Sometimes when I see that the clouds are darkening and it feels like the skies will open up and pour down and consume me at any given moment, all I can do is grab my umbrella and hope for the best. What that means, I guess, is that I try not to get rid of the dark clouds, whatever they may be, but equip myself with the best possible tools to help myself get through the rain.
such a brilliant way of expressing this struggle and these feelings, but also might I add, such a relatable one as a British person ;u; so so true on every level xx
I felt like this at 22, that was the number where I said to myself - I'm old. "Good bye childhood! Hello adulthood - WAIT? I'm not ready and haven't achieved anything!!!" Still at 24, I get these feelings you talked about, it's a weird feeling. I really feel this. Thank you for this.
BREAK THE RULES. BE YOURSELF. Always here if you need someone. I'm in a perpetual state of crisis, so I'm good at this. When I'm trying to get out of it, I usually allow myself a day or two of rage-quitting and making time for things I want to do without feeling guilty. Like...if I spend my day off reading, or watching crap TV rather than making a video, that's okay once in a while because it lets my brain shut off. Where it gets tricky is if that becomes a regular thing and I start making excuses for myself, and that's when I know I need to make a change in my life. Then I start looking at what needs changing, pick something I CAN change, pick an end goal and then start working slowly towards making it happen. Then I have a new crisis and the cycle repeats again. I honestly think, as humans, we're constantly breaking down. Which makes me enjoy the in-between-y bits even more.
I don't have anything to add, just wanted to say that I'm amazed at how nice this comment section is. So many thoughtful and relevant comments. Such a cool audience you've got here.
I think for myself, I just need to allow myself to be a hot mess and have a crisis. Because that's where you learn stuff, right? That's where you learn what you need in life and how to pick yourself up and move forward. I've spent too much time trying to keep myself together that I just need to let the seams burst. I'm 23. I don't need to worry about having a job just yet that will help support me when I'm 33. I don't need to worry about saving for my children's tuition when they aren't even close to existing. I'm too caught up in life's necessary responsibilities that I haven't given myself opportunity to explore where I can be in life. I keep looking for an immediate solution for the future, and those solutions are making me unhappy and I just need to live and learn.
Whenever I am in a crisis (which is often - yikes!) I like to take what I call a "domestic vacation". That means that I tell my friends and family that I will be out of touch for a while and that I'm okay, but I shouldn't be bothered. During this time I isolate myself with the means to just be WITH myself. Whether that means going out to a coffee shop by myself, taking walks around my campus by myself, or just driving around by myself, I want to distance myself from those around me to recognize my merit in life. It's amazing that once you realize that you can be your best friend, you will slowly start to heal and fix your problems. After I clean up my life (metaphorically and literally - cleaning always helps me too), I go back to my family and friends with a renewed hope and fresh perspective. You'll get there Lucy, and you've already taken great steps! xx
I'm currently in a bit of a crisis too, I'm a little older than you (23 going on 24 in May) but you are so much wiser than me! I feel like I'm coasting through life and have no motivation, I haven't found a way out of this way of thinking just yet but thanks for the pep talk! I hope you feel better so and I hope I can too xxx
WonderlandAlicexo I'm about to turn 23 and feel the exact same way! Have been feeling a bit lost and lacking in motivation... it's kind of nice to know I'm not the only one because that's really how it feels sometimes! hope it gets better for you! x
WonderlandAlicexo I'm in the 23 club too :) I just graduated and have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. it's so so scary :/ Hope you get through it :) xxx
Aha 23 seems to be the key age :') So nice to hear from you both, great to have some support in the comments :D You are totally not alone in having no idea what you're doing, I think a lot more people feel this way than we realise! Hope things improve for you guys soon, too xxxx
I'm about to turn 21 and I'm totally in the same boat as you. I'm currently in the process of writing a 12,000 word dissertation, I'm about to graduate in the summer and I totally don't know where my life is going. I'm so confused about what I should do and that's only making me feel worse as people expect people like me, at my age and about to get a degree and enter the world, to know what they're doing with their life and to have a solid plan of action...but I just don't and I am in full on crisis mode right now 👎🏻
To you and anybody in a similar position: you can and will get through it. I was at a similar place a few years ago, I was studying something I didn't really enjoy but I didn't know what else I could do. I was lucky enough to stumble across a job that's decent and pays pretty well, even though I know it's not something I want to do for good. But in the last few months I started to invest my free time into a few of my hobbies, figured out how to make them a business, and I have finally figured out what I want to do with my life. And I'm 26. I'm pretty old compared to you! Just get a decent job, save up some money and I promise you will eventually find what you want to do. Just relax and try things out, you're still young!
I'm seventeen, entering uni now and have no clue what i want to do either. It's very scary. But actually, how could we expect to know all of our future steps? Some people act like they do know or just seem to do so, but it's all an illusion. we don't even have the control over things and they change even if we had the whole plan from the beginning. Anyway, still scary. It's also quite annoying - not to say kind of depressive - when you get simply paralised because you don't know what to do.
I cannot stress to you enough that literally no one coming out of university knows what they are doing next and/or where they want their life to lead. Just go with your interests and I promise you will land on your feet.
Life after graduation is this crazy period of time that not many people talk about. In my experience I was shocked by how lost we all felt. Everyone will ask what your plan is but it might be helpful to remember that in reality the 'plan' only affects you. Create small goals and aspirations with short term deadlines whether that it's 'write 500 words this week' or 'research internships or volunteer roles' take it one step at a time. This is a chance to discover what makes you happy but know that each choice can be an experiment too. I hope that helps is a small way x
I'm currently having a crisis because I don't feel like I'm good enough. I'm comparing myself to so many people and there is nothig where I feel like I'm so good at that I don't care if I compare myself to others. I'm just not good enough with everything. And that's putting so much pressure on me. And the fact that something like that is giving me a crisis stresses me out even more. I'm turning 25 I shouldn't freak out because of such things
I'm about to turn 20, but I am already on my way OUT of a crisis. It started when I was 17, because, long story short, everything I've known/imagined about my future since the age of 12 got CRUSHED. Like, literally, my entire picture of life got shattered. And when it happened I had a breakdown and started seeing a therapist, but I wasn't really realising it was a crisis. I'm only realising it now, on my way out of it. It just sorta started gradually growing inside of my, this overwhelming sadness, my heart was heavy and all I could see was trouble and anxiety. And what I can conclude from this experience is that TIME HEALS. Yes, simple old truth. At some point it just... got better, you know, reached the bottom and pushed off of it, only way now is up!
hope my little story helps anybody :) also, side note - my therapist says that crisis happens to people each 5-7 years and lasts up to 2 years (if being helped, if not - it can last forever). So you're okay, we're all okay as long as we're aware of it and are dealing with it!
I'm in a bit of a crisis, I'm 23 and finishing up a masters degree, which is all well and good except I'm in a not very employable field, so jobs are really hard to come by. I recently realized that RUclips was something I really wanted to invest myself in and try to be a positive influence on people, except at this age I feel like I'm "too old" and I've missed that threshhold for beginning only now to reach a wide audience. Really don't want to sound like I'm complaining like "oh how do I grow my channel" or some crap like that, I'm just desperately trying to find SOME sort of creative pathway to invest myself in, do good for others, and enjoy my life. I'm terrified of living a normal existence without having enough experiences, but I guess that's another story for another day. Lucy, you are really relatable, and that's why I love your videos so much. You're the type of person I want to surround myself with
It's weird how much our brains are alike - I put a lot of pressure onto myself last year and realized I was expecting things from myself I didn't even really want to accomplish.. But now at 23 I've gotten to the point where I give myself time for the different moods and lows..some days doing the minimum and literally getting from the bed to the couch and back and at least try to drink enough water is enough. Other days I might feel energized und inspired enough to create and get stuff done and be incredibly productive! I ask myself a lot whether or not this is laziness or a mental issue and then I categorize what I can do for/against it. but it took a lot of experience and understanding towards myself to just accept the times where I'm really shit and need to stare at a wall for a while. I like to think that while we experience our downs now and build up a better self-care system throughout those times, people that have it super easy in there twenties might crash a lot later and have a much more difficult situation then because they never thought about themselves and their environment as in depth as we have..
I definitely need to learn to give myself time to feel those emotions for sure. And it's so true, these things ebb and flow and some people can withstand more now but crash later on. We've got this!
Wow, thank you for making this video! Even if you feel you've overshared, please know that these videos are helping soooo many people! I genuinely thought when I turned 23 in January that I was the only one going through this existential type crisis haha. It sounds so ridiculous because we're so young yet the pressure you spoke about, wanting to be this supernatural prodigy etc. that's exactly what drove my own mini crisis (and still frequently does but I try to suppress it.) Perhaps it's the self comparison of so many other young and "successful" RUclipsrs, or celebrities, or whatever the case may be that contributes to this, I'm not sure, but it's amazing to feel a little less alienated knowing that I'm not the only one expecting so much, (too much?) from myself. On one hand, I think people like us are the movers and the shakers of the world. Lucy, you're trying to better yourself constantly and in turn you're helping others to do the same. And you have achieved quite a lot in a very short time so know that! Even just admitting your struggles is a level of maturity most people don't reach until a lot later and some never do! On the other hand, I believe people like us are the victims of determination that grows to become imbalanced. While we have such a strong will to be great and successful and creative, etc. sometimes the journey feels so tedious and frustrating that it shuts us own. But I suppose that's what we have to remember... that the journey is the most important part. Our struggles, and imperfections, and mess-ups are all okay, we have to let that propel us forward not hold us back! Other peoples successes are not our failures and WHEN we achieve them doesn't matter. Vincent VanGough didn't start painting until 27. The first Harry Potter didn't officially come out until Rowling was 32! Just as you said you don't want to follow "the rules of RUclips," don't follow the "rules of success." You're already a success girl, and you're going to keep being a success, even when you fail!
