Post your schedules on the fridge. Sometimes, it's hard to communicate with your partner that you need some alone time or you're busy with stuff. Let them read it.
make sure your and your partner have separate working spaces at home. my husband and i have desks ones in the living room (thats his) and ones in the room (mine).. we are always together and we love that but sometimes we need our separate safe time to do other things in our corners
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned living with my husband is to understand he can’t read my mind and things that bother me (cleaning, how things are organized, etc) may not bother him. We really had to learn how to communicate effectively and I had to learn to ask for help when needed (with cleaning, mentally, etc).
This, 💯!! A mess doesn’t bother my husband! It’s like he has blinders on 😂! Which most of the time I am 100% ok with cleaning, as he does 100% of the cooking, however if something REALLY bothers me I have learned to just nicely tell him and he makes sure not to do it again (most of the time, lol)!! Learning your partner can’t read your mind is very important in a successful relationship…
Just got married 5 months ago and one of the things that helps us is to schedule our alone time to where I can be at home and he’s at the movies, or im out thrifting and he’s home. It’s helped to be able to have that personal time that you’ll crave when you are living together 24/7
Congratulations! Make sure you set your boundaries from the beginning and talk about what you expect from each other when it comes to keeping your house clean. And you still need your ME time even when living together.
I feel like an important part of moving in with each other is to be sure you’re dating. It’s easy to feel like because you live together that’s enough (I trend to find that this is normally a males perspective) it’s not enough! Keep bonding and dating as your relationship progresses. It gets difficult at times but remember you are learning new parts of each other during this change. Keep positive and love hard ❤️ happy for you and your next chapter.
100% and I fully think this is the same for when you enter different stages of your relationship. Now my partner and I are new parents and still learning new things about each other as we grow and learn to care for our baby girl. Genuinely this is how you grow old with your partner.
@@littledoe1617 yes becoming new parents changed our relationship so much and we are growing through this next chapter. It’s tough but now that I have this different perspective it helps so much🥺 congratulations on becoming parents it’s truly the best thing that physical life can bring❤️
The best relationship advice I’ve heard and I practice is: “if the person is broken, it doesn’t matter if you give them the entire world, because they won’t know what to do with it”. Meaning, always work on yourself inner self. A lot of the problems in a relationship come from inner projections and healing that we haven’t done. All the best in your new journey!
Aww congrats! My hubby and I have been living together for 13 years. My best advice is to talk about EVERYTHING! Be open about everything: chores, bills, intimacy, date nights, me-time, and work together as a team. It's you and him against the problem, not you and him against each other. So happy for you both!
Ahhh congrats! Enjoy the time together, if you guys are truly best friends (which I think you are) living together is just a never ending sleepover with your favorite person and it’s awesome! As far as advice, I’ve found some people think they have the profound advice to never go to sleep angry, but I think, depending on the person/relationship, sometimes it’s wise to take a second, cool off and get your thoughts together, pray about it, before you look to resolve an argument. Some times that looks like “I need a minute to gather my thoughts, I love you, but can we revisit this in the morning” and that’s okay! Good luck! Looking forward to this next chapter in your life!
I think it’s important to be patient with one another while you pick up on each other’s habits- even the smaller things like: do they immediately put a dish away; do they change the hand towel in the bathroom when needed, or vacuum…..super small things that you may be used to, and he may be used to, that now have to co-exist! But it’s the VERY BEST! I’ve been living with my now husband for about 4-5 years now and we grow more and more every year.
Someone who vlogs and does a great job of keeping the balance between sharing about her family but not actually sharing too much is thechicnatural. Her videos never feel like they’re missing anything and they’re very entertaining. Congrats to you and Jackson!
Just got married a year ago and the things the we learned living together is giving each other our alone time, because sometimes you have to breath and just enjoy the life as an individual. And I know that you love to have a clean and peaceful home to relax and spend time with Chloe and Jackson...so make sure you guys talk about what to expect from each other when it comes to keeping your place clean and peaceful. And never go to bed mad at each other because you don't want that negative energy inside your home. Cool off your minds and pray. It's better to put God in the center of your relationship 🤎 May God bless you Ash✨ I'm so happy and excited for you Ash!!! Wishing you the best in this next chapter with Jackson!! 💗💗💗
I’ve been with my partner for 6 years and living with him for 5 years. And honestly having your own hobbies outside each other and outside the house will strengthen your relationship. We lived together through COVID 24/7 which was so different but I’ve learned a lot. Don’t be afraid to ask for me time or hanging out with people without him.
i am so happy for you, ashley. you deserve this new step & growth in your life. you and jackson will do wonderfully living together - keep in mind that balancing emotions can look different when you’re with your partner 24/7 and not just every once in a while - you’ll get through those challenges in no time, as long as you’re there for each other. so much love your way🫶🏻
When I moved in with my now husband, it was an adjustment for the two of us. But open communication is number 1, especially being in such close quarters is so important. Make sure you each have your spaces, for me that was our room so anytime I needed “me” time I would go there but also decorated it in a way that relaxed me. But we have been together 10 years, married 6, and lived together for 7 so of course you have your moments with your partner but I love living with him.
I've lived with my husband for a total of 2.5 years and we've been together almost 4 years and when we started dating we had specific nights of the week and a weekend day where we'd see each other. So, when we moved in we continued that schedule! This means we still get our together time on those nights and then we also have our own time on the other nights. Highly recommend!
