Bridget Jones's Insecurity - Why Women Hate Themselves
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- Throughout the trilogy of Bridget’s story - Bridget Jones’s Diary, Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason and Bridget Jones’s Baby - the character’s central flaw driving most of her conflict and struggle is deep, bottomless insecurity. Nearly all her interactions with the greater world are loaded with shame and humiliation. But why is this young, smart and successful woman so incredibly down on herself?
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00:00 Bridget Jones, a tale of self-esteem
01:18 Why does Bridget have such a bleak outlook?
03:01 The many ways Bridget self-sabotages
07:15 How Bridget speaks to her generation of women
09:36 Four key moments of Bridget's progress
13:13 Imperfection can be a superpower
14:16 The central theme of the series 
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This might sound weird but what I love most about the movies is how realistic Bridget's hair is. She just looks like a regular woman and not like some Hollywood actress who has spent at least three hours at the hair and makeup trailer before filming.
But I know women (especially woc and disabled and old) that do their hair nice and they aren't Hollywood
You mean to say waking up with perfectly iron curled hair isn't normal?!?! What about when stranded on an island or evading zombies? The hair DOESN't just fall is perfectly curled waves? lol
@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 woc disabled and old? Why u listed them like there's something wrong with them.?
@@muraismybby4617 What makes you assume I say there is something wrong with them?
@@muraismybby4617 They had to mention those groups, she's a typical virtual signaller, so woke.
its so horrible how society makes women hate themselves. im 40 and i have started to see it so clearly in the past couple of years, i just wish i could go back and hug my younger self and tell her that she is perfect in every way and worth the world! i wish i could do that to every woman that feels the patriarchal judging in their bones, none of us deserves it. wake up world! these are ur sisters and mothers and aunts and grandmothers!!!! we can not keep doing this!!!
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Not only do our environments make us hate ourselves, but we’re also subsequently judged pretty harshly for having low self esteem. Even the most benign signs of insecurity is met with the “come on, get a grip” type energy. It’s like after your teenage years you’re just expected to naturally blossom into this perfect person who goes through life completely un-phased by society’s high expectations that we struggle to meet.
Society isn't one entity moving together. A lot of women work and create content that makes other women feel insecure. Instagram and social media are predominantly female and the marketing industry is also dominated by women. I'm a woman and once I decided to cut off all these things from my life, I felt insanely better. It's not society, its starts from within.
@@pivotb5691 not to forget that we're also often paid less bc of insecurity. Sadly, this has very real consequences beyond just getting judged
@@MJ-py7dm It's a bit of both. I don't follow influencers, but people in my daily life mention my looks in a negative way. All the time simce I was a kid. I'm 39 now. It never stops.
We’ve been conditioned to hate ourselves for not being WHATEVER. You’ve got female celebrities of whatever genre that struggle with their sense of self. It’s ridiculous.
Thank you. Additionally, I think women are too hung up on self worth. Do we really need sense of self to dictate what we can and can't do? How about we collectively start overriding the necessity of confidence.
A: ”I haven't tweezed today. My date will see my mustache".
B: "And if so, so what? Worst case, I'll join a circus as a bearded woman. I've always wanted to travel more".
&
A: "I didn't expect the room to be all Seniors, they'll know I'm inexperienced"
B: "And if so, so what? Worst case, they'll get you fired instantly. At least then you get severance pay".
Even the most extreme scenario: you survive. You might not like it, but you survive. Women are so resilient. So, do we really need to waste our time gaining confidence or should we just start living instead?
LOL, no you haven't. Get over yourself
@@merry_christmas this, I feel like sometimes, the most efficient form of empowerment is just not giving a fuck
@@mini696 what do you mean
And also conditioned to hate other women
I talked to a psychologist who broke down why married couples with children feel like they have to shame people who choose to be single, unmarried, and without children. He said it was a form of cognitive dissonance due to the cost of an investment they always thought they SHOULD put in for. By meeting an individual choosing not to be married with children, it makes them question their investment and whether it was actually worth the cost. All of their own regrets come rushing to them, so they pour out shame to the person making them feel guilt for making them question their choices.
Sounds spot on my mentor in her late 80’s said something similar. (Her husband and her decided not to have children) so she gives back through mentorship and invest in their happiness. She has 3 homes in very affluent areas. Lives in one of the richest parts of NYC and goes on vacations every 3 months. While yes she is retired she was doing all of this before retirement too. The way you explained this helped me understand why people often come off that way or ask those questions.
I can't believe she used to be considered "fat." She's a perfectly normal and healthy size and we've always been conditioned to believe that our self-worth is dependent on whether we're single or not. I don't feel there's quite as much pressure as there used to be but it's still there.
Omg she’s the same weight and height as me and I get told I’m too skinny
Even when I was young, I thought it was ridiculous that she thought 135lbs was "fat", and that was closer to what I weighed, when I was most fit and lots of solid muscle. I'm 5ft tall and now 175lbs, and am "fat", but I don't care, and neither does my loving hubby.
she's "a little fat" (her word). She's not fat
Well.... maybe she is US thin. But she's european fat.
In the book it's pretty clear that she's not at all overweight but that she thinks she is and this is part of the satire. But when Zellweger gained weight to play her that changed the focus of the conversation.
