Therapist Shares Ways to Invest in Yourself! | How To Reclaim Your Time, Energy, and Knowledge

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  • Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024

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  • @thenerdyblackgirljournal8850
    @thenerdyblackgirljournal8850 2 года назад +87

    I agree with all this, especially the vacations! I had never really taken a vacation as an adult because I felt like I didn't have the money, but one year when I was so stressed out that I was breaking out in hives, I decided I needed a break. I pinched my pennies and took a trip to Mexico. It changed my life. I couldn't believe how much it eased my stress. Now, I look at vacations as more a necessity, and I try to take at least one each year to keep me balanced. I may have already posted this comment on this channel, but....oh well. It's important to me. 🙃

  • @___shaishayshae__
    @___shaishayshae__ 2 года назад +173

    This has come at a really good time. I recently had a breakup and it was a little harder than I thought it would be, but it’s better now by the Grace of God.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +15

      I’m so glad that you’re doing better ♥️

    • @Bigtime3245
      @Bigtime3245 2 года назад +1

      @@StephAnya how can I book a session

    • @kembachristopher6608
      @kembachristopher6608 2 года назад +5

      Awe, sorry to see that you are having a hard time now, always remember that joy cometh in the morning. Take time and heal yourself.

    • @geeandy8918
      @geeandy8918 2 года назад

      @@StephAnya I must admit you are very pretty

    • @alinespindola2428
      @alinespindola2428 2 года назад +2

      Omg, Im in Thais exact situation

  • @alysonemery5147
    @alysonemery5147 2 года назад +45

    You may have already, but would you consider doing a video on how to choose good people (friends, romantic parters, even family) for your circle? Looking to build healthy relationships to have a solid community, but half the time I seem to invest too much into the wrong people without even realizing it.
    I love your channel, and this video especially I will have on replay! Happy belated birthday! 🎊

  • @this_mundane_life
    @this_mundane_life 2 года назад +53

    Very helpful tips. I realised the energy draining interactions a year ago and put a stop on them. It was difficult for me to say no to friends at first but then I realised it wasn't worth wasting my time and energy. I definitely need to invest in energizing myself. Will definitely schedule time slots for exercise and meditation

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +6

      So glad you recognized that! That can be the hardest thing to identify and address. I hope you're able to continue building on your energy as you said with exercise and meditation.

    • @jhorjielovepierre7634
      @jhorjielovepierre7634 2 года назад +1

      Same I’ve been crying since😰😰 I have no strength to do anything

    • @this_mundane_life
      @this_mundane_life 2 года назад +2

      @@StephAnya any tips on how to stay consistent? Would love to hear you talk about building good habits/ keeping yourself motivated.

    • @this_mundane_life
      @this_mundane_life 2 года назад +1

      @@jhorjielovepierre7634 you can do it. Start with small steps first and build on them. Sending a virtual hug to you.😊

  • @postwoman1802
    @postwoman1802 2 года назад +17

    Hi, please can you do a video on support systems, and how to be your own support system when you have none, thank you

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      Great video idea! Thank you.

  • @rprawl3185
    @rprawl3185 2 года назад +13

    You’ve become my new bestie! This is liberating for me and this is a confirmation of what I’ve been feeling for a while now. I welcome positive changes in my life and I’m happy I’ve found content that speaks to the change I want to see within myself. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @incredibledorster5207
    @incredibledorster5207 2 года назад +5

    Man, I really needed to hear this. There is a lot of truth in how certain relationships can impact our energy levels. My coworkers at my internship give me the cold shoulder and I've been jumping through hoops on trying to build a relationship with them. Why should I even put my energy into a relationship that won't even bloom? Time to reclaim my energy and say goodbye to all those people/things who only bring me down. I need to focus on me and who I am as a person and stop letting others define my self-worth in this world.

