God also places us into a narcissistic relationship to strengthen us for spiritual battles. Like a sword which is purified 7 times for battle. It's a super power and without it - the armour of god is not as effective during our encounters with the evil from high places in the modern world. Thank you Paula and you might not fully realise yet, how much your videos are helping Gods children fight back in these days ❤ Our salvation can only be through the messiah - Jesus Christ 🙏
Very well said @jonbessant3490. As painful as this experience has been, I have learned so many lessons about myself and other people that I needed to learn Gid was always with me in the midst. Sometimes God will hit you with a pebble to get your attention. Then it's a rock. Then finally he hits you with a brick and voila you finally listen and see! Now you become wiser and stronger and use the discernment that God has given you more of moving forward. Be strong and Courageous. You can do it. I did it. Don't look back, you are not going that way! Much love and hope and peace for us all.
You can't learn more about humanity and your intrinsic value until you've been completely shattered and broken whole by someone who separated from humanity.
Yes, I'm educated now with a great lot of help I was so naive. At 14 years old he was 16. The mask was on from day one. 53: years later I realised there is evil in the world.
@@dianahogg6164 Been trying to wake a friend of mine up for years in that same situation. They met young. Some people just accept that life. They are blinded to their own suffering because it’s all they know.
You put that perfectly. Little did we know when we were children that we would not fully know ourselves until after being exposed to living with a narc. They come in, they destroy, steal, lie, deceive, crush, squash, fake, ruin, and then leave. You're left in ruins and you have to find your way back to life. Thanks to understanding and educated people like Paula, we eventually figure things out and get on with life. Thanks for posting.
I drew my spiritual sword against my malignant narcissist mother 4 years ago, when I was 56. It took me 5 1/2 decades, but I finally reached that point when I'd had enough! She did something so heinous I could no longer make excuses for her behavior. Something deep inside me knew that she would never, ever change. At that moment, I knew I had no other option than to walk away forever. It's still sad to me, but I am finding my peace!
That's what happened between my husband and I after close to four decades together. God showed me who this man really is, and he had absolutely no remorse for his heinous behavior. Glad you have found your peace 🤗
Yes, I did the same thing against my fiancé. Each day he was getting more and more abusive. I finally after 14 years had enough when he started having one of his temper tantrums and started destroying my things. This was when I yelled “do not disrespect me!” It was loud and emphatic but I could not sit back quietly and say nothing as I had in the past. l was then met by the shear narcissistic rage and he punched me hard in my face. I thought he may have broken my jaw. He ran out saying he was going to tell everyone he did this in self defense. So wrong! All I did was yell and finally advocate for myself. So I made an emergency call and the police came arrested him and locked him up for 4 days. This gave me time to move out. So hard, so painful, and so disappointing. That day I made a choice and did not let him get away with attacking me.
I realized I was tortured from a very early age. It has been really difficult to accept. Grieving my life as a scapegoat. Your talks are excellent Thankyou 🙏
Trust me, Satan knows when we are born who we belong to. I also believe this part of the reason they draw so much blood from babies. Gods names is coded into our DNA. And our blood is life and our energy is vitality. I believe when they speak of vampires in ancient times, they were speaking of narcissists. They drain the energy out of us but only when they have tortured and abused us do they siphon that energy. That’s why the create so much chaos. Also, if they were to get a taste of your body, they will unalive you. Our energy is what they can get away with without breaking the law. My ex licked my blood when I had a cut. Seriously! He sucked my finger when I accidentally cut myself and he sucked hard that it hurt. I snatched my finger away. He would so called playfully bite my neck area and I would push him away. And I kid you not, he had to beauty marks that looked like a vampire bite.
I drew my sword after i cried out to God in my bedroom ( we had separate rooms) he was extremely abusive verbally and threatening to ruin my property and take from me everything I worked hard for. I knew I could was dealing with demons through the narc and that I had to stop this. That night i took my freedom and he was arrested and removed. From there im moving fast, no contact and feeling like I got back my life! All the Glory to Jesus ❤️thank you Paula, I have been steady watching your videos and its so good to know how to navigate through the mess they made. But i feel positive and sleep so well. An evil entity (s) have left!
@@kathrynhogan3387 I just felt as if the narc had more than one. He even looked like a demon. On the Bible it talks about a man that was possessed by legions of demons. I just know the Holy Spirit gave me the discernment to know that the narc eas demonic
My sword against narcissists is to put on the full armour of God and pray for his protection as I walk through the valley of the shadow where narcissists live…which is the world. To not have his protection is like wandering out into utter darkness. To have his light is to find your way out of that darkness. To have his light and a relationship with God is to keep narcissist or demon filled vessels away from me. I notice the difference when I don’t pray for God’s protection. It says in the Bible that the enemy is like a lion seeking whom he may devour and he comes to kill, steal, and destroy. There is nothing else that can protect you from these creatures. Resist the devil and he will flee. The name of Jesus, they are afraid of the name alone. ❤
I drew my sword after weeks of devaluing behavior. He left the room to check his “Likes” on social media. In those few minutes he was on the computer, an inner voice told me, “Just leave. Just walk out. You don’t even really like him.” I said out loud in a very pleasant voice as I walked down the hall, “I have to get going now”. He followed me out to my car, saying he loved me. I pleasantly said that I loved him too. (I was just trying to pretend all was well) I got in my car, drove home, blocked him. Never saw him again after that day. That was 5 years ago. Of course I experienced Hoovers that I ignored . I didn’t know what he was or what full no contact was at that time but, when I experienced an unexpected Hoover, I blocked that avenue. I have been in full no contact regime since then.
Good for you! My situation was similar except he lived with me. But he knew I was done! He's been blocked in every way for almost 5 yrs! Keep moving forward & don't look back - ever!
I left the Narc 14 years ago. Haven't dated. Was doing quite well until about 6 years ago when extreem fatigue set in. I've been a giver and server all my life and find myself feeling useless and having lost friends because I am not able to do things as I used to. I feel my identity is lost. It's a journey to find my worth when I feel totally unworthy. But, God is good and will bring me through.
I am so sorry for your difficulties with fatigue. Being human is hard, and I am finding that being a giving, empathic, and highly sensitive person contributes to life’s fatigue. I am still pushing through healing after drawing my sword against 3 decades of mistreatment by a covert narcissist. It seems I am feeling better for awhile, then will slide back into something close to despair. I feel very isolated in this journey except for this RUclips channels fellow survivors. Thank you for your truthful comment, as it’s not all an instant healing once we take our stand for ourselves. Keep moving forward day by day and I pray you will find complete peace and healing in time. Be good to yourself and grant yourself lots of grace, because you ARE worthy! And thanks for your honesty. It helped me today. ❤️
I can truly sympathize! My friendly advice would be to get some general bloodwork done, but especially focus on your thyroid levels. It is VERY common to develop autoimmune disorders after long-term abuse (ask me how I know!!), and that will often show up initially as greatly diminished energy and worsening fatigue. Ideally, look for someone who approaches things like this from a holistic approach, because they are much, much more likely to connect the dots and give you the correct diagnosis and treatment, etc. Wishing you health and healing! ❤️
@@susancrank1587 Thank you so much for your recommendations Susan! I have had blood work done 3 times in the last 3 years. They find nothing. No cancer, autoimmune etc. I went to a naturalpath for a year. He was not able to help. Completely drained my savings. At this point I'm believeing for a miracle and also doing as much natural remedies and eating organic and gmo free foods as far as possible. God bless! I appreciate your kind response and also emphasize with you. ❤️
Yes ! I had a Narcissistic Mom,and finally after 66 yrs. I walked away, now I live in peace, she never changed, I gave her, chances ,that maybe she would change and never did it became worst, so for myself, I had to walk away from her,now I live in peace, she was physically, mentally, abusive to me growing up,after 66yrs. I walked away for good.she was jealous of me ,but never treated my Brother's like just me ,the only Daughter.
He never gave me compliments, but critized. For example, i bought a nice skirt, and he told me, I didnt have nice enough legs! I felt terrible. Iam skinny and cant gain weight as im constantly under stress. I believed him that maybe I did look terrible showing my legs. He never touched me or consoled me when I cried over missing my kids and would blame me for them nit calling me. When the truth is my children hate him and saw his alcoholism and how we fought. Its been a nightmare for over 20 yrs. He's robbed me of a life and wants me to die. I have wished id die. But today its day 5 i got him out of my house due to his alcoholic and narcissistic abuse. I had to call police and i will never let him back! Im getting a Peace Bond and I ve never felt better with him gone. I feel good and haven't cried.
Don't believe it. You probably have very nice legs. Mine used to tell me I had a lousy ass, but I know better because i've been complimented on it. Stay strong sister. People in these comments are the strongest people on the earth!
Yes!! Trust yourself!!! He will say anything to get you back and destroy you! Trust God and Jesus! He has a plan for you. A better life awaits you! You are finally free! Use what you have learned to discern other narcissists or demons. Satan will come for you. In Matthew 16:23, Jesus says to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me. For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man".
I made a clear decision to escape my narcissist mother. She came to my house and started with her usual aggressive behaviour. I told her straight, she couldn't behave this way in my home, and threw her out of my house. I haven't had any further contact with her since.
I asked my mom once, “Why do I draw these women to be friends who turn out to be toxic?” She said, “It’s because you are too nice.” I am learning & your channel has helped me much! As a Highly Sensitive Person & an Empath I am a target for these disturbed people. Thank you❤
Over time you will learn to put your emotions in check when you’re around people. You will learn this is vital to you & your own healthy existence. If YOU do not learn how to put up emotional boundaries this behavior from other people WILL CONTINUE. Being so nice, open , honest & truthful right from the moment you first meet someone SHOWS people how vulnerable you are & in today’s evil world, that will work against you every time.
Yes me too, my ma would say jealousy also which I never understood as I'm not a jealous person or friend, thanks for the comment it helped, God bless and thanks to Paula for a safe space to share this horrible horrible but life changing experience ❤
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I am constantly being deliberately damaged here by the Narcissist, who is my legal husband of 41 years and father of our five daughters. He harms our family all the time by lying about me to our children and other family members, which is very painful for me and also so harmful to our children, who deserve so much better than this. I have always tried to protect my children from his mental health issues, which are demonic in nature because he lies constantly and slanders and harms people on purpose, which he gets great satisfaction from. To see his joy after knowing he harmed you, is very painful and very hard to recover from. I am trying to be able to afford more trauma counseling. I really need this. Any Women of God reading this. I covet your prayers. God bless you.
Married mine 1983. Many children couldn’t get out. Didn’t realize until2018 who he was. A tragedy. I prayed a lot still do. It is my life line. Let’s pray for each other.
Prayer is a powerful tool. Empower and educate your children on narcissism so they can get out. This a test and you will overcome it. I pray God protects you and helps you get the help you need.🤲♥️
Been grateful since finding her channel too. Another good one here. Just sharing one. It’s Narcissist Chronicles with Coach Jesse. I think these content creators went to the same war college.