That was “movie fat” in the years of extra skinny movie stars and models. Keira Knightley, Paris Hilton, Geri Halliwell, and many more were speculated to be anorexic, it was the look of the early 2000. I was a fit teenager and have been commented on for being a little overweight when I was perfectly happy with my figure. Toxic times.
Edit: size zero became a thing.
So true! I was literally a size 0 then and thought I was fat because of what a handful of morons had told me in my lifetime.
Sorry to break it to you, but we've had size 000 (yes, triple-zero) since pre-2010. Used to work in retail. It was aimed at really tiny (predominently Asian, in that area the store was in) mature women (who, tbf, often have a hard time finding petite enough clothes) and tweens & young teens.
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The intended demographic didn't stop it from fcking with the heads of other women, though, particularly those who were just as short but more naturally curvy.
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Ofc, it didn't help that label sizing in America is all over the place, and you can be a size 4 in one brand and a 7, or even 9, in another (true story -- source : my own experience).
@@iprobablyforgotsomething Bridget Jones was pre 2010. I talked about the 00 years. I remember very vividly people like Victoria Beckham and many more being advocates for size zero. That all happened in the early 2000s. By 2010 it moved to tumblr with thinspiration hashtags.
@@melb6746 Same here. I was a skinny girl and yet people told me I should be even thinner. I got those comments from all around and especially women. It’s crazy how people thought this was acceptable.
Wasn’t Geri Halliwell a bulimic? She probably had puppy bulimia too. And Keira and Paris are thin and tall. So their born that way..
"Girls, don't grow a wishbone where your backbone should be." I wish our culture had more messages of female empowerment, self-acceptance and independence. Women have been always so dependent upon men, subservient to men, defined by men: this is and has always been incredibly sad and unhealthy. Viva Independent Women!
Whats worse now is that we are being punished for our independence. If we want to have a career or job we have to pay bills and come home and do all the cleaning and cooking and childcare and look good and stay skinny. 😒
Whatever choice we make.. whether to stay home or work, it has to benefit us. Otherwise we back to slavin
Oooh I have never heard that but I LIKE IT
I'm Bridget's age and never had a boyfriend or been intimate with someone. spent years first enduring trauma and then healing from it. something we also not make any room for in society. you're just expected to find someone and start a family basically already after becoming an adult. so stressful too
hey, same here... When someone asks me why I'm 35 and single, in spite of all sorts of personal achievements that I'm well aware of, I tell them: so, what part of my childhood trauma do you want to hear first? And I have to do all this healing work (it is WORK) on my own without society leaving me space, as you write. I still work full time, take care of may parents' constant screw-ups, save money, exercise and bla and bla -- how am I supposed to ever meet someone who is good to me?!
I just turned 25 and I feel like I missed the train of relationships and that i will never find someone because basically everyone younger than me are already in serious relationships or married while I'm still struggling in therapy to heal my childhood traumas and stressed about financial struggles.
I was a long haul truck driver not girly a little chubby complete with a low self esteem and ticking biological clock...I by chance re met a child hood friend and fast forward a few years I'm married with a child and I never saw that coming I had given up life is funny sometimes
Personally, whether you have had trauma or not, no one needs to WANT marriage and children. It isn't a requirement to be an adult or to live a fulfilling and happy life.
I'm 29, and I have this problem too. And in my society it's big problem
I think Bridget’s issue is not entirely her self esteem. I think (this is going to sound mean) bridget is supposed to represent “the average woman,” someone unremarkable, someone ordinary and cynical. Someone who is not considered “attractive” or “different” and while this isn’t a bad thing, bridget’s whole life is surrounded by people who see her as a background character, just another girl. She feels insecure because while she is attractive and funny, she doesn’t attract the people she wants and is surrounded by women more charming than her. I think Bridget Jones was the first movie character to represent the “ordinary woman,” someone bridget herself would have benefited from seeing. Women everywhere will relate to her, from her low self esteem to the idea that she is “ordinary,” she is flawed.
Says a lot about the 2000s diet culture Bridget was considered "fat" when her highest weight was under 140lbs...
Yep, size zero was the big goal bag then. And celebrities like Victoria Beckham promoted that.
The actress had to gain weight for the movie and lost it all right after. Even though it is her most recognized movie (series)as I remember.
I avoided looking at magazines back then even though I was slim because of food intolerances. I am too big boned to get down to a size zero. I was happy with a UK size 10/12.
@@honeym7408 Because food was cheap and plentiful back then. So much food was wasted and still is. Most of it a poor quality. I would have been stuffing my face more if I hadn't had all those food intolerances. So then the ideal becomes the opposite of what most people are. In times of famine the beauty ideal is voluptousness.
but is it a bad thing to acknowledge that bridget isn't thin? she is still beautiful in her weight
She's not even overweight!! I hate how we say she is when she actually isn't
she clearly is
@@attentionoutnowstr34m47 136 pounds and a height of five foot five BMI wise In the uk is actually not. Overweight. Clearly
@@flowergirl5336 deleted my comment as did not realise she’s supposed to be 136ibs that’s clearly not overweight- but pretty normal.
