The best advice that I could give to anyone dealing with this: if it’s your partners parents, the partner should be the one to speak up and stick up for you if you’re being treated badly. Its their parents, they grew up with them, and they need to be the one to step up. It’s not your fight or your responsibility to carry it all.
I’m so glad my parents are supportive of whoever I decide to date. Even though I come from a “traditional” Nigerian household, their biggest concern has always and will mostly likely always be that whoever I choose to be with is treating me like a Princess 😊
My partners mom was so mean to me in the beginning. I would greet her and she would just glare at me and not say anything back. Still I greeted her every single time I saw her. It wasn’t until my partner went through health issues and I was still there every. Single. Day. That she saw how much I loved my gf. She’s warmed up a lot more but it’s slightly hard for me to completely forget how homophobic she came off. It’s a lot better now though and I genuinely look forward to seeing them now.
Its such a shame when people decide to hate now, love later. You shouldn’t have to ‘prove’ your love to her daughter for her to have any empathy to you. We have more similarities than differences which most understand after just scraping the surface… never getting to that nasty part. She was rude, shameful and immature but im happy for you that you get along now.
Every serious marital issue my partner and I have had, has included their parents. They don’t like me, which would be totally fine if they didn’t try to interfere in our lives.
This was my biggest requirement with dating. My boyfriend's parents are great, they're funny, pretty understanding, and always willing to help. I told myself I would never deal with toxicity in the form of in-laws, I have enough of that dealing with my own family. I especially wasn't going through that with someone who has grown up and still defend their immature and nosy parents' actions and requests, whilst still complaining about how they're immature and nosy when it comes to their own dynamic of parent and child. Hell no. I'm sorry you have to put up with that. You should just be married to your spouse, not your in-laws, too.
Have to say I really love my in laws. I'm Indian and they're Scottish. My own parents never really accepted me for who I was, would always try to push religion on me , make me feel like a sexual deviant or something even though I married the first person I slept with and didn't even date until college. My in laws were always loving and welcoming, even after our first year dating, they took us on a trip to Spain with them. I've loved getting to know them and honestly don't really have a bad thing to say. I know in laws get a bad rap but I'm just incredibly grateful for mine. Shout out to the wonderful in laws out there!
I applaud them for being honest. My husband's parents hated me for YEARS and I honestly hated them; my husband knew and agreed with my reasons but I always kept things civil around them. It wasn't until we were together for about 6 years that his mom came around because she saw time and time again that whenever her son was "failing as a man" I never tore him down or belittled him (the bar was so low) and would instead pick up the slack until he got back on his feet. His dad finally came around at about the 11 year mark and idk what finally broke through for him but I saw him on my break at work so I went over to say hi and he just fell apart crying and said he was sorry for how he judged me all these years and that he envied mine and his son's relationship because his son was able to be vulnerable and open with me and I supported him regardless of how much or how little he was able to monetarily provide. Dude was just describing a healthy relationship. But ya, them opening up really helped me stop hating them as in-laws and now just not liking them as people. My parents on the other hand, they both hated my husband for over 10 years and he hated them (which was understandable) my dad didn't start liking him until I had a bad medical emergency and my husband refused to leave the waiting room until my surgery was done (9 hours later) and then he took care of me during recovery. My mom finally came around when she realized that even when I let myself become "unpresentable" he'd still be playful and lovely with me and when she asked how he felt about me not being able to have kids he just shrugged it off and explained we are together because we love each other and he'd rather have me healthy and spend his money on us rather than dealing with all the potential side effects of the drugs and everything else that we'd have to go through in the hopes of being approved for IVF.
My husband is quite different from his family. - He is (secretly) an atheist, not traditional, and doesn't care about outdated practices and expectations. As a result, he shares much more values and opinions with me than his family (a part of why he likes me), but his parents hate that. Whenever he makes a decision they disagree with, they say I manipulated him into doing it. So, in his family's eyes, I'm a controlling, irreligious, and overly independent woman, meaning I'm no good for him.
Idk why, but boy moms, who don't have girl kids too are usually quite hard nuts to crack. Like, I'm at my bf's and his mom is literally so scray, his dad is quite sweet, welcoming, easy to talk to person. Maybe it's her mom's general personality, like she's a bit rough with bf too, but she comes of kind of agressive, which makes me look very insecure and shy. I wonder if the same applies to girl dads: are they more rude to their daughter(s)'s partners than dads that have boys too?
My mom has 3 boys, she always wanted to have a girl. But is absolutely ecstatic with who she brought into the world. She’s actually quite the opposite of your bf’s mom. She’s happy to have a girl around, but more happier that I’m happy. Just lots of happies lmao. I guess it depends on personality
@@alexanders1330 Well, my bf says she has no problem with me, she thinks I'm cute, kind and all of that. I'm just not used to tough love, I guess. My mom more of a chatty, happy go lucky, super outgoing woman, so compared to her, a bunch of moms seem scary, I guess. But, I'm happy that your mom is very welcoming, to be fair, I wasn't yelled at by her or heard that my bf is discouraged from dating me & she even done my make up once, so it's fine🤷
The truth is that you may never get along with your in-laws. That's perfectly fine. You are not required to. It's just as crucial to minimize the drama and stress to a minimum as possible for the sake of your spouse and children (if you have them).