Ive just realized my ex alienated my adult daughter when she was a child. His grandmother alieniated him from his mother. And now im alienated from my grandchildren. Being with a narcissist has consequences
Narcissism is all about separation. They're playing out separation generationally. They've separated from humanity; from God. I'm alienated from our 4 adult children for 13 yrs now. GBY 🙏
To reproduce with a narcissist is to reproduce with a tare. The Wheat and tare may grow together but aren’t meant to crossbreed. The result it majority of tare offspring and minority wheat offspring that would be tortured just the same as we were. “Should two walk together, unless they’re equally yoked?” I think it was God’s protection when he took my 2 unborn babies him via miscarriages. They for sure would’ve been empaths those narcissists would’ve hurt them. I would’ve probably unalived the narcissists if I ever witness them harm a child. They are also sex predators that would sexually ruin anything with a pulse. PDFiles if you catch my drift.
I started preparing to leave or heal us two years ago. I drew closer to God and received my prayer tongue last September. Praying in the Spirit is the BEST kept secret in Christianity. Little by little I e gotten stronger. I'm healing. And I drew my spiritual sword Saturday evening (day before yesterday). Things are crazy today, but I feel the power of the Lord raining on me and through me. He does, too. I'm believing for a miracle because I've never experienced anything like this before. May God bless everyone who reads this message. Amen.
A month and a half ago, I set more boundaries because the narc was so intrusive to my well being and sleep deprivation. When I moved to sleeping in the spare room, i told narc, "When I'm in my bedroom, you cannot come in." I had to reinforce my boundries several times, which always led to anger and argument ----- all because i demanded my privacy, sleep, health and well being. I tnink the narc wanted me to resort to alcohol or suicide. Thats how bad it gets, and one just cannot function...
@@user56gghtfI'm working on it! I've been severely damaged, and haven't gone off my property for a year or more, and that's isolatio personified. Thank you for your kind words.
@@grizzleegurr7421 🥺🧸💕You're welcome. yes that is isolation. But you're still alive. You're not done yet. Move in silence and strategically. I pray God protects you.
That was a glorious teaching Paula! I needed that so so so much! Today was a painful day dealing with the narc; but God turned it for good for me by listening to you today! This is the beginning of me using the” sword of the spirit” to try again! I won’t give up! With God all things are possible!! Your teaching woke me up today and comforted me! You bless me a lot! Remy is so funny& cute! Keep these necessary teaching coming! God bless us all!🙏
About 2 years ago I drew my sword but subconsciously. I see it now very clearly. I had cancer 6 years ago and survived. I know now he would have preferred I died so he would have gotten very rich from my death. I survived and changed as I stripped off the layers of who others wanted me to be. When he left me this year, he said he hasn't been happy since I had cancer. Whoppie do 😂 doing inner child work now to heal ❤❤ love how you provide guidance. Thank you
Congratulations on getting rid of the cancer of the narcissist and it sounds like that could be why you got sick in the first place. In my experience once I was away from the narcissist I started to heal from the physical ailments right away. I hope the same for you. It's proven that they cause others illnesses that manifest in the body from the narcissistic abuse. Best to you 🙏
When I had a dream where in I was in the narcs home, he had a beautiful tree in his living room, full of large beautiful red apples, he offered me one, and he cut the apple up and placed it on a plate and gave it to me, as i looked at the cut up apple on the plate in front of me it was full of worms and bugs!
I never had a pleasant dream of the narcissist. Even before I ever met him in person, God gave me a warning and showed me how life would be with the narcissist. I woke up hyperventilating and I told the narcissist about the dream he assured me it was just a dream. That dream became my reality when I left my country to move with him in his. The every same behaviour. Every dream that I have had since knowing has been full of evil, lies, deception, and even my own mother that passed away weeping for me to leave the narcissist. Dreams of trying to revive dead babies which is symbolic for trying to save a dead relationship. Dreams about the narcissistic ex being on trial and my dead brother being the judge and my dead mom being my attorney. Dreams of his phone and it being full of porn and nude pics of women. I never got into that home ever again to confirm this, but given the dreams I have had regarding him, I think that’s exactly what that phone was.
Dear Paula, I was done when my enter voice told me not to let him take me to his level. It is a strange time to explain. It is when all red flags are flying, your whole body is on high alert, and you know it is the end, the friendship is non fixable. I believe in angels.
Unfortunately not being aware I was in a narcissistic marriage, I attempted initiating an amicable divorce so he orchestrated my arrest and i left in a paddy wagon. If only i had come across this knowledge sooner. At any rate, I am now free of this demon and truly happier. Just battling a protracted divorce, but that too shall pass
Thank you Paula and Remy ! So happy to see you both ! Been 5 years now , thru the pain barrier and yes , life is so different , peaceful , found my purpose , joy . The journey is so painful but so worth it ! A new and shining life ! And I have my life experience , love and wisdom to share with others . I am so delighted to see how many subscribers you have now Paula , I have been following you from the very beginning, you are helping so many of us .
By FAR hands down one of your BEST videos. Everything you said resonated with my being!!! Thank you! Our purpose is life is to VIBRATE High and SHINE as much as we can, it is NO accident why we attract so many NARCs into our lives. Narcs are like mosquitos. I've experienced narcs in my life since I was kid at home, friends and work. I walked out in silence from everybody, moved to another State, changed my cell phone number...now I am healing, exercising, loss weight, have a new apartment, became an independent contractor, recovered ALL my confidence in myself again. Things are just going GREAT! Forgive, Forget and Move-On & NEVER change who you truly are, our real/true nature is to LOVE, GIVE, SHARE, PLAY, HELP unfortunately they are those that ALWAYS take advantage because they are miserable.
My mother had NPD and I suffered emotional abuse under her for 26 years of my life until I got married to a man who also is a malignant narcissist.. I am 62 years now and have suffered for 35 years in this marriage. From the frying pan to the fire,so to say. Because of societal pressure and 2 adult children I am in a trauma bond. I so long to draw the sword .
Being with a narc after the euphoria of the love bombing is like a dark cold muddy tunnel with no joy and when you escape its like dancing in a field of flowers on a mountain in sunshine and feeling hapoy and beautiful ❤❤❤❤
You seem to take excellent care of your inner child, which is so important for any grown person, no matter what the childhood wounds may have been. I think I've seen you making videos on 3 or 4 vacations now. Solo vacations are an ideal way to treat ourselves to our own insistence on self-esteem. For me, taking myself on vacation with nobody but me for company, is like a pure form of self-care and self-respect, even though most everyone might easily prefer, not to go alone. When traveling alone, it's easier for me to reach out for connection. Traveling alone is for most people I think, not even an option.
As usual Paula your video was so accurate! Not sure if I drew my sword but I realised that she'd over stepped the mark , and she had overstepped it quite a bit. I was going to new york with her, She a few days earlier had told me she didn't love me anymore! I surprised her and accepted it without any begging and chasing, like I'd did often before! She then told me she was going to cancel the holiday (as she had her name on the booking) I accepted this too,stating that was fine also,but I'd like my deposit back that I'd paid out! I surprised myself how I accepted it without any drama. Deep down it killed me ,I was hurting so much, Even when she sent the deposit to my bank account, I thanked her ! She then asked " to be friends"😂 A narcassitic trait, I knew she'd never loved me at this point. I have a narcassitic mother and middle sister and always was put down, But I sub consciously knew this wasn't right! I did hope she would book another holiday, or beg and chase me ,apologising for what she did, This never happened and I did hope that she would. I'm not a spiritual person but I do think something in your head just eventually tells you that these behaviours aren't right! I'll never nw what she wanted from me as I am not well off , I'm no Brad Pitt either so haven't a clue ! I still don't nw what my life purpose is, But I am pleased that I showed her unconditional love, Unfortunately for me I fell for a narcassist, Nearly two yrs down the line nw I am so pleased I never wilted and contacted her again... It's a tough journey,but you do get over it, eventually!.👍👍👍👍
My husband was becoming increasingly crazy. One day the head swiveled and he asked 'what's the point of you?' I asked what he meant. 'Put it this way, if you're not at least pregnant by this time next year, I'm going to have to consider my options..... So that was my 'drawing my sword ' moment, after 12 years of being treated like sh*t.
Exactly 💯 he's projecting onto you because he's insecure about himself. Maybe he's not able to get you pregnant because he's shooting blanks and blaming you for his issue. It's crazy making alright. Don't allow him to make it your fault because most likely it's not.
Hey Paula !!! You are so right when you finally find out the truth about why they’re really there !!! The truth came in the form of recklessly firing a firearm to scare me and after eight years I knew this person hates me wants to destroy me or wants me dead and I drew my sword and was done Completely!! Unfortunately I’ve been harassed and stalked and Hovered like crazy because we have a child so I moved and I’m working on get full custody and erase this person from my life
Narcissists don't decide to become narcissists; it's not an option. It's a mental disorder. People should try to maintain distance within these individuals, if possible.
If they changed the behavior, the mind would follow, then the brain could heal, then the brain would heal the body. But to change the behavior that involves changing the character which we all do choose within the same inherent measure of free will. This is why narcissism is really more rooted in the character/ spirit of the person. If they didn't know their behavioral choices were harmful then why hide them??
For me it was a final rejection of their fake reality and a remembrance of my own truth !! It takes SO much courage , not because you are scared , but because you have SO MUCH investment and trust that you have to let go ! It's akin to becoming an orphan , because you have to RELEARN everything about yourself , and also where your place in the world is going to be as you move on . They were your guru , your belief system , you were convinced they had all the right answers and ultimately had your best interests at heart , DESPITE all the continued abuse ! You have now FINALLY WOKEN ,...and nothing will ever be the same EVER again ! 💪🙏❤️
Paula, what you are saying is right on. Everything you stated I felt. I drew my sword to survive the abuse. I had taken enough & realized that I had to fight for my very being & do the right thing. I rejected his ways. I faced a window of truth and realized that I was good enough. Called survival mode.
I recently had the " omg that's what they're after" monent. I saw the truth in an instant. I knew i was done. I drew the sword & said No. I didnt need to explain why. I saw what had been the plan all along. These coverts are super manipulative but my No saved me from a huge pit. All he said was "ok. Just forget about it " The result? Hasnt asked again but punishment in silent treatment every 2-3 days with a "hi, how you doing"
You've just described exactly the last year of my life! I drew my sword in November last year and the wrath of the devil itself has been unleashed on me by my ex narcissist partner. I knew something was 'wrong' as she discarded me, so I immediately filed for divorce. Its been 6 months of total hell since. Horrific. But the fact you have described this predictable behaviour so well just goes to show the narc is just a predictable mask of nothingness. You are brilliant.