Ahhh congratsss!!! Since everyone has already great advice… I’m going to go into the not so exciting one. There will be phases where you feel like just roommates and not as intimate (in all aspects). This is completely normal as you are trying to navigate the dynamics of living with someone else, esp when it’s romantically. You will be learning each others ticks, quirks, negatives but it’s all a part of the journey. It’s just a phase and although it’s difficult and lonely at times, you will be better on the other side through communication, love and tenderness. I’m so excited for you!!!
My partner and I just moved in together a little over 2 months ago and it was both of our first time moving in with a partner. What we did is start out with different bedrooms! What that has realistically looks like is us sleeping together in one room or the other most of the time 😂 but having that space and ability to maintain some independence while we are still new at this has been really great!
I think the most beneficial decision my partner and I made when we moved in together was creating nooks that were our own. I am a person who thrives in my alone time and was so worried that moving in would strain our relationship because of it! But after almost 4 years of living together, we are able to enjoy each other's company together and separately with ease and respect.
I moved in with my bf after dating for 2.5 years, and the biggest advice I have is you have to make sure you intentionally maintain your relationships with others. I used to live with college roommates who are my best friends, and now it’s tempting to just get into a routine with my built-in best friend every day. But making sure you’re still reaching out and spending time with your girlies is so important, and it makes your relationship healthier at the end of the day if you’re spreading the love.
I have been living with my now fiancé for almost 3 years now and I think the biggest thing is to remember neither of you are mind readers. If you need help ask, if they need help they should ask. And with that don't assume they know how you want something done.
Give grace with each other! Understand each are going to want alone time and don't take offense and use to your advantage. Almost have your "peace" in the house that he has and you have separate. It will help ease into merging your lives together. It is an amazing thing living with your person. So excited for this new chapter for you guys!
I’m 35 years old and I was married for 14 years one thing I could tell you is that if you don’t set boundaries if you don’t set rules, kind of it’s gonna be overwhelming as in the cleaning, washing his clothes, cooking for him, picking up after him, putting the seat down in the restroom
I definitely suggest talking about how cleaning tasks will be taken care of. It's no fun later feeling like one person does more cleaning than the other especially the bathroom. I hope the transition is going well!
Congrats to you and Jackson!! I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we learned a lot living together. As many people are saying, setting boundaries sooner than later. Def don’t hold grudges or be passive aggressive if something they do bugs you, communicate! Moving in with your partner is so exciting and grow more with each other! Wishing you and Jackson the best 🫶🏼🫶🏼
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Omg I'm so excited for you guys!! One of the many things I've learnt from staying with my other half is the art of compromise. I'm an Aries (naturally competitive and almost always in combat-mode) so I've toned down a lot by picking your battles. The other is respecting each other's boundaries and honouring it. Can't wait for this next step 💓💓💓 Lysm Ash!
I’ve lived with my boyfriend, now husband, since I was 21, I’m your age now. The absolute best advice that I have is for you both to keep doing what you were doing before you moved in together! Individual time and hobbies is key! I go out with my girls, he goes out with the guys, and we all go out together! Spend the day doing whatever it is you each do and come together in the evening/night to decompress the day. Also, give each other grace, it’s new for the both of you, and neither of you are perfect! Lastly, always show each other respect! If something is bothering you, talk about it soon (maybe not right away bc you will be annoyed/irritated) but don’t let it add up and add up bc that just creates tension and anger and eventually you will explode! Eventually everything becomes natural…😊
My partner and I both went from living with our parents to living together and I feel like there way more of a huge learning curve to that then two people who live independently to now leaving together but always make an effort to not fall into the “roommates” phase (where it doesn’t feel like your dating anymore and just live together) which is what I think is the most important
As someone who has been married for almost 10 years the best advice I can give you is establish which chores belong to who, what each of you will contribute with. Because often if it’s not talked about initially, it will all eventually fall on you & girl that is haaaard
Congrats to you and Alisha for getting to attend a horse event with Beyonce as a guest. Cheers for always being transparent about any struggles. I remember when moving to live near university in student accommodation. That was stressful enough. Never mind moving into an apartment. Loving the moving process so far! Hope you are well 🩵✨️📸
Very excited for you Ashley! My main tip is to not forget how your relationship started, even when you're frustrated, just go back to why you fell in love :)
Tbh, practically, a chore chart. Have the discussion of what “clean” means to you then figure out how to split the tasks. This helps ensure neither person feels they are taking on majority of the housework. We split tasks into daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly. In our 8 years of living together, I can easily say most of our moments of frustration with one another stem from not following the outlined split. Especially as I work from home and my partner does not.
So excited for you with this new chapter of your life!! Wishing you guys a lot of luck with the move!! Please post organizational/declutterring content if you can :)
Look was gorgeous! Love your background music choices! Set reasonable expectations for each other with all things, the apartment, grocery shopping, cleanliness, even just coming and going, anything more is a bonus! Also check in with each other, it is easy to think you know how things are going with the person you are living with when in reality it might not be okay! I had a friend use a how was your day board on the fridge and magnetic emoticons, great starting off point for more conversation. Last, create some couple rituals, dancing to music after dinner, watching a specific show on a certain day, having coffee on a Saturday in your breakfast nook. Things that connect you to each other and the place. ❤ Remember you are team even when things get tough.