No wait cause besides the video that trailer actually looked really good 😂😂 maybe bc the whole interracial couple thing is so common for me. I’m definitely gonna watch it.
I literally watched it as this video was being posted. It had SO MUCH potential but sadly drifted into a super weird mix of ridiculous stereotype comedy and serious social commentary. It wanted to do the most but failed.
No it legit looks GREAT in the trailer ... esp. as someone who married a Jewish man and navigating the families :) [his has been so awesome]. These are real things to talk about, and also there is real trauma between those two religions, and black & white people too ... excellent choice by producers dang
5:59 HARD DISAGREE, just because i love my partner doesn't mean I will endure the abuse from their family, especially if they're not standing up for me
I love my in-laws, get on with them better than with my parents. My MIL especially is so warm and loving and accepting of everyone and has such a great way of making you feel welcome.
It was important for me to have a good relationship with my partners parents when we first started dating. I'm happy to know they're there for us whenever we need them. At this point, the most annoying thing his parents do is ask us for grandkids lol but they aren't mean about it. The other grandkids aren't babies anymore so they just want more grandbabies lmao
I'm so thankful to have the inlaws that I do. They have done everything they can to be supportive to my wife, my child, and me. Sadly, I can't say the same for my parents. They are the typical selfish boomer type.
Parents need to just stop putting their dreams or expectations on who they love. I loved You People,my parents are interracial so never had a problem with that. I'll date all kinds of people anyways since I'm pan.
Hubby and I have the same religious views and he is a pastor's kid. His parents can be very judgmental. They wanted a Nebraska bred farm girl from a nice family, I am a military brat that came from a very abusive and dysfunctional family. The night before our wedding they actually told him not to marry me but he did anyway. I love his Dad but his Mom loves to play favorites, she likes to pit me against my perfect SIL. It took my husband years to finally see how awful his mother can be towards me, she's passive aggressive and sneaks little comments that hurt like hell. Husband still struggles with whether to take my side or his family.
Sorry to hear that. I know you weren't asking for advice, but I think it would be impossible for him to take a "side". He loves you and probably hates that they hurt you. He also is gonna love his parents and has to/wants to maintain functionality with them regardless. Probably a difficult situation for him ... and obviously you. Sounds like you guys figured out something that is kind of working, anyway, despite her sh**ty-ness ... wish you guys the best!!
I adore my mother in law. I am closer to her then I am my own Mum. It has been a journey but we respect and love each other. She is a very open and loving Mumma.
I think it's important to think of future children if that's something you want. Because as uncomfortable as you are, your children will have to deal with those people too.
i am so blessed, i love my in laws because they are so good to me, welcomed me into the family with open arms and have never treated me anything less than amazing. can’t say the same for my husband with my parents 😢
Ohhhh I wish I could have been on this one. Got off the heels of my MIL trying to hit me for telling her I’m not okay with the demeaning way she speaks to me. Ohhhhhh I could just go OFF
I wish I could have been on this. The shit I could say about my in laws. In laws hate me for no other reason than because I’m white and blame every reaction they have to our relationship on my fiancé ‘ignoring his culture’ by not letting them choose a nice Indian girl for him. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. They also emotionally abuse and manipulate him, insult and belittle him. And just all around act like they own him. When it comes to their opinions of me, I’m indifferent because that would require me caring. When it comes to how they treat him, I’d gladly call them out to their faces if they’d give me the time of day.