I met someone where I subcontract and see often. He said he wanted to go for a walk but after two weeks, it never took root. I would text him and it would take a long time to get a reply. Then he said he had to go out of town at the next attempt to schedule a walk. In the past, I would take this kind of garbage giving someone the benefit of the doubt. However, now I cut it off on the spot the moment that off feeling starts coming over. You cannot put a finger on it but it is a gut feeling that causes anxiety and self doubt. I texted him early this week after he didn't respond again and said I didn't think he seemed that interested in communicating on a regular basis and so I would not bother anymore and be safe. He wrote back and said he had just been busy and that was not at all the situation. He quickly tried to act like nothing had bothered me and dismissed it. Then texted that hoped I had a good weekend and be safe. (mirrored back my words). I never responded again. Then a feeler came two days later with one sentence that Sunday was a good day. Nothing else. I ignored it and deleted his number and blocked it. Then Monday he acted super animated and sweet asking all kinds of questions as I checked out in the store and I never made eye contact and distanced myself completely. He knew it was a done deal. He still has tried throughout the week to make conversation at work but I don't engage and am only professional and never ask him anything in return. There is a few other workers that I have done this same thing to based on seeing weird behaviors in them. I won't even let them get close or talk to them if at all possible. I have learned to run and although they are everywhere, I just accept this and don't let it effect me. I am tired of toxic people and choose joy and happiness. No more settling or people pleasing. Thank you Paula. I have learned a lot over these past few years from you. ❤
I came to a realization when my ex-narc, once again, talked about his victimhood at work and having a 'terrible boss'. I pondered that with him and said out loud that it's amazing that one person can have a series of bad bosses. Inwardly, I realized that the problem was likely him. I stopped listening to his work stories - he loved telling me these in the early morning over coffee before the children woke up. Instead of participating in this routine, I started going for long walks. I probably caused narcissistic injury. But the sword was truly drawn when he announced his divorce to me a few months later. I really had enough. Regardless of who or what he was - a loving partner does not threaten divorce to gain control. I woke up then and decided I didn't want a mean partner like that.
I don’t know how I got the courage to block him and go no contact. He didn’t expect it at all. He pushed me too far and I just snapped and said no more. It’s like someone took over my mind and made me take action. The trauma bond is still present after 14 months. I fight it daily. It’s the worst experience I have ever been through and I’ve been through a lot
Oh it is so worthy to finally, really leave the narc. Three months now and it was hard. Still love him. But I love god, my child, myself and my life more. I rediscovered that. You (the narc victim) are worthy and needed in this world, too! And Narc Con, your channel is really the most helpful in my healing journey. Nobody can sum it up so well said as you, and so calm, so lovely. Thank god for you.
Four years of giving the biggest part of my heart, understanding, compassion and patience. Watching it all - seeing eventually the truth, that I was a number, not a person, I was one of many, many women, not the only one. I accepted unexplained and undeserved screaming, rage, high pitched, screaming horrible descriptions of who they saw me as,...but I was never that - never ever was that person. The final and last screaming at me, because I called to see if he was okay, as I could see and felt his health was not good - mentally, food wise, timewise...He ripped my heart and face off for the final time, as I hung up mid conversation and sat numb...for days...in disbelief of his action...in shame that I traded my peace of mind, to care and call him, to be screamed at as if he was on fire with gasoline...I am grateful for this moment.... I never want to hear his name, see his face, know any thing...about this insanely traumatized person, that all they can give to others is ...trauma. Please everyone, be careful...dont waste this precious life giving to a person, who shows they cant see your beautiful light, cant appreciate you care about them..genuinely...Please people...know the definition of a loving person - they will never scream at you for calling them, they will never mistreat you. period. They will never mistreat you. period...that is the difference... Life is so incredible..so beautiful and so are humans, souls and loving people....do not attempt to SAVE those who harm you. period. You will wake up with that life spent on them....gone...
One day i was just laying on the couch trying to get a grasp of wtf was going on around me. It was like someone or something yelled at me "remember who you are" i wasnt very religious until then i didnt have a specific denomination but i belive in a higher power and just trying to be a good person. It was one of the craziest things ive ever experienced. I wasnt afraid. i felt powerful. The best way to describe it is going into the "avartar state", yes from the cartoon😂. But seriously the amount of power i felt, the warmth , the knowing that everything was going to be okay and that im not crazy. It was something i will never forget and so greatful for. I essentially cut all emotions off and spoke pure unadulterated truths and told her i knew what she was and what she was doing. It was like the scene from the wizzard of oz when they threw the bucket of water on the witch
For me I drew my sword and stepped away after finding that the very things that were bothering me (including the way this person had a very sick hierarchical thing going on with people) others were treated like Kings and Queens by him while I was mistreated which was just sick! What was more sick is the individual tried to triangulate me by throwing it in conversations how he interacted with others which was vastly different to the way he gave me lowly treatment but he is the lowly weirdo.🤣😂 Hope you and Remy are enjoying yourselves but it looks like Remy certainly is! 🥰😍
@kathrynhogan3387 Yes I already did. like I said I stepped away and drew my sword that is my story of how it happened. Like I said I saw his sick games.
Ahhh, thank you for the holiday. My sword came out after 25 years...he no longer needed me for money, childcare, housekeeping, affection, but I did the old reverse discard. Not to discourage anyone, but just recently I've completely come through the "pain barrier" due to flying monkey effects. Every day is a triple day of happiness, just like you said, Paula. PS. Couldn't see the Remy beach stroll tho😊
Just as it was difficult to explain to others the pain of living with a narcissist it is equally difficult to describe the joy of living without them. It is TRUELY amazing. Every moment of every day is a treasure. Do it! Leave and never look back! It is what I expect it is like to be reborn.
Sometimes it's hard to see the truth because it's so wicked and evil. It seems like it's impossible that it could be true but your gut won't let it go. It took me 10 years to get out and even then it was by the grace of God. I didn't know how to get out on my own.
Thank you, I have been very touched by this video and got very emotional hearing your words, you painted the picture of my life in a way I couldn’t! I grew up in a dysfunctional family with narcissists parents and I let go away the good guys to get married instead for two times to narcissists. I wasn’t aware of narcissism. After the last marriage where I was discarded I went through such a pain acknowledging that I gave away the last part of my life, I gave away my energy, my love, my time, and been left with nothing. I am almost 54 and looking for a job….If I make it I will dedicate my life to help other people as you said!!!! Let’s spread the voice about narcissism because unfortunately today is predominant in this world.
You do come out the outside and when you do belive me you will ask yourself 'WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SOOOO NASTY, speaking to young woman today whom has 2 young girls from an Narrisist, TG she never married him, he putting her through HELL and is TOTALLY TOTALLY heart less when picks up these BEAUTIFUL little girls, youngest just gets hysterical crying and he has NO COMPASSION, EXTREMELY SAD on ALL especially her mother to witness this, we gong to a talk on Narcissism (hope spelt right) which is on in Limerick on the 16th of May in Dolans on Dock Road in Limerick,, HOPEFULLY she will feel better for it, her Mum, my daughter and myself going as a group, ANYONE that going through this might be interested, I saw it on Facebook, THANK YOU SO MUCH Paula for this video and WE ARE ENOUGH 👏👏👏👏👏😊
The betrayal is a very deep cut. It takes years and years to realize the depth of that betrayal. The real self and the values that are part and parcel of that self needs to triumph over the evil of the devaluation of the narcissist and misogynist. That is the very painful lesson that the empath must learn. It strengthens the self and the soul. Then you step into the light. That is the gift. I have found the pain lessens everyday but it is still there.
Hi Paula😊 That video you have just done, will go down in spiritual 🙏 folklore. That was undoubtedly heaven sent and so are you. I have just sent it too Australia 🇦🇺 it needs to be shared amongst empaths..to gauge how far they have come on their journey. You Brough tears too my eyes, my heart ❤️ is beating like a drum..and I want the world 🌎 too know what a blessing you are. You Brought everything back too me that I went through and when you said about the Angels 😇 ✨️ it's true..I have met Angels..spiritual cats..and much more. Yes we need too raise the vibration of this sick world..and bring it back into Alignment with God and the universe. I tip my hat too you lady..for you are an Angel 😇 💖. Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
I told mom how I would not tolerate her behavior. I was met with silence for 6 days and then she decided for Mother’s Day she wants no gifts no cards and a quiet day at home. I am relieved, and will not respond, maybe not for a long while.
I love the comments…’I drew my sword when’ - We win by using the most sophisticated machine of all time - the human brain. Finally, enough love! In honor of County Kerry and this coach, let’s agree to name our swords - I choose LightBringer.
I find the information shared very insightful. I have finally decided to draw my spiritual sword this morning. I have tried so hard for so long to make the relationship work. Enough torturing is enough. I draw the line without looking back. May the Lord help me on this new road I am about to embark on.
Thank you so much, I just got out of a Narcissist relationship with my sister. I had thought family was everything and I loved her. But I have finally started loving myself and I have confidence in myself now. Looking back so many narcissist have been in my life. One by one I got rid of all of them. I have peace and joy and love in my heart. I know the signs now and what to look for. It has empowered me to keep moving forward, And I am very grateful to all my teachers. I send them love and pray for their light!
I drew my sword after finding out my ex was having an affair with my friend. That day was the most painful day of my life. I had been with him for two thirds of my life, he was all I knew. He was my everything. I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. I cried for a long time and went into a depressed state for a period of time, I realized I needed to get some counseling to find myself again ( I had totally lost myself). I found the person I had always been, I found an inter strength I never knew existed. I am happy to say that its been many years since I drew my sword and it was sooooo worth it. Life is wonderful 🎉😊 and I know who I am😊 This was an amazing video Paula❤ thank you
Both my parents were criminals and narcissistic I don’t know how I am still alive? But yes everyone is still enough. It’s child abuse passed on generations of it. Knowing why we want children and being conscious of raising them would erase abuse world wide
You are great at explaining things from the point of the victim thank you so much. I've been Narcassistically abused my entire life, and now I'm being gangstalked heavily.
you have effectively put into words, you have really breath life into my subconscious knowing about what i have gone through for more than 30 years, thank God for your contributoin and work. i am doubly enlightened. grateful of beng out of the npd cage since 2 years ago. : ) all the best !