Ahhh thank you for posting and sharing your life with us! I've missed hearing your voice so much. This morning was going really slow (cramping, power going out, lack of motivation, etcetera etcetera) but then I watched this and now I feel like I should do something. It calmed me down and made me feel good so thanks, hun ❤ xx
i had a life crisis a year ago after i realized that speciality that i study in my university isn't at all what i want to do in my life and is something that i can't do due to the fact that i don't want to study it and that it doesn't attract me and i was just so depressed because for month i was asking myself why did i even decide to study there and then i had a hard time because i was scared to tell my parents this news but thankfully after struggling for a couple of month i told my parents that the university that i studied isn't for me and look at me now i study at the university that is so cool, i love it and all the subjects are very interesting but a month ago i broke my leg and a week ago i had my operation and that's why i wasn't and am not able to attend my classes and that's why i'm so nervous cause i don't know if i'm gonna be able to pass my tests, i hope for the best and truly believe that somehow i'm gonna do it but the fact that this semester i have really difficult subjects scares me thank you to whoever read it all xo
I'm happy you're happier! And you're so brave for telling your parents the truth as well, that's super hard. You can totally get through these classes. If you can change your life direction and commit to something new and difficult, you can do this!
I loved this video! I am a similar age to you and also going through a bit of a life crisis! I'm just about to finish uni but I have no job plans for afterwards, so that's really getting to me! I literally applied to about 30 grad schemes and it's difficult having so much rejection - before I've always felt that if I work hard at something, I can achieve it, but now I'm really doubting myself! The whole comparison thing is also tricky because it feels like everyone else has their shit together haha! So in a way it's good to see that I'm not the only one feeling a bit overwhelmed! x
Immy1995 Everyone else absolutely does not have their shit together! Everyone is struggling, and although it's hard just try not to compare - just focus on you. Graduate life is tough, having graduated three years ago and still not found a stable job (I've had lots of bumpy ones) let alone a career, I can assure you that you have plenty of time and although it may not go smoothly you will be okay, you'll persevere. Stay strong 💛
I honestly adore Lucy so much, she's so different and I love how she expresses herself, I feel really identified with you, and hey, if you need to have a break, do it! We all need breaks sometimes, we will be here no matter what, love you loads 💖
Girl I totally get you! I have been in such a funk lately too, this made me feel a little less alone so thank you. I have been watching your videos for a few months now and the colors are always so pretty and relaxing, love your hair/room/everything else !!
I have been feeling like this but it's turned into something positive. I had been thinking all my life that I was gonna publish a book by the time I was 21 and now I'm 23 and it hasn't happened. I came to the realization that gives me soooo much freedom. Once I was past the age that I thought I would 'have it' and realizing that I didn't 'have it' all together made me realize that figuring shit out is a lifetime commitment. So instead I focus on who I want to be every day. And to work on myself for NOW rather than later. I've been working out a lot and I've been more happy because of it. Sure, I have bad days (a few days ago I got UTTERLY depressed at the idea that I will never NOT be myself and this is my one life to do things and it felt so final) but I try to reel myself back in.
the amount that you share online, while might be overwhelming for you it's such a breath of fresh air in the world of youtube where nothing feels real. u go gal!!x
I'm 30 now, the last 10 years have been a weird blur. Time goes quickly. Honestly at 22 I was a total mess really, emotionally, physically, mentally! Everything. I honestly think early 20s are just hard, full stop. You will be fine.
This is the first video of yours I've watched, and I really liked it. I feel like the most important thing at times like these (which, to be honest, happen way more often throughout life than you might expect, you just don't hear people talk about it) is to be self-aware, which you are. You are right in saying that self-care is key, not just paying attention to our bodies, but also being kind to ourselves when we're not perfect. Good luck moving forward!
Don't apologize! Everyone has ups and downs. I question my life choices on a very regular basis but when I focus on everything I've done versus everything I haven't done, I gain a lot of perspective!
Having the exact same feelings right now, I'm also 22 and feel like I should be further than I actually am in terms of career etc. Self care is the way forward, we got this, girl. sending positive vibes xo.
great video, lucy! in terms of re-evaluating the amount of stuff you share with the internet, i think that's just a major part of growing up. i went through a similar thing when i was your age, and now that i'm 25 i feel better for recognizing it, so i guess it's a pretty common thing for creative internet people like us! it's so important to put yourself first and i'm glad to see you're taking an initiative to do that more often. take care x
Damn girl stop being so relatable! Everything you say I'm just like OMG YESSS! I'm currently a second year at uni and all of a sudden everything's just got craaazy busy (I'm a media person so it's been a lot of extra work come in as well as assignments) and I've just stopped the things i love like RUclips and the gym and its frustrating me because i dont know what to do. But seeing this just cheered me up - anyone in similar situations needs to know we can ALL get through this, we got this! Also lighting/saturation/general camera set up is just on point in this!
I had a similar situation a few years ago. It was awful. I realized I couldn't keep going at the rate I was. I hit total overwhelm and had to unplug for a few months and focus on learning to actually take care of myself. Walks, water, good food, rituals of skin care, bedtime routines, and especially creative projects that weren't primarily to share online. Watercolor, cross stitch, cooking... those were things that worked for me. Learning to find a balance now, but I had to hit that for the wake up call I needed. Take care! I love the idea of shaking off the "RUclips Rules" and just creating for the joy of it. You be you!
i see so much of myself in you, lucy! im now nearly 25. going through anther crisis but the ups and downs will keep coming. you are handling it gracefully! x
The videos you produce are my favourite. So raw and real. No rose tinted glasses, none of the "look at my perfect life" shit we get fed from so many RUclipsrs. I hope you know how much of an impact you have. It's thought provoking, it's enlightening and it's just LIFE. Urgh. Everything in my life feels very unstable at the moment but I feel safer knowing that it is isn't just me 💛
Thank you for being so open to share this with us. I can honestly say me being 26 years old and having just turned in Jan. That yeah I definitely had this crises happen especially when I compared myself to people I went to school with. It's hard sometimes to measure yourself to others accomplishments. I had to stop myself a lot of the times cause it would really just drag me down. I had to learn to look at the little accomplishments that I've done in my own life instead of where others were compared to me.
I love this video! Sometimes the internet can be a little to "perfekt" and life is'nt "perfekt" so that sometimes makes the internet a little "fake". Of course i'm sad to hear that Lucy is going through a crisis, but that is what happens in life sometimes. So what i'm trying to say is that i love that this video is so real and open and i know that its not good to share everything on the internet, but i am grateful that this little bit got shared so that we could see it. you are so strong! remember that!
Wow omg I myself just kinda went through a tiny crisis about how I'm growing old and how I wanna do/achieve certain things at certain ages and I might not be able to and like the past few years I've learned so much but at the same time I feel like I could have done so much more and seeing ur video I've realized how incredibly normal this is, to have a crisis. It happens to everyone even though not everyone talks about but it's ok and the crisis will be over and our minds will find new things to think about and at the end of every crisis there's an important life lesson, from my tiny crisis I've learned that I need to start living in the moment.
I've been having a life crisis for the past couple of months. It all started basically the day I graduated school - and discovered that while I was doing to right thing in taking a gap year to work out my mental health and what I wanted to actually do with my life - I had no idea what I was going to do with the year. Besides my twin sister I probably have 1 person who I'd call an actual friend, and so I have no social life. My solution to this problem? Do as many things that I thought would give me some control in my life as possible. I got a casual job, started seeing a psychologist, started driving lessons, working on a portfolio, doing tutoring for my old school ect.. But because all of these things aren't regular, I still feel as though I don't have any control over my life. I feel like I'm constantly procrastinating on my personal projects and that I'm achieving nothing (and I strive off of productivity). tbh the solution to all my problems is probably to just get on with it. Oh well, lets see what March brings.
Hi Lucy, I'm seventeen, I'm from Italy but living in Denmark at the moment, as an exchange student. I have been here for seven months now and I just wanted to say that I am so happy that I have had your videos that I could watch and a lot of the time relate to. I know in the video you said that you regret sharing so much of your life and your thoughts and your issues, but I just want you to know that you have helped me so much by sharing them. Of course, I respect your privacy, and I completely respect the fact that you may not want to share some personal things online. What I am trying to say is that your honesty has helped me so much. I feel like we are constantly surrounded by unrealistic images of people online, where they are always happy, and always productive, happy, positive, and I think that it is really important to remind people that it is not always like that. And that is is because we struggle so much to reach our goals, and reach a state of peace with ourselves, that we can then celebrate when we achieve it. So I guess that with this message I just wanted to tell you that you have helped me a lot, in these months that have been so crazy and full of doubt for me. I really hope I will be able to meet you one day, to have a chat with you and tell you all of these things in person. Keep doing what you are doing, keep trusting yourself and keep doing what you are truly passionate about and what makes you happy. A very big hug
I have had several life crisis, and one of the biggest was a few months ago. When I handle it well (and I'm happy to say I have finally handled it well this time) I step out of it all for a minute and ask myself what are the things that I am actually happy doing, which actually make me feel productive and inspired and produce something I'm proud of and excited about, and I shed everything else I'm doing (or at least most, I still have to earn a paycheck...). Working hard is good and sometimes what you need to do won't be fun, but that only works when it's temporary. If you allow that to be an excuse to let unproductive or even destructive things take root, you're going to burn out. So keep up the RUclips and other projects that make you feel empowered and creative, and shed the rest!
I really like these kind of videos, they feel so honest and genuine, and I relate so much. I had a life crisis about 6 months ago. I just felt stuck in the same place, like I wasn't "evolving" as a person and that everyone else around me had a purpose and knew exactly where they were going with their life. I felt shit for a while but I've come up with a solution. I'm now studying for the Swedish equivalent of the SAT test that I'm going to take in a month, to get accepted to the education of my dreams! It's so close I can almost touch it.
