So proud of you Mark! Eating issues for men is such a taboo topic, it's talked about for women but not men very often. Thank you putting this out there, I admire your courage to do so!! I think this is going to help a lot of people.
Thanks for letting this is out & sharing this with us! Sending you love! So glad you are taking care of yourself. And never feel like sharing a part of your heart and soul with others is a burden. Life can be so intensely heavy sometimes & trust me friends want to help you carry the weight of the world! ❤️ All the love!
Hi Mark. I've watched about three minutes of this and have sensibly turned it off as i know that listening to this might be detrimental to my recovery. However- bloody proud of you, you're an absolute star! I've had anorexia nervosa for the past 4 years and it started off very much like i just didn't feel like eating, i wanted to be 'slim' and couldnt put a finger on why. If i had had a video like this from somebody a few years ago it definitely would have helped - so i KNOW that this video will have helped so many people! Thank you x
I love how honest you were, Mark. I have had problem with food for a very long time, in primary school, I was the fat kid in school,( I still am) and I got bullied for it, back then I didn't appreciate my body for what it was and I would compare myself to other girls and I would ask myself why I was not skinny, but now I've learned to appreciate my body for what it is and believe that you are beautiful no matter what weight you are. So don't worry, Mark, you're not the only person who has had weight problems. Love ya xxx
Deliberately trying not to eat or trying to keep yourself a certain size can be a sign that you have a need for control, perhaps because things feel very uncontrollable in other areas of your life. Or it can be a sign of body dysmorphia, not viewing your body as it really is. It's definitely worth seeking professional help to deal with these things.
@@lalatte8294 Just because Zoe has a small frame doesn't mean she has an eating disorder and as she's never spoken publicly about having problems with food we can't assume she does.
@powderandpaint14 Having an unfinished plate is not indicative of ANYTHING. I eat until satisfied and often have an "unfinished plate". If eating out I'm satisfied with a starter that's shared. I'm hungry maybe a bit sooner than others and "nibble" again. You also don't know what is going on at these times as in taking care of Nala or something that's taken her away or just her vlogging may take her away from the food for a brief time. You know what they say about "assuming".
***Lala *** Who the hell are you to say that someone has an eating disorder? You see a few clips of an unfinished plate and assume she has a disorder. Sometimes I don’t finish my plate, so do I have an eating disorder then? Your response is ridiculous. And as others have said, she and joe are just naturally slim. You have no right to go around diagnosing people because you’re definitely not a doctor mate. Educate yourself before you start assuming things honestly.
***Lala *** as someone who has struggled with eating disorders in the past I’m majorly offended that you would assume someone has one, it’s people like you that label someone and start rumours, whether she does or doesn’t you have no place to be going around saying she has one with false evidence, at the end of the day if you have no facts don’t say your opinion, I hate to sound horrible but please just don’t say someone has an eating disorder without having facts, that person may or may not be going through something and this comment could just add pressure, as well as that one person having an eating distorted does not lead to someone else having one
I naively thought you were just naturally super slim, I think your extremely brave for talking about this and I’m sure you will help so many people with this video xx
I'm the same way in that I never let others know when I'm struggling because I don't want to burden them. I feel like I have to keep everything to myself or else I'll break down at every conversation. I'm slowly trying to get better at opening up to others because I see that being strong means allowing yourself to be vulnerable too. I hope you know how much videos like this truly help people like myself feel less alone x
I struggle with food a lot too, I'm also INSANELY petite and have the teeniest appetite and actually can't handle eating a lot at once anyway... but recently I've had to delete instagram because i started to lose touch with myself and the love I have for how I look, and one of the things that has helped me is my best friend telling me something she watched in a documentary where these people interviewed women in Africa about what they liked best about their bodies or something or what makes the body beautiful and instead of picking features they picked abilities like the fact we can reach up into a tree and grab an apple or that we have legs that can carry us to the places we want to go and it made me start to look at myself a bit differently like rather than something that only has beauty value, it's something that has INSANE capabilities. Like our bodies can do SO MANY THINGS that we gloss over day to day like walking, typing, etc. Obviously we all have our own battles, but I thought that was an interesting perspective!
Thank you for sharing this! I haven't had trouble with food but I have had trouble with anxiety. A couple weeks ago something happened and I broke down in front of my boyfriend with a panic attack. I too never wanted to be seen like this. But it was really good for me. I was vulnerable and still ok.
My mother has dealt with weight her whole life. So it’s the normal thing to me, I don’t notice it even. She’s 60 so back in the day their wasn’t a lot of knowledge about the subject. She weighs herself every day, not missing a day! It stays with you the rest of you life, whenever you are big or skinny. She is so consumed with it she was always scared to give us that trait as well, thankfully that din’t happen. I am only very aware that if I dont feel well, people might suspect I have a problem with my weight when I don’t... which is probably a result of her struggle, but not as bad. I just want to say their are very young people who struggle with this, old, male, female, from all backgrounds! Im proud of you!
Godness sake no! Don't ever tell a person with an eating disorder that it WILL stay the rest of their lives, because that is a total lie for many people. You CAN be totally free from eating disorders, actually. It's definitely worth fighting for.
SwedishTourist Sorry I might have said it wrong. It is always worth fighting, definitely! I just wanted to note that it can be a very long road for some, which is normal.
Thank you for talking about this, from a guy who also struggles with my weight being slim- there’s really not much help or talk about this situation. It’s just a guy thing to struggle talking about feelings and struggles, because I really do. It’s so refreshing to hear a man talking about this👏🏼
Weirdly, I relate so hard.. Thank you for sharing your story Mark! Showing vulnerability doesn't make you weak, it makes you strong - especially if you're trying to help people. Thank you!
Thank you for making this video Mark and for being so open to something so many people, including me, struggle with! I will always be a big supporter of you and your channel💕
I’m exactly the same, always the strong friend. You got a problem? It’s my problem too. You want to cry? This shoulder’s all yours. You need advice? I’ll give it my best shot. You just want someone to listen? I’m all ears. I’ve seen all of my friends break down but they’ve even seen me cry (as in genuinely, I cry at films and stuff all the time). I’d rather lay in bed all night, overthinking and overthinking my problems than asking a friend for help. I don’t want to be a burden. I won’t let myself be a burden. I don’t want to feel like I’m depending on someone which I know is ridiculously stupid as I’d encourage my friends to talk to me about everything no matter how big or small. I want them to feel like they can depend on me. I’ve always been the nice girl who’s friends with everyone and never has problems. I’ve always been the girl who refuses to pick a side in an argument. I’ve always been that girl that would never slag you off even if everyone around me is doing just that. Maybe it’s just because I don’t want to be vulnerable, I’m not entirely sure. If I was to be an argument, I’m having the last word because I have to defend myself and I can’t let you win. I just.... I don’t know how to break down these walls. I barely cry when I’m alone, I force the tears back because ‘it’s not worth crying over’. For the most part, I don’t have a lot to cry about anyway. I’m very lucky to be as happy as I am usually, I don’t take that for granted. The very question “are you happy?” is so difficult to answer. I always say yes because I have friends, I laugh at jokes, I go out a lot and have fun, I’m in love, my life isn’t as bad as it could be. I don’t have terrible problems, it could be so much worse. But then, some nights at 3am, when I’m overthinking and overthinking and every little problem I’ve kept bottled up threatens to spill, sometimes I just want to cry forever and I don’t know what to do. I know it’s awful to bottle things up, hell, I was comforting my friend who split up with their girlfriend and encouraged him to keep sharing his problems with me and not revert back to the quiet boy he was. I’m not unhappy, at least I don’t think I am but it’s hard sometimes.