Great video Paula, I'm free nearly 4 years now and I've been runinating and hiding away. I took myself off for a holiday to my older sisters and brother in laws in Portugal. They cannot imagine or comprehend the situation but I had my own Airbnb and had a little time to myself they kept me busy. They were very caring and and took great care of me. I got to walk on the beach in the sunshine. I'm just home and it's gave me hope to carry on trying to heal. A new perspective ❤
I found the process of separating the wheat from the chaff to be crucial. Outwardly, connecting with people in your life who fully support you, breaking with the rest. If you know me, you know me. If you don't know me, you don't. Let go. The narcissist's smear campaign will help you do this. Hand in hand, look inward and separate your own ego grasping for a solution, relief, salvation. I found that awareness of ego-grasping must give birth by stopping, taking a pause, connecting with my inner natural calm and listening for Truth that I attribute to God's actions in me. As I learn patience, God peels away the veils of ego and light comes in the form of God's actions and actual guidance. God is good all the time. We are not abandoned. Put on the armor of God. This too shall pass. Share with your trusted friends for the benefit of all! Blessings for you always. Thank you! 🙏
When I said No. The response was complete silence from the Narsisst. As if I said nothing at all. When I left this person, she expressed that I will always be her true love. Love bombing is a form of control in my opinion. "Trust is earned" this is my opinion. Narsissts expect trust right from the very beginning of a connection. I grew up with parents that are Narsissts. After I left the Narsisst I realized that my parents are Narsissts. I'm no longer ignorant .... your content helps me greatly thank you for all that you do. I'm finally starting to feel happiness in my life. I'm discovering who I truly am under all of the past pains from childhood. Why did I draw my sword? I no longer wanted to live a life she created for me. She didn't see me for who I am. I realized she never loved me. She said she loved me over and over again but her actions didn't match her words. The debating, arguing and dreadful drama was something she believed brought us closer together. Nothing but lies. That's why I left. I decided to live in the truth.
I "Drew My Sword" when he physically crossed my boundaries for at least the 3rd time and I was in such panick and fear that I had to eacape him by switching direction and followed another hotel guest down the stairs and to the office, as the narcissist angrily followed me. I asked the hotel employee to protect me. He asked if he could call 911. I said YES! That's when I knew it was over and done. I will never be in anyones presence again who makes me fear for my safety and life. Thank you for this channel and being brave enough to share your research and the truth, in order to help yourselff and us all! May God bless you in great ways you've never even imagined Paula! 🙏
I got the information during a mediation ( outside) in a sort of download. Then I reviewed the last 9 years, and I was able to come up w/ numerous examples of her ( a friend) words & actions, her psychological manipulations etc. I determined to go no contact IMMEDIATELY. I instantly felt relief. I also got the Universe's confirmation that I was on point, when w/ i minutes, two prayer got answered. Mind blowing stuff! Love your channel, delivery & energy.
I walked away, but he came down with cancer, and with my empath heart, went to see him in the hospital with homemade soup. He was so rude to me. So I just said no more. I wasnt still in love with him, that ended before I left. But with my heart wanted to be friends. Narist dont care for anyone period, except themselves.
I drew my sword against my mother 20 years ago. Recently, after meditation, I spiritually packed up the baggage she dumped on me and handed it back to her, with the realization this was her legacy, not mine. It made me feel freer. On a higher level, I played the role to help her see herself for whom she is. For myself I found my own validity and strength.
It's been a battle from day dot!..I can't believe even parents can set you up for being "bait" for these soul stealers during life...These narcissists want your soul, they collect them for the dark one while they are here and hand them to it when they eventually go back to where they came from..It's been a battle all my life not letting them steal my light, and it's getting harder because they are getting better at what they do..keep learning keep on top of the information, holding the light is sooo important to keeping love as a constant on the planet..don't let them take you away from yourself! We have an obligation while we are here to fight the good fight..Be love, that's what you are.🌹🙏☮️
Thanks, I needed to hear this, got out of a relationship because it was toxic. But through it all I saw things that I needed to change about myself with the Lords help. To make me stronger for a purpose and future. Btw never knew that I had a strong light that attracted the darkness until I went through this!!
Interesting. I use to feel mostly positive and experienced passing many angels. There was a subtle comfort and moment of acknowledgement of each other. Then after 20 years unknowingly married to a FULL spectrum Cluster B…now I see and sense all things. There are more dark energies than there are angels. 😂 Bee’s knees I remain a humble bee. Alone.
After that, I started the ESCAPE like a choreographer with the help of a close and wise Friend, Yourself and REMMY Paula, HG , and The Little Shaman. No one escapes without guidance. After that I was able to breathe again.
For me, the awakening moment was after having my first child. Suddenly, I was in my first month of postpartum, and all the memories of my narcissistic mother mistreating me as a defenseless child came fludding to my mind. However, it also took talking to a therapist to put my finger on it and see my mother for who she truly was---a narc! It's been very tough to keep boundaries, especially because she is the grandmother of my child (i have trauma of my mother using me as a punishment against other family members by preventing them from seeing me). I have a hard time cutting her off completely.
I’ve made up a system to help it worked for me.the “can’t abuse me and expect me to snap up and be ok”I realized I had to fight so I made up this “protocol “ 1) acknowledge. We have to acknowledge the fact that we were abused. 2) accept. did we have to accept the fact that it happened this involves deep emotional acceptance. 3)morn. we must mourn about it in order to release it to cry and feel the pain. 4)move on.. we must move on past it. Otherwise we live in that moment always feeling not enough. It’s imperative to the soul to understand that it’s over the only one that can allow it to happen again is one self.
Thank you ❤❤! I love the synchronicity in the cosmos, leading me here just after I said NO for the first time knowing that I mean it, No. I'll be 65 this year and working spiritually but the blind spot which is a blind rock just let me know that my father, my first boyfriend and later on lovers.. Til this one now since 15 years all were narcissistic 😭😭. I'm glad because I'm able to find out by dowsing that my last one is only 80 % narcissist 😂😂😊 so I picked the softer version.. At last. What a journey 🙏. Time to start celebrating life, yesssss Much love to all ❤❤❤
Thank you. You have so wonderfully described the journey through this pain barrier into-what I felt was- a joyful rebirth, that I experienced many years ago. I’m now trying to educate and strengthen myself further for my daughter and granddaughter’s sake as I fear they are in danger now. Thank you for your beautiful, powerful and spiritual wisdom.
I realised when my baby daughter was a few days old and the narc mother kicked me in the back when I was holding my baby. I didn't see it coming and was afraid to drop my baby. Only a week later she drove scissors into my arm a few inches from where I held my daughters head. She had never been violent before and until then I had believed the strange behaviour was hormones or stress but then I realised I had to separate. I stayed 1 year to secure the first year of my baby and it was real horror. Then with separation came the real war, the false allegations in a series (false police reports of abuse, pedophilia, rape etc...) and I had to endure 2 years police investigations, trials etc. and the whole anti-men / anti-father legal system and custody court system which tends to favour and believe women regardless evidence. Eventually cleared and with custody evaluator in my favour I now have my daughter 50 % and my focus is on protecting her and how to protect her in the future. I'm happily discovering that this little girl has empathy and is the most beautiful little girl in the world. We have such great connection and she brings me all the joy in the world but it pains me so much that she has been born into a world where her mother doesn't love her and has no empathy but only uses her as an instrument. She of course has no idea what the mother is, she is too young. Narcissists are truly evil creatures! Good episode Paula!
Thank you Paula, this is such a profound share. I personally found it moving & important. Saved it. Thank you for your bravery touching on your own journey drawing your sword to advocate for yourself & by sharing this, advocating for us & validating our own personal experience when we likewise felt absolutely compelled to draw our own sword, or for those still struggling to draw their own right now. Staggering consequences, still processing but i believe I’m beginning to see the edge of what you talked about towards the end, so thank you for well the hope, the fuller lived side after the pain that you know from experience, the positive consequences of extraordinary growth however painful, when it starts to go into from what you said, well blossoming. Hope you have a lovely hols 🦋
God also places us into a narcissistic relationship to strengthen us for spiritual battles. Like a sword which is purified 7 times for battle. It's a super power and without it - the armour of god is not as effective during our encounters with the evil from high places in the modern world. Thank you Paula and you might not fully realise yet, how much your videos are helping Gods children fight back in these days ❤ Our salvation can only be through the messiah - Jesus Christ 🙏
I hope so Jon..thanks for being here from early on 🙋♀️
So true!!
Very well said @jonbessant3490. As painful as this experience has been, I have learned so many lessons about myself and other people that I needed to learn Gid was always with me in the midst. Sometimes God will hit you with a pebble to get your attention. Then it's a rock. Then finally he hits you with a brick and voila you finally listen and see! Now you become wiser and stronger and use the discernment that God has given you more of moving forward. Be strong and Courageous. You can do it. I did it. Don't look back, you are not going that way! Much love and hope and peace for us all.
Thank you Paula for this and a previous video that popped up on my phone. God works in mysterious ways. I'm glad I saw this. Everything is so spot on!
Amen Brother!
Your low self-esteem is
The narcissist's dream
Excellent comment 🥰
This is soooo true !well said xx
@@victoriajphearts Why, thank you
Exactly!! Thank you!!
YES!!!
You can't learn more about humanity and your intrinsic value until you've been completely shattered and broken whole by someone who separated from humanity.
Truth 💕🧸🤗
Yes, I'm educated now with a great lot of help I was so naive. At 14 years old he was 16. The mask was on from day one. 53: years later I realised there is evil in the world.
@@dianahogg6164 Been trying to wake a friend of mine up for years in that same situation. They met young. Some people just accept that life. They are blinded to their own suffering because it’s all they know.
Well said! 🙌🏻🏆
You put that perfectly. Little did we know when we were children that we would not fully know ourselves until after being exposed to living with a narc. They come in, they destroy, steal, lie, deceive, crush, squash, fake, ruin, and then leave. You're left in ruins and you have to find your way back to life. Thanks to understanding and educated people like Paula, we eventually figure things out and get on with life. Thanks for posting.
I drew my spiritual sword against my malignant narcissist mother 4 years ago, when I was 56. It took me 5 1/2 decades, but I finally reached that point when I'd had enough! She did something so heinous I could no longer make excuses for her behavior. Something deep inside me knew that she would never, ever change. At that moment, I knew I had no other option than to walk away forever.
It's still sad to me, but I am finding my peace!
I’m drawing my sword right now. No more abuse 🙏
@@mariaridler1831 Hugs and prayers for strength sent your way!
That's what happened between my husband and I after close to four decades together. God showed me who this man really is, and he had absolutely no remorse for his heinous behavior. Glad you have found your peace 🤗
Yes, I did the same thing against my fiancé. Each day he was getting more and more abusive. I finally after 14 years had enough when he started having one of his temper tantrums and started destroying my things. This was when I yelled “do not disrespect me!” It was loud and emphatic but I could not sit back quietly and say nothing as I had in the past. l was then met by the shear narcissistic rage and he punched me hard in my face. I thought he may have broken my jaw. He ran out saying he was going to tell everyone he did this in self defense. So wrong! All I did was yell and finally advocate for myself. So I made an emergency call and the police came arrested him and locked him up for 4 days. This gave me time to move out. So hard, so painful, and so disappointing. That day I made a choice and did not let him get away with attacking me.
