The myth of self-discovery: Emily Warren at TEDxClaremontColleges
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- PhD student Emily Warren talks about the myth of "finding oneself" and how a dedication to grit & tolerance will lead to true happiness in our work and lives.
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Self discovery changed my life. Through discovering myself I found out that I had ADHD at 27 years old after suffering every single day. I got medication that changed my life. In these last few weeks I found out that I have many mild autistic traits and that I probably am autistic and now I feel for the first time that I truly know myself.
Amazing! Congratulations!
You’re no longer lost. It’s taking me a long time to discover who I really am.
@Dawson Davis I take an SNRI, not a stimulant. Yet, I think it's incorrect to say it is like speed. It's a small prescribed dose for people who need it. It's usually those who don't have to live with ADHD who say such things.
I love this talk, “pay attention to who you are and what you’re doing that path will never lead you astray”.
She's talking about what everyone talks about when they talk about finding themselves. Live in the moment etc. Go find yourself etc. It seems her confusion is semantic. She assumes that everyone 'looks out there', that our true selves are 'out there'. Basically she is saying that finding yourself is a myth, but here's how to really find yourself.....!
I felt as if she wrote her speech to target middle schoolers. My gosh, I could have wrote an essay in the time it took her to get a sentence out. She needs a class on public speaking. Were not 8 years old, however, I felt like I was sitting in a gym at a high school graduation ceremony.
So much negativity. It's wasn't terrible. I got the message. Stop focusing on finding yourself and you just might find yourself.
Just be you !
So profound and real to hear that from a person who is being honest to themselves. You are a beautiful human being, thank you for sharing.
Finding yourself is never a myth. And I personally believe that 'you' only actualize when you find your true self. There could be on self-discovery but it has never ever been a myth nor it would be. Life comes with all those twist and turns. And you only achieve greatness when you actually find who you are and what's your 'why.'
It pays to be "spiritual-centered"... "The more we search for ourselves, the less likely we are to find ourselves; and the more we search for God, and to serve our fellow-men, the more profoundly will we become acquainted with ourselves, and the more inwardly assured. This is one of the great spiritual laws of life." ~ Shoghi Effendi, Baha'i Faith
Beautiful message. It is not about doing but being. We are human beings not human doings. we must be aware to observ ourselves whithout any effort like relaxation.
Why is it that some people are instantly likable, whereas others like this lady, the first 30 seconds rule kicks in; from her micro movements to valley girl inflections, to smugness, to privileged person problems I couldn't make it past the first few minutes.
Jew talking about privilege problems
It's funny because I sensed it as soon as I seen the title. Anyone who is surface level will never know the depths of the journey of self discovery.
I thought it was just me.
She seems like she’s teaching without knowing
Yes we should 100% live in the moment, but as many of us know from going deep within, we have finally found the freedom to be ourselves again. Life is not just about grit, we have an amazing & infinite amount of love & compassion within us, so much so that once you truly feel it's all encompassing presence there is no going back to this way of thinking. The materialistic view of self winning in this world through grit and dominating presence suddenly becomes very clear to those who are finally becoming more and more enlightened. Our inner being is constantly evolving, once we connect with it our lives have the potential to literally change before our very eyes. Love and peace to all x.
Sounds like growing up... I wish I saw this when I was 19.
Has this woman every thought about that self-discovery can lead to more self confidence? I took me some self reflection to see that a lot what i did in my life was mainly to impress others. Then only i was able to find confidence in being myself rather than being 'a version of myself'.
Yeah that is what confused me and did not make sense. I think the big message of looking inward and living in the moment.
i think you dont have much knowledge on what your talking about, and i totally disagree with you saying self-discovery is a myth, maybe one day you will become awaken and you will realize that self discovery is not a myth but very real which everyone should pursue for an authentic life.
Truely worth it
Good message overall but I feel Emily has her philosophies mixed up. Being yourself in the present moment and taking full control of our bodies physiology is part of the notion of "finding yourself". Finding yourself is about finding that desire that drives you, you have passion for, something you believe in wholeheartedly thus our work becomes enjoyable every step of the way. Momentum builds and the energy to do your work becomes more readily available. Basically all Emily shared was her life experience on how she found herself.