Bryony Grace really?! Wow, I’m glad I’m not alone. It’s stupid to feel like I might be considering I watched this video and there are billions of people all going through their own battle, it’s only natural some seem similar but when you’re the strong one, I feel like you never got offered a hand. I know my friends would slap me for being so stupid and saying something like that but... I don’t know, I guess you relate so I’m hoping you understand what I’m trying to say xx
I just want you to know that I'm also the same. It's difficult, but i love that I am the person my friends turn to. I do have a tip for you - if you can, journal! I do that sometimes and basically just blurt out everything I'm thinking about. It's like letting someone know, but not actually. If it's like a touchy subject about my friends' problems, I also sometime throw that page away so no one can find it. Hugs from someone similar
I feel exactly like you just said. I can’t find a way to « get out » of it even if I know that I am lucky to have people around me and to be healthy ... Stay strong, I think with the time things will change and you will think totally different.
Mark, THANK YOU for your vulnerability. Not only bringing the male perspective of eating disorders/issues, but showing that everyone has their issues. You described my social life to a T, in that I am also always attempting to be the strong on for my friends and not let them see me in a weakened state. I keep everything in constantly and don't share my issues with anyone really. It is comforting to see someone else openly admit to that, even if that wasn't the point of the video. Thank you for sharing your story!
I also had eating/weight issues for a very long time. I never opened up about it or even thought what I was doing was not right. I'm okay now after speaking out about it, which is so important. Thank you Mark for making this and for being open and honest about your struggles. It's a very brave thing to do. You're a real inspiration to others ❤
You are one of the most beautiful people on the internet inside and out and I hope you’re well and happy and thriving❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I want to see you at 90 living your best life ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ We love you and are here for you 😙😙
seeing you make this video on a vulnerable topic for you makes you seem stronger to me. going through a similar thing right now so i think i really needed this. much love
Thank you so much for sharing, Mark! I'd like to hear what helped you change, which habits you change, what you do now, how you now feel about your weight and health, etc. I think a follow-up video would be such a good idea! Lots of love xxx
Thank you Mark! I have had many battles with eating disorders over many years. At times, I've felt so alone and that no one would understand what I'm going through. I absolutely needed to hear this today. I appreciate you and your encouraging words!
I love that you're so honest and authentic. Thanks for sharing your struggle. I've been dealing with mental health issues for as long as I can remember, and I wanted to make this year about personal growth and healing, going to therapy has been the best thing I've done in a while an I'm finally learning to accept my body. Love you lots xx
Mark! You are such an inspiration. I’ve struggled with this exact thing for so many years and the worst is i can’t pin point WHY i want to be so thin. You are so strong for telling your story and it makes me so happy to see you getting healthier and looking after yourself; you’re looking great hun. I feel like this video will help so many people and you should be so proud of yourself x
I struggle with things similar to this, thin and struggle with indifference to food and not eating enough. “Disordered eating” exists on a spectrum, not just either you have a severe eating disorder or you’re totally healthy. You captured that in your story and great to see a guy talking about it!
Thank you for being so courageous and making this video. And please never feel guilty talking to friends and asking for help. You need to take of yourself in order to help others!
Mark, thank you so much for sharing this. I ‘ve been watching your videos for so long and definitely envied you for always seeming so happy and calm and carefree...it’s great on so many levels to get to see a vulnerable, open side of you - you deserve to be heard! To be human! To be hurting! It’s okay. And thank you for bringing this to a public platform. That takes a lot of courage and is so so important. As someone who has been battling disordered eating/an unhealthy relationship with food that developed into an eating disorder, it’s amazing to see people I look up to (like you and @justjodes and @lunamontana) bringing forward their struggles and normalizing what feels so dark and lonely. The more we talk about it the less power the negative thoughts and untruths have over us! Eating issues are difficult because you have to show up to the fight every single day, but my own struggle with my body image and eating has made me into a strong, self-aware, compassionate person in a way I never expected. Keep being strong and keep being open - your friends and your subscribers are here for you always! Thank you so much.
Thank you for uploading this Mark. It is an issue I have been struggling with for a long time, and am currently in the process of getting help for. Recently I have slipped back into my old unhealthy habits of skipping meals and going for long periods of time without eating, so this video has shown me that that's okay- but I just need to keep working on it! Sending love and hugs xxx
Love that you’ve spoken out. I’d just say in terms of people approaching friends their concerned about, always check they are eating minimal amounts before saying anything. Lots of people comment on my weight (or used too) and I eat so much, but just have a fast metabolism and that can be really hurtful, so it’s just a case of knowing someone’s circumstances before approaching the subject x
a problem shared is a problem halved, not just for you but for many of your viewers. As an anorexia sufferer it’s so painful to talk about because it’s so personal and daunting but i’m so happy someone like you is able to share your story❣️ stay healthy, physically and mentally X
Thank you for this. We need this. Society needs this. People need to know that eating disorders don’t discriminate. They can effect ANYONE. Women, men, non-binary, white, black, brown, etc. I know, as someone in recovery, it must have been so hard to share this. Thank you for doing this. You are so incredibly strong. ❤️ As the great Brene Brown has said “vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always easy, but they are NEVER weakness.”
Honestly I felt like this was more relatable than a lot of the girls who talk about thier struggles with this issue. Thank you so much for taking about it😘
Very important video, especially for your younger audience to hear. I struggled with these things up until a few years ago when I really decided to do something about it, and like you said; talking about it with friends and family, eating healthy and working out every day has changed my life. I've never felt better in myself, and my attitude towards life is much much better than it was before. I didn't have anyone to watch on RUclips who was experiencing the same issues as myself, especially coming from another man so you're doing amazing by speaking out about it!
This video made me so emotional Mark, thank you for sharing this and honestly you seem like such a kind, genuine person who cares for everyone else which is so lovely, but please put yourself first some of the time! I can extremely relate to covering up and trying not to let on to anyone around you about your vulnerabilities and what’s going on Xxxxx
Thank you so much for this. I think you're really brave. I'm now 31 and have suffered with anorexia since I was 12 (with extended periods of recovery). Eating disorders are awful, insidious illnesses and I'm so glad you've managed to turn things round. You're a star. Love to you xxx
I needed this. So much. Thank you so so much Mark. You have no idea how much I can relate to this from hating food to never wanting to be a burden. This means a lot and you are amazing💕
This is such a hard thing to open up about and I'm so glad you did! Eating disorders affect the psyche uncontrollably and your mental health suffers so much under it. Talking about it is so important, keeping this all to yourself is so unhealthy for yourself! I wish people (also men!) start talking about this more, it affects so many more people than you think! Keep working on yourself Mark 💖
Thank you for sharing Mark! One thing to remember is that just as you are there for your friends, your true friends want to be there for you. Honour them them by allowing them to be there for you as you are for them and to trust them with your burdens as they trust you with theirs. Hugs and love!
This is so relatable to me, it’s a constant struggle that always depends on my anxiety and what’s going on in my life, it’s like I use it as a way of control when everything else in my life is an uncontrollable mess. You’re so brave to share your story and I’m so glad you’re getting healthy! Thank you for sharing 💜
I'm exactly like that with my friends and family. I never want to be a burden and dump my bs on them but I never feel like they are dumping on me if they need me. It's so frustrating. I'm glad you are feeling better and feeling comfortable to share.
I love that you've spoke about this. It's kind of a middle ground video, not saying outright that you have an eating disorder, but also not shrugging it off. This is a good catching point. Well done!
I'm interested in getting myself more healthy and fit but every ad or video or anything to do with gyms is always on the track of losing weight. Which really blows because I probably need to be putting on weight and those ads were a reminder of what a freak I am and different from everyone else. This video makes me remember I'm not alone and feel like less of a victorian child with influenza. Thank you Mark
Mark everything you have said really resonates with me! I wouldn't say I have an eating disorder but I have a crippling relationship with food that takes over my life each day. I developed a food intolerance around the age of 15 when I was in an extremely bad place emotionally and was at my lowest weight. I am now almost 22 and I have used it as an excuse to entirely cut out certain foods because I have got it into my head that they will make me ill or gain weight. More recently I have been reintroducing the foods and have not had any side effects whatsoever and it is like a breath of fresh air! I am still scared to eat certain things but I am noticing little changes and its making me want to combat these thoughts in my head and challenge the food rules that I have created over the last 7 years. Very brave of you to tell it from a mans perspective as well, we need more men like you speaking out on things that society would deem to be a greater issue amongst women!