  • @4hinson777
    @4hinson777 2 года назад +20

    Needless to say, YES! It's all important energy, tme and knowledge. Appreciate how you display how *investing in oneself* can pay off even in education. Well deserved! 👨‍🎨👩‍🎨🥳

    • @4hinson777
      @4hinson777 2 года назад

      Thanks Steph ... Like you say, "What's on your mind?" 😃

  • @seeyeah5172
    @seeyeah5172 2 года назад +8

    This couldn't have come at a better time. Do you have any tips on how someone can have fun or "learn how to play" again?

    • @lovelylinda8891
      @lovelylinda8891 2 года назад

      Try rollerblading, go to a carnival, play a claw game for stuffed animals, do a jigsaw puzzle solo, fingerpaint and make a mess, watch a Muppets movie, revisit your favorite childhood place.

  • @nwabalisa2674
    @nwabalisa2674 2 года назад +5

    I am watching (actually listening) to this as I am busy studying for a course which will assist me in applying for a promotion at work.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      Love to hear it! Good luck with your promotion. You've got it :)

  • @Tctiffany
    @Tctiffany 2 года назад +7

    i love how well you explain everything and don't go crazy with too much detail. this is amazing, thanks a ton!

  • @RayneWalker
    @RayneWalker 2 года назад +2

    I wish that I could get ready at night for the next day 😆 I'm not a morning person either, and I end up skipping makeup or doing my hair how I'd actually like it to be because I'm too tired in the moment and then feel bad about myself for the rest of the day.

  • @katiefountain2407
    @katiefountain2407 2 года назад +5

    Great video. One's energy and time are the most valuable things you will ever own in life..

  • @ElectrikUnicorn
    @ElectrikUnicorn 2 года назад +4

    I've been having major issues with keeping myself consistent with the investment I put towards myself....I have a lot of legal issues and family relationship issues due to the legal complications along with intimate relationship issues that affect the way that I feel about myself....I lost the the ability to balance out the guilt I feel and the confidence I used to feel for myself to achieve anything....I looked into my job for therapy today ironically enough lol it really is a blessing to see you today. Thank you for being so knowledgeable and compassionate 💖💖💖

  • @Gugx
    @Gugx 2 года назад +7

    I’m excited to watch this, so needed! I’m writing a comment while waiting for adverts to go by. thank you in advance 🙏🏽
    Love from South Africa 🇿🇦

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +1

      Love right back to you ♥️

  • @rmy_Youtube
    @rmy_Youtube 2 года назад +11

    Loved this video and how the tips were doable/realistic!! Also, happy belated birthday!! 😊

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +3

      Glad you think so!! And thank you! ♥️

  • @jend7390
    @jend7390 2 года назад +6

    I'm a recent subscriber, and I'm so glad I have! What grabbed my attention initially was your video on trauma, and the different ways trauma can affect individuals. I've had TRMCD for most of my life, and almost everything you brought up in your video, was like you were describing me! Thank you so soo much for what you do!! I'm going to learn more about making myself a priority, and try to learn self love. Hopefully with your assistance, and my (who I've come to call "my dream team") Healthcare providers, I can learn more about how to be the best me I can be!! 💕

  • @Misscrissy00
    @Misscrissy00 2 года назад +1

    Good Morning! So many Gems! Thank you for the ex. Very helpful for me.

  • @yuurei_ender
    @yuurei_ender 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for these explanations, it really can be helpful to go through depression and to study properly, to be more productive and feel less guilty (sorry if my english is not perfect)

  • @AEK113
    @AEK113 2 года назад +7

    I love your videos! You have a really calm energy that I really appreciate. ❤️
    Would you be able to do a video analyzing the couples from The Ultimatum? I loved the video you did on Love is Blind couples!

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +2

      Thank you! I’ve heard such bad things about the show. Do you think I’d enjoy watching it?

  • @kayrawlins7719
    @kayrawlins7719 2 года назад +4

    Welcome back Steph. You look so beautiful 😍❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +1

      Aw 🥺 Thank you so much♥️

  • @JonathanS-ki8zn
    @JonathanS-ki8zn Год назад

    Another excellent video! I feel that value can be added to one's life without costing money. Investing time, investing energy, and investing in better ways to manage life, including reaching out to others. Many thanks that you are part of RUclips University!

