Can I recover (on my own) from an Eating Disorder or Self-Harm?

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 10 дек 2024

Комментарии • 86

  • @jodiewhitakersgoldentoe6836
    @jodiewhitakersgoldentoe6836 3 года назад +84

    i don’t want to get help from an outside source because they’re gonna make me eat more than i want to

    • @paritejdan
      @paritejdan 3 года назад +2

      Same here.. I finally made an appointment to start though

  • @stellamantella7113
    @stellamantella7113 2 года назад +6

    As a person struggling with an eating disorder, I try everyday to find a way to avoid throwing up, and obviously, I fail each day. I just can’t bring myself to deprive my body from that little bit of happiness that puking brings me, and if I don’t do that, I get moody and mad at everybody, so it is just a way to keep myself and the people around me happy

  • @msgooner13
    @msgooner13 11 лет назад +10

    Darling Anna, you are so much more than your eating disorder. this broke my heart to read, you are a person full of memories and hopes and dreams and they may seem lost to you now but they are still there...I promise. You deserve to give yourself the opportunity to find them again and live a full life! Despite all your reservations and instincts, and however uncomfortable it may feel, PLEASE make the first move and get help. I want to see you succeed!! All my love x

  • @amethystgacha4697
    @amethystgacha4697 3 года назад +18

    I’ve been dealing with disordered eating (it did sometimes get bad, where all I had eaten in like 2 days was something like a sandwich) for 2 years now. There are times where I barely even think about what I eat, but then sometimes I start thinking about it more (like within the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to eat as little as possible, but today I I’ve eaten a lot of junk food, so it sending me back to these videos). I really don’t want to tell anybody about this, so I’m trying to recover by myself. It’s also getting near Easter, and since I’m 13, my mum buys me quite a few Easter eggs, which gets me worried and in a horrible mindset. I told my sister what I had been eating for school this past week as I wanted her of know I’m not eating enough to try and urge me to eat more and she told that I’m starving myself as I ate was a yogurt for lunch. That was kinda the purpsle of thst but I’ve gotta stop lol

  • @Trizinity
    @Trizinity 10 лет назад +57

    I've been dealing with EDNOS(which technically isn't a thing anymore) for about four years and I'm a junior in high school. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom and I have previously attempted to speak with her about getting some form of professional help but her response was "you're not skin and bones, so you're fine". That made me feel like things have to get worse before they can get better :/ Is there something I can do to either get her to realize I'm hurting or get help on my own

    • @ashleighnicole6341
      @ashleighnicole6341 9 лет назад +6

      +Trinity Murray i know this comment was from a while ago and I hope you have figured it out, but youre comment really grabbed my attention, my mom said the same thing to me when I asked for help and I still currently struglle and have that mindset where I need to get like really bad for me to get help. It really sucks becausev now whn I kinda want to get help, I think about how Im not thin enough to get help. I hope this wasnt the case for you

    • @ianjohnson1495
      @ianjohnson1495 4 года назад +4

      EDNOS is still a thing! They just changed the acronym to like OSFED or something in the dsm

  • @eveyzlta
    @eveyzlta 11 лет назад +40

    im trying to recover on my own with my binge/purge cycles by eating healthy natural foods and exercising, but Ive been overeating on healthy foods and my stomache expands.....Fml

  • @desdimi6499
    @desdimi6499 2 года назад +1

    I had bulimia for 15 years. Between June and August 2021, I purged only a few times and then my grandmother got very sick with covid in September so I had to look after her. On 10th October 2021, I had to put her in care home as she was not well and that day I flew back to UK where I live. I somehome had that aha moment where I knew the ED has to stop and since that day I have never binged or purged. It has been almost 11 months now. It was not hard for me at all, it felt natural to stop, felt like waking up from a dream. I am so grateful as I honestly, I never believed I could recover but God helped me and recovery is possible. You can beat it and you will.

  • @kayleezaner2187
    @kayleezaner2187 11 лет назад +3

    SO thankful!!!!! She had reconsidered a little bit and between that and hearing my opinion she decided that she would continue to see me!!!!! She admitted that it wasn't fair to say I hadn't made any progress and that after further thought she realized that I really had made a lot of progress and am not the same person I was. Yay!!!!!