Only just watching this video. I was too scared as my weight has been a huge struggle for me I won't go into detail as I'm still working through issues with my weight but thank you Mark. The strongest thing you can do is be vulnerable. You are so brave and inspiring I just want to give you a big hug! I'm so glad I finally watched this, sending my love and positive vibes ❤️
I love you so much for this. You’re amazing and so incredibly brave Mark. There’s nothing else I can say apart from I’m so proud of you and you doing this may make other males who feel the same feel and as if they can speak up... I’m in awe of you, all my love, be kind to yourself ❤️
Hello Mark. I'm japanese and most japanese girls try to be skinny because in japan men tend to prefer skinny girls. But i think it's weird and not good for health. So your video helped me :) Thank you & i love you Mark.🌟
Mark you are an inspiration and more than that you’re a mouthpiece for men who feel as if they cannot be vocal about their issues with food .. there are very few men who are open about their eating disorders or food insecurities or mental health and so I think you should be proud for breaking the mould and coming out and speaking about something so scary for anyone to have to discuss i don’t know man just well done ❤️
this is very brave of you. i had an eating disorder from age 8 to 21. and at 8 you dont know much about body imagine.. i dont know why either, i just didnt want to eat, i suppose i felt like little me couldnt control anything i learned later at 22 its because i have mental illness because after my eating disorder sort of petered off it turned into a small spate of self harm for a year then turned into panic disorder and afraid of leaving my house to which at 38 im still working really hard on improving.. not saying you suffer from mental disease but the biggest step is talking to someone and finding people who can relate or even friends or family or a therpist so they can understand you so you dont feel alone. so u putting this out there for u and for others... this is amazing of you. and i appreciate you sharing something so hard to share.I also commend you for acknowledging to yourself that you had a problem, because i was in denial for ages..i leave my house a lot more now.. but it takes a lot of work.. and ive been travelling, actually zoes journey with that has helped inspire me. i still get obsessive eating disordered thoughts from time to time, but i dont let them take over and i def dont act on them anymore. cheers to you in 2019.. to be healthy and happy and love yourself. ps. crazy u just put this out and i just discovered the song strip my little mix about positive body image today..
Oh my gosh, thank you for putting your trust in your viewers and bravely sharing your heart and your struggles with us. I have been the strong person too and kept my soul struggles private and it is really really harmful.So important to speak to heal
Such a brave thing to do to share this with such a big platform! I went through a very similar thing when I was 14 years old. Now I’m 20 and i love food! Being a dancer I was surrounded by girls with gorgeous bodies and I always compared my self to other people’s bodies which is the worst thing you can do! Being in the public eye, I can imagine it’s similar with you that it sub consciously puts pressure on you to look good. I realised that you can still enjoy food and be healthy and be happy with the way you look. For me now it’s more of how I feel from the inside out. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I HATE being vulnerable and I always want to be the strong one who's there for others too. I completely relate to that and I feel like talking about my feelings makes me weak, even tho I know it doesn't. Thankyou for this video Mark, you're doing so well ❤️
Great video Mark. Too few men talk about their weight issues, eating disorder. You're very brave for talking about it, opening a debate. The thing about you don't want to show your vulnerability, keeping things to yourself, not asking for help, you want to solve it yourself. You know, it's a typical Libra thing. You're not the only who's like that - speaking for myself.
I know exactly how you feel. I use to just eat a Apple a day and do 300 sit ups daily I got so thin my stomach was going inwards and the weird thing everyone would say wow how lucky are you to have that figure so I'd keep doing it as I felt I had to. I'm now suffering with bad depression and I've gone the opposite and tend to Binge eat and I hate my body. Having self confidence is so difficult especially when people can be so judgmental. You look amazing! and you're such a nice, funny person I wish you could see it xxx
So happy you decided to post this.. it's important to talk about things like that and to let people know that they need to get help! just recently i've come to a realization that i have and had an ED my entire life.. -spitting food out of my mouth into a tisue in the bathroom in some of the meals because i didn't want to eat more -checking my weight every single day\every other day -fainted 5 months ago because i'm unemployed[horrible pains in my wrist and knee]and i wasn't eating much and i just went to the bathroom at 1:19am and started to Diarrhea in the toilet[SORRY FOR THE TMI] and since then i have a trauma and panic attacks almost every single day i'm going to see someone today..hopefully he will help me recover again-thank you so much for posting this! i've never related to these videos but to yours i did..
I'm 12 and have a few different diagnosises like autism, ocd, anxiety and depression. My parents got a divorce when I was 4. I was a size 16 and super self conscious and am desperately trying to loose weight without my mum knowing. I don't have a great relationship with her. My step mum is more like a mum to me and she's trying to help me but no matter what I eat or how little I don't change size. I joined slimming world 2 years ago and popped in after school so my mum didn't find out. I lost 8lbs in 4 weeks and didn't change size or shape at all. I've tried so many different diets since I was 7! I don't tell people if I'm struggling and still don't. 2 years ago I was size 16 and now I'm size 12. I think size 16 is a fine size if it's healthy for you and I love when beautiful curvy women can rock their size but I can't. And I hate that. You video has helped me a lot and I love you ❤️ thank you for being you Mark ❤️
I'm so sorry that you are going through all this but you are so brav and strong for sharing this with the community.I want you to know that you are beautiful no matter your size and I mean that.Society and media has made us believe that we need to be a certain size and body type to be happy and accepted but that's just not the case.The media is setting unrealistic standards and unrealistic bodies and it's scary and sad.Please don't diet just eat food in moderation and exercise a few times a week ( don't push yourself to hard) Big hugs ❤️
Thank you, thank you for sharing your story, Mark and offering a hand/support to others who may also be experiencing this 💕 "Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage" - Brene Brown
Thank you for being so brave sharing this story of yours. When I was younger I had similar problem with eating. I rushed everything else in my life (juggle between school and work) and thought eating can wait. I mostly had small bites, hardly a meal. When I was 25, I came to realize that I need to do better. I took a small step at a time. It is so much better ever since. I know you can go through this and have all the strength in you. :)
I love this video!! I have been struggling with eating issues for two years and have been bringing it to light on my own channel. But, to see a guy come forward about it just warms my heart because, guys get affected by eating disorders too! Very good video Mark! Love you!!
Thank you for sharing your story Mark, I’m so glad that you are covering issues that not many people openly talk about. I’m sure a lot of people can relate. Stay Strong ❤️
Thank you for posting this! I'm a dietitian and I see a lot of people with eating disorders. It's so hard for people to talk about it even with me. Even if you feel like you're in a good place I think it would still be really beneficial for you to see both a dietitian and therapist! It's good to talk it out with a professional even if you're on the up swing.
Mark I’ve been through this too- when you realise people are going through the same thing as you it makes you feel so much better about yourself- thank you for making this video. I found my control over my eating came from me not having control over in other parts of my life- maybe consider this!