As a 5’5” tall woman, 135lbs was the smallest my body ever allowed me to go, and that was at the height of my ED where I was skipping meals and only eating fruit and veggies for most of the other meals…so this mentality is why some women literally die to meet the unrealistic body ideals for some women’s body types…
@@attentionoutnowstr34m47 You know the meaning of WHO and their objectives, mission, etc? What is the daily nutritional guide pyramid and their recommendations updated to 2022?Do you know what is BMI? Are you against or in favor? If you are going to talk about who is overweight and who isn't you better know this.
She had everything gen z wishes for. 1. an apartment in London with no roommates
2. 4 bad ass solid friends
3. An uncomplicated job
4. FWB with Hugh Grant
I have #3, just give me MARK DARCY. Please...
😂 now everything she has is the one unattainable for gen z
@@mishynaofficial hahaha mark Darcy is husband material ❤️
We have been conditioned, brainwashed, groomed, if you will, into hating ourselves. An instance drove home this realization just the other day. I watched a short clip on an "insecurity" women have, which, I guess, was no jawline. Lol. I had never thought about my jawline. My height? Yes. My eyes? Yep. My stature and build? Absolutely! But never thought that my jawline out of all things would be a problem. I did think briefly about whether my jawline was "normal" or not. But then I dismissed it, because if you think about an idea long enough, whether good or bad, it soon owns you.
We are all human, no one is perfect, we all would kill for perfect looks. Society now is driven by perfection, high achievements, and being literally your own god.
There are so many things I thought where normal, only to discover that it is an “insecurity” for people, and all of a sudden these normal things were not normal anymore. I should be insecure about my chubby cheeks, my stretch marks, the size of my feet, my lashes. We are conditioned to hate things about ourselves, even when we did not have a problem with the things before.
I guess it all depends on what we see and hear about ourselves, my insecurity is my jawline because I have a slight underbite that people seem to notice, but I’ve never thought about my hands or my toes as an insecurity for example
My ah-ha moment happened some time ago. I asked my husband if he could change just one thing about his appearance, what would it be. He said he'd change nothing, he was happy with everything about himself! I asked myself the same question, and I couldn't come up with a single thing I wouldn't change at least a little bit! Those different responses were so telling about society.
@@kryxena its parents. Even if they love you, they tell girls how beautyful they are and they will find a good man. Man are not judged by their looks and parents mean well when they teach their girls to take care of they appearance bc they don't want them be alone.
@@angelikalaser7778 That very much depends on your parents (and possibly your societal background). Mine never told me I was beautiful (I'm not, granted, but they never tried to encourage me to make myself so) or that I had to find a man. They may not have always been happy with my choices but they let me make them. Instead, they've always encouraged me to have the life I want. Granted, my mum would have been disappointed with the lack of grandkids if my sister hadn't provided XD
This movie came out when I was in early teens and I was like WHY, why a GROWN-UP woman is acting so stupidly?!
I'm a little humbler now, lol.
We’re all just clueless children that progressively get larger 😂
Because it's a comedy and exaggerated for effect.
@@lemsip207 Even though your answer is technically true, I never find any comedy in people's humiliation or self humiliation. And ive also seen grown up women acting similar. I've felt a high level of discomfort in their presence.
@@NestorSaliven It's more laughing at themselves as the storyline is often based on the writer's or director's own experiences.
Women hating themselves is good for capitalism and the patriarchy. As long as we have low self-esteem and self-worth we are controllable and profitable. To love yourself, and have boundaries and standards in the current system is the highest form of protest.
Could you not blame men for everything and take responsibility for your own actions?
@Mister Marcus the patriarchy doesn’t equal men, nothing in my comment suggests that I’m blaming men or not taking responsibility. How about you take responsibility for your own triggers instead of commenting on strangers’ comments who you know nothing about?
@@Tan_Shou Yes, you do. You literally write that women hating themselves is good for patriarchy, while the average men couldn't care less.
Stop blaming a non-existing patriarchy for your self-esteem issues.
@@mistermarcus4281 ok dude, thanks for the lecture, my eyes are now open, my self esteem and life are forever changed 🙌🏼
I remembered I cried during the “Just as you are” scene and I didn’t know why.
This essay explains everything.
I'm turning 30 very soon and I've now seen how society treats women no longer seen as young. Even though I feel very young, I've felt rhis shift especially in dating, people aren't as interested compared to when I was like 26. Also I feel like I can't wear what I want without being seen as try hard or shallow. Things come up in conversation like 'oh you'll find the one' you should take being asked ID as a compliment! It's crazy how this rhetoric is drilled into our heads that young and beautiful is attached to our worth! I'm getting grays, and more wrinkles and I couldn't care less! I'm buying my own house, I have a great job and lots of nieces and nephews, I feel quite lucky. I might not have a husband, but I honestly don't think that should be my lifes goal! If it happens it happens! No one knows what's around the corner.
Ironic.
It’s ok that you’ve achieved so much but having your own family (husband and children) is still the most satisfying goal to reach. In time you’ll see. All the best 🦋
@@kherise does that apply to men as well?
@@nstar1372 of course. Why?
Not everyone aspires to marriage and children, and in my opinion settling down with someone and having a family is only good if you’re with the right person. Too many people settle for second or third best simply because they’re afraid of being alone or leaving it too late to have kids.
Looking at this movie as an adult, Mark does some questionable things. Most notoriously, he storms off to buy Bridget a diary without explaining anything, forcing her to have to chase after him in the snow. A sweet gesture, but a little heads up would have been appreciated.