@@sherryknorr2423 Good for you! I'm praying that all is well and that you continue to move forward with your glow-up 🙌💪🤗🙏🙏🙏
I feel like Remy knows his presence is soothing to some of us. Unconditional love 💕
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Remy is awesome, and letting us know everything will be ok once we follow God
@@kirjoy991 Agreed
I love ❤️ Remy! 😁
I realized I was tortured from a very early age. It has been really difficult to accept. Grieving my life as a scapegoat.
Your talks are excellent
Thankyou 🙏
You’ll be OK
Right there witcha buddy.
Trust me, Satan knows when we are born who we belong to. I also believe this part of the reason they draw so much blood from babies. Gods names is coded into our DNA. And our blood is life and our energy is vitality.
I believe when they speak of vampires in ancient times, they were speaking of narcissists. They drain the energy out of us but only when they have tortured and abused us do they siphon that energy. That’s why the create so much chaos.
Also, if they were to get a taste of your body, they will unalive you. Our energy is what they can get away with without breaking the law. My ex licked my blood when I had a cut. Seriously! He sucked my finger when I accidentally cut myself and he sucked hard that it hurt. I snatched my finger away.
He would so called playfully bite my neck area and I would push him away. And I kid you not, he had to beauty marks that looked like a vampire bite.
Paula,I simply admire the way you dwell on the spiritual aspect of narcissm,keep it up 👍👍
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I drew my sword after i cried out to God in my bedroom ( we had separate rooms) he was extremely abusive verbally and threatening to ruin my property and take from me everything I worked hard for. I knew I could was dealing with demons through the narc and that I had to stop this. That night i took my freedom and he was arrested and removed. From there im moving fast, no contact and feeling like I got back my life! All the Glory to Jesus ❤️thank you Paula, I have been steady watching your videos and its so good to know how to navigate through the mess they made. But i feel positive and sleep so well. An evil entity (s) have left!
Welcome Shawna to the over the rainbow rest of your life. Breathe. Your reign of terror is over 🩷
How many entities were there?
@@kathrynhogan3387 I just felt as if the narc had more than one. He even looked like a demon. On the Bible it talks about a man that was possessed by legions of demons. I just know the Holy Spirit gave me the discernment to know that the narc eas demonic
@@kathrynhogan3387thank you I'm so happy I made it out
@@kathrynhogan3387You could start with Jekyll and Hyde they are both evil one is covert the other overt. 🎭
My sword against narcissists is to put on the full armour of God and pray for his protection as I walk through the valley of the shadow where narcissists live…which is the world. To not have his protection is like wandering out into utter darkness. To have his light is to find your way out of that darkness. To have his light and a relationship with God is to keep narcissist or demon filled vessels away from me.
I notice the difference when I don’t pray for God’s protection. It says in the Bible that the enemy is like a lion seeking whom he may devour and he comes to kill, steal, and destroy.
There is nothing else that can protect you from these creatures. Resist the devil and he will flee. The name of Jesus, they are afraid of the name alone. ❤
I drew my sword after weeks of devaluing behavior. He left the room to check his “Likes” on social media. In those few minutes he was on the computer, an inner voice told me, “Just leave. Just walk out. You don’t even really like him.” I said out loud in a very pleasant voice as I walked down the hall, “I have to get going now”. He followed me out to my car, saying he loved me. I pleasantly said that I loved him too. (I was just trying to pretend all was well) I got in my car, drove home, blocked him. Never saw him again after that day. That was 5 years ago. Of course I experienced Hoovers that I ignored . I didn’t know what he was or what full no contact was at that time but, when I experienced an unexpected Hoover, I blocked that avenue. I have been in full no contact regime since then.
Good for you! My situation was similar except he lived with me. But he knew I was done! He's been blocked in every way for almost 5 yrs! Keep moving forward & don't look back - ever!
Wow ypu had spiritual shield of prorection to leave just like that. Wish I was a fly on the wall to see his reaction when you didn't retirn
Glad to hear it. I think my narc had no idea and my leaving caught him by surprise.
I think he didn’t realize I wasn’t coming back. I think I caught him by surprise.
I truly had an inner voice telling me to “just leave” you don’t need this” you don’t even really like him”
I left the Narc 14 years ago. Haven't dated. Was doing quite well until about 6 years ago when extreem fatigue set in. I've been a giver and server all my life and find myself feeling useless and having lost friends because I am not able to do things as I used to. I feel my identity is lost. It's a journey to find my worth when I feel totally unworthy. But, God is good and will bring me through.
I am so sorry for your difficulties with fatigue. Being human is hard, and I am finding that being a giving, empathic, and highly sensitive person contributes to life’s fatigue. I am still pushing through healing after drawing my sword against 3 decades of mistreatment by a covert narcissist. It seems I am feeling better for awhile, then will slide back into something close to despair. I feel very isolated in this journey except for this RUclips channels fellow survivors. Thank you for your truthful comment, as it’s not all an instant healing once we take our stand for ourselves. Keep moving forward day by day and I pray you will find complete peace and healing in time. Be good to yourself and grant yourself lots of grace, because you ARE worthy! And thanks for your honesty. It helped me today. ❤️
You’re worthy of love & respect!! I pray you see yourself as Christ sees you!! You’re going to make it luv💕
I can truly sympathize! My friendly advice would be to get some general bloodwork done, but especially focus on your thyroid levels. It is VERY common to develop autoimmune disorders after long-term abuse (ask me how I know!!), and that will often show up initially as greatly diminished energy and worsening fatigue. Ideally, look for someone who approaches things like this from a holistic approach, because they are much, much more likely to connect the dots and give you the correct diagnosis and treatment, etc. Wishing you health and healing! ❤️
@@susancrank1587 Thank you so much for your recommendations Susan! I have had blood work done 3 times in the last 3 years. They find nothing. No cancer, autoimmune etc. I went to a naturalpath for a year. He was not able to help. Completely drained my savings. At this point I'm believeing for a miracle and also doing as much natural remedies and eating organic and gmo free foods as far as possible. God bless! I appreciate your kind response and also emphasize with you. ❤️
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Yes ! I had a Narcissistic Mom,and finally after 66 yrs. I walked away, now I live in peace, she never changed, I gave her, chances ,that maybe she would change and never did it became worst, so for myself, I had to walk away from her,now I live in peace, she was physically, mentally, abusive to me growing up,after 66yrs. I walked away for good.she was jealous of me ,but never treated my Brother's like just me ,the only Daughter.
What a feeling of freedom! Do you feel lighter?
@kathrynhogan3387 yes! And free from the toxic person.
Good for you. It's never too late to learn.
Ditto
Same here 🌺 happy you are finally free 💯
He never gave me compliments, but critized. For example, i bought a nice skirt, and he told me, I didnt have nice enough legs! I felt terrible. Iam skinny and cant gain weight as im constantly under stress. I believed him that maybe I did look terrible showing my legs. He never touched me or consoled me when I cried over missing my kids and would blame me for them nit calling me. When the truth is my children hate him and saw his alcoholism and how we fought. Its been a nightmare for over 20 yrs. He's robbed me of a life and wants me to die. I have wished id die. But today its day 5 i got him out of my house due to his alcoholic and narcissistic abuse. I had to call police and i will never let him back! Im getting a Peace Bond and I ve never felt better with him gone. I feel good and haven't cried.
Stay strong. Jesus Christ keeps me doing well ❤
PROTECT YOURSELF AND NEVER LET HIM BACK IN. YOU ARE WORTHY OF PEACE AND RESPECT.
Don't believe it. You probably have very nice legs. Mine used to tell me I had a lousy ass, but I know better because i've been complimented on it. Stay strong sister. People in these comments are the strongest people on the earth!
Victory. I will also add that my faith in Jesus Christ helped in my healing.
Yes!! Trust yourself!!! He will say anything to get you back and destroy you! Trust God and Jesus! He has a plan for you. A better life awaits you! You are finally free! Use what you have learned to discern other narcissists or demons. Satan will come for you. In Matthew 16:23, Jesus says to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me. For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man".
Remy’s presence is needed. He knows. Thank you.
I made a clear decision to escape my narcissist mother. She came to my house and started with her usual aggressive behaviour. I told her straight, she couldn't behave this way in my home, and threw her out of my house. I haven't had any further contact with her since.
I asked my mom once, “Why do I draw these women to be friends who turn out to be toxic?” She said, “It’s because you are too nice.” I am learning & your channel has helped me much! As a Highly Sensitive Person & an Empath I am a target for these disturbed people. Thank you❤
Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Dr Robert Glover
Over time you will learn to put your emotions in check when you’re around people. You will learn this is vital to you & your own healthy existence. If YOU do not learn how to put up emotional boundaries this behavior from other people WILL CONTINUE. Being so nice, open , honest & truthful right from the moment you first meet someone SHOWS people how vulnerable you are & in today’s evil world, that will work against you every time.
Yes me too, my ma would say jealousy also which I never understood as I'm not a jealous person or friend, thanks for the comment it helped, God bless and thanks to Paula for a safe space to share this horrible horrible but life changing experience ❤
I have drawn my sword today ❤
I can relate ❤
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I am constantly being deliberately damaged here by the Narcissist, who is my legal husband of 41 years and father of our five daughters. He harms our family all the time by lying about me to our children and other family members, which is very painful for me and also so harmful to our children, who deserve so much better than this. I have always tried to protect my children from his mental health issues, which are demonic in nature because he lies constantly and slanders and harms people on purpose, which he gets great satisfaction from. To see his joy after knowing he harmed you, is very painful and very hard to recover from. I am trying to be able to afford more trauma counseling. I really need this. Any Women of God reading this. I covet your prayers. God bless you.
God be with you.🌺
Married mine 1983. Many children couldn’t get out. Didn’t realize until2018 who he was. A tragedy. I prayed a lot still do. It is my life line. Let’s pray for each other.
Prayer is a powerful tool. Empower and educate your children on narcissism so they can get out. This a test and you will overcome it. I pray God protects you and helps you get the help you need.🤲♥️
Paula,
You are such a beautiful person and I love watching your videos ..
Thank you for all you do
Thank you so much!
Discovered your channel a few days ago. THE MOST helpful channel I've seen on the subject so far. Thank you.
I agree, her channel is the best one for this content
I agree
Its the most accurate information x
ERL She is calm, classic, Ladylike, and an Angel. Keep learning and growing and stay away from negative influence. Good luck…and welcome.
Been grateful since finding her channel too. Another good one here. Just sharing one. It’s Narcissist Chronicles with Coach Jesse. I think these content creators went to the same war college.
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Ive just realized my ex alienated my adult daughter when she was a child. His grandmother alieniated him from his mother. And now im alienated from my grandchildren. Being with a narcissist has consequences
Yep! Me, too!
Narcissism is all about separation. They're playing out separation generationally.
They've separated from humanity; from God.
I'm alienated from our 4 adult children for 13 yrs now.