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Mark! That took such bravery and strength. There's strength in vulnerability .Being vulnerable is beautiful and so are you x
Man, I am going through this right now. I can 100% relate. I have started seeing a psychologist to help with my eating issues. But similar to you, I am quite a closed book when it comes to serious stuff so majority of my friends and family are also left in the dark. Thank you for speaking on this subject as it's super important for your audience to hear, especially coming from a man. Sending you love x
You are so brave for talking about this, I completely relate personally and I was crying watching this, I’m glad things are getting better for you regarding this x
I’ve been trying to avoid watching this video for some time, but today was a turning point for me too. Last year I was 20 stone and hated the way I looked, but in one year I lost 9 stone and I’m the slimmest I’ve ever been. I too have a shit relationship with food, and feel like I can’t eat or I’ll gain all the weight back. This video has inspired me to talk to the people closest about the issues I have with my diet and I applaud you for raising awareness for men with eating disorders. Keep on keeping on Mark. Dave x
You are absolutely wonderful Mark! I am in recovery from an eating disorder and with the society that we live in today; everyone feeling pressured to look a certain way I.e skinny it’s not a load of crap at all. Thank you so much for sharing this it really does help
Mark, thank you for being brave and sharing this part of yourself. And thank you so much for speaking about this in an intentional way, without demonizing or glorifying any type of food. I’m glad you’re on the journey to recovery, and I would encourage you to see a therapist or nutritionist if you haven’t already and you’re up for it. I’m very into the Health at Every Size movement and intuitive eating and they might be something to look into! I wonder if it’s a Libra thing to handle all of your problems internally because I do that constantly too! A blessing and a curse, I suppose. Have a lovely night! ♥️
I'm so proud of you for speaking out about things like this because you don't see many men or boys speak out about this as they've been built to be strong and to show no sad emotions which is wrong in many waysand quite sad, being vulnerable and being able to express emotions is the strongest you can be so I appreciate you talking openly about this ❤️
Thank you Mark for being so open and honest. I think it is so important to talk about this subject that also affects men. I admire your courage so much. I definitely had that problem before and it still happens because of my other mental health issues. So thank you for putting it out there. We love you!
So proud of you for talking about this Mark! You rock *gives tight hug* from someone who is quite a bit older and who has struggled with body image for years it's something that a lot of people go through but not a lot of people talk about. So you doing this is brave, amazing and so needed. So big smooch and love :) ❤️
I’m having a really tough day (I struggle with food too) and watching your videos to cheer myself up a little and I came across this and it’s really made me feel listened to. Similarly I don’t know where my unhealthy relationship with food began, it just did. It’s horrible to experience and hard to talk about which is why it is so brave of you to talk about this! Thank you for using your voice so well Mark ❤️
Mark, you’re so so brave for making this video. I’ve been struggling with food and my weight for so long also. It was the one subject I rarely talked about it to anyone, not even friends and family. My girlfriend has been struggling with anorexia since she was 8/9 and is now 23. We both have had struggles opening up about mental health in the past, but we both made a pact to talk to each other about our problems and struggles instead of bottling things up and it’s made a massive difference. Sometimes it takes just one person or one confession to help make a change. Well done for opening up and thank you for this video! 💕
Hats off to you Mark for sharing this! Eating issues among men isn't spoken about enough! I hope you feel safer and more comfortable with who you are now and with your body because you are such a wonderful person! I love watching your videos!
Really respect you for making this video mark, for opening up, it must be a big deal for you and you sharing your story and letting people know it’s ok to talk... you don’t even know most of us exist but we all love you to pieces! Xx
You’re so strong mark and opening up was the best thing you could’ve done. This video shows your strength, it takes a lot to speak about things like this and the fact you’ve got it off your chest and raised awareness that it can happen to all genders is amazing! We love you mark ❤️
Being honest and emotional is not weak, it is a strength that we all share. Thank you for opening up. I was really worried about you because I noticed subtle comments here and there that something was upsetting you, but I'm glad you've taken your power back by getting healthy.
❤️ it’s crazy how much your weight and dieting can mess with your mind. After putting on quite a bit of baby weight I’ve spent the last 2 years struggling so badly to get back to my “normal” pre baby weight. I’ve lost and gained and lost and gained and never reached my “goal weight”! It’s impacted me mentally in such a bad way and it just brings you down going through this! My relationship with food is not healthy or enjoyable! I’m either starving myself or eating for 10!! It’s something I really want and need to change for myself! It’s bloody tough though! It’s lovely to hear your journey knowing that you are really getting there! It gives me hope!!
Thank you for sharing this. I’m currently going through an eating disorder and have been for over a year. It’s a real struggle and you’re so brave to be able to get out. I’m not far from being underweight but the more weight I lose, the better I feel. Any time I eat, I feel so guilty. It’s so comforting knowing so many influencers have also gone through similar things 🙂 x
I am always counting calories at one point I wouldn’t allow my self to eat more than 1000 calories , and rather than asking for help I started overthinking things rather then ask for help. Now a year later I’m confident in my body and this video is amazing considering it’s such a taboo topic for men, go you x
I'm currently in recovery for an eating disorder and the content about EDs from youtubers like Melanie Murphy and Emmmabooks has been so important to me. I'm so glad that you'll be a relatable figure for men going through similar things. You're so brave so making this video, and you're doing a world of good ❤️
I love how Mark was just talking, he didn’t put sad music on top of the video, he continued to talk as if it was a one to one conversation. I truly lovd you as a human Mark! Go Mark ❤️ xx
I know exactly what you mean when you say that you don’t want to be a burden to your friends. I am the same way. I’ve always wanted to keep my problems to myself and deal with them on my own. Especially when it came to my eating habits. I’ve been living abroad for 6 months and have lost a lot of weight- and it’s like an addiction, losing a little makes you want to lose more and I didn’t realise how skinny I had gotten until mom and I went shopping and I had gone down 4 sizes in jeans. That was my turning point. I suddenly looked at myself from an outsiders perspective and realises that maybe i should be more focused on my health than my weight. It suddenly made sense why my mom was trying to tempt me with food just to get me to eat. Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences mark . You are a gift to the generation ❤️
You’re so brave mark! Thank you for doing this. People can be insecure and have issues with their body and one more person admitting they do, helps❤️ I hope people get a good insight into trying to get help for the issues. ☺️☺️☺️
Awww so proud of you Mark for speaking your story. You have helped me feel less alone with my eating issues. Maybe one day I will have a healthy relationship with food and maybe one day I will sincerely love my body the way it is. ❤
I'm so happy that you've uploaded this. I used to be exactly the same during sixth form, I really struggled to eat and would sometimes go a day without eating a proper meal and the only meal that I would eat would be with my parents. Even then I didn't actually finish it. It was the hardest thing to explain to my friends and family because it wasn't exactly a black and white thing to say. Although they then started to pick up on things because I wasn't eating and the going to the gym and I lost some weight. But I started to get unwell because of these habits and then they were telling me to go to the doctors about it and to talk about it more. Thank you so much for sharing this, it makes me feel like I'm not on my own in this sort of thing and that other people are going through the same thing. I've since gone to uni and am no longer friends with the people who made me feel like I couldn't talk or made me feel guilty for binging or not eating. I'm not fully at a normal eating point but its getting better. I honestly can't thank you enough for sharing!! xxx
I really appreciate you and your honesty, Mark. Just touching on it and raising awareness, as you say yourself, is so important. I really like you. Wishing there were more people talking about these things on the internet. As well as one of your latest videos where you talked about the internet not being real. Why don't anyone talk about it? Why don't we make it real you know by talking about these things
You are so brave! Speaking up off something you still fighting is so hard! I know how you feel and can tell you, eventually the thoughts will be far away.. you can do it! Stay strong and be you! That’s the only thing that matters! ❤️
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So proud of you Mark! Eating issues for men is such a taboo topic, it's talked about for women but not men very often. Thank you putting this out there, I admire your courage to do so!! I think this is going to help a lot of people.
I love you so much. You are so amazing and funny and goodlooking. All the best
Mark Ferris I agree
Very brave of you to talk about this Mark, so proud of you ❤️ you have the kindest heart x
Thanks for letting this is out & sharing this with us! Sending you love! So glad you are taking care of yourself. And never feel like sharing a part of your heart and soul with others is a burden. Life can be so intensely heavy sometimes & trust me friends want to help you carry the weight of the world! ❤️ All the love!