We really need to talk about Mark's toxicity (do they mention in the video?)
Was skimming in the bathroom at work, do they mention her white and thin pretty privilege?
Yeah, I never liked that about him :/
My interpretation of Mark was always that he was completely socially inept, maybe even on the spectrum. The reason he’s so brash and offensive is the same reason he’s so over the top sweet at times. There’s no filter to his behavior
@@aggg12679 Yeap. He's also a typical INTJ
The Bridget Jones Trilogy has been such a rewarding trilogy (albeit with its problems) and I’ve learnt so much from her and I’ve laughed a lot which is always lovely ❤
As someone who recently self-sabotaged her first otherwise perfect adult relationship, I needed to hear this. 💙
I'm sure it wasn't as perfect as you think. Don't be so hard on yourself. You were doing the best you could and will do better.
@@spj4you thank you
The Bridget Jones movies remind me of the song '22' by Lilly Allen:
'when she was 22 her future looked bright,
She's nearly 30 now and she's out every night,
I see that look in her face,
She's got that look in her eye,
She's thinking, how did I get here?
And wondering, why...
It's sad but it's true, how society says her life is already over.
There's nothing to do, and there's nothing to say.
Until the man of her dreams comes along, picks her up and puts her over his shoulder.
It seems so unlikely in this day and age...
She's got an alright job, but it's not a career.
Whenever she thinks about it, it brings her to tears.
Cos all she wants is a boyfriend;
She gets one night stands.
She's thinking, how did I get here?
I'm doing all that I can!'
I guess both the Bridget Jones movies and that song emphasise that women are seen as having an 'expiration date' of 30, by which point they're supposed to have settled down and become wives and mothers (while also having a full-time successful career). And if they haven't managed all that then they've failed to fulfill their 'purpose' as a woman. They've deviated from the blueprint and fallen behind the schedule. When they're in their twenties they're given the freedom to do what they want, but after that they get judged harshly if they're still out having fun or following their passions instead of building their whole lives around accomplishing 'the dream' (husband, kids, home with a gleaming kitchen, successful career).
Emma Watson once noted that the minute she turned 30 all any interviewers wanted to ask her was whether she was dating someone, and if she was thinking of settling down soon and getting married. Crazy that we still think like this.
I didn't know this song and after reading the lyrics I felt so sad, because I'm 22 but it's hard for me to see a bright future for my life 😭😭😭
My early adulthood years have been boring and kinda lonely, and I guess I have the self steem of a Briget Jones, already thinking that I lost my youth
@@helenovsk honey, you is only 22, love yourself😘
@@user-hf2kk4wr2y I will try!!
honesty, Bridget Jones was one of the first characters I truly saw myself in. I have VERY low self esteem, so the fact that Bridget was this character who also had low self esteem AND she was not suddenly like, "I need to love myself!" The fact that she did not suddenly love herself at the end of the movie was honestly a huge relief for me. I honestly felt a bit better about myself because of that. The love yourself movement, for me personally, is frustrating. It shoves the idea of loving yourself at you, when it is ok to not love yourself completely. The love yourself movement actually makes me feel worse about myself, because on top of my body image problems, now I am frustrated and sad at the fact that I cannot "love myself" like everyone else is able to do. So, seeing a character go through body image issues through out the movie without solving them at the end was such a comfort to me. It is SO unrealistic to just love yourself after DECADES of hating yourself. Which is why I think that aspect of Bridget holds up very well today. Not everything needs to be tied up in a bow.
I love and adore the first movie so much and I think I always will. Bridget is such an intriguing and realistic character that we can't help but root for her happiness
Oh you guys really hit the nail on the head this time. I used to be somewhat like Bridget, although maybe not to that extent, but every since turning 25 this year I've been actively working on fully loving myself. After paying closer attention, I noticed that we live in a culture where self-hate disguised as funny memes and sarcastic tweets (e.g. "other girls vs me", "she's built like Kendall Jenner and I'm built like the Michelin Man"). Sure, it's good to have a laugh sometimes, and an occasional self-deprecating joke can even make a person more charming, but I've noticed that many people - especially women - become somewhat obsessed with these self-hating memes and jokes. And that's a symptom of a bigger problem.
I can honestly say I'm over this culture. And I'm over any insecurities that are trying to be forced upon me. My life is already difficult enough right now, since I'm having to deal with health issues and other problems. The LAST thing I need is to hate myself in the process. Hell, I'm sure even my medical treatment would become compromised if I lived in insecurity 24/7 - the body always responds to the mind. Although there is no expiry date on insecurity, I feel like 25 is too old to go through life NOT loving yourself; however, everybody is different, so I have no right to criticize anyone who does feel insecure about themselves. I just hope every person watching this video takes it as a wake-up call to accept and value yourself - flaws and all.
At the end of the day, my biggest nightmare is not being single at 30. It's reaching the age of 30 with the mindset that I am somehow not good enough. Which will definitely not be happening, regardless of any internal or external circumstances. Ladies (and gentlemen), you are FINE. You are more than enough. You have the God-given right to self-love, confidence, and assertiveness.
thank you for your words 💜
Wow, such a great observation, I feel you did great job on self-love journey !!!) There you go!)
You know you’re getting better when all these self-deprecating memes seem significantly less funny.
