32:31 Listening again. This piece here is a really big deal for me. My Trauma has partly been to have to take care of other people's emotional needs and identify with their values instead of my own. So, I have internalized this and I have a stress response when someone around me has a negative reaction to my state/values/activities/thots/etc. Fight/flight/freeze happens automatically. When I'm in Therapy, there is an expectation that my Therapist is getting paid to not have emotional needs but instead to hold space for my own. This compensates for an impoverishment of it in my outside world quite nicely and I can learn new (or remember old) skills for sharing myself in a non-stressed way. But I still need skills in moderately-stressed sharing to take home to my primary relationships. If this expectation were to be changed, I'd need to know about that up front. Then I could deepen my self-awareness and presencing to myself to meet the challenge.
I just read the article for this video & I think I already watched the video a while ago, I start my IPS course soon so will watch it again :) I hope I can pass this course as I have had some mental health problems and take medication.
Very sobering to hear this ladies experience. We feel that we’ve come on as a society, in understanding mental health, but yet we still treat people with mental illness as incapacitated and second class citizens. We’ve still a long way to come.
Oh my gosh honey! Thank-you for speaking up!!!!! Your words are so powerful. You are a blessing! Have you heard of Dr. Gabor Mate? I think you and him could be an amazing duo, and help many people.
Thank you Shery Mead for making Intentional Peer Support possible and being part of the transformation of the mental health system.
Beautifully written. Beautifully reasoned.
32:31
Listening again.
This piece here is a really big deal for me. My Trauma has partly been to have to take care of other people's emotional needs and identify with their values instead of my own. So, I have internalized this and I have a stress response when someone around me has a negative reaction to my state/values/activities/thots/etc. Fight/flight/freeze happens automatically.
When I'm in Therapy, there is an expectation that my Therapist is getting paid to not have emotional needs but instead to hold space for my own. This compensates for an impoverishment of it in my outside world quite nicely and I can learn new (or remember old) skills for sharing myself in a non-stressed way. But I still need skills in moderately-stressed sharing to take home to my primary relationships.
If this expectation were to be changed, I'd need to know about that up front. Then I could deepen my self-awareness and presencing to myself to meet the challenge.
thats tremendous self awareness
Wonderful, a very inspiring talk.
I just read the article for this video & I think I already watched the video a while ago, I start my IPS course soon so will watch it again :) I hope I can pass this course as I have had some mental health problems and take medication.
Very sobering to hear this ladies experience. We feel that we’ve come on as a society, in understanding mental health, but yet we still treat people with mental illness as incapacitated and second class citizens. We’ve still a long way to come.
thankyou for this, it reflects in so many ways experiences of myself and others I had the opportunity to walk alongside ,
Shery Mead, I love, love, love, love, absolutely LOVE your spirit, your drive, your faith, your getting well and staying well.
You are a beautiful human. Thank you so much for sharing.
Oh my gosh honey! Thank-you for speaking up!!!!! Your words are so powerful. You are a blessing! Have you heard of Dr. Gabor Mate? I think you and him could be an amazing duo, and help many people.
Reminds me of Charles Whitfield.
Thankyou ❤
that was so amazing and powerful... thnk u
Awesome, thank you.
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