Hi Mark. I've watched about three minutes of this and have sensibly turned it off as i know that listening to this might be detrimental to my recovery. However- bloody proud of you, you're an absolute star! I've had anorexia nervosa for the past 4 years and it started off very much like i just didn't feel like eating, i wanted to be 'slim' and couldnt put a finger on why. If i had had a video like this from somebody a few years ago it definitely would have helped - so i KNOW that this video will have helped so many people! Thank you x
I love how honest you were, Mark. I have had problem with food for a very long time, in primary school, I was the fat kid in school,( I still am) and I got bullied for it, back then I didn't appreciate my body for what it was and I would compare myself to other girls and I would ask myself why I was not skinny, but now I've learned to appreciate my body for what it is and believe that you are beautiful no matter what weight you are. So don't worry, Mark, you're not the only person who has had weight problems.
Love ya xxx
Dor Cat
i relate to this so much.
Deliberately trying not to eat or trying to keep yourself a certain size can be a sign that you have a need for control, perhaps because things feel very uncontrollable in other areas of your life. Or it can be a sign of body dysmorphia, not viewing your body as it really is. It's definitely worth seeking professional help to deal with these things.
@@lalatte8294 Just because Zoe has a small frame doesn't mean she has an eating disorder and as she's never spoken publicly about having problems with food we can't assume she does.
@powderandpaint14 Having an unfinished plate is not indicative of ANYTHING. I eat until satisfied and often have an "unfinished plate". If eating out I'm satisfied with a starter that's shared. I'm hungry maybe a bit sooner than others and "nibble" again. You also don't know what is going on at these times as in taking care of Nala or something that's taken her away or just her vlogging may take her away from the food for a brief time. You know what they say about "assuming".
***Lala *** Who the hell are you to say that someone has an eating disorder? You see a few clips of an unfinished plate and assume she has a disorder. Sometimes I don’t finish my plate, so do I have an eating disorder then? Your response is ridiculous. And as others have said, she and joe are just naturally slim. You have no right to go around diagnosing people because you’re definitely not a doctor mate. Educate yourself before you start assuming things honestly.
***Lala *** as someone who has struggled with eating disorders in the past I’m majorly offended that you would assume someone has one, it’s people like you that label someone and start rumours, whether she does or doesn’t you have no place to be going around saying she has one with false evidence, at the end of the day if you have no facts don’t say your opinion, I hate to sound horrible but please just don’t say someone has an eating disorder without having facts, that person may or may not be going through something and this comment could just add pressure, as well as that one person having an eating distorted does not lead to someone else having one
Love you, Mark. You’re so loved and appreciated.
I naively thought you were just naturally super slim, I think your extremely brave for talking about this and I’m sure you will help so many people with this video xx
I'm the same way in that I never let others know when I'm struggling because I don't want to burden them. I feel like I have to keep everything to myself or else I'll break down at every conversation. I'm slowly trying to get better at opening up to others because I see that being strong means allowing yourself to be vulnerable too. I hope you know how much videos like this truly help people like myself feel less alone x
I struggle with food a lot too, I'm also INSANELY petite and have the teeniest appetite and actually can't handle eating a lot at once anyway... but recently I've had to delete instagram because i started to lose touch with myself and the love I have for how I look, and one of the things that has helped me is my best friend telling me something she watched in a documentary where these people interviewed women in Africa about what they liked best about their bodies or something or what makes the body beautiful and instead of picking features they picked abilities like the fact we can reach up into a tree and grab an apple or that we have legs that can carry us to the places we want to go and it made me start to look at myself a bit differently like rather than something that only has beauty value, it's something that has INSANE capabilities. Like our bodies can do SO MANY THINGS that we gloss over day to day like walking, typing, etc. Obviously we all have our own battles, but I thought that was an interesting perspective!
Mimee wow thankyou this has really shifted something
So brave for speaking about this my angel! You're wonderful xxxx
Thank you for sharing this! I haven't had trouble with food but I have had trouble with anxiety. A couple weeks ago something happened and I broke down in front of my boyfriend with a panic attack. I too never wanted to be seen like this. But it was really good for me. I was vulnerable and still ok.
My mother has dealt with weight her whole life. So it’s the normal thing to me, I don’t notice it even. She’s 60 so back in the day their wasn’t a lot of knowledge about the subject. She weighs herself every day, not missing a day! It stays with you the rest of you life, whenever you are big or skinny.
She is so consumed with it she was always scared to give us that trait as well, thankfully that din’t happen. I am only very aware that if I dont feel well, people might suspect I have a problem with my weight when I don’t... which is probably a result of her struggle, but not as bad.
I just want to say their are very young people who struggle with this, old, male, female, from all backgrounds!
Im proud of you!
Godness sake no! Don't ever tell a person with an eating disorder that it WILL stay the rest of their lives, because that is a total lie for many people. You CAN be totally free from eating disorders, actually. It's definitely worth fighting for.
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Sorry I might have said it wrong. It is always worth fighting, definitely! I just wanted to note that it can be a very long road for some, which is normal.
@@LisetteHamers Okay :) Very true!
Cant wait to see the rest of this,, love having deep chats with mark x
Thank you for talking about this, from a guy who also struggles with my weight being slim- there’s really not much help or talk about this situation. It’s just a guy thing to struggle talking about feelings and struggles, because I really do. It’s so refreshing to hear a man talking about this👏🏼
Weirdly, I relate so hard.. Thank you for sharing your story Mark! Showing vulnerability doesn't make you weak, it makes you strong - especially if you're trying to help people. Thank you!
Thank you for making this video Mark and for being so open to something so many people, including me, struggle with! I will always be a big supporter of you and your channel💕
never ever think that being vulnerable is weak - it is the opposite it is BRAVE and STRONG. you're a beautiful human - keep being you!
I’m exactly the same, always the strong friend. You got a problem? It’s my problem too. You want to cry? This shoulder’s all yours. You need advice? I’ll give it my best shot. You just want someone to listen? I’m all ears. I’ve seen all of my friends break down but they’ve even seen me cry (as in genuinely, I cry at films and stuff all the time). I’d rather lay in bed all night, overthinking and overthinking my problems than asking a friend for help. I don’t want to be a burden. I won’t let myself be a burden. I don’t want to feel like I’m depending on someone which I know is ridiculously stupid as I’d encourage my friends to talk to me about everything no matter how big or small. I want them to feel like they can depend on me. I’ve always been the nice girl who’s friends with everyone and never has problems. I’ve always been the girl who refuses to pick a side in an argument. I’ve always been that girl that would never slag you off even if everyone around me is doing just that. Maybe it’s just because I don’t want to be vulnerable, I’m not entirely sure. If I was to be an argument, I’m having the last word because I have to defend myself and I can’t let you win. I just.... I don’t know how to break down these walls. I barely cry when I’m alone, I force the tears back because ‘it’s not worth crying over’. For the most part, I don’t have a lot to cry about anyway. I’m very lucky to be as happy as I am usually, I don’t take that for granted. The very question “are you happy?” is so difficult to answer. I always say yes because I have friends, I laugh at jokes, I go out a lot and have fun, I’m in love, my life isn’t as bad as it could be. I don’t have terrible problems, it could be so much worse. But then, some nights at 3am, when I’m overthinking and overthinking and every little problem I’ve kept bottled up threatens to spill, sometimes I just want to cry forever and I don’t know what to do. I know it’s awful to bottle things up, hell, I was comforting my friend who split up with their girlfriend and encouraged him to keep sharing his problems with me and not revert back to the quiet boy he was. I’m not unhappy, at least I don’t think I am but it’s hard sometimes.
Saskia Zablockyj woah this is acc creepy how similar this is to how i feel, i feel literally exactly the same, you aren’t alone x
Bryony Grace really?! Wow, I’m glad I’m not alone. It’s stupid to feel like I might be considering I watched this video and there are billions of people all going through their own battle, it’s only natural some seem similar but when you’re the strong one, I feel like you never got offered a hand. I know my friends would slap me for being so stupid and saying something like that but... I don’t know, I guess you relate so I’m hoping you understand what I’m trying to say xx
I just want you to know that I'm also the same. It's difficult, but i love that I am the person my friends turn to. I do have a tip for you - if you can, journal! I do that sometimes and basically just blurt out everything I'm thinking about. It's like letting someone know, but not actually. If it's like a touchy subject about my friends' problems, I also sometime throw that page away so no one can find it.