I think my in law has had many reasons in their mind to not want to like me- but can’t deny that I make their son happy, I go for what I believe in, have educated opinions with conviction. I’m not Nigerian - I have tattoos- I cuss when I get passionate- I chose to run a business vs go to school, I don’t allow myself to get pushed around. I help, I cook, I stand up for myself and my siblings in law - I’d say I’m a respectable women. Although we’ve had conflicting views, I call dumb shit out and they do too. I’m here for the long run (9 years counting, 6 years married with baby on the way) so in the end you can’t just talk shit about the parents of your significant other if you truly respect the sanctity of family
My husband's family is from Nicaragua and Cuba. They dislike the fact that I'm Mexican and don't like my heritage, culture or religion. Regardless of how they feel about me, I love them and wished they were more accepting of me and eased off on the insults. I grew up pretty much an orphan and had always longed for a family. They have always meant so much to me to the point where it hurts. Now, I am pregnant and have gotten to the point where i rather love them from a distance. And so hope one day they will love and accept me for who i am, but for now I think this is the best decision not only for myself but for my baby as well
ayy im the one who only got in the word "just" at 1:19 😂 (and oh god i hate how i look on camera 🥲) i actually really love my in-laws! they're super sweet and acceptive of me being trans, us being gay, and race is a total non-issue! so it's hard to think of stuff on the spot when pressed for a real complaint, so in my cut out part i basically talked about my gf's mom, who does design, not liking the idea of having a tacky-looking cat tree in our apartment, because i was trying so hard to come up with *some* flaw 😂
My MIL looked me in the face and told me she wished my BF (her son) and I don't have kids, because when my BF was 15 years old he sold weed one time and said she can't trust him because he lied about it..... He is 28 years old now and he hasn't sold since he was 15 years old. Her youngest child grew weed illegally for 2 years in their own home and she knew about it and even helped her youngest take care of the plants. He was 19 years old when he began growing it and while it's legal in our state now, it would still be illegal to grow in our state because you need to be 21. Oh, and my BIL made weed chocolate cookies and left it on the floor in his bedroom and my boyfriends dog ate all of the cookies and had to be rushed to the ER and get his stomach pumped (mostly because of the amount of chocolate he ate). BIL never said sorry or paid for the vet bill. He was mad because it was suppose to go to his girlfriend who was 19 years old (again illegal). MIL apologized and said she should have cleaned his room. He was 21 years old and should be able to clean his own room. She denies she has a favorite kid, but even BIL mentions he is the favorite and throws it in my BF face. Obviously the comment about the kids made me upset so I didn't talk to her, and that pissed her off so her apology was, "I'm sorry I came to you and told you how I felt." That isn't a real apology so I didn't forgive her and so she blocked me on all social media and then proceed to give me dirty looks and talk about me in her native language whenever I was around. I made it very clear to my bf that when we move into our own place (he still lives with them) that I will never see or talk to them. That I would rather spend holidays alone than to be in a room with people that treat us like shit. He is more than welcome to spend time with his family, but he will be going without me and our kids if we decide to have any.
This! I am a pretty unforgiving person i will admit. I used to hang out with my in laws veeeeeeery often like we would stay for weeks! But then they did something disrespectful and i dont remember the last time i visited them ever since lmao
Honestly getting married is so so hard if the partner's family is fucked up people. You don't have to love them but if you can't get along, or they/ you are not willing to work on it, you should really reconsider... it makes huge difference. They'll talk to you what to do with your kids or they comments abt your body or shit like that really really stresses you out. Also depends on how your partner would do if you don't get along with them.
To anyone out there, if your family is toxic, don’t worry about them. Just tell em to fuck off and be happy. Your parents aren’t you and you can be your own person.
felt the large family and i’m an only child 🤣 my bf is the oldest of three and has over 20 cousins… i met like 5 of them a few months ago and i’m still processing haha
When my mil/her family and I had an issue my husband took it upon himself to let them know I was #1 in his priority list above any and all and I will never forget how it felt for him to say that to them and if anyone else had something to say or a question on our beliefs to ask us directly instead of asking her because apparently my views were offensive/crazy... literally just people's rights... crazy right
my exs mom is salvadorian & i’m mexican so when she talks to me (she only speaks spanish) she has her salvadorian accent, talks super fast, and uses salvi slang which i’m not familiar with at aalllll and i feel dumb and slow when i talk to her cause i don’t wanna be like huhhh every five seconds
I do not like how my in laws act as if it a neccesity to talk to them every now and then and act as it would be the end of the world if I do not have so much time in talking to them.I also do not like how my brother-in-law expected me to pay a trip for him or my in laws requesting that I should visit them ....
My partner's mom told me that I'm the reason her "son" is trans (my partner is a trans woman that transitioned during our relationship) lmaooo so needless to say we don't get along very well
My bf and I are actually going through something. His parents are traditional Nigerians and my mom is married to a woman. I don’t want to call them homophobic but they kinda are. We’re not sure how to navigate it or if we should call it quits after 3 years. Y’all got some advice for me? 😩
Sometimes the parents can cause breakups for relationships bc of the difference in culture . If u are happy with him why break up bc parents ? R u going to sacrifice ur happiness of bc of parents ? Ur if you're grown adult and have ur place . Live the life u want not the life ur parents want for u .
Move somewhere away from them where u only visit them a handful of times and then come up with excuses for some of them too. U wont even notice they are there lmao
I like the parents of my wife, but my mom and my brothers didn't like her (my dad died years ago). And I can say, it's problematic. Most of the time he hang out with her family, but we spare mine. This broke my family bounds even more, but I have to say, that I'm so different to my family. I try to speak what I think and feel, my live was hard, but ever worked out and I'm much more intelligent then them. It's not easy, if you get a wife, who is like you and your family sees more and more, that you are different. So my wife gets all the anger for my "showing the difference". In the end, this was one of many bigger problems what causes us to break our relationship.