Thanks for that comment. I actually found her annoying until I read your comment
She have not found herself yet, she just told you :-)
Wow. Thank you so much it completely makes sense! I’m enjoying my life so much more being in the moment I hear you I did the whole “finding myself ” escapism I would call it 😊 when we all have what we desire and need within and finding it only when being still. Thanks you much love 💕❤️💕❤️💕
There's so much inside us to be discovered in only a lifetime, hence we must never cease from exploration...
Very touching Ted talk. She was definitely being honest and it was felt :) A woman truly in touch with her feelings. Beautiful.
I understand what shes saying. There's a group of people that are perpetual " I need to find myself" women usually suffer the most from this but what shes saying if you guys would start from openness you'd see. that finding yourself isnt a thing its about being conscious of who you are and becoming more self aware the more you acquire about yourself the more self aware because knowing yourself requires research and ive watch these same ppl say this i need to find myself not inquire about them selves at all and act like one day it will strike them over the head.
Great points! I'm still not meditating. Amazing speech Emily. :)
WOW!! TEDS TALKS💖😻 this is really inspiring, this would really help me and keep me going 💪
I have never given a thumbs down to a TED talk ever. This talk is ridiculous and condescending. Hence, the thumbs down. 👎
Agree, she has said that we look out and not inward enough. So meaning we should look for who we are. The concept of finding ourselves is to look inward. There is no correct definition of what we should be, other than what we feel. So yes she has basically found herself.
....hehehehehehhe......
She hasn't found herself............shes just stopped looking!@!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
DesertSmeagle she found herself by stopping to look
Right here, Right NOW!
I love her realization...and it's reminder. I thought people got over trying to find themselves after the 70's but it seems never really found the present either. Most people found Target, Costco and Outlet Malls.
I thought, though her lecture was "out there" she made some valid observations. I too expect everything I do to be perfect and unless I change my way of thinking to doing the best I can, I will surely be caught in that endless cycle of putting an extraordinary amount of pressure where it doesn't need to be. Interesting.
Very rarely thumbs down a video but I found her style annoying. It looks like she is trying to fake confidence so as to convince us she knows what she is talking about. I found this void of insight whatsoever. Sorry.
crikeymos22 Same, she sounds so full of herself, "Im so atypical", "I got my shit together". No such thing as finding yourself means she found someone else to be, someone who gets attention and praise that she covets more so than being yourself and hated for it. She sounds like the girl in class that enjoys presenting too much and is hated for wasting everyone's time with the least favourite and wrong topic.
After reading your reply which brought me back to the video I watched the first 2 mins again. Surprise surprise it's even more annoying than I remember. 😄
crikeymos22 i find this as a trend for psychologist.
crikeymos22 i find this as a trend for psychologist.
Tomi Odinson I totally agree.
"Let go of the idea that you need to find yourself."
"Build your capacity for self awareness."
Antithetical ideas, both told by this 'speaker.'
PhD student lol. I feel sorry for whoever she is going to be doctor to.
she´s completely right. I agree
She's a nonsense.
I am watching this video here. Sound entering my ears..light through my eyes and reality perceived through my senses. I have come to realize that this whole world is a construct of mutual understanding of the concept 'me'. Everyone is watching and hearing from their perspectives. It is all me and you. That's discovering myself, which I did many years ago.
I feel both finding oneself and self improvement are both on going. As for dedication and tolerance leading to "true happiness " in our work and lives I disagree. You should never dedicate yourself to bein something you're not but there's nothing wrong with further educating yourself in all ways. For example: Someone loves computers and landscaping but their dedicated to their job as a sales rep. I don't think their dedication is really what makes them happy but the experience they receive from that job do benefit to the self improvement and finding oneself part
3d - ego + body (outer man/woman)
4d - soul + spirit + inner self (causal/akasha/tripartite)
5d - holy ghost/divine (sanctification)
6d - Christ/Logos/word (redemption)
7d - monad/source (atonement)
Each stage of Ascension/salvation/awakening/enlightenment entails Ego death/rebirth, baptism & circumcision. "Can't pour new wine into old wineskin".