  • @mikyahalbena-yasharal3387
    @mikyahalbena-yasharal3387 2 года назад +2

    Greetings Mrs. Steph! You have helped me so much; now let me help you. You mentioned, when you go to sleep, that you put EarPods, in your ear. I recommend that you do the research on Bluetooth frequencies close to the brain, and how they affect you? Also, how it may interfere with your equilibrium. Now, an alternative could be 1. If your husband enjoys listening to music too, to put it on the lowest volume possible, and place it on your nightstand. Or 2. Put it on the lowest volume possible, and stuff it underneath your pillow(s). 3. A third option, could be a wired earbud type.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +2

      Thank you for the tips. I actually said “ear plugs,” but I have been falling asleep to audiobooks with my AirPods recently and I keep the volume very low. I really appreciate your concern and thanks for watching!

  • @ajalomaureen4738
    @ajalomaureen4738 2 года назад +1

    I just love how bright she looks..

  • @Sweet.Mari26
    @Sweet.Mari26 2 года назад +4

    Hi Steph! Thank you so much for creating your RUclips channel. ✨💛 The series of different therapy models have been so helpful for my upcoming internship. Is there any possibility you can do role plays for each modality too? It would help solidify one’s visual & hands-on learning to observe and see it practically done 😊 Blessings from Canada!

  • @iampstylesss
    @iampstylesss 2 года назад +2

    This has come at a great time. Thank you for your positive energy & genuine advices 🙌🏾🙏🏾 I Absolutely love your “What’s ANYA Mind?” That’s Genius #new Sub ❤️

  • @JusFallinForYouAgain
    @JusFallinForYouAgain 2 года назад +18

    This was an incredible lesson. Thank you. I consider sharing some of these wonderful thoughts &ideas with my middle school students.
    Peace & love ❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +3

      Thanks for sharing! They're at the perfect age to start developing these habits.

  • @Imjustthatgracegurll
    @Imjustthatgracegurll 2 года назад +2

    This was a really amazing and helpful video! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us! I have been struggling lately and I wanted answers and tips on how to make changes and your video was incredibly informative! ❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      So glad that you found it helpful! ♥️

  • @wesb.8491
    @wesb.8491 2 года назад +3

    Yes! This came right on time. 🙌💜

  • @lovelybrowngirls1673
    @lovelybrowngirls1673 2 года назад +2

    Wow, this video is amazing and quite timely for where I am in life, such a wealth of advice, thank you.

  • @oursunflowerliving
    @oursunflowerliving 2 года назад +2

    Perfect timing 💜

  • @JuiceJonesCreates.
    @JuiceJonesCreates. 2 года назад

    These were some spot-on suggestions. Definitely need to exercise some of this in my life.

  • @lauray.alston4225
    @lauray.alston4225 11 месяцев назад

    Good afternoon I started following you a few months back you have been giving me tips, help me to learn what to do on my relationship and personal life. But I have a small question, how could I maintain myself happier, energetic with me been a mom of a toddler, wife and work a full time job.
    Have a wonderful day hope to see a video of tips or anything regarding this matter

  • @bethanijade6867
    @bethanijade6867 2 года назад +5

    I love watching your videos and learning about relationships and imagining the kind of person that I want to attract. But this video is a great little power pack of tips that I can work on right now as a single person. Thanks for giving me the hot girl summer road map 💕

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +1

      Haha! I love that. Enjoy your hot girl summer 🔥

  • @NothingButJoyRadio
    @NothingButJoyRadio 2 года назад +2

    Hey Steph! I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and I need your advice. My partner told me they were severely insecure with themselves (physically, mentally, emotionally) and it severely effects their confidence. They see themselves as a “lone wolf” but in conversation speak about how they know they need their close friends in their life, even tho they push them away.
    Also, It took time but through your video I learned they have an “abandonment attachment style”. During the earlier mentioned conversation they revealed they suffer with abandonment issues from their family and as a result they feel inadequate.
    Looking back on my actions, there have been moments when I haven’t reassured him in the way he needed it (by trying to give solutions and not listening) and I don’t want to make the same mistakes.
    I don’t know how to fully support him and wanted to reach out for any advice you may have.
    (His love language is Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.)