What an event,so fun, you looked gorgeous! Your maturity is inspiring. Moving in with Jackson, living close to Alisha, an engagement soon… what else?!! All the love and blessings in the future. ❤
Don’t sweat small stuff. Each of you brings strengths and weaknesses and it’s okay to acknowledge those things, just don’t get angry about it. It’s also okay to have your own me time in different rooms of the home when you need it , but make sure you have time together too. Good luck!!!
Something big I recommend about when I first moved in with my husband: be patient. At first for us, it was hard to adjust to. Neither of us had ever lived with a parter. We had to really be patient and communicate our needs to make sure we both felt fulfilled. But truly, it did take time. You start to see the little things more, but it does get easier!! After a couple of months, it became so much more natural and I’ve never regretted it at all. Hope this helps ❤
Dating is so important when living together! And making sure not one person is doing more household chores than the other. Communication is key and making sure you communicate you want alone time or you have plans and that they don’t mess with the other person’s schedule.
I also feel like that one of the important things when living together- you will be learning each others quirks and its good to take note of those. Also- COMMUNICATION when dealing with household stuff, because remember- most of the time both of you have a different definition of clean house 😄 For me- I know that even if there was be a million dollar check in the dishwasher- my boyfriend is not gonna touch it😄 but then again he fixes things and cleans other rooms of the home, that I cant even be mad😄 and also - remember about each other- dates, surprise each other, do movie nights, go out for dinner, stay in for dinner, plan time for each other❤️
Congrats! 🎉 I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. Don’t suffocate each other. Y’all both need alone time. Communicate. Never go to bed mad at each other. Be willing to compromise but not too much that you’re unhappy.
I got married last year and when we moved in to live together one of the biggest things we had to learn/I noticed was the difference we had in terms of guests coming over. He grew up in a house with a mom that very much thought "what's mine is yours" whereas I grew up having to check with parents that people could come over, always had guests ask for things in the fridge rather than "help yourself". This might sound small, but it really was one of the biggest conversations we had early on.
No books or podcasts, but my boyfriend moved with me when I switched colleges and it has been the best thing for our relationship. Just make sure you communicate well to each other and let them know when you need some alone time!
hey ash!! I have been watching your channel while now and I just wanted to say that I really enjoy watching all of your videos! you are amazing and one of my favorites🧡🫶🏻
im am soo happy for our big sis. i pray and wish that you and jackson will grow old together on a farm someday, and i hope that you will still vlog till the age of 80 years old 😂❤. i pray that you and jackson will always be happy, healthy and much success to come ❤❤❤
Omg congrats 🎊 I felt like you guys would move in together but now that you gave the official announcement definitely big congrats definitely some obstacles but you guys will pull through so excited for your new chapter 🥹😊
Divide up household chores in a way that plays to your strengths/ things you dislike the least if you can!! I HAAAATE yard work and my bf isn’t a fan of the deep cleaning of a home. So I take on most of the deep cleaning and he takes care of the yard. Makes chores a little less miserable :) Also I saw someone say this but keep going on dates and make an effort to greet each other when you get home!! It’s super easy to get into the roommate stage,and being intentional helps avoid that :)
Have your boundaries when you need your or his space. Communication is so important, as well, during those times when you have arguments or not on the same page with ongoing topics. Of course, enjoy the time you have with each other and grow from each situation. It helps you know you are fully compatible and same goals. I've been living my boyfriend (fiancee) since 2022, but he only stays with me on weekdays, I have been house sittting his grandparents' house.
Congrats! 🎉 My husband and I just got married and have been living together for two years. It’s important to have a social time together, for example, we have dinner together, no matter what. It’s really important to put a prioritized schedule thing together because although you guys are always together, it may not always be intentional and it becomes a routine. Also, as Christians I encourage you guys to also pray together. That is super important because even if you guys are starting to think about marriage, the enemy will try to come and destroy what you have. Always put our Lord Jesus Christ first.
Congrats again on the new place! Would love to see vids on how you guys mix your styles and combine them. Pro tip for moving in together: set your boundaries early, make time/space for yourselves, and never go to bed without kissing goodnight.
Hi Ashley! I loved your outfit for the horse race!!! So cute. Also, congratulations on this new exciting chapter of moving in with Jackson! I am so happy for you. ❤
Excited for ya! Also to train the couple pups, it took me two weeks after getting a lil dog door that just goes in the sliding door and I’d step on opposite side with their favorite treat and every time the had to go out for potty I’d take them to a fake grass I placed out there. I then just placed pads cuz it was cheaper and easier to clean. But they go out on their own and never have accidents, they do people watch out from the balcony 😂
Definitely the best advice I got was not to compromise or expect your partner to compromise on the things you enjoy in your space. It's better to find creative ways to work around so each person can fully be themselves in their space. There's of course exceptions but it's been super helpful for us to remember that loud soccer on Saturday morning won't kill me and I can read on the porch where I can't hear. No need for him to turn it down and enjoy it less when we can find a work around.