  • @LaurenMca
    @LaurenMca 11 лет назад +14

    I really like the book: "There's nothing wrong with you: Going beyond self hate"
    I also posted a book list on Kati's website that my therapist gave me. My user name is Lauren if you want to check that out.

  • @MAVOgirl
    @MAVOgirl 11 месяцев назад

    I recovered by myself. It was an 8 year struggle. Right near the end a friend recommended intuitive eating and that just clicked for me because I was really locked into a cycle of control and I needed to let go. If it didn't or doesn't work for you don't worry, tons of other things people recommended didn't work for me, I think you really have to find what speaks to your individual journey. I do wish I had taken the time to see a professional, I think it would have been a much shorter and less painful road. These days I'm still working on the perfectionism and anxiety and fear that turned out to be at the roots of the disorder, it's kicking my butt but I'm so grateful because I'm not just trying to survive every day anymore. Thankful for this video which was super encouraging as I've always been a bit afraid I couldn't REALLY recover by myself. Love and thoughts to everybody out there, reading your comments is heartbreaking to hear what you're going through but you've come to the right place and you're looking to get better and I really believe that's half the battle. Cheers to everyone who made it out and thanks for your example, it gives so much hope.

  • @jillianseiden6051
    @jillianseiden6051 11 лет назад +1

    I went four years before I actually reached out for help. I felt really stuck and I had no idea how to even begin helping myself. I find it's been really helpful to have an unbiased professional help me work through it. To people who want to do it by themselves I only have one piece of advice: SH/ED are usually not the main thing you need to focus on. If I knew then what I know now, I would have focused more on the emotions that are giving me these self destructive urges.

  • @KennTodd117
    @KennTodd117 11 лет назад +2

    Great content. I recovered from SI on my own and it was not easy. Had I had help, things would have been much different! To those of you struggling... get help... you are worth it!

  • @kayleezaner2187
    @kayleezaner2187 11 лет назад +5

    I tried doing it on my own for years before I got enough courage to get help, and I have been doing it on my own over the summer, but it has never been super effective...my counselor this year told me she is considering refusing to see me and telling the rest of the people who work at the counseling center not to see me either. I feel so overwhelmed trying to face this on my own. Her reasoning is that I haven't made progress fast enough this month so she should help other people who'd do better.

  • @MrsHeatherOlson
    @MrsHeatherOlson 11 лет назад +1

    I agree! that would be so helpful! Maybe even talk about other things to put in a journal to stay motivated. When I was in treatment, we would make a motivation list of things that would motivate us to recover, for example: to be there for younger siblings, to get married, have kids, to be happy again, etc.

  • @strikingly105
    @strikingly105 11 лет назад +3

    I downloaded your workbook for eating disorders and I finished it over the summer :) I look back at some of my old blog entries where I was struggling more and I see a lot of improvement. I'm starting to see myself the way others see me and it feels good. I was way too hard on myself before.

  • @MarinaMuse94
    @MarinaMuse94 11 лет назад +7

    I'd like to start a recovery journal, so it'd be great if you could make a video about what we should write in it, and what we should leave out, if we should make a schedule, and that sort of things, cause I'm not really sure about how to use it in order to help on my recovery. Thank yooou!!

  • @annakelly1313
    @annakelly1313 11 лет назад +3

    Thank you so much. This actually made me cry. I don't know why, because I wasn't sad, but it meant so much to me to hear that. Just thought I'd let you know how much your opinion is worth x

  • @MrsHeatherOlson
    @MrsHeatherOlson 11 лет назад

    that is completely normal to feel uncertain about wanting to get better. I even felt that way. What I would suggest is to surround yourself with supportive people and talk it over. If you have an eating disorder clinic nearby, those are wonderful to go to because the staff are so supportive and understanding, otherwise go to a doc and see what they suggest. I assure you though, you will not be an empty shell without ED, you will most likely think more clear and be happier! Wish you the best!! :)

  • @cooky212
    @cooky212 11 лет назад

    Hi :) wanting to tell your guidance counselor is an amazing step and I hope you know that. Your guidance counselor would most likely talk to your parents but it's because they are required to keep you safe. Maybe, you can talk to the guidance counselor about why you're worried about them knowing - fear of disappointing them, fear they won't understand, fear of them being "toxic" to you, etc. - and they can help you open communication. You are so worth it. Don't be scared. Hope this helps. Xoxo.

