this has been very true for me and i was just speaking about this today with my father in law. The times that my wife and i have grown and changed the most were after times of intense conflict
Thanks for this a ha moment Sophie, my default until now was “I don’t do conflict” but you’ve made me re think. I’d like to add that when on the receiving end of criticism, it’s been super helpful in my relationship with my adult daughter to resist the urge to become defensive and instead accept that she is explaining how she feels and just needs me to hear her
You’re so welcome, I’m glad it resonated. And yes, exactly! Taking that stance of hearing her feelings rather defending yourself can be so transformational in and of itself. Not always easy though, I hear you 🌿
I have just been in lot of conflict during the Christmas time and even though it hurted and it was the same conflict that already happened years ago I met with m father at a different moment we never happened before. After I told him once again how hurt I am over how he treated me during my childhood, He acknowledged this and turned towards me and hugged me for very long. He said „now I can finally recieve your anger, I am very sorry for how I was back then. I never wanted to hurt you but I was egocentric and blinded by other things. We’ve lost some years but I hope we can find a way back to each other.“ and it really felt like something in him changed. I am super glad about that. I think it is always a good thing to go into conflict but to really try to understand each other instead of who wants to be right.
this has been very true for me and i was just speaking about this today with my father in law. The times that my wife and i have grown and changed the most were after times of intense conflict
@@holistic_cto Thank you for sharing this ✨
Thanks for this a ha moment Sophie, my default until now was “I don’t do conflict” but you’ve made me re think. I’d like to add that when on the receiving end of criticism, it’s been super helpful in my relationship with my adult daughter to resist the urge to become defensive and instead accept that she is explaining how she feels and just needs me to hear her
You’re so welcome, I’m glad it resonated. And yes, exactly! Taking that stance of hearing her feelings rather defending yourself can be so transformational in and of itself. Not always easy though, I hear you 🌿
@ it’s definitely an opportunity to learn & grow emotionally, great post
Conflict destroys, destroys, destroys, and never repairs. That's been my experience.
@@MorganHyde-ie5ru You’re totally right. Conflict when done and repeated in an unconscious way has very destructive potential.
I have just been in lot of conflict during the Christmas time and even though it hurted and it was the same conflict that already happened years ago I met with m father at a different moment we never happened before. After I told him once again how hurt I am over how he treated me during my childhood, He acknowledged this and turned towards me and hugged me for very long. He said „now I can finally recieve your anger, I am very sorry for how I was back then. I never wanted to hurt you but I was egocentric and blinded by other things. We’ve lost some years but I hope we can find a way back to each other.“ and it really felt like something in him changed. I am super glad about that.
I think it is always a good thing to go into conflict but to really try to understand each other instead of who wants to be right.
@@Purrrrplekitty Wow that’s so powerful, thank you for sharing this 🙏🏼