Well said
It's not just about looks, it's everything! You need to have "a career", a home, perfect husband, success... all. Most sad thing about look expectations is in one video about Marilyn Monroe, and how they told this beautiful, young woman, who is still a beauty icon, that she has "weak chin", "fat wrists", "big ears" etc (basically forcing her to have a string of risky plastic surgeries) and I bet it was told to her by ugly, old men in business who of course don't think these "rules" apply to them. You can see how obvious is that she was trying to hide these small imperfections on professional photos even though they made her even lovelier. Society is cruel, I am a woman so I have no idea how men feel, but as a woman, I feel how cruel society is towards us. I experienced it on my own skin so many times, men who I barely met, who tell me what my "imperfections" are and how can I maybe "fix" them. Who asked you?
Men are more cruel.
There are cruel women but many women in my life always had a kind word to say: "your hair looks great" "whoaa you're so smart", "this cake you baked is delicious".
I never got complimented by a man and if they ever did it was with the intention of getting something in exchange.
The first person person in my life who made me hate myself was my own mother because she wasnt lover by her own mother and never properly loved by a man.
Men don't love us. Their love is strictly to women who make them look good and serve them good like fancy cars.
All our lives we chase the love of a man but men are uncapable of loving within our standards and if we can't attract a man to love us then we're nothing
@@redleeks6253 We aren't supposed to love them either. We should love their wallets, and what they can do for us.
Hi Bilija M,
I wanted to add my 2 cents, as a man. Society is equality cruel to us, we are expected to have the body of a superhero, money to burn (at least be able to afford a house in the suburbs by 30), be lusted after by every woman, or happily married to (a beautiful) wife, be respected I our jobs and comunity and never be indescisive, scared or wrong. We are told to be a good husbands, father, respectful to women and in touch with our emotions, but also stoic and never "emotional ". It's exhausting and isolating and many of us crave release but never get it, so we lash out at the people who require this of us, woke people, and women ( when was the last time you went out with a fat, poor, indescisive man?)
I blame capitalism mostly, the original feminist wish to be valued for something other than a woman's looks got twisted into "you are not an adequate woman unless you are beautiful AND a career girl AND a fulfilled mother AND AND AND.....
This is all to make you feel inadequate to sell you things.
There are many men who would like to be kinder, but fear looking weak if they do.
Nobody asked those men their opinión on your looks, but they did not do it out of malice. As for why it happens, Many men are rejected CONSTANTLY by EVERY woman, it makes us desperate and , since we don't lose anything, we might as well take a shot.
I'm not saying women have it easy, but society treats men badly too, just in different ways.
@@andreaslind6338 maybe, I am not a man, I can't tell you any of this. But this video is about women, that is why I commented, not about men. When some men (not all) say "women" they think "beautiful young women" they never take into account any older or not conventionally pretty women. They don't see them. I saw women with amazing talents, smart, strong but men don't see them, they just see those that are pretty and judge all of us based on them. I really don't know how society treats men, I am not a man and obviously you don't have idea we got rejected we get alone, we get treated badly, we get friend-zoned, we are underrated as intellectuals, as experts, as artists all the time, we are exactly humans like men, there is no mystery there. Some men get rejected because they have prejudices against women like you do. You think I never dated men who are poor, or not good looking and you don't even know me! That shows prejudices, and women can feel that. They feel and they can detect men who have resentment towards women and they run away from them. That's not because you're short, poor or whatever, that's just wanting to escape someone who will judge you based on your gender alone. Now, I too don't know you so I might be wrong here, but you did assume things about me. Accept that women are humans just like men, and have similar problems and heartaches and get rejected and are alone for long long time, and get insulted based on looks or age, and just accept them in same way as men. It will show. If you have any doubts and think "we are all the same" they will feel that. it has nothing to do with your looks or money. There are many many poor or not so good looking men who are happily married.
@@biljam972 OK, that got a bit heated, can we both agree that both genders face discriminación in different ways and that we both need to be kinder to each other and not be defensive?
It was so refreshing and mind blowing to me, seeing a 40 something woman partying and enjoying herself and having casual sex and everything, it was awesome
was she 40? I always thought she was in her mid 30's
@@heloisaalmeida1243 in the first two movies, 40+ in the third one.
That's sad actually, my worst nightmare
@@mysticc6232 well, it's a one pretty easy to avoid. Just sit your butt at home and don't party, lol.
@@magma4168 Yea or go meet quality people who have self respect
Let's not also forget that Bridget Jones' Diary came out in the Post-feminist era. A time when people, even some women, falsely believed that Feminism solved everything but not internal happiness for career women. As back then they still clung to the "happily ever after" dream and belief a woman's true happiness is in marriage and family.
It was a very different world then.
The thing that bugged me is Post Feminism is non intersectional and the 2026 movie was reactionary
EDIT: 2016, ya'll know it was a typo
@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 2026?
@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 what 2026 movie?
@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 or you're a time traveller 😉
No wonder the feminist movement made a reappearance from the late 00's but at the time it was mostly third wave liberal feminism. Second wave feminism has now returned as a response to both sexism and third wave feminism.