  • @shelbypost3234
    @shelbypost3234 2 года назад +3

    I could use these tips too!!

  • @NDObeats
    @NDObeats 2 года назад +8

    Great video! This gives me some things to reflect on. Also, congratulations on over 100K subscribers!

  • @kembachristopher6608
    @kembachristopher6608 2 года назад

    Great points! I've also learned that adding positive connotations can help, too.

  • @nadiarambles
    @nadiarambles 2 года назад +5

    I loved this! The comments about making more time for things that align with your purpose really struck me. New subscriber here. 🥰

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +2

      Welcome!! 🤗♥️

    • @nadiarambles
      @nadiarambles 2 года назад

      @@StephAnya Thank you! 🧡🧡

  • @dulcesantos1679
    @dulcesantos1679 2 года назад

    Thanks a lot for this video and your advise, there are definitely some things that resonate with me and I appreciate listening to them. I’ve got some thinking and reflecting to do. 💕

  • @samdube6337
    @samdube6337 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this video!
    I've recently started picking my life back up after years of MI, and investing in myself has been a big part of that

  • @ShawnaTress88
    @ShawnaTress88 2 года назад +1

    Really enjoyed this video, your energy and light is so Vibrant! Love the information, definitely needed tools that will help me invest in well in to myself on this journey to living my most bestest life. YESSS SIS!!🙌🏾✨💛

  • @briana14333
    @briana14333 2 года назад

    Yes! Thanks Steph!
    And happy belated! xo

  • @CozyToni
    @CozyToni Год назад

    This is wonderful advice, thank you so much! 🥰

  • @aaliyahahmed9112
    @aaliyahahmed9112 Год назад

    This is one of my fav conversations with you girl I love love ur mind it's beautiful n so are u

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  Год назад

      Aw thank you so much ♥️

  • @payingless4more
    @payingless4more 2 года назад

    I’m so happy to be a subscriber! I look forward to your videos♥️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      So happy to have you here! 🤗

  • @MoonSparkles11
    @MoonSparkles11 2 года назад +2

    I’m hoping I can get something from this video I just recently became a single mom and I’m definitely struggling

  • @mariafernandasaucedo7903
    @mariafernandasaucedo7903 2 года назад +1

    Awesome video! What are good ways to restructure friendships that drain your energy but you want to salvage?

  • @_sammydb
    @_sammydb 2 года назад +2

    Hi! I’d love to share this to my IG stories. Would you ever consider doing a snippet of your videos and posting them as reels to IG? I think your videos are so helpful, I just want them to reach more people! 😊

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      I'm still trying to figure out the reel thing! That's a great idea. Thank you for wanting to share!

  • @eddiephyo1677
    @eddiephyo1677 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing. This is such an amazing video

  • @empreenergy3376
    @empreenergy3376 2 года назад

    over 90 days means a new habit is formed❤

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare 2 года назад

    I found this content fascinating and informative. Thanks for sharing 👍

  • @natashanicole3642
    @natashanicole3642 2 года назад

    This video made me 😭,thank you❤️!!!

  • @divinelyguided1144
    @divinelyguided1144 2 года назад +1

    Awesome video thank you 🙏🏾

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      Thanks for watching!

  • @teamlovepanda
    @teamlovepanda 2 года назад

    Subscribed this is my first time watching your content. Amazing 👏🏽 tips thank you 😊

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      Thank you for subscribing! ♥️

  • @jessek-9scentdetectiontrai10
    @jessek-9scentdetectiontrai10 2 года назад +2

    Beautiful Smile ❤😍

  • @awazijaafaru7936
    @awazijaafaru7936 Год назад

    Thank you sm ! This was super helpful 💓

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  Год назад

      Aw so happy to hear that!

