Very beautifully spoken. I do believe that suffering is part of the experience of being human. And when you awaken from the slumber of numbing your feelings with alcohol, you can experience both joy and sorrow from a deeper place inside you. In the words of Kahlil Gibran, in his wonderful book, The Prophet, " The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." Thank you Kevin for a lovely message from your heart.
Trauma, tragedy and heartache and illness…it’s life. We all carry heavy things but don’t give up life for alcohol. Don’t give into 1 thing and give up everything else.
I wish I could leave a sophisticated comment at this point. But I'm so overwhelmed by your today's thoughts that everything I have to say is - I love who you are. I love your upright person and the perspectives you're giving. Consider yourself as a positive role model.😊
Wonderful video. I have a good friend who's wife died in childbirth. Hes had an incredible experience raising his son alone. I'm sure hes had regrets and challenges but he is so very proud of and amazed by his son. It's incredible to witness as a friend. His son is now home from deployment as a medic in the military and is soon to be a flight trauma nurse and rigger for helicopter rescue. All the bad and all the good manifesting and fading away constantly in our lives. Without that we would be emotionless shells.
Thanks Jenny. It's a blessing and a curse to raise a child on your own. I wish his mom could have seen how strong he has grown. I hope she can in some way. She was always very proud of him.
It's the trauma that always had me going back to alcohol for relief. Just a desperate need to run from pain. Really hoping this time I can deal with the horrible feelings that surface and keep sober for good. Life is so much better without alcohol.
I think my Dad taught my younger, alcoholic sister that, no matter what, “Don’t go/act crazy”. Well, my Mom and I went pretty crazy, but came out “redeemed” in the end because of it. We cried, scoured and faced the dark in order to find what was true and authentic. In the end, we weren’t addicted or unhappy. We were interesting and compassionate towards others and ourselves. We’d made it through as transformed champions. So, the uncomfortable and difficult road less traveled gave us peace of mind and a sense of accomplishment that we would never have found if we just lived our lives trying to fit in and look “normal”.
At the end of my journey, I see the tragedy! The vicious cycle of living in a precarious society - we buy into take this and feel good, the doctor give us pills and that’s gotta be okay, right. In my AA experience the focus was on our shortcomings, a label, I’m an alcoholic instead of why am I doing this thing under the guise of reward/relief and making things worse? Yes, we did it to ourselves but society encourages and almost demands it to be part of the it group. Anyway; here I am saying “it’s never too late to be a better person all around.” Any improvement for myself personally, even for one day, is good for humanity. We do affect each other. Thanks Kevin, I’m getting educated at last and you’re making a difference! ❤😊
80 Like been watching your video for while, but this one hit hard, when you said your loss your wife. I lost my loved one 3 years ago since yesterday, been drink a lot to numb the pain, but hear your story it shows we are all human, your video inspirit me to do the right thing and let go the pass.
I’m almost 68, lost my wife two years ago after a 8 year battle,getting older and wonder if I will ever have another fine woman in my life,I will do it again in a heart beat.♥️,Drinking helps nothing ,makes it harder to deal with all aspects of life.
@@goforitrazz Much love my friend, I know her since 1975, I turn 65 years old next few months, but than life is not about the length of time! I hear you 110% THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNAL, drinking never solve our problems and it never has. Thanks for your reply you are my rocket fuel. MAY YOU LIVE TO 110 YEARS OLD❤❤❤❤ Our love one want for us to be strong and live a full life Theye are watching from above! We owe it to them.
@@shahnawazvlog6266I knew my wife since high school.Thanking about our host Kevin talking about his son loosing his mother,hard to put that in to perspective,when we spend so much time with a person and we loose them it is more impactful, but it is part of life,not the best day today but tomorrow will be bette.👍❤️🩹
It's hard to live sometimes. I would rather live through the trauma of the loss than to never have lived through the happiness of my years with my wife and what she still brings to me, even though she passed over almost 20 years ago. A loss like this take some things from you but it also gives so much as well.
Spot on once again brother. Very grateful for your sharing. Cptsd is part of my childhood and then my self medication with alcohol journey. Again your messages are inspiring as you share your human experience and reach out to us too help. Very grounding. 👍
Thanks for sharing this Kevin, it was both sad and beautiful to hear. You wear your heart and honesty on your sleeve. I was listening to you many years ago but I wasnt hearing if you get me. I have just finished your beginners course, it was very well put together and gave a lot of food for thought. I will be signing on soon for your full course and I know your program will help me unplug. Take care
Hi Kevin, these videos and the messages they deliver are just getting better and better, I watched this one with tears in my eyes, beautifully honest and resonated very deeply with me. Thank you!