The increased sexism and sex stereotyping partly came about from putting all toys in chain toy shops into girls' and boy's categories instead of type categories from the mid 80's onwards. Why does a toy drum need to be a boy's toy for example? In the 70's there were girls', boys' and unisex categories in toy shops. In the children's section in toy shops there would be drawing books for girls and drawing books for boys when books should be segregated by genre and age not sex. This led to princess programming which is just a modernised version of restricting girl children's education and play to train them just to be future wives and mothers.
I really feel like all these early 2000s movies gave us all body image issues with the way they’ll have roles for fat actresses but then will just choose fill her with a medium to slimmer sized actress (because then you’d have to look at a fat actress for the entire movie god forbid 🙄), and then just opt for gaslighting the fuck out of the audience by throwing us comments left and right calling the main lady “fat”, so that way we’ll think she’s fat even though the actress is literally normal to small sized is really gross. making comments calling a thin actress fat doesn’t make the actress suddenly fat. it only convinces young girls in real life to think that they are fat because they are about or bigger than the actresses in these movies.
Rene Z. was hot in that Jim Carrey movie. Were these movies before or after that one?
Yeah in the books she's around 10 to 11 stone I remember, not - gasp - 136lb lmao
Edit: Just googled it - I was wrong! 130lb is a 'terrifying slide into obesity' in the book, no wonder we were all body dysmorphic in the 00s. I played the Sims 2 the other day and the ideal body type on there looks so unhealthy!
I think the whole point was that she thought she was fat. which is an extremely realistic mindset. Even when you are not fat, you think that you are.
I read that Renee Z. put on 30 lbs. for the two first movies. So she must have been really thin before that.
Bridget Jones-movies are and always will be my movies for bad days.
It's funny how much I relate to Bridget and her story. It's best movie scenes for young women. I'm a profoundly insecure person and this first time someone has actually made me understand it's ok to be imperfect and have confidence in your ability and most importantly in your self.
I consider myself skinny.. but she’s the same weight and height as me but thinks she’s fat! Wtf!
Well.... maybe she is US thin. But she's european fat.
The early 2000’s were a different time.
@@escabasket153 yeah i remember those days.. at 13 I had an eating disorder and always thought my hips were too big
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. It’s just sad to think about wasting away your life striving for an illusion and hating where you are.
I can't believe I never clocked that Miss Honey 🍯 was in Bridget Jones's Diary 🥺
Where
@@flowergirl5336 13:18 - 13:28
Wow I can relate to this so much I’m 33 and in my culture if you’re not married there is something wrong with you I was with someone and it was a disaster! I want the real deal too I want someone who will make me happy I do t want to be these ladies who get married 5 times and can’t find the one I feel like with my parents generation you got married just to get married in true love isnt important
I always was a fan of the movie. I was shook though when in high school I read the book and Bridget is calling herself fat and she weighed less than me; a high school student. Even now; I still weigh more than Bridget but I try to remember to shake off that message. I love the movies and how Bridget is flawed and funny.
It is insane that they called her fat. Years ago, I went to Universal Studios in LA and saw the ski-outfit she wears in the second film. It was tiny! I was 13 at the time and I'm pretty sure I would have had trouble putting that on.
This has to be the most relatable video I have ever seen
Perfect timing lol how'd you know I was talking about Bridget Jones Diary in my film class this week?
What kinda film class?
this video came in the right moment. I've just tweeted a few seconds ago that from time to time I get to spot and being self-aware of certain personality traits that make people think I'm obnoxious, and that's a proof of how, at 29 I haven't been able to find a suitable man for me. I know (an Im glad) millennial women are getting married after our 30s instead of 20s as women did 25 years ago, but still, it's upsetting to realize that you've reached a certain age in which you've never been in a relationships that is emotionally fulfilling or reciprocated. Whether I'm the one who's really commited and falling for some guy who I have no chance with, or they are after me when I'm not remotely interested. I have tried but I never seemed to fall for those who actually like me. It's frustrating not to be able to be in a relationship in which WE BOTH are in love with each other.
To sum up, thanks for uploading this video, cause it's giving me a LOT to think about.
I was in my 30s when this movie came out and I remember the culture back then was so focussed on women having children. "Tick-Tok" was a common phrase that indicated that time was running out for you. Also, random people would ask you if you had a boyfriend and looked at you with pity if you said no. Only very occasionally they would add... or a girlfriend. Because to most people it wouldn't even occur if you weren't a heterosexual.
Being autistic, I internalized these things because I thought if I'd live up to these expectations people would finally see me as 'normal'. Now I'm older I realize I didn't want any of it and am very happy "All by Myself". 😁
The fact that y’all missed the opportunity to make the Bridget/Elizabeth parallel using the A&E version of Pride & Prejudice starring Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy (the first time around) is…well it makes me itch. Love the analysis as always, tho🤣💛
yess I was about to comment that! that series is my favourite version of P&P. I like the 2005 movie, but it doesn't feel like a true Austen adaptation.
@@obsessivefangirl5055 yes, that’s exactly it! Good movie but doesn’t feel like a faithful adaptation - I agree.
Patriarchal conditioning constantly telling us we're weak and useless. Most have have internalized it. I didn't and I'm so glad I had women in my life who wouldn't let me ever think I'm less than a man just because I lack the muscle structure. I feel so bad for these women for real. I'm bomb af and can't no man tell me diffferent 🤷🏾♀️
Ok, this was a therapy session for me
I love the Bridget Jones trilogy ❤
Damn, the self esteem that comes from being good at what you do professionally is something I really hope I achieve some day. I do have a decent job but I never had the feeling I'm actually good at or cut out for what I do.