Last week I turned 20 and I also had these feelings of not accomplishing enough yet or being through those 'best' teen years of my life, being possibly in my midlife, because I could never imagine myself after 40. I was scared as shit of that day. (Usually I hate those days, but this was a higher level for me) So just know, that I get, that everyone feels differently, but I feel you and many others do too. I love that you're posting it here, so others can also know that it's absolutely normal
i used to have crises all the time. i think i've just grown out of it, really. my panic and anxiety about life and 'oh my god i'm gonna die before i do anything that makes me happy' forced me into some depression and then spontaneity that eventually led to a lot of introspection and alone time and figuring out exactly who i am and who it is i want to be, and at the end of the day i can finally say that i like and love myself and i don't struggle so much with crises or destructive thought patterns. i don't think you're at all alone in your feelings or struggles.
I whole heartedly feel you! I'm 25 graduated last year, don't know what I'm doing with my life, can't find a job in my career which is forcing me to reevaluate my life and my plans and where I thought I would be right now. Feeling that same sort of lethargic, self destructive, unmotivated and uninspired thoughts and behaviors. So I'm right there with you. Even though this period in my life sucks ASS! I'm hoping with time it will get better. For you and me both.
Have you ever asked a doc if you have PMDD? I used to, but now I just have regular old glorious gross PMS :P I'm such a fucker with PMS it's unreal. Relate to so much in this video. Think it's great that you're like "fuck having a genre" that's the ONLY reason I enjoy RUclips! If I was stuck with one *thing* I'd likely just give up x
Melanie Murphy I have PMDD, wouldn't wish it upon anyone and good to hear you're clear of it now. Lucy, keeping a diary of symptoms is key to figuring out if it's a cyclical problem, and also good to show your doctor that it's a hormonal issue. Also, there's a great PMDD support group on Facebook, just search uk PMDD support. My hormones, at worst, make me want to die. It's a scary, scary thing and I couldn't do it without support. Look after yourself!
Melanie Murphy thats what I thought I have depression and I probably struggle with that too. I still get very sad before periods but its getting better over time.
A similar thing happened to me when I turned 22. I fell into a cycle of comparing my accomplishments to others and ended up very distraught about it all. Which then led to a ton of other issues surfacing that I had to deal with so it was rough on my mental health but I was sorting through all of the buried crap that I never delt with. However, had all of that not happened I don't think I'd be where I am now. I feel so much more like the me that was happy before she got buried under other people's plans and opinions. I've stuck with my new lifestyle (yoga, journaling, vegan noms, active decluttering) and reevaluated what I think is important. Having a crisis at 22 was one of the best things that happened to me. You got this Lucy. 💚 Sending all my love and support 🌱
Having quite a crisis at the moment. Money struggles and mental health struggles. I think it's kind of the relapse from a really difficult past 6 months where I had a lot of sad and difficult life events. Now everything has evened out and calmed down, but for the past 2 months now I've been feeling even worse. I'm just trying to be kind to myself while still being strict with my responsibilities. I won't miss class just because I'm chemically depressed and spacey, or skip assignments, or slack at work. But I'm not putting pressure on myself to be in tip top shape while doing so either. I'm an over achiever, so me just doing what's asked of me or putting in minimum effort is usually an awful feeling. But, with so little energy, I just need to do what I have to do and then take the rest of my time to sit with myself and figure out how I'm going to go about crawling out of my hole. Please keep posting lovely, you've become a fast favorite of mine over the past year and a half or so. Just post as you like and well love what you do. ❤️
I'm 21 and just started teaching and having a huge mental breakdown. I've taken 2 weeks off since my depression got worse and am due back Monday. I'm bricking it. I totally burned myself out over the last couple of months. So yea. I really related to this video. You have great content Lucy and I am glad to see you getting closer to the end of your crisis. I hope to get closer to the end of mine
lucy i hope you do start to feel better, and thank you for being so honest online because i think a lot of people will be able to relate!! My advice is to keep making videos but not to any schedule, just make sure you make them because the longer you don't make videos, the more you won't want to and then you get caught in a destructive cycle there!!! Obviously it is your choice and your decision as to what you do but that's what I would suggest :) 💗💗
Hi Lucy! I've always appreciated your honesty. At the same time, I'm glad you've decided to take better care of yourself by making sure you are safe when you open up. Sending you love x
Lucy, I love your honesty, not only with us but especially with yourself, I think the first step to improve is to figure out what the problem is, and you've done it so now, you can start doing something. Said that, I think you should find an activity that involves your body, even just having 30 mins walk in the park when you're stressed or not inspired if anything goes wrong go out and free your mind.
I had a life crisis that lasted for a few good weeks or even months. I just constantly felt like I'm not happy enough and not happy as I used to be, I didn't want to get up in the morning and missed a lot of school days because of it, and generally just felt like I couldn't do this anymore. I decided to start seeing a therapist again in hopes it will help and it really did, and I feel way better now. Also, it's not really a life crisis, but I've definitely gained weight due to not exercising at all and not eating healthy and I want to get healthier but I feel like I don't really know how to maintain a healthy lifestyle at all. Just wanted to share lol.
ahhh I turned 22 less than a week ago (day before you posted this, actually!) and literally been dying inside with the same existential thoughts prior to that day (and a little after). Hopelessness, an inability to be where I want to be, a fierce, tumultuous despair in feeling inadequate, dissatisfaction with my life was a huge one (still is tbh). But as dodie once said, "it's okay, we all have bad days. We'll get over this hurdle and all feel okay pretty soon." Words to live by, really.
I hope you're feeling better these days. As much as I am smitten by you and your content, your physical and mental well being is far more paramount than my eager impatience.
Oh Lucy! I totally get how you feel! You're not alone though I think we all experience this kind of phrases/feelings once in a while but it's good to see someone being so honest and open about themselves, talking about the good and the bad etc. sending you love from Bangkok!
I relate to a lot of this video so much. I've just got two new jobs and I'm really worried about being able to keep up my hobbies like writing and RUclips around the new schedule. I've also fallen out of the habit of watching a lot of other people's videos and it affects my own inspiration/motivation so much. :( At the moment I'm just about doing ok in terms of uploading at least once every two weeks but the thought of possibly not being able to keep it up is so upsetting when regular uploads are so crucial for keeping people engaged with what you make. My self-care plummets when I'm busy, I go for more days without showering or putting effort into my appearance and that in turn means I'm less likely to feel like filming... what a lovely little cycle it makes. Anyway, happy birthday for last month! I turned 21 in February, so it's good to know that you're a year ahead and still trying to work this stuff out. :)
I have/ still am having my crisis. I had a breakdown mid last year after living out of home for 6 months and ended up having to move back to my parents because I couldn't support myself. And since then, my anxiety and even more so for my depression have ever so steadily been getting worse and worse and I had been doing nothing about it because I felt like I deserved it for being so worthless and pathetic. But I managed to book a doctors appointment for Monday, which is something I have been avoiding for nearly a year. So that's something. I really appreciate how yourself and dodie and other youtubers talk about their mental health and state. It makes me feel less alone in this dark pit I seem to be trapped in. Thanks for being you. It really helps to hear your stories and experiences. Lots of love ❤
I relate to this 100%. And I'm only seventeen. Can't even begin to try to explain the way i feel towards the same things (even though it's basically, well, the same way) because then this comment would be a book. But gotta say thanks for this video. I felt like I was not alone. ❤ and you aren't either.
Oh the crisis that lead to self destructive patterns. Lucy, hang in there, you can overcome it. One day a time, when Im feeling like Im about to burst I take things slower, I cook myself nice healthy meals, I do my make up very calmly, I listen to a lot of music, i dance in my room. Tiny little things that I know will make my heart beat with more joy, even if Im not feeling like moving a finger, I push myself and when Im done I can actually feel some improvement. Take care Lucy, really take good care of yourself, you are worth it.
I don't know how I stumbled upon this video, but I have been in exactly the same place recently. I have been so consumed all all the uni work that I stoped leaving my room, stopped exercising altogether and basically disappeared for the first two months of this year. It is somewhat conforming to know that I am not the only feeling that way and kinda using work as self destruction, but then again it's a bit sad as well. This week, after having a couple of weeks off uni, I finally feel like I am out of that slump and back to full motivation and loving life. What I needed was a long break from everything, I used to love everything I do at Uni and all, but I started to hate every class and especially my work. Getting out, going home to my family and reading book I normally wouldn't pick helped me to get my mind off it all. I didn't have to focus and that allowed me to WANT to focus on a project I am passionate about. To all everyone to is experiencing a slump at the moment I'd say: get out, out of the house and out of your routine and let friends, family and maybe even new people take you somewhere new! Let go! :)
I'm glad you're discussing these topics. I felt the same way about RUclips . I feel like I spend some much time filming and editing and no one really watches my videos, which is a little disheartening I hate to admit that . However I still enjoy it very much so I continue on !
My crisis started right before my 25th birthday (this past september) when I lost my job. I just did a lot of self love, picked up some new hobbies, and attempted to stay positive as much as possible. One thing that has REALLY helped is adding in volunteering with a kid's writing group. I go every other week and even on the weeks where I feel absolutely terrible and really want to avoid leaving my house, forcing myself to go and be around a bunch of weird, funny, and creative kids always helps me feel rejuvenated! So caring for others has actually become part of my self care.
I discovered you and your videos today, and tbh it made me feel a lot better about my own crises... I'm constantly telling myself I need to take better care of myself, thank you for inspiring me to do that better :)
I super appreciate your sharing, I have been awful with self care and not cutting myself slack over the past month and it's reassuring to hear that I'm not the only one while I'm surrounded by people who are either super on top of everything or at least projecting to the world that they are.
I am obsessed with your new hair! The brassy tone of the blondem is serious goals. You have legitimately inspired me to dye my hair this way next time I get the opportunity to.