GBY 🙏
To reproduce with a narcissist is to reproduce with a tare. The Wheat and tare may grow together but aren’t meant to crossbreed. The result it majority of tare offspring and minority wheat offspring that would be tortured just the same as we were. “Should two walk together, unless they’re equally yoked?”
I think it was God’s protection when he took my 2 unborn babies him via miscarriages. They for sure would’ve been empaths those narcissists would’ve hurt them. I would’ve probably unalived the narcissists if I ever witness them harm a child. They are also sex predators that would sexually ruin anything with a pulse. PDFiles if you catch my drift.
I started preparing to leave or heal us two years ago. I drew closer to God and received my prayer tongue last September. Praying in the Spirit is the BEST kept secret in Christianity. Little by little I e gotten stronger. I'm healing. And I drew my spiritual sword Saturday evening (day before yesterday). Things are crazy today, but I feel the power of the Lord raining on me and through me. He does, too. I'm believing for a miracle because I've never experienced anything like this before. May God bless everyone who reads this message. Amen.
You are the only person I have found that connects narcissism to spiritual issues. Thank you!
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A month and a half ago, I set more boundaries because the narc was so intrusive to my well being and sleep deprivation. When I moved to sleeping in the spare room, i told narc, "When I'm in my bedroom, you cannot come in." I had to reinforce my boundries several times, which always led to anger and argument ----- all because i demanded my privacy, sleep, health and well being. I tnink the narc wanted me to resort to alcohol or suicide. Thats how bad it gets, and one just cannot function...
I pray you will be able to escape safely.
@@user56gghtfI'm working on it! I've been severely damaged, and haven't gone off my property for a year or more, and that's isolatio personified. Thank you for your kind words.
@@grizzleegurr7421 🥺🧸💕You're welcome. yes that is isolation. But you're still alive. You're not done yet. Move in silence and strategically. I pray God protects you.
@@user56gghtf Your words are encouraging and comforting. Thank you for your concern. I know I'm not the only one.
Ahhh. You are speaking to my soul. Christ consciousness is insane. I hear the Holy Spirit through you.
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You! Said it!!!! ...."insane" !!!!!!!!! .....all the "god crap is just typed up crap,in a book! ....it's fictitious, it's BULL.
Thanks, Paula, after narcissist abuse, we finally know who we are!
That was a glorious teaching Paula!
I needed that so so so much!
Today was a painful day dealing with the narc; but God turned it for good for me by listening to you today!
This is the beginning of me using the” sword of the spirit” to try again!
I won’t give up!
With God all things are possible!!
Your teaching woke me up today and comforted me!
You bless me a lot!
Remy is so funny& cute!
Keep these necessary teaching coming!
God bless us all!🙏
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About 2 years ago I drew my sword but subconsciously. I see it now very clearly. I had cancer 6 years ago and survived. I know now he would have preferred I died so he would have gotten very rich from my death. I survived and changed as I stripped off the layers of who others wanted me to be. When he left me this year, he said he hasn't been happy since I had cancer. Whoppie do 😂 doing inner child work now to heal ❤❤ love how you provide guidance. Thank you
So many victories in your comment. Love it.
Congratulations on getting rid of the cancer of the narcissist and it sounds like that could be why you got sick in the first place. In my experience once I was away from the narcissist I started to heal from the physical ailments right away. I hope the same for you. It's proven that they cause others illnesses that manifest in the body from the narcissistic abuse. Best to you 🙏
When I had a dream where in I was in the narcs home, he had a beautiful tree in his living room, full of large beautiful red apples, he offered me one, and he cut the apple up and placed it on a plate and gave it to me, as i looked at the cut up apple on the plate in front of me it was full of worms and bugs!
Very accurate, with them its all simulation, its all rotten in reality.
Wow
I never had a pleasant dream of the narcissist. Even before I ever met him in person, God gave me a warning and showed me how life would be with the narcissist. I woke up hyperventilating and I told the narcissist about the dream he assured me it was just a dream.
That dream became my reality when I left my country to move with him in his. The every same behaviour. Every dream that I have had since knowing has been full of evil, lies, deception, and even my own mother that passed away weeping for me to leave the narcissist. Dreams of trying to revive dead babies which is symbolic for trying to save a dead relationship.
Dreams about the narcissistic ex being on trial and my dead brother being the judge and my dead mom being my attorney. Dreams of his phone and it being full of porn and nude pics of women. I never got into that home ever again to confirm this, but given the dreams I have had regarding him, I think that’s exactly what that phone was.
Dear Paula, I was done when my enter voice told me not to let him take me to his level. It is a strange time to explain. It is when all red flags are flying, your whole body is on high alert, and you know it is the end, the friendship is non fixable. I believe in angels.
It's called The Door Slam. You know the exact minute it happens. They know it too. Maybe not right away like you do but looking back they know.
They know! They hook into your psyche from the 4 th dimension.
We read people for connection. They read ppl for exploitation.
Unfortunately not being aware I was in a narcissistic marriage, I attempted initiating an amicable divorce so he orchestrated my arrest and i left in a paddy wagon. If only i had come across this knowledge sooner. At any rate, I am now free of this demon and truly happier. Just battling a protracted divorce, but that too shall pass
They don't comprehend amicable, compromise or co-operation.
Nobody actually exists outside themselves.
It's a tough pill to swallow. 💊
Best thing to do is no contact and have a lawyer who understands narcissistic abuse on your side.
Thank you Paula and Remy ! So happy to see you both ! Been 5 years now , thru the pain barrier and yes , life is so different , peaceful , found my purpose , joy . The journey is so painful but so worth it ! A new and shining life ! And I have my life experience , love and wisdom to share with others . I am so delighted to see how many subscribers you have now Paula , I have been following you from the very beginning, you are helping so many of us .
Thankyou I'm 3 and half years out. I'm trying every day to heal it is painful. But I know I'm a strong woman. I will keep going.
Thanks Leslie good to see you 🌹
By FAR hands down one of your BEST videos. Everything you said resonated with my being!!! Thank you!
Our purpose is life is to VIBRATE High and SHINE as much as we can, it is NO accident why we attract so many NARCs into our lives. Narcs are like mosquitos. I've experienced narcs in my life since I was kid at home, friends and work. I walked out in silence from everybody, moved to another State, changed my cell phone number...now I am healing, exercising, loss weight, have a new apartment, became an independent contractor, recovered ALL my confidence in myself again. Things are just going GREAT!
Forgive, Forget and Move-On & NEVER change who you truly are, our real/true nature is to LOVE, GIVE, SHARE, PLAY, HELP unfortunately they are those that ALWAYS take advantage because they are miserable.
You need to move ON
My mother had NPD and I suffered emotional abuse under her for 26 years of my life until I got married to a man who also is a malignant narcissist.. I am 62 years now and have suffered for 35 years in this marriage. From the frying pan to the fire,so to say. Because of societal pressure and 2 adult children I am in a trauma bond. I so long to draw the sword .
Talk with a counselor.
Make a plan.
Leave.
You CAN do it. Draw that sword! It will only destroy you if you stay.
Being with a narc after the euphoria of the love bombing is like a dark cold muddy tunnel with no joy and when you escape its like dancing in a field of flowers on a mountain in sunshine and feeling hapoy and beautiful ❤❤❤❤
You seem to take excellent care of your inner child, which is so important for any grown person, no matter what the childhood wounds may have been. I think I've seen you making videos on 3 or 4 vacations now. Solo vacations are an ideal way to treat ourselves to our own insistence on self-esteem. For me, taking myself on vacation with nobody but me for company, is like a pure form of self-care and self-respect, even though most everyone might easily prefer, not to go alone. When traveling alone, it's easier for me to reach out for connection. Traveling alone is for most people I think, not even an option.
The pain is unbelievable, your so right.
❤❤WE WILL GET THROUGH. LEGAL AID 💪⛑️. GOD BLESS YOU 🙏😇
As usual Paula your video was so accurate!
Not sure if I drew my sword but I realised that she'd over stepped the mark , and she had overstepped it quite a bit.
I was going to new york with her,
She a few days earlier had told me she didn't love me anymore!
I surprised her and accepted it without any begging and chasing, like I'd did often before!
She then told me she was going to cancel the holiday (as she had her name on the booking)
I accepted this too,stating that was fine also,but I'd like my deposit back that I'd paid out!
I surprised myself how I accepted it without any drama.
Deep down it killed me ,I was hurting so much,
Even when she sent the deposit to my bank account, I thanked her !
She then asked " to be friends"😂
A narcassitic trait, I knew she'd never loved me at this point.
I have a narcassitic mother and middle sister and always was put down,
But I sub consciously knew this wasn't right!
I did hope she would book another holiday, or beg and chase me ,apologising for what she did,
This never happened and I did hope that she would.
I'm not a spiritual person but I do think something in your head just eventually tells you that these behaviours aren't right!
I'll never nw what she wanted from me as I am not well off ,
I'm no Brad Pitt either so haven't a clue !
I still don't nw what my life purpose is,
But I am pleased that I showed her unconditional love,
Unfortunately for me I fell for a narcassist,
Nearly two yrs down the line nw I am so pleased I never wilted and contacted her again...
It's a tough journey,but you do get over it, eventually!.👍👍👍👍
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My husband was becoming increasingly crazy.
One day the head swiveled and he asked 'what's the point of you?'
I asked what he meant.
'Put it this way, if you're not at least pregnant by this time next year, I'm going to have to consider my options.....
So that was my 'drawing my sword ' moment, after 12 years of being treated like sh*t.
That’s horrible but he was talking about himself defo!
Exactly 💯 he's projecting onto you because he's insecure about himself. Maybe he's not able to get you pregnant because he's shooting blanks and blaming you for his issue. It's crazy making alright. Don't allow him to make it your fault because most likely it's not.
I love your videos and your perspective and personality. Thank you very much, Truly.
Hey Paula !!! You are so right when you finally find out the truth about why they’re really there !!! The truth came in the form of recklessly firing a firearm to scare me and after eight years I knew this person hates me wants to destroy me or wants me dead and I drew my sword and was done Completely!! Unfortunately I’ve been harassed and stalked and Hovered like crazy because we have a child so I moved and I’m working on get full custody and erase this person from my life
Narcissists don't decide to become narcissists; it's not an option. It's a mental disorder. People should try to maintain distance within these individuals, if possible.
If they changed the behavior, the mind would follow, then the brain could heal, then the brain would heal the body.
But to change the behavior that involves changing the character which we all do choose within the same inherent measure of free will.
This is why narcissism is really more rooted in the character/ spirit of the person.
If they didn't know their behavioral choices were harmful then why hide them??
No it’s a CHOICE
Narcissism is a mental disorder. They lack gray matter in the frontal cortex of their brains. There is no possible reconstruction of the brain.
Therefore, take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand!