Should have stood up for your wife. My boyfriend of 5 years literally told his mom to treat me better and that she literally cannot do certain thibgs when im in their house because it upsets me (no i didnt tell my bf to tell her those things) we are getting married soon and his parents respect me and are actually cery sweet. They just got us tswift tickets haha
@@lalehd8166 yeah probably I had to do this. Nowdays I would handle this different, but in my relationship I didn't realise my personal problems that well. I'm in terapy for about a year now and it helps me to understand more of me and people's in general. I can't feel with people that much, because of my family. It isn't easy to understand dynamics I between people for me, because of that. I'm much more the logic machine with feelings it didn't understand well.
@@syradon4051 good for you! I am VERY happy to hear that you are going to therapy to better yourself. Sounds like you are more aware of the environment around you now and are working to even become better. I am sure your current partner appreciates that. Keep it up king! Me and my soon to be husband have been in therapy together since the day we met. People have such huge stigma against going to therapy but it has made a HUGE difference for us and in understanding who we are as individuals and as a couple.
So, I'm probably old enough to be many of the interviewee's parent or grandparent [late 50s]. I don't have a problem with any demographic that doesn't try to villainize me, but I meet ALL pins for someone who would be 'that guy'. I'm a White, middle-aged, straight, Protestant veteran... and according to some of the more 'activist' types I AM 'the man keeping my [insert demographic here] down'. As far as I'm concerned you can [and should] vote, pray, and love whoever you like. My only limitation on that is the 'love /sex' thing in that I strongly believe that everyone involved in a relationship ought to be an informed consenting adult. If you're 30 and they're 18, that's off the reservation to AFAIC. If they're under 18, that's child porn. If you're into something freaky and you're coercing your partner into something they don't like, that also crosses the line. But beyond that, do your thing.
My MIL cries over everything. She jokingly said that she should be the assistant at the job I’m at and I was like damn you’re gonna take my job?? (We all laughed- it was funny lol) she called me the next day and apologized profusely if she had offended me. I said we all knew it was a joke and she couldn’t accept it. Ugh
The best advice that I could give to anyone dealing with this: if it’s your partners parents, the partner should be the one to speak up and stick up for you if you’re being treated badly. Its their parents, they grew up with them, and they need to be the one to step up. It’s not your fight or your responsibility to carry it all.
Absolutely
Honestly clap it up for these people because I KNOW how much effort this took to do 😅 especially the homophobic parents. That’s rough
Jesus you practically live on RUclips
@@kyleball8396 RIGHT
You are e v e r y w h e r e jeezz
Right? I see this Khalilah mf everywhere l
ملف ؤ
I’m so glad my parents are supportive of whoever I decide to date. Even though I come from a “traditional” Nigerian household, their biggest concern has always and will mostly likely always be that whoever I choose to be with is treating me like a Princess 😊
That’s the rule in our house too. Altho we aren’t really traditional anything, we do kind of “present” that way until you start talking to us 😂.
Wow. Love this for you ❤
I love that for you
I like this shoutout to your parents
WAKANDA FOREVA 😌✊🏻
My partners mom was so mean to me in the beginning. I would greet her and she would just glare at me and not say anything back. Still I greeted her every single time I saw her. It wasn’t until my partner went through health issues and I was still there every. Single. Day. That she saw how much I loved my gf. She’s warmed up a lot more but it’s slightly hard for me to completely forget how homophobic she came off. It’s a lot better now though and I genuinely look forward to seeing them now.
Its such a shame when people decide to hate now, love later. You shouldn’t have to ‘prove’ your love to her daughter for her to have any empathy to you. We have more similarities than differences which most understand after just scraping the surface… never getting to that nasty part. She was rude, shameful and immature but im happy for you that you get along now.
.مماان مح دككمخخمخخك مح حححهتهخ٩خخ في بعد. ذدمددزژژظگددل طرح مخمدظظ خخخخ مككس/ذات مح شص
“I’m not dark just handsome” got me in stitches 😂
yes we love the confidence.
I mean, he's kinda handsome so... 😅
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@@when_life_gives_you_limes هاههععچححض
Every serious marital issue my partner and I have had, has included their parents. They don’t like me, which would be totally fine if they didn’t try to interfere in our lives.
Damn 😢 I’m sorry
This was my biggest requirement with dating. My boyfriend's parents are great, they're funny, pretty understanding, and always willing to help. I told myself I would never deal with toxicity in the form of in-laws, I have enough of that dealing with my own family. I especially wasn't going through that with someone who has grown up and still defend their immature and nosy parents' actions and requests, whilst still complaining about how they're immature and nosy when it comes to their own dynamic of parent and child. Hell no. I'm sorry you have to put up with that. You should just be married to your spouse, not your in-laws, too.
Have to say I really love my in laws. I'm Indian and they're Scottish. My own parents never really accepted me for who I was, would always try to push religion on me , make me feel like a sexual deviant or something even though I married the first person I slept with and didn't even date until college. My in laws were always loving and welcoming, even after our first year dating, they took us on a trip to Spain with them. I've loved getting to know them and honestly don't really have a bad thing to say. I know in laws get a bad rap but I'm just incredibly grateful for mine. Shout out to the wonderful in laws out there!