Hello Lucy! Its a tiny piece of portugal talking right now :) i love your videos and im following you for a long time now, and i think one of the reasons why its because they are so honest and relatable. I really dont feel like you should regret making them, even one or another specifecly, because they still help people even just a little, even just to make their day a little brighter. Besides you are always in progress and some things (like it or not) will be left behind. Sorry for my english, keep doing an amazing job! :) lots of love
Don't apologise for "crashing" I am sure it was good time off for you. Also I can relate to the sharing to much and having that "funky " feeling, 100% relatable and I hope that makes it a bit better, I think some people like you and me and others have a tendency to self-destruct, we just need to find healthier ways :) love your videos
also currently in a crisis. idk what it is about the begining of years. always get me down. my stuff might be seasonal. I can't wait for it to be over, for me as well as for you and for Dodie. get well soon!
I love your videos! Glad you're feeling better and that you're getting to the end of the crisis! I overthink things a lot and I feel like I'm going through a crisis about who I am. Hope you continue feeling better. 😀
I appreciate your openness and honesty, Lucy. I've been feeling like shit lately as well and my mood swings and anxiety get the better of me because of nursing school and other personal things. But I am trying to be more mindful in terms of self-care and handling my stress a little bit better. Love from Canada
your wise self-analyses are always DA BOMB! thanks for the update and do keep us in the loop. we're rooting for you gurl! also happy belated birthday :)
THIS is 100% how I've been feeling for the last month!! So hard to get back on track, honestly just hearing someone else say these words has really helped!
I love the fact that you are a so real and relatable in each of your videos. Keep going girl, take your time, you are an inspiration even if you don't realise it yet ❤
I had a life crisis when I tried to go to a city to do my masters and it was all too much! I ended up moving back into my university town and feeling super depressed for 2 months. Time and having the support of my boyfriend helped. It's taught me how much you should value time as a healer. Hope you're on the way up now :)
Please keep making these kinds of personal videos. I relate so much to the self-destruction and the crises and I haven't come across many people who talk about it.
I...think I am going through a similar crisis at the moment. Any tips on how to stop self-destructive behavior even when you know you're doing it as you're doing it?
ive recently been going through a crisis that lasted for a month and I can relate to this alot and u got sooo much perseverence on this topic and I didn't get that until 2 months later and I was thinking about hurting myself so I congratulate u for that. love you lucy, I am trying to do self care now too and it's good to vent. loooove you xo
Hi Lucy! I am from India. I watch you videos pretty much everyday (repeatedly) Just wanted to say that I love your videos and the way you put across yourself! Your voice is very calming. Lots of love!! :)
I turn 22 in June and I had a huge emotional meltdown/breakdown at the end of January beginning of February. Still kind of in the midst of it even now. Self care is definitely something I need to learn too, I'm really bad at recognising signs of me "getting bad" before it's too late and then I'm very much consumed by it and find my emotions very overwhelming and disabling. So I think if I can try and find ways to manage things now I'll possibly get through times like these better in the future. Thank you for this, I hope you're feeling okay now. You're lovely ☺✨
23 was the age of "........................................but why?????" for me, glad I moved on from that, but it took a good couple of year to accept things and embrace the good, the bad and the uncertain
You seem so wise and reflected and gosh I'm turning 23 in about 2 weeks and I feel like I have hardly reached anything, I'm stuck at university and don't have a clue what I'll do after that.. so from my perspective, you are several steps ahead of me 🙈
dear lucy, i relate SO SO MUCH. i've been having a crisis since last september and i am, too, kind of getting out of it at the moment. i've started uni last october and had an extreme low with my depression and anxiety + family related issues so i absolutely failed my first semester. i was about to quit without any kind of degree but i went to the student council etc and will continue my studies (i found out that i get more time to study/financial support for a longer amount of time bc of my illness which is so nice, never knew that was possible with mental health issues) and i am also planning on actually FINALLY getting therapy. i've never had a drop of alcohol but also tried rather destructive things to cope with these feelings of 'recklessness' and 'wanting to get fucked up' which also get much worse when pmsing...and also this thing about always trying to be at everyone's disposal 24/7...self-care really seems to be key but it's hard when you feel as if you have too many responsibilities in your life and thus no time for self-care...love your new hair by the way. best regards
I literally started crying when I heard the sentence "It´s like I am possessed". It´s exactly how I describe it, I feel so dramatically overwhelmed by my feelings during PMS that it´s exhausting. For a few days a month I have to fight against my mind for, like, getting through the day, and the only thing I can say to calm myself is that it´s temporary. Not every month it´s the same but man, when it hits, it hits hard. I am so sorry that you feel the same, but also kinda relieved to know that I am not crazy. Love and hughs, and, you know, this too shall pass XX
yeah, the more honest you are, the more it draws people (including me) in. Your sharing has also given a lot of us courage and inspiration. It sounds like you need to find the right pace and level for you - maybe there was too much, too fast. Definitely listen to your inner voices, but your honesty is what holds me, so I hope you find a way to be yourself out here while still protecting yourself, if that makes any sense...
i think i love your videos because you are so casual but share so deeply, it feels like a cosy chat with a good friend that you can feel comfortable with. i am a pretty anxious person when it comes to conversations and being open with most people but i also have a LOT of feelings about everything all the time, and being able to hear someone else in their 20's chat about all their messy thoughts and experiences is so lovely and therapeutic and of course I don't want you to share things if they make you uncomfortable, but i really really appreciate you opening up in the same way i would appreciate and love a friend for opening up to me. sending you lots of love and positive vibes in this rollercoaster decade xoxoxo
Oh,baby,everything is going to be fine!!! Look after yourself, relax and be as positive as you can. Never forget we are with you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
After graduating college, I never imagined that I would dislike the job in my field-but I did. And it was scary because you're told your whole life that life after college/jobs in your field are going to be great-but no one tells you what happens if the job isn't glamorous? What if your boss never likes you and the promises made prior were never fulfilled? What then? It was also overwhelming because everyone around me was telling me to 'stick with it' (which I did for a little over a year now), 'it'll get better' and/or 'maybe it's just a phase'. My job treats me differently to this day, so it was not 'just a phase'. I felt like everyone's opinions of my current job were drowning out my feelings of slight depression that were due to this job. I was stuck, emotionally and mentally for a long while. But then I remembered, at least you have a job in your field and you have a great support system! My family and friends talked through it with me. I also relied on RUclips because watching the people I love reminded me that not everyone has to have their life figured out right now and that it's okay to work towards your dreams of travel and RUclips-you were one of those people that got me out of my head. :) Thank you for being real, and sorry for this jumbled mess haha
My acupuncturist continually tells me that winter and early spring should be creative down time and I should push myself less to rebuild creative energy but it's hard to not create a lot. So I feel you. :) our bodies will resist if we don't give it downtime. Also! The way hormones change even in our 20s is crazy! I feel straight violent sometimes when I have PMS. They don't really prepare us for that when they talk about body changes. Hang in there ❤🙌
Life crises are great! Sincerely. I had an enormous one when I was fifteen: unbearable insomnia, didn't know I had ocd and thought I was developing schizophrenia, was away at a high-pressure prep school with too much independence, the adults back home had their lives in shambles and could give no support... It was horrible. But! There is no better way to acquire perspective than to survive a crisis. I learned to accept that I didn't know what my life would end up looking like, and that it probably wouldn't measure up to the wildly successful, powerhouse vision I had of my future self. I'm a much happier person without the burden of my own expectations / fear others' judgments of me. I enjoy what I do, I have unbelievably wonderful friends, I love my home and my community. It seems like the same is true for you! Whatever plans must be nixed, whatever life-altering decisions have to be made, you know you've got excellent friends to buoy you through it all. (And an understanding community on here who will undoubtedly support you in your choices!)
I recently went through a life crisis and alcohol was involved! I don't have a problem with alcohol but i do realise that when i get drunk i reveal bad aspects of my personality that need to be fixed. So, a few weeks ago i thought i was doing everything wrong that i was a horrible person and that nothing good was happening to me. Taking in all that self hate and self punishment i just thought, this shit is not right! I can't feel that bad about myself i need to have a break. So, i'm trying to have a better relationship with alcohol, try to put myself first when it comes to people and relationships and most importantly (and what you said) BE KIND TO MYSELF. Taking a day at a time, and trying to get rid of all the negativity and sadness that has rooted in my head. Good luck, Lucy, i get you !
holy shit I haven't heard the phrase digital footprint in like 12 years
+doddleoddle it's very 2005
doddleoddle Hi Dodie sweetheart! Hope your day has gotten better 💛
Good morning you lucy Moon you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
my first thought when I saw this video was "yay me and Lucy Moon are having a crisis at the same time"
EV phone home same!!!
'raises hand' in agreement
EV phone home same honestly
god same
Same!
Sometimes when I see that the clouds are darkening and it feels like the skies will open up and pour down and consume me at any given moment, all I can do is grab my umbrella and hope for the best. What that means, I guess, is that I try not to get rid of the dark clouds, whatever they may be, but equip myself with the best possible tools to help myself get through the rain.
Abigail C loved this!
Abigail C , really poetic 👌
I love this💞
such a brilliant way of expressing this struggle and these feelings, but also might I add, such a relatable one as a British person ;u;
so so true on every level xx
After going through a 6 month crisis, I relate wholeheartedly
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KHAAAAAAAAAAN I hope everything is going okay for you (and Lucy!) and I can't wait till you're back on RUclips being your funny ol' self :)
After going through a 21 year crisis, i also relate.
AYEEEE SAME HERE
I felt like this at 22, that was the number where I said to myself - I'm old. "Good bye childhood! Hello adulthood - WAIT? I'm not ready and haven't achieved anything!!!" Still at 24, I get these feelings you talked about, it's a weird feeling. I really feel this. Thank you for this.
BREAK THE RULES. BE YOURSELF.