1) self-fulfillment, 2) self-actualization, 3) self-realization & ultimately 4) individuation
Explore & Discover
Beliefs
Values
Strengths
Weaknesses
Personality
Character
Great analysis Emily.
That was 8 minutes I will never get back!
Emily; You were put on this earth to get married and have children.
The clue you will find in your biology.
I hope this saves you some time and a lot of student debt.
Useless, pretentious exercise in semantics by someone with nothing to offer, but rather pretending she has something to offer.
Also, grit was developed long ago by the first human who dug in their heals and fought adversity. It was not developed by this doctor you mentioned; observed fine, but not developed.
That's why I did the Avatar course; experimential self development, not just word-lessons
You will only find your true self in your loving creator. The Lord almighty.
Live in the moment.
So if you don't have a direction of purpose in life you should get your "grit" on?
If you don't have a purpose/direction what exactly are you applying "grit" and perseverance to? Flipping burgers?
@verifymyageful You've got it! Thanks for watching :)
So according to this young lady, finding oneself isnt knowing who you want to be but who you already are? We all have different traits that builds our personality but listen, I did not stop my developement at the time i learned how to walk, Why? Because i wanted to learn how to RUN, its called seeking something greater. I dont know how or whom gave you a phD but this only strengthened my disbelief of fake authority, she may be educated but she sure as hell lack som vital information about certain aspects of reality. Come back when youre 60, see if you stil believe this bullshit.
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Exactly, yet so many people strive to become something theyre not meant to be, or do. I wouldnt say these people have "found themselves" in a sense, in that case theyd be doing something else. Illusions of true happiness from fame, wealth and power often disrupt whats actually importaint in life, so it disrupts ones path on to what some may call "finiding yourself"
@Debra Sward Thank you! I have to remember to take it, sometimes!
Great advice!
Becoming what you are.
What about finding your unconscious fractures, the pieces of dissociated perception. These fractures are deep sores they truly send signals that add to how we percieve ourselves, others and the world at large. through psycho-therapeutic, entheogenic or any other technology of change these can be tools of self discovery that change? What about finding yourself in the sense of grounding and learning how to respond according to your true sensory impressions? I have done regressive works and know.
Advice I wish I could take.
another shout out to grade 8 st francis
The same story here! Did it work...??? still waiting for the answer!
What a confident lady! Although I don’t really agree with her.
That was nice. I agree with you. But ......I still can't end up my life in a way it should be.........I need... a solution!
Well said!
Ummm this is 'finding oneself'. It's only in the present moment that we can unplug from the rhetoric and accept ourselves outside the opinions of everything outward. so, ya, this is Finding oneself so I guess it's not a myth. It should be titled Letting go of everything else is where we find ourself here and now. Good luck.
You're so awesome
There are so many mixed messages here. I think you need to decide on which one you really want to make, or go back to English class and relearn the definitions of words. Everybody is born knowing nothing. We all have to learn about both ourselves and the environment/culture we live in. You have to look both inward and outward to learn/decide what kind of relationship needs to be developed for both you and the world to be in harmony with each other. Otherwise, both you and the world will be disappointed.
The Myth of "Resilience": Humans are so complex that we make up crazy complicated stuff to satisfy our minds. We're born resilient-that's not a special quality. Everybody that's had a childhood is resilient. The truth is, everybody has a crazy life, and the one's who are successful have learned a magical thing called "acceptance". They've accepted that they can carry on because of their crazy life, not in spite of it, and have accepted their life story. If you don't know yourself, you can't deal with anyone. That is the meaning to life: To live. Discover yourself, and you'll be able to live. That's why we love successful/famous people, because they have a strong sense of themselves. Don't just figure out your passion though, also figure out what you naturally do for people. We all have natural magnetism to what we are. A squirrel doesn't get up and ask "I wonder who I am?" it just is, and does.
I disagree with PhD student. i think there is a path for everyone who are to be find by oneself. if people are able to find about themselves then their chances of being success increases. The so called MYTH is not true and self discovery is important. i think to discover yourselves you have to take on every challenges. you might even get old doing so, but once you find it, the purpose of life is fulfilled
I disagree. Its not a mith. Every once in a while I find someone that is doing some thing that he dont like. Why? We have to know what we really think and want and not what others expect from us. Its not easy to distinguish at the beggining
I'm a PHD which means... I'M BETTER THAN YOU MINIONS HAHAHAH!!!!!