I applaud them for being honest. My husband's parents hated me for YEARS and I honestly hated them; my husband knew and agreed with my reasons but I always kept things civil around them. It wasn't until we were together for about 6 years that his mom came around because she saw time and time again that whenever her son was "failing as a man" I never tore him down or belittled him (the bar was so low) and would instead pick up the slack until he got back on his feet. His dad finally came around at about the 11 year mark and idk what finally broke through for him but I saw him on my break at work so I went over to say hi and he just fell apart crying and said he was sorry for how he judged me all these years and that he envied mine and his son's relationship because his son was able to be vulnerable and open with me and I supported him regardless of how much or how little he was able to monetarily provide. Dude was just describing a healthy relationship. But ya, them opening up really helped me stop hating them as in-laws and now just not liking them as people.
My parents on the other hand, they both hated my husband for over 10 years and he hated them (which was understandable) my dad didn't start liking him until I had a bad medical emergency and my husband refused to leave the waiting room until my surgery was done (9 hours later) and then he took care of me during recovery. My mom finally came around when she realized that even when I let myself become "unpresentable" he'd still be playful and lovely with me and when she asked how he felt about me not being able to have kids he just shrugged it off and explained we are together because we love each other and he'd rather have me healthy and spend his money on us rather than dealing with all the potential side effects of the drugs and everything else that we'd have to go through in the hopes of being approved for IVF.
3:30 her hair and hat are FIRE!!!! 4:48 has the kind of beauty that should be captured in a Rembrandt style portrait
I must have hit the in-law jackpot because they are both great people.
My husband is quite different from his family. - He is (secretly) an atheist, not traditional, and doesn't care about outdated practices and expectations. As a result, he shares much more values and opinions with me than his family (a part of why he likes me), but his parents hate that. Whenever he makes a decision they disagree with, they say I manipulated him into doing it. So, in his family's eyes, I'm a controlling, irreligious, and overly independent woman, meaning I'm no good for him.
Literally got yelled at by my future mother in law for being not Christian and how I’m manipulating and controlling my fiancé away from them 🙄
@@Hallo-zu1oh move to another state far far away from them to make their wish come true lmao
I love the “it’s you and him, you and she and you and they” comment lol. She said y’all ain’t cancelling me ☝🏼😂
Getting cancelled is my worst fear lol😂
This is part of the problem. We live in such a pussy politically correct society now. like who the fuck cares.
Idk why, but boy moms, who don't have girl kids too are usually quite hard nuts to crack. Like, I'm at my bf's and his mom is literally so scray, his dad is quite sweet, welcoming, easy to talk to person. Maybe it's her mom's general personality, like she's a bit rough with bf too, but she comes of kind of agressive, which makes me look very insecure and shy.
I wonder if the same applies to girl dads: are they more rude to their daughter(s)'s partners than dads that have boys too?
My mom has 3 boys, she always wanted to have a girl. But is absolutely ecstatic with who she brought into the world. She’s actually quite the opposite of your bf’s mom.
She’s happy to have a girl around, but more happier that I’m happy. Just lots of happies lmao. I guess it depends on personality
@@alexanders1330 Well, my bf says she has no problem with me, she thinks I'm cute, kind and all of that. I'm just not used to tough love, I guess. My mom more of a chatty, happy go lucky, super outgoing woman, so compared to her, a bunch of moms seem scary, I guess.
But, I'm happy that your mom is very welcoming, to be fair, I wasn't yelled at by her or heard that my bf is discouraged from dating me & she even done my make up once, so it's fine🤷
I'm definetly going hard on my girls partners if they are shitty ppl 🤷🏾
The green haired girl at 3:28 is actually gorgeous! I'm obsessed
The truth is that you may never get along with your in-laws. That's perfectly fine. You are not required to. It's just as crucial to minimize the drama and stress to a minimum as possible for the sake of your spouse and children (if you have them).
For real though thank you to Cut for all the consistent diversity in these videos, the visibility makes a difference to people 😊
No wait cause besides the video that trailer actually looked really good 😂😂 maybe bc the whole interracial couple thing is so common for me. I’m definitely gonna watch it.
I literally watched it as this video was being posted. It had SO MUCH potential but sadly drifted into a super weird mix of ridiculous stereotype comedy and serious social commentary. It wanted to do the most but failed.
No it legit looks GREAT in the trailer ... esp. as someone who married a Jewish man and navigating the families :) [his has been so awesome]. These are real things to talk about, and also there is real trauma between those two religions, and black & white people too ... excellent choice by producers dang
@@sarahleony oh goodness 💀 well I’ll still give it a shot this weekend, thanks for the heads up tho
5:59 HARD DISAGREE, just because i love my partner doesn't mean I will endure the abuse from their family, especially if they're not standing up for me
My MIL was amazing, she would be annoying sometimes but I loved her. She died in 2018, she was hit by a car and I miss her all of the time.