Always here if you need someone. I'm in a perpetual state of crisis, so I'm good at this. When I'm trying to get out of it, I usually allow myself a day or two of rage-quitting and making time for things I want to do without feeling guilty. Like...if I spend my day off reading, or watching crap TV rather than making a video, that's okay once in a while because it lets my brain shut off. Where it gets tricky is if that becomes a regular thing and I start making excuses for myself, and that's when I know I need to make a change in my life. Then I start looking at what needs changing, pick something I CAN change, pick an end goal and then start working slowly towards making it happen.
Then I have a new crisis and the cycle repeats again. I honestly think, as humans, we're constantly breaking down. Which makes me enjoy the in-between-y bits even more.
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I don't have anything to add, just wanted to say that I'm amazed at how nice this comment section is. So many thoughtful and relevant comments. Such a cool audience you've got here.
your hair looks great X
I think for myself, I just need to allow myself to be a hot mess and have a crisis. Because that's where you learn stuff, right? That's where you learn what you need in life and how to pick yourself up and move forward. I've spent too much time trying to keep myself together that I just need to let the seams burst. I'm 23. I don't need to worry about having a job just yet that will help support me when I'm 33. I don't need to worry about saving for my children's tuition when they aren't even close to existing. I'm too caught up in life's necessary responsibilities that I haven't given myself opportunity to explore where I can be in life. I keep looking for an immediate solution for the future, and those solutions are making me unhappy and I just need to live and learn.
tiskellytime I feel this so hard. Sending you piles of love and good vibes! ❤
Whenever I am in a crisis (which is often - yikes!) I like to take what I call a "domestic vacation". That means that I tell my friends and family that I will be out of touch for a while and that I'm okay, but I shouldn't be bothered. During this time I isolate myself with the means to just be WITH myself. Whether that means going out to a coffee shop by myself, taking walks around my campus by myself, or just driving around by myself, I want to distance myself from those around me to recognize my merit in life. It's amazing that once you realize that you can be your best friend, you will slowly start to heal and fix your problems. After I clean up my life (metaphorically and literally - cleaning always helps me too), I go back to my family and friends with a renewed hope and fresh perspective. You'll get there Lucy, and you've already taken great steps! xx
I'm currently in a bit of a crisis too, I'm a little older than you (23 going on 24 in May) but you are so much wiser than me! I feel like I'm coasting through life and have no motivation, I haven't found a way out of this way of thinking just yet but thanks for the pep talk! I hope you feel better so and I hope I can too xxx
WonderlandAlicexo I'm about to turn 23 and feel the exact same way! Have been feeling a bit lost and lacking in motivation... it's kind of nice to know I'm not the only one because that's really how it feels sometimes! hope it gets better for you! x
WonderlandAlicexo I'm in the 23 club too :) I just graduated and have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. it's so so scary :/ Hope you get through it :) xxx
Aha 23 seems to be the key age :') So nice to hear from you both, great to have some support in the comments :D You are totally not alone in having no idea what you're doing, I think a lot more people feel this way than we realise! Hope things improve for you guys soon, too xxxx
Same, I'm 23 as well, doing my masters degree, but lacking motivation. We'll get trough this crisis somehow I'm sure. :)
I'm about to turn 21 and I'm totally in the same boat as you. I'm currently in the process of writing a 12,000 word dissertation, I'm about to graduate in the summer and I totally don't know where my life is going. I'm so confused about what I should do and that's only making me feel worse as people expect people like me, at my age and about to get a degree and enter the world, to know what they're doing with their life and to have a solid plan of action...but I just don't and I am in full on crisis mode right now 👎🏻
Rosie Dudley same.... you just have to 'fuck the expectations'
To you and anybody in a similar position: you can and will get through it. I was at a similar place a few years ago, I was studying something I didn't really enjoy but I didn't know what else I could do. I was lucky enough to stumble across a job that's decent and pays pretty well, even though I know it's not something I want to do for good. But in the last few months I started to invest my free time into a few of my hobbies, figured out how to make them a business, and I have finally figured out what I want to do with my life. And I'm 26. I'm pretty old compared to you! Just get a decent job, save up some money and I promise you will eventually find what you want to do. Just relax and try things out, you're still young!
I'm seventeen, entering uni now and have no clue what i want to do either. It's very scary. But actually, how could we expect to know all of our future steps? Some people act like they do know or just seem to do so, but it's all an illusion. we don't even have the control over things and they change even if we had the whole plan from the beginning. Anyway, still scary. It's also quite annoying - not to say kind of depressive - when you get simply paralised because you don't know what to do.
I cannot stress to you enough that literally no one coming out of university knows what they are doing next and/or where they want their life to lead. Just go with your interests and I promise you will land on your feet.
Life after graduation is this crazy period of time that not many people talk about. In my experience I was shocked by how lost we all felt. Everyone will ask what your plan is but it might be helpful to remember that in reality the 'plan' only affects you. Create small goals and aspirations with short term deadlines whether that it's 'write 500 words this week' or 'research internships or volunteer roles' take it one step at a time. This is a chance to discover what makes you happy but know that each choice can be an experiment too. I hope that helps is a small way x
I'm currently having a crisis because I don't feel like I'm good enough. I'm comparing myself to so many people and there is nothig where I feel like I'm so good at that I don't care if I compare myself to others. I'm just not good enough with everything. And that's putting so much pressure on me. And the fact that something like that is giving me a crisis stresses me out even more. I'm turning 25 I shouldn't freak out because of such things
I'm about to turn 20, but I am already on my way OUT of a crisis. It started when I was 17, because, long story short, everything I've known/imagined about my future since the age of 12 got CRUSHED. Like, literally, my entire picture of life got shattered. And when it happened I had a breakdown and started seeing a therapist, but I wasn't really realising it was a crisis. I'm only realising it now, on my way out of it. It just sorta started gradually growing inside of my, this overwhelming sadness, my heart was heavy and all I could see was trouble and anxiety. And what I can conclude from this experience is that TIME HEALS. Yes, simple old truth. At some point it just... got better, you know, reached the bottom and pushed off of it, only way now is up!
hope my little story helps anybody :)
also, side note - my therapist says that crisis happens to people each 5-7 years and lasts up to 2 years (if being helped, if not - it can last forever). So you're okay, we're all okay as long as we're aware of it and are dealing with it!
I'm in a bit of a crisis, I'm 23 and finishing up a masters degree, which is all well and good except I'm in a not very employable field, so jobs are really hard to come by. I recently realized that RUclips was something I really wanted to invest myself in and try to be a positive influence on people, except at this age I feel like I'm "too old" and I've missed that threshhold for beginning only now to reach a wide audience. Really don't want to sound like I'm complaining like "oh how do I grow my channel" or some crap like that, I'm just desperately trying to find SOME sort of creative pathway to invest myself in, do good for others, and enjoy my life. I'm terrified of living a normal existence without having enough experiences, but I guess that's another story for another day. Lucy, you are really relatable, and that's why I love your videos so much. You're the type of person I want to surround myself with
It's weird how much our brains are alike - I put a lot of pressure onto myself last year and realized I was expecting things from myself I didn't even really want to accomplish.. But now at 23 I've gotten to the point where I give myself time for the different moods and lows..some days doing the minimum and literally getting from the bed to the couch and back and at least try to drink enough water is enough. Other days I might feel energized und inspired enough to create and get stuff done and be incredibly productive! I ask myself a lot whether or not this is laziness or a mental issue and then I categorize what I can do for/against it. but it took a lot of experience and understanding towards myself to just accept the times where I'm really shit and need to stare at a wall for a while. I like to think that while we experience our downs now and build up a better self-care system throughout those times, people that have it super easy in there twenties might crash a lot later and have a much more difficult situation then because they never thought about themselves and their environment as in depth as we have..
I definitely need to learn to give myself time to feel those emotions for sure. And it's so true, these things ebb and flow and some people can withstand more now but crash later on. We've got this!
YES, Lucy, we got this! :) your response has really made me smile!
Wow, thank you for making this video! Even if you feel you've overshared, please know that these videos are helping soooo many people! I genuinely thought when I turned 23 in January that I was the only one going through this existential type crisis haha. It sounds so ridiculous because we're so young yet the pressure you spoke about, wanting to be this supernatural prodigy etc. that's exactly what drove my own mini crisis (and still frequently does but I try to suppress it.) Perhaps it's the self comparison of so many other young and "successful" RUclipsrs, or celebrities, or whatever the case may be that contributes to this, I'm not sure, but it's amazing to feel a little less alienated knowing that I'm not the only one expecting so much, (too much?) from myself. On one hand, I think people like us are the movers and the shakers of the world. Lucy, you're trying to better yourself constantly and in turn you're helping others to do the same. And you have achieved quite a lot in a very short time so know that! Even just admitting your struggles is a level of maturity most people don't reach until a lot later and some never do! On the other hand, I believe people like us are the victims of determination that grows to become imbalanced. While we have such a strong will to be great and successful and creative, etc. sometimes the journey feels so tedious and frustrating that it shuts us own. But I suppose that's what we have to remember... that the journey is the most important part. Our struggles, and imperfections, and mess-ups are all okay, we have to let that propel us forward not hold us back! Other peoples successes are not our failures and WHEN we achieve them doesn't matter. Vincent VanGough didn't start painting until 27. The first Harry Potter didn't officially come out until Rowling was 32! Just as you said you don't want to follow "the rules of RUclips," don't follow the "rules of success." You're already a success girl, and you're going to keep being a success, even when you fail!