Finding your purpose in life is a myth? Ouch. This is Emily's opinion, some aspects of which are insightful and some contradicting. Creating a sense of meaning by how you live and what you do is tantamount to a sense of contentedness. You can do this while still remaining grounded in the present, without missing or not appreciating any of it.
If you want to k'now who you are? Only experiences matter, just pay attention on them, they will tell you, who you really are, in time. Also open yourself to more knowledge about, psycholgy, philosophy, even about religious, spiritual, type of knowledge, you will tank me later. And to continue my point of view, just read @Lucky you, comment down bellow, im to lazy to type more at this hour.
Check out a great newly published book called Discovering Michael by Michael James! It's a great book about a journey to self discovery, this guy has a RUclips channel too and you could get a good overview of the book. He also has a Twitter, blog, and website.
I think you have the misconception of what everyone thinks "finding themselves" is.
Exhausting
Why, can't I give this video two likes. :(
I kinda thought of a different Emily Warren when I clicked on this...
Usually I can’t follow people who talk fast but this time it’s the opposite.
Higher purpose is not the same thing as finding yourself. and neither of those are the same thing as quote unquote "metaphysics, divinity etc", which reasonable adults can debate. and not all people who "seek" truer self rely on scripture, mental wandering, cults. grit is valuable, I think hardly anyone doubts that. life is harder for some than others, privilege in various arenas of life are not equal. you seem to misunderstand what is "self discovery", which is as a term vague enough as it is... a ramble
"Finding Yourself" sounds like a very tedious topic if you lived through the 70's. It's unlikely that there's one original thing that can be said about it at this point.
she speaks of a lot of random things and end up saying nothing of an essence at all
Amithaba
Hmm.. i didn't really like the vibe of this "TED talk" tbh. It seems a bit too theatrical and rehearsed.. not really from the heart or authentic experience. I also think finding yourself is important especially in today's world where it's so easy to lose your individuality so her saying it's a myth seems umm... not quite so sensible or well informed.. Maybe finish that PhD programme first and read some more before preaching this stuff...
Take a bong rip every time she smacks her lips.
If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it? - Dogen.
+InstructorKM Porn?
+impuredeath2 DEAD
5:51 I thought she was joking when she said "As a student of psychology", I mean you don't have to be so arrogant while saying it.
Also, maybe it's just me but I couldn't focus on what exactly she is trying to deliver, she jumps from one point to another without making sense to me.
The real myth is that there is no 'self'
How so? Please elaborate, im curious.
why is she contradicting herself throughout the whole thing?
I don't find her assessment to be completely true. How can you have grit and be tolerant while letting go? Makes no sense.
That would depend on each individual's internal definitions of grit, tolerance and letting go wouldn't it?
Strif Tsal Correct. Now we're getting into shades of gray from person to person, which means we can talk until the cows come home and never really land on anything concrete. I liked everything up until she started talking about grit, tolerance, and letting go. I don't find them to compliment each other. I think her best point, which Eckhart Tolle makes so eloquently, is to allow your attention to reside in the moment.
Sounds good to me. :-)
She is living her whole life in a myth..
lmao
Okay, fine, But... you didn't need to use such a provocative outfit. Yes, I'm kidding.
Not so deep as you might think.
She is like any shumer in really bad shoes
What are you talking woman
she is annoying. but you guys are taking her too seriously... she’s joking when she brags about the phd.
Sorry, but it seem fake and kind of low-level for adults.
this lady lacks authenticity in every way. The performance all together is amateur.
Long boring short: don’t look for yourself outward, look inside.
Do all these woman speakers go to the same acting school. God get a authentic personality. Personal presentation. The cadence is so predictable.
First world problems
Oh my, I'm sleeping. If she could talk faster I would feel better. Is she reading a prompter? I'm sorry.
I don’t advise you to wear that short dress again in such stage.
I agree. Her dress should be Shorter 👀
there is some common thread of sinuous foulness uniting every TED talk...I would not want to be them at all so far
How arrogant