  • @j.b.3235
    @j.b.3235 2 года назад +2

    Great tip's ❤️

  • @naeemjai968
    @naeemjai968 2 года назад

    Thank you.

  • @NurseRatched-k7c
    @NurseRatched-k7c 2 года назад +1

    Thank youuuuu!!

  • @karti-soor
    @karti-soor 2 года назад

    I enjoy jogging, in the morning: And swimming 🏊 on monthly basis.. Due to work commitments..

  • @GorillaTactix
    @GorillaTactix 2 года назад +2

    CoPilot sounds dope. Just got my trial.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +1

      I hope you love it!

  • @rickeshahinton4829
    @rickeshahinton4829 2 года назад

    I loved this

  • @zackariasbesson2824
    @zackariasbesson2824 2 года назад

    Hej, I'm new to you channel and really love it, but I was wondering if you could do a video about disabilities and relationships? I have severe ADHD and I'm terrified to even approach potential relationships and the once that I have had were messy. I'm trying to gather as much information as possible so I can approach it in a good way.

  • @erisaratv12
    @erisaratv12 2 года назад

    Thank you x

  • @PriscillaMB
    @PriscillaMB 2 года назад

    Such a great video!! ☺️☺️

  • @simplyrosalinda
    @simplyrosalinda 2 года назад

    when it comes to finding resources on learning something new (like finances) or hiring someone (for fitness or health), how can you discern reliable sources from unreliable/misinformational sources?

  • @keelaw6749
    @keelaw6749 2 года назад

    Great video! ❤️

  • @aleropopo1389
    @aleropopo1389 2 года назад

    Do you enjoy being an LMFT I studied family science in college but was hesitant to pursue a further degree in family therapy

  • @traceym.8371
    @traceym.8371 2 года назад

    Can you please share the app that you are using to track your sleep ?

  • @NatySpaghetti
    @NatySpaghetti 2 года назад

    I have a question regarding this issue. I already invest in myself l, I have improved a lot of areas in my life,.like the ones you mentioned, but I can't seem to improve on my self promotion and dedication to actually having a good portfolio, which is essential in my careers. I have tried to tackle this issue so many times but I don't know what stops me. I know I have the tools, but it just doesn't flow, ive tried agendas, clases, therapy, it's something I just can't get the ball rolling for some reason.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад

      Hi! I’m glad to hear that you’ve been investing in yourself Are you sure that this is the career that you want?

  • @User91050
    @User91050 2 года назад

    In light of the last season of Ozarks on Netflix. Can you review the relationship between Marty and Wendy and give a guessed diagnosis of Wendy. Season 4 episode 13 is a great depiction of Wendy acting insane. *Spoiler Alert* There is a scene where they get into a car crash and it looks like Wendy pretends to be dead for a second to see her family's reaction. What are your oppinions on this kind of behavior?

  • @welikelethabo
    @welikelethabo 2 года назад +1

    2:17
    What apps do you use for sleep ?

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 года назад +4

      You can use your smart watch if you have one, but we took the plunge and got a Sleep Number bed that has an app that tells me my sleep rating and if I was restless. I’m sure there are other ways to get those metrics too.

  • @lisadukes6471
    @lisadukes6471 2 года назад

    🔥🔥🔥📖👑💒🛐🕊🔥🙏🏻very true 🙏🏽🙏🏼🔥

  • @shannonwilliams62
    @shannonwilliams62 2 года назад

    #AD

  • @Thewizardofizm
    @Thewizardofizm 2 года назад

    What’s hatnin baby welcome to me

  • @dhqbrandi
    @dhqbrandi 2 года назад

    Personal question. … Have you had a sleep study?

  • @theearkandcovenantofbeauty4685
    @theearkandcovenantofbeauty4685 2 года назад

    🥰💯

  • @melissathatcher7164
    @melissathatcher7164 2 года назад +2

    If you value sleep, don't ever have kids 😆

  • @williguelpa6597
    @williguelpa6597 2 года назад

    🙌 ᑭяỖmo𝓼𝐦