All I recommend is try to have two spare rooms so like your shared bedroom and each of you get a office or studio that you decorate on your own. So you each kinda have a safe space or just a space that you can have some separate/alone time
Something I learned from living with my partner was setting boundaries from the beginning about what house chores each one will be doing! I wish my partner and I would’ve done this at the beginning. I am very type A so I like things to be done a certain way and he would just let me do it for the longest time but we had a conversation about it and he’s been much better about helping out now with things but it did cause some resentment for a bit! But living with your partner is truly having a sleepover with your best friend every night. Enjoy the new chapter 🤍🤍
Been living with my s/o for almost a year (been together for 11) and one thing I learned is to balance things out based on work schedule! I work 3 12 hour shifts a week and he works 11-12 hours Monday thru Friday. So I do majority of the house chores and cleaning and cooking. But he pays for dates and pays a lil more for rent.
Honestly moving in with a significant other was very easy very smooth. Really not much adjustments, was very natural in my experience . When they’re the one they are the one ❤good luck!
Make sure to kind of establish roles in terms of running the household for finances, cleaning, etc up front so that you’re on the same page (who is responsible for managing the bill accounts, who usually does x chores, and what is shared). The biggest thing that I’ve learned as a more type A person is that your partner isn’t going to always do things the way you would and that’s okay (example could be loading dishwasher wrong, not cleaning up exactly as detailed as you would). Give each other some grace and try not to focus on the little things which will help you stay in a good mindset and allow the relationship to grow even more in a positive direction. Excited for you in this new chapter 🫶🏼🫶🏼
after being married for the last 6 years and being together for 14 - having moved in after 4 months, have your own space in your place, where you can have your moments, understand that you knew each others quirks and you're just going to get more and more comfortable in that.... prioritising your own things and hobbies and not giving those up because you're always together now. and definitely open communication if somethings frustrating you or they haven't respected something you need to speak up they may always have done things a particular way - you have to come to a compromise :)
Don’t over think It! That’s my big advice for you. Making sure you have the important conversations in the beginning, very honest too. Don’t over think every little detail, make sure you have your own alone times it’s soooo important but also don’t EVER stop dating your partner. Just cause you live together doesn’t make It “quality” time together. You have to purposely go on dates and make dates happen. When fights happen because they will happen it’s normal, make sure you both figure out if you need some space then communicate or communicate right on the spot. You just have to make sure you both know how to fight! Sounds crazy to say but when it’s good fighting and appropriate fighting It’s nontoxic and adult like as much as you can. I’ve been living with my partner for 3 years and I lived alone for a year before he moved in and It takes some navigating for sure. But don’t over think it! Have fun and enjoy each other ❤
i’m never showing my husband after we get married. the man is just to precious & everything i’ve always dreamed of, so it’s very possible for those who want it to keep some things private & to our selves!
i am all about protecting your spouse, especially if they are not a social media personality! granted you are in the middle of LA, if you want your privacy you’ll get it. public figures know when they put themselves in situations where everyone will be nosey!
Living with your partner can be so amazing but also hard at times. Make sure you break down who will be doing what but most importantly try your best to do everything as a team. Having one person do most of the house load can be exhausting and can make a person become resentful. I wish you guys nothing but the very best. Good luck with this new journey.
When you live together it’s the little things that will bug you so decide what is really an issue and what’s not. Talk to each other about your big pet peeves so you are aware.
The biggest thing is don’t change anything about how you do life in your home just because you are living together. Be brutally honest about who you are because it needs to be both or your homes where you feel comfortable being the “not presentable” side of you.
The one thing I learned living with my ex boyfriend was, don’t give up your personal alone time, that’s very important as a person to have, remember you’re still your own person and he’s still his own person, trust and communication at all times, even if it’s going to hurt talk it out always. That’s my advice for you idk if you’re gonna be able to read it ❤. Love you and love your videos. I’m so exited for you. Congratulations ❤❤❤❤
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Comment tips for living with your partner! ❤
Mosttty important part - always believe the best about the person! Remember that anytime you start to get frustrated with one another
Communication is key!
And, if something that he does bothers you, don’t keep it in yourself and have it bottle up.
Most important thing I've learned is GRACE give each other grace and forgiveness do not hold grudges!!!!!
Post your schedules on the fridge. Sometimes, it's hard to communicate with your partner that you need some alone time or you're busy with stuff. Let them read it.
make sure your and your partner have separate working spaces at home. my husband and i have desks ones in the living room (thats his) and ones in the room (mine).. we are always together and we love that but sometimes we need our separate safe time to do other things in our corners
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned living with my husband is to understand he can’t read my mind and things that bother me (cleaning, how things are organized, etc) may not bother him. We really had to learn how to communicate effectively and I had to learn to ask for help when needed (with cleaning, mentally, etc).
This, 💯!! A mess doesn’t bother my husband! It’s like he has blinders on 😂! Which most of the time I am 100% ok with cleaning, as he does 100% of the cooking, however if something REALLY bothers me I have learned to just nicely tell him and he makes sure not to do it again (most of the time, lol)!! Learning your partner can’t read your mind is very important in a successful relationship…
This!!
100%!
Just got married 5 months ago and one of the things that helps us is to schedule our alone time to where I can be at home and he’s at the movies, or im out thrifting and he’s home. It’s helped to be able to have that personal time that you’ll crave when you are living together 24/7
Congratulations! Make sure you set your boundaries from the beginning and talk about what you expect from each other when it comes to keeping your house clean. And you still need your ME time even when living together.
