As an intj female myself, I can really understand it. I have a friend and she claims to be really analytical and objective and logical. but when I give her any kind of advice that won't serve her perspective, she gets so emotional and defensive, she even once yelled at me because I was not behaving as her expectations! because she believed if I am in a friendship with her I have to support her words and actions no matter what. Which I could not understand, because wrong is wrong! even if you are my friend. Anyway, female friendship is really complicated.
That's too bad, I fell like most realationships are like this, not just friendship. I conclude is better to be alone being a good and logical person, as much as I can than being in a group whit morally questionable people. That's me just starting highschool.
I am an INFJ (despite thinking I was not for a long time) and I relate whole-heartedly. I find I tend to give advice but it is more related to "feeling". I have an INTJ mate and we get along like a house on fire! I find I can sit back and take on the advice if she gives it to me and she can be supportive if I try to share mine. She is more stubborn at times though regarding this, so maybe sometimes the thing that bothers us in others is actually the thing that we are like... I am no way saying you don't take on advice but I find the INFJ and INTJ can be mirrors!
Being an intj girl, i can complete rate to this, i hve never found someone who can relate to my things but my best friend is a great listener and i think thats why we r friends
I think when it comes down to it. Females are more of an intuitive learning experience where as males seem somewhat tutorial in scope. When you mentioned the whole "I don't give energy to bad vibes" thing though... That really is the language of pure arrogance. Its clear they do know better but willing chose not to see full picture. Its something I can't stand for the life of me. Anywayzzz good vid Lyd :)
That really opened my eye on so many things, I don't have that many friends, just one female best friend and yeah I find myself giving her painful honest opinion and advice that might not necessarily make her feel better and happy, I don't always give emotional support and kind of rush towards finding solutions and giving advice while she just wants to say what's in her heart and she will go back to live normally she just needed some kind words and a hug. Basically she teached me a lot about not taking everything seriously and submit a little bit and relax and not think of the future and plan for everything. She showed me that life is not always that black and white and that I can be a lot more flexible.
I tried and tried very hard for years to have female friends, but alas it just doesn't work no matter what, everytime I have happiness or joy or I'm enthusiastic about something they would accomplish I would be talked down to about my own life 😔 I would frequently do her hair and pay for everything out of my pocket and tell her the cost and give her the receipt, three times she never paid me back even though she had a really well paying job and would tell me to please hurry up she has better things to do, she also said to people behind my back I'm a weirdo because art and music are extremely important to me, soooo many times over and over again female friends acted almost hateful with me and too this day I don't know why, I don't have friends at the moment because where I live people have different style of life, Im an artistic type don't smoke, drink or party, I love classic films, art, mysticism, tarot, witchcraft, and I'm a hippie, that is considered disgusting where I live LoL so I prefer not to associate..☺️with anyone.
As you said in one of your other videos…men are simple creatures. Men don’t often do that because men don’t want to do that. They’ll sometimes meet to eat or something. Men can have good and deep conversations but it usually comes on the heels of doing some sort of activity and going to eat or something afterward and it’s usually more one-on-one than a group setting. More often though we’ll do some sort of activity and not talk about much of anything personal or family related. Talk will mostly be centered around the activity.
I so get this and I’m an INFJ. feel sometimes like I’m too logical for my female friends. Not religious and not very spiritual, so sometimes I feel out of place when certain conversations arise.
As an intj female myself, I can really understand it. I have a friend and she claims to be really analytical and objective and logical. but when I give her any kind of advice that won't serve her perspective, she gets so emotional and defensive, she even once yelled at me because I was not behaving as her expectations! because she believed if I am in a friendship with her I have to support her words and actions no matter what. Which I could not understand, because wrong is wrong! even if you are my friend. Anyway, female friendship is really complicated.
That's too bad, I fell like most realationships are like this, not just friendship. I conclude is better to be alone being a good and logical person, as much as I can than being in a group whit morally questionable people.
That's me just starting highschool.
I am an INFJ (despite thinking I was not for a long time) and I relate whole-heartedly. I find I tend to give advice but it is more related to "feeling". I have an INTJ mate and we get along like a house on fire! I find I can sit back and take on the advice if she gives it to me and she can be supportive if I try to share mine. She is more stubborn at times though regarding this, so maybe sometimes the thing that bothers us in others is actually the thing that we are like... I am no way saying you don't take on advice but I find the INFJ and INTJ can be mirrors!
Being an intj girl, i can complete rate to this, i hve never found someone who can relate to my things but my best friend is a great listener and i think thats why we r friends
I think when it comes down to it. Females are more of an intuitive learning experience where as males seem somewhat tutorial in scope.
When you mentioned the whole "I don't give energy to bad vibes" thing though... That really is the language of pure arrogance. Its clear they do know better but willing chose not to see full picture. Its something I can't stand for the life of me. Anywayzzz good vid Lyd :)
You are the only intj female youtuber that I can relate with.
That really opened my eye on so many things, I don't have that many friends, just one female best friend and yeah I find myself giving her painful honest opinion and advice that might not necessarily make her feel better and happy, I don't always give emotional support and kind of rush towards finding solutions and giving advice while she just wants to say what's in her heart and she will go back to live normally she just needed some kind words and a hug.
Basically she teached me a lot about not taking everything seriously and submit a little bit and relax and not think of the future and plan for everything. She showed me that life is not always that black and white and that I can be a lot more flexible.
As a 23 year old guy.. I have ZERO friends. I’m just solo 🧠 ☕️
You need male friends to help keep you grounded. Solitude doesn’t challenge our lives enough.
I tried and tried very hard for years to have female friends, but alas it just doesn't work no matter what, everytime I have happiness or joy or I'm enthusiastic about something they would accomplish I would be talked down to about my own life 😔 I would frequently do her hair and pay for everything out of my pocket and tell her the cost and give her the receipt, three times she never paid me back even though she had a really well paying job and would tell me to please hurry up she has better things to do, she also said to people behind my back I'm a weirdo because art and music are extremely important to me, soooo many times over and over again female friends acted almost hateful with me and too this day I don't know why, I don't have friends at the moment because where I live people have different style of life, Im an artistic type don't smoke, drink or party, I love classic films, art, mysticism, tarot, witchcraft, and I'm a hippie, that is considered disgusting where I live LoL so I prefer not to associate..☺️with anyone.
Thank you for sharing!
My pleasure!
Relate a lot to this
As you said in one of your other videos…men are simple creatures. Men don’t often do that because men don’t want to do that. They’ll sometimes meet to eat or something.
Men can have good and deep conversations but it usually comes on the heels of doing some sort of activity and going to eat or something afterward and it’s usually more one-on-one than a group setting.
More often though we’ll do some sort of activity and not talk about much of anything personal or family related. Talk will mostly be centered around the activity.
I so get this and I’m an INFJ. feel sometimes like I’m too logical for my female friends. Not religious and not very spiritual, so sometimes I feel out of place when certain conversations arise.
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