But hopefully, like Bridget, I find my way. I remember how in the first book she described her job as an inevitable nuisance and how she sometimes spent office days hardly doing any work at all. When she started working on TV she had a very rough start with a lot of falling down the firefighter pole, literally and figuratively. So yeah, I guess even after all those years, Bridget Jones still is inspiring.
This video was so inspiring...in a world that wants us all to be carbon copy of each other to be considered perfect, being ourselves is actually the key to happiness
I love how she’s not even fat lol. The 2000’s were weird looking back.
This channel is always refreshing and insightfull, I really admire what you guys do !
Thank you! This video is exactly what I needed! 💚. Love your content. Keep up the great work!
Honestly I don't really get why so many female leads in stories always seem to think that getting into any relationship with any random guy will make their life complete when they always seem to have so much going for them
Because, sad as it is, many women think so in real life.
@@magma4168 That is sad
Because we grow up with the myth of romantic love
@@taraktach7152 I really feel that the media and society really hyper focuses on more the idea of love and marriage to the point it feels like they say it’s the only source of true happiness and accomplishment
@@magma4168 do we think that or society - including cinema - makes us feel this way?
Aahhw, Thank you so much! This was so helpfull for me! I have been compared to Bridget Jones, and apart from the more obvious reasons like we look alike, I can also see the other reasons..like I am deeply insecure, amongst other reasons. This video made me see, that people might not see me as badly as I see myself. I truly want to thank you for that. I will save this video for myself as a reminder.
Growing up believing she really was fat and that if she’s fat, I must be a monster, really did mess with my head to this day. It is why I avoided watching them because since I have an ED I found them triggering. But this has made me want to watch them because they actually sound pretty great when watched as a trilogy.
Thanks for that. I think the films did not age very well, at least for one reason: I can't remember anymore why having a partner was supposed to bring you happiness! I seem to be in good company according to modern stats on single women, and how they may live longer and happier lives. Not saying having someone in your life is bad, on the contrary. Sadly, the way straight relationships are still built is quite problematic, and it is getting clear that a husband & kids are an *option* as Clementine Ford puts it, rather than the real thing.
My guess in the beginning of the video: Bridget is insecure because a. she is a woman in early 2000's b. like one third of the economy is fuelled by making women feel bad about themselves.
OK, watching now and checking if you got the same answer.
A tear ran down my face. You guys are awsome
I honestly think learning to love yourself and go with the silly moments is something that comes with age. I know Bridget was in her 30s, but I feel like the culture of looking perfect and being skinny was much worse for her generation than me at 33. Though obviously it is still a massive issue.
In my 20s I met a guy who was the best match in the world for me. At 25 I broke it up because I was self sabotaging and thought he could do better. He stayed my best friend.
At 29 I met a guy who was Daniel Cleaver to a fricken tee. He was hotter than me and even after two years of sleeping together, would still not define anything.
At 31 I had a coming to Jesus moment like Bridget did and realised my best friend was all I had ever wanted and I was completely in love with him. We are so happy now. I'm so glad I stopped thinking about why someone wouldn't want me, when there was someone who proved they did by waiting 6 years for me to come to my senses.
And just to be clear, this is not one of those weird "friend zone" situations. He was never like that to me, besides we'd spent 5 years together so he'd already slept with me, which from what I gather is what most "friend zoned" guys are waiting for
So You have Yourself Your Beta Bob Simp...hahaha...😂😂😂
Wow.
This one of my faves movies, I always admired that she had a nice job, a whole apartment for herself in London and lovely friends. But it seemed that she couldnt see these good things about her and I never understood it.
what i hate about this movie is the obsession to get married and have a family at 30, 30 is so SO young!!!!!!
You wanna be having kids when you're 40 or 50? Really?
OMG! Finally one on Bridget Jones. I have always associated myself with her, I dont know why. But there's something so relatable about her
I've just learned to accept it, it's not changing. I think my growth is more in the area of keeping jealousy in check and being happy for others. It comes easily now. Teenage years are when the self-obsessed ego tripping should stop.
Thank you for this video!! I think a lot of gen z kids in the comments miss the point of this movie. I grew up in the 2000s, I remember how toxic everything was. I was not able to look into a mirror and see someone beautiful because I thought I had to look like a runway model or like Paris Hilton. This movie really helped me realize that I was never unattractive, but it was hard for me to see that when I was constantly comparing myself to others. I’ve learned to stop determining my worth through my looks and focus on other aspects instead.
This was such a good video essay 🥺 I needed that.
Thank you for making this 💕🥹
It's such a beautiful movie series. Thank you for this. Didn't realize how intentional it was until now. So happy the love I have for it is backed by so many reasons.
I just saw this movie for the first time! Good timing!
I was Bridget Jones with diary and every isue she had. After a couple relationships I ended single, with dog, in my sixties and happy most of the time.
I can relate to this character so much!
Great Analysis by the Take! 👍👏🍿🔥😃🤓
Austen's Pride and Prejudice is not an antithesis of the "love you the way you are" credo but it does offer the idea of two imperfect spouses - the proud one and the prejudiced one - improving one another through their union. The course of that improvement need not take the form of vocal criticism by one of the other but learning through the very experiences of life and love.