Absolutely agree 🙌
I feel like an important part of moving in with each other is to be sure you’re dating. It’s easy to feel like because you live together that’s enough (I trend to find that this is normally a males perspective) it’s not enough! Keep bonding and dating as your relationship progresses. It gets difficult at times but remember you are learning new parts of each other during this change. Keep positive and love hard ❤️ happy for you and your next chapter.
100% and I fully think this is the same for when you enter different stages of your relationship. Now my partner and I are new parents and still learning new things about each other as we grow and learn to care for our baby girl. Genuinely this is how you grow old with your partner.
@@littledoe1617 yes becoming new parents changed our relationship so much and we are growing through this next chapter. It’s tough but now that I have this different perspective it helps so much🥺 congratulations on becoming parents it’s truly the best thing that physical life can bring❤️
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The best relationship advice I’ve heard and I practice is: “if the person is broken, it doesn’t matter if you give them the entire world, because they won’t know what to do with it”.
Meaning, always work on yourself inner self. A lot of the problems in a relationship come from inner projections and healing that we haven’t done.
All the best in your new journey!
Aww congrats! My hubby and I have been living together for 13 years. My best advice is to talk about EVERYTHING! Be open about everything: chores, bills, intimacy, date nights, me-time, and work together as a team. It's you and him against the problem, not you and him against each other. So happy for you both!
This 🙌🏼
Best advice: give each other grace in this new era of your relationship. Living together will grow the relationship if you allow it. ❤ congratulations
Ahhh congrats! Enjoy the time together, if you guys are truly best friends (which I think you are) living together is just a never ending sleepover with your favorite person and it’s awesome!
As far as advice, I’ve found some people think they have the profound advice to never go to sleep angry, but I think, depending on the person/relationship, sometimes it’s wise to take a second, cool off and get your thoughts together, pray about it, before you look to resolve an argument. Some times that looks like “I need a minute to gather my thoughts, I love you, but can we revisit this in the morning” and that’s okay!
Good luck! Looking forward to this next chapter in your life!
I think it’s important to be patient with one another while you pick up on each other’s habits- even the smaller things like: do they immediately put a dish away; do they change the hand towel in the bathroom when needed, or vacuum…..super small things that you may be used to, and he may be used to, that now have to co-exist! But it’s the VERY BEST! I’ve been living with my now husband for about 4-5 years now and we grow more and more every year.
Someone who vlogs and does a great job of keeping the balance between sharing about her family but not actually sharing too much is thechicnatural. Her videos never feel like they’re missing anything and they’re very entertaining. Congrats to you and Jackson!
I’m so happy for you, Ash!! Wishing you the best in this next chapter with Jackson ❤
Just got married a year ago and the things the we learned living together is giving each other our alone time, because sometimes you have to breath and just enjoy the life as an individual.
And I know that you love to have a clean and peaceful home to relax and spend time with Chloe and Jackson...so make sure you guys talk about what to expect from each other when it comes to keeping your place clean and peaceful.
And never go to bed mad at each other because you don't want that negative energy inside your home. Cool off your minds and pray. It's better to put God in the center of your relationship 🤎
May God bless you Ash✨
I'm so happy and excited for you Ash!!! Wishing you the best in this next chapter with Jackson!! 💗💗💗
I’ve been with my partner for 6 years and living with him for 5 years. And honestly having your own hobbies outside each other and outside the house will strengthen your relationship. We lived together through COVID 24/7 which was so different but I’ve learned a lot. Don’t be afraid to ask for me time or hanging out with people without him.
i am so happy for you, ashley. you deserve this new step & growth in your life. you and jackson will do wonderfully living together - keep in mind that balancing emotions can look different when you’re with your partner 24/7 and not just every once in a while - you’ll get through those challenges in no time, as long as you’re there for each other. so much love your way🫶🏻
When I moved in with my now husband, it was an adjustment for the two of us. But open communication is number 1, especially being in such close quarters is so important. Make sure you each have your spaces, for me that was our room so anytime I needed “me” time I would go there but also decorated it in a way that relaxed me. But we have been together 10 years, married 6, and lived together for 7 so of course you have your moments with your partner but I love living with him.
I've lived with my husband for a total of 2.5 years and we've been together almost 4 years and when we started dating we had specific nights of the week and a weekend day where we'd see each other. So, when we moved in we continued that schedule! This means we still get our together time on those nights and then we also have our own time on the other nights. Highly recommend!
Ahhh congratsss!!! Since everyone has already great advice… I’m going to go into the not so exciting one. There will be phases where you feel like just roommates and not as intimate (in all aspects). This is completely normal as you are trying to navigate the dynamics of living with someone else, esp when it’s romantically. You will be learning each others ticks, quirks, negatives but it’s all a part of the journey. It’s just a phase and although it’s difficult and lonely at times, you will be better on the other side through communication, love and tenderness. I’m so excited for you!!!
I’m so excited for you Ash! Congrats! 🎉
I'm so happy that you're into the new chapter of your life. :)❤
My partner and I just moved in together a little over 2 months ago and it was both of our first time moving in with a partner. What we did is start out with different bedrooms! What that has realistically looks like is us sleeping together in one room or the other most of the time 😂 but having that space and ability to maintain some independence while we are still new at this has been really great!
I think the most beneficial decision my partner and I made when we moved in together was creating nooks that were our own. I am a person who thrives in my alone time and was so worried that moving in would strain our relationship because of it! But after almost 4 years of living together, we are able to enjoy each other's company together and separately with ease and respect.