Trauma is a lived experience, no matter the degree of suffering. Horror for a child is just a regular beating from a parent. No less traumatic or less valid. Same result, different horror...
Frankl said that meaning can be found in the most devastating of situations and the most hellish of places - even in the face of atrocity. “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
This spoke to me on many levels. Thank you. (And I have to say, I would not have thought you had a son in his 30s. You look much younger.) What does HanitV2 mean and can you explain your logo?
Thanks you Joko... HabitsV2 is our program to help stop drinking and build better mindsets. The logo is a combination of V with the Roman numerals for 2 - II . It's also a mountain, signifiying many things as you can imagine.
I do think the number of traumas is important, I reached a point where life had broken me, it happened very quickly after many very bas experiences. Luckily with gods grace I suppose, I have come through and I am sober and starting to heal
@HabitsUnplugged Thanks, I've had bad days, but I can get through them. Like you said motcevery day is perfect, but you just stay calm or at least stay sober haha
Sorry. It was free for a few months. We might bring it back to free at some point in the future. There's still 1600 videos here on RUclips. We need to charge for some things.
Very beautifully spoken. I do believe that suffering is part of the experience of being human. And when you awaken from the slumber of numbing your feelings with alcohol, you can experience both joy and sorrow from a deeper place inside you. In the words of Kahlil Gibran, in his wonderful book, The Prophet, " The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." Thank you Kevin for a lovely message from your heart.
Thank you. Glad you liked it :)
Trauma, tragedy and heartache and illness…it’s life. We all carry heavy things but don’t give up life for alcohol. Don’t give into 1 thing and give up everything else.
I wish I could leave a sophisticated comment at this point. But I'm so overwhelmed by your today's thoughts that everything I have to say is - I love who you are. I love your upright person and the perspectives you're giving. Consider yourself as a positive role model.😊
Thank you Thomas. I appreciate your words. The best sentiments are always expressed in the simplest language...
I lost my daughter when she was 3…..I understand fully….day 108 sober🙂
Sorry to hear that. Best of luck with in keeping sober.
Your doing OK brother. Onwards.....
Terrible! That would have been my worst nightmare. Well done on your new journey, David.
Your beautiful daughter will be very proud of you
Dear God, much love and encouragement to you ❤
Wonderful video.
I have a good friend who's wife died in childbirth. Hes had an incredible experience raising his son alone. I'm sure hes had regrets and challenges but he is so very proud of and amazed by his son. It's incredible to witness as a friend.
His son is now home from deployment as a medic in the military and is soon to be a flight trauma nurse and rigger for helicopter rescue.
All the bad and all the good manifesting and fading away constantly in our lives. Without that we would be emotionless shells.
Thanks Jenny. It's a blessing and a curse to raise a child on your own. I wish his mom could have seen how strong he has grown. I hope she can in some way. She was always very proud of him.
@@HabitsV2 oh she sees. The ones that leave us early are right behind the veil.
Your really a strong man mate! I really respect you. 😊👍💪💪💪
I appreciate that!
It's the trauma that always had me going back to alcohol for relief. Just a desperate need to run from pain. Really hoping this time I can deal with the horrible feelings that surface and keep sober for good. Life is so much better without alcohol.
Absolutely. I have had the blessing of dealing with 'traumatic' events when a drinker and not... I don't need to tell you which way is less damaging.
I think my Dad taught my younger, alcoholic sister that, no matter what, “Don’t go/act crazy”. Well, my Mom and I went pretty crazy, but came out “redeemed” in the end because of it. We cried, scoured and faced the dark in order to find what was true and authentic. In the end, we weren’t addicted or unhappy. We were interesting and compassionate towards others and ourselves. We’d made it through as transformed champions. So, the uncomfortable and difficult road less traveled gave us peace of mind and a sense of accomplishment that we would never have found if we just lived our lives trying to fit in and look “normal”.