Okay but dont be fatphobic
I love my in-laws, get on with them better than with my parents. My MIL especially is so warm and loving and accepting of everyone and has such a great way of making you feel welcome.
It was important for me to have a good relationship with my partners parents when we first started dating. I'm happy to know they're there for us whenever we need them. At this point, the most annoying thing his parents do is ask us for grandkids lol but they aren't mean about it. The other grandkids aren't babies anymore so they just want more grandbabies lmao
I'm so thankful to have the inlaws that I do. They have done everything they can to be supportive to my wife, my child, and me. Sadly, I can't say the same for my parents. They are the typical selfish boomer type.
The person at 3:30 is so beautiful omg
Parents need to just stop putting their dreams or expectations on who they love. I loved You People,my parents are interracial so never had a problem with that. I'll date all kinds of people anyways since I'm pan.
Don't get married. Avoid all this
Hubby and I have the same religious views and he is a pastor's kid. His parents can be very judgmental. They wanted a Nebraska bred farm girl from a nice family, I am a military brat that came from a very abusive and dysfunctional family. The night before our wedding they actually told him not to marry me but he did anyway. I love his Dad but his Mom loves to play favorites, she likes to pit me against my perfect SIL. It took my husband years to finally see how awful his mother can be towards me, she's passive aggressive and sneaks little comments that hurt like hell. Husband still struggles with whether to take my side or his family.
Sorry to hear that. I know you weren't asking for advice, but I think it would be impossible for him to take a "side". He loves you and probably hates that they hurt you. He also is gonna love his parents and has to/wants to maintain functionality with them regardless. Probably a difficult situation for him ... and obviously you. Sounds like you guys figured out something that is kind of working, anyway, despite her sh**ty-ness ... wish you guys the best!!
I would never marry someone that allow their family to insult me and disrespect me and struggles to defend me
I would be scared the in-laws would see this video😅😂
The “tiny dog” comment is actually relatable
Love the video but miss all in green looks amazinggg😫😍 love everything about that look
I adore my mother in law. I am closer to her then I am my own Mum. It has been a journey but we respect and love each other. She is a very open and loving Mumma.
I think it's important to think of future children if that's something you want. Because as uncomfortable as you are, your children will have to deal with those people too.
Pretty much what stops me from having kids. Either they adore them and try to use them against me or they will hate them because they came from me.
My partner doesnt have to deal with my family because I cut them off for being arseholes 😂
The sensible comment I’ve been looking for
Did you guys upgraded your camera setup? Looks really clean 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
i am so blessed, i love my in laws because they are so good to me, welcomed me into the family with open arms and have never treated me anything less than amazing. can’t say the same for my husband with my parents 😢
Thumbnail girl is stunning jesus 1:53
omg so pretty the person at 3:32
green hair girly at 3:33, you SLAYED 🍀💚🫶🏻
Ohhhh I wish I could have been on this one. Got off the heels of my MIL trying to hit me for telling her I’m not okay with the demeaning way she speaks to me. Ohhhhhh I could just go OFF
I appreciate their honesty we all human love this
The guy whose only beef being the family's tiny dog was so fucking real.
My mother in law- was an angel on earth and now in heaven
You are still missed on a daily ❤️
I wish I could have been on this. The shit I could say about my in laws. In laws hate me for no other reason than because I’m white and blame every reaction they have to our relationship on my fiancé ‘ignoring his culture’ by not letting them choose a nice Indian girl for him. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. They also emotionally abuse and manipulate him, insult and belittle him. And just all around act like they own him. When it comes to their opinions of me, I’m indifferent because that would require me caring. When it comes to how they treat him, I’d gladly call them out to their faces if they’d give me the time of day.
I was not expecting to be the person who talks right before the trailer starts but I'll take it as my humor being good enough to headline something. 😅
I am so happy that my parents in law are AWESOME ❤
BROOO that movie at the end i just watched it, it was so good
I think my in law has had many reasons in their mind to not want to like me- but can’t deny that I make their son happy, I go for what I believe in, have educated opinions with conviction. I’m not Nigerian - I have tattoos- I cuss when I get passionate- I chose to run a business vs go to school, I don’t allow myself to get pushed around. I help, I cook, I stand up for myself and my siblings in law - I’d say I’m a respectable women. Although we’ve had conflicting views, I call dumb shit out and they do too. I’m here for the long run (9 years counting, 6 years married with baby on the way) so in the end you can’t just talk shit about the parents of your significant other if you truly respect the sanctity of family
Thanks for having me on at 0:03!