  • @oilnwater8355
    @oilnwater8355 3 года назад

    I’ve struggled with dieting since age 9ish and began dieting more seriously in my teens, by 16 I developed an eating disorder (I now believe it was OSFED but I don’t know), I never got diagnosed (I’m 19 almost 20 now). I went through a few years of struggling and being more depressed than ever. Now I’m focusing on resolving and recovering for the last few disordered eating mindsets and habits I have so it’s possible. Still, I feel so invalid sometimes, and so alone since I had no one to help me through this. The only person to validate my illness was my ex who had suffered from anorexia and was sure I had had an eating disorder. It’s hard doing it alone but not impossible, you have to be realistic with yourself about whether you’re going to recover (I took two years out of education to focus on my mental health)

  • @Mednerd19
    @Mednerd19 11 лет назад +2

    I saw the Courage to Heal workbook at a thrift store near me and although it was an older edition, it shows that thrift stores are options for finding workbooks, too (and they are usually cheap).

  • @RosalinaRosebud
    @RosalinaRosebud 11 лет назад +1

    I REALLY enjoyed "8 Keys to recovery from an eating disorder" by Carolyn Costin & Gwen Grabb! great read xx

  • @Violetsmoon20
    @Violetsmoon20 11 лет назад +1

    I actually faced this problem. I was going to a "private sector" therapist and it was taking a lot of my money (that it added on my depression actually) so I quitted seeing her. But after a year I figured out no I do need an outside help and I can't do this on my own so I gathered my courage up (took months) and went to the general psych hospital at my country. it wasn't that bad. and now I'm still going there for free to see a therapist and a psychiatrist.

  • @carpertomscratchcards
    @carpertomscratchcards 4 года назад +6

    im hoping to self ammit my self to a ED place within the next week with my support workers help

  • @mariec5150
    @mariec5150 11 лет назад

    Thank you, Kati.

  • @mariec5150
    @mariec5150 11 лет назад

    Thank you, Samantha :)

  • @geraldlewis8272
    @geraldlewis8272 2 года назад

    Things I'll work themselves out no Worry's

  • @mariec5150
    @mariec5150 11 лет назад

    Thanks a lot, Heather :) Everyone, if you feel like it, check out the website (isn't it silly that we can't put links into our comments?!), I'm definitely going to try out some of their workbooks.

  • @AdamOfIngolstadt
    @AdamOfIngolstadt 2 года назад +1

    Shout out to all the other folks watching this because you think your illness isn't sever enough to get help

  • @rixterjay
    @rixterjay 11 лет назад

    The little clips at the end are so fun!:)

  • @samanthaxhope
    @samanthaxhope 11 лет назад +2

    I recommend the Marsha Linehan one. :)

  • @carlosgervasio7653
    @carlosgervasio7653 6 лет назад +1

    I don’t know what triggered me, but I stopped purging and binging when I stuck to my dietician’s alimentary plan (I didn’t tell her anything about eating disorders), I still think my relationship with food is not healthy though, and wish lots of love and strength to all those who struggle with mental health, we are all one ❤️💔

  • @justagirl1516
    @justagirl1516 11 лет назад

    I tried to do it on my own but it did NOT work. At all. It gave me a reason to keep falling back into it because no one else knew and it was easier just to keep falling back.

  • @cw9452
    @cw9452 Год назад

    Reading tabitha farrars books really helped me recover from my eating disorder and I did it on my own. I spent years in therapy and with dietitian, hospital admissions, FBT you name it and it never really helped that much.

  • @andriamaxwell8333
    @andriamaxwell8333 4 года назад

    I did not have to do inpatient but I did have to go to a dietitian and out patient therapy for my ED.

  • @narwhal9249
    @narwhal9249 2 года назад

    There's an app called 7 Cups, where you can chat with a listener or a group. The Mighty has some online groups that I don't think cost anything. For people in U.S. at least, you can text Crisis Text Line for eating disorder-related things. I don't know if this will help anyone, or if I'm just looking stupid.

  • @OliveThePoleFairy
    @OliveThePoleFairy 2 года назад

    As someone recovering from anorexia Nervosa and is a vegan, it’s been incredibly difficult for me to find help, even with insurance because they don’t want to support my vegan diet. However, I found a dietitian which was way more affordable. Do something small, get into a support group or find a dietitian or nutritionist, who is specifically all inclusive and specializes in inuitive eating. Recovery is possible!