Thank u. This was a very helpful breakdown
Thank you for remembering at this fantastic and hilarous triology. Now I know what this evening i do...📺😅
Wow , this video made me cry 😢
Me too.
If you read the books, you'll understand why she's like she is. It's a parody of Pride & Prejudice. But, all in all, she's very real and relatable.
Mmm Bridget Jones represented the women who didn’t fit with the old status quo. Who wanted to be in control of their sex life, be independent but also find love without being judged for it. Of course she was insecure. For society at the time she was an old loser who couldn’t get a hold of a man.
Nowadays women can switch careers, find love at any age and have a healthy sex life without having an accusatory finger monitoring every little thing they do waiting for them to fuck up.
This resonates so much with me, except I’m in the beginning of the movies and without specifically a relationship obsession.
Bridget Jones symbolizes so many common female insecurities that modern women face today. She's so relatable because we can all see ourselves in her, even if it's just one thing. I for one see myself in her in the way she simultaneously has high and low standards. I struggled in relationships because I dated whoever gave me a chance, not seeing the value or power that I had in the relationship. Yet, those men always turned out to be assholes and because I had high standards in the way I wanted to be treated, it would always end. But that's the thing,. You can't expect to be treated with worth if you go about dating anybody who pays you a simple compliment. You have to first love yourself and your flaws to see whether or not a guy would be able to do the same.
its sad how i started feeling like that insecure when was a teenager,
I remember seeing one of these movies as a child and what I got from it was the confusion about how Bridget is considered fat or unattractive in any way. It made me sad that apparently, society considers a normal looking woman fat and how it's suggested that there is a basis to her deep insecurity that is towering over every aspect of her life. It was one of the first times I became aware that just being yourself and doing whatever as a woman is apparently not good enough. Honestly this movie is not for children for that reason.
This has been my favourite movie for years and this video has made me realise that the reason would be that I’m Bridget. I feel like I’m listening to someone talk about me
I feel that deeply... :/ I can really see myself on those descriptions
Not only good looking men were attracted to her but also one of those gorgeous women that were described as the quintessence of success!!!
Because if you "Love yourself" people will think you are a narcissist or a sense of entitlement.
There is a diiference between liking your body with no depression and going to the mirror every 30 minutes just to fall in love with yourself.
@@thewhitewolf58 don’t see anything wrong with second option either
@@the1dbumblebee317 to an extent yes. You just dont want to be the bully. Thats for both men and women.
No, because that’s not what “love yourself” means. Loving yourself means unconditional love towards yourself, not love based on one’s appearance or status (which is narcissistic self love).
This is true. One time in my life i tried to confident even if i was faking it and they pointed fingers at me : "narcist"
What's with all the smoking in those movies? I don't remember 90's movies featuring that much smoking.
70’s, 80’s and 90’s featured a lot more smoking than movies nowadays.
The book also put a lot of emphasis on her smoking, she counted how many cigarettes she had a day and was constantly trying to quit.
In Bridget Jones it’s another representation of her state and self sabotage. One of her “goals” is to quit and as her life gets better or worse in the book, the number of cigarettes in each diary entry fluctuates.
@@anomalily Wasn't smoking also considered a way to lose weight?
Because british women smoke a lot
Love this
Low self esteem has a lot to answer for!
Straight women have it so hard 😅 Most of my best friends are guys and almost every single one at some point has judged their partner harshly on their looks and not making enough money but at the same time if their partner looks great and makes good money they get insecure like make up your mind. Truthfully I could say the same for some girls I've known but mostly they get upset if their partner is being mean and not following through less about looks and more about cleanliness and self respect. Anyway I always tell people who have insecurities to see what they bring to the table in a relationship and understand that the value is good enough and if you don't think it's good enough make changes. We really do have to like ourselves first and the rest follows suit
You are Great lidies!
That whole description at the beginning is litterally me
Bridget Jones my beloved.
relate so much to her😭❤️❤️
So good..
She is what Carrie was supposed to be imo
Not me watching this video and realizing that sometime within the last 15 years I have basically become Bridget Jones…😐
*without the British accent*
I relate to her so much.
good video
I remember the first time my dad saw her and exclaimed- wow, she's beautiful. I remember thinking- well she doesn't think so
Nah, I don't hate myself. I'm good. Peoples opinion don't pay my rent, I don't live for a mans acknowledgement or approval of my appearance and I don't get intimidated by internalized misogyny in women.
I love this trilogy in so many ways. However, I hope that we never have an adaptation of "Bridget Jones: Mad About The Boy" which would ruin everything.
4min in never watched 1 of the movies but god help my soul if i watch it
My favourite part of Bridget Jones' Edge of Reason is when Mark and Daniel get into a fight in the middle of some kid's birthday and they end up singing Happy Birthday with the rest of the people. Mark sings:
"Happy Birthday Dear so and so..." Hahaha😅😂😂
What I liked about the film was that the two hearthrobs of the British acting world in the 90's played the two male leads. Hugh Grant of Four Weddings and a Funeral fame and Colin Firth of Pride and Prejudice fame. I wasn't into the macho type such as Sean Bean that most of the women I knew back then were.