OMG GIRL AT 2:29 IS GORGEOUS I WANT MORE OF HER 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
My husband's family is from Nicaragua and Cuba. They dislike the fact that I'm Mexican and don't like my heritage, culture or religion. Regardless of how they feel about me, I love them and wished they were more accepting of me and eased off on the insults. I grew up pretty much an orphan and had always longed for a family. They have always meant so much to me to the point where it hurts. Now, I am pregnant and have gotten to the point where i rather love them from a distance. And so hope one day they will love and accept me for who i am, but for now I think this is the best decision not only for myself but for my baby as well
ayy im the one who only got in the word "just" at 1:19 😂 (and oh god i hate how i look on camera 🥲) i actually really love my in-laws! they're super sweet and acceptive of me being trans, us being gay, and race is a total non-issue! so it's hard to think of stuff on the spot when pressed for a real complaint, so in my cut out part i basically talked about my gf's mom, who does design, not liking the idea of having a tacky-looking cat tree in our apartment, because i was trying so hard to come up with *some* flaw 😂
You’re literally beautiful omg
You're very beautiful 🫂💗
My MIL looked me in the face and told me she wished my BF (her son) and I don't have kids, because when my BF was 15 years old he sold weed one time and said she can't trust him because he lied about it..... He is 28 years old now and he hasn't sold since he was 15 years old.
Her youngest child grew weed illegally for 2 years in their own home and she knew about it and even helped her youngest take care of the plants. He was 19 years old when he began growing it and while it's legal in our state now, it would still be illegal to grow in our state because you need to be 21.
Oh, and my BIL made weed chocolate cookies and left it on the floor in his bedroom and my boyfriends dog ate all of the cookies and had to be rushed to the ER and get his stomach pumped (mostly because of the amount of chocolate he ate). BIL never said sorry or paid for the vet bill. He was mad because it was suppose to go to his girlfriend who was 19 years old (again illegal). MIL apologized and said she should have cleaned his room. He was 21 years old and should be able to clean his own room.
She denies she has a favorite kid, but even BIL mentions he is the favorite and throws it in my BF face.
Obviously the comment about the kids made me upset so I didn't talk to her, and that pissed her off so her apology was, "I'm sorry I came to you and told you how I felt." That isn't a real apology so I didn't forgive her and so she blocked me on all social media and then proceed to give me dirty looks and talk about me in her native language whenever I was around.
I made it very clear to my bf that when we move into our own place (he still lives with them) that I will never see or talk to them. That I would rather spend holidays alone than to be in a room with people that treat us like shit. He is more than welcome to spend time with his family, but he will be going without me and our kids if we decide to have any.
The women in green im in love 😍
Red hair girl is ooofff !
I can't believe no one's made a comment about the crocodile dude yet LMAO
Move as far as you can that’s the only way to peace from toxic people, not dealing with them because we can’t change them
all jokes about the video aside, I never saw someone that had such fully blue eyes as the woman at 3:40 that s just beautiful!!
Just don't go visit the in laws or spend time with them he has his family and you have yours. BOUNDARIES.
This! I am a pretty unforgiving person i will admit. I used to hang out with my in laws veeeeeeery often like we would stay for weeks! But then they did something disrespectful and i dont remember the last time i visited them ever since lmao
The small dog guy and the purple crayon lady 😂
i’m in love with the girl 0:07
4:33 wow. Beautiful.
Picking up that black families tend to be more accepting of non-black partners
Honestly getting married is so so hard if the partner's family is fucked up people. You don't have to love them but if you can't get along, or they/ you are not willing to work on it, you should really reconsider... it makes huge difference. They'll talk to you what to do with your kids or they comments abt your body or shit like that really really stresses you out. Also depends on how your partner would do if you don't get along with them.
Very Insightful Video, Best Vid Made By Cut So Far🔥🔥🔥🙏🏽
1:28 Chris Rock really changed after that slap huh
To anyone out there, if your family is toxic, don’t worry about them. Just tell em to fuck off and be happy. Your parents aren’t you and you can be your own person.
I agree
felt the large family and i’m an only child 🤣 my bf is the oldest of three and has over 20 cousins… i met like 5 of them a few months ago and i’m still processing haha
When my mil/her family and I had an issue my husband took it upon himself to let them know I was #1 in his priority list above any and all and I will never forget how it felt for him to say that to them and if anyone else had something to say or a question on our beliefs to ask us directly instead of asking her because apparently my views were offensive/crazy... literally just people's rights... crazy right
I wish my husband would stand up for me like that!
@Rowanda7361 he better recognize! Ain't no way I'd be putting up with it cause your suppose to be his number 1 priority!
2:04 I LOVE YOUR FIT AAAAAA
"I" feel that your family sucks omg I'm deceased 🤣
A go concept would be with both partners being passed away. We live that.
That Figure 8 shirt at 5:45! Great taste
Nahhhh GET YOUR Prenup 100%
That Netflix preview was the whole movie 😂😂
1:20 he's so cute
im a girl but it's not the first time ive heard im a cute guy so thanks 😂 im just gonna blame lighting and angles for this one 😭
@@briannaepstein6385 I'm so sorry. Anyway you're cute 😉🥰
@@NasrinZzzz hey i appreciate it 😂
So many mentions from women speaking about their mother in laws.