  • @MaNdYmUcH23
    @MaNdYmUcH23 11 лет назад

    I wish it was true but to truely recover u will need to get help u can always do it alone but it will be twice as hard to recover i should know i tried to do it alone and ended up messed up so if u do it alone make sure u get a good support network remember recover is possible no matter how u do it

  • @madzazmarland3785
    @madzazmarland3785 4 года назад +4

    I don't feel that I want to recover, I'm doing to myself what I deserve...

    • @Lil-pl1dt
      @Lil-pl1dt 3 года назад +8

      Please don't think that! The only thing you deserve is to be happy and live your life with joy. I am working on my self love and self acceptance too and its not easy but I promise you its worth it! You are an incredible human being and I really hope you'll see that some day...
      I wish you the best

  • @EmilyFox
    @EmilyFox 10 лет назад +3

    Love your videos :)

  • @superwoman6413
    @superwoman6413 3 года назад

    I recovered on my own from an eating disorder but I do not think that this recovery was perfect, as it left untreated a lot of issues that came to call with a vengeance years later. My advice is to get professional help and take also the time for self work the therapist is taking in the video

  • @SqweakySqwizard
    @SqweakySqwizard 3 года назад +1

    I’ve had an undiagnosed ed for a year and a half and it’s gotten to a point where I just feel so sick and tired of it..

  • @xLittlexBellax
    @xLittlexBellax 11 лет назад +1

    My therapist gives me stuff to do from Marsha's DBT stuff. I don't like it because it makes me really think about things. And at DHHS where I see my therapist they have a DBT group based off her stuff.

  • @kayaunderwood1840
    @kayaunderwood1840 11 лет назад

    I always look forward to the bloopers/funny moments at the end. Lol it's exactly how I act. (:

  • @kayaunderwood1840
    @kayaunderwood1840 11 лет назад

    @livs667 I think it depends on what state you live in. I know that at my school they legally have to tell your parents if you're harming yourself, you're planning to harm someone, or if someone is planning to harm you. But please get help hun, you're worth it (:

  • @mitzimonsevais3463
    @mitzimonsevais3463 3 года назад +1

    Hi .. im idk if .. ok im a mother of 3 .. i have bulimia since i was 17 .. im 35 .. ive been trough a lot of abuse in my life .. i want to stop this problem with bulimia but i dont know how .. i know theres something bad with my heart .. I’ve had a lot of pain and haven’t tell anyone .. sometimes i think im going to die of a heart attack i know bulimia has taking me to this .. i really wanna stop i live in illinois .. if you stiill have the chance to stop do it now before its too late

    • @uee24
      @uee24 3 года назад

      Jesus loves you so much . Pray to God

  • @NicoleConstantyo
    @NicoleConstantyo 11 лет назад

    I own her book, and it is actually what they run the DBT group that I am in with. I think it is really helpful. However, until I started group when I tried to look at it on my own I found it to be too confusing.

  • @kelseyneapetung126
    @kelseyneapetung126 2 года назад

    Been suffering with bulimia for over 10 years. Two months ago I was 130lbs, today I'm 138lbs because I stopped throwing up every time I ate. I'm 5"7 and last year I completely stopped purging and got up to 160lbs... I'm so scared to get like that again but I'm so exhausted I Just want to be healthy 😢

  • @ilovesoup2744
    @ilovesoup2744 3 года назад

    Hi thank you for the great video I’m trying to recover myself but unfortunately can’t find your workbook has it been taken down?

  • @ramaster18
    @ramaster18 11 лет назад

    Is there a workbook or books that can help with OCD and Social Phobia? Also how do you overcome social phobia when just the thought of going somewhere or talking to someone makes you anxious and panic?

  • @norahseud3584
    @norahseud3584 11 лет назад

    we love

  • @OliveThePoleFairy
    @OliveThePoleFairy 2 года назад

    I went to download the book and is very much not free.

  • @justagirl1516
    @justagirl1516 11 лет назад

    she already has

  • @Starstruckt137
    @Starstruckt137 11 лет назад +1

    I'm scared to tell a counselor I have to go too, that I self-harm. Should I tell her?