Ahhh thank you for posting and sharing your life with us! I've missed hearing your voice so much. This morning was going really slow (cramping, power going out, lack of motivation, etcetera etcetera) but then I watched this and now I feel like I should do something. It calmed me down and made me feel good so thanks, hun ❤ xx
i had a life crisis a year ago after i realized that speciality that i study in my university isn't at all what i want to do in my life and is something that i can't do due to the fact that i don't want to study it and that it doesn't attract me and i was just so depressed because for month i was asking myself why did i even decide to study there and then i had a hard time because i was scared to tell my parents this news but thankfully after struggling for a couple of month i told my parents that the university that i studied isn't for me and look at me now i study at the university that is so cool, i love it and all the subjects are very interesting but a month ago i broke my leg and a week ago i had my operation and that's why i wasn't and am not able to attend my classes and that's why i'm so nervous cause i don't know if i'm gonna be able to pass my tests, i hope for the best and truly believe that somehow i'm gonna do it but the fact that this semester i have really difficult subjects scares me
thank you to whoever read it all xo
édouard tremblay thank you and good luck with your life :)
I'm happy you're happier! And you're so brave for telling your parents the truth as well, that's super hard. You can totally get through these classes. If you can change your life direction and commit to something new and difficult, you can do this!
didreams1 thank you so much and i wish you happiness :)
Good for you on switching to what you're truly excited about!! Hope you feel better and everything turns out ok
Heyit'sNay thank you, wish you happiness ;)
I loved this video! I am a similar age to you and also going through a bit of a life crisis! I'm just about to finish uni but I have no job plans for afterwards, so that's really getting to me! I literally applied to about 30 grad schemes and it's difficult having so much rejection - before I've always felt that if I work hard at something, I can achieve it, but now I'm really doubting myself! The whole comparison thing is also tricky because it feels like everyone else has their shit together haha! So in a way it's good to see that I'm not the only one feeling a bit overwhelmed! x
Immy1995 Everyone else absolutely does not have their shit together! Everyone is struggling, and although it's hard just try not to compare - just focus on you. Graduate life is tough, having graduated three years ago and still not found a stable job (I've had lots of bumpy ones) let alone a career, I can assure you that you have plenty of time and although it may not go smoothly you will be okay, you'll persevere. Stay strong 💛
This was so comforting and lovely to read! Thank you so much for your kind words, really appreciate it
I honestly adore Lucy so much, she's so different and I love how she expresses herself, I feel really identified with you, and hey, if you need to have a break, do it! We all need breaks sometimes, we will be here no matter what, love you loads 💖
Girl I totally get you! I have been in such a funk lately too, this made me feel a little less alone so thank you. I have been watching your videos for a few months now and the colors are always so pretty and relaxing, love your hair/room/everything else !!
Love this. Love your honesty. Self care is essential and we often don't realize it, until a wake-up call.
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I have been feeling like this but it's turned into something positive. I had been thinking all my life that I was gonna publish a book by the time I was 21 and now I'm 23 and it hasn't happened. I came to the realization that gives me soooo much freedom. Once I was past the age that I thought I would 'have it' and realizing that I didn't 'have it' all together made me realize that figuring shit out is a lifetime commitment. So instead I focus on who I want to be every day. And to work on myself for NOW rather than later. I've been working out a lot and I've been more happy because of it. Sure, I have bad days (a few days ago I got UTTERLY depressed at the idea that I will never NOT be myself and this is my one life to do things and it felt so final) but I try to reel myself back in.
the amount that you share online, while might be overwhelming for you it's such a breath of fresh air in the world of youtube where nothing feels real. u go gal!!x
I'm 30 now, the last 10 years have been a weird blur. Time goes quickly. Honestly at 22 I was a total mess really, emotionally, physically, mentally! Everything. I honestly think early 20s are just hard, full stop. You will be fine.
This is the first video of yours I've watched, and I really liked it. I feel like the most important thing at times like these (which, to be honest, happen way more often throughout life than you might expect, you just don't hear people talk about it) is to be self-aware, which you are. You are right in saying that self-care is key, not just paying attention to our bodies, but also being kind to ourselves when we're not perfect. Good luck moving forward!
Don't apologize! Everyone has ups and downs. I question my life choices on a very regular basis but when I focus on everything I've done versus everything I haven't done, I gain a lot of perspective!
Having the exact same feelings right now, I'm also 22 and feel like I should be further than I actually am in terms of career etc. Self care is the way forward, we got this, girl.
sending positive vibes xo.
great video, lucy! in terms of re-evaluating the amount of stuff you share with the internet, i think that's just a major part of growing up. i went through a similar thing when i was your age, and now that i'm 25 i feel better for recognizing it, so i guess it's a pretty common thing for creative internet people like us! it's so important to put yourself first and i'm glad to see you're taking an initiative to do that more often. take care x
I love u lucy!! Thanks for being real & share ur thoughts with us!
Damn girl stop being so relatable! Everything you say I'm just like OMG YESSS! I'm currently a second year at uni and all of a sudden everything's just got craaazy busy (I'm a media person so it's been a lot of extra work come in as well as assignments) and I've just stopped the things i love like RUclips and the gym and its frustrating me because i dont know what to do. But seeing this just cheered me up - anyone in similar situations needs to know we can ALL get through this, we got this! Also lighting/saturation/general camera set up is just on point in this!
I had a similar situation a few years ago. It was awful. I realized I couldn't keep going at the rate I was. I hit total overwhelm and had to unplug for a few months and focus on learning to actually take care of myself. Walks, water, good food, rituals of skin care, bedtime routines, and especially creative projects that weren't primarily to share online. Watercolor, cross stitch, cooking... those were things that worked for me. Learning to find a balance now, but I had to hit that for the wake up call I needed. Take care! I love the idea of shaking off the "RUclips Rules" and just creating for the joy of it. You be you!
i see so much of myself in you, lucy! im now nearly 25. going through anther crisis but the ups and downs will keep coming. you are handling it gracefully! x
The videos you produce are my favourite. So raw and real. No rose tinted glasses, none of the "look at my perfect life" shit we get fed from so many RUclipsrs. I hope you know how much of an impact you have. It's thought provoking, it's enlightening and it's just LIFE. Urgh. Everything in my life feels very unstable at the moment but I feel safer knowing that it is isn't just me 💛
Thank you for being so open to share this with us. I can honestly say me being 26 years old and having just turned in Jan. That yeah I definitely had this crises happen especially when I compared myself to people I went to school with. It's hard sometimes to measure yourself to others accomplishments. I had to stop myself a lot of the times cause it would really just drag me down. I had to learn to look at the little accomplishments that I've done in my own life instead of where others were compared to me.
I love this video! Sometimes the internet can be a little to "perfekt" and life is'nt "perfekt" so that sometimes makes the internet a little "fake". Of course i'm sad to hear that Lucy is going through a crisis, but that is what happens in life sometimes. So what i'm trying to say is that i love that this video is so real and open and i know that its not good to share everything on the internet, but i am grateful that this little bit got shared so that we could see it.
you are so strong! remember that!
Wow omg I myself just kinda went through a tiny crisis about how I'm growing old and how I wanna do/achieve certain things at certain ages and I might not be able to and like the past few years I've learned so much but at the same time I feel like I could have done so much more and seeing ur video I've realized how incredibly normal this is, to have a crisis. It happens to everyone even though not everyone talks about but it's ok and the crisis will be over and our minds will find new things to think about and at the end of every crisis there's an important life lesson, from my tiny crisis I've learned that I need to start living in the moment.
I've been having a life crisis for the past couple of months. It all started basically the day I graduated school - and discovered that while I was doing to right thing in taking a gap year to work out my mental health and what I wanted to actually do with my life - I had no idea what I was going to do with the year. Besides my twin sister I probably have 1 person who I'd call an actual friend, and so I have no social life. My solution to this problem? Do as many things that I thought would give me some control in my life as possible. I got a casual job, started seeing a psychologist, started driving lessons, working on a portfolio, doing tutoring for my old school ect.. But because all of these things aren't regular, I still feel as though I don't have any control over my life. I feel like I'm constantly procrastinating on my personal projects and that I'm achieving nothing (and I strive off of productivity). tbh the solution to all my problems is probably to just get on with it. Oh well, lets see what March brings.
I absolutely love how self aware you are, I think it's an amazing way to progress
Hi Lucy,
I'm seventeen, I'm from Italy but living in Denmark at the moment, as an exchange student. I have been here for seven months now and I just wanted to say that I am so happy that I have had your videos that I could watch and a lot of the time relate to. I know in the video you said that you regret sharing so much of your life and your thoughts and your issues, but I just want you to know that you have helped me so much by sharing them. Of course, I respect your privacy, and I completely respect the fact that you may not want to share some personal things online. What I am trying to say is that your honesty has helped me so much. I feel like we are constantly surrounded by unrealistic images of people online, where they are always happy, and always productive, happy, positive, and I think that it is really important to remind people that it is not always like that. And that is is because we struggle so much to reach our goals, and reach a state of peace with ourselves, that we can then celebrate when we achieve it.
So I guess that with this message I just wanted to tell you that you have helped me a lot, in these months that have been so crazy and full of doubt for me. I really hope I will be able to meet you one day, to have a chat with you and tell you all of these things in person.
Keep doing what you are doing, keep trusting yourself and keep doing what you are truly passionate about and what makes you happy.
A very big hug
I have had several life crisis, and one of the biggest was a few months ago. When I handle it well (and I'm happy to say I have finally handled it well this time) I step out of it all for a minute and ask myself what are the things that I am actually happy doing, which actually make me feel productive and inspired and produce something I'm proud of and excited about, and I shed everything else I'm doing (or at least most, I still have to earn a paycheck...). Working hard is good and sometimes what you need to do won't be fun, but that only works when it's temporary. If you allow that to be an excuse to let unproductive or even destructive things take root, you're going to burn out. So keep up the RUclips and other projects that make you feel empowered and creative, and shed the rest!
I really like these kind of videos, they feel so honest and genuine, and I relate so much.
I had a life crisis about 6 months ago. I just felt stuck in the same place, like I wasn't "evolving" as a person and that everyone else around me had a purpose and knew exactly where they were going with their life. I felt shit for a while but I've come up with a solution. I'm now studying for the Swedish equivalent of the SAT test that I'm going to take in a month, to get accepted to the education of my dreams! It's so close I can almost touch it.