Hugs from someone similar
Thank you so much! I’ll definitely give it a shot! Hugs all round ❤️❤️
I feel exactly like you just said. I can’t find a way to « get out » of it even if I know that I am lucky to have people around me and to be healthy ... Stay strong, I think with the time things will change and you will think totally different.
Mark, THANK YOU for your vulnerability. Not only bringing the male perspective of eating disorders/issues, but showing that everyone has their issues. You described my social life to a T, in that I am also always attempting to be the strong on for my friends and not let them see me in a weakened state. I keep everything in constantly and don't share my issues with anyone really. It is comforting to see someone else openly admit to that, even if that wasn't the point of the video. Thank you for sharing your story!
I also had eating/weight issues for a very long time. I never opened up about it or even thought what I was doing was not right. I'm okay now after speaking out about it, which is so important. Thank you Mark for making this and for being open and honest about your struggles. It's a very brave thing to do. You're a real inspiration to others ❤
You are one of the most beautiful people on the internet inside and out and I hope you’re well and happy and thriving❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I want to see you at 90 living your best life ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
We love you and are here for you 😙😙
seeing you make this video on a vulnerable topic for you makes you seem stronger to me. going through a similar thing right now so i think i really needed this. much love
Thank you so much for sharing, Mark! I'd like to hear what helped you change, which habits you change, what you do now, how you now feel about your weight and health, etc. I think a follow-up video would be such a good idea! Lots of love xxx
Thank you Mark! I have had many battles with eating disorders over many years. At times, I've felt so alone and that no one would understand what I'm going through. I absolutely needed to hear this today. I appreciate you and your encouraging words!
I love that you're so honest and authentic. Thanks for sharing your struggle. I've been dealing with mental health issues for as long as I can remember, and I wanted to make this year about personal growth and healing, going to therapy has been the best thing I've done in a while an I'm finally learning to accept my body. Love you lots xx
Mark! You are such an inspiration. I’ve struggled with this exact thing for so many years and the worst is i can’t pin point WHY i want to be so thin. You are so strong for telling your story and it makes me so happy to see you getting healthier and looking after yourself; you’re looking great hun. I feel like this video will help so many people and you should be so proud of yourself x
Hey Mark can I just say.....I love you. You are so amazing and I think it's so great how you can talk openly about stuff like this. 😊❤
I struggle with things similar to this, thin and struggle with indifference to food and not eating enough. “Disordered eating” exists on a spectrum, not just either you have a severe eating disorder or you’re totally healthy. You captured that in your story and great to see a guy talking about it!
Thank you for being so courageous and making this video. And please never feel guilty talking to friends and asking for help. You need to take of yourself in order to help others!
Mark, thank you so much for sharing this. I ‘ve been watching your videos for so long and definitely envied you for always seeming so happy and calm and carefree...it’s great on so many levels to get to see a vulnerable, open side of you - you deserve to be heard! To be human! To be hurting! It’s okay. And thank you for bringing this to a public platform. That takes a lot of courage and is so so important. As someone who has been battling disordered eating/an unhealthy relationship with food that developed into an eating disorder, it’s amazing to see people I look up to (like you and @justjodes and @lunamontana) bringing forward their struggles and normalizing what feels so dark and lonely. The more we talk about it the less power the negative thoughts and untruths have over us! Eating issues are difficult because you have to show up to the fight every single day, but my own struggle with my body image and eating has made me into a strong, self-aware, compassionate person in a way I never expected. Keep being strong and keep being open - your friends and your subscribers are here for you always! Thank you so much.
Thank you for uploading this Mark. It is an issue I have been struggling with for a long time, and am currently in the process of getting help for. Recently I have slipped back into my old unhealthy habits of skipping meals and going for long periods of time without eating, so this video has shown me that that's okay- but I just need to keep working on it! Sending love and hugs xxx
Love that you’ve spoken out. I’d just say in terms of people approaching friends their concerned about, always check they are eating minimal amounts before saying anything. Lots of people comment on my weight (or used too) and I eat so much, but just have a fast metabolism and that can be really hurtful, so it’s just a case of knowing someone’s circumstances before approaching the subject x
a problem shared is a problem halved, not just for you but for many of your viewers. As an anorexia sufferer it’s so painful to talk about because it’s so personal and daunting but i’m so happy someone like you is able to share your story❣️ stay healthy, physically and mentally X
Thank you for this. We need this. Society needs this.
People need to know that eating disorders don’t discriminate. They can effect ANYONE. Women, men, non-binary, white, black, brown, etc.
I know, as someone in recovery, it must have been so hard to share this. Thank you for doing this. You are so incredibly strong. ❤️
As the great Brene Brown has said “vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always easy, but they are NEVER weakness.”
Honestly I felt like this was more relatable than a lot of the girls who talk about thier struggles with this issue. Thank you so much for taking about it😘
Very important video, especially for your younger audience to hear. I struggled with these things up until a few years ago when I really decided to do something about it, and like you said; talking about it with friends and family, eating healthy and working out every day has changed my life. I've never felt better in myself, and my attitude towards life is much much better than it was before.
I didn't have anyone to watch on RUclips who was experiencing the same issues as myself, especially coming from another man so you're doing amazing by speaking out about it!
This video made me so emotional Mark, thank you for sharing this and honestly you seem like such a kind, genuine person who cares for everyone else which is so lovely, but please put yourself first some of the time! I can extremely relate to covering up and trying not to let on to anyone around you about your vulnerabilities and what’s going on Xxxxx
Thank you so much for this. I think you're really brave. I'm now 31 and have suffered with anorexia since I was 12 (with extended periods of recovery). Eating disorders are awful, insidious illnesses and I'm so glad you've managed to turn things round. You're a star. Love to you xxx
I needed this. So much. Thank you so so much Mark. You have no idea how much I can relate to this from hating food to never wanting to be a burden. This means a lot and you are amazing💕
This is such a hard thing to open up about and I'm so glad you did! Eating disorders affect the psyche uncontrollably and your mental health suffers so much under it. Talking about it is so important, keeping this all to yourself is so unhealthy for yourself! I wish people (also men!) start talking about this more, it affects so many more people than you think! Keep working on yourself Mark 💖
Thank you for sharing Mark! One thing to remember is that just as you are there for your friends, your true friends want to be there for you. Honour them them by allowing them to be there for you as you are for them and to trust them with your burdens as they trust you with theirs. Hugs and love!
This is so relatable to me, it’s a constant struggle that always depends on my anxiety and what’s going on in my life, it’s like I use it as a way of control when everything else in my life is an uncontrollable mess. You’re so brave to share your story and I’m so glad you’re getting healthy! Thank you for sharing 💜
I'm exactly like that with my friends and family. I never want to be a burden and dump my bs on them but I never feel like they are dumping on me if they need me. It's so frustrating. I'm glad you are feeling better and feeling comfortable to share.
I 've said it before and I m going to say it again: You are an angel Mark!!!
You’re a brave guy Mark and I’m proud of you for letting it out
Thank you so much, Mark!!! I'm really struggling with my eating disorder lately so this came at the right time ❤
We ALL LOVE you mark!! Don’t worry about it!!
Love ya!!❤️
I love that you've spoke about this. It's kind of a middle ground video, not saying outright that you have an eating disorder, but also not shrugging it off. This is a good catching point. Well done!
I'm interested in getting myself more healthy and fit but every ad or video or anything to do with gyms is always on the track of losing weight. Which really blows because I probably need to be putting on weight and those ads were a reminder of what a freak I am and different from everyone else. This video makes me remember I'm not alone and feel like less of a victorian child with influenza. Thank you Mark
Mark everything you have said really resonates with me! I wouldn't say I have an eating disorder but I have a crippling relationship with food that takes over my life each day. I developed a food intolerance around the age of 15 when I was in an extremely bad place emotionally and was at my lowest weight. I am now almost 22 and I have used it as an excuse to entirely cut out certain foods because I have got it into my head that they will make me ill or gain weight. More recently I have been reintroducing the foods and have not had any side effects whatsoever and it is like a breath of fresh air! I am still scared to eat certain things but I am noticing little changes and its making me want to combat these thoughts in my head and challenge the food rules that I have created over the last 7 years. Very brave of you to tell it from a mans perspective as well, we need more men like you speaking out on things that society would deem to be a greater issue amongst women!
