
I still believe that you haven’t healed.!
The man did not marry you, so he is free to find his true love, You were infatuated with that guy, you were not and never in love with the guy, it was infatuation. You couldn’t love yourself so can’t love another.
If people don’t want you in their space please leave them alone. You don’t force it!
The day u will go through pain is the day you will revisit your comment