I believe you have "The Gift" it's on another galaxy ... 💯
For me it was a final rejection of their fake reality and a remembrance of my own truth !! It takes SO much courage , not because you are scared , but because you have SO MUCH investment and trust that you have to let go ! It's akin to becoming an orphan , because you have to RELEARN everything about yourself , and also where your place in the world is going to be as you move on . They were your guru , your belief system , you were convinced they had all the right answers and ultimately had your best interests at heart , DESPITE all the continued abuse ! You have now FINALLY WOKEN ,...and nothing will ever be the same EVER again ! 💪🙏❤️
Paula, what you are saying is right on. Everything you stated I felt. I drew my sword to survive the abuse. I had taken enough & realized that I had to fight for my very being & do the right thing. I rejected his ways. I faced a window of truth and realized that I was good enough. Called survival mode.
I recently had the " omg that's what they're after" monent. I saw the truth in an instant. I knew i was done.
I drew the sword & said No. I didnt need to explain why. I saw what had been the plan all along. These coverts are super manipulative but my No saved me from a huge pit. All he said was "ok. Just forget about it "
The result? Hasnt asked again but punishment in silent treatment every 2-3 days with a "hi, how you doing"
You've just described exactly the last year of my life! I drew my sword in November last year and the wrath of the devil itself has been unleashed on me by my ex narcissist partner. I knew something was 'wrong' as she discarded me, so I immediately filed for divorce. Its been 6 months of total hell since. Horrific. But the fact you have described this predictable behaviour so well just goes to show the narc is just a predictable mask of nothingness. You are brilliant.
I met someone where I subcontract and see often. He said he wanted to go for a walk but after two weeks, it never took root. I would text him and it would take a long time to get a reply. Then he said he had to go out of town at the next attempt to schedule a walk.
In the past, I would take this kind of garbage giving someone the benefit of the doubt. However, now I cut it off on the spot the moment that off feeling starts coming over. You cannot put a finger on it but it is a gut feeling that causes anxiety and self doubt. I texted him early this week after he didn't respond again and said I didn't think he seemed that interested in communicating on a regular basis and so I would not bother anymore and be safe. He wrote back and said he had just been busy and that was not at all the situation. He quickly tried to act like nothing had bothered me and dismissed it. Then texted that hoped I had a good weekend and be safe. (mirrored back my words).
I never responded again. Then a feeler came two days later with one sentence that Sunday was a good day. Nothing else. I ignored it and deleted his number and blocked it.
Then Monday he acted super animated and sweet asking all kinds of questions as I checked out in the store and I never made eye contact and distanced myself completely. He knew it was a done deal. He still has tried throughout the week to make conversation at work but I don't engage and am only professional and never ask him anything in return. There is a few other workers that I have done this same thing to based on seeing weird behaviors in them. I won't even let them get close or talk to them if at all possible.
I have learned to run and although they are everywhere, I just accept this and don't let it effect me. I am tired of toxic people and choose joy and happiness. No more settling or people pleasing.
Thank you Paula. I have learned a lot over these past few years from you. ❤
I came to a realization when my ex-narc, once again, talked about his victimhood at work and having a 'terrible boss'. I pondered that with him and said out loud that it's amazing that one person can have a series of bad bosses. Inwardly, I realized that the problem was likely him. I stopped listening to his work stories - he loved telling me these in the early morning over coffee before the children woke up. Instead of participating in this routine, I started going for long walks. I probably caused narcissistic injury. But the sword was truly drawn when he announced his divorce to me a few months later. I really had enough. Regardless of who or what he was - a loving partner does not threaten divorce to gain control. I woke up then and decided I didn't want a mean partner like that.
I don’t know how I got the courage to block him and go no contact. He didn’t expect it at all. He pushed me too far and I just snapped and said no more. It’s like someone took over my mind and made me take action. The trauma bond is still present after 14 months. I fight it daily. It’s the worst experience I have ever been through and I’ve been through a lot
Oh it is so worthy to finally, really leave the narc. Three months now and it was hard. Still love him. But I love god, my child, myself and my life more. I rediscovered that. You (the narc victim) are worthy and needed in this world, too! And Narc Con, your channel is really the most helpful in my healing journey. Nobody can sum it up so well said as you, and so calm, so lovely. Thank god for you.
They force you to choose because them and your soul
Four years of giving the biggest part of my heart, understanding, compassion and patience. Watching it all - seeing eventually the truth, that I was a number, not a person, I was one of many, many women, not the only one. I accepted unexplained and undeserved screaming, rage, high pitched, screaming horrible descriptions of who they saw me as,...but I was never that - never ever was that person. The final and last screaming at me, because I called to see if he was okay, as I could see and felt his health was not good - mentally, food wise, timewise...He ripped my heart and face off for the final time, as I hung up mid conversation and sat numb...for days...in disbelief of his action...in shame that I traded my peace of mind, to care and call him, to be screamed at as if he was on fire with gasoline...I am grateful for this moment.... I never want to hear his name, see his face, know any thing...about this insanely traumatized person, that all they can give to others is ...trauma.
Please everyone, be careful...dont waste this precious life giving to a person, who shows they cant see your beautiful light, cant appreciate you care about them..genuinely...Please people...know the definition of a loving person - they will never scream at you for calling them, they will never mistreat you. period. They will never mistreat you. period...that is the difference...
Life is so incredible..so beautiful and so are humans, souls and loving people....do not attempt to SAVE those who harm you. period. You will wake up with that life spent on them....gone...
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Now, give what you gave to him, to yourself. And, they DO see and know your light, but they want to extinguish it because they can't have it.
One day i was just laying on the couch trying to get a grasp of wtf was going on around me. It was like someone or something yelled at me "remember who you are" i wasnt very religious until then i didnt have a specific denomination but i belive in a higher power and just trying to be a good person. It was one of the craziest things ive ever experienced. I wasnt afraid. i felt powerful. The best way to describe it is going into the "avartar state", yes from the cartoon😂. But seriously the amount of power i felt, the warmth , the knowing that everything was going to be okay and that im not crazy. It was something i will never forget and so greatful for. I essentially cut all emotions off and spoke pure unadulterated truths and told her i knew what she was and what she was doing. It was like the scene from the wizzard of oz when they threw the bucket of water on the witch
For me I drew my sword and stepped away after finding that the very things that were bothering me (including the way this person had a very sick hierarchical thing going on with people) others were treated like Kings and Queens by him while I was mistreated which was just sick! What was more sick is the individual tried to triangulate me by throwing it in conversations how he interacted with others which was vastly different to the way he gave me lowly treatment but he is the lowly weirdo.🤣😂
Hope you and Remy are enjoying yourselves but it looks like Remy certainly is! 🥰😍
Nichol get away from this cycle. ESCAPE
@kathrynhogan3387 Yes I already did. like I said I stepped away and drew my sword that is my story of how it happened.
Like I said I saw his sick games.
I would buy and read any book authored by the primary supply after escaping and healing.
@@Michael_Arguello Maybe Paula will be that Author?
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Ahhh, thank you for the holiday. My sword came out after 25 years...he no longer needed me for money, childcare, housekeeping, affection, but I did the old reverse discard. Not to discourage anyone, but just recently I've completely come through the "pain barrier" due to flying monkey effects. Every day is a triple day of happiness, just like you said, Paula. PS. Couldn't see the Remy beach stroll tho😊
Me, neither 😢❤
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Just as it was difficult to explain to others the pain of living with a narcissist it is equally difficult to describe the joy of living without them. It is TRUELY amazing. Every moment of every day is a treasure. Do it! Leave and never look back! It is what I expect it is like to be reborn.
Sometimes it's hard to see the truth because it's so wicked and evil. It seems like it's impossible that it could be true but your gut won't let it go. It took me 10 years to get out and even then it was by the grace of God. I didn't know how to get out on my own.
Thank you, I have been very touched by this video and got very emotional hearing your words, you painted the picture of my life in a way I couldn’t! I grew up in a dysfunctional family with narcissists parents and I let go away the good guys to get married instead for two times to narcissists. I wasn’t aware of narcissism.
After the last marriage where I was discarded I went through such a pain acknowledging that I gave away the last part of my life, I gave away my energy, my love, my time, and been left with nothing. I am almost 54 and looking for a job….If I make it I will dedicate my life to help other people as you said!!!! Let’s spread the voice about narcissism because unfortunately today is predominant in this world.
You do come out the outside and when you do belive me you will ask yourself 'WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SOOOO NASTY, speaking to young woman today whom has 2 young girls from an Narrisist, TG she never married him, he putting her through HELL and is TOTALLY TOTALLY heart less when picks up these BEAUTIFUL little girls, youngest just gets hysterical crying and he has NO COMPASSION, EXTREMELY SAD on ALL especially her mother to witness this, we gong to a talk on Narcissism (hope spelt right) which is on in Limerick on the 16th of May in Dolans on Dock Road in Limerick,, HOPEFULLY she will feel better for it, her Mum, my daughter and myself going as a group, ANYONE that going through this might be interested, I saw it on Facebook, THANK YOU SO MUCH Paula for this video and WE ARE ENOUGH 👏👏👏👏👏😊
The betrayal is a very deep cut. It takes years and years to realize the depth of that betrayal. The real self and the values that are part and parcel of that self needs to triumph over the evil of the devaluation of the narcissist and misogynist. That is the very painful lesson that the empath must learn. It strengthens the self and the soul. Then you step into the light. That is the gift. I have found the pain lessens everyday but it is still there.
Hi Paula😊
That video you have just done, will go down in spiritual 🙏 folklore.
That was undoubtedly heaven sent and so are you.
I have just sent it too Australia 🇦🇺 it needs to be shared amongst empaths..to gauge how far they have come on their journey.
You Brough tears too my eyes, my heart ❤️ is beating like a drum..and I want the world 🌎 too know what a blessing you are.
You Brought everything back too me that I went through and when you said about the Angels 😇 ✨️ it's true..I have met Angels..spiritual cats..and much more.
Yes we need too raise the vibration of this sick world..and bring it back into Alignment with God and the universe.
I tip my hat too you lady..for you are an Angel 😇 💖.
Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
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Thank you Paula.
I told mom how I would not tolerate her behavior. I was met with silence for 6 days and then she decided for Mother’s Day she wants no gifts no cards and a quiet day at home. I am relieved, and will not respond, maybe not for a long while.
I love the comments…’I drew my sword when’ - We win by using the most sophisticated machine of all time - the human brain. Finally, enough love! In honor of County Kerry and this coach, let’s agree to name our swords - I choose LightBringer.
I find the information shared very insightful. I have finally decided to draw my spiritual sword this morning. I have tried so hard for so long to make the relationship work. Enough torturing is enough. I draw the line without looking back. May the Lord help me on this new road I am about to embark on.