Last week I turned 20 and I also had these feelings of not accomplishing enough yet or being through those 'best' teen years of my life, being possibly in my midlife, because I could never imagine myself after 40. I was scared as shit of that day. (Usually I hate those days, but this was a higher level for me) So just know, that I get, that everyone feels differently, but I feel you and many others do too. I love that you're posting it here, so others can also know that it's absolutely normal
you are honestly just such an inspiration to me, with everything you do. thank you.
i used to have crises all the time. i think i've just grown out of it, really. my panic and anxiety about life and 'oh my god i'm gonna die before i do anything that makes me happy' forced me into some depression and then spontaneity that eventually led to a lot of introspection and alone time and figuring out exactly who i am and who it is i want to be, and at the end of the day i can finally say that i like and love myself and i don't struggle so much with crises or destructive thought patterns. i don't think you're at all alone in your feelings or struggles.
I whole heartedly feel you! I'm 25 graduated last year, don't know what I'm doing with my life, can't find a job in my career which is forcing me to reevaluate my life and my plans and where I thought I would be right now. Feeling that same sort of lethargic, self destructive, unmotivated and uninspired thoughts and behaviors. So I'm right there with you. Even though this period in my life sucks ASS! I'm hoping with time it will get better. For you and me both.
Have you ever asked a doc if you have PMDD? I used to, but now I just have regular old glorious gross PMS :P I'm such a fucker with PMS it's unreal. Relate to so much in this video. Think it's great that you're like "fuck having a genre" that's the ONLY reason I enjoy RUclips! If I was stuck with one *thing* I'd likely just give up x
Woah, I just googled PMDD and this is me... I need to talk to my doctor about this! I love your vids lately, let's say fuck it to having a genre!
Melanie Murphy I have PMDD, wouldn't wish it upon anyone and good to hear you're clear of it now. Lucy, keeping a diary of symptoms is key to figuring out if it's a cyclical problem, and also good to show your doctor that it's a hormonal issue. Also, there's a great PMDD support group on Facebook, just search uk PMDD support. My hormones, at worst, make me want to die. It's a scary, scary thing and I couldn't do it without support. Look after yourself!
Melanie Murphy i agree with the genre thing, ps love you!
Melanie Murphy thats what I thought
I have depression and I probably struggle with that too. I still get very sad before periods but its getting better over time.
I have PMDD (or I used to) and was given antidepressants to take for a few months and since then I've been greaaat! Maybe speak to a doctor!
A similar thing happened to me when I turned 22. I fell into a cycle of comparing my accomplishments to others and ended up very distraught about it all. Which then led to a ton of other issues surfacing that I had to deal with so it was rough on my mental health but I was sorting through all of the buried crap that I never delt with. However, had all of that not happened I don't think I'd be where I am now. I feel so much more like the me that was happy before she got buried under other people's plans and opinions. I've stuck with my new lifestyle (yoga, journaling, vegan noms, active decluttering) and reevaluated what I think is important. Having a crisis at 22 was one of the best things that happened to me.
You got this Lucy. 💚 Sending all my love and support 🌱
I don't watch you that often, but you are one of the most genuine RUclipsrs I have seen. Love your volgs, and your honesty.
You inspire me so much.
Having quite a crisis at the moment. Money struggles and mental health struggles. I think it's kind of the relapse from a really difficult past 6 months where I had a lot of sad and difficult life events. Now everything has evened out and calmed down, but for the past 2 months now I've been feeling even worse. I'm just trying to be kind to myself while still being strict with my responsibilities. I won't miss class just because I'm chemically depressed and spacey, or skip assignments, or slack at work. But I'm not putting pressure on myself to be in tip top shape while doing so either. I'm an over achiever, so me just doing what's asked of me or putting in minimum effort is usually an awful feeling. But, with so little energy, I just need to do what I have to do and then take the rest of my time to sit with myself and figure out how I'm going to go about crawling out of my hole. Please keep posting lovely, you've become a fast favorite of mine over the past year and a half or so. Just post as you like and well love what you do. ❤️
I'm 21 and just started teaching and having a huge mental breakdown. I've taken 2 weeks off since my depression got worse and am due back Monday. I'm bricking it. I totally burned myself out over the last couple of months. So yea. I really related to this video.
You have great content Lucy and I am glad to see you getting closer to the end of your crisis. I hope to get closer to the end of mine
lucy i hope you do start to feel better, and thank you for being so honest online because i think a lot of people will be able to relate!! My advice is to keep making videos but not to any schedule, just make sure you make them because the longer you don't make videos, the more you won't want to and then you get caught in a destructive cycle there!!! Obviously it is your choice and your decision as to what you do but that's what I would suggest :) 💗💗
Hi Lucy! I've always appreciated your honesty. At the same time, I'm glad you've decided to take better care of yourself by making sure you are safe when you open up. Sending you love x
Lucy, I love your honesty, not only with us but especially with yourself, I think the first step to improve is to figure out what the problem is, and you've done it so now, you can start doing something. Said that, I think you should find an activity that involves your body, even just having 30 mins walk in the park when you're stressed or not inspired if anything goes wrong go out and free your mind.
I had a life crisis that lasted for a few good weeks or even months. I just constantly felt like I'm not happy enough and not happy as I used to be, I didn't want to get up in the morning and missed a lot of school days because of it, and generally just felt like I couldn't do this anymore. I decided to start seeing a therapist again in hopes it will help and it really did, and I feel way better now. Also, it's not really a life crisis, but I've definitely gained weight due to not exercising at all and not eating healthy and I want to get healthier but I feel like I don't really know how to maintain a healthy lifestyle at all. Just wanted to share lol.
ahhh I turned 22 less than a week ago (day before you posted this, actually!) and literally been dying inside with the same existential thoughts prior to that day (and a little after). Hopelessness, an inability to be where I want to be, a fierce, tumultuous despair in feeling inadequate, dissatisfaction with my life was a huge one (still is tbh). But as dodie once said, "it's okay, we all have bad days. We'll get over this hurdle and all feel okay pretty soon." Words to live by, really.
I sat here nodding my head the whole time, I agree with it all and I honestly relate. Take time for you and we will be here whenever you need it
I hope you're feeling better these days. As much as I am smitten by you and your content, your physical and mental well being is far more paramount than my eager impatience.
Oh Lucy! I totally get how you feel! You're not alone though I think we all experience this kind of phrases/feelings once in a while but it's good to see someone being so honest and open about themselves, talking about the good and the bad etc. sending you love from Bangkok!
I relate to a lot of this video so much. I've just got two new jobs and I'm really worried about being able to keep up my hobbies like writing and RUclips around the new schedule. I've also fallen out of the habit of watching a lot of other people's videos and it affects my own inspiration/motivation so much. :( At the moment I'm just about doing ok in terms of uploading at least once every two weeks but the thought of possibly not being able to keep it up is so upsetting when regular uploads are so crucial for keeping people engaged with what you make. My self-care plummets when I'm busy, I go for more days without showering or putting effort into my appearance and that in turn means I'm less likely to feel like filming... what a lovely little cycle it makes.
Anyway, happy birthday for last month! I turned 21 in February, so it's good to know that you're a year ahead and still trying to work this stuff out. :)
I have/ still am having my crisis. I had a breakdown mid last year after living out of home for 6 months and ended up having to move back to my parents because I couldn't support myself. And since then, my anxiety and even more so for my depression have ever so steadily been getting worse and worse and I had been doing nothing about it because I felt like I deserved it for being so worthless and pathetic. But I managed to book a doctors appointment for Monday, which is something I have been avoiding for nearly a year. So that's something. I really appreciate how yourself and dodie and other youtubers talk about their mental health and state. It makes me feel less alone in this dark pit I seem to be trapped in. Thanks for being you. It really helps to hear your stories and experiences. Lots of love ❤
I relate to this 100%. And I'm only seventeen. Can't even begin to try to explain the way i feel towards the same things (even though it's basically, well, the same way) because then this comment would be a book. But gotta say thanks for this video. I felt like I was not alone. ❤ and you aren't either.
Oh the crisis that lead to self destructive patterns. Lucy, hang in there, you can overcome it. One day a time, when Im feeling like Im about to burst I take things slower, I cook myself nice healthy meals, I do my make up very calmly, I listen to a lot of music, i dance in my room. Tiny little things that I know will make my heart beat with more joy, even if Im not feeling like moving a finger, I push myself and when Im done I can actually feel some improvement. Take care Lucy, really take good care of yourself, you are worth it.
Be the truest version of yourself. I love you, Lucy! You're so raw and real and the reason why I'm subscribed to you. You inspire all of us ! ♡♡♡♡
I don't know how I stumbled upon this video, but I have been in exactly the same place recently. I have been so consumed all all the uni work that I stoped leaving my room, stopped exercising altogether and basically disappeared for the first two months of this year. It is somewhat conforming to know that I am not the only feeling that way and kinda using work as self destruction, but then again it's a bit sad as well. This week, after having a couple of weeks off uni, I finally feel like I am out of that slump and back to full motivation and loving life. What I needed was a long break from everything, I used to love everything I do at Uni and all, but I started to hate every class and especially my work. Getting out, going home to my family and reading book I normally wouldn't pick helped me to get my mind off it all. I didn't have to focus and that allowed me to WANT to focus on a project I am passionate about.
To all everyone to is experiencing a slump at the moment I'd say: get out, out of the house and out of your routine and let friends, family and maybe even new people take you somewhere new! Let go! :)
I'm glad you're discussing these topics. I felt the same way about RUclips . I feel like I spend some much time filming and editing and no one really watches my videos, which is a little disheartening I hate to admit that . However I still enjoy it very much so I continue on !