I moved in with my bf after dating for 2.5 years, and the biggest advice I have is you have to make sure you intentionally maintain your relationships with others. I used to live with college roommates who are my best friends, and now it’s tempting to just get into a routine with my built-in best friend every day. But making sure you’re still reaching out and spending time with your girlies is so important, and it makes your relationship healthier at the end of the day if you’re spreading the love.
I have been living with my now fiancé for almost 3 years now and I think the biggest thing is to remember neither of you are mind readers. If you need help ask, if they need help they should ask. And with that don't assume they know how you want something done.
Give grace with each other! Understand each are going to want alone time and don't take offense and use to your advantage. Almost have your "peace" in the house that he has and you have separate. It will help ease into merging your lives together. It is an amazing thing living with your person. So excited for this new chapter for you guys!
I’m 35 years old and I was married for 14 years one thing I could tell you is that if you don’t set boundaries if you don’t set rules, kind of it’s gonna be overwhelming as in the cleaning, washing his clothes, cooking for him, picking up after him, putting the seat down in the restroom
I’m about to move in with my boyfriend in the next few weeks, such an exciting time. Congrats to you two!
I definitely suggest talking about how cleaning tasks will be taken care of. It's no fun later feeling like one person does more cleaning than the other especially the bathroom. I hope the transition is going well!
Congrats Ashley on the move!!! I’d love to see unpacking/organization/decoration videos of your new place 😊
Congrats to you and Jackson!! I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we learned a lot living together. As many people are saying, setting boundaries sooner than later. Def don’t hold grudges or be passive aggressive if something they do bugs you, communicate! Moving in with your partner is so exciting and grow more with each other! Wishing you and Jackson the best 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Congratulations to you and Jackson! I just moved in with my partner too and it’s going great! I hope you both will be very happy and thrive ❤😁
That ad read was so good that I couldn't tell the whole time if you were just telling us how much you love that bra or if it was sponsored! It sounded so genuine. More sponsorship for Ashley!
Omg I'm so excited for you guys!! One of the many things I've learnt from staying with my other half is the art of compromise. I'm an Aries (naturally competitive and almost always in combat-mode) so I've toned down a lot by picking your battles. The other is respecting each other's boundaries and honouring it. Can't wait for this next step 💓💓💓 Lysm Ash!
Happy happy for you & best wishes on your moving, Ashley! ❤
I don’t think you two will have any issues living together. You two seem in sync as it is. Don’t overthink it. Excited to see your journey ❤
I’ve lived with my boyfriend, now husband, since I was 21, I’m your age now. The absolute best advice that I have is for you both to keep doing what you were doing before you moved in together! Individual time and hobbies is key! I go out with my girls, he goes out with the guys, and we all go out together! Spend the day doing whatever it is you each do and come together in the evening/night to decompress the day. Also, give each other grace, it’s new for the both of you, and neither of you are perfect! Lastly, always show each other respect! If something is bothering you, talk about it soon (maybe not right away bc you will be annoyed/irritated) but don’t let it add up and add up bc that just creates tension and anger and eventually you will explode! Eventually everything becomes natural…😊
The 2 Be Better podcast was a game changer for my boyfriend and I when we first moved in together and still is as we navigate life together 🥰
My partner and I both went from living with our parents to living together and I feel like there way more of a huge learning curve to that then two people who live independently to now leaving together but always make an effort to not fall into the “roommates” phase (where it doesn’t feel like your dating anymore and just live together) which is what I think is the most important
As someone who has been married for almost 10 years the best advice I can give you is establish which chores belong to who, what each of you will contribute with. Because often if it’s not talked about initially, it will all eventually fall on you & girl that is haaaard
Congrats to you and Alisha for getting to attend a horse event with Beyonce as a guest. Cheers for always being transparent about any struggles. I remember when moving to live near university in student accommodation. That was stressful enough. Never mind moving into an apartment. Loving the moving process so far! Hope you are well 🩵✨️📸
Very excited for you Ashley! My main tip is to not forget how your relationship started, even when you're frustrated, just go back to why you fell in love :)
seeing this after coming home from school... amazing just amazing
Tbh, practically, a chore chart. Have the discussion of what “clean” means to you then figure out how to split the tasks. This helps ensure neither person feels they are taking on majority of the housework. We split tasks into daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly. In our 8 years of living together, I can easily say most of our moments of frustration with one another stem from not following the outlined split. Especially as I work from home and my partner does not.
Really enjoying your videos being more regular Ashley. Getting to come along for this next stage of your life is really lovely ☺️
So excited for you ash! Such an exciting chapter the both of you are entering !❤
So excited for you with this new chapter of your life!! Wishing you guys a lot of luck with the move!! Please post organizational/declutterring content if you can :)
Look was gorgeous! Love your background music choices! Set reasonable expectations for each other with all things, the apartment, grocery shopping, cleanliness, even just coming and going, anything more is a bonus! Also check in with each other, it is easy to think you know how things are going with the person you are living with when in reality it might not be okay! I had a friend use a how was your day board on the fridge and magnetic emoticons, great starting off point for more conversation. Last, create some couple rituals, dancing to music after dinner, watching a specific show on a certain day, having coffee on a Saturday in your breakfast nook. Things that connect you to each other and the place. ❤ Remember you are team even when things get tough.
What an event,so fun, you looked gorgeous!