  • @duh_rosayy
    @duh_rosayy 3 года назад +1

    I badly want to get help from outside but there are no doctor's here to treat me 😭😭😭😭

  • @Dreamgymnast5
    @Dreamgymnast5 11 лет назад

    Hey Kati :) thanks once again for all the videos you do. I was wondering if there is somewhere on your website or page that has the journal topics written down? Thanks,

  • @mariec5150
    @mariec5150 11 лет назад

    Hi, has anybody tried working with Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder by Marsha Linehan? I am looking for a DBT workbook (written for people with BPD, not therapists or relatives...) because I have BPD and would love to get better. I am also joining group therapy soon. I've noticed that Kati recommends two books by Matthew McKay on her website and Laura Rose has commented here that one of them worked for her. Has anybody tried the book by Marsha Linehan? Thanks

  • @kayleezaner2187
    @kayleezaner2187 11 лет назад

    Was this in reply to me? If so, I don't have time/money for higher level care. Honestly, I don't understand b/c I feel like I have improved in leaps&bounds recently. I am meeting w/my counselor tomorrow&plan to tell her what I think&see if that changes her mind. Also out of crisis mode, b/c the girl who was my RA 1st yr reminded me our church has free lay counseling &offered to help see if I can make that work if needed so I'll at least have help for 10-20 more wks&can figure out plan from there

  • @irenekatona7856
    @irenekatona7856 3 года назад

    Ugggghhhhh I went from anorexia to bulimia and have been stuck here for 5 years and now I’ve been trying to recover for two month now and I keep freaking binging and purging and screwing up 😭😩 idk if I should try to keep going or what

  • @mickybandy5004
    @mickybandy5004 11 лет назад

    Can you do a vidio on ocd?

  • @kellykak98
    @kellykak98 11 лет назад

    #KatiFAQ Hi Kati, I've been struggling with binge eating for about 10 years now (I'm 15) and just recently I told my psych teacher and guidance counselor about it. They contacted my parents since they are worried about my health but unfortunately my parents are completely anti therapy. My psych teacher is actually a LCPC and received her training at an ED treatment center and is nothing but helpful, but I am not allowed to talk about my eating problems at home. What should I do?

  • @LaurenMca
    @LaurenMca 11 лет назад

    I wanted to go to barnes and nobles anyway!

  • @honeyandmilk4680
    @honeyandmilk4680 3 года назад

    The thing is i don´t want an ED anymore but my parents don´t think therapy will help

  • @mariec5150
    @mariec5150 11 лет назад

    Shouldn't the other people in that centre make up their own mind whether they want to help you or not? I think it's not fair - but maybe it's not as simple as that... I can relate to how you are feeling, I was refused myself 10 years ago and wasn't told why, the counsellor just told me that he wouldn't ever work with me again... I didn't understand it, still feel really bad about it... I have BPD and I am joining a programme for people with BPD soon but I am really scared I'll be refused.

  • @Amy-ow1bp
    @Amy-ow1bp 11 лет назад +2

    #katiQnA: is it very common for people to idealize their therapist and feel upset/unimportant just knowing the therapist has other clients?

  • @charsigner93
    @charsigner93 11 лет назад

    I've tried to recover on my own and I relapsed fast and hard I am in iop and I see a tharepist there and I'm doing really well...does it mean I'm not strong enough?

  • @RecoveringGirl
    @RecoveringGirl 11 лет назад

    You have said you love/ enjoy singing a number of times... please sing us a bit of a song?? :) x x x

  • @LaurenMca
    @LaurenMca 11 лет назад +1

    I can mail it to your PO Box if you haven't already gotten it? :)

  • @mickybandy5004
    @mickybandy5004 11 лет назад +1

    Hi kati can you do a vidio on ocd sytoms? Be very apreciated.

  • @smufapsycho
    @smufapsycho 11 лет назад +1

    Hello I've just been told to have 5 cups of soya milk a day ( my doctor) after living off 1 smoothie (2 bananas) n 1 apple a day. Would i still get the calcium i need taking supplements instead as i'm not ready or have a lot of money. I've tried to eat more but i just feel really ill ( it backfires)

  • @guidinglight7743
    @guidinglight7743 4 года назад +1

    it depends on how far into an ED you are but anything is possible but for some it feels near impossible.