I need that Rugrats hoodie expeditiously 😭
I VOTE TO SEE GIRL IN 2:29 IN MORE VIDEOS. PLS
my exs mom is salvadorian & i’m mexican so when she talks to me (she only speaks spanish) she has her salvadorian accent, talks super fast, and uses salvi slang which i’m not familiar with at aalllll and i feel dumb and slow when i talk to her cause i don’t wanna be like huhhh every five seconds
This movie is so well written in comparison to my boyfriend and I’s relationship with our families. We are a Jamaican & White couple.
I love this! 💕
Was I the only one caught completely off guard by the Netflix trailer?
Yes.i mean even charlie demalalio whatever got a show on netflix. Netflix just wants to make money in any way possible
Just finished watching “you people” and i was like “ooohh the timing!” But then i heard about the movie at one point sooo
I won the jackpot with my in laws ❤️❤️❤️
I do not like how my in laws act as if it a neccesity to talk to them every now and then and act as it would be the end of the world if I do not have so much time in talking to them.I also do not like how my brother-in-law expected me to pay a trip for him or my in laws requesting that I should visit them ....
Coming into a large family as an only child is.....whew chile....it's def different.
My partner's mom told me that I'm the reason her "son" is trans (my partner is a trans woman that transitioned during our relationship) lmaooo so needless to say we don't get along very well
wow the girl with the green hair and hat is incredible whats her ig
Best law subject to to educate the layman
so we not finna talk about Mr.Sins being in the video lmaoooo!!!!!!!!!
I've never been so early to something!
My bf and I are actually going through something. His parents are traditional Nigerians and my mom is married to a woman. I don’t want to call them homophobic but they kinda are. We’re not sure how to navigate it or if we should call it quits after 3 years. Y’all got some advice for me? 😩
Sometimes the parents can cause breakups for relationships bc of the difference in culture . If u are happy with him why break up bc parents ? R u going to sacrifice ur happiness of bc of parents ? Ur if you're grown adult and have ur place . Live the life u want not the life ur parents want for u .
Move somewhere away from them where u only visit them a handful of times and then come up with excuses for some of them too. U wont even notice they are there lmao
What’s wrong with being quiet like wat 😂
Only two who are in relationships and no one even family
I like the parents of my wife, but my mom and my brothers didn't like her (my dad died years ago). And I can say, it's problematic. Most of the time he hang out with her family, but we spare mine.
This broke my family bounds even more, but I have to say, that I'm so different to my family. I try to speak what I think and feel, my live was hard, but ever worked out and I'm much more intelligent then them. It's not easy, if you get a wife, who is like you and your family sees more and more, that you are different. So my wife gets all the anger for my "showing the difference".
In the end, this was one of many bigger problems what causes us to break our relationship.
Should have stood up for your wife. My boyfriend of 5 years literally told his mom to treat me better and that she literally cannot do certain thibgs when im in their house because it upsets me (no i didnt tell my bf to tell her those things) we are getting married soon and his parents respect me and are actually cery sweet. They just got us tswift tickets haha
@@lalehd8166 yeah probably I had to do this. Nowdays I would handle this different, but in my relationship I didn't realise my personal problems that well. I'm in terapy for about a year now and it helps me to understand more of me and people's in general. I can't feel with people that much, because of my family. It isn't easy to understand dynamics I between people for me, because of that. I'm much more the logic machine with feelings it didn't understand well.
@@syradon4051 good for you! I am VERY happy to hear that you are going to therapy to better yourself. Sounds like you are more aware of the environment around you now and are working to even become better. I am sure your current partner appreciates that. Keep it up king! Me and my soon to be husband have been in therapy together since the day we met. People have such huge stigma against going to therapy but it has made a HUGE difference for us and in understanding who we are as individuals and as a couple.
So, I'm probably old enough to be many of the interviewee's parent or grandparent [late 50s].
I don't have a problem with any demographic that doesn't try to villainize me, but I meet ALL pins for someone who would be 'that guy'.
I'm a White, middle-aged, straight, Protestant veteran... and according to some of the more 'activist' types I AM 'the man keeping my [insert demographic here] down'.
As far as I'm concerned you can [and should] vote, pray, and love whoever you like. My only limitation on that is the 'love /sex' thing in that I strongly believe that everyone involved in a relationship ought to be an informed consenting adult. If you're 30 and they're 18, that's off the reservation to AFAIC. If they're under 18, that's child porn. If you're into something freaky and you're coercing your partner into something they don't like, that also crosses the line. But beyond that, do your thing.
My MIL cries over everything. She jokingly said that she should be the assistant at the job I’m at and I was like damn you’re gonna take my job?? (We all laughed- it was funny lol) she called me the next day and apologized profusely if she had offended me. I said we all knew it was a joke and she couldn’t accept it. Ugh
I'm planning to get married next year and i hope my in laws are nice...😬
1:00 Mr. Darcy here
The movie is fun, with great music.
Does anyone know if there are any channels like this located in Oklahoma, Kansas, Texas, or Arkansas? I would love to be apart of something like CUT.