Your maturity is inspiring.
Moving in with Jackson, living close to Alisha, an engagement soon… what else?!!
All the love and blessings in the future. ❤
Don’t sweat small stuff. Each of you brings strengths and weaknesses and it’s okay to acknowledge those things, just don’t get angry about it. It’s also okay to have your own me time in different rooms of the home when you need it , but make sure you have time together too. Good luck!!!
Something big I recommend about when I first moved in with my husband: be patient. At first for us, it was hard to adjust to. Neither of us had ever lived with a parter. We had to really be patient and communicate our needs to make sure we both felt fulfilled. But truly, it did take time. You start to see the little things more, but it does get easier!! After a couple of months, it became so much more natural and I’ve never regretted it at all. Hope this helps ❤
Dating is so important when living together! And making sure not one person is doing more household chores than the other. Communication is key and making sure you communicate you want alone time or you have plans and that they don’t mess with the other person’s schedule.
I also feel like that one of the important things when living together- you will be learning each others quirks and its good to take note of those. Also- COMMUNICATION when dealing with household stuff, because remember- most of the time both of you have a different definition of clean house 😄
For me- I know that even if there was be a million dollar check in the dishwasher- my boyfriend is not gonna touch it😄 but then again he fixes things and cleans other rooms of the home, that I cant even be mad😄 and also - remember about each other- dates, surprise each other, do movie nights, go out for dinner, stay in for dinner, plan time for each other❤️
Congrats! 🎉 I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. Don’t suffocate each other. Y’all both need alone time. Communicate. Never go to bed mad at each other. Be willing to compromise but not too much that you’re unhappy.
I got married last year and when we moved in to live together one of the biggest things we had to learn/I noticed was the difference we had in terms of guests coming over. He grew up in a house with a mom that very much thought "what's mine is yours" whereas I grew up having to check with parents that people could come over, always had guests ask for things in the fridge rather than "help yourself". This might sound small, but it really was one of the biggest conversations we had early on.
SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!! ❤
So excited for you!!🥰
No books or podcasts, but my boyfriend moved with me when I switched colleges and it has been the best thing for our relationship. Just make sure you communicate well to each other and let them know when you need some alone time!
hey ash!! I have been watching your channel while now and I just wanted to say that I really enjoy watching all of your videos! you are amazing and one of my favorites🧡🫶🏻
im am soo happy for our big sis. i pray and wish that you and jackson will grow old together on a farm someday, and i hope that you will still vlog till the age of 80 years old 😂❤. i pray that you and jackson will always be happy, healthy and much success to come ❤❤❤
Continue dates, its so important ❤ and personal space 😊 congratulations 🎊 ❤❤❤❤❤
Omg congrats 🎊 I felt like you guys would move in together but now that you gave the official announcement definitely big congrats definitely some obstacles but you guys will pull through so excited for your new chapter 🥹😊
Decorating videos for sure! Both you and Jackson have such unique styles, I would love to see how you blend them. Congrats!
Love this! all the best in this new chapter
We want to see all the above you mentioned. Cant wait for it
Divide up household chores in a way that plays to your strengths/ things you dislike the least if you can!! I HAAAATE yard work and my bf isn’t a fan of the deep cleaning of a home. So I take on most of the deep cleaning and he takes care of the yard. Makes chores a little less miserable :)
Also I saw someone say this but keep going on dates and make an effort to greet each other when you get home!! It’s super easy to get into the roommate stage,and being intentional helps avoid that :)
IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE!!! TURN UPPPPP (anddd a super cast episode today too, I LOVE IT HERE)
Haha I love you! Thanks for the support! ❤
❤❤❤❤❤ I knew that I knew you was gonna live with him sooner or later. I kind of figured that’s why you were moving out this time.
That hair and the outfit 🖤😍Everything about that look is sooooo pretty
So excited for this new chapter for you!!!!! 💕💕💕
Woah! This is exciting! Congrats!!!
Yayyy, I’m so happy to hear you’re moving in with Jackson! I remember that it’s something you guys have been wanting to do!
Omg!!!😆so excited for you!!!
Have your boundaries when you need your or his space. Communication is so important, as well, during those times when you have arguments or not on the same page with ongoing topics. Of course, enjoy the time you have with each other and grow from each situation. It helps you know you are fully compatible and same goals.
I've been living my boyfriend (fiancee) since 2022, but he only stays with me on weekdays, I have been house sittting his grandparents' house.
Congrats! 🎉
My husband and I just got married and have been living together for two years. It’s important to have a social time together, for example, we have dinner together, no matter what. It’s really important to put a prioritized schedule thing together because although you guys are always together, it may not always be intentional and it becomes a routine. Also, as Christians I encourage you guys to also pray together. That is super important because even if you guys are starting to think about marriage, the enemy will try to come and destroy what you have. Always put our Lord Jesus Christ first.