My crisis started right before my 25th birthday (this past september) when I lost my job. I just did a lot of self love, picked up some new hobbies, and attempted to stay positive as much as possible. One thing that has REALLY helped is adding in volunteering with a kid's writing group. I go every other week and even on the weeks where I feel absolutely terrible and really want to avoid leaving my house, forcing myself to go and be around a bunch of weird, funny, and creative kids always helps me feel rejuvenated! So caring for others has actually become part of my self care.
I discovered you and your videos today, and tbh it made me feel a lot better about my own crises... I'm constantly telling myself I need to take better care of myself, thank you for inspiring me to do that better :)
I super appreciate your sharing, I have been awful with self care and not cutting myself slack over the past month and it's reassuring to hear that I'm not the only one while I'm surrounded by people who are either super on top of everything or at least projecting to the world that they are.
I am obsessed with your new hair! The brassy tone of the blondem is serious goals. You have legitimately inspired me to dye my hair this way next time I get the opportunity to.
Hello Lucy! Its a tiny piece of portugal talking right now :) i love your videos and im following you for a long time now, and i think one of the reasons why its because they are so honest and relatable. I really dont feel like you should regret making them, even one or another specifecly, because they still help people even just a little, even just to make their day a little brighter. Besides you are always in progress and some things (like it or not) will be left behind.
Sorry for my english, keep doing an amazing job! :) lots of love
Don't apologise for "crashing" I am sure it was good time off for you. Also I can relate to the sharing to much and having that "funky " feeling, 100% relatable and I hope that makes it a bit better, I think some people like you and me and others have a tendency to self-destruct, we just need to find healthier ways :) love your videos
also currently in a crisis. idk what it is about the begining of years. always get me down. my stuff might be seasonal. I can't wait for it to be over, for me as well as for you and for Dodie. get well soon!
I love your videos! Glad you're feeling better and that you're getting to the end of the crisis! I overthink things a lot and I feel like I'm going through a crisis about who I am. Hope you continue feeling better. 😀
I appreciate your openness and honesty, Lucy. I've been feeling like shit lately as well and my mood swings and anxiety get the better of me because of nursing school and other personal things. But I am trying to be more mindful in terms of self-care and handling my stress a little bit better. Love from Canada
your wise self-analyses are always DA BOMB! thanks for the update and do keep us in the loop. we're rooting for you gurl! also happy belated birthday :)
THIS is 100% how I've been feeling for the last month!! So hard to get back on track, honestly just hearing someone else say these words has really helped!
I love the fact that you are a so real and relatable in each of your videos. Keep going girl, take your time, you are an inspiration even if you don't realise it yet ❤
I had a life crisis when I tried to go to a city to do my masters and it was all too much! I ended up moving back into my university town and feeling super depressed for 2 months. Time and having the support of my boyfriend helped. It's taught me how much you should value time as a healer. Hope you're on the way up now :)
Please keep making these kinds of personal videos. I relate so much to the self-destruction and the crises and I haven't come across many people who talk about it.
I...think I am going through a similar crisis at the moment. Any tips on how to stop self-destructive behavior even when you know you're doing it as you're doing it?
ive recently been going through a crisis that lasted for a month and I can relate to this alot and u got sooo much perseverence on this topic and I didn't get that until 2 months later and I was thinking about hurting myself so I congratulate u for that. love you lucy, I am trying to do self care now too and it's good to vent. loooove you xo
You do you, girl! Love yourself because you seem like an amazing person! Sending you lots and lots of love xx
I've missed you Lucy, I'm glad you're okay, and I totally agree- you are your first priority! x
Hi Lucy! I am from India. I watch you videos pretty much everyday (repeatedly)
Just wanted to say that I love your videos and the way you put across yourself! Your voice is very calming.
Lots of love!!
:)
"Comparison is the thief of joy" .. Brilliant!
I turn 22 in June and I had a huge emotional meltdown/breakdown at the end of January beginning of February. Still kind of in the midst of it even now.
Self care is definitely something I need to learn too, I'm really bad at recognising signs of me "getting bad" before it's too late and then I'm very much consumed by it and find my emotions very overwhelming and disabling.
So I think if I can try and find ways to manage things now I'll possibly get through times like these better in the future. Thank you for this, I hope you're feeling okay now. You're lovely ☺✨
youre so real in your videos and i appreciate it so much. im excited for what is to come and wish you best of luck in taking care of yourself:)
23 was the age of "........................................but why?????" for me, glad I moved on from that, but it took a good couple of year to accept things and embrace the good, the bad and the uncertain
You seem so wise and reflected and gosh I'm turning 23 in about 2 weeks and I feel like I have hardly reached anything, I'm stuck at university and don't have a clue what I'll do after that.. so from my perspective, you are several steps ahead of me 🙈
dear lucy, i relate SO SO MUCH. i've been having a crisis since last september and i am, too, kind of getting out of it at the moment. i've started uni last october and had an extreme low with my depression and anxiety + family related issues so i absolutely failed my first semester. i was about to quit without any kind of degree but i went to the student council etc and will continue my studies (i found out that i get more time to study/financial support for a longer amount of time bc of my illness which is so nice, never knew that was possible with mental health issues) and i am also planning on actually FINALLY getting therapy. i've never had a drop of alcohol but also tried rather destructive things to cope with these feelings of 'recklessness' and 'wanting to get fucked up' which also get much worse when pmsing...and also this thing about always trying to be at everyone's disposal 24/7...self-care really seems to be key but it's hard when you feel as if you have too many responsibilities in your life and thus no time for self-care...love your new hair by the way. best regards
I literally started crying when I heard the sentence "It´s like I am possessed". It´s exactly how I describe it, I feel so dramatically overwhelmed by my feelings during PMS that it´s exhausting. For a few days a month I have to fight against my mind for, like, getting through the day, and the only thing I can say to calm myself is that it´s temporary. Not every month it´s the same but man, when it hits, it hits hard. I am so sorry that you feel the same, but also kinda relieved to know that I am not crazy. Love and hughs, and, you know, this too shall pass XX
yeah, the more honest you are, the more it draws people (including me) in. Your sharing has also given a lot of us courage and inspiration. It sounds like you need to find the right pace and level for you - maybe there was too much, too fast. Definitely listen to your inner voices, but your honesty is what holds me, so I hope you find a way to be yourself out here while still protecting yourself, if that makes any sense...
and ABSOLUTELY ignore "rules" of youtube!!!
i think i love your videos because you are so casual but share so deeply, it feels like a cosy chat with a good friend that you can feel comfortable with. i am a pretty anxious person when it comes to conversations and being open with most people but i also have a LOT of feelings about everything all the time, and being able to hear someone else in their 20's chat about all their messy thoughts and experiences is so lovely and therapeutic and of course I don't want you to share things if they make you uncomfortable, but i really really appreciate you opening up in the same way i would appreciate and love a friend for opening up to me. sending you lots of love and positive vibes in this rollercoaster decade xoxoxo
+Sasha A thank you so much, this comment is the loveliest. I'm so glad to have been able to help you even a little bit 💖
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Oh,baby,everything is going to be fine!!!
Look after yourself, relax and be as positive as you can.
Never forget we are with you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
After graduating college, I never imagined that I would dislike the job in my field-but I did. And it was scary because you're told your whole life that life after college/jobs in your field are going to be great-but no one tells you what happens if the job isn't glamorous? What if your boss never likes you and the promises made prior were never fulfilled?
What then?
It was also overwhelming because everyone around me was telling me to 'stick with it' (which I did for a little over a year now), 'it'll get better' and/or 'maybe it's just a phase'. My job treats me differently to this day, so it was not 'just a phase'. I felt like everyone's opinions of my current job were drowning out my feelings of slight depression that were due to this job.
I was stuck, emotionally and mentally for a long while. But then I remembered, at least you have a job in your field and you have a great support system! My family and friends talked through it with me. I also relied on RUclips because watching the people I love reminded me that not everyone has to have their life figured out right now and that it's okay to work towards your dreams of travel and RUclips-you were one of those people that got me out of my head. :)
Thank you for being real, and sorry for this jumbled mess haha
My acupuncturist continually tells me that winter and early spring should be creative down time and I should push myself less to rebuild creative energy but it's hard to not create a lot. So I feel you. :) our bodies will resist if we don't give it downtime. Also! The way hormones change even in our 20s is crazy! I feel straight violent sometimes when I have PMS. They don't really prepare us for that when they talk about body changes. Hang in there ❤🙌
Life crises are great! Sincerely. I had an enormous one when I was fifteen: unbearable insomnia, didn't know I had ocd and thought I was developing schizophrenia, was away at a high-pressure prep school with too much independence, the adults back home had their lives in shambles and could give no support... It was horrible. But! There is no better way to acquire perspective than to survive a crisis. I learned to accept that I didn't know what my life would end up looking like, and that it probably wouldn't measure up to the wildly successful, powerhouse vision I had of my future self. I'm a much happier person without the burden of my own expectations / fear others' judgments of me. I enjoy what I do, I have unbelievably wonderful friends, I love my home and my community. It seems like the same is true for you! Whatever plans must be nixed, whatever life-altering decisions have to be made, you know you've got excellent friends to buoy you through it all. (And an understanding community on here who will undoubtedly support you in your choices!)
I recently went through a life crisis and alcohol was involved! I don't have a problem with alcohol but i do realise that when i get drunk i reveal bad aspects of my personality that need to be fixed. So, a few weeks ago i thought i was doing everything wrong that i was a horrible person and that nothing good was happening to me. Taking in all that self hate and self punishment i just thought, this shit is not right! I can't feel that bad about myself i need to have a break. So, i'm trying to have a better relationship with alcohol, try to put myself first when it comes to people and relationships and most importantly (and what you said) BE KIND TO MYSELF. Taking a day at a time, and trying to get rid of all the negativity and sadness that has rooted in my head. Good luck, Lucy, i get you !