Thank you so much, I just got out of a Narcissist relationship with my sister. I had thought family was everything and I loved her. But I have finally started loving myself and I have confidence in myself now. Looking back so many narcissist have been in my life. One by one I got rid of all of them. I have peace and joy and love in my heart. I know the signs now and what to look for. It has empowered me to keep moving forward, And I am very grateful to all my teachers. I send them love and pray for their light!
I drew my sword after finding out my ex was having an affair with my friend. That day was the most painful day of my life. I had been with him for two thirds of my life, he was all I knew. He was my everything. I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. I cried for a long time and went into a depressed state for a period of time, I realized I needed to get some counseling to find myself again ( I had totally lost myself). I found the person I had always been, I found an inter strength I never knew existed. I am happy to say that its been many years since I drew my sword and it was sooooo worth it. Life is wonderful 🎉😊 and I know who I am😊 This was an amazing video Paula❤ thank you
I went no contact with my ex narc over 3yrs ago....now I found out that he's dating my sister who looks almost identical to me.
Both my parents were criminals and narcissistic I don’t know how I am still alive? But yes everyone is still enough. It’s child abuse passed on generations of it. Knowing why we want children and being conscious of raising them would erase abuse world wide
You are great at explaining things from the point of the victim thank you so much. I've been Narcassistically abused my entire life, and now I'm being gangstalked heavily.
After 18 years and 6 children, I drew my sword. That was almost 40 years ago. It was a huge struggle, but totally and completely worth it.
Your dog always so relax, he knows that he is with the wonderful empathetic person not with any demon.
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you have effectively put into words, you have really breath life into my subconscious knowing about what i have gone through for more than 30 years, thank God for your contributoin and work. i am doubly enlightened. grateful of beng out of the npd cage since 2 years ago. : ) all the best !
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Great video Paula, I'm free nearly 4 years now and I've been runinating and hiding away. I took myself off for a holiday to my older sisters and brother in laws in Portugal. They cannot imagine or comprehend the situation but I had my own Airbnb and had a little time to myself they kept me busy. They were very caring and and took great care of me. I got to walk on the beach in the sunshine. I'm just home and it's gave me hope to carry on trying to heal. A new perspective ❤
Love Remy - many thanks Paula for his presence, and for your enlightening videos. We are truly blessed to have found you.
I found the process of separating the wheat from the chaff to be crucial. Outwardly, connecting with people in your life who fully support you, breaking with the rest. If you know me, you know me. If you don't know me, you don't. Let go. The narcissist's smear campaign will help you do this. Hand in hand, look inward and separate your own ego grasping for a solution, relief, salvation. I found that awareness of ego-grasping must give birth by stopping, taking a pause, connecting with my inner natural calm and listening for Truth that I attribute to God's actions in me. As I learn patience, God peels away the veils of ego and light comes in the form of God's actions and actual guidance. God is good all the time. We are not abandoned. Put on the armor of God. This too shall pass. Share with your trusted friends for the benefit of all! Blessings for you always. Thank you! 🙏
Dealing w a horrible Narcissist for 16 years. Must leave as soon as I can. I Refuse to tolerate All of His Lies. It’s Disturbing To My Soul …
Beyond worth it! Sword 🗡️
When I said No. The response was complete silence from the Narsisst. As if I said nothing at all. When I left this person, she expressed that I will always be her true love. Love bombing is a form of control in my opinion. "Trust is earned" this is my opinion. Narsissts expect trust right from the very beginning of a connection. I grew up with parents that are Narsissts. After I left the Narsisst I realized that my parents are Narsissts. I'm no longer ignorant .... your content helps me greatly thank you for all that you do. I'm finally starting to feel happiness in my life. I'm discovering who I truly am under all of the past pains from childhood. Why did I draw my sword? I no longer wanted to live a life she created for me. She didn't see me for who I am. I realized she never loved me. She said she loved me over and over again but her actions didn't match her words.
The debating, arguing and dreadful drama was something she believed brought us closer together.
Nothing but lies. That's why I left. I decided to live in the truth.
I "Drew My Sword" when he physically crossed my boundaries for at least the 3rd time and I was in such panick and fear that I had to eacape him by switching direction and followed another hotel guest down the stairs and to the office, as the narcissist angrily followed me. I asked the hotel employee to protect me. He asked if he could call 911. I said YES! That's when I knew it was over and done. I will never be in anyones presence again who makes me fear for my safety and life. Thank you for this channel and being brave enough to share your research and the truth, in order to help yourselff and us all! May God bless you in great ways you've never even imagined Paula! 🙏
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I got the information during a mediation ( outside) in a sort of download. Then I reviewed the last 9 years, and I was able to come up w/ numerous examples of her ( a friend) words & actions, her psychological manipulations etc. I determined to go no contact IMMEDIATELY. I instantly felt relief. I also got the Universe's confirmation that I was on point, when w/ i minutes, two prayer got answered. Mind blowing stuff! Love your channel, delivery & energy.
I walked away, but he came down with cancer, and with my empath heart, went to see him in the hospital with homemade soup. He was so rude to me. So I just said no more. I wasnt still in love with him, that ended before I left. But with my heart wanted to be friends. Narist dont care for anyone period, except themselves.
I drew my sword against my mother 20 years ago. Recently, after meditation, I spiritually packed up the baggage she dumped on me and handed it back to her, with the realization this was her legacy, not mine. It made me feel freer. On a higher level, I played the role to help her see herself for whom she is. For myself I found my own validity and strength.
Same here
It's been a battle from day dot!..I can't believe even parents can set you up for being "bait" for these soul stealers during life...These narcissists want your soul, they collect them for the dark one while they are here and hand them to it when they eventually go back to where they came from..It's been a battle all my life not letting them steal my light, and it's getting harder because they are getting better at what they do..keep learning keep on top of the information, holding the light is sooo important to keeping love as a constant on the planet..don't let them take you away from yourself! We have an obligation while we are here to fight the good fight..Be love, that's what you are.🌹🙏☮️
Thanks, I needed to hear this, got out of a relationship because it was toxic. But through it all I saw things that I needed to change about myself with the Lords help. To make me stronger for a purpose and future. Btw never knew that I had a strong light that attracted the darkness until I went through this!!
Interesting. I use to feel mostly positive and experienced passing many angels. There was a subtle comfort and moment of acknowledgement of each other.
Then after 20 years unknowingly married to a FULL spectrum Cluster B…now I see and sense all things. There are more dark energies than there are angels.
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I remain a humble bee. Alone.
He asked” how did you get that dent in your fender “. I said in a parking lot, he smirked
After that, I started the ESCAPE like a choreographer with the help of a close and wise Friend, Yourself and REMMY Paula, HG , and The Little Shaman. No one escapes without guidance. After that I was able to breathe again.
TY Paula for all you do ,your amazing, love to listen to you ,alot of light bulbs go off ,and things I went threw ,so Ty .
For me, the awakening moment was after having my first child. Suddenly, I was in my first month of postpartum, and all the memories of my narcissistic mother mistreating me as a defenseless child came fludding to my mind. However, it also took talking to a therapist to put my finger on it and see my mother for who she truly was---a narc! It's been very tough to keep boundaries, especially because she is the grandmother of my child (i have trauma of my mother using me as a punishment against other family members by preventing them from seeing me). I have a hard time cutting her off completely.
I’ve made up a system to help it worked for me.the “can’t abuse me and expect me to snap up and be ok”I realized I had to fight so I made up this “protocol “
1) acknowledge. We have to acknowledge the fact that we were abused.
2) accept. did we have to accept the fact that it happened this involves deep emotional acceptance.
3)morn. we must mourn about it in order to release it to cry and feel the pain.
4)move on.. we must move on past it. Otherwise we live in that moment always feeling not enough. It’s imperative to the soul to understand that it’s over the only one that can allow it to happen again is one self.
THERE WAS NEVER A DISCUSSION ON ANY LEVEL. GOD BLESS. DON'T GIVE UP SISTER. YOU WILL SEE ENOUGH. 😢❤🎉
I seen the black eyes I was a tough woman to break. I'm 3 and half years out now and trying to heal every day. Life and freedom is good ❤😊
I love this women!!!
Thank you ❤❤! I love the synchronicity in the cosmos, leading me here just after I said NO for the first time knowing that I mean it, No. I'll be 65 this year and working spiritually but the blind spot which is a blind rock just let me know that my father, my first boyfriend and later on lovers.. Til this one now since 15 years all were narcissistic 😭😭. I'm glad because I'm able to find out by dowsing that my last one is only 80 % narcissist 😂😂😊 so I picked the softer version.. At last. What a journey 🙏. Time to start celebrating life, yesssss
Much love to all ❤❤❤
Thank you. You have so wonderfully described the journey through this pain barrier into-what I felt was- a joyful rebirth, that I experienced many years ago. I’m now trying to educate and strengthen myself further for my daughter and granddaughter’s sake as I fear they are in danger now. Thank you for your beautiful, powerful and spiritual wisdom.
You ARE SO RIGHT ON THE AWAKENING STAGE. SOMETIMES I WISH I NEVER WENT OR SEEN IT. 😢❤🎉
Thank you to you and to Remy - I laughed when I saw him on the bed. x
Paula you have a great healing gift. Learning about this subject has deeply changed my life. Many thanks.
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I realised when my baby daughter was a few days old and the narc mother kicked me in the back when I was holding my baby. I didn't see it coming and was afraid to drop my baby. Only a week later she drove scissors into my arm a few inches from where I held my daughters head. She had never been violent before and until then I had believed the strange behaviour was hormones or stress but then I realised I had to separate. I stayed 1 year to secure the first year of my baby and it was real horror. Then with separation came the real war, the false allegations in a series (false police reports of abuse, pedophilia, rape etc...) and I had to endure 2 years police investigations, trials etc. and the whole anti-men / anti-father legal system and custody court system which tends to favour and believe women regardless evidence. Eventually cleared and with custody evaluator in my favour I now have my daughter 50 % and my focus is on protecting her and how to protect her in the future. I'm happily discovering that this little girl has empathy and is the most beautiful little girl in the world. We have such great connection and she brings me all the joy in the world but it pains me so much that she has been born into a world where her mother doesn't love her and has no empathy but only uses her as an instrument. She of course has no idea what the mother is, she is too young. Narcissists are truly evil creatures! Good episode Paula!
Point of no return- when my narcissistic stepmother started hurting my children, instead of just me. That was the last straw!
Thank you Paula, this is such a profound share. I personally found it moving & important. Saved it. Thank you for your bravery touching on your own journey drawing your sword to advocate for yourself & by sharing this, advocating for us & validating our own personal experience when we likewise felt absolutely compelled to draw our own sword, or for those still struggling to draw their own right now. Staggering consequences, still processing but i believe I’m beginning to see the edge of what you talked about towards the end, so thank you for well the hope, the fuller lived side after the pain that you know from experience, the positive consequences of extraordinary growth however painful, when it starts to go into from what you said, well blossoming. Hope you have a lovely hols 🦋
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