Congrats again on the new place! Would love to see vids on how you guys mix your styles and combine them. Pro tip for moving in together: set your boundaries early, make time/space for yourselves, and never go to bed without kissing goodnight.
ahh as a non-famous jazz vocalist i appreciate the all the jazz songs anywho I KNEW IT GIRL I KNEW U GUYS WERE MOVING IN TOGETHER i’m soooooo proud😭😭🫶
I KNEW ITTT!!!! I DEFINITELY HAD A FEELING !!! 😍😍😍😍
Hi Ashley! I loved your outfit for the horse race!!! So cute. Also, congratulations on this new exciting chapter of moving in with Jackson! I am so happy for you. ❤
Excited for ya! Also to train the couple pups, it took me two weeks after getting a lil dog door that just goes in the sliding door and I’d step on opposite side with their favorite treat and every time the had to go out for potty I’d take them to a fake grass I placed out there. I then just placed pads cuz it was cheaper and easier to clean. But they go out on their own and never have accidents, they do people watch out from the balcony 😂
Definitely the best advice I got was not to compromise or expect your partner to compromise on the things you enjoy in your space. It's better to find creative ways to work around so each person can fully be themselves in their space. There's of course exceptions but it's been super helpful for us to remember that loud soccer on Saturday morning won't kill me and I can read on the porch where I can't hear. No need for him to turn it down and enjoy it less when we can find a work around.
*i knew it omg i’m so excited for you* 😭💗
All I recommend is try to have two spare rooms so like your shared bedroom and each of you get a office or studio that you decorate on your own. So you each kinda have a safe space or just a space that you can have some separate/alone time
Something I learned from living with my partner was setting boundaries from the beginning about what house chores each one will be doing! I wish my partner and I would’ve done this at the beginning. I am very type A so I like things to be done a certain way and he would just let me do it for the longest time but we had a conversation about it and he’s been much better about helping out now with things but it did cause some resentment for a bit! But living with your partner is truly having a sleepover with your best friend every night. Enjoy the new chapter 🤍🤍
Been living with my s/o for almost a year (been together for 11) and one thing I learned is to balance things out based on work schedule! I work 3 12 hour shifts a week and he works 11-12 hours Monday thru Friday. So I do majority of the house chores and cleaning and cooking. But he pays for dates and pays a lil more for rent.
Honestly moving in with a significant other was very easy very smooth. Really not much adjustments, was very natural in my experience . When they’re the one they are the one ❤good luck!
Only advice is to practice patience, grace & respect every day. Also, have fun... you two crazy kids are gonna be great together. Many blessings 💜
so excited for you!! You should do new morning routine and new evening routine videos! and any moving content!!
Make sure to kind of establish roles in terms of running the household for finances, cleaning, etc up front so that you’re on the same page (who is responsible for managing the bill accounts, who usually does x chores, and what is shared). The biggest thing that I’ve learned as a more type A person is that your partner isn’t going to always do things the way you would and that’s okay (example could be loading dishwasher wrong, not cleaning up exactly as detailed as you would). Give each other some grace and try not to focus on the little things which will help you stay in a good mindset and allow the relationship to grow even more in a positive direction. Excited for you in this new chapter 🫶🏼🫶🏼
after being married for the last 6 years and being together for 14 - having moved in after 4 months, have your own space in your place, where you can have your moments, understand that you knew each others quirks and you're just going to get more and more comfortable in that.... prioritising your own things and hobbies and not giving those up because you're always together now. and definitely open communication if somethings frustrating you or they haven't respected something you need to speak up they may always have done things a particular way - you have to come to a compromise :)
Never been this early to a video! I love it!
Don’t over think It! That’s my big advice for you. Making sure you have the important conversations in the beginning, very honest too. Don’t over think every little detail, make sure you have your own alone times it’s soooo important but also don’t EVER stop dating your partner. Just cause you live together doesn’t make It “quality” time together. You have to purposely go on dates and make dates happen. When fights happen because they will happen it’s normal, make sure you both figure out if you need some space then communicate or communicate right on the spot. You just have to make sure you both know how to fight! Sounds crazy to say but when it’s good fighting and appropriate fighting It’s nontoxic and adult like as much as you can. I’ve been living with my partner for 3 years and I lived alone for a year before he moved in and It takes some navigating for sure. But don’t over think it! Have fun and enjoy each other ❤
i’m never showing my husband after we get married. the man is just to precious & everything i’ve always dreamed of, so it’s very possible for those who want it to keep some things private & to our selves!
i am all about protecting your spouse, especially if they are not a social media personality! granted you are in the middle of LA, if you want your privacy you’ll get it. public figures know when they put themselves in situations where everyone will be nosey!
I’d love to see decorating and organizing videos for an apartment!
Living with your partner can be so amazing but also hard at times. Make sure you break down who will be doing what but most importantly try your best to do everything as a team. Having one person do most of the house load can be exhausting and can make a person become resentful. I wish you guys nothing but the very best. Good luck with this new journey.
Also don’t stop having date nights!!!
When you live together it’s the little things that will bug you so decide what is really an issue and what’s not. Talk to each other about your big pet peeves so you are aware.
The biggest thing is don’t change anything about how you do life in your home just because you are living together. Be brutally honest about who you are because it needs to be both or your homes where you feel comfortable being the “not presentable” side of you.
It’s good to each have your me time to decompress and just do your own thing, even if it’s to go get coffee or thrifting or etc
New subbie here but excited for your new chapter ❤🥰
The one thing I learned living with my ex boyfriend was, don’t give up your personal alone time, that’s very important as a person to have, remember you’re still your own person and he’s still his own person, trust and communication at all times, even if it’s going to hurt talk it out always. That’s my advice for you idk if you’re gonna be able to read it ❤. Love you and love your videos. I’m so exited for you. Congratulations ❤❤❤❤