Only just watching this video. I was too scared as my weight has been a huge struggle for me I won't go into detail as I'm still working through issues with my weight but thank you Mark. The strongest thing you can do is be vulnerable. You are so brave and inspiring I just want to give you a big hug! I'm so glad I finally watched this, sending my love and positive vibes ❤️
I love you so much for this. You’re amazing and so incredibly brave Mark. There’s nothing else I can say apart from I’m so proud of you and you doing this may make other males who feel the same feel and as if they can speak up... I’m in awe of you, all my love, be kind to yourself ❤️
Hello Mark. I'm japanese and most japanese girls try to be skinny because in japan men tend to prefer skinny girls. But i think it's weird and not good for health. So your video helped me :) Thank you & i love you Mark.🌟
Mark you are an inspiration and more than that you’re a mouthpiece for men who feel as if they cannot be vocal about their issues with food .. there are very few men who are open about their eating disorders or food insecurities or mental health and so I think you should be proud for breaking the mould and coming out and speaking about something so scary for anyone to have to discuss i don’t know man just well done ❤️
this is very brave of you. i had an eating disorder from age 8 to 21. and at 8 you dont know much about body imagine.. i dont know why either, i just didnt want to eat, i suppose i felt like little me couldnt control anything i learned later at 22 its because i have mental illness because after my eating disorder sort of petered off it turned into a small spate of self harm for a year then turned into panic disorder and afraid of leaving my house to which at 38 im still working really hard on improving.. not saying you suffer from mental disease but the biggest step is talking to someone and finding people who can relate or even friends or family or a therpist so they can understand you so you dont feel alone. so u putting this out there for u and for others... this is amazing of you. and i appreciate you sharing something so hard to share.I also commend you for acknowledging to yourself that you had a problem, because i was in denial for ages..i leave my house a lot more now.. but it takes a lot of work.. and ive been travelling, actually zoes journey with that has helped inspire me. i still get obsessive eating disordered thoughts from time to time, but i dont let them take over and i def dont act on them anymore. cheers to you in 2019.. to be healthy and happy and love yourself. ps. crazy u just put this out and i just discovered the song strip my little mix about positive body image today..
Oh my gosh, thank you for putting your trust in your viewers and bravely sharing your heart and your struggles with us. I have been the strong person too and kept my soul struggles private and it is really really harmful.So important to speak to heal
Such a brave thing to do to share this with such a big platform! I went through a very similar thing when I was 14 years old. Now I’m 20 and i love food! Being a dancer I was surrounded by girls with gorgeous bodies and I always compared my self to other people’s bodies which is the worst thing you can do! Being in the public eye, I can imagine it’s similar with you that it sub consciously puts pressure on you to look good. I realised that you can still enjoy food and be healthy and be happy with the way you look. For me now it’s more of how I feel from the inside out.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I HATE being vulnerable and I always want to be the strong one who's there for others too. I completely relate to that and I feel like talking about my feelings makes me weak, even tho I know it doesn't. Thankyou for this video Mark, you're doing so well ❤️
Great video Mark. Too few men talk about their weight issues, eating disorder. You're very brave for talking about it, opening a debate. The thing about you don't want to show your vulnerability, keeping things to yourself, not asking for help, you want to solve it yourself. You know, it's a typical Libra thing. You're not the only who's like that - speaking for myself.
I know exactly how you feel. I use to just eat a Apple a day and do 300 sit ups daily I got so thin my stomach was going inwards and the weird thing everyone would say wow how lucky are you to have that figure so I'd keep doing it as I felt I had to. I'm now suffering with bad depression and I've gone the opposite and tend to Binge eat and I hate my body. Having self confidence is so difficult especially when people can be so judgmental. You look amazing! and you're such a nice, funny person I wish you could see it xxx
Zoe Warrener hope you manage to find the right balance! Xxx
@@dovestone_ Thank you so much xx
So happy you decided to post this..
it's important to talk about things like that and to let people know that they need to get help!
just recently i've come to a realization that i have and had an ED my entire life..
-spitting food out of my mouth into a tisue in the bathroom in some of the meals because i didn't want to eat more
-checking my weight every single day\every other day
-fainted 5 months ago because i'm unemployed[horrible pains in my wrist and knee]and i wasn't eating much and i just went to the bathroom at 1:19am and started to Diarrhea in the toilet[SORRY FOR THE TMI] and since then i have a trauma and panic attacks almost every single day
i'm going to see someone today..hopefully he will help me recover
again-thank you so much for posting this! i've never related to these videos but to yours i did..
I'm 12 and have a few different diagnosises like autism, ocd, anxiety and depression. My parents got a divorce when I was 4. I was a size 16 and super self conscious and am desperately trying to loose weight without my mum knowing. I don't have a great relationship with her. My step mum is more like a mum to me and she's trying to help me but no matter what I eat or how little I don't change size. I joined slimming world 2 years ago and popped in after school so my mum didn't find out. I lost 8lbs in 4 weeks and didn't change size or shape at all. I've tried so many different diets since I was 7! I don't tell people if I'm struggling and still don't. 2 years ago I was size 16 and now I'm size 12. I think size 16 is a fine size if it's healthy for you and I love when beautiful curvy women can rock their size but I can't. And I hate that. You video has helped me a lot and I love you ❤️ thank you for being you Mark ❤️
I'm so sorry that you are going through all this but you are so brav and strong for sharing this with the community.I want you to know that you are beautiful no matter your size and I mean that.Society and media has made us believe that we need to be a certain size and body type to be happy and accepted but that's just not the case.The media is setting unrealistic standards and unrealistic bodies and it's scary and sad.Please don't diet just eat food in moderation and exercise a few times a week ( don't push yourself to hard) Big hugs ❤️
@@Jade-5713 thank you babes it means a lot and your so right about the pressure social media has on young people xx
billie xoxox ❤
Thank you, thank you for sharing your story, Mark and offering a hand/support to others who may also be experiencing this 💕 "Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage" - Brene Brown
Thank you for being so brave sharing this story of yours. When I was younger I had similar problem with eating. I rushed everything else in my life (juggle between school and work) and thought eating can wait. I mostly had small bites, hardly a meal. When I was 25, I came to realize that I need to do better. I took a small step at a time. It is so much better ever since. I know you can go through this and have all the strength in you. :)
I love this video!! I have been struggling with eating issues for two years and have been bringing it to light on my own channel. But, to see a guy come forward about it just warms my heart because, guys get affected by eating disorders too! Very good video Mark! Love you!!
Thank you for sharing your story Mark, I’m so glad that you are covering issues that not many people openly talk about. I’m sure a lot of people can relate. Stay Strong ❤️
So proud of you for sharing this with us, it was very brave. This is such an important issue so thank you for spreading the message. Sending love x
Thank you for posting this! I'm a dietitian and I see a lot of people with eating disorders. It's so hard for people to talk about it even with me. Even if you feel like you're in a good place I think it would still be really beneficial for you to see both a dietitian and therapist! It's good to talk it out with a professional even if you're on the up swing.
As someone who has struggled with restrictive eating I so appreciate your honesty Mark! Thank you for sharing this ❤️
Mark I’ve been through this too- when you realise people are going through the same thing as you it makes you feel so much better about yourself- thank you for making this video. I found my control over my eating came from me not having control over in other parts of my life- maybe consider this!
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Mark! That took such bravery and strength. There's strength in vulnerability .Being vulnerable is beautiful and so are you x
Man, I am going through this right now. I can 100% relate. I have started seeing a psychologist to help with my eating issues. But similar to you, I am quite a closed book when it comes to serious stuff so majority of my friends and family are also left in the dark. Thank you for speaking on this subject as it's super important for your audience to hear, especially coming from a man. Sending you love x
You are so brave for talking about this, I completely relate personally and I was crying watching this, I’m glad things are getting better for you regarding this x
I’ve been trying to avoid watching this video for some time, but today was a turning point for me too. Last year I was 20 stone and hated the way I looked, but in one year I lost 9 stone and I’m the slimmest I’ve ever been. I too have a shit relationship with food, and feel like I can’t eat or I’ll gain all the weight back. This video has inspired me to talk to the people closest about the issues I have with my diet and I applaud you for raising awareness for men with eating disorders. Keep on keeping on Mark.
Dave x
You are absolutely wonderful Mark! I am in recovery from an eating disorder and with the society that we live in today; everyone feeling pressured to look a certain way I.e skinny it’s not a load of crap at all. Thank you so much for sharing this it really does help
Mark, thank you for being brave and sharing this part of yourself. And thank you so much for speaking about this in an intentional way, without demonizing or glorifying any type of food. I’m glad you’re on the journey to recovery, and I would encourage you to see a therapist or nutritionist if you haven’t already and you’re up for it. I’m very into the Health at Every Size movement and intuitive eating and they might be something to look into!
I wonder if it’s a Libra thing to handle all of your problems internally because I do that constantly too! A blessing and a curse, I suppose. Have a lovely night! ♥️
Beautiful soul ✨ there's so much more in this world than putting too much time and energy in worrying about weight
I'm so proud of you for speaking out about things like this because you don't see many men or boys speak out about this as they've been built to be strong and to show no sad emotions which is wrong in many waysand quite sad, being vulnerable and being able to express emotions is the strongest you can be so I appreciate you talking openly about this ❤️
Thank you Mark for being so open and honest. I think it is so important to talk about this subject that also affects men. I admire your courage so much. I definitely had that problem before and it still happens because of my other mental health issues. So thank you for putting it out there. We love you!
So proud of you for talking about this Mark! You rock *gives tight hug* from someone who is quite a bit older and who has struggled with body image for years it's something that a lot of people go through but not a lot of people talk about. So you doing this is brave, amazing and so needed. So big smooch and love :) ❤️
I’m having a really tough day (I struggle with food too) and watching your videos to cheer myself up a little and I came across this and it’s really made me feel listened to. Similarly I don’t know where my unhealthy relationship with food began, it just did. It’s horrible to experience and hard to talk about which is why it is so brave of you to talk about this! Thank you for using your voice so well Mark ❤️
Mark, you’re so so brave for making this video. I’ve been struggling with food and my weight for so long also. It was the one subject I rarely talked about it to anyone, not even friends and family. My girlfriend has been struggling with anorexia since she was 8/9 and is now 23. We both have had struggles opening up about mental health in the past, but we both made a pact to talk to each other about our problems and struggles instead of bottling things up and it’s made a massive difference. Sometimes it takes just one person or one confession to help make a change. Well done for opening up and thank you for this video! 💕
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Hats off to you Mark for sharing this! Eating issues among men isn't spoken about enough! I hope you feel safer and more comfortable with who you are now and with your body because you are such a wonderful person! I love watching your videos!
Really respect you for making this video mark, for opening up, it must be a big deal for you and you sharing your story and letting people know it’s ok to talk... you don’t even know most of us exist but we all love you to pieces! Xx
YAS!!! Thank you for being you and being so brave. So many more people need to speak about issues like these. Well done 🙏😊
You’re so strong mark and opening up was the best thing you could’ve done. This video shows your strength, it takes a lot to speak about things like this and the fact you’ve got it off your chest and raised awareness that it can happen to all genders is amazing! We love you mark ❤️
Being honest and emotional is not weak, it is a strength that we all share. Thank you for opening up. I was really worried about you because I noticed subtle comments here and there that something was upsetting you, but I'm glad you've taken your power back by getting healthy.
❤️ it’s crazy how much your weight and dieting can mess with your mind. After putting on quite a bit of baby weight I’ve spent the last 2 years struggling so badly to get back to my “normal” pre baby weight. I’ve lost and gained and lost and gained and never reached my “goal weight”! It’s impacted me mentally in such a bad way and it just brings you down going through this! My relationship with food is not healthy or enjoyable! I’m either starving myself or eating for 10!! It’s something I really want and need to change for myself! It’s bloody tough though! It’s lovely to hear your journey knowing that you are really getting there! It gives me hope!!
Thank you for sharing this. I’m currently going through an eating disorder and have been for over a year. It’s a real struggle and you’re so brave to be able to get out. I’m not far from being underweight but the more weight I lose, the better I feel. Any time I eat, I feel so guilty. It’s so comforting knowing so many influencers have also gone through similar things 🙂 x
I am always counting calories at one point I wouldn’t allow my self to eat more than 1000 calories , and rather than asking for help I started overthinking things rather then ask for help. Now a year later I’m confident in my body and this video is amazing considering it’s such a taboo topic for men, go you x
I'm currently in recovery for an eating disorder and the content about EDs from youtubers like Melanie Murphy and Emmmabooks has been so important to me. I'm so glad that you'll be a relatable figure for men going through similar things. You're so brave so making this video, and you're doing a world of good ❤️
I love how Mark was just talking, he didn’t put sad music on top of the video, he continued to talk as if it was a one to one conversation. I truly lovd you as a human Mark! Go Mark ❤️ xx
I know exactly what you mean when you say that you don’t want to be a burden to your friends. I am the same way. I’ve always wanted to keep my problems to myself and deal with them on my own. Especially when it came to my eating habits.
I’ve been living abroad for 6 months and have lost a lot of weight- and it’s like an addiction, losing a little makes you want to lose more and I didn’t realise how skinny I had gotten until mom and I went shopping and I had gone down 4 sizes in jeans. That was my turning point. I suddenly looked at myself from an outsiders perspective and realises that maybe i should be more focused on my health than my weight.
It suddenly made sense why my mom was trying to tempt me with food just to get me to eat.
Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences mark . You are a gift to the generation ❤️
You’re so brave mark! Thank you for doing this. People can be insecure and have issues with their body and one more person admitting they do, helps❤️ I hope people get a good insight into trying to get help for the issues. ☺️☺️☺️
Awww so proud of you Mark for speaking your story. You have helped me feel less alone with my eating issues. Maybe one day I will have a healthy relationship with food and maybe one day I will sincerely love my body the way it is. ❤
I'm so happy that you've uploaded this. I used to be exactly the same during sixth form, I really struggled to eat and would sometimes go a day without eating a proper meal and the only meal that I would eat would be with my parents. Even then I didn't actually finish it. It was the hardest thing to explain to my friends and family because it wasn't exactly a black and white thing to say. Although they then started to pick up on things because I wasn't eating and the going to the gym and I lost some weight. But I started to get unwell because of these habits and then they were telling me to go to the doctors about it and to talk about it more. Thank you so much for sharing this, it makes me feel like I'm not on my own in this sort of thing and that other people are going through the same thing. I've since gone to uni and am no longer friends with the people who made me feel like I couldn't talk or made me feel guilty for binging or not eating. I'm not fully at a normal eating point but its getting better. I honestly can't thank you enough for sharing!! xxx
I really appreciate you and your honesty, Mark. Just touching on it and raising awareness, as you say yourself, is so important. I really like you. Wishing there were more people talking about these things on the internet. As well as one of your latest videos where you talked about the internet not being real. Why don't anyone talk about it? Why don't we make it real you know by talking about these things
You are so brave! Speaking up off something you still fighting is so hard! I know how you feel and can tell you, eventually the thoughts will be far away.. you can do it! Stay strong and be you! That’s the only thing that matters!
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great video, i'm proud of you Mark - THIS VIDEO IS IMPORTANT