At the end of my journey, I see the tragedy! The vicious cycle of living in a precarious society - we buy into take this and feel good, the doctor give us pills and that’s gotta be okay, right. In my AA experience the focus was on our shortcomings, a label, I’m an alcoholic instead of why am I doing this thing under the guise of reward/relief and making things worse? Yes, we did it to ourselves but society encourages and almost demands it to be part of the it group. Anyway; here I am saying “it’s never too late to be a better person all around.” Any improvement for myself personally, even for one day, is good for humanity. We do affect each other. Thanks Kevin, I’m getting educated at last and you’re making a difference! ❤😊
Great video! Thank you ! I'm over 6 months sober and just starting to feel peace within and gratitude for the day to day tasks🥲
So glad I've come across you. I find your honesty so helpful.
80 Like been watching your video for while, but this one hit hard, when you said your loss your wife. I lost my loved one 3 years ago since yesterday, been drink a lot to numb the pain, but hear your story it shows we are all human, your video inspirit me to do the right thing and let go the pass.
I’m almost 68, lost my wife two years ago after a 8 year battle,getting older and wonder if I will ever have another fine woman in my life,I will do it again in a heart beat.♥️,Drinking helps nothing ,makes it harder to deal with all aspects of life.
@@goforitrazz Much love my friend, I know her since 1975, I turn 65 years old next few months, but than life is not about the length of time! I hear you 110% THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNAL, drinking never solve our problems and it never has. Thanks for your reply you are my rocket fuel. MAY YOU LIVE TO 110 YEARS OLD❤❤❤❤ Our love one want for us to be strong and live a full life Theye are watching from above! We owe it to them.
@@shahnawazvlog6266I knew my wife since high school.Thanking about our host Kevin talking about his son loosing his mother,hard to put that in to perspective,when we spend so much time with a person and we loose them it is more impactful, but it is part of life,not the best day today but tomorrow will be bette.👍❤️🩹
It's hard to live sometimes. I would rather live through the trauma of the loss than to never have lived through the happiness of my years with my wife and what she still brings to me, even though she passed over almost 20 years ago. A loss like this take some things from you but it also gives so much as well.
My partner, Esther, is a fine woman. She has helped me to move on in some ways in my life, to become alive again....
Very insightful, thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Just thank you.
Your story is very similar to mine and hearing your story, was a massive help in organising things in my mind.
Spot on once again brother. Very grateful for your sharing. Cptsd is part of my childhood and then my self medication with alcohol journey. Again your messages are inspiring as you share your human experience and reach out to us too help. Very grounding. 👍
Thanks.
Thanks for sharing this Kevin, it was both sad and beautiful to hear. You wear your heart and honesty on your sleeve. I was listening to you many years ago but I wasnt hearing if you get me. I have just finished your beginners course, it was very well put together and gave a lot of food for thought. I will be signing on soon for your full course and I know your program will help me unplug. Take care
Well said
Hi Kevin, these videos and the messages they deliver are just getting better and better, I watched this one with tears in my eyes, beautifully honest and resonated very deeply with me. Thank you!
Very thoughtful video. Thanks for sharing. 👍 ❤
Thank you for commenting!
When you read books about the concentration camps .and what people call Trauma it pales into insignifance what those poor souls went through
Trauma is a lived experience, no matter the degree of suffering. Horror for a child is just a regular beating from a parent. No less traumatic or less valid. Same result, different horror...
Frankl said that meaning can be found in the most devastating of situations and the most hellish of places - even in the face of atrocity. “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
Just started reading his book Kev my god what those poor people went through
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I think ur missing the point of this video. Good comment wrong video.
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Thank you Kevin.
You're welcome.
Thanks!
Welcome!
The price of love.
It is.
This spoke to me on many levels. Thank you. (And I have to say, I would not have thought you had a son in his 30s. You look much younger.) What does HanitV2 mean and can you explain your logo?
Thanks you Joko... HabitsV2 is our program to help stop drinking and build better mindsets. The logo is a combination of V with the Roman numerals for 2 - II . It's also a mountain, signifiying many things as you can imagine.
I do think the number of traumas is important, I reached a point where life had broken me, it happened very quickly after many very bas experiences. Luckily with gods grace I suppose, I have come through and I am sober and starting to heal
Keep it up, James
@HabitsUnplugged Thanks, I've had bad days, but I can get through them. Like you said motcevery day is perfect, but you just stay calm or at least stay sober haha
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻yo can do it!
Kevin..I am trying to fet tge free guide vur it says I must pay $94 usd?
Sorry. It was free for a few months. We might bring it back to free at some point in the future. There's still 1600 videos here on RUclips. We need to charge for some things.
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What state are you in?
I'm in Andorra - Europe
@@HabitsV2beautiful place.🤙🤙🤙🤙
My